Special Needs

  1. Special Needs Does anyone have any experience with Flex School in either NJ or CT? Df is considering and is having trouble finding any recs. 2 hr 57 min ago (0 replies)
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  2. Special Needs Camp Dunnabeck/Kildonan...(more) 4 hr 23 min ago (0 replies)
    Our son will be attending this summer. Anyone have any feedback or advice?
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  3. Special Needs Meant to post here not in toddler, weird the way you can be in one area and it still falls back to category you last posted in?...(more) 4 hr 41 min ago (1 reply)
    • I hate making that mistake. Toddler moms can be assholes. 4 hr 38 min ago
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  4. Special Needs I live in NJ. My best friend from college lives in CA. She is flying in to Maine to take her dd to camp this summer -- the same day I'm picking up my kids from camp in the...(more) 8 hr 4 min ago (37 replies)
    Catskills (a Saturday). She wants us to meet somewhere in the middle that day or Sunday. Which would mean a 4 hour drive for each of us. Plus I have to be at work on Monday, AND we leave for a 2 week vacation on Wednesday, so I have to do all the packing. I keep suggesting that this is not doable, and she thinks we need to just "make it happen"! Wwyd?
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    • you tell her firmly that you cannot spare all those hours this time around and you hope to meet up next time. 8 hr 3 min ago
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    • Do you want to see her? 8 hr 3 min ago
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    • Sorry, meant for toddler! (I usually get mixed up the other way) 8 hr 3 min ago
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    • Can't do it. Schedule a visit instead 8 hr 2 min ago
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    • How often do you see her? I would make the effort, especially if you rarely see her 8 hr 2 min ago
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      • Haven't seen her in years. But honestly, you would pick up your kids from camp after 2 weeks, send them home with dh, drive 4 hours to meet friend, then drive 4 hours home the...(more) 8 hr ago
        next day, with all the packing and week prep to do? Dh and I work FT, and this just seems like way too much effort for too little return.
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        • Np you can always pack ahead of time for your trip. 2 weeks isn't that long that you need to see...(more) 7 hr 57 min ago
          Need to see dc immediately. Basically if you want to make it work, it's doable. If you don't, then firmly say no
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        • Send your dh to pick up your kids and see your friend. 7 hr 57 min ago
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    • Make it happen or don't, you're call 8 hr 1 min ago
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    • so you are going ot have kids with you fresh off camp, and you aren't going to take them right home? that sounds like a disaster imo, with tired annoyed kids 8 hr ago
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      • Yes, or dh and I do pick up in separate cars and he takes them home. Or i don't go to pickup at all, I just go to see friend. 7 hr 58 min ago
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        • well this is really what you want to do and feel is reasonable given the relationship in question. if you never speak to her or see her and this is just something she's excited...(more) 7 hr 57 min ago
          about bc she's on this coast and flying home anyway, and you feel beholden, then don't do it. If you really want to and you are close then maybe make it work
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    • you guys should plan a girls weekend in the middle somewhere when you don't have your kids with you, do it right. not drive hours and hours to meet for lunch 7 hr 58 min ago
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      • Op: that's exactly how I feel. Meet in Chicago for a weekend or something. 7 hr 57 min ago
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        • If you havent done it in years you're unlikely to make time. 7 hr 56 min ago
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          • np neither one of them has made time to see one another in recent years, this is not OP being nuts this is just a crazy plan 7 hr 53 min ago
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        • to me this whole thing sounds like lunacy. i speak to my far flung friends on phone or skype, however i would not do that trip to see someone in person for a couple hours and...(more) 7 hr 56 min ago
          build it around camp pickup and tired kids
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          • Op: That's how I feel. But friend is very much a gung ho, "make it happen" person. She's also a teacher and has the whole summer off. I work 70hours/week and barely have time to...(more) 7 hr 53 min ago
            Do laundry.
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            • ^^ but many responders here are saying they'd make it work, so maybe I'm in the minority 7 hr 53 min ago
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              • it is an insane amt of driving to see her for a few hours, if you are not staying over somewhere you are going to be dog tired and looking at your watch the entire time, it won't...(more) 7 hr 51 min ago
                really be a great visit imo. just plan to meet somewhere when you both have time. she has nothing better to do and will sleep on her flight home
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            • teacher here, i hear you but shes coming your way. you can't take off 1 day from work? honestly, it doesnt sound like you want to see her is the issue imho 7 hr 51 min ago
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              • np she's not making a trip to see OP she's coming for her kid at a time that's not going to work for OP to do all that travel. 7 hr 50 min ago
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                • Np also saying "I'm in Maine, let's meet up" is like you calling your friend in Berkeley and saying...(more) 7 hr 44 min ago
                  "I'm in La Jolla, let's meet up!"
