Special Needs

  1. Special Needs List of disabilities considered Special Needs under the IDEA laws, i.e. kids eligible for special services from public schools:...(more) 28 min ago (3 replies)
    • The same 13 as always I presume ? 19 min ago
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      • Sorry- there was a debate just going on on toddler about what qualifies. Obviously you know - didn't realize I posted on the wrong board. 12 min ago
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        • This website added developmental delay - that's not one of then13 under IDEA 10 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Trying again. Meds you've seen work to address irritability that switches on/off on a dime. HF ASD 10yo in SN school. 7 hr 52 min ago (8 replies)
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    • op here. Meds posts usually get a lot of replies. I don't know how to interpret this. 6 hr 23 min ago
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      • Can't address that sort of irritability: I do think that irritability and other traits may stem from anxiety- in which case I'd start with that. Also, you want to begin with a...(more) 6 hr 22 min ago
        psychopharmacologist or psychiatrist who can diagnose properly.
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        • op well the psychiatrist thougth the side effects could outweigh any relief from symptoms. But we could try. That's where I'm at. 6 hr 18 min ago
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          • No way. SSRIS like low dose Zoloft and Prozac are well tolerated and approved for use in children. Get another opinion from a doctor well versed in SD kids 1 hr 56 min ago
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    • My 11 yo is on Prozac and it really helps keep him level. He was much more irritable and anxious before we got him on the right dosage. He has occasional irritability when he gets...(more) 3 hr 44 min ago
      über anxious, but it's much better with the meds.
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    • CBT 3 hr 40 min ago
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    • SSRI. Often anxiety is causing that behavior in ASD kids 1 hr 57 min ago
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  3. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 9 hr 50 min ago (13 replies)
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    • that was fast 9 hr 50 min ago
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      • np and you fucking suck, dear. 9 hr 49 min ago
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        • wow. you're really hostile! I didn't do anything. 9 hr 49 min ago
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          • making fun on SN for someone striking a post quickly? yes, you did. 9 hr 48 min ago
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            • um....I didn't make fun of anyone. you interpreted it that way. 9 hr 47 min ago
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              • yeah, actually, you did. to quote John Waters: you're an asshole. Plain and simple. 9 hr 45 min ago
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                • I'm so sorry you feel this way, really. 9 hr 39 min ago
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      • I posted on SN last about ADHD ds, forgot to change the filter. I like we can delete when I do that 9 hr 49 min ago
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        • original OR, me too. It was just a joke 9 hr 48 min ago
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      • what was it, i missed it 9 hr 49 min ago
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  4. Special Needs I know this is going to sound stupid, but today, 12yo adhd ds has a playdate at his adhd friends house and 10yo and I are going to the mall beacuse I need to go to the apple store...(more) 10 hr 30 min ago (5 replies)
    to set somethign up (I have an appointment) and then we are just going to wander and window shop and catch pokemon. I am looking forward to one on one time with him. I love my 12yo but after three weeks of no routine and no structure I need an easy day.
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    • Aren't the no routine days easy days 10 hr 28 min ago
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      • np: Not with SN kids. Having a routine can be very comforting - knowing what to expect helps a lot. 10 hr 25 min ago
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        • this, every night we go over what we are doing the next day (even on school days), that morning we talk about the plan, what time things are happeneing etc 10 hr 23 min ago
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      • not with my adhd kid. I am hangin on by a thread at this point 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • i find that days like this help me be a better person and parent to both my sn and nt kids. 10 hr 15 min ago
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  5. Special Needs OK. I'm ready to medicate. Here is the profile. Play armchair psychiatrist (yes we're seeing a real one next week)....(more) 10 hr 51 min ago (14 replies)
    10 yo ds with HFA/Aspergers, SN private, just bit me on the thumb because he didn't want to do a page of math. When regulated he is very verbal to the point of lecturing on favorite topics. When not regulated and presented with a non-preferred task (math worksheet) he will escape, hide, get belligerent ("I hope you DIE!"), rip work, rage, hit and as of today bite. He has outstanding focus for preferred tasks (reading) and poor focus for non-preferred task (esp writing). Cannot work independently. Therapeutic team includes CBT, social skills group, OT and ABA. The problem is that he will shift between regulated and non regulated (bidirectionally) in seconds. For example if he is raging, I can switch on his favorite ipad game and if he hears a few sound effects, he will do work if he gets the ipad when he's done.
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    • Is there a question? 10 hr 50 min ago
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      • op Should I sent this kid to a therepeutic boarding school? He is 10 and he bit me. 10 hr 47 min ago
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        • Why dont you see how the meds go first. 10 hr 46 min ago
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    • 1 case of red monthly for you 10 hr 49 min ago
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    • Sounds really rough. I would do what feels right for you family and for him. Do you have other dc? 10 hr 44 min ago
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    • start with meds. 10 hr 44 min ago
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    • Medication might change everything. 10 hr 44 min ago
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    • This sounds like my ds to a higher degree, they want to put him on an SSRI for anxiety. 10 hr 38 min ago
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    • This sounds similar to my DD - though she is dyslexic and borderline HFA and anxiety. She is much better regulated now but has times especially around school work that is...(more) 10 hr 12 min ago
      difficult at times. Can I ask what type of meds you are considering?
