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  1. Toddler This post has been disliked 4 times. showIts our anthem, don't be an asshole. these people aren't protesting in their own time, they are doing it while at work. so not cool. 1 hr 14 min ago (55 replies)
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    • peaceful protest? free speech? 1 hr 13 min ago
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      • not at work. I'm fine with them doing whatever they want to ON THEIR OWN TIME. Give interviews, kneel in your damn front yard. 1 hr 12 min ago
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        • their bosses are fine with it 1 hr 12 min ago
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          • this -- it's between them and their employers 1 hr 10 min ago
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          • not all of them. 1 hr 10 min ago
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            • The NFL said that it was OK when it first happened. 1 hr 7 min ago
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        • They are employed by a private company, not the US Government. You'd be cool with all the employees of Walmart, or JP Morgan Chase, or the GAP, or Paul, Weiss having to stand and...(more) 1 hr 11 min ago
          sing every morning, or say the pledge?
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          • a few times a year? sure. its not like they do it at every practice. many employees have to be respectful to their bosses wishes. 1 hr 10 min ago
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            • and THEIR BOSSES AGREED. Their boss isn't Trump. 1 hr 9 min ago
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              • Not true in all cases 1 hr 6 min ago
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                • Did any of the owners explicitly tell their players they couldn't protest in some way? 1 hr 5 min ago
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          • Not only a private company - but in an industry exempt from certain laws such as anti-trust, employment law and others that are very important to us as a society to protect our...(more) 1 hr 8 min ago
            workers
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        • Then perhaps we shouldn't be asking people to show allegiance before they can start their job. 1 hr 4 min ago
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      • i support their right to do it. i do not support the decision to do it. 1 hr 9 min ago
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        • i support their right on their own time. i hope they loose an incredible amount of money. 1 hr 6 min ago
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          • i have never called a company to register a protest for political purposes but i'm ready to do it now. i feel really strongly about this. 1 hr 4 min ago
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          • why? 1 hr 3 min ago
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        • why not? 1 hr 4 min ago
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    • I am all for the standing in unity. 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • "those black people need to do as they're told" right? 1 hr 13 min ago
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      • no, those employees should however. 1 hr 12 min ago
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        • Or what? 1 hr 11 min ago
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          • they can find another job. 1 hr 10 min ago
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            • you understand it's not part of their job requirement? nowhere does it stipulate that they must do this 1 hr 9 min ago
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              • actually, it IS....(more) 1 hr 8 min ago
                “Throughout the period on game-day that a player is visible to the stadium and television audience (including in pregame warm-ups, in the bench area, and during postgame interviews in the locker room or on the field), players are prohibited from wearing, displaying, or otherwise conveying personal messages either in writing or illustration, unless such message has been approved in advance by the League office.
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                • lol this is for logos and marketing shit 1 hr 6 min ago
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                  • this is displaying personal messages. you can't have it both ways. 1 hr 6 min ago
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                    • here you go, from NFL spokesman: NFL Spokesman Brian McCarthy in August 2016, when Colin Kaepernick first “took a knee”. According to NBC Sports, McCarthy wrote in a statement...(more) 1 hr 5 min ago
                      that “Players are encouraged but not required to stand during the playing of the National Anthem.”
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                      • np: thank you. NOT REQUIRED. 1 hr 3 min ago
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                    • don't be silly, you know this is not the substance of what they are doing. 1 hr 4 min ago
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                • your argument is DOA. try again. 1 hr 3 min ago
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            • So when they sign with a team, it's part of the agreement to stand for the anthem? No. 1 hr 9 min ago
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        • does your work make you swear oaths of fealty? 1 hr 9 min ago
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      • They are doing as they are told by following the instructions of liberals who have choreographed this Hate against America 1 hr 9 min ago
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    • it's a pretty shitty anthem and peaceful protests make our country greater. 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • your employer cannot demand that you salute the flag, you nitwit. 1 hr 12 min ago
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      • that's actually not true. 1 hr 10 min ago
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        • ding ding ding. 1 hr 10 min ago
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    • unless you are their boss, it's not your issue. 1 hr 11 min ago
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    • how do you feel about at work fundraisers for breast cancer awareness? it's on company time. these players are raising awareness about the racial issues in this country. if...(more) 1 hr 10 min ago
      that isn't patriotic, i don't know what is.
