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  1. Special Needs Advice please. 14 yo with ADHD just started high school. He is very strong academically but his executive function is a challenge. He is taking...(more) 8 hr 35 min ago (15 replies)
    3 pre-AP and one AP class but a foreign language and debate. He chose not to downgrade to a less intense schedule, and frankly his teachers agreed with him. We're on night 2, and he's already spending hours on his homework and refusing to discuss any time management. Last year was hard because of this. How do I help (or do I help) him? He needs to get enough sleep or his ADHD is a million times worse.
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    • get him a tutor so you don't have to deal with it 8 hr 34 min ago
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    • medicated or not? 8 hr 34 min ago
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      • medicated, though so far he has not taken his booster. He forgot to today. Tomorrow, I will call to remind him and also encourage him to set an alarm. 8 hr 33 min ago
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        • I have adhd and the "smart" watches help me - I have alerts all the time reminding me to do something. 7 hr 38 min ago
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    • My ADHD Ds set up a schedule,for himself to get thru his homework efficiently...he dedicated 3 hours per afternoon/ evening no matter what. If he finished early he would use the...(more) 8 hr 34 min ago
      extra time to get ahead on upcoming homework. How many hours is your Ds doing per night?
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      • we're on night 2 and he has been working on homework for four hours. Some of it's inefficient work process, some really...(more) 8 hr 32 min ago
        poor fine motor skills but most is perfectionism. I would love for him to set a schedule up.
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        • Set up a chart with him if he will let you 8 hr 31 min ago
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      • NP: holy shit it would be such a dream if my 16yo ADHD DS would do this. He hates every moment of homework and always puts it off until 'later'. 8 hr 30 min ago
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        • He did this totally on his own. We had no idea he did this or had this work schedule set up... 8 hr 28 min ago
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          • Congratulations. I'm green with envy. 8 hr 27 min ago
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      • Three hours a day is insane 8 hr 25 min ago
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        • Not for high school. He is in college now and does the same thing there 8 hr 25 min ago
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    • CBT that specializes in Executive Dysfunction 8 hr 27 min ago
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    • I have 2 kids in college. Each year of high school gets harder -or, the classes are harder. If your son starts getting stressed out by the workload, he can downgrade a class....(more) 8 hr 6 min ago
      Colleges don't care about "pre-AP" classes. Neither of mine took APs in 9th and got into great colleges. However school just starting so see how it goes.
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    • I always wonder if kids who do really well in school even have ADHD. I don't know any kids who do well academically with ADHD 7 hr 36 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Will an eval from a study, like Child Mind Institute Healthy Brain Network; count for school placement? 8 hr 36 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Special Needs Happy post: 11 yo ds with dysgraphia (among other IEP issues) got a 4 on the ELA state test. The look on his face was priceless. 10 hr 10 min ago (5 replies)
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    • That's awesome. 10 hr 9 min ago
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    • Maybe he doesn't need an IEP. Maybe a 504 will suffice 10 hr 8 min ago
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      • He has Asperger's, dysgraphia and a coordination disorder. 10 hr 2 min ago
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    • I don't think you get graded on penmanship on the ELA anyway 10 hr 4 min ago
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      • You misunderstand. Dysgraphia is a disorder of written expression, not merely a handwriting thing, although people with it often have handwriting issues as well. 10 hr 1 min ago
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  4. Special Needs HEADS UP: The bus info is on the site (OPT) 10 hr 14 min ago (2 replies)
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    • One of my kids' info is up, nothing available yet for the other. 10 hr ago
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      • They started today so tomorrow you may have the other. 9 hr 11 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Triennial neuropsych, needed or not?...(more) 12 hr 53 min ago (6 replies)
    Principal of DD's (funded) SN school says that it's no longer needed by DOE in NYC; and that if we get our own, it could jeopardize her placement. Is this true?
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    • CHurchill mom - that was not my experience we had to get that review this year 12 hr 21 min ago
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    • I'd never stop doing it every three years. I have three kids with them and the oldest will be applying to college this year. Glad I get them done every three years because the ACT...(more) 10 hr 15 min ago
      and SAT want to see a recent one within three years.
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      • Yes and colleges want to see them within 3 years to get accommodations. But doesn't need to be a full neuropsychologist-psych for ACT/SAT or for college - a psycho-ed exam which i...(more) 8 hr 3 min ago
        s shorter and cheaper.
