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  1. Toddler I work for a non profit that has 2 week annual meetings in another country (it moves around) -- the founder of the non profit wants to get her money's worth out of flying poeple...(more) 34 min ago (24 replies)
    to this meeting so she always insists on us being there for 2 wks. We all bunk together in airbnb type rentals. It's pretty intense. What would you think of this? She treats it like she's doing us a favor and it's a privilege and kind of a vacation for us (I think because she has to foot the bill for it all, this makes sense in her mind) and because we are working 'for the poor' and 'it's vocational' mentality, it's a gift, in a way. In real life I have pets, kids in 2 schools, a dh who travels for work, etc, I do this job p/t on the side so my wks before/after are incredibly depleting as I get it all prepared and make up for being away after. It's a lot, right? Need a reality check.
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    • The woman is batty. And it's a waste of funds. 33 min ago
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    • I couldn’t honor s commitment like that 33 min ago
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    • It is a lot. My friend's work does something like this (always the same place though) and he said the young people and the end of career people go - middle people get out of it 33 min ago
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    • that's excessive. especially for PT. could you tell her you're available for x number of days only. 33 min ago
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    • Two weeks is a long time, but it depends on the nature of your work. As an NGO employee, it's important to see the field work. 32 min ago
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      • op: these mtgs are in addition to annual travel to work in the field 29 min ago
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    • It is work. It’s not terrible but it’s still work. She needs perspective 32 min ago
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    • Does the founder have dc? How wealthy is the founder? 31 min ago
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      • op: she does not have dc and she is wealthy from her work in a lucrative industry, most of her wealth goes into the ngo 30 min ago
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        • Yup. That explains it. She has no clue. She does think she's giving you a vacation. 27 min ago
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          • If you were to share your gratitude, yet also explain your conflict, would she understand? Would it even make a difference? 26 min ago
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    • A month? For a part time job? Hell to the no 30 min ago
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      • op: 2 wks 29 min ago
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      • 2 weeks. Not a month. 29 min ago
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        • I understood twice a year two week trips. Eh one week I guess is okay but do you share bathrooms or bedrooms with coworkers? 27 min ago
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          • op: yes on bathrooms and sometimes on bedrooms. i am 50 yrs old. this is getting to be a drag 24 min ago
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            • Where are you going this year? 24 min ago
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              • somewhere in the Bay Area. sometimes its in Africa, or New Zealand, or Thailand, it moves around. I have been to all these lcations many times so honestly it's not vacationy at...(more) 21 min ago
                this point it's a long fucking way in economy class and trying to fire on all cylinders while dragging from jet lag
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                • what do you do for two whole weeks? 13 min ago
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            • I wouldn't either. 24 min ago
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            • How much do you make PT at an NP? It may be worth it to find something else if this is so painful. 22 min ago
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              • ^you're not going to change her based on what you've said 22 min ago
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              • op: 65K 21 min ago
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    • Is it fun? 12 min ago
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  2. Toddler It amazes me when people refuse to acknowledge that not all school districts have kids taking the same classes at the same grade. Like some districts have kids taking earth...(more) 34 min ago (23 replies)
    science in 10th.
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    • That is strange Some districts are really bad and the kids are pretty much doing what I think of as middle school work senior year. 32 min ago
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      • Actually there is a push to pull back on that. Some districts pushing to do regents in 8th for all.students. has backfired 30 min ago
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        • I live in nj. I am talking about some schools in Newark. 29 min ago
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          • Okay well my smart kid who got 34 on ACT didn't take a regents til 9th. Worked out fine 28 min ago
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            • I don't know about regents. 28 min ago
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      • We are in a good district only accelerated kids takenregents in 8th 29 min ago
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        • I don't know the first thing about regents. We don't have them here. 28 min ago
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      • Why is the truth disliked twice? 21 min ago
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    • I work in a school district that does Bio in 9th and Earth Science in 10th. It used to be the reverse but they found ES to be more difficult 32 min ago
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      • Same here 30 min ago
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      • When do they get to physics? Senior year? 23 min ago
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        • Yes 23 min ago
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        • Yes, but it is optional. Some kids start with a regents science in 8th grade which would push everything up by a year. 18 min ago
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    • most kids take Chem in 10th grade here. 32 min ago
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      • Well half take it in 10th here. Good well regarded district. 31 min ago
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        • And half take algebra in 9th and geometry in 10th 29 min ago
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    • So none of your kids are taking ap classes in science? 28 min ago
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    • That depends on the kid, not the district. It depends on how well you do in science in 9th. You are either recommended for Chem (high grade) or Earth Science (Lower grade). Those...(more) 27 min ago
      that take Earth science take Chem in Junior year
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      • Not necessarily some districts have all 8th graders take algebra 22 min ago
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    • Yeah ours does geometry in 9th but I've heard many places do it in 8th. 19 min ago
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  3. Toddler Teacher here, this summer I have no money for a getaway, so I’m just enjoying my home! So nice to have it under control for once, both dc working, I guess I’m a housewife. I ran...(more) 34 min ago (9 replies)
    errands and cleaned, did laundry, now I’m reading on my back patio. Bliss.
