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- Special Needs Autoadmit.com check it out. no PG there
- that good. I saw that accusation yesterday and it would be disappointing if true.
- PG posts there daily as Tommy Turdskin
- How do you know it's her?
- She posts about running this site on the board. Encouraged us to come post here
- Say it isn't so!
- She's racist
- That's sucks if true.
- the racist stuff she posts there is out of control. I love autoadmit but she has ruined the site.
- That's sucks if true.
- She's racist
- Say it isn't so!
- She posts about running this site on the board. Encouraged us to come post here
- How do you know it's her?
- PG posts there daily as Tommy Turdskin
- that good. I saw that accusation yesterday and it would be disappointing if true.
- Special Needs Goyim are cattle
- MOOOOOO
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- lol
- Special Needs Can anyone honestly tell me the America of the 80s and 90s wasn't better? Look at this Mercedes video...(more)
- Better for whom?
- Mercedes buyers. These cars were so much better. They used to be built to a standard, not a price. My dad drove his old diesel E-class for 300k miles.
- You realize lots of cars can go 300k
- What other car can average 300k? toyota land cruiser?
- Lots. Theres volvos that have gone millions
- Not modern volvos. They are POS
- Lots. Theres volvos that have gone millions
- What other car can average 300k? toyota land cruiser?
- You realize lots of cars can go 300k
- Mercedes buyers. These cars were so much better. They used to be built to a standard, not a price. My dad drove his old diesel E-class for 300k miles.
- ok imcp
- Better for whom?
- Special Needs This post has been disliked 3 times. Any RETARDS around
- Special Needs We disagreed with school district evaluations/placement and requested an IEE neuropsychological evaluation in a letter to the CSE...Now the head of special ed keeps calling 2see...(more)
- it's expensive and they don't want to do it. You should be able to articulate why you are asking for the neuro. What did their testing miss in your opinion?
- op: possible dyscalculia and auditory processing disorder--their evals don't explain why child is having so much difficulty in math...is it okay to email this special ed person...(more)
- yes, she still may call you but get your thoughts together and send an email.
- op:Thx. I'm just gonna say I can't talk today but She can email me her questions and Id be happy to answer.
- yes, she still may call you but get your thoughts together and send an email.
- op: possible dyscalculia and auditory processing disorder--their evals don't explain why child is having so much difficulty in math...is it okay to email this special ed person...(more)
- it's expensive and they don't want to do it. You should be able to articulate why you are asking for the neuro. What did their testing miss in your opinion?
- Special Needs We don't have any hard surfaces to put a chromebook other than the table where we eat. The school rules are to only put Chromebooks on hard surfaces where there is no food or...(more)
- get them those little desks
- here...(more)
- No space, no money
- did you see what i linked? it's teeny tiny. i got one for my kids. they use it sometimes.
- 4 kids one bedroom
- I feel you but they stack and they are seriously small enough to fit under a bed. I would buy one and see if any of your kids likes it
- Do you have any dressers? One of mine uses that as a standing desk.
- 4 kids one bedroom
- did you see what i linked? it's teeny tiny. i got one for my kids. they use it sometimes.
- The schools have no f@cking idea how most people live. NO people should not have to buy furniture
- I get this but there are cheap desks or tables on craigslist for like $20.
- get them those little desks
- Special Needs I'm married to a man who is becoming a Trump-loving, Fox-watching Republican. He wasn't like this when we met 18 years ago! I hate this so much about him. I would divorced his...(more)
- Wow, I'm sorry.
- cant you just agree to turn off the tv and not discuss politics? he can't prioritize his child?
- It has nothing with prioritizing his child, he's good that way. Is when he talks to me, or I hear him talking to his friends, drives me nuts.
- ah. leave the room and meditate. at least until yoru ds no longer needs you guys in the same house. GL
- It has nothing with prioritizing his child, he's good that way. Is when he talks to me, or I hear him talking to his friends, drives me nuts.
- He was always like this. You either just didn't talk about it or believed his "I'm a moderate" bullshit.
