Tween/Teen
- Tween/Teen Why are high schoolers so lightly dressed?...(more)
- you want everyone to say, oh those sluts are like all sluts, just wearing as little as possible
- It’s not slurry clothing, just clothing that doesn’t seem weather appropriate
- I have been freezing at high school in my uniform pieces, and later hot in an office in anything but sleeveless. I have to leave the house without layers to cool down enough. Some...(more)
- My point is that students aren’t dressed warm when they’re outside in the freezing cold
- my other point is that some people don't really feel cold until they are adults
- Whether you feel the cold or not, it’s dangerous for your health
- lol, no it isn't. otherwise millions of middle school and HS kids would be dead.
- They do get sick though
- lol, no it isn't. otherwise millions of middle school and HS kids would be dead.
- Whether you feel the cold or not, it’s dangerous for your health
- my other point is that some people don't really feel cold until they are adults
- My point is that students aren’t dressed warm when they’re outside in the freezing cold
- I have been freezing at high school in my uniform pieces, and later hot in an office in anything but sleeveless. I have to leave the house without layers to cool down enough. Some...(more)
- It’s not slurry clothing, just clothing that doesn’t seem weather appropriate
- My son is in middle school and it’s the same story for me
- Bizarre that she dresses like that. Is she anemic?
- Why is that bizarre?
- overkill. especially for a HS kid.
- I do not think it’s overkill, it keeps her warm
- overkill. especially for a HS kid.
- Why is that bizarre?
- My ds refuses to wear a winter coat.
- I hope it’s not cold then!
- snowpants for a wlak to school? that is strange.
- It’s very cold, the snow pants keep her legs warm
- Does she take that stuff off at school? I took dd to a ha interview last year and one girl kept her large down parka on for the interview. I think she felt insulated and safe...(more)
- Yeah she does. And that is strange, what kind of interview was it?
- Young warm blood
- That blood won’t keep them from getting sick
- where do you live? are you the mom who posts all the time about snow pants?
- you want everyone to say, oh those sluts are like all sluts, just wearing as little as possible
- Tween/Teen Posted about this before. Tween got dumped by her BFF for the popular girl. She's no in a clique of girls who want nothing to do with my DD. It's a very, very small school, so...(more)
- that sounds awful
- She needs to move on. It sucks. I'm sorry
- bigger school
- Step back. Encourage outside of school friendships. I know how hard it is.
- How old? Will she switch schools soon?
- tell her she doesn't want to be friends with assholes anyway. hopefully she's getting colse to going to a bigger school.
- She'll change schools next year. The school is very, very small, so she doesn't have options for other friends. I've tried everything -- encouraged outside interests, forced a...(more)
- Oh that stinks. Has she read Wonder? The girl in there goes through similar shit and it could be...(more)
- Thanks.
- Tween/Teen DD brought a dress (gift card) not really appropriate for the school dance. It's way too formal. Tried saying something, but she's digging in her heels. Let and go and let her...(more)
- It’s fine
- Let it go unless its inappropriate because it's too revealing
- Better over dressed than under dressed. If she wants to wear it, what’s the problem?
- What’s your problem?
- Mean mom.
- Why would you bother putting your mommy foot down? What’s this really about?
- I assume you were trying to save her from embarrassment. I would not do that with authority, but perhaps you can lay some breadcrumbs for her to follow and arrive at the conclusion herself that it is...(more)
- Nah when she comes home embarrassed you can just say I told ya so!
- wow, that's a great way to think.
- Who did she go shopping with?
- Let it go - I'd only step in if it was inappropriate (ie, slutty looking)
- Send her with a cardigan so she can dress it down.
- OP: DD is adhd so doesn't have great social skills, which is why I worry. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't care.
- let her be her own person.
- Tween/Teen Where to find snow suits large enough for teens?...(more)
- how about just snow pants
- and a ski jacket.
- I don’t like ski jackets, they’re too short
- Great idea thanks!
- and a ski jacket.
- snow suits? lol
- What’s funny about that
- When I think of snowsuits I think of babies and toddlers. Funny thinking of a teen in a snowsuit. You mean snow pants?
