Tween/Teen

  1. Tween/Teen College and homesickness...(more) 10-13-2018 12:20am (17 replies)
    OK, so I realize there is no specific "college" board here, but has anyone's kid decided to return home and attend a local college after a semester away at college due to homesickness? My kid wants to, but I'd like him to give it more time because I think he will ultimately feel less homesick. He has a strong group of friends and is on a sports team. I worry that if I force him to stay there, it will harm him mentally and emotionally.
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    • It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesnít like the...(more) 10-13-2018 1:00am
      school. This is the longest he goes without home
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      • ^^^i have a Freshman dd playing lax 10-13-2018 1:01am
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    • Homesickness...(more) 10-13-2018 1:54am
      Hey, it is a very natural feeling when you are alone and away from home, but with passing time you will get used to the environment in the college.
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    • I would push hard to finish out the year, hoping it will get better. 10-13-2018 7:12am
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    • absolutely do not let him come home 10-13-2018 7:21am
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    • Is there someone at student life you can consult? Maybe tell him if he does some counseling & still wants to trx youd be more ok with the idea? 10-13-2018 7:22am
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    • Be supportive and tell him to keep trying and you can talk about it for next fal but he needs to give this year a chance. Thereís counselingnservies at schoolnto if he needs...(more) 10-13-2018 7:24am
      support. If he comes home he wonít believe he can ever do it. Itís earlyndaybsonirn is normal to be adjusting still and heís not the only one whose homesick. What has it been a months d a half?
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    • My friendís freshman dd is miserable. Not sure what theyre going to do yet. She calls mom multiple times a day which I think makes it worse for her. Not sure what theyre going to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:28am
      do, if anything
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    • My roomate freshman year cried all the time, and very deliberately wouldnt involve herself in any social life at school. But she had a very strong social life/community support...(more) 10-13-2018 7:31am
      network in that city, outside of school. Anyway, her parents cleared her out at winter break and i heard she went to a small college near her home town.
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    • ok I will get slammed but this is what I did. my kid attend college all the way on the other side of the country. I got on the UCLA web site and found some clubs for him to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:32am
      attend. once he got involved things got better
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      • why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable 10-13-2018 7:33am
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        • Yeah, good idea. I recall that homesickness feeling setting in by October, like once the excitement of the first month was over and the reality of ďoh. Iím on my ownĒ was...(more) 10-13-2018 7:37am
          undeniable
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        • some timers would say I should have made him find clubs or groups to join. but I know my kid I know what he will and won't do 10-13-2018 7:37am
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    • Has your ds been away from home before for camp or anything like that? How did that go? Itís very early and itís normalnto be. Home sick. You need to encourage him to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:37am
      work through this. He will be glad he stucknitnoutnanfngotninvolvrd. Encourage that and he can always transfer next year if he truly feels rhisnsxhool was a mistake. He does need to give it a chance though. You wontndamage him by encouraging him to keep trying.
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    • OP here. Thanks all. He is at a very small community college far enough away from NYC, which was his choice as he hated it here. He's an only kid. I have also encouraged him to...(more) 10-13-2018 12:08pm
      join clubs, and especially to see a counselor to discuss the whole homesick issue. Unfortunately, his dad (we are apart) thinks he SHOULD come home so he can get home cooked meals (MY JOB!), save money on housing, etc. He is thinking from a purely economic standpoint, not what I believe is best for the kid in the long term abt. being independent, maturing, etc. Anyhow, I will continue to encourage that he remain there. Thx again.
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      • Very small community college may be the issue, most kids attending community college live at home so there may not be much community there for kids in the dorms. 10-13-2018 1:28pm
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    • I think there are probably other issues in play. Anxiety, for one. Also, important for him to realize that his "life" as he knew it at home is also not the same because all of...(more) 10-13-2018 1:36pm
      those people (except his parents) have moved on/gone away themselves. He's setting himself up for disappointment.
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  2. Tween/Teen Why are winter coats considered uncool?...(more) 10-8-2018 8:07pm (14 replies)
    Since itís starting to get cold out, Iíve been taking my daughter to school in her winter coat. Sheís been complaining that she doesnít want to wear her coat because itís not cool.