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    • IME, needed and I would make it an IEE to pay for my evaluator. 8 hr 41 min ago
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      • What's an IEE? 8 hr 40 min ago
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        • independent educational evaluation 8 hr 11 min ago
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  6. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 15 hr 17 min ago (1 reply)
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    • do you see this as a problem? i do not. 15 hr 15 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Financial Aid at language based schools?...(more) 15 hr 25 min ago (5 replies)
    Turns out our child has dyslexia and we've been recommended to send him to a language-based school. After some research and talking to parents in similar situations, we've been shocked to learn the process of suing the DOE for tuition reimbursement. We are both self employed, and although our business is growing, we are far from being able to afford $55-65k/year on tuition alone until we get the money back. We can maybe come up with $25k at tops, but that's still stretching. Do those language based schools have decent FA offerings or do they expect us to somehow come up with the tuition funding even if we have to go into debt? It's quite hard to tell from their websites...
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    • If you are in NYC, and are deferred by CBST, you can try getting in to Funded schools...(more) 12 hr 19 min ago
      Like Parkside or Churchill or possibly Community School in Teaneck. Parkside is more than just language based stuff, but the others are mostly for language. And if you are deferred, you don't pay any tuition.
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      • Thanks how about non-funded schools though -- the ones we have to pay tuition upfront?...(more) 11 hr 1 min ago
        I was hoping that they may have some sort of FA to help out families w/ lower income brackets?
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        • Ditto what she said above. Try the funded school. We are working poor and at Churchill. It was a miracle but we got a spot and then Churchill took us as a Connors Case (meaning...(more) 10 hr 9 min ago
          they were willing to wait for our decision from the DOE). It was a gamble because of we would have lost, we would have been on the hook for the tuition but for the last few years, it's been a little easier to get deferred.
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          • Some of the non funded schools might have financial aid but you would have to ask....(more) 8 hr 40 min ago
            I have heard that Ideal and Rebecca School have aid. But neither of those are probably appropriate for your kid. My brief experience with Gateway was that they seemed to not give a crap about anyone's financial issues--they expect you to deal with fronting tuition and suing every year. Not every school does Connors either. The inequality in SN ed in NYC astonishes me all the time. Let's face it, kids with lower income or less educated/privileged parents are routinely shuffled off inappropriately to ICTs that can't handle them or abysmal D75 schools; even knowing that non public schools exist and being able to get your own neuropsych puts you way ahead of 99% of parents with SN kids in NYC
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        • Speak to a special ed attorney that you would be using about how to make it work. 8 hr 39 min ago
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  8. Special Needs Ds' psychiatrist is too expensive. If I move to someone in network, do I just ask him to send ds' medical records? 15 hr 35 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Yes 15 hr 34 min ago
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    • The new psych will, based on a form you sign. 14 hr 31 min ago
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  9. Special Needs Has anyone here ever used NYC Atty Michele Siegel for their Special Ed case with the DOE? How is she? Thx 17 hr 50 min ago (1 reply)
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    • Yes, she's great and really responsive. I recommend her enthusiastically! 15 hr 45 min ago
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  10. Special Needs Ds starts 10th grade tomorrow. Last year was awful. Clinical depression, failing grades, low self esteem. He is now on Prozac and doing so much better and has a much better...(more) 17 hr 55 min ago (9 replies)
    attitude. I want to take him out to dinner tonight so we can have a conversation about expectations. Mainly, I want him to tell me when he needs help and that he needs to accept it (tutor). Ideas on how to have this conversation?
