Tween/Teen

  1. Tween/Teen Happy birthday to Her! 21 hr 43 min ago (3 replies)
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    • she would have been about to be elected into her 2nd term :( 21 hr 42 min ago
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      • she didn't deserve the first one 21 hr 41 min ago
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        • yeah, we really dodged a bullet there. emails! 21 hr 41 min ago
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  2. Tween/Teen Dh and I have different libidos, he would have sex daily, I'm good with once a week or so......(more) 10-23-2020 12:47pm (20 replies)
    In the past year he started a habit of leaving the bedroom after I go to bed and "taking care of himself". This really bothers me, can't he show some self control? Not like he's a teenager with raging hormones.
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    • I’m really happy that dh and I have equally matched libidos, we both want sex all the time 10-23-2020 12:48pm
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      • That’s great! It’s a shame you’re such an insufferable idiot though. 10-23-2020 12:54pm
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    • It’s a physical release that he enjoys daily. If you won’t donot, why shouldn’t he? 10-23-2020 12:48pm
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      • but EVERY time we don't have sex? Isn't that excessive? 10-23-2020 2:50pm
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    • how old is he? don't punish or chastise him for his sex drive. you either need to step it up, or let him do his thing. You're lucky he doesn't go find a young woman to take care...(more) 10-23-2020 12:48pm
      of him
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    • So you won’t give him sex and he can’t get himself off either? Doesn’t sound fair. 10-23-2020 12:48pm
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    • You sound fun. 10-23-2020 12:48pm
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    • where does he go? And how do you know what he is doing? 10-23-2020 12:49pm
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    • ewwww 10-23-2020 12:49pm
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    • So what? If he isnt bothering you for more then you need to get over it 10-23-2020 12:49pm
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      • I'm just not in the mood or too tired 10-23-2020 2:50pm
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    • You do realize for a man with a healthy sex drive still, once a week is NOT going to cut it 10-23-2020 12:50pm
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    • Don’t you get off on your own? 10-23-2020 12:50pm
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      • occasionally, not EVERY night like him 10-23-2020 2:51pm
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    • Masturbation is a beautiful thing and should be celebrated! Don’t take it personally it’s the best way to bridge your differences in libido. I would encourage it if I were you,...(more) 10-23-2020 12:50pm
      don’t waste capacity bu being offended.
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    • You sound insufferable 10-23-2020 12:52pm
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  3. Tween/Teen After We Collided (2020) Full-Movies...(more) 10-23-2020 12:43pm (0 replies)
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  5. Tween/Teen When nursing homes shut down due to covid, did they bar families from getting their loved ones?...(more) 10-19-2020 5:36pm (85 replies)
    I feel like they must have. I would have rushed to bring my mom home from that death trap. What happened???
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    • You would not have been allowed in in most states 10-19-2020 5:36pm
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      • So you had to watch helplessly from outside as the grim reaper made his rounds? 10-19-2020 5:36pm
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        • Yup 10-19-2020 5:37pm
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          • That is INSANE.... HOW DID PEOPLE NOT GO MAD WITH GRIEF AND WORRY 10-19-2020 5:37pm
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            • first off by not being so dramatic? 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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              • If my mom was in there, I'd go insane and bust her out somehow 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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                • where is your mom? 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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                  • Not in a nursing home. 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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                    • so how on earth do you know this? come on. 10-19-2020 5:41pm
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                      • Multiple ppl posting 10-19-2020 5:42pm
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                • you don't know what you're talking about. my mom is in a care home right now that was locked down. you can't just go in and get them 10-19-2020 5:42pm
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                  • what level of care? and you are wrong. you can move any time from a residential or assisted living. 10-19-2020 5:42pm
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                  • of course you can. don't be daft. 10-19-2020 5:43pm
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                    • Sounds like she is saying she couldn't 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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                      • she is leaving out details. 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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                  • I'm so sorry that is what I was wondering. So you were barred from bringing her home. 10-19-2020 5:43pm
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                    • no she was not. I am guessing her mom was in a skilled facility and there was covid, so another facility said "we cannot take her until the hold is lifted." OP had a choice to...(more) 10-19-2020 5:45pm
                      move her home.
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                      • ^OR. 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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                      • Oh whew. My great fear was old people were not allowed to leave and were stuck inside waiting to die...(more) 10-19-2020 5:48pm
                        Even though their children wanted to bring them home.