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    • how old is she? 10-8-2018 8:08pm
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    • let her be cold, she will survive 10-8-2018 8:08pm
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    • still early enough to show skin 10-8-2018 8:09pm
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    • Where are you that needs a coat? 10-8-2018 8:09pm
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      • Minnesota 10-8-2018 8:12pm
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        • Ok, you pass. But still itís early October, give it another 3 weeks 10-8-2018 8:12pm
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          • Itís already coat weather now 10-8-2018 8:19pm
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            • During the day is it in the 40s? 10-8-2018 8:23pm
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              • The high of the day is usually in the low 40s 10-8-2018 8:25pm
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                • How much time do they spend outside? 10-8-2018 8:25pm
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                  • Anything over a few minutes is enough to need winter clothes 10-8-2018 8:30pm
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    • what's cool? Get her a version of that - I'm that mom - I know how important it is for tweens/young teens to not stand out in any way / fit in socially - it will change soon by...(more) 10-8-2018 8:12pm
      the time she's a junior
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      • The ďcoolĒ coats are so light and thin I wouldnít even call them coats 10-8-2018 8:20pm
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  3. Tween/Teen Is it fine to wear snow pants when it hasnít snowed...(more) 9-13-2018 12:30am (9 replies)
    Itís starting to get cold
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    • Do you live in the arctic circle? then, yes. 9-13-2018 12:31am
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      • In Canada, not quite the arctic circle 9-13-2018 12:32am
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        • then you know the weather and expected attire in Canada better than we do. It was 83 degrees here today. 9-13-2018 12:35am
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          • I was the only one in snow pants, thatís why I was asking 9-13-2018 12:37am
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            • yeah... being the only one doing something is usually a sign. What was the temp? 9-13-2018 12:38am
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              • Slightly below freezing 9-13-2018 12:39am
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                • Personally I find that a bit warm for snow pants. I have lined pants instead. 9-13-2018 12:41am
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                  • ^^but if you were comfortable, that's all that matters! 9-13-2018 12:42am
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                    • Yeah I was bundled up from head to toe, I canít stand being cold 9-13-2018 12:51am
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  4. Tween/Teen Online Gaming hooked teens...(more) 9-12-2018 12:52am (0 replies)
    My teens are addicted to online gaming, I am hard time dealing with them. My younger one can always be found at https://wyrmspel.com/online-casino/mr-green/ I am just wanting to know other mom's opinions for handling teens at such a sensitive age.
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  5. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 9-2-2018 10:26pm (74 replies)
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    • Take phone away 9-2-2018 10:26pm
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      • she doesn't have a phone, iPad, nothing. was all taken away long ago. 9-2-2018 10:27pm
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        • Grounded 9-2-2018 10:28pm
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        • so of course she's pissed as hell and probably being even more defiant. wouldn't you be? 9-2-2018 10:30pm
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        • Np: can she earn things back by doing what you ask? 9-2-2018 10:30pm
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          • Donít ask. Tell. 9-2-2018 10:30pm
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            • Thatís not working for op! 9-2-2018 10:32pm
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              • Sheís not telling her right. 9-2-2018 10:33pm
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                • How should she tell her? 9-2-2018 10:44pm
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                  • Go and was the dishes. Now. 9-2-2018 10:47pm
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                    • Right and seems like she doesn't ! 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                      • I read OP say that she ASKS her to do stuff. 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                        • I guess she should try this approach 9-2-2018 10:51pm
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    • and how do you handle it, if you are a single parent? 9-2-2018 10:26pm
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    • Anyone take away their teen's phone for being a spoiled brat? 9-2-2018 10:27pm
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    • what's her currency? 9-2-2018 10:28pm
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    • Who are these children and why are you asking. You control most aspects of these childrensí lives. 9-2-2018 10:30pm
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      • Thank you. Finally a sane voice 9-2-2018 10:31pm
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        • I know I have nothing in common culturally or otherwise with the people on here, but the way kids are dealt with puzzles me. 9-2-2018 10:32pm
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          • np i treat my kids with respect. 9-2-2018 10:35pm
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            • Meh. Respect is earned 9-2-2018 10:36pm
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          • Right. Parents walk on eggshells, it's really weird. 9-2-2018 10:36pm
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          • Np so what advice for op do u have ? 9-2-2018 10:43pm
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            • Be a parent and make her do her shit, or there are consequences 9-2-2018 10:45pm
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              • Like what ? She's taken away her phone etc.im seriously asking 9-2-2018 10:45pm
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                • Ground her. 9-2-2018 10:46pm
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                  • A kid like this will walk out. Then what ? 9-2-2018 10:47pm
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                    • Walk out. Iím locking the doors. 9-2-2018 10:47pm
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                      • So when she finally comes home she's locked out. Interesting. 9-2-2018 10:48pm
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                        • I have always told mine that if she walks out I hope she has a plan. 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                          • I can dig it 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                    • Call the police , are you ten? 9-2-2018 10:48pm
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                      • I'm not op. What do you think they will do. She's not a runaway 9-2-2018 10:49pm
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                        • Pick her up and bring her home. Surely you have an idea of where she would go? 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                          • The police do this? Like if you ground Olivia and she goes to the mall they will go and get her ? 9-2-2018 10:51pm
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                            • She's a minor . Or since you know where she is going you go get her 9-2-2018 10:52pm
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                • Phone is the least of your concerns. She has to chip in otherwise she just goes to school and comes home. No extra. 9-2-2018 10:46pm
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                  • No extra what ? 9-2-2018 10:47pm
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                    • ^ im not op btw 9-2-2018 10:48pm
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                    • Omg. No extra anything. Activities, friends, nothing. 9-2-2018 10:48pm
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                      • You saying that to a kid like this won't stop her. I've seen it. 9-2-2018 10:49pm
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                        • OK, then put her out. 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                        • What? You pick her up and bring her home. 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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                          • You cannot physically make a teen getnin your car 9-2-2018 10:52pm
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                            • Really? 9-2-2018 10:52pm
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                              • Well do you want to wrest her into the car? Then yes u can 9-2-2018 10:53pm
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                                • I would, absolutely. What am I going to do, let her do whatever the fuck she wants? Why bother having kids then? 9-2-2018 10:55pm
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                                  • Ok I can appreciate this. It's a specific action ! 9-2-2018 10:56pm
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                                    • Right and below you are calling me trite and nonspecific. Yes I will grab my kids ass in public and put them physically in the car. Jesus Christ what is wrong with you people? 9-2-2018 10:59pm
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                                      • Agreed; or I will make enough of a scene that she would meekly come in lest her friends know what a crazy b*tch her mother is. 9-2-2018 11:00pm
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                            • You can embarrass them when they wonít get in, though. 9-2-2018 10:55pm
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                    • Anything. Look, these kids live lives of privilege. You can have some clean underwear and a couple of tops and we get draconian on you. Go to desperate lengths not to raise an...(more) 9-2-2018 10:49pm
                      entitled ass for a child. They donít get to treat you like this. Sorry.
