Tween/Teen

  1. Tween/Teen Why are high schoolers so lightly dressed?...(more) 1-12-2019 1:09am (22 replies)
    My daughter is a freshman in high school, and when she walks to school she wears insulated winter boots, snow pants, a down jacket, and a knee length down parka (with the hood up). A lot of other students at her school barely wear anything at all, I even see some without coats!
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    • you want everyone to say, oh those sluts are like all sluts, just wearing as little as possible 1-12-2019 1:23am
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      • It’s not slurry clothing, just clothing that doesn’t seem weather appropriate 1-12-2019 1:24am
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        • I have been freezing at high school in my uniform pieces, and later hot in an office in anything but sleeveless. I have to leave the house without layers to cool down enough. Some...(more) 1-12-2019 1:26am
          people feel the cold; some people run HOT.
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          • My point is that students aren’t dressed warm when they’re outside in the freezing cold 1-12-2019 1:29am
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            • my other point is that some people don't really feel cold until they are adults 1-12-2019 1:32am
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              • Whether you feel the cold or not, it’s dangerous for your health 1-12-2019 1:38am
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                • lol, no it isn't. otherwise millions of middle school and HS kids would be dead. 1-12-2019 8:13am
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                  • They do get sick though 1-12-2019 9:55am
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    • My son is in middle school and it’s the same story for me 1-12-2019 1:23am
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    • Bizarre that she dresses like that. Is she anemic? 1-12-2019 6:04am
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      • Why is that bizarre? 1-12-2019 7:46am
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        • overkill. especially for a HS kid. 1-12-2019 8:13am
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          • I do not think it’s overkill, it keeps her warm 1-12-2019 9:56am
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    • My ds refuses to wear a winter coat. 1-12-2019 7:28am
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      • I hope it’s not cold then! 1-12-2019 7:47am
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    • snowpants for a wlak to school? that is strange. 1-12-2019 8:12am
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      • It’s very cold, the snow pants keep her legs warm 1-12-2019 9:57am
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    • Does she take that stuff off at school? I took dd to a ha interview last year and one girl kept her large down parka on for the interview. I think she felt insulated and safe...(more) 1-12-2019 8:16am
      but it came across as odd.
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      • Yeah she does. And that is strange, what kind of interview was it? 1-12-2019 9:58am
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    • Young warm blood 1-12-2019 9:57am
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      • That blood won’t keep them from getting sick 1-12-2019 9:58am
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    • where do you live? are you the mom who posts all the time about snow pants? 1-12-2019 10:57am
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  2. Tween/Teen Posted about this before. Tween got dumped by her BFF for the popular girl. She's no in a clique of girls who want nothing to do with my DD. It's a very, very small school, so...(more) 1-9-2019 9:34am (9 replies)
    she has few choices. However, she keeps reaching out to the BFF and clique, trying to generate interest, friendship, etc, only to be 'dissed again and again. Like, she recently asked the former BFF if she join her and the other girls for an event and the BFF texted: "Don't know." Told her to stop reach out, get off social media, etc.... Painful to watch. Suggestions?
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    • that sounds awful 1-9-2019 9:35am
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    • She needs to move on. It sucks. I'm sorry 1-9-2019 9:35am
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    • bigger school 1-9-2019 9:35am
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    • Step back. Encourage outside of school friendships. I know how hard it is. 1-9-2019 9:36am
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    • How old? Will she switch schools soon? 1-9-2019 9:37am
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    • tell her she doesn't want to be friends with assholes anyway. hopefully she's getting colse to going to a bigger school. 1-9-2019 9:37am
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    • She'll change schools next year. The school is very, very small, so she doesn't have options for other friends. I've tried everything -- encouraged outside interests, forced a...(more) 1-9-2019 9:43am
      no social media rule, told her she doesn't want to be with people who aren't kind, etc. She is drawn to them like a moth to light and it's painful. I can't seem to throw my hands up and say, "That's her journey and I did all I can do?"
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    • Oh that stinks. Has she read Wonder? The girl in there goes through similar shit and it could be...(more) 1-9-2019 9:48am
      helpful. And can she get involved in things outside of school--make friends elsewhere? And, family time! Remind her that family is the most important bond to have. Do super fun stuff, take her on a trip, etc. Any quiet or more independent people in school she could invite to hang out? Even adults deal with this shit... I did just a few years ago and am in a much better place now. GL
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  3. Tween/Teen DD brought a dress (gift card) not really appropriate for the school dance. It's way too formal. Tried saying something, but she's digging in her heels. Let and go and let her...(more) 1-9-2019 8:17am (14 replies)
    Let it go? Or put my mommy foot down?
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    • It’s fine 1-9-2019 8:18am
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    • Let it go unless its inappropriate because it's too revealing 1-9-2019 8:19am
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    • Better over dressed than under dressed. If she wants to wear it, what’s the problem? 1-9-2019 8:19am
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    • What’s your problem? 1-9-2019 8:19am
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    • Mean mom. 1-9-2019 8:20am
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    • Why would you bother putting your mommy foot down? What’s this really about? 1-9-2019 8:22am
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    • I assume you were trying to save her from embarrassment. I would not do that with authority, but perhaps you can lay some breadcrumbs for her to follow and arrive at the conclusion herself that it is...(more) 1-9-2019 8:25am
      I assume you were trying to save her from embarrassment. I would not do that with authority, but perhaps you can lay some breadcrumbs for her to follow and arrive at the conclusion herself that it is too formal. Why don’t you suggest she poll five of her closest friends and see if they think it is in line with the dance?
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    • Nah when she comes home embarrassed you can just say I told ya so! 1-9-2019 8:27am
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      • wow, that's a great way to think. 1-9-2019 8:27am
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    • Who did she go shopping with? 1-9-2019 8:27am
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    • Let it go - I'd only step in if it was inappropriate (ie, slutty looking) 1-9-2019 8:27am
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    • Send her with a cardigan so she can dress it down. 1-9-2019 8:29am
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    • OP: DD is adhd so doesn't have great social skills, which is why I worry. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't care. 1-9-2019 8:43am
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      • let her be her own person. 1-9-2019 8:44am
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  4. Tween/Teen Where to find snow suits large enough for teens?...(more) 1-6-2019 5:07pm (7 replies)
    I have two kids who are both in their teen years and have grown out of their snow suits, I’ve neen having trouble finding larger ones that will fit.