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                        • ridiculous. though many states urged people to leave them in facilities where presumably they were more pretected than they would be in the community. 10-19-2020 5:49pm
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                  • You can choose to stop care in the facility. You can’t “take them out for a week” and expect to send them back 10-19-2020 5:46pm
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                    • I'd stop care and bring them home. 10-19-2020 5:48pm
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                      • Yes, but the point is most people can’t. If you and Dh work and your elderly parent needs assistance eating, using the bathroom, regular medical checks, intravenous medicine......(more) 10-19-2020 5:50pm
                        you can’t do that unless you are trained to. Part of why most people end up in a facility is because they need far more care than their family is capable of providing
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                        • Not to mention the fact that the entire family would have to be on lockdown until there's a vaccine due to Covid risk to the elderly patient. Ironically, nursing homes are safer...(more) 10-19-2020 5:53pm
                          for the elderly needing care (at this point).
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            • They did 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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              • ^^remember those news stories of people saying goodbye to their loved ones via FaceTime?.... 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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                • Yes I thought they just couldn't come in to visit or say goodbye. Not that they couldn't bring them home. 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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                  • Well if you wanted to end your contract woth the nursing home and provide care at home I’m sure they would let them out. But most people can’t do that 10-19-2020 5:40pm
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                    • Ah the answer I needed...(more) 10-19-2020 5:41pm
                      Thank you
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                  • you all are confused. there is a hold on people visiting or was in congregate care. if tehre are current cases in the facility the state puts another hold on residents. if no hold...(more) 10-19-2020 5:40pm
                    tehy can come and go, though in NF people are too sick to do so. You can leave a facility any time if your dont want to live there anymore, I work for a PACE program that moves people around each month as they join us/
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                    • Correct. But if you need medical care, the nursing home will no longer provide it. My MIl went through this with her sister. They removed her from the home, but had to hire a FT...(more) 10-19-2020 5:43pm
                      live in to provide the necessary care. That is just unrealistic for most people
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                      • yes. that is why people go to assisted living, memory care or foster homes. its gets too expensive to pay for 24hr hour superivsion 10-19-2020 5:44pm
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                        • But even that I'd bring her home 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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                        • Exactly. So to answer that persons question in theory yes you could just go in and remove your loved one from the home. But in reality- yes, they were locked in with no visitors...(more) 10-19-2020 5:45pm
                          for months
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                          • yes, because we as a country want to protect the vulnerable. 10-19-2020 5:46pm
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                            • I totally understand the no visitors rule but didn't understand the elderly as prisoners approach 10-19-2020 5:49pm
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                              • cause its not a thing. 10-19-2020 5:49pm
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                              • people are confusing issues. Nursing home residents aren't leaving, they aren't well enough. Assisted livign people can come and go, unless there is a hold on their building. 10-19-2020 5:51pm
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      • Not to visit but they couldn't even take them out? It isn't jail... Really??? 10-19-2020 5:37pm
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        • Taking them out means coming in to get them. 10-19-2020 5:37pm
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        • so protect the vulnerable, or don't. seems no one can agree? 10-19-2020 5:37pm
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          • They couldn't push them out??? Do loved ones can take them home? No one has to go inside... 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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            • English, please. 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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              • Push them out in wheelchairs, no one has to come in to collect their loved ones 10-19-2020 5:49pm
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              • Duh they aren't walking out, reading comp mom 10-19-2020 5:51pm
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            • How are they going to get the necessary medical care? They are in a nursing home for a reason m 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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              • they get it. the hold allows for medical workers to come in as needed. 10-19-2020 5:40pm
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            • np. at some point, you have no medical ability to care for them when they are in a care home. what would you do, learn how to do the rounds ?? 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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              • What if they didn't need care and were just frail 10-19-2020 5:40pm
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                • to get into a nursing home (long term care home) you need to be more than frail. if you're just frail, you are usually in some other arrangement. 10-19-2020 5:41pm
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                  • I thought that was hospice and nursing home meant you were just too old to live on your own....(more) 10-19-2020 5:43pm
                    Family could certainly in some cases step in and they could live with them.
