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  1. Special Needs Autoadmit.com check it out. no PG there 7 hr 35 min ago (8 replies)
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    • that good. I saw that accusation yesterday and it would be disappointing if true. 7 hr 34 min ago
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      • PG posts there daily as Tommy Turdskin 7 hr 33 min ago
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        • How do you know it's her? 7 hr 33 min ago
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          • She posts about running this site on the board. Encouraged us to come post here 7 hr 31 min ago
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            • Say it isn't so! 7 hr 30 min ago
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              • She's racist 7 hr 29 min ago
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                • That's sucks if true. 7 hr 29 min ago
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                  • the racist stuff she posts there is out of control. I love autoadmit but she has ruined the site. 7 hr 28 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Goyim are cattle 7 hr 37 min ago (3 replies)
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  3. Special Needs Can anyone honestly tell me the America of the 80s and 90s wasn't better? Look at this Mercedes video...(more) 7 hr 38 min ago (7 replies)
    • Better for whom? 7 hr 38 min ago
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      • Mercedes buyers. These cars were so much better. They used to be built to a standard, not a price. My dad drove his old diesel E-class for 300k miles. 7 hr 37 min ago
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        • You realize lots of cars can go 300k 7 hr 34 min ago
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          • What other car can average 300k? toyota land cruiser? 7 hr 33 min ago
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            • Lots. Theres volvos that have gone millions 7 hr 33 min ago
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              • Not modern volvos. They are POS 7 hr 30 min ago
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    • ok imcp 7 hr 35 min ago
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  4. Special Needs This post has been disliked 3 times. showAny RETARDS around 7 hr 39 min ago (0 replies)
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  5. Special Needs We disagreed with school district evaluations/placement and requested an IEE neuropsychological evaluation in a letter to the CSE...Now the head of special ed keeps calling 2see...(more) 12 hr 3 min ago (4 replies)
    what we disagree w/...I just want the IEE neuropsychological done. What do we say to her?
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    • it's expensive and they don't want to do it. You should be able to articulate why you are asking for the neuro. What did their testing miss in your opinion? 11 hr 59 min ago
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      • op: possible dyscalculia and auditory processing disorder--their evals don't explain why child is having so much difficulty in math...is it okay to email this special ed person...(more) 11 hr 58 min ago
        instead? I think email is easier to get my point across?
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        • yes, she still may call you but get your thoughts together and send an email. 11 hr 57 min ago
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          • op:Thx. I'm just gonna say I can't talk today but She can email me her questions and Id be happy to answer. 11 hr 55 min ago
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  6. Special Needs We don't have any hard surfaces to put a chromebook other than the table where we eat. The school rules are to only put Chromebooks on hard surfaces where there is no food or...(more) 12 hr 36 min ago (9 replies)
    drinks. Now our ridgid ASD rule follower lectures everytime any of us eat or drink at our table while he and his sister are working.
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  7. Special Needs I'm married to a man who is becoming a Trump-loving, Fox-watching Republican. He wasn't like this when we met 18 years ago! I hate this so much about him. I would divorced his...(more) 18 hr 44 min ago (23 replies)
    sorry ass if my ASD teenage boy wasn't so close to him. #$%@#$ hate this!!!!
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    • Wow, I'm sorry. 18 hr 44 min ago
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    • cant you just agree to turn off the tv and not discuss politics? he can't prioritize his child? 18 hr 44 min ago
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      • It has nothing with prioritizing his child, he's good that way. Is when he talks to me, or I hear him talking to his friends, drives me nuts. 18 hr 35 min ago
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        • ah. leave the room and meditate. at least until yoru ds no longer needs you guys in the same house. GL 18 hr 35 min ago
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    • He was always like this. You either just didn't talk about it or believed his "I'm a moderate" bullshit. 18 hr 43 min ago
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      • my ex dh was a closet republican. he knew i was liberal and apparently played down his beliefs until we started not getting along 18 hr 41 min ago
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        • I don't believe you for a second if you say you didn't know. There are so many tells. You just chose to be willfully blind. 18 hr 40 min ago
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          • lol. okay then. 18 hr 39 min ago
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            • My family is full of guys like this. They seem perfectly normal. But they won't venture into certain neighborhoods, prefer pay-to-play stuff to public facilities like beaches...(more) 18 hr 37 min ago
              and parks, love Florida bc no taxes, have all sorts of opinions about 9/11, etc. None of these are expressions of political beliefs, but they tell you what kind of person you're dealing with.