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    • Why should there be an anthem at a football game in the first place? It's not an official state event. 1 hr 10 min ago
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      • This this this 1 hr 9 min ago
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      • its a sporting tradition, observed by pretty much every single country with pro teams. 1 hr 9 min ago
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        • a tradition that dates back to 2006? wow. such a long and storied tradition 1 hr 8 min ago
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        • Really? When Chelsea plays Man U they play God Save the Queen beforehand? Or La Marseillaise before the Tour de France every day? 1 hr 8 min ago
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          • I've been to sporting events in Canada and Brazil, both played the national anthems of the teams playing. 1 hr 7 min ago
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            • Which sporting events? We are NOT talking multinational events here - we are talking about regular games. No championship or cup play involved 1 hr 4 min ago
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        • The NFL didn't come out of dressing rooms for anthem until fairly recently no? 1 hr 6 min ago
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          • yes around 2006 or 2009, for MARKETING reasons, to boost NFL sales and merchandise by showing unity and shit 1 hr 1 min ago
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      • it's absurd, as is this national obsession with (male) sports 1 hr 1 min ago
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    • there is no rule that they have to do this as part of their job. none. 1 hr 10 min ago
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    • Their work is the way they can visibly reach people. Especially if their employers are OK with it I support them. 1 hr 8 min ago
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    • "sing the praises of our country or you WILL be fired" yeah, that's a democracy! 1 hr 5 min ago
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    • i agree. since Football is such a uniquely american sport, perhaps it will be on it's way out. 1 hr 4 min ago
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  2. Toddler Give me arc for a great book, easy read, not depressing. fuck, i will even take YA recs. ty! 1 hr 14 min ago (5 replies)
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    • ^a rec^ 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • I always rec. this: janiet evanovich, stephanie plum series. it's easy, funny and not serious. 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • Crazy Rich Asians is a fun read. DS just read Hunger Games and I reread it. It's a good book. 58 min ago
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  3. Toddler Birthday party ideas - for 10 year old ds inviting 3-4 friends. Can spend a little more since so few kids and 10 is a big year. 1 hr 15 min ago (5 replies)
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    • hibachi and ice cream? 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • Some sort of show -- Blueman Group, Stomp -- or a sporting event 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • laser tag, trapeze party 1 hr 13 min ago
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      • I think you need more kids for laser tag 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • bowling at one of those funky bowling places. pinball tokens after? 1 hr 10 min ago
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  4. Toddler Bob Costas has a nice take on the football knee issue. 1 hr 15 min ago (3 replies)
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    • Actually he spoke of the perspective from both sides 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • summary please? 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • link? 1 hr 10 min ago
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  5. Toddler How can the Republicans just stand by? 1 hr 15 min ago (18 replies)
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    • I am glad they are not kneeling for the anthem 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • He's succeeded once in again in doing things for lots of attention. How about NK, PR? 1 hr 11 min ago
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    • How? He's the horse they rode in on, he's a distraction while they do all sorts of terrible things to placate their donors. 1 hr 12 min ago
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      • They're all thinking of the short-term gain? That's it? Not averting war, bringing aid to millions of Americans? 1 hr 10 min ago
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        • Yeah, they're evil and they think this is their last shot before millennials and brown people take over as the majority of voters. Once the elderly die off they won't have their...(more) 1 hr 8 min ago
          constituency to count on so that's why they are going scorched earth in terms of policy.
