Toddler

  1. Toddler This is a mom in her 50s...(more) 1 hr 48 min ago (11 replies)
    • We know. Depressing. 1 hr 46 min ago
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      • depressing how? 1 hr 42 min ago
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        • LOL - really? Look at her!! 1 hr 42 min ago
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          • Depressing because we don't look like that? 1 hr 40 min ago
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    • her boobs are still fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1 hr 45 min ago
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    • Seriously? Do we have proof that she birthed her own children ;) 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • oh for fuck sake 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • Shes selling swimwear. 1 hr 41 min ago
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      • NO it's a preview for a tv show 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • I want to have surgery immediattly now.. 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • What an inspiration! 1 hr 38 min ago
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  2. Toddler Do you think our country has an implicit bias against black & brown ppl? 1 hr 49 min ago (19 replies)
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    • Is this up for debate? 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • just asking because we are mostly white women on this board 1 hr 48 min ago
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        • Sure but I think you would have to work hard to not see it. (or to deny it) 1 hr 47 min ago
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        • You really have no idea. Thatís an assumption. 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • Of course. 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • yes. 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • it's not just implicit 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • Are you asking if the bias is actually explicit? 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • We enshrined slavery in our Constitution. Np. 1 hr 47 min ago
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        • That was explicit. Our bias has moved from explicit towards implicit. 1 hr 46 min ago
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          • there's plenty of explicit as well 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • And thatís just a start. Redlining, etc. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • Absolutely yes. ďRacial arrangement ď - even well meaning decent people have the math in their head that white is better than black. 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • .and that bias or arrangement is by everyone, regardless of race. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • Absolutely--and there are still systems in place/effects of old systems to keep things that way. Just because you don't experience something, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • Yes. And before this year I did not think so. It is now so fucking apparent. Watch Kahlif Browder story, that us the rule not the rarity 1 hr 39 min ago
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    • no. we elected a black president 1 hr 39 min ago
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    • Our country? No. But all people have an implicit bias about someone/something. 1 hr 29 min ago
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  3. Toddler Ds asked for a Fitbit for his birthday. Not sure which one to get him. 1 hr 49 min ago (1 reply)
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    • the cheap one. he'll wear it for a week then leave it in his room 1 hr 38 min ago
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  4. Toddler How much should I give an employee at a small cafe I own as a cash wedding gift? 1 hr 49 min ago (3 replies)
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    • $100-200 and accommodate on scheduling that week 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • Yes all his shifts have been rearranged. The money wouldnít be coming from the business as I have a partner who wasnít invited. Should I give 100 or 200? 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • Think of all your employees and choose a numbrer that you can do for all when things come up 1 hr 44 min ago
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  5. Toddler I have hard boiled eggs that have been sitting in my fridge since Easter. Still good or gross? 1 hr 52 min ago (4 replies)
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    • gross 1 hr 51 min ago
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    • fine actually. Wawa sells hb eggs and they have a long shelf life 1 hr 50 min ago
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      • They are still in the shells 1 hr 49 min ago
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        • Never mind looked it up. All the sites say one week 1 hr 45 min ago
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  6. Toddler Can someone explain the differences in the north fork towns as far as people, economics, beaches etc? 1 hr 52 min ago (3 replies)
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    • Rocky beaches, less pretentious, much more low key, quaint 1 hr 50 min ago
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      • I think she means which are the nice ones - like greenpoint etc 1 hr 48 min ago
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        • Ohh. I just know Shelter Island really well 1 hr 47 min ago
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  7. Toddler Dh cannot maintain an iphone. Always breaking, screen cracking, charger port getting fucked up. Hos phone is always dead. It makes me fucking insane. 1 hr 53 min ago (7 replies)
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    • Get him a Samsung Galaxy. 1 hr 53 min ago
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      • Why? 1 hr 52 min ago
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        • We have them in our family and no one ever cracks their screen or has to deal with half the crap our Iphone friends compain about. 1 hr 50 min ago
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          • my dh has broken one of each - np 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • Get him a lifeproof case 1 hr 52 min ago
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    • Get a case that has a cover. Get a screen protector. 1 hr 51 min ago
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    • Have him go to ifixit on youtube so he can start learning to repair on his own. 1 hr 36 min ago
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  8. Toddler Iím sure Iíll be flamed for this, my mom had food and body issues growing up. She rarely ate normally in front of me, always had comments about food and body types. Iím so screwed...(more) 1 hr 54 min ago (7 replies)
    Up to this day about it. I feel like while itís good to maintain a healthy weight, itís also really important as parents to model healthy behaviors. This whole fasting thing bothers me because of how I grew up.
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    • My best friend is the same way. Her mother always focused on her weight and her strongest memory of her mother is how her mother always commented on everyones weight, good and...(more) 1 hr 52 min ago
      bad.
