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  1. Special Needs This post has been disliked 4 times. showWhat is the advantage of child special education?...(more) 9-5-2022 8:34am (0 replies)
    The primary benefit of child exclusive education and programs are individualized and non-public education is - Special education is of super importance for children with studying disabilities because it gives them the probability to get a quality education. Students, when learning inside an inclusive environment, develop leadership competencies and learn how to take responsibility and take care of every other. visit; https://www.kidskingdomdaycare.co.uk/special-needs-children.php
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  2. Special Needs I have a DC in a special ed private school for elementary (school for language based learning disabilities)....(more) 9-2-2022 12:12am (3 replies)
    Been there a few years. We think he's ready to mainstream in the next year or two. His neuropsych supports this, We just need a class size that isn't huge. No other supports. What mainstream privates would consider accepting a kid with his background? Not looking for schools with a "bridge" program. But schools that are inclusive and accepting of some neurodiversity. Any recs?
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    • Where do you live ? 9-2-2022 12:33am
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      • I'd be looking in Manhattan or Brooklyn. 9-2-2022 12:35am
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    • Brooklyn Friends, LREI, York, Dwight, Calhoun. Many of the boarding schools. I know kids that went...(more) 9-3-2022 10:54pm
      To these schools from sn schools
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  3. Special Needs Moms of dcs with learning disabilities who are struggling- remember that dcs brain isn’t done maturing until their mid 20s, and that they can both catch up with their peers as...(more) 8-25-2022 3:26pm (8 replies)
    well as develop strategies to help themselves learn and study effectively. DD had a diagnosis of ADHD and NVLD (neuropsych was adamant it wasn’t ASD). Anyway, she struggled until college and then really figured things out, and Now of she got tested I think she would lose the NVLD label. She’s now taking classes to go to med school now while working FT and just got a B in college Physics, something a tutor/therapist we once consulted basically told her (and us) would never happen.
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    • Yay! Sincere thanks for sharing this. Best of luck to your DD!!! 8-25-2022 3:28pm
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    • congrats to her 8-25-2022 3:29pm
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    • Thank you for sharing!!! 8-25-2022 3:29pm
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    • interesting what college? my dd just started college and had to drop physics and calculus as her SN school did not prepare her at all for wither and we even hired a tour (3500)...(more) 8-25-2022 3:29pm
      over the summer to get her up to speed - went to 3 classes at college and she could not do the work - what SN school did you dc go to?
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      • And some of us have genuine weaknesses. College can be a time to sort that all out as well. My nephew is on the spectrum and thought he'd be pre-med, but chemistry was torture and...(more) 8-25-2022 3:36pm
        he realized he wanted to switch to a track he felt confident and stronger. He's now a videogame designer and very happy.
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      • We didn’t send to an SN school. Mainstream private boarding/day which in retrospect we probably should have sent to a lower key private but it was great for her socially which was...(more) 8-25-2022 3:39pm
        a big deal. Her HS GPA wasn’t ideal so she went to a small college and then transferred to a big, urban one.
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    • I dont think the cognitive profile changes significantly, but I do think we can compensate. Good luck to Dd! 8-25-2022 3:33pm
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  4. Special Needs I just got an email from the bus company that my ds, who goes to a private school because of his learning disabilities, that he won’t be getting bus transportation to school. They...(more) 9-12-2021 10:08pm (45 replies)
    Don’t have enough drivers. My dh and I work full time out of the home. We can’t take him/pick him up. It is insane that a get an email on Sunday night. Do I call the private school, public school district, bus company or all three?
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    • Do you iive where the public school district is legally obligated to provide transportaiton? 9-12-2021 10:10pm
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    • How will that help? This is happening everywhere. 9-12-2021 10:11pm
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    • massive labor shortage. what do you expect the bus company to do? 9-12-2021 10:11pm
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      • ^but call the school first. you might need to arrange for uber every morning and sitter in afternoon. 9-12-2021 10:12pm
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      • I expect the bus company to notify me earlier. I got an email at 8:30 on Sunday night. 9-12-2021 10:13pm
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        • im sure they have been trying to fill. this is last thing they want. this is a business. 9-12-2021 10:15pm
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          • That is not ok. They obviously knew they couldn’t fill the route. I am lucky I even checked my email. They could have sent an email out Friday. I just called a bunch of people and...(more) 9-12-2021 10:17pm
            no one can help.
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      • Pay drivers more money? Raise prices if they have to. There's no such thing as a "labor shortage". 9-12-2021 10:42pm
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    • There’s a huge bus driver shortage 9-12-2021 10:11pm
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    • You calling to offer to drive the bus? 9-12-2021 10:12pm
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    • I am not surprised. Vaccine mandates are causing mass vacancies on top of the ones created by the pandemic. 9-12-2021 10:13pm
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      • Is that really true? People will quit their jobs rather than get a shot? 9-12-2021 10:14pm
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        • UFT teachers can take a year leave unpaid but keep benefits! 9-12-2021 10:15pm
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          • Ugh that’s so lame 9-12-2021 10:15pm
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            • Agree. I bet a few do that just bc a sweet deal 9-12-2021 10:16pm
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          • They should be fired if they refuse to vaccinate 9-12-2021 10:37pm
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      • Nyc school bus drivers aren’t mandated 9-12-2021 10:14pm
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        • Oh well. How much does that job pay? Not enough to want to do it. 9-12-2021 10:16pm
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          • Yes enough 9-12-2021 10:17pm
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            • Then why aren't there enough drivers? 9-12-2021 10:18pm
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              • We don’t know if this is an nyc issue! 9-12-2021 10:18pm
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        • Good 9-12-2021 10:16pm
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    • Oh shit do you think this will happen in public schools as well? Our school moved to a new building and more people than ever want to take the bus, if there’s a huge shortage it...(more) 9-12-2021 10:17pm
      will turn into an even bigger shitshow
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      • Don’t you know already if an issue? 9-12-2021 10:18pm
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        • This poster just got a call tonight about it. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if we only find out there’s an issue when the bus never shows up all week 9-12-2021 10:19pm
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          • Op: I didn’t even get a call - an email at 8:00 tonight. 9-12-2021 10:25pm
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    • This post has been disliked 3 times. showYou get free private school and now you want free transport? That's adorable. 9-12-2021 10:20pm
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      • Op: free private school?! I pay a ton in tuition. And I pay a ton in public school taxes that my ds isn’t even using the school. Where from my post do you see I get “free”...(more) 9-12-2021 10:24pm
        anything?
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        • This post has been deleted. 9-12-2021 10:28pm
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        • People say anything just too be mean on this page. That’s so shitty to get a call the night before leaving you without a plan 9-12-2021 10:30pm
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          • Op: thank you. My dh and I have important meetings tomorrow morning. And the school is 1/2 hour away. So to get someone close by to drive will be asking an hour of their time. To...(more) 9-12-2021 10:37pm
            be told that we will be guaranteed bus transportation for the year and then have it taken away the night before school is ridiculous. Sorry I am venting but I can’t do anything so late at night so I am taking out my frustration here.
