Special Needs
- Special Needs What kind of therapist can help teen with rigidity? Will post on toddler too.
- Psychologist, but our therapists didn't really help with this. Medication helped.
- Special Needs I always understood that FAPE meant that a school district had to offer an appropriate placement somewhere accessible in the district. A lot of people in my parenting groups...(more)
- you're correct. it's not possible for every program to do that. This is why there are different programs!
- There’s a group pushing for ICT AP classes at schools specially designed for advanced students. They already don’t have enough sections of AP to meet deja d at a lot of schools...(more)
- As the parent of a kid who would love to take ap calc but was not allowed because he needs a slower pace it sucks there are not higher level math classes at his school.
- np: not to be dense, but how would AP Calc be offered at a slower pace? Over 2 years?
- AP courses are designed to cover a semester of college level material. They do not work at a slower pace. That’s why if a student is not ready for fast-paced class it isn’t...(more)
- I think parents should be able to negotiate taking such courses outside of the school or online during the period of the lower level course
- ^^ we can do this in our school system regardless of an IEP
- np: not to be dense, but how would AP Calc be offered at a slower pace? Over 2 years?
- As the parent of a kid who would love to take ap calc but was not allowed because he needs a slower pace it sucks there are not higher level math classes at his school.
- There’s a group pushing for ICT AP classes at schools specially designed for advanced students. They already don’t have enough sections of AP to meet deja d at a lot of schools...(more)
- This is not required by law, no
- you're correct. it's not possible for every program to do that. This is why there are different programs!
- Special Needs NYC parents: Has anyone gone from a funded special needs school to a public 12:1:1 self contained classroom in a community school?...(more)
- I haven't but have you applied to Nest? How old is you dc? I have a child in Nest and mild ASD/ADHD/axiety with sensory and mild behaviors (not aggressive) describes most of the...(more)
- 12:1:1s are usually not functionally grouped. Usually less academically challenging. Can have 3 grades within the classroom, i.e. 6th-8th.
- What grade? My son’s 12:1 has had kids like this, most advance to ICT by middle school.
- I went from a special needs school to a mainstream public school (but we left NYC for the public).
- Special Needs Two weeks into the school year, and my son's special education teacher says he's having trouble keeping up. I am so sad. He has so much trouble learning. I don't know what else to...(more)
- Have you tried a private school specifically for children with learning challenges like him? You can often get the school district to pay for a portion of the cost.
- They wouldn't pay without a huge legal battle. Plus ds would be sad to leave his friends, not that he has many.
- sounds like it's worth the battle and he will make new friends
- They wouldn't pay without a huge legal battle. Plus ds would be sad to leave his friends, not that he has many.
- 4th? Do the work with him.
- Where do you live?
- How old is he? How far behind is he? Is he struggling to follow new instruction? Old?
- ^Sorry - old material that he didn't learn before?
- Have you tried a private school specifically for children with learning challenges like him? You can often get the school district to pay for a portion of the cost.
- Special Needs Anyone have a Recommendation for a therapist who is good for teen/college student in Manhattan. Lower Manhattan preferred but anywhere would be ok. Thanks
- If a college student IME the best option is to start via the school's own counseling center b/c it is close and convenient.
- Special Needs Does anyone have any book recommendations or tips fo managing anxiety as a parent? Dc has some motor skill issues and has had some bad accidents lately, and I feel intense,...(more)
- wellbutrin for me!
- Special Needs Can a student get a p-4 for SETSS if they attend a NYC Charter School?
- Special Needs 11 yo recently dx with ADHD and working on getting first 504. How fluid are these? His dr checked off box for extended test time/different location but his teachers last year and...(more)
- You can say "as needed"
- Thanks- totally new to this
- Yup. Get it now. My ds rarely uses it but now he's set with extra time for SATs/ACTs.
- You can say "as needed"
- Special Needs Are there certain schools (middle/high school) in the NYC area that specialize in very high IQ and behavioral issues (ODD, plus ASD related)?
- Yes, for twice exceptional kids. Lang is one.
- Do they take ODD kids?
- Not really, which is why we ended up leaving NYC. Super smart kid with behavioral issues. ASD.
- Yes, for twice exceptional kids. Lang is one.
- Special Needs Computer School on W. 77th St--is it OK for special needs kids?...(more)
- Special Needs Anyone have suggestions for a gap year or PG program for a ds with learning and EF challenges who isn'tready for college. Want something on the academic side so he isn't fully out...(more)
- is the plan to send him to college after the gap year? I've heard good things about Dynamy in Worcester MA. There's also SOAR and CIP.
- ^^ and the Bridge program at Middlebridge in RI
- thanks! yes applying to college now but plan to defer
- Israel has lots of gap year program. R u Jewish?
- yes, Jewish. Do you know of any programs that would be a little more supportive and academic?