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      • ^my friend struggles with it every day. She loos great but she admits her weight is always on her mind and she feels like a lesser person if she agins weight. 1 hr 51 min ago
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      • Itís a horrible way to raise kids, IMO. I have a really fucked up relationship with food and my body. Iím better than I used to be, but Iíd never do this to my kids. 1 hr 50 min ago
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    • This is me. Iím a terrible example to my kids, raised by a terrible example. 1 hr 49 min ago
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      • I donít talk about their weight or monitor their diet or anything. I just am always dieting. 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • You can break the chain. It just has to be a conscious effort. Seriously, donít do this to them. 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • i get it. trust me, my mom had issues that haunt me. but...you're a grown-up! you're capable of transcending your childhood and deciding on your own relationship with food. truly. 1 hr 42 min ago
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  9. Toddler Thi is why average women think like they do...it takes lots of $$$$$ at this age...(more) 1 hr 54 min ago (9 replies)
    • Donor egg. Celebrities need to be honest about donor eggs. They trick women into thinking they have rime 1 hr 53 min ago
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      • TIME 1 hr 53 min ago
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      • Maybe its nattural. You dont know. Theyíve been marrired for 7 years. I doubt they waited this long to have a baby 1 hr 50 min ago
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    • No one deliberately puts off having a baby until 50 because they read a celebrity had a baby then. 1 hr 51 min ago
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    • Do you know that 50% of infertility is male-related? So why is everyone only focused on women ďleaving it too late?Ē 1 hr 49 min ago
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      • Men can have babies at 70. Women cannot. Fact. 1 hr 47 min ago
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        • And no one is talking about women getting pregnant in their 70s. 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • This seems logical to me. Do we really think that all human cells degrade over time, EXCEPT sleep cells? 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • Sperm cells I mean! 1 hr 44 min ago
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  10. Toddler I've only used Uber few times. Yesterday guy didn't show up and I was charged anyway. Do I dispute that with Uber or CC? Only 5 dollars but he did NOT show and I was outside...(more) 1 hr 56 min ago (6 replies)
    waiting. When he canceled me tried again and another guy was right there in less than a minute.
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    • Yes, you should tell Uber right away. 1 hr 55 min ago
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    • Yes. Dispute it. I've has the same situation. 1 hr 55 min ago
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    • thats happened to me. I tell Uber and they credited my account immediately. 1 hr 54 min ago
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    • yes. btdt. respond in the app. it was easy and quick 1 hr 54 min ago
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      • Thanks guys. Will do. 1 hr 54 min ago
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    • send UBER an email. they will credit you 1 hr 53 min ago
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  11. Toddler Has anyone tried the fasting diet where you eat every other day? 1 hr 59 min ago (65 replies)
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    • canNOT be healthy. sorry. the body isnt designed like that 1 hr 58 min ago
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    • Isnít that a lot? I thought it was a few days a week, or have a certain window during the day. 1 hr 57 min ago
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    • WTF? That sounds stupid 1 hr 57 min ago
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      • This post has been disliked 4 times. showIt actually sounds like how most primitive humans ate. You think they had food stores (as in stored food) 365? 1 hr 55 min ago
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        • And are you a primitive human? 1 hr 55 min ago
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        • I agree. They ate when it was available and worked to make it available but it's natural to go hungry. 1 hr 54 min ago
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          • So it's OK to raise kids that way? 1 hr 54 min ago
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            • This post has been disliked 3 times. showno one is talking about kids. We are talking about dieting. 1 hr 52 min ago
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              • If it's good for primitive kids, it's good for our kids. 1 hr 52 min ago
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                • there probably are benefits to this. Most kids self regulate their eating - very hungry one day, not very hungry the next. 1 hr 49 min ago
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                  • I would love to see your kids told that they can eat food only every other day. 1 hr 46 min ago
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                    • yours sound fat. 1 hr 46 min ago
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              • so you're saying primitive humans were dieting? 1 hr 51 min ago
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                • Doofus. We are talking about what the human body can take and that doesn't mean 3 meals a day and snacks all in between. No wonder so many of you are so fat. 1 hr 49 min ago
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                  • lol, I don't think you want to use this insult with me, given the display of your power of reasoning. 1 hr 48 min ago
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                    • ^(need I really say I'm not on a diet, since I don't need one??) 1 hr 47 min ago
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                    • You sound huge. 1 hr 46 min ago
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                      • aww:( I hope your diet works, cavewoman. 1 hr 45 min ago
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              • wow, dieting can make people really stupid. 1 hr 50 min ago
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                • ^maybe you want to go back to brain functioning as it was for primitive humans. you're on the right path for that! 1 hr 49 min ago
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              • If we are talking about dieting, why are we talking about primates 1 hr 48 min ago
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            • Hunger is a feeling not an emergency. I've told my kids this. That said I wouldn't fast every other day or expect them to 1 hr 52 min ago
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            • No but I'm pretty sure the cavemen and cavewomen would go hungry to feed the children. They also breast fed for FOREVER. 1 hr 50 min ago
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        • So are you going to have your kids eat every other day? 1 hr 54 min ago
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          • Pretty sure op is talking about herself. 1 hr 53 min ago
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            • the reasoning is the same, though. if you think primitive diet should be your model for healthy eating, it should be applied to everyone. (but since it's bullshit ...) 1 hr 52 min ago
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              • OR: Thank you. that's exactly my point. 1 hr 52 min ago
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          • my kids are not overweight. 1 hr 53 min ago
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            • Who said anytihng about being overweight? The poster said that that's how primitive humans ate so that it's natural and healthy to eat this way. I'm sure primitive kids also ate...(more) 1 hr 52 min ago
              this way.