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    • how about just snow pants 1-6-2019 5:07pm
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      • and a ski jacket. 1-6-2019 5:08pm
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        • I don’t like ski jackets, they’re too short 1-6-2019 5:10pm
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      • Great idea thanks! 1-6-2019 5:09pm
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    • snow suits? lol 1-6-2019 5:12pm
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      • What’s funny about that 1-6-2019 5:25pm
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        • When I think of snowsuits I think of babies and toddlers. Funny thinking of a teen in a snowsuit. You mean snow pants? 1-6-2019 5:30pm
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  5. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 1-6-2019 10:01am (12 replies)
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    • I don’t allow it. That’s all. 1-6-2019 10:02am
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      • ^^havr a 10 and 13yo. Neither have it. 1-6-2019 10:02am
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        • how do you control it? do you have a parental control app or something? 1-6-2019 10:03am
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          • No. iPads and phones are kept in a common area of the house. Kids have to ask permission (through parental controls) to download apps. 1-6-2019 10:05am
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            • ^^and they know we can check their phones and iPads whenever we choose. (We don’t really. But we can) 1-6-2019 10:06am
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            • at what age will you loosen up? do you have a plan? 1-6-2019 10:06am
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              • I’m thinking high school. As I said below my oldest hasn’t really shown interest. So until he does- I won’t bring it up. If he never does then fine. Younger one asks about it all...(more) 1-6-2019 10:09am
                the time. She definitely won’t be getting it until at least 14.
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                • ok. i would be careful about being too restrictive. you might inadvertently create a monster. 1-6-2019 10:13am
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                  • Ok. Thanks for your input. I can raise my own kids. 1-6-2019 10:17am
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                    • i am not trying to raise them. i am just saying making something a forbidden fruit can have a downside. 1-6-2019 10:20am
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        • Really? 1-6-2019 10:04am
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          • Yes really. They are too young, IMO. Maybe next year for my oldest. But he’s. It really interested. So until he shows interest I won’t Bring it up 1-6-2019 10:07am
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  6. Tween/Teen Is there a way I could get the school to give my daughter a bigger locker?...(more) 12-26-2018 10:30pm (16 replies)
    My daughter has been complaining that her locker at school is too small to fit her winter gear into. I saw her locker on parent teacher night and it is small, too small to fit her winter boots, coats, and snow pants. Do you think if I contacted the principal she would be able to help?
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    • hahahahahahhahahahahaah 12-26-2018 10:31pm
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    • How do other students manage? 12-26-2018 10:32pm
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      • yeah...maybe don't have any locker accessories in there. 12-26-2018 10:33pm
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      • They mostly get driven to school, so they don’t wear as much winter gear 12-26-2018 10:37pm
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    • how old is your dc? 12-26-2018 10:32pm
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    • Boots can sit outside the locker right in front 12-26-2018 10:35pm
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      • if in elementary school, they normally do this. They make them all sit on a floor mat 12-26-2018 10:36pm
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        • She’s in middle school, but I’ll ask her to f she can do that 12-26-2018 10:38pm
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          • boots go in the bottom of the locker. coat gets scrunched in there. I'm not sure why this is an issue. 12-26-2018 10:40pm
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          • Do kids in middle school still get time to play at recess? My middle schooler who is in sixth grade has half an hour for lunch and recess so he never even goes out. Plus half...(more) 12-26-2018 10:45pm
            the kids I see going in don’t have jackets let alone snow gear
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            • Most kids are undressed for the weather, but I make sure my daughter is properly bundled up 12-26-2018 10:53pm
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    • Does she walk a far distance to school? 12-26-2018 10:41pm
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      • It’s a 30 minute walk 12-26-2018 10:45pm
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    • Omg it’s not snowing yet wtf ? 12-26-2018 11:32pm
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    • no 12 yo wears snow pants to school. 12-27-2018 7:28am
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  7. Tween/Teen How many ED apps do the typical top students submit these days? 12-17-2018 9:43pm (10 replies)
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    • what? 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • they can only do one. it's ED 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • One 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • one. 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • 1 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • fuck you 12-17-2018 9:44pm
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    • one 12-17-2018 9:45pm
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    • How many eyes does the one-eyed man have? 12-17-2018 9:45pm
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    • early decision is a commitment to one school. early action gives you early knowledge but not a commitment. if you dont get into your ed some schools allow for an ed2, a second...(more) 12-17-2018 9:45pm
      crack
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    • One, plus maybe a couple early action 12-17-2018 9:46pm
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  8. Tween/Teen Feel my dd is being bullied, but in a very underhanded way, at her very small private school. The girl doing the bullying her her former BFF that dumped her for the popular girl....(more) 12-12-2018 3:01pm (15 replies)
    The bully does all these covert things like call my daughter an "imbecile" and then follows it up with "joking!" DD shows up at class and former friend/bully had her seat moved to be with the popular girl. Daughter finds a piece of candy in her coat, girls says, "Give it to me" and when dd says, "no" barks back "bitch." I could go on and on and on. Anything my DD does former BFF jumps on and turns into an issue. DD is very upset. At what point do I report this -hit? When the mom of the girl being bullied last year reported it, it only made it worse.
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    • thats not underhanded 12-12-2018 3:03pm
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    • Doesn't sound underhanded. What a mean girl. In a perfect world you could talk to the girl's mother. That rarely works though.. 12-12-2018 3:04pm
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      • Mother is a lovely person but in denial abut her little darling. 12-12-2018 3:14pm
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    • nastiness is not the same as bulying 12-12-2018 3:04pm
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    • So calling a teen girl and imbecile and bitch is not bullying? 12-12-2018 3:06pm
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    • Change schools 12-12-2018 3:08pm
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    • Go to teacher first. 12-12-2018 3:09pm
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    • Can she switch classes? 12-12-2018 3:09pm
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      • School is super, super small. Can't change. Also, it's a private school, so I can't change. 12-12-2018 3:14pm
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        • Public school? My kids have plenty of friend options if there is B in the group. 12-12-2018 3:16pm
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          • Small, small school for kids with learning issues, so really can't change. irony is when my daughter was in a big public school she didn't have these issues. Now in an expensive...(more) 12-12-2018 3:17pm
            private school all kinds of problems.