- my ex dh was a closet republican. he knew i was liberal and apparently played down his beliefs until we started not getting along
- I don't believe you for a second if you say you didn't know. There are so many tells. You just chose to be willfully blind.
- lol. okay then.
- My family is full of guys like this. They seem perfectly normal. But they won't venture into certain neighborhoods, prefer pay-to-play stuff to public facilities like beaches...(more)
- i don't give a shit about YOUR family. fuck off.
- OP: For the record, the above comment didn't come from me.
- I agree with you.
- It's obvious. Women make excuses until they can't anymore
- i don't give a shit about YOUR family. fuck off.
- My family is full of guys like this. They seem perfectly normal. But they won't venture into certain neighborhoods, prefer pay-to-play stuff to public facilities like beaches...(more)
- MORON
- Sure, sure, pat, pat on your head. Because you've never heard of people changing over the decades.
- Yeah, no, I haven't. People don't just morph into sociopathic racists. They just don't.
- lol. okay then.
- Whoa! I didn't think of this as a possibility.
- I don't believe you for a second if you say you didn't know. There are so many tells. You just chose to be willfully blind.
- my ex dh was a closet republican. he knew i was liberal and apparently played down his beliefs until we started not getting along
- Did he ever tried to grab you by the p....?
- Yes, but it was consensual. Now back to my point.
- block Fox on your tv.
- The TV has gotta go. My DH is not a fox-lover, but he became so addicted to MSNBC during the 2016 election and after that it literally caused problems between us. I finally really...(more)
- people get older and wiser. churchill said "any man under 20 who isn't liberal has no heart. any man over 30 who isn't conservative has no brain."
- Divorce him anyway. He will raise ds as a trump-loving ass too
- Special Needs TY IHO... MacBook, iPad, Apple Pencil, hearing aids, 120 hrs of speech @$125/hr, 184 hrs SETSS @$125/hr, OT and Counseling evaluations.
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- Shame on you
- Special Needs How do I deal with hating my child?
- I'm sorry. It's really, really hard. Do you have a therapist for you?
- No. I guess I need to find someone.
- Nnp: you deserve to have one of your own
- God knows we have had ENDLESS ones for dc, to no fucking avail, despite all our efforts.
- Nnp: you deserve to have one of your own
- No. I guess I need to find someone.
- Are you in therapy? Seems like something that needs to be talked out
- Lots of nannies
- what's going on?
- What’s going on? Things have been tough for a lot of us. Remote schooling is killer
- He is awful. Sent home from sn school due to behavior. Needs constant maintenance. Won’t take any direction without argument. Thinks he is completely my equal and should be...(more)
- I’m so sorry. I’ve had tough years where I’ve heard not one good thing about my child from other adults. It’s very hard.
- Thanks. That’s pretty much every year for us. :(
- I’m so sorry. I’ve had tough years where I’ve heard not one good thing about my child from other adults. It’s very hard.
- He is awful. Sent home from sn school due to behavior. Needs constant maintenance. Won’t take any direction without argument. Thinks he is completely my equal and should be...(more)
- Hang in there. If this is happening sometimes, it is normal. Even parents with typical kids go through this. If it is all the time, you might want to look for help, i.e. support...(more)
- I'm sorry. It's really, really hard. Do you have a therapist for you?
- Special Needs I just made my first social story and I'm very proud of myself.
- What does this mean?
- I'm creating educational materials for my special ed students. I figured people on SN would know what I was talking about.
- What does this mean?
- Special Needs This post has been deleted.
- No way
- No. A couple have a key but would only enter in an emergency or if I asked them to
- Special Needs Ds's teacher is telling him he doesn't get extra time on todays assessment because it is a quiz, not a test, and there are no accommodations for assessments under 35 minutes. Is...(more)
- is it really that big of a deal
- It is because this year they are not having tests. All the assessments will be quizzes.
- that is bullshit. talk to principal
- It is because this year they are not having tests. All the assessments will be quizzes.
