Tween/Teen

  1. Tween/Teen Anyone feel that DH doesn't support you with your teen?...(more) 21 min ago (4 replies)
    Our teen has weight issues, DH takes him to the gym...and then buys him a bag of junk food. Our teen would spend his life on a screen. I'll put away the PC, then I come home to find that DH has given it to him. I feel like a single parent. How do I get DH to engage, we've had talks about this.
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    • DH is setting you up as the bitch mom. Youíre Betty Draper. 20 min ago
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    • You need to be on the same page, but also canít expect a kid to never eat junk or use screens. 19 min ago
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      • Heís building memories too 17 min ago
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        • OP here: I can see that, but DH is the "fun" parent and he and DS do "fun" things. I, on the other hand, have to be the "mean" parent and make sure that he doesn't...(more) 15 min ago
          Fritos and spends his day watching YouTube.
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  2. Tween/Teen How often does your teen lie?...(more) 24 min ago (6 replies)
    It seems to be over the dumbest stuff...going laundry, getting homework done, etc.
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    • Blowing guys, etc. 24 min ago
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    • probably more than I'm willing to admit - even to myself 23 min ago
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    • i imagine often. i know i did - it was to create distance from my mom. 23 min ago
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    • She doesnít as far as I know. 12yo went through a crazy lying phase like age 9-10. 21 min ago
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    • Nothing like that. No 20 min ago
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    • i lied a lot as a teen but then i grew up in an abusive alcoholic family and no one outside of the family knew. lying was a way of life for us. it is still my first instinct to...(more) 18 min ago
      lie even if it's inconsequential.
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  3. Tween/Teen Long winter coats for boys...(more) 23 hr 59 min ago (41 replies)
    Iíve been doing some shopping for winter clothes and Iím looking for a new winter coat for my son. I want to get him a long down coat or parka but Iím having trouble finding boyís coats that go below the knee.
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    • they don't want ones that go below the knee--you can't move 23 hr 58 min ago
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      • Below the knee? Shit--below the butt your movement is inhibited 23 hr 56 min ago
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      • My parka goes below the knee and I can move just fine 23 hr 56 min ago
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        • Have you ever seen a boy with a long coat ? 23 hr 56 min ago
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          • Yeah I have actually 23 hr 52 min ago
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        • how often are you playing on the playground at recess? 23 hr 56 min ago
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        • How old is your dc? If he's playing at recess, don't do it. If he's not gay, don't do it. 23 hr 55 min ago
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          • will you troglodytes stop with the gay insults? 23 hr 55 min ago
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          • This is harsh but very true. If he's an outwardly gay fashionista kid - go for it. Anything else? Don't do it 23 hr 54 min ago
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        • How often do you go sledding, etc? 23 hr 53 min ago
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    • Donít do it. 23 hr 58 min ago
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      • Why not? 23 hr 56 min ago
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        • They will be teased. They donít want to wear that kind of coat. 23 hr 55 min ago
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          • Why would he be teased for wearing a coat like that? 23 hr 50 min ago
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    • I don't know any boy, young or old, that would wear that. Does he want this or you? 23 hr 57 min ago
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      • right? they will be shamed if over the age of 5 23 hr 56 min ago
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        • i doubt they'd be shamed, it just doesn't seem practical for a kid who's active and plays and runs and slides and stuff like that 23 hr 55 min ago
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          • they will be shamed 23 hr 55 min ago
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            • you know, kids are much nicer than their moms, in my experience. they're open minded, they are often clueless and just don't care about the nonsense you do. 23 hr 53 min ago
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              • Sure, mentalcase 23 hr 52 min ago
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              • I am nice. I am nicely telling you not to do this to your kid. Is it sensible to want to keep him warm? Yes. Buying him a long coat is not the answer. Talk to your kid 23 hr 51 min ago
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                • I totally agree--he is going to hate it (plus they suffer much less from the cold than we do). Just ask him what coat he wants. But this is a fake to gt us going anyway 23 hr 49 min ago
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              • yeah right 23 hr 51 min ago
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      • I think he would be fine wearing it 23 hr 55 min ago
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        • Don't think - ask. How old is he? 23 hr 55 min ago
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    • unless you live in Canada or Siberia, why? 23 hr 56 min ago
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      • Because long coats are warmer 23 hr 55 min ago
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        • no, they are not. where the fuck is he walking that he needs this 23 hr 54 min ago
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          • 2 miles up hill... each way 23 hr 54 min ago
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            • DAD? IS THAT YOU? 23 hr 53 min ago
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    • Is he gay? 23 hr 56 min ago
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      • Not a good comment 23 hr 54 min ago
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        • Only a gay boy would consider wearing a long coat 23 hr 53 min ago
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    • Gee, I wonder why you can't find that? 23 hr 56 min ago
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    • Unless you live in Fargo, don't do this 23 hr 55 min ago
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    • This has to be fake! 23 hr 54 min ago
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    • I'll bet the Beckham boys wear long down coats 23 hr 51 min ago
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      • They live in CA 23 hr 51 min ago
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    • lollllll 23 hr 50 min ago
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    • Like this?...(more) 23 hr 49 min ago
  4. Tween/Teen Gift for DD's friend at sleepaway camp?...(more) 8-12-2018 8:47pm (6 replies)
    DD insists on sending a little gift - no food items of course - but I don't know what to send...journal, markers, game? Any ideas?