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    • What meds? I have no idea. I'm a crunchy granola type who has been against meds from hello. 9 hr 25 min ago
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    • My HFA kid was like this at about age 7. We started on risperdal together with the CBT and social skills. Around 9 we switched to Intuniv. Doing well these days, sometimes...(more) 5 hr 10 min ago
      teachers/coaches/counselors forget he's on the spectrum and then get startled when he has an ASD moment.
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      • Still very resistant to writing, though! 5 hr 10 min ago
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    • Zoloft or Prozac for anxiety and therapy 1 hr 55 min ago
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  6. Special Needs Can anyone recommend resort where I can put 8yo SN in kids club for majority of the day 13 hr 46 min ago (16 replies)
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    • Beach? Mountains? What is his disability? 13 hr 41 min ago
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      • Probably bipolar but also fatigues easily, more sensitive to heat/sun. 13 hr 39 min ago
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    • ouch 13 hr 41 min ago
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      • OP: Child fatigues easily, is emotionally unpredictable, does better in an ac setting chatting up a babysitter instead of having tantrums/outbursts with family 13 hr 39 min ago
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        • I would have them find you a sitter instead 13 hr 38 min ago
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          • a sitter in the room as opposed to a kids club? how do you find that not more cruel? 13 hr 38 min ago
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            • No a sitter that can take him swimming to the beach and then bring back if he's overtired 13 hr 34 min ago
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            • Neither is "cruel" and babysitter can focus on just him. 13 hr 27 min ago
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      • whatever with the likes, even the SN moms are now holier than thou 13 hr 37 min ago
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    • https://www.tripadvisor.com/ShowUserReviews-g612473-d149865-r26191671-N_Resort_All_Inclusive_For_Adults-Falmouth_Trelawny_Parish_Jamaica.html 13 hr 22 min ago
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    • Smugglers notch 13 hr 18 min ago
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    • Smugglers Notch in Vermont has a big program...(more) 12 hr 28 min ago
    • Club Med in Cancun was excellent with my SN kid 10 hr 14 min ago
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    • Atlantis - Bahamas 8 hr 18 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Iíve always had trouble throwing things away. Magazines, newspapers, old clothesÖ What if I need them one day?I donít want to risk throwing something out...(more) 18 hr 11 min ago (1 reply)
    I donít want to risk throwing something out that might be valuable. The large piles of stuff in our house keep growing so itís difficult to move around and sit or eat together as a family. My husband is upset and embarrassed, and we get into horrible fights over this. My children wonít invite friends over, and I feel guilty that the clutter makes them angry and upset. But I get so anxious when I try to throw anything away. I donít know whatís wrong with me, and I donít know what to do....I hate my life & myself and feel awful for what its doing to my family...My anxiety is out of control and I am beyond depressed and need to see a dr. for an anti-depressant...will a good anti-depressant also help my hoarding issues? cannot live this way anymore
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    • meds won't help if you're not getting therapy too. 14 hr 1 min ago
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  8. Special Needs Ds has ADD Inattentive, possibly dyslexia, and had a horrible year in 2nd grade - the teacher really didn't know how to support him and mostly just told us how far behind he was...(more) 8-25-2016 8:53pm (13 replies)
    all year. Just met his 3rd grade teacher today and she told us she has a son with similar issues as ds who is now a senior in high school and doing great, that its all stressful in the younger years but then works out into these amazing kids as they get older. And this was in a 30min conference! I am madly in love with her already.
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    • have you looked into privates? 8-25-2016 8:55pm
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      • he's at a MS private school. There is only on SN school in our area and it has a lot of kids with behavioral difficulties, so his current school is really our best option at the...(more) 8-25-2016 8:58pm
        moment
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        • Stay there. Mine transferred to SN and many behavior problems (not saying they are all like this) but if the teacher will work with him, great. And the ADD inattentive part does...(more) 20 hr 52 min ago
          not necessarily mean he needs SN at all.
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    • Will you get him tested for Dyslexia and then remediation tutoring? 8-25-2016 8:58pm
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      • hes had tons and tons of tutoring over the past year - math, intensive reading programs, speech therapy to help with expressive language. This was all going on last year too but...(more) 8-25-2016 8:59pm
        the teacher was just annoyed that he wasn't at grade level. He just got diagnosed about 1.5 years ago.
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        • my son sounds like yours, but slopw processing too. Lindamood Bell V&V is helping quite a bit right now 8-25-2016 9:00pm
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          • op: yes, I think ds probably has some slow processing in the mix as well. He is doing something similar to Lindamood. Does your ds go to MS or SN school? 23 hr 48 min ago
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            • he is in the SN program within a tiny ms privvate.. he is abt 60% 1x1 and when he's ms,. its 8 kids in the class. he is very, very behind, and we are just grinding it out. He's...(more) 22 hr 51 min ago
              turning 10 in Oct (thank god he is short) and ms into grade 3.
