Tween/Teen
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- Tween/Teen To get my adhd dd to do something as simple as brush her teeth is a exhausted. She's so worried about being called "ugly" by her peers. Yet, walks around with dirty classes and...(more)
- If it makes you feel better I have to nag my NT teenager to shower, wear deodorant, and brush his teeth as well. I think they just don’t care.
- i think the whole cause/effect relationship is hazy in many teens brains
- Ditto. The hygiene issue is a common thing w adhd girks who also have anxiety, accd to dd’s psychiatrist. I cant recall the complexities of why they do it. But it’s exasperating...(more)
- Hopefully she will get therapy as an adult to overcome all this bad programming
- Tween/Teen Middle school placement District 3...(more)
- who the fuck posts under tween/teen??
- np: you saw it. the fuck you care?
- I just looked it up--it seems like a strong school.
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- You're, and I am not.
- np - You are wrong. It is a terrible school.
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- this school application system just seems like utter crap that benefits hardly any students
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- What is your issue with the school?
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- I did look it up. There's a PTA, and it's not low-performing.
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- I'm not looking for an argument. It just doesn't look like a "bad school" to me.
- np - Where did you look it up? I'm looking at Inside Schools. Only 11% of their students scored a 3 or 4 in the math; 47% scored a 3 or 4 in the ELA. Those are dismal numbers
- ^^Citywide (and that's a low bar), 36% scored a 3 or 4 in math
- DOE website.
- ^^Citywide (and that's a low bar), 36% scored a 3 or 4 in math
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- I did look it up. There's a PTA, and it's not low-performing.
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- What is your issue with the school?
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- Ugh. Are other parents at your school upset? My kid gets 3s and 5s and we got our last choice
- 3s and 4s
- Appeal! What were your kid’s scores? Is this a case of moving the high achieving kids to low performing schools?
- who the fuck posts under tween/teen??
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- You sound fat
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- Tween/Teen Reviews on Panty Prop swimwear? Does it really work? What about on heavy days? With or without a pad (can you even use a pad with this swimwear while swimming)? Would like to...(more)
- I bet the website describes it
- The thought of this sounds so damn gross. Like making cherry Koop Aid in a pool
- Tween/Teen Does anyone know of a working moms message board? I'd like for it to be anonymous.
- yoube mom, urban baby, dc urban mos
- Thank you. I'll check out dc urban moms as I'm in nonprofit and there tends to be many of those in DC.
- Can you post things here?
- Of course, I do but at times it has turned into a SAHM vs. WOHM battle.
- such is the world.
- Of course, I do but at times it has turned into a SAHM vs. WOHM battle.
- this
- right here, my friend. I would estimate about 50% of us work, about 30% full time
- yoube mom, urban baby, dc urban mos
- Tween/Teen Pet peeve: men referring to their wives as brides...”my lovely bride”... <insert vomit emoji> Anyone else? I just get a whiff of women being seen as property and think the men who us
- ^use this term have issues
- that kind of thing just doesn't bother me.
- He married her- she’s a bride. Dh is my groom.
- Yeah and women referring to their husbands as “my lovely groom” is normal Lol
- i notice that too when they've been married forever
- I think it’s sweet
- Tween/Teen Snow pants when there’s no snow...(more)
- why? do you?
- What do you mean?
- nada
- What?
- do what you want
- What do you mean what do I want?
- why???
- What?
- why???
- What do you mean what do I want?
- do what you want
- What?
- nada
- What do you mean?
- I do that if it's below 10 F
- That’s so cold! I think 45F is cold too
- 45 is not that cold at all
- I think it’s very cold
- 45 is not that cold at all
- That’s so cold! I think 45F is cold too
- who are you and what is your obsession with snow pants? why do you post so often about them?
- why? do you?
- Tween/Teen Saw Be More Chill with the whole family and now we are on a theater kick. What theater subscriptions do you have/like?
- In NY?
- Yes
- just get TDF, best selection and value
- In NY?
- Tween/Teen Once again faced with trying to pick out a birthday gift for my SIL. after 20 years just out of ideas.
- stop trying to make the tween/teen thing happen
- OP: not sure why I clicked on that. been toddler forever.