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              • i don't give a shit about YOUR family. fuck off. 18 hr 35 min ago
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                • OP: For the record, the above comment didn't come from me. 18 hr 33 min ago
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              • I agree with you. 18 hr 33 min ago
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                • It's obvious. Women make excuses until they can't anymore 18 hr 32 min ago
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          • MORON 18 hr 39 min ago
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          • Sure, sure, pat, pat on your head. Because you've never heard of people changing over the decades. 18 hr 35 min ago
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            • Yeah, no, I haven't. People don't just morph into sociopathic racists. They just don't. 18 hr 32 min ago
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        • Whoa! I didn't think of this as a possibility. 18 hr 34 min ago
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    • Did he ever tried to grab you by the p....? 18 hr 43 min ago
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      • Yes, but it was consensual. Now back to my point. 18 hr 32 min ago
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    • block Fox on your tv. 18 hr 35 min ago
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    • The TV has gotta go. My DH is not a fox-lover, but he became so addicted to MSNBC during the 2016 election and after that it literally caused problems between us. I finally really...(more) 18 hr 33 min ago
      had it out with him and explained that he was literally f*cking with his mental health by watching things that agitated him and he stopped. He now admits he had a problem.
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    • people get older and wiser. churchill said "any man under 20 who isn't liberal has no heart. any man over 30 who isn't conservative has no brain." 18 hr 31 min ago
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    • Divorce him anyway. He will raise ds as a trump-loving ass too 14 hr 2 min ago
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  8. Special Needs TY IHO... MacBook, iPad, Apple Pencil, hearing aids, 120 hrs of speech @$125/hr, 184 hrs SETSS @$125/hr, OT and Counseling evaluations. 18 hr 56 min ago (0 replies)
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  9. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 10-20-2020 10:27pm (2 replies)
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    • This post has been deleted. 10-20-2020 10:27pm
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    • Shame on you 10-20-2020 10:28pm
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  10. Special Needs How do I deal with hating my child? 10-20-2020 10:27pm (12 replies)
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    • I'm sorry. It's really, really hard. Do you have a therapist for you? 10-20-2020 10:27pm
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      • No. I guess I need to find someone. 10-20-2020 10:28pm
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        • Nnp: you deserve to have one of your own 10-20-2020 10:38pm
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          • God knows we have had ENDLESS ones for dc, to no fucking avail, despite all our efforts. 10-20-2020 10:56pm
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    • Are you in therapy? Seems like something that needs to be talked out 10-20-2020 10:27pm
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    • Lots of nannies 10-20-2020 10:29pm
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    • what's going on? 10-20-2020 10:30pm
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    • What’s going on? Things have been tough for a lot of us. Remote schooling is killer 10-20-2020 10:30pm
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      • He is awful. Sent home from sn school due to behavior. Needs constant maintenance. Won’t take any direction without argument. Thinks he is completely my equal and should be...(more) 10-20-2020 10:42pm
        treated as such. Immature, autistic, smart, lazy, asshole. No teacher ever likes him or wants to come to his rescue. An embarrassment and not manageable. But i fear will kill himself if we send to therapeutic boarding school, which is now looking like the only option.
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        • I’m so sorry. I’ve had tough years where I’ve heard not one good thing about my child from other adults. It’s very hard. 18 hr 57 min ago
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          • Thanks. That’s pretty much every year for us. :( 6 hr 50 min ago
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    • Hang in there. If this is happening sometimes, it is normal. Even parents with typical kids go through this. If it is all the time, you might want to look for help, i.e. support...(more) 17 hr 58 min ago
      group, psychologist...