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              • So did he stay being a year? 10 in 3rd? Usually it is 10 in 5th 22 hr 32 min ago
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                • he was held back twice. repeated pre-K as he was very young but we were thinking it was more to accomodate older brother, who is ASD. He was mainstreamed 100% initally and had...(more) 20 hr 44 min ago
                  no DX, ASD was ruled out. But as schooling went on by mid K it was clear he wasnt learning / absorbing / retaining ANYTHING.. we assumed attention issues, he got a shadow, didn't help at all. early Grade 1 we made the decision to move him with his brother to the SN propgram at a small private. He was put back in K. so now he's 2 years behind, getting near all 1x1 and still the gap is growing
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          • Np: how much money is the V&V and how do you find the time to do it hours a day? 22 hr 33 min ago
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            • at school he only mainstreams for literacy and the non-ac parts. otherwise he is 100% 1x1 and they are only focussing on reading & math for now, so he does at least an hour a day...(more) 20 hr 41 min ago
              at school. The program we havve him in is very flexible, customized. I actually sent his teacher to the V&V training this summer at my expense after the latest NP eval recommended it. If itys effective we may up it to 2 hours a day
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    • My kid is in MS and is doing much better than in ES. The nature of work has changed....(more) 3 min ago
      With ASD, her main challenges are related to in-person communication. Later grades work is more focused on writter/diagram/pictorial work so she does better. She is 70/30% in general ed vs. self contained
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  9. Special Needs Hey - my anxious rising 2nd grader just had a playdate with 4 kids from his first grade class - and it was fine. Just fine. I'm so happy. Of course I know that it's 10 steps...(more) 8-25-2016 8:16pm (1 reply)
    forward, 7 steps back...but this was good.
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  10. Special Needs My 8yo with ADHD is still having tremendous trouble with reading social cues and self-regulation. He interrupts and talks over people constantly, and is extremely sensory-seeking....(more) 8-25-2016 7:04pm (22 replies)
    Meds have helped a lot with focus, and we do Tae Kwon Do to help with self-regulation somewhat but he needs a lot more...especially when it comes to personal space and keeping his hands to himself, and going to the bathroom when he has to pee (forgetting to do that really brings out the sensory-seeking, impulsive behavior). Any advice about what else I should look into? Are there social skills classes for impulsive ADHD kids? Classes that help promote self-regulation and self-soothing? I feel like all I'm doing is redirecting and correcting and it's causing so much strain on our relationship. Thanks.
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    • Hi me. My 8 yo is your 8 yo and he's in social skills on Saturday mornings and does CBT once a week (AND SPORTS on top of all that). It helps some. 8-25-2016 7:06pm
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      • is yours athletic or not really? 8-25-2016 7:08pm
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        • He's really athletic, but he's a jerk about it. If he doesn't want to warm up, he won't warm up with his team. If he's upset about a play or a call or his position, he'...(more) 8-25-2016 7:12pm
          lay down in the field. We actually give him 5mg before team practice because he's sooooo defiant when he's rebounding off his meds after school. I feel so guilty about that.
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          • what med is he on? mine is on Intuniv. 2 mg in the am and 1mg after school. but he has no sensory issues or social cues struggles. he can def be combative although that has...(more) 8-25-2016 7:20pm
            virtually disappeared since we started meds and he is no longer frustrated
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            • is he in the new school? is that you? 8-25-2016 7:21pm
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              • no mine is 10 8-25-2016 7:22pm
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                • oh, i thought you were OP. My ds is on 6.5 milliliters of Quillivant (liquid ritalin, very long acting, gets us through school day) and then the 5mg booster is a short acting...(more) 8-25-2016 7:23pm
                  ritilin... 5mg
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                  • ^^^and we were considering intuniv, but he's hanging on with the quillivant. not quite perfect, though 8-25-2016 7:24pm
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                    • if you are still there, i love intuniv for him but he only really struggles with impulsesÖ.not doing school work 8-25-2016 7:47pm
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    • what medicine does he take? mine is a little older and impulsive but i don't think what you are describing is impulsivity to be honest. 8-25-2016 7:08pm
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      • OR above -that's totally impulsiivity. I know b.c that's not just my son, that's me! 8-25-2016 7:13pm
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      • Op: hes on focalin. It works for focus. 8-25-2016 7:19pm
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        • maybe he needs something else for the impulsiviity? 8-25-2016 7:21pm
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    • Ditto with this for my 7yo, especially using the bathroom 8-25-2016 7:10pm
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      • Op: Glad to know I'm not alone. May I ask where you go for social skills classes? Most I've seen are for kids on the spectrum. 8-25-2016 7:18pm
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        • poster up above - we go in Westchester. Where are you? Most of the kids aren't on the spectrum 8-25-2016 7:19pm
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          • Op: I'm in Brooklyn. 8-25-2016 7:19pm
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            • I don't know if it's worth a drive, but can I suggest you call and talk to Susan the owner? She may know of help for you in Brooklyn? 8-25-2016 7:21pm
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  11. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 8-25-2016 6:51pm (22 replies)
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    • i don't think it is the right school for this situation. Other schools with a focus on special needs better. 8-25-2016 6:52pm
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    • Riverdale Country Day ^^^ 8-25-2016 6:52pm
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    • NOOO! 8-25-2016 6:52pm
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      • What about behavior? 8-25-2016 6:52pm
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        • it's not a nice environment 8-25-2016 6:53pm
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          • In elementary? Can you tell me why? A psychologist has mentioned it as a good fit for or very bright DD 8-25-2016 6:54pm
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          • you are wrong. it is a lovely environment with a rigorous academic curriculum and is not a place for kids who need that much personal attention. No non special needs school is...(more) 8-25-2016 6:54pm
            equipped for that.