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    • Silly string, nail polish 8-12-2018 8:48pm
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      • Good ones! 8-12-2018 8:50pm
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      • Why were two posts deleted on this thread? They seemed rather innocent! 8-12-2018 9:00pm
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    • Mad Libs 8-14-2018 10:48am
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  5. Tween/Teen - no subject -...(more) 8-4-2018 9:42pm (7 replies)
    Rising Brearley 9th grader moms: are the drugs really that rampant with the popular girls? I have hear from mom friends that there is a fair amount of juuling, smoking weed and drinking with the cool girls. Is this true? My DD is a rising freshmen at Brearley and I have some inklings she is not the golden child anymore.
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    • There is a decent amount 8-4-2018 9:43pm
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      • np and also brearley mom - what does that mean? 8-4-2018 9:44pm
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        • It means there are a decent amount of drugs. Just like every private school 8-4-2018 9:46pm
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          • but at least they are not doing drugs with the public school kids. Count your blessings. 8-4-2018 9:47pm
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            • Yes, god forbid that combination 8-4-2018 10:03pm
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    • OP) can someone please help?? 8-4-2018 10:10pm
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      • talk to you dc not us. 8-4-2018 10:17pm
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  7. Tween/Teen What are the warmest winter boots....(more) 8-3-2018 3:24pm (28 replies)
    Iím looking for the warmest winter boots for myself and my daughter. We just moved from Florida to Maine so Iím looking for something that can handle snow and extreme cold. I would prefer boots that are knee high and very well insulated.
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    • say what you want but I LOVE my UGGS 8-3-2018 3:24pm
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      • Are UGGS waterproof though? 8-3-2018 3:27pm
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        • they have waterproof styles 8-3-2018 3:29pm
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    • the waterproof uggs. I think the style is called adirondack. and you are shopping a bit early lol 8-3-2018 3:24pm
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      • I know but I donít want to wait until we actually need to be wearing the winter gear to buy it 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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        • I would at least wait until september when all the new styles are out 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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          • this, you are weirdly invested 8-3-2018 3:32pm
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            • I just want to make sure that weíre ready for our first winter 8-3-2018 4:00pm
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          • Wouldnít it be a lot more expensive then? 8-3-2018 3:59pm
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    • Pajar 8-3-2018 3:25pm
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    • go to LL Bean 8-3-2018 3:26pm
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    • we have a house in vermont and Sorel is our go to boot 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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      • Which type of sorel? 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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        • joan of acadia. Also invest in smartwool socks. 8-3-2018 3:49pm
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          • lol i mean joan of artic 8-3-2018 3:51pm
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      • not as warm as uggs 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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    • You want Bogs. Classic High with handles. Tons of styles. 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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      • I love mine. Rated to -30 below and they keep my feet warm and dry in deep snow when it's single digits. 8-3-2018 3:32pm
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        • How much time do you spend outside in single digits? 8-3-2018 3:45pm
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    • knee high seems really hard to walk in 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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    • my le canadienne are warm but never really last more than a season 8-3-2018 3:35pm
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      • Why would you ever buy them again??? 8-3-2018 3:41pm
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      • I have two pairs and they've lasted for four and seven years so far! Very warm and waterproof and not hideous. Well worth the $$$ 8-3-2018 6:16pm
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  8. Tween/Teen Winter gear tips...(more) 8-3-2018 2:28pm (8 replies)
    So long story this summer we moved from Florida to Maine. My daughter is going to be walking to school, roughly a 20 minute walk. We just went shopping for winter gear and I got her clothes that I think sheíll be fine walking to school during the winter in. I got her snow pants that have suspenders and a really thick winter coat that goes down past her knees, hopefully the combo of coat+snow pants will prevent snow from getting in under her clothes. Are there any other things I should take into consideration?
