Toddler
- Toddler Are you an liberal elite democrat?
- Liberal non-elite democrat
- No
- what would make me elite?
- Not sure what there is to dislike about this question. Not a moral judgement.
- of course it is, classic, like are you a "red state redneck" voter?
- the use of the word "elite" is loaded with judgment
- "liberal elite" is something you only hear on fox news
- liberal, vote dem. What does the elite part refer to in your definition?
- Affluent, educated, progressive politics, typically white.
- Toddler Eleagant pre-dinner drinks spots (NYC)?? My 78yo mom is meeting her old beau (from back when she was 35!), and needs somewhere nice to go...Ideas?
- Omg how cute. I like the lounge in the Mandarin hotel.
- Toddler At dinner w/friends last nigh one df announced her dh had asked her for a divorce and then said that she did not want to talk about it. It was awful.
- Sad. It's in the air...
- Yeah and we felt like we couldn't offer comfort or support because she did not want to discuss.
- sometimes I feel like these discussions are really for people to glean information etc. Not to be cynical but
- Yeah and we felt like we couldn't offer comfort or support because she did not want to discuss.
- Aw that stinks.
- Was this turn of events a surprise?
- be sure to reach out to offer your support. Divorce is just so, so hard. But tell her that Life 2.0 can be great...
- Sad. It's in the air...
- Toddler Does your grocery sell whole chickens cut into pieces? I can never find this anyone. It's either a whole intact chicken or parts sold separately. Can I just summer the whole...(more)
- Yes, but you can cut it up yourself
- Fine to cook it whole, but cutting one up isn't hard, or you could take whole chicken to butcher and they'll do it
- Yes ours sells that.
- We have a local butcher shop that does this. But I watched a YouTube video and can do it myself now.
- Toddler I exfoliated my lips with sugar baby sugar balm and now they feel better but still dry. Is this just part of getting older? I am using so much chap stick and even blistex is...(more)
- Are you licking your lips?
- Trying to stop
- Try Cortaid over night. Tastes like ass but works. Also lanolin, if you're not allergic
- ^And a humidifier
- Is that for lips where you may injest it?
- Are you licking your lips?
- Toddler Interesting article about AirBnB scam in London....(more)
- Toddler If you are the wealthy DF do you ever feel uncomfortable about it or are most of your DF the same wealth level?
- I am very humble about our finances so no
- ffs
- excuse me? I do not wear fancy clothes, have amazing handbags, shoes. end of story
- ffs
- I'm a little wealthier then my friends but it's never uncomfortable. But I don't flaunt it either
- I'll get to it - one DF is very class conscious and always discusses different class markers, which makes me uncomfortable. I don't flaunt it either, but she makes comments about...(more)
- I think it's private info also. I have one woman in my social circle like this too and I just find it really nosy and not nice. No one else wants to compare note
- So, should I break off the friendship? It's very uncomfortable, and I'm tired of nodding and being polite.
- I can't tell you what to do but I would look at the relationship and if there was more there that I enjoyed I would either try to overlook this or be honest and explain that it...(more)
- She is somewhat obsessed because she attended Ivy and is friends with very successful people, but is not successful herself (meaning, no money, not status-job, etc.). So she's...(more)
- I can't tell you what to do but I would look at the relationship and if there was more there that I enjoyed I would either try to overlook this or be honest and explain that it...(more)
- So, should I break off the friendship? It's very uncomfortable, and I'm tired of nodding and being polite.
- about whose? how would she know.
- She'll openly discuss her assets (little), and I feel pressured to share (not a lot, but more than hers). This is a main staple of conversation for her and I don't like it about...(more)
- I think it's private info also. I have one woman in my social circle like this too and I just find it really nosy and not nice. No one else wants to compare note
- I'll get to it - one DF is very class conscious and always discusses different class markers, which makes me uncomfortable. I don't flaunt it either, but she makes comments about...(more)
- I am very humble about our finances so no
- Toddler Has your DH ever used Magnum condoms?
- No we use grown up birth control
- every time
- My DH buys the Trojan pleasure ones.
- we are too old for bc
- Toddler If Bernie picks Tulsi as his running mate, I cannot vote for him.