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            • sorry that's what i meant, it's not a nice environment if you kid has issues, they are not supportive at all and yes other mainstream schools are 8-25-2016 6:55pm
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              • Such as? 8-25-2016 6:57pm
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                • CGPS, Trevor BWL 8-25-2016 6:59pm
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            • this. it's nice that your psychologist "mentioned" it but it wouldn't be a long term solution for any kid with any kind of needs except ADHD inattentive controlled by meds. 8-25-2016 6:55pm
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    • i have 2 friends whose kids were counseled out for very mild LD issues 8-25-2016 6:53pm
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      • Really? What were they and what age? 8-25-2016 6:53pm
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        • np..."really?" riverdale, despite its reputation as sub-par on Toddler, is one of the most competitive schools in NYC. It is a great school, it is not known for graduating ant...(more) 8-25-2016 6:54pm
          any kids of kids with any kinds of LD or SN issues
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        • both before 5th grade 8-25-2016 6:57pm
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    • none of those things. and why would you want to put or keep a child there who probably wouldn';t be able to stay through 12th? is it a school your other kids are in? a school...(more) 8-25-2016 6:53pm
      he is in now?
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      • How would you compare EC and Trinity? 8-25-2016 6:57pm
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        • are you joking? for a SN child? 8-25-2016 6:58pm
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          • Not really SN. No diagnosis 8-25-2016 6:58pm
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            • so why the fuck are you posting on SN board? 8-25-2016 7:00pm
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      • Has no learning issues. Advanced beyond years 8-25-2016 6:58pm
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        • oh, my friend. I am happy for you that your child is advanced beyond years. I wish him or her and you a lot of luck at RIverdale, Trinity or ECFS. Really. I hope it works out. 8-25-2016 6:59pm
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  12. Special Needs Help! What actually helps HF ASD kids to act more socially appropriately? Sometimes the stuff that comes out of DS mouth makes me want to cringe. He is 11 going on 5. 8-25-2016 5:25pm (16 replies)
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    • most boys are ridiculous at 11, i promise, listen to some of the silly stuff other kids say 8-25-2016 5:26pm
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      • You are very kind but trust me, he asks questions that are odd or more like what a little kid would inquire. Unfortunately now his social deficits are glaringly obvious. 8-25-2016 5:27pm
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        • then the role play suggestion below i also think videotaping is useful, it is hard to be aware of how we come off so seeing it is powerful 8-25-2016 5:28pm
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          • A good idea but how do I do this in the moment? Often these things happen spontaneously and quickly. 8-25-2016 5:29pm
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            • you are right, none of this will be easy but you can do it as part of role playing, to see himself look good when he says the right line will be affirming 8-25-2016 5:30pm
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              • Have you tried this? I am all for it just unsure of how to set it up so he can see for himself. He definitely knows more appropriate questions and such but in the moment never...(more) 8-25-2016 5:32pm
                applies it. It is so frustrating
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    • Typical peers and classmates 8-25-2016 5:26pm
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      • He has those - it doesn't magically rub off on him though. He doesn't have the same skills 8-25-2016 5:27pm
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        • He's young still- it'll get worse 8-25-2016 5:28pm
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          • Gee that is so sweet of you to say. Thanks for your helpful advice 8-25-2016 5:30pm
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            • The fact is when hey reject and correct him he'll change 8-25-2016 5:31pm
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              • You do realize that he is on the spectrum , right? It is not just immaturity 8-25-2016 5:32pm
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    • Lately, my 11 yo says "so and so pooped himself, I pooped myself, you pooped yourself". I'm so over this. Benign but so annoying for 11 yo. 8-25-2016 5:26pm
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    • therapy and role play 8-25-2016 5:26pm
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      • Therapy with whom though? We have done social skills groups forever and it does not generalize. In the moment he just is now the weird kid. He is great but I am scared his peers...(more) 8-25-2016 5:28pm
        Will shun him.