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  11. Special Needs I just made my first social story and I'm very proud of myself. 10-20-2020 8:41pm (2 replies)
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    • What does this mean? 10-20-2020 8:41pm
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      • I'm creating educational materials for my special ed students. I figured people on SN would know what I was talking about. 10-20-2020 8:45pm
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  12. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 10-20-2020 12:54pm (2 replies)
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    • No way 10-20-2020 12:54pm
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    • No. A couple have a key but would only enter in an emergency or if I asked them to 10-20-2020 12:55pm
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  13. Special Needs Ds's teacher is telling him he doesn't get extra time on todays assessment because it is a quiz, not a test, and there are no accommodations for assessments under 35 minutes. Is...(more) 10-20-2020 11:38am (17 replies)
    this a thing? Remite work FWIW
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    • is it really that big of a deal 10-20-2020 11:39am
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      • It is because this year they are not having tests. All the assessments will be quizzes. 10-20-2020 11:39am
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        • that is bullshit. talk to principal 10-20-2020 11:42am
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    • does he really need the extra time or are you one of those... 10-20-2020 11:40am
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      • He is dyshraphic. He has to type and for math, since there are symbols, ot takes time. But, more than this one quiz I want to know if this is something I need to raise for the...(more) 10-20-2020 11:40am
        entire year.
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    • I’ve seen many IEPs that say extra time on assessments that are 45 minutes (class period) or longer, but presumably you know how it’s worded on DSs IEP. 10-20-2020 11:40am
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      • There is no mention of time at all 10-20-2020 11:41am
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        • Then he should get it, IMO. And it needs to be changed on IEP to say all quizzes and assessments. You can ask for that. 10-20-2020 11:42am
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          • ^I would contact guidance or special ed administrator and tell them his isn’t limited to full period exams or longer. 10-20-2020 11:42am
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    • This post has been deleted. 10-20-2020 11:45am
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    • Absolutely not. Clear 504 violation. 10-20-2020 11:48am
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    • Idk the correct answer but how awful. Does she want the kid to suffer?? 10-20-2020 11:49am
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      • They have to have the camera on during assessments. Extra time for him means she has to sit there watching for the extra time as well. 10-20-2020 11:53am
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        • That's the school's issue. This is the law. 10 hr 36 min ago
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    • Look at detail of your 504 10-20-2020 11:54am
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    • In our case, quizzes were not included in test accommodations. 10-20-2020 2:18pm
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  14. Special Needs Bezos Exposes Becker was such a great headline. I wonder if this one will offer some zingers 10-19-2020 4:15pm (1 reply)
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    • Bezos Exposes Pecker 10-19-2020 4:17pm
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  15. Special Needs One good thing about this pandemic is, people won't blow spit all over bday cakes to blow out candles 10-19-2020 3:49pm (8 replies)
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    • I always hated that. So glad. 10-19-2020 3:49pm
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    • Gross 10-19-2020 3:49pm
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    • So nasty 10-19-2020 3:49pm
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    • I was thrilled to get plexiglass partition on my desk. People STILL walk around it! 10-19-2020 3:51pm
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    • The closest I've ever come to dying was after eating a birthday cake with a trick candle on it. The birthday person tried like 10 times to blow it out. Against my better judgment...(more) 10-19-2020 3:52pm
      I ate the cake. Two days later I was sick from both ends with norovirus, which lasted 5 days. I thought my organs were going to shut down, it was that bad.
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      • Omg so sorry that is so gross... You can even get herpes... So nasty 10-19-2020 3:53pm
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    • who are you people, we don't do that in my community 10-19-2020 3:55pm
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      • Kids always blow out birthday candles at parties. So icky 10-19-2020 3:56pm
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  16. Special Needs So frustrating, ds 9 had an IQ of 69 3 years ago, now it's 50 10-19-2020 3:35pm (7 replies)
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    • Sorry. I would retest. IQ usually stays the same. DS had to have it four times due to school needing on file and it was exact from seven years old to seventeen. 10-19-2020 3:47pm
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      • Same school psych tested him 3 years ago. She says "he's doing more than he was then, but more is expected of 9 year olds so the score is lower". 10-19-2020 3:49pm
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    • I'm sorry. 10-19-2020 3:52pm
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    • It's probably a different test (WPPSI vs WISC). They say it doesn't make a difference, but IME it does. 10-19-2020 3:53pm
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      • She said Stanford Binet this time and last time. 10-19-2020 3:54pm
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    • Assume his IQ in somewhere in that range. There's no need for an exact number. 10-20-2020 8:56pm
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    • Depending on the disability, the standard test may be unreliable. There are special testing methods for speech impaired, for example, but they are not consistently used by peoll...(more) 12 hr 22 min ago
      people administering the tests. Our neuropsych told us expressly that our son’s nonstandard way of being made the Wechsler highly unreliable, and said we should ignore the overall score and focus on the subtest scatter.
