Special Needs
- Special Needs Is my son's ADHD helping or hurting him in his competitive soccer?...(more)
- ^meds***
- is he old enough to tell you?
- Not yet mess are still new
- Curious to hear what others say. My dd takes her meds before sports...if she does not she fails to stay on task, is easily distracted, etc.Much like in school
- Is she hyperactive or inattentive or combo?
- Combo. As she has gotten older the hyperactive component has decreased from a physical standpoint, def. not in her head though!
- My ds is on adderall Xr is that what your dd takes?
- No. she takes Ritalin LA for school, but has a booster for after
- Maybe I need to ask about booster? Is this just short acting Ritalin?
- yes. I think it is not unusual for some to need it for sports or homework. As children get older that afterschool work is intense. She only has sports 3 times/week and that is...(more)
- Does she need melatonin to sleep?
- no. after sports and homework she is ok
- Does she need melatonin to sleep?
- yes. I think it is not unusual for some to need it for sports or homework. As children get older that afterschool work is intense. She only has sports 3 times/week and that is...(more)
- Maybe I need to ask about booster? Is this just short acting Ritalin?
- No. she takes Ritalin LA for school, but has a booster for after
- My ds is on adderall Xr is that what your dd takes?
- Combo. As she has gotten older the hyperactive component has decreased from a physical standpoint, def. not in her head though!
- my ds the same. Starting when he was about 11 -- when he was 10 we just skipped it whenever there was no school. He won't ski without them.
- what happens to her sleep? My boys sports end at almost 8 some nights.
- Takes a booster some nights around 5:30, still can sleep later (by 10:30)
- Can I ask what med this is? Ds's adderall is worn off by 3:30...
- poster above, Ritalin. there is long acting but then regular doses that just last 4 hours
- Can I ask what med this is? Ds's adderall is worn off by 3:30...
- Takes a booster some nights around 5:30, still can sleep later (by 10:30)
- Is she hyperactive or inattentive or combo?
- Special Needs I hate my MIL. We are working so hard to modify ds's behavior - points chart is working well. He is saving for special stuffed animals. I mentioned how well he is doing to her and...(more)
- make your dh tell her.
- his response to me was "well, she wants to give him gifts." My response - "that's not an excuse to undermine me"
- don't make it about you, make it about dh, your child, and your family. She is undermining all of you, and your dh needs to get on board. I have a SN kid, so I get it.
- his response to me was "well, she wants to give him gifts." My response - "that's not an excuse to undermine me"
- Sorry, she is a bitch
- i am sure she is awful but i think you are over reacting to this particular comment
- She basically said that he didn't need to earn his stuffed animals, she'd just give them to him.
- ^let me also point out that she has been a monstrous bitch about his behavior and constantly nagging and berating us about it.
- Np. I'm sure there are multiple incidents like that
- np. I'm sure OP isn't reacting to just this one comment.
- She basically said that he didn't need to earn his stuffed animals, she'd just give them to him.
- Maybe it would be more effective for dh to talk to her?
- I would be pissed but I can also see MIL thinking "Oh well, grandmas are supposed to spoil their grandchildren!" without really realizing the specifics behind it and how serious...(more)
- Yes--they have some rationale in their own minds but it doesn't make it right. When my DD was a baby, she had been in the ICU having immune system issues. We were told to keep her...(more)
- No. Your DH tells her this.
- make your dh tell her.
- Special Needs Chicago Moms...(more)
- Hi, I'm not familiar with that term. Can you elaborate and maybe I can help.
- Special Needs Hi! I've been posting recently about my very aggressive 8yo. Are there any (day) schools within 2 hrs of NYC that are known for working with bright, aggressive kids....(more)
- I haven't seen your posts. is he medicated? Is he dxd with anything at all?
- Why is he aggressive? Does he have a diagnosis? What about other issues?
- op neuropsych underway now. Previous neuropsychs have yielded autism, generalized anxiety, ODD and inattentive-type ADHD. No meds but we're exploring that.
- I would wait for neuro evaluation before looking for schools. Good luck and post back
- - no subject -...(more)
- I would wait for neuro evaluation before looking for schools. Good luck and post back
- "Very aggressive" has different meanings for different people. Can you describe the aggression?
- Special Needs Has anyone seen Dr. Levinson in Westchester? If so, were you happy with him? Thanks!
- Special Needs DS is 11 and ASD but presents as very typical. He does pretty well at school, has 1 or 2 friends, but he wishes he was more social. He doesn't do any sports - he's pretty...(more)
- robotics
- Join the drama club, he should do stage crew, lots of kids like him in our town, they've got their own whole clique.
- Band doesn't help? A martial art?
- what is he interested in?
- OP Video games, history, politics
- Model un, student council, debate
- OP Video games, history, politics
- beginner group tennis lessons
- tehre is a comic book store in our town that has gaming night. kids sit around and do games. v nice.
- ^^we have this, not at a comic book store but at the local teen center, its great for those kids. they do pickup leauges, gaming stuff.