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              • I can't take off THAT day from work bc I leave on a 2week vacation on that Wednesday. I will be working 12 Hour days leading up to my departure to get everything squared away. 7 hr 49 min ago
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                • i hear you. it's too much, i agree 7 hr 47 min ago
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    • id take off work on monday 7 hr 58 min ago
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      • it doesn't even sound like she's that close to this person. 7 hr 54 min ago
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        • her best friend is traveling accross the country? easy enough to invite her over for the night and take off monday and go for lunch/hike/spa etc 7 hr 53 min ago
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          • best friend from college. does not sound like best friend currently. 7 hr 52 min ago
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          • Op: I'd be delighted if she wanted to drive down to NJ from Maine to see me, but that is an 8hr drive for her. Andcan't take off Monday bc I leave on vacation 7 hr 51 min ago
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            • can she fly into maine and fly out of newark? 7 hr 49 min ago
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              • She could. I can suggest it. She wants to meet in Boston or similar. 7 hr 47 min ago
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    • so total driving for you would be what? 8 hours, and will dd be with you? 7 hr 58 min ago
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    • i can't beliee all these people saying you should do this. It sounds completely insane. You just have to say, nope, work is pressing, I have to get home, I just can't do this...(more) 7 hr 38 min ago
      this time. Maybe next year we can schedule this a little gbetter.
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    • in these days of skype, why do that unless it is to have sex? all tthat driving and craziness for ONE LUNCH? if she is a teacher with summer off and all kinds of "make it happen"...(more) 4 hr 33 min ago
      energy, invite her to come to NJ for a few days. She can drop her kid off and then fly down to Newark. Her plan is ridiculous. Does she realize NJ to Maine would be like you telling her to "make it happen" if she were in San Fran and you were on Portland or Vegas? She can go out of her way to get to you if so desperate, the end.
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      • ^and the friend is DROPPING OFF, while you are picking up. sounds liek she is footloose and fancy free and if she wants a visit, she should head to NY or NJ. 4 hr 25 min ago
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    • where are you vacationing? she should connect with you there OR come stay i your place, overlap a few days then spend a week visiting NY. 4 hr 24 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Can i get some advice? I posted earlier in the year about 8yo HFA/ADHD ds who was taking a SN soccer class. 8 hr 56 min ago (25 replies)
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    • What is your question? 8 hr 54 min ago
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    • ^^^ He is excelling in a SN soccer class, but the other kids are far more impaired than he is, and he is actually pretty good when it comes to drills, footwork, etc. We decided to...(more) 8 hr 47 min ago
      Push him a bit and enroll in rec soccer. He has a wonderful coach who is just happy to see him participate at all. BUT yesterday was the 2nd game, and ds refused to join 1st half at all and kept running to a nearby playground to play tag instead. When he did play, he was slow, couldn't keep up, got frustrated, overwhelmed, told kids they were cheating, threw himself on the field (and on the ball!) crying, and we had to drag him off. Lots of tears about how he's a "failure". Here's the question: would you try to finish the season, or just bail on this experiment?
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      • No, retread what you wrote and think about what you'd tell someone else. Would you tell someone else to repeat that experience? 8 hr 42 min ago
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        • I genuinely don't know. He was tired yesterday bc he's gone to bed late. Will he feel some sense of accomplishment if he tries again and makes some kind of improvement? 8 hr 40 min ago
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          • ^^^ But the most telling thing to me is that he just wanted to play tag with a bunch of 5yos on the playground. That is his passion -- playing tag! 8 hr 39 min ago
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          • I would not do it again. Everyone will be stressed and fraught before the next game...what life lesson is so important that you need to go through the this again? 8 hr 38 min ago
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            • Np: but the flip side is, quitting immediately instead of giving it another try, sends the message "yup, youre a failure, and there's no point in trying again ecause everyone...(more) 8 hr 33 min ago
              understands you cant do better". I am all for cutting losses and not deliberately forcing traumas over and over. But it seems like this example may have had so much other stuff happening - my first thought was Ugh, first time anything always results in tears for my dd!
