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  1. Special Needs Can someone explain the benefit of a foreign language waiver and how to obtain one? 5 hr 49 min ago (2 replies)
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    • I think the benefit is for kids with language base learning disabilities. They may also struggle to learn additional languages. Skipping the foreign language lets them concentrate...(more) 1 hr 7 min ago
      On their core studies. I would assume that to get one, it would be a suggestion in a neuropsych evaluation that would be integrated to the iep?
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    • For my son, it's a class he doesn't have to take that would be extremely difficult for him...we tried a language when he returned to mainstream school just to see..didn't work out...(more) 13 min ago
      We got the waiver. Over the years he has used the time either for a free, for an extra arts class that was a requirement, and now extra history electives in which he can excel. College would rather see an a or b in a history plus a language waiver than a d in Spanish with no explanation. Self esteem is also important, why should he struggle even more when he doesn't have to? Colleges DO NOT penalize for the language waiver, you simply have to disclose the reasons why. Colleges don't penalize a kid w a language based learning disability for not taking a language. They do not have to support as a public or private high school would so factoring in the support is not an issue as it is at the high school level. That seems to be the disconnect here, people assume the prestigious or "elite" colleges will penalize like a mainstream private NYC school would. They don't.
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  2. Special Needs Every Xmas I wonder this . . . Video console or no video console? My 9yo has ADHD. Has strict limits around screens during the week, but weekends he's allowed as much TV or iPad...(more) 10 hr 21 min ago (10 replies)
    time as he wants until 10am. The rest of the day is always a shitshow of whining for more games, which makes us never want more temptation in the house. (We've also done social skills groups, etc, where every parent complains about how addicted their kids are to the Xbox, PS, etc.) That said, now when other kids come over, they ask "Where are the video games?" and then can't seem to find anything to do, and the playdates aren't very successful. Ds needs help connecting with other kids. So at what point do you finally break down and get video games (if ever)?
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    • I get it, I do..find other things he likes..mine is all of a sudden enjoying 3 d puzzles and he loves slime making as much as I hate it..screen time sadly is the only thing that...(more) 10 hr 17 min ago
      shuts my ds down...otherwise he NEVER STOPS MOVING..it is exhausting for him also to keep it together all day
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    • We got one last year partly for social reasons. They only get to play 1/2 hour each (they can play together and get an hour total if they cooperate) and on play dates. I havenít had an issue with it,...(more) 9 hr 56 min ago
      I havenít had an issue with it, and actually would prefer them playing games versus staring blankly at a screen. BUT My kids are pretty good about not whining about PlayStation during the week when itís not the time. If yours are not good about that kind of structure Iíd probably delay.
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      • To clarify: 1/2 hour each per WEEK 9 hr 54 min ago
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        • np: my kids get more than this and IMO it's fine. OP needs to judge what the limits are in her own house. 7 hr 38 min ago
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    • You need more structure about it. He needs to start his day doing what he is supposed to and earn his video game time. You are doing it backwards. r 9 hr 52 min ago
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      • op: That's wonderful in principle, but the Sat and Sun morning screens allow dh and I to sleep in for 1-2 hours. Otherwise we're up at 6:00 with him. We spent the first 6 years of...(more) 9 hr 42 min ago
        his life getting up with him at 4 or 5am, and we're done with those weekends. It's not ideal, but we need some sleep.
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      • np: this is so easier said than done. Her son in 9, not 4. 7 hr 48 min ago
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        • Yeah, I know it's easier said than done. I also have a 9yo with ADHD. It sucks but this is what they need. If you need a little peace, but video games can get out of control...(more) 7 hr 42 min ago
          quickly with ADHD kids ( and nt ones for that matter)
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    • I will give you my honest two cents. I think it's fine to get it (it does have real social benefits), but just know you'll need to limit its use outside of the playdates. If you...(more) 7 hr 46 min ago
      are OK with putting limits on that just as you do the other screens, and if you are fine with some fighting when he wants more, I'd go for it. At 9 you can hold him off for maybe another year, but beyond that, IMO most boys ARE playing those games on playdates in the winter (summer or spring at least they can go outside, throw a ball around, etc. Winter is tough.
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    • We made the decision this time last year to get an xbox. What a mistake. We should never, ever have done that. All of the problems worsened markedly and the benefits were minimal...(more) 7 hr 4 min ago
      and tenuous. I urge you to resist. Just say "we are the old fashioned house and play different games here". After a few months we literally boxed up and gave away the xbox as it was so bad. It took a long time to see the bad consequences disappear but at least that evil device is not here. It does help that some of the neighborhood kids also don't have devices in their homes.
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  3. Special Needs Ds has such bad anxiety and he's always looking for something or someone to blame when things go wrong. He's on Fluoxetine and it helps a ton, but I just feel like lately the...(more) 10 hr 56 min ago (1 reply)
    anxiety is getting worse. Does puberty interfere with these meds? Like his angst and anger is more present lately. Making an appt with the psych for next week.
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    • Sometimes puberty does cause metabolic changes, and also they get so much bigger so quickly that sometimes you need to tweak things. You should also do therapy if you aren't...(more) 7 hr 43 min ago
      already. Puberty definitely throws all kids off
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  4. Special Needs To those who have used palate expanders on your child, did it help with opening up nasal passages? 12 hr 30 min ago (0 replies)
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  5. Special Needs BWAHAHAHAHA Taxes Begin in Dubai January 1 suck it! 20 hr 45 min ago (4 replies)
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    • assad mom you are late! 20 hr 31 min ago
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    • Not on income, house ownership and only on luxury items. Not a big deal. 19 hr 59 min ago
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    • weird thing to post to SN board. 13 hr 50 min ago
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      • Not if she is the poster below posting about her friend's child. 13 hr 31 min ago
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  6. Special Needs Thank you to everyone who contributed to the Arabic/English delayed speech DC. My friend will be so relieved that we have a plan now. X 20 hr 52 min ago (0 replies)
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  7. Special Needs Questions about speech delays: live in the middle east, friend of mine here has a 3 year old who has speech delays but to me he seems perfectly intelligent and engaging. She was...(more) 22 hr 1 min ago (34 replies)
    told by the therapist who works with him that "you may have to face your child will never be normal' and told to put him in a SN school. This sounds more about the region we live in and attitudes towards DCs with even very small issues. Would you suggest she take him to europe or the US for a proper evaluation?
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    • us. No question. 21 hr 57 min ago
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      • Alright thank you I will suggest this to hr I did not want to say anything until I posted here thank you! 21 hr 56 min ago
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        • us is much much better for that. And Iím European if that helps. 21 hr 54 min ago
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    • Is your friend American? I would strongly encourage her to bring her child to the U.S. Time is of the essence. There is a very critical window between 3 - 5 when children with...(more) 21 hr 54 min ago
      autism can receive intensive therapy in the form form of ABA, OT, PT Speech and it makes a tremendous difference. Run don't walk. I say this as a person who has seen this first hand with a friend in U.S. and a family member not in the U.S.
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      • Delayed speech at 3yo is a red flag for autism. 21 hr 53 min ago
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        • My friend in the U.S. had a child who walked on tip toe, could not make eye contact or speak at 3 and with intensive therapy early, now attends a mainstream private school and...(more) 21 hr 50 min ago
          is just seen as "bright and quirky".