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              • Ask my mil to take an Uber to help us. 9-12-2021 10:54pm
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                  • Not every day. We work every day. We live in a tristate suburb and work in the city. My ds’ school is in the opposite direction. 9-13-2021 6:34am
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      • Np: wow - you are truly an asshole. 9-12-2021 10:25pm
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    • It is a nightmare in my district in FL, but they finally got enough people. One real problem is that the cannot/will not hire anyone with a medical marijuana card 9-12-2021 10:24pm
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      • That’s a problem? That many people have them? 9-12-2021 10:28pm
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        • Evidently. I do not see the problem with smoking a joint on the weekend v having a drink. 9-12-2021 10:29pm
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    • There are no bus drivers. Nothing will change that. 9-12-2021 10:29pm
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    • where is your private? NYC? My private always dealt with bus issues so start there and see what they can do 9-12-2021 10:36pm
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    • Can you find a carpool? It is great if there are buses, etc. but we all know especially these days we might be on deck in person amy moment for our kids. 9-12-2021 10:43pm
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  5. Special Needs My high schooler is being counseled out of their SN private because their specialty is learning disabilities and over the past year their mental health crises have been beyond the...(more) 5-17-2021 1:21pm (29 replies)
    School’s ability to support. Can anyone recommend a school, either in NYC or perhaps a therapeutic boarding school, that can support with kids with both MH needs and LDs/ADHD? We don’t want to go boarding but we will if we have to. Thanks.
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    • I’m sorry 5-17-2021 1:23pm
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    • What grade and what kind of mental health. 5-17-2021 1:23pm
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      • Will probably have to redo 9th grade. Anxiety, depression, self harm, school refusal. Etc. 5-17-2021 1:30pm
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        • Sorry. That sounds like a theraputic situation. Kids i know have done short term prigrams and then come back and gone to that one to one school blanking on the name 5-17-2021 1:33pm
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    • not sure but I'm sorry - that really sucks. 5-17-2021 1:23pm
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showHow about Dwight, Columbia Grammar, Birch... 5-17-2021 1:26pm
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      • How about windward? They take Adhd and dyslexia 5-17-2021 1:27pm
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        • Windward is 1st to 9th grade. They do not have a high school 5-18-2021 7:15am
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      • those are all mainstream schools. If her child's needs are beyond the capability of a SN school, they are certainly beyond the capability of a mainstream school. 5-17-2021 1:28pm
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        • Tons of SN kids at these "mainstream" schools. They're known to take kids who were counseled out of other schools. 5-17-2021 1:54pm
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          • You have no idea what you’re talking about. They have kids with mild SN. There is no way they could support this kid. 5-18-2021 7:45am
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      • Not at all good options for what OP is describing. 5-17-2021 1:39pm
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    • The SN schools in NYC are not set up for kids with MH issues beyond basic anxiety etc. My suggestion would be to ask the school if they know of a consultant who can help you find...(more) 5-17-2021 1:31pm
      a good therapeutic summer program, with the hope that your child can return to their school in fall. And if they can't, then a therapeutic boarding school would likely be the next step and the summer program can likely help place your child in an appropriate program.
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      • Op: yes thanks. We are talking to some consultants but they all seem to charge between $5-10K. We are hoping to gather info on the landscape before going that route. 5-17-2021 1:33pm
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        • honestly, it doesn't matter what someone here says. These programs are very specific. They key is to find the exact right fit for your child and only a personalized consultant...(more) 5-17-2021 1:36pm
          can do that.
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          • Ita and worth the money 5-17-2021 1:37pm
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          • ^^^ the only advice i will give you is to do your best to get some level of buy in from your child. The "kidnapping" route can end up doing more harm than good. 5-17-2021 1:37pm
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          • My sister used Lucy Pritzker a few years ago and was very happy. I know a few others who have too. all with great results. 5-18-2021 1:58pm
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          • oh ok consultant gouging sn families. shut up. there is perfectly good advice here for free 5-23-2021 12:49pm
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        • Does current school have suggestions? 5-17-2021 1:36pm
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        • exactly I hate those people who charge that much 5-23-2021 12:49pm
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      • Friend's son had similar issues -- alas no NYC school was suitable. I like the idea of a therapeutic summer program. 5-18-2021 11:38pm
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    • Suggestion: Fusion Academy, private tutor that directly addresses LD and therapy (x2) for MH. Dc can stay on track academically and get support. We did this with our dc and...(more) 5-18-2021 7:12am
      itworked. Takes some effort but worth it.
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    • Are you confident that dx and the treatment plan are correct? What does your therapist/dr say is the right setting (not necessarily the right school)? 5-18-2021 7:20am
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    • Yes there is a therapeutic school on the UWS that I visited at one point. It looked great. 5-18-2021 7:41am
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      • ^^ Robert Louis Stevenson. It sounds like what you need. 5-18-2021 7:42am
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        • I second Robert Louis Stevenson; Summit might work, but unlikely...(more) 5-18-2021 2:55pm
          List here: http://tinyurl.com/snschoolsnyc
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          • I don't think Summit could handle the mental health disorders. They want LD, not emotional/behavioral. We had difficulties at their near-peer school, Lowell, b/c of same issue. 5-18-2021 11:34pm
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    • The Smith School on the UWS sounds therapeutic based on their website description https://www.smithschool.org/ 5-19-2021 1:59pm
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  6. Special Needs It's graduation season and I'm over th emoon that my senior is graduating from high school. With the exception of a few friends, most people I know don't know how much my son...(more) 4-22-2021 12:57pm (8 replies)
    struggled and that there were may times we didn't think he would graduate- at least not on time, or not with a diploma. We live in a very middle class suburb and I grew up in the same-- it is a given that my friends' kids are going to college. it's just what everyone does unless their child is very visibly disabled. I have a couple friends with children like that and everyone understands, but my son, despite his very outgoing personality and good people skills has learning disabilities that have really had a profound impact on academics and will influence what careers he can consider. I've had such awkward exchanges with people lately. I'm feeling defensive. Everyone asks WHERE he is going to college, not if or what his plans are. He IS going to be trying community college, but I don't think an associates (with general ed requirements) is going to be in his future based how high school went. I'm hoping he finishes a certificate program.
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    • I am with you sister..My ds struggles and it gets better every year. You should be proud of his and his future and wherever he is going...He is going to X and we are all really...(more) 4-22-2021 12:58pm
      proud of him"..
