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  1. Special Needs I have a 13 year old (LD/ADHD) who is struggling in her SN school right now. I think she might be clinically depressed - am meeting with her therapist next week and possibly a...(more) 2-14-2020 1:32pm (4 replies)
    psychiatrist soon. Question: She has basically stopped doing anything she used to love (e.g. gymnastics, dance, crafting). She has said she'd be open to doing dance again but with her social anxiety and working memory stuff (makes groups hard) she doesn't want to join a class. She really wants a private teacher so she can work one on one until she has the confidence to join a class. The kind of dance she wants to do is like music video dances - like urban jazz, hip hop. Can anything think of a place where I might find a private dance teacher for an SN teen that won't break the bank? We're in Brooklyn, could do Manhattan if not too far north. Thanks.
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    • Ys often have dance programs, they might be a good place to look. 2-14-2020 6:44pm
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      • ^^ you might find a young dancer who's teaching classes and would be happy to have a private student. 2-14-2020 6:45pm
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    • Try some of the local colleges with arts programs. I'm sure you can find a dance major to do this for a reasonable hourly rate. 2-15-2020 7:55am
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      • ^or even an arts HS. This is the time of year that seniors' schedules start to free up. 2-15-2020 7:56am
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  2. Special Needs Ds recently diagnosed w/ developmental coordination disorder? Ive never hear of this and no prior doctor gave this d except for adhd and SPD 2-13-2020 1:26pm (3 replies)
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    • Did he crawl as a baby or move straight to walking?... Also, check out the website SENG 2-13-2020 1:31pm
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    • Ds has this in addition to adhd. He’s 21 now 2-13-2020 7:10pm
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      • >>>it’s the same thing as dyspraxia 2-13-2020 7:10pm
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  3. Special Needs How can a neurologist help a child w/ Adhd? can they do testing/make diagnoses/recommendations? 2-13-2020 1:22pm (4 replies)
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    • yes, all those. We had the test that diagnoses ADHD there. BUT - it was SO MUCH $$$. We couldn't afford to keep going there even with good insurance so we moved to his regular...(more) 2-13-2020 1:26pm
      Ped - who has been in my opinion just as good for way less $.
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      • what can a ped do for ADHD? 2-13-2020 1:28pm
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        • same, testing, work to get the right meds, etc. 2-13-2020 1:29pm
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  4. Special Needs Has anyone had their kid move from a straight ADHD dx to autism dx? Did having a new dx help you better target meds and therapies? 2-12-2020 9:39am (9 replies)
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    • Meds don’t help Autism 2-12-2020 9:42am
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      • Hmmm. I don't think that's true. 2-12-2020 9:44am
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      • Different meds help autism, such as Abilify, Risperidone 2-12-2020 12:59pm
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    • My son's epilepsy neurologist wouldn't call him autistic but he moved away and the new one called him autistic because I wanted ABA therapy which we're getting. 2-12-2020 9:42am
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    • Yes. The ADHD was a mis-diagnosis. 2-12-2020 1:10pm
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    • Stimulants make my kid manic. Risperadone completely pulls him together. That's part of how we started realizing it was autism, not ADHD. 2-12-2020 4:07pm
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      • op: this is us. I think I know what to expect from this new neuropsych, then. 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • Yes, original dx was severe ADHD and anxiety to Autism. It might have helped for school placement when dc was younger. 2-14-2020 3:31pm
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      • op: Yup, sounds like my dc. Will be curious to see if dx actually changes. 1 hr 43 min ago
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  5. Special Needs College-bound ADHD with anxiety dd - do we need another NP eval to get accommodations in college? Tia 2-11-2020 8:08am (16 replies)
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    • We got an updated evaluation that wasnt a full NP evaluation. The college needed documentation. 2-11-2020 8:09am
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    • Yes. Keep it current (every 3 years) 2-11-2020 8:10am
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    • Trigger -- is there a way to figure out what colleges provide much support? 2-11-2020 8:10am
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      • yes, lots of resources on this 2-11-2020 8:12am
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        • Np: how can I find those resources? 2-11-2020 8:13am
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      • Petersons has a guide specifically for colleges for students with LD/ADHD. If you google you will find a lot 2-11-2020 8:13am
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    • Op. Can we go to the same NP? Probably stupid question! He is a pediatric NP. Should be ok right? 2-11-2020 8:11am
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      • that's fine. 2-11-2020 8:17am
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        • Thank you 2-11-2020 8:18am
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          • Op again. Do you have any advice? How did you dc fare in college? Tia 2-11-2020 8:19am
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            • I'm not at that point yet... I'm still doing the ramp up to college. DS is a sophomore and we need to time his private testing so that it doesn't conflict with the district...(more) 2-11-2020 8:20am
              testing.