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                    • A lot of nursing home patients can be cared for at home. 10-19-2020 5:50pm
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                      • assuming there is an adult all day home wiht the time and energy. 10-19-2020 5:52pm
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                        • That's true. I'd do it though compared to putting my mom in a coronavirus deathtrap. 10-19-2020 5:53pm
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        • couldn't they just wheel them out? That is nonsense. 10-19-2020 5:50pm
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      • How is that legal to keep a healthy resident captive like that with danger all around??? Let them go home. 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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        • Right that's what is so confusing. Were people crying outside while fully being able to bring them home and just unwilling 10-19-2020 5:44pm
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    • They left them there to die. 10-19-2020 5:36pm
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      • god you are so rude. those poor workers have been through hell, residents too. you know nothing 10-19-2020 5:36pm
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    • they are because they need a high level of care that families are unable to safely provide 10-19-2020 5:38pm
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    • I know one woman who put up such a tantrum that they allowed her to move in with her mother at the home and neither one of them was allowed to leave until mid July 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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      • That would be me 10-19-2020 5:40pm
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        • You did that ? 10-19-2020 5:41pm
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          • I'm sorry, I meant I would do the same. 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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        • Really? Most people have jobs, spouses, kids, pets, communities. 10-19-2020 5:44pm
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          • Screw that all, your mom is in there. Arrangements can be made. It's life or death so you act. 10-19-2020 5:46pm
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            • We're talking about moving into a nursing home to be with a parent. My mother would be furious if I even thought about putting my life on hold to do that. 10-19-2020 5:48pm
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              • It would be an act of love and mine would understand my need to protect her. 10-19-2020 5:54pm
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                • By moving into a nursing home and quite possibly exposing your relatively young self to sickness and death? Foolish. 10-19-2020 5:57pm
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            • I think you are best having your mom live you in order to avoid this scenario. 10-19-2020 5:50pm
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              • Damn straight. Learned a lesson from this pandemic. No one cares about the elderly so I'll take care of mine. 10-19-2020 5:52pm
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                • what a sad outlook on humanity, but ok. 10-19-2020 5:53pm
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                • hmmm. isn't all covid mitigation about the elderly? 10-19-2020 5:53pm
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                • Talk is cheap. My mother lived with us for 18 months while recovering from a stroke and again for about a month when she entered a steep decline. It became impossible to provide...(more) 10-19-2020 5:55pm
                  the care she needed. Nursing home is a better place for her all things considered. Sucks, but there it is.
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    • I think people were thinking their loved ones were safe there. And by the time it was clear they weren't, it was too late to get anyone out 10-19-2020 5:42pm
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      • omg. 10-19-2020 5:43pm
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        • What? 10-19-2020 5:45pm
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          • this post reminds me of teh 90s daycare hysteria where kids were getting sexually abused at daycare. its rumors and unfounded truths. I work in the field of congregate care and...(more) 10-19-2020 5:47pm
            this post is rife with half-truths and falsehoods
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            • ^see below. like a horror film! sure sure. 10-19-2020 5:47pm
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            • Well that's my guess. I don't know of anyone racing to take a parent/grandparent out. 10-19-2020 5:48pm
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            • I agree. my friends have parents in assisted livign during this time and they have been thankful this was the case 10-19-2020 5:54pm
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      • That is like a horror film. 10-19-2020 5:46pm
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      • Many people in nursing home died from Covid, but the vast, vast, vast majority did not. My mother and DH's father are in NY nursing homes and they're fine and receiving care that...(more) 10-19-2020 5:51pm
        they could not get at home. It's all terrible, but let's not get carried away.
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    • Maybe they were happy nature would take its course speedily 10-19-2020 5:55pm
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    • Hmmm, will SUGGEST MIL go to nursing home. 10-19-2020 5:57pm
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  6. Tween/Teen This post has been disliked 3 times. showMIL is old and complains she is alone. Why is it our responsibility j...(more) 10-19-2020 5:14pm (55 replies)
    She never made friends and has a toxic personality. This is her own doing. Children are not your retirement plan. If you did something right, they'll want to be with you. You reap what you sow.
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showBecause a lot of boomers feel entitled and they see kids as their possessions 10-19-2020 5:14pm
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      • They're so negative and selfish 10-19-2020 5:17pm
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        • The old generation sucks 10-19-2020 5:30pm
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      • Boomers? How old is the OP's MIL? 10-19-2020 5:32pm
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    • Ignore her. 10-19-2020 5:16pm
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      • Do NOT ignore her. Shame on you 10-19-2020 5:16pm
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        • You can have her. 10-19-2020 5:17pm
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          • Your children are listening and watching. They will find excuses to abandon you. Support fsmily 10-19-2020 5:20pm
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            • I am really good to my own parents who are amazing people. MIL is a selfish and petty person. 10-19-2020 5:22pm
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              • Because she is MIL. Not your family. 10-19-2020 5:26pm
