Tween/Teen
- Tween/Teen College and homesickness...(more)
- It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesn’t like the...(more)
- ^^^i have a Freshman dd playing lax
- Homesickness...(more)
- I would push hard to finish out the year, hoping it will get better.
- absolutely do not let him come home
- Is there someone at student life you can consult? Maybe tell him if he does some counseling & still wants to trx youd be more ok with the idea?
- Be supportive and tell him to keep trying and you can talk about it for next fal but he needs to give this year a chance. There’s counselingnservies at schoolnto if he needs...(more)
- My friend’s freshman dd is miserable. Not sure what theyre going to do yet. She calls mom multiple times a day which I think makes it worse for her. Not sure what theyre going to...(more)
- My roomate freshman year cried all the time, and very deliberately wouldnt involve herself in any social life at school. But she had a very strong social life/community support...(more)
- ok I will get slammed but this is what I did. my kid attend college all the way on the other side of the country. I got on the UCLA web site and found some clubs for him to...(more)
- why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable
- Yeah, good idea. I recall that homesickness feeling setting in by October, like once the excitement of the first month was over and the reality of “oh. I’m on my own” was...(more)
- some timers would say I should have made him find clubs or groups to join. but I know my kid I know what he will and won't do
- why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable
- Has your ds been away from home before for camp or anything like that? How did that go? It’s very early and it’s normalnto be. Home sick. You need to encourage him to...(more)
- OP here. Thanks all. He is at a very small community college far enough away from NYC, which was his choice as he hated it here. He's an only kid. I have also encouraged him to...(more)
- Very small community college may be the issue, most kids attending community college live at home so there may not be much community there for kids in the dorms.
- I think there are probably other issues in play. Anxiety, for one. Also, important for him to realize that his "life" as he knew it at home is also not the same because all of...(more)
- It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesn’t like the...(more)
- Tween/Teen Why are winter coats considered uncool?...(more)
- how old is she?
- 13
- let her be cold, she will survive
- still early enough to show skin
- Where are you that needs a coat?
- Minnesota
- Ok, you pass. But still it’s early October, give it another 3 weeks
- It’s already coat weather now
- During the day is it in the 40s?
- The high of the day is usually in the low 40s
- How much time do they spend outside?
- Anything over a few minutes is enough to need winter clothes
- How much time do they spend outside?
- The high of the day is usually in the low 40s
- During the day is it in the 40s?
- It’s already coat weather now
- Ok, you pass. But still it’s early October, give it another 3 weeks
- Minnesota
- what's cool? Get her a version of that - I'm that mom - I know how important it is for tweens/young teens to not stand out in any way / fit in socially - it will change soon by...(more)
- The “cool” coats are so light and thin I wouldn’t even call them coats
- how old is she?
- Tween/Teen Is it fine to wear snow pants when it hasn’t snowed...(more)
- Do you live in the arctic circle? then, yes.
- In Canada, not quite the arctic circle
- then you know the weather and expected attire in Canada better than we do. It was 83 degrees here today.
- I was the only one in snow pants, that’s why I was asking
- yeah... being the only one doing something is usually a sign. What was the temp?
- Slightly below freezing
- Personally I find that a bit warm for snow pants. I have lined pants instead.
- ^^but if you were comfortable, that's all that matters!
- Yeah I was bundled up from head to toe, I can’t stand being cold
- ^^but if you were comfortable, that's all that matters!
- Personally I find that a bit warm for snow pants. I have lined pants instead.
- Slightly below freezing
- yeah... being the only one doing something is usually a sign. What was the temp?
- I was the only one in snow pants, that’s why I was asking
- then you know the weather and expected attire in Canada better than we do. It was 83 degrees here today.
- In Canada, not quite the arctic circle
- Do you live in the arctic circle? then, yes.
- Tween/Teen Online Gaming hooked teens...(more)
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- Take phone away
- she doesn't have a phone, iPad, nothing. was all taken away long ago.
- Grounded
- so of course she's pissed as hell and probably being even more defiant. wouldn't you be?
- Np: can she earn things back by doing what you ask?
- Don’t ask. Tell.
- That’s not working for op!
- She’s not telling her right.
- How should she tell her?
- Go and was the dishes. Now.