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              • but the post is about a diet (in the context of a weightloss plan). 1 hr 50 min ago
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                • So why mention primitive humans at all? 1 hr 49 min ago
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                • and the answer: DON'T DIET LIKE YOU'RE A CAVEWOMAN, SINCE YOU'RE NOT 1 hr 48 min ago
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                  • This! Our bodies have adjusted since the advent of agriculture. 1 hr 46 min ago
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                    • bodies, and most importantly: brains. 1 hr 45 min ago
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                      • For most of us anyway;) 1 hr 44 min ago
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                      • actually there are benefits to the brain with this kind of diet. Research shows it helps cognition and may help slow alzheimers and other dementia. 1 hr 41 min ago
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                        • "research" 1 hr 40 min ago
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                        • So once again - why not raise children this way if it helps cognition? 1 hr 36 min ago
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                          • or, say, cure early onset alzheimers with it? 1 hr 25 min ago
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                  • don't sit on a screen all day, either. That impacts your health the most. 1 hr 43 min ago
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                    • i wasn't the one concerned 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • I do not do that but I do intermittent fasting eating in an 8 hour window, fasting for 16. 1 hr 56 min ago
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      • ditto. 1 hr 55 min ago
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      • I'm the WTF poster above and that sounds much more intelligent 1 hr 53 min ago
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        • It's the same kind of result, really. And I've never heard about not eating at all...I just thought it was 5 days you eat "normally" and then 2 non consecutive days you only eat...(more) 1 hr 51 min ago
          500 calories.
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          • All I know is that the OP said that she would only eat every other day. 1 hr 49 min ago
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            • she probably doesn't know that that is not supposed to be how you do it. 1 hr 48 min ago
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            • ^^And so are other posters above 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • does that actually do something? are you really limiting what you are eating in that window? or do you just chow down. I feel like I eat like that pretty much naturally 1 hr 51 min ago
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    • That would not be sustainable for me, I have to get up, work all day, etc. why would I put myself through that kind of hell 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • you get no breaks at work? 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • no but what works for me is a very light dinner, light bfast, big lunch 1 hr 44 min ago
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      • what does that look like? 1 hr 42 min ago
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  12. Toddler I have to give credit to Starbucks for knowing how to deal with this situation. They are modeling behavior we all should think about following. 2 hr 3 min ago (24 replies)
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    • Do you think they'll announce rules about how long people can sit without ordering or how often you need to order of camped out all day? 2 hr 1 min ago
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      • I hope so. Np. Itís annoying. 2 hr ago
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        • Why is it annoying if it isn't busy? 1 hr 59 min ago
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          • If it isnít busy, itís fine. But the one by me is tiny, itís always busy! Maybe different at other stores. 1 hr 58 min ago
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            • Oh. Yes. That is common sense. 1 hr 54 min ago
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        • I do too and I think they have to. Everyone should be treated equally and the only way to do that is to have hard and fast rules. Manager discretion will result in intentional or...(more) 1 hr 58 min ago
          unintentional bias or the perception of bias.
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          • there will ALWAYS be discretion here. it's not like someone is setting a timer for each person as they walk in 1 hr 57 min ago
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      • I don't. I can't imagine that is what this discussion is about. 1 hr 59 min ago
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        • The Starbucks near me never had any homeless people in it. They are in the library's 1/2 block away. Clearly Starbucks has made it clear they can't stay there. If they allow well...(more) 1 hr 56 min ago
          dRessed white people to hang out without ordering any not the homeless?