- Living City / City Lab in NYC, know kids who did this who were not ready for college and had a great experience:...(more)
- Thanks! yes applying to college now but plan to defer
- The kids I know who did it were in same boat - had the college lined up but deferred. It's a small program and. Actually my dc did a high school ec with them. I think they're...(more)
- Thanks! yes applying to college now but plan to defer
- Honestly I'd do a job and a community college class -- that is most likely to prepare him for balancing college demands.
- Mitchell College in CT has a one year program for kids who are not quite ready for college yet.
- Winston Transitions
- is the plan to send him to college after the gap year? I've heard good things about Dynamy in Worcester MA. There's also SOAR and CIP.
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- Special Needs If your dc has add/adhd (amd/or you do) how do you explain it to them/other people/in general? Do you call it an illness? A disorder? Something else?
- No. I tell him we’re all wired differently, the way he’s wired means he learns differently. Focusing is challenging for him but school helps him with the toolbox he needs to help...(more)
- Most people know what it is -- it doesn't require explaining
- It does require explaining to a kid who has it, obviously.
- Both my kids have this diagnosis and I know it is real, but I have high expectations for of them and don’t let them use it as an excuse or crutch. Sometimes they mention it to...(more)
- ^^also I very much see it as spectrum of learning/attention that isn’t abnormal just not in the middle. I don’t think of it as them having a disorder.
- Sorry all but truly what do you call it? I know most people know what it is (but not really deeply right?!) but what word would you use? Illness or disorder? When someone calls it...(more)
- No one calls it an illness. Wtf
- Look online it says it’s an I’ll Esa that it is both an illness and a disorder.
- I have never heard it referred to as an illness. I don’t think that’s how people generally refer to it. I have adhd and so does one of my dc who is now 23
- Or: I have never heard it called an illness. Many people call it a disorder and use it as an excuse.
- An excuse for what?
- Not paying attention, making mistakes, being flighty.
- Well yes this can be symptoms of the disorder and they can’t help it
- I don’t think it is a disorder. In this regard, it is just part of your personality. Just say this is how I am.
- That’s just ignorance. It’s like saying your depression is part of your personality
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- ^^sorry didn’t mean to delete. Meant to add the reason you need these things to be disorders and not personality is because you think people can control their personalities and...(more)
- Certain personalities tend more toward depression.
- Such ignorance. Depression is not a personality trait and neither is adhd
- Then what is it?
- It is a result of having certain personality traits coupled with being in certain circumstances.
- That’s not true either.
- Then what is?
- What?! People are born with it. Qnd yes depending on what you have to help you different people will have a different life. But that’s true whether you have it or not!!
- So if you learn typically (which is a fairly arbitrary determination based on our current non-typical for the course of human history society) do you “have” something else?
- No and that’s why I don’t think it’s an illness. But there are absolutely traits in the human condition that some people display. So they name it and treat it with meds. I don’...(more)
- So if you learn typically (which is a fairly arbitrary determination based on our current non-typical for the course of human history society) do you “have” something else?
- That’s not true either.
- Such ignorance. Depression is not a personality trait and neither is adhd
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- That’s just ignorance. It’s like saying your depression is part of your personality
- I don’t think it is a disorder. In this regard, it is just part of your personality. Just say this is how I am.
- Well yes this can be symptoms of the disorder and they can’t help it
- Not paying attention, making mistakes, being flighty.
- An excuse for what?
- Or: I have never heard it called an illness. Many people call it a disorder and use it as an excuse.
- Or: I call it a diagnosis. The label imo is only relevant in how they learn/study and figure out accommodations they can implement themselves.
- A diagnosis of what? Seriously I’m curious. Because I have a diagnosis of
- np 'of ADHD'.
- A diagnosis of what? Seriously I’m curious. Because I have a diagnosis of
- I have never heard it referred to as an illness. I don’t think that’s how people generally refer to it. I have adhd and so does one of my dc who is now 23
- Look online it says it’s an I’ll Esa that it is both an illness and a disorder.
- No one calls it an illness. Wtf
- It’s a learning difference. That’s all. People know
- But it’s not for many people! They can learn fine. They have difficulty with other tasks. Then some people have an extremely hard time with generic teaching methods but learn...(more)
- Special Needs I give up! I have 3 kids with mild SN and a full time job and it’s too much. I can’t do anything right anymore!
- I only had 2 w sns and i felt like I just couldnt do it anymore
- I am sorry--I have 2 kids with issues and it can be SO hard. GL and hugs. Can you cut back at work?
- I can’t right now. Dh took a big pay cut due to the pandemic. Hopefully next year he will earn more and I can cut back.
- I hope they are understanding, then. It's EXHAUSTING and can feel thankless
- My work is very nice but I have to be in person most of the time, so there’s nothing to be done about that.