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        • Not necessarily. Based on the information here seems more like apraxia or another language issue. Iíd get an evaluation with a developmental ped before assuming autism. 21 hr 43 min ago
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      • This is great help thank you. I have 2 questions: they ruled out autism here (I don't know in what way) but I agree they probably don't know what they are doing here. She is...(more) 21 hr 51 min ago
        Saudi, no english, I will go with her. Where do I take them? I will have to make appointments - NYC is best easy for us to get to.
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        • See Dr Jennifer cross at Cornell she is a developmental pediatrician. This is you if first step, she will then tell them who to see after if needed. Btdt. 21 hr 50 min ago
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          • GOD THANK YOU! i will send an email out asap! 21 hr 49 min ago
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        • I'm sure they are not saying autism to avoid stigma. Without English it will be difficult to access supports though. 21 hr 47 min ago
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          • But if the doctor is telling the mom the child has speech delays and that she needs to accept that her child will not be normal that sounds like autism to me. 21 hr 42 min ago
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          • If they told her he was autistic she would have told me. Well I plan to go with her, maybe they can suggest someone here or who speaks arabic. 21 hr 42 min ago
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            • I mean to say the doctor didn't say autism to the mom because culturally they are not comfortable using that label for whatever reason (stigma) also because they seem to not offer...(more) 21 hr 40 min ago
              supports for autism in that country.
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          • This, and you will struggle to find an Arabic speaker to administer the ADOS in NYC 21 hr 35 min ago
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            • I don't now what that is ADOS but the only non english speaker is the mother the boy and I are fine with english. 21 hr 31 min ago
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              • If the boy is speech delayed and bilingual (which he would be if his mother is Arabic speaking only) he will need to be evaluated in Arabic. 21 hr 31 min ago
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                • ^Also the ADOS (the standard test for autism) involves hours of direct interaction between the evaluator and the child. they are looking for eye contact among other things 21 hr 29 min ago
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    • And if she comes here I would start with a developmental pediatrician 21 hr 52 min ago
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      • Do you have the name of one in the NYC are? Would they be able to diagnose him and begin treatment? Should we plan for her to live in NYC for a year or so? 21 hr 50 min ago
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        • Slow down. There a few, I love Dr Cross, she saw my daughter for many years. You plan a visit and it make take a few months. Once she has seen the kid she will tell you if he...(more) 21 hr 47 min ago
          needs more testing and possibly treatment, itís premature to make any plans to move at this stage.
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          • If the kid only understand Arabic, you should be allowed to repeat what the Dr is saying in Arabic. Thatís what I did when my Dd who is bilingual was evaluated. 21 hr 45 min ago
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            • I can trabslate for my friend, luckily the dc understands english as well as any english speaking child so therapy shouldn't be an issue 21 hr 41 min ago
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              • That is great news. NYC has the best evaluators and therapists for this. 21 hr 40 min ago
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                • Thank you this has been so helpful and I can't wait to give my friend the news. We spent 5 hours in tears yesterday. 21 hr 38 min ago
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            • That is NOT an effective way to use the ADOS. You are testing a child for their ability to interact 1:1 in socially appropriate ways. That does not happen through a translator. 21 hr 31 min ago
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              • I keep saying this and so I feel maybe I am missing something: the DC does not need a translator - he has been in an english only preK for years and understands english not arabic 21 hr 29 min ago
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                • If his mother only speaks Arabic then he has spent years immersed in Arabic. If his English is so good he can't be that speech delayed. 21 hr 28 min ago
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                  • I understand where you are coming from, except that here in the UAE english is the predominant language it is very rare for someone not to speak english. He has been a english pre...(more) 21 hr 1 min ago
                    K etc etc and I mean that he understands very detailed directions in english not that he is speaking well.
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        • Marilyn Agin also does evaluations and wrote ďthe late talkerĒ book 21 hr 42 min ago
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      • Do a keyword search here on the special needs board for developmental pediatrician & early intervention 21 hr 44 min ago
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        • will do thank you! 21 hr 40 min ago
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          • You're welcome 21 hr 39 min ago
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  8. Special Needs Is it hard to get into Stephen Gaynor?...(more) 22 hr 8 min ago (13 replies)
    Assuming my child fits the profile, how hard is it to get in? I toured and it seemed incredibly fancy (and amazing!). I don't want to waste my time if t's only for celebs and super wealthy people.
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    • Please calm down. It's a special needs school. Many students, if not most, sue and are reimbursed. Please get the fancy wealthy people thing out of your head. Please. 21 hr 54 min ago
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      • ^^and it's not "hard to get into" like dalton is hard to get in to. Your child has to fit the profile and they have to have space. 21 hr 54 min ago
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        • That's why I wrote above "assuming my child fits the profile" 20 hr 57 min ago
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      • - no subject -...(more) 20 hr 58 min ago
        Yeah I know most people get reimbursed. But that doesn't mean they wouldn't also like a hefty donation from a wealthy family. Sounds like a pushed a button!
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        • nnp That is not how it works. Seriously. All they care about is your kid. 11 hr 12 min ago
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          • Exactly. The OP has a chip on her shoulder about people she perceives as wealthy, or famous. 7 hr 35 min ago
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            • Not at all! I would love for my child to go there. But I'm applying to a lot of different schools and the process is exhausting. I don't want to take on another application...(more) 57 min ago
              without first asking if wealth is something the schools prioritize. Because some do and that's just the reality. Acknowledging that reality doesn't mean I have a chip on my shoulder. I'm just a special needs mom trying to conserve my limited time.
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              • I do not know of a single SN school that prioritizes family wealth, least of all over student fit. Everyone is paying and suing so they just want to know you can front the tuition 38 min ago
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                • This exactly. Get the private school mentality out of your head. 19 min ago
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                  • Jeez I was just asking!? Why are you so touchy? 17 min ago
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    • Depends what cluster (grade) you are applying for. If it is a year when they add a class, their are about 11 spots. If no class added, might only be one or two spots. It is a mix...(more) 7 hr 13 min ago
      of kids who would otherwise be in public or private. As others have said, donít get hung up on that. Itís more about fit.