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              • Op. I see. LS at dcs school reminded families to get the NP eval in 9th in order to secure it for standardized test accommodations. I haven't asked her about when to do it for...(more) 2-11-2020 8:24am
                college but guessing it has to be soon
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                • np, colleges want a report or testing that was conducted within 3 years from when they start college. I have sophomore and senior who both have accommodations. The biggest piece...(more) 2-11-2020 6:31pm
                  is that your dc must advocate for themselves and seek out all the help that’s offered and they need. They can get testing accommodations, note-taking accommodations but there’s no scaling back of the work or turning work in late (except under extraordinary circumstances)
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    • College Accessibility - accommodations, and disability services Facebook Group...(more) 2-11-2020 3:52pm
    • We were told you absolutely don’t need NP - just have school do updated testing. 2-11-2020 7:19pm
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  6. Special Needs Has anyone had success treating inattentive type adhd with Guanfacine? We’ve tried several different stimulants...(more) 2-8-2020 9:13am (11 replies)
    And they did help with focus, but the side effects were so bad (anxiety, irritatable, withdrawn, etc). Dr wants us to try nonstimulants, even though they typically treat more impulsivity and hyperactivity.
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    • Ds was on guanfacine as the afternoon booster. He took methylphenidate in the morning. 2-8-2020 9:14am
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    • my ds can't tolerate stimulants. he takes strattera. not sure how much it helps with inattention but helps with emotional regulation and frustration tolerance it seems 2-8-2020 9:15am
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    • My ADHD son takes 10 mg Focalin in the am and 2 mg guanfacine at night. THe combo works well but we also added the guanfacine bc he had some tics and this combo got rid of it. 2-8-2020 9:15am
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      • np: would you mind sharing what kinds of tics? my 10yo dd started 10mg of focalin a month ago 2-8-2020 9:19am
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        • for the year prior he had several different transient tics (they would resolve in a few weeks)-- like putting his chin up, kind of like a quick nod, or opening is mouth. Then he...(more) 2-8-2020 9:24am
          had one that lasted several months and became noticeable all the time. Our ped neurologist was never concerned...felt like it went along with other ADHD behaviors. But we felt like it was becoming distracting and started the guanc. We began with 1 mg and went up to 2. Played around with the time we give it too-It can make some kids drowsy so we do it in the evening. I have no idea if we stopped the guanc if the tics would return. but we're on a good combo so we will leave it. it's not a controlled substance so we can get it easily on refill.
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          • thank you. so you don't feel like the tic was caused by the focalin but may have been exasperated by it? 2-8-2020 9:25am
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            • no, he had the tics before we started focalin. probably anxiety related. 2-8-2020 9:26am
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              • thanks for sharing your experience. glad the meds are working well for you 2-8-2020 9:27am
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                • thanks! happy to help. it's always such a hand wringing (for us) process to change/switch/adjust meds. 2-8-2020 9:28am
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                  • I feel lik eyou have to put so much trust/faith in these psychiatrists who barely know you and your kid. it's all just so much trial and error 2-8-2020 9:29am
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              • the other benefit for us was we didn't want to go up to 15 focalin but felt like he still needed a bit more, the guanc helped with that--the two meds in combo seem to work well...(more) 2-8-2020 9:27am
                for him.
