Special Needs

  1. Special Needs Crosspost on SN Board-Can anyone reccomend a really great male therapist for a teen in Suffolk County, NY? TIA 2 hr 50 min ago (1 reply)
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    • ^^^Crosspost on Toddler Bd. Thanks! 2 hr 50 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Anyone hear of neurological symptoms of outburst then passing out/falling asleep? We are being told to ask for neurology referral for ds. 4 hr 10 min ago (2 replies)
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  3. Special Needs Anyone here whose DC's aggression worsened on risperdal? 4 hr 11 min ago (1 reply)
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    • not mine, but it's a known side-effect. every child reacts to every drug differently 4 hr 10 min ago
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  4. Special Needs My DS has dylexia and thinks it's hilarious. He's 7. He now loves to say tons of words 'backwards' and thinks it's hysterical. 4 hr 32 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Well, that really isn't what Dyslexia is but I'm glad he finds it funny 4 hr 31 min ago
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      • op: I explained this to him but he thinks it's funny anyway. 4 hr 26 min ago
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    • Good for him! THere are hidden gifts and strengths in disabilities. Let him embrace his own. 4 hr 31 min ago
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    • I have a nephew with dyslexia and he has the biggest best personality 4 hr 29 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Anyone have a dc on prozac and notice him being "too up and happy"? I know this sounds weird 5 hr ago (9 replies)
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    • no. my ds is on prozac, and I think he is FINALLY getting to where he is not frequently anxious and depressed. 4 hr 59 min ago
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      • and I have watched it carefully because his birthfamily has some BPD, and there is a risk of it becoming evident with SSRIs if it is underlying 4 hr 59 min ago
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        • Boarder line or bipolar? 4 hr 47 min ago
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          • np: ha ha on 'boarder' - sorry! 4 hr 10 min ago
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    • Is he the one also on vyvanse? 4 hr 44 min ago
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      • yes. It has been great, we had a great weekend, a good day today and now tonight I am wondering if he is a little too happy 4 hr 40 min ago
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        • I have heard Prozac can do this but that's all I have to offer. My 10yo is suffering from terrible anxiety/ADHD and depressive symptoms currently 4 hr 33 min ago
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    • no but sleepy and agitated..what dose is dc on? 4 hr 37 min ago
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    • Not wierd at all. SSRIs can cause manic reactions in some kids. Maybe talk with your psych? 4 hr 19 min ago
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  6. Special Needs The accountant who fucked up the Oscars looks just like Matt Damon! And it was jimmy Kimmel's night. Coincidence? I think not 5 hr 5 min ago (2 replies)
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    • why do they have two suitcases with two completely different sets of winners? do they push a button and jump into an alternate reality and have the brief case with them just in...(more) 5 hr 4 min ago
      case?
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  7. Special Needs Looking for psychiatrist and/or psychologist to work with depressed teen with some history of self injury. Child will fight attending appointments and may need a lot of...(more) 5 hr 6 min ago (2 replies)
    coaxing to get a discussion going. Any NYC ideas for me?
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    • Honestly, you might have to go to a clinic if your dd seems high risk. Where do you live in the city? 5 hr 5 min ago
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      • Really, really trying to avoid that. Live in Manhattan. Will go anywhere for the right person 4 hr 12 min ago
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  8. Special Needs Does anyone have any hopeful stories of DCs with severe anxiety/ADHD plus mood disorders getting better as they age? Or is it worse? DC is 8 and I have this very bad feeling 5 hr 19 min ago (17 replies)
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    • Does he have all these diagnosis? 5 hr 17 min ago
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    • Hello twin 5 hr 17 min ago
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      • how ya doing? 5 hr 12 min ago
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        • Pretty bad. Had to step away sorry. My son is 10 4 hr 54 min ago
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    • usually there is one core dx that is driving the other symptoms - do you have an idea what it is? also, I am soooo wary of docs who will dx mood disorders in young dc. very...(more) 5 hr 16 min ago
      difficult to do. Symptoms of "bipolar" could be totally explicable by an ADHD/anxiety dx
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      • We have one of the top psychs and for now the driving DX is severe anxiety. There are 'mood issues' and "mood dysregulation' DXed by support team (therapists). 5 hr 13 min ago
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        • ok that makes sense 5 hr 13 min ago
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        • Can you explain mood dysregulation? 4 hr 53 min ago
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    • Me! My nephew had to be homeschooled around that age because he keep getting in fights at school, etc. he is now a senior in high school, was accepted to his first choice...(more) 5 hr 16 min ago
      college (for engineering), has a girlfriend, is just a completely different kid!