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    • sounds like heaven 34 min ago
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    • i work intermittently, and i love the fallow periods. 33 min ago
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    • You're a housewife, but also a teacher on summer break! come on! 30 min ago
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    • Lazy government workers are very lazy. 30 min ago
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      • You must be very very bored. How else can we entertain you? 29 min ago
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    • You earned this time. Enjoy! 28 min ago
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    • my mom was a teacher and housewife in the summer. My dad wasn't around so it was nice. 27 min ago
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    • If I had to get up ass-crack early every day and deal with the DOE (or whatever agency) and office politics and bad parents in exchange for summer off I would off myself if I...(more) 26 min ago
      hadn't saved funds for travel. That is the only reason IMO to do a job like that. To get the hell out of dodge for three months
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    • I love just being home and making my house nice. I work in a school and have been off and just updated DCs bathroom. I'm doing my bathroom in July, removing wallpaper. 17 min ago
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  4. Toddler How long does a gel manicure take? 35 min ago (7 replies)
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    • don't do gel. Do powder. Safer. 35 min ago
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      • ^^^both take about 30 min 34 min ago
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        • What’s the difference? I’ve never gotten anything but a standard manicure before 29 min ago
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        • np: they both take longer than 30 min and both ruin your nails. 29 min ago
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          • Op. I just plan to do it once bc have a few events coming up 24 min ago
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    • I guess like 20 mins. 35 min ago
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    • 40 mins if they don't have to take Gell off first. 17 min ago
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  5. Toddler Any restaurant recommendations for London? 35 min ago (1 reply)
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  6. Toddler I'm not on here much anymore. What does IMCP stand for? 37 min ago (8 replies)
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    • I make coffee and poop ☕️ 💩 36 min ago
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      • you can't be serious? 34 min ago
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        • Unfortunately I am. I know - It’s sad 34 min ago
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    • please just hide every post that starts with those letters 36 min ago
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      • But dislike it first. NP 25 min ago
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    • Independently middle class poster. We discovered a new way of life where you live off of investment income. 33 min ago
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      • I make coffee and poop ☕️ 💩 +3 likes 32 min ago
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    • I Mean Come on People 31 min ago
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  7. Toddler When you call someone an asshole, whether in your mind or out loud, think about what kind of asshole the person is. It's helpful. Is he a manipulative asshole? An inconsiderate...(more) 37 min ago (6 replies)
    one? Self centered? Pretentious? Controlling? Slimy? Other?
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    • I like this idea of types of asshole 35 min ago
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      • Me too. The first time I heard about it, I thought that's great. So helpful. Asshole really is a broad term, isn't it? 34 min ago
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        • way too general. 34 min ago
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          • Yes. And until the idea of classifying the type of asshole, I didn't realize it. 32 min ago
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    • just an asshole, not worth my time if i think you're an asshole to qualify what kind of asshole you might be 32 min ago
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      • I find it helpful because it gets me in touch with what's going on. Especially if I need to have a relationship (be it work, personal, extracurricular) with the person. If I can...(more) 30 min ago
        connect with what's going on for me, rather than just judge, I can more easily figure out what to do, even if it's just to mourn that things aren't the way I want them to be).