- Right and seems like she doesn't !
- I read OP say that she ASKS her to do stuff.
- I guess she should try this approach
- I read OP say that she ASKS her to do stuff.
- Right and seems like she doesn't !
- Go and was the dishes. Now.
- How should she tell her?
- She’s not telling her right.
- That’s not working for op!
- Don’t ask. Tell.
- she doesn't have a phone, iPad, nothing. was all taken away long ago.
- and how do you handle it, if you are a single parent?
- Anyone take away their teen's phone for being a spoiled brat?
- what's her currency?
- Who are these children and why are you asking. You control most aspects of these childrens’ lives.
- Thank you. Finally a sane voice
- I know I have nothing in common culturally or otherwise with the people on here, but the way kids are dealt with puzzles me.
- np i treat my kids with respect.
- Meh. Respect is earned
- Right. Parents walk on eggshells, it's really weird.
- Np so what advice for op do u have ?
- Be a parent and make her do her shit, or there are consequences
- Like what ? She's taken away her phone etc.im seriously asking
- Ground her.
- A kid like this will walk out. Then what ?
- Walk out. I’m locking the doors.
- So when she finally comes home she's locked out. Interesting.
- I have always told mine that if she walks out I hope she has a plan.
- I can dig it
- I have always told mine that if she walks out I hope she has a plan.
- So when she finally comes home she's locked out. Interesting.
- Call the police , are you ten?
- I'm not op. What do you think they will do. She's not a runaway
- Pick her up and bring her home. Surely you have an idea of where she would go?
- The police do this? Like if you ground Olivia and she goes to the mall they will go and get her ?
- She's a minor . Or since you know where she is going you go get her
- The police do this? Like if you ground Olivia and she goes to the mall they will go and get her ?
- Pick her up and bring her home. Surely you have an idea of where she would go?
- I'm not op. What do you think they will do. She's not a runaway
- Walk out. I’m locking the doors.
- A kid like this will walk out. Then what ?
- Phone is the least of your concerns. She has to chip in otherwise she just goes to school and comes home. No extra.
- No extra what ?
- ^ im not op btw
- Omg. No extra anything. Activities, friends, nothing.
- You saying that to a kid like this won't stop her. I've seen it.
- OK, then put her out.
- What? You pick her up and bring her home.
- You cannot physically make a teen getnin your car
- Really?
- Well do you want to wrest her into the car? Then yes u can
- I would, absolutely. What am I going to do, let her do whatever the fuck she wants? Why bother having kids then?
- Ok I can appreciate this. It's a specific action !
- Right and below you are calling me trite and nonspecific. Yes I will grab my kids ass in public and put them physically in the car. Jesus Christ what is wrong with you people?
- Agreed; or I will make enough of a scene that she would meekly come in lest her friends know what a crazy b*tch her mother is.
- Right and below you are calling me trite and nonspecific. Yes I will grab my kids ass in public and put them physically in the car. Jesus Christ what is wrong with you people?
- Ok I can appreciate this. It's a specific action !
- I would, absolutely. What am I going to do, let her do whatever the fuck she wants? Why bother having kids then?
- Well do you want to wrest her into the car? Then yes u can
- You can embarrass them when they won’t get in, though.
- Lol
- Really?
- You cannot physically make a teen getnin your car
- You saying that to a kid like this won't stop her. I've seen it.
- Anything. Look, these kids live lives of privilege. You can have some clean underwear and a couple of tops and we get draconian on you. Go to desperate lengths not to raise an...(more)
- I'm not op. Just trying to get more specific advise for her.
- No you are just being stupid with these questions. You had kids, fucking be a parent. You are not their friend. They need guidance in life and sometimes it's not pretty .
- Again I'm not op. And again vague nonspecific trite words
- What is nonspecific? I to,d you what to do. Go back to your self help books moron
- Nice with the name calling. And so helpful.
- I have been helpful. What are you suggesting, stand there like an idiot and watch your kid implode bc you want to be their bestie? Good luck with that.
- This isn't about being their "bestie." It's about defiance, plain and simple, total lack of respect regardless of how hard you try to instill respect and responsibilities into...(more)
- I have been helpful. What are you suggesting, stand there like an idiot and watch your kid implode bc you want to be their bestie? Good luck with that.