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    • Asperkids' Book of Secret Social Rules. In general, guides or websites by adults with Asperger's or HFA who have figured out how to cope are the most useful. 23 hr 45 min ago
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  13. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 8-25-2016 5:07pm (7 replies)
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    • This post has been deleted. 8-25-2016 5:08pm
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    • What an usual thing to come out of your anus. Hope you're OK. 8-25-2016 5:09pm
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      • You really should delete this 8-25-2016 5:11pm
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        • Why? It's a fair observation, all things considering. 8-25-2016 5:11pm
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          • The post has been deleted 8-25-2016 5:12pm
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            • So? How does that make my point less relevant? 8-25-2016 5:12pm
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              • For one, no one knows what you're talking about. 8-25-2016 5:23pm
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  14. Special Needs 8 yo adhd went around drinking random bottles of gatorade at sports camp today. Confessed on the toilet through bouts of diarreah. He has a 135 IQ and yet this is so typical of...(more) 8-25-2016 4:58pm (11 replies)
    him. I can't even..... He'll never stop
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    • weird 8-25-2016 4:58pm
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      • you're weird for hanging on the SN board, frankly. 8-25-2016 5:00pm
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      • Go away, little Johnny. 8-25-2016 5:00pm
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    • Sounds like something my 7yo would do and afaik he's not adhd. 8-25-2016 4:59pm
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    • why did he do that? Did he say? 8-25-2016 5:00pm
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      • Why did he do it? Because he wanted a lot of Gatorade. 8-25-2016 5:00pm
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    • Does Gatorade cause diarrhea? 8-25-2016 5:00pm
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      • np - a lot of it would. or other people's pathogens would. . . 8-25-2016 5:01pm
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    • boys are crazy sometimes 8-25-2016 5:09pm
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    • My kid was trying to eat a cheese stick that someone threw away at camp. Not nugry - just against wasting food. High IQ but differently wired for sure. BTDT 2 min ago
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  15. Special Needs Sensory ds needs braces. The appratus they want to give him is called a herbst appliance I googled it. NFW is he going to tolerate that thing. He won't do well with bands though....(more) 8-25-2016 4:55pm (4 replies)
    .UGH going to be a nightmare right?
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    • is it out of the question to just skip it? 8-25-2016 4:55pm
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    • how old is he? It can wait until he gets a bit older 8-25-2016 4:55pm
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    • so don't do them, they are not mandatory, wait until he is ready 8-25-2016 4:55pm
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    • Go to another ortho for other opinions 8-25-2016 4:56pm
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  16. Special Needs EI staring soon... My toddler was a late walker and was also adopted from overseas. I had him evaluated for PT because of the late walking and they also assessed him for speech....(more) 8-25-2016 2:05pm (21 replies)
    He qualifies which is great, I'll take the help, but he was tested in English and has only been in this country for a month. The scores can possibly reflect a real disability right? In any case he's going to get 2x speech, 2x SEIT and 2x PT. I'm not complaining about getting services but I am conflicted. Great to get help but this level of support makes me think he has some serious developmental delays... but I'm not so sure. Anyone btdt or have insight?
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    • Need an age 8-25-2016 2:05pm
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      • 20 months. Started walking at 18.5 months, now using a couple English words, been in US a little over a month. Receptively not understanding much (hard to tell). 8-25-2016 2:07pm
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        • okay, I am a PT though I don't do EI. This is my thought 18.5 is just barely over what is considered late (18 months is considered late). 2. the speech stuff could be that he...(more) 8-25-2016 2:08pm
          isn't a native speaker and only been here a month. That is going to take some time.
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          • Op: thank you. The pt said he's delayed 25% because not running, jumping, walking up stairs, etc...(more) 8-25-2016 2:10pm
            And he was optimistic about him making gains. Said that he is behind but that his movement is normal (nothing atypical re flexibility or tone or gait, etc)
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            • He has likely not been encouraged to move around and play like kids here (or in families in Korea). 8-25-2016 6:22pm
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        • Have someone who speaks Korean talk to him ASAP before he loses any knowledge of Korean (happens really fast!). But don't worry - mine tested horribly even in her native language...(more) 8-25-2016 6:46pm
          when she came home (she was older). Doing great.
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    • fwiw speech and muscle stuff can be related issues, so take the help and don't feel bad and if he does so great they will discharge him quickly, GL 8-25-2016 2:06pm
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    • didnt they ask yo uabout other languages? ds was around my mil but not even that they would test him in tagalog 8-25-2016 2:06pm
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      • Op: they knew he'd only heard Korean his whole life but tested in English. He was unable to follow any directions (point to the ball, show me your head, etc) so his scores look...(more) 8-25-2016 2:08pm
        Like he's extremely impaired.
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        • can you ask a korean evaluator to come? or if they dont have any someone to translate whatthe evaluator will say/ 8-25-2016 2:09pm
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          • `~it cant hurt 8-25-2016 2:09pm
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            • Op: I guess I could. I do want him to learn English so this will be good for him. But I guess I also want to know if I have a child with a severe disability or a child who doesn't...(more) 8-25-2016 2:12pm
              Know my language. Of course now he hasn't heard his own native language at all for over a month so that could skew results too.