- He's more likely to pick a ham sandwich than her.
- Thank you. I needed to hear that.
- a) he won't pick her, and b) no matter who he picks, he will lose against Trump
- - no subject -...(more)
- honestly the far right people like Bernie more than Bloomberg, klobuchar and Pete.
- doesn't matter, they will vote trump
- right! forgot about that lol
- doesn't matter, they will vote trump
- where did they idea that he mentored her come from? I don see this at all
- He didn't.
- I thought I read that
- I am sure you did but I know Tulsi (irl) and he didn't.
- thank you. she is a wing nut
- I am sure you did but I know Tulsi (irl) and he didn't.
- I thought I read that
- He didn't.
- democrats need to UNITE
- Stop. If he is the nominee, there is zero chance he would pick someone who doesnt support MFA.
- I hope he does because it will be all the most obvious that he's a Russian puppet too.
- well I dont see that.
- where is it obvious?
- - no subject -...(more)
- He won't pick her
- Remember that time Tulsi was the only congress person to not cast a vote in a historic impeachment vote. "Present" was cast. She was the only one to do that.
- He won’t, but if you take that stance, you’re saying you’re voting for trump
- He's more likely to pick a ham sandwich than her.
- Toddler 13yo wants her own iPad for digital drawing. But that gets us thinking ahead to high school. Can she get by with an iPad and keyboard, using google docs? Or should she get a...(more)
- No. Even in our district they issue Chromebooks in HS. They used to do iPads but it wasn't great.
- ^ also my 13 yo DD has asked for an iPad for the same reason and I'm resistant. I signed her up for art classes instead to learn real techniques first with physical tools.
- Our district gives each student an iPad, so yes.
- No. Even in our district they issue Chromebooks in HS. They used to do iPads but it wasn't great.
- Toddler Do you like these nails?...(more)
- Lol, I like it! This lady has high expectations and is safe
- Toddler DS left the door to his room open, and he shares with my oldest. There was a Valentine's gift of chocolates up high....(more)
- Why did you dh get angry. I probably read your post wrong
- I'm not tracking which DS is crying?
- ^^and overall it sounds like your DH is a dick
- ^^and you sound shitty because you both are focused on whatever an 8yo did wrong and not that he is so upset he is crying in the bathroom becuase your harsh DH made him feel like...(more)
- I was focused on what my husband did. I wasn't there for it, but it was obviously ineffective and unnecessary or else DS would be focused on what he did wrong and not how he was...(more)
- your dh wasn't watching the toddler who could have gotten hurt and he took that out on your 8yo.....nice
- Your 8yo did nothing wrong
- I was focused on what my husband did. I wasn't there for it, but it was obviously ineffective and unnecessary or else DS would be focused on what he did wrong and not how he was...(more)
- I suspect DH thinks that our OP babies the younger son and that is why his response was out of proportion.
- It's possible to give a consequence and set boundaries without telling an 8yo boy you don't want to have to listen to him cry. So fucked up. Give him a time out, lose access to...(more)
- Is this the first instance wherein you felt your dh was too harsh and he felt you were too indulgent?
- I was at work, so I came home to this.
- Is this the first instance where this dynamic has shown up?
- I was at work, so I came home to this.
- I've seen a neighbor dad not hold the hand of his preK kid crossing the road. You have no idea how deep this bro no feelings or affection conditioning can go.
- As in holding hands is not for a boy and his dad. A 4yo FFS
- Is this the first instance wherein you felt your dh was too harsh and he felt you were too indulgent?
- It wasn't the youngest he yelled at. It was our middle child. And it wasn't so much that he yelled. I wasn't there, but the kids all day DH was really mean.
- It's possible to give a consequence and set boundaries without telling an 8yo boy you don't want to have to listen to him cry. So fucked up. Give him a time out, lose access to...(more)
- ^^and you sound shitty because you both are focused on whatever an 8yo did wrong and not that he is so upset he is crying in the bathroom becuase your harsh DH made him feel like...(more)
- The 8 year old, who room shares and was sitting next to my two year old while the toddler was climbing a shelving unit and getting into my oldest's gift.