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                      • I'm not op. Just trying to get more specific advise for her. 9-2-2018 10:52pm
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                        • No you are just being stupid with these questions. You had kids, fucking be a parent. You are not their friend. They need guidance in life and sometimes it's not pretty . 9-2-2018 10:54pm
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                          • Again I'm not op. And again vague nonspecific trite words 9-2-2018 10:55pm
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                            • What is nonspecific? I to,d you what to do. Go back to your self help books moron 9-2-2018 10:57pm
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                              • Nice with the name calling. And so helpful. 9-2-2018 10:57pm
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                                • I have been helpful. What are you suggesting, stand there like an idiot and watch your kid implode bc you want to be their bestie? Good luck with that. 9-2-2018 11:00pm
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                                  • This isn't about being their "bestie." It's about defiance, plain and simple, total lack of respect regardless of how hard you try to instill respect and responsibilities into...(more) 9-2-2018 11:07pm
                                    their life.
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    • I think this generation of kids is dramatically diff. than when we were kids. I don't think most kids listen nowadays, unlike when I was growing up. Whole new set of "rules." 9-2-2018 10:34pm
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      • Nonsense. People raise them this way. Kids are what you let them be. 9-2-2018 10:35pm
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      • said every generation since recorded history began. 9-2-2018 10:36pm
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    • Well, looks like most ppl. here either have perfect kids or are perfect disciplinarians. Is that right? 9-2-2018 10:50pm
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      • See, it always comes to this; no one is saying that we are perfect, just different, but our ways are Ďdisrespectfulí or donít work. IíM NOT THE ONE ON HERE ASKING FOR ADVICE and...(more) 9-2-2018 10:53pm
        Mine isnít perfect - no child is. You guys want to complain, but truth is you created your monsters. Good luck.
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        • You have no clue 9-2-2018 10:54pm
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          • You donít know what the f*k I know. I have a better understanding than most, but you need excuses for your childrensí behavior. They are gifted in defiance too. 9-2-2018 10:56pm
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            • I don't see anyone excusing. I see an op asking for advice and getting "be a parent " which isn't v helpful 9-2-2018 10:57pm
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              • I am not that poster, but I see where she is coming from. Many people on here and in real life become afraid of their children; I posted - donít ask; tell. You canít raise...(more) 9-2-2018 10:59pm
                children who wonít contribute to the general good. There are many ways to do this, including chores and responsibilities early (prior to giving them their hearts desire without thinking of the implications of a kid who has what they want).
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            • Shithead 9-2-2018 10:58pm
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              • So now we know that the apple doesnít fall far from the tree. 9-2-2018 11:00pm
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        • PREACH 9-2-2018 10:56pm
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    • Is anyone here a single parent? Cause that makes a big diff lots of times. 9-2-2018 10:52pm
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  6. Tween/Teen Dropped dc at University today, it feels so normal, like itís nothing. I thought it would hit me on the drive back home but it hasnít. How did you guys feel? 9-1-2018 8:40pm (9 replies)
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    • It's lovely when they come home. It's lovely when they leave again. 9-1-2018 8:41pm
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    • i felt great, sad to say goodbye but thrilled for them, not devastated or anything like that. 9-1-2018 8:41pm
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      • This. I am delighted that they are moving on to the next stage of their lives. I take great joy in it. 9-1-2018 8:52pm
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        • i think that the scourge that is social media has created a new competitive monster - the mother who cannot cope with her child moving away, who is so bereft that she is beside...(more) 9-1-2018 8:54pm
          herself.
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          • Fortunately that scourge has passed me by. I love my dcs more than life, and that is why I am so happy for them. They are back fairly soon anyway. 9-1-2018 8:55pm
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            • tell me about it. not to mention the ease of communication we have now. even before the smartphone, i was texting my daughter directions from the us to paris, she'd text and ask...(more) 9-1-2018 8:55pm
              me to look at a map lol
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    • it might take a few weeks to kick in 9-1-2018 8:46pm
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      • Or it might not at all. 9-1-2018 8:49pm
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    • Itís all about where your own life is at at that moment 9-1-2018 8:51pm
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  7. Tween/Teen Is 11 degrees winter coat weather in Canada?...(more) 8-31-2018 5:35pm (4 replies)
    Itís 11 degrees out today, so when my daughter and I went shopping we wore our winter coats, but it looked like we were the only ones.
