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  1. Special Needs I have "2e" kid with a high IQ. He has anxiety, ADHD, likely mood disorders, learning disabilities. I can never say the gifted part to any SN parent I meet because the few times I...(more) 3-14-2019 9:54pm (10 replies)
    have people have gotten bent out of shape. So my small group of people who understand the hell of our daily lives is now smaller because apparently only other 2e parents will commiserate without the accusation of bragging when it is not bragging at all. Giftedness is a curse. And it's terrible when the SN are present. Please be kind to 2e moms we are NOT BRAGGING
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    • it can be exhausting, hang in there 3-14-2019 9:56pm
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    • On this board there is a definite pecking order of SNs 3-14-2019 10:02pm
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      • What does this mean 3-14-2019 10:09pm
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      • Isn’t that just life in general? I am not going to complain to my friend whose dd is undergoing brain surgery and may be altered for life about my ds with ADHD who is struggling...(more) 3-15-2019 6:29am
        in gen ed 4th grade.
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    • In that boat with you, sister. I also have another SN child, and the 2e one is in many ways more challenging to parent. 3-14-2019 10:03pm
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      • It's crazy. And it's expensive. Exhausting. Sounds like you have your hands full! 3-14-2019 10:09pm
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    • I have a gifted son on the spectrum, and you sound insufferable. 3-14-2019 10:15pm
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    • I'll be honest. In our school system, 2e kids have their own program. And so their needs are met in that program, which includes some awesome teachers and very small class sizes....(more) 3-14-2019 10:18pm
      And my kid is severely dyslexic + ADHD + Anxiety and a very strong student but not gifted. So then she just gets lost. And we try to advocate for our kids but 2e parents are always threatened - won't help the pie get bigger but very afraid that their pie will be taken away. And so there is tension there in our public school, not going to lie.
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      • I know I will get flamed for this but, do you mind sharing the location of this 2e program? 3-15-2019 5:35am
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  2. Special Needs I work in higher ed and this college admissions cheating thing enrages me, but the worst part of all is the faked LDs...(more) 3-13-2019 4:23pm (18 replies)
    I am beyond nauseated at the idea of someone faking learning disabilities to then be able cheat on exams. This is atrocious since enough people already think that LDs are made up in the first place and don't deserve accommodations... to deliberately fake them is sickening, and adds to the perception that they are fake and/or only rich and entitled kids have them.
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    • remember Disney and the outrage over kids getting fastpasses for coming up with doctors' notes? this is 1,000x worse 3-13-2019 4:23pm
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    • I agree. So awful 3-13-2019 4:24pm
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    • As a mom of a dyslexic kid who works her ASS off - so so so hard, it makes me so angry 3-13-2019 4:25pm
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    • I agree, especially because there are a lot of MD parents who create fake accommodations for their dcs. 3-13-2019 4:26pm
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      • Funny, but the otherwise healthy kids I know who get extra time all have MD parents. Interesting observation. 3-13-2019 5:22pm
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    • Yes - A’s the mother of a an child who is in an 8 person classroom and who gets double time, I am furious that people are manipulating the system. 3-13-2019 4:26pm
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    • UMC families often do this, they also get IEP's for their mediocre performing kids so that they get into better high schools 3-13-2019 4:27pm
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      • np Doesn't the IEP hurt their chances? 3-13-2019 4:27pm
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        • No, it helps. It’s treated like diversity 3-13-2019 4:29pm
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          • I actually have read that extra time doesn't help neurotypical kids or kids w/o learning challenges. I don't know if this is true. NP 3-13-2019 4:30pm
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            • i am confident that this is true. Most people to not need all the time to do the tests. 3-13-2019 4:31pm
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              • But many do, likely far more than get the accomodation. To me i would be simplest if the test were untimed. 3-13-2019 5:27pm
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            • Are you kidding me? Extra time allows to double check your work, catch silly mistakes, and on multiple choice question just to try every answer. It helps tremendously. 3-13-2019 4:34pm
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        • not for public schools in nyc. there are separate IEP seats. 3-13-2019 4:30pm
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    • special ed teacher here...and ita. that's the part pissing me off the most too 3-13-2019 4:29pm
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      • Also, do these parents think they can bribe professors for grades?...(more) 3-14-2019 7:23am
        I can’t imagine any professor I’ve ever met doing so. It is totally against everything they worked for in earning a PhD.
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    • We just submitted my DS application for his ACT extra time last week. I’m so nervous now he’ll be turned down. Luckily his documentation goes back to 1st grade so that should be...(more) 3-14-2019 7:27am
      enough. I hope!!!
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  3. Special Needs My DS is 6yo and is in a special needs private in NYC for kids with language based learning disabilities. Trying to think ahead. Let's say in 3 years he doesn't need as much...(more) 2-26-2019 10:41pm (26 replies)
    support but would still benefit from a small class size. Where would he go? My understanding is that mainstream privates have no interest in a child with a history of special needs, no matter how much they grow out of it. Public school class size is too large. Does this mean I'm headed to the burbs? Are there any schools in NYC that would be a realistic next step for us?
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    • why do you think you'd find small class sizes in the burbs? 2-26-2019 10:42pm
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      • Because there are enough burbs out there that I expect we could find one that could offer a small class size, either at a private school or public 2-26-2019 10:45pm
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        • np - our private in New Rochelle is so small that my son has always been with two grades in one classroom. So there are 14 kids in his class right now. 4th/5th grade. 2-26-2019 10:47pm
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          • Wow that sounds amazing! 2-26-2019 10:47pm
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            • it is. he has ADHD. No learning disability, but they still accomodate every kid's quirks. In ds's case, he's easily bored, so they let him do math and reading in the 6th grade...(more) 2-26-2019 10:49pm
              classroom. Too many kids overwhelm him and then he acts out, so we're here for now.