- so it's the 8yo's fault that you can't manage your toddler?
- I was at work. DH should have been with our youngest.
- yes. and he wasn't and is taking something out on the 8yo.
- I was at work. DH should have been with our youngest.
- wit. i thought the 8 yo stole big brother's chocolate. a 2 yr old did it and it's the 8 yr old's fault? not fair to make kids responsible for each other that young
- The door is child proofed, but our eight year old left the door open because he figured it was okay since he was going to be in it anyway. But he was playing a video game and got...(more)
- and your dh was not watching the baby
- where was dh?
- I asked him. He said he was still in bed and didn't realize our youngest had woken up so early.
- so he is passing the blame. . its DH'S FAULT
- what time is so early that 2 yo was up and 8yo was up playing video games...yet DH was still in bed? where was older DS?
- I came in around 7:30 this morning and this my eight rear old was already in the bathroom crying. My oldest was asleep in the living room.
- I asked him. He said he was still in bed and didn't realize our youngest had woken up so early.
- The door is child proofed, but our eight year old left the door open because he figured it was okay since he was going to be in it anyway. But he was playing a video game and got...(more)
- so it's the 8yo's fault that you can't manage your toddler?
- ^^and overall it sounds like your DH is a dick
- 8 is old enough to know not to steal
- sounds like you picked a real winner
- She spawned him
- Always fascinating to see how boys are told not to feel or express emotions at an early age.
- np no shit. go cry in the bathroom?? what the fuck.
- Toxic masculinity is alive and well in bro-land America.
- it totally is
- Toxic masculinity is alive and well in bro-land America.
- He’s a thief
- np no shit. go cry in the bathroom?? what the fuck.
- We send our kids to our garage for that
- Why?
- dark sarcasm
- marry me
- dark sarcasm
- Why?
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- Toddler I’d like to read a biography. Anyone have any good suggestions?
- Kay Graham's is a classic of the genre
- Jessica sympson, Steve Jobs, Einstein's or Andre aggesi's
- ^^alexander Hamilton's
- Jessica Simpson or Einstein. So similar
- Well, it depends on what op is interested in.
- ^^im listening JS's on audible, it's surprisingly great
- Well, it depends on what op is interested in.
- Toddler Anecdotal observation: my sahm friends are more frequently late than my wohm friends. less practice with time management?
- Yes
- op: trying to be patient, but i have LOTS to do this afternoon and this particular friend always keeps me waiting.
- Np, that drives me insane, I can't keep friends like that
- op: trying to be patient, but i have LOTS to do this afternoon and this particular friend always keeps me waiting.
- I think it is a personality thing. Some are late, some are not.
- to me its a chicken or the egg thing. are they out of practice or were they lackadaisical types who aren't cut out to be professional successes anyway
- makes sense
- IMO, the richer the friend, the more often they are late.
- I am trying to decide if that’s true for my group. I don’t think so. I know now that I am working full time I am so much more likely to be late for things bc of traffic. I don’t...(more)
- Really doubt that. I’m always in time, religiously regardless of work status
- I find the opposite - a lot of my WOHM friends are really pulled in too many directions and overcommit - so they are often late
- Chronically late people are selfish. It doesn’t matter if they sah or woh.
- Yes
- Toddler What do you think of this house? dc in college, so I don't need schools. Fixer upper...(more)
- Looks like a lot of work!
- No. Not to me
- well, it's as it and will likely need new heating, e tc
- No. Not to me
- too much brown
- I like it a lot, have you already made an offer?
- I have
- definitely needs some fixing
- Right - with a price tha low I can afford to rehabilitate, and I think I can work with guest cottage as an airbnb
- It's nice but do you really want to be so isolated?
- this.
- Yes and now. Need nature, but closest "cool" towns are 23 & 33 min away (new Paltz and Kingston)
- ^the view is lovely
- Too far. Iveived in rural NY. I think it'll get old.
- ^ I've lived
- I grew up in the Adirondacks, lol, I know rural
- Ok well then I think the house is good. Has it had an inspection yet?
- It's a foreclosure, no. As "is"
- Oh ok. Hmmmm. I guess my biggest concern would be hidden water issues. Is it septic?