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      • It can be hard to get in based on age of your child and the number of spots assuiming your child fits the profile. Probably Churchill is mich more difficult to gery into...(more) 1 hr 21 min ago
        because it is funded and has limited spots. My child has been at Gaynor for 5 years and there is a range of incomes. I love the school,
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        • Do you love the school enough that you would commute an hour each way to send your child there? 39 min ago
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  9. Special Needs DS is 2e, and it's his first year in public school. First grade. It's going more terribly than I could have imagined...(more) 12-15-2017 6:01pm (15 replies)
    he has already spent 8 full days in the principals office. He is disruptive in the classroom until the teacher has no choice but to send him to the office. He has made no real social connections. He is going for a neuropsychological evaluation in January. I know there are still a lot of unanswered questions, and hopefully we will find some solutions. But ugh, this really sucks in the meantime
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    • yes. but get an eval and some info. it can be a real game changer. 12-15-2017 6:03pm
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    • Where are you? How old. Anderson has a 2e ICT. 12-15-2017 6:06pm
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      • we aren't in nyc. The public schools where we live have a GT program, but it doesn't start until third grade...(more) 12-15-2017 6:12pm
        I'm not sure that it will be an answer to our problems, either. It is mostly just pulling out the kids for an hour a week :-/
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        • np - and a g&t class is not going to solve anxiety and sensory processing issues. to OP -- being 2e, the advantage your ds has is that he can be pulled out of class for more...(more) 12-15-2017 6:20pm
          services without getting lost -- he likely does not need all of the instructional time. push for counseling and OT
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          • Thank you. Our biggest problem right now is that he is intentionally acting out because he says he is bored...(more) 12-15-2017 6:33pm
            That, combined with all the other issues, is just a big mess. His teacher is trying so hard but I can tell that she is just out of ideas and patience
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            • Don't underestimate the extent to which bright kids can blame poor behavior on being bored. Even if the curriculum moved faster he'd still need to wait his turn for the teacher's...(more) 12-15-2017 6:35pm
              attention, transition between activities etc. I also have a 2e dc and the biggest lesson I've learned is that the disability is the biggest part to address. It sounds like he has learned that acting out gets him attention that he wants and gets him out of things that may make him anxious.
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            • np: don't flame me - is homeschooling an option? 12-15-2017 6:35pm
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              • ^or perhaps a Montessori school. He will not be bored there and can move at his own pace, they are used to 2e kids IME 12-15-2017 6:36pm
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    • What is his SN side? ASD or ?? 12-15-2017 6:10pm
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      • Anxiety and SPD 12-15-2017 6:14pm
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        • Pro tip here: Anxiety and SPD are common manifestations of Asperger's. Usually also comes with academic prowess. If he hasn't been assessed with the ADOS yet, ask for it. 23 hr 32 min ago
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    • Is he in a g&t program? signed up for g&t test in january if not? 12-15-2017 6:10pm
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    • How do you know if he is 2e if you've never had a neuropsych eval? 12-15-2017 6:47pm
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      • She can probably tell he's bright/academically ahead and behaviorally challenged without a formal dx. 23 hr 31 min ago
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        • behavioral challenges isn't an actual SN. To be 2e, that's usually a formal diagnosis given by a neuropsych 7 hr 41 min ago
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  10. Special Needs Working memory=zero, that explains everything...(more) 12-15-2017 5:48pm (12 replies)
    My DD just got a new neuropsych and they finally did the IQ testing (she's 7 and has ASD and ADHD). Turns out her working memory is nil, like in the 3rd percentile (97% of other kids her age have better than hers). Has anyone else dealt with this and what did you do to help your kid on this issue? She has to be redirected a LOT any time she has to do something that isn't one of her perseverative interests and so now I understand why this is the case.
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    • Presumably, her IQ is 94, but if you took out the memory part from the mix it would be 100. 12-15-2017 5:48pm
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    • It really cannot be accurately assessed due to her distractability 12-15-2017 5:50pm
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      • This... working memory and attention are very difficult to disentangle. 12-15-2017 5:52pm
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    • the need for redirection & distractability is due to her ASD, not working memory. ASD kids have a lot of internal distraction going on 12-15-2017 5:51pm
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    • Have you ruled out auditory processing disorder. Try sequencing games like bop it and simon. Cogmed and FastForward. Some people find benefits and some none. 12-15-2017 5:57pm
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      • Try a musical instrument if she can tolerate. 12-15-2017 5:58pm
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        • Thanks, great suggestions. We have an audiologist appointment coming up and I strongly suspect APD 12-15-2017 6:01pm
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          • np: fwiw, kids with ASD and ADHD often have the distractability issues and language processing or processing speed issues, but not necessarily APD. It can look similar. 12-15-2017 6:52pm
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      • np: fwiw, our NP told us that Cogmed is garbage. Our SLP isn't a fan of Fast Forward - said she's never seen the gains generalize beyond playing the games 12-15-2017 6:48pm
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    • my neuro just said she trust the hi postive results far more than the low negative ones..too many thing get fuck up those numbers..but you can't fake knowing the answers 12-15-2017 6:28pm
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      • so so true!! 12-15-2017 7:01pm
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        • Yes, think ofyour computer with no working memory--very tough! 1 hr 20 min ago
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  11. Special Needs How can I convince my ds (8th grade) to transfer from his competitive mainstream middle school to a very supportive mainstream school next year? He refuses to consider it, so we...(more) 12-15-2017 5:42pm (35 replies)
    have already missed most deadlines. However, I think there are a few schools that might still consider him (and he gets good grades, so would probably be a good candidate). The problem is that he has adhd, anxiety and a LD. The homework at his current school has become a nightmare. He is up half the night and there is a lot of crying and stress. I donít know what to do.
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    • I ink you're the mom, and you can tell him you're applying, he's taking the Isee and we'll decide in the spring what he will do. 12-15-2017 5:45pm
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      • Am I going to punish him if he wonít take the ISEE? Also, decisions are in Feb or March. Should I force him to change? Serious question. 12-15-2017 5:50pm
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        • Of course. You are the parent here. 12-15-2017 6:12pm
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          • Yes. But he is 13 not 10. If he does not buy into the change, it could be a disaster. 12-15-2017 6:47pm
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        • OR..I just feel like as his parent, you have the right to say, we're going to think about this decision carefully and not make any sudden moves, but as we all know here, this...(more) 22 hr 43 min ago
          school is very hard for you, and there might be other schools...and in order to make a decision about these other schools, we need to apply now and set it in motion now...so you're taking the ISEE and we're touring and interviewing. We'll decide later, but we have to do this now.
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          • ^^also, you're extremely close to the admissions deadline if you're talking abouT NYC schools. of course schools will take applications after the deadline, but you really do need...(more) 22 hr 40 min ago
            to move now and take the January ISEE if you want him to be considered....respectfully, it kind of sounds like you don't want him to move either...do you not? you really don't have so much time left if you want to do this.
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            • No, I really do want him to move. I am just having trouble with getting him to do this. There is no point in sending in the applications if he is going to go to the interviews and...(more) 22 hr 19 min ago
              Not try.
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              • You can't know that. You tell him you expect him to do his best & you hope for the best. 22 hr 6 min ago
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                • Thank you for your advice. I guess that part of me hopes that the situation will just improve. 13 hr ago
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                  • Or..of course yiu do, because it's just so much easier. But you and he have to get it I to your head that it may not, and another school might be better. He had tour tour with...(more) 7 hr 32 min ago
                    you You said you toured. He has to see it also. I know you know that. Mainstream competitive hs in NYC is no joke of he would be better off somewhere more supportive. Please look now, tell him you'll argue abiut it later.
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                    • If only I could just tell him we would argue later. How exactly do I convince him? 4 hr 11 min ago
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                      • Tell him that. You have leverage. He cares what you think & want. 3 hr 58 min ago
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    • Homework tutor 2x a week helped my ds with same issues 12-15-2017 5:45pm
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      • Unfortunately, he will not engage with the tutor well. The anxiety is overwhelming. Often around 10 pm, he calms down and gets to work, but he canít work with the tutor. And the...(more) 12-15-2017 5:48pm
        tutor is good.