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  17. Special Needs Recommendation for educational advisor / advocate in CT? Trying to gather info on a few towns 10-19-2020 1:14pm (0 replies)
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  18. Special Needs My dc was deferred by CBST to a non-NYS residential placement. School has called. Does anyone have a list of questions to ask the school/admisstion director? 10-19-2020 10:16am (0 replies)
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  19. Special Needs Ideal school question: do the typical children pay tuition? I have one sn and one nt dd. I am interested in applying for my nt dd but can not afford the tuition. We are...(more) 10-17-2020 7:56pm (1 reply)
    middleclass so probably won’t qualify for financial aid but cannot afford the tuition
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    • Yes, the neurotypical students do pay tuition. You should contact them and discuss, though....(more) 10-17-2020 8:07pm
      The SN fees are on top of the regular tuition as well. But you can try to get the $$ back from DOE for the SN student. Again, you should just contact them to learn what might be possible.
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  20. Special Needs Applying for MS from special needs private. DS with ADHD, anxiety, history of language disorder. What special needs schools and/or mainstream private or public would you...(more) 10-17-2020 1:08pm (36 replies)
    suggest? He definitely needs smaller classes still but I am considering mainstreaming for the right school/program. (NYC)
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    • How small 10-17-2020 1:09pm
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      • ^also, how modified is his current program? He is school avoidant? 10-17-2020 1:11pm
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        • His current program has behavioral plan in place where they earn rewards for good behavior. He hasn't gotten anything but perfect scores on his rewards chart. I'm wondering if he...(more) 10-17-2020 1:17pm
          needs that anymore. And no not avoidant.
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          • My experience with my ds, and I'm not saying this would be yours, is that the supports enabled him to have those successes. It wasn't like his success was evidence that he didn't...(more) 10-17-2020 1:18pm
            need the supports.
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            • I get it. And do worry about that. I'm likely going to keep him in special needs ms, but do want to transfer from our current school. so looking for any suggestions 10-17-2020 1:19pm
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              • yeah, navigating NYC special ed is beyond me. 10-17-2020 1:26pm
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                • Me too! LOL We definitely need a move academically and even socially. :) 10-17-2020 1:36pm
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                  • I wound up circumventing by putting my ds into Catholic HS. They have surprisingly excellent special ed supports. 10-17-2020 1:37pm
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                    • Interesting. I was thinking about Catholic schools. I'd need to investigate class size at certain schools. Thanks! 10-17-2020 1:41pm
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                      • It might be larger, but they have a SE resource room in a lot of these schools, and they really are great. 10-17-2020 1:47pm
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      • Good question. Before COVID he was in 12, but was in a summer camp with 15-18. Definitely can't do NYC size 25-30. 10-17-2020 1:13pm
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        • The public options are going to be either mainstream with those 24 or whatever, or in a SN setting with 12/1/1. Does he have an IEP? 10-17-2020 1:15pm
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          • Yes. Currently his IEP says 12:1:1. 10-17-2020 1:16pm
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            • Ok. I would suggest exploring those options. A mainstream MS might be really overwhelming...changing classes, having multiple teachers, etc. 10-17-2020 1:17pm
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              • How do you explore those? Honest question. I don't know where to begin since we've not been in public. 10-17-2020 1:18pm
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                • Yeah, transitioning there is not something I know about. And I teach in special ed, but not NYC> 10-17-2020 1:19pm
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                  • Got it. Thanks for the advice. NYC is so complicated. I feel like I'm flying blind when looking at public options. 10-17-2020 1:37pm
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    • Any behavioral issues? 10-17-2020 1:09pm
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      • He's pretty well managed by medicine now. Before yes. Now not so much. Anxiety makes him shut down at first but he warms up. He mostly will become frustrated or upset at home...(more) 10-17-2020 1:15pm
        after school hours. Nothing like when he was younger/not managed by medicine.