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            • I'm really sorry she is going through this. I've let my dd's vent away at home. Home is a safe zone to refer to the mean girls for what they are. My kids are allowed ot use any...(more) 12-12-2018 3:20pm
              language they want to describe them.
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              • I kinda do the same. Did you ever report the kid? 12-12-2018 3:21pm
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  9. Tween/Teen This post has been disliked 3 times. showMy dd turned 9 in Nov, she is in 3rd grade. Her haShe started precocious puberty when she was 7 3/4 (breast budding). I am considering giving her Lupron shots to delay puberty....(more) 12-11-2018 8:39pm (56 replies)
    Not for the reason to gain height. Her hand bone age shows she is advanced at 10.5. Does anyone have experience with Lupron shots in children? Endocrinologists say it is safe. I have read adverse effects in the long term.
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    • I wouldn't. 12-11-2018 8:41pm
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      • Why not? 12-11-2018 8:41pm
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        • I would worry about cancer and what not and also just want her to feel ok with her body as is. She is 9 now. Not so far off 12-11-2018 8:42pm
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    • wait sorry, I don't understand. she does or doesn't need to gain height? 12-11-2018 8:42pm
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      • op - gaining height would be nice. but that isn't the real reason i'm doing it. i don't want her to get her period in 4th grade. she is only 4'5 now. potential to be 5'1. but ...(more) 12-11-2018 9:15pm
        be 4'11. i'm 5'2.
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    • my dd had similar, and we didn't. it was a close call with he height. I am tiny and she is too but we're ok with that. 12-11-2018 8:43pm
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      • ^^^ normal tiny 12-11-2018 8:43pm
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      • Np- what age did she get her period? 12-11-2018 8:45pm
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        • right before she turned 11 12-11-2018 8:45pm
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          • My DD is on track for getting hers before 11 too. Probably by 10.5. How much taller did your DD get after? 12-11-2018 8:47pm
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            • ^thanks 12-11-2018 8:47pm
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            • a couple of inches. She's 13 now and 4'11" and 1/2 (same as me!) 12-11-2018 8:48pm
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              • Oh so that was probably going to be her height or close to it no matter what, I would imagine. 12-11-2018 8:49pm
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                • true! how tall is your dd now? 12-11-2018 8:50pm
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                  • She is 4’10 but I’m 5’4” and my DH is 6’ so I feel like she is not going to reach potential 12-11-2018 8:51pm
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                    • maybe not but she for sure will reach a normal height, since she is basically there already. I wouldn't do the Lupron. what does the dr. say? 12-11-2018 8:52pm
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                      • She says she wouldn’t either 12-11-2018 8:52pm
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                        • well there you go. 12-11-2018 8:53pm
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          • what grade was that? how was it social/emotionally for her to handle? 12-11-2018 9:21pm
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    • They're fine if only used for a year or so. We're looking into it for our trans son. 12-11-2018 8:48pm
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      • How all is she now? 12-11-2018 8:51pm
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          • May I ask what makes the endo way it’s six months away? 12-11-2018 8:56pm
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            • ^say, not way 12-11-2018 8:56pm
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              • I see. Thank you 12-11-2018 8:58pm
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      • np: what is the implant? 12-11-2018 8:53pm
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      • what age did she start breast budding. is supreline same side effects at lupron? suprelin is nice b/c you don't need monthly shots to cause anxiety,...(more) 12-11-2018 9:24pm
        but if u want to stop sooner than u thought, she'll need to go under anethesia again.
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    • My dd is in the same position and we decided against lupron. Other than emotional benefits, the potential unknown risks really outweighed the good. But she is mature and...(more) 12-11-2018 8:56pm
      understands what a period is, she is ok with getting it whenever it happens. My ends said it is safe however she admitted long term research really hasn’t been done that comprehensively.
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      • ^^also I know every case is different but our ends said it wouldn’t increase her height much if any at all 12-11-2018 8:57pm
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      • How old is she and how tall? 12-11-2018 8:57pm
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        • Just turned 9 and around 4’10”. Dh and I are extremely tall and ends thinks she will be average height. 12-11-2018 8:58pm
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          • So the endo thinks that whether you delay or not her height will be the same? 12-11-2018 8:59pm
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            • Yes that is what she said 12-11-2018 9:00pm
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              • That’s interesting to hear 12-11-2018 9:01pm
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        • Aww that is awful, I’m sorry your dd is going through that. I really hate the idea of my dd having such a young period but they make the special underwear now and i bought some...(more) 12-11-2018 9:02pm
          for her, I think that goes a long way towards reducing anxiety about getting your first period at school or leaking through pants when you have it. I am very scientifically minded yet I was really scared by the anecdotes I read even if they aren’t proven.
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          • Np- can you link or tell the brand? 12-11-2018 9:03pm
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            • There are a couple, one is knixteen, thinx, there are even period swimsuits! 12-11-2018 9:04pm
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              • Thank you!! 12-11-2018 9:05pm
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            • I would push your endo because mine said lupron is not proven to increase height much at all even when period is delayed 12-11-2018 9:05pm
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    • i wouldn't do it. i was in your dd's shoes growing up. i had my period at age 9 and was 5'6" in 4th grade. i was taller than many of my teachers and painfully thin. i was...(more) 12-11-2018 9:00pm
      teased a lot and that was the worst part, but from a health standpoint, i would not have wanted to give my kids this medication. i'm 48 now and still 5'6". i'm fine.
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      • You were already tall though. It’s a different calculus when you are concerned your child may not reach five feet. 12-11-2018 9:02pm
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        • This- and you’ve also scared me because you’re saying you didn’t grow at all after your period. 12-11-2018 9:04pm
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        • ah, i had it backwards - i thought op was worried about too tall. honestly, the dd is almost there already to be normal height. 12-11-2018 9:04pm
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          • op - gaining height would be nice. but that isn't the real reason i'm doing it. i don't want her to get her period in 4th grade. she is only 4'5 now. potential to be 5'1. but...(more) 12-11-2018 9:16pm
            ...(more) * be 4'11. i'm 5'2. endos all say lupron is safe. they prefer over implant b/c better for monthly monitoring.
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      • how was it having your period in 3rd/4th grade? 12-11-2018 9:19pm
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    • has anyone heard that otc 1mg melatonin Lowers estrogen more naturally? 12-11-2018 9:22pm
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  10. Tween/Teen Daughter got dumped by BFF for the popular girl. Former BFF, popular girl and another are all over social media about their girl power, fun times. I tell my daughter to stay off...(more) 12-7-2018 12:04pm (51 replies)
    social media. She is crushed and was crying, not wanting to go to school. It's painful to watch. Any advice on someone who has been through this?