- I hope they are understanding, then. It's EXHAUSTING and can feel thankless
- I can’t right now. Dh took a big pay cut due to the pandemic. Hopefully next year he will earn more and I can cut back.
- prozac zoloft trintellix
- I’m already on one of these ):
- ok good!
- I’m already on one of these ):
- That’s a lot to handle
- does your dh pitch in?
- Yes but not with the mental load or the anguished phone calls from the kids….
- Try to delegate whatever you can, and let the house be dirty if need be.
- What kind of mild SN? I feel you -- I have one aspie and one with mild global delays and it's absolutely exhausting
- I can relate. I'm sorry. It's very hard.
- Special Needs Does your HS dc attend the IEP meetings? Wondering if 9th gr ds should go…. He just recently got an IEP and was/is a bit combative about it
- Not usually and i really had to fight for that. For one thing, we had to discuss her issues in blunt terms that she would have found excruciating, in front of a panel....(more)
- Yes. That’s what I’m worried about. Tip Tsing around him which is not good. Thank your for your feedback.
- Tip toeing *
- YW. I said “fight” because that was really necessary. The obtuseness of staff not understanding why her presence would be counterproductive was so discouraging - but I’d had a lot...(more)
- Yes. That’s what I’m worried about. Tip Tsing around him which is not good. Thank your for your feedback.
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- OR above - exactly! Let the kid come in at the end, when theyre itching to conclude the meeting anyway.!
- Not usually and i really had to fight for that. For one thing, we had to discuss her issues in blunt terms that she would have found excruciating, in front of a panel....(more)
- Special Needs 15 ds is newly into weed, I found some in backpack and confiscated. He is...(more)
- He needs to ditch the friend, asap. These types always hang out with each other.
- You're doing all the right stuff. I know this must be so hard. Could you get him to therapy?
- he has been in and out over the years but is refusing now. He's in a private school, probably not a good fit and this kid is also. Will be kicked out if found with weed and I...(more)
- Do you have any good schools specifically for ADHD/LD kids near you?
- not that we can afford without going through city process. I realize this is probably the logical next step, he refuses to give up on current school, says he will turn it around,...(more)
- Do you have any good schools specifically for ADHD/LD kids near you?
- he has been in and out over the years but is refusing now. He's in a private school, probably not a good fit and this kid is also. Will be kicked out if found with weed and I...(more)
- what kind of school does he attend? Can they be helpful
- Catholic and no, one whiff of this and he's suspended or out. Up until now, structure has been helpful.
- It's early enough in the year I'd switch schools
- Newsflash: teenagers smoke weed in all sorts of schools across all social economic backgrounds.
- I know this, but a bad influence kid about to beat you up is to be avoided.
- give him the grinder and tell him to give it back to the kid - -but that if you see it again, it goes in the trash
- I didn't want to give it to him because if it ends up at school he's out. but if he wants the kid to come pick it up in the evening, that would be ok.
- give him the grinder and tell him to give it back to the kid - -but that if you see it again, it goes in the trash
- I know this, but a bad influence kid about to beat you up is to be avoided.
- This is very reactive and not appropriate
- Newsflash: teenagers smoke weed in all sorts of schools across all social economic backgrounds.
- here's the thing -- if you drug test him EVERY week, you are going to have a very adversarial relationship with your DS - you AND Ds need to go to therapy and you need to talk to...(more)
- yes i have to find someone. the idea was to do tests until he's clean, and then start fresh with some privileges/rewards for doing it.
- if he's self medicating then absolutely seek professional advice. Mom of ADD kid here. BUT it is also normal to experiment with weed and alcohol so don't go crazy if it is just...(more)
- experimenting is ok, but he's taking such risk with school, running around with this kid, doing it in central park. that's the problem.
- would a possible better solution be to not say he can't, but he can't in that context?
- if he were a reasonable 16 or 17 year old who had his life together, probably. I think he is too young and a mess right now. I told him that the first time I would not punish him...(more)
- exactly. well it's good you are seeking some help b/c this is so tricky
- if he were a reasonable 16 or 17 year old who had his life together, probably. I think he is too young and a mess right now. I told him that the first time I would not punish him...(more)
- would a possible better solution be to not say he can't, but he can't in that context?
- experimenting is ok, but he's taking such risk with school, running around with this kid, doing it in central park. that's the problem.
- Wish I had advice, BTDT. I threw away everything, I didnt give an *F who it might have belonged to. Not perpetuating the crime.
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- Special Needs T and is telling me he has to give the grinder back to his "friend" - which has a little weed left in it. I told him that's not my problem, he claims he will be beat up. So that...(more)
- OK, there's the immediate problem (weed/friend, etc) and the larger issues of how do we help a guy with deficits and challenges become a more capable adult
- how old is he
- 15, immature, has a great personality, athletic, people love him, self sabotaging.