- track really helped my ds. He is now almost 14 and runs three miles a day. We are gearing him up to be able to join the xc and track teams in HS. I also don't think middle...(more)
- OP OK thanks. How did he get started doing track? All there is is football and soccer and the kids are so advanced.
- did you chec your rec or your school. ? track is usually open to all, no cut. or a local running team. where do you live?
- OP Western suburbs of Philly.
- oh well, can't help you! but i bet there is something. does your town have a rec. dept ?
- That's a good idea. I will check it out.
- good luck
- That's a good idea. I will check it out.
- oh well, can't help you! but i bet there is something. does your town have a rec. dept ?
- OP Western suburbs of Philly.
- his school has a spring track team that is pretty disorganized, but my DH was a distance runner in HS and college, so he trains him very lightly. There are running clubs for kids...(more)
- did you chec your rec or your school. ? track is usually open to all, no cut. or a local running team. where do you live?
- I kind of agree on the friends thing. Lots of friends = lots of drama at that age. Better to lay low and get through it as easily as possible.
- OP OK thanks. How did he get started doing track? All there is is football and soccer and the kids are so advanced.
- Swimming? y teams. Start with individual lessons. It will take time but he'll get better.
- Climbing?
- scouting
- Special Needs Where are ASD Nest Horizon programs? Can't find any info online....(more)
- This is ASD Nest but not Horizon http://steinhardt.nyu.edu/asdnest/about/publicschools...(more)
- ASD Horizon is separate from Nest. It is for kids of below-average IQ who still need some 1:1 ABA time but can follow a somewhat modified curriculum...(more)
- ^I don't know if they publish a full list of schools but if you email Paul Byas (or call) he'll help you out.
- email diane carnegie, not paul byas dcarnegie@schools.nyc.gov
- ^I don't know if they publish a full list of schools but if you email Paul Byas (or call) he'll help you out.
- Special Needs How do I handle this? ds is 12y and finally getting some NT friends (he is ADHD/SPD/Aspergers). He has a SN friend and I Don't know what the dx is. This friend really sticks to my...(more)
- That's tough. Are they in school together? It's normal for kids at that age to switch groups anyhow.
- ^I'd talk to the guidance counselor. The reality is that friendships need to be organic and if your ds has developed beyond his friend...(more)
- The guidence counsleor knows and is working with my ds and the other kid to make sure they branch out, I am just trying to figure out what to say to him when he mentions it to me....(more)
- I have a kid just like him, I hope he has friends. I'd probably say, you are being a good friend just be considerate and kind, always.
- ^and would not force him to play with anyone he doesn't want to.
- I have a kid just like him, I hope he has friends. I'd probably say, you are being a good friend just be considerate and kind, always.
- The guidence counsleor knows and is working with my ds and the other kid to make sure they branch out, I am just trying to figure out what to say to him when he mentions it to me....(more)
- ^I'd talk to the guidance counselor. The reality is that friendships need to be organic and if your ds has developed beyond his friend...(more)
- That's tough. Are they in school together? It's normal for kids at that age to switch groups anyhow.
- Special Needs No sil, I do not want to hear from your childless self how my 12yos ADHD can be cured with fish oils and no dyes or gluten...(more)
- love it
- I am SOOOOO looking forward to it
- I have that Sil. Then she goes on to say how much she hates children.
- Shut it down. Part of my changing for the better as a parent was showing my kids you dont have to put up with offensive or ignorant opinions in your own house.
- oye
- but does she have any positive attributes? Will she babysit? Is she a guardian in your will? Sometimes we put up with irritating behavior because we get something else out of...(more)
- love it
- Special Needs 9yo DD is in a choir this year. She is dyslexic. I haven't mentioned it to the choir leaders but I think maybe I should. They do get sheet music it but often have the children...(more)
- I would let them know, but also let them know she doesn't want them to know
- Kids can quickly memorize music at that age. Can you work on it with her at home? I was ask dd if she wants you to mention it or if she feels she can deal on her own. Maybe she...(more)
- She did want me to mention it but I don't know what they can do to help her
- Probably nothing, but she wants them to know why she can't just pick up so quickly. I think that's fair. FWIW, I sing and sang from elementary to adulthood with a girl who had...(more)
- DD is so excited about this - totally her idea so I hope it continues to go well. She really wants to have a solo some day. Thanks for your input
- Probably nothing, but she wants them to know why she can't just pick up so quickly. I think that's fair. FWIW, I sing and sang from elementary to adulthood with a girl who had...(more)
- She did want me to mention it but I don't know what they can do to help her
- And do you think it would be helpful for them to see her IEP? or is that overkill?
- way overkill
- Ok - I thought so but wanted to be sure. Thank you
- way overkill
- Special Needs So exhausted from dealing with ds with add lying about homework and then seeing failing grades.
- how old is he? Inattentive or hyperactive? Medicated?
- 10, inattentive, just started meds. I am losing my mind.