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  8. Toddler IMCP: Did you like the band Roxette? 37 min ago (2 replies)
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    • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 36 min ago
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    • IMCP: omg just remembered how GWB pretended like Chaka Khan's "Through the fire" was his favorite song to appeal to black people. It's a good song but I don't believe him 35 min ago
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  9. Toddler Kavanaugh: "The State’s relentless, determined effort to rid the jury of black individuals strongly suggests that the State wanted to try Flowers before a jury with as few black...(more) 37 min ago (4 replies)
    jurors as possible, and ideally an all-White jury." Wow Kavanaugh, a Trump appointee, just destroyed Missisisippi's racist prosecution of a black defendant. None of you liberals predicted that one
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    • I love when my BF sends me flowers 37 min ago
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    • the guy is still in jail and will have to stay there to face another trial (th 8th one?) 29 min ago
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  10. Toddler Found out last night that my husband had a 2 year affair about 8 years ago. I am numb. I don't know what to feel and react. He claims he is very remorseful about it and it hasn't...(more) 37 min ago (52 replies)
    happened since. She is no longer in the country, so I know they haven't seen each other since. But I feel so betrayed. 8 years ago, I had a 3 yo and a 8yo at home and a new puppy.
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    • oh wow. I am so sorry. That will take some time to recover from 37 min ago
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    • Sorry. This is a hard one because he probably did feel awful and set himself right but it still happened. How did you find out. 36 min ago
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      • I saw her on what's app. They were still in touch once in a while but hadn't met. 35 min ago
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        • IMCP: How did you decipher an affair from that? 27 min ago
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          • I scrolled back and saw messages from the last few years. Sparse...but enough of a clue. 26 min ago
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            • IMCP: That's odd that he didn't delete those. 25 min ago
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    • oof sorry. how did you find out 36 min ago
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    • Why’d he fess up now? 36 min ago
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    • ^for anybody who has btdt, how did you deal. I don't know what to do to deal with this. 36 min ago
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      • its hard and will take time. but if you truly are solid, you can heal. 35 min ago
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        • np how can a marriage be solid, a partnership be considered solid if one partner has betrayed the other in this way? it's fake solid. 33 min ago
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        • I thought we were solid. I feel so shaky now. I've been married 28 years. I don't know how to act around him. 33 min ago
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          • he says he will do whatever it takes to rebuild trust again. He doesn't want the kids to find out. 29 min ago
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          • Did you have any clues at the time, or is he just a really skillful liar? I’m sorry this happened. 29 min ago
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            • no clues. None at all. I was blindswiped yesterday when a message popped up on his screen. 28 min ago
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              • NP so he's still in touch with his girlfriend? 27 min ago
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                • yes 25 min ago
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                  • well, that's that. game over. 24 min ago
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              • what exactly did she say? 27 min ago
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                • she was wanting to come back to the US and was asking for help. 25 min ago
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                  • Has he been financially involved too? 23 min ago
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                    • I think he gave her some money 8 years ago. 21 min ago
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                      • I bet they are more in touch and he has given her more support than he has admitted to . Quietly speak to both a therapist and a lawyer. 19 min ago
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    • how did you find out? its devastating and hard to rebuild trust. you'll need him to be completely transparent going forward. 36 min ago
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    • I'm sorry. Did you confront him? How did he react? 30 min ago
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      • Yes. He admitted to it and was really really sorry. He says he will do whatever I want him to so build the trust again. He doesn't want the kids to know and he doesn't want to...(more) 27 min ago
        rock the boat. He says me and the kids are all he has and he doesn't want to lose us. I don't know what to think. He's still somewhat in touch with the woman on whats app.
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        • IMCP: Have you confronted the whore? 26 min ago
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        • Lawyer up lady. 25 min ago
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          • This post has been deleted. 25 min ago
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            • Hardly. I’m just not a doormat 24 min ago
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          • Neither of us wants a divorce. He still loves me...or so he says. 24 min ago
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            • so you just have to suck it up. he gets what he wants - a wife, a happy family picture, the children he sired, the girlfriend. you get what you want - married life. 22 min ago
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            • May I ask why you would stay with someone that can lie for so long and hide such a betrayal 22 min ago
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              • op: good question. I think I'm just in shock right now. Like I said, we've been married 28years. I cannot think right now. 20 min ago
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              • he probably thought he was in the clear after 8 years 19 min ago
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                • he's been conversing w.her though over the last 8 17 min ago
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                  • that tells you he's comfortable with hiding things from you and having something on the side. proceed with caution. therapist for sure. and decide what you're willing to tolerate...(more) 15 min ago
                    from him.