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          • Hudson country day? 2-26-2019 11:01pm
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    • If your child is ready to mainstream there are plenty of privates that will accept them. Btdt as have many people I know 2-26-2019 10:42pm
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      • Can you name any privates that we should look at? If it makes a difference to whether we'd be accepted, we are not important/super wealthy. Just normal. 2-26-2019 10:45pm
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        • check out Friends. Brooklyn or Manhattan 2-26-2019 10:46pm
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          • Manhattan Friends is not for a dc ms out of sn 2-27-2019 12:27pm
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            • This. They are also known for having a ton of hw. More than a lot of the privates 2-27-2019 5:29pm
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        • LREI Brooklyn Friends york Dwight birch Steiner City and Country to name a few. All places that I know that kids from an schools have gone to 2-26-2019 10:49pm
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    • Will your current school help with exmissions? Our school did. 2-27-2019 8:44am
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    • We love bay Ridge Prep in Bklyn. Far for us but worth it. They get kids who are socially typical with an LD. Has been a blessing for my child. 2-27-2019 12:23pm
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    • York Prep, BWL, Trevor Day, LREI, Rudolph STeiner, Bay Ridge. 2-27-2019 12:29pm
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    • That is totally not true about dc with history of special needs. I have three dc and my youngest is at Churchill. I can assure you that the nyc admissions process is difficult...(more) 2-27-2019 12:33pm
      but there are many options and lots of dc come from pvt and public schools with a history of sn and find spots.
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    • The step next less restrictive from a SN private is a self-contained class. Most public...(more) 2-27-2019 4:58pm
      schools have them. My ds has speech/language problems from cerebral palsy, doing great in self-contained class in our neighborhood public school (4th grade).
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      • Most self contained classes are more restrictive than a sn private 2-27-2019 5:51pm
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        • No, SN privates are deemed super restrictive because there is zero e posture to non-disabled...(more) 2-27-2019 9:40pm
          peers. In self-contained, they have recess, lunch, some cluster classes and field trips with typical peers.
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          • Okay, your child is 6 with a lbld and you are looking for future mainstream options. I get it but imo, you will know when his expressive/ receptive and maybe anxiety are able to...(more) 2-27-2019 9:59pm
            accommodate ms. It is a leap but many kids do it . In kindness I would put my energy in the here and now.
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          • I think poster istalking reality of self contained ps classroom as opposed to classification v. SN school. 2-27-2019 10:01pm
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            • Exactly. The doe may classify them like this but that is not the reality. Kids coming out of the LD schools go to ICT classes or ms privates....(more) 2-28-2019 12:12am
              Going to a self contained class is a step backwards for them. Mainly because academics are not strong in those classes and they don’t have the same type of students. Those classes may be great for certain kids But not kids who are ready to ms from a a an private
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    • The mainstream privates won't take him, except maybe Dwight and Birch Wathen or York Prep when he's older. You should go to the burbs. Armonk (Byram Hills school district) has...(more) 3-1-2019 11:03am
      small class sizes and excellent special ed.
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      • ^^ Mainstream privates in many suburbs wold consider your ds, though. 3-1-2019 11:05am
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  4. Special Needs Our child psychologist thinks our 9 year old has a mood disorder - specifically bipolar. I'm completely a mess. Already has anxiety and learning disabilities and is very smart. 1-15-2019 3:50pm (10 replies)
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    • I'm really sorry. I'd also seek another opinion. That is a serious diagnosis and you want to be sure. 1-15-2019 3:51pm
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    • This post has been disliked 3 times. showAh yes, our future where every person will be medicated. 1-15-2019 3:51pm
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      • Wtf?? Fuck off. Np. 1-15-2019 4:06pm
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    • I'm really sorry. What does your Ped think? I'd definitely get LOTS of opinions. Does it run in your family? 1-15-2019 3:54pm
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    • are you in NYC? i would consider consulting with cathryn galanter MD - she is in brooklyn and an expert in pediatric bipolar (which is rare, btw). 1-15-2019 3:59pm
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      • Thank you very much 1-15-2019 4:10pm
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    • See a psychiatrist. A psychologist is not competent to make this dx in a child and could not treat it anyway. 1-16-2019 12:17am
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    • mood disorder is one thing but you really cannot diagnose bipolar until very late teens./young adulthood with accuracy 1-16-2019 12:32am
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  5. Special Needs 7th grade ds is finally being evaluated for LD. I’ve asked at least five times in prior grades and been told stuff like “boys have messy handwriting” “he’s fine”. N...(more) 12-11-2018 7:17pm (6 replies)
    Grade and despite a “highly gifted” designation for language arts, is failing English class. I’ve been reading the stuff on our school district website about Learning disabilities and I’m so, so angry. This kid had all the signs and instead kept being told he was lazy, disorganized, not working hard. First line of the info for teachers basically says “gifted child seriously underperforming? First check for learning disabilities.” I’m so mad that they could have avoided this by doing their jobs. Or by listening when I asked and not saying “it’s fine” or “normal for boys”. It isn’t.
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    • I’m sorry. I hope you get to the bottom of this. 12-11-2018 7:18pm
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    • You have to fight because it’s all about $$ 12-11-2018 7:19pm
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    • Are you in NYS 12-11-2018 7:19pm
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    • is it dysgraphia or something else? 12-11-2018 7:23pm
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  6. Special Needs We’ve been trying to figure out why 12 yo (13 in 2 weeks) ds is struggling so much in school. I just googled learning disabilities and saw dysgraphia as a possible LD. I’m almost...(more) 12-6-2018 2:01pm (4 replies)
    certain he has it. What do we do? This explains so much, the struggle we have with certain forms of work, the fact that he doesn’t meet any other diagnostic standards but still struggles at school.. can anyone tell me about this? It seems like a relatively “minor” issue. But We’ve had such a struggle, for years. School does not seem to notice. What do we do?
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    • has he had a neuropsychological evaluation? 12-6-2018 2:03pm
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    • OT & neuropsych evals will be a good start 12-6-2018 3:26pm
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    • good idea to get evals and then school can help with accommodations. for example, my kid has a computer in class for notes 12-6-2018 3:29pm
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    • dyslexicmom here. You get him evaluated STAT. neuropsych. where are you? 12-6-2018 3:31pm
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  7. Special Needs I am harboring so much bitterness about the lack of thoughtful care my son has received from high end doctors in fancy Fairfield County. He's been SN for ages. He was passed...(more) 11-12-2018 8:41am (6 replies)
    over for early intervention despite obvious deficits. Diagnosed privately at 4 with a full range of developmental delays but cleared for ASD. Diagnosed later for learning disabilities, cleared again for ASD. Sent to a specialist to be checked for Ehlers Danlos and cleared of that. Complained of bowel problems for years to be dismissed with low tone. Ultimately at 15 diagnosed with autism, IBS, and now I'm sending him back to be re-checked for Ehlers Danlos which may be co-morbid with ASD (and IBS is a major symptom). Why am I the researcher? I have paid so much for private evals which missed so much? Where is their culpability? He's lost so much time. I'm just bitter and angry. Thanks for reading all this.