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          • Why not keep the elderly alive via ACA? 1 hr 8 min ago
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            • Elderly will always be ok as long as there is Medicare. It's the poor that are SOL. 1 hr 7 min ago
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          • Well if they can keep control of the census then they can keep things gerrymandered for another decade. 1 hr 7 min ago
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            • Maybe so. But since they were dumb enough to gerrymander according to racial lines, there are lawsuits undoing those lines as we speak. 1 hr 5 min ago
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    • because its a disaster and is unsustainable. 1 hr 11 min ago
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    • All they ever wanted was their tax cuts 1 hr 10 min ago
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      • It's not gonna happen without increasing the deficit. Unless they want to endure what will happen if they take away the mortgage deduction or something like that. 1 hr 10 min ago
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        • "Deficits don't matter" -Bush administration 1 hr 9 min ago
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          • Yeah right. 1 hr 8 min ago
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            • It's a literal quote though 1 hr 8 min ago
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              • How quickly we forget - Bush was so hated he didn't even show his face during the last few elections after he left office. 1 hr 6 min ago
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    • MONEY. 1 hr 6 min ago
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  6. Toddler How frumpy is it to carry a Vera Bradley bucket tote? Brown based paisley print. It is just so damn convenient and useful. 1 hr 16 min ago (14 replies)
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    • I love them. See them all over Williamsburg lately 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • np: Williamsburg is the center of bad fashion choices. 1 hr 14 min ago
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        • Per uncool mom 1 hr 13 min ago
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        • nnp: williamsburg had been mainstream vanilla for at least five years. you broads needs to step into the present day 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • Very. And it cloth and gets wet, right? No convenient. 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • Not much rain where I live 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • ptretty farty 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • they are so ugly, but in - my two college age nieces have ALL THE VB STUFF 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • Yes, popular with HS and College girls 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • I travel with one of two giant vera bradley bags - so light and they fit under the seat in front of me. I think their totes are well designed, TBH. MZ Wallace bags have TOO many...(more) 1 hr 11 min ago
      pockets, but VB has just enough. And yet, I don't carry one in NYC.
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      • What bag do you use for everyday? 1 hr 10 min ago
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        • I'm such a frump - I just use canvas totes (like the $2 from flying tiger). I hate them because I can never find anything in them...but they are light. I just can't be bothered to...(more) 1 hr 6 min ago
          wear the couple of expensive bags I have - just heavy and not practical. Maybe I'll get a VB too and we can nod silently to each other on the street.
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          • ^occasionally I will use a straw tote from J Crew but now that it's fall, I'll have to find something else. 1 hr 4 min ago
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    • I've been doing this. i just don't care. it's lighter than a leather purse. 1 hr 5 min ago
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  7. Toddler I just finished a george r.r. martin book, fevre dream, I love GOT and i liked fevre dreams (not a huge fan of vampires, but i like supernatural). what i really like was the...(more) 1 hr 16 min ago (2 replies)
    historical fiction. does anyone have a suggestion for a similar book?
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    • Supernatural- discovery of witches (trilogy), historical fictionish- outlander, historical fiction mystery- bess crawford mystery series 1 hr 13 min ago
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      • thank you so much:) 1 hr 12 min ago
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  8. Toddler That Rand Paul is a selfish asshole. But I am loving him today! 1 hr 16 min ago (3 replies)
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    • So glad he is voting to get rid of the disaster known as Obamacare 1 hr 16 min ago
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      • but, he isn't so... 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • what did he say today? 1 hr 14 min ago
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  9. Toddler My 5th grader is in his 3rd year of travel soccer, and I'm surprised at the number of kids he started with who left travel (run by the town's league) to be part of a club, where...(more) 1 hr 19 min ago (11 replies)
    practices are in some other town, or in some cases state (we are in ny burbs, several go to NJ). Several of the better players have done this..wondering if this is considered a good move for kids who are very into it, at this age?
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    • it is a good move for a kid with advanced ability 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • And whose parents are willing & able to do all the work required. 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • here i thought travel adn club were the same thing. 1 hr 14 min ago
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      • no, travel soccer is typically run by a town league so everyone on the team is from that town usually. Often the league is a not for profit. The clubs are private, are feeders to...(more) 1 hr 11 min ago
        pro teams etc (such as red bulls)
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        • ^and the kids are not local - they are from all over 1 hr 9 min ago
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    • Is this northern NJ? 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • Yes, that's when highly skilled begin to specialize to play for elite teams in the dream to play varsity soccer in hs and college perhaps. 1 hr 13 min ago
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      • right, so they narrow the field from 1000 to 100 for every spot on a college team. 1 hr 10 min ago
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    • my dd moved from travel to club soccer. The level of play is dramatically different. 1 hr 10 min ago
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      • what grade did she make the move at? 1 hr 9 min ago
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  10. Toddler So will more $$ to Alaska change Murkowski's mind? 1 hr 19 min ago (3 replies)
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    • I don't think so, beucase it still destroys rural health in Alaska which is what is vital to them 1 hr 19 min ago
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      • op: wow, so more $ would only help the cities in Alaska? anyway, glad to hear it shouldn't change her mind. I'm surprised we aren't 100% about Collins. Or are we now? tia 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • Cost of ACA health insurance had an annual increase of 200% in Alaska. Citizens there want more affordable plans 1 hr 17 min ago
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  11. Toddler My 11yo loves to build things. So we have a crap load of stuff she's made. I have to keep throwing it all out...and I find that she really is not bothered about throwing it out....(more) 1 hr 20 min ago (4 replies)
    It the making of it she enjoys. She doesn't care if she never sees/uses it again.