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      • Oh man thank you I really needed to read this tonight ;-( 5 hr 13 min ago
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        • Hang in there. I honestly used to worry about this kids future but he has really turned it around. Maturity and the right meds helped him. GL 5 hr 10 min ago
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    • Mine has asd, anxiety, and ADHD. It's definitely better at 11 than it was at 6. I fear puberty though 5 hr 15 min ago
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      • Mine broke down at 7.5 and now at age 8 it's still horrid. 5 hr 12 min ago
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    • I know my ds who has different issues than yours', however he is ver intense and has mellowed so much now that he is 12, started mellowing around age 10-11. Who k news what will...(more) 5 hr 7 min ago
      happen when reall puberty starts,
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    • My very anxious, ADHD/LD dc started taking abilify @ age 11 because she was having lots of dysregulation and was explosive at times. The abilify has been so helpful. Now at ,...(more) 4 hr 16 min ago
      13.5 and things (with the right school, therapist and changes at home) are a million times better, even with the crazy hormonal stuff.
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  9. Special Needs So ds 12 started ritalin 10 days ago, its working really well actually even though years ago it did not...he takes 50mg zoloft too but I don't think it works very well. school...(more) 6 hr 57 min ago (24 replies)
    awful. I talk about it him all the time here...anyway psych said add risperdal but as needed not every day...he had massive raging episode last night had to go to ER...then was fine when he was there but still very angry towards me. he always loses it sunday night and won't go to school monday. anyway....the risperdal...anyone with experience? dosage and how often? dr said for now just give to him sundays late afternoon...maybe other times if he seems to be panicking or getting really moody and seems like he could 'turn'. thoughts?
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    • yikes....that seems like too many meds....what about changing your routine on Sundays to calmer...and giving him some melatonin around 6 pm 6 hr 54 min ago
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      • it always is. he could be IN bed ready to turn out lights then suddenly jumps up and starts freaking out and then gets instantly angry, starts throwing things around, , yelling...(more) 6 hr 51 min ago
        etc
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        • I'd really consider melatonin on Sunday nights. I have a ds with anxiety and ADHD....we tried a slew of prescription meds and they just made things worse 6 hr 48 min ago
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          • yes I do give him melatonin...amazingly he's not needing it even with the ritalin but yes, I will give again. I know, I worry about the meds. I would like to take him off...(more) 6 hr 45 min ago
            everything and start fresh. He's so angry :( On and off them...which is why he keeps getting put on something. and his focus i completely awful, he has none at school so he misses out on all the lessons and work...
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            • what services does he get at school? Does he get resource room or academic help? 6 hr 43 min ago
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              • he used to be in a sn class for awhile but it was pretty awful...the kids had some huge issues that dc doesn't do at school...at school he is silly or distracting sometimes but...(more) 6 hr 40 min ago
                not emotional or angry. in that class he watched kids losing it daily and then that made him react and his anxiety was awful. he moved to new school but now he has pressure on academics and can't keep up and hasn't made friends really...it's a lot. he has an IEP but he isn't getting any supports really.
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                • I'd revisit and make them up the support at school...I mean, you shouldn't have to have your kid on 3 different meds if the school isn't giving him the support he needs 6 hr 38 min ago
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    • Do you have a dh to help you with all this? 6 hr 53 min ago
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      • no, but some family help 6 hr 53 min ago
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    • what does he 'lose it' over?? 6 hr 53 min ago
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      • turning off the computer. being asked to do something. but literally since taking the ritalin he's been so great. great listening, polite, helpful...really great. I was so...(more) 6 hr 52 min ago
        surprised.
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        • Are you sure he's not just being an asshole? 6 hr 51 min ago
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          • Not trying to be a jerk but my 12yo treats me like shit and pulls nothing with dh. 6 hr 50 min ago
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            • op-actually yes, he is awful to me and only has these episodes with me...he will continue having it with family here but it only starts with me. but no, he definitely has a mood...(more) 6 hr 48 min ago
              disorder
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              • it can't be a mood disorder if he only gets angry with you 6 hr 46 min ago
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                • no he did use to have these episodes with family but not anymore...just me. but everyone else just coddles him and they are all fun, no rules or chores or homework with them...so...(more) 6 hr 43 min ago
                  I'm the bad guy.
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                  • what about at school? Does he have rage episodes there? I think like you said above, you need to reset and start fresh. Has he tried CBT? (My dc hated that too)...the thing...(more) 6 hr 41 min ago
                    that helps him the most is that he doesn't take foreign language right now but instead goes back to his core teachers for extra academic support.