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    • I am so sorry, I can imagine. D has a host of ďnon-dx able traitsĒ and it is for this very reason I have not had a neuropsychologist. I just donít trust them for kids who atent...(more) 11-12-2018 8:47am
      obviously one or the other.
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      • Ds I mean, has some traits. Not D has a host. 11-12-2018 8:47am
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    • I think a lot of doctors end up sliding on their reputations. I know our ADHD neurologist isn't great - I figure out a lot more online about medications than ds's doctor ever...(more) 11-12-2018 8:47am
      discusses with us, even though we ask
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      • That really stinks when you are steering the ship yet seeing doctors for their expertise 11-12-2018 9:52am
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    • Donít blame you a bit. You trust the doctors will make the correct diagnosis. I know several kids who were told their DS not ASD only to be diagnosed years later by another...(more) 11-12-2018 9:51am
      practitioner. Very frustrating. But good for you that you kept pressing these issues and now finally are getting some answers and support.
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    • And those of us who did have those very same people diagnose our children at time of first referral/eval also have bitterness. We've spent a bloody fortune over the years on evals...(more) 11-12-2018 12:02pm
      all up/down the CT coast and into NYC. Our town is supposedly really good for sn but the reality is they're good for the "easy" manifestations. My dc's autism is not something they can handle so he's now outplaced. But, should we have had to suffer so damn much first? Hell f*****g no. But we did.
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  8. Special Needs Question for parents of kids in SN schools focused on speech and language based learning disabilities (or any learning disabilities for that matter). My 6yo came home today...(more) 10-31-2018 10:40pm (6 replies)
    saying that his teacher gave him chewing gum to "help him focus." He's mentioned in the past that the teachers have given other kids gum to help them focus, so I think its for real. Have you ever heard of teachers doing this? Is it a legit way to help kids focus? Like the equivalent of a fidget spinner but for your mouth? (Yes I will ask the teacher but I'm also asking here)
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    • Yes. There are kids that actually this as an accomadation 10-31-2018 10:44pm
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    • Absolutely. Oral stimulation can help some kids. 10-31-2018 10:44pm
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    • Thatís pretty standard 11-1-2018 6:23am
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    • Yes. Legitimate 11-1-2018 6:35am
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    • Yes, my dd did this for a while. Definitely helped. 11-1-2018 11:13am
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      • I wish they didnít do this. My dc has misophonia and the sound of people chewing gives rage/panic reactions 11-1-2018 11:08pm
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  9. Special Needs Can a good eye dr (the type that does eye exams and surgery) perform a special type of eye exam for my son who is having trouble reading? I don't know what this exam is called or...(more) (1 repl...(more) 10-21-2018 8:44am (19 replies)
    Can a good eye dr (the type that does eye exams and surgery) perform a special type of eye exam for my son who is having trouble reading? I don't know what this exam is called or...(more) (1 reply)
    what is involved but when I've posted here in the past about my son's reading difficulties I've had a response about checking his eyes but it was a special way and i want to know what that is called so I can make sure our eye dr does it. Do I need to take him to a specialist? Thank you. He was tested for learning disabilities and does not have any. He has ADHD (low processing score). He is responding well to low dose Ritalin. He is now complaining about things being blurry so I'm taking him to a regular eye dr but i want info on these special tests
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    • I just booked our tickets for vacation. Yay!! 10-21-2018 8:46am
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      • Why are up being mean? I posted this to toddler and now posting to special needs because a lot of moms on that board are very knowledgable (I by accident posted to toddler 2x)....(more) 10-21-2018 8:49am
        Why do you have an issue with this post?
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        • one troll. probably the one who doesn't think a little wind on an October morning is optimal for sailing. I answered you below. Your eye doctor will know the name of the test....(more) 10-21-2018 8:50am
          Just go.
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        • you posted to toddler twice within 4 minutes 10-21-2018 8:55am
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          • Did you take the time to see that I mentioned I did that by accident? Forgot to change to SN. You seriously need to look at why you are so twitchy about this. Maybe take a break...(more) 10-21-2018 8:59am
            off YBM for a while?
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    • I love this fall weather 10-21-2018 8:46am
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    • I feel like I'm paying for cloud storage for every apple account in our house 10-21-2018 8:47am
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    • Vision therapy 10-21-2018 8:47am
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      • So that's the name? I'll ask my eye dr. Thanks 10-21-2018 8:50am
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        • no, that's not the name. Vision therapy can help with tracking issues. But the testing isn't called "vision therapy" 10-21-2018 11:12am
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    • damn, our pumpkin is already getting moldy and carved on Friday 10-21-2018 8:47am
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    • I love caprese salad 10-21-2018 8:48am
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    • I've come to the land of cut and....ehh, nevermind 10-21-2018 8:48am
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      • Wtf is your problem? I'm reposting to special needs Bc moms here have been helpful. You guys are so twitchy and have PTSD 10-21-2018 8:50am
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        • Please don't say guys, when it's so obviously one reposting troll! 10-21-2018 8:50am
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    • Opthamologists can check for both tracking and convergence (both eyes working together). Most do this during a basic eye exam. They also check for depth perception. A behavioral...(more) 10-21-2018 11:12am
      optometrist sometimes does other tests to check on visual processing, which is different - visual processing is your brain's interpretation of what it's seeing, not a functioning of the eye itself.
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      • ^^and P,S. tracking and convergence/binolocular issue or depth perception can impact reading and also copying from the board. That said, most opthamologists think developmental...(more) 10-21-2018 11:14am
        optometrists are quacks because the latter seem to think vision therapy can cure dyslexia and a host of other reading issues.