- np: didn't even notice
- God I hate adult gifts!
- OP; if it was up to me we would stop. she can't help her self. so we have to reciprocate
- so don't. I don't get the gift giving pressure for adults.
- OP: DH says we have to :(. I don;t with my siblings.
- An amaryllis bulb. The gift that keeps giving. I have 10
- hmm. do they require a lot of work?
- Nah, only the chilling period is a little difficult
- hmm. do they require a lot of work?
- Restaurant gift card - easy and always appreciated
- A sweater?
- I stopped trying to do this. I recommend just sending a card.
- Fun earrings. Everyone can use them and they don’t take up space.
- A set of face masks-for your skin. You can send them from Blue Mercury or Sephora- they come in nice sets and not expensive.
- stop trying to make the tween/teen thing happen
- Tween/Teen Anyone else whose kids are obsessed with the musical Be More Chill?
- Tween/Teen Swimmers ear...(more)
- Yes it’s fine, but you should treat the swimmer’s eat.
- Ear
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- Yes, it's fine. Is she in any pain?
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- Which roller coaster?
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- Yes it’s fine, but you should treat the swimmer’s eat.
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- Tween/Teen My dd has been caught up in a lot of middle school drama. Mostly nasty gossip perpetuated by one girl. Girl will do stuff like roll her eyes when my dd enters a room, say she's...(more)
- Ugh, middle school. DD had a lot of drama with her friends for a few years (sometimes she was the target, sometimes not) but they were exhausting. Much better in 8th grade....(more)
- It's a very small, small private school. She's in 8th grade. And, yes, sometimes she's the target and sometimes she's not. The issue I found is that the girls gossip. They'...(more)
- ignore
- So much easier said than done, especially with the perspective of being an adult. As a kid, unless you are SUPER secure it's almost impossible. And if this kid was one of those...(more)
- i apologize, that was too simplified. i agree with all the other advice on top of that. basically what i meant was don’t feed into it
- So much easier said than done, especially with the perspective of being an adult. As a kid, unless you are SUPER secure it's almost impossible. And if this kid was one of those...(more)
- been there with my dd, sorry it sucks! Just know this is a moving train and there are stops ahead. That being said, be supportive build her confidence, make her understand that...(more)
- Former friend or random classmate?
- She has to hold her head high and do her best to navigate these years. She isn’t anyone’s punching bag, and that also extends to the person doing wrong. Both are kids are both are...(more)
- Kid who is doing it to my dd was always at the bottom of the group for years, so I think is glad to have found someone.
- She needs to roll her eyes right back and then move on
- Ugh, middle school. DD had a lot of drama with her friends for a few years (sometimes she was the target, sometimes not) but they were exhausting. Much better in 8th grade....(more)
- Tween/Teen My girlfriend is always bragging to me that her daughter is not on social media. According to my kid, the girl is. She is just doing it on the downlow.
- This post has been disliked 3 times. When people brag about things like that, I will say things like, "I've always let my kids explore social media, because I feel like they need to learn how to manage it...(more)
- So you’re both sancti moms
- I'm not sure what's sancti about that.
- ^I wouldn't bring it up, but if someone's going to brag, I'll state what I do & why.
- I'm not sure what's sancti about that.
- So you’re both sancti moms
- Like many parents, she is scared of how her teen will navigate social media. Itnmakesnher feel better to invest in a belief that he...(more)
- Girl also told my dd that a friend brings alcohol to school and they drink. It's not my place to say anything. Her dd is quiet, but I always got a sneaky vibe from her.
- And this is where I would talk to the mom. If my kid was drinking during school I would want to know
- np: you're an adult. you have a duty to protect the kids, and you have to be part of zero tolerance for this behavior. You want kids drinking at your child's school?
- Girl also told my dd that a friend brings alcohol to school and they drink. It's not my place to say anything. Her dd is quiet, but I always got a sneaky vibe from her.
- This post has been disliked 3 times. When people brag about things like that, I will say things like, "I've always let my kids explore social media, because I feel like they need to learn how to manage it...(more)
- Tween/Teen Every time my daughter has a sleep over or playdate te with the girls from her school it ends up costing me a fortune, because the other kids show up with a wad of money. It's...(more)
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- Your kid can't navigate and talk w/friends to do something affordable? "I've got ten bucks. Let's grab pizza."