- how old is he
- if he's afraid to be beat up- its not his friend. I would blow it all up by reporting the kid and your son and going to a different school. Its only going to get worse.
- over dramatic parenting style- might as well be a teen too!
- OK, there's the immediate problem (weed/friend, etc) and the larger issues of how do we help a guy with deficits and challenges become a more capable adult
- Special Needs Mdai for sale...(more)
- Special Needs Any recommendation for college counselor or vocational couselor?DS is 17yo is senior in HS, thinking of vocational school or community college. TY
- You don’t need a college counselor for that
- Special Needs Summit School Queens parents—do they ever “counsel out”?...(more)
- our private school has counseled kids out for behavior issues
- I know some schools do this. I’m asking about one specific school, Summit in Queens
- SN schools will definitely counsel kids out if they do not think they can meet their needs.
- Yup. It was an awful, awful experience for us. They treated my ds horribly. They were actually assholes to him.
- our private school has counseled kids out for behavior issues
- Special Needs 7th grader’s self-contained 12:1 is not a bridge class, but has boys as much as two years older than him who tend to roughhouse, curse, etc. in ways that are alarming to my...(more)
- what are self contained classes?
- All special education classes within a general education school.
- I would suggest you make the argument that that is not the appropriate placement for your child. It sounds like it’s not where he belongs
- He is there because he has complex needs due to cerebral palsy. We’re hoping he’ll be ready for ICT next year, but he’s not there yet.
- But that doesn’t mean that this class is appropriate for him. They have to make APPRORIATE reasonable accomadarions for him
- Like what?
- Well I don’t know but from the sounds of it he is in a class of kids that are older and larger and not appropriate peers for him.
- Same kids last year, but was mostly remote then.
- ^ he may need the services of self contained but not that class. They can’t just lump everyone together regardless of ability etc (even though they often do)
- np- The phrasing is that he's not functionally grouped with similar need students.
- Well I don’t know but from the sounds of it he is in a class of kids that are older and larger and not appropriate peers for him.
- Like what?
- But that doesn’t mean that this class is appropriate for him. They have to make APPRORIATE reasonable accomadarions for him
- He is there because he has complex needs due to cerebral palsy. We’re hoping he’ll be ready for ICT next year, but he’s not there yet.
- Are they kids who repeated a grade or ?? FWIW I used to teach middle school. Even when all kids are the same age there are huge gaps in maturity and proximity to puberty at that...(more)
- what are self contained classes?
- Special Needs Today the bus showed up, but 20 minutes early when we weren’t ready...(more)
- Sue
- That can hardly be considered a schedule, then
- I’ll bet they were pissed they had to wait.
- Are you not able to track the bus? If ours showed up 20 minutes early, I’d be so happy. Ours is always late.
- You can track your school bus?
- Who's ready to go 20 minutes early in the morning?!?
- At least you have a bus! Ds was scheduled for a route with no driver or matron so it's just not running. SO FRUSTRATING
- Special Needs If I test positive for breakthrough covid, does vaccinated teen have to quarantine?
- no
- not unless she has symptoms
- not unless teen has symptoms
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- i would quarantine my son. Yes its a hardship, but imagine the shoe were on the other foot. Your sons friend's mom is home sick with covid. Would you want your son hanging out...(more)
- If your son has been in short contact with a positive case, no, but you LIVE TOGETHER. He's being exposed. its airborne in your home.
- Follow your school's policy. CDC says no
- I really couldnt do that to my school community. My sons friends family. Not everyone can fight off covid. People have parents with diabetes, etc. Do the right thing
- I say to follow school policy so vaxxed teen doesn't have unexcused absences
- I really couldnt do that to my school community. My sons friends family. Not everyone can fight off covid. People have parents with diabetes, etc. Do the right thing
- No but I tested positive for breakthrough covid and my dh and teens both got covid from me.
- were they vaccinated?
- yes
- were they vaccinated?
- Special Needs What kind of therapy can help teen ds with rigidity?
- DBT
- Is he on the spectrum?
- He does not have an Ass diagnosis but has a few spectrum$traits, like this one.
- Oh, horrible typos! Ugh. He does not have an asd dx, but has some spectrummy-traits
- He does not have an Ass diagnosis but has a few spectrum$traits, like this one.
- Social skills groups
- For a 17 year old?
- Special Needs DS was approved for OPWDD/Medicaid in Feb. Since then we opened some accts w/savings from birthdays. Now his personal assets are close to the max of $15.9K. Can anyone tell me...(more)
- I think for the medicaid waiver through OPWDD, the asset limit is only $2,000. It is different than the asset limit for medicaid. I think you first need to make sure the asset...(more)
- OPWDD (NYS) is not a financial needs test just disability. To qualify for SSI, there is a financial test assets & the limit is $2k. My advice look at an ABLE account and a...(more)