- ok, the meds will help if they're right for him. we had to try a few - good luck
- ^^^also, my kid needs someone to sit with him for now. this may change when good habits are formed, but you may need to get a HS kid to come sit with him, or you
- What got better? Started bringing home correct materials?
- yes, just a complete interest in school work and ability to focus and remember. yeah
- What mess worked for you guys?
- my son is 8 and he takes concerta (long acting ritalin)with 5mg short acting ritialin at 3pm to get through HW
- ^^^but your child is only 10 yo. You have to tell him, "I want your assignments home for me to check every afternoon, or you get no screen time." Not knocking you, but he needs...(more)
- Well he has 3 younger sibs I am also dealing with so yes I have other things that take my attention and he is making that work for him to his advantage even exploits it
- ok. just saying. your kid with adhd? He needs extra supervision. not knocking you
- I know he does. I'm having a hard time getting this right.
- ok. just saying. your kid with adhd? He needs extra supervision. not knocking you
- Well he has 3 younger sibs I am also dealing with so yes I have other things that take my attention and he is making that work for him to his advantage even exploits it
- What mess worked for you guys?
- yes, just a complete interest in school work and ability to focus and remember. yeah
- the meds will help but my 14yo still struggles with this even though he is medicated. GL to you
- ok, the meds will help if they're right for him. we had to try a few - good luck
- 10, inattentive, just started meds. I am losing my mind.
- make him show it to you, every night
- He Lies and says he finished it in school and when I ask to see it he says he left all the materials at school etc and then doesn't tell me about tests or write anything down. I'm...(more)
- I have an ADHD dc. I require homework to come home even if done in school. You don't show me your completed homework, you don't get tv or ipad time. And I do it for both kids to...(more)
- If you are home in the afternoons check for homework first thing. If he doesn't have it, straight into the car to get it. I'm not home but our sitter does this now.
- Does your dc fight with you over this?
- At first, yes. But teacher was on board to help remind him and I did not relent on the screen stuff at all. It helped a lot that his sister had to do it too (even though I barely...(more)
- NP - they stop fighting when they see you mean business. One week.
- I would be in touch with his teacher/guidance counselor for help.
- We are in touch now with accommodation writing and I am hoping one accommodation be that someone helps him load up his backpack end of day
- But you need more support right now. Why not email teacher and ask for help in how to turn this around right now?
- Think I should? We were going to wait for 2 weeks to see what happened with mess
- yes. why make the next 2 weeks misery for you and dc for no reason. Get a system in place.
- Ok
- yes. why make the next 2 weeks misery for you and dc for no reason. Get a system in place.
- Think I should? We were going to wait for 2 weeks to see what happened with mess
- I posted above about the teacher reminder. This is important b/c with ADHD a kid really cannot keep track at age 10 well.
- And you can ask for a second copy of textbooks that stays at home.
- np - I bought two essential workbooks from ebay so we would have them at home this year. working out really well and so funny. ds is forgetting less all of a sudden!!
- These are good ideas thanks
- np - I bought two essential workbooks from ebay so we would have them at home this year. working out really well and so funny. ds is forgetting less all of a sudden!!
- And you can ask for a second copy of textbooks that stays at home.
- But you need more support right now. Why not email teacher and ask for help in how to turn this around right now?
- We are in touch now with accommodation writing and I am hoping one accommodation be that someone helps him load up his backpack end of day
- I have an ADHD dc. I require homework to come home even if done in school. You don't show me your completed homework, you don't get tv or ipad time. And I do it for both kids to...(more)
- He Lies and says he finished it in school and when I ask to see it he says he left all the materials at school etc and then doesn't tell me about tests or write anything down. I'm...(more)
- HW isn't listed on school website/teacher pages?
- np - i am glad our school does not do this. kids need to learn to write stuff down. and if they forget they can just call someone.
- It is sometimes but that doesn't matter if he hasn't brought home his materials
- this is my ds! he is also 10 and a little better so far this year because I was straight with the teachers last year and we discovered he says one thing at home and another at...(more)
- Smart!
- ADD has difficulty primarily in math, I have a tutor now 2 nights per week, same age, it keeps him on track, repeated instruction, someone communicating with his teacher and I no...(more)
- ^^also hide any electronic device that you own
- Sounds like my life
- how old is he? Inattentive or hyperactive? Medicated?
- Special Needs Melania reminds me of the character in Best in Show who was married to the old guy, and they both liked soup.
- I don't even recall that couple. You don't mean the couple "God, loves a terrier" do you?
- No , Jennifer Coolidge's character
- - no subject -...(more)
- "We have so many things in common. We both love snow peas...and soup...we could talk, or not talk, for hours."
- Special Needs My 16 yo ds (ADHD) is causing us a lot of grief. His phone is such a distraction and causes him/us so many problems ( impulsive posts. etc) phone has been taken away but it as if...(more)
- I can understand. While my son is only 11 and no phone is so obsessed with tv and youtube everything else is secondary and treats us terribly. Perhaps you have to take the phone...(more)
- He has a strong aversion to therapy- we went to family once and his sister goes. But I think it would help him.