- does he really need the extra time or are you one of those...
- He is dyshraphic. He has to type and for math, since there are symbols, ot takes time. But, more than this one quiz I want to know if this is something I need to raise for the...(more)
- I’ve seen many IEPs that say extra time on assessments that are 45 minutes (class period) or longer, but presumably you know how it’s worded on DSs IEP.
- There is no mention of time at all
- Then he should get it, IMO. And it needs to be changed on IEP to say all quizzes and assessments. You can ask for that.
- ^I would contact guidance or special ed administrator and tell them his isn’t limited to full period exams or longer.
- Then he should get it, IMO. And it needs to be changed on IEP to say all quizzes and assessments. You can ask for that.
- There is no mention of time at all
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- Absolutely not. Clear 504 violation.
- Idk the correct answer but how awful. Does she want the kid to suffer??
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- They have to have the camera on during assessments. Extra time for him means she has to sit there watching for the extra time as well.
- That's the school's issue. This is the law.
- Look at detail of your 504
- In our case, quizzes were not included in test accommodations.
- is it really that big of a deal
- Special Needs Bezos Exposes Becker was such a great headline. I wonder if this one will offer some zingers
- Bezos Exposes Pecker
- Special Needs One good thing about this pandemic is, people won't blow spit all over bday cakes to blow out candles
- I always hated that. So glad.
- Gross
- So nasty
- I was thrilled to get plexiglass partition on my desk. People STILL walk around it!
- The closest I've ever come to dying was after eating a birthday cake with a trick candle on it. The birthday person tried like 10 times to blow it out. Against my better judgment...(more)
- Omg so sorry that is so gross... You can even get herpes... So nasty
- who are you people, we don't do that in my community
- Kids always blow out birthday candles at parties. So icky
- Special Needs So frustrating, ds 9 had an IQ of 69 3 years ago, now it's 50
- Sorry. I would retest. IQ usually stays the same. DS had to have it four times due to school needing on file and it was exact from seven years old to seventeen.
- Same school psych tested him 3 years ago. She says "he's doing more than he was then, but more is expected of 9 year olds so the score is lower".
- I'm sorry.
- It's probably a different test (WPPSI vs WISC). They say it doesn't make a difference, but IME it does.
- She said Stanford Binet this time and last time.
- Assume his IQ in somewhere in that range. There's no need for an exact number.
- Depending on the disability, the standard test may be unreliable. There are special testing methods for speech impaired, for example, but they are not consistently used by peoll...(more)
- Sorry. I would retest. IQ usually stays the same. DS had to have it four times due to school needing on file and it was exact from seven years old to seventeen.
- Special Needs Recommendation for educational advisor / advocate in CT? Trying to gather info on a few towns
- Special Needs My dc was deferred by CBST to a non-NYS residential placement. School has called. Does anyone have a list of questions to ask the school/admisstion director?
- Special Needs Ideal school question: do the typical children pay tuition? I have one sn and one nt dd. I am interested in applying for my nt dd but can not afford the tuition. We are...(more)
- Yes, the neurotypical students do pay tuition. You should contact them and discuss, though....(more)
- Special Needs Applying for MS from special needs private. DS with ADHD, anxiety, history of language disorder. What special needs schools and/or mainstream private or public would you...(more)
- How small
- ^also, how modified is his current program? He is school avoidant?
- His current program has behavioral plan in place where they earn rewards for good behavior. He hasn't gotten anything but perfect scores on his rewards chart. I'm wondering if he...(more)
- My experience with my ds, and I'm not saying this would be yours, is that the supports enabled him to have those successes. It wasn't like his success was evidence that he didn't...(more)
- I get it. And do worry about that. I'm likely going to keep him in special needs ms, but do want to transfer from our current school. so looking for any suggestions
- yeah, navigating NYC special ed is beyond me.
- Me too! LOL We definitely need a move academically and even socially. :)
- I wound up circumventing by putting my ds into Catholic HS. They have surprisingly excellent special ed supports.