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            • get into marriage counseling. He has to delete whatsapp and anything else he uses to communicate with her, and he has to tell her that she isn't to contact him anymore. From...(more) 20 min ago
              there, you will just have to take it one day at a time and keep your eyes open, as there is a chance he can just take it underground and communicate with her in other ways. GL
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        • Well that needs to end 25 min ago
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        • he sucks. fuck that. 25 min ago
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        • HE HAS TO CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION WITH THE WHORE or there is no way to move forward. BTDT. 12 min ago
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    • This post has been deleted. 28 min ago
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    • IMCP: FINALLY an interesting thread on YBM. So many losers on here posting dumb threads. 27 min ago
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    • I'm so sorry, you must be in such pain and disbelief over this, and I really am not trying to make it harder on you, but IME you have to assume that he is still not being 100%...(more) 23 min ago
      honest with you. He admitted to the affair with that woman because you happened to see the messages, but a guys who cheats rarely does it just with that one person. There may be more going on than you know.
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      • ^^myself and every single woman i know who discovered a partner cheating realized later that what dh admitted to was the tip of the iceberg. 21 min ago
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        • I have to agree. i met someone and found out he was in a relationship and i certainly wasnt the only woman he was fucking. 17 min ago
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    • op: Do you think I should message her and confront her? 16 min ago
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      • Absolutely not!!!!! Read the good advice you have received here to speak to a lawyer and a therapist. Don't say anything to dh til you figure out next moves, even if it is only...(more) 14 min ago
        that you wil both go to counseling.
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      • I think you and your dh need professional help. Will he go to counseling? You would also likely benefit from your own therapist if you don't already have one 14 min ago
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      • honestly, it's not about her at all. his promise was to you. HE betrayed you. 10 min ago
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      • no there is nothing to gain from this. you need to try and take steps w.your dh to figure out if you are able to overcome this. he needs to be truthful transparent and honest. can...(more) 6 min ago
        you look through his email account? facebook? etc.?
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    • BTDT and found out the extent of an office relationship 7 years later. I can go on for days of what cheaters will do to minimize their bad actions. Get over to...(more) 15 min ago
      survivinginfidelity.com and start reading. You need to check out the 180 and healing library.
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  11. Toddler What do you know about intermittent fasting? Any good links for me? 40 min ago (6 replies)
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    • Google Dr. Fung 40 min ago
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    • IMCP: there's a Ted talk about it on youtube 39 min ago
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      • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 38 min ago
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    • there's a subreddit about it. they are very supportive and answer lots of questions 38 min ago
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    • bascially skip breakfast, light meal at dinner. works for me. 38 min ago
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  12. Toddler Love costco. bought an appliance, so easy to get a price adjustment when it went on sale a few weeks later. 41 min ago (3 replies)
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    • I think for appliances, Costco actually isn't the best deal same for tv sets 40 min ago
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      • I researched a lot and it was the best deal. 39 min ago
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      • Eh, it is very good for setting a base line 38 min ago
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  13. Toddler IMCP: This song just came on (Mr. MR. Broken Wings) and it's really intense and moody...(more) 42 min ago (9 replies)
    • IMCP: When I first heard that Bryan Adams song "Summer of 69" I thought it was so cool, but now it's lost its effect. I like Italo DIsco now 41 min ago
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      • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 40 min ago
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        • IMCP: I like this song, even though I'm independently wealthy and dont' have to work. Everyone's watching, to see what you will do Everyone's looking at you, oh Everyone's 40 min ago
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          • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 40 min ago
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            • IMCP: omg North Korea is so weird. Here is their military orchestra playing an instrumental version of taht 80s song Tarzan Boy...(more) 39 min ago
              • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 39 min ago
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                • IMCP: If you don't have a random song in your head at least once a day, you're prob depressed. Right now I'm singing "Bad Medicine" by Bon Jovi. No idea why I thought of it! 39 min ago
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      • friend and I love "Summer of '69" because that's when we were born. It's like our anthem. Although, it's not about the year - we stuck with it even after we knew what it ...(more) 37 min ago
        really about.
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  14. Toddler Self awareness and consideration are high on my list of values. I know they are a couple of my top values, because when I judge, these are often what I'm judging about. What are...(more) 42 min ago (9 replies)
    your top values?