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              • Op: that was my thought too. As you can see, I'm very torn. 8 hr 30 min ago
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                • That's why I asked about the gut feeling below! There are good reasons for both courses of action. You GF tells you that extra bitof info you dont like admitting to yourself!...(more) 8 hr 28 min ago
                  (Ime!)
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              • I disagree, he's not quitting soccer altogether, he is continuing the original program it seemed to me. It's ok to say, this teams's not for you, we'll find another one. the...(more) 5 hr 35 min ago
                parent can moderate the so-called sense of failuer and the message of failure.
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      • One more game. 8 hr 42 min ago
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        • Can you say why you think this? 8 hr 41 min ago
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          • Well, if he's anything like mine, he may just have been a bit overwhelmed and adjust for the next time now that he knows what to expect 8 hr 38 min ago
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            • Op: this was his 2nd game, and the 1st was better but not by much. 8 hr 36 min ago
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              • Then forget it. Too much 8 hr 33 min ago
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      • What does your gut tell you? Without knowing more about your dc and all, it seems 50/50 pros/cons. And are you and his dad on the same page? 8 hr 41 min ago
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        • My gut says he can't keep up -- and he's already on a 1st grade team. Dh thought this would end up exactly as it did and wasn't in favor. Ds is just doing so great in his SN...(more) 8 hr 36 min ago
          class, and another parent in the class said his Down syndrome dd was doing rec soccer too, so I thought it was doable ...
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          • Therefore, go with the gut, particularly if dh agrees. I see why you wanted to give it a shot. But also, Downs isnt hfa or adhd, so dont go by what another kid manages to do. 8 hr 30 min ago
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          • He can be too good for SN soccer and still not be able to play rec soccer, you know. 8 hr 19 min ago
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          • Down syndrome is so entirely different there is no way to compare, the issues do not include anything like social deficits and impulsivity - different can of worms entirely. I...(more) 8 hr 17 min ago
            would from the team, sounds like it is too much and let dc continue to succeed on the sn team.
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            • I really relate to this. My kid has very similar profile and behaviors...(more) 8 hr 1 min ago
              My two cents are: first, if your kid is verbal, ASK him if he wants to go back to that soccer group. Use pictures if needed. Second, if you do go back, set up your expectations clearly with him, using social stories in advance. Have low expectations: if he can follow the rules on the field, and play with others without meltdowns for 5 minutes, it's a win. Next time, 7 minutes is a win. Give a reward after. Also, try to figure out what caused the problem. Was the coach speaking too fast? Are the other kids being kind? Is the situation too loud and distracting?
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              • Also, maybe it's just hard to adjust from being the highest functioning kid in the group...(more) 7 hr 57 min ago
                To being unable to keep up. Maybe the feeling of not being the "winner" caused problems. We had the same experience with trying SN soccer. There wasn't a group that was really integrated, and the SN group was more impaired.
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              • This is it exactly. And you've laid out what I'm struggling with -- do we try to build success one small 5 minute victory at a time, or do we just walk away? But yes, I am going...(more) 7 hr 41 min ago
                to ask him directly.
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                • look gor something in-between. also talk this over with yoir child, it is so important to have the talk. dort of lije goldilocks, not too doft and norbroo hard. also upur child...(more) 6 hr ago
                  needs to succeed while moving forward as you know.bgl
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                  • NP: if anyone knows of truly inclusive soccer, gymnastics, or karate...(more) 2 hr 31 min ago
                    Or programs for kids with milder versions of ASD, I'd love to know of them. My DC has had to mainly go to "segregated" (and way more expensive) after school SN-only programs and activities because she can't succeed in mainstream environments; or the weak efforts such mainstream programs make to be inclusive are not effective.