- Nice with the name calling. And so helpful.
- What is nonspecific? I to,d you what to do. Go back to your self help books moron
- Again I'm not op. And again vague nonspecific trite words
- No you are just being stupid with these questions. You had kids, fucking be a parent. You are not their friend. They need guidance in life and sometimes it's not pretty .
- I'm not op. Just trying to get more specific advise for her.
- No extra what ?
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- Ground her.
- Like what ? She's taken away her phone etc.im seriously asking
- Be a parent and make her do her shit, or there are consequences
- np i treat my kids with respect.
- I know I have nothing in common culturally or otherwise with the people on here, but the way kids are dealt with puzzles me.
- Thank you. Finally a sane voice
- I think this generation of kids is dramatically diff. than when we were kids. I don't think most kids listen nowadays, unlike when I was growing up. Whole new set of "rules."
- Nonsense. People raise them this way. Kids are what you let them be.
- said every generation since recorded history began.
- Well, looks like most ppl. here either have perfect kids or are perfect disciplinarians. Is that right?
- See, it always comes to this; no one is saying that we are perfect, just different, but our ways are ‘disrespectful’ or don’t work. I’M NOT THE ONE ON HERE ASKING FOR ADVICE and...(more)
- You have no clue
- You don’t know what the f*k I know. I have a better understanding than most, but you need excuses for your childrens’ behavior. They are gifted in defiance too.
- I don't see anyone excusing. I see an op asking for advice and getting "be a parent " which isn't v helpful
- I am not that poster, but I see where she is coming from. Many people on here and in real life become afraid of their children; I posted - don’t ask; tell. You can’t raise...(more)
- Shithead
- So now we know that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
- I don't see anyone excusing. I see an op asking for advice and getting "be a parent " which isn't v helpful
- You don’t know what the f*k I know. I have a better understanding than most, but you need excuses for your childrens’ behavior. They are gifted in defiance too.
- PREACH
- You have no clue
- See, it always comes to this; no one is saying that we are perfect, just different, but our ways are ‘disrespectful’ or don’t work. I’M NOT THE ONE ON HERE ASKING FOR ADVICE and...(more)
- Is anyone here a single parent? Cause that makes a big diff lots of times.
- Take phone away
- Tween/Teen Dropped dc at University today, it feels so normal, like it’s nothing. I thought it would hit me on the drive back home but it hasn’t. How did you guys feel?
- It's lovely when they come home. It's lovely when they leave again.
- i felt great, sad to say goodbye but thrilled for them, not devastated or anything like that.
- This. I am delighted that they are moving on to the next stage of their lives. I take great joy in it.
- i think that the scourge that is social media has created a new competitive monster - the mother who cannot cope with her child moving away, who is so bereft that she is beside...(more)
- Fortunately that scourge has passed me by. I love my dcs more than life, and that is why I am so happy for them. They are back fairly soon anyway.
- tell me about it. not to mention the ease of communication we have now. even before the smartphone, i was texting my daughter directions from the us to paris, she'd text and ask...(more)
- Fortunately that scourge has passed me by. I love my dcs more than life, and that is why I am so happy for them. They are back fairly soon anyway.
- i think that the scourge that is social media has created a new competitive monster - the mother who cannot cope with her child moving away, who is so bereft that she is beside...(more)
- This. I am delighted that they are moving on to the next stage of their lives. I take great joy in it.
- it might take a few weeks to kick in
- Or it might not at all.
- It’s all about where your own life is at at that moment
- Tween/Teen Is 11 degrees winter coat weather in Canada?...(more)
- no, my winter coat is for below freezing temps, until then i have lighter jackets
- We were actually wearing lighter jackets under our coats lol
- I don't know, it is in Michigan
- It is 11 degrees out today? What?
- no, my winter coat is for below freezing temps, until then i have lighter jackets
- Tween/Teen My social, end of year birthday kid has not been invited to ANY of the bar/bat mitzvahs celebrated by friends/c old and new. It breaks my heart and I can't figure out how to...(more)
- That is a huge bummer
- It is.
- why does his birthday have anything to do with it?