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            • No way. I don't teach my children to be in abusive relationships. Family or not. 10-19-2020 5:23pm
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              • Abusive, I agree. But most here just hate their MIL which is okay but still a family responsibility 10-19-2020 5:29pm
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    • She is your responsibility whether you like it or not. Be a good example for your children as to caring for older people in the family 10-19-2020 5:16pm
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      • She is not my responsibility. She was an abusive mother and does not deserve to be in our lives. 10-19-2020 5:16pm
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        • Your children are watching and listening. If you can discard their grandmother, they have learned it is okay to discard you 10-19-2020 5:19pm
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          • You have just sons right 10-19-2020 5:19pm
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            • I have one. But have lived with dealing family and the support starts at home 10-19-2020 5:21pm
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          • May your MIL move in with you soon after a bad fall 10-19-2020 5:19pm
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            • Then you deal. I dealt with a declining DH and can't imagine not helping a family member 10-19-2020 5:23pm
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              • Maybe you only have good family. May you never know the hell of toxic family. 10-19-2020 5:24pm
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                • Maybe but not the point. Help family. The effluvia doesn't matter. You are being selfish 10-19-2020 5:28pm
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    • Eh they just wallow and complain. I just let them fade into the background or avoid 10-19-2020 5:16pm
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      • And your children will do the same for you because that is what they learned from you 10-19-2020 5:17pm
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        • If I'm anything like my MIL, my kids can totally ghost me with my blessing lol 10-19-2020 5:19pm
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        • My children are their own people, free to fly and enjoy life. If they want to come, great. They don't owe me. 10-19-2020 5:31pm
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          • And I will never guilt them and steal their joy for my own selfish pleasure. No way. Ugh. 10-19-2020 5:33pm
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          • You say that now but you are young. We ALL say that until we need help 10-19-2020 5:35pm
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            • Nah, I'll just stop eating when it comes to that point of being a burden 10-19-2020 5:57pm
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              • You say that now but your mindset will change vastly as an older woman. Easy to be strong when you are young and strong 10-19-2020 6:09pm
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            • Whoa. So when you get old, you turn into a selfish miserable goblin to haunt your kids? 10-19-2020 5:58pm
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              • As we age, our mindset changes. Please be a good example to your children 10-19-2020 6:11pm
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    • yeah they kinda are 10-19-2020 5:17pm
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      • MIL sucks. She'll figure it out, just block her. 10-19-2020 5:18pm
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        • Even DH can't stand her. 10-19-2020 5:31pm
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    • My mother’s mental illness got somewhat out of control in her old age, and although she had many friends and relatives she was close to throughout middle age, she stopped putting...(more) 10-19-2020 5:19pm
      effort as she got old. And they either died or were as infirm as her and couldnt travel to visit. So she wound up very isolated. But a lot of it was the result of decisions she made over her lifetime
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      • Exactly. Exactly!!!! 10-19-2020 5:20pm
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      • MIL can plan for her future, develop hobbies, make friends but noooooo she has to eagerly look to us 10-19-2020 5:20pm
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        • She made her bed. Time to lie in it. She could have focused on being a better human. 10-19-2020 5:21pm
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        • With her bright and beady eyes 10-19-2020 5:26pm
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      • My MIL got so negative in her years that she was toxic to be around. No wonder everyone left her. 10-19-2020 5:21pm
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        • YounRe seeing the future. Be kind to your DIlL's as they are going to post the same ant you 10-19-2020 5:25pm
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          • Nice try. But no. I already have my retirement and tons of friends and hobbies. I'm not a human burden of misery 10-19-2020 5:27pm
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            • Good for you. Not every woman is so independent 10-19-2020 5:30pm
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              • Being alone can be wonderful. Read, watch Netflix, garden... Walks..so many fun and interesting things to do 10-19-2020 5:32pm
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                • I am doing that and am happy as an older single woman. 10-19-2020 5:36pm
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                  • Salud! 10-19-2020 5:41pm
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    • Mine refuses to wear hearing aids so I never call her. It's all WHAT???? WHAT???!!!...(more) 10-19-2020 5:25pm
      If she refuses to take measures to correct the problem, I'm not being shouted at for an hour with a defensive person who can't hear anything and refuses help.
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      • My father got that way. But he lived next door, we didnt have to scream over the phone. Except not hearing made him cranky and especially when he couldnt hear the kids and yelled...(more) 10-19-2020 6:46pm
        at them to quit mumbling. Yeah, that makes kids want to visit you more often.
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    • I think even social people who do have friends end up pretty isolated over time. Friends die, get sick, become less mobile. That's what I see with my parents and in-laws. Past 75...(more) 10-19-2020 5:26pm
      you lose friends and rely on family more.
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      • This exactly and the familial hatred here shocks me 10-19-2020 5:32pm
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        • np - ITA 10-19-2020 5:35pm
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      • Yup. But when you start rejecting the few family members of friends left - you cant expect one of even two of your offspring to replace that. 10-19-2020 6:47pm
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    • IT'S FUCKING COVID TIMES. My 95 year old dad is a great guy and people like him but they shut down his senior lunches (his big social activity) and his friends don't leave their...(more) 10-19-2020 5:32pm
      homes.