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    • like what? 1 hr 18 min ago
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      • She gets this kits to build various machines / games etc. We also have a subscription to tinker crate that sends her a kit every month to build. 1 hr 16 min ago
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    • so take a pic and donate 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • I'm the same. my dd calls me a completionist. I just enjoy completing a project. i like to fix other people's things too. 1 hr 14 min ago
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  12. Toddler IS pale baby pink in again? I am loving it and didn't even realize I brought a few baby pink items 1 hr 20 min ago (2 replies)
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    • So in. You would be amazed how popular it is right now even in the rapper/sneaker community now 1 hr 18 min ago
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      • its more of a warm pink though 1 hr 17 min ago
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  13. Toddler Is it a sah parent's responsibility to be available for dc 24/7- I can never plan anything for evening/night time as my dh will never commit to being home. His argument is that...(more) 1 hr 21 min ago (70 replies)
    it's my responsibility as a sahm to be available to drive dc to and from after school activities- it's not his job. I do think it's primarily my responsibility but every once in a while I'd like to be able to agree to do something in the evening time. Wdyt?
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    • so then arrange for a sitter. 1 hr 21 min ago
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      • ^^ don't agree w/ your dh, but you're not likely to change his attitude, so take control and outsource your responsibility. 1 hr 20 min ago
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        • Np: if he is this controlling he will likely say she can't spend money on a sitter. 1 hr 18 min ago
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      • They don't need a sitter, they need someone to drive. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • I WAH and this is how DH treats me. 1 hr 21 min ago
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    • i simply don't agree with the sah parent as slave model at all. we both had these kids together. 1 hr 21 min ago
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      • But only one of you is bringing in money 1 hr 19 min ago
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        • money is just a tool. we don't have much of it, so maybe it's different for people like us. he has no desire to turn me into the house elf. they're his kids, too, and he...(more) 1 hr 18 min ago
          participates fully in family life. can he drive them to school if he's working? obviously not.
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        • And the other one is saving it by doing things herself. 1 hr 18 min ago
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        • I'm sorry you feel this way about your marriage. And I mean that. 1 hr 14 min ago
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      • And you both decided that one would SAH. Apparently some people didn't discuss what that would look lime 1 hr 19 min ago
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        • we didn't need to. he's a good man who wants to be a part of the family, and who wants to make my life easier when he can. 1 hr 18 min ago
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        • OP: My husband asked my to stay home. 1 hr 14 min ago
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          • this is about control imo. he sounds like a controlling jerk. 1 hr 13 min ago
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          • Np: what are you going to do?? How many DC dy have? 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • If he can't be thre then you need to hire a sitter. 1 hr 21 min ago
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    • I'm shocked your DH is such an asshole. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • I don't think he gets to opt out of all parenting just because you sah. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • Does his job often require late nights with no notice? 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • No- 1 hr 19 min ago
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        • So make a plaa. Most likely ot will work out. 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • I think your DH wants you to go back to work. 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • I would be happy to go back to work 1 hr 16 min ago
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    • when i hear that kind of "logic" from a husband, i know he must be such a loser. 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • This. 1 hr 16 min ago
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      • look on the flip side. does she have any kids home during the day? is she busy all day and run ragged by the evening. or does she get the kids off to school in the am and then...(more) 1 hr 14 min ago
        she has the day to make her own schedule with quite a bit of down time. while he's at work all day and wants the down time in the evenings.