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    • Does he have a therapist? 17 hr 54 min ago
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      • Yes. He sees her next week. 17 hr 50 min ago
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        • ^^Any advice? 17 hr 48 min ago
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    • Just tell him to tell you. No big conversation 17 hr 48 min ago
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      • And if he won't and I see grades slipping? This was a big battle last year. 17 hr 46 min ago
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    • With my DD16, she seems to respond better to her therapist for these types of conversations....(more) 17 hr 42 min ago
      We reinforce after, but I find it easier if she has heard it from her therapist first. It gives more cred. I also assume his counselor is aware and can raise a flag and take action if grades are falling? Basically anything to have it come from extended team is usually easier to accept (in my experience with my DD)
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      • Thank you. I'll go this route. 17 hr 40 min ago
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        • Also, a 'formal sit down' before school starts might only seed some anxiety. Again, I am projecting my personal experience here. I would ask others to do the heavy lifting. 17 hr 38 min ago
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          • You're right. I just want him to have a good year. He needs it. 17 hr 38 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Ds, almost 15, had to get to two places today alone, without me to prompt him to leave, and he has to be on time...please cross fingers for me. I am taking a big leap of faith by...(more) 19 hr 24 min ago (3 replies)
    leaving the house for the day and not being home to prompt him. ADHD LD moms, and other empathetic people, I know you understand. wish us luck.
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    • my DD doens't have ADHD and we have same issue. i think it's jsut a teen thing too 19 hr 23 min ago
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      • I think it's somewhat unioversal for boys...dd never had this problem, and I don't even know if it will be a problem. I just assume I have to micromanage his life, so this is...(more) 19 hr 18 min ago
        really as much as exercise for me as for him.
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    • Fingers crossed, good luck! 19 hr 19 min ago
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  12. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 8-21-2017 10:06pm (0 replies)
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  13. Special Needs Need afterschool behaviorist NYC. Any recs? 8-21-2017 8:22pm (1 reply)
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  14. Special Needs How did you know or finally diagnose dc with bipolar? were they misdiagnosed for a long time? mis medicated? 8-21-2017 7:42pm (22 replies)
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    • It's tough because there is not one med that works for all kids and it is hard to diagnose as it kind of creeps up. Even correctly diagnosed they can be "mismedicated" because...(more) 8-21-2017 11:45pm
      there is not one med that works for everyone and then sometimes it stops working and you have to switch. Go to a psychiatrist that sepcializes in mood disorders for your DC's age group. Write a little history and say when you stared noticing symptoms and what they were. Don't say DC is bipolar unless he has been diagnosed. Say what is wrong. Writing it makes it clear for the psychiatrist even though of course s/he will talk to you and your dc.
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      • I don't actually think he is bipolar but I saw that in consultation with a new psych he suggested trying a bipolar med (he takes abilify now) lamictal? 17 hr 28 min ago
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        • lamictal is used for things other than bipolar disorder, including depression 17 hr 27 min ago
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          • Just seems so extreme. Even the abilify does :( 17 hr 24 min ago
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            • it's not extreme. it is very well-tolerated by most, far more so than SSRIs. it has virtually no side-effects. 17 hr 23 min ago
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              • Really? He's taken Zoloft and Prozac and they worked for a few months then he started acting manic almost. Really out of control crazy behaviour and rages. All stimulants and 2...(more) 17 hr 20 min ago
                non stimulants for ADHD had horrible results.
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                • try the lamictal. it's not a scary medication at all. 17 hr 19 min ago
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            • I would take lamotrigine over pretty much any psych medication any day. It's like not being on anything, except I feel better. 17 hr 22 min ago
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              • So interesting. Do you personally take anything? Diagnosis? I myself too have anxiety, depression, easily anger etc...clearly he gets it from me poor kid :( 17 hr 20 min ago
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                • I have depression and I've been on lamotrigine for about 10 years. I've taken pretty much every medication there is and either they didn't work or gave me awful side effects (or...(more) 17 hr 18 min ago
                  both). Lamotrigine is unlike anything else I have tried.
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                  • So worried about any med for him. 13 now in high school and surely alcohol and pot are going to be around a lot more soon. Scary to think of mixing meds. Also would like to see...(more) 17 hr 12 min ago
                    him be in the right kind of therapy for once and learn skills. He has little self regulation. Doesn't remember his things at all on his own. Forgets keys and wallet forgets to take pill, won't clean up after himself in the least. And he wonders why it feels like I'm nagging him. I truly think if he wasn't with me all the time and had better support a school and more positive friends etc he wouldn't be the same kid. I worry we are medicating due to his situation not a real issue. Though I remember when he was a baby even. Screaming bloody murder for things he wanted. And as a toddler. Screaming when he didn't get his way. Getting so mad. Then being sweet again. I think everyone gave in to him his whole life so far to appease him. Being a single mom with no support sucks :(
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                    • i'm sorry, that's really tough. i hope you find something that helps. you sound like a very loving and supportive parent. 17 hr 11 min ago
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            • He's not a very happy kid but I wouldn't say he's depressed. He is diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety so he's had years of struggle in school, making and keeping friends. Socially...(more) 17 hr 22 min ago
              notecards so extremely frustrated when he doesn't have friends around or get positive reactions from them. But he is immature and annoys them. He is very defiant and says no to everything. Very rigid. Very egocentric. So emotional. Goes from 0-100 in a second and then back again. Ugh. It's been so many years of hard with him.
