Special Needs

  1. Special Needs My eighth grader is very bright and a dedicated student. She was struck by quite serious anxiety. She’s doing ok now and is on medication and in treatment. Any advice on who to...(more) 19 hr 28 min ago (26 replies)
    Speak to at these schools (school psych, learning specialist) about how they can support her if that’s needed? We applied to those schools knowing they were good fits but didn’t want to make her history a liability. Any experience or advice?
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    • get her a 504. 19 hr 26 min ago
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    • <<a couple of years ago was when she was diagnosed after sudden onset and pretty debilitating symptoms 19 hr 25 min ago
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    • Are these mainstream private schools? The school psychologist is the person to talk to, but IME at two different schools, most of these schools are not as supportive as they claim...(more) 19 hr 25 min ago
      to be.
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      • true but she can ask for extended time for tests, permission to use bathroom in middle of class etc 19 hr 24 min ago
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        • OF course, especially if she has a neuropsych report. But IME, leaving the class etc does not go over well in most of these schools even if it's "allowed." 19 hr 23 min ago
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          • ^^î.e. My ADHD kid has this accommodation and many of the teachers complain about it at conferences. 19 hr 22 min ago
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            • Np: they complain about documented accommodations? what’s the complaint? 19 hr 19 min ago
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            • mine just gets horrible gastro symptoms and needs to use the bathroom...usually he will wait til class is over and then just skip the next one or go in late...but it's 'excused'...(more) 19 hr 11 min ago
              basically ...he tries not to get up and leave mid-class
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              • poor kid :( 19 hr 10 min ago
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                • yeah, tell me about it...happened last weekend half war thru the 1st section of the ACT 19 hr 9 min ago
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                  • ^when people say things like "kids who get extended time on tests have an 'advantage' I always mention that a lot of the time my kid spends his 'extra time' in the bathroom 19 hr 7 min ago
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                    • I know, IMO all kids should get as much time as they need for these standardized tests 17 hr 1 min ago
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      • Yes, they are mainstream and she is able to attend a mainstream school. If she had a setback m, we would need support but hopefully all will be well. We just want to make sure...(more) 19 hr 21 min ago
        they can help if that should happen and that she will be happy and supported as she is doing well now.
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      • Np. Both my dcs privates have been incredibly supportive. One was a k to 8 and the other for hs. And plenty of kids get extended time 24 min ago
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    • I'd wait unitl she gets in. 19 hr 22 min ago
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      • She has and we are deciding 19 hr 20 min ago
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    • has she already been accepted? 19 hr 21 min ago
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      • Yes 19 hr 20 min ago
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        • then my advice would be to pick the least academic of the bunch. her mental health is more important and the pressure is only going to get worse. 19 hr 9 min ago
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          • Thank you, they are both comparable academically so trying to go deeper 18 hr 23 min ago
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    • Maybe someone with experience at these particular high schools will weigh in. GL 19 hr 15 min ago
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      • which schools? 19 hr 9 min ago
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        • Grace and Berkeley Carroll (high school) 18 hr 28 min ago
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    • i'm sure there is a school psychologist as well as her advisor and learning specialist....but i would wait until she is settled. 19 hr ago
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      • op: we are choosing a school so want to have a conversation while making a final decisiion. She has been accepted to both. We released a spot at another school that seemed like...(more) 18 hr 24 min ago
        it would be too competitive but we had already applied as we learned more about it. She can handle rigorous but not interested in a pressure cooker .
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    • I know a bunch of kids at grace with some mild issues and parents have been really happy with the support they have received 4 hr 58 min ago
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  2. Special Needs We received IEP results but do not understand it besides that he is At-Risk classification under Adaptive Skills in the BASC. School meeting on the 26th. Anyone btdt? 2-15-2020 1:05pm (0 replies)
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  3. Special Needs Winston Prep or Windward?...(more) 2-15-2020 12:47pm (7 replies)
    Torn. DC is dyslexic only, no other issues. Pros and cons for MS placement? Academic strengths? Input from parents with kids in either school or who have considered both. TIA!
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    • i know people with kids in both but don't know about them. Whichever you can get into and sue I guess. 2-15-2020 12:48pm
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    • The one that your dc gets into 2-15-2020 12:51pm
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    • Both 2-15-2020 12:59pm
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    • Is your child straight dyslexic or also adhd/ a little behavioral? If the former, windward, if the latter Winston. 21 hr 4 min ago
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      • Straight dyslexia with a tiny bit of exec function. That’s why I’m on the fence. 15 hr 25 min ago
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    • My college senior went to Winston. Not dyslexic so can’t speak to that, but he does have dyslexic friends who went there. It’s an amazing supportive school for all issues....(more) 4 hr 52 min ago
      Thei one to one focus time everyday is like having a private tutor Very warm supportive place My kid got all the skills he needed to do well in college Can’t speak more highly of it I know a number of kids who went to Windward and they all did really well there too What I know about it is they deal strictly with the dyslexia and do not address any other issues They do a fantastic job remediation the dyslexia and many of their kids go on to mainstream and do really well They do not want to deal with or hear about any other issues They have their formula and are rigid about it and it works But if you want support in any other area that’s nit the palce
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  4. Special Needs DS poured out pancake mix on the floor, and I think I broke the vacuum on it. During my cleaning time, he got it into paint and there's paint all over. I have him in the tub now....(more) 2-14-2020 2:27pm (6 replies)
    I know not to let the paint all go down the drain, so that's a little win. I need to accomplish something. I feel like I'm losing it.