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  7. Special Needs Anyone use Rusk for PT and OT. We have done 6 Saturday sessions there and think it is pretty good. The OT suggested its aquatic program--anyone's child do this. 22 hr 10 min ago (2 replies)
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    • My ds is being treaded by Melissa Schaeffer and she has been very communicative about her approach and his progress. 20 hr 19 min ago
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      • ^ OT at Rusk 20 hr 19 min ago
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  8. Special Needs This post has been deleted. 22 hr 17 min ago (7 replies)
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    • why is this on sn? 22 hr 16 min ago
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      • np - because if you post an OP on SN, this site will put your following post on SN unless you actively change your post back to Toddler. You don't know that? It happens all the...(more) 22 hr 15 min ago
        time
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        • no, it doesn't 22 hr 14 min ago
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          • It most certainly does. Try an OP on SN and you will see. 22 hr 12 min ago
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    • too early in what way? 22 hr 22 min ago
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    • im on 22 hr 22 min ago
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  10. Special Needs 11yo ds has diagnosed adhd, processing disorder, learning disabled, low working memory, low executive functioning skills. I feel like all dh and I do is rag in him and get...(more) 4-29-2017 4:19pm (10 replies)
    frustrated with him. It's so hard not to. He messes up everything and causes so much anxiety in the house. Not sure how to help us and him. It's so sad.
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    • do you get family counseling? 4-29-2017 4:20pm
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    • His therapist and psychiatrist should be able to offer you tools, plans, coping strategies. That's what they're there for. And D.C. Should be in CBT to learn skills himself. 4-29-2017 4:21pm
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    • you need to bring the expectations down so they are manageable 4-29-2017 4:21pm
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      • This!!! I have to remind myself I dont care what YBM thinks that I get 14yo up in the am, and make her school lunch. I dont give a shit at all. I DO care that the times she is...(more) 4-29-2017 4:27pm
        late to school are as infrequent as possible. I do care that her lunch is tempting enough so she'll actually eat, instead of chatting and not getting a bite begore that 20 minute lunch break is over by 11:30. Cause if that happens, it means she's going into her afternoon classes on zero energy since that 7:00am small yogurt...So we have to do what we have to do, to maximize her successes and minimize her failures. An ADD kid doesnt need to "learn by failing" - they are waaaaay more familiar with that than non-adhd families believe.
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        • WORD!! Keep up the good work! 23 hr 59 min ago
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    • What kind of supports is he getting? Can those specialists work with you too to help you feel less frustrated? 4-29-2017 4:21pm
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    • Yes. Imo, the hardest thing is to not react with frustration and anger, even a little. It's helped me to read ADDitudes mag.com when an actual ADHD person describes their feelings...(more) 4-29-2017 4:22pm
      About themselves, and about disappointing their parents, teachers, bosses and friends.
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    • What are his strengths? There has to be something he enjoys and is good at? Focus on that 4-29-2017 4:22pm
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    • You need to change your expectations, focus on his strengths, and stop constantly correcting him. He isn't learning from that and you're just becoming resentful. I'm not saying...(more) 23 hr 53 min ago
      jus let him do whatever, but pick a thing or two, not everything
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    • NP: Can I ask what school he is in? This is my dc exactly and we are having a hard time with school 1 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Long bus rides - what do elementary-aged kids do?...(more) 4-29-2017 3:12pm (12 replies)
    Two part question. First - do elementary aged kids with long (over 30 min) bus rides use electronics or is it a mix (do some kids read?)? Second part, what non-electronic suggestions do you have for keeping a 8-11 yo occupied on a long bus commute? Tia.
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    • IME, kids like it because it is the least structured part of the schoolday (but only if they have friends on the bus) 4-29-2017 3:14pm
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      • Op so kids chit-chat? Interesting. 4-29-2017 3:19pm
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      • Op I'll layout my fear which is that I send dc with books and even comics and dc spends the entire time watching other dc play video games 4-29-2017 3:24pm
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        • NP Yup. When my ds loses iPhone privlages this is what happens in practice. 4-29-2017 3:26pm
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        • Who cares? Kids need some downtime and zone out time 4-29-2017 3:26pm
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          • For some kids this can be hours a day. Depends upon the commute. Sure if it is half an hour here and there. But if your talking 4 hours that's a different story. 4-29-2017 3:29pm
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            • Right. I don't know any parent who would want their elementary-aged dc to spend four hours a day doing screentime. 4-29-2017 3:30pm
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              • np Agree, but I would not be OK w/ a 4 hour round trip bus ride daily no matter what they did on the bus 4-29-2017 3:31pm
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                • Yes but for many parents this is the reality of the right educational setting for their dc 4-29-2017 3:50pm
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            • ITA. Up to 30 minutes, zoning out is fine. I think a longer than 30 minute bus ride is crazy at that age anyway 4-29-2017 3:30pm
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              • Sometimes parents don't have a choice. Or the alternatives may be a huge step down educationally 4-29-2017 3:51pm
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    • Zone out, doze off for the little ones, talk to other kids, read, do homework. 18 hr 35 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Am really hemming and hawing over insurance psychiatrist first med recommendation of Strattera. Did anyone pay out of pocket for an out of insurance psychiatrist stabilize meds...(more) 4-28-2017 11:53pm (0 replies)
    and then move to in-network psychiatrist? If so, can anyone recommend very skilled psychiatrist in NYC for 16yo ADHD, APD, dysgraphic?