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  7. Special Needs My second grader w/ adhd and SPD has a hard time focusing at school and is always slouching over his desk and resting his head on arms...What can be done to help him? 2-8-2020 8:03am (3 replies)
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    • i'd ask an expert- what does the iep say 2-8-2020 8:04am
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      • says nothing about slouching 2-8-2020 8:09am
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    • more sleep, adhd meds, non-desk seating...my dc was always jealous of this one kid who got to sit in the teacher's special chair during some parts of the day...it was a big...(more) 2-8-2020 8:10am
      rocking chair with cushions and a foot stool...and during rug time he also got to sit in a different chair and not on the rug with everyone else
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  8. Special Needs When I gave the 504 committee evaluations w/recommendations for my adhd child, the 504 committee chair said those answers are standard for all adhd kids!! they wont give him...(more) 2-8-2020 7:59am (11 replies)
    outside classroom testing etc, among other things--then they wrote up updated 504 plan that says parent is in agreement with this plan!!! Is this standard procedure?
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    • what specifically are you requesting? you may need an IEP if they aren't accommodating. My ADD ds has priority seating and extra test time if needed. He has the option of going...(more) 2-8-2020 8:02am
      to a separate area for tests/state tests but socially, doesn't want that.
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      • op: testing accommodations...it does say preferential seating but their perspective is different than mine. they have placed him on the side table near the hallway entrance so he...(more) 2-8-2020 8:07am
        so he doesnt have a line of sight view to the front of the room or board
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    • No. I think outside testing is one of the easist accomodations, although my DD gets it for major tests, not weekly quizzes. 2-8-2020 8:03am
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      • op: thx. they wont give it even though he had it in prior school but it wasnt stated on 504. they just provided it 2-8-2020 8:05am
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        • op: i meant the old school just provided it 2-8-2020 8:08am
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    • That’s bullshit! If they view these recs as standard/boilerplate. Who are they to disagree? I would get an IEP in that case or your doctor to provide documentation stating why...(more) 2-8-2020 8:03am
      three accommodation is needed for your particular dc
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      • op: what can i say when they respond those are generic accommodations evaluations state for every adhd kid? 2-8-2020 8:32am
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    • how old is he?? Are you sure your kid WANTS outside classroom testing? If he gets extra time, often that extra time is outside classroom anyway since he can't use his extra time...(more) 2-8-2020 8:08am
      in class while everyone else has moved on to the next activity....ask how the extra time will be implement
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      • op: 8 yr old 2-8-2020 8:10am
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        • ah, oh still young...I would really ask how your kid will get the extra time then..will he start the test in the room with everyone else and then go immediately to another room to...(more) 2-8-2020 8:15am
          finish to use the extra time? Or if he gets extra time will he go to a separate room right away and just crank out the test all at once with his extra time? DC always did the latter up thru MS, but then in HS, they really dial back on separate testing...they make most kids take test in the room with others and then it is up to them to use one of their free periods or stay after school to finish the test (all tests are forwarded to a testing center room)...it's good and bad...but for the most part worked in dc's favor..espeically because he is disorganized and often will be able to come home and 'refresh' study for the rest of the tests...
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          • op: he takes test at same time place as regular kids...no real accommodations 2-8-2020 8:31am
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  9. Special Needs Can anyone recommend a CBT therapist for a 7 year old in Brooklyn with ADHD and Anxiety? 2-7-2020 6:44am (1 reply)
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    • no recommendations, but 7 is very young for CBT 2-7-2020 6:46am
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  10. Special Needs 4th grade ds with ADHD is struggling to complete homework, which in turn makes our evenings miserable. It can take him a half hour to write 2 sentences (or just to get started)....(more) 2-5-2020 1:25pm (7 replies)
    He is medicated, including a short acting booster early afternoon to help with things like Hebrew School and after school, but by the time he comes home it's wearing off. He rarely finishes his HW at his school-based after school program. I don't want to give him meds later because I'm worried about interfering with sleep. Anyone have any advice? TIA.
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    • Can you adjust his schedule so that he does all HW before Hebrew school? 2-5-2020 1:26pm
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      • There's not a ton of time in between. He gets some done but not enough. 2-5-2020 1:27pm
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        • I'd move Hebrew school to weekends or summer because regular school is more important. You're only only going to get a certain amount of hours off that boost and you need to take...(more) 2-5-2020 1:31pm
          advantage of them.