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      • if we learned anything about rules from this, is that rules, laws, etc. are applied differently to poc than to white people. it's the bias of the working staff that affects what...(more) 1 hr 59 min ago
        happens. the only rule that should be is that you don't fucking call the police for petty bulshit
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        • "you don't fucking call the police for petty bulshit" totally agreed. 1 hr 58 min ago
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          • ^only bullshit 1 hr 57 min ago
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      • I imagine that will make more sense at a location level. Different stores have different traffic patterns. But I could see them putting up clear signs. Still, enforcement will not...(more) 1 hr 58 min ago
        be even.
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      • No, they can't do that. It would be like saying the victims were the wrong. It would look very bad for them to say that. 1 hr 57 min ago
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        • we might ask you to leave if you are not a customer and are taking up the place during busy hours. If you are waiting for someone, just let us know and we won't harass you or...(more) 1 hr 54 min ago
          call the cops on you on 911 like it is a life or death situation. LOL
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    • I certainly don't think they are a corporate policy of being racists, so yea, the corporate level (i.e. at-large) effort they are putting it definitively above and beyond what...(more) 1 hr 58 min ago
      other corporations would do.
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    • I actually know a woman who gets dressed as if she is going to an office job everyday and she sits at Starbucks and works. In all fairness, she does on-line sales marketing, but...(more) 1 hr 58 min ago
      she spends her entire day at Starbucks. The same local one and she knows most people who come in and out.
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      • Does she smell like stale coffee at the end of the day? Yikes. 1 hr 57 min ago
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      • I'm sure she buys some stuff eventually and she makes the place look busy. I don't have a problem with that. I know people who did the same (but more like twice a week) 1 hr 56 min ago
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      • I;ll go ahead and assume she's white 1 hr 50 min ago
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  13. Toddler For about a week the outside corner of my eye has been tearing slightly. now the skin is all dry and irritated. What could this be from? Do I need a derm or an eye doctor? 2 hr 5 min ago (2 replies)
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    • an eye doc to figure out why eye keeps tearing. 2 hr 3 min ago
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    • I would likely let it go and see if it gets better on its own. It sounds like an allergy. 1 hr 48 min ago
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  14. Toddler Ok...just made the best medium boiled egg using the technique they use ofr eggs in ramen. boilt he water and THEN put the eggs in for EXACTLY 6.5 minutes. the wheite is set and...(more) 2 hr 5 min ago (2 replies)
    the yolk is "jammy" in consistency.
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    • Love that. 2 hr 3 min ago
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      • i love when they are seasoned in soy and mirin. That is my favorite part of the ramen 2 hr 1 min ago
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  15. Toddler I took some Miralax this morning, and my guts sound like groaning pipes. Is this common? 2 hr 7 min ago (1 reply)
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  16. Toddler I have a huge decision to make, and soon. Itís paralyzing. I canít sleep. The decision is whether or not to move. Stay put or move. Move 3k miles away or stay in CA. 2 hr 9 min ago (59 replies)
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    • I'll help. SHare some pros and cons. 2 hr 7 min ago
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      • Also, how much do you care about weather, what are the school options? 2 hr 4 min ago
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        • Dh is catskills. Weíd have to live far from his job. Very good schools here, and obvs very good weather 2 hr 2 min ago
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          • sounds like you have the decision made. Staying has more upside. 2 hr 1 min ago
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            • This. Your kids have stability and good schools and UC colleges. Later if you divorce you can go east. 2 hr ago
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          • you do know that you could live in the catskills, right? I dont know what the school are like but housing has got to be cheaper there. But near which city? the catskills can vary...(more) 2 hr ago
            a lot. Ellenville is in desperate shape, Bethel is gorgeous
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            • Heís in Monticello 1 hr 58 min ago
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              • thats been pretty depressed for a while. but you can live in PA - its closer than NYC or Westchester and my guess is cheaper. 1 hr 56 min ago
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      • Itís pricey in both places. Dh is already there-in NY- but he doesnít seem like he wants to stay. Our family is on east coast. Friends here and ds is in HS so hard to move. I have...(more) 2 hr 3 min ago
        A job here. Our rent would be the same in NY as here. I am also considering separating from dh and could go live with my family on east coast. See itís all fucked up. I feel Iím losing my mind
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        • when you do not know what to do, don't do anything. "don't just DO SOMETHING. Stand there." 2 hr 1 min ago
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          • Ha. Do you remember ziggy? 2 hr ago
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            • vaguely but the director of the camp I used to go to used this saying a lot. 1 hr 58 min ago
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        • How many more years of HS does ds have? 2 hr 1 min ago
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          • Heís a freshman this year 2 hr 1 min ago
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            • I would stay until ds finishes hs. Have Dh come home on weekends. 2 hr ago
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              • np-this is crazy talk. Either you all stay one place or all the other. Geographical fears/logistics are not a good reason to tear your family apart. 1 hr 58 min ago
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                • I think you have to figure out if dh is going to keep that job or not. Itís a huge move to do based on a job h he may not keep 1 hr 54 min ago
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                  • The whole situation gets weirder by the post. He had a fine job, left without op being on board... 1 hr 54 min ago
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                    • It is weird. Yes. OP. 1 hr 53 min ago
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              • I agree. Taking ds out of HS, moving 3000 miles away and separating from dh all at once seems overwhelming for him and for everyone involved. Change 1 thing, keep all else...(more) 1 hr 58 min ago
                stable. Can you maybe separate but not move?