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  13. Special Needs Newly dxd ADHD dd - called school to set up meeting and...(more) 4-28-2017 2:44pm (8 replies)
    and the school social worker was like - oh I don't think we usually do meetings. We just note the testing accommodation. I nicely set there were more recommendations than just testing and that my understanding is that we will have a meeting with school and our doctor. Can anyone advise on what the process actually is?
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    • the meeting would be with the board of ed. 4-28-2017 2:47pm
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    • ^said, not set 4-28-2017 2:47pm
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    • where do you live? what is your goal? 504, iep? 4-28-2017 2:47pm
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      • Op- Brooklyn, 504 4-28-2017 2:48pm
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        • yes, you need a ppt type mtg to go ver and get 504 acomadations approved for next year. send principal, spcial ed, social worker a nice note - please let me know next steps for...(more) 4-28-2017 2:52pm
          johny's 504 as he was recently dx with adhd. thank you
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    • call the special ed director 4-28-2017 2:47pm
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    • IME, i sent a copy of the report to the principal, the spec ed teacher, and ds's teacher. i discussed it with the teacher directly. and every year i discuss it with the new...(more) 4-28-2017 3:08pm
      teacher.
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    • You need to request a 504 meeting. 4-28-2017 4:38pm
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  14. Special Needs Anyone try Teenz in the City? http://www.teenzinthecity.com/...(more) 4-28-2017 2:08pm (0 replies)
    My daughter is 16, a sophomore at Winston Prep. She has friends at school -better with boys than girls, but is friendly with girls who are 'sportier.' But while she may on occasion text, she does not make much effort (or care) to extend herself to seeing kids outside of school. The rare times she does, she feels great We did the NYU PEERS program, but limited progress in this out of school stuff. And she is too old for me to arrange. Anyone try Teenz in the City?
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  15. Special Needs We applied to a few sn schools that have said they still have spots for next year. Completed the applications last weeks. What is the time frame and next step? Do they...(more) 4-28-2017 9:13am (4 replies)
    accept/reject by mail or phone and how long after app is complete?
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    • don't you think you should ask the schools this? 4-28-2017 9:20am
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      • I don't want to keep calling. I figured I would wait a few days. Thanks for your input though 4-28-2017 9:35am
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        • I don't think there is any harm in calling at this point. SN schools are not discriminatory in that way as MS private schools can be. They understand. 4-28-2017 10:18am
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    • we have done this, it moves very quickly, with turnaround to fill up spots in a day or two after they offer you acceptance. GL. Ask your contact people at the schools. 4-28-2017 9:21am
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  16. Special Needs Are there any good but small class nurturing public schools on Long Island that provide...(more) 4-28-2017 2:49am (7 replies)
    Support for a Kindergartener with IEP and related seevices?
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    • How small do you want? Most have around 23-25 kids 4-28-2017 8:31am
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      • Any have 12 or under? My friend says some of the really good school districts have small classes 4-28-2017 1:53pm
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        • No way are any close to that small. That's a special ed size. For that size you go to private school. 4-28-2017 4:42pm
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          • Thanks! Any small nurturing private schools in Nassau/Suffolk counties? 4-28-2017 5:54pm
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            • Friends Academy, Portledge, East Woods. Also there's a bunch of catholic schools that are popular - small class sizes 4-28-2017 6:13pm
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              • Thanks. what are some good Catholic schools with small class size and good academic curriculum? 4-28-2017 7:21pm
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                • They are all good. You need to google based on where you live since The counties are big 4-29-2017 7:29am
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  17. Special Needs I just bought a bunch of clothes from Ann Taylor Loft. I haven't shopped there in years, but I liked a ton of stuff on their website. Anyone else shop there? Cute stuff. 4-27-2017 10:28pm (13 replies)
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  18. Special Needs HELP!!! Is it too late to apply for NEST(Intensive-K)?...(more) 4-27-2017 10:10pm (5 replies)
    My DC just turned 4 last December, and we just finished a complete evaluation. DC has an Autism Dx, average IQ, language delays, and has hard time focusing in activities/language when interacting in large groups. Not ready for NEST at all but I was hoping to get a seat in the Intensive K class (Nest), so that, next year goes to NEST. I hope we are still on time to try. We live in Queens. I sent an email last week asking for more info to the nest email address but i did not get a replay. Thank you.