- Interesting. I was thinking about Catholic schools. I'd need to investigate class size at certain schools. Thanks!
- It might be larger, but they have a SE resource room in a lot of these schools, and they really are great.
- Interesting. I was thinking about Catholic schools. I'd need to investigate class size at certain schools. Thanks!
- I wound up circumventing by putting my ds into Catholic HS. They have surprisingly excellent special ed supports.
- Me too! LOL We definitely need a move academically and even socially. :)
- yeah, navigating NYC special ed is beyond me.
- I get it. And do worry about that. I'm likely going to keep him in special needs ms, but do want to transfer from our current school. so looking for any suggestions
- My experience with my ds, and I'm not saying this would be yours, is that the supports enabled him to have those successes. It wasn't like his success was evidence that he didn't...(more)
- His current program has behavioral plan in place where they earn rewards for good behavior. He hasn't gotten anything but perfect scores on his rewards chart. I'm wondering if he...(more)
- Good question. Before COVID he was in 12, but was in a summer camp with 15-18. Definitely can't do NYC size 25-30.
- The public options are going to be either mainstream with those 24 or whatever, or in a SN setting with 12/1/1. Does he have an IEP?
- Yes. Currently his IEP says 12:1:1.
- Ok. I would suggest exploring those options. A mainstream MS might be really overwhelming...changing classes, having multiple teachers, etc.
- How do you explore those? Honest question. I don't know where to begin since we've not been in public.
- Yeah, transitioning there is not something I know about. And I teach in special ed, but not NYC>
- Got it. Thanks for the advice. NYC is so complicated. I feel like I'm flying blind when looking at public options.
- Good luck!
- Thanks!
- Good luck!
- Got it. Thanks for the advice. NYC is so complicated. I feel like I'm flying blind when looking at public options.
- Yeah, transitioning there is not something I know about. And I teach in special ed, but not NYC>
- How do you explore those? Honest question. I don't know where to begin since we've not been in public.
- Ok. I would suggest exploring those options. A mainstream MS might be really overwhelming...changing classes, having multiple teachers, etc.
- Yes. Currently his IEP says 12:1:1.
- The public options are going to be either mainstream with those 24 or whatever, or in a SN setting with 12/1/1. Does he have an IEP?
- ^also, how modified is his current program? He is school avoidant?
- Any behavioral issues?
- He's pretty well managed by medicine now. Before yes. Now not so much. Anxiety makes him shut down at first but he warms up. He mostly will become frustrated or upset at home...(more)
- Gaynor, Gateway.
- I did wonder about Gaynor. They wouldn't consider him years ago but said they'd consider him if his behavior was managed, which it is now. Gateway worries me though seems like a...(more)
- Nord Anglia is a mainstream school with very small class sizes and personalized learning.
- Interesting. Never heard of them before. Do you have a child there?
- OP: Suggested by friends were York Prep, Bay Ridge Prep (thoughFAR), Community School, Trevor Day, Specialized programs at Dwight and Columbia Grammar, BWL, Studio School,
- Go for ones that go through 12th grade. YOu don’t want to do this again in 3 years.
- Very true! I feel like we've been in constant school application mode through our journey.
- was also wondering about IDEAL and Summit
- Your ds doens’t sound like a candidate for IDEAL. Although admittedly I’ve never visited the school. I think the children there have more intensive physical needs among other...(more)
- Ideal is basically a private school with an ICT model. There are mainstream kids and SN kids with varying needs of support (which cost extra) in the same classes. Lessons are ....(more)
- Your ds doens’t sound like a candidate for IDEAL. Although admittedly I’ve never visited the school. I think the children there have more intensive physical needs among other...(more)
- We are at community school and pretty happy
- Does your child have ADHD? I've heard good things from families who go for LD but didn't know if kids there also have ADHD
- We are also there. I'm sure half the populataion has adhd!