- Didn't say. :((
- Id find that it. If it's well water with septic and d it could be a very costly repair. Btdt.
- Def will do that, ty. Also well
- Id find that it. If it's well water with septic and d it could be a very costly repair. Btdt.
- Didn't say. :((
- Oh ok. Hmmmm. I guess my biggest concern would be hidden water issues. Is it septic?
- It's a foreclosure, no. As "is"
- Ok well then I think the house is good. Has it had an inspection yet?
- really cute if you are handy and willing to put in the work
- why so much space for 1?
- Well, dh and kids on vacation, it's like 1800 sq ft
- what? I thought you were single
- ?
- you have a dh?
- Yes
- ok. there are a lot of "I"s above ....
- lol. That's typical of me, sorry, prob selfish
- lol
- lol. That's typical of me, sorry, prob selfish
- ok. there are a lot of "I"s above ....
- Yes
- you have a dh?
- ?
- what? I thought you were single
- Well, dh and kids on vacation, it's like 1800 sq ft
- Well, the guest cottage is a really nice thing to have if you can fix it up nicely
- it is super cute and if you have some money to put into it could be great. that said it looks like a poor investment, if you care about that
- It's not to resell. It's possible the area will attract more business/culture as people seek to escape the city (as I do)
- well eventually you will resell.
- We plan to stay there. Keep apt in brooklyn for a time, then retire ther e
- ^eventually our kids will inherit
- nice
- ^eventually our kids will inherit
- We plan to stay there. Keep apt in brooklyn for a time, then retire ther e
- ^Dh is also very handy, which would help a lot
- it reminds me so much of my first house, well my only house! we refinished the basement and attic and it went from 2 bed one bath to 4 bed 2 bath. the main floor rooms are...(more)
- I can't be sure from pic, but might know out wall between dining room and kitchen
- ^and lose deck and put in a conservatory type addition
- I wouldn't! keep it.
- ^we did when we remodeled, and I am so glad
- Decks are impossible without shade1
- ^andn what weirdness lives/grows beneath it?
- poster with the similar house above. we took the deck out and did flagstone patio.
- ^andn what weirdness lives/grows beneath it?
- I can't be sure from pic, but might know out wall between dining room and kitchen
- it reminds me so much of my first house, well my only house! we refinished the basement and attic and it went from 2 bed one bath to 4 bed 2 bath. the main floor rooms are...(more)
- well eventually you will resell.
- It's not to resell. It's possible the area will attract more business/culture as people seek to escape the city (as I do)
- Great bones, the kitchen looks livable but I would want to redo that kitchen
- Oh, ITA, I wish to god they hadn't done kitchen, hate it. But it's workable while we fix the rest
- you can still redo it. you dont have to gut it
- true. really have to see it. photos can be so deceptive. TY
- you can still redo it. you dont have to gut it
- Oh, ITA, I wish to god they hadn't done kitchen, hate it. But it's workable while we fix the rest
- Looks like a lot of work!
- Toddler Last week was my birthday! Had treat meals on Monday, Thursday and Friday. Hope I didn’t gain
- Do not weigh. Just get back on track and don’t think about it
- Did you get birthday sex three times last week too?
- Toddler What should I make for dinner tonight?
- we landed on black bean burgers with pepper jack and avocado, garlic tater tots and roasted Brussel sprouts. cherry pie for dessert.
- Np. I like the way you think
- Chicken wings and roasted broccoli.
- Bacon mac and cheese, chicken fried steak, rolls with butter, and ice cream for dessert
- chicken noodle soup
- meatballs
- We made vegetarian chili
- we landed on black bean burgers with pepper jack and avocado, garlic tater tots and roasted Brussel sprouts. cherry pie for dessert.
- Toddler Pegged to the peloton post. I have never liked classes. So I stil go to a regular gym. Do cardio and weights. Can’t commit to a soul cycle. Orange theory. Pure barre. Etc. I...(more)
- You like what you like. Who really cares? Do what you like
- I like a variety and I tend to go harder in classes.
- I like working out alone in a group
- thanks for sharing
- Toddler Are the Costco roasted chickens junk?