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    • More paid help. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • Your dh sounds like a pain in the ass. You shouldn't be held prisoner. I would simply say, hey, on Wednesday the 12th, I am going to dinner. You need to be home by 7. 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • Her DH wants her back to work, OP is quibbling about the wrong issue. 1 hr 19 min ago
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        • np-that's your own issues talking 1 hr 17 min ago
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          • nnp. Not really. This kind of passive aggressive stuff is how a lot of men deal with this issue. 1 hr 15 min ago
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        • np how do you know he wants her back to work? sounds like he wants to keep her prisoner at home 1 hr 17 min ago
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        • I didn't get that from her post. At all. 1 hr 16 min ago
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        • you think her dh will step up with the kids/house when OP goes back to work? 1 hr 16 min ago
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          • Yes, they do. BTDT 1 hr 15 min ago
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            • tell that to the many women, here and in real life, who end up doing it all. 1 hr 15 min ago
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            • lol 1 hr 15 min ago
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            • the btdt explains your post, and op is not you 1 hr 15 min ago
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            • Np: oh I COMPLETELY disagree. An asshole dh like this one will always have a reason why his wife has to do everything. Now it's because she is a SAHM. If she goes back to work the...(more) 1 hr 14 min ago
              Excuse will be he makes more money/his job is more important/his hours are longer.
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            • HAHAHAHAHAHA 1 hr 12 min ago
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          • This! She'll be in the same situation except pile on the work demands. 1 hr 15 min ago
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        • everyone projects their own issues here. 1 hr 16 min ago
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    • It's primarily your job, but of course if there is something you would like to do it is reasonable for him to come home earlier if he can. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • that is pretty assholish. I mean, the after school stuff, sure that is on the SAP (I WAH so I am flexible), but at night? that is NOT okay 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • get a sitter. my dh is never home until after kids are in bed 1 hr 19 min ago
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    • It's your responsibility during day. He is still part of the family and needs to be around for his kids/partner when he is home from work or can be home from work 1 hr 19 min ago
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    • Your DH is an asshole. 1 hr 19 min ago
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    • you are both parents. I don't understand a parent refusing to take on child rearing duties regardless of their work status. Your dh sounds like a crappy partner, i'm sorry 1 hr 18 min ago
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    • i'm a sahm. when DH can get home he will help me out. if he's traveling or has a work commitment that he can't get out of then i book a sitter. 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • i do think in principle and just for efficiency's sake, it makes sense to have the sahm take those obligations. but it sounds like there's a nastiness here and i'm not sure if...(more) 1 hr 17 min ago
      it's him or if there's some other issue going on that we're not hearing.
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      • the mom deserves to go out 2 x a month. 1 hr 15 min ago
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        • at least 2x per month. 1x a week isn't crazy for him to commit to be home by 7 1 hr 15 min ago
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        • but what's really the issue here. is it that he refuses to be involved or he refuses to commit to being home at a certain time. is he resentful of her free time or does he really...(more) 1 hr 13 min ago
          have the type of job where he can't commit. why can't they carpool? so many questions here.
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          • ^^are her kids scheduled for every night of the week or is it that no one is home with the kids? is he home by 7 or he's not home until 9. 1 hr 12 min ago
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          • my guess is he probably doesn't want to be controlled in any way. 1 hr 11 min ago
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            • she did a very effective job at making him sound like a jerk, that's for sure. 1 hr 10 min ago
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    • of course not. just get a sitter. 1 hr 16 min ago
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    • My dh works at a demanding job and he genuinely cannot do much during the week, getting home before 7 is tough...Are you sure your dh can even do what you'd like? 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • this is my situation too and my dh will happily let me hire a sitter whenever I want / need 1 hr 14 min ago
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        • yup, me too. he will beg me to get one so i can meet him in the city or go out. 1 hr 13 min ago
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        • "let you", ugh 1 hr 8 min ago
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          • THIS. jesus, how can people not see that? 1 hr 3 min ago
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      • We wouldn't want anything to be tough on a dh, ever, would we? 59 min ago
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    • is he controlling in other ways? i see this as a red flag in a way, i.e. a man who basically is not allowing his wife to have a life separate from him and their family. 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • Hire a sitter. Period. 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • OP: Thanks all- I know I didn't weigh in with too many answers- I didn't want to get into arguments just wanted to get a feel for what you all thought. 1 hr 3 min ago
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    • IMO it isn't the obligation 24x7. Logistically and practically is most of the time, but AH parent is not a single parent. 1 hr 1 min ago
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  14. Toddler Deciding on large wool area rug for dc room. Hardwood floors and need some sound muffling. But what if dc vomits etc? Can I clean the rug? 1 hr 22 min ago (6 replies)
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    • is this something that happens frequently? 1 hr 17 min ago
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      • It's never happened but they are 5 and 1. And I don't want to spend $$$$ and have it ruined? 1 hr 16 min ago
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        • the good thing is that wool is very forgiving. I have an antique wool rug in my dining room that my dogs have vomited on, peed on...sent out for cleaning...good as new. 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • yes, but for kids rooms i stay away from wool (itchy) and get a cheaper poly one that is much easier to clean 1 hr 16 min ago
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    • Get FLor tile. I think they make wool styles. 1 hr 15 min ago
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  15. Toddler We're going to buy a new (used) car and need to get a car loan. I can go through our credit union, but we're not going to buy for a month or so. Should I still call now to start...(more) 1 hr 23 min ago (3 replies)
    the process?