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    • Just responded to you on Toddler. Call the Central Team tomorrow. 4-27-2017 10:12pm
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    • It's not too late. Start the inquiry process tomorrow 4-27-2017 10:18pm
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    • They only check the mailbox weekly. Your schools psychologist can help you 4-27-2017 10:19pm
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    • A few years ago, when we were considering NEST, I emailed Diane Carnegie directly. She emailed me back within 5 minutes and asked me to call her. She was amazing and helpful and...(more) 4-28-2017 10:01am
      totally got my head right about where DS should go and did go. Unfunded SN private, BTW.
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    • I've posted many times about the I-K program -- my ds was in an I-K class at PS112 recently. Contact the school pyschologist at the Queens school that has I-K PS (165 I think)....(more) 4-28-2017 10:24am
      It's not too late provided there are still spaces (and FWIW some years they do not fill I-K b/c they don't find the right fit of students which is a shame because it is a great program). Search this board re PS112, Intensive K etc to find my older posts on the program as well. But first contact that school psych!
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  19. Special Needs I need you guys to give me your thoughts on this. Ds is going into 6th (middle school) next year. He has an IEP for anxiety and I met with the IEP lady from the MS today. She...(more) 4-27-2017 9:45pm (17 replies)
    suggested (along with the Child studies lady from current school) that ds be in a resource support class that helps with organization and any help they might need in any subject. I thought it sounded good, but my reservation is if they take that class, they miss a foreign language class. And he has a twin brother who will be taking the language. I don't want him to feel bad about not getting the language and I don't want him to feel "different" by having to be in this class. What do you think? Explain to him that it will be more helpful to him at this point than the language would be? Thoughts?
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    • Organizational skills are by far more important than a foreign language in 6th grade. 4-27-2017 9:47pm
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      • I agree. And he's pretty smart, so I think he will catch right up to where he would need to be for a language once he gains the organization skills from that class. They do a...(more) 4-27-2017 9:48pm
        different language each quarter to try each one out.
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    • He's young he's got plenty of time for a foreign language. It's more import any that he get support for his classes 4-27-2017 9:48pm
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    • My dd wasnt dxd until freshman year, and then she got RR (with reservations) for 10th grade. It turned out to be a terrific thing for her. She got some hw done, the teacher went...(more) 4-27-2017 9:51pm
      over what was due or overdue and how to manage. Most important, it gave her a breather in the middle of an extremely long school day.
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      • Definately agree that the organizational skills class is key to present and future success. Foreign language is so academic. One can only be fluent if totally emersed in the...(more) 4-27-2017 9:57pm
        language/ My daughter took Latin starting in 8thgrade--perfect to support English and grammar!!
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    • Does he have ADHD? When u say organization and anxiety sounds like it. Anxiety part of ADHD and often a reason to medicate 4-27-2017 9:57pm
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      • He does have an adhd component, but his anxiety is more of an issue. 4-28-2017 9:55am
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    • I have twins. It's hard to stop comparing, but doing the right thing doesn't mean doing the same thing. Do what;s right for each child. If they weren't twins you would probably...(more) 4-27-2017 9:58pm
      not question it
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    • I am a huge believer in this. Look at the hs. Most start the foreign language back at 1 so you are not missing anything and during middle you can use that 45 min to remediate...(more) 4-28-2017 8:21am
      any weaknesses and build support for hs success. I work in the field and push this. Some schools do offer languages during part of recess for the layered kids so you can do that + catch up in hs. Also to ease parents I often suggest talking to college guidance. Many colleges only want two years of hs language for some majors so this can help with designing a long term educational plan.
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      • Whoops I meant talk to the hs guidance team about what colleges are looking for. 4-28-2017 8:22am
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      • Np: so even after 3 years of foreign language plus a state test in it, they go back to Spanish I in high school? That doesn't make sense 4-28-2017 8:37am
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        • That student may test into a higher Spanish but kids who took French in middle or were did not do well on the placement test will go back to Spanish 1. Genrerally colleges only...(more) 4-28-2017 1:35pm
          want two years of a langue unless your going into majors that are languages based and Spanish 3 and 4 vs 1 and 2 and executive functioning help.