- Perhaps tell him for the phone back he has to go. Set up ground rules with the phone, make him sign a contract and take that phone away past 9pm when anyone is tired and could do...(more)
- He has a strong aversion to therapy- we went to family once and his sister goes. But I think it would help him.
- Not everyone should go to college. Maybe find a trade school?
- Or,find a college that has an excellent program for kids with add...curry, Champlain, landmark...
- To what end. What kind of job realistically can someone like op's ds get with those behaviors?
- that's a really terrible unsupportive thing to say. This boy will mature and will change.
- He is 16...
- again, unsupportive and I changed and matured many times from 16. If you can't be supportive leave. This is SN board
- I meant it as "he is 16.... Give him a break..."
- ok.
- I meant it as "he is 16.... Give him a break..."
- I think she means he is still just a kid...
- again, unsupportive and I changed and matured many times from 16. If you can't be supportive leave. This is SN board
- To what end. What kind of job realistically can someone like op's ds get with those behaviors?
- Op- I completely agree, but a trade is the farthest from his skill set. Talking to people, schmoozing is more him
- then he will be a great salesman! and make so much money and don't worry! He will change and mature. All ADHD kids are 2 years behind peers
- Thank you.:)
- np where did you get that stat that they are 2 years behind their peers? thats interesting. my dd seems to be this way
- our doctors and reading up on ADHD
- But even salespeople need to deal with administrative stuff AND other people at work
- then he will be a great salesman! and make so much money and don't worry! He will change and mature. All ADHD kids are 2 years behind peers
- Or,find a college that has an excellent program for kids with add...curry, Champlain, landmark...
- what do you mean by impulsive posts?
- Oh posts things he thinks is very funny but offensive. Texts people too much. Caused his school a ton of trouble once with an Instagram post which caused a scandal. He does very...(more)
- NO phone. Period the end.
- Op- it is in my drawer now. And maybe forever.
- don't feel bad about it. You are helping him
- Op- it is in my drawer now. And maybe forever.
- NO phone. Period the end.
- Oh posts things he thinks is very funny but offensive. Texts people too much. Caused his school a ton of trouble once with an Instagram post which caused a scandal. He does very...(more)
- As the parent of daughter with ADHD, who pushed her to go to college with disasterous results, maybe that's not his route.
- how long was she there? was it a college with supports?
- One year, some supports, but more would not have helped. She just wasn't ready or interested. It was what I wanted her to do, not what she wanted to do. She's been through a...(more)
- how long was she there? was it a college with supports?
- I can understand. While my son is only 11 and no phone is so obsessed with tv and youtube everything else is secondary and treats us terribly. Perhaps you have to take the phone...(more)
- Special Needs Has the news at all covered the crazy white guy lawyer who shot up houston yesterday?
- yesterday yes. not sure about today
- No and why are you posting this in special needS?
- because I forgot to change my board stamp. I was on SN a few minutes ago about myimpossible ADHD SPD kid in the am (somone suggested coffee)
- lol-coffee?
- yes, before he takes his meds, caffinee has been shown in some studies to help calm them. He is a crazy maniac in the am before the meds kcik in. makes it near impossible.
- lol-coffee?
- because I forgot to change my board stamp. I was on SN a few minutes ago about myimpossible ADHD SPD kid in the am (somone suggested coffee)
- Special Needs 12yo ds, ADHD, takes meds first in the am, but it still takes a while to get into his system and it is near impossible to deal with him
- Can you give him a cup of coffee to help him before the meds kick in?
- I haven't tried that. he has sensory issues so I don't know if he would like it
- Can you give him a cup of coffee to help him before the meds kick in?
- Special Needs Dc with ADHD, he had a spelling test this week got all the words right and one word he didn't put on the paper. Said he was busy erasing somethibg and forgot. During math homework...(more)
- I don't know how you can help him during the spelling test. This needs to be addrrssed at school. Does he have an IEP?
- He does, new small private working on behavior plan now don't want to be so demanding we had a horrible year last year
- You should advocte for him without being demanding. The school, hopefully, has ideas and strategies that have worked soth other kids. You need to tell them each of your concerns...(more)
- He does, new small private working on behavior plan now don't want to be so demanding we had a horrible year last year
- Help him if he is just missing the sign but understands the concepts. If the concepts aren't clear let him do the work after some guidance then let teacher see his mistakes. But...(more)
- It's as if he missed the lesson of carrying over.
- Help... at our private they really don't go over the homework or use it
- That's ridiculous. What is the point of homework?
- I don't know how you can help him during the spelling test. This needs to be addrrssed at school. Does he have an IEP?
- Special Needs No flu mist this year. Only shots. Great. this will be fun.
- I know! bummer
- They are so nothing shot-wise.
- Ds survived and I didn't think he would. I bear hugged him and it was over. Then straight to Carvel
- This post has been disliked 4 times. Oh, brother. As if you have to bribe. There's no choice. The kid has to get a shot. What are you trying to avoid, an adult afraid of a flu shot?