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                    • ^although mine is starting HS next year (he is 13) so I feel like we may need to start again too 6 hr 40 min ago
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                    • no never. in his old SN class he would get very verbally annoyed to kids sometimes, he would react to them or be mouthy. but not in MS class at all. teacher says emotionally he's...(more) 6 hr 39 min ago
                      great in class
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                      • I would wonder if he is angry that he was in the SN class...it doesn't sound like it was the right place for him. I'd lobby for more individual support at school...at ours kids...(more) 6 hr 36 min ago
                        like this get a portion of their hw done while still at school
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        • so if this only happens Sunday night, why not see to it that all this 'work' is done by noon on sunday...then he can have from after lunch sunday til bedtime to do whatever he...(more) 6 hr 50 min ago
          wants without you 'nagging' him
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          • ^I mean, I agree with person above....this is my 3 kids too...teens don't like to be told to do anything and are surly and angry 75% of the time 6 hr 49 min ago
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          • he could be great though and then when he's in bed he will suddenly panic. and it escalates to a very scary place very quickly. its been happening for years, the rages...not just...(more) 6 hr 47 min ago
            about school, thats just what is happening right now to make it worse
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            • really, try the melatonin...start with 1-2 mg 6 hr 45 min ago
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  10. Special Needs I took my 5 yo to see an OT today for an eval. He has mild hypotonia. She said she didn't need see anything significant with him during the eval but that he needs help with fine...(more) 7 hr 42 min ago (1 reply)
    Motor and core strength. That's pretty much what I thought. She said she typically likes patients to see her weekly with the understanding that 20 sessions are a baseline for treatment and the D.C.'S may need more. Does this sound right? Also, is OT really effective for helping with this stuff?
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    • OT can be very helpful with fine motor skills, esp. for hypotonia. I don't know...(more) 3 hr 50 min ago
      About 20 session timeframe because DS had hypotonia Dx at 11 months and still gets OT at age 11 : ) Defnitely helps with handwriting, not just formation of letters and such but also with a less compensatory/maladaptive method of holding pencil. DS lacked core strength, which affected ability to sit upright and not lean heavily on other arm for support when writing. Good luck!
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  11. Special Needs Ds 10yo was put on 18mg of strattera today. I thought he would be given meds for anxiety and depression before his ADHD. Wtf. It's like dr didn't even hear us. Looked online and...(more) 9 hr 18 min ago (15 replies)
    strattera doesn't even start working for 4-8 wks. Anyone have experience with strattera?
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    • strattera has off-label success with depression 9 hr 17 min ago
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      • It does? How do you know this? 9 hr 16 min ago
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        • I have a kid with ADHD. You can google it if you don't believe me 9 hr 10 min ago
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          • ^^^look up atomoxetine and depression and anxiety 9 hr 10 min ago
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    • ^getting a 2nd opinion next week. 9 hr 16 min ago
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    • That was actually smart. Strattera can treat the ADHD AND the anxiety (google it - it was originally developed to treat anxiety and they found it improved ADHD). The other...(more) 9 hr 7 min ago
      alternative would be giving your son 2 medications - 1 for the anxiety/depression and another for the ADHD. This doctor wants to try just the 1 first. If that's not enough, he will likely add a stimulant to it. If that combination doesn't work then he will likely go the SSRI and stimulant route.
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      • ^^and fwiw, SSRIs also take 4-6 weeks to be effective. It has to build in your system. But some individuals notice improvements on Strattera within 1-2 weeks. It just takes 4-8...(more) 9 hr 5 min ago
        weeks to reach full activation
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    • What kind of doctor? 9 hr 5 min ago
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    • Strattera is often prescribed for kids with ADHD and anxiety. 9 hr 4 min ago
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    • This is my ds. He has ADD inattentive and severe anxiety. We tried straterra, did not work for either condition. He is now on vyvanse and prozac and things seem to be getting...(more) 7 hr 12 min ago
      back on track
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      • Wow ok this was what dh was leaning towards 4 hr 46 min ago
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        • ^what happened on the strattera? How long did he take it? 4 hr 45 min ago
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      • did it effect his appetite? 4 hr 35 min ago
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        • Hasn't even taken it yet starts tomorrow 4 hr 32 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Feeling so angry and sad right now. I just hate that my son has severe hyperactivity and is so disruptive. And messes things up with my other kids as a result, too. 9 hr 19 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Normal, not that that makes it better. 9 hr 18 min ago
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    • Normal to feel frustrated and sad simultaneously. 9 hr 15 min ago
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    • How old are they? 9 hr 11 min ago
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  13. Special Needs If dc anxiety about school was so bad that he refused to go what would you do/what would happen? and anyone dc with very bad anxiety find med that worked well? prozac awful and...(more) 9 hr 27 min ago (9 replies)
    zoloft not helping imo
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    • Are you working with school? The longer kids miss school the harder it is to get back. BTDT 9 hr 23 min ago
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      • it's only new as he changed schools and went from SN class that he hated to MS that was great for 2 weeks but now it's real work and he's not making friends and every sunday night...(more) 9 hr 20 min ago
        he loses his mind with anxiety and almost every monday he refuses to go. every morning wakes up and says I'm not going but then gets up and does go. but literally every monday he will not go
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        • We've told you over and over. You are in over your head. He probably needs a therapeutic boarding school. Anxiety + ADHD + ODD + school refusal needs more than you can give. 9 hr 10 min ago
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          • well he started ritalin a week and a half ago and it's been miraculous. but then last night he lost it. had to call police. they took him to ER. he calmed down but he was really...(more) 8 hr 59 min ago
            crazy and destroying the house and running around with knives. anyway. he always loses it on sunday night before school goes back. its all 100% related to school anxiety. which is related to...?? just spoke to psych and she spoke with team and they said try risperdol sorry spelling? but not every day right now...as needed.