- What’s funny about that
- how about just snow pants
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- I don’t allow it. That’s all.
- ^^havr a 10 and 13yo. Neither have it.
- how do you control it? do you have a parental control app or something?
- No. iPads and phones are kept in a common area of the house. Kids have to ask permission (through parental controls) to download apps.
- ^^and they know we can check their phones and iPads whenever we choose. (We don’t really. But we can)
- at what age will you loosen up? do you have a plan?
- I’m thinking high school. As I said below my oldest hasn’t really shown interest. So until he does- I won’t bring it up. If he never does then fine. Younger one asks about it all...(more)
- ok. i would be careful about being too restrictive. you might inadvertently create a monster.
- Ok. Thanks for your input. I can raise my own kids.
- i am not trying to raise them. i am just saying making something a forbidden fruit can have a downside.
- Ok. Thanks for your input. I can raise my own kids.
- ok. i would be careful about being too restrictive. you might inadvertently create a monster.
- I’m thinking high school. As I said below my oldest hasn’t really shown interest. So until he does- I won’t bring it up. If he never does then fine. Younger one asks about it all...(more)
- No. iPads and phones are kept in a common area of the house. Kids have to ask permission (through parental controls) to download apps.
- Really?
- Yes really. They are too young, IMO. Maybe next year for my oldest. But he’s. It really interested. So until he shows interest I won’t Bring it up
- how do you control it? do you have a parental control app or something?
- ^^havr a 10 and 13yo. Neither have it.
- I don’t allow it. That’s all.
- Tween/Teen Is there a way I could get the school to give my daughter a bigger locker?...(more)
- hahahahahahhahahahahaah
- How do other students manage?
- yeah...maybe don't have any locker accessories in there.
- They mostly get driven to school, so they don’t wear as much winter gear
- how old is your dc?
- 12
- Boots can sit outside the locker right in front
- if in elementary school, they normally do this. They make them all sit on a floor mat
- She’s in middle school, but I’ll ask her to f she can do that
- boots go in the bottom of the locker. coat gets scrunched in there. I'm not sure why this is an issue.
- Do kids in middle school still get time to play at recess? My middle schooler who is in sixth grade has half an hour for lunch and recess so he never even goes out. Plus half...(more)
- Most kids are undressed for the weather, but I make sure my daughter is properly bundled up
- She’s in middle school, but I’ll ask her to f she can do that
- if in elementary school, they normally do this. They make them all sit on a floor mat
- Does she walk a far distance to school?
- It’s a 30 minute walk
- Omg it’s not snowing yet wtf ?
- no 12 yo wears snow pants to school.
- Tween/Teen How many ED apps do the typical top students submit these days?
- what?
- they can only do one. it's ED
- One
- one.
- 1
- fuck you
- one
- How many eyes does the one-eyed man have?
- early decision is a commitment to one school. early action gives you early knowledge but not a commitment. if you dont get into your ed some schools allow for an ed2, a second...(more)
- One, plus maybe a couple early action
- Tween/Teen Feel my dd is being bullied, but in a very underhanded way, at her very small private school. The girl doing the bullying her her former BFF that dumped her for the popular girl....(more)
- thats not underhanded
- Doesn't sound underhanded. What a mean girl. In a perfect world you could talk to the girl's mother. That rarely works though..
- Mother is a lovely person but in denial abut her little darling.
- nastiness is not the same as bulying
- really?
- really
- really?
- So calling a teen girl and imbecile and bitch is not bullying?
- Change schools
- Go to teacher first.
- Can she switch classes?
- School is super, super small. Can't change. Also, it's a private school, so I can't change.
- Public school? My kids have plenty of friend options if there is B in the group.
- Small, small school for kids with learning issues, so really can't change. irony is when my daughter was in a big public school she didn't have these issues. Now in an expensive...(more)
- I'm really sorry she is going through this. I've let my dd's vent away at home. Home is a safe zone to refer to the mean girls for what they are. My kids are allowed ot use any...(more)
- I kinda do the same. Did you ever report the kid?