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    • Have him chew gum and sit on a Movin Sit if you have one. Work for 15 minutes, get up and do something with movement - jumping jacks etc. Repeat!...(more) 2-5-2020 1:30pm
    • I found doing homework in 10 minute intervals kept my ADD kid on track. Something about feeling like it was "only" for 10 minutes and then they could stop worked. 2-5-2020 1:43pm
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      • ^ usually HW then takes 3 or 4 10 minute intervals. We would break it up with dinner, then a play break, then a shower break 2-5-2020 1:44pm
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    • I agree about doing it right after school. I have a 4th grader with severe ADHD, and when I or the babysitter pick him up and do hw between 3-4:30, everything gets done without...(more) 2-6-2020 9:33am
      screaming or tears. If we start after 5:30, it takes double or triple the amount of time and results in fights. One example is that my ds has a reading fluency assignment where he has to read phrases and it's timed. When we do it after 6pm, it takes three times as long as when we do it after school.
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  11. Special Needs Ds (sophmore in high school) is floundering. His school is NOT following his 504 (we have a meeting coming up). Dh and I are working on our end to get him through this (it's s...(more) 1-31-2020 10:38am (14 replies)
    spiral, do bad, anxiety goes up, things get worse, perseveration, his ADHD on top of all that etc). Anyway, we decided to see if an incentive would work. We told him if he gets his grades up to where they can be, and we know they can be because of last year, that in August for his birthday, he gets an oculus VR system. We shall see. He knows the deal, and it's written down and kept in a place where he can see it
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    • I sort of did this with my HS ADHD son. We gave him a GPA to keep up (3.0). If he kept it he had tons of independence to manage his time on his own. He loved the freedom and has...(more) 1-31-2020 10:41am
      kept it up. We also offered him all new tires/rims for his car for all A's and then prayed he never attains that.... He hasn't
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      • that is pretty much where I am. I don't know if he will get them to where they need to be, but it's a good incentive at least to try 1-31-2020 10:42am
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        • incentives are a slipperly slope 1-31-2020 10:42am
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          • not really. Everyone does something for an incentive. 1-31-2020 10:42am
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          • i wouldn't link them to grades -- sometimes they have a bad semester, a bad teacher, have extra tough material. better to link them toward doing the right thing around the house,...(more) 1-31-2020 10:43am
            chores, getting to school on time, etc
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            • he is doing all that at home. we need the school incentive. 1-31-2020 10:43am
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      • LOL -- my senior ds has two Cs right now.. total senioritis and ADHD is not a good combo - he says he is trying -- i dont' know 1-31-2020 10:42am
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      • OR Here: My point in telling you is that, with his ADHD, he might need more immediate rewards. 1-31-2020 10:43am
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        • no, he needs more long term. He knows the immediate goal is that if he gets his grades back up we will ease off the video game time restrictions we have now put in place 1-31-2020 10:44am
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          • Frame things positively always 1-31-2020 10:47am
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    • this is my DS - -incentives didn't nec work. we had him with a tutor 2-3x a week, mainly for exec functioning and keeping him up on his work. (our school doesn't really follow the...(more) 1-31-2020 10:41am
      504 - only lets him use his computer to type) bc my DS isn't asking for it - they want him to advocate for himself in HS, which can be tough for some kids like mine)
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      • we don't have the funds for an exc. functioning tutor and where we live I don't even know if that would be available. (Not in NYC) 1-31-2020 10:42am
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        • we're in NJ and mine is super cheap - she is a reg tutor, too - she's basically a fairy godmother 1-31-2020 10:43am
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    • I offered my son $1000 if he received all A's on his core subjects' midterms. Suddenly he was able to get all A's and an 87 on his history final. 1-31-2020 2:25pm
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  12. Special Needs Is there an app, that will buzz your child's phone when it is that class period to remind them to turn in their homework?...(more) 1-29-2020 9:12pm (22 replies)
    DS has ADHD and even with medication, this is the biggest struggle. He has his phone with him, so if say, at 2pm, he is in Latin, and he needs to turn in latin homework it would buzz and buzz to remind him. I want something that tracks his homework not something he has to enter and then enter again. His school uses google classroom
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    • Set it up on his calendar 1-29-2020 9:13pm
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      • I want something that will automatically do this, he struggles enough. If it comes up in google classroom, I want that to send a reminder if that makes sense. I don't want to have...(more) 1-29-2020 9:14pm
        to go on line and keep updating each day. When the teacher updates google classroom, it will automatically enter into his calendar with a reminder, and then the next day it will buzz
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        • I have a garmin watch that I can program to buzz. I think any exercise watch will do this. 1-30-2020 2:05pm
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    • google calendar pop up reminder? 1-29-2020 9:14pm
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    • will he have his phone out in class? 1-29-2020 9:15pm
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      • no, but it will be in his pocket, so he will feel it buzz or ding. 1-29-2020 9:15pm
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        • dont all kids turn in their hw when the teacher collects it? or at the beg of class? 1-29-2020 9:17pm
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          • no, because sometimes, the teacher just wants them to put it in a bin on the desk and the ADHD kid doesn't remember, or can't find it because it's in their bag, etc. Any number of...(more) 1-29-2020 9:19pm
            reasons.