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    • no, my winter coat is for below freezing temps, until then i have lighter jackets 8-31-2018 5:36pm
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      • We were actually wearing lighter jackets under our coats lol 8-31-2018 5:39pm
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    • I don't know, it is in Michigan 8-31-2018 5:45pm
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    • It is 11 degrees out today? What? 8-31-2018 5:46pm
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  8. Tween/Teen My social, end of year birthday kid has not been invited to ANY of the bar/bat mitzvahs celebrated by friends/c old and new. It breaks my heart and I can't figure out how to...(more) 8-29-2018 4:51pm (15 replies)
    change this. Many of these kids have attended his birthday parties in the past, but I feel that it's awkward to reach out to their parents, but with all the kids on social media, every week brings another snub...
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    • That is a huge bummer 8-29-2018 4:52pm
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    • why does his birthday have anything to do with it? 8-29-2018 4:53pm
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      • Because his BM comes after most of his contemporaries already had his, so it's not like he gets to invite first and they reciprocate or not. 8-29-2018 4:54pm
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        • have you spoken to the rabbi about him being excluded from all of his classmates' bar mitzvahs? 8-29-2018 5:03pm
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          • Yes - we've discussed it. But it's not just Hebrew School classmates, it's also regular school classmates. 8-29-2018 5:06pm
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    • Is your address in School directory? 8-29-2018 4:53pm
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      • There's no school directory - we know a lot of the families for years. There's no lack of getting mailing info. 8-29-2018 4:54pm
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    • You really have no idea why this might be? It sounds very odd, given your description of your ds. 8-29-2018 4:59pm
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      • I can't figure it out. He's been to BMs of family and family friends and he's a terrific dancer to boot. (While so many other kids sit and stare at their phones) 8-29-2018 5:10pm
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    • My dd didnt either. But her older sister had many. (had nothing to do with her birthday) 8-29-2018 5:03pm
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      • Was she OK with it? Every week we find out about another one he wasn't invited to, often kids he's known since kindergarten and who've been to his parties in the past... 8-29-2018 5:08pm
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        • She doesnt let feelings be known, but I think she would have liked to be invited to one. I dont think she was singled out for exclusion. No friends had them, and nobody at school...(more) 8-29-2018 5:12pm
          invited the whole class.
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          • Sorry to hear that. 8-29-2018 5:17pm
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  9. Tween/Teen Does anyone else have playdate anxiety? I feel so much pressure to provide an amazing time for kids and friends. 8-29-2018 9:17am (6 replies)
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    • absolutely not. i look at play dates as quality one on one unstructured time together to see if the friendship is a match and to alllow them to bond on their level. i am not a...(more) 8-29-2018 9:18am
      party to it
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      • You put too much thought into this to not be a party to it. By your own explanation, you're a very interested observer and evaluator, to say the least. 8-29-2018 9:21am
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        • um what? no. 8-29-2018 9:22am
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          • ^^^ if the kids want to play together again, i know they had fun. hence they like each other and want to be friends. great. if not, not. 8-29-2018 9:22am
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    • Can't do that. Let your child manage his relationship. Your fun party won't make the other kid like your kid more 8-29-2018 9:22am
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      • it just turns the mom into a social engineer, which is prob the opposite of the intention 8-29-2018 9:23am
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  10. Tween/Teen Anyone feel that DH doesn't support you with your teen?...(more) 8-21-2018 3:43pm (4 replies)
    Our teen has weight issues, DH takes him to the gym...and then buys him a bag of junk food. Our teen would spend his life on a screen. I'll put away the PC, then I come home to find that DH has given it to him. I feel like a single parent. How do I get DH to engage, we've had talks about this.
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    • DH is setting you up as the bitch mom. Youíre Betty Draper. 8-21-2018 3:43pm
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    • You need to be on the same page, but also canít expect a kid to never eat junk or use screens. 8-21-2018 3:44pm
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      • Heís building memories too 8-21-2018 3:46pm
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        • OP here: I can see that, but DH is the "fun" parent and he and DS do "fun" things. I, on the other hand, have to be the "mean" parent and make sure that he doesn't...(more) 8-21-2018 3:49pm
          Fritos and spends his day watching YouTube.
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  11. Tween/Teen How often does your teen lie?...(more) 8-21-2018 3:40pm (6 replies)
    It seems to be over the dumbest stuff...going laundry, getting homework done, etc.
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    • Blowing guys, etc. 8-21-2018 3:40pm
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    • probably more than I'm willing to admit - even to myself 8-21-2018 3:40pm
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    • i imagine often. i know i did - it was to create distance from my mom. 8-21-2018 3:41pm
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    • She doesnít as far as I know. 12yo went through a crazy lying phase like age 9-10. 8-21-2018 3:43pm
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    • Nothing like that. No 8-21-2018 3:44pm
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    • i lied a lot as a teen but then i grew up in an abusive alcoholic family and no one outside of the family knew. lying was a way of life for us. it is still my first instinct to...(more) 8-21-2018 3:46pm
      lie even if it's inconsequential.