- I'm really sorry she is going through this. I've let my dd's vent away at home. Home is a safe zone to refer to the mean girls for what they are. My kids are allowed ot use any...(more)
- Small, small school for kids with learning issues, so really can't change. irony is when my daughter was in a big public school she didn't have these issues. Now in an expensive...(more)
- Public school? My kids have plenty of friend options if there is B in the group.
- School is super, super small. Can't change. Also, it's a private school, so I can't change.
- Tween/Teen This post has been disliked 3 times. My dd turned 9 in Nov, she is in 3rd grade. Her haShe started precocious puberty when she was 7 3/4 (breast budding). I am considering giving her Lupron shots to delay puberty....(more)
- I wouldn't.
- Why not?
- I would worry about cancer and what not and also just want her to feel ok with her body as is. She is 9 now. Not so far off
- Why not?
- wait sorry, I don't understand. she does or doesn't need to gain height?
- op - gaining height would be nice. but that isn't the real reason i'm doing it. i don't want her to get her period in 4th grade. she is only 4'5 now. potential to be 5'1. but ...(more)
- my dd had similar, and we didn't. it was a close call with he height. I am tiny and she is too but we're ok with that.
- ^^^ normal tiny
- Np- what age did she get her period?
- right before she turned 11
- My DD is on track for getting hers before 11 too. Probably by 10.5. How much taller did your DD get after?
- ^thanks
- a couple of inches. She's 13 now and 4'11" and 1/2 (same as me!)
- Oh so that was probably going to be her height or close to it no matter what, I would imagine.
- true! how tall is your dd now?
- She is 4’10 but I’m 5’4” and my DH is 6’ so I feel like she is not going to reach potential
- maybe not but she for sure will reach a normal height, since she is basically there already. I wouldn't do the Lupron. what does the dr. say?
- She says she wouldn’t either
- well there you go.
- She says she wouldn’t either
- maybe not but she for sure will reach a normal height, since she is basically there already. I wouldn't do the Lupron. what does the dr. say?
- She is 4’10 but I’m 5’4” and my DH is 6’ so I feel like she is not going to reach potential
- true! how tall is your dd now?
- Oh so that was probably going to be her height or close to it no matter what, I would imagine.
- what grade was that? how was it social/emotionally for her to handle?
- My DD is on track for getting hers before 11 too. Probably by 10.5. How much taller did your DD get after?
- right before she turned 11
- They're fine if only used for a year or so. We're looking into it for our trans son.
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- How all is she now?
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- May I ask what makes the endo way it’s six months away?
- ^say, not way
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- I see. Thank you
- May I ask what makes the endo way it’s six months away?
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- np: what is the implant?
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- what age did she start breast budding. is supreline same side effects at lupron? suprelin is nice b/c you don't need monthly shots to cause anxiety,...(more)
- How all is she now?
- My dd is in the same position and we decided against lupron. Other than emotional benefits, the potential unknown risks really outweighed the good. But she is mature and...(more)
- ^^also I know every case is different but our ends said it wouldn’t increase her height much if any at all
- How old is she and how tall?
- Just turned 9 and around 4’10”. Dh and I are extremely tall and ends thinks she will be average height.
- So the endo thinks that whether you delay or not her height will be the same?
- Yes that is what she said
- That’s interesting to hear
- Yes that is what she said
- So the endo thinks that whether you delay or not her height will be the same?
- Just turned 9 and around 4’10”. Dh and I are extremely tall and ends thinks she will be average height.
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- Aww that is awful, I’m sorry your dd is going through that. I really hate the idea of my dd having such a young period but they make the special underwear now and i bought some...(more)
- Np- can you link or tell the brand?
- There are a couple, one is knixteen, thinx, there are even period swimsuits!
- Thank you!!
- There are a couple, one is knixteen, thinx, there are even period swimsuits!
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- I would push your endo because mine said lupron is not proven to increase height much at all even when period is delayed
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- I would push your endo because mine said lupron is not proven to increase height much at all even when period is delayed
- Np- can you link or tell the brand?