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      • op- that's what I've been saying and then there is like a 2-beat pause and the other person feels awkward and says something to try to smooth it over. I just hate it 4-22-2021 12:59pm
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        • that sucks..none of this stuff matters in the end. His people skills will take him far in life! 4-22-2021 1:02pm
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    • I hear you. Do you think it would be better to be more open (with his permission)? Like have an "elevator speech" version? I think most people would be justifiably IMPRESSED if...(more) 4-22-2021 1:02pm
      you explain his challenges and be happy for you and him that he made it over the hurdle that others take for granted. I get your defensiveness / privateness, but you might feel better, more empowered and pleasantly surprised if you could be open about it, share your pride and get some positive reactions to his achievements
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      • I feel weird but I'm considering it. but then I don't want to make people feel bad for asking (but I really wish they would not in the first place. )This is just me over thinking....(more) 4-22-2021 1:05pm
        I need to not feel like I'm sharing bad news
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        • Someone asked me about my son's plans and I told them the truth and she looked at me and said, you know, I know you have mentioned it before but I just don't understand what his...(more) 4-22-2021 1:07pm
          problem is. what really *is* a learning disability (asked like this was some kind of deep philosophical question)
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        • Examine why you feel weird or bad? Learning disabilities are not uncommon! Many people have their own personal experiences. Every decent parent has to learn that their kid is who...(more) 4-22-2021 1:11pm
          he/she is and to appreciate them for their assets and challenges. That is the work of being / becoming a good parent. I think you have to find a way to see it as the neutral statement of fact that it is rather than attach shame (or project negative things to it you imagine others will think...even though they may not!). No question it would be easier to have a kid for whom academics and other life skills are a breeze. But you will also get such a wonderful feeling of joy when he finds things he can do well - and I'd hope other people would share that good feeling with you. GL
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          • ^I am not ignorant to the fact that other people are ignorant, obnoxious, hurtful, etc. It's just that some people will surprise you and make you feel loved and supported and you...(more) 4-22-2021 1:13pm
            will miss out if you keep it all inside (:
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  7. Special Needs Need to vent- Cuny College won't give back all money almost feel discriminated against...(more) 9-1-2020 3:41pm (15 replies)
    I dropped my son's 4 classes today and cuny would only refund 75% tuition back. Can only get 100% if classes haven't started. My son has autism and advisement made him take 5 classes , disabilities office never involved. No guidance or even told advisement of his autism. Then we didn't find out that all the classes would be online no live teaching except for the math class until the first day of class. He had difficulty learning this way , that is why I had to drop the 4 classes. rant over.
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    • Cuny college? 9-1-2020 3:42pm
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    • don't take that for your answer then. i imagine the first person you got on the phone was a student office aid. pull a karen - speak to the manager. 9-1-2020 3:42pm
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    • I'm sorry. This is his first year? It's good to see right away that the advisors and the disabilities office are not communicating. I think remote learning is challenging for...(more) 9-1-2020 3:42pm
      many people.
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    • 2 of my kids went to CUNY colleges (hunter, in their cases). it's a huge bureaucracy, very very difficult to deal with in general. 9-1-2020 3:46pm
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      • The system just takes the money. I actually just wrote to their retro resignation committee. If I ever hear back I will post the answer. 9-1-2020 3:56pm
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    • not trying to be mean but sounds like your son would do much better at a community college 9-1-2020 3:50pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 9-1-2020 3:52pm
        I will be transfering him out for the spring.
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    • I wouldn't take that for an answer. I would keep fighting it. I don't think it's discrimination per se- just bureaucracy 9-1-2020 3:51pm
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      • did you pay for tuition with a credit card, if so - you are safe 9-1-2020 3:52pm
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        • - no subject -...(more) 9-1-2020 3:53pm
          No. I didn't , I wish I had.
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      • Yes. extra frustrating since Disability did nothing and He was registering for classes with 20 other students. The least they could have done was to let them know he has autism. 9-1-2020 3:54pm
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        • CUNY is desperately underfunded. Disability services at CUNY is mind-bogglingly underfunded....(more) 9-1-2020 9:50pm
          I'm not excusing them. I just know that there is a massive, massive staff shortage because they've been massively underfunded for years. And also on top of the short staffing, they are overly regulated because they are funded (underfunded but funded) by the state and city. I worked in CUNY for 9.5 years. I worked in career services and the caseload was absolutely impossible. I remember one of my students--whom I'd seen several times--was stunned when I remembered her name. It was like not one single advisor or even professor had ever been able to learn her name, because of the short staffing. I would continue fighting it, anyway.
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        • I think that it's up to the student to disclose any disability. My dcs both got letter from Disability Svcs (one from Hunter) with their accommodations but the letter does not...(more) 9-3-2020 5:00pm
          state the disability bc HIPAA. It is up to your son to speak to the professor and advise of his issues if he chooses. That said 5 classes is way too many for most first years...college is a big adjustment.
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          • 5 classes in the standard load at many colleges 9-7-2020 10:09pm
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    • I get that this sucks, but I don't think this is CUNY bias. It sounds like your ds was not ready for college, especially the aspect of advocating for himself and seeking guidance....(more) 9-2-2020 1:32pm
      I'm sorry
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  8. Special Needs Out of Gaynor, churchill, Gateway, or Mary McDowell, is there one that does a better job with remediation...(more) 10-1-2019 11:41pm (3 replies)
    For more complex language learning disabilities? Not dyslexia, but poor expressive and receptive language, comprehension challenges because of weak language, difficulty with language organization? Looking for potential schools for 2nd grader with all of the above challenges plus slow processing, but is not dyslexic.
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    • I think Churchill is the most rigerous. 10-2-2019 7:47am
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    • Honestly most people dont het a choice. Tou apply to all of them because they are all somewhat similar and uf you are lucky your kid hers into 2 of them and you may have a chiice...(more) 10-2-2019 10:06am
      At that point you will be familiar enough from all your visits to have a feel of what might be a better fit
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      • As a mom to a child with moderate recceptive and expressive disorders and mild anxiety, this is a long hard climb. I am not sure what you mean by remediation but my child is a...(more) 10-4-2019 7:16pm
        child who has moved light years with lots of support. Frankly, I do not think it is ever fully resolved. At Gaynor and I love it!!
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  9. Special Needs I have a 13 year old dd with ADHD and Learning Disabilities. Over the weekend I let her do my hair - she's really good at it and loves it - and while she's doing it she says...(more) 7-15-2019 1:00pm (29 replies)
    "maybe I should be a hairdresser when I grow up." I had such confused feelings when she sad that. On the one hand I come from a family where everyone goes to college and there are lots of higher degrees (JDs, PhDs) and our kids not going to college has never been considered an option. On the other hand, it made me think, if what she does well and is passionate about is hair, why can't she just do that? Is it about earning power? Prestige? Career growth? I know it's way too early to think about this yet for her, but I wonder for those of you with LD or other SN kids where you've been on promoting college vs. nurturing other career directions in line with their interests.