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    • Gaynor, Gateway. 10-17-2020 1:16pm
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      • I did wonder about Gaynor. They wouldn't consider him years ago but said they'd consider him if his behavior was managed, which it is now. Gateway worries me though seems like a...(more) 10-17-2020 1:40pm
        great school only because I've heard concerning things about ADHD kids being counseled out. Didn't know the kids/situation well enough to really be able to gauge it, though.
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    • Nord Anglia is a mainstream school with very small class sizes and personalized learning. 10-17-2020 1:19pm
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      • Interesting. Never heard of them before. Do you have a child there? 10-17-2020 1:25pm
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    • OP: Suggested by friends were York Prep, Bay Ridge Prep (thoughFAR), Community School, Trevor Day, Specialized programs at Dwight and Columbia Grammar, BWL, Studio School, 10-17-2020 1:29pm
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      • Go for ones that go through 12th grade. YOu don’t want to do this again in 3 years. 10-17-2020 1:30pm
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        • Very true! I feel like we've been in constant school application mode through our journey. 10-17-2020 1:31pm
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      • was also wondering about IDEAL and Summit 10-17-2020 1:30pm
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        • Your ds doens’t sound like a candidate for IDEAL. Although admittedly I’ve never visited the school. I think the children there have more intensive physical needs among other...(more) 10-17-2020 1:41pm
          things.
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          • Ideal is basically a private school with an ICT model. There are mainstream kids and SN kids with varying needs of support (which cost extra) in the same classes. Lessons are ....(more) 10-17-2020 3:59pm
            take needs of the kid...same subject matter but the level of the, say, reading, is adapted depending on mainstream or SN. And the SN can be anything from ADHD with nvld to ASD to Downs Syndrome.
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      • We are at community school and pretty happy 10-17-2020 1:40pm
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        • Does your child have ADHD? I've heard good things from families who go for LD but didn't know if kids there also have ADHD 10-17-2020 1:44pm
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          • We are also there. I'm sure half the populataion has adhd! 10-17-2020 3:57pm
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          • OR: yes, my ds has ADHD inattentive. Many kids there have ADHD 10-17-2020 5:52pm
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            • ^^^my ds is now in 8th grade. I think he will wind up there for HS too. I just wish I could do an in person tour. They arent allowing it now 10-17-2020 5:54pm
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  21. Special Needs Any single moms on with kids who have SN issues? It is just so hard. My ex is basically MIA and completely unhelpful and my parents, who normally participate, won't leave their...(more) 10-17-2020 10:39am (14 replies)
    house because of COVID-19, which I get. But it just sucks. I am going insane. I have two teens. One has anxiety issues, the other has pretty severe ADHD and anxiety. I am looking for joy but the anxiety kid complains constantly and the ADHD kid is a nightmare when it comes to school work. They have wonderful qualities too but it's Saturday morning and the weekend already sucsk.
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    • I'm sobsorry. No one else to help? 10-17-2020 10:45am
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      • I have a good support network but no one can actually come over. It it just very hard to manage both kids, who take everything out on me. Yes, we do therapy and meds for them. 10-17-2020 10:50am
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    • I’m so sorry to hear that OP that must be very difficult. Although I’m not single my dh is completely uninvolved and no family around so I can relate. I have a SN 10yo and it’s...(more) 10-17-2020 10:48am
      been so hard. Try to focus on a small things that give you peace - for me it’s a hot shower, making a nice lunch, music, getting outside. It’s not much but it does help me. I hope your weekend gets better!
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    • Me, not SN but 2 DCs and one has severe depression and anxiety. It is extremely hard. 10-17-2020 10:48am
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      • ^^and exDH has been MIA for many years 10-17-2020 10:49am
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        • thank you. my ex also has anxiety, which makes things much worse. 10-17-2020 10:53am
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          • if you live in ny, happy to refer our nanny- ex-SN teacher 10-17-2020 10:55am
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            • I don't, but thank you. It makes me feel better just getting such a kind offer. 10-17-2020 10:57am
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              • gl to you. 10-17-2020 10:58am
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    • np: I am a single mom (always single) with a sn teenage dc. No ex-husband. Parents dead. I find the covid situation hard, but I don't think it is harder for me than for anyone...(more) 10-17-2020 4:54pm
      else. I guess since I have always been on my own, I just accept the lack of help. The negative for dc is online school as opposed to unperson (though I hioe to send her in Nov in person) and that there are fewer extracurricular activities because of covid, and those she does have are mostly on line. I think the problem you are experiencing has to do with the fact that you describe that your dis have psychological issues, as opposed, for instance, to "just" global delays or intellectual deficits. I think that is what is so hard. And that is very hard for all parents with children with psychological problems. I have no answers for you, but hope you are able to find a good way forward.