- YOU'RE ON SPECIAL NEEDS
- Do you realize what board you are on?
- This post has been disliked 4 times. Oh, brother. As if you have to bribe. There's no choice. The kid has to get a shot. What are you trying to avoid, an adult afraid of a flu shot?
- Let the nurse do it and leave the room.
- ^i apologize that I didn't see this was SN board. It might or might not be good advice.
- Sorry. We have never done the mist bc ds has asthma
- This post has been disliked 3 times. Oh geez its like 2 sec of pain
- do you have an austistic kid who screams bloody murder?
- Mine is much more compliant when he understands the purpose--taking the time to teach the science behind vaccination and how germs and the immune system work made a huge...(more)
- do you have an austistic kid who screams bloody murder?
- CDC questioning efficacy freaks me out about years past (tho no one got flu)
- Why? It's never foolproof. Best odds.
- you could always just opt out of flu shots altogether
- So dumb.
- Np. I kind of agree with that. We haven't had flu shots for year and we never got the flu
- You can't honestly think there is a linkage between those two statements.
- Idiotic advice
- I didn't wear my seatbelt all last year and didn't get into any accidents. I think I'll skip it this year, too.
- Ha, jinx, I should have read all the way down before posting!
- ditto
- You realize gat's like saying "I haven't been in a highway wreck lately, so I think we'll skip seat belts this year."
- I heard they hurt this year too. heard that from a few people. it stings
- Mine was with a shorter needle and it was a piece of cake. Little bit of pain thwt evening. No biggie.
- Is that why I was in so much pain after? My arm was sore for 2 days.
- yup. 2 people I know were sick the next day too, slight flu-like symptoms
- Which we all know isn't and can't and won't ever be the flu, as it is not a live virus. It's the pain/discomfort of getting a shot (any shot, regardless ). Your system has been...(more)
- yup. 2 people I know were sick the next day too, slight flu-like symptoms
- This post has been disliked 5 times. You're a parent? How?
- oh brother
- well, you try holding down a 120 pound kid who is deathly afraid of shots. Want to trade?
- Now look at the stamp. Special Needs. Feel small? You should, you asshole.
- Youre being bitchy
- Um, look at her horrible response.
- Youre right down in the gutter with her.
- hardly.
- Youre right down in the gutter with her.
- Um, look at her horrible response.
- I don't, because I'm also a parent of SN DC who hate shots. But kids reflect your anxiety about it. My kids hated the mist more than the shot, and with a ton of reinforcements,...(more)
- Well congrats on an especially cruel response.
- np: So you had a kid who hated the mist? you're a parent? How?
- Yeah, I sucked it up and dealt.
- and where did OP say she wouldn't? I'll wait while you show me.
- Yeah, I sucked it up and dealt.
- Are you new to this board? Generally people on here are especially careful to not come off as critical or judgmental as this is intended to be a safe space for parents that are...(more)
- Youre being bitchy
- Can it be given at school? I've seen ABA 1:1/para do amazing things to help kids at the school clinic.
- Shot is better
- I bring lollipops. Unwrap. Once shot is in so is lollipop. Big one. ASD dc gets so excited choosing the candy. good luck.
- Special Needs Does anyone have a child with mild autism that is over 18? What does their life look like? My ds is only 11, and he is high functioning, but I can't imagine him being independent.
- I work with teens and young adults like this. It really depends on functional skills so work on them early- money, safety, problem solving, laundry, food prep, etc. There are...(more)
- Thanks. He is good with a lot of those things already. He can cook probably ten things, he knows to get his change at a store and not to spend everything he gets right away, he...(more)
- this. but also, even more important is being employable and ALL that entails, which is not just the skill of doing the job itself.... monitoring appearance, navigating public...(more)
- Yes, these are the kinds of things that worry me, because they are hard to teach him to follow through with on his own, and just talking to people in an appropriate way
- are you in nyc? the good news is theres lots of supports out there. this is a wonderful group of people doing great work...(more)
- Thanks. I'm not in NY anymore. We have ABA covered by insurance by law in California, and his therapist is super open to working on what I want to work on, but we haven't found...(more)
- are you in nyc? the good news is theres lots of supports out there. this is a wonderful group of people doing great work...(more)
- Yes, these are the kinds of things that worry me, because they are hard to teach him to follow through with on his own, and just talking to people in an appropriate way
- this is my son. He is 17 and a senior. He is retaking the ACT this year so that he can have more time but I don't have high hopes. His grades are shit too. He wants to write...(more)
- Is he really good at it? The tech companies will take someone who is good at writing code - doesn't have to be good at a lot of other things.