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    • Hair stylists can make good $$, and they can't be offshored. 7-15-2019 1:01pm
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    • She could make plenty of $ & have a flexible career as a hairdresser. This is about you. 7-15-2019 1:01pm
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      • I agree. This is just one example, but one of my friends started with hair and then specialized as an esthetician, owns a business now and is killing it. 7-15-2019 1:04pm
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        • I have a face painter friend who also expanded into body art and does tons of commercial work. She is making bank. Crazy all over the place schedule but she loves loves loves what...(more) 7-15-2019 1:06pm
          she does
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          • that’s cool! 7-15-2019 1:09pm
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    • She could own a salon or a series of salons. Being a small business owner is a real job 7-15-2019 1:02pm
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    • My boss is a senior executive. Her sister is a hair dresser that makes $150k a year working 3 days a week. Just saying.... 7-15-2019 1:02pm
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    • You sound wonderfully self aware. :) 7-15-2019 1:02pm
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    • She can certainly become a hair dresser and she can also go to college. 7-15-2019 1:02pm
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    • A hairstylist can be a great career and many are very artistic. My hairstylist graduated from a 4-year university and used to be a photographer. Now she has a great career and...(more) 7-15-2019 1:03pm
      makes good money doing hair on her terms.
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      • It's a great way to put yourself through college. $15 a haircut for all students, right in the dorm. 7-15-2019 1:03pm
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        • My DD worked her way through college working at make up counters. It's kind of a great gig if you have the skills 7-15-2019 1:04pm
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    • think of it as a creative outlet as opposed to a career. also, this used to be a derogatory thing. now, the oddest things make good money. 7-15-2019 1:03pm
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    • My colorist has an apartment in the city and a house in sag harbor and travels all the time. He’s making a lot of money 7-15-2019 1:03pm
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    • I have the same thing. My DD ADHD/LD DD is really into cosmetic artistry and has been making money on instagram. She is so happy doing it. I do want her to go to college since...(more) 7-15-2019 1:04pm
      that seems to be like finishing HS nowadays- and I also think the life experience of college will be good for her. But I am definitely going to look at colleges that will let her explore her more creative interests.
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    • Why would anyone dislike this? 7-15-2019 1:07pm
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      • the mom 7-15-2019 1:08pm
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        • The OP disliked her own post? 7-15-2019 1:09pm
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          • the mom is easy to dislike 7-15-2019 1:13pm
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            • I disagree. She sounds very human and very self aware, imo. 7-15-2019 1:13pm
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            • Why is that? I don’t agree either 7-15-2019 1:16pm
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        • Huh 7-15-2019 1:09pm
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    • My hairsylist makes 7 figures and drives a Lambo 7-15-2019 1:10pm
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      • I need to go back to school for this! Does she have her own company? Work for herself? How does she make all this money? 7-15-2019 1:11pm
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    • My dd has similar issues and love older people; she just clicks with them (because they're usually kind and safe to her). She's a smart kid and I could see her going into...(more) 7-15-2019 1:12pm
      something in elder care...and lord knows they'll be a high demand for that. Too early to tell but it's something to think about.
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    • OP: Wow, I've never had so many quick responses to a post! Thank you all for your responses, and I realize that I haven't been aware of the opportunities in the stylist field! If...(more) 7-15-2019 1:25pm
      that is a direction she wants to go I should definitely help connect her to mentors in the field. (And yes, I'm aware these are my issues, which is why hopefully it's helpful to think them through now and not when she's 18.) I'd still love to hear from other parents who have been through this thought process and where they landed. Thanks again!
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    • Honestly, this sounds great to me. My 15 yo ds has no interests whatsoever (he has ASD) and it worries me. I’d be thrilled if he had an interest and showed that he could be good...(more) 7-15-2019 10:37pm
      at it too.
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    • My cousin went to GW, worked part time on weekends assisting a make up artist (for fun and free make up - she didn't need $), became a make up artist, started her own limited line...(more) 7-16-2019 11:01am
      of products, just launched it while she is now mostly home with her 2 babies. She does really well -- and her parents are still complaining about all the money they spent for her degree...
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    • I don't think either of you needs to decide for a 13 yo. That said, college is more than career prep. People change careers many times.. Depending on how academic she is she might...(more) 7-16-2019 11:12am
      Want to choose a creative pathway in college instead. She has plenty of time to think it over.
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  10. Special Needs I have "2e" kid with a high IQ. He has anxiety, ADHD, likely mood disorders, learning disabilities. I can never say the gifted part to any SN parent I meet because the few times I...(more) 3-14-2019 9:54pm (10 replies)
    have people have gotten bent out of shape. So my small group of people who understand the hell of our daily lives is now smaller because apparently only other 2e parents will commiserate without the accusation of bragging when it is not bragging at all. Giftedness is a curse. And it's terrible when the SN are present. Please be kind to 2e moms we are NOT BRAGGING
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    • it can be exhausting, hang in there 3-14-2019 9:56pm
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    • On this board there is a definite pecking order of SNs 3-14-2019 10:02pm
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      • What does this mean 3-14-2019 10:09pm
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      • Isn’t that just life in general? I am not going to complain to my friend whose dd is undergoing brain surgery and may be altered for life about my ds with ADHD who is struggling...(more) 3-15-2019 6:29am
        in gen ed 4th grade.
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    • In that boat with you, sister. I also have another SN child, and the 2e one is in many ways more challenging to parent. 3-14-2019 10:03pm
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      • It's crazy. And it's expensive. Exhausting. Sounds like you have your hands full! 3-14-2019 10:09pm
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    • I have a gifted son on the spectrum, and you sound insufferable. 3-14-2019 10:15pm
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    • I'll be honest. In our school system, 2e kids have their own program. And so their needs are met in that program, which includes some awesome teachers and very small class sizes....(more) 3-14-2019 10:18pm
      And my kid is severely dyslexic + ADHD + Anxiety and a very strong student but not gifted. So then she just gets lost. And we try to advocate for our kids but 2e parents are always threatened - won't help the pie get bigger but very afraid that their pie will be taken away. And so there is tension there in our public school, not going to lie.
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      • I know I will get flamed for this but, do you mind sharing the location of this 2e program? 3-15-2019 5:35am
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  11. Special Needs I work in higher ed and this college admissions cheating thing enrages me, but the worst part of all is the faked LDs...(more) 3-13-2019 4:23pm (18 replies)
    I am beyond nauseated at the idea of someone faking learning disabilities to then be able cheat on exams. This is atrocious since enough people already think that LDs are made up in the first place and don't deserve accommodations... to deliberately fake them is sickening, and adds to the perception that they are fake and/or only rich and entitled kids have them.