- That's what I say. I think it's insane. It's compounded by the other parents that support such endeavors. I'm not paying.
- The kids go out and have a sit down meal somewhere?
- Crazy, right? I put my foot down. Believe me.
- Yeah, it's crazy. My ds is that age, and he'll go out with friends. But they all go to like...a chinese restaurant and split 2 orders of dumplings or something like that.
- Crazy, right? I put my foot down. Believe me.
- The kids go out and have a sit down meal somewhere?
- That's what I say. I think it's insane. It's compounded by the other parents that support such endeavors. I'm not paying.
- yes, that's a tough one. everything is so over the top compared to my childhood.
- Seriously, I can count the number of times during my childhood that my friends and I went to the movies. Most of the time we were hanging out in the yard or in my bedroom.
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- Tween/Teen A 14 yo boy asked my 14 yo dd out for hot chocolate about 6 weeks ago and she said yes. They were going to walk from school to a nearby Starbucks and talk. Plan was all set...(more)
- He’s embarrassed. And 14. 14yo girls are eons ahead of 14 yo boys. She should move on.
- They are very close friends and do a lot of the same activities - very hard to just turn things off. Anything I can tell her to maybe soothe her?
- he is embrassed that his parents did that. and then Mom called....
- allthough, i like that the Mom called for a teen boy that was a big NO NO. mom of boys
- He’s embarrassed. And 14. 14yo girls are eons ahead of 14 yo boys. She should move on.
- Tween/Teen Hi - anyone on this Board? Have a situation I'd like to ask some advice on.
- Sure, I'm on
- Hi! Still on? It’s a teenage dating question and I think I will get flamed on the Toddler board lol. Still on?
- Sure, I'm on
- Tween/Teen Does your 6th grader manager her own social life? Set up get togethers and sleepovers? Decide who to hang out with?
- yes, although obviously needs to check in with me about schedules and rides
- No
- Yes, but there has been some drama lately, so I am supporting her in her choices about how to spend her time
- I struggle with this.
- Yes. And when other moms try to set things up with my kid it is awkward.
- np they're too old for that. they were too old for that in 3rd grade.
- yes, my 3rd grader texts her friends and arranges places and times to meet, and just goes. so silly that moms would be involved at this age.
- don't you need to know where your dc is going and with whom? I don't understand
- np your kid tells you. but you organizing a kid's social life at this age is a hindrance, not a help.
- They tell you? What if they need a ride?...(more)
- np your kid tells you. but you organizing a kid's social life at this age is a hindrance, not a help.
- do you live in a small town? how do the kids get to each other's houses if the moms aren't involved? or do you mean that it's weird if the mom sets something up fro a kid who...(more)
- amen. 7th grade dd has just one friend now who doesn't have a phone and her mom still texts me for "playdates" for her dd who's 5'7"
- np they're too old for that. they were too old for that in 3rd grade.
- No, except with her closest friends. But she's a young 6th grader, so I think of her as more of a 5th grader. But it's awkward. I'm hoping that next year she'll suddenly become...(more)
- NO
- Tween/Teen DS is sleeping in the nude - normal for tweens?...(more)
- Why do you care?
- I’m so perplexed by this question. People sleep however it’s comfortable.
- I am not trying to be gross but...honestly he's probably jerking off before bed and falls asleep and forgets to put clothes on
- Not gross. Probably just the truth.
- dh. i think it's normal
- If that was my kid, I would tell him that he needs to at least wear boxers since others in the family may go in his room. Until he is 100% (not 99%) independent, and you never...(more)
- Why, do you tear off the covers and surprise your children typically? 12 you deserve a knock on the door before entering.
- She said he was not covered and she went in to wake him.
- She should knock and ask if she could come in.
- Np: try that when you are waking him up.
- I have difficult to wake up tween boys. I knock and yell until they say, “what? I’m up!” In exasperated tones. I don’t need to see or smell their 12 yo rooms for that. No thank...(more)
- Yeah, mind will not wake up with a simple knock on the door
- Yes, that’s why I added yelling. But I’m not going to go in there \!| I’m not going to tell a 12 yo how he should sleep.