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    • Being open minded. 41 min ago
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    • loyalty and generosity 41 min ago
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    • IMCP: Not having values 41 min ago
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      • (or any other obligations or rules of any kind. IMCP life!) 41 min ago
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        • ^^^ crazy person with a word doc of imcp posts, that she spams in reply to imcp's threads 38 min ago
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    • Love. That’s it. That’s my value. 41 min ago
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      • What does love look like in this sense? 40 min ago
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        • I love. I do everything out of love. All you need is love. Etc. 38 min ago
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  15. Toddler Justin Timberlake is behind a game show now? new king of all media 44 min ago (14 replies)
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    • blech. he's so fug 44 min ago
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    • they don't vax 44 min ago
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      • she's a nazi 43 min ago
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      • Actually they have but question the requirement 42 min ago
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        • I don't believe them 41 min ago
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    • is he an anti vexer? I know his wife is... 43 min ago
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    • so is stephen curry. 41 min ago
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      • what's he doing? 41 min ago
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      • that looks like the most stupid thing i have ever seen in my life. he should be ashamed of himself. f'in loser. 40 min ago
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      • the life size mini golf one? that looks funny 39 min ago
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        • if you;re a moron 35 min ago
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          • or if I'm not an uptight bitch and understand there are people who like to be silly and have fun 14 min ago
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  16. Toddler The new season of Big Little Lies is wonderful. I was worried they would botch it when moving beyond the book. 44 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Only thing is the story segments are too short for me 44 min ago
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      • Yes I do always wish each scene would last a few minutes longer, it's like they end it before it's finished, but probably on purpose 43 min ago
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        • I feel old complaining about it. LOL. But I have been enjoying it too 42 min ago
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    • I loved the coffee scene between Jane and Meryl Streep last night. 42 min ago
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  17. Toddler Home sick. Want to binge watch something new. The Crown, Tre Detective or Westworld? 46 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Crown 45 min ago
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    • Did you watch Dead to ME? 45 min ago
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    • Queen of the south 41 min ago
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    • started Fleabag and love it so far 30 min ago
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  18. Toddler You know that are resident weirdo posts without the moniker. Her syntax is so transparent 46 min ago (1 reply)
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    • IMCP: PSA, there are a few depressed/angry people on YBM all day, spreading negativity. You can identify them from their writing style. Be aware and don't let them affect you! 43 min ago
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  20. Toddler Long shot, but maybe YBM feels like giving out free legal advice, Ex was arrested for a DUI last month when he didn't have the kids. This weekend is the first time he's going to...(more) 47 min ago (32 replies)
    see them since then and he hasn't contacted me to tell me about it or talk about how they will get to his house. If I just contact him to tell him that I'll be dropping them off and picking them up so he doesn't drive them, he'll probably figure out that I know about his DUI arrest. (We have a court date coming up for child support issues.) Is there any reason that I shouldn't let him know that I know about the DUI? Or any reason I SHOULD let him know that I know?
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    • IMCP: The questions on here are always so nuanced and calculated. 46 min ago
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      • legal stuff always is. 46 min ago
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      • Yes to avoid asshole Sh responses from you (specifically) 45 min ago
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    • Let him stress whether you know or not. 46 min ago
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    • Why don’t you want him to know that you know? 45 min ago
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      • that's my question. Is there a reason I'd prefer one way or the other? 44 min ago
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        • Nah. Just let him know you'll drive the kids. If he wants to talk to you about it he will. But maybe he'll be relieved that you worked out the situation before he had to call...(more) 43 min ago
          and tell you what happened. You're kind.
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        • I’m not a lawyer but I think being straightforward and compassionate will be good for coparenting. The legal facts remain the same regardless of how you handle this 43 min ago
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    • how did you find out? 44 min ago
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      • DD was googling his last name. But she doesn't know. 43 min ago
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      • I want to know too 43 min ago
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        • he has a very uncommon last name. DD was googling her last name and told me that someone with our last name was arrested for selling meth - which is pretty crazy since we know...(more) 36 min ago
          everyone with that name in the US. So I looked it up - no idea what she meant about meth since I didn't see that, but ex's name was there with his booking number for the DUI arrest.
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    • In our state, the revocation of license is not immediate. It's a result of court proceedings. So, he probably still technically has his license. Although, I can see why you'd want...(more) 43 min ago
      to prevent him from driving the kids.
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      • I called the police station where he was booked and asked. They said that you have your license for 7 days after the arrest and then it is suspended, so he'd not have a license...(more) 42 min ago
        by now.
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        • then I'd just be upfront with him. you know and you made a plan. I'd ask what he intends to do with them while he has them though. are they just hanging out at his house all the...(more) 40 min ago
          time?