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    • boots, thick socks, warm hat, warm gloves and a scarf! I lived in Montreal and holy shit was it cold there!! 8-3-2018 2:30pm
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      • I havenít bought boots yet or any other accessories, would there be any particular ones you recommend? 8-3-2018 3:09pm
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    • I think thatís fine, long coat, high boots and good gloves. But donít over-buy now. 8-3-2018 2:31pm
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      • Havenít found the right boots yet. Honestly feels like Iím under buying, I only got us coats and snow pants today. 8-3-2018 3:10pm
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    • how old is she? I live in NH and I can tell you, if in high school and walking they won't wear the snowpants 8-3-2018 2:35pm
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      • Sheís 13 and going into 7th grade, why would she not wear snow pants? 8-3-2018 3:12pm
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    • Hat, gloves, wool socks 8-3-2018 2:41pm
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      • Would you recommend gloves rather than mittens? 8-3-2018 3:12pm
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  9. Tween/Teen Snow pants...(more) 8-3-2018 12:44pm (9 replies)
    Iím doing some shopping for winter clothes for my daughter and me, and Iím wondering what kind of snow pants you would recommend. I was looking at the suspender style snow pants because they look like theyíre warmer, but my daughter said that it would take her too much time to get those on and off, especially at school, so she wants the regular kind.
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    • If she plays in the snow, bibs are better. 8-3-2018 12:46pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 12:48pm
        Yeah we just moved to Maine so Iím expecting there will be a lot of snow, even if sheís just walking to school.
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        • It's the sledding that gets you--snow up the back of the coat! 8-3-2018 12:49pm
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          • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 1:03pm
            Can that be avoided by wearing a longer coat?
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            • You don't want to wear a knee-length coat to play in the snow. 8-3-2018 1:07pm
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              • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 1:09pm
                Why not? I was thinking the best combo would be the suspender snow pants and a really long coat.
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    • mine want just the pants, no bibs or suspenders. I like the ones they sell at costco or target every year 8-3-2018 12:46pm
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      • I think they have suspenders that unzip 8-3-2018 12:49pm
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    • see if lands end has sales right now 8-3-2018 12:50pm
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  10. Tween/Teen How to make move easier on daughter...(more) 7-26-2018 9:35am (7 replies)
    A few weeks ago we moved across the country, and my daughter is really unhappy. Sheís afraid of starting a new school in the fall. Also I think the change in scenery is affecting her too, we went from urban Miami to suburban Maine.
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    • Any day camps she can go to? 7-26-2018 9:36am
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      • this - meet some kids before school starts 7-26-2018 9:36am
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    • Can you do things to help her get familiar with the area? Maybe meet some kids her age? 7-26-2018 9:36am
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    • how old is she 7-26-2018 9:38am
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    • Weird, suburban Maine in the summer seems much nicer than urban Miami in the summer 7-26-2018 9:48am
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    • Where in Maine? I may have some ideas. 7-26-2018 9:59am
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    • - no subject -...(more) 7-26-2018 12:35pm
      Sheís 13. Going into the 7th grade this fall
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  11. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 7-23-2018 5:38pm (15 replies)
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    • Isn't it late to be thinking about this? 7-23-2018 5:38pm
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      • This post has been deleted. 7-23-2018 5:40pm
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        • Leaving aside whether it's a good idea, it's probably not a feasible idea. 7-23-2018 5:41pm
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        • Thatís 2 transitions in 2 years 7-23-2018 5:47pm
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    • Maybe get her some professional help in managing her anxiety? My DD has anxiety, and she's taken it with her wherever she goes...changing schools isn't likely to solve the problem...(more) 7-23-2018 5:39pm
      (completely, anyway).