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      • Thank you. That is exactly what it is. I appreciate your kind words. Sending you love and strength as well. 10-18-2020 9:59pm
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  22. Special Needs If you and dh split up, how much was due to having a kid with SN? 10-16-2020 4:59pm (8 replies)
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    • For us had to do w/ dh's annoying habit of having sex w/ nannies, au pairs, neighbors, baristas, sales people from Macys, co-workers, DS' den mother 10-16-2020 5:01pm
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      • that is annoying! 10-16-2020 5:02pm
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        • Yes, good Dad though and he was a good dh outside thit 10-16-2020 5:02pm
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          • dh isn't a good dad, he takes everything too personally. But I wonder what impact splitting up would have on dd. She'd have to know she was part of his reason for leaving. 10-16-2020 5:03pm
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            • taking everything personally is a personality flaw that isnt about dd 10-16-2020 5:07pm
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              • I know, he wasn't cut out for this. Thought if he was better than his parents he'd be a great dad. 10-16-2020 5:08pm
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                • Do you have other kids? Kids without sns are challenging too to a parent with flaws 10-16-2020 5:18pm
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                  • no, just one 10-16-2020 5:21pm
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  23. Special Needs Serious question: is there some kind of medication I can take that will help calm my anxiety and rage as I have to micro-manage totally non-compliant dc through detested remote...(more) 10-16-2020 12:44pm (20 replies)
    learning? Because right now it is all I can do not to actually slap him in the face.
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    • I'm using CBD. Helps a little. Good night sleep is important for me 10-16-2020 12:45pm
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    • How old is he? Mine is 12. Someone here recommended He’s not Lazy by Adam Price and its been super helpful 10-16-2020 12:46pm
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      • ^^ It’s honestly helped me and helped make our relationship better 10-16-2020 12:47pm
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    • xanax 10-16-2020 12:46pm
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    • i know you're asking a serious question and i have no idea about medication but omg, what a shit show these ridiculous school closures have turned people's lives into 10-16-2020 12:46pm
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      • teacher here and troubleshooting and helping my 6th graders online live zooming and helping my kids at home at the same time is pushing me off the fucking deep end 10-16-2020 12:48pm
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        • in our district they basically can't open schools because the teachers who live in other districts wouldn't come in to teach, they'd take FFRCA to be home with their own kids 10-16-2020 12:49pm
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        • I hope you realize that it is the same for the rest of us, right? It's not just hard for teachers! I actually have to go to work and my middle schooler is home alone half the...(more) 10-16-2020 1:26pm
          time!
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    • zoloft helps me. 10-16-2020 12:47pm
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    • I am taking lexapro 20 mg a day. remote learning with my sn ds pushed me to seek a psych telemedicine appt ( I already had a therapist)j. I ugly cried into my laptop and she...(more) 10-16-2020 12:49pm
      rx's me the lexapro. I have felt so much better and ds is doing better too. Not sure if this will help you but I'm glad I got some help.
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    • honestly walks. mine is 9 and our issue is rude, dismissive words, esp towards younger sibling. it suvks 10-16-2020 12:50pm
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    • Oh boy. I think you have to step back. Accept some things wont be the way you want (like a child’s grades) and do something for YOU - start seeing a therapist, start guided...(more) 10-16-2020 12:56pm
      meditation (works so well!) and start letting some stuff slide.
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      • grades are the least of our concerns at this point. about to be kicked out of school. :( 10-16-2020 1:01pm
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        • what is he doing? 10-16-2020 1:14pm
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          • totally decompensating during in-person days. physically aggressive, non compliant, just unable to function (at a sn school with tremendous supports) 10-16-2020 1:20pm
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            • He needs a therapeutic school I think. What is the SN? 10-16-2020 1:27pm
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              • yes, we are just about to start the process - school is about to pull the plug on him. complex mix of hfa, adhd, dmdd (for whatever that's worth), dyslexia, disorder of written...(more) 10-16-2020 1:43pm
                expression, slow processing....the list goes on....