- OMG
- What would make a roasted chicken junk?
- Fine.
- lots of sodium
- That's what makes it delicious
- No more so than any other rotisserie chicken.
- And butter. Yum the butter
- Under ooked
- Toddler Wwyd if you learned your bf was 35 and called his father "daddy"
- Is he Southern?
- He'd better be the scion of an uber wealthy southern dynasty.
- Scion of a semi-wealthy northern non-dynasty family.
- hmmmmm. Marginal. Sibs?
- Scion of a semi-wealthy northern non-dynasty family.
- id think they are close. that's a term of endearment more than anything ime.
- ^and yes it is strange but alas
- I never heard him call his dad anything, usually just says "you" and then he was talking to his mom about her rearranging the furniture and was like "Won't you be sorry when daddy...(more)
- or- not weird imo. my kids call my dh dad, refer to him as dad, but I still refer to him when talking to them as "daddy". I dont think this is unusual and indicates that they are...(more)
- Why am I dating Donald Trump Jr?
- Is there something to do about this? It’s a cultural difference which I accept
- DH calls his dad daddy. English.
- My DH 45yo cousin calls his father daddy. I was very suprised
- My 49 yr old dh, who usually refers to his dad with a spanish nickname usually, does call him daddy once in a blue moon. I was surprised but thought it was sweet.
- Nothing
- Toddler Bowl of blue berries, two slices Ezekiel toast and two thin slices cheddar cheese. Junky brunch?
- Oh stop
- "low-key" brunch
- a junky brunch is a pop tart and jimmy dean saugsage
- Washed down with Diet Coke
- Some of you people are just so sad
- attention seeking.
- Sounds like what we give prisoners
- Come on. You clearly know the answer to this
- Toddler What do kids wear for college visits? Not interviews, just tours etc.
- jeans. nothing special
- regular clothes
- regular clothes. no booty shorts
- Assless chaps and school mascot nipple spinners
- I am closer to having gone on college tours myself than kids, but when I went, I usually wore something like I'd wear to school. And I went to private school so no jeans, usually...(more)
- I guess I just figured you never knew if you'd run into like, your admissions counselor. But some kids wore jeans and nice shirts and that seemed more common. Ten years ago,...(more)
- What's an admissions counselor. We went on tours never met anyone fancy
- I guess I just figured you never knew if you'd run into like, your admissions counselor. But some kids wore jeans and nice shirts and that seemed more common. Ten years ago,...(more)
- look like a college student
- LoL
- My son wore khakis, 1/3 zip sweater or sweatshirt with a button down and sneakers
- Who the F cares? OmG!!
- I do. We are looking this week.
- Wear whatever your kid wears. And it might be a lot of walking.
- I do. We are looking this week.
- jeans, good walking shoes and weather appropriate gear. Interviews are, of course, dressier. I'm a HS counselor and go on a lot of these
- Thank you!
- I am in the midst of this and most are very casual. I insist dd wear jeans rather than leggings cause I hate them
- khakis and a pullover
- Whatever they normally wear. Sweats Jean's whatever
- Toddler Is stevia harmful? Does it make you crave sugar? Lately at night I have been having tea with stevia instead of eating.
- Don’t see how that could be a bad thing
- I am wondering if stevia is bad for you
- Isn’t it a plant?
- Don’t see how that could be a bad thing
- Toddler I live far from family. Parent just died and we're having a service in the summer but I feel so lonely. Married with dcs but all of our friends are really the parents of dcs...(more)
- do you not have any one on one female friendships that give you joy and comfort and something outside your family?
- ^^^ its never too late. start inviting ones you like to coffee. start bonding. this is important imo
- op: I do but they are far away. I also do here but they are not close friends. THink I should reach out anyway?
- do you not have any one on one female friendships that give you joy and comfort and something outside your family?
- Toddler I shouldn't look at twitters like Mike Cernovich but I do sometimes just to see the take and the amount of people on that post that would not vote Bloomberg but WOULD vote Tulsi...(more)
- like our Tulsi troll.
- yes.
- we are so divided. its almost like we need 4 parties
- I miss the Krassenstein brothers
- like our Tulsi troll.