- My HFA brother is 50. He has a college degree and a job, but is chronically underemployed. Lived on his own for years, now lives with elderly parent b/c she is not able to live...(more)
- I also have your concerns. My ds is almost 12. He can do a lot. He is very smart. But you cannot miss his autism. We are fortunate, in that he will not want for financial support....(more)
- I work with teens and young adults like this. It really depends on functional skills so work on them early- money, safety, problem solving, laundry, food prep, etc. There are...(more)
- Special Needs I need to vent and can't post on Toddler because I'll be ripped to shreds....(more)
- ^having a kid with issues is overwhelming at times. Today is one of those days.
- I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. Once the dust settles, ds will be happier. He was probably used to the routine. I have an ADD inattentive kid and an anxious...(more)
- It is HELL - Add puberty and hormones to ADHD and it's like a test of my sanity on a regular basis
- Oh yeah. Can't wait :p
- btw, I find the meds to be anger inducing for my ds
- same
- btw, I find the meds to be anger inducing for my ds
- Oh yeah. Can't wait :p
- It is HELL - Add puberty and hormones to ADHD and it's like a test of my sanity on a regular basis
- I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. Once the dust settles, ds will be happier. He was probably used to the routine. I have an ADD inattentive kid and an anxious...(more)
- is he medicated?
- Yes and this afternoon when he was so angry about his schedule being changed, I had him take his afternoon bump and went out to do errands for 30 min while it kicked in. Returned...(more)
- np so sorry he cannot understand what you are doing for him...but WE do. And he will eventually. Hang in there.
- TY
- ^He had a teacher like this in 1st grade. He was so mistreated that he acted out behaviorally and was so angry all the time. The next year he was diagnosed with ADHD/Dyslexia. I...(more)
- np so sorry he cannot understand what you are doing for him...but WE do. And he will eventually. Hang in there.
- Yes and this afternoon when he was so angry about his schedule being changed, I had him take his afternoon bump and went out to do errands for 30 min while it kicked in. Returned...(more)
- He will settle down. Your guy sounds super rigid so changes like this will rattle him.
- He's so worried about his friends - who is in his class - not who is teaching it. I get that but it doesn't help with situations like this
- I am so sorry....sometimes this motherhood thing is a thankless life. But I appreciate the good you did for him, even if he can't see it right now. Go you.
- Thank you - It's almost 24 hours after I posted. He's calmed down, gets it, thanked me. Thank you all for your support. Until next time... :)
- ^having a kid with issues is overwhelming at times. Today is one of those days.
- Special Needs Are emotional support dogs (dc has autism) allowed on international flights to Europe?
- yes
- no one has ever cared that my dc has severe autism at an airline so assume if they are that it will be hard or impossible anyway
- I think they are but I would confirm
- It might not be, some countries have quarantine requirements for pets
- Np- tangent, I apologize. Is there a linit to the NUMBER of emotional support animals one can bring on a domestic flight?
- one per person
- drat; guess i can't bring my support litter-o-puppies with me . . .
- nnp: I am having a wonderful image of Melissa McCarthy in Bridesmaids from your post :)
- I was curious because when I was bording my flight there was a woman waiting for another flight with three dogs in the orange SUPPORT ANIMAL vest and I could not imagine being...(more)
- better question is what are you going to do with the dog once you get there
- I think some countries quarantine which is awful for the dog
- OP: we're considering moving to Europe. Dog either goes in the cabin with us, or I look at cruises where she's allowed.
- this is united's policy. i would guess it varies by airline and country...(more)
- each airlines has their own guidelines for emotional support dogs online if you do a search
- Some Euro countries require all dogs to be quarantined for extended periods.
- the bigger deal will be what happens with the dog upon arrival. you can't just bring a dog into another country. lots of paperwork, quarantines etc
- this is united's policy. i would guess it varies by airline and country...(more)
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- Special Needs If I pursue an ASD nest option does that foreclose the possibility of suing for reimbursement at private SN school? Concerned that if my son is accepted but I am just not...(more)
- Dc has to have an ASD dx to be considered for nest. If he gets spot, you will be hard pressed to get funding for private. However, if he doesn't this may help you get funding. the...(more)
- It might make it harder to sue. But if you don't get a place at private SN school you will be kicking yourself when dc is stuck in regular ICT or MS with para. You could, I...(more)
- np: private sn is also a crapshoot. first ds has to be accepted to one that seems appropriate, then it actually has to be appropriate once he gets there. its not a panacea. lots...(more)
- That was was I was trying to express. That SN private isn't a guarantee.
- yes, I wish DS was not at his SN school but he is in HS and it is really too late to change.
- That was was I was trying to express. That SN private isn't a guarantee.
- np: private sn is also a crapshoot. first ds has to be accepted to one that seems appropriate, then it actually has to be appropriate once he gets there. its not a panacea. lots...(more)
- start talking with a lawyer now. if you get ASD nest placement, you need to visit the school before you reject it
- You should pursue both. But you can withdraw from Nest at any stage in the process. Neither SN private nor Nest will give you an answer before February or March. If you get a Nest...(more)
- ^^ continued ... but each case is different. Visit all and you can decide which is best for your DC.