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      • Exactly -- and St. Ann's is not a natural fit in this situation. 7-23-2018 5:40pm
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        • what does her therapist say? 7-23-2018 5:41pm
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    • Unless her grades/scores are amazing, St. Ann's is a very tough admit. 7-23-2018 5:39pm
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        • Obivously, there's not a rhyme or reason to these things. They have very few spots for 10th grade. It's worth a shot, but it isn't a plan to manage her anxiety. 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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        • np-look at what you wrote and wonder again why she has grade anxiety... 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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          • dislike all you want, but the attitude is not helping. 7-23-2018 5:46pm
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        • it will depend on how many spots are available and the competition...switiching comes with it's own problems, you know: social stress, for example 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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    • If you really want a lower-key setting for her, you are going to have to look at schools that are off the YB-approved list. 7-23-2018 5:47pm
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  12. Tween/Teen The RNC convention is being held this year in Saint Petersburg 7-19-2018 11:07am (11 replies)
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    • Devin Nunnes and his comrades will be attending 7-19-2018 11:09am
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    • Russia or Florida 7-19-2018 11:09am
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      • Russia of course 7-19-2018 11:10am
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      • I thought Charlotte got it 7-19-2018 11:14am
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    • FLA or Russia? 7-19-2018 11:10am
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    • COOL! I want to go! TRUMP!!!!!!! 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Of course Wayne LaPierre will be there, he speaks fluent Russian 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Trump, Putin and Kim Jong-un are planning world domination. 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Aeroflot has a special discount for NRA members 7-19-2018 11:12am
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    • I heard Charlotte. 7-19-2018 11:16am
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      • No, Trump made a verbal agreement with Putin 7-19-2018 11:19am
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  13. Tween/Teen Divorced with BF of a few years. I know he wants to live together when I am an empty nester which is soon. I am not sure, thoughts? 6-30-2018 6:57pm (15 replies)
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    • Iíd live with him 6-30-2018 6:59pm
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    • Is he a good man? 6-30-2018 6:59pm
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    • Can he pay half the bills ? 6-30-2018 7:00pm
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      • yes, though I do own my place (mortgage) and he rents now 6-30-2018 7:00pm
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        • So he will pay you rent - good for you 6-30-2018 7:01pm
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          • not exactly sure how it would be structured but yes, he would definitely contribute 6-30-2018 7:03pm
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            • He writes you a check for half monthly expenses - utilities taxes etc 6-30-2018 7:04pm
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              • yes probably something like that, he is responsible/reasonable with money so I am not too worried about that 6-30-2018 7:07pm
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    • Meh, Iíd want my space. 6-30-2018 7:01pm
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      • I am pretty independent so this is one of the things I worry about 6-30-2018 7:02pm
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        • Because once he moves in, itís like going through a divorce to get him out. 6-30-2018 7:05pm
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          • np. interesting point 6-30-2018 7:09pm
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          • Actually itís not - your house you tell him to leave 6-30-2018 7:10pm
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            • i think this partially depends on the state and how long he has been living there, whether there is a formal lease, etc. 6-30-2018 7:11pm
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  14. Tween/Teen Teens and cell phone indecency: What can a parent do?...(more) 6-23-2018 2:27pm (28 replies)
    This is vey sensitive. I am leaving out a few details to make my post fit in the space provided. Last night I heard a noise. Checked it out & caught my teen daughter undressed in bed with her cell phone in her outstretched arm. She immediately covered up & hid the phone. I was mortified & so angry all my brain could muster was put the phone on the floor & go to bed. She did & went to bed. Her mother & I had a brief conversation about it in the am but couldn't do anything because she is at a school function till 2. Thing is, I can't say 100% that she was taking a video or pictures or talking to someone unless there is evidence on the phone & I will scour that when she gets home. Regardless, I have to do something. evidence says I have to. I could use some direction with this. I am just really at a loss. What do I do if I find evidence & what do I do if I don't. I feel seeing what I saw is some really compelling evidence that something is
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    • there is a space limit? 6-23-2018 2:28pm
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      • space limit...(more) 6-23-2018 2:30pm
        it limited me to 1000 characters
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        • never noticed 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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    • are you guy? 6-23-2018 2:29pm