- Because his BM comes after most of his contemporaries already had his, so it's not like he gets to invite first and they reciprocate or not.
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- have you spoken to the rabbi about him being excluded from all of his classmates' bar mitzvahs?
- Yes - we've discussed it. But it's not just Hebrew School classmates, it's also regular school classmates.
- Because his BM comes after most of his contemporaries already had his, so it's not like he gets to invite first and they reciprocate or not.
- Is your address in School directory?
- There's no school directory - we know a lot of the families for years. There's no lack of getting mailing info.
- You really have no idea why this might be? It sounds very odd, given your description of your ds.
- I can't figure it out. He's been to BMs of family and family friends and he's a terrific dancer to boot. (While so many other kids sit and stare at their phones)
- My dd didnt either. But her older sister had many. (had nothing to do with her birthday)
- Was she OK with it? Every week we find out about another one he wasn't invited to, often kids he's known since kindergarten and who've been to his parties in the past...
- She doesnt let feelings be known, but I think she would have liked to be invited to one. I dont think she was singled out for exclusion. No friends had them, and nobody at school...(more)
- Sorry to hear that.
- She doesnt let feelings be known, but I think she would have liked to be invited to one. I dont think she was singled out for exclusion. No friends had them, and nobody at school...(more)
- Was she OK with it? Every week we find out about another one he wasn't invited to, often kids he's known since kindergarten and who've been to his parties in the past...
- That is a huge bummer
- Tween/Teen Does anyone else have playdate anxiety? I feel so much pressure to provide an amazing time for kids and friends.
- absolutely not. i look at play dates as quality one on one unstructured time together to see if the friendship is a match and to alllow them to bond on their level. i am not a...(more)
- You put too much thought into this to not be a party to it. By your own explanation, you're a very interested observer and evaluator, to say the least.
- um what? no.
- ^^^ if the kids want to play together again, i know they had fun. hence they like each other and want to be friends. great. if not, not.
- um what? no.
- You put too much thought into this to not be a party to it. By your own explanation, you're a very interested observer and evaluator, to say the least.
- Can't do that. Let your child manage his relationship. Your fun party won't make the other kid like your kid more
- it just turns the mom into a social engineer, which is prob the opposite of the intention
- absolutely not. i look at play dates as quality one on one unstructured time together to see if the friendship is a match and to alllow them to bond on their level. i am not a...(more)
- Tween/Teen Anyone feel that DH doesn't support you with your teen?...(more)
- DH is setting you up as the bitch mom. You’re Betty Draper.
- You need to be on the same page, but also can’t expect a kid to never eat junk or use screens.
- He’s building memories too
- OP here: I can see that, but DH is the "fun" parent and he and DS do "fun" things. I, on the other hand, have to be the "mean" parent and make sure that he doesn't...(more)
- He’s building memories too
- Tween/Teen How often does your teen lie?...(more)
- Blowing guys, etc.
- probably more than I'm willing to admit - even to myself
- i imagine often. i know i did - it was to create distance from my mom.
- She doesn’t as far as I know. 12yo went through a crazy lying phase like age 9-10.
- Nothing like that. No
- i lied a lot as a teen but then i grew up in an abusive alcoholic family and no one outside of the family knew. lying was a way of life for us. it is still my first instinct to...(more)
- Tween/Teen Long winter coats for boys...(more)
- they don't want ones that go below the knee--you can't move
- Below the knee? Shit--below the butt your movement is inhibited
- My parka goes below the knee and I can move just fine
- Have you ever seen a boy with a long coat ?
- Yeah I have actually
- how often are you playing on the playground at recess?
- How old is your dc? If he's playing at recess, don't do it. If he's not gay, don't do it.
- will you troglodytes stop with the gay insults?
- This is harsh but very true. If he's an outwardly gay fashionista kid - go for it. Anything else? Don't do it
- How often do you go sledding, etc?
- Have you ever seen a boy with a long coat ?
- Don’t do it.
- Why not?
- They will be teased. They don’t want to wear that kind of coat.
- Why would he be teased for wearing a coat like that?
- They will be teased. They don’t want to wear that kind of coat.
- Why not?
- I don't know any boy, young or old, that would wear that. Does he want this or you?