- Aww that is awful, I’m sorry your dd is going through that. I really hate the idea of my dd having such a young period but they make the special underwear now and i bought some...(more)
- i wouldn't do it. i was in your dd's shoes growing up. i had my period at age 9 and was 5'6" in 4th grade. i was taller than many of my teachers and painfully thin. i was...(more)
- You were already tall though. It’s a different calculus when you are concerned your child may not reach five feet.
- This- and you’ve also scared me because you’re saying you didn’t grow at all after your period.
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- ah, i had it backwards - i thought op was worried about too tall. honestly, the dd is almost there already to be normal height.
- op - gaining height would be nice. but that isn't the real reason i'm doing it. i don't want her to get her period in 4th grade. she is only 4'5 now. potential to be 5'1. but...(more)
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- op - gaining height would be nice. but that isn't the real reason i'm doing it. i don't want her to get her period in 4th grade. she is only 4'5 now. potential to be 5'1. but...(more)
- This- and you’ve also scared me because you’re saying you didn’t grow at all after your period.
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- how was it having your period in 3rd/4th grade?
- You were already tall though. It’s a different calculus when you are concerned your child may not reach five feet.
- has anyone heard that otc 1mg melatonin Lowers estrogen more naturally?
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- I wouldn't.
- Tween/Teen Daughter got dumped by BFF for the popular girl. Former BFF, popular girl and another are all over social media about their girl power, fun times. I tell my daughter to stay off...(more)
- tale as old as time...
- except now SM compounds/publicizes it
- No.social media. My kids do not have issues so I'm lax but it's not for every kid. Sorry about your DD
- Thanks. I compare her watching social media to like watching your former cheating husband date your sister or neighbors.
- Yes. And I realize this post might have been smug...my kids are very not popular put of loop that's why no issues and dont care.
- Believe me. My daughter has never been the popular one. She's struggled making friends, which is why this perhaps stings so.
- Yes. And I realize this post might have been smug...my kids are very not popular put of loop that's why no issues and dont care.
- Thanks. I compare her watching social media to like watching your former cheating husband date your sister or neighbors.
- ugh, poor dd. it happens to everyone-but now w/social media it's all out there. blech. it just takes time. focus on building other friendships.
- How old is she?
- OR When kids were mean to me when I was a kid, I felt better just listening to my dad trash them. He never swore normally and was generally a kind person, but when someone was...(more)
- I like your dad. Go dad. I'm kinda in his camp. :))
- He ALWAYS took my side when it came to social stuff. I'm sure I did some things wrong and deserved a stern talking-to, but when it came to drama, it was never my fault and the...(more)
- I'm really diggin' your dad now.
- that's so much better than my mom-she was always "turn the other cheek" which just really made me feel like a victim. i'm def more like your dad-when it's something egregious ...(more)
- My mom said the same - hit to me and it gave me the victim mentality and I ended up with some horrible boyfriends/bosses
- He ALWAYS took my side when it came to social stuff. I'm sure I did some things wrong and deserved a stern talking-to, but when it came to drama, it was never my fault and the...(more)
- omg this is what we kind of do too. we do a little trash talking. although i let dd trash talk because i don't want to be quoted.
- LOL yes, me too. DH made the mistake of telling DD that her frenemie was "insecure" and DD took that to school and said it to her face. :-/
- "my dad says you're insecure"? that seems like asking for a beat-down.
- exactly! i'm always thinking "little shit" and have to bite my tongue.
- OP: First time I met the popular/mean girl I had her number and was thinking that.
- LOL yes, me too. DH made the mistake of telling DD that her frenemie was "insecure" and DD took that to school and said it to her face. :-/
- I like your dad. Go dad. I'm kinda in his camp. :))
- OR When kids were mean to me when I was a kid, I felt better just listening to my dad trash them. He never swore normally and was generally a kind person, but when someone was...(more)
- BTDT. Does she have other close friends? I found it best to keep dd busy and focused on new friendships. I also allowed her to bad mouth the old friend to me. I let her vent...(more)
- She's struggled with friendships. So, was thrilled when she and this girl connected. It seemed like a good, healthy bond. She's spooked by he incident and worries what will...(more)
- She'll find her people in HS. Most do.
- Hang on tight. There is a lot of shifting heading into HS. The already cool crowd solidifies and pulls in some new members....(more)
- This is great advice. NP
- Great advice, indeed.