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      • yes 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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        • This post has been disliked 3 times. showhave your wife post then, creepy asshole 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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          • np- op, ignore the troll. you are fine. 6-23-2018 2:32pm
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    • Okay. a few questions? How old is she? And what are your concerns? 6-23-2018 2:29pm
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      • answer...(more) 6-23-2018 2:34pm
        She is 16 and my concerns are that possible pictures of my daughter will circulate and cause her emotional harm. It has happened in our town before. Can she get in trouble for circulating child pornography? What short and long term impact will this have on her life? Do we ever let her have a video device again etc ectc
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        • Dide you canít figure this out? You are the parent. Sounds like sheís I. Control here. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • you need to talk to her, she's 16, she needs to understand the risks, especially if you have a real-life example to share with her 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • I don't know what state you are in, but I don't think 16 would be considered a child. That said: sexting is a serious consideration. Ideally you should have taken her phone righta...(more) 6-23-2018 2:36pm
          way. I would suggesting sitting down with her and talking. You need to let her know that having her phone is a privilege and talk about the consequences of her choices. I would absolutely check her phone.
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    • how old? I would not "scour her phone", I would have a conversation along the lines of - how would you feel if this photo/video was made available to all your friends? 6-23-2018 2:31pm
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      • I seriously doubt that by the time op gets the phone that there will be anything incriminating on it. If she is smart she will have wiped it clean by then. 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • OP is either an idiot or fake 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • np: the goal isn't to catch her but to create an expectation that her phone is not private. 6-23-2018 2:37pm
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    • Turn phones in at night from now on plus convo as per above 6-23-2018 2:32pm
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    • You didn't take the phone and look? 6-23-2018 2:33pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 6-23-2018 2:37pm
        at that time I didn't even think about it my brain was a fog I just said very sternly like parents can say put it on the floor and go to bed she looked like a deer in headlights draped the phone and I didn't hear a sound from her the rest of the night. Too late to do what if.
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        • or: Have her mom talk to her and sending pics or videos. The phone is unavailable to her after 8pm for the near future 6-23-2018 2:38pm
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      • np: I don't think it's a good idea for him to potentially see a pic of his 16yo naked. I would have the mother look, if he must. It would be considerably more awkward for both,...(more) 6-23-2018 2:45pm
        dad and daughter, if he were to find something like that
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    • Why was she allowed to keep the phone? 6-23-2018 2:34pm
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      • she is 16 and uses the alarm and listens to music. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • Jesus. You people. Sheís been doing this a long time Iím sure. Damage is done. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • buy her an alarm clock and a radio. Have a frank discussion with her about how reputations can be ruined by this behavior. It's an embarassing conversation but she needs to be...(more) 6-23-2018 2:37pm
          mortified and scared stiff about how these pictures NEVER remain anonymous.
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    • I'd make her write a fucking mini research paper on the dangers of sexting. She'll find some serious shit 6-23-2018 3:08pm
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      • Yes. And she can't have her phone back until it's done. 6-23-2018 3:10pm
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  15. Tween/Teen Please don't troll. My daughter is 14. She and I have been so close all these years. She's doing that thing where she's pushing me away, which of course she should be doing...(more) 6-22-2018 6:11pm (8 replies)
    developmentally. And I understand it all in my head. But so sad and so missing my girl and our closeness.
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    • Remember that you are still the biggest influence in her life. Be patient. The pushing should stop. 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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    • I feel for you. From what I understand ( because I have a ds) they come back in college 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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      • o my goodness. years. 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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        • let's be optimistic... maybe you will be different. 6-22-2018 6:15pm
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    • You need to give her space. By the time my DD turned 16 we started getting close again, some of the time anyway. 6-22-2018 6:14pm
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      • how did you give her space? 6-22-2018 6:15pm
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        • When she slammed the door of her room and wanted to be left alone I let her be. I found few opportune moments to have chats still, usually in the car or at dinner with just the...(more) 6-22-2018 6:22pm
          two of us.