- right? they will be shamed if over the age of 5
- i doubt they'd be shamed, it just doesn't seem practical for a kid who's active and plays and runs and slides and stuff like that
- they will be shamed
- you know, kids are much nicer than their moms, in my experience. they're open minded, they are often clueless and just don't care about the nonsense you do.
- Sure, mentalcase
- I am nice. I am nicely telling you not to do this to your kid. Is it sensible to want to keep him warm? Yes. Buying him a long coat is not the answer. Talk to your kid
- I totally agree--he is going to hate it (plus they suffer much less from the cold than we do). Just ask him what coat he wants. But this is a fake to gt us going anyway
- yeah right
- you know, kids are much nicer than their moms, in my experience. they're open minded, they are often clueless and just don't care about the nonsense you do.
- they will be shamed
- i doubt they'd be shamed, it just doesn't seem practical for a kid who's active and plays and runs and slides and stuff like that
- I think he would be fine wearing it
- Don't think - ask. How old is he?
- right? they will be shamed if over the age of 5
- unless you live in Canada or Siberia, why?
- Because long coats are warmer
- no, they are not. where the fuck is he walking that he needs this
- 2 miles up hill... each way
- DAD? IS THAT YOU?
- 2 miles up hill... each way
- no, they are not. where the fuck is he walking that he needs this
- Because long coats are warmer
- Is he gay?
- Not a good comment
- Only a gay boy would consider wearing a long coat
- Not a good comment
- Gee, I wonder why you can't find that?
- Unless you live in Fargo, don't do this
- This has to be fake!
- I'll bet the Beckham boys wear long down coats
- They live in CA
- lollllll
- Like this?...(more)
- lololll
- they don't want ones that go below the knee--you can't move
- Tween/Teen Gift for DD's friend at sleepaway camp?...(more)
- Silly string, nail polish
- Good ones!
- Why were two posts deleted on this thread? They seemed rather innocent!
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- Mad Libs
- Silly string, nail polish
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- There is a decent amount
- np and also brearley mom - what does that mean?
- It means there are a decent amount of drugs. Just like every private school
- but at least they are not doing drugs with the public school kids. Count your blessings.
- Yes, god forbid that combination
- but at least they are not doing drugs with the public school kids. Count your blessings.
- It means there are a decent amount of drugs. Just like every private school
- np and also brearley mom - what does that mean?
- OP) can someone please help??
- talk to you dc not us.
- There is a decent amount
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- Tween/Teen What are the warmest winter boots....(more)
- say what you want but I LOVE my UGGS
- Are UGGS waterproof though?
- they have waterproof styles
- Are UGGS waterproof though?
- the waterproof uggs. I think the style is called adirondack. and you are shopping a bit early lol
- I know but I don’t want to wait until we actually need to be wearing the winter gear to buy it
- I would at least wait until september when all the new styles are out
- this, you are weirdly invested
- I just want to make sure that we’re ready for our first winter
- Wouldn’t it be a lot more expensive then?
- this, you are weirdly invested
- I would at least wait until september when all the new styles are out
- I know but I don’t want to wait until we actually need to be wearing the winter gear to buy it
- Pajar
- go to LL Bean
- NOT warm
- they have tons of different styles - definitely have warm boots
- no
- they have tons of different styles - definitely have warm boots
- agree - I have these and love them - similar to a model of sorels, but I find these to be more comfortable...(more)
- garbage
- NOT warm
- we have a house in vermont and Sorel is our go to boot
- Which type of sorel?
- joan of acadia. Also invest in smartwool socks.
- lol i mean joan of artic
- joan of acadia. Also invest in smartwool socks.
- not as warm as uggs
- Which type of sorel?
- You want Bogs. Classic High with handles. Tons of styles.
- I love mine. Rated to -30 below and they keep my feet warm and dry in deep snow when it's single digits.
- How much time do you spend outside in single digits?
- I love mine. Rated to -30 below and they keep my feet warm and dry in deep snow when it's single digits.
- knee high seems really hard to walk in
- my le canadienne are warm but never really last more than a season
- Why would you ever buy them again???