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  12. Tween/Teen Long winter coats for boys...(more) 8-20-2018 4:05pm (41 replies)
    Iíve been doing some shopping for winter clothes and Iím looking for a new winter coat for my son. I want to get him a long down coat or parka but Iím having trouble finding boyís coats that go below the knee.
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    • they don't want ones that go below the knee--you can't move 8-20-2018 4:05pm
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      • Below the knee? Shit--below the butt your movement is inhibited 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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      • My parka goes below the knee and I can move just fine 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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        • Have you ever seen a boy with a long coat ? 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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          • Yeah I have actually 8-20-2018 4:12pm
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        • how often are you playing on the playground at recess? 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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        • How old is your dc? If he's playing at recess, don't do it. If he's not gay, don't do it. 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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          • will you troglodytes stop with the gay insults? 8-20-2018 4:09pm
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          • This is harsh but very true. If he's an outwardly gay fashionista kid - go for it. Anything else? Don't do it 8-20-2018 4:10pm
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        • How often do you go sledding, etc? 8-20-2018 4:10pm
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    • Donít do it. 8-20-2018 4:06pm
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      • Why not? 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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        • They will be teased. They donít want to wear that kind of coat. 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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          • Why would he be teased for wearing a coat like that? 8-20-2018 4:13pm
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    • I don't know any boy, young or old, that would wear that. Does he want this or you? 8-20-2018 4:06pm
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      • right? they will be shamed if over the age of 5 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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        • i doubt they'd be shamed, it just doesn't seem practical for a kid who's active and plays and runs and slides and stuff like that 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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          • they will be shamed 8-20-2018 4:09pm
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            • you know, kids are much nicer than their moms, in my experience. they're open minded, they are often clueless and just don't care about the nonsense you do. 8-20-2018 4:11pm
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              • Sure, mentalcase 8-20-2018 4:12pm
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              • I am nice. I am nicely telling you not to do this to your kid. Is it sensible to want to keep him warm? Yes. Buying him a long coat is not the answer. Talk to your kid 8-20-2018 4:12pm
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                • I totally agree--he is going to hate it (plus they suffer much less from the cold than we do). Just ask him what coat he wants. But this is a fake to gt us going anyway 8-20-2018 4:15pm
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              • yeah right 8-20-2018 4:12pm
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      • I think he would be fine wearing it 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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        • Don't think - ask. How old is he? 8-20-2018 4:09pm
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    • unless you live in Canada or Siberia, why? 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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      • Because long coats are warmer 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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        • no, they are not. where the fuck is he walking that he needs this 8-20-2018 4:09pm
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          • 2 miles up hill... each way 8-20-2018 4:10pm
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            • DAD? IS THAT YOU? 8-20-2018 4:11pm
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    • Is he gay? 8-20-2018 4:07pm
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      • Not a good comment 8-20-2018 4:10pm
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        • Only a gay boy would consider wearing a long coat 8-20-2018 4:11pm
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    • Gee, I wonder why you can't find that? 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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    • Unless you live in Fargo, don't do this 8-20-2018 4:08pm
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    • This has to be fake! 8-20-2018 4:09pm
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    • I'll bet the Beckham boys wear long down coats 8-20-2018 4:13pm
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      • They live in CA 8-20-2018 4:13pm
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    • lollllll 8-20-2018 4:14pm
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    • Like this?...(more) 8-20-2018 4:15pm
  13. Tween/Teen Gift for DD's friend at sleepaway camp?...(more) 8-12-2018 8:47pm (6 replies)
    DD insists on sending a little gift - no food items of course - but I don't know what to send...journal, markers, game? Any ideas?
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    • Silly string, nail polish 8-12-2018 8:48pm
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      • Good ones! 8-12-2018 8:50pm
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      • Why were two posts deleted on this thread? They seemed rather innocent! 8-12-2018 9:00pm
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  14. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 8-4-2018 9:42pm (7 replies)
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    • There is a decent amount 8-4-2018 9:43pm
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      • np and also brearley mom - what does that mean? 8-4-2018 9:44pm
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        • It means there are a decent amount of drugs. Just like every private school 8-4-2018 9:46pm
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          • but at least they are not doing drugs with the public school kids. Count your blessings. 8-4-2018 9:47pm
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            • Yes, god forbid that combination 8-4-2018 10:03pm
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    • OP) can someone please help?? 8-4-2018 10:10pm
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      • talk to you dc not us. 8-4-2018 10:17pm
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  16. Tween/Teen What are the warmest winter boots....(more) 8-3-2018 3:24pm (28 replies)
    Iím looking for the warmest winter boots for myself and my daughter. We just moved from Florida to Maine so Iím looking for something that can handle snow and extreme cold. I would prefer boots that are knee high and very well insulated.