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    • tale as old as time... 12-7-2018 12:05pm
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      • except now SM compounds/publicizes it 12-7-2018 12:12pm
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    • No.social media. My kids do not have issues so I'm lax but it's not for every kid. Sorry about your DD 12-7-2018 12:06pm
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      • Thanks. I compare her watching social media to like watching your former cheating husband date your sister or neighbors. 12-7-2018 12:08pm
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        • Yes. And I realize this post might have been smug...my kids are very not popular put of loop that's why no issues and dont care. 12-7-2018 12:13pm
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          • Believe me. My daughter has never been the popular one. She's struggled making friends, which is why this perhaps stings so. 12-7-2018 12:16pm
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    • ugh, poor dd. it happens to everyone-but now w/social media it's all out there. blech. it just takes time. focus on building other friendships. 12-7-2018 12:06pm
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    • How old is she? 12-7-2018 12:07pm
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      • OR When kids were mean to me when I was a kid, I felt better just listening to my dad trash them. He never swore normally and was generally a kind person, but when someone was...(more) 12-7-2018 12:09pm
        mean to me, he'd refer to them as a "little shit" and that was slightly shocking and thrilling. But honestly other than that, there's not much a parent can do. She's got to just suffer through it and come out the other side stronger.
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        • I like your dad. Go dad. I'm kinda in his camp. :)) 12-7-2018 12:11pm
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          • He ALWAYS took my side when it came to social stuff. I'm sure I did some things wrong and deserved a stern talking-to, but when it came to drama, it was never my fault and the...(more) 12-7-2018 12:12pm
            other kids were jerks. It's nice to have someone in your life who is behind you 100%.
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            • I'm really diggin' your dad now. 12-7-2018 12:15pm
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            • that's so much better than my mom-she was always "turn the other cheek" which just really made me feel like a victim. i'm def more like your dad-when it's something egregious ...(more) 12-7-2018 12:15pm
              call it out
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              • My mom said the same - hit to me and it gave me the victim mentality and I ended up with some horrible boyfriends/bosses 12-7-2018 12:21pm
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        • omg this is what we kind of do too. we do a little trash talking. although i let dd trash talk because i don't want to be quoted. 12-7-2018 12:11pm
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          • LOL yes, me too. DH made the mistake of telling DD that her frenemie was "insecure" and DD took that to school and said it to her face. :-/ 12-7-2018 12:14pm
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            • "my dad says you're insecure"? that seems like asking for a beat-down. 12-7-2018 12:15pm
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            • exactly! i'm always thinking "little shit" and have to bite my tongue. 12-7-2018 12:19pm
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              • OP: First time I met the popular/mean girl I had her number and was thinking that. 12-7-2018 12:23pm
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    • BTDT. Does she have other close friends? I found it best to keep dd busy and focused on new friendships. I also allowed her to bad mouth the old friend to me. I let her vent...(more) 12-7-2018 12:07pm
      away..
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      • She's struggled with friendships. So, was thrilled when she and this girl connected. It seemed like a good, healthy bond. She's spooked by he incident and worries what will...(more) 12-7-2018 12:12pm
        happen in HS now. (She's in 8th grade this year.)
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        • She'll find her people in HS. Most do. 12-7-2018 12:15pm
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        • Hang on tight. There is a lot of shifting heading into HS. The already cool crowd solidifies and pulls in some new members....(more) 12-7-2018 12:18pm
          It will be ok. There are great kids out there looking for friendships just like your dd. 1) She is not the only one and should not feel alone. I told my dd to lift her head and look around class to start connecting to people 2) Get involved with something that will introduce her to new people youth group, running, theater etc. 3) keep her as busy as possible and possibly restrict social media to an ipad or something she doesn't have with her all the time. I think phones are great for keeping in touch with friends and horrible for social media.
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          • This is great advice. NP 12-7-2018 12:20pm
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          • Great advice, indeed. 12-7-2018 12:23pm
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        • I really wish she could talk to my 9th grade dd. Hearing from older teens is really helpful. 12-7-2018 12:20pm
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          • I too. What would your 9th grader say?????? 12-7-2018 12:22pm
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            • She would recognize the shittiness of 8th grade and that things truly do get better in HS. The popular crowd is less relevant and she will find her tribe. I know I'll get flamed...(more) 12-7-2018 12:29pm
              but I worked on making sure my dd felt confident with hair cut, nails, clothes. Not necessarily buying her a lot, just paying attention.
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          • Hearing it from another teenager is better than from an "old" adult. 12-7-2018 12:30pm
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    • if your dd was friends with the same popular girl would you be okay ? 12-7-2018 12:08pm
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      • Popular girl is a classic insecure media girl. Her BFF didn't come back to school this year, so for day one she moved in on my daughter's BFF. I knew it was going to happen. I...(more) 12-7-2018 12:09pm
        And could see it going down.
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    • It wouldn’t sting so badly if she wasn’t on social media. Be the parent and disconnect her. 12-7-2018 12:09pm
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      • Agreed. How old is she? 12-7-2018 12:10pm
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      • I am. Believe me I am. It's rubbing the friendship in your face and beyond painful. 12-7-2018 12:10pm
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        • I actually feel like parents need to talk more to their kids about what they post. Why do they need to post friend pics on instagram, all it serves to do is make someone feel left...(more) 12-7-2018 12:12pm
          out.
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          • That's what social media is for though. 12-7-2018 12:13pm
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            • that doesn't make it ok. It only needs to be shared with the people who were there. It astonishes me when moms post their kids bday party pictures on facebook. So we can all see...(more) 12-7-2018 12:15pm
              who was and was not invited.
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              • Does this still happen in middle school?? I haven't found that (my dd in 7th) 12-7-2018 12:21pm
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          • that EXACTLY what these girls WANT to do....they want everyone to know that they are at the mall together...and in my dd's school they all have snap maps enabled for everyone so...(more) 12-7-2018 12:15pm
            my dd can log on and see that 6 'popular girls' are at the mall together with a girl that used to be friends with dd, but who now refuses to even say 'hello' to dd because she thinks she's cool now
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            • we can still parent our kids, can't we? tell them to really try to not engage in this behaviour? 12-7-2018 12:17pm
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            • OP: Can relate. That's my dd former best friend. Now that she's with the popular girl, she thinks she's in. She has an annoying habit of saying mean things to my daughter and...(more) 12-7-2018 12:19pm
              then follow up with saying, "Joking!" UGH!