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    • Wow - I complained about my sister earlier today and people posted that she is inflexible and has a lack of empathy. A lot of you above sound just like my sister... 10-19-2020 5:34pm
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      • It seems to be directed to MILs. Man. Support family regardless of your feelings. It is the right thing to do and your children are watching 10-19-2020 5:39pm
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  7. Tween/Teen Please recommend a book on high school kids who don't want to be told what to do and are defiant. 10-14-2020 9:26pm (4 replies)
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  8. Tween/Teen Does your 13/14 yo lift weights? 10-13-2020 11:10am (7 replies)
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    • Not until 15.5 that is too young IMO 10-13-2020 11:11am
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    • He's18 now but did at 14. 10-13-2020 11:11am
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    • Mine is a serious athlete (now 19) and was told no weights until age 15. 10-13-2020 11:11am
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    • A friend told me the other day that all 14yo boys do, which was news to me. 10-13-2020 11:11am
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    • some yes. mostly uses body weight strength exercises. 10-13-2020 11:12am
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    • Yes, she just got 3rd place in a CrossFit competition. She wants to be a CrossFit athlete 10-13-2020 11:15am
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    • My 13 does a lot of pushups, that kind of stuff but no weights yet 10-13-2020 11:19am
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  9. Tween/Teen Recs for Colleges/Voc.Schools for budding Rap Artist DS with SN...(more) 10-12-2020 9:30am (0 replies)
    My DS is in private SN HS in NYC. Looking at Five Towns, Garnish, LIU-Brooklyn, Mercy, New Haven & New School who all have audio engineering/music programs. Any thoughts or other suggestions? Concerned about available and quality of SN support services to extent he will need those, primarily for slow processing and executive functioning. Finding New Haven to be the most receptive, so far, in that regard. The last year to two years DS believes he's found his calling: to be a rap artist and rap music producer. He has no formal music training other than SN HS's music classes but is working with two coaches/tutors one-on-one and is learning a lot re equipment and music theory and, so far, remains focused and dedicated. He has ear and can make pitch. Wants to stay regional to NYC.
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  10. Tween/Teen Preteen daughter obsessed with a k pop group...(more) 10-10-2020 2:22pm (2 replies)
    I need help... my preteen daughter is obsessed with BTS and all she does all day is sit in her room and watch videos of them and cry. or listen to thier music and cry. she says she loves a certain member SO much. its not healthy at this point... I've tried to tell her to take some deep breathes and that shes bordering on obsession and she just says ok then shuts her door and cries some more!
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    • Sounds pretty normal to me 10-10-2020 2:33pm
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  11. Tween/Teen My dd doesn't have to wear her brace for scoliosis anymore. Her spine is just about straight and it appears she'll stay that way. I'm so happy for her. 9-26-2020 6:42pm (27 replies)
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    • Yay! THAT'S AMAZING 9-26-2020 6:43pm
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      • Thank you! :) 9-26-2020 6:44pm
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    • Did she have to wear it all the time? Or just at night? 9-26-2020 6:43pm
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      • For the first 6 months she wore it 22 hours a day. The last 3 years, only at night. 9-26-2020 6:45pm
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        • Thank you. My dd has scoliosis and may need to do this. She goes back for another check in 2 months 9-26-2020 6:46pm
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          • Where are you located? 9-26-2020 6:48pm
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            • Nyc 9-26-2020 6:50pm
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              • We used a Rigo Cheneau brace. If you need a first or second opinion, see Dr. Benjamin Roye. Look into the Rigo Cheneau brace, if it comes to needing a brace. 9-26-2020 6:57pm
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    • That's great. Be sure to celebrate with her. 9-26-2020 6:44pm
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    • Scoliosis mom here with rods and a uneven back (discovered too late for the brace) and I am so so happy to hear this! I know it skips a generation and my own kids have been...(more) 9-26-2020 6:45pm
      completely cleared but I will be watching grandkids like a hawk and getting them started early with the brace!
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      • Oh no. So sorry. I happened to find a wonderful place that made braces that correct the curve rather than hold the curve. We got lucky! 9-26-2020 6:46pm
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        • my curve was so severe when they discovered it that I had surgery a month later... this makes me so happy that they are progressing into TREATING it and correcting it! 9-26-2020 6:47pm
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          • ^^mine was so bad that it would have eventually crushed my heart. I thank god for that surgery but am so glad they are making progress in treatment! 9-26-2020 6:51pm
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            • It's a very sneaky thing. I'm glad you're okay. How scary for you and your family. 9-26-2020 6:53pm
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              • There was a girl in the hospital at the time I had my surgery who had it so bad she had to have surgery from the back then 2 weeks later from the front. I was lucky they caught...(more) 9-26-2020 6:55pm
                it before it came to that!