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        • THen it's not the right tutor. I had to find someone with a specific personality 12-15-2017 6:01pm
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          • Really? We have tried so many tutors. This one is really, really patient. I donít want to make a change and find that we are just going through the same stuff. 12-15-2017 6:13pm
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    • go for a tour maybe 12-15-2017 5:47pm
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      • I toured one school that looked great. I donít want to take him because I think he will be surly and unpleasant. Ugh. 12-15-2017 5:50pm
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    • its more than just the ISEE which sure you can force him to take. Heís also got to be able to wrote an essay and be a mensch on the interviews....(more) 23 hr 4 min ago
      Heís got to appear like he wants it because if he other kids saying how much they love X schoool ya know? So, I am sure you have already tried this but you need to really get him to understand that he should not have to be crying every night over homework and he should have to be staying up all night to do it. Especially not in 8th grade. And it only gets harder in high school. He needs to know that there are schools that are much more tolerant and understanding of kids that have LDs and will be willing to help him during or after school and he does t have to suffer like this.
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      • Yes, this is our issue exactly. I have explained all of this to him and I think he just doesnít want it to be true. 22 hr 17 min ago
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    • What does therapist say? 22 hr 5 min ago
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      • She sees both sides of the issue. I wish she would just tell me what to do! 13 hr 1 min ago
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        • Is this DS's therapist? 4 hr 29 min ago
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          • Yes. I need my own. Lol. 4 hr 15 min ago
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    • Have you talked to his current school about it? Can they give him any accommodations? Also does the therapist think anti-anxiety meds could help or is it just too much work for...(more) 5 hr 50 min ago
      him?
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      • Anti anxiety meds are a possibility. However, there is something so undettling about medicating a child to keep him in the wrong school! 4 hr 15 min ago
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      • Also, current school is decidedly unsupportive. It almost feels like they have something to prove, they are so unsupportive. 4 hr 13 min ago
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    • I am an SN mom, but also an educator. It will only get harder and his self-esteem will take a hit. It's better to get him out now. I say this as someone who has witnessed too many...(more) 4 hr 31 min ago
      students suffer because parents were in denial about academic fit. And I understand that emotionally it can be hard at the beginning of the change but ultimately they will feel better about themselves.
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      • Op here, I am 4 hr 29 min ago
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        • Not in denial about the academic fit. However, I am not sure that this is as much about academic fit as it is about psychological fit. His lowest grade this term was a B. The...(more) 4 hr 21 min ago
          hours of homework are more about his anxiety and I think he should go to a school that is emotionally supportive. I know there are mainstream schools that would be more supportive over all. Unfortunately, these schools have competitive admissions processes and it is harder than you may realize to find another school!
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          • Meaning, dc still has to take the Isee and go through interviews. If a dc is uncooperative, it doesnít work. 4 hr 16 min ago
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          • Hi, I just wanted to say that I did not mean that you were in denial about the academic fit. Sorry if it sounded that way. For what it's worth, I am talking about students who are...(more) 1 hr 39 min ago
            doing worse than Bs.
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            • Donít worry, I could tell you were trying to be helpful. He is getting A/Bs at terrible emotional cost. He would be much better off somewhere that has a lighter workload or would...(more) 1 hr 11 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Considering sending my 10yo DD to a summer program for dyslexia. It is 8:30-4 day for 5 weeks, $5,500. Academic work in mornings and funner stuff in the afternoons. She doesn't...(more) 12-15-2017 4:12pm (6 replies)
    love school, loves hanging out with her friends at school but not the schoolwork so much. Is it too mean to send her to a 5 week camp that will basically be school?
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    • I am really torn here. I say yes it's bad because she doesn't love school and this could make it worse, but if she is falling behind because of the dyslexia than maybe it can...(more) 12-15-2017 4:14pm
      help. HOWEVER, if she is already getting help then no. Sorry, I am really torn
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      • The alternative, and what we have done in the past, is twice a week, 1 hour with a OG tutor. I sort of would like her to do more and get to know more kids with dyslexia - so she...(more) 12-15-2017 4:16pm
        realizes that others struggle with this too
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        • I wish I could help you out. I see both sides here. 12-15-2017 4:18pm
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          • DH wouldn't be for it because he is usually with her during the summer. But it could be so good for her. 12-15-2017 4:20pm
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    • Summer is the only time my LD dc can really enjoy themselves and think they are NT. Maybe it's time to consider a language-based disability school until remediated? 12-15-2017 5:02pm
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    • Will you be able to do a more fun camp after? I would send her. If she improves her reading. She may like school more. 12-15-2017 5:30pm
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  13. Special Needs Freaking out! I mailed applications to school this week, and I'm afraid all spots might have been taken even though most schools are rolling admissions. It took a while to get...(more) 12-15-2017 12:12pm (13 replies)
    my daughter's final eval, and reports from school.
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    • Enjoy that it's done. 12-15-2017 12:13pm
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      • But now I'm afraid I was totally late. 12-15-2017 12:16pm
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        • Nothing you can do now. 12-15-2017 12:20pm
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          • Great. Looks like I blew my chances for my daughter. 12-15-2017 12:53pm
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            • Not at all. Just mean, donít worry about it. You sent it all in now you just need to wait 12-15-2017 1:35pm
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        • Deep breath. And even if you get shut out, the world won't end. We got shut out of all SN schools plus ASD Nest for my HFA/dysgraphia child when we tried to do that five years...(more) 12-15-2017 4:15pm
          ago. When we didn't get a spot anywhere, supposedly impossible supports began coming out of our public school principal's ears.
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    • It's not late. Many people apply in spring and still get seats. If your dd is a good match someplace she'll get a seat. What kinds of schools did you apply for? ALso, girls often...(more) 12-15-2017 1:01pm
      have advantage since schools want to bring their gender ratio up, so there's that. I know one girl that got in everywhere in May
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      • We applied to Winston, Summit, Lowell, and Aaron. 12-15-2017 1:33pm
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        • Sounds great. I'm sure she'll get into one of those places. 12-15-2017 1:56pm
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    • Its a very normal time to apply. Very. This whole process freaks everyone out. Please be calm. Know that most schools are closed for some or all of the next 3 weeks so...(more) 12-15-2017 3:01pm
      don't look for calls for interviews until after January 8. It will be fine in the end.
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    • If you're applying to an SN school, I've never applied this early. 12-15-2017 3:16pm
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      • I'm guessing your odds are also better at Winston and Aaron because they are unfunded...(more) 12-15-2017 5:46pm
        and people who can't afford to sue every year are going to apply to funded schools, so those schools probably get a lot more applications.
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    • My DDapplied in the spring (some years ago) and was accepted at 2 funded schools including one on your list. Don't worry. 5 hr 45 min ago
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  14. Special Needs If you knew your special ed teenager got high for the first time with a kid from school would you tell that other kid's parents? I had a good talk with my kid about drug use and...(more) 12-15-2017 12:02pm (20 replies)
    i trust him .. he said they were home alone all day until the dad came home and he wasn't very nice to the kid .. my kid didn't give me too many details. I wonder if the kid has a bad relationship w/his parents and me saying more might make things worse for him. Thoughts?