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    • say what you want but I LOVE my UGGS 8-3-2018 3:24pm
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      • Are UGGS waterproof though? 8-3-2018 3:27pm
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        • they have waterproof styles 8-3-2018 3:29pm
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    • the waterproof uggs. I think the style is called adirondack. and you are shopping a bit early lol 8-3-2018 3:24pm
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      • I know but I donít want to wait until we actually need to be wearing the winter gear to buy it 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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        • I would at least wait until september when all the new styles are out 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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          • this, you are weirdly invested 8-3-2018 3:32pm
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            • I just want to make sure that weíre ready for our first winter 8-3-2018 4:00pm
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          • Wouldnít it be a lot more expensive then? 8-3-2018 3:59pm
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    • Pajar 8-3-2018 3:25pm
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    • go to LL Bean 8-3-2018 3:26pm
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    • we have a house in vermont and Sorel is our go to boot 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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      • Which type of sorel? 8-3-2018 3:28pm
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        • joan of acadia. Also invest in smartwool socks. 8-3-2018 3:49pm
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          • lol i mean joan of artic 8-3-2018 3:51pm
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      • not as warm as uggs 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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    • You want Bogs. Classic High with handles. Tons of styles. 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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      • I love mine. Rated to -30 below and they keep my feet warm and dry in deep snow when it's single digits. 8-3-2018 3:32pm
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        • How much time do you spend outside in single digits? 8-3-2018 3:45pm
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    • knee high seems really hard to walk in 8-3-2018 3:30pm
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    • my le canadienne are warm but never really last more than a season 8-3-2018 3:35pm
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      • Why would you ever buy them again??? 8-3-2018 3:41pm
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      • I have two pairs and they've lasted for four and seven years so far! Very warm and waterproof and not hideous. Well worth the $$$ 8-3-2018 6:16pm
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  17. Tween/Teen Winter gear tips...(more) 8-3-2018 2:28pm (8 replies)
    So long story this summer we moved from Florida to Maine. My daughter is going to be walking to school, roughly a 20 minute walk. We just went shopping for winter gear and I got her clothes that I think sheíll be fine walking to school during the winter in. I got her snow pants that have suspenders and a really thick winter coat that goes down past her knees, hopefully the combo of coat+snow pants will prevent snow from getting in under her clothes. Are there any other things I should take into consideration?
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    • boots, thick socks, warm hat, warm gloves and a scarf! I lived in Montreal and holy shit was it cold there!! 8-3-2018 2:30pm
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      • I havenít bought boots yet or any other accessories, would there be any particular ones you recommend? 8-3-2018 3:09pm
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    • I think thatís fine, long coat, high boots and good gloves. But donít over-buy now. 8-3-2018 2:31pm
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      • Havenít found the right boots yet. Honestly feels like Iím under buying, I only got us coats and snow pants today. 8-3-2018 3:10pm
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    • how old is she? I live in NH and I can tell you, if in high school and walking they won't wear the snowpants 8-3-2018 2:35pm
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      • Sheís 13 and going into 7th grade, why would she not wear snow pants? 8-3-2018 3:12pm
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    • Hat, gloves, wool socks 8-3-2018 2:41pm
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      • Would you recommend gloves rather than mittens? 8-3-2018 3:12pm
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  18. Tween/Teen Snow pants...(more) 8-3-2018 12:44pm (9 replies)
    Iím doing some shopping for winter clothes for my daughter and me, and Iím wondering what kind of snow pants you would recommend. I was looking at the suspender style snow pants because they look like theyíre warmer, but my daughter said that it would take her too much time to get those on and off, especially at school, so she wants the regular kind.
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    • If she plays in the snow, bibs are better. 8-3-2018 12:46pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 12:48pm
        Yeah we just moved to Maine so Iím expecting there will be a lot of snow, even if sheís just walking to school.
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        • It's the sledding that gets you--snow up the back of the coat! 8-3-2018 12:49pm
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          • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 1:03pm
            Can that be avoided by wearing a longer coat?
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            • You don't want to wear a knee-length coat to play in the snow. 8-3-2018 1:07pm
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              • - no subject -...(more) 8-3-2018 1:09pm
                Why not? I was thinking the best combo would be the suspender snow pants and a really long coat.
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    • mine want just the pants, no bibs or suspenders. I like the ones they sell at costco or target every year 8-3-2018 12:46pm
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      • I think they have suspenders that unzip 8-3-2018 12:49pm
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    • see if lands end has sales right now 8-3-2018 12:50pm
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  19. Tween/Teen How to make move easier on daughter...(more) 7-26-2018 9:35am (7 replies)
    A few weeks ago we moved across the country, and my daughter is really unhappy. Sheís afraid of starting a new school in the fall. Also I think the change in scenery is affecting her too, we went from urban Miami to suburban Maine.
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    • Any day camps she can go to? 7-26-2018 9:36am
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      • this - meet some kids before school starts 7-26-2018 9:36am
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    • Can you do things to help her get familiar with the area? Maybe meet some kids her age? 7-26-2018 9:36am
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    • how old is she 7-26-2018 9:38am
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    • Weird, suburban Maine in the summer seems much nicer than urban Miami in the summer 7-26-2018 9:48am
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    • Where in Maine? I may have some ideas. 7-26-2018 9:59am
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    • - no subject -...(more) 7-26-2018 12:35pm
      Sheís 13. Going into the 7th grade this fall
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  20. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 7-23-2018 5:38pm (15 replies)
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    • Isn't it late to be thinking about this? 7-23-2018 5:38pm
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      • This post has been deleted. 7-23-2018 5:40pm
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        • Leaving aside whether it's a good idea, it's probably not a feasible idea. 7-23-2018 5:41pm
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        • Thatís 2 transitions in 2 years 7-23-2018 5:47pm
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    • Maybe get her some professional help in managing her anxiety? My DD has anxiety, and she's taken it with her wherever she goes...changing schools isn't likely to solve the problem...(more) 7-23-2018 5:39pm
      (completely, anyway).