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    • You want an evaluation by a developmental optometrist. If in NYC, decent ones include Dr. Marcie Evans Stein and the NYU Optometry Center has them. 10-21-2018 6:07pm
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  10. Special Needs Do private schools charge to accommodate dyslexia and other LDs?...(more) 9-23-2018 10:42pm (8 replies)
    Hi! Recently, my nephew's private elementary school began to charge what I consider to be an exorbitant amount to provide coaching for his dyslexia. I gather that if my nephew were in a public school and qualified, he would be given free assistance for his dyslexia, but that the federal statute at issue (IDEA) doesn't apply to private schools. Two questions (1) are there any federal laws that I'm not aware of that require a private school not to charge to provide support for a kid's dyslexia, and (2) regardless of the legal obligations, what's typical? Are most private schools charging families of kids with learning disabilities more? All?
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    • Iím pretty sure the kid could get special ed services through the school district in which they live. Has he been evaluated? Does he have an iep? 9-23-2018 10:46pm
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    • Not required and yes pay more. That said, his parents should not have been surprised by any of this. 9-23-2018 10:46pm
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    • My private school has a learning specialist, but all the kids with dyslexia have private tutors paid for by the parents that come in. 9-23-2018 10:48pm
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    • private schools harge for everything 9-24-2018 8:47am
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    • My ds is in a mainstream private. He gets tutoring 2x for "free" (funded by public school district I believe), and then I pay for additional private tutoring and speech. 9-24-2018 10:12am
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      • ^dyslexia and ADHD dxs 9-24-2018 10:12am
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    • Depends on the school. Some have a fee for service model. 9-24-2018 10:13am
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    • Mainstream private will absolutely charge for additional individual services. 9-24-2018 6:35pm
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  11. Special Needs Toddler I posted earlier but had to step away. Dd is 9 and pretty much had ADHD. Along with that is a bad attitude, hating everything, banging his head and learning disabilities....(more) 8-6-2018 3:47pm (9 replies)
    I'm thinking of committing him. Has anyone dealt with this?
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    • what kind of treatments have you tried? 8-6-2018 3:47pm
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    • You need a better team of professionals to help you 8-6-2018 3:48pm
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      • Op: I'm in the tri state area, ita hard to find people 8-6-2018 3:49pm
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        • You need to try harder. Yell, stomp your feet, call and call and call and call. 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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        • There are a ton of places if you can pay. Has he had any treatment or even a real diagnosis? 8-6-2018 3:52pm
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    • I hear you on how frustrating this all is and some days I think I just cannot handle another day but you are far away from commiting your kid. 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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    • is this a joke? 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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    • Is this the one with ocd? 8-6-2018 3:54pm
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    • What do you mean "pretty much had"? Diagnosed, and it went away? 8-6-2018 3:54pm
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  12. Special Needs Any special needs schools in Manhattan that will take a child with no learning disabilities? 7-15-2018 9:20am (27 replies)
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    • what would be their special need? 7-15-2018 9:21am
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      • ADHD/impulsivity 7-15-2018 9:22am
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        • that's a learning disability 7-15-2018 9:22am
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          • Every school already said they wouldnít take him because he was advanced academically and would be bored when others were working on learning issues but I refuse to believe there...(more) 7-15-2018 9:24am
            is no place for him. I canít experience another year of this. Heís very impulsive with his body. A lot of sensory and a lot of touching.
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            • ^^and that gets in the way of learning 7-15-2018 9:25am
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            • np: then I think you have your answer. If you are willing to go the 1:1 route, you can look at Fusion Academy (for nt students who have special circumstances, like child actors). 7-15-2018 9:45am
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              • 3rd grader too young for this 7-15-2018 10:40am
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                • I'm not so sure about that. At least talk to them. They do have activities for the kids to get together. It's not as if your child won't see another all day (may be different at...(more) 7-15-2018 4:30pm
                  different locations). I know someone who taught at one and most of her students had some kind of learninig issue.
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                  • Fusion in manhattan starts in 6th, or did when we looked at it. 7-15-2018 7:39pm
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            • We had this problem with ds when we hit the wall in public school in 2nd grade. But since then, a number of 2e programs have sprung up. Fusion, one in Nassau County...But I...(more) 7-15-2018 7:41pm
              agree most SN schools are designed for kids who are at least two years behind academically when they first enroll. Summit will sometimes take academic high performers who have social/emotional issues.
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          • no it's not (NP) 7-15-2018 9:24am
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            • according to......??? 7-15-2018 9:25am
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              • learning disabilities association of America. 7-15-2018 9:26am
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                • IDEA covers it. I don't know anything of the association you refer. But the government considers it a learning disability. 7-15-2018 11:04am
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          • No 7-15-2018 9:25am
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    • Whatís their SN? 7-15-2018 9:21am
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      • This post has been disliked 4 times. showCAM syndrome...(more) 7-15-2018 9:23am
        Crazy a$$ mother syndrome
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        • Thanks for the support 7-15-2018 9:25am
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    • How old? What grade and where is he or she now? 7-15-2018 9:25am
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      • 8 going into 3rd 7-15-2018 9:26am
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    • Hmm, heís too young for York. The LD schools are not set up for behavioral issues like you see with impulsivity. What about IDEAL school? Very supportive and nurturing with...(more) 7-15-2018 9:29am
      mixed mainstream and sn.
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      • Where is that? Iíll take a look. Thanks for being supportive 7-15-2018 9:41am
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        • IDEAL is in the west 80's. Worth looking at. Is he in mainstream now? Does he have supports? Are you being asked to look other places? It's a hard profile and hard to make a...(more) 7-15-2018 10:40am
          school change just for this. My DS is in mainstream now, in 10th grade, grew out of the impulsivity but still has ADHD, controlled by meds and Magritte at this point. Hard to be the mom of the impulsive kid in the lower grades esp if in the kind of school w little tolerance for the range of normal boy behavior.
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          • *magritte=maturity. Love autocorrect. 7-15-2018 10:41am
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            • My understanding is that most kids with "only" ADHD are mainstreamed, with meds....(more) 7-15-2018 4:17pm
              Is he on any meds? If meds aren't an option, you can look at funded special needs schools that take kids classified as "other health impaired" which is where they put kids with ADHD.