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              • My DD took lamictal and did have a side effect so just be aware. But this is true of any med. Doesn't mean your son will. 16 hr 56 min ago
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                • What was her side effect? 16 hr 38 min ago
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              • And the abilify hasn't helped this? 16 hr 55 min ago
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                • Abilify has helped with the rages for sure. Big time. But he's still super defiant and refuses to do anything. Forgets everything. Does what he wants and argues about everything....(more) 16 hr 38 min ago
                  Super moody. Gets really agitated at night time before bed. Still gets upset but it doesn't go into full rage mode like before. School still hard. Goes back in 2 weeks and I'm dreading it. Gets so frustrated and just quits. Forgets all his stuff all the time. No organizational skills. The defiance is awful. Literally doesn't matter what I ask he says no and is snarky and mean. Calls me an asshole or stupid daily.
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                  • I have a close relative who is bipolar. Started in late teens but took several years to diagnose. However she sounds nothing like your son. I am not saying he is not bipolar but...(more) 9 hr 38 min ago
                    the lack if organization and forgetfullness soudn more like execuive function issues associated with adhd (and perhaps other things as well). He may have co-morbid issues. Hopefully the new doctor can help him.
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                    • Op-agree I don't think bipolar at all. I asked, he said it can help with depression etc and issues that abikify is helping with...as he hasn't responded well with sari and they...(more) 9 hr 3 min ago
                      think Wellbutrin is too anxiety producing and he's already anxious
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    • i have bipolar disorder and was misdiagnosed with depression for a long time 8-21-2017 11:47pm
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      • NP: My dh was misdiagnosed with bipolar when all he had was depression. 15 hr 18 min ago
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    • crazy, risky behaviors...(more) 15 hr 20 min ago
      that you would never think your child would do setting things on fire, risky sexual behaviors, crazy talk (talking nonsense), lack of sleep (this is a big one), drinking, irritative mood. From when your dc was depressed, s/he would appear to be a much more active person. Eventually, when these behaviors escalate to a point where you are calling 911, that's when you know you have a bipolar child. It's a sad moment. This was my experience with my spouse. We've overcome the challenges. GL!
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  15. Special Needs Did you feel that you had an advocate or knew where to turn to ask questions as you initially went through your dc's diagnoses? What it meant, what to do about it? I feel like...(more) 8-21-2017 6:00pm (13 replies)
    most diagnoses and teachers just tell you the problem and then you are left scrambling and googling to figure out the solutions.
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    • yes. until we found our social skills group and the owner then led us to our neurologist 8-21-2017 6:02pm
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      • ^^^yes, to the second part of your post --- it's all self-education until you find the right people 8-21-2017 6:05pm
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    • even if you had a kid without sn you should get on the internet and google and research your diagnosis. Take your healthcare into your own hands. Otherwise you are doing...(more) 8-21-2017 6:02pm
      yourself a grave disservice. Signed md.
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      • right but telling me my kid has ADHD doesnt tell me what to do about it. Of course I am going to learn about the diagnosis, but it took me a long time to just learn about what...(more) 8-21-2017 6:05pm
        ADHD means and learn more about what to DO about it.
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        • We had a private eval and the report included recommendations for school and home. Named books parents could read. 8-21-2017 6:13pm
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          • I had a private eval too, but the long list of recommendations for the teachers made their eyes roll back in their heads, I think it was just copied and pasted and not tailored to...(more) 8-21-2017 6:18pm
            my actual kid. I had no recommendations on speech/OT/vision therapy, or a tutor, or reading support person (meaning not even recommended one way or the other), let alone given specific people to seek out.