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        • wdym? So dh won't keep the job? How much do you make and how much does he make? 2 hr ago
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          • Dh is breadwinner. Iím interviewing here just to see what happens. He would keep job there until he got something here, but no guarabteees 1 hr 59 min ago
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            • Was he unemployed in CA? 1 hr 58 min ago
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              • No he had a job here. He made a very rash decision to take this job. It pays more than last job. Heís just trying to make more money, I get it. 1 hr 57 min ago
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                • how much more money? seems ridiculous to just put that over your family and move to a different coast 1 hr 56 min ago
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                  • About 40k more in NY 1 hr 55 min ago
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                    • that is INSANE, did he want to start a new life? 1 hr 54 min ago
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                • no, that's really weird. You don't move your whole family without everyone on board and when you are fine where you are. Are you having marital issues? 1 hr 54 min ago
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                  • We were both on board and then everything changed. I told he he should prob stay, but he was hell bent on going. Yes to marital issues. For years. And this constant job switching...(more) 1 hr 53 min ago
                    has me on the brink
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                    • what does he do? 1 hr 53 min ago
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                      • ^and what do you mean by "everything changed"? 1 hr 53 min ago
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                        • The job wasnít what he thought it would be, he didnít get paid in March, we fought, I made a decision to stay here and separate but now Iím reconsideribg 1 hr 50 min ago
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                          • it doesn't sound like a stable job and he is unlikely to find something else in that area, it's very random. I would stay put but he really needs to be looking for jobs back in...(more) 1 hr 48 min ago
                            CA.
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            • that is probably the best, most reliable course. 1 hr 58 min ago
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              • For him to stay there and keep looking here? 1 hr 56 min ago
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                • yes, while keeping things stable for your kids and yourself. 1 hr 55 min ago
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        • Don't move until they go to college. Mean to do this to a high schooler. 1 hr 55 min ago
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    • what part of CA and where is the other place? where are your family and friends? 2 hr 6 min ago
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    • Tell us more... 2 hr 2 min ago
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    • where is your family and do you have kids. 2 hr 1 min ago
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      • 3dc and family is on east coast. Boston. I could just go there. They are waiting for us. But kids have a life here and I donít want to rely on anyone else. 2 hr ago
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        • np: seems like too much change to me and a possible divorce on top of it, stay put 1 hr 57 min ago
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        • Sounds like you want to stay pu. 1 hr 57 min ago
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          • But do I? I keep going back and forth. Staying here would be ďeasyĒ but also a risk- and Iím alone w dc. Which is ok by me, but they need their dad. BUT when he was here he was...(more) 1 hr 55 min ago
            gone all the time anyway
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            • then dad should come back. they need him more than his salary increase. 1 hr 54 min ago
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              • Why did he go though? That's the big mystery. 1 hr 53 min ago
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                • Because he despised his job ere and I think he was desperate. We fought about it for months and he finally just went. Itís a huge cluster. But this isnít the first time. This has...(more) 1 hr 52 min ago
                  happened several times, but now with ds in Hs I feel I want to stay
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                • maybe he wants out. does not sound like she should be expected to uproot everyone and leave their whole lives and move 3000 mi to follow him and his after tax $25k. 1 hr 51 min ago
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                  • Could be, and thatís ok. I have to make the decision here and itís hard. I have to make the best decision for my dc 1 hr 50 min ago
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                    • what does your dh do for work? 1 hr 48 min ago
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                      • Chef 1 hr 47 min ago
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                        • Is he actively looking back in CA now? 1 hr 44 min ago
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                          • Yes but heís busy there opening a restaurant so canít fly back to Interview 1 hr 42 min ago
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    • if only for the freaking weather at this point, given that it was still in the 30s this AM in NYC, stay put 1 hr 56 min ago
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    • I think you should stay in CA. Monticello isn't a nice place, it has its own microclime of really horrible weather. You don't want to move there for dh's job if dh's job isn'...(more) 1 hr 48 min ago
      paying. You'll end up having to move again. You aren't convinced you want to be with him. Stay in CA for the kids sake so they can go to good state schools
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      • Ok. I really appreciate ALL of your help and appreciate that you arenít judging me (out loud) for this bizarre situation 1 hr 47 min ago
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        • Itís not that crazy! You canít move them to a place where he is not going to stay. I am sorry - this is hard on you. Luckily you have family in Boston. You can go there if...(more) 1 hr 42 min ago
          itís just you later and work and save up money.