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            • got it. dd has an Apple Watch so she can see alerts, would that work? 1-29-2020 9:21pm
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              • But I want something that will send the alert automatically. I guess I am looking for something for when the teacher updates google classroom, the watch/phone at 2pm when he walks...(more) 1-29-2020 9:23pm
                into class, will buzz and the reminder comes up to turn in the homework. I need something that will hook up those peices
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          • you don't have an ADHD kid do you? 1-29-2020 9:19pm
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            • yes, im sorry im just trying to help by first understanding how the hw gets collected. 1-29-2020 9:20pm
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              • it really depends on the class, the teacher etc 1-29-2020 9:21pm
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    • i know they make watches that do this to remind kids to go to the bathroom. maybe something like that? 1-29-2020 9:35pm
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    • Why is your ds still dealing with paper? Get a digital accommodation so he can receive homework digitally and "share" it with his teachers? 1-30-2020 2:07pm
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    • Just set up a recurring appointment for each class. I do this all the time at work. 2-3-2020 4:32pm
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    • Put it in his 504; make a calendar event with an alert 2-3-2020 4:33pm
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    • create a HW folder that you can see through. Put all HW to be completed in it. When he goes to school, empty the folder as he turns in HW 2-3-2020 4:34pm
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  13. Special Needs A while ago, dd was diagnosed with mild ADD. It never affected her school work so we chose not ti medicate. Now she is a freshman in HS and her grades are awful. Do you think...(more) 1-29-2020 7:06pm (12 replies)
    this is because of the ADD? She seems old to start medication. Her bother started medication for ADHD when he was 8
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    • Is she boy crazy? 1-29-2020 7:06pm
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      • not at all!! She is really working hard but she is getting bad grades on tests 1-29-2020 7:07pm
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        • Does she not know the material or is she making careless errors 1-29-2020 7:08pm
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          • mostly careless errors 1-29-2020 7:10pm
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            • Then it could be. Maybe it's time to talk to the psych 1-29-2020 7:12pm
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    • you're never too old 1-29-2020 7:06pm
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    • Yes, Indo think that. Typically, one of the top reasons ADD girls fall through the cracks is because they cause no trouble at school, but also, they figure out how to cope...(more) 1-29-2020 7:09pm
      until...they cant anymore. And that usually happens when the workload increases to whatever her tipping point is.
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      • yes, maybe this is it. Thank you 1-29-2020 7:13pm
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        • Go read up on ADDitudes magazine 1-29-2020 7:14pm
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    • This post has been disliked 6 times. showthere's no such thing as ADD, so it's not that 1-29-2020 7:10pm
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      • Don't be an asshole np 1-29-2020 7:10pm
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      • op: ok, bye 1-29-2020 7:10pm
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  14. Special Needs Anyone want to weigh in on meds? 11yo is adhd/ASD. He was having meltdowns/outbursts at age 8. We tried intuniv, made him worse, went to risperdal instead which worked. Still huge...(more) 1-28-2020 7:31pm (8 replies)
    Anxiety and internal distraction so added Prozac—better. The only problem is that he still has NO — and I’m talking NO — attention span. We tried Ritalin once and it made him manic. We tried tapering down the risperdal this fall with the hope of trying a long acting stimulant, and the behavior started up, so we upped his dose again. I guess I’m wondering if all of these other options are keeping us from the long acting stimulant which would actually pull everything together. We like our psychiatrist, but I’m wondering if we should get a 2nd opinion...