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          • and maybe he does, I don't know that we have anything like that near me...dr just said maybe an outdoor type school or something for next year (starts high school 8th grade) 8 hr 58 min ago
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            • You've still got 4 long months to go. My ds had homebound tutor for last 4 months of 9th until school could find an alternative placement for him. Your ds needs a new school -...(more) 8 hr 6 min ago
              therapeutic, can be local. where do you live?
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    • I have a dc who went through a period of school refusal. He has the same diagnosis as your dc but is younger. We were told that he must go to school, not to home tutor, that the...(more) 7 hr 35 min ago
      longer he is out the harder it is to get back. He is now on vyvanse and prozac which seems to be working. Psych gave us xanax to get him back to school for the first few days. Thank goodness we only had to use it for 2 days. I worry as he gets older and can see myself in your shoes in a few years. Have you tried a sn school? Are you in NJ? My psych told me about the Sage school, a therapeutic day school. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is so hard to talk about and nobody understands unless they have walked in your shoes.
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      • op-hes actually ok and goes with little to no problem every other day but has been losing it every sunday and then refuses on mondays. clearly it's about much more, he's not made...(more) 7 hr 12 min ago
        friends, he's struggling with the work, the adhd makes it hard and he keeps getting reprimanded by his teacher...kids saying mean things....but really over the years it's always been this way, when it's hard or kids aren't being nice he gets soon anxious and mad. I'm on west coast...
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        • Yes, this is my ds too. Can you ask the dr for xanax and just give it to him on Mondays? Also, I think you should try to look into sn schools. Maybe dc needs to be in a place...(more) 4 hr 55 min ago
          where he doesn't feel so different from other kids
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  14. Special Needs Putting on sticky. I cannot deal with going to one more dr for sn ds. His...(more) 9 hr 50 min ago (2 replies)
    Sadly I have to take him to a dev Ped. This post is actually about my my ds who now needs to see a psychologist to deal with his own issues that are in large part related to sn ds. Can anyone recommend a nyc psych who has experience treating sibs of sn kids? Thanks
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    • awww, so sorry. 9 hr 47 min ago
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    • The Dev. ped. should know someone. 9 hr 46 min ago
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  15. Special Needs DC switching from public to top private for MS...(more) 10 hr 42 min ago (2 replies)
    Had major behavior issues up until middle of 4th grade when finally diagnosed with ADD and went on medicine. A couple of things here and there (nothing major) since and teachers and other students love him. Anyone else btdt - any issues to expect when dc goes to MS?
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    • So my ds had executive function coaching, he couldn't figure out how to organize himself, etc. 10 hr 41 min ago
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      • Op: previous behavior issues that stayed away? That is my concern. Disorganization and training I can handle 10 hr 37 min ago
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  16. Special Needs DC at a SN private. So tired of the calls and emails about DC not working at the school yet they won't counsel us out. ANy suggestions? Will our DC get easier or harder as time...(more) 10 hr 45 min ago (31 replies)
    goes on? DC is in 1st now
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    • have they brought up a 1:1 10 hr 44 min ago
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      • Yes and DC needs that but DC doesn't have HFA so there are no schools that do 1:1 10 hr 44 min ago
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        • have they asked you to private pay for one? 10 hr 43 min ago
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          • Oh no, it's not an option. 10 hr 43 min ago
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        • What is his Dc 10 hr 38 min ago
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          • >>dx 10 hr 36 min ago
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            • severe anxiety, very very slightly ADHD 9 hr 46 min ago
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              • Do you think he is in the right school? 9 hr 41 min ago
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                • I'm not sure. 9 hr 40 min ago
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                  • I don't k ow where your dc is and I won't ask but WEDS specializes in kids with anxiety. I hope your dc is in a school thta understands anxiety as the primary issue and not die...(more) 9 hr 38 min ago
                    to an ld or other issues because it's different
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                    • He has multiple LDs as well. Does WEDS work with this? 9 hr 37 min ago
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                      • Yes. Worth looking into 9 hr 34 min ago
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    • Have you discussed with them how they are handling this 10 hr 44 min ago
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      • Yes endlessly. 10 hr 43 min ago
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    • can a therapist come in a talk to the school team 10 hr 37 min ago
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      • therapist on staff 9 hr 44 min ago
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    • Have you asked them what they recommend? 10 hr 36 min ago
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      • Yes they are working very hard but it seems our DC is still causing problems 9 hr 44 min ago
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        • np: in what way? 9 hr 35 min ago
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          • he needs 1:1 9 hr 31 min ago
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            • ^ but doesn't exist for his DX 9 hr 31 min ago
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            • but why? what is happening? what is his anxiety causing him to do exactly? what is the current class ratio? 9 hr 30 min ago
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            • But what is actually happening? 6 hr 55 min ago
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    • This sounds similar to our situation, but Ds was much older. I ended up just deciding on my own to put him in mainstream which is the next step for almost every student at that...(more) 10 hr 36 min ago
      School. I finally feel like he's in the right school. I did NOT send him to SN school to get the same number of phone calls abiut how they didn't know what to do with him that I was getting in his original mainstream. Now, when they do call, it's from the standpoint of how we can all help him as part of a collaborate
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      • ^^collaborative proces,, but mostly them not me. 10 hr 35 min ago
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        • My child will never mainstream. 9 hr 45 min ago
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          • Ok. Maybe there is another school that will work more collboratively with you. That was my point, not that my child went to mainstream. 9 hr 12 min ago
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    • Can you consult a psych? 9 hr 39 min ago
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      • We have one of the top psychs in city, one mentioned here frequently. Only been seeing a month. 9 hr 37 min ago
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    • Honest rec: move to the suburbs where the threat of counseling out doesn't exist. BTDT. 4 hr 8 min ago
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  17. Special Needs NYC moms. I'm looking for a therapist to talk to my 14 yr old DS. He's really having a rough time socially and academically and I think it's time to bring in a professional. I'm...(more) 10 hr 58 min ago (6 replies)
    looking for someone that has experience with DC with LDs. In Brooklyn would be ideal, but not necessary. TIA!