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          • Thing is I have to sign our lease here for another year in 10 days. Iím looking at a cheaper, smaller place this afternoon. Itís a risk- we will be tied in for another year. 1 hr 39 min ago
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            • ^^^ dh says his job is stable there and will continue depositing his paychecks. Iím searching for a better job. Just have to see. Thx again 1 hr 39 min ago
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  17. Toddler Oloo 2 hr 10 min ago (0 replies)
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  18. Toddler What do 5yo kids eat for breakfast? Babysitting overnight while her mom is in the hospital giving birth, want to have something special and exciting. Help? 2 hr 12 min ago (24 replies)
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    • Mine eat cereal and toast. A HUGE treat would be sugared cereal like Lucky Charms. 2 hr 11 min ago
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    • Mine eats shredded wheat or puffins or cheerios with raisins. Sometimes a yogurt. She'd love pancakes. 2 hr 11 min ago
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    • pancakes ! 2 hr 11 min ago
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      • Pancakes! We can make them together! Great idea - thank you! 2 hr 10 min ago
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        • Is the kid not in school? B/c on a chaotic day a normal routine can be best at that age 2 hr 9 min ago
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          • Iím ďon callĒ on a Saturday night, so would be Sunday morning. 2 hr 6 min ago
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    • Chocolate chip pancakes or waffles 2 hr 11 min ago
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      • ^ actually agree with first OR if they donít normally get sugary cereals. My kids flip for fruit loops at hotels 2 hr 10 min ago
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        • apple jacks baby 2 hr 8 min ago
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    • special and exciting would be waffles, pancakes, weirdo cererals (put funny things it in), things you are not supposed to eat at breakfast, etc. 2 hr 10 min ago
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    • pancakes with chocolate chips or french toast. Always with a side of sausage 2 hr 9 min ago
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    • I'd go out for a special breakfast at a diner. 2 hr 4 min ago
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    • waffle with whipped cream cheese on top, sprinkles and a cherry 2 hr 4 min ago
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    • This post has been disliked 5 times. showDon't do "special and exciting" when there are huge changes afoot. Just do normal food for the kid, not ultra sugar. Kids eat pancakes, cereal, some eat eggs, yogurt. 2 hr 3 min ago
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      • Oh stop. Give the kid some pancakes or lucky charms if she wants 2 hr 2 min ago
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      • np-itda, it feels so nice to feel special when something special is happening that you aren't fully a part of. 2 hr 2 min ago
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        • OP yes this is my instinct - she might not understand why she isnít ďinvitedĒ to the hospital, so I wanted to have like a little ďpartyĒ 2 hr 1 min ago
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          • I am sort of surprised by the reactions. I'd do something very fun with the kid! 2 hr ago
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            • Itís one person 1 hr 58 min ago
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      • ITA. Feed them gruel in a crusty bowl 2 hr 1 min ago
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        • no bowl! Eat off the floor! 2 hr ago
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      • This is a 5 yo, not a 5 month old. Theyíd be so excited for a special breakfast. Mine would love chocolate chip pancakes or something like that. 2 hr ago
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    • pancakes, french toast. 1 hr 59 min ago
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  19. Toddler Saw a dress on Anthropologie, they don't have my size, found on site I never heard of for 1/3 price, scam? Site is edcomcu.org - anyone heard of this? 2 hr 13 min ago (6 replies)
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    • run 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • Sounds scammy. Google 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • the .org is fishy 2 hr 11 min ago
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    • i googled it its a scam 2 hr 11 min ago
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      • op - thank you! 2 hr 10 min ago
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    • check on ebay 2 hr 3 min ago
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  20. Toddler Who here has a very old car? How many years? 2 hr 14 min ago (16 replies)
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    • 1988 Benz 300E. 2 hr 13 min ago
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      • Is that a diesel one? 2 hr 12 min ago
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        • No, thatís the 300d. 2 hr 12 min ago
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          • Ah. I donít even drive but my dh always drools at the old diesel wagons when he sees them around. They go forever! 2 hr 10 min ago
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            • LOL at the idea of someoneís DH ďdroolingĒ as I lug around in that clunker....(more) 2 hr 7 min ago
              Makes me feel like Iím HAWT, not some 40 year old mom of 3 driving the car I got when I cmgraduated college ... ;/)
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              • Well we have a minivan so I guess itís all relative! 2 hr 5 min ago
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    • 1990 Jeep Grand Cherokee. We use it for hauling things 2 hr 13 min ago
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    • 2005? Honda Odyssey. Feels super old, but itís all MINE 2 hr 10 min ago
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    • 2005 prius, 180,000 miles.. I kinda love it still. 2 hr 10 min ago
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    • I have a 2002 bmw 2 hr 9 min ago
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    • 2006 Nissan Sentra. It's a real piece of shit 2 hr 8 min ago
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    • 2002 Sienna. 105K miles. bought new. best investment ever. 2 hr 4 min ago
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    • I have a 2002 Passat with 140,000 miles on it. 1 hr 59 min ago
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    • 2007 HOnda Odyssey, bought in 2006 so been driving it for 12 years. It feels old, but I'm not willing to give it up. 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • 2006 Infiniti G45 sedan. I still love it 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • DH has a 1968 GTO Judge in the garage. It runs well but I don't drive it. He rarely does either. 1 hr 27 min ago
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  21. Toddler I have 2 cleaning ladies. One told their employer that the other used my microwave and ate lunch on the job. The rat got fired. 2 hr 15 min ago (8 replies)
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    • good..and fwiw, my cleaning lady brings lunch and helps herself to tea etc at my insistence 2 hr 14 min ago
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      • Yes. I've always told her she can help herself to anything. 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • such a crappy thing to do. but why fire them? 2 hr 13 min ago
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      • OP: Perhaps it sets an example? Sort of like one for all and all for one? It's not as if she were stealing. Different. Just eating and I've told her pretty much she can do...(more) 2 hr 8 min ago
        anything she wants in my house.