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              • it takes girls SOOOOO LONG at this age to realize they need to cut people like this off. Most adults would just stop after a day or so...or the first snub....lol, I've told my dd...(more) 12-7-2018 12:23pm
                that the next time she says 'hi' to this girl and she looks away that she should go stand in front of her and tell her 'just so you know, I think your a bitch, don't know why you think you are so special that you acknowledge someone when they speak to you"
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                • You go, mom! Great advice. I see the former BFF gaslighting my daughter and it pisses me off to no end! 12-7-2018 12:34pm
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    • how old is she? 12-7-2018 12:12pm
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      • 13. 8th grade. 12-7-2018 12:12pm
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        • A similar thing happened to me in 7th grade. Fucked me up but made me better. Not much you can do. This too shall pass 12-7-2018 12:15pm
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        • np-the WORST age. ugh. poor dd! 12-7-2018 12:16pm
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    • this middle school stuff just sucks.....dd's friendship with her BFF seems to be one of the few that have endured the start of 6th grade....and even though I think they always...(more) 12-7-2018 12:13pm
      would have each other's backs, I could totally see a scenario where this other girl would dump my dd (and no, I cannot see the opposite happening-my dd dumping her)...my dd likes being close with people....this girl is 50/50...likes a close friendship but I can see her trading a close friendship to be in that large group of superficial kiss kiss *I love you SO much* group
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    • To compound the problem, a boy who has a crush on the popular girl likes to call my dd and kinda vent/get the scoop on the popular girl. Last night he called on this group chat...(more) 12-7-2018 12:14pm
      device,
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    • One more thing - don't bring the girl up at all. If your dd wants to talk about her fine. 12-7-2018 12:32pm
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      • Thanks. And good advice. 12-7-2018 12:35pm
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  11. Tween/Teen DD's BFF dumped her for the popular girl. Beyond painful to watch. Can't figure out why three girls can't hang out together. Painful. 12-5-2018 3:26pm (12 replies)
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    • this has happened to my dd three times. brutal. 12-5-2018 3:28pm
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      • Three times. So sorry. How did your daughter handle it? You handle it? Painful because my dd struggled with friendships, so was delighted to finally have one. It's a super 12-5-2018 3:33pm
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      • Also, my dd's school is super small, which makes it worse. 12-5-2018 3:34pm
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        • She has handled it like a champ. She just moved on each time. I feel like it took a toll though. 12-5-2018 3:35pm
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          • ^^^ she now hangs out almost exclusively with the boys. 12-5-2018 3:38pm
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    • how old is she? this happened to my DD and i feel like it was a good life lesson -- although so painful to watch 12-5-2018 3:30pm
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      • 13. What was the net with your daughter? 12-5-2018 3:34pm
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        • my DD was 12 when it happened. she got up from the mean girl lunch table and sat with some other girls -- it also taught her not to put all her eggs in one "friend" basket - she...(more) 12-5-2018 3:37pm
          is more social and talks to more people
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    • So painful. She will be fine in the long run, but it's tough! 12-5-2018 3:34pm
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      • Tough because the school is super, super small. So now that these two have run off together, my daughter is out in the cold. It strikes me at the core. So hard to watch. 12-5-2018 3:35pm
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        • I'm sorry :( 12-5-2018 3:37pm
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          • Thanks, I seriously don't know what three girls can't hang out. WTF? 12-5-2018 3:40pm
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  12. Tween/Teen When did your dd get interested in boys? When did they go on their first date? 11-30-2018 11:40pm (5 replies)
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    • 13 /15 11-30-2018 11:41pm
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      • My dd just flatly stated, I'm not gay, but I'm not into boys yet. She's worried because all of her friends are boy crazy. 11-30-2018 11:42pm
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        • She’s better off. Boys can be very distracting 11-30-2018 11:46pm
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    • 7th grade 11-30-2018 11:46pm
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    • 9. hasn't dated yet but she's only 11 11-30-2018 11:48pm
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  13. Tween/Teen Follow up to post about mom telling me my daughter might not make the list for her daughterís Birthday party. Should I text her to see if my daughter made list. Just keep checking...(more) 11-24-2018 10:55am (10 replies)
    My email? Tell her she was rude?
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    • It was rude, Iíd ignore the whole matter. 11-24-2018 10:55am
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    • what??? 11-24-2018 10:55am
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    • let it go and distance yourself 11-24-2018 10:56am
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    • Are you kidding? Dd and I would have plans on that day. 11-24-2018 10:57am
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      • Yeah, way better plans than snooty-pants' bday party 11-24-2018 11:11am
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    • I really think you need to work on your self esteem 11-24-2018 10:57am
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    • NOOOOO. absolutely not. assume she didn't, plan something fun w/dd for that day, and start encouraging dd to develop other friendships. and if you're friends w/the mom, i would be...(more) 11-24-2018 10:58am
      pleasant when you run into her, but that's it
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      • This 11-24-2018 11:01am
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      • np. Absolutely. That friendship is over. Be pleasant and keep your distance 11-24-2018 11:03am
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    • Iíd tell her thanks but No thanks - your kid wonít attend 11-24-2018 11:15am
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  14. Tween/Teen I am friends with mom of one of 11 yo ddís friend and she told me all about daughterís birthday party then she said, ďDontvtell your daughter, she might not make the list.Ē Girls...(more) 11-24-2018 10:18am (17 replies)
    are in a big group and I get not everyone can be included but I was taken back by her comment. Rude or am I too sensitive?
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    • so rude 11-24-2018 10:18am
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    • Rude and I usually roll my eyes at this kind of birthday party politics thread. Thatís rude, no question. 11-24-2018 10:19am
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    • I would have laughed and said, "Wow. That was really rude." 11-24-2018 10:20am
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      • Wish I had but I was a little shocked 11-24-2018 10:21am
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      • np: this - if you are friends with the mom - you have carte blanche but that's the reality of 11 year old politics - she was refreshingly honest and planting a seed I think. She...(more) 11-24-2018 10:22am
        could have acknowledged the assery of her daughter and the bullshit she has to work on to make her behave like a civil human.