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              • Np just give him time to learn English 8-25-2016 2:14pm
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        • Oh, come on, just do the services and a few months in, he'll fly - he'll speak English and talk and walk - and you won't care about diagnosis 8-25-2016 2:12pm
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          • Op: Ty. I hope you are right. It was alarming seeing standard scores in 60s... So while I do agree with you I have some fears. I think I'll take some time and hope for best. 8-25-2016 2:14pm
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            • From another adoptive mom: your son is dealing with an enormous change in his life. He was tested in a language he didn't know a month after coming home. of course he wouldn't...(more) 8-25-2016 6:21pm
              score high. This is meaningless. Take the help because it will help him catch up but remember all the other kids are learning more each day, too. Try not to compare.
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        • Of course! By law they need to test in native language if you request but it often takes so long to get that together that the child no longer speaks native language. Think about...(more) 8-25-2016 6:48pm
          it - wouldn't you test badly in another language that you'd only heard (not studied) for one month?
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    • Hard to tell with speech. My daughter was exposed to 3 languages by the time she was evaluated and and eligible for services....(more) 8-25-2016 2:11pm
      She ended up making great progress with therapy, but I also think the multilingual aspect was impacting her progress. She has been diagnosed with CAPD since, but she is doing great overall (now 12 yrs).
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    • take them and try not too worry to much about what they mean, if there are issues great to get services, if not good to have these for a child anyway 8-25-2016 2:19pm
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    • I adopted from overseas as well. Of course he is behind in speech -take the help. Take any help you can get. These kids from orphanages have not received the stimulation and had...(more) 8-25-2016 6:13pm
      loving parents read to them, etc. Most kids from overseas have developmental delays (many do, at least). It may be too late (he may have forgotten his Korean) but if you know a Korean speaker, any Korean speaker, ask them to speak to your child and see if he responds. I believe you child is also legally entitled to ESL (he may be too young - look it up). He will catch up but it can take some time. As long as he is moving forward he will be fine.
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      • ^because he was adopted so young he will catch up sooner than if he was older...(more) 8-25-2016 6:15pm
        but remember that nurturing and attachment are most important now.
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  17. Special Needs IEP advice. DD is starting 4th. School starts 9/8 and I just got this note from the sped person. Pretty happy with the IEP as it is now but should I push for the annual review?...(more) 8-25-2016 1:26pm (9 replies)
    annual her IEP ends on 9-4-16 and the team is schedule to have an annual review meeting. In addition, she is due for an re-evaluation, which you consented to in late June. We have a couple of options:
    Hold the annual review meeting in the beginning of September and then have another meeting (re-evaluation) at the end October and write another IEP.
    Forgo the annual review meeting in September and hold the re-evaluation meeting at the end of October.
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    • I would just opt for the re-evaluation since it is so close. 8-25-2016 1:39pm
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      • That seems to make the most sense but I am always worried they are trying to pull a fast one on me. 8-25-2016 1:40pm
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        • I think the annual review would be a waste of time in this situation. School has just started, and there is a re-eval already scheduled. The whole meeting will revolve around...(more) 8-25-2016 1:44pm
          what the upcoming re-eval says.
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    • I always recommend the team meeting 4 -6 weeks after school starting so I'd keep that. I would not focus on what the meetings are called unless the district is super fussy. That...(more) 8-25-2016 1:41pm
      Meeting is to make sure the goals for this year are ok and agree to testing. After the testing should be the new 'yearly' iep, and I'd suggest doing that in Nov- dec bc that's usually a slow time for special services and testing will not be rushed. Then you can really tweak goals focusing on the flowing year. You'll know what supports are really needed. Then add a meeting in June to tweak and discuss summer and placement.
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      • ^ and of school is doing well, I may ask that the reval and testing get delayed until December 2017 so you can focus on middle school. only do this if you get that agreed to in...(more) 8-25-2016 1:48pm
        weiting and have a good idea of dcs learning issues. It's generally not advised to decline re-evans but if the school agrees dc still qualifies for an iep you
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        • ^ may want to consider doing the eval when its of most value. 8-25-2016 1:49pm
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        • fair point but I think she might actually get a different diagnosis at this eval. She is dyslexic and maybe some other stuff going on 8-25-2016 1:58pm
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          • Testing is always a great idea and if you need info about the learning disability don't wait. If you don't like the tester and it's the schools tester then you may want to delay...(more) 8-25-2016 5:51pm
            So you have an accurate idea not from summer backslide. If it's a good tester it will not matter so much of this really depends upon the school. If you say the iep is good now what specifically are you looking to gain from the reval or are you doing private in addition to reveal? Again if doing private then get in writing that you want them to accept the private test for the reval. ive even gone into specific tests asking the school to only do a few then a private np the rest so it really depends on what you need/ are looking to do. In other words you have much more power here. Own that and use the testing to your advantage.
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            • ^ in the eyes of the school the re eval is a required test to prove to the state that your child still qualifies for special Ed. Some schools are good and go into detail most do...(more) 8-25-2016 5:56pm
              not so go in educated about this and the tests so you make sure to request what's necessary
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  18. Special Needs Disorganized dyslexic ADHD 14 yo made it to his tutor on his own today un an uber and figured out noth buzzers to press to get in to the office. It was a lot of directions and s...(more) 8-25-2016 11:08am (3 replies)
    steps....him going on his own frees up a lot of time for me, plus I really was ready for him to be more independent about this.