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    • remember Disney and the outrage over kids getting fastpasses for coming up with doctors' notes? this is 1,000x worse 3-13-2019 4:23pm
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    • I agree. So awful 3-13-2019 4:24pm
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    • As a mom of a dyslexic kid who works her ASS off - so so so hard, it makes me so angry 3-13-2019 4:25pm
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    • I agree, especially because there are a lot of MD parents who create fake accommodations for their dcs. 3-13-2019 4:26pm
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      • Funny, but the otherwise healthy kids I know who get extra time all have MD parents. Interesting observation. 3-13-2019 5:22pm
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    • Yes - A’s the mother of a an child who is in an 8 person classroom and who gets double time, I am furious that people are manipulating the system. 3-13-2019 4:26pm
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    • UMC families often do this, they also get IEP's for their mediocre performing kids so that they get into better high schools 3-13-2019 4:27pm
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      • np Doesn't the IEP hurt their chances? 3-13-2019 4:27pm
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        • No, it helps. It’s treated like diversity 3-13-2019 4:29pm
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          • I actually have read that extra time doesn't help neurotypical kids or kids w/o learning challenges. I don't know if this is true. NP 3-13-2019 4:30pm
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            • i am confident that this is true. Most people to not need all the time to do the tests. 3-13-2019 4:31pm
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              • But many do, likely far more than get the accomodation. To me i would be simplest if the test were untimed. 3-13-2019 5:27pm
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            • Are you kidding me? Extra time allows to double check your work, catch silly mistakes, and on multiple choice question just to try every answer. It helps tremendously. 3-13-2019 4:34pm
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        • not for public schools in nyc. there are separate IEP seats. 3-13-2019 4:30pm
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    • special ed teacher here...and ita. that's the part pissing me off the most too 3-13-2019 4:29pm
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      • Also, do these parents think they can bribe professors for grades?...(more) 3-14-2019 7:23am
        I can’t imagine any professor I’ve ever met doing so. It is totally against everything they worked for in earning a PhD.
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    • We just submitted my DS application for his ACT extra time last week. I’m so nervous now he’ll be turned down. Luckily his documentation goes back to 1st grade so that should be...(more) 3-14-2019 7:27am
      enough. I hope!!!
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  12. Special Needs My DS is 6yo and is in a special needs private in NYC for kids with language based learning disabilities. Trying to think ahead. Let's say in 3 years he doesn't need as much...(more) 2-26-2019 10:41pm (26 replies)
    support but would still benefit from a small class size. Where would he go? My understanding is that mainstream privates have no interest in a child with a history of special needs, no matter how much they grow out of it. Public school class size is too large. Does this mean I'm headed to the burbs? Are there any schools in NYC that would be a realistic next step for us?
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    • why do you think you'd find small class sizes in the burbs? 2-26-2019 10:42pm
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      • Because there are enough burbs out there that I expect we could find one that could offer a small class size, either at a private school or public 2-26-2019 10:45pm
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        • np - our private in New Rochelle is so small that my son has always been with two grades in one classroom. So there are 14 kids in his class right now. 4th/5th grade. 2-26-2019 10:47pm
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          • Wow that sounds amazing! 2-26-2019 10:47pm
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            • it is. he has ADHD. No learning disability, but they still accomodate every kid's quirks. In ds's case, he's easily bored, so they let him do math and reading in the 6th grade...(more) 2-26-2019 10:49pm
              classroom. Too many kids overwhelm him and then he acts out, so we're here for now.
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          • Hudson country day? 2-26-2019 11:01pm
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    • If your child is ready to mainstream there are plenty of privates that will accept them. Btdt as have many people I know 2-26-2019 10:42pm
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      • Can you name any privates that we should look at? If it makes a difference to whether we'd be accepted, we are not important/super wealthy. Just normal. 2-26-2019 10:45pm
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        • check out Friends. Brooklyn or Manhattan 2-26-2019 10:46pm
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          • Manhattan Friends is not for a dc ms out of sn 2-27-2019 12:27pm
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            • This. They are also known for having a ton of hw. More than a lot of the privates 2-27-2019 5:29pm
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        • LREI Brooklyn Friends york Dwight birch Steiner City and Country to name a few. All places that I know that kids from an schools have gone to 2-26-2019 10:49pm
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    • Will your current school help with exmissions? Our school did. 2-27-2019 8:44am
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    • We love bay Ridge Prep in Bklyn. Far for us but worth it. They get kids who are socially typical with an LD. Has been a blessing for my child. 2-27-2019 12:23pm
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    • York Prep, BWL, Trevor Day, LREI, Rudolph STeiner, Bay Ridge. 2-27-2019 12:29pm
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    • That is totally not true about dc with history of special needs. I have three dc and my youngest is at Churchill. I can assure you that the nyc admissions process is difficult...(more) 2-27-2019 12:33pm
      but there are many options and lots of dc come from pvt and public schools with a history of sn and find spots.
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    • The step next less restrictive from a SN private is a self-contained class. Most public...(more) 2-27-2019 4:58pm
      schools have them. My ds has speech/language problems from cerebral palsy, doing great in self-contained class in our neighborhood public school (4th grade).
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      • Most self contained classes are more restrictive than a sn private 2-27-2019 5:51pm
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        • No, SN privates are deemed super restrictive because there is zero e posture to non-disabled...(more) 2-27-2019 9:40pm
          peers. In self-contained, they have recess, lunch, some cluster classes and field trips with typical peers.
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          • Okay, your child is 6 with a lbld and you are looking for future mainstream options. I get it but imo, you will know when his expressive/ receptive and maybe anxiety are able to...(more) 2-27-2019 9:59pm
            accommodate ms. It is a leap but many kids do it . In kindness I would put my energy in the here and now.
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          • I think poster istalking reality of self contained ps classroom as opposed to classification v. SN school. 2-27-2019 10:01pm
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            • Exactly. The doe may classify them like this but that is not the reality. Kids coming out of the LD schools go to ICT classes or ms privates....(more) 2-28-2019 12:12am
              Going to a self contained class is a step backwards for them. Mainly because academics are not strong in those classes and they don’t have the same type of students. Those classes may be great for certain kids But not kids who are ready to ms from a a an private
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    • The mainstream privates won't take him, except maybe Dwight and Birch Wathen or York Prep when he's older. You should go to the burbs. Armonk (Byram Hills school district) has...(more) 3-1-2019 11:03am
      small class sizes and excellent special ed.