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    • Sure 1 hr 19 min ago
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    • yes, better to buy with money ready to go 1 hr 18 min ago
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    • my bank said they'd pre-qaulify me, but it would only be good for one month. 1 hr 17 min ago
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  16. Toddler DH has been traveling and the kids and I both agreed that life is so much calmer and happier. Sad realization. He's always so angry and in a bad mood. 1 hr 25 min ago (25 replies)
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    • sucks to be him, or you guys. not sure which is worse. 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • You discuss with your kids that things are better when their father isn't home?? 1 hr 24 min ago
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      • They said it, and I agree in my head. 1 hr 24 min ago
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        • That's not what you said and that's just awful. 1 hr 23 min ago
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          • NP it's not awful in any way for kids to feel free enough to talk about their feelings with their parent, even if it's about the other parent. i think it's totally fine that they...(more) 1 hr 22 min ago
            expressed this to their mom.
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            • No, sorry, she can listen but she can't agree. 1 hr 20 min ago
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              • why not? why gaslight them? why say, what? dad is so cool, so calm, i've no idea what you guys are talking about. what you're calling "trash talk" I see as an honest, difficult...(more) 1 hr 19 min ago
                conversation.
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                • yes!! when it's obvious and real, it's better to acknowledge it. try to fix of course, but don't pretend. 1 hr 1 min ago
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          • You don't live with him. 1 hr 22 min ago
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            • I've lived with worse, guaranteed, and I still didn't trash talk him to our kids. 1 hr 20 min ago
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              • OMG. She said she agreed in her head and they brought it up. Learn to read. 1 hr 20 min ago
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                • She changed it to that after my first post. She initially said "the kids and I both agreed" 1 hr 19 min ago
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                  • As in, both are in agreement. Nowhere did she say this was a dicussion between them. 1 hr 19 min ago
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                  • That is not inconsistent with her original post. She said they agreed. In the follow up, she clarified her agreement was in her head, which makes pers 1 hr 15 min ago
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                    • ^^perfect sense 1 hr 15 min ago
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              • why are you so quick to make this OP's fault? can't you see her point of the post? god 1 hr 19 min ago
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                • maybe because she sucked it up and told her kids dad was a-ok, and they were wrong. 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • Did you bring it up or did they? 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • Btdt. Sad place to be. I wish you the best. 1 hr 23 min ago
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    • What is dh like when he's home? Simply stressed out or verbally abusive? 1 hr 23 min ago
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      • Verbally abusive at times, always explosive anger, criticizes everyone, etc. 1 hr 22 min ago
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        • Okay, so I think it's great your kids have said something to you. Now you get to take action. That's a caustic, exhausting, emotionally dangerous environment for all of you. Have...(more) 1 hr 20 min ago
          you tried anything with dh to change things? You need to do something!
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          • ^^sorry, not saying you are at fault, just saying you need to protect yourself and dcs. If that means therapy for all of you, or you and dh, or figuring out if you want to stay...(more) 1 hr 19 min ago
            together
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    • While it makes me sad on your dh's behalf that you guys would talk about this while he's gone, I think it's good your kids brought it up to you. It shows that your dh's behavior...(more) 1 hr 22 min ago
      really does affect them in a negative way. Have you talked to dh about this?
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      • I'm sad for the kids. Np 1 hr 18 min ago
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  17. Toddler I am an introvert who has been living by the whole "just show up" mantra for the past couple years, I don't think it's really for me. People frazzle me and I do better and am...(more) 1 hr 25 min ago (5 replies)
    happier with just my family or alone, time with friends doesn't make me feel that great. Am I totally weird?