- We were rejected from NEST and I think it helped the DOE decide to defer to CBST...(more)
- I've found that the hype about Nest and behaviors is more anecdotal. My ds ran out of the room during the ADOS with the psych and he got in. He definitely had some behaviors at...(more)
- No. Actually they rejected our child without even seeing her because there were...(more)
- I've found that the hype about Nest and behaviors is more anecdotal. My ds ran out of the room during the ADOS with the psych and he got in. He definitely had some behaviors at...(more)
- We were rejected from NEST and I think it helped the DOE decide to defer to CBST...(more)
- ^^ continued ... but each case is different. Visit all and you can decide which is best for your DC.
- Special Needs I'm one of those people who could not for one moment ever see myself booking a cruise. But I have a SN dc who is 6 (and an NT 4yo), so I just swallowed my preconceptions and...(more)
- You can all have a nice time if that's your mindset.
- ^not dverything will be perfect about this trip, as cruises involve a lot of other folks all doing the same thing.
- OP: We don't expect perfect. No way, no how.
- ^not dverything will be perfect about this trip, as cruises involve a lot of other folks all doing the same thing.
- Have not BTDT, but just want to say a good friend who has a SN DD (non-verbal) did a Disney cruise last year, and they loved it. Her NT daughters had a ball, and she actually was...(more)
- why the preconceptions? that has nothing to do with the reality of a vacation that works for you. are you really worrried about the side eye at school pickup when you say you are...(more)
- OP: I had to read this a couple of times because I was confused. The side eye? Oh, Lord no. I don't live in that kind of community (even if I did, I wouldn't worry about it)....(more)
- Get a balcony. Plan to do less, not more. Find a few odd corners that aren't popular at peak times.
- OP: We couldn't afford that so we didn't do it. I'll find little places to hide. I think it'll be fine.
- You may not enjoy the crowds. If you have a private balcony that will give you somewhere to retreat by yourself without too much noise.
- Get a balcony. Plan to do less, not more. Find a few odd corners that aren't popular at peak times.
- OP: I had to read this a couple of times because I was confused. The side eye? Oh, Lord no. I don't live in that kind of community (even if I did, I wouldn't worry about it)....(more)
- I have heard only amazing things about Disney cruises
- I am not a cruise person but if I ever went on one it would be Disney. They have a stellar reputation in the SN world. Disney is famously SN friendly and the cruises are suppiaed...(more)
- OP: This is my impression exactly. I really do think it will go well and the kids will have a glorious time. SN dd is nuts about Disney, and I actually like a lot of the newer...(more)
- I think you will come back refreshed and with some really nice memories!
- OP: This is my impression exactly. I really do think it will go well and the kids will have a glorious time. SN dd is nuts about Disney, and I actually like a lot of the newer...(more)
- np: I have BTDT with my 6 year old sn DC, but chose Princess rather than Disney because the staff to child ratio on Princess was a lot lower than it was on Disney in the childrens...(more)
- ~~~ and I will add that my dc is actually a great traveler. On planes, trains, railroads. She has been with me on a siteseeing trip to Europe this last summer and we both had a...(more)
- Yes - we just did a 5 day/4 day Disney cruise. 10 yr w/ ADHD & Anxiety, 6 yr w/ ASD and S/L issues. They LOVED it. Kids club was great. IF you are on FB, join one of the cruise...(more)
- Did a cruise with my 3 kids (not Disney but still a cruise and I don't like them). The family loved it and it was easy on me because there are so many activities for the kids I...(more)
- You can all have a nice time if that's your mindset.
- Special Needs If I live on the UES (in the 70's near 1st ave) which ASD nest location would my child most likely be assigned to? Which locations are the better Nest locations? tia
- Almost certainly PS 112
- OP: how is that location?
- possibly the best in the city. i think it's the oldest in manhattan and has the most experienced teachers. but you cannot visit a class until/unless dc is accepted.
- It is the best of the ASD Nest programs in Manhattan, IMO. They could also potentially send you to PS 75. You should visit all of the locations to see. I have a nest kid and...(more)
- possibly the best in the city. i think it's the oldest in manhattan and has the most experienced teachers. but you cannot visit a class until/unless dc is accepted.
- OP: how is that location?
- PS 19 is also possible. Not a crazy commute using the FDR and easy bus ride home up 1st.
- We live on UES and argued for PS 75 because it was convenient to work. You can probably make the case for PS 112, PS 19 or PS 75, based on your family's needs.
- You can certainly argue for it, and I would, but remember that they will try to place families who are closer to those schools first
- Almost certainly PS 112
- Special Needs Ok to bring an 8 wk old to an SN school open house/tour? Would take the baby out if she started to fuss at all. WDYT? TIA
- get a sitter
- OP: I don't have a regular sitter and don't feel comfortable hiring some random person to stay with an 8 week old.
- get a sitter. what difference does it make how old the baby is? are you never going to hire a sitter for the kid?
- OP: I don't have a regular sitter and don't feel comfortable hiring some random person to stay with an 8 week old.