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          • Good to know thanks!! 4-28-2017 4:43pm
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    • Are you sure he would miss language and not an elective like art or music? Because he is unlikely to be exempt from the requirement unless he is LD or ASD classification 4-28-2017 8:34am
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      • It would replace the art and foreign language for each quarter,unless I pull him midway thru the year, which I would do if he doesn't seem to need it. Also, band or chorus is...(more) 4-28-2017 9:54am
        compulsory.
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        • I would do it. Revisit the issue periodically throughout the quarter to see how he is doing 4-28-2017 10:27am
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  20. Special Needs My NT 3.5 yo DD is suddenly speaking like her speech delayed ASD older brother....(more) 4-27-2017 9:35pm (5 replies)
    Using whines, screams, 3 word sentences in a sing song repetitive tone. She can perfectly well speak full sentences. On one hand she adores and idolizes her big bro do anything that helps her relate and interact with him is great (he is pretty severe on the spectrum). On the other hand she should be modeling correct behavior for him not the other way around. This is impacting her development to the point even her prek teacher has noticed and recommended a speech consult. What should I do? I tell her try again say it better etc. but so far it's just getting worse. Is this a harmless phase?
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    • I should add her psychological well being has been affected by SN DS...(more) 4-27-2017 9:39pm
      He has been aggressive towards her in the past and his tantrums scare her (even though she is obsessed with him and follows him constantly). For a while now she has been painfully shy with peers and even developed a stutter when nervous or shy.
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    • she will outgrow this 4-27-2017 9:41pm
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      • Thanks. Hope so 4-27-2017 9:44pm
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        • anxiety could be a different story though. I'd be reading up on child anxiety 4-27-2017 9:45pm
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    • I would consult with your son's ABA therapist. She might have tips on how to work on this with your DD since it is behavioral not developmental 4-28-2017 8:38am
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  22. Special Needs Advice please. My 13 yo has adhd and some social issues. My 11 yo ds told me...(more) 4-27-2017 8:20pm (33 replies)
    today that people will say mean things to him about how annoying his older brother is. My older son goes to another school and these kids haven't seen him for years but clearly they remember him. My younger son is very upset and angry with me about why I don't do more to help his brother be less annoying. What should I say or do?
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    • the children who makes these comments are the ones who need to learn to be less annoying. teach your child to defend his brother 4-27-2017 8:20pm
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      • I told him those kids were jerks. He said he agreed but it's not fair his older brother 's behavior affects him. 4-27-2017 8:22pm
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        • I think this falls under a general "life isn't fair" lesson. Unfortunately, this world is filled with judgmental assholes. Fortunately, there are a lot of good eggs, too, and he...(more) 4-28-2017 10:22am
          should learn to stick with that crowd.
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    • is your 13yo medicated and in therapy? 4-27-2017 8:20pm
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      • Yes 4-27-2017 8:21pm
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        • then your younger kid needs to be more understanding. Good luck. I go through this in my house too and it's not easy 4-27-2017 8:24pm
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    • You need to impart sympathy to your younger son, who sounds like he is wayyyy off base. He should be protecting and defending his brother, who has some special needs 4-27-2017 8:21pm
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      • He is not sympathetic. He thinks older ds is choosing to be this way. No matter how many times I explain, he doesn't get it. 4-27-2017 8:23pm
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        • family therapy 4-27-2017 8:24pm
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          • He just started family therapy a month ago and is extremely resistant to it. 4-27-2017 8:26pm
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        • Right. So you need to continue to work on educating him. And if he doesn't listen to it from you, then perhaps from a doctor or some other authority figure he is more likely to...(more) 4-27-2017 8:24pm
          listen to.