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        • np. she is a rat but why fire her over that? 2 hr 2 min ago
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          • Not sure honestly. My theory is above. 2 hr 1 min ago
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            • what, the whole staff heard her rat in front of a convention? 1 hr 58 min ago
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              • I wasn't there. So don't know. All I was told was she was fired for that reason. 1 hr 47 min ago
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  22. Toddler Having a joint birthday party for 6 and 9yo DS at a video games/laser tag place. What kind of party favors? Thinking just a bag of the usual crap--slinkies, candy, etc. But that...(more) 2 hr 17 min ago (6 replies)
    feels like so much $$ wasted. Any suggestions?
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    • A small book or something they can eat. 2 hr 16 min ago
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    • mr sketch scented markers. kids love them and people always need new markers. 2 hr 16 min ago
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    • pay for them to play then at the end boost all of their tickets up to x number of tickets and let them go shop in the arcade store 2 hr 15 min ago
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      • OP: There's no way to do that, really, but DH did say to just give each kid a $5 game card at the end and call it a day. 2 hr 13 min ago
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    • I once got hoodie cushions for ds about that age and it was a hit. Kids were thrilled. The moms jokingly rolled their eyes and said, "thanks." 2 hr 12 min ago
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      • ^whoopie cushions 2 hr 11 min ago
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  23. Toddler Planning DD's wedding and got this proposed menu from caterer (guest would pick one entree) wanted thoughts....inside...(more) 2 hr 17 min ago (30 replies)
    Seared airline chicken breast topped with 3 jumbo shrimp in a cream sauce with country style corn with bacon and a rice medley, seared salmon seasoned with old bay and lemon in a bernaise sauce with french style green beans and couscous, beef tenderloin topped with mushrooms, capers and a burgandy sauce with garlic mashed potatoes and steamed broccoli in lemon butter and zucchini stuffed with cheese, herbs and spinich with garlic seared mushrooms and duchesse potatoes.
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    • you lost me at 'Seared airline chicken breast: 2 hr 16 min ago
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    • maybe i should, but i don't know what airline chicken is 2 hr 16 min ago
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      • Here...(more) 2 hr 16 min ago
        • then it sounds lovely. slightly less "standard" and slightly more delicious than typical wedding fare. maybe a little more casual 2 hr 14 min ago
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        • The name is just so unappealing. I'd laugh at that and maybe take a picture and mock it to my friends. 2 hr 14 min ago
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      • And chicken toppped with shrimp is just gross. 2 hr 15 min ago
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        • It has a precedent in jambalaya, but the dish described here sounds awful. 2 hr 7 min ago
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      • Dried out and rubbery and barely resembling chicken? Sounds like a warning to your guests OP! I don't think that is what you are hoping for! 2 hr 15 min ago
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        • also salty in a slightly congealed sauce that has burned/dessicated around the edges 2 hr 14 min ago
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          • Ew lol yes. It looks like it may have been chewed, spit out, and then stuck in the microwave. 2 hr 11 min ago
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    • I'm sorry but it all sounds uninspired and the chicken dish sounds gross. The beef sounds OK I guess. But the salmon and chicken, I'd ask for soemthing else 2 hr 13 min ago
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      • What do you think of the sides? 2 hr 12 min ago
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        • the sides for the chicken sound very heavy and not that appetizing. The other sides sound OK a bit basic. 2 hr 12 min ago
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        • Corn AND rice: not a good side combo. Needs green. The others: of course they are fine. 2 hr 6 min ago
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    • the first dish has chicken, shrimp and bacon. too much going on! 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • Sounds good, typical wedding fare. 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • op, it sounds like you are trying to provide your guests with a very nice meal. But all of this sounds very heavy and reminiscent of "gourmet" 80's dining. 2 hr 10 min ago
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    • what about fluffy rice? 2 hr 8 min ago
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    • This sounds like an awful caterer. Those descriptions are terrible. Please do NOT describe them that way to your guests. Say "chicken/shrimp/bacon" ; "salmon" and "beef.&qu...(more) 2 hr 8 min ago
      to the first dish, well, I hope it's not trying to be a kosher wedding...