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    • Most peds keep a list. Have you asked there? 10 hr 51 min ago
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      • ^ime, guidance counselors do not have recommendations or lists of providers.^ 2 hr 25 min ago
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    • Jonathan gottesfeld but upper west side 10 hr 47 min ago
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    • what did school recommend 10 hr 47 min ago
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      • I have a message into his guidance counselor now 10 hr 39 min ago
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    • She is in lower Manhattan but may refer you to someone in BK....(more) 10 hr 34 min ago
      Alla Sheynkin
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  18. Special Needs If your 15yo ADHD inattentive dc is on meds, what is the dose and does he or she take a booster (?) in the evening/after school? Tia 12 hr 7 min ago (14 replies)
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    • 30 mg vyvanse, no booster, no vacaqtion or weekends 12 hr 6 min ago
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      • no HW at 15? 12 hr 4 min ago
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        • Seems to work out. I think he does a lot during off periods. 12 hr 3 min ago
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          • wow. my 10th grader does about 8 hours per weekend of study/HW 12 hr ago
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    • just turned 16, 30mg vyvanse + 5md Adderall (Vyvanse doesn't come in a 35mg dose). 1-2 x a week 5mg after school short acting 12 hr 5 min ago
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    • Op. Thanks 12 hr 4 min ago
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      • ^^ ds takes 54mg Concerta and we have 5mg for evenings that he used to not take but lately it seems like he needs it. He finds it hard to focus in the evenings. Have you expire...(more) 12 hr 2 min ago
        Experienced that?
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        • yes 12 hr 1 min ago
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          • ^ I usually ask dd what HW she has that evening, think through it, and then decide if she wants booster 12 hr 1 min ago
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            • Op. So you decide together? That sounds like us. Started on meds two years ago. Stayed on 36 all last year but seemed to need more this year (this school year I mean) and we tried...(more) 11 hr 57 min ago
              The 54mg. He said he felt like he did when he first started it two years ago (on 18mg). Do you find your ddd needing the 5mg more now in the second half of school year?
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              • I wish she'd take it every day. But when she was originally on 40mg Vyvanse, it seriously depressed her. She's afraid of that, even though a booster wouldn't do that 11 hr 56 min ago
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                • ^I should sit down and explain this in detail to her. 11 hr 56 min ago
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                  • Op. Oh no. Poor girl. I can understand why she would be reluctant to take it. Ds has had no side effects with the Concerta but am still always on alert for changes. Do sit down...(more) 11 hr 53 min ago
                    with her to explain. GL!
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                    • How is she handling ninth grade? It was hard for ds at the start. Settling in plus the new dosage has helped a lot. 11 hr 51 min ago
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  19. Special Needs For those who have BTDT with ADHD medications: when your DC first started on it, did the teacher see improvement in focus right away (like the first week)? 12 hr 10 min ago (22 replies)
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    • age of dc? 12 hr 8 min ago
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      • 12, Started very low dose so I wonder if we need to increase. No side effects which is great but not sure any gains right now either. 11 hr 45 min ago
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    • Mine did--DS was 8 (in 2nd grade) 12 hr 7 min ago
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      • np: what meds and what side effects? 12 hr 6 min ago
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        • Adderall. Pretty much none. DS 1 got some headaches. #2 had nothing 12 hr 5 min ago
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          • do you have a minute for a couple of questions? 12 hr 3 min ago
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            • Sure 12 hr 1 min ago
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              • Thanks!...(more) 11 hr 58 min ago
                I have a 7 yo (in 2nd grade), lots of impulsivity issues. Gets in trouble a lot in school for various things related to calling out, getting out of seat etc. No academic or social issues so far. Already gets weekly session with counselor and lots of accommodations in class: preferential seating, movement breaks, behavior chart, rewards jar. School asked us to do a Connors scale and it clearly showed tendency to ADD/ADHD. They suggested outside eval and meds. Should I push for in-school eval for 504. So unsure about meds. Would you mind sharing your exp? THANKS!!