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          • Usually, yes. he lives with his mom so sometimes she takes them somewhere. 40 min ago
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    • I think it will play out naturally. You'll tell him you are dropping off and picking up the kids. If he asks why, you'll tell him. But how do you make sure he doesn't drive them...(more) 43 min ago
      during the visit?
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      • Unfortunately, i can't. I asked the police when I called to ask about the DUI and they said there's nothing I can do legally, though, if he did get pulled over for driving...(more) 41 min ago
        without a license, he'd just have to call someone to ask for a ride, they wouldn't arrest him for that.
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    • I would not tell him you know - it will only add to drama and tension. Tell your lawyer and deal with it the right way 39 min ago
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      • "deal with it the right way"? 38 min ago
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        • Through the courts/custody stuff coming up 32 min ago
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          • It won't have any impact other than him not being allowed to drive. 32 min ago
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            • Then let that happen. I think avoiding drama is the best Course 31 min ago
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      • np I don’t think she “tells” him, but preemptively OfferIng to drive is a kindness to him 36 min ago
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        • I agree with offering to drive. I'm answering her question. I don't think she should tell him she knows 31 min ago
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          • ^I mean don't offer the info up - if he asks, don't lie 31 min ago
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    • if this will be a custody/parenting time issue, you should let it be known that you are aware of the DUI. 37 min ago
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      • Only in that he won't be able to drive, so they'll have to be dropped off at his place and picked up. 35 min ago
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  21. Toddler IMCP: Survey please. Is this woman attractive or ugly? I can't tell. Her face is so unusual...(more) 47 min ago (6 replies)
    • IMCP: Reminder, these are the height of life: having men fight over you, having a man want to eat your ass out, being hot, being young, being thin, being financially independent. 47 min ago
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      • OK no way am I clicking that link 45 min ago
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        • IMCP: Last night when I was out in a really cool part of LA, a bald dork, looked like an accountant or lawyer, said hi in a superhappy emphatic way. i think he was a loser 44 min ago
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          • Oh. I get it. This IMCP thing is a thing. How do you come up with these sentences? they're so random 43 min ago
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            • it's a crazy person with a word doc of all of imcp's old posts, that she spams in her threads 42 min ago
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        • the link is fine. You're talkign to the crazy fake imcp 43 min ago
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  22. Toddler Have had a trip planned with 3 gfs for a while. The one I really like just cancelled Bc she is separated and her ex is giving her grief about being away all the time on her...(more) 49 min ago (46 replies)
    weekends. I’m kind of annoyed that she is canceling. Should I say something?
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    • why is that his biz? 49 min ago
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      • If it's her weekend and she's going away then who has the kids? 49 min ago
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        • oh i took it to mean Her free weekends. then he is right. 48 min ago
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          • I agree. Maybe OP can clarify. 48 min ago
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          • Op: this is his weekend with the kids. He is complaining that she is always away even on her weekends. 47 min ago
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            • so he complains when the kids are with him??? why does she have to be around for that? 47 min ago
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              • He sucks for saying something and she sucks for giving in to him. 46 min ago
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            • by Her Weekend, you mean her weekend to herself? 47 min ago
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              • Correct. 46 min ago
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                • wtf then! 46 min ago
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                  • This--I would say something. Her dh is controlling her. 44 min ago
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            • sounds like she is making excuses but whatever, people can cancel and you can choose whether you wish to make plans with them again 46 min ago
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            • But if the ex has the kids, why does he even need to know what she's doing with her weekend? 46 min ago
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              • this. there's more to this than OP likely knows. You don't share your weekend/evening plans with your ex if you don't have the kids. 45 min ago
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            • ... complaining she's away on his weekends? 45 min ago
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            • Why is she away on her own weekends with the kids? 45 min ago
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              • away on her FREE WEEKEND, no kids. 45 min ago
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                • the op said the dh is complaining she is ALSO away a lot on her weekends w/ kids. why? and maybe they had an arrangement to switch for this weekend to make up for one of hers she...(more) 44 min ago
                  was away for
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                  • Maybe. The OP is confusing. I think she mistyped and meant her friend has been going away on his weekends and that's annoying. She should be free to do what she wants when he...(more) 40 min ago
                    has them.