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      • I would change caterers if it isn't too late. I don't know how they can pull that kind of thing off for a lot of people. All those heavy sauces need to be served hot..or....ick. 2 hr 6 min ago
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        • It may be too late or too much trouble to change, but just do NOT let them or anyone describe the food the way you did in the OP. 2 hr 5 min ago
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          • Maybe OP can do something grilled or less fussed up? 2 hr 4 min ago
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    • OMG - I would hate all of those and so would my dd. It's all too fucking rich with those old-fashioned sauces 2 hr 3 min ago
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      • ^^Plus I hope that you typed that description up and that you did not cut and paste from the caterer 2 hr 3 min ago
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    • I honk you should just use your tried-and true dinner party menu 1 hr 56 min ago
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    • Burgundy is misspelled. 1 hr 54 min ago
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  24. Toddler I booked 1 week in Barcelona with family. We still have 5 days/nights in Spain before we fly out to new york. Where should we go or should we just stay in Barcelona the entire...(more) 2 hr 24 min ago (20 replies)
    time?
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    • Rent a car and drive in the White Villages. Zahara, Ronda, Orgiva 2 hr 21 min ago
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      • Where should we stay? 2 hr 20 min ago
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        • Let me check where we stayed. It was such a great trip. Beautiful drive, amazing food. 2 hr 19 min ago
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          • ^^We stayed at Al Lago in Zahara. Great place. Owners are originally from brooklyn! really helpful. that was our base and we drove around from there 2 hr 16 min ago
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            • Great region--and a 12 hour drive from Barcelona. 2 hr 11 min ago
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        • No Gran ahotel la Florida is good with little ones 2 hr 16 min ago
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          • Np! GRAN Hotel La Florida. 2 hr 15 min ago
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      • That is a really long drive. 2 hr 13 min ago
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      • np: That is at the opposite end of Spain. It's ridiculous to go to Andalusia from Barcelona with just 5 days. OP: 5 nights is not that long. Don't do a long distance. Explore...(more) 2 hr 12 min ago
        within Catalonia. Some good 1-2 night excursions: (1) Mallorca or Menorca, preferably outside of Palma; (2) Up the coast to Girona and the other Catalonian coastal towns; (3) up to the PYrnenees for some mountain culture. I did all of the above (I was in Barcelona for a good month or so), and probably I think the Pyrenees were coolest. There is that monastery whose name escapes me that can be a day trip fromBarcelona and is really cool, but I also think you'd just enjoy the change of pace of a mountain village.
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    • Id go to Portugal. You'll love it and 5 days is plenty. 2 hr 17 min ago
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      • Or north to the south of France or Galicia 2 hr 12 min ago
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    • Madrid? I regret never going to Toledo or Sevilla 2 hr 17 min ago
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    • What time 2 hr 17 min ago
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      • ^^ of year? Some of Spain is so hot itís not really worth going in August. Thereís a bit they call ďthe frying panĒ 2 hr 17 min ago
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    • don't stay at Barcelona the whole time, not interesting enough for such a lengthy stay. 2 hr 15 min ago
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    • Montserrat? 2 hr 14 min ago
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    • Not sure if you are same poster, but I just recommended TOssa de Mar recently. its in costa brava about 1 hour drive from barcelona. Its beautiful. I assume you are going in the...(more) 2 hr 12 min ago
      summer?
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      • Cadaques, as well 2 hr 5 min ago
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    • I love these suggestions, but most are very far from Barcelona. Explore Catalonia, Montserrat is a nice day trip, beaches, Cava area, and Dali's house are good day trips. 2 hr 1 min ago
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  25. Toddler Whoa Rachel weisz is 48 and pregnant 2 hr 24 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Senator Duckworth just had a baby at 50..and sheís a parapalegic 2 hr 20 min ago
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    • i had my last at 50. she's 7 now 2 hr 18 min ago
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      • Awesome. 2 hr 15 min ago
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      • Not flaming but youíre giving me hope is this with your own eggs? 2 hr 12 min ago
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