- I really wish she could talk to my 9th grade dd. Hearing from older teens is really helpful.
- I too. What would your 9th grader say??????
- She would recognize the shittiness of 8th grade and that things truly do get better in HS. The popular crowd is less relevant and she will find her tribe. I know I'll get flamed...(more)
- Hearing it from another teenager is better than from an "old" adult.
- I too. What would your 9th grader say??????
- She's struggled with friendships. So, was thrilled when she and this girl connected. It seemed like a good, healthy bond. She's spooked by he incident and worries what will...(more)
- if your dd was friends with the same popular girl would you be okay ?
- Popular girl is a classic insecure media girl. Her BFF didn't come back to school this year, so for day one she moved in on my daughter's BFF. I knew it was going to happen. I...(more)
- It wouldn’t sting so badly if she wasn’t on social media. Be the parent and disconnect her.
- Agreed. How old is she?
- I am. Believe me I am. It's rubbing the friendship in your face and beyond painful.
- I actually feel like parents need to talk more to their kids about what they post. Why do they need to post friend pics on instagram, all it serves to do is make someone feel left...(more)
- That's what social media is for though.
- that doesn't make it ok. It only needs to be shared with the people who were there. It astonishes me when moms post their kids bday party pictures on facebook. So we can all see...(more)
- Does this still happen in middle school?? I haven't found that (my dd in 7th)
- that doesn't make it ok. It only needs to be shared with the people who were there. It astonishes me when moms post their kids bday party pictures on facebook. So we can all see...(more)
- that EXACTLY what these girls WANT to do....they want everyone to know that they are at the mall together...and in my dd's school they all have snap maps enabled for everyone so...(more)
- we can still parent our kids, can't we? tell them to really try to not engage in this behaviour?
- OP: Can relate. That's my dd former best friend. Now that she's with the popular girl, she thinks she's in. She has an annoying habit of saying mean things to my daughter and...(more)
- it takes girls SOOOOO LONG at this age to realize they need to cut people like this off. Most adults would just stop after a day or so...or the first snub....lol, I've told my dd...(more)
- You go, mom! Great advice. I see the former BFF gaslighting my daughter and it pisses me off to no end!
- it takes girls SOOOOO LONG at this age to realize they need to cut people like this off. Most adults would just stop after a day or so...or the first snub....lol, I've told my dd...(more)
- That's what social media is for though.
- I actually feel like parents need to talk more to their kids about what they post. Why do they need to post friend pics on instagram, all it serves to do is make someone feel left...(more)
- how old is she?
- 13. 8th grade.
- A similar thing happened to me in 7th grade. Fucked me up but made me better. Not much you can do. This too shall pass
- np-the WORST age. ugh. poor dd!
- 13. 8th grade.
- this middle school stuff just sucks.....dd's friendship with her BFF seems to be one of the few that have endured the start of 6th grade....and even though I think they always...(more)
- To compound the problem, a boy who has a crush on the popular girl likes to call my dd and kinda vent/get the scoop on the popular girl. Last night he called on this group chat...(more)
- One more thing - don't bring the girl up at all. If your dd wants to talk about her fine.
- Thanks. And good advice.
- tale as old as time...
- Tween/Teen DD's BFF dumped her for the popular girl. Beyond painful to watch. Can't figure out why three girls can't hang out together. Painful.
- this has happened to my dd three times. brutal.
- Three times. So sorry. How did your daughter handle it? You handle it? Painful because my dd struggled with friendships, so was delighted to finally have one. It's a super
- Also, my dd's school is super small, which makes it worse.
- She has handled it like a champ. She just moved on each time. I feel like it took a toll though.
- ^^^ she now hangs out almost exclusively with the boys.
- She has handled it like a champ. She just moved on each time. I feel like it took a toll though.
- how old is she? this happened to my DD and i feel like it was a good life lesson -- although so painful to watch
- 13. What was the net with your daughter?
- my DD was 12 when it happened. she got up from the mean girl lunch table and sat with some other girls -- it also taught her not to put all her eggs in one "friend" basket - she...(more)
- 13. What was the net with your daughter?