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      • There's a lot of total crap on the internet, most of us need more guidance in the sn world than we are getting, especially when dx can be so imprecise 8-21-2017 6:06pm
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    • No! This was the worst part. I felt like I had to educate myself and hunt down the right resources and therapies, who then don't communicate or coordinate. I feel like this is a...(more) 8-21-2017 6:04pm
      huge gap.
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    • Our amazing OT was a huge help...she is the one who got me on the path of seeing an atty. Our 60 minute consult with Regina Skyer was amazing. She is a Social Worker as well as an...(more) 8-21-2017 10:44pm
      atty, asked great, pointed questions and helped us make a list of things to be done and people to see. Got us with a great NP who was also a great advisor and advocate once she evaluated dd. I am a Social Worker myself and was really at a loss. Three years later, dd is in a SN school and it has made a world of difference.
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    • Go see a ped psychiatrist or a neurologist that specializes in adhd and meanwhile read up on it. There are many kinds and many degrees of severities. Most kids with adhd go to...(more) 8-21-2017 11:40pm
      regular school but those with more severe cases may be in SN school at least for a while. If the ADHD is the hyperactive, impulsive type your DS has a very good chance of outgrowing those symptoms after puberty. The inattentive type (I have that) stays with you but you can learn workarounds, use technology and meds.
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      • Dr. Martin Kutcher's website hs some good info on it - at least it did years ago. 8-21-2017 11:47pm
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    • I found a group of local SN mom who were my life savers from practical and emotional perspectives 19 hr 15 min ago
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    • Had to learn to be my own advocate. Could not afford one of those high priced educational attorneys. 17 hr 41 min ago
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  16. Special Needs If you and dh both have FT jobs and you have more than one child with SN - how on earth do you do it? How do you balance/juggle everything? We have an amazing nanny but even she...(more) 8-21-2017 4:24pm (7 replies)
    can't be in two places at once, as our kids go to different schools and need therapies sometimes on the same day or have overlapping stuff. Also, the never-ending teacher meetings, assessments, etc. I love my kids but its hard...
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    • I eventually left (and would have lost) my FT job. One SN child, another under 5. It just wasn't possible to find child care we could afford that could handle both kids. 8-21-2017 4:47pm
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    • It's really tough. My job has some limited flexibility, but not much and my dh's job has really ramped up the intensity lately. We hired a summer babysitter to get them to their...(more) 8-21-2017 5:50pm
      various therapies, but some things, like psychiatrist appts, I am just not going to delegate. During the school year, we try to get as much during the school day as we can and then prioritize other therapies so as not to get overwhelmed. I feel like I spend all my non working time communicating with teachers, therapists and tutors.
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    • This is me. Honestly we just take it one day at a time. Sometimes we feel like we are drowning...(more) 8-21-2017 10:19pm
      and then things seem to get easier for a time. What's made a huge difference has been 1) the right school placement for both kids, and 2) we both have family friendly workplaces and have flexibility in our schedules. And frankly sometimes work
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      • Sorry - sometimes work is a welcome respite from the home chaos. 8-21-2017 10:20pm
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    • We get as much of the services as possible done via school. Nanny takes to some appointments, although we try to always go to a first appointment with a new person. And the...(more) 15 hr 36 min ago
      amount of therapies tends to decrease as they get older. And DH and I stagger our hours/days off a bit.
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      • We are the same. Services through school. Ours have learning disabilities so there isn't a physical issue requiring therapy. One sees a psychologist on Saturday. If tutoring...(more) 7 hr 40 min ago
        needed it's in our home.
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        • ^SN is such a general term and I certainly realize that many SN kids have very complicated issues physically and neurologically that require multiple outside therapies. Could DH...(more) 7 hr 39 min ago
          and I both work if that was the case? It would be much harder.
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  17. Special Needs For the mom who recommended therapist Tripp Evans...can you give me a phone # for him. Googled him and the number listed is no longer working. Thanks. 8-21-2017 1:11pm (0 replies)
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  18. Special Needs My child had a great summer and developed so much socially after attending a ms camp. We did not do any academic work unfortunately. I'm kind of worried about that now 8-21-2017 11:46am (4 replies)
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    • OFFS 8-21-2017 11:46am
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      • You are on the SN board. 8-21-2017 11:51am
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    • Socially is important. You did good 8-21-2017 11:48am
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    • just make sure she is on track with academics from the beginning of the school yr, its fine. 8-21-2017 11:53am
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  19. Special Needs OK everyone, talk me off a small ledge. Ds, 9yo, is starting SN this year. He is here right now getting an hour long assessment before they decide exactly which class he should...(more) 8-21-2017 11:13am (4 replies)
    be in (its somewhat mixed aged depending upon abilities and styles). The teacher is new, and older, and up until now she has always/only worked with gifted students. Trust that the SN school hired someone who would be good with SN kids, right? I am so jaded by the way we were run around and treated at his MS school that my prickers are up already.