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    • How old are they? 12-15-2017 12:07pm
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      • 16 12-15-2017 12:10pm
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        • It's probably naive to believe that your child was a helpless victim here. If it's pot, then no, I wouldn't tell the other family. 12-15-2017 12:12pm
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          • i don't think he was a helpless victim -- i'm wondering if your kid invited another over and got high in the house when you weren't home - would you want to know? 12-15-2017 12:15pm
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            • Well I would want to know but I would not tell another parent. Especially if I donít know them well 12-15-2017 12:16pm
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    • why does my child's classification have anything to do with this? 12-15-2017 12:11pm
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      • Impaired judgment? 12-15-2017 12:13pm
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        • Considering the number of 16 year olds who smoke pot.... 12-15-2017 12:14pm
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      • it doesn't but it's the special needs board so i am just clarifying why i'm posting here and not the teen board 12-15-2017 12:14pm
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      • Np My DS is on the spectrum and his desire to fit in is an overwhelming desire. I would not trust his judgement here and I would be careful about this other child. 12-15-2017 1:12pm
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        • nnp: but that has nothing to do with whether you tell the other parent 12-15-2017 2:04pm
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    • why does it matter that your kid is SPED? 12-15-2017 12:14pm
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      • it doesn't except that this is the sped board. 12-15-2017 12:14pm
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    • I would not. 12-15-2017 12:14pm
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    • i would because i would want to know if the roles were reversed, sn or not 12-15-2017 12:19pm
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      • I think I agree, although my mom told other parents when they found me drinking and I HATED my parents for doing so. 12-15-2017 12:42pm
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    • I would definitely inform the other parent. I bet you all would not hesitate to tell the other parent if it was vodka. It is two 16 year olds getting high. How about airplane...(more) 12-15-2017 1:08pm
      glue?
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      • I would not. I donít tell other parents in these situations. I ave a sn dc in college and a nt dc in HS. If it were a good friend I would, but not if I donít know the parents...(more) 12-15-2017 1:39pm
        well. If it were someth8ng that was ongoing or a dangerous situation I would bit this goes on all the time. I deal with my kid
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    • I would not tell. Your kid could be known as the one who rats everybody out and it could limit his social life. The other kid may blame yours for the pot, too. I would deal with...(more) 12-15-2017 4:07pm
      my own kid. Different if you knew the other parents well.
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      • Depends on the drug. I had one of ds "friends" grab ds phone and text me that he wanted to fuck me hard. I did not want to get the kid in trouble, so I asked my ds to...(more) 12-15-2017 8:16pm
        stop it. The "friend" thought it was funny and did it again. I screen shot the texts and sent to the school psychologist. Had I gone to the parents it would have blown up in my face.
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  15. Special Needs Three almost four years ago my ds was crying at night because he had no friends and couldnít understand why he was so different. Fast toward to tonight and I am picking him and...(more) 12-15-2017 7:34am (15 replies)
    two friends up early from school to see the last Jedi. Meds and therapy and years of hard work by all of us pays off. I am trying not to cry today.
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    • aw that brought a tear to my eye. Glad things got better 12-15-2017 7:35am
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    • I get all tears, too about the progress my DD has made. I am SO grateful for all of the therapy she got through EI - it made all the difference 12-15-2017 7:35am
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    • And both of you Mom's on here should be proud of yourselves for getting your dc the support they need to become well adjusted adults. Great works Moms! It is HARD 12-15-2017 8:02am
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    • Ah I hope my DS is there one day. What were the meds for? 12-15-2017 8:04am
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      • Adhd but he has anxi th and scowl skills issues (he would be aspergers if that was still a dx 12-15-2017 8:08am
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        • It is a diagnosis - itís autism spectrum. Itís just part of ASD now versus a stand alone aspergers diagnosis. 12-15-2017 9:27am
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        • Just because the docs don't code it that way for the insurance cos that use the DSM manual doesn't mean it isn't still Asperger's. Mine too--five years ago he was really in...(more) 12-15-2017 4:18pm
          crisis mode. Today he has two pals who are dying to come over and compare holiday gift games even though we're going out tonight as a family, and they're busy negotiating an alternate time during the weekend to do it.
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          • np: that is so nice. My DC has no friend :( 12-15-2017 6:52pm
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    • So happy to hear that! 12-15-2017 8:05am
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    • That's a great story. I am so happy for you!!! 12-15-2017 8:20am
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    • how old is he now? 12-15-2017 8:38am
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    • How old? 12-15-2017 9:27am
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    • Aw, you made me tear up. Enjoy! 12-15-2017 12:25pm
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      • love this op! 23 hr 22 min ago
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  16. Special Needs My 14 yo doesn't like sleeping away from home. He's said many times that he would never do a sleep away camp. I saw one thst is a single week and is interest-focused. We live...(more) 12-14-2017 7:11pm (22 replies)
    out of state so the day camp option won't work. It's for 11-17 yo budding musicians. He is showing an interest. How hard to I push?
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    • Pretty hard. Can you find a friend to go with him? 12-14-2017 7:13pm
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      • Op- no one that ai can tjink of who (1) shares the interest or (2) woukd want to fork over a ton of cash for a week 12-14-2017 7:14pm
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    • you should go with him 12-14-2017 7:14pm
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      • Op- it isn't a camp for parents... what do you mean 12-14-2017 7:14pm
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        • just aks, if you can have a bunk bed 12-14-2017 7:15pm
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          • Np. Are you kidding? 12-14-2017 7:15pm
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            • maybe they can accomodate 12-14-2017 7:16pm
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              • With the 17 yo kids?? 12-14-2017 7:16pm
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                • get a separate room and bunk with him 12-14-2017 7:17pm
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                  • Or just prepare him for the experience and help him to build capacity so he sees this as a great opportunity. 12-14-2017 7:20pm
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                    • build capacity. WTF are you talking about? 12-14-2017 7:20pm
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                      • Oh get lost. Google if this is a new term to you. 12-14-2017 7:21pm
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                        • mumbo jumbo 12-14-2017 7:21pm
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    • maybe stay in a hotel with him near the camp 12-14-2017 7:14pm
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      • Op- that would more than double the cost. I reall would rather not but it is a possibility maybe. 12-14-2017 7:15pm
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    • Which camp? I have a 16 yr old aspie who would be interested 12-14-2017 7:42pm
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      • Op-- see inside...(more) 12-14-2017 7:43pm
        Www.campjam.com
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        • Ah yes - I remember hearing about it years ago ad wanted to see him but he was at another camp and then they discontinued...(more) 12-14-2017 7:45pm
          The DJ part he was most interested in ...
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    • np: in my opinion, don't push hard. I didn't want to go to sleep away camp as a child and my parents did not push me. I don't think it is for everyone. On the other hand, if dc...(more) 12-14-2017 9:49pm
      will explain to you why he does not want to go, perhaps when you discuss the reasons, one of you will change your mind. I think a discussion is worthwhile, but in the end if he doesn't want to go, leave it be.