- So painful. She will be fine in the long run, but it's tough!
- Tough because the school is super, super small. So now that these two have run off together, my daughter is out in the cold. It strikes me at the core. So hard to watch.
- I'm sorry :(
- Thanks, I seriously don't know what three girls can't hang out. WTF?
- I'm sorry :(
- Tough because the school is super, super small. So now that these two have run off together, my daughter is out in the cold. It strikes me at the core. So hard to watch.
- this has happened to my dd three times. brutal.
- Tween/Teen When did your dd get interested in boys? When did they go on their first date?
- 13 /15
- My dd just flatly stated, I'm not gay, but I'm not into boys yet. She's worried because all of her friends are boy crazy.
- She’s better off. Boys can be very distracting
- My dd just flatly stated, I'm not gay, but I'm not into boys yet. She's worried because all of her friends are boy crazy.
- 7th grade
- 9. hasn't dated yet but she's only 11
- 13 /15
- Tween/Teen Follow up to post about mom telling me my daughter might not make the list for her daughter’s Birthday party. Should I text her to see if my daughter made list. Just keep checking...(more)
- It was rude, I’d ignore the whole matter.
- what???
- let it go and distance yourself
- Are you kidding? Dd and I would have plans on that day.
- Yeah, way better plans than snooty-pants' bday party
- I really think you need to work on your self esteem
- NOOOOO. absolutely not. assume she didn't, plan something fun w/dd for that day, and start encouraging dd to develop other friendships. and if you're friends w/the mom, i would be...(more)
- This
- np. Absolutely. That friendship is over. Be pleasant and keep your distance
- I’d tell her thanks but No thanks - your kid won’t attend
- Tween/Teen I am friends with mom of one of 11 yo dd’s friend and she told me all about daughter’s birthday party then she said, “Dontvtell your daughter, she might not make the list.” Girls...(more)
- so rude
- Rude and I usually roll my eyes at this kind of birthday party politics thread. That’s rude, no question.
- ditto
- I would have laughed and said, "Wow. That was really rude."
- Wish I had but I was a little shocked
- np: this - if you are friends with the mom - you have carte blanche but that's the reality of 11 year old politics - she was refreshingly honest and planting a seed I think. She...(more)
- i would distance from a person like this, she is NOT a friend and never can be with this thinking
- Very very rude!
- Totally rude.
- How are you friends with this woman?
- That is beyond rude!! Why even mention it to you? If she is invited I’d still be annoyed. That mom is an ass
- I keep checking my email for an invite and nothing yet. Looking like my daughter didn’t make the cut.
- Ugh. That stinks
- I keep checking my email for an invite and nothing yet. Looking like my daughter didn’t make the cut.
- beyond rude
- op: should I text the mom and ask her if my daughter made the list? Tired of not knowing and worrying about it
- Our mothers never worried like we do. I hate this. I don’t think I’d text that mom. Seems like you’d be groveling
- nooooooo! assume she's not. i'm sorry for dd. and for you. this age sucks and this woman (and i'm sure her dd) are awful.
- Tween/Teen My 16 yo DS is invited to his friends 16th birthday which will be in the home of the boys grandma. I just saw the invite and its a party for him and his twin sister who i dont...(more)
- I'd say present for both - maybe slightly smaller for sister
- They are 16 not 6. Does your 16yo know the girl?
- It's just good manners.
- They are 16 not 6. Does your 16yo know the girl?
- I think it’s fine to just buy for his friend
- I would just buy two gifts, maybe spend a little less on each in that case.
- Just for the friend
- I do both, but just the one would be okay too.
- ^^I'd
- Ask DS his opinion. He probably has a better feel for what's appropriate. FWIW I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.
- 16 isn't 6. I think 1 is fine
- 1 is probably fine, but I personally would also send like a box of bath bombs along for sister as well. You'll never regret being kind.
- if both kids' names are listed as birthday honorees on invite, buy for both
- One for his friend. If he is friends with both then one for each, if only friends with boy, then I think it’s okay to buy only on gift.