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          • This post has been disliked 3 times. showNP -do you have a sn child? Who are you with all of this free (bullshit) advice?? 4-27-2017 8:26pm
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            • Of course I do. 4-27-2017 8:30pm
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            • NP this is common advice even from "experts"- I'm one. Educating younger ds is a process and, yes, some listen to doctors. Ive been used that way. 4-27-2017 8:31pm
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              • lol, of course you are. you are the expert on EVERYTHING. You're the ubiquitous ybm expert. All done with you. Have a nice night with your ideas of what OP needs to continue...(more) 4-27-2017 8:32pm
                to do
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                • I'm an np. and I'm a pediatric neuropsychologist. You can laugh and do what you need to do to defend yourself, but that won't make you right. 4-27-2017 8:34pm
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                  • Op here. .. so what should I as a parent be saying. 4-27-2017 8:35pm
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                    • explain about brother's brain, how he wants to be like everyone else- but cant. Give him similar examples- someone with a physical disability cant just walk, etc. Be empathic...(more) 4-27-2017 8:42pm
                      about how it impacts him- how he feels when kids tease. How he feels attacked himself and he wants that to go away. If only it were that easy! The solution is harder... it requires him to be strong and act confident. it's an ongoing conversation. I grew up with sns sibs and I wasn't nice either. Here I am.
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                      • Maybe I should share this with my parents too. They don't really get it either. 4-27-2017 8:46pm
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              • How long does this process take? 4-27-2017 8:33pm
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                • 11yo is still a fairly concrete, egocentric age- he cares mostly for his own comfort now. Some kids become more emphatic and secure as teens- others as young adults 4-27-2017 8:36pm
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                  • How should dh and I handle? I'm so glad he's telling us this, and I want to keep the lines open. 4-27-2017 8:37pm
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        • tell him he is choosing not to understand 4-27-2017 8:24pm
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        • OR above. It's hard. I know. People who haven't experienced this think it's as easy as just "teaching" your child to be teflon. LOL, as if that is even possible. 4-27-2017 8:25pm
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          • I just feel bad because it isn't fair and as disruptive ad older ds'adhd is to our family, he still...(more) 4-27-2017 8:28pm
            seems normal enough that I get why younger ds doesn't believe it.
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            • yes, of course. peers are rougher than anyone. and btw, NT siblings also harbor all the resentment of the annoyances they have to cope with at home every day. Family...(more) 4-27-2017 8:30pm
              counseling may very well help
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    • does ds understand that older bro has sns? He needs a strategy on dealing with mean kids 4-27-2017 8:23pm
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      • See above. He doesn't get it. I should add 13 yo is a stellar student and does have a couple of friends 4-27-2017 8:24pm
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        • ^^so ds sees his older brother as successful in many ways 4-27-2017 8:25pm
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          • all he cares about is himself and that he's teased 4-27-2017 8:28pm
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            • Yes and I think he can't believe we can't fix his brother. 4-27-2017 8:30pm
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    • I hope your 11yo is seeing a therapist for his resentment and anger. It's recommended that siblings of kids with SN seek therapy. 4-27-2017 9:21pm
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      • he is -- but he doesn't want to go. claims the therapist isn't fixing anything. 4-27-2017 10:46pm
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    • Psychologist and neuropsych rec. 4-27-2017 7:54pm
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  24. Special Needs Watching 7 yo asd ds play baseball is painful 4-27-2017 6:07pm (3 replies)
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    • oh yes it is. Just wait until he is 12 though. a lot of fun now 4-27-2017 6:09pm
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      • He is just so out of it. Another planet. 4-27-2017 6:14pm
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    • Ha. I was very excited when my son gave up baseball. Watching him was so cringe-y. 4-27-2017 7:52pm
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  25. Special Needs DS will start 10 mg Vyvanse soon. He is only going to take on mornings he has school to help with paying attention. He is 7. What should I expect? 4-27-2017 5:08pm (6 replies)
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    • i take 20 mg and my DH who is 15 takes 40 mg --i don't know how your DS will react but it helps my DS focus better. also kills his appetite, so feed him a big breakfast --although...(more) 4-27-2017 5:10pm
      10 mg is the lowest dose, so he may not have any issues with that
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      • No, mine did not ah e sleeping or eating changes u till he was up to 40mg many years after he was 7. :). GL op. 4-27-2017 7:49pm
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    • watch for the rebound effect when it wears off. 4-27-2017 5:21pm
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    • My ds takes metadate but we had to give it to him on weekends too to keep him even keel, otherwise every Monday the side effects were too strong. If we kept him on it, they...(more) 4-27-2017 5:25pm
      subsided after a week or so. Now that he's older he's gotten used to it and we can give it just during the week
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      • Which side effects? 4-28-2017 8:39am
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    • OP: Thank you ! 4-28-2017 11:34pm
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