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  1. Special Needs If your 15yo ADHD inattentive dc is on meds, what is the dose and does he or she take a booster (?) in the evening/after school? Tia 29 min ago (14 replies)
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    • 30 mg vyvanse, no booster, no vacaqtion or weekends 28 min ago
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      • no HW at 15? 26 min ago
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        • Seems to work out. I think he does a lot during off periods. 25 min ago
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          • wow. my 10th grader does about 8 hours per weekend of study/HW 22 min ago
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    • just turned 16, 30mg vyvanse + 5md Adderall (Vyvanse doesn't come in a 35mg dose). 1-2 x a week 5mg after school short acting 27 min ago
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    • Op. Thanks 26 min ago
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      • ^^ ds takes 54mg Concerta and we have 5mg for evenings that he used to not take but lately it seems like he needs it. He finds it hard to focus in the evenings. Have you expire...(more) 24 min ago
        Experienced that?
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        • yes 23 min ago
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          • ^ I usually ask dd what HW she has that evening, think through it, and then decide if she wants booster 23 min ago
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            • Op. So you decide together? That sounds like us. Started on meds two years ago. Stayed on 36 all last year but seemed to need more this year (this school year I mean) and we tried...(more) 19 min ago
              The 54mg. He said he felt like he did when he first started it two years ago (on 18mg). Do you find your ddd needing the 5mg more now in the second half of school year?
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              • I wish she'd take it every day. But when she was originally on 40mg Vyvanse, it seriously depressed her. She's afraid of that, even though a booster wouldn't do that 18 min ago
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                • ^I should sit down and explain this in detail to her. 18 min ago
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                  • Op. Oh no. Poor girl. I can understand why she would be reluctant to take it. Ds has had no side effects with the Concerta but am still always on alert for changes. Do sit down...(more) 14 min ago
                    with her to explain. GL!
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                    • How is she handling ninth grade? It was hard for ds at the start. Settling in plus the new dosage has helped a lot. 13 min ago
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  2. Special Needs For those who have BTDT with ADHD medications: when your DC first started on it, did the teacher see improvement in focus right away (like the first week)? 32 min ago (20 replies)
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    • age of dc? 30 min ago
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      • 12, Started very low dose so I wonder if we need to increase. No side effects which is great but not sure any gains right now either. 7 min ago
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    • Mine did--DS was 8 (in 2nd grade) 29 min ago
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      • np: what meds and what side effects? 28 min ago
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        • Adderall. Pretty much none. DS 1 got some headaches. #2 had nothing 27 min ago
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          • do you have a minute for a couple of questions? 25 min ago
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            • Sure 23 min ago
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              • Thanks!...(more) 20 min ago
                I have a 7 yo (in 2nd grade), lots of impulsivity issues. Gets in trouble a lot in school for various things related to calling out, getting out of seat etc. No academic or social issues so far. Already gets weekly session with counselor and lots of accommodations in class: preferential seating, movement breaks, behavior chart, rewards jar. School asked us to do a Connors scale and it clearly showed tendency to ADD/ADHD. They suggested outside eval and meds. Should I push for in-school eval for 504. So unsure about meds. Would you mind sharing your exp? THANKS!!
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                • We never had behavior issues--it was just REALLY clear that assessments didn't reflect what he knew. Like on standardized tests we're pretty sure that he was just randomly hitting...(more) 14 min ago
                  computer keys. And he would get up and start something new (Montessori) before he finished a task. His teacher didn't SAY he was having focus issues--I brought it up first (DS #1 has ADHD inattentive, so we weren't surprised). We took him to psych for diagnosis before he got any accommodations/504. Honestly, his meds have helped SO much. Grades went from Bs and Cs to As and Bs. Test scores SHOT up.
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                  • That's great! Is Adderall the go-to drug? Is one med better or more specific than another? 12 min ago
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                    • Different psychs usually have different go-tos that they are comfortable with. Ours likes Adderall XR. Both my kids started on 5 and moved to 10, which is a failrly low dose 11 min ago
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                      • thanks for sharing this info! appreciate it. 9 min ago
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                        • No worries! I always knew there was something different with that kid! His diagnosis really explained a lot 8 min ago
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                      • np: just curious - why does your Dr. prefer Adderall XR? My son was really irritable and weepy on it 6 min ago
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                        • She just has had good experiences with it--it has been around for a long time and a lot of kids respond well to it, so that is where she likes to start. 4 min ago
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                          • I wish my DS responded well to it. We only tried it 2 days. He was such a mess that we stopped. I heard it's particularly good for inattentive types which is what we need! Vyvanse...(more) 3 min ago
                            was even worse for him - REALLY weepy and angry.