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    • Look at Summit, which focuses more on social/emotional needs vs straight learning disabilities. Or if academics are advanced, try one of the 2E schools. 7-15-2018 4:53pm
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    • I have a DS like this at a SN school. He is soooooo bored academically. Consider Quad, which will tailor the work to DC. 7-15-2018 5:32pm
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  13. Special Needs I think ds has learning disabilities. How can I get them dx without paying 5k? 7-3-2018 12:50pm (6 replies)
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    • What services does your school offer? how old? 7-3-2018 12:51pm
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    • Developmental pediatrician will take insurance. 7-3-2018 12:51pm
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      • they dont dx most lds 7-3-2018 2:07pm
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    • You can try through school, but I wouldn't be optimistic. Our insurance is covering most of DS's neuropsych eval 7-3-2018 12:52pm
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    • If your dc is truly struggling and you suspect LD, it would help in the long run t have testing done by a reputable person and have a written report that you can offer to school...(more) 7-3-2018 2:21pm
      District. Otherwise you may spend a long time fighting and your dc will fall behind
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    • Get school district to do a neuropsych. If from NYC you can pick an evaluator from this list....(more) 7-5-2018 6:04pm
  14. Special Needs Suing the public school district because we don't think they are meeting our daughters needs. She has dyslexia, dyscalculia, adhd, dyspraxia, slow cognitive function. We have her...(more) 6-29-2018 11:06am (6 replies)
    enrolled in a private school for kids with severe learning disabilities (4 kids per grade, it is a miracle she got in). Of course the school district is balking and saying they can meet her needs. This is very stressful. I wonder why I got into this. Has anyone else been through this? Did it make you super anxious?
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    • Can you afford to pay for it if they deny? 6-29-2018 11:08am
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      • OP: Yes. Suing more on the principle than anything else. But this sucks. 6-29-2018 11:09am
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        • I get your anxiety. I'd focus on the fact that your dc is in a great learning environment for her. 6-29-2018 11:10am
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    • yes, yes; but lawyer advised us up front of what was expected worst case settlement for us given experiences with kids like ours, our school district, etc. Turns out we settled...(more) 6-29-2018 12:00pm
      for more but we had prepared to have to fight hard for the 'worst'.
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    • Yes! I have just been through this. It was so hellish. By some miracle our district settled with us at the last minute but the anxiety was crippling, threw me into a major...(more) 6-29-2018 4:58pm
      depression, was all I could think about, etc. I still cant believe its over.
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      • ^^^my ds has adhd, dyslexia, dyscalculia, executive function issues. 6-29-2018 5:00pm
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  15. Special Needs Can anyone suggest video to show to my DS, 8, about learning disabilities?...(more) 6-21-2018 4:07pm (4 replies)
    He's going to move from his beloved public school to a private LD school next year and I need more help explaining the need for this move. He does get it, but I think he's feeling like he's dumb, different, etc. It's heartbreaking.
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    • Check out understood.com 6-21-2018 4:08pm
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      • This. They have some with famous people talking about their disability 6-21-2018 4:10pm
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    • The transition may be awkward but most kids are so happy to be in a place where people finally understand them. 6-21-2018 4:12pm
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    • There are a lot of great dyslexia documentaries. Pick one that is write for your dc....(more) 6-21-2018 4:25pm
  16. Special Needs I have ds's IEP meeting tomorrow. He has anxiety and is in a support class which a number of kids are in for various reasons. Some with anxiety, some speech, learning...(more) 4-17-2018 5:56pm (8 replies)
    disabilities, etc. He will be in 7th grade next year and thinks he wants to try and do it without the support class next year. Think that will be ok? It's kind of a crutch for him and he's fine academically, just needs a shoulder to lean on sometimes when he gets anxious. WWYD? Also, the support class replaces an elective class.
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    • If you can switch him back mid-year if he changes his mind, Iíd let him decide. 4-17-2018 5:57pm
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      • That's not a bad idea. He feels like he's ok to go without it, so I think that's a positive thing. But I don't want him to go into next year and get totally stressed out and then...(more) 4-17-2018 6:01pm
        regret our decision.
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    • can he get the shoulder from a guidance counselor or social worker at school, instead of having the SpEd class? sounds like the support can be outside of the classroom and still...(more) 4-17-2018 6:02pm
      inside the school with the right supports (including breaks, independent study, or whatever he may need)
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      • This is exactly what I want for him. 4-17-2018 6:03pm
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        • Well, talk to the school. I think SpEd seats are more expensive to the school district than the alternative of a generous 504 with specific supports for him. see if they're...(more) 4-17-2018 6:06pm
          willing to make it work
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    • What kinds of accommodations does the support class offer for the anxiety? 4-17-2018 6:08pm
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    • let him try. 4-17-2018 6:11pm
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    • My dd will have the support period for 6th similar to what you describe and they told me we can always drop it if we feel she doesnít need it but itís hard to get it back once you...(more) 4-17-2018 7:20pm
      Decline it. If you feel like your son is ok without it, I think I would let him try
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  17. Special Needs I feel like such an idiot posting this as I should be able to solve this problem myself. My teenage ds has learning disabilities (NVLD) but communication has never been an issue....(more) 3-13-2018 11:27am (8 replies)
    He has one really odd speech feature that I cannot help him with. He misues the word ďmayĒ to ask permission. Heíll say ďMay you drive me to he mallĒ instead of ďwill.Ē Ironically, I teach ESL and Iíve corrected non-native speakers and taught them how it works. My own kid doesnít get when to use one and not the other. Iím not sure where the hitch is.
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    • I know someone at work who does this. May you please provide a dial in number, may you pls meet me in the conf room. Ithought it was being polite. Clearly...(more) 3-13-2018 11:30am
      english isn't my best subject
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      • Op- i think it is a very old fashioned construction that is not used anymore. As a resumt it sounds strange to our ears 3-13-2018 11:31am
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    • I'm just saying, my NT 13 year old sometimes speaks this way. Respectfully, you might be looking too much at this and trying to assign a deficiency where there isn't any....(more) 3-13-2018 11:32am
      Again, respectfully, it sounds like you're overfocusing on This one thing.
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      • Opó you very well could be right. I am going to let it go. Thank you. I need to. 3-13-2018 11:33am
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        • I think that we are so used to our kids being deficient that every small thing turns into a "SN" thing. sometimes, it's just a "person" thing. :) 3-13-2018 11:39am
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          • Op- youíre right. And it grated me because I felt incompetent in something I shoukd be able to do. I took it personally 3-13-2018 11:40am
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    • Ha. My kid does this. "May you get me some milk?" When I ask him he has somehow patterned it in as a way to be polite 3-13-2018 11:43am
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    • Are you sure he's not on the spectrum? Because he might benefit from pragmatic language speech therapy 3-13-2018 5:48pm
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  18. Special Needs I this Summit is the perfect school for very bright kids with some social or emotional challenges. However, for our ds, who has severe learning disabilities, I'm not sure it's...(more) 3-12-2018 2:25pm (15 replies)
    the right school. I don't think the academic support is really geared for LD's. It's just that the academic bar is set lower for those kids so they are accepted and don't feel stressed. Do others share our experience?