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    • sorry.. sounds like a rough day :( 2-14-2020 2:28pm
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    • Hogtie big piece of tape on mouth 2-14-2020 2:30pm
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    • Where were you during all this? 2-14-2020 2:32pm
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    • You should put things like that out of his reach. 2-14-2020 2:36pm
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      • so unhelpful - np 2-14-2020 2:50pm
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    • I totally get it, and I am sorry this was your day. Can you find anytime this weekend to rest? Get a babysitter and go out to dinner or a movie? You deserve it! 2-14-2020 4:11pm
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  5. Special Needs I have a 13 year old (LD/ADHD) who is struggling in her SN school right now. I think she might be clinically depressed - am meeting with her therapist next week and possibly a...(more) 2-14-2020 1:32pm (4 replies)
    psychiatrist soon. Question: She has basically stopped doing anything she used to love (e.g. gymnastics, dance, crafting). She has said she'd be open to doing dance again but with her social anxiety and working memory stuff (makes groups hard) she doesn't want to join a class. She really wants a private teacher so she can work one on one until she has the confidence to join a class. The kind of dance she wants to do is like music video dances - like urban jazz, hip hop. Can anything think of a place where I might find a private dance teacher for an SN teen that won't break the bank? We're in Brooklyn, could do Manhattan if not too far north. Thanks.
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    • Ys often have dance programs, they might be a good place to look. 2-14-2020 6:44pm
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      • ^^ you might find a young dancer who's teaching classes and would be happy to have a private student. 2-14-2020 6:45pm
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    • Try some of the local colleges with arts programs. I'm sure you can find a dance major to do this for a reasonable hourly rate. 2-15-2020 7:55am
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      • ^or even an arts HS. This is the time of year that seniors' schedules start to free up. 2-15-2020 7:56am
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  6. Special Needs WOHMs: let's talk about homework. Dh and I get home at 7:00 every night, which is bath/reading/bedtime for our 10yo. He has already done homework with nanny, who is great. But we...(more) 2-14-2020 11:21am (67 replies)
    never look at it, or sit down and review it with him. His evaluations show that he is gradually falling behind -- but we never really see graded papers or tests come home, so we're not sure why. We're thinking of hiring a tutor, but don't even know what to focus on or how we'd make sure he was using that time well. How do other working parents handle this?
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    • need some more info. What are his sns? What type of school is he in? 2-14-2020 11:21am
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      • He is some combination of NVLD/mild autism/extremely ADHD. Low processing speed, low average IQ. In burb public, resource room for math/ELA, gen ed with 1:1 for other classes. 2-14-2020 11:24am
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        • OK, kids with this profile do not learn at a steady pace like NT students. It's common for them to have more trouble when moving past rote acquisition of math and reading skills...(more) 2-14-2020 11:26am
          to application of skills.
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          • Yes, 100%, this is what I'm seeing. 2-14-2020 11:26am
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            • I'm a neuropsychologist. This usually the pattern. You cant change the way he processes information- you have to work with it. Unfortunately,...(more) 2-14-2020 11:33am
              public schools aren't very flexible in their curriculum to be more appealing with a slow, rote processor. Adding into his IEP that assignments are modified with his disability in mind can help.
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              • Thank you. We are trying to get the district to pay for an OOD school that specializes in NVLD. But if we have to stick with public, what kind of accommodations/settings do you...(more) 2-14-2020 11:35am
                see be successful?
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                • abstract concepts need to be modified to become more concrete. Assignments should be structured and simplified in layout. Writing assignments can be structured with a series of...(more) 2-14-2020 11:50am
                  prompts/closure sentences (some writing apps can help). Allow the student to write on topics of interest. For math reasoning/word problems provide rote calculation equations that reflect the problem. Usual break down multistep projects. A good special educator "gets" this... Good luck with alternative placement. I have young adult guys with this profile and they are doing pretty well- some in sn colleges or cc, working data processing/office support, record management, library, warehouse, retail, etc. Need some support for keeping up with daily ADLs.
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                  • Thank you so much for this. Great suggestions! 2-14-2020 11:53am
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                    • This is what happens when I have a cancellation. I like working! 2-14-2020 11:55am
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                      • Ha! Thanks! 2-14-2020 11:56am
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    • is there any way one of you can carve out more afternoon time to be iwth him? something is not working right with the nanny if he's falling behind 2-14-2020 11:22am
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      • I dont agree with this conclusion. Homework is simply practice of what he should already know. Kids dont even have academic benefit from homework at this age. Instead, I would be...(more) 2-14-2020 11:25am
        looking at his disability and how it impacts learning, the manner and pace in which he is taught, the support he gets in school.