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    • You mean flame, not troll 6-22-2018 6:19pm
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  16. Tween/Teen Need advice. Friends want to do things with me one on one but donít include me in group events - birthday lunches, drinks on a Friday etc. why? What am I doing wrong? 6-21-2018 2:28pm (9 replies)
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    • are they super cliquish together? 6-21-2018 2:30pm
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    • i have a group like this, im the only one whos kid isnt in theater, and Im the onlyone that works. 6-21-2018 2:30pm
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      • Op: does it bug you? I know I shouldnít let it bother me but I do 6-21-2018 2:33pm
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        • it does a little bit, for like the 3 min when I see it on social media; but we do all do other things as a group from time to time, so it stings less. If I were always excluded,...(more) 6-21-2018 2:43pm
          Id wonder why
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    • i hate feeling left out, but there are times when i just want a small and specific vibe... 6-21-2018 2:34pm
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    • You aren;t doing anything wrong. I've had this happen and it is odd stuff - like a group goes out for a bday and I am hear about it after and I think - wow, I was not invited. I...(more) 6-21-2018 2:35pm
      have learned to get over it
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      • yes but i find that you need to be in the right place at the right time when they are planning these things or you are forgotten. do you ever plan these events? 6-21-2018 2:48pm
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    • nyc or burbs? in nyc, i find it hard to do groups of more than a few, reservation tougher/schedules 6-21-2018 2:42pm
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  17. Tween/Teen Boys and not fitting in...(more) 6-19-2018 6:02am (6 replies)
    My son is entering Junior High and is beginning to experience rejection from lifelong friends. It is heartbreaking to watch. One issue is that he is so much younger than a lot of the boys he's been friends with. There's definitely a maturity gap starting to show. The thing I see is that my son doesn't know when to stop which annoys the other boys. My son sees his friends pulling away and he is devastated. I tried to talk to him about the annoyances, to be more self aware, and it backfired into him crying that no one likes him. I feel terrible. His self-esteem is on the rocks already and I think I made it worse. What do I do?? Any words of wisdom?? This sucks. Thank you.
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    • sorry you are going through this. BTDT and still living it with DS going into 9th grade. My advice is to not ask about plans, not ask who he is sitting with and tell him that...(more) 6-19-2018 6:14am
      middle school is really hard for everyone, even the kids who look like they are fine and confident. When my ds senses I am worried about him he says "mom, i know middle school is really hard for lots of people." And I struggle with trying to fix about him what others don't like -- it doesn't work and it just tells them they are to blame for being left out. It's really hard and I screw up the last part all the time.
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    • there is a huge maturity gap at this age anyway, and a ton of boys who are exactly like you describe your son. does your son enter into a new feeder school, with other...(more) 6-19-2018 6:20am
      elementaries joining besides the one he's in now?
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    • Honestly, it can really go either way (but hopefully it will go well in MS for him). I found that my dc both branched out in MS and met a lot of the new to district kids and...(more) 6-19-2018 6:28am
      formed a group. Usually the group of kids widens and there are many more different kinds of kids to mix with. The school should also help mix them with activities, socials, ice breakers (hopefully)
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    • Not that this will be much comfort to him but this is so terribly common in MS. I am sorry! It is so hard to see your child in pain. Can he reach out to any other boys he likes...(more) 6-19-2018 6:43am
      from activities he does?
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    • Maybe a little CBT therapy or a social therapy group. I have a kid like this. One plus of our MS at least was there were tons of new people and clubs dc could really branch out...(more) 6-19-2018 6:55am
      and find his new tribe.
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    • This is painful and common. One of lifeís lessons. But look at the big picture and remind him MS is temporary and no reflection on the person he is. He will make new friends the...(more) 6-19-2018 7:19am
      Rest of his life. Making friends is not finite. My kids got dumped. Encourage him to make a couple new friends - be positive. Itís hard but try not to dwell on the old friends
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  18. Tween/Teen Gutted by the Anthony Bourdain news 6-8-2018 8:34am (3 replies)
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    • Best job in the world, hit girlfriend, beautiful daughter...irreverent, passionate 6-8-2018 8:35am
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      • Wonder what weíre his demons? 6-8-2018 8:43am
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    • My ex just posted it was a sex game. What an ass. 6-8-2018 8:49am
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  19. Tween/Teen Xpost:recommendations for a books for 16 yo to take to camp? She's not a fan of sci-fi or dystopian books. I love giving her books I loved when I was her age, so would be happy...(more) 5-30-2018 8:59am (1 reply)
    for ideas from your teenage years. Many thanks!