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      • Exactly -- and St. Ann's is not a natural fit in this situation. 7-23-2018 5:40pm
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        • what does her therapist say? 7-23-2018 5:41pm
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    • Unless her grades/scores are amazing, St. Ann's is a very tough admit. 7-23-2018 5:39pm
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        • Obivously, there's not a rhyme or reason to these things. They have very few spots for 10th grade. It's worth a shot, but it isn't a plan to manage her anxiety. 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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        • np-look at what you wrote and wonder again why she has grade anxiety... 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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          • dislike all you want, but the attitude is not helping. 7-23-2018 5:46pm
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        • it will depend on how many spots are available and the competition...switiching comes with it's own problems, you know: social stress, for example 7-23-2018 5:43pm
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    • If you really want a lower-key setting for her, you are going to have to look at schools that are off the YB-approved list. 7-23-2018 5:47pm
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  21. Tween/Teen The RNC convention is being held this year in Saint Petersburg 7-19-2018 11:07am (11 replies)
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    • Devin Nunnes and his comrades will be attending 7-19-2018 11:09am
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    • Russia or Florida 7-19-2018 11:09am
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      • Russia of course 7-19-2018 11:10am
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      • I thought Charlotte got it 7-19-2018 11:14am
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    • FLA or Russia? 7-19-2018 11:10am
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    • COOL! I want to go! TRUMP!!!!!!! 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Of course Wayne LaPierre will be there, he speaks fluent Russian 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Trump, Putin and Kim Jong-un are planning world domination. 7-19-2018 11:11am
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    • Aeroflot has a special discount for NRA members 7-19-2018 11:12am
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    • I heard Charlotte. 7-19-2018 11:16am
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      • No, Trump made a verbal agreement with Putin 7-19-2018 11:19am
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  22. Tween/Teen Divorced with BF of a few years. I know he wants to live together when I am an empty nester which is soon. I am not sure, thoughts? 6-30-2018 6:57pm (15 replies)
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    • Iíd live with him 6-30-2018 6:59pm
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    • Is he a good man? 6-30-2018 6:59pm
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    • Can he pay half the bills ? 6-30-2018 7:00pm
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      • yes, though I do own my place (mortgage) and he rents now 6-30-2018 7:00pm
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        • So he will pay you rent - good for you 6-30-2018 7:01pm
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          • not exactly sure how it would be structured but yes, he would definitely contribute 6-30-2018 7:03pm
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            • He writes you a check for half monthly expenses - utilities taxes etc 6-30-2018 7:04pm
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              • yes probably something like that, he is responsible/reasonable with money so I am not too worried about that 6-30-2018 7:07pm
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    • Meh, Iíd want my space. 6-30-2018 7:01pm
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      • I am pretty independent so this is one of the things I worry about 6-30-2018 7:02pm
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        • Because once he moves in, itís like going through a divorce to get him out. 6-30-2018 7:05pm
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          • np. interesting point 6-30-2018 7:09pm
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          • Actually itís not - your house you tell him to leave 6-30-2018 7:10pm
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            • i think this partially depends on the state and how long he has been living there, whether there is a formal lease, etc. 6-30-2018 7:11pm
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  23. Tween/Teen Teens and cell phone indecency: What can a parent do?...(more) 6-23-2018 2:27pm (28 replies)
    This is vey sensitive. I am leaving out a few details to make my post fit in the space provided. Last night I heard a noise. Checked it out & caught my teen daughter undressed in bed with her cell phone in her outstretched arm. She immediately covered up & hid the phone. I was mortified & so angry all my brain could muster was put the phone on the floor & go to bed. She did & went to bed. Her mother & I had a brief conversation about it in the am but couldn't do anything because she is at a school function till 2. Thing is, I can't say 100% that she was taking a video or pictures or talking to someone unless there is evidence on the phone & I will scour that when she gets home. Regardless, I have to do something. evidence says I have to. I could use some direction with this. I am just really at a loss. What do I do if I find evidence & what do I do if I don't. I feel seeing what I saw is some really compelling evidence that something is
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    • there is a space limit? 6-23-2018 2:28pm
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      • space limit...(more) 6-23-2018 2:30pm
        it limited me to 1000 characters
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        • never noticed 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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    • are you guy? 6-23-2018 2:29pm
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      • yes 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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        • This post has been disliked 3 times. showhave your wife post then, creepy asshole 6-23-2018 2:30pm
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          • np- op, ignore the troll. you are fine. 6-23-2018 2:32pm
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    • Okay. a few questions? How old is she? And what are your concerns? 6-23-2018 2:29pm
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      • answer...(more) 6-23-2018 2:34pm
        She is 16 and my concerns are that possible pictures of my daughter will circulate and cause her emotional harm. It has happened in our town before. Can she get in trouble for circulating child pornography? What short and long term impact will this have on her life? Do we ever let her have a video device again etc ectc
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        • Dide you canít figure this out? You are the parent. Sounds like sheís I. Control here. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • you need to talk to her, she's 16, she needs to understand the risks, especially if you have a real-life example to share with her 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • I don't know what state you are in, but I don't think 16 would be considered a child. That said: sexting is a serious consideration. Ideally you should have taken her phone righta...(more) 6-23-2018 2:36pm
          way. I would suggesting sitting down with her and talking. You need to let her know that having her phone is a privilege and talk about the consequences of her choices. I would absolutely check her phone.