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    • I am the exact same way. The stress of social stuff makes me miserable. 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • op-yes, and I have tried so hard, accepted most invitations...I think I will stop. 1 hr 23 min ago
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    • no. 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • not weird at all. it's just that people like you don't make a platform of their feelings so you don't necessarily hear about it. 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • no 1 hr 24 min ago
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  18. Toddler What does Afd stand for? 1 hr 25 min ago (22 replies)
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    • a f'ing disgrace 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • Something in German 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • Germany’s far-right, fascist party German Alternative für Deutschland - aka Nazis 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • why do you ask? 1 hr 23 min ago
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      • because I saw a couple of posts about a lesbian being the leader of that party 1 hr 23 min ago
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        • the right wing troll is trying to say how great it is that LGBTQ support fascism - it is pinkwashing. 1 hr 22 min ago
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          • what is "pink washing" 1 hr 22 min ago
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            • here:...(more) 1 hr 22 min ago
              • I can't click on that - what does it say? 1 hr 21 min ago
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                • Although the AfD has made no moves to support any LGBTQ rights, Weidel's election is still being interpreted as an attempt by AfD to shake off its “fringe” image, and in...(more) 1 hr 21 min ago
                  particular distance itself from another ultranationalist, far-right party in the country, the National Democratic Party of Germany.
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                  • Although not a perfect example, as the AfD has made zero claims of championing LGBTQ rights, this tactic is close to the concept of "pinkwashing," a term used to describe when...(more) 1 hr 21 min ago
                    perceived support for queer and trans issues and people is used to detract from an entity’s neoliberal, right-wing or otherwise oppressive policies.
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                • np: it's some goofy/trendy way of saying they put up this lesbian leader to appease gays and lesbians 1 hr 21 min ago
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                  • but more than that - it is trying to make their oppression seem "ok" because they are including a few tokens, but they aren't supporting the rest of the LGBTQ community at all. 1 hr 20 min ago
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                    • that's what i just said 1 hr 19 min ago
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                      • but it isn't just aimed at LGBTQ - it is a fig leaf to the public so they can pretend that they aren't "that bad" 1 hr 18 min ago
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                  • it is propaganda - putting out conflicting and confusing information to sucker in uninformed people. disinformation 1 hr 19 min ago
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                    • Earlier this year, in another perplexing move from the party, images of Che Guevara — one of the 20th century’s most iconic revolutionaries, synonymous with socialist and other...(more) 1 hr 18 min ago
                      left struggles — were used in the AfD’s campaign.
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    • The German far right is faltering. They’re hoping a lesbian mom can reenergize the party....(more) 1 hr 17 min ago
      • they're not faltering anymore. or at least not until this resignation! 1 hr 17 min ago
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        • she isn't going to make them a success - it is a sign that they can't function 1 hr 15 min ago
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        • liding in the polls, Weidel’s AfD party is desperately casting about for a new message, and a new messenger. The great lesbian savior. lol. 1 hr 14 min ago
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  19. Toddler Anyone familiar with the top level at Msc soccer? Are the coaches good? 1 hr 26 min ago (2 replies)
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    • They are very good. DFs son is on soccer scholarship at University of Virginia because of them (and his skills, of course) 1 hr 22 min ago
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  20. Toddler Do you wear nail polish or gel on your fingernails? i was at a club this weekend (invited, not member) and realized that most of the women had it on their toes, but not...(more) 1 hr 27 min ago (38 replies)
    fingernails.
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    • toes only. but I know lots who do both. 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • do you mind me asking why? 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • not usually unless its for a function. i go bare just because its easier 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • Nope. I keep them clean and short, and do a cuticle cream, buff to keep them shiny. However, if I have I am working a trade show and having meetings and presentations, I'll get a...(more) 1 hr 27 min ago
      mani
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    • no polish anywhere. i don't care what other people do, but i don't like the look myself. 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • I usually just wear it on my toes, but in my town I seem to be the minority. 1 hr 26 min ago
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      • i recently moved here and came from a westchester town where most women got their nails "done" and am now in a CT town where it seems that they don't. 1 hr 25 min ago
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        • OR: interesting. I'm in NJ. I just hate wearing it on my fingernails because it chips so quickly unless I get gel, but I've found that gel ruins my nails. I keep mine pretty short...(more) 1 hr 24 min ago
          And neat.