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    • The Good Earth, Gone with the Wind, Handmaidís Tale 5-30-2018 9:00am
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  20. Tween/Teen My teens have absolutely zero.plans this weekend. They insist that's normal. That teens dont care about memorial day weekend as a vacation. 5-26-2018 9:03am (20 replies)
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    • Of course. Itís fine, they still have school left. 5-26-2018 9:04am
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    • it is normal to me. it's a long weekend like any other. we have no plans either. 5-26-2018 9:05am
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      • my kids said "the adults are the ones who care about having fun on memorial day weekend" I think my kids have homework and studying. like 4 regents 5-26-2018 9:06am
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    • Parents make plans. Kid go along with plans. 5-26-2018 9:05am
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      • This. Why arenít you at the beach house like everyone else? 5-26-2018 9:08am
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        • so sorry! no beach house no lake house! ;) 5-26-2018 9:10am
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          • So. Weekend trip to mystic. Day trip to Coney Island 5-26-2018 9:11am
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    • What are your plans? 5-26-2018 9:06am
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      • a few barbecues. They dont really want to go they dont have friends there. 5-26-2018 9:06am
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    • Memorial day is a family long weekend. My usual social kids donít have plans. It would be like having plans for Xmas. The plan is the family plan 5-26-2018 9:06am
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      • This. We are going out to SILs beach house. Sometimes we make a 3-day trip to dc. Or do cook out at ILs 5-26-2018 9:07am
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    • some of you are SO obsessed with you children's social status/lives 5-26-2018 9:07am
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      • Also ďwhat I did this weekend that makes us look like we do stuffĒ 5-26-2018 9:08am
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      • so true...BUT I do have one who has zero social life and when you have a teen like that it can get concerning. It isnt avout social status. One of mine is clearly "nerd" status...(more) 5-26-2018 9:09am
        LOl but seems to have friends and socialize
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        • yes i get concern in this case but there have always been solitary people, and many of them are satisfied with that state 5-26-2018 9:11am
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    • Aren't they studying all weekend? Finals are right around corner 5-26-2018 9:07am
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    • Kids are exhausted imo and have spring fever. They need to relax and let off some steam 5-26-2018 9:09am
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    • What are they supposed to do 5-26-2018 9:11am
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    • Itís about honoring dead soldiers 5-26-2018 9:12am
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    • my 14 yo is working her first job today(day three), and it's at a very popular deli where everyone goes before going to the beach, and it's got to be a mad house. 5-26-2018 9:12am
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  21. Tween/Teen To the clubbing poster...just find friends to go with. One con about my DH is that he isnt I to music or bands etc. Its disappointing but sometimes I just go with other people...(more) 5-26-2018 8:57am (0 replies)
    lile Dead and Co or other live music with friends. I dont even want to go with him.bc he isnt into it and doesnt know the music.
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  22. Tween/Teen Fun activity ideas for 3 girls for a party ? 5-24-2018 6:30pm (10 replies)
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    • mani/pedi, pottery studio 5-24-2018 6:31pm
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      • SORRY - something to do in the house 5-24-2018 6:31pm
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        • movie, baking project 5-24-2018 6:33pm
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    • Bake cupcakes. Decorate t-shirts or bags with fabric markers 5-24-2018 6:35pm
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      • there are so many things for little girls. I have boys. Those parties are HARD indoors :/ 5-24-2018 6:45pm
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        • My boys always baked cakes 5-24-2018 6:48pm
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          • and do mani/pedis, decorate tshirts? yeah, okay 5-24-2018 6:48pm
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          • but not sure their male friends would be into it 5-24-2018 6:49pm
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    • Karaoke 5-24-2018 6:43pm
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    • how old 5-24-2018 6:49pm
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  23. Tween/Teen DD turning 10 having a SMALL (2 other kids) party at the house....(more) 5-24-2018 6:12pm (6 replies)
    I need ideas for a party favor dance party theme...