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    • Summit was marketed to me as the end all be all. It ended up being terrible for my ds and the staff (save one teacher) was horrible to him. It's not a perfect place, that's for...(more) 3-12-2018 2:55pm
      sure. It's a funded school, which is one reason it's so popular.
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      • ^^ To answer your question more directly, my ds was bored most of the time, finished all academic work before end of class, had to be given extra worksheets to keep him...(more) 3-12-2018 2:56pm
        interested/engaged. It was not sufficiently academically rigorous for him.
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    • I have heard this before 3-12-2018 3:32pm
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    • Sadly, yes. 3-12-2018 4:43pm
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    • That was my sense too. Ds spent the day there. The whole behavior component seemed like it was geared for kids who had behavior or regulation issues and was not really...(more) 3-12-2018 5:03pm
      appropiate for a kid with LDs that didnít need that kind of help. Felt very restrictive to him. Ended up elsewhere. I do know a ton of kids from dcs old school who went there and yes most were adhd/anxiety disorder kids with maybe some other stuff going on. Not really LD kids
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      • My child is at Summit, we are trying to find an alternative for all of the reasons you mentioned. really need to be funded. can I ask where your dc is and how you like it....(more) 3-12-2018 5:30pm
        Thanks.
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        • Dc is in college now. But was at Winston, which was a great fit for him. Not funded but they do offer FA if you qualify which is unusual for sn schools 3-12-2018 5:41pm
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          • Thanksvery much. This is the switch we are hoping to make. Meeting with NP to see if we can try and get the DOE on board. I worry that dc will not be well prepared for college...(more) 3-12-2018 6:16pm
            and that the social situation is limiting in a number of ways.
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            • I will say my dc was very well prepared for college from Winston. Socially who leaves at Wo ston he had a large group of guy friends but the lack of girls was definitly an issue. 3-12-2018 6:33pm
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              • Thanks. I have a dd. This is a big concern but I am leaning toward it. Do you know many people who got DOE funding for Winston? 3-12-2018 7:24pm
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                • Al ost everyone I know got funding there. I think we may have spoken here before. They do a lot to help the girls make girl friends. They have lunch groups with just girls and...(more) 3-12-2018 8:53pm
                  Other stuff and your dd will be in a group for academics that will be with at least a few girls.
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    • You described my Summit kid to a T. Uneven academics (about average to truly stellar), behavioral regulation issues and his social skills are Level Martian. So far a great fit for...(more) 3-14-2018 4:37pm
      Summit. The card system works for our dc. I can see how a socially typical kid with no behavior issues with only LD would not be a fit.
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    • I don't get the 'sadly' and 'marketed.' Summit is pretty obviously for college-bound kids with social and/or emotional regulation issues (maybe LDs thrown in). There are SO MA...(more) 3-14-2018 4:43pm
      other school options for kids who are socially typical but need academic support. Gaynor, Churchill, Winston, Windward plus some of the softer privates like Trevor Day, CGPS, Dwight..
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      • + Hewitt, Birch Wathen Lenox, York Prep 3-14-2018 4:49pm
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  19. Special Needs Requested Independenr Neuropsych from middle school based support team...(more) 2-28-2018 9:19pm (5 replies)
    They granted the request but assigned a DOE provider. I already identified an outside provider that specializes in the language based learning disabilities likely at play. Should I just pay out of pocket or is there a way to challenge it being done in house?
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    • IME DOE does not have inside providers, but they might have contractors. If that is the case then let DOE know that the parent chooses the provider....(more) 2-28-2018 9:50pm
      See Letter to Parker. I can help you with the process if you like.
      https://www2.ed.gov/policy/speced/guid/idea/letters/2004-1/parker022004iee1q2004.pdf
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      • Thank you this letter seems helpful, but was written in Sacramento,CA. Does this generalize to NYC? 3-1-2018 9:30am
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        • That is a US DOE letter, so it's federal. 3-1-2018 10:55am
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    • IME they will want to use a designated provider. I would pay out of pocket for who I wanted 3-1-2018 9:18am
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    • Pay out of pocket for an unbiased evaluation 3-1-2018 9:19am
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  20. Special Needs Ugh. Trying to explain to my mom ddís learning disabilities, ADHD and executive function issues, and she doesnít get it. Says itís a personality, sheíll grow out of it. Mentioned...(more) 2-14-2018 7:18pm (16 replies)
    age knows the difficulty because she had a tough time writing papers in school. Then said I should place her with other special needs kids in school or their behavior will rub off on her. So incredibly frustrating. Explained to her 2nd grade shouldnít be so hard.
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    • my inlaws thought the same thing. i think that generation doesn't get it 2-14-2018 7:19pm
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      • true and rather than see it as not normal, per se, they get annoyed that it is being given a name. i think some feel bad that their own kids couldn't benefit from today's...(more) 2-14-2018 7:23pm
        interventions while others think we pathologize everything
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        • NP - my son just got dx with ADHD (yesterday. But I've known this about at least me and my DD for a while but he is the one who struggle in school so he is the first with the...(more) 2-14-2018 7:26pm
          diagnosis). Thinking today about what a total and complete mess I was as a kid and instead of being ostracized I could have used some of these great interventions
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          • me, too. when my ds was diagnosed, i felt validated. 2-14-2018 7:29pm
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            • Yes. And surprisingly even tho I "knew" we had this in my family (me! Although I'm very hard on myself & this is part of it) I find myself with more patience and understanding 2-14-2018 7:31pm
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      • actually I think people who do not have SN kids or friends with them don't understand, and frankly I had a big learning curve when DD was diagnosed. 2-15-2018 9:55pm
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    • my mom says do we have to tell people. 2-14-2018 7:20pm
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    • just ignore your mom's response, she just won't get it. My mom is so negative and mean every time I talk about their LDs, she practically calls them stupid. She just comes from...(more) 2-14-2018 7:20pm
      a different time. I just dont really talk to her about it anymore.