- Fine
- Take the baby, bring a bottle and a pacifier
- i would not if at all possible, but it's fine if you do. I personally would not be able to focus. But they will not reject you for this the way you might think a regilar priovate...(more)
- ^^and the thing is, you say you will take the baby out...so you will miss something, possibly important. if at all possible, don't bring the baby
- OP: The alternative is just sending my husband by himself. Is it better for him to show up alone or better for us to both show up (but with baby in tow?) tia
- the thing about SN schools is that they don't care about you the way you think regular private schools do. they take who they can help, not whose parents show up for the tour....(more)
- why not leave db home with dh?
- OP: I guess. It just means that he will have to miss work in that case and I feel like if he is going to miss work I would rather both of us be able to see the program.
- oh I'm sorry I didn't realize itw asduring the day. In that case, then, yes bring db
- and one of you can take the baby away from the tour if db gets fussy.
- oh I'm sorry I didn't realize itw asduring the day. In that case, then, yes bring db
- OP: I guess. It just means that he will have to miss work in that case and I feel like if he is going to miss work I would rather both of us be able to see the program.
- OP: The alternative is just sending my husband by himself. Is it better for him to show up alone or better for us to both show up (but with baby in tow?) tia
- ^^and the thing is, you say you will take the baby out...so you will miss something, possibly important. if at all possible, don't bring the baby
- No, it's disruptive to other parents
- OP: Even if I wear her in a wrap and take her out if she fusses?
- You won't. BTDT.
- Ditto. At DS's curriculum night last year, a baby screamed and screamed and mom did nothing. I couldn't hear anything the teacher said.
- You won't. BTDT.
- OP: Even if I wear her in a wrap and take her out if she fusses?
- Yes. Any baby who can't even roll over yet is basically going to just be a lump on your chest. If she starts to fuss, you take her outside, no biggie.
- AGREE, don't listen to the hens
- OR Do the respondants understand that this is an *open house*? People will be moving around, chatting to each other, etc. Baby will be FINE especially if you are walking around....(more)
- it's a tour where people will be speaking to a small group. it's not an open house where you simply go from room to room gleaning information
- At our school, an "Open house" is for parents to talk to the teachers about the school year, kids not invited. I don't want a baby screaming in my ear when I leave work early to...(more)
- OP: This baby doesn't scream. At most she fusses and I will bring pacifier and a bottle and exit room if need be
- it's not being a "hen" to say that I woudln't do it, and that I'd advise her not to bc she'd be too distracted. it's my opnion. I'm not a hen
- OP: Baby is also a pretty easy, mellow baby if that makes a difference
- that's great. if you think you wpon't be distracted, take her. but I don't undestand....you don't have a reguilar sitter and both parents are going...who's staying with the...(more)
- OP: My son attends preschool and will be in school while the open house is taking place. It is in the morning
- ah. I didn't understand that part. yes, then in the morning, bring the baby if you think she won't distract you. I personally would try to find a sitter. but again, they...(more)
- OP: My son attends preschool and will be in school while the open house is taking place. It is in the morning
- that's great. if you think you wpon't be distracted, take her. but I don't undestand....you don't have a reguilar sitter and both parents are going...who's staying with the...(more)
- OP: Baby is also a pretty easy, mellow baby if that makes a difference
- Right. Who needs to listen to the people who also want to hear from the teachers
- OR Do the respondants understand that this is an *open house*? People will be moving around, chatting to each other, etc. Baby will be FINE especially if you are walking around....(more)
- AGREE, don't listen to the hens
- respectfully, is this a two parent family? if so, one parent goes, one stays home with the baby
- OP: Yes it is a 2 parent home. I could just send my husband by himself (or I could go I guess and pump and leave dh with baby and a bottle)
- honestly, despite being called a Hen, this is what I would do....if you are the one more invested in fionding out information, leave the baby with your husband and go. I...(more)
- OP: Yes it is a 2 parent home. I could just send my husband by himself (or I could go I guess and pump and leave dh with baby and a bottle)
- I'm sure technically fine with them but I wouldn't have done this, too much distraction.
- Sure, in the Ergo no biggie
- Sure, I saw plenty of parents with a little one in some of the tours. Plus an 8 wk old will probably sleep most of the time.
- A nb is fine esp if sleeping in a sling/baby carrier. Just try to time feeding/nursing for before you go.
- np: if you have a spouse, one goes on tour and one stays home with baby. Don't bring baby on the tour. Disruptive and not appreciated by anyone.
- I remember very clearly an open house where a mother came in with a baby who screamed off and on the entire time. She never took the child out and it was clear that she was...(more)
- please don't bring the baby. i'm frequently a tour guide for school open houses and we cringe when someone comes in with a baby- and it will reflect poorly on you
- SN schools are more understanding than mainstream schools but still it's distracting for all, ITA
- if you were a tour guide at a SN school, you would not cringe. you just wouldn't
- Since you will be looking at a number of SN schools, why not have DH stay home w/baby? He won't get days off work for each tour I imagine.
- get a sitter