- I have two pairs and they've lasted for four and seven years so far! Very warm and waterproof and not hideous. Well worth the $$$
- say what you want but I LOVE my UGGS
- Tween/Teen Winter gear tips...(more)
- boots, thick socks, warm hat, warm gloves and a scarf! I lived in Montreal and holy shit was it cold there!!
- I haven’t bought boots yet or any other accessories, would there be any particular ones you recommend?
- I think that’s fine, long coat, high boots and good gloves. But don’t over-buy now.
- Haven’t found the right boots yet. Honestly feels like I’m under buying, I only got us coats and snow pants today.
- how old is she? I live in NH and I can tell you, if in high school and walking they won't wear the snowpants
- She’s 13 and going into 7th grade, why would she not wear snow pants?
- Hat, gloves, wool socks
- Would you recommend gloves rather than mittens?
- boots, thick socks, warm hat, warm gloves and a scarf! I lived in Montreal and holy shit was it cold there!!
- Tween/Teen Snow pants...(more)
- If she plays in the snow, bibs are better.
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- It's the sledding that gets you--snow up the back of the coat!
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- You don't want to wear a knee-length coat to play in the snow.
- - no subject -...(more)
- You don't want to wear a knee-length coat to play in the snow.
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- It's the sledding that gets you--snow up the back of the coat!
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- mine want just the pants, no bibs or suspenders. I like the ones they sell at costco or target every year
- I think they have suspenders that unzip
- see if lands end has sales right now
- If she plays in the snow, bibs are better.
- Tween/Teen How to make move easier on daughter...(more)
- Any day camps she can go to?
- this - meet some kids before school starts
- Can you do things to help her get familiar with the area? Maybe meet some kids her age?
- how old is she
- Weird, suburban Maine in the summer seems much nicer than urban Miami in the summer
- Where in Maine? I may have some ideas.
- - no subject -...(more)
- Any day camps she can go to?
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- Isn't it late to be thinking about this?
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- Leaving aside whether it's a good idea, it's probably not a feasible idea.
- That’s 2 transitions in 2 years
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- Maybe get her some professional help in managing her anxiety? My DD has anxiety, and she's taken it with her wherever she goes...changing schools isn't likely to solve the problem...(more)
- Exactly -- and St. Ann's is not a natural fit in this situation.
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- what does her therapist say?
- Unless her grades/scores are amazing, St. Ann's is a very tough admit.
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- Obivously, there's not a rhyme or reason to these things. They have very few spots for 10th grade. It's worth a shot, but it isn't a plan to manage her anxiety.
- np-look at what you wrote and wonder again why she has grade anxiety...
- dislike all you want, but the attitude is not helping.
- it will depend on how many spots are available and the competition...switiching comes with it's own problems, you know: social stress, for example
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- If you really want a lower-key setting for her, you are going to have to look at schools that are off the YB-approved list.
- Isn't it late to be thinking about this?
- Tween/Teen The RNC convention is being held this year in Saint Petersburg
- Devin Nunnes and his comrades will be attending
- Russia or Florida
- Russia of course
- I thought Charlotte got it
- FLA or Russia?
- COOL! I want to go! TRUMP!!!!!!!
- Of course Wayne LaPierre will be there, he speaks fluent Russian
- Trump, Putin and Kim Jong-un are planning world domination.
- Aeroflot has a special discount for NRA members
- I heard Charlotte.
- No, Trump made a verbal agreement with Putin
- Tween/Teen Divorced with BF of a few years. I know he wants to live together when I am an empty nester which is soon. I am not sure, thoughts?
- I’d live with him
- Is he a good man?
- he is
- Can he pay half the bills ?
- yes, though I do own my place (mortgage) and he rents now
- So he will pay you rent - good for you
- not exactly sure how it would be structured but yes, he would definitely contribute
- He writes you a check for half monthly expenses - utilities taxes etc
- yes probably something like that, he is responsible/reasonable with money so I am not too worried about that
- He writes you a check for half monthly expenses - utilities taxes etc
- not exactly sure how it would be structured but yes, he would definitely contribute
- So he will pay you rent - good for you
- yes, though I do own my place (mortgage) and he rents now
- Meh, I’d want my space.
- I am pretty independent so this is one of the things I worry about
- Because once he moves in, it’s like going through a divorce to get him out.