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    • Bc that what it was like when she was raising kids. No excuse but she clearly is unable to let go of her beliefs 2-14-2018 7:23pm
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    • my ds grasped his adhd in 3rd grade..my 5th grader is still a little clueless about his issues 2-14-2018 7:23pm
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    • Op: well, itís comforting that Iím not the only one with parents like this. 2-14-2018 7:33pm
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      • ^dh keeps asking me why I feel the need to educate her vs uh-huhíing her. Have any of you been able to do so? 2-14-2018 7:35pm
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    • I think these diagnoses are incredibly threatening for this generation. It forces them to revisit their own parenting history... We had/have an incredibly hard time with my in...(more) 2-14-2018 7:35pm
      laws, who live abroad in a country where remediation is almost non existant. Hang in, what matters is that you are doing the right thing for your child.
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      • Np this is correct. It makes them defensive, like maybe they could have helped but didn't 2-14-2018 7:50pm
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      • agree. And no need to talk to grandparents about it - they don't understand, but can still be good grandparents and love the kids. 2-15-2018 9:58pm
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    • While it sucks dealing with parents and parent-in-laws that do not get it, tt really sucks when dh does not get it. 2-14-2018 9:06pm
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  21. Special Needs DS was diagnoses adhd inattentive and anxiety when he was very young. meds never worked. has gotten worse over the years with school work refusal, emotional/social issues, very...(more) 2-14-2018 3:02pm (27 replies)
    anxious and constantly screams and/or is angry or in fight or flight. is very smart but will not do work at school or homework without a huge fight and then just does bare minimum and without effort or much thought. aide's have asked a few times if he has learning disabilities but on his psych ed from 3rd grade it only said possible undiagnosed LD. He was a very early and voracious reader until about a year or so ago (he's almost 14). I can see many signs of LD but not all of them. The emotional disregulation and intense frustration/anger/vocalization through screaming is very hard to live with. though I suppose he doesn't do that with anyone else but me and dh, he holds it together in that way. Going to do a new psych ed very soon and worried they will look only at academic/learning difficulties and not account for emotional part or no? I'm a bit confused...what should you find out from one? I need better answers about the adhd side of things and the LD side and
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    • You need a full evaluation to get to the bottom of the LD 2-14-2018 3:04pm
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      • yes we're doing a new psych ed in a couple weeks but I'm afraid after spending thousands of dollars they will say well he doesn't have a LD it's just everything that comes with...(more) 2-14-2018 3:14pm
        adhd, the executive functioning etc...but to me and all the drs who have worked with us he's such a tough nut to crack. the anxiety, the mood swings, the anger, the complete lack of interest in everything, the social issues, the lack of any motivation...I'm sure he wants to do well but he is so shut down about school work and everything fun outside of school he could be doing. and so argumentative and defiant and oppositional about everything...always has been. how much is the frustration of school OR...is it more the mood/anxiety...basically which came first chicken or egg...
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        • I am dealing with that with my DS #2, but he's only 10. He is only ADHD, but we're suspecting some learning differences and will probably do an eval this summer 2-14-2018 3:16pm
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        • yet in summer and on breaks without school pressure he's pretty great. I think he's learned a lot of behaviour and definitely still has anxiety but he's so much better when not in...(more) 2-14-2018 3:18pm
          school.
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          • Mine is starting to get bad with impulsive behavior. Breaking rules 2-14-2018 3:45pm
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            • op-its so hard. I wish I had been stronger years ago setting up a more structured life and truly stuck to it without straying...I wish I had never started yelling so much and I...(more) 2-14-2018 3:55pm
              wish I could do those things now! It's so hard every single day.
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              • I think he swiped $10 from my wallet this morning. Sunday night he got up after I went to bed and started watching YourTube videos 2-14-2018 4:09pm
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                • ah yes...mine never did this sort of thing but if I'm not home he will go on computer when he knows damn well he's not allowed, I leave notes and text him instructions for what he...(more) 2-14-2018 4:30pm
                  needs to do first etc and he will play dumb..Oh I didn't see that! Oh I didn't know!
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        • I would also ask the dr to some real psych testing as well. 2-14-2018 4:15pm
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    • Have you ever tried strattera? 2-14-2018 3:07pm
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      • thats actually literally the only one we haven't tried! he's on abilify and ritalin now 2-14-2018 3:11pm
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    • What meds have you tried? There are tons of them 2-14-2018 3:10pm
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      • I know...we've tried almost all, literally..and prozac and zoloft...not strattera though...he's on abilify and ritalin right now 2-14-2018 3:11pm
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        • T works different parts of the brain and itís a non stimulant. Strattera 2-14-2018 3:18pm
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          • yes they've talked about it but dont think it's proven to work well enough...like it works a bit for each thing but not that great. and takes a fair bit of time to see if it's...(more) 2-14-2018 3:22pm
            working
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    • Have you tried Wellbutrin? 2-14-2018 3:18pm
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      • ^^It is for adhd, inattentive and depression 2-14-2018 3:18pm
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      • no but dr is worried as his anxiety is so bad already. right now he is only tolerating the ritalin because he's on the abilify which smooths him I suppose. I truly think his...(more) 2-14-2018 3:20pm
        anxiety is worse on the abilify but it stopped his massive rages he was having for two years so that's a plus. so many side effects for everything it's awful.
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        • op-I take it though! I am not diagnosed with add but I have major traits of it. and depression even as a kid/young adult...bad anxiety too though so it's not perfect. other ssri...(more) 2-14-2018 3:21pm
          do not work well with me. prozac made me suicidal just like it did with dc. so weird these meds.
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          • My ds had tried many things and is now on Wellbutrin. He is a different kid. And finally getting decent grades too. He still has some anxiety, but it's more of a healthy...(more) 2-14-2018 3:22pm
            anxiety, than debilitating.
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            • is that all he takes? 2-14-2018 3:23pm
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              • Yes. 2-14-2018 3:24pm
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                • can I ask what he took before and how it affected him? 2-14-2018 3:29pm
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                  • He tried Focalin, Vyvanse - both made him suicidal, so the psych took him off of those and put him on a very low dose of Prozac. Didn't help. We actually switched psychs and new...(more) 2-14-2018 3:34pm
                    one said let's try Wellbutrin.