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    • what good will that serve? 49 min ago
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      • That’s why I’m asking. I don’t think it will do anything. 48 min ago
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        • Sounds like he's asking her to pick between him and you, and she chose him 41 min ago
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    • What ae you going to say? 49 min ago
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    • No. You need to support her. 49 min ago
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    • sure, if you want her to dump you as a friend (which would be a good idea, IMO). 48 min ago
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    • Pick a different weekend that everyone can do. 48 min ago
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      • This was the weekend that everyone can do. And we’ve had it booked and planned since March. 46 min ago
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        • Maybe you should say something then. If she can't go away on the weekend her kids are with DH and she obviously isn't going away on her weekends that she has the kids, then her...(more) 45 min ago
          EX is saying she can never go away? WTF?
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    • I hate you. 48 min ago
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    • I'll take her place. Are you nice? 47 min ago
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    • Say something like what? He is right. 47 min ago
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      • ^ oh wait. it's HIS weekend? i'm confused. why does she have to be around? unless he expected to trade that weekend w/ her for missing one of her weekends? and is it true she...(more) 46 min ago
        misses her time w/ her kids? if so, she's in the wrong.
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        • I have no idea. She said he is being super sensitive right now. 45 min ago
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          • Probably because she has a boyfriend. 36 min ago
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    • No. Remember and make plans in the future with her accordinly. 47 min ago
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    • You're annoyed because you're trip will be ruined because she's not there? Or, are you annoyed because you care about her and don't like to see her being "manipulated" by 44 min ago
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      • I’m annoyed Bc I think it’s an excuse and he is manipulating her. I’m annoyed Bc I really wanted to see her this weekend. 43 min ago
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        • So, two things are going on. You don't believe that she really wants to go (thus the excuse). The send, you feeling a need to protect her from dh? 41 min ago
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          • ^^^ ex, dh 41 min ago
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            • ^^^^ You don't think she's being honest with you about going on the trip? 40 min ago
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              • I don’t think she is. I think she has been away with her new bf on the weekends she doesn’t have the kids and wants to also see him this weekend. 39 min ago
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                • Well there you go. 38 min ago
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                • That's your conversation. Good luck! 35 min ago
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    • Certainly if you will lose a deposit or a precious baretered weekend of your own free time. It sucks. She shoudl at least apologize. 43 min ago
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  23. Toddler I have an item on my to do list: “dueling.” What could this be 50 min ago (5 replies)
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  24. Toddler IMCP: Last night I had a vision of what the earth will be like in a million years. Does anyone want to know? 51 min ago (7 replies)
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    • yes 51 min ago
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      • IMCP: All mammals die off. The world is now run by super-smart insects and birds 51 min ago
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        • IMCP: Oh, and fish 51 min ago
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          • IMCP: Ladies whose thighs/ass are so fat that you look grossly fat even in black spanx (that's really fat) -- don't wear them! I'm seeing too many of these in LA 50 min ago
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            • ^^^ fake IMCP spammer 50 min ago
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              • IMCP: I'm not even watching the Oscars. I gained like 2lbs the last few weeks and I was already fat for LA so don't need the emotional distress 49 min ago
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      • IMCP: I did that before junior high. 51 min ago
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  25. Toddler MIL is a little tough to deal with. Controlling, poor listener, racist, gossipy. I am always straining to come up with a topic of conversation. If I compliment her on an...(more) 52 min ago (17 replies)
    outfit...that is the worst. Without fail, she will go to Sears (or whatever) and BUY ME an outfit just like that and send it to me. Every time I see her i get more and more stuck about what to say.
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    • weather is always good 51 min ago
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      • Weather. Yep. Can do. 49 min ago
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      • It is a loooooooooooooooooooong day though (OP) 49 min ago
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      • this, garden, how delicious the peaches are this year... 48 min ago
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        • OK, I would find myself with a peach delivery the next week, but at least I don't have to wear peaches. 47 min ago
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    • recipes 51 min ago
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      • She does not cook. Has little interest in food and can't boil water. She eats bland stuff like grilled cheese or pork chops. 50 min ago
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    • does she have a pet? just talk about the pet and how cute it is 51 min ago
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      • No pets. No interests except neighborhood gossip. 50 min ago
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        • encourage her to keep talking, you pretend to listen while making To Do lists in your head 49 min ago
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          • haha..I guess I could always ask about what the neighbors are up to 46 min ago
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    • oh my - compliment her on her hair instead or her smile 49 min ago
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      • Ok. good one. I will try that. thanks. 49 min ago
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    • Her health: let her go on and on and on and all you have to do is barely listen. It passes some time. 49 min ago
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      • I will try. She's actually less of a talker than a pry-er. But any little bit helps. 46 min ago
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