- So what if they happen to be sleeping naked?
- Yeah, mind will not wake up with a simple knock on the door
- I have difficult to wake up tween boys. I knock and yell until they say, “what? I’m up!” In exasperated tones. I don’t need to see or smell their 12 yo rooms for that. No thank...(more)
- Np: try that when you are waking him up.
- She should knock and ask if she could come in.
- She said he was not covered and she went in to wake him.
- Why, do you tear off the covers and surprise your children typically? 12 you deserve a knock on the door before entering.
- 1) Get him to a counselor 2) ask his friend's parents if their sons are doing it too. Does anyone else need my great advice?
- No
- kidding
- LOL
- We are all on toddler.
- Everyone posts on toddler. You’re still telling the s to the same people as before
- And yes, it’s normal
- What exactly are you afraid of?
- The one eyed monster
- One of my dss sometimes does. It's awkward. I do not go in their rooms any longer when I knock to wake them up. I am traumatized by what I have already seen.
- what did you see?
- Ok, sorry. I didn't realize you all viewed toddler too. I'm also sorry there are so many people who think it's a stupid question. I was curious as to how normal it is.
- ^ OP by the way.
- Totally normal. Humans have enough trouble sleeping that they should do it however they are comfortable. And 12 yos deserve privacy.
- I suppose you're right. I don't even know if he does it all the time anyway.
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- so weird to ask that
- Agree. Girl is all status / label conscious, so now I know where she gets it.
- let it roll off for DD's sake
- Why do you think she asked this?
- Mom is all status conscious. But, yea, it's messed up. Daughter is riddle with problems and issues, so mom needs to re-focused her energy, really.
- what did the text say exactly
- just say no to sleepovers
- How do you know this?
- DD saw the text.
- oh, she asked her own child? Come on.
- Come on? You don't believe it?
- I do, it's not a big deal. Your post implied she sent it to you.
- Go back and re-read. "Girl's mom texted her during the sleepover...."
- I do, it's not a big deal. Your post implied she sent it to you.
- Come on? You don't believe it?
- oh, she asked her own child? Come on.
- DD saw the text.
- why on earth would the mom ask this?
- Oh how did you see that? Our apt sucks and I don’t worry about this fwiw. I once picked Ds up and they said Lucas said his room is the size of our laundry room? And I said yup!...(more)
- ^i always ask about ppl’s apartments - but wait until after
- that I can see. But, really, text during the sleep over.
- Yeah I mean whatever
- that I can see. But, really, text during the sleep over.
- ^i always ask about ppl’s apartments - but wait until after
- is it possible that they, too, have a small apartment?
- No. They live in a penthouse on the UES. They have money. Believe me. Have their own biz.
- How did you see this text?
- Phone was sitting out on the open on the counter and I was standing nearby making dinner when it popped up.
- Lol
- Phone was sitting out on the open on the counter and I was standing nearby making dinner when it popped up.
- Eh. You have to let these things roll off. Who cares what the mom asked her kid. You seem to know she has a big apartment. How do you know this
- I know so many wealthy people with huge homes and I can’t imagine any one of them giving a second thought to the size of someone else’s house, especially someone they don’t really...(more)
- Me too. Which is why I found it strange.
- I live in a 2 BR small-ish apartment on the UWS. I really don't care what others think of my place.
- This would. Ot bother me one bit
- OP: It probably wouldn't have bothered me so much if the girl, who has some problems and was getting on my nerves.
- so weird to ask that
- Tween/Teen Boxed in high school...(more)
- What is your district?
- Westchester would love to move but not possible at moment
- Your kid is a genius and needs to be more advanced?
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- the TT colleges know the different High schools and will recognize this
- What is your district?
- Tween/Teen My daughter had an assignment that was due at midnight, and tried to do it at 8:30pm, but was already locked out and told it was past due. I'm inclined to believe this is her...(more)
- how old?
- 15
- freshman
- ^?
- 10th grade
- freshman
- 15
- live and learn
- conseqences
- why are you involved?
- Daughter is 15, not an adult daughter
- Because she's three feet away from me...
- I hate this kind of parent who pretends moral superiority because they are less involved in their kids life.
- how old?