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        • i would distance from a person like this, she is NOT a friend and never can be with this thinking 11-24-2018 10:24am
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    • Very very rude! 11-24-2018 10:22am
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    • Totally rude. 11-24-2018 10:23am
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    • How are you friends with this woman? 11-24-2018 10:23am
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    • That is beyond rude!! Why even mention it to you? If she is invited Iíd still be annoyed. That mom is an ass 11-24-2018 10:24am
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      • I keep checking my email for an invite and nothing yet. Looking like my daughter didnít make the cut. 11-24-2018 10:29am
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        • Ugh. That stinks 11-24-2018 10:33am
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    • beyond rude 11-24-2018 10:27am
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    • op: should I text the mom and ask her if my daughter made the list? Tired of not knowing and worrying about it 11-24-2018 10:47am
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      • Our mothers never worried like we do. I hate this. I donít think Iíd text that mom. Seems like youíd be groveling 11-24-2018 10:52am
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      • nooooooo! assume she's not. i'm sorry for dd. and for you. this age sucks and this woman (and i'm sure her dd) are awful. 11-24-2018 10:53am
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  15. Tween/Teen My 16 yo DS is invited to his friends 16th birthday which will be in the home of the boys grandma. I just saw the invite and its a party for him and his twin sister who i dont...(more) 11-20-2018 2:26pm (11 replies)
    really know. Should I buy a gift for both or just my son's friend? whats proper etiquette? thanks
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    • I'd say present for both - maybe slightly smaller for sister 11-20-2018 2:27pm
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      • They are 16 not 6. Does your 16yo know the girl? 11-20-2018 2:28pm
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        • It's just good manners. 11-20-2018 2:30pm
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    • I think itís fine to just buy for his friend 11-20-2018 2:27pm
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    • I would just buy two gifts, maybe spend a little less on each in that case. 11-20-2018 2:27pm
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    • Just for the friend 11-20-2018 2:28pm
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    • I do both, but just the one would be okay too. 11-20-2018 2:28pm
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    • Ask DS his opinion. He probably has a better feel for what's appropriate. FWIW I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. 11-20-2018 2:32pm
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    • 16 isn't 6. I think 1 is fine 11-20-2018 2:38pm
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    • 1 is probably fine, but I personally would also send like a box of bath bombs along for sister as well. You'll never regret being kind. 11-20-2018 2:40pm
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    • if both kids' names are listed as birthday honorees on invite, buy for both 11-28-2018 11:04pm
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    • One for his friend. If he is friends with both then one for each, if only friends with boy, then I think itís okay to buy only on gift. 11-28-2018 11:07pm
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  16. Tween/Teen Going rate for Bat Mitzvah on Upper East side (private school)? TIA 11-16-2018 3:25pm (6 replies)
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    • $1000 per head, piker 11-16-2018 3:26pm
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      • ridiculous 11-16-2018 3:26pm
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        • Piker 11-16-2018 3:27pm
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    • Figure $15,009 11-16-2018 3:26pm
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    • to give as a gift> 11-16-2018 3:34pm
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      • To Give as a gift 11-16-2018 4:11pm
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  17. Tween/Teen ADHD H.S. Senior mean to me when I offer him help....(more) 11-13-2018 5:07pm (3 replies)
    Not only is he on the verge of not graduating due to not turning in assignments, mostly homework. He is mean to me whenever I even ask him if he needs clothes washed, if heís hungry, or how much gas is left in the tank. My mom got terminally ill when I was 12 so I had to take care of myself and brothers and so Iíve always made sure they donít have to worry about those things. Donít get me wrong I still give them responsibilities and I have taught them to do things like laundry and cooking so when they are on their own they can be independent. I just enjoy being a mother and doing motherly things that I know I missed once they stopped but itís so hard when DS acts like anything I say to him is an annoyance and major bother. Heís 17 so I understand hormones and the adhd doesnít help but sometimes I feel like he hates me. Am I being over sensitive? Does it get better because at this point Iím scared it gets worse. Btw I am new here. Thanks for listening, be blessed!
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    • Heís not receptive to it, for whatever reasons. Instead of being the mother you think you should be, try listening more to what he does need and ask for. Give him more space. 11-13-2018 5:17pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 11-13-2018 5:24pm
        I guess thatís part of my own problem of not knowing how much space to give, I think I have it in the back of my mind if I give him too much space he would think I stopped caring. I am the type of person that likes to show my love by doing things for them, so My feelings tend to get hurt when I get rejected. Thanks for your input I will keep in mind giving him more space then I do.
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        • You have to be able to take him in and not act only from your needs. Itís suffocating 11-13-2018 5:26pm
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  18. Tween/Teen This post has been deleted. 11-13-2018 4:55pm (2 replies)
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    • are you new here? 11-13-2018 4:55pm
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    • He is frustrated and scared. 11-13-2018 4:55pm
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  19. Tween/Teen I have a summons for jury during in NYC in 2 weeks. How do I postpone based on being a single and stay at home mom without help? I know I have to show them birth certificates. How...(more) 11-4-2018 10:23pm (1 reply)
    ever, do I do this in person at the office or do I send them an email? Anyone have any experience with the email option? i wonder how efficient and responsive they are....my youngest is 7 years old.
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    • You just need to send in the birth certificate. Look online to see what exactly you need to do. I did it years ago 11-4-2018 10:24pm
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  20. Tween/Teen My 17 yr old has been on intuniv and vycsnse for years. Lately he complains of depression and weíve had a couple of angry violent outbursts.. will discuss with psych but wondering...(more) 10-28-2018 9:32am (1 reply)
    About antidepressants or increasing intuniv dose ? Thoughts? Heís aspie (hi functioning aut, adhd, anxiety but can also appear completely NT at times.