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                • Oy! Poor thing! 9-26-2020 6:59pm
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                  • they actually brought me to visit her before my surgery... kind of weird but she was so positive and so happy and it really helped me. 9-26-2020 7:00pm
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          • Slowly, slowly doctors are moving away from the Boston brace that just holds you in place. We left our first doctor because he was such a jerk to us for not using a Boston brace. 9-26-2020 6:52pm
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      • np: how was your recovery after surgery? My son is getting rods. 9-26-2020 6:47pm
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        • I was on home instruction for a month... It was pretty rough, I'll be honest. 30 years later and absolutely no problem or anything and don't even remember they're there. I'm...(more) 9-26-2020 6:49pm
          sure the surgery is better and recovery is better and easier now! Any other questions about it?
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          • Happy to hear. I'm a nervous wreck and will be happy when the surgery is behind us. 9-26-2020 6:54pm
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            • When is he having the surgery? 9-26-2020 6:55pm
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              • ^^and don't be scared... they are experts at this by now... they actually woke me up in the middle of it (I don't remember, they told me I wouldn't) to ask me to move my toes and...(more) 9-26-2020 6:59pm
                fingers...) to ensure everything was lined up perfectly and safe. That was 30 years ago!!! They have likely made SO much progress since then! Good luck to your ds, I'm sure he will be absolutely fine :)
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      • I commented above. I have a dd with mild scoliosis and I also have it. I never had to have treatment though 9-26-2020 6:47pm
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        • OR- my brother and sister both have it but its so slight they have never needed treatment. I was the only lucky one LOL 9-26-2020 6:51pm
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    • Wonderful news!!! Congratulations!! 9-26-2020 6:45pm
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  12. Tween/Teen I find it confusing that hybrid schooling in my town requires social distancing and masks but most kids I know are playing soccer, hockey, etc w no restrictions. Is this happe...(more) 9-24-2020 10:46pm (8 replies)
    no restrictions. Is this happening where you are?
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    • yes 9-24-2020 10:46pm
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    • We are back full time (masks) and sports are also happening (mostly masked but they remove for hockey on the ice, we are in a cohort) 9-24-2020 10:46pm
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    • No, sports have restrictions same as school (masks unless actually playing, distancing everywhere except in the actual game etc) 9-24-2020 10:47pm
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    • Yes. 9-24-2020 10:47pm
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    • Yes same here. Makes no sense 9-24-2020 10:50pm
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    • Yes. We are in person school with masks, etc, but my kids slobber all over each other football practice. It’s fine. They are kids. Why should they suffer? 9-24-2020 10:51pm
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    • The kids playing sports have a higher chance of catching it 9-24-2020 10:51pm
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      • Oh well. Exercise and mental health matter too. We all have to weigh our choices. 9-24-2020 10:53pm
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  13. Tween/Teen Does anyone on have any suggestions for a virtual or home school program that uses prerecorded lessons with teachers for 7th grader? 9-21-2020 4:34pm (4 replies)
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    • Kahn academy perhpas 9-21-2020 4:35pm
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    • Will that work? Most kids need engagement. 9-21-2020 4:36pm
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      • some don't. some do better in homeschooling 9-21-2020 4:37pm
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        • right now my child is doing virtual school and feels it is moving too slow. Last year they had prerecorded classes; did their work and some teacher meetings. Looking for...(more) 9-21-2020 4:44pm
          something like this.
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    • No 9-20-2020 6:44am
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  15. Tween/Teen Can anyone recommend social skills counseling for 12 yo DD!...(more) 9-17-2020 10:09am (3 replies)
    She has social anxiety and is introverted and painfully shy. After years of isolating herself from her peers, she finally wants to join in but has no self confidence and needs some support. NYC area or virtual would work. Thanks
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    • youtube 9-17-2020 10:09am
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    • This is my dd too. ❤️ 9-17-2020 10:10am
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      • Op: what are you doing about it? It’s heartbreaking for me to watch. 9-17-2020 10:15am
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  16. Tween/Teen Is this fair, or discrimination?...(more) 9-15-2020 5:34pm (6 replies)
    Child on competitive youth sports team misses around half of the team’s practices and games due to religious observance on Saturdays. When child does attend games, they get less playing time than players who never miss practices and games, and they are never in the starting lineup. They usually play around half of each game, the same as some players but far less than others. They are a decent player but not the best on the team.
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    • I would say fair. Those who go to practice get playing time. The parents are really the ones at fault for signing their kid up for something they aren’t available to give 100% 9-15-2020 5:36pm
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    • Sounds fair to me if they’re not the only one playing that amount 9-15-2020 5:38pm
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      • More than fair. 9-15-2020 5:42pm
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    • If it weren't a competitive team I'd say the kid shouldn't be penalized for missing due to religious reasons. But if the kid (and parents) are making the decision to commit to a...(more) 9-15-2020 5:39pm
      competitive program, they're expected to be at practice. Can you find a team that doesn't have practices on Saturdays?