- OR: yes, my ds has ADHD inattentive. Many kids there have ADHD
- ^^^my ds is now in 8th grade. I think he will wind up there for HS too. I just wish I could do an in person tour. They arent allowing it now
- Does your child have ADHD? I've heard good things from families who go for LD but didn't know if kids there also have ADHD
- Go for ones that go through 12th grade. YOu don’t want to do this again in 3 years.
- How small
- Special Needs Any single moms on with kids who have SN issues? It is just so hard. My ex is basically MIA and completely unhelpful and my parents, who normally participate, won't leave their...(more)
- I'm sobsorry. No one else to help?
- I have a good support network but no one can actually come over. It it just very hard to manage both kids, who take everything out on me. Yes, we do therapy and meds for them.
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- thank you
- I’m so sorry to hear that OP that must be very difficult. Although I’m not single my dh is completely uninvolved and no family around so I can relate. I have a SN 10yo and it’s...(more)
- thank you
- Me, not SN but 2 DCs and one has severe depression and anxiety. It is extremely hard.
- ^^and exDH has been MIA for many years
- thank you. my ex also has anxiety, which makes things much worse.
- if you live in ny, happy to refer our nanny- ex-SN teacher
- I don't, but thank you. It makes me feel better just getting such a kind offer.
- gl to you.
- I don't, but thank you. It makes me feel better just getting such a kind offer.
- if you live in ny, happy to refer our nanny- ex-SN teacher
- thank you. my ex also has anxiety, which makes things much worse.
- ^^and exDH has been MIA for many years
- np: I am a single mom (always single) with a sn teenage dc. No ex-husband. Parents dead. I find the covid situation hard, but I don't think it is harder for me than for anyone...(more)
- Thank you. That is exactly what it is. I appreciate your kind words. Sending you love and strength as well.
- I'm sobsorry. No one else to help?
- Special Needs If you and dh split up, how much was due to having a kid with SN?
- For us had to do w/ dh's annoying habit of having sex w/ nannies, au pairs, neighbors, baristas, sales people from Macys, co-workers, DS' den mother
- that is annoying!
- Yes, good Dad though and he was a good dh outside thit
- dh isn't a good dad, he takes everything too personally. But I wonder what impact splitting up would have on dd. She'd have to know she was part of his reason for leaving.
- taking everything personally is a personality flaw that isnt about dd
- I know, he wasn't cut out for this. Thought if he was better than his parents he'd be a great dad.
- Do you have other kids? Kids without sns are challenging too to a parent with flaws
- no, just one
- Do you have other kids? Kids without sns are challenging too to a parent with flaws
- I know, he wasn't cut out for this. Thought if he was better than his parents he'd be a great dad.
- taking everything personally is a personality flaw that isnt about dd
- dh isn't a good dad, he takes everything too personally. But I wonder what impact splitting up would have on dd. She'd have to know she was part of his reason for leaving.
- Yes, good Dad though and he was a good dh outside thit
- that is annoying!
- For us had to do w/ dh's annoying habit of having sex w/ nannies, au pairs, neighbors, baristas, sales people from Macys, co-workers, DS' den mother
- Special Needs Serious question: is there some kind of medication I can take that will help calm my anxiety and rage as I have to micro-manage totally non-compliant dc through detested remote...(more)
- I'm using CBD. Helps a little. Good night sleep is important for me
- weed
- wine
- How old is he? Mine is 12. Someone here recommended He’s not Lazy by Adam Price and its been super helpful
- ^^ It’s honestly helped me and helped make our relationship better
- xanax
- i know you're asking a serious question and i have no idea about medication but omg, what a shit show these ridiculous school closures have turned people's lives into
- teacher here and troubleshooting and helping my 6th graders online live zooming and helping my kids at home at the same time is pushing me off the fucking deep end
- in our district they basically can't open schools because the teachers who live in other districts wouldn't come in to teach, they'd take FFRCA to be home with their own kids
- I hope you realize that it is the same for the rest of us, right? It's not just hard for teachers! I actually have to go to work and my middle schooler is home alone half the...(more)
- teacher here and troubleshooting and helping my 6th graders online live zooming and helping my kids at home at the same time is pushing me off the fucking deep end
- zoloft helps me.