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    • Just my experince - my ds took risperidol for years due to rages, but we stopped a year or so ago because of the side effects. Instead he's taking guanfacine, which seems to...(more) 1-28-2020 7:33pm
      work, and Focalin for the ADHD, as well as an anxiety med
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      • Yeah we’re seeing gynecomastia 🙁 which is another reason we’d love to move away from risperdal. Do you feel ok about 3 meds? It makes me nervous but maybe that’s illogical 1-28-2020 7:39pm
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        • That's why we switched too. And ds has been on 3 meds for a while, so no, I'm ok with it. Low side effects for them all. 1-28-2020 7:40pm
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          • Thank you for sharing that. I really think ds needs a Focalin-type drug in there. What is he on for anxiety? 1-28-2020 7:46pm
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            • adderall was a game changer. For some reason less anxious and more focused. i was surprised about the decreased anxiety. 1-28-2020 8:49pm
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      • np: What have you felt guanfacine does for your son? I am not convinced it's doing anything for my ds, except making him grouchier. 1-29-2020 12:31pm
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        • Op: made mine irritable/aggressive too 1-29-2020 10:39pm
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    • My ASD/ADHD kid can't do stimulants. It fucks up a lot of ASD kids, according o my psych. He does abilify, effexor and guanfacine. 1-29-2020 12:30pm
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  15. Special Needs My 10 year old ds is in an ICT class. ADHD/Anxiety dx. He's having more academic issues now that he's in 4th grade and expectations are rising. I've asked for the school to give...(more) 1-28-2020 5:54pm (2 replies)
    him a speech and language assessment because he is struggling with his writing and spelling to the point where I am wondering if he has a language-based LD. (My older child does so I'm hyperaware of the signs.) The school asked me if, as long as I'm opening the IEP for a speech and language assessment, did I want the school to do a psychosocial assessment. Is there any reason NOT to do this? He hasn't has a full assessment since he was 3 years old. I had been thinking about a private NP eval but I asked the dr. who did older dc's and she said unless we are wanting to change to private school it's not worth the money. Given all this is it worth it to have the school to an eval? Any potential downsides?
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    • yup do it 1-28-2020 5:55pm
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    • at this age, I would want to get all the information I could get. 1-28-2020 5:58pm
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  16. Special Needs I love my kids I do. But my ADHD 15yo is going to be the end of me. Yes, he is medicated, yes he is in and out of therapy. I am just exhausted and what kills me is he could be a...(more) 1-28-2020 5:39pm (4 replies)
    straight A student if he didn't have ADHD. He is so fucking bright, he reads something and knows it, he takes tests and aces them, but forgets to turn in homework, rushes through work and gets distracted. It's exhausting and I am tired. I know it's horrible but I have another child who has his own shit going on, but when it comes to school work, it just comes easy and he loves it. I know these thoughts are bad but I have to vent them out here.