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    • how old? I would not "scour her phone", I would have a conversation along the lines of - how would you feel if this photo/video was made available to all your friends? 6-23-2018 2:31pm
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      • I seriously doubt that by the time op gets the phone that there will be anything incriminating on it. If she is smart she will have wiped it clean by then. 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • OP is either an idiot or fake 6-23-2018 2:36pm
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        • np: the goal isn't to catch her but to create an expectation that her phone is not private. 6-23-2018 2:37pm
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    • Turn phones in at night from now on plus convo as per above 6-23-2018 2:32pm
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    • You didn't take the phone and look? 6-23-2018 2:33pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 6-23-2018 2:37pm
        at that time I didn't even think about it my brain was a fog I just said very sternly like parents can say put it on the floor and go to bed she looked like a deer in headlights draped the phone and I didn't hear a sound from her the rest of the night. Too late to do what if.
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        • or: Have her mom talk to her and sending pics or videos. The phone is unavailable to her after 8pm for the near future 6-23-2018 2:38pm
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      • np: I don't think it's a good idea for him to potentially see a pic of his 16yo naked. I would have the mother look, if he must. It would be considerably more awkward for both,...(more) 6-23-2018 2:45pm
        dad and daughter, if he were to find something like that
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    • Why was she allowed to keep the phone? 6-23-2018 2:34pm
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      • she is 16 and uses the alarm and listens to music. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • Jesus. You people. Sheís been doing this a long time Iím sure. Damage is done. 6-23-2018 2:35pm
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        • buy her an alarm clock and a radio. Have a frank discussion with her about how reputations can be ruined by this behavior. It's an embarassing conversation but she needs to be...(more) 6-23-2018 2:37pm
          mortified and scared stiff about how these pictures NEVER remain anonymous.
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    • I'd make her write a fucking mini research paper on the dangers of sexting. She'll find some serious shit 6-23-2018 3:08pm
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      • Yes. And she can't have her phone back until it's done. 6-23-2018 3:10pm
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  24. Tween/Teen Please don't troll. My daughter is 14. She and I have been so close all these years. She's doing that thing where she's pushing me away, which of course she should be doing...(more) 6-22-2018 6:11pm (8 replies)
    developmentally. And I understand it all in my head. But so sad and so missing my girl and our closeness.
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    • Remember that you are still the biggest influence in her life. Be patient. The pushing should stop. 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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    • I feel for you. From what I understand ( because I have a ds) they come back in college 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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      • o my goodness. years. 6-22-2018 6:13pm
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        • let's be optimistic... maybe you will be different. 6-22-2018 6:15pm
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    • You need to give her space. By the time my DD turned 16 we started getting close again, some of the time anyway. 6-22-2018 6:14pm
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      • how did you give her space? 6-22-2018 6:15pm
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        • When she slammed the door of her room and wanted to be left alone I let her be. I found few opportune moments to have chats still, usually in the car or at dinner with just the...(more) 6-22-2018 6:22pm
          two of us.
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    • You mean flame, not troll 6-22-2018 6:19pm
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  25. Tween/Teen Need advice. Friends want to do things with me one on one but donít include me in group events - birthday lunches, drinks on a Friday etc. why? What am I doing wrong? 6-21-2018 2:28pm (9 replies)
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    • are they super cliquish together? 6-21-2018 2:30pm
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    • i have a group like this, im the only one whos kid isnt in theater, and Im the onlyone that works. 6-21-2018 2:30pm
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      • Op: does it bug you? I know I shouldnít let it bother me but I do 6-21-2018 2:33pm
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        • it does a little bit, for like the 3 min when I see it on social media; but we do all do other things as a group from time to time, so it stings less. If I were always excluded,...(more) 6-21-2018 2:43pm
          Id wonder why
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    • i hate feeling left out, but there are times when i just want a small and specific vibe... 6-21-2018 2:34pm
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    • You aren;t doing anything wrong. I've had this happen and it is odd stuff - like a group goes out for a bday and I am hear about it after and I think - wow, I was not invited. I...(more) 6-21-2018 2:35pm
      have learned to get over it
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      • yes but i find that you need to be in the right place at the right time when they are planning these things or you are forgotten. do you ever plan these events? 6-21-2018 2:48pm
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    • nyc or burbs? in nyc, i find it hard to do groups of more than a few, reservation tougher/schedules 6-21-2018 2:42pm
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