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    • Dance party light 5-24-2018 6:12pm
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      • we have one! I was thinking something in the clothes department (not $$) or hats or something? 5-24-2018 6:20pm
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    • wow, i didn't even know there was a tween board 5-24-2018 6:12pm
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      • np - lol - just noticed that! 5-24-2018 6:14pm
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      • ditto 5-24-2018 6:36pm
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    • one of those cheap blue tooth speakers? or a thumb drive with music loaded onto it. 5-24-2018 6:13pm
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  24. Tween/Teen Where do nyc based teens go for STD testing? Their pediatrician doesn't seem right but insurance req visits to primary care .. cross posting w/nyc board 5-4-2018 10:57am (25 replies)
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    • There have to be free clinics. 5-4-2018 10:58am
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    • Urgent Care? 5-4-2018 11:01am
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      • They usually have a higher copay, no? You could try like a Minute Clinic type thing 5-4-2018 11:03am
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    • Planned Parenthood is excellent for this 5-4-2018 11:04am
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    • Planned parenthood maybe? 5-4-2018 11:04am
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    • If this was my dc, I would approach her ped first to see if she can do it or not. If dc does have a STD, I want her ped to know it 5-4-2018 11:13am
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      • Why? If it is easily cured? 5-4-2018 11:17am
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        • Because IMO it should be part of her medical record 5-4-2018 11:19am
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          • What is the basis of your opinion? 5-4-2018 11:20am
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            • Just that I trust our ped to make medical opinions for dc. I'm not sure what you are pushing back on. 5-4-2018 11:24am
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              • I don't know how comfortable most peds are treating STDs, for 1. And also I might not want it on the medical record. 5-4-2018 11:26am
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                • Oh I agree with your first statement - which is why I said that I would approach the ped with the question first. However I do think that just in case it has bearing on dc's...(more) 5-4-2018 11:28am
                  health as he/she ages, I would want the STD on the record. There is no harm in it being on the record.
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                  • You are more trusting than I am with that. 5-4-2018 11:32am
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    • gynecologist is considered primary care for insurance purposes if that helps you 5-4-2018 11:14am
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      • Unless it's a DS;) 5-4-2018 11:18am
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        • The place to go is family practice doctor, primary care and sees both genders. You can find an urgent care with a family practice doctor if need be and that is primary care. 5-4-2018 11:21am
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        • The surgeon is the mother! 5-4-2018 11:22am
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  25. Tween/Teen There is a group of moms in my town who are very close and do birthday lunches. I am friends with two of the moms and regularly run with them but neither invites me when it's her...(more) 4-23-2018 2:31pm (13 replies)
    birthday. I know it's an established group but still hurts to be left out and find out on Facebook. I know it's ridiculous but I find myself hoping to be invited each year. Anyone btdt? Have advice?
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    • Its their birthday thing so they keep it with juts them. I get it. I also get why you feel left out but its not personal. 4-23-2018 2:32pm
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    • im being very serious and not snarky when i say: get a job. seriously, you need something for you that is separate of your kids, the other moms, town... 4-23-2018 2:32pm
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      • ^and im engaged in my community, i have friends here, i have book club and get togethers, but i purposely seek a space outside of this 4-23-2018 2:32pm
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        • Np what do you do for work? Is it full time? 4-23-2018 2:45pm
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    • Thatís understandable! 4-23-2018 2:33pm
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    • the cliquey stuff doesn't end in HS. do you have other friends who are not part of this group? I cannot stand when adults post crap like that on FB. it just reinforces that...(more) 4-23-2018 2:34pm
      cliquieness.
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      • np: with the caption "best girls!" 4-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • Yes. So annoying! 4-23-2018 2:37pm
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      • I do have other friends not in the group and try to just be happy that I have friends and accept those friendships for what they are. 4-23-2018 2:36pm
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    • Do you invite them to your bday? 4-23-2018 2:35pm
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      • Summer birthday so usually I'm out of town. One of them always gives me a little gift though 4-23-2018 2:39pm
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    • It is so much easier to be an introvert. :) 4-23-2018 2:35pm
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    • Do you take them out to lunch separately? 4-23-2018 2:46pm
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