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          • i learned to get gel so it would stay, but took a break after xmas and during the summer. now I'm thinking i just do toenails and forget it 1 hr 23 min ago
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            • It's very freeing to decide not to bother with it! 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • Never on my fingers. 1 hr 26 min ago
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      • how come? 1 hr 26 min ago
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        • np: to me, it's a strange look, to have fingernails that are a color. i'm accustomed to it, of course, because so many women do it. but i'm a minimalist. 1 hr 25 min ago
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          • do you do clear? 1 hr 21 min ago
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            • no. i don't polish my nails at all. pretend i'm like a man with clean, neat short fingernails. that's what i do. i don't adorn them in any way. 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • I wear nail polish on my toes, not my hands 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • I never do my fingernails, and toes only in summer. Friend was 'giving her nails a break' after having constant manicures and her nails were horrifying 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • both. matching. 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • I do gel on my nails. growing them out, like the way it looks and I don't go to clubs. 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • Isn't that bad for your nails? 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • toes only, i don't like the feeling of polish on my nails, 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • o/p: its funny, i learned to get manicures when i moved to westchester, and now having moved to CT maybe I can not get them... 1 hr 24 min ago
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      • call me crazy, but you can always do what you want, you never have to try to fit into any particular culture, including the manicure culture. 1 hr 23 min ago
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        • sure, I'm not saying i have to, just like to fit into the local culture as well as possible 1 hr 22 min ago
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      • Trade in dh's jeans for orange khakis 1 hr 23 min ago
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        • ok, what the heck is up with the pink worn out looking khakis every where up here? with weird belts... 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • yes I do nails myself. go for a pedicure every couple of months. 1 hr 23 min ago
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    • toes and fingers. light pink gel on fingers and linkin pk after dark on toes 1 hr 23 min ago
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      • I cant imagine only doing one color. that must get so boring. 1 hr 22 min ago
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        • sometimes i change it up but i work so pink is safe and dark on toes matches everything 1 hr 21 min ago
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          • I work in big 4 accounting and no one bats an eye at my nails. and I'm 50. light dark glitter, everything in between. 1 hr 16 min ago
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      • i just googled and that is dark! does it stain your toenails? 1 hr 21 min ago
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    • i do get manicures but always get a natural color. I almost never wear color on my finger nails. 1 hr 21 min ago
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    • o/p: i love pretty jewelry and was oogling the huge diamonds but was just shocked at the non-cared for nail look. 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • i moved here 20 years ago and was surprised at the amount of diamonds people will wear out sailing or on a boat! 1 hr 19 min ago
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    • Always on toes, almost never on fingers. Polish kills my fingernails for some reason. 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • Gel on my fingers. My hands are on "display" a lot as I show people how to use things and I think they look more finished with a fresh coat of polish. 1 hr 11 min ago
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  21. Toddler My Apple watch is blowing up with news alerts this morning. This didn't happen under the Obama administration. 1 hr 29 min ago (8 replies)
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    • Well the Weiner news alert is Clinton related 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • And the Jared email one 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • it's really not. 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • Except that it is 1 hr 27 min ago
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          • what on earth does his sexting have to do with HRC?...(more) 1 hr 26 min ago
            Nothing.
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            • He was set up to get at her. Isn't that obvious? 1 hr 25 min ago
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            • Okay if that's what you believe. There are crazies who think the earth is flat. I am not going to dismiss you or them for being clueless. 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • BINGOOOOO 1 hr 24 min ago
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  22. Toddler I'm off this week - cleaning out kids toyroom. I'm being ruthless in the chucking. I'm so sick of all this crap. 1 hr 29 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Go, you! My older kid kind of loves getting rid of stuff, but younger kid cries so we do a 'We're not getting rid of it, we're putting it up for a while' And then a month or so...(more) 1 hr 27 min ago
      later we bring it up and usually he's fine getting rid of it.
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      • This is why I do it while they're not home!!! My 5yo is not into throwing anything out. 1 hr 26 min ago
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  23. Toddler Istn't this the gay leader of the party? She just quit...(more) 1 hr 31 min ago (0 replies)
  24. Toddler On Saturday, I felt a sharp stinging on my knuckle, like a sweat bee sting. The knuckle was a little swollen, but I couldn't see a bite. Today, I noticed there's a huge bruise....(more) 1 hr 32 min ago (1 reply)
    WTH did I do?
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    • Could be a broken blood vessel 1 hr 31 min ago
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  25. Toddler - no subject -...(more) 1 hr 32 min ago (1 reply)
    • This is my favorite dildo 1 hr 32 min ago
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