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    • what choice do yo uhave but to trust? 8-21-2017 11:14am
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    • You don't have a choice but to trust right now. Go withbit 8-21-2017 11:15am
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    • Trust. I'm sure they hired well and remember, Einstein and Churchill were both gifted and SN. Breathe Mama:) 8-21-2017 10:48pm
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    • She is doing an assessment - doesn't matter that she tested gifted kids. In public school the same person does both....(more) 8-21-2017 11:27pm
      If the school felt like a good fit when you acepted, don't worry. Also, once he is in a class if it is not the right level he can change to a different level. They are tesing to try and find the right fit from the get-go but if it isn't he can change.
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  20. Special Needs Anyone have a dh with aspergers and a good couples therapist in NYC? TIA. 8-20-2017 4:37pm (9 replies)
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    • Dr. Tripp Evans and I highly recommend the book "the other half of asperger syndrome." It's short and an easy read. 8-20-2017 5:57pm
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    • Did you know he had this condition when you married him? 8-20-2017 10:55pm
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      • Nope, knew he was super bright and a good person who was sometimes socially clueless. Was diagnosed years later. 8-20-2017 10:59pm
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        • This post has been disliked 4 times. showI'm really surprised you couldn't deduce this pretty fucking quickly, ya know? 8-20-2017 11:04pm
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          • np: WTF is wrong with you? 8-20-2017 11:39pm
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            • We're all thinking it! 8-21-2017 12:03pm
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              • Np-- I have a decent education including 19 graduate credits in psych...(more) 8-21-2017 10:22pm
                And didn't figure out my dad was on the spectrum until my kid was diagnosed. I had tried for years to figure out why he behaved how he did, but apparently the was the DSM 4 was written, I didn't think to look under the development disabilities part. None of the other "disorders " fit. It is very possible to just think someone is a bit quirky and maybe shy or rude, with string special interests, without knowing they have high functioning autism.
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                • Hoooo boy. I have no grad credits in psych. I'm just a pretty good judge of clocking people as being Aspy or not. My mom had issues with it. 8-21-2017 11:09pm
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  21. Special Needs Is Riverdale Country school very rigorous academically? I have a bright DS who also has ADD and some mild LD. I think overall he would do better in a private HS....(more) 8-19-2017 10:55pm (17 replies)
    Would Riverdale be too much for him? Are classrooms very large? Also, HHI is decent but DH & I are not wealthy. Would we possibly be eligible for any financial aid or is this reserved for low income only? Tuition is extremely high at this school and it would be hard to foot along with our other expenses.
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    • My DD went there for a few years. It is a very wealthy crowd. Classes are small (this was middle school) and rigorous but there was also more support than DD had had at public...(more) 8-20-2017 1:52am
      school. I would not think it is the ideal school for an LD child. Where do you live? Is your son accepted for this fall?
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      • i live in Riverdale. The zoned middle school he's attending has been terrible for him as classes are very large, distracting, etc. 8-20-2017 3:24pm
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        • I don't think it would be a good fit. Kids counseled out for High School if they are struggling. I would find a gentler school for a child with ADHD. 8-20-2017 4:41pm
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    • It's very rigorous academically and very little support for SN. 8-20-2017 8:54am
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      • ^^for high school he would need high grades, a"s and b's, more a's, and minimum 8's I'm the ISEE. ADMISSION IS competitive at the HS level there. Getting in might be more ...(more) 8-20-2017 8:56am
        Problem than succeeding.
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        • ^^fortunately, there are many more choices in NYC area to fit this profile, though financial aid may be an issue. You should look around at other NYC area privates like birch,...(more) 8-20-2017 8:59am
          Dwight, lrei....also in westchester and nj there are campus schools more accommodating of this profile.