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                • We never had behavior issues--it was just REALLY clear that assessments didn't reflect what he knew. Like on standardized tests we're pretty sure that he was just randomly hitting...(more) 11 hr 52 min ago
                  computer keys. And he would get up and start something new (Montessori) before he finished a task. His teacher didn't SAY he was having focus issues--I brought it up first (DS #1 has ADHD inattentive, so we weren't surprised). We took him to psych for diagnosis before he got any accommodations/504. Honestly, his meds have helped SO much. Grades went from Bs and Cs to As and Bs. Test scores SHOT up.
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                  • That's great! Is Adderall the go-to drug? Is one med better or more specific than another? 11 hr 50 min ago
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                    • Different psychs usually have different go-tos that they are comfortable with. Ours likes Adderall XR. Both my kids started on 5 and moved to 10, which is a failrly low dose 11 hr 49 min ago
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                      • thanks for sharing this info! appreciate it. 11 hr 47 min ago
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                        • No worries! I always knew there was something different with that kid! His diagnosis really explained a lot 11 hr 46 min ago
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                      • np: just curious - why does your Dr. prefer Adderall XR? My son was really irritable and weepy on it 11 hr 44 min ago
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                        • She just has had good experiences with it--it has been around for a long time and a lot of kids respond well to it, so that is where she likes to start. 11 hr 43 min ago
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                          • I wish my DS responded well to it. We only tried it 2 days. He was such a mess that we stopped. I heard it's particularly good for inattentive types which is what we need! Vyvanse...(more) 11 hr 41 min ago
                            was even worse for him - REALLY weepy and angry.
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                            • There's so much trial and error with psych drugs, it's so hard. Especially with kids, who can't really tell you how they feel 11 hr 38 min ago
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                              • exactly! I just hope we find something that works. It has failed in the past. Trying again now. 11 hr 37 min ago
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                            • Vyvanse is similar to Adderall. He may do better on a ritalin based med. Some people react much better to one than the other....(more) 9 hr 39 min ago
                              It's not that one stimulant is "better", it's that one may work better for you.
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    • yes and I purposely didn't tell anyone 12 hr 5 min ago
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    • yes. it was an immediate change. but you may need to work on dosage 12 hr 5 min ago
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      • I think so. He's on 10 mg Focalin XR. Not seeing much either way (nothing bad, but nothing necessarily good/different either) 11 hr 43 min ago
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  20. Special Needs Just made a volcano with my ds and I put the funnel in upside down so we cannot pour liquids in it. My son said it does not matter, we can paint it and I will put it on my desk!!...(more) 2-26-2017 8:32pm (0 replies)
    I love this sweet boy so!!
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  21. Special Needs It's a long story, but somehow I have an 11yo and an 8yo who can't ride a bike. The 8yo is HFA and has dyspraxia, so it's no surprise, and he CAN ride a bike with training wheels....(more) 2-26-2017 5:21pm (13 replies)
    The 11yo is more complicated. Basically we've tried many times (were told not to do training wheels by a well-intentioned friend adn never did . . . ), and she clearly has some coordination issues and just could NEVER get any balance going. She can't even ride a 2-wheel Razor scooter. We've even tried a bike clinic. She is now so embarrassed and demoralized about it that she won't even try. What now? It sounds nuts, but I feel like maybe I should hire a PT to give both kids private lessons? Or some kind of Bike Whisperer?
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    • Continue with bike clinics 2-26-2017 5:22pm
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      • This. It is really all about believing that you can. 2-26-2017 5:25pm
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    • get a bike and remove the pedals and have them practice like a scooter...balance bikes are good but they are probably too big for them 2-26-2017 5:22pm
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    • Yes. Hire a private person. 2-26-2017 5:23pm
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    • I say move on and drop it. It's not a life requirement. 2-26-2017 5:24pm
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    • My dd was bit this way, she finally learned pretty quickly when she was 11 on a tiny bike. Seems to help to have a heavy small bike that is too small for them. She was able to...(more) 2-26-2017 5:24pm
      really dominate it and be comfortable practicing riding. Also, there is a FABULOUS teach your kid to ride a bike youtube that totally makes sense. I can't explain it, but please go look!! Hang on I will see if I can find it!
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      • I can't find the one but the guy basically has your kid turn the wheel every time they start to tip. It really works bc it stop s the bike and keeps it from tipping one way or the...(more) 2-26-2017 5:30pm
        other
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    • At 10, we forced dd to learn. She cried every weekend dh made her get upearly to go to a big, empty nyc playground to practice. She cried every week. And after about 5-6 tries, he...(more) 2-26-2017 5:26pm
      Called to say "she's riding"! I dashed over and she was realllllllly proud. Of course, she was infuriated when 2 weeks later her 6yo sister managed it too. But dd is low-tone, loose ligaments and serious anxiety to boot (which we didnt know about then). We just knew she had to learn right then, because she'd only get more stubborn and ashamed as she got older. We had to be mean about it.