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    • I have two with ADHD and ODD and I LOVE them but sometimes I think being divorced and 50/50 would be easier 1-28-2020 5:40pm
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      • I'm the one below, and this is one reason why we WON'T get divorced -0 neither of us wants him on our own! 1-28-2020 5:42pm
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      • op here. My 15yo was out of town this weekend and it was kinda nice to have a break. 1-28-2020 5:42pm
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    • Oh, I am so sorry. I have one of those myself. 14yo with ADHD, NVLD, OCD, ODD, anxiety. And really bright too. Hang in there, and good luck to you! 1-28-2020 5:41pm
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  17. Special Needs I have a 15 yo ADHD/OCD/anxiety math loving kid. Looking for a summer program. He's in calculus now and if he could he would take only math. tia 1-28-2020 11:27am (15 replies)
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    • Imacs 1-28-2020 11:28am
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    • maybe IdTech? 1-28-2020 11:28am
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      • I second this. Dd went there it was perfect. 1-28-2020 11:29am
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        • OP thank you! googling now. 1-28-2020 11:30am
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          • they have campuses all over and several diff programs. full of adhd kind of kids 1-28-2020 11:31am
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        • TID tech is very tech based (shocking) he wants straight up math 1-28-2020 11:32am
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    • In nyc? 1-28-2020 11:29am
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      • or sleep away. He used to go to q 4 week sleep away camp but he's aged out now. 1-28-2020 11:30am
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        • They might not have summer classes but suggest you look into MathM program. Best program for advanced math students. Kids travel long distances to participate in the program. 1-28-2020 11:32am
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        • Not sure if he’s old enough yet but SUMAc @ Stanford 1-28-2020 11:35am
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          • just sent that to him! 1-28-2020 11:38am
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  18. Special Needs Related to planning for future of SN kids...how have you named guardians for your not so easy kids? I've been avoiding this task, I think because I'm nervous about how I'll feel...(more) 1-28-2020 11:19am (3 replies)
    when I ask someone to be that person and I get a luke warm response or possibly an outright no. We've got two kids, both with ADHD, one severe, and also LD's. They are clearly tough kids, though I do hope that they will live independently, get jobs, etc. My parents are in their late 70's, and my husband's are early 70's but live far away. I've got one sister with kids of her own, and seemingly no interest in taking care of mine (she hasn't asked me to be her person, so I"m assuming there's little interest in being mine). DH has a sister who is a lot younger and hasn't had kids. I'm rambling, but it's a long way of saying that we don't have an obvious choice, and how can I ask a friend or more distant family member to do this, especially when it's a pretty big job parenting these two?
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    • ugh. I'm sorry this is something you have to worry about. I'd bring it up with your sister or your dh's sister before I asked a friend. You're not asking anyone to do anything...(more) 1-28-2020 11:24am
      now and the possibility that they'll have to is so remote. Maybe ask your sister and make sure you soften it with an out to see what she says. Like, "I realize this is a lot to ask, and you can absolutely say no, but I want to make sure I have a plan for Joe and Jane in case something happens".
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    • "this is a remote possibility so hopefully it'll never happen, but I would feel so much more comfortable if I could name you as Guardian." 1-28-2020 11:27am
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      • Thanks for this. I think you're right that we have to ask one of the two sisters, and probably my sister is the best choice for now. Ugh. 1-28-2020 2:17pm
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  19. Special Needs Anyone see a notable change in mood, affect, energy in their SN kid during winter? DD takes a very low dose of zoloft, has ADHD (just started medication). Her mood was good on...(more) 1-27-2020 12:36pm (6 replies)
    zoloft over the summer and through the fall, but then plummeted in late November. Got ped to do bloodwork, and all was normal except vitamin D was lowish. Ped says the level of D is considered normal for kids, but it's low for adults. Could supplementing D help with mood and energy? Anyone seen this help? what dose of vitamin D would be helpful? Have gummies now that have 1000 iui in them.
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    • Yes definitely give vitamin d. I give a d/k2 combo 1-27-2020 12:39pm
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      • What's K2? Potassium? 1-27-2020 12:40pm
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        • Vitamin k maximizes vitamin d 1-27-2020 12:44pm
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    • did she grow a lot? does the dose meed to be increased? 1-27-2020 12:40pm
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      • yes, she did grow a lot. She's 9, but the size of a 11 or 12 year old- very tall. I didn't think Zoloft dose was based on weight though. Is it? 1-27-2020 3:22pm
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        • We are meeting with psychiatrist this week to discuss the dose and whether it needs to go up 1-27-2020 3:22pm
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  20. Special Needs If your dc takes ADHD meds, what type of doctor does he/she see? We see a neurologist, he came recommended, but it's time to move on from him after 5 years and I'm not finding...(more) 1-27-2020 11:41am (1 reply)
    Neurologists who specialized in ADHD
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    • Psychiatrist who specializes in pediatric cases. 1-27-2020 6:19pm
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  21. Special Needs What can I do for my adhd child? we moved to new school & they keep saying hes doing fine--yet previous district said he needs constant refocusing...on a playdate recently, his...(more) 1-26-2020 12:54pm (8 replies)
    classmate said my child is constantly distracted in class especially during math--which of course weve noticed bcuz he is failing...504 plan says ds must have preferential seating near front/source of instruction...classmate said my ds cant concentrate as hes placed in the back row at math time bcuz its on the rug and they place the tallest kids in the back row!!! I had a feeling the teacher wasnt being truthful..this proves it...plus they put him on some kind of rocking chair base--this has never been recommended for my child w/ adhd who also has sensory processing disorder....he is overstimulated on this constant rocking base...what can i do? to make matters worse the school OT evaluated my son But NEVER observed in classroom. she never recommended anything yet but said she will try different things in her OT room first...this is outrageous...Thank you
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    • Call ameeting 1-26-2020 12:56pm
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      • op: we just had a meeting last week. this never came up bcuz teacher says hes doing fine 1-26-2020 1:02pm
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    • Is there anyway you can move him to another school? I'm sorry but they sound shifty and clueless. You can try to work with them but he may be better off somewhere the staff cares...(more) 1-26-2020 12:57pm
      more about meeting his needs. I'm really sorry
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      • op: thx...there is another elementary school in the same district where the principal does care BUT were not zoned for that school 1-26-2020 1:06pm
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        • OR again... Where are you? In NYC you can go to a a "family welcome center" for the district and demand a variance. Seriously, put on your mama bear claws and make this happen. If...(more) 1-26-2020 1:09pm
          you harass the living crap out of people they tend to give you what you want eventually.