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    • Why would you push this? He has made it very clear he would not enjoy it. 12-14-2017 11:23pm
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    • GL. I just persuaded mine to try sleepaway for the first time this coming summer, he's doing two weeks of science camp (his pet interest). Rising 8th grader when he goes. 12-15-2017 4:20pm
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  17. Special Needs DS is in SN funded private and we are looking at HS right now. Honestly,he needs support (ADD, slow processing) but he is otherwise a NT kid. Would it be crazy to move to...(more) 12-14-2017 5:27pm (14 replies)
    Bronxville? How is the HS there?Do they support kids with this profile?It says that the Student/teacher ratio is 14:1, but I know that schools are competitive there. I notice some Bronxville homes are Tuckahoe schools. Are these perhaps better for a HS kid that needs extra help.
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    • I'm not faniliar with bronxville, but I live in an excellent district outside Philadelphia and my ds did better in the public school with all the support than he had in the...(more) 12-14-2017 5:30pm
      private middle. both good schools but public school is on top of add, etc.
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      • Thats great! Unfortunately,need to stay in NYC suburbs for work,etc. 12-14-2017 5:31pm
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      • It would depend what kind of kid he is. If he is sporty and very social, it might not be crazy. The only thing is that these wealthy towns tend to have pretty competitive kids, so...(more) 12-14-2017 5:32pm
        The norm group is challenging.
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        • That is def something to think about, thanks. 12-14-2017 5:35pm
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    • I don't know but look into it carefully if you are considering. I live in a top Westchester district but it doesn't have all the resources some areas do for SN. Bronxville most...(more) 12-14-2017 5:35pm
      likely will not either and the parents go private
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      • Very true says a parent who went private from Bronxville for LD child while my kids with no LDs are doing well. 12-14-2017 11:51pm
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    • usually ADHD with some learning but socially typical almost always good public in burbs 12-14-2017 5:37pm
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    • Not sure if it's still the case, but several years ago, the State of PA had the best special needs services. Someone I know moved there specifically due to her son's autism. 12-14-2017 5:43pm
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    • Do not move to Bronxville! I live here and I have a dyslexic child. They have no help 12-14-2017 6:24pm
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      • Beyond elementary school except a period of resource room . Your kid will feel like a loser and if he really needs support they will ship him off to another district....(more) 12-14-2017 6:31pm
        Larger districts have real programs in place, like Mamaroneck and Pelham. Plus you pay somewhat less for housing and taxes. Bronxville is great for my other child who is a great student but not for my LD student.
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      • Thank you for letting me know. Im so sorry! 12-15-2017 1:13am
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        • Look at Pelham and Mamaroneck (there may be others I just don't know them). Good commute, nice towns and have more available for SN kids. I know Pelham better - your student can...(more) 12-15-2017 10:16am
          be in regular class for one subject and a less rigorous class for another, very mixed with the general population but much more help than a school like Bronxville.
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    • np: remember what a "top" Westchester district means: we get our kids into the ivies. It does not mean we cater to the developmentally delayed. So beware. 12-14-2017 9:51pm
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      • Very true. And with a small school with very few LD or ASD kids does not have the services of a larger school district or offer ICT classes or anything like that. But there are...(more) 12-14-2017 11:50pm
        suburban districts with good services for kids with various SN.
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  18. Special Needs HS sophomore has double time on state tests. For the PSAT his means almost 8 hours of testing. He just got his score, a 970. He says towards the end he was so tired he...(more) 12-14-2017 5:05pm (29 replies)
    wasnít even trying any more. Heíd prefer time and a half. But if we ask for that, we canít go back to double time. I think that would be fine too, but we are really talking a few more tests so Iím not sure what to do. WWYD?
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    • Did he finish well before the time was up for each section? Then definitely go to time and a half. We chose time and a half because double time is just too long. 12-14-2017 5:06pm
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      • Iíll ask and hope heís being honest. He did pretty well on the English, but he is a slow reader and Iíd hate to jeopardize his good score. 12-14-2017 5:10pm
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    • Can they split it up into two days? 12-14-2017 5:07pm
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      • No. But his counselor told me if he is the only one taking double time the moderator will probably let him move on from each test when he is done, but she canít guarantee it. And...(more) 12-14-2017 5:09pm
        Itís not what happened for the PSAT
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        • My dd was allowed to leave the SATs when done, and didnt need to wait out the clock. The Regents were a problem, when there were 2 per day. 12-14-2017 5:13pm
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        • Maybe retry and if it imdoesnt go well, you could sign him up to take it somewhere where they only offer 1.5 time? 12-14-2017 5:15pm
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    • Does he go to public school or private? Iím just wondering if any private schools give double time. 12-14-2017 5:08pm
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      • Catholic. And itís not up to the school for the PSAT. Itís up to the College Board. 12-14-2017 5:09pm
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        • Oh, I know, but the College Bosrd would be unlikely to allow t if the school doesnít. 12-14-2017 5:14pm
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          • Untrue, one thing has nothing to do with the other 12-15-2017 6:26am
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            • Actually, I have a friend whose ds was denied extra time because he did not have it as a formal accommodation at school. It may not always be the case, but the college board does...(more) 12-15-2017 8:42am
              ask the School to complete a form detailing accommodations.
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    • usually thet split up double time 12-14-2017 5:10pm
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      • Really? Maybe all ask about that 12-14-2017 5:10pm
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        • yes, usually tim and a half is one sitting but double time is split. at least for sat and act 12-14-2017 5:19pm
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    • You need to apply for multiple day testing!!! It's not easy to get but possible. My ds has it for College Board (SAT and AP exams) and for ACT. There is no way he could sit for...(more) 12-14-2017 5:11pm
      longer than 90 minutes to take a test. He also has breaks as needed.
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      • ^it's actually called Limited Time testing. When I asked, our SSD coordinator said not possible for AP, I read College Board manual for proctors and found the pertinent section...(more) 12-14-2017 5:13pm
        and did everything I had to to get it. He's had double time since 7th grade.
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        • AP tests are much shorter than SATs and ACTs, though. My DD had double time for SATs split over 2 days. 12-14-2017 11:55pm
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          • Not really, AP Lang is 3.5 hours...AP Bio is 3 hours. Bc AP Lang was 3.5 my ds automatically got multiple day testing bc he had it for SAT. Had to fight for AP Bio to be...(more) 12-15-2017 6:36am
            multiple days bc it was ONLY 3 hours. I was able to secure this for my ds. Also, there aren't many kids with double time who also take AP classes. My ds is the only one in his school with double time in these classes. There are others who get time and a half.
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            • I didn't realize the AP exams were that long. Sorry. 12-15-2017 4:08pm
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    • Time and a half was plenty of time for my solid C student, and often more than enough. It's a shame it has to e across the board. She only needed it for math and language, not...(more) 12-14-2017 5:12pm
      english or science. And that waiting around once finished was torment.
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      • If you have multiple day testing, you only do one section each day so no waiting around. 12-14-2017 5:14pm
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        • OP interesting! This seems like the perfect solution! Iím going to do some research 12-14-2017 5:15pm
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          • Don't take no for an answer; districts don't like it bc they have to pay proctor for time so insist. 12-14-2017 5:17pm
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            • Or: i didnt even know about that. Well, it's over anyway. Just logged in to say 1.5 time was ok, double time would have driven her nuts 12-14-2017 5:23pm
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              • My DD had the double time spread over 2 days and did better on time and a half on one day. I think she focused more. 12-14-2017 11:57pm
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    • Technically, you are not allowed to leave early or move on from a section before the time is up. The best thing to do is apply for multiple day testing as others have suggested. 12-14-2017 9:18pm
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    • So are they required to sit there for each sub test? My dd had time and half for ACT and it was self paced. We hired a tutor teach herself how to work through the sections bc self...(more) 12-15-2017 7:38am
      Paced is kind of a nightmare for a kid with ADHD and no executive function skills.