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    • Do they have balance issues in other contexts? My son does, but he has ataxic cp. He does do PT, and can at 7 ride a Razor two wheel scooter, but not yet a bike without training...(more) 2-26-2017 6:48pm
      wheels.
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    • Hire a private person. On LI, Professor Pedals is awesome. There must be something similar in NYC. 2-26-2017 8:03pm
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    • op: This is all great advice, thanks guys. 2-26-2017 8:12pm
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    • My 8yo has very mild CP that affects one side of her body. I can't see her riding a bike without training wheels, and since we don't have storage space for bikes, she and her 6yo...(more) 2-26-2017 10:18pm
      brother haven't learned. I do feel guilty for not pressing it more
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    • go somewhere with astroturf and just practice 13 hr 32 min ago
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  22. Special Needs I have been told that if my depressed child need emergency help, Payne Whitney is a good option. When I google the address,...(more) 2-26-2017 4:52pm (10 replies)
    comes up as saying it is closed. Is that possible. Does Payne Whitney have an ER. Am I just supposed to go to Weil Cornell ER? I also cannot find Payne Whitney on my insurer's innetwork list, but I can find Weil Cornell hospital. Anyone with experience who can help?
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    • If you have a depressed child who is unstable, have a plan with your dc's psychiatrist. They will know the best place to send in an emergency. But seriously, ANY place is better...(more) 2-26-2017 4:59pm
      than home in crisis.
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    • At the risk of outing myself, I AMA SN 2-26-2017 5:05pm
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      • Sorry - a SN parent and a psychiatrist at Payne Whitney. The ER phone number is 212-746-0711. If your D.C. is under 18, she or he will go to the Peds ED and psych team will come....(more) 2-26-2017 5:07pm
        Address is 525 East 68th street just east of York. Open 24/7. They won't - by law - be allowed to give advice over the phone but psychiatrists are in the ER round the clock.
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        • Thanks SO MUCH. So I just go to the regular ER at Weil Cornell, and the child gets admitted to PW, or is Payne Whitney closed over the weekend. 2-26-2017 5:25pm
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          • Also, if Columbia Pres the same. We are closer to the UWS than the east side. 2-26-2017 5:26pm
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            • Y s, Columbia is the same. Psych and child psych available 24/7. Good luck and report back. I will check page periodically 2-26-2017 5:28pm
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              • Sorry, so if I go to Columbia Pres up on W168th my child may end up at Payne Whitney? Another comment makes it soundl ike there is no in-patient unit at PW if under 18. I have...(more) 2-26-2017 5:33pm
                tried asking a psych and social workers that I have spoken to, I can't get my kid there, and no one is giving me a straight answer. THis is so confusing.
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          • There is no in-put psych unit at 68th street for anyone under 18. It is up in White Plains. But D.C. may not need an admission - there are many options, including a day hospital....(more) 2-26-2017 5:27pm
            I urge you to go if you are worried.
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            • NP-Went through similar experience with my DC. If you feel at all in a dangerous spot, GO to the ER, can't reccomend this strongly enough. GL. 2-26-2017 6:49pm
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  23. Special Needs The House Bill 601 is dismantling so many aspects of Education. Nothing to protect IDEA. 2-26-2017 3:55pm (16 replies)
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    • Oh well. 2-26-2017 3:56pm
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      • Its time for you to log off and stop tormenting everyone. 2-26-2017 3:57pm
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        • This post has been disliked 4 times. showIDEA and the costs for SPED are getting unsustainable. 2-26-2017 3:57pm
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          • Yes. That does not warrant an "oh well" response from the same person spending he afternoon being bitchy to everyone on toddler. 2-26-2017 3:58pm
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            • Huh? 2-26-2017 3:59pm
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              • The person who said "oh well" is not going to be a contributor to this conversation, I was asking her to leave. 2-26-2017 4:00pm
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                • I am her. I'm not being bitchy to anyone. IDEA needs an overhaul. 2-26-2017 4:00pm
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                  • Ok, sorry. Overhaul is one thing. Repeal and not replace is another. 2-26-2017 4:01pm
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                    • Get a grip. No one is suggesting getting rid of IDEA! 2-26-2017 6:47pm
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          • so lets put all the SN kids in a home 2-26-2017 4:03pm
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            • Something needs to change. It's getting prohibitively expensive, and SPED costs are starting to take resources away from everyone else. 2-26-2017 4:04pm
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              • What is your factual basis for this statement? 2-26-2017 7:14pm
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              • If the schools didn't spend so much time and money trying to avoid helping SN kids it wouldn't seem so expensive. And schools spend a ton on athletics and other extracurriculars...(more) 2-26-2017 11:10pm
                which are not even required . I am not against them at all but the same parents whose kids are on the basketball team should not complain about kids who need to learn to read.