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    • How can you be on a competitive team and miss half the practice times? 9-15-2020 5:42pm
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    • I is fair, the parents need to pick a different team. 9-22-2020 9:39am
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  17. Tween/Teen What’s the best online tutoring service for academics and test prep? 9-14-2020 4:36pm (1 reply)
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    • For $50,000 I know a guy who can get your uncoordinated doofus Ds on to the Stanford Water Polo Team. 9-14-2020 4:41pm
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  18. Tween/Teen Maybe somebody else on here has had these feelings......(more) 9-11-2020 8:55pm (8 replies)
    We have 3 kids. Our oldest is 16 and he has been diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD. In the past he was ODD. He has been on meds and the anxiety meds seem to cause different side effects. Is latest is now being tapered off. My actual question is I feel empty when he is not around and I know there is tension. (He goes to boarding school) Why do I cater to him? I have 2 other kids? Is it being the first born?
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    • he's your child. i mean, are you saying you ignore the others, pine for this kid when he's not there? it doesn't sound that way. 9-11-2020 8:56pm
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    • He’s where al of your energy is going. When he’s not there, there’s a void. 9-11-2020 8:57pm
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    • it's so difficult for me. I am here for the others but it's so upsetting and I have a lot of energy going towards his "issues" 9-11-2020 9:00pm
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    • Do you mean you are sad that he isn’t there but you think about him constantly? 9-11-2020 9:11pm
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    • When did he start boarding school!? I have 3 and one def takes more effort and energy on my part. He’s younger but I miss him even if he’s only gone a few hours 9-11-2020 9:11pm
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      • last yr but was gone from sept - march 9-11-2020 9:14pm
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        • It’s bc he needs you the most, I think it’s normal 9-11-2020 9:15pm
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          • Is he home now bc of Covid ? 9-11-2020 9:16pm
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  19. Tween/Teen Screen time monitoring...(more) 9-11-2020 2:56pm (1 reply)
    I'm in NYC, and I'd like to use a screen time monitoring program on my kids' Chromebooks but their school uses Google Classroom and for some reason that doesn't work well with Family Link. Can anyone offer advice on a good screen time monitoring program for a Chromebook, other than Family Link? Thanks!
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    • Try Circle. I couldn't find anything that worked. 9-11-2020 3:03pm
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  20. Tween/Teen 3 more years?...(more) 9-8-2020 10:06pm (5 replies)
    My DH and I have basically been raising our DD’s , 15 and 16, as a non-married, but not divorced couple for the last two years. We have separate bedrooms. We don’t really fight that much- we just remain cordial with each other. We had a pre-nup that expired after 18 years of marriage. I worked in the family business- and definitely helped build it up for 17 years. Last year he told me to stay hom, collect a paycheck, and take care of the house and kids. The problem is that for the last 4 months he has been staying in bed until noon- then going to work. His DD from his first marriage now has my job. He told me today that she has lost over 10000 in rents not received - but that he doesn’t really care. He has rental properties-in out names and separately-and a store that never closed during COVID. We don’t love each other. Should I stay until the youngest leaves for college- but my step daughter could run the business into the ground by then-in which case I wasted
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    • Op...(more) 9-8-2020 10:09pm
      Wasted 20 years? Or, divorce him now and go for the money I worked for. I do not have retirement-
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      • get out NOW. 9-8-2020 10:12pm
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        • Op...(more) 9-8-2020 10:17pm
          Yeah- I almost left a few years ago but wanted to wait until the kids were older and the pre-nup ended. It’s not a ton of money- but I would have only had child support. He is 63, I am 54, I just cannot believe he would turn over his business to his DD.
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    • I'm sorry. This sounds very hard. I would consult a lawyer even just to talk it through. Personally, I would have been long gone. good luck! 9-8-2020 10:12pm
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    • You neeed to file now to start the clock o division of assets. Kids don’t need to know 9-8-2020 10:16pm
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  21. Tween/Teen What movies for the whole family?...(more) 8-28-2020 11:19am (5 replies)
    My family loves movie nights. But sometimes it's hard to find a good movie that suits the whole family. Do you have some ideas of movies? Maybe a movie that is a bit educational and inspiring. Nothing violent.
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    • did you do Hamilton yet 8-28-2020 11:20am
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    • Sneakers is old but holds up. its a heist style movie 8-28-2020 11:21am
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    • Jumanji 8-28-2020 11:22am
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    • How old? 8-28-2020 11:22am
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    • My kids love Hidden Figures, The Right Stuff, Apollo 13, Selma 8-28-2020 11:24am
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  22. Tween/Teen Chess...(more) 8-22-2020 3:42pm (9 replies)
    My daughter loves chess and would like to be on a team in high school. Does anyone know anything about which private high schools have good chess teams (or teams at all?)