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      • ^^ Mainstream privates in many suburbs wold consider your ds, though. 3-1-2019 11:05am
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  13. Special Needs Our child psychologist thinks our 9 year old has a mood disorder - specifically bipolar. I'm completely a mess. Already has anxiety and learning disabilities and is very smart. 1-15-2019 3:50pm (10 replies)
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    • I'm really sorry. I'd also seek another opinion. That is a serious diagnosis and you want to be sure. 1-15-2019 3:51pm
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    • This post has been disliked 3 times. showAh yes, our future where every person will be medicated. 1-15-2019 3:51pm
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      • Wtf?? Fuck off. Np. 1-15-2019 4:06pm
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    • I'm really sorry. What does your Ped think? I'd definitely get LOTS of opinions. Does it run in your family? 1-15-2019 3:54pm
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    • are you in NYC? i would consider consulting with cathryn galanter MD - she is in brooklyn and an expert in pediatric bipolar (which is rare, btw). 1-15-2019 3:59pm
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      • Thank you very much 1-15-2019 4:10pm
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    • See a psychiatrist. A psychologist is not competent to make this dx in a child and could not treat it anyway. 1-16-2019 12:17am
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    • mood disorder is one thing but you really cannot diagnose bipolar until very late teens./young adulthood with accuracy 1-16-2019 12:32am
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  14. Special Needs 7th grade ds is finally being evaluated for LD. I’ve asked at least five times in prior grades and been told stuff like “boys have messy handwriting” “he’s fine”. N...(more) 12-11-2018 7:17pm (6 replies)
    Grade and despite a “highly gifted” designation for language arts, is failing English class. I’ve been reading the stuff on our school district website about Learning disabilities and I’m so, so angry. This kid had all the signs and instead kept being told he was lazy, disorganized, not working hard. First line of the info for teachers basically says “gifted child seriously underperforming? First check for learning disabilities.” I’m so mad that they could have avoided this by doing their jobs. Or by listening when I asked and not saying “it’s fine” or “normal for boys”. It isn’t.
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    • I’m sorry. I hope you get to the bottom of this. 12-11-2018 7:18pm
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    • You have to fight because it’s all about $$ 12-11-2018 7:19pm
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    • Are you in NYS 12-11-2018 7:19pm
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    • is it dysgraphia or something else? 12-11-2018 7:23pm
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  15. Special Needs We’ve been trying to figure out why 12 yo (13 in 2 weeks) ds is struggling so much in school. I just googled learning disabilities and saw dysgraphia as a possible LD. I’m almost...(more) 12-6-2018 2:01pm (4 replies)
    certain he has it. What do we do? This explains so much, the struggle we have with certain forms of work, the fact that he doesn’t meet any other diagnostic standards but still struggles at school.. can anyone tell me about this? It seems like a relatively “minor” issue. But We’ve had such a struggle, for years. School does not seem to notice. What do we do?
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    • has he had a neuropsychological evaluation? 12-6-2018 2:03pm
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    • OT & neuropsych evals will be a good start 12-6-2018 3:26pm
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    • good idea to get evals and then school can help with accommodations. for example, my kid has a computer in class for notes 12-6-2018 3:29pm
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    • dyslexicmom here. You get him evaluated STAT. neuropsych. where are you? 12-6-2018 3:31pm
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  16. Special Needs I am harboring so much bitterness about the lack of thoughtful care my son has received from high end doctors in fancy Fairfield County. He's been SN for ages. He was passed...(more) 11-12-2018 8:41am (6 replies)
    over for early intervention despite obvious deficits. Diagnosed privately at 4 with a full range of developmental delays but cleared for ASD. Diagnosed later for learning disabilities, cleared again for ASD. Sent to a specialist to be checked for Ehlers Danlos and cleared of that. Complained of bowel problems for years to be dismissed with low tone. Ultimately at 15 diagnosed with autism, IBS, and now I'm sending him back to be re-checked for Ehlers Danlos which may be co-morbid with ASD (and IBS is a major symptom). Why am I the researcher? I have paid so much for private evals which missed so much? Where is their culpability? He's lost so much time. I'm just bitter and angry. Thanks for reading all this.
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    • I am so sorry, I can imagine. D has a host of ďnon-dx able traitsĒ and it is for this very reason I have not had a neuropsychologist. I just donít trust them for kids who atent...(more) 11-12-2018 8:47am
      obviously one or the other.
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      • Ds I mean, has some traits. Not D has a host. 11-12-2018 8:47am
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    • I think a lot of doctors end up sliding on their reputations. I know our ADHD neurologist isn't great - I figure out a lot more online about medications than ds's doctor ever...(more) 11-12-2018 8:47am
      discusses with us, even though we ask
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      • That really stinks when you are steering the ship yet seeing doctors for their expertise 11-12-2018 9:52am
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    • Donít blame you a bit. You trust the doctors will make the correct diagnosis. I know several kids who were told their DS not ASD only to be diagnosed years later by another...(more) 11-12-2018 9:51am
      practitioner. Very frustrating. But good for you that you kept pressing these issues and now finally are getting some answers and support.
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    • And those of us who did have those very same people diagnose our children at time of first referral/eval also have bitterness. We've spent a bloody fortune over the years on evals...(more) 11-12-2018 12:02pm
      all up/down the CT coast and into NYC. Our town is supposedly really good for sn but the reality is they're good for the "easy" manifestations. My dc's autism is not something they can handle so he's now outplaced. But, should we have had to suffer so damn much first? Hell f*****g no. But we did.
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  17. Special Needs Question for parents of kids in SN schools focused on speech and language based learning disabilities (or any learning disabilities for that matter). My 6yo came home today...(more) 10-31-2018 10:40pm (6 replies)
    saying that his teacher gave him chewing gum to "help him focus." He's mentioned in the past that the teachers have given other kids gum to help them focus, so I think its for real. Have you ever heard of teachers doing this? Is it a legit way to help kids focus? Like the equivalent of a fidget spinner but for your mouth? (Yes I will ask the teacher but I'm also asking here)
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    • Yes. There are kids that actually this as an accomadation 10-31-2018 10:44pm
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    • Absolutely. Oral stimulation can help some kids. 10-31-2018 10:44pm
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    • Thatís pretty standard 11-1-2018 6:23am
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    • Yes. Legitimate 11-1-2018 6:35am
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    • Yes, my dd did this for a while. Definitely helped. 11-1-2018 11:13am
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      • I wish they didnít do this. My dc has misophonia and the sound of people chewing gives rage/panic reactions 11-1-2018 11:08pm
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  18. Special Needs Can a good eye dr (the type that does eye exams and surgery) perform a special type of eye exam for my son who is having trouble reading? I don't know what this exam is called or...(more) (1 repl...(more) 10-21-2018 8:44am (19 replies)
    Can a good eye dr (the type that does eye exams and surgery) perform a special type of eye exam for my son who is having trouble reading? I don't know what this exam is called or...(more) (1 reply)
    what is involved but when I've posted here in the past about my son's reading difficulties I've had a response about checking his eyes but it was a special way and i want to know what that is called so I can make sure our eye dr does it. Do I need to take him to a specialist? Thank you. He was tested for learning disabilities and does not have any. He has ADHD (low processing score). He is responding well to low dose Ritalin. He is now complaining about things being blurry so I'm taking him to a regular eye dr but i want info on these special tests
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    • I just booked our tickets for vacation. Yay!! 10-21-2018 8:46am
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      • Why are up being mean? I posted this to toddler and now posting to special needs because a lot of moms on that board are very knowledgable (I by accident posted to toddler 2x)....(more) 10-21-2018 8:49am
        Why do you have an issue with this post?