- I am taking lexapro 20 mg a day. remote learning with my sn ds pushed me to seek a psych telemedicine appt ( I already had a therapist)j. I ugly cried into my laptop and she...(more)
- honestly walks. mine is 9 and our issue is rude, dismissive words, esp towards younger sibling. it suvks
- Oh boy. I think you have to step back. Accept some things wont be the way you want (like a child’s grades) and do something for YOU - start seeing a therapist, start guided...(more)
- grades are the least of our concerns at this point. about to be kicked out of school. :(
- what is he doing?
- totally decompensating during in-person days. physically aggressive, non compliant, just unable to function (at a sn school with tremendous supports)
- He needs a therapeutic school I think. What is the SN?
- yes, we are just about to start the process - school is about to pull the plug on him. complex mix of hfa, adhd, dmdd (for whatever that's worth), dyslexia, disorder of written...(more)
- He needs a therapeutic school I think. What is the SN?
- totally decompensating during in-person days. physically aggressive, non compliant, just unable to function (at a sn school with tremendous supports)
- what is he doing?
- grades are the least of our concerns at this point. about to be kicked out of school. :(
- Special Needs It’s really hard having a child with “invisible” SNs. I’m so isolated and sad. I don’t have faith anymore that it’ll get easy to negotiate play dates or just to dea...(more)
- I totally get it. How old is dc?
- Almost 6
- what are dc's issues?
- Can’t climb or use playground equipment. Trying to arrange pt/ot. It’s just a lot. I’m enervated and upset and wil prob delete
- my ds didn't crawl until 14mo with PT - still need to teach him how to break things down into steps. But, he's 15 now and is doing well! Will he ever be on the varsity football...(more)
- Ty, glad your teen found what he loves!!
- my ds didn't crawl until 14mo with PT - still need to teach him how to break things down into steps. But, he's 15 now and is doing well! Will he ever be on the varsity football...(more)
- ah, I see below. I promise it gets easier - get the therapy you need, but give yourself a break. Both dcs had various issues that are extremely stressful, but not as visible to...(more)
- TY, I need this kindness today. I really do!!
- And, I know this isn't easy during Covid - what was difficult before is that much harder now
- I'm the same poster as above . . . while I was stressed about ds' issues being invisible, I was then overly stressed that dd's were not. She was a biter and hitter . . . that was...(more)
- TY, I need this kindness today. I really do!!
- Can’t climb or use playground equipment. Trying to arrange pt/ot. It’s just a lot. I’m enervated and upset and wil prob delete
- what are dc's issues?
- Almost 6
- Are the issues mental health-related, like anxiety?
- No, it’s hypotonia with nothing else at the moment
- I totally get it. How old is dc?
- Special Needs Back to teen ds refusing to go to school, refusing to do any work or really half ass it at best. back to playing on the computer for countless hours. no friends seem to be around...(more)
- Time for therapeutic boarding school.
- I just dont know where or how to find them.
- There are two ways to find them: $$$$ or using a consultant, or $0 or using google. Just start by googling "boarding school" and a couple phrases about your kid. Not kidding, that...(more)
- I just dont know where or how to find them.
- I'm sorry. KNow that you are doing your best. You can remove the computer given that he's going to blame you and demand things regardless you might as well let him figure out how...(more)
- he needs it for school when he actually does do any. I said I would get the most simple laptop for school work. I have a desktop and laptop. I am worried if I take it he will...(more)
- Ask his teachers to send you his work, put it on a jump drive and take the internet off of the computer. But I agree. A therapeutic program sounds like what he needs.
- IF your son does things like smash a laptop in a rage you need more intervention. I'm sorry you are going through this. He needs much more intervention
- he needs it for school when he actually does do any. I said I would get the most simple laptop for school work. I have a desktop and laptop. I am worried if I take it he will...(more)
- Time for therapeutic boarding school.