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    • ^^both buzzers, if that wasn't apparent 8-25-2016 11:11am
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    • That's great! I have to spend way too much time helping my 15yo ADHD DS with similar stuff. I'm ready for him to make a similar breakthrough , but he also has a big anxiety issue...(more) 8-25-2016 11:11am
      getting in his way. Congrats!
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      • thank you. Mine is also anxious but I learned from my own CBT that doing it is the way to conquer it...he walks to his math tutor on his own but that is 5 blocks from here, this...(more) 8-25-2016 11:13am
        is farther away and I really want him to do it on his own during the school year
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  19. Special Needs Any ADD/ADHD parents whose kids are on a short acting med and take a second dose during the school day? My ds really doesnt want to do this but otherwise he doesnt eat all day...(more) 8-25-2016 10:47am (19 replies)
    and he is already so thin...Id love for him to have it wear off before lunch and then take a second dose right afterward.
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    • No. My ds eats a large breakfast, then I feed him dinner. I field calls every month or so from school about him not eating and I re-explain over and over again. He can't...(more) 8-25-2016 10:48am
      handle the rollercoaster - he needs to be on a full and steady L.A. dose
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    • Talk to the nurse. It's a slight adjustment to the day but takes like 1 minute. 8-25-2016 10:50am
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      • yes, i know the school can handle it, I'm just wondering if anyones kids have experienced it and their thoughts 8-25-2016 10:53am
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    • No no no. You will ruin his REM sleep. Put him in an intense physical activity (think Phelps) and take 1 pill in the morning if you must. Beyond that, you are going to ruin his...(more) 8-25-2016 10:55am
      natural circadian rhythm and sleep. When you mess up sleep, you ruin the ability to correctly store and process memories. You will ruin his ability to learn in the long run. I would suggest also doing a pre and post sleep study if you don't believe me.
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      • And if you resort to melatonin, look into why Canada and Europe has banned it. Unregulated and dangerous. Linked to depression. 8-25-2016 10:56am
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        • Canada and Europe did no ban melatonin. OP, please google this yourself. 8-25-2016 6:23pm
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        • Melatonin is not banned in canada it's everywhere and my ds takes it and all his dr's recommend it and I know tons of other kids who take it too. even kids not on meds and not add 8-25-2016 6:26pm
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      • meaning breaking up the day with two short acting pills will ruin his REM sleep? They last ~4 hours. He's not hyperactive, he's ADD, and he is very physically active. 8-25-2016 10:56am
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        • yes, please do a pre and post sleep study. you can see for yourself the disruption of the sleep patterns. 8-25-2016 10:58am
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          • why would 2x a day be worse than one long acting one? 8-25-2016 10:58am
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      • WTF. you have no idea what you are saying. 8-25-2016 6:25pm
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    • Mine, in middle school, takes a second dose no later than 4:00 other it affects sleep. It's a small window, but that's how it is. 8-25-2016 10:56am
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      • does he take it himself or does the school nurse give it to him? DS is in HS and i think he can get in trouble if he has it on him 8-25-2016 11:06am
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        • usually home by then. But on afterschool days, takes it herself, secretly. The idiotic regulations about meds only being dispensed by a school nurse are just too hobbling. Goes to...(more) 8-25-2016 11:16am
          the nurse's office at 3:50, and the nurse is out. Nobody knows when she'll be back. But the afterschool group leaves promptly at 4, so miss that or miss the meds...it became unworkable. So I send in a pill w the afterschool snack.
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          • Same. HS kid does not want to go to nurse's office publicly. 8-25-2016 6:24pm
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    • My son takes 5mg of Focalin before school, 2.5mg at lunch and if he has a lot of homework I give him 2.5mg after school. We may need to tweak doses as he just started middle...(more) 8-25-2016 11:02am
      school. Two years ago he was on 25mg of Focalin XR but it made him robotic and he wouldn't eat lunch. Knock on wood, we've never had an issue with sleep.
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      • ok great. This works well for you and he hasn't complained about people seeing him go to the nurse every day or anything? 8-25-2016 11:04am
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        • No, he doesn't complain. He goes to the nurse right before lunch. 8-25-2016 11:07am
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    • yes but it doesn't wear off enough that his appetite is the same without it. he eats a bit of lunch but not a ton 8-25-2016 6:25pm
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  20. Special Needs IEP meeting coming up for 6th grader with high-functioning Autism & ADHD. What items should I make sure are listed on his IEP? Middle School is a whole new ballgame. Currently, he...(more) 8-25-2016 8:53am (4 replies)
    has supports/goal pages for: writing, math & social skills.