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    • Is he in therapy? 11-24-2018 11:01am
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  22. Tween/Teen DS having penis pain and trouble peeing...(more) 10-20-2018 2:56am (3 replies)
    My son is 13, and recently came to me nervous and in pain. He said when he tries to pee, it hurts and nothing or very little comes out. He also says itís been like this for a while but it started getting worse. Instantly my mind goes worst case scenario like prostate cancer but I try to calm down and access the situation. I ask what exactly happens and he says he tries to pee, and he feels like it gets ďstuckĒ. Apparently it comes out randomly after heís done trying to pee as well. I was just so confused at this point. I asked him if he could show me when he tried to pee next time. So a few minutes later he calls me upstairs and heís standing over the toilet with his penis out. I noticed his penis is really fricking long, which surprised me and made me start coming up with weird theories. Iím wondering if because itís so long, that it just gets stuck in there. He did say that when he has to pee real bad it comes out a lot better and less painfully. I know it sounds stupid, but I re
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  23. Tween/Teen This post has been disliked 3 times. showPay wife for housekeeping?...(more) 10-19-2018 9:23am (18 replies)
    We hired to fire our live-in housekeeper last week because of a language barrier as well as the fact that she was doing a poor job. My wife is a stay-at-home Mother and she assumed the housekeeping duties this past week while we search for a new housekeeper. Our home is approximately 5,000 sq. ft. She wants to be paid the same as the housekeeper for doing the housekeeping this week. I'd like to hear other people's thoughts on this? Thank you!
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    • please do better. this is like a 1 10-19-2018 9:24am
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      • - no subject -...(more) 10-19-2018 9:26am
        What's the problem? I'm new to the board and I am sincere in my desire to hear thoughts. Thanks
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        • man up and grab a toilet brush. 10-19-2018 9:27am
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        • Oh, goody! A NEW troll. Weíre so so lucky! 10-19-2018 9:27am
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          • Are you serious? I'm asking a sincere and honest question. I have a full-time job and work about 60+ hours per week....(more) 10-19-2018 9:29am
            I am the sole breadwinner.
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            • Listen, dude, please fuck off from here. Not a place for you. 10-19-2018 9:29am
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              • Wow, you sound like a manhater. I'd love to know what the problem is? 10-19-2018 9:31am
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                • You. 10-19-2018 9:32am
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                  • Lol, ok great advice. You should probably become a therapist with your amazing answers 10-19-2018 9:34am
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                    • Dude, from the bottom of my heart: this new persona is for shit. At least make sure youíre entertaining enough. 10-19-2018 9:35am
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                      • I didn't know I was here to entertain you. I just have a real question. I thought this board was for family questions 10-19-2018 9:37am
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                        • Nope, it doesnít. Move on. 10-19-2018 9:38am
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                        • LOL. Yeah, right. 10-19-2018 9:44am
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    • Jesus fucking Christ 10-19-2018 9:25am
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      • Pay wife......(more) 10-19-2018 9:27am
        Kindly elaborate? This is completely serious question.
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    • No. Donít pay her for keeping her home clean; you help too and if you really need a housekeeper, pay one. 10-19-2018 9:30am
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      • I help a lot in addition to my very busy day job. We are also searching for a housekeeper 10-19-2018 9:32am
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        • You people are nasty manhaters. I am glad that this board is just a select group of bored yenta man-hating wives....(more) 10-19-2018 5:18pm
          If all women were like some of you, the world would cease to exist. No man would want to touch you with a 10-foot pole. I realize it's just some of you who answered by sincere post very rudely and very inappropriately. I hope none of you that answered my very sincere post with rudeness have any luck in your own relationships. No wonder you are on here. Seems like a bored for angry, lonely, man-hating housewives
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  24. Tween/Teen DH and I had a big fight over text messages. We both get home- fight becomes a conversation involving DDís (ages 12 and 11) and I call a computer ďa piece of garbageĒ to which he...(more) 10-19-2018 6:41am (24 replies)
    replies in front of them ďyouíre a piece of garbageĒ. I want out. I am sick of this. There have been 5 incidents like this since August, where he behaves and name calls and yells in front of them in a dispicable, unacceptable way. Daughter texted me to say ďwhy do you make us live like thisĒ I love my husband but I need to put my children first. DH feels what I say to him over text or behind closed doors makes me as bad as him. I couldnít disagree more. Two of my children would be heartbroken if I left, so I stay- but itís at the detriment of my oldest daughter. Sheís smart and she knows this is wrong. Sheís so strong and spunky and she stands right up to him- until he hits a point and then she gets scared and itís just a mess. Keep hoping this will get better but it doesnít seem like it will. I just donít know how someone call his wife/ mother of kids trash in front of DDís- am I over reacting?
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    • First therapy. then dump his sorry ass. 10-19-2018 6:44am
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    • what were you fighting about? In my opinion, you must give zero consideration to your "strong" dd apparently thinking you should leave. 10-19-2018 6:44am
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    • I think you have every right to be upset but you are also being super dramatic. I would give an ultimatum or go to counseling first before breaking the entire marriage up over a...(more) 10-19-2018 6:46am
      comment. Every single person says shitty things when theyíre upset.
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      • NP: I do not. So no, not everyone does. I never say shitty things like "You're a piece of garbage" to someone. And I think there are probably lots of people like me. 10-19-2018 6:47am
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        • ^and I would not put up with that. unacceptable Imo. 10-19-2018 6:48am
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      • OP- he never used to curse and no curses freely in front of kids. A big fight we had resulted in his toys inability to contain himself in front of kids and first leaving apt then...(more) 10-19-2018 6:52am
        returning to apt and telling me- in front of them ďyou leave you go and get out of the houseĒ one of my children became hysterical and as Iím comforting DS, my oldest daughter tells me ďthis isnít OK, none of this is OkĒ I keep hearing that over and over. I can tolerate being called a piece of shit- I said worse to him over text- along him a huge asshole for the initial fight itís the I. Front of the kids thatís killing me.
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        • Or: no thatís messed up. Iíd get out. 10-19-2018 6:53am
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        • Your dd doesnít want you to leave. She wants you both to be grownups and solve it. Its REALLY dysfuctional the way youíve turned dd into an adult in this situation. 10-19-2018 7:06am
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          • ^^ and yes I mean YOU. Your perspective of her reaction is suuuuper dysfunctional. You need to grow way, way up. Even if dh is a child. You need to be the grown up now not dd. 10-19-2018 7:07am
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          • How could you know? I definitely wanted my parents to separate when I was 11. I'm so glad they did 10-19-2018 7:22am
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      • The fight was bc my DD needs a computer to do homework on. He has a ďfamilyĒ computer in kitchen area that would be ideal. For 3 years they have used and mistreated my laptops...(more) 10-19-2018 6:56am
        that I use for work. Iíve asked before for him to allow the kids to access his computer for their homework and he categorically eefuses- though itís been fine for them to use mine all this time. Getting an email from the school asking for her screen situation was I thought what would be what would show him OK, kids NEED a screen they can use mine. instead I was told the crappy awful laptops that are our discarded ones are ďgood enoughĒ for them and again no one was allowed to use HIS computer that occupies the shared family space.