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        • we can disagree. i help my dd (9) with math HW daily bc she struggles and it most certainly does help. i am tutoring her the way you suggest a tutor could help your kid. your...(more) 2-14-2020 11:26am
          attention wouldn't be a bad thing
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          • op: He already gets this. Nanny sits with him on homework, and is getting her teacher cert now. She even pre-does the homework some days, so she can more easily help him with it! 2-14-2020 11:28am
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            • you prob should consult with the professionals at school or whoever else you take him to, someone must have an idea of how to help him if he's struggling 2-14-2020 11:28am
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          • It is your assumption that the nanny is the problem is incorrect. It does not mean home based tutoring (not just hw) is never helpful. 2-14-2020 11:28am
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            • parents not coming hom til 7 every night means something is going to slip through the cracks. that's a crazy schedule 2-14-2020 11:29am
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              • Unfair blaming of parents and not even valid criticism. An attentive nanny and outside supportive services are sufficient. His performance is primarily due to his disability and...(more) 2-14-2020 11:35am
                his education.
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      • By this logic if a child with. SAHP falls behind its on the parent. 2-14-2020 11:25am
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        • well since i am helping my kid right now , yes that is what i am doing. we are getting her evaluated too, bc i think she might have an issue somewhere. but i sit with her and she...(more) 2-14-2020 11:26am
          is doing better
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      • Nanny is actually a SpEd teacher in training and is practically like a tutor. She has him doing his homework well. His grades are mostly "approaching grade level". But his most re...(more) 2-14-2020 11:26am
        recent evaluations with NP show that his numbers are actually dropping, and he's stagnating on the 2nd/3rd grade level in a lot of areas. (He's in 5th.)
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        • maybe you need a meeting wit hthe sp ed group at school to discuss in more detail. you need to know how to help him 2-14-2020 11:27am
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        • This makes sense for a kid with low average IQ, poor attention, autism, and slow processing 2-14-2020 11:40am
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    • you need to talk to the teacher. Also something is probably getting sent home, is it not making it al the way home or getting thrown out before you see it? 2-14-2020 11:23am
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      • this. all kids have difficulty getting stuff from school to the parent who needs to see it, even more so for ADHD 2-14-2020 11:24am
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      • op: Maybe. Will double check that. 2-14-2020 11:29am
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    • one of you has to go through all the papers while the other one bathes and reads but he needs more attention 2-14-2020 11:24am
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    • Look over it after kid is in bed to start 2-14-2020 11:24am
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    • Find a way for one parent to get home earlier fat more often. 2-14-2020 11:26am
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      • This. 7pm every night is really late. 2-14-2020 11:28am
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        • I hate it too, but we commute from the burbs. 2-14-2020 11:28am
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          • As do many. Go in early some days. Switch off with dh. You are basically weeknight absent from your child’s life 2-14-2020 11:29am
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          • prioritize what is important. your kid needs you. you have to do something temporarily at least. work from home after he's asleep if your job is that demanding 2-14-2020 11:30am
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          • np-this is why we stay in the city, so afraid of this. Sounds like you have a great nanny though 2-14-2020 11:32am
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            • OP: Yeah, we just didn't make enoguh money to stay in the city and raise 2 kids. 2-14-2020 11:37am
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    • That’s no way to live. 2-14-2020 11:29am
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      • And yet -- we are at our prime earning years right now, and trying to bank as much money as possible to pay for likely private tuition for middle/high school, and the possibiity...(more) 2-14-2020 11:30am
        that he might not be fully independent in his future.
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        • Stop and think about this logic. You were deciding that private school is more important than seeing your child 2-14-2020 11:31am
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          • He will likely need private school no matter what, and we will need to pay for it, instead of letting him flounder in public. We work from home as much as we can. We have nanny do...(more) 2-14-2020 11:34am
            all cooking and tidying, so that when we're home, we're 100% focused on the kids. It's not ideal, and I'm trying to fix it, but I optimize the time as well as I possibly can.
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            • you're doing the best you can, momma. Don't let other people tell you what's best for your family. 2-14-2020 11:36am
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              • Thank you. I appreciate that. 2-14-2020 11:37am
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                • ^^^ I was home FT as a SAHM for 6 years, and am now making up for lost income that will allow us to make sure he can get the education and support he needs. 2-14-2020 11:38am
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              • Money first isn’t always the best plan. It might just be the original plan. 2-14-2020 11:38am
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        • These are also his only childhood years 2-14-2020 11:32am
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        • At what cost? Not seeing your kids for their entire childhood? 2-14-2020 11:33am
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          • WOW is there a lot of judgement happening here. 2-14-2020 11:36am
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            • Hoarding money at the expense of children is a questionable decision. 2-14-2020 11:39am
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              • you don't have a kid that needs a $50K/year private school. NEEDS. She does. She's not gonna hoard the money, she is putting it towards getting her child in an environment that...(more) 2-14-2020 11:41am
                helps him and keeps his self esteem somewhat afloat which is incredibly important, especially for kids with her son's profile. You just don't understand.