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      • SAT and ACT are different though if you have 100%, you can have multiple-day testing. In the case of ACT, you can spread it out over four days in the course of three weeks. 23 hr 3 min ago
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    • Not sure if itís changed but my ds had double time on the sat and did it over 2 days. He is a sophomore in college so not so long ago but before they changed the test. Find out....(more) 12-15-2017 12:25pm
      FWIW my Dc needed the double time for the sat but has been on the deans last all freshmen year in college and never once used extended time for a test
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  19. Special Needs If your child has LD and attends a mainstream private school, how helpful is the school with accommodations? Dc is very bright and compensates well, but the school is unwilling to...(more) 12-14-2017 2:09pm (24 replies)
    consider any accommodation other than 50% extra time. Is this typical?
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    • Ours got dc a Learning Ally account which has been helpful. What other accommodations are you hoping for? 12-14-2017 2:10pm
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      • np: what's that? 12-14-2017 2:12pm
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        • Audiobooks through an app/Chrome extension. 12-14-2017 2:12pm
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      • Technology 12-14-2017 2:13pm
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      • Manhattan or Brooklyn? 12-14-2017 2:14pm
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    • How old is your DC 12-14-2017 2:11pm
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      • middle school 12-14-2017 2:12pm
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    • Our private middle school has been extremely helpful, but they are known for being LD friendly. 12-14-2017 2:13pm
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      • mine too. Perhaps you need to switch schools 12-14-2017 2:15pm
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    • Mine gets pull outs for reading 2x week, and we pay for speech and extra tutoring during the school day. They are fine with modified homework, extra time, and have a generally...(more) 12-14-2017 2:21pm
      good attitude. ADHD and dyslexia.
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      • Wow, would you mind sharing which school? I think we have to change. 12-14-2017 2:50pm
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        • I'm not in NYC, sorry 12-15-2017 8:06am
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    • Ours has been extremely accommodating. There are a lot of kids who get extra time and other accommodations. It is a school that has become more competitive and somewhat less...(more) 12-14-2017 2:33pm
      according of LD students over time, but if you're there, they are. Wry accommodating. (It has become very in demand in recent years and the kids who apply are farther from the LD kids who used to apply and be accepted more frequently. My ds both applied for middle, not high, and is a sibling)
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      • Would you be willing to say which school? 12-14-2017 2:52pm
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        • Of course. Dwight-Englewood. 12-15-2017 6:26am
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          • Thank you. It sounds wonderful. 12-15-2017 8:42am
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    • Private schools are not required to provide the same kind of accommodations. My DD is very bright and her school basically said that all she can get is extended time and that is...(more) 12-14-2017 9:19pm
      all she has.
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      • If private takes US DOE funds they are required to follow accommodations. Religious schools are exempt. 12-15-2017 12:23am
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        • Privates that take DOE funds are going to have the approach that OP is wondering about. 12-15-2017 6:47am
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          • Privates must follow ADA, except religious institutions. 12-15-2017 11:07am
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    • There are ms privates that are much more accomodating to dc with LD. We are looking at high schools and while its not an issue for my current 8th grader, I have taken note for...(more) 12-15-2017 6:35am
      younger dc. Some schools have learning resource centers that are staffed full time with teachers to help students, others have learning specialists and specific programs that cost more but provide extra help. The SN board can suggest some but often dc from younger dc's sn school will mainstream into these programs.
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      • Some of the schools that parents with dc with LD are looking at that are mainstream include LREI, Trevor Day, BWL, Dwight, York Prep. There are dc with LD at all the ms private...(more) 12-15-2017 6:45am
        but there can be a big difference in how those are handled and it might be best to move dc to a setting that has an approach that addresses the needs of a wider range of students.
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  20. Special Needs After you apply to a private/NPS, how long does it take before they request an interview? 12-14-2017 2:09pm (3 replies)
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    • varies with the school. Sometimes, they don't contact you at all for an interview, if they don't have a spot or don't think your child is a fit. It is best to ask that when you...(more) 12-14-2017 9:53pm
      make your initial call to them for the application, or when you go on a tour.
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    • We applied in early elementary for first grade and were called for interview/visit almost immediately and then dc received offers for a spot right away. We had to decide to...(more) 12-15-2017 6:56am
      accept or not so they could move on to filling the class appropriately with the profile they were looking for. It varies what they are looking for in terms of gender, age, grade and learning issues.
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      • What was early? 12-15-2017 12:10pm
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  21. Special Needs Ds takes vyvanse on school days, I usually sprinkle in a spoonful of applesauce, he complains about the taste, today complained about throat burning. I don't think this is usually...(more) 12-14-2017 1:52pm (7 replies)
    a big problem (he was just in a bad mood.) But maybe need to change up the routine - how do your kids take it. (He is 11.)
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    • in yogurt or pudding 12-14-2017 1:52pm
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    • What is it? 12-14-2017 1:53pm
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      • adhd medication 12-14-2017 1:56pm
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    • By 11 they can learn to take a pill. 12-14-2017 1:56pm
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      • he has taken other pills, but i dont want to have conflict over this. he questions his need for it lately, so no reason to make it ha also, would it take longer to have an effect?...(more) 12-14-2017 1:58pm
        rder.
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        • Np. If he is questioning his need for it, it's not about swallowing the pill. Can you talk to him about why he is resistant? Or have psych do it? 12-14-2017 2:23pm
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          • I agree that this is the issue. 12-14-2017 9:20pm
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  23. Special Needs SN parents-what do you give bus driver and matron for Christmas? Older kid who needs no help? Is $25 each ok - or should I do more? TIA 12-14-2017 9:04am (3 replies)
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    • More than $25 is overkill. I usually do $10 gcs. 12-14-2017 10:08am
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    • It really depends. Our ds who takes a minivan and and we usually give $25 for Christmas. We may give more this year because ds has had a tough time with the noise and she really...(more) 12-14-2017 10:13am
      tries to help keep the noise down and is kind to him. The bus driver has been great too.
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    • I did $25 each. 12-14-2017 12:53pm
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  24. Special Needs 17 yr old dd has been medicated for ADHD since 5th grade. She is a completely different person on her meds than off. Unfortunately, she still has not developed a routine for...(more) 12-14-2017 8:57am (28 replies)
    taking her meds. I either manage her medication for her or she skips and barely functions and is not one of those kids who decides that sheís happier on her meds than off. I predict she will flunk out of college next year.
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    • Mine did. 12-14-2017 8:58am
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      • OP: flunked out? then what? Iím trying to step back because sheís got to figure it out at some point. 12-14-2017 9:00am
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        • She had stupid jobs for a while (I told her she couldn't come home without working) and more recently found something she loves. She's back in school and doing great, but it took...(more) 12-14-2017 9:05am
          5 years to get to this point.