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        • one troll. probably the one who doesn't think a little wind on an October morning is optimal for sailing. I answered you below. Your eye doctor will know the name of the test....(more) 10-21-2018 8:50am
          Just go.
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        • you posted to toddler twice within 4 minutes 10-21-2018 8:55am
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          • Did you take the time to see that I mentioned I did that by accident? Forgot to change to SN. You seriously need to look at why you are so twitchy about this. Maybe take a break...(more) 10-21-2018 8:59am
            off YBM for a while?
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    • I love this fall weather 10-21-2018 8:46am
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    • I feel like I'm paying for cloud storage for every apple account in our house 10-21-2018 8:47am
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    • Vision therapy 10-21-2018 8:47am
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      • So that's the name? I'll ask my eye dr. Thanks 10-21-2018 8:50am
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        • no, that's not the name. Vision therapy can help with tracking issues. But the testing isn't called "vision therapy" 10-21-2018 11:12am
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    • damn, our pumpkin is already getting moldy and carved on Friday 10-21-2018 8:47am
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    • I love caprese salad 10-21-2018 8:48am
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    • I've come to the land of cut and....ehh, nevermind 10-21-2018 8:48am
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      • Wtf is your problem? I'm reposting to special needs Bc moms here have been helpful. You guys are so twitchy and have PTSD 10-21-2018 8:50am
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        • Please don't say guys, when it's so obviously one reposting troll! 10-21-2018 8:50am
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    • Opthamologists can check for both tracking and convergence (both eyes working together). Most do this during a basic eye exam. They also check for depth perception. A behavioral...(more) 10-21-2018 11:12am
      optometrist sometimes does other tests to check on visual processing, which is different - visual processing is your brain's interpretation of what it's seeing, not a functioning of the eye itself.
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      • ^^and P,S. tracking and convergence/binolocular issue or depth perception can impact reading and also copying from the board. That said, most opthamologists think developmental...(more) 10-21-2018 11:14am
        optometrists are quacks because the latter seem to think vision therapy can cure dyslexia and a host of other reading issues.
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    • You want an evaluation by a developmental optometrist. If in NYC, decent ones include Dr. Marcie Evans Stein and the NYU Optometry Center has them. 10-21-2018 6:07pm
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  19. Special Needs Do private schools charge to accommodate dyslexia and other LDs?...(more) 9-23-2018 10:42pm (8 replies)
    Hi! Recently, my nephew's private elementary school began to charge what I consider to be an exorbitant amount to provide coaching for his dyslexia. I gather that if my nephew were in a public school and qualified, he would be given free assistance for his dyslexia, but that the federal statute at issue (IDEA) doesn't apply to private schools. Two questions (1) are there any federal laws that I'm not aware of that require a private school not to charge to provide support for a kid's dyslexia, and (2) regardless of the legal obligations, what's typical? Are most private schools charging families of kids with learning disabilities more? All?
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    • Iím pretty sure the kid could get special ed services through the school district in which they live. Has he been evaluated? Does he have an iep? 9-23-2018 10:46pm
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    • Not required and yes pay more. That said, his parents should not have been surprised by any of this. 9-23-2018 10:46pm
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    • My private school has a learning specialist, but all the kids with dyslexia have private tutors paid for by the parents that come in. 9-23-2018 10:48pm
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    • private schools harge for everything 9-24-2018 8:47am
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    • My ds is in a mainstream private. He gets tutoring 2x for "free" (funded by public school district I believe), and then I pay for additional private tutoring and speech. 9-24-2018 10:12am
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      • ^dyslexia and ADHD dxs 9-24-2018 10:12am
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    • Depends on the school. Some have a fee for service model. 9-24-2018 10:13am
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    • Mainstream private will absolutely charge for additional individual services. 9-24-2018 6:35pm
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  20. Special Needs Toddler I posted earlier but had to step away. Dd is 9 and pretty much had ADHD. Along with that is a bad attitude, hating everything, banging his head and learning disabilities....(more) 8-6-2018 3:47pm (9 replies)
    I'm thinking of committing him. Has anyone dealt with this?
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    • what kind of treatments have you tried? 8-6-2018 3:47pm
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    • You need a better team of professionals to help you 8-6-2018 3:48pm
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      • Op: I'm in the tri state area, ita hard to find people 8-6-2018 3:49pm
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        • You need to try harder. Yell, stomp your feet, call and call and call and call. 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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        • There are a ton of places if you can pay. Has he had any treatment or even a real diagnosis? 8-6-2018 3:52pm
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    • I hear you on how frustrating this all is and some days I think I just cannot handle another day but you are far away from commiting your kid. 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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    • is this a joke? 8-6-2018 3:51pm
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    • Is this the one with ocd? 8-6-2018 3:54pm
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    • What do you mean "pretty much had"? Diagnosed, and it went away? 8-6-2018 3:54pm
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  21. Special Needs Any special needs schools in Manhattan that will take a child with no learning disabilities? 7-15-2018 9:20am (27 replies)
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    • what would be their special need? 7-15-2018 9:21am
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      • ADHD/impulsivity 7-15-2018 9:22am
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        • that's a learning disability 7-15-2018 9:22am
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          • Every school already said they wouldnít take him because he was advanced academically and would be bored when others were working on learning issues but I refuse to believe there...(more) 7-15-2018 9:24am
            is no place for him. I canít experience another year of this. Heís very impulsive with his body. A lot of sensory and a lot of touching.
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            • ^^and that gets in the way of learning 7-15-2018 9:25am
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            • np: then I think you have your answer. If you are willing to go the 1:1 route, you can look at Fusion Academy (for nt students who have special circumstances, like child actors). 7-15-2018 9:45am
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              • 3rd grader too young for this 7-15-2018 10:40am
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                • I'm not so sure about that. At least talk to them. They do have activities for the kids to get together. It's not as if your child won't see another all day (may be different at...(more) 7-15-2018 4:30pm
                  different locations). I know someone who taught at one and most of her students had some kind of learninig issue.
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                  • Fusion in manhattan starts in 6th, or did when we looked at it. 7-15-2018 7:39pm
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            • We had this problem with ds when we hit the wall in public school in 2nd grade. But since then, a number of 2e programs have sprung up. Fusion, one in Nassau County...But I...(more) 7-15-2018 7:41pm
              agree most SN schools are designed for kids who are at least two years behind academically when they first enroll. Summit will sometimes take academic high performers who have social/emotional issues.