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                    • NP:Are you in NYC? Can I ask your psych's name? 2-14-2018 10:10pm
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        • I think it is worth a discussion with your doctor. 2-14-2018 3:21pm
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          • Op-I did yesterday afternoon and she is going to discuss with the team what they think....(more) 2-15-2018 9:51am
            We discussed strattera, Wellbutrin, snri, weaning off or adding to the abilify etc...
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  22. Special Needs Do military schools take students with learning disabilities or special needs? can't handle 14 yo 2-3-2018 8:18pm (8 replies)
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    • there are boarding schools for him 2-3-2018 8:18pm
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    • If you are the poster with the ASD 14 year old, please do not send your ds to one of these schools. He needs an environment and staff with the ability to remediate, not brutalize. 2-3-2018 8:20pm
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      • THIS THIS THIS. You need to find support and figure out a school that will support him. This board is not a sufficient source. Does he have a therapist or counselor that you...(more) 2-3-2018 8:27pm
        can go to? Psychiatrist?
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        • She claims to have no support team! Who diagnosed this child? 2-3-2018 8:34pm
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          • np - my kid was dx'd a decade ago. i can't say that i have a 'support team' at this point either! 2-3-2018 11:10pm
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    • what's going on? 2-3-2018 8:34pm
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    • There are boarding schools for kids with LDs and therapeutic boarding schools for kids who also have behavioral issues or mood disorders. What are the issues. I don't think...(more) 2-4-2018 11:24am
      military is the way to go with a kid with LDs.
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    • Call an educational consultant. My sister used this one. She loved her....(more) 2-6-2018 1:26pm
      Lucy Pritzker www.elmstreetplacements.com
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  23. Special Needs What type of school have you found to be best for adhd/learning disabled child (elementary)? Pulled out for small group learning in public school, but wondering if a school...(more) 1-22-2018 2:08pm (6 replies)
    specializing in learning disabilities would be better (better understanding of her needs, and she'd feel more comfortable as she wouldn't compare herself to typical kids).
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    • where are you? 1-22-2018 2:09pm
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    • Really, really varies. Are you in NY metro? LI? Westchester? NJ? What are your dc needs? Cognitive ability? 1-22-2018 5:11pm
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      • cognitive ability is good - average to high average. In PA 1-22-2018 5:12pm
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        • I would keep her with mainstream children due to her high cognitive ability. They should give her supports based other IEP. If as time goes by she needs a different school you can...(more) 1-23-2018 12:08am
          switch her, but for my dd the academics at the SN school are much further behind, which is necessary because if the kids could keep up at mainstream they wouldn't be at our school.
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    • Consider a summer program. Kids learn strategies from people who really get how to reach them, and *really know* the...(more) 1-24-2018 4:17pm
      between LDs & can see beyond them. Not having cognitive abilities underestimated is a huge boost. And it's just more efficient to learn from people who have all the skills. They are usually crazy $$$ but I'd argue having the tools/strategies to learn & advocate for themselves early is even worth going into debt. A good program can change the child's academic trajectory & give confidence that helps with everything else kids need to thrive.
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  24. Special Needs Schools for kids without learning disabilities (language based)? For kindergarten? 11-15-2017 4:24pm (15 replies)
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    • Not sure what you're asking about...if they're for kids without LDs, are you asking about mainstream settings, or something else? 11-15-2017 4:25pm
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      • Are all SN privates in NYC for learning disabilities? Or do they take kids with major needs: social, speech, OT but zero LD? 11-15-2017 4:28pm
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        • They are for LD but chances are if your kid has speech delay or motor skills issues, there may be a comorbid LD that is not yet diagnosed in K. 11-15-2017 4:31pm
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        • Have you had your dc evaluated by a neuropsychologist? Usually if a child has issues to the level where you are looking at SN privates, there is something more than zero LD... 11-15-2017 4:32pm
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        • Your child's needs (social, speech, OT) would need to impact him academically. Otherwise, why would he need a SN private? He could attend public and have services. Does your DC...(more) 11-15-2017 4:52pm
          have a diagnosis of ADHD or ASD or another disorder that would require a smaller specialized environment?
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        • My DC is actually advanced academically but has major anxiety so he needs support to handle his emotions so he can access his learning. So not true that you need an LD to go to SN...(more) 11-15-2017 8:49pm
          private.
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          • True but the true LD SN privates tend to only take kids with LD - though some also have ADHD or anxiety along with the LD 11-15-2017 9:08pm
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            • Schools like Winward or Churchill 11-15-2017 9:09pm
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      • LDs generally aren't diagnosed until later in elementary school, so the LD schools often serve exactly the kids you're talking about in K. And many of those will be Dxd with an LD...(more) 11-15-2017 5:03pm
        by first or second grade.
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    • There are some kids like that at Gaynor in the early years. 11-16-2017 12:12am
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      • If your kid needs speech therapy, doesnít that mean he has a language based impairment? 11-16-2017 8:00am
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        • np - in most cases no. MANY kids get speech therapy for articulation, for ex. 11-16-2017 9:47am
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          • Does your kid have an actual diagnosis, and an IEP? How is he classified on IEP? 11-16-2017 9:55am
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            • My dc isn't in this category. But OHI is the sort of residual category. And you don't need a dx to get speech therapy, just a clear delay with educational impact. 11-16-2017 10:48am
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    • there are two main categories of sn private schools in NYC. Broadly speaking, some are for kids with LDs and others are for kids with ASD. There is certainly overlap of the...(more) 11-17-2017 2:46pm
      "other type of kid" at each school. But those are the two main categories. If you child is in neither category, you don't have a lot of choices. For those who are neither one nor the other, perhaps consider SLCD, Child, Cooke and Parkside. I suggest you just apply broadly, based on the advice from your neuropsychologist and let the schools decide if they are the right place for your dc.
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  25. Special Needs Private SN schools for kids without learning disabilities but with other issues: ADHD, slow processing speed, anxiety, needs OT, PT, speech. TIA 11-13-2017 4:45pm (4 replies)
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    • Ideal School if in Manhattan 11-14-2017 1:52am
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    • This is my dd's profile. She's at Summit. 11-14-2017 11:50am
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    • West End Day is supposed to be good for anxiety. 11-14-2017 4:42pm
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