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          • Is she still living with you? How old? 12-14-2017 9:05am
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            • Yes, but in school full time. 22. 12-14-2017 9:06am
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              • ^^And working 1-2 shifts a week. 12-14-2017 9:07am
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              • Op: How is your relationship? Dd is still so contentious with me. Vacillates between telling me to leave her alone and then blaming me when things go wrong. The idea of her still...(more) 12-14-2017 9:08am
                living in this house in six years is unappealing with her current attitude (and sheís been this way since age 11.)
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                • Now it's fine but it was seriously rocky for a long time. The fact is that your kid will not be able to support herself if she flunks out, so either she'll live home or you'll...(more) 12-14-2017 9:09am
                  pay for her.
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                  • This is my great fear for DS. He cares not one jot about his grades and everything to maintain and enhance his social life. 12-14-2017 3:46pm
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          • What did she find that she loves? 12-14-2017 3:47pm
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    • how often does she take it? 12-14-2017 9:01am
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      • Just in the morning 12-14-2017 9:01am
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        • call her every morning, stay on the phone while she takes her meds. 12-14-2017 9:05am
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          • OP: I donít think that is healthy nor sustainable. 12-14-2017 9:06am
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            • it is healthy if you have a SN child in 1st year of college who needs this support. 12-14-2017 9:11am
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              • You call when you get to the office. Just before you start your work day. It's no big deal. It's like a wake up call the front desk every morning. 12-14-2017 9:14am
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                • OP: I am an elementary school teacher (home with sick younger kid today.) I donít have the luxury of being on the phone in the middle of math class. 12-14-2017 9:15am
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                  • You can text her and ask her to send a photo of her pill box every morning. To prove she remembered to take her medicine. That takes 5 seconds before you start on your math...(more) 12-14-2017 9:16am
                    lesson.
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                    • Np: this reads like a handbook on how to be a helicopter mom. You donít seem to realize that the goal with kids with special needs is to teach them to be independent. Not teach...(more) 12-14-2017 9:22am
                      them to still need their moms in college.
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                      • Np: totally disagree. Plenty of typical kids still need guidance in college let alone kids who have executive functioning issues. Until her add can do it on her own she needs to...(more) 12-14-2017 10:00am
                        gives her either with a reminder call or get her daughter to use an app to remind herself
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        • At least that makes it easier. Does she at least understand the importance of it. Make it clear that she needs to find a way that works for her. Can she rubber band the pill...(more) 12-14-2017 9:07am
          bottle to her toothbrush before she goes to bed. You might have to do it for her at first. They she sees it in the morning when she brushes her teeth. You have to tie it to something she reliably does every morning, which is why keeping it in the kitchen with the idea she'll take it every morning doesn't work.
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          • OP: Unfortunately, she does not reliably do ANYTHING. Including brushing her teeth. She doesnít even use the toilet first thing like most people do. 12-14-2017 9:09am
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            • You need to start getting her to do this now or she cannot go to college next year. Use an app on her phone 12-14-2017 10:01am
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    • Maybe she should defer admission for a year 12-14-2017 9:14am
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    • I don't know what to tell you except this will be my ds. 12-14-2017 9:17am
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    • Does she have a backpack she always carries? I put a few pills in there in case my DD forgets. 12-14-2017 12:21pm
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    • Remember in college she will be able to go back to her dorm if she forgets her pills first thing. Get her Apple watch (not the new one -i has radiation) and set up alert to take...(more) 12-14-2017 12:23pm
      meds every morning.
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    • Every kid is different. When my DH thought out 9-year old should remember to take her meds on her own every morning (I work at a school so I leave early), her psychiatrist made it...(more) 12-14-2017 9:23pm
      clear to him that she has ADHD and we may need to remind her even when she is in college. Of course, we want her to do it on her own but she has executive functioning issues.
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  25. Special Needs I predict J Crew does not last another 18 months. 12-13-2017 8:09pm (27 replies)
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    • Why? 12-13-2017 8:09pm
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      • I think they went into restructuring. They are closing a lot of stores. They got a new logo which they are only using in part. They are slashing prices and their stores look...(more) 12-13-2017 8:10pm
        like clearance centers.
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      • It is over price shit and has been for years but they refused to listen to their customer. No one is going to buy their crap. 12-13-2017 8:11pm
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    • They deserve it. They ruined their own brand. Fucking idiots. 12-13-2017 8:10pm
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      • How 12-13-2017 8:10pm
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        • overpriced crappy quality 12-13-2017 8:12pm
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        • They started out as a preppy brand and then tried to be preppy with a trendy twist, it never worked. They should have stuck with what they started out as and now they are paying...(more) 12-13-2017 8:12pm
          the price.
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          • I donít think the preppy/trendy is what killed them. Drastically reducing quality while hiking up prices did it for me. 12-13-2017 8:19pm
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        • I barely shop but it seems like their prices are WAY up in recent years with little to no corresponding increases in quality 12-13-2017 8:13pm
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      • Right? Imwold. 15-20 years ago I loved it. The stuff was a little pricy for me but lasted forever. The quality has gone way down but the prices stayed the same. 12-13-2017 8:12pm
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        • yup it is all I wear for years, starting in HS then around 2007 or so it started to go downhill 12-13-2017 8:13pm
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    • You may be right. 12-13-2017 8:10pm
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    • They ruined their own brand like another poster said but there are already so few places to get work basics. J. Crew doesn't have that many to begin with, but at least it's better...(more) 12-13-2017 8:11pm
      than a lot of places
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      • Well ita but it's still overpriced even for basics which is what pisses me off 12-13-2017 8:13pm
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    • I saw Jenna Lyons Soho apartment; i think all their money went into that 12-13-2017 8:13pm
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      • I worked in the same building and I would see her around..she has a presense 12-13-2017 8:15pm
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    • the last few things i've bought there have been more awful than usual (poor fit, poor quality) 12-13-2017 8:15pm
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    • I have a 30 year old Jcrew sweater. Looks semi new. Since Lyons there quality went into the toilet. Bu Bye. 12-13-2017 8:15pm
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      • THIS, she ruined it 12-13-2017 8:16pm
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        • Yes . Hilariously, my teens wear my old school JCrew sweaters in a pretty stylish way. Fuck you Jenna Lyons. 12-13-2017 8:17pm
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      • omg this. i bought one of their "cashmere" sweaters two years ago and it pilled almost immediately. older ones still look great 12-13-2017 8:17pm
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    • Jenna Lyons was more concerned with her celebrity than her job, which was to design clothes. She made it about her "style" (which was ugly) rather than following J. Crew's style 12-13-2017 8:17pm
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      • Oh come on.. sequined sweatpants and pilling $$ cashmere sweaters? 12-13-2017 8:18pm
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        • Yes, that's what I mean. She brought nothing to the brand. 12-13-2017 8:19pm
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    • I don't think they will go under. They did 430m last quarter. I do, however, think they will close brick and mortar stores and focus on e-commerce. 12-13-2017 8:19pm
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      • and the outlets 12-13-2017 8:27pm
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    • The clothes are horrible. They've been drunk fat sorority girl for awhile, but now it's just awful. 12-14-2017 12:53pm
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