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          • no it's not (NP) 7-15-2018 9:24am
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            • according to......??? 7-15-2018 9:25am
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              • learning disabilities association of America. 7-15-2018 9:26am
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                • IDEA covers it. I don't know anything of the association you refer. But the government considers it a learning disability. 7-15-2018 11:04am
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          • No 7-15-2018 9:25am
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    • Whatís their SN? 7-15-2018 9:21am
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      • This post has been disliked 4 times. showCAM syndrome...(more) 7-15-2018 9:23am
        Crazy a$$ mother syndrome
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        • Thanks for the support 7-15-2018 9:25am
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    • How old? What grade and where is he or she now? 7-15-2018 9:25am
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      • 8 going into 3rd 7-15-2018 9:26am
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    • Hmm, heís too young for York. The LD schools are not set up for behavioral issues like you see with impulsivity. What about IDEAL school? Very supportive and nurturing with...(more) 7-15-2018 9:29am
      mixed mainstream and sn.
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      • Where is that? Iíll take a look. Thanks for being supportive 7-15-2018 9:41am
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        • IDEAL is in the west 80's. Worth looking at. Is he in mainstream now? Does he have supports? Are you being asked to look other places? It's a hard profile and hard to make a...(more) 7-15-2018 10:40am
          school change just for this. My DS is in mainstream now, in 10th grade, grew out of the impulsivity but still has ADHD, controlled by meds and Magritte at this point. Hard to be the mom of the impulsive kid in the lower grades esp if in the kind of school w little tolerance for the range of normal boy behavior.
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          • *magritte=maturity. Love autocorrect. 7-15-2018 10:41am
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            • My understanding is that most kids with "only" ADHD are mainstreamed, with meds....(more) 7-15-2018 4:17pm
              Is he on any meds? If meds aren't an option, you can look at funded special needs schools that take kids classified as "other health impaired" which is where they put kids with ADHD.
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    • Look at Summit, which focuses more on social/emotional needs vs straight learning disabilities. Or if academics are advanced, try one of the 2E schools. 7-15-2018 4:53pm
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    • I have a DS like this at a SN school. He is soooooo bored academically. Consider Quad, which will tailor the work to DC. 7-15-2018 5:32pm
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  22. Special Needs I think ds has learning disabilities. How can I get them dx without paying 5k? 7-3-2018 12:50pm (6 replies)
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    • What services does your school offer? how old? 7-3-2018 12:51pm
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    • Developmental pediatrician will take insurance. 7-3-2018 12:51pm
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      • they dont dx most lds 7-3-2018 2:07pm
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    • You can try through school, but I wouldn't be optimistic. Our insurance is covering most of DS's neuropsych eval 7-3-2018 12:52pm
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    • If your dc is truly struggling and you suspect LD, it would help in the long run t have testing done by a reputable person and have a written report that you can offer to school...(more) 7-3-2018 2:21pm
      District. Otherwise you may spend a long time fighting and your dc will fall behind
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    • Get school district to do a neuropsych. If from NYC you can pick an evaluator from this list....(more) 7-5-2018 6:04pm
  23. Special Needs Suing the public school district because we don't think they are meeting our daughters needs. She has dyslexia, dyscalculia, adhd, dyspraxia, slow cognitive function. We have her...(more) 6-29-2018 11:06am (6 replies)
    enrolled in a private school for kids with severe learning disabilities (4 kids per grade, it is a miracle she got in). Of course the school district is balking and saying they can meet her needs. This is very stressful. I wonder why I got into this. Has anyone else been through this? Did it make you super anxious?
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    • Can you afford to pay for it if they deny? 6-29-2018 11:08am
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      • OP: Yes. Suing more on the principle than anything else. But this sucks. 6-29-2018 11:09am
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        • I get your anxiety. I'd focus on the fact that your dc is in a great learning environment for her. 6-29-2018 11:10am
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    • yes, yes; but lawyer advised us up front of what was expected worst case settlement for us given experiences with kids like ours, our school district, etc. Turns out we settled...(more) 6-29-2018 12:00pm
      for more but we had prepared to have to fight hard for the 'worst'.
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    • Yes! I have just been through this. It was so hellish. By some miracle our district settled with us at the last minute but the anxiety was crippling, threw me into a major...(more) 6-29-2018 4:58pm
      depression, was all I could think about, etc. I still cant believe its over.
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      • ^^^my ds has adhd, dyslexia, dyscalculia, executive function issues. 6-29-2018 5:00pm
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  24. Special Needs Can anyone suggest video to show to my DS, 8, about learning disabilities?...(more) 6-21-2018 4:07pm (4 replies)
    He's going to move from his beloved public school to a private LD school next year and I need more help explaining the need for this move. He does get it, but I think he's feeling like he's dumb, different, etc. It's heartbreaking.
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    • Check out understood.com 6-21-2018 4:08pm
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      • This. They have some with famous people talking about their disability 6-21-2018 4:10pm
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    • The transition may be awkward but most kids are so happy to be in a place where people finally understand them. 6-21-2018 4:12pm
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    • There are a lot of great dyslexia documentaries. Pick one that is write for your dc....(more) 6-21-2018 4:25pm
  25. Special Needs I have ds's IEP meeting tomorrow. He has anxiety and is in a support class which a number of kids are in for various reasons. Some with anxiety, some speech, learning...(more) 4-17-2018 5:56pm (8 replies)
    disabilities, etc. He will be in 7th grade next year and thinks he wants to try and do it without the support class next year. Think that will be ok? It's kind of a crutch for him and he's fine academically, just needs a shoulder to lean on sometimes when he gets anxious. WWYD? Also, the support class replaces an elective class.
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    • If you can switch him back mid-year if he changes his mind, Iíd let him decide. 4-17-2018 5:57pm
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      • That's not a bad idea. He feels like he's ok to go without it, so I think that's a positive thing. But I don't want him to go into next year and get totally stressed out and then...(more) 4-17-2018 6:01pm
        regret our decision.
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    • can he get the shoulder from a guidance counselor or social worker at school, instead of having the SpEd class? sounds like the support can be outside of the classroom and still...(more) 4-17-2018 6:02pm
      inside the school with the right supports (including breaks, independent study, or whatever he may need)
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      • This is exactly what I want for him. 4-17-2018 6:03pm
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        • Well, talk to the school. I think SpEd seats are more expensive to the school district than the alternative of a generous 504 with specific supports for him. see if they're...(more) 4-17-2018 6:06pm
          willing to make it work
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    • What kinds of accommodations does the support class offer for the anxiety? 4-17-2018 6:08pm
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    • let him try. 4-17-2018 6:11pm
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    • My dd will have the support period for 6th similar to what you describe and they told me we can always drop it if we feel she doesnít need it but itís hard to get it back once you...(more) 4-17-2018 7:20pm
      Decline it. If you feel like your son is ok without it, I think I would let him try
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