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        • You know, itís a lot cheaper to just spend $1k on another computer for the kids than to divorce your husband because he wonít let her use his. 10-19-2018 7:00am
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          • Heís probably financially abusive, too and wonít allow it. ďGet out of MY houseĒ? This one is a winner. 10-19-2018 7:04am
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          • You can buy a Chromebook laptop for $200-400. Buy one today for the kids. I know that's not solving the big problems. DH and I have some awful fights. The tension is the worst...(more) 10-19-2018 7:06am
            thing and I am considering separating
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        • You both sound kind of toxic tbh. 10-19-2018 7:14am
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    • divorce him ASAP and find someone who isn't a total loser 10-19-2018 6:46am
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    • Sounds like a fun home. Btdt, happily divorced. GL. 10-19-2018 6:51am
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    • OP- to be clear, as our fight escalated I did not say anything nice over text. I was and have been angry for years particularly over what we were arguing over. I didnít nor do I...(more) 10-19-2018 6:59am
      ever call him awful names, curse at him or would EVER call him a piece of garbage in front of our kids.
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      • You canít solve this. Counseling might make divorce more amicable though. At least heíll be so emotionally exhausted he might agree willingly rather than fight. 10-19-2018 7:02am
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      • Years? You put up with living this way and subjecting the kids to living this way for years? 10-19-2018 7:14am
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    • You daughter nailed it. Throw him out, divorce him, youíve already allowed the children to be traumatized. Put an end to it. 10-19-2018 7:12am
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    • So you have a dd and the other kids are his? 10-19-2018 7:14am
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    • Are you in counseling/ couples or individual. Dh and I are in couples and he acknowledges tonsone degree that h...(more) 10-19-2018 7:20am
      his behavior and treatment of me is not ok. I stay bc I want things to get better for the sake of our family. I really, really sorry about the impact on my 14 and 12 yo dds. My dh is so angry and mean plus he threatens to leave us which terrifies our 8 yo ds. It sounds obvious but I keep hoping it is going to get better and it has to some degree.
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    • Be the woman you want your dd to grow up and be. Surround your sons with an adult you want them to grow up to be. I'm not saying a perfect person but someone who is kind,...(more) 10-19-2018 7:23am
      empathic, loving, even temepered
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  25. Tween/Teen College and homesickness...(more) 10-13-2018 12:20am (17 replies)
    OK, so I realize there is no specific "college" board here, but has anyone's kid decided to return home and attend a local college after a semester away at college due to homesickness? My kid wants to, but I'd like him to give it more time because I think he will ultimately feel less homesick. He has a strong group of friends and is on a sports team. I worry that if I force him to stay there, it will harm him mentally and emotionally.
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    • It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesnít like the...(more) 10-13-2018 1:00am
      school. This is the longest he goes without home
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      • ^^^i have a Freshman dd playing lax 10-13-2018 1:01am
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    • Homesickness...(more) 10-13-2018 1:54am
      Hey, it is a very natural feeling when you are alone and away from home, but with passing time you will get used to the environment in the college.
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    • I would push hard to finish out the year, hoping it will get better. 10-13-2018 7:12am
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    • absolutely do not let him come home 10-13-2018 7:21am
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    • Is there someone at student life you can consult? Maybe tell him if he does some counseling & still wants to trx youd be more ok with the idea? 10-13-2018 7:22am
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    • Be supportive and tell him to keep trying and you can talk about it for next fal but he needs to give this year a chance. Thereís counselingnservies at schoolnto if he needs...(more) 10-13-2018 7:24am
      support. If he comes home he wonít believe he can ever do it. Itís earlyndaybsonirn is normal to be adjusting still and heís not the only one whose homesick. What has it been a months d a half?
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    • My friendís freshman dd is miserable. Not sure what theyre going to do yet. She calls mom multiple times a day which I think makes it worse for her. Not sure what theyre going to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:28am
      do, if anything
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    • My roomate freshman year cried all the time, and very deliberately wouldnt involve herself in any social life at school. But she had a very strong social life/community support...(more) 10-13-2018 7:31am
      network in that city, outside of school. Anyway, her parents cleared her out at winter break and i heard she went to a small college near her home town.
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    • ok I will get slammed but this is what I did. my kid attend college all the way on the other side of the country. I got on the UCLA web site and found some clubs for him to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:32am
      attend. once he got involved things got better
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      • why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable 10-13-2018 7:33am
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        • Yeah, good idea. I recall that homesickness feeling setting in by October, like once the excitement of the first month was over and the reality of ďoh. Iím on my ownĒ was...(more) 10-13-2018 7:37am
          undeniable
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        • some timers would say I should have made him find clubs or groups to join. but I know my kid I know what he will and won't do 10-13-2018 7:37am
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    • Has your ds been away from home before for camp or anything like that? How did that go? Itís very early and itís normalnto be. Home sick. You need to encourage him to...(more) 10-13-2018 7:37am
      work through this. He will be glad he stucknitnoutnanfngotninvolvrd. Encourage that and he can always transfer next year if he truly feels rhisnsxhool was a mistake. He does need to give it a chance though. You wontndamage him by encouraging him to keep trying.
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    • OP here. Thanks all. He is at a very small community college far enough away from NYC, which was his choice as he hated it here. He's an only kid. I have also encouraged him to...(more) 10-13-2018 12:08pm
      join clubs, and especially to see a counselor to discuss the whole homesick issue. Unfortunately, his dad (we are apart) thinks he SHOULD come home so he can get home cooked meals (MY JOB!), save money on housing, etc. He is thinking from a purely economic standpoint, not what I believe is best for the kid in the long term abt. being independent, maturing, etc. Anyhow, I will continue to encourage that he remain there. Thx again.
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      • Very small community college may be the issue, most kids attending community college live at home so there may not be much community there for kids in the dorms. 10-13-2018 1:28pm
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    • I think there are probably other issues in play. Anxiety, for one. Also, important for him to realize that his "life" as he knew it at home is also not the same because all of...(more) 10-13-2018 1:36pm
      those people (except his parents) have moved on/gone away themselves. He's setting himself up for disappointment.
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