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          • Nassau county 1-26-2020 4:01pm
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    • Typical public school BS for this sort of thing. I’d find another school if they dint want to comply. 1-26-2020 1:02pm
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    • You need to get a NP in the school to evaluate your child during school. This district sounds like they are screwing you over. 1-27-2020 6:20pm
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  22. Special Needs Does anyone have experience with private boarding schools in the Northeast (NJ, NY, CT, MA) for 4th grader with ADHD/ASD? 1-25-2020 7:00pm (10 replies)
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    • My dh just asked me if this exists 1-25-2020 7:02pm
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      • We have a third grader with that profile 1-25-2020 7:03pm
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    • My cousin's dd went to Eagle Hill in MA and they were very happy, as was she. I don't have a lot of details but it seems like it was a good move from her public school. 1-25-2020 7:03pm
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      • OP’s dc may not fit their profile with the ASD. It’s for dc with language based ld. 1-25-2020 7:40pm
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    • 4th grade seems so young for boarding school :( 1-25-2020 7:05pm
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      • My guess is that they're looking ahead. 1-25-2020 7:11pm
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    • you are going to board a 4th grader? 1-25-2020 7:18pm
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    • Hampshire Country School 1-25-2020 8:56pm
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      • was all set to type that out myself until I saw someone else had already done it! Technically, HCS is in NH but it is 30 min from Leominster, MA, or 1/2 mile north of the state...(more) 1-26-2020 2:26pm
        line
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    • educational consultants know these types of schools 1-26-2020 7:30pm
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  23. Special Needs 4th grade DS with ADHD: stay in mediocre MS private or look for a place to thrive?...(more) 1-24-2020 4:19pm (3 replies)
    For 4th grade DS with ADHD and slight dysgraphia (well-managed with AT). NP recommends leaving current progressive MS private (not enough structure, not good at managing services, or challenging DS in a supportive way), but don't need a specialized school. Suggests BWL or Dwight, or if cost-prohibitive, suburban public is really next best... can't decide if we should just stay where we are and eek it out. I don't think DS is thriving, but he's doing okay. Bird in hand?
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    • suburban public could be a nightmare 1-24-2020 4:20pm
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      • In our case, suburban public has beeen amazing, but only at middle and HS levels. Not sure how elementary kid would do. 1-24-2020 7:15pm
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    • Depends on the suburb. We are in a Philadelphia suburb. DC now in middle school. Both ADHD and ASD. The schools are past unbelievable. Total support from top to bottom. Both kids...(more) 1-25-2020 7:14am
      thriving. My DH went to private schools in Manhattan and his parents rave about how much better our public schools are.
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  24. Special Needs Good therapist in Manhattan for ADHD/anxiety teen who takes insurance? 1-23-2020 11:02am (0 replies)
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  25. Special Needs NVLD question: long shot but anyone else with an NVLD teen? Mine has literally given up independently doing homework that requires reading (has ADHD too)...if you've BTDT do you...(more) 1-23-2020 10:59am (0 replies)
    have any advice or anedcotes?
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