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          • This is true. Looked at it for ds who have a mild ld and was ms private k to 8 for hs and they...(more) 8-20-2017 11:09am
            They said not a great choice for ld kids. They do have support but it's very rigorous md traditional. My ds had high ISEE scores and is a decent student who does not need much support. Applied to Grace, Friends, Packer, LREI, Trevor and Bereley Caroll. Got into 4 of the 6 and school considered all more ld friendly than riverdale. You should also look at browning, york, Brooklyn friends
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            • >>>and Calhoun 8-20-2017 11:10am
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              • From mom whose DD went to Riverdale - very competitive in high school. Not aware of LD kids there (though there may have been some). Fast crowd of kids. The other schools...(more) 8-20-2017 4:43pm
                mentioned would be better (Calhoun pretty unstructured so if your ds needs structure may not be a good fit.
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    • You should move to the Westchester suburbs for a kid like that. The elite privates don't want our kids with SNs. 8-20-2017 8:49pm
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      • I hate this classification...many private schools in Manhattan will accept kids with LD's, ADHD, etc. some have great support, some are open to working with tutors outside of...(more) 8-20-2017 10:04pm
        school so the kid can have support outside of school...my ds is at one of the so called "elite privates that don't want our kids with SNs." again, it depends on the needs and level of need. I just kind of object to your characterization that it's an us vs them mentality. it isn't always.
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        • This is true. My kid is at a ms private woth an ld and had lots of friends that have lids too. And he has a totor with kids with lads at schools of all types all across the city 8-20-2017 10:08pm
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          • OR...I just think they are private schools and they're allowed to want who they want, it's not a conspiracy against "our kids with SN's." i just don't like the mentality...(more) 8-20-2017 10:29pm
            they are against "us" and only want so-called "elite" kids.
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            • ^^and thanks for backing me up here. 8-20-2017 10:30pm
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            • Of course not. And plenty are open to having kids with some issues because they u der stand that they also have a lot of strengths and a lot to offer 8-20-2017 10:31pm
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      • Where in Westchester? I thought most Westchester schools didn't support SN kids. 8-21-2017 3:02pm
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        • Look at Pelham and Mamaroneck for starters. For private look at Masters -not sure what it is like today, but had small classes and was academic but seemed gentler than Riverdale....(more) 8-21-2017 11:53pm
          But you are in the city so look there first.
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  22. Special Needs Ds has gained a lot of weight since starting ADHD meds...(more) 8-19-2017 3:34pm (9 replies)
    Has huge belly and doesn't want to be active like he used to be. How do I get him to eat better and not make it like he's on a diet? Ik worrie he will be bullied at school.
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    • Does he absolutely need the meds? 8-19-2017 3:35pm
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      • For school he does bad impulse control. It's Guanfacine. Dr said to try strattera but the warnings freaked me out 8-19-2017 3:37pm
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        • Why not a stimulant? 8-19-2017 3:41pm
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          • Terrible side effects and didn't work for him 8-19-2017 3:45pm
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            • Has he ever been evaluated using the ADOS? If Guanfacine works, and stimulants don't, you may have something going on that is not ADHD. 8-19-2017 8:07pm
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              • NP: Not necessarily true. My adhd DD had a bad reaction to stimulants as well. She is not on the spectrum, does have adhd but gets ticks and anxiety on stimulants. Takes...(more) 8-20-2017 1:55am
                guanfacine but has not gained weight - that's individual too.
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              • Not true and what's the difference. She. Exs to treat the symptoms not the Dc 8-20-2017 8:13am
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                • >>>diagnosis 8-20-2017 8:13am
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    • I was worried that ds would lose weight with adhd meds. What is your ds taking? 8-19-2017 3:36pm
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  23. Special Needs Can anyone talk about teen blood test results with me? ds 13 takes abilify so this could affect some of it but still...iron is very very low, MCH levels very low and his...(more) 8-18-2017 3:22pm (7 replies)
    prolactin very low...iron was low previously and he took pills for 2 days but was very ill, grey..lethargic, sick to stomach, shaking and shivering..it was awful
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    • Does he take a multivitamin? 8-18-2017 3:53pm
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      • no. he takes omega every day, vitamin d drops sometimes, a probiotic some days...multi vitamins are a bit of a farce, they have very little of each vitamin in them...I'm happy to...(more) 8-18-2017 4:03pm
        try anything but scared about iron after what it did last time..perhaps the dose was just too high...