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  24. Special Needs It’s really hard having a child with “invisible” SNs. I’m so isolated and sad. I don’t have faith anymore that it’ll get easy to negotiate play dates or just to dea...(more) 10-15-2020 3:31pm (12 replies)
    Just ranting and sad.
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    • I totally get it. How old is dc? 10-15-2020 3:31pm
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      • Almost 6 10-15-2020 3:32pm
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        • what are dc's issues? 10-15-2020 3:33pm
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          • Can’t climb or use playground equipment. Trying to arrange pt/ot. It’s just a lot. I’m enervated and upset and wil prob delete 10-15-2020 3:34pm
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            • my ds didn't crawl until 14mo with PT - still need to teach him how to break things down into steps. But, he's 15 now and is doing well! Will he ever be on the varsity football...(more) 10-15-2020 3:35pm
              team? No. But, he's a good enough tennis player. He'll find his spots
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              • Ty, glad your teen found what he loves!! 10-15-2020 3:37pm
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          • ah, I see below. I promise it gets easier - get the therapy you need, but give yourself a break. Both dcs had various issues that are extremely stressful, but not as visible to...(more) 10-15-2020 3:34pm
            others so they had no clue what I went through. But, I've always been nervous about socialization. It really does get better the older they get.
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            • TY, I need this kindness today. I really do!! 10-15-2020 3:35pm
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              • And, I know this isn't easy during Covid - what was difficult before is that much harder now 10-15-2020 3:36pm
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              • I'm the same poster as above . . . while I was stressed about ds' issues being invisible, I was then overly stressed that dd's were not. She was a biter and hitter . . . that was...(more) 10-15-2020 3:37pm
                even more stressful. She's doing well now, too (not to jinx it)
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    • Are the issues mental health-related, like anxiety? 10-15-2020 3:32pm
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      • No, it’s hypotonia with nothing else at the moment 10-15-2020 3:32pm
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  25. Special Needs Back to teen ds refusing to go to school, refusing to do any work or really half ass it at best. back to playing on the computer for countless hours. no friends seem to be around...(more) 10-15-2020 12:36pm (7 replies)
    lately. back to him yelling at me and calling me names and blaming me for everything, turning everything he does on to me saying I am doing exactly what he just did. demandign things that are very expensive. It is shocking to me that school is this anxiety provoking for him and now with only 2 classes its just as bad? in a tiny school. I hate this life and how we have failed and he has no future at this point. our relationship is over. I dont know how to help him. it takes forever to get in to any therapist and then he doesn't like them or won't show up or continue with it. I need him at some kind of outdoor/outward bound program but cant find anything. He's even been taking his Adderall again on school days. nothing else though, he refuses after so many meds over the years. so sad.
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    • Time for therapeutic boarding school. 10-15-2020 12:38pm
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      • I just dont know where or how to find them. 10-15-2020 1:00pm
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        • There are two ways to find them: $$$$ or using a consultant, or $0 or using google. Just start by googling "boarding school" and a couple phrases about your kid. Not kidding, that...(more) 10-15-2020 6:55pm
          is how we found our way to a school that our son attended for a few years. How old is your son or what grade is he in? And, what are his dxes? That might help me or others come up with ideas for you.
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    • I'm sorry. KNow that you are doing your best. You can remove the computer given that he's going to blame you and demand things regardless you might as well let him figure out how...(more) 10-15-2020 1:11pm
      people get privileges
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      • he needs it for school when he actually does do any. I said I would get the most simple laptop for school work. I have a desktop and laptop. I am worried if I take it he will...(more) 10-15-2020 1:42pm
        break mine as he has before ,smashed my Mac desktop to pieces in a rage.
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        • Ask his teachers to send you his work, put it on a jump drive and take the internet off of the computer. But I agree. A therapeutic program sounds like what he needs. 10-15-2020 7:00pm
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        • IF your son does things like smash a laptop in a rage you need more intervention. I'm sorry you are going through this. He needs much more intervention 10-15-2020 8:57pm
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