- np. interesting point
- Actually it’s not - your house you tell him to leave
- i think this partially depends on the state and how long he has been living there, whether there is a formal lease, etc.
- Because once he moves in, it’s like going through a divorce to get him out.
- I am pretty independent so this is one of the things I worry about
- Tween/Teen Teens and cell phone indecency: What can a parent do?...(more)
- there is a space limit?
- space limit...(more)
- never noticed
- space limit...(more)
- are you guy?
- yes
- This post has been disliked 3 times. have your wife post then, creepy asshole
- np- op, ignore the troll. you are fine.
- This post has been disliked 3 times. have your wife post then, creepy asshole
- yes
- Okay. a few questions? How old is she? And what are your concerns?
- answer...(more)
- Dide you can’t figure this out? You are the parent. Sounds like she’s I. Control here.
- you need to talk to her, she's 16, she needs to understand the risks, especially if you have a real-life example to share with her
- I don't know what state you are in, but I don't think 16 would be considered a child. That said: sexting is a serious consideration. Ideally you should have taken her phone righta...(more)
- answer...(more)
- how old? I would not "scour her phone", I would have a conversation along the lines of - how would you feel if this photo/video was made available to all your friends?
- I seriously doubt that by the time op gets the phone that there will be anything incriminating on it. If she is smart she will have wiped it clean by then.
- OP is either an idiot or fake
- Who is OP?
- np: the goal isn't to catch her but to create an expectation that her phone is not private.
- OP is either an idiot or fake
- I seriously doubt that by the time op gets the phone that there will be anything incriminating on it. If she is smart she will have wiped it clean by then.
- Turn phones in at night from now on plus convo as per above
- You didn't take the phone and look?
- - no subject -...(more)
- or: Have her mom talk to her and sending pics or videos. The phone is unavailable to her after 8pm for the near future
- np: I don't think it's a good idea for him to potentially see a pic of his 16yo naked. I would have the mother look, if he must. It would be considerably more awkward for both,...(more)
- - no subject -...(more)
- Why was she allowed to keep the phone?
- she is 16 and uses the alarm and listens to music.
- Jesus. You people. She’s been doing this a long time I’m sure. Damage is done.
- buy her an alarm clock and a radio. Have a frank discussion with her about how reputations can be ruined by this behavior. It's an embarassing conversation but she needs to be...(more)
- she is 16 and uses the alarm and listens to music.
- I'd make her write a fucking mini research paper on the dangers of sexting. She'll find some serious shit
- Yes. And she can't have her phone back until it's done.
- there is a space limit?
- Tween/Teen Please don't troll. My daughter is 14. She and I have been so close all these years. She's doing that thing where she's pushing me away, which of course she should be doing...(more)
- Remember that you are still the biggest influence in her life. Be patient. The pushing should stop.
- I feel for you. From what I understand ( because I have a ds) they come back in college
- o my goodness. years.
- let's be optimistic... maybe you will be different.
- o my goodness. years.
- You need to give her space. By the time my DD turned 16 we started getting close again, some of the time anyway.
- how did you give her space?
- When she slammed the door of her room and wanted to be left alone I let her be. I found few opportune moments to have chats still, usually in the car or at dinner with just the...(more)
- how did you give her space?
- You mean flame, not troll
- Tween/Teen Need advice. Friends want to do things with me one on one but don’t include me in group events - birthday lunches, drinks on a Friday etc. why? What am I doing wrong?
- are they super cliquish together?
- They are
- i have a group like this, im the only one whos kid isnt in theater, and Im the onlyone that works.
- Op: does it bug you? I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but I do
- it does a little bit, for like the 3 min when I see it on social media; but we do all do other things as a group from time to time, so it stings less. If I were always excluded,...(more)
- Op: does it bug you? I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but I do
- i hate feeling left out, but there are times when i just want a small and specific vibe...
- You aren;t doing anything wrong. I've had this happen and it is odd stuff - like a group goes out for a bday and I am hear about it after and I think - wow, I was not invited. I...(more)
- yes but i find that you need to be in the right place at the right time when they are planning these things or you are forgotten. do you ever plan these events?
- nyc or burbs? in nyc, i find it hard to do groups of more than a few, reservation tougher/schedules
- are they super cliquish together?