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                            • There's so much trial and error with psych drugs, it's so hard. Especially with kids, who can't really tell you how they feel 37 sec ago
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    • yes and I purposely didn't tell anyone 27 min ago
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    • yes. it was an immediate change. but you may need to work on dosage 27 min ago
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      • I think so. He's on 10 mg Focalin XR. Not seeing much either way (nothing bad, but nothing necessarily good/different either) 5 min ago
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  3. Special Needs Just made a volcano with my ds and I put the funnel in upside down so we cannot pour liquids in it. My son said it does not matter, we can paint it and I will put it on my desk!!...(more) 18 hr 49 min ago (0 replies)
    I love this sweet boy so!!
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  4. Special Needs It's a long story, but somehow I have an 11yo and an 8yo who can't ride a bike. The 8yo is HFA and has dyspraxia, so it's no surprise, and he CAN ride a bike with training wheels....(more) 22 hr ago (13 replies)
    The 11yo is more complicated. Basically we've tried many times (were told not to do training wheels by a well-intentioned friend adn never did . . . ), and she clearly has some coordination issues and just could NEVER get any balance going. She can't even ride a 2-wheel Razor scooter. We've even tried a bike clinic. She is now so embarrassed and demoralized about it that she won't even try. What now? It sounds nuts, but I feel like maybe I should hire a PT to give both kids private lessons? Or some kind of Bike Whisperer?
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    • Continue with bike clinics 21 hr 58 min ago
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      • This. It is really all about believing that you can. 21 hr 55 min ago
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    • get a bike and remove the pedals and have them practice like a scooter...balance bikes are good but they are probably too big for them 21 hr 58 min ago
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    • Yes. Hire a private person. 21 hr 58 min ago
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    • I say move on and drop it. It's not a life requirement. 21 hr 56 min ago
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    • My dd was bit this way, she finally learned pretty quickly when she was 11 on a tiny bike. Seems to help to have a heavy small bike that is too small for them. She was able to...(more) 21 hr 56 min ago
      really dominate it and be comfortable practicing riding. Also, there is a FABULOUS teach your kid to ride a bike youtube that totally makes sense. I can't explain it, but please go look!! Hang on I will see if I can find it!
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      • I can't find the one but the guy basically has your kid turn the wheel every time they start to tip. It really works bc it stop s the bike and keeps it from tipping one way or the...(more) 21 hr 51 min ago
        other
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    • At 10, we forced dd to learn. She cried every weekend dh made her get upearly to go to a big, empty nyc playground to practice. She cried every week. And after about 5-6 tries, he...(more) 21 hr 55 min ago
      Called to say "she's riding"! I dashed over and she was realllllllly proud. Of course, she was infuriated when 2 weeks later her 6yo sister managed it too. But dd is low-tone, loose ligaments and serious anxiety to boot (which we didnt know about then). We just knew she had to learn right then, because she'd only get more stubborn and ashamed as she got older. We had to be mean about it.
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    • Do they have balance issues in other contexts? My son does, but he has ataxic cp. He does do PT, and can at 7 ride a Razor two wheel scooter, but not yet a bike without training...(more) 20 hr 32 min ago
      wheels.
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    • Hire a private person. On LI, Professor Pedals is awesome. There must be something similar in NYC. 19 hr 18 min ago
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    • op: This is all great advice, thanks guys. 19 hr 8 min ago
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    • My 8yo has very mild CP that affects one side of her body. I can't see her riding a bike without training wheels, and since we don't have storage space for bikes, she and her 6yo...(more) 17 hr 3 min ago
      brother haven't learned. I do feel guilty for not pressing it more
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    • go somewhere with astroturf and just practice 1 hr 54 min ago
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  5. Special Needs I have been told that if my depressed child need emergency help, Payne Whitney is a good option. When I google the address,...(more) 22 hr 29 min ago (10 replies)
    comes up as saying it is closed. Is that possible. Does Payne Whitney have an ER. Am I just supposed to go to Weil Cornell ER? I also cannot find Payne Whitney on my insurer's innetwork list, but I can find Weil Cornell hospital. Anyone with experience who can help?
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    • If you have a depressed child who is