- I'd say present for both - maybe slightly smaller for sister
- Tween/Teen Going rate for Bat Mitzvah on Upper East side (private school)? TIA
- $1000 per head, piker
- ridiculous
- Piker
- ridiculous
- Figure $15,009
- to give as a gift>
- To Give as a gift
- $1000 per head, piker
- Tween/Teen ADHD H.S. Senior mean to me when I offer him help....(more)
- He’s not receptive to it, for whatever reasons. Instead of being the mother you think you should be, try listening more to what he does need and ask for. Give him more space.
- - no subject -...(more)
- You have to be able to take him in and not act only from your needs. It’s suffocating
- - no subject -...(more)
- He’s not receptive to it, for whatever reasons. Instead of being the mother you think you should be, try listening more to what he does need and ask for. Give him more space.
- Tween/Teen This post has been deleted.
- are you new here?
- He is frustrated and scared.
- Tween/Teen I have a summons for jury during in NYC in 2 weeks. How do I postpone based on being a single and stay at home mom without help? I know I have to show them birth certificates. How...(more)
- You just need to send in the birth certificate. Look online to see what exactly you need to do. I did it years ago
- Tween/Teen My 17 yr old has been on intuniv and vycsnse for years. Lately he complains of depression and we’ve had a couple of angry violent outbursts.. will discuss with psych but wondering...(more)
- Is he in therapy?
- Tween/Teen This post has been deleted.
- Tween/Teen DS having penis pain and trouble peeing...(more)
- UTI
- what a dumb flame
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- Tween/Teen This post has been disliked 3 times. Pay wife for housekeeping?...(more)
- please do better. this is like a 1
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- man up and grab a toilet brush.
- Oh, goody! A NEW troll. We’re so so lucky!
- Are you serious? I'm asking a sincere and honest question. I have a full-time job and work about 60+ hours per week....(more)
- Listen, dude, please fuck off from here. Not a place for you.
- Wow, you sound like a manhater. I'd love to know what the problem is?
- You.
- Lol, ok great advice. You should probably become a therapist with your amazing answers
- Dude, from the bottom of my heart: this new persona is for shit. At least make sure you’re entertaining enough.
- I didn't know I was here to entertain you. I just have a real question. I thought this board was for family questions
- Nope, it doesn’t. Move on.
- LOL. Yeah, right.
- I didn't know I was here to entertain you. I just have a real question. I thought this board was for family questions
- Dude, from the bottom of my heart: this new persona is for shit. At least make sure you’re entertaining enough.
- Lol, ok great advice. You should probably become a therapist with your amazing answers
- You.
- Wow, you sound like a manhater. I'd love to know what the problem is?
- Listen, dude, please fuck off from here. Not a place for you.
- Are you serious? I'm asking a sincere and honest question. I have a full-time job and work about 60+ hours per week....(more)
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- Jesus fucking Christ
- Pay wife......(more)
- No. Don’t pay her for keeping her home clean; you help too and if you really need a housekeeper, pay one.
- I help a lot in addition to my very busy day job. We are also searching for a housekeeper
- You people are nasty manhaters. I am glad that this board is just a select group of bored yenta man-hating wives....(more)
- I help a lot in addition to my very busy day job. We are also searching for a housekeeper
- please do better. this is like a 1
- Tween/Teen DH and I had a big fight over text messages. We both get home- fight becomes a conversation involving DD’s (ages 12 and 11) and I call a computer “a piece of garbage” to which he...(more)
- First therapy. then dump his sorry ass.
- what were you fighting about? In my opinion, you must give zero consideration to your "strong" dd apparently thinking you should leave.
- I think you have every right to be upset but you are also being super dramatic. I would give an ultimatum or go to counseling first before breaking the entire marriage up over a...(more)
- NP: I do not. So no, not everyone does. I never say shitty things like "You're a piece of garbage" to someone. And I think there are probably lots of people like me.
- ^and I would not put up with that. unacceptable Imo.
- OP- he never used to curse and no curses freely in front of kids. A big fight we had resulted in his toys inability to contain himself in front of kids and first leaving apt then...(more)
- Or: no that’s messed up. I’d get out.