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    • depends a lot on his struggles. For sure ask for class notes/test prep/preferential seating/breaks/extended time (if needed); separate space to take tests (if needed)/graphic...(more) 8-25-2016 9:44am
      organizers/resource room if necessary for academic supports
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      • Class notes would be helpful, thanks. What do you mean by test prep? 8-25-2016 9:47am
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        • Study guides 8-25-2016 5:19pm
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    • Do they offer social skills groups like a lunch bunch? 8-25-2016 2:32pm
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  21. Special Needs What is good to do with 11yo SN son in Dublin, Ireland? TIA 8-25-2016 1:49am (6 replies)
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    • What kind of SN? 8-25-2016 6:55am
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      • I have to say, I know we're not supposed to ever criticize each other on this board and I fully support that, but when people say "SN" it's so, so hard to kno what they mean...(more) 8-25-2016 4:31pm
        unless they say what the SN is. Every kid on this board has a little something different.
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        • np: I agree. My SN child is dyslexic. Totally different than child with many other issues. 8-25-2016 6:05pm
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    • random vague post... 8-25-2016 6:56am
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    • Hard to tell without definition of the SN. If it were my HFA ds, I'd take him to see some of the live music in the pubs by the quays. 8-25-2016 10:41am
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      • Also, day trips to the countryside, see some castles and such. 8-25-2016 10:42am
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  22. Special Needs So scared for SN DS starting middle school soon. Just going to be tough. 8-24-2016 5:47pm (5 replies)
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    • Right there with you, sister, he starts in two weeks. 8-24-2016 5:49pm
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      • I am so nervous for him especially socially 8-24-2016 5:50pm
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        • You do the best you can re: school placement and supports, and cross your fingers. 8-24-2016 5:51pm
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          • I know. Just worried how the other kids will treat him. 8-24-2016 5:54pm
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    • same here. obsessed with a certain bully (ms but quirly kid) that he is sure he will see daily 8-25-2016 12:40am
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  23. Special Needs My 9 yo dyslexic dd who has some social issues at school and lots of anxiety asked to see a therapist a couple of years ago. She saw one she loved, who left the area, one she...(more) 8-23-2016 3:54pm (3 replies)
    didn't love much but liked ok, who also left the area, and now has a new therapist. She doesn't love him (first time she has seen a man, but she said she was ok with it) and after a month off because of vacations she says she doesn't need to see anyone. I think it is important she does have someone to talk to about her anxiety but don't know how hard to push this. It is hard to find a child therapist in my area who takes insurance, has availability and is conveniently located. How hard do I push her on this therapist?
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    • You don't. You find a better therapist for her. 8-23-2016 4:07pm
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    • Is summer a less anxiety-prducing time of year for your dd? She's not really old enough to be able to assess if she's done with therapy. I 8-24-2016 9:31am
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      • ^^ I'd try to restart with him as school starts for her. If after a few sessions it isn't helping her I'd back off therapy for a while or see i there's anyone else your insurance...(more) 8-24-2016 9:33am
        covers whose schedule/location works for you.
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  24. Special Needs Anyone else have a teen who is spending these last weeks of summer glued to TV and in pajamas all day? She was in summer school for 3 weeks, then sleep-away for 2 weeks, and...(more) 8-23-2016 2:32pm (16 replies)
    going away next week. How bad is it to give her a break before the busyness of school?
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    • it's fine 8-23-2016 2:33pm
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    • can she break it up with arts & crafts or something? i'm all for down time but hours of straight tv aren't good 8-23-2016 2:33pm
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      • Arts & crafts with a teen??? 8-23-2016 2:34pm
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      • lol, cute little toddler mom 8-23-2016 2:38pm
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        • tween mom but they love to paint & draw 8-23-2016 2:41pm
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      • you have GOT to be kidding!! please be kidding??????? 8-23-2016 2:47pm
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    • Please allow this. I WISH I had time for that now. Its such a tiny window in your life when you can do it. 8-23-2016 2:35pm
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    • Mine works. But if she wants a down day watching tv I'm fine with it. 8-23-2016 2:36pm
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    • jesus. relax and let her watch TV 8-23-2016 2:37pm
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    • Thanks for the affirmation. She is also spending time with her older siblings who are leaving for college and Europe soon. She was into the Olympics when it was on. 8-23-2016 2:46pm
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    • it's fine - in fact, it's a good thing for them to chill. 8-23-2016 2:48pm
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    • Fine. Let her get 8-23-2016 4:41pm
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    • Give them one or two things to accomplish every day, including chores but the vegging is otherwise fine 8-23-2016 4:43pm
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    • 13yo dd. She's a slug. Started math tutor today and she's got to start running for cross country. 8-23-2016 4:47pm
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    • My dd, age 14. Two more weeks till school so I'm thinking it's okay. I take her phone away for about four hours during the day so she has to do something else with her time....(more) 8-25-2016 11:05am
      Very pressured during the school year with academics and after school sports so I"m thinking two weeks is fine. I spent whole summers doing that!
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  25. Special Needs Those who do tutoring for DC - do you start right when school begins? Wait a couple of weeks? 8-23-2016 11:42am (2 replies)
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    • My dh tutors sometimes, and if there is a known issue, he starts w/the kid right when school starts. 8-23-2016 11:44am
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    • Before school. My LD Ds benefits from the amp up and preview of the work to come. For example, he reads the summer reading and does the assignment so the tutor. He reviews last...(more) 8-23-2016 3:20pm
      Ear's math and previews this year's
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