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                • and should we get rud ofbthe ada too? mire money should ve dpent on education period. To start going after certain students foes not really solve the problem. 10 hr 33 min ago
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    • Not really true. The bill affects funding and Title 1 not IDEA 2-26-2017 6:46pm
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      • Taking resources away from gen ed kids is same argum,ent as immigrants are taking jobs from Americans--both incorrect! Of course, kids with disabilities--untretaed--can cause 100s...(more) 2-26-2017 7:13pm
        of thousands down the road in services-
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  24. Special Needs NYC mom here with 2 teen ADHD boys. Both go to SN school (one funded by DOE bc more severe ADHD) and it is eating us alive financially! Husband not happy with current work...(more) 2-26-2017 3:41pm (16 replies)
    situation (He works in finance) and we are honestly thinking of selling our house and just relocating. What are some of the best cities where husband can find work in his field but also where the schools are supportive for middle/HS kids with ADHD/Learning issues? We would like to stay in the US or Canada, thanks.
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    • why don't you just go to the suburbs? Edgemont or Ardsley or Irvington? 2-26-2017 3:51pm
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      • Are the schools there really supportive for HS & middle school? How are taxes there as well? I guess i can rent for a while too. 2-26-2017 3:56pm
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        • Taxes are insane in westchester. LI would be good if you want to consider burbs. GReat Neck, plain view, Half hallow hills, Roslyn all great for sn 2-26-2017 4:15pm
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          • thanks so much! will look into these areas 2-26-2017 4:26pm
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            • Half Hallow is Dix Hills/Melville and will be least expensive because it is suffolk. People move their for their sn services. Also renting is not a bad idea if taxes look too...(more) 2-26-2017 4:28pm
              high
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              • thank you so much! 2-26-2017 4:32pm
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                • GOod luck 2-26-2017 4:33pm
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              • Are there decent homes to rent in the districts you mentioned? My budget would be up to 3K per month. 2-26-2017 4:33pm
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                • I don't really know what rents are but I do know that great neck has tons of apartments so lots of rentals 2-26-2017 4:35pm
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                • Edgemont and Irvington have coops and condos. You might find a 2/2 for that. Not sure. Anywhere in Westchester with good schools is pricey 2-26-2017 7:47pm
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    • Do not come to California. I have always heard ny, nj, and ma as best for sn support 2-26-2017 3:58pm
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      • Yes, so have I...CA not best for this. 2-26-2017 4:07pm
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      • We found North San Diego County to serve us well - NYC private, then public and then NPS prior. Met many private equity and investment management from the East Coast here 2-26-2017 10:39pm
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        • Or: I'm in the Bay Area in a district considered here to be good for kids with sn. I have a child with an autism, ADHD, and anxiety diagnosis and denied an iep. When I talk to...(more) 2-26-2017 10:44pm
          friend from the northeast, they can't believe it.
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          • WOW,Thats terrible that they are doing that to your DC! So sorry! Can you get a SN lawyer? 13 hr 14 min ago
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          • NYC taught us to be agresive. After private schools, then Nest, then Reece, we retained an advocate and a lawyer when moving to San Diego. That is a given in SN space where in NY...(more) 2 hr 16 min ago
            or CA unfortunately. We heard many good things about the bay area for SNbut could not afford even after NYC
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  25. Special Needs 8yo being counseled out of ASD Nest rejected from all SN schools we applied to (LearningSpring, WEDS, Aaron, Quad, Summit, Parkside). Too behavioral. Where else can we apply?...(more) 2-26-2017 11:58am (12 replies)
    Rips up work, shouts, some task refusal. Likes going to school, makes friends easily, reads at a high school level (ditto vocab). Math LD. Refuses to write.
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    • ED? 2-26-2017 11:59am
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    • You hire a consultant who specializes in this 2-26-2017 12:03pm
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      • op That would be a stretch for us. 2-26-2017 12:08pm
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        • No, I'm sure, but to speak to someone once might cost a few hundred dollars, they don't have to shepherd you through the the whole process. 2-26-2017 12:14pm
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    • Child School, Rebecca, Hallen. 2-26-2017 12:13pm
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      • This. Add Reece 2-26-2017 4:17pm
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      • Rebecca is NOT for a child with well-developed social skills/ able to make friends. 12 hr 37 min ago
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    • This was my kid in 2nd grade. I was temporarily known as "shutout mom" for a while, because everywhere said no. Public is required to provide whatever is needed. If they're not...(more) 2-26-2017 5:20pm
      working effectively with you to put a solid setting, BIP and IEP in place, lawyer up. GL. We had to really lean on them to get the right stuff in place, but in the end our public school got it together, and he made it to graduation and happy mainstream middle school days.
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    • Could you elaborate on what they mean by "too behavioral"? 2-26-2017 8:18pm
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    • Reece 2-26-2017 9:31pm
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      • Andrus... worst case 15 hr 17 min ago
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    • Is Nest no longer on your dc's IEP? I ask b/c w/o a private SN placement Nest is probably the best public has to offer, though they will need a 1:1 para for behavior and some...(more) 12 hr 38 min ago
      other non-standard Nest solutions.
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