- Your dd doesn’t want you to leave. She wants you both to be grownups and solve it. Its REALLY dysfuctional the way you’ve turned dd into an adult in this situation.
- ^^ and yes I mean YOU. Your perspective of her reaction is suuuuper dysfunctional. You need to grow way, way up. Even if dh is a child. You need to be the grown up now not dd.
- How could you know? I definitely wanted my parents to separate when I was 11. I'm so glad they did
- The fight was bc my DD needs a computer to do homework on. He has a “family” computer in kitchen area that would be ideal. For 3 years they have used and mistreated my laptops...(more)
- You know, it’s a lot cheaper to just spend $1k on another computer for the kids than to divorce your husband because he won’t let her use his.
- He’s probably financially abusive, too and won’t allow it. “Get out of MY house”? This one is a winner.
- You can buy a Chromebook laptop for $200-400. Buy one today for the kids. I know that's not solving the big problems. DH and I have some awful fights. The tension is the worst...(more)
- You both sound kind of toxic tbh.
- You know, it’s a lot cheaper to just spend $1k on another computer for the kids than to divorce your husband because he won’t let her use his.
- NP: I do not. So no, not everyone does. I never say shitty things like "You're a piece of garbage" to someone. And I think there are probably lots of people like me.
- divorce him ASAP and find someone who isn't a total loser
- Sounds like a fun home. Btdt, happily divorced. GL.
- OP- to be clear, as our fight escalated I did not say anything nice over text. I was and have been angry for years particularly over what we were arguing over. I didn’t nor do I...(more)
- You can’t solve this. Counseling might make divorce more amicable though. At least he’ll be so emotionally exhausted he might agree willingly rather than fight.
- Years? You put up with living this way and subjecting the kids to living this way for years?
- You daughter nailed it. Throw him out, divorce him, you’ve already allowed the children to be traumatized. Put an end to it.
- So you have a dd and the other kids are his?
- Are you in counseling/ couples or individual. Dh and I are in couples and he acknowledges tonsone degree that h...(more)
- Be the woman you want your dd to grow up and be. Surround your sons with an adult you want them to grow up to be. I'm not saying a perfect person but someone who is kind,...(more)
- Tween/Teen College and homesickness...(more)
- It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesn’t like the...(more)
- ^^^i have a Freshman dd playing lax
- Homesickness...(more)
- I would push hard to finish out the year, hoping it will get better.
- absolutely do not let him come home
- Is there someone at student life you can consult? Maybe tell him if he does some counseling & still wants to trx youd be more ok with the idea?
- Be supportive and tell him to keep trying and you can talk about it for next fal but he needs to give this year a chance. There’s counselingnservies at schoolnto if he needs...(more)
- My friend’s freshman dd is miserable. Not sure what theyre going to do yet. She calls mom multiple times a day which I think makes it worse for her. Not sure what theyre going to...(more)
- My roomate freshman year cried all the time, and very deliberately wouldnt involve herself in any social life at school. But she had a very strong social life/community support...(more)
- ok I will get slammed but this is what I did. my kid attend college all the way on the other side of the country. I got on the UCLA web site and found some clubs for him to...(more)
- why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable
- Yeah, good idea. I recall that homesickness feeling setting in by October, like once the excitement of the first month was over and the reality of “oh. I’m on my own” was...(more)
- some timers would say I should have made him find clubs or groups to join. but I know my kid I know what he will and won't do
- why would you be slammed for that? it sounds extremely reasonable
- Has your ds been away from home before for camp or anything like that? How did that go? It’s very early and it’s normalnto be. Home sick. You need to encourage him to...(more)
- OP here. Thanks all. He is at a very small community college far enough away from NYC, which was his choice as he hated it here. He's an only kid. I have also encouraged him to...(more)
- Very small community college may be the issue, most kids attending community college live at home so there may not be much community there for kids in the dorms.
- I think there are probably other issues in play. Anxiety, for one. Also, important for him to realize that his "life" as he knew it at home is also not the same because all of...(more)
- It happens. Compliment to you. Go back for parents weekend, have him come home for Thanksgiving, Holiday, it will be ok. He has a team. He is ok unless he doesn’t like the...(more)