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    • does she have a ranking? 8-22-2020 3:42pm
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    • good for her!! 8-22-2020 3:44pm
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    • SO we are to assume NYC? 8-22-2020 3:44pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 8-22-2020 3:49pm
        oh sorry yes nyc. I haven't posted before! She is probably around 2000, 2100
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        • The best teams are the public HSs in NYC 8-22-2020 4:00pm
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        • Psst- everyone posts on Toddler board and you type in subject line only unless run out of room 8-22-2020 4:10pm
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    • I just checked the NY State Girls Chess Championships from last year. The private school teams are: Dalton and Chapin. 8-22-2020 4:03pm
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      • Thanks for this info - sorry to be such a rube! 8-22-2020 4:52pm
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  23. Tween/Teen Have you ever hired a college essay writing coach. My kid has issues focusing on choosing a topic and I wonder if I should hire her help? 8-18-2020 11:02am (18 replies)
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    • this really seems like something you and she could manage on your own 8-18-2020 11:03am
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      • Writing is not my thng. So no. 8-18-2020 11:03am
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      • I truly think that a high school rising senior should be able to write a 1-2 page paper (the max is 650 words) ON THEIR OWN on any topic of their choice. Perhaps, if they can't,...(more) 8-18-2020 11:05am
        they aren't ready for college.
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        • You have no idea what you are talking about. They have a very short space and need to convey a lot about themselves in that time while somewhat answering one of the prompts. 8-18-2020 11:08am
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        • Seriously dumb thing to say. Even a professional writer has editors. A second set of eyes that is NOT mom and dad is always useful. 8-18-2020 11:10am
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    • We did. I just found that he wouldn't listen to me and that they could push him to get deeper into the writing. The word limit means that every word counts and they understand how...(more) 8-18-2020 11:03am
      to get your child to divulge a lot about themselves through story telling
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      • How did you find the person 8-18-2020 11:04am
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        • A friend recommended her. And as someone else said, they are pricey so get ready 8-18-2020 11:07am
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    • Sure - if you can afford it - do it. Sometimes it's better to have a stranger to talk it out with 8-18-2020 11:06am
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    • yes. i'm in florida but im sure she works remotely. i won't post her info here but if you want it we can figure out a way 8-18-2020 11:06am
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      • Someone you used as a writing coach? 8-18-2020 11:08am
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    • you write a paper about something you are passionate about - period. It's not really rocket science. 8-18-2020 11:06am
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    • Also whatever she begins with will be really different by the final one. I am wondering how I can get you my person. She is in Boston, but they did it all over the phone. 8-18-2020 11:13am
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    • Another senior parent here: anyone willing to post their person? Done with the madness here. Have to move on to the professionals. 8-18-2020 11:14am
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      • I am trying to find a way to get her name/contact to both of you. Any ideas? 8-18-2020 11:19am
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        • I can give you my ‘email’ address 8-19-2020 11:44am
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      Lori?
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  24. Tween/Teen I just learned that my 16yo dd is strongly influenced by her 16 yo friend and I am struggling with how to explain to my daughter this concept....(more) 8-10-2020 7:17am (5 replies)
    She has the school smarts but definitely not street smarts. She also has ADHD and completely stopped listening to me after getting real close with this friend. Her schoolwork and potential to apply to college is suffering as her rebellion is self sabotaging. She had school under control up until she got closer with her friend. She said that her friend just listens to her problems and thats all. Should I just let it be and have natural consequences happen? Just hurts mento think she will screw up because of this influence. Anyone btdt? I am in totally uncharted territory.
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    • I wouldn’t just let it be. She’s still so young and too many big consequences of not doing anything. 8-10-2020 7:20am
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      • What can I do? 8-10-2020 7:36am
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    • does she get therapy? 8-10-2020 7:20am
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      • She does. But her therapist says she is guarded 8-10-2020 7:35am
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    • She's a teen, and you are seeing the effects of peer pressure. You will see many iterations of this and can guide her, but I have noticed parents who are too pushy often get...(more) 8-11-2020 12:45am
      shut out and their DC may seek bf/gf/spouses/other friends who are not positive influences. I think your dd is old enough to choose friends.
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  25. Tween/Teen Teen dd has self esteem issues I think....(more) 8-9-2020 7:08pm (2 replies)
    Teen daughter TikTok. We found teen had a TikTok wearing bikinis and provocative. How bad is this? She also lied and went to see a college boy. She is 17. She is starting therapy.
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    • I would more worry about going to see a college boy. Is she using condoms and bc? 8-9-2020 7:10pm
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      • Yes she is. But isn’t this a whole package of low self esteem? She doesn’t seem to understand why it’s bad. 8-9-2020 7:22pm
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