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        • Well my kids have always taken one and don't have messed up blood work. Not sure why you think it's a farce 8-18-2017 4:40pm
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          • And fwiw most iron supplements are harsh on the system. The only decent one is slowFe but I wouldnt supplement without discussing with his doctor 8-18-2017 4:41pm
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          • Do you have a sn child on medication? You don't sound like you belong here 8-18-2017 5:06pm
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          • And it is a farce. Do 5 minutes of research or ask any reputable dr. If you need any extra vitamins you can take them separately. You never get enough in a multi 8-18-2017 5:07pm
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            • Actually I have talked to my own dr and our pediatrician. You get a good rand it's a supplement to your diet which is the best place to be the vitamin obviously. Billy please...(more) 8-18-2017 9:25pm
              continue to be snarky
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  24. Special Needs Anyone have any experience with the SN programs offered by the JCC in scarsdale? Are these programs worthwhile? Thinking about registering my HFA son who is entering K. TIA 8-18-2017 11:10am (7 replies)
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    • what program? 8-18-2017 11:10am
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      • OP: Possibly SN swim lessons and/ or a social skills group for prek and K kids. There is also a dance therapy class I might consider. My son has an aspergers profile. Not sure...(more) 8-18-2017 11:13am
        what the other kids in the group look like or whether it would be an appropriate fit. Also don't know anything about how these classes are run. any info would be helpful. thanks
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        • I don't know jcc scarsdale but jcc on the hudson has great SN programming and was wondering if its the same. Call and ask them what the programs look like. IME the JCCs often have...(more) 8-18-2017 11:14am
          great programs though they can be expensive.
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          • OP: ok thanks 8-18-2017 11:16am
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            • JCC Scarsdale has the Towards Tomorrow SN preschool so many of their programs are geared appropriately toward this population and they have well-trained staff. My works in the...(more) 8-18-2017 12:03pm
              summer program.
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              • ^dd 8-18-2017 12:03pm
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              • OP: Okay thanks for this! 8-19-2017 9:40pm
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  25. Special Needs Anyone know the rules for alternate bus dropoff locations-- specifically are there limits to how far away (still in borough) dropoffs are? Can I get my dc dropped off ~60+ blocks...(more) 8-18-2017 10:52am (6 replies)
    away from my home?
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    • No limit 8-18-2017 11:39am
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    • the OPT will only do one alternate drop location (other than home) per week. So if you want your child dropped at two different places, one on Mon and one on Wednes, they will not...(more) 8-18-2017 1:31pm
      do this. They say that they will do alternate drop within the same borough but they do this as an accommodation, so it needs to be manageable to them within their bus schedules.
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      • Thanks. I'm considering it for 3 days a week to go to an afterschool program. But OPT won't guarantee anything. I can't pay for this and then find out the bus won't go there....(more) 8-18-2017 2:08pm
        Sigh. So hard to figure out afterschool.
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        • a thought for you: a few years ago, I needed to get my dc from school to her after school class faster than the bus would take her. I hired an NYU undergrad to pick her up from...(more) 8-21-2017 12:22pm
          school and drop her off at her class. The job took 30-40 min. I paid the student $25 plus subway fare. This was around 5 years ago. I thought it was worth it. But it was one day a week, not three. I do alternate drop for an after school program in my neighborhood for the last few years. The location is not that far from home and they have always done it. If the location is nowhere near your home, maybe there is more of a problem. You need to call OPT and speak with them about it and explain the cost issue and see if they will commit. Good luck.
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    • OK it's been like 4 years since I did this but what I remember is this. Your child will be on a different bus no matter where the drop off is. You cannot have alternative drop off...(more) 8-18-2017 8:29pm
      on the same bus as home bus. So expect to get assigned to a 2nd bus. You need to make sure the school knows what bus what day. Though the driver and matron should have your child on the manifest for the day needed. You have to do it at least 2 times a week and you cannot change the days week to week it must be the same days always. And to answer your question no limit to where they go if a bus is going somewhere near the location your child will be put on that bus.
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      • You DO NOT need to select an alternate drop off location twice a week. We have always done it once a week for an after school therapy appointment. 8-19-2017 8:50pm
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