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                • op: Thank you. You get it. 2-14-2020 11:41am
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                  • ^^ And the schools are more like $65-75k/year 2-14-2020 11:41am
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              • How is she hoarding when she's raising the funds to pay for the education that will make him a functioning member of society vs living in her basement 2-14-2020 11:41am
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              • hoarding money? god, take a leap (np) 2-14-2020 11:41am
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            • It’s not really judgment just advice. If you get home at 7 PM every weeknight and have an elementary school age child you basically spend no time with them during the week 2-14-2020 11:44am
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        • That's not a good plan - He needs you now. 2-14-2020 11:37am
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    • Email teacher and ask why he's falling behind. Is it comprehension, follow through, study habits, in class issues, etc? Start there 2-14-2020 11:29am
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      • The teachers all say "he's doing great!" Our NP is testing him and saying, "No, he's not." 2-14-2020 11:40am
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        • NP? 2-14-2020 11:40am
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          • neuropsych 2-14-2020 11:42am
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            • What specifically is he not doing well with according to NP? 2-14-2020 11:49am
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              • His strengths are in decoding and memorization. He is highly creative and imaginative. He lags in pretty much everything else: math skills, comprehension, processing speed, social...(more) 2-14-2020 11:54am
                skills, not to mention coordination issues and more . . .
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                • Ok I get that but if he's in a good school suited to him and the teachers say he's doing great, go with that. If he falls behind in school AND the NP keeps saying this, look into...(more) 2-14-2020 11:55am
                  interventions
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                  • It's already the latter. 2-14-2020 11:56am
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    • Getting home at 7 would be really tough, I'm home by 5:30 and it's still not enough time 2-14-2020 11:29am
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      • Np. I’m home at 6:30 which only works bc I prep meals the night before and 2-14-2020 11:31am
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        • yes, I have got to get more organized with meals. I come home and walk straight into the kitchen, and I'm like a drill sargeant trying to get everything done 2-14-2020 11:33am
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      • Geez, 7pm would have been early for me when I still worked. DH doens't get home until 9pm/9:30pm nightly. 2-14-2020 5:56pm
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  7. Special Needs My son's doctor is thinking of giving him Wellbutrin because Guancafine no longer works. Any experience with this? 2-14-2020 9:55am (13 replies)
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    • I think they're different aren't they? 2-14-2020 9:56am
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      • They are. We need to try something different. 2-14-2020 10:25am
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    • Was Guanfacine the first med he took, or had he tried others? 2-14-2020 9:57am
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      • He tried Concerta and used to make him mad and upset. Then we tried Quillivant and have him tics. We have tried a few. 2-14-2020 10:24am
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    • for ADHD? It's as stimulating as ritalin. BTDT with both 2-14-2020 9:57am
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    • did he have weight gain with Guancafine? How old is he? 2-14-2020 9:58am
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      • The kid is naturally skinny and eats non-stop. So no, never seen any weight gain. 2-14-2020 10:24am
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    • My DSs do well with wellbutrin 2-14-2020 10:08am
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      • How old is your DS? Mine is 12. 2-14-2020 10:25am
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        • 15 2-14-2020 10:25am
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          • Any side effects to worry about? 2-14-2020 10:29am
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            • All Rx have side effects. Our family seems to be intolerant of SSRIs, so Wellbutrin works 2-14-2020 11:35am
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              • For us. It’s a guessing game. 2-14-2020 11:36am
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  8. Special Needs How bad do things need to be to get your school to pay for out of district placement for your child? 2-13-2020 8:44pm (16 replies)
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    • lost in a law suit 2-13-2020 8:44pm
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      • op- how difficult is it to win such a suit though? ugh. I really don't know what to do. my kid is muddling along, making little to no progress, the school isn't really able to...(more) 2-13-2020 8:46pm
        stick to what should be very simple things in the IEP. he would do so well at a SN private that could really prepare him on a college track but I know that is impossibly expensive and id assume shit really needs to be hitting the fan to get the district to pay
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        • np: do you have an advocate? 2-13-2020 8:50pm
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          • op- I don't and I think I need one. how does that work? do you pay the advocate by the hour or what? 2-13-2020 8:51pm
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            • yes, you pay them by the hour. They are often good at getting the district to sit up and take notice. They are better at deciphering the IEP bullshit than your average parent....(more) 2-13-2020 8:52pm
              It's a step down from a special ed lawyer. I found I got taken much more seriously when I had an advocate with me.
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            • np: I am you. Just met with an advocate, who reviewed our paperwork and said you have NO case to send OOD. Then saw our NP who updated his evals and said she has 10 other kids...(more) 2-14-2020 11:23am
              just like him OOD and he's the perfect candidate. Waiting now for them to talk to each other and compare notes and get back to me.
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    • In our district, they pay only if your child has major behavioral issues or mental health issues. 2-13-2020 8:45pm
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      • or blind or deaf..... 2-13-2020 8:47pm
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    • You need to demonstrate that they cannot meet your child's needs. This usually requires a lawyer and a psych ed report that describes recommendations which can't be fulfilled by...(more) 2-13-2020 8:46pm
      the district.
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      • op- what he needs is SO simple but over and over its not happening. like this is very basic stuff for executive function and staying on task. they say they will do it but it...(more) 2-13-2020 8:47pm
        doesn't happen in the end
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        • ^my assumption is that his needs are just not significant enough but god damn... 2-13-2020 8:48pm
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        • public schools are not ready for executive function coaching. And even when it's done well, kids (ADHD) take forever to catch on to it. You would have to have a kid with profound...(more) 2-13-2020 8:48pm
          behavioral issues to get outplacement for just ADHD.
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          • op- I know, sigh... 2-13-2020 8:49pm
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            • sorry. It's frustrating. 2-13-2020 8:49pm
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              • op- it really is. I swear on my life, im actually considering home instruction with a tutor and homeschool co-op in the afternoons. I feel like this is fucking crazy but I don't...(more) 2-13-2020 8:50pm
                have $50k for SN private and while a small, nurturing private or even parochial would be the right atmosphere, he wouldn't be able to hack it academically
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                • What you describe is not a bad solution, if you have the temperament for it. 2-13-2020 8:51pm
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  9. Special Needs I’m so jealous of people whose kids don’t have sn. All 3 of mine do and it’s exhausting. 2-13-2020 2:16pm (19 replies)
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    • Yep. I have one with depression and another with ADHD. 2-13-2020 2:17pm
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      • NP-Severe anxiety and ADHD. So much time and money spent on therapies, etc 2-13-2020 2:18pm
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        • OR: agreed. not to mention prescriptions 2-13-2020 2:19pm
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          • Luckily that isn't a huge deal for us 2-13-2020 2:20pm
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    • I can’t imagine. Do you support, even just to verbalize these feelings? 2-13-2020 2:17pm
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    • what SN? 2-13-2020 2:17pm
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      • Ouch 2-13-2020 2:18pm
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      • i'm curious too. 2-13-2020 2:19pm
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      • this. All three? 2-13-2020 2:20pm
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        • Adhd/LD/ mood disorder or some combo of the three depending on the kid. We are loving attentive parents. I think we just have bad genes. I’m exhausted. 2-13-2020 2:28pm
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          • do you and dh have these issues too? 2-13-2020 2:29pm
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            • Dh has adhd and I have anxiety! Lol. 2-13-2020 2:31pm
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              • I'm not OR but same for me and my dh. we also have 3 kids. oldest is high functioning autism, middle has genius IQ and anxiety, youngest is completely NT. you never know what's...(more) 2-13-2020 2:32pm
                gonna come out of the combo
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                • Yes! At least all of my three are very smart but sometimes it makes it even more frustrating! 2-13-2020 6:29pm
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    • was it genetic? 3/3 is a lot to bear 2-13-2020 2:18pm
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      • it's a troll 2-13-2020 2:23pm
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        • I’m not a troll. Go back into your cave. 2-13-2020 2:28pm
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          • This is an ill informed and scientifically illiterate question...(more) 2-13-2020 6:11pm
            Every condition is caused by a combination of genetics and environment. And mood disorders have a broad range of genetic markers.
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            • Op- I’m sorry, I misunderstood and thought you were calling me a troll. 2-13-2020 6:28pm
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  10. Special Needs Ds recently diagnosed w/ developmental coordination disorder? Ive never hear of this and no prior doctor gave this d except for adhd and SPD 2-13-2020 1:26pm (3 replies)
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    • Did he crawl as a baby or move straight to walking?... Also, check out the website SENG 2-13-2020 1:31pm
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    • Ds has this in addition to adhd. He’s 21 now 2-13-2020 7:10pm
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      • >>>it’s the same thing as dyspraxia 2-13-2020 7:10pm
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  11. Special Needs How can a neurologist help a child w/ Adhd? can they do testing/make diagnoses/recommendations? 2-13-2020 1:22pm (4 replies)
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    • yes, all those. We had the test that diagnoses ADHD there. BUT - it was SO MUCH $$$. We couldn't afford to keep going there even with good insurance so we moved to his regular...(more) 2-13-2020 1:26pm
      Ped - who has been in my opinion just as good for way less $.
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      • what can a ped do for ADHD? 2-13-2020 1:28pm
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        • same, testing, work to get the right meds, etc. 2-13-2020 1:29pm
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  12. Special Needs What is the best school in nyc for a kid with severe clinical anxiety? 2-13-2020 1:04pm (6 replies)
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    • Home school 2-13-2020 1:15pm
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      • seriously? I wish, so that’s not an obvious choice, but also, it seems like indulging the anxiety instead of helping dc through it. 2-13-2020 1:17pm
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    • What age? 2-13-2020 7:10pm
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      • Middle school 2-14-2020 10:18am
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        • Maybe Summit; maybe Louis Stevenson; very unlikely, Andrus In Yonkers but that’s mainly traumatized kids...(more) 17 hr 21 min ago
          Maybe ask Sarah Birnbaum. There are also therapeutic boarding schools. There’s at least one school for severe psychiatric disorders in NYC, try this list: http://tinyurl.com/snschoolsnyc
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          • Also before you switch schools—have you done some intensive treatment? There are...(more) 17 hr 19 min ago
            Some good day programs for severe anxiety and some of the hospitals like Weill Cornell child psychiatry, CUCARD, Child Mind Institute, even treatment studies at Ny psychiatric Institute. Anxiety can be treatable with CBT, DBT and the right meds, at least sometimes.
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  13. Special Needs Does anyone have experience with the rykien program at xaverian in bay ridge? Thanks! 2-13-2020 12:34pm (0 replies)
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  14. Special Needs Which of these 3 districts Great Neck, Jericho, or Syosset provide better supports for Special Needs? thank you 2-13-2020 11:54am (5 replies)
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    • jericho but meh 2-13-2020 11:54am
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      • op: really? I ve heard they are terrible for SN 2-13-2020 11:55am
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    • i wouldnt go for any of those if i have a special needs child. those schools are batshit pressur ecookers 2-13-2020 11:54am
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    • Great Neck is excellent good for special needs. Can’t speak to Jericho or syossett 2-13-2020 7:05pm
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    • Great Neck is supposed to be very good for SN 2-13-2020 7:36pm
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  15. Special Needs School lies on 504 plan saying child is making “steady progress”—denied services and academic interventions. Just got reading and math assessments after begging school and shows...(more) 2-12-2020 8:46pm (15 replies)
    child is on steady decline since beginning of school year in reading and math Down to 19th percentile! what can I do?
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    • Read and do math with your dc 2-12-2020 8:46pm
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      • Please don’t troll on the sn board 2-12-2020 8:54pm
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    • Talk to other SN parents and advocate for your child. Ask them to defend “steady improvement 2-12-2020 8:47pm
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      • Op: they lied and assessments show steady decline instead 2-12-2020 8:48pm
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        • Right. So ask them to defend what they said and when they can’t do it, request further supports and accommodations. Or threaten legal action, 2-12-2020 8:51pm
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    • That’s awful. Sorry. Can you speak to his guidance counselor ? 2-12-2020 8:48pm
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      • Op: unfortunately no. She is part of the 504 committee that lied 2-12-2020 8:49pm
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    • NYC? Email superintendent, caranza. 2-12-2020 8:48pm
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      • Op: no local NYC suburban district 2-12-2020 8:50pm
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    • Get a full np report and go for an IEP; 504 isn’t working 2-12-2020 8:48pm
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    • Threaten to sue 2-12-2020 8:49pm
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      • Op: yes, agreed. This is actionable. I kept saying all along my child is struggling and they were silent 2-12-2020 8:51pm
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        • I'm with the below poster, you should formally request an evaluation and start the IEP process. If you ask in writing they are not allowed to refuse 2-12-2020 11:13pm
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    • If yiou spent as much time requesting an eval (formally, in writing return receipt requested if things are adversarial) as you do posting about this you'd be a lot better off 2-12-2020 10:39pm
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  16. Special Needs Our district offered us a summer social skills program last year -- but it was only 12/hrs a week, and as of April, not even staffed or clear on curriculum. Advocate is now tellin...(more) 2-12-2020 5:35pm (2 replies)
    g me that I've jeopardized getting social skills again or fighting that he needs an out of district school that focuses on social skills, because on paper "I turned it down". I turned it down bc I work FT, and I paid out of pocket for him to go to an all-day day camp where he'd work on social skills, plus get outside all day! I'm really annoyed about this.
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    • Your district did not offer you the service during the school year. period. I am assuming you did not have a 12 month IEP. Your advocate should be pushing back NOT pushing you. 2-13-2020 12:13pm
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    • Also, it sounds like you visited the program? So maybe you can detail why it was inappropriate for your dc? 2-13-2020 12:35pm
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  17. Special Needs Working from home and listening to ASD 11yo's guitar lesson. He can barely play. He refuses to practice. But he LOVES these lessons bc he loves the teacher, who gets him. Would...(more) 2-12-2020 5:30pm (22 replies)
    you keep paying $50/week even though he's not learning anything? (Yes, he should practice, I know . . . )
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    • Yes 2-12-2020 5:30pm
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    • if it weren't a hardship, yes. 2-12-2020 5:30pm
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    • Is it in any way a financial burden to you? 2-12-2020 5:31pm
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      • No, but it's that old question -- would the money and time be better spend somewhere else? He has so many things to work on . . . 2-12-2020 5:32pm
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        • If he loves it and is interacting with someone in a great way it would be devastating to cancel it. You need to continue. 2-12-2020 5:34pm
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    • Yes. 2-12-2020 5:31pm
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    • He is learning something. He is interacting with someone and that's it for an ASD 11 yo 2-12-2020 5:32pm
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      • This. 2-12-2020 5:33pm
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      • op: That's a good point, thank you 2-12-2020 5:36pm
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showI would tell him that he can't have the lessons if he doesn't practice. We've told our kids this. 2-12-2020 5:34pm
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      • Are your kids autistic? 2-12-2020 5:35pm
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        • My oldest suffers from anxiety/depression. 2-12-2020 5:35pm
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          • Teacher here whose kids suffer the same and ASD is not even remotely the same as anxiety/depression. 2-12-2020 5:36pm
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    • Does he have other relationships? If not, this is wonderful. 2-12-2020 5:35pm
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      • op: Honestly, adults love him. It's peers he struggles with. So part of me thinks a social setting would be better. But then, feeling like someone likes you and has your back is a...(more) 2-12-2020 5:37pm
        big deal too.
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    • If I could afford it yes. I cant really throw away $50 a week on an hour of happiness, therapeutic though it may be 2-12-2020 5:36pm
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    • I would work with the teacher on getting him to practice. 2-12-2020 8:39pm
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    • Eventually he may be able to take that love for guitar and translate it into a social context. He could find other kids once he’s in HS and be in a band. I def think it’s worth...(more) 2-12-2020 10:26pm
      keeping up!
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      • But it doesn't sound like her kid is actually learning to play. 2-12-2020 10:44pm
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        • Sure but again it doesn't matter as much as the fact that he's developing a love for an activity. Being in a band in HS doesn't really have anything to do with being good at the...(more) 2-12-2020 11:13pm
          instrument. It's about hanging out together with that as the glue. Most of the guys I knew who started bands in HS could barely play! They just had fun.
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    • I would 2-12-2020 10:44pm
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    • If it makes him happy, if it is a source of pride, if it is therapeutic for him, and not a financial hardship to you, continue with the lessons. 2-13-2020 12:49pm
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  18. Special Needs What's the going rate and for how long (semester for example) for an OT reading interventionist in NY? 2-12-2020 5:22pm (0 replies)
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  19. Special Needs It DOES happen, Just released a spot in a MS school for DD, wh has been in a special ed setting for five years after being shut out of K in NYC. Fully mainstreaming with no...(more) 2-12-2020 2:41pm (0 replies)
    supports, other than a tutor (like every other kid) and Ritalin. Never thought I'd be in a position to say thanks but going in a different direction!!!
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  20. Special Needs Has anyone had their kid move from a straight ADHD dx to autism dx? Did having a new dx help you better target meds and therapies? 2-12-2020 9:39am (9 replies)
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    • Meds don’t help Autism 2-12-2020 9:42am
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      • Hmmm. I don't think that's true. 2-12-2020 9:44am
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      • Different meds help autism, such as Abilify, Risperidone 2-12-2020 12:59pm
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    • My son's epilepsy neurologist wouldn't call him autistic but he moved away and the new one called him autistic because I wanted ABA therapy which we're getting. 2-12-2020 9:42am
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    • Yes. The ADHD was a mis-diagnosis. 2-12-2020 1:10pm
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    • Stimulants make my kid manic. Risperadone completely pulls him together. That's part of how we started realizing it was autism, not ADHD. 2-12-2020 4:07pm
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      • op: this is us. I think I know what to expect from this new neuropsych, then. 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • Yes, original dx was severe ADHD and anxiety to Autism. It might have helped for school placement when dc was younger. 2-14-2020 3:31pm
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      • op: Yup, sounds like my dc. Will be curious to see if dx actually changes. 1 hr 26 min ago
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  21. Special Needs If you hire an attorney to prove your school district never followed the interventions and academic help and related services a child received at their prior school and the child...(more) 2-11-2020 8:04pm (10 replies)
    regressed, is it worth it and will I be able to get them to pay for tutuoring in all the time my child missed because they didnt support him under Section 504?
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    • Extremely hard to prove 2-11-2020 8:07pm
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      • ITA. You'd be better off getting him out of the district if the district is not following things. 2-11-2020 8:10pm
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      • op: doctor told them prior supports and it was written on chidl's 504 plan 2-11-2020 8:15pm
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        • When did he enter the school? What related services does he get? 2-11-2020 8:17pm
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    • What did they not do? A 504 is very different from an IEP in that there is no specialized instruction. I’m a sped teacher and we have to document all accommodations we offer kids...(more) 2-11-2020 8:15pm
      on a daily basis in case of things like this. 504 is accommodation based, so what accommodations was your kid not getting that caused him to slide back?
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      • op: under Section 504 and Response to Intervention, chidl was receiving five days a week pull out reading (nothing in new school district), remedial math, OT, speech. new school...(more) 2-11-2020 8:19pm
        gave nothing except when child failed math, started math....under Section 504 the law states a child is required to get all accommodations, related services and Special education services....most people dont know the law. IT says this under section 504. BUt putting all that aside, they never followed the interventions they were supposed to give same and they wont give me any copies of assessments they said they did
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        • RTI is not required interventions though. It’s helpful and recommended and required prior to special Ed qualification. But otherwise it’s not. Section 504 does not require...(more) 2-11-2020 8:27pm
          interventions, it requires accommodations
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          • ^^but yes OT and speech should have transferred. 2-11-2020 8:28pm
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          • OP: here is the law: Section 504 of the Rehab Act requires schools to provide eligible students with disabilities a free appropriate public education. The Act defines “appropriate education&rdq...(more) 2-11-2020 8:44pm
            Section 504 of the Rehab Act requires schools to provide eligible students with disabilities a free appropriate public education. The Act defines “appropriate education” as “… the provision of regular or special education and *related aids and services* that are designed to meet individual educational needs of handicapped persons as adequately as the needs of nonhandicapped persons are met…”
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    • The prior school is not the point, just whether school is following what was/is in the 504. 2-11-2020 9:06pm
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  22. Special Needs Any colleges that waive math requirements? 2-11-2020 7:28pm (17 replies)
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    • op- poorly worded-meant are there colleges that do not require dc to take math? Bright but severe math ld 2-11-2020 7:30pm
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    • Dc is at Emerson. Graduating this year and has never taken a math class 2-11-2020 7:31pm
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      • yes, that is the only school I am aware of it 2-11-2020 7:33pm
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        • I bet there are others. I just don’t recall or know. Also may be dependent on your major 2-11-2020 7:34pm
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    • Liberal arts schools? 2-11-2020 7:33pm
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      • They all have math, quantitative reasoning as a requirement 2-12-2020 8:50am
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        • very much not the case. I teach at one of the top LACs in this country andn we have zero distributional requirements separate from majors. 2-12-2020 12:11pm
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    • There are quite a few where a student can avoid math. Will this student need significant academic support in college? 2-11-2020 7:36pm
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      • no support needed-Smart just not in math 2-11-2020 7:39pm
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        • unusual for a math LD. You can google this 2-11-2020 7:50pm
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          • I know have dealt with this for yrs. 34 on ACT English sections 32 Science- 21 on Math 2-11-2020 8:05pm
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            • You should talk to the office of student disabilities where your dc is interested in looking. It may be a gen ed requirement but you dc May be able to get it waived. I’m the...(more) 2-11-2020 8:24pm
              poster above at Emerson and my dc got a language waiver
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            • np: by college there is math in other sciences, most social sciences. 2-11-2020 9:07pm
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    • There must be so many. Even some of the ivies don’t require math for liberal arts degrees, just some kind of science. 2-11-2020 9:28pm
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    • Yes 2-11-2020 10:38pm
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    • When I was at. Ramsey’s, liberal arts majors required a certain number of credits of “math or science”. I took all science, no math. 2-12-2020 1:11pm
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      • That was Brandeis, no idea where autocorrect got Ramsey. 2-12-2020 1:12pm
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  23. Special Needs Any ASD horizon parents on!...(more) 2-11-2020 7:19pm (4 replies)
    What is the profile? I have a DC at a SN private but thinking ahead to middle school. Are there any kids in Horizon who have normal IQ and close to grade level academics, and strong interest in social connection but emotionally dysregulated and sensory issues? In other words, we would do NEST but the 16 kids in middle school would be sensory overload?
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    • Meant to write? Not ! 2-11-2020 7:20pm
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    • Horizon profile is at the bottom of this page. But IRL Horizon is for kids who need ABA to learn. What is dc's current class size? 2-11-2020 9:11pm
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      • 8 kids and 2 teachers. Never did ABA for various reasons (wouldn’t work for DC) 2-11-2020 9:29pm
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        • If dc wouldn't benefit from ABA Horizon's not likely a good fit. It's worth applying to Nest and checking it out. The program does not necessarily fill every class. 2-11-2020 9:35pm
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  24. Special Needs Another Zoloft question- what dose is your DC on? Does dosing depend entirely on symptom severity, or is size/weight a consideration as well? 2-11-2020 2:43pm (2 replies)
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    • Please ask your psychiatrist and not random people on YBM 2-12-2020 7:20am
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    • I think it more depends on diagnosis and what it is treating. My DD is 150 for OCD 2-12-2020 7:37am
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  25. Special Needs College-bound ADHD with anxiety dd - do we need another NP eval to get accommodations in college? Tia 2-11-2020 8:08am (16 replies)
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    • We got an updated evaluation that wasnt a full NP evaluation. The college needed documentation. 2-11-2020 8:09am
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    • Yes. Keep it current (every 3 years) 2-11-2020 8:10am
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    • Trigger -- is there a way to figure out what colleges provide much support? 2-11-2020 8:10am
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      • yes, lots of resources on this 2-11-2020 8:12am
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        • Np: how can I find those resources? 2-11-2020 8:13am
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      • Petersons has a guide specifically for colleges for students with LD/ADHD. If you google you will find a lot 2-11-2020 8:13am
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    • Op. Can we go to the same NP? Probably stupid question! He is a pediatric NP. Should be ok right? 2-11-2020 8:11am
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      • that's fine. 2-11-2020 8:17am
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        • Thank you 2-11-2020 8:18am
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          • Op again. Do you have any advice? How did you dc fare in college? Tia 2-11-2020 8:19am
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            • I'm not at that point yet... I'm still doing the ramp up to college. DS is a sophomore and we need to time his private testing so that it doesn't conflict with the district...(more) 2-11-2020 8:20am
              testing.
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              • Op. I see. LS at dcs school reminded families to get the NP eval in 9th in order to secure it for standardized test accommodations. I haven't asked her about when to do it for...(more) 2-11-2020 8:24am
                college but guessing it has to be soon
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                • np, colleges want a report or testing that was conducted within 3 years from when they start college. I have sophomore and senior who both have accommodations. The biggest piece...(more) 2-11-2020 6:31pm
                  is that your dc must advocate for themselves and seek out all the help that’s offered and they need. They can get testing accommodations, note-taking accommodations but there’s no scaling back of the work or turning work in late (except under extraordinary circumstances)
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    • College Accessibility - accommodations, and disability services Facebook Group...(more) 2-11-2020 3:52pm
    • We were told you absolutely don’t need NP - just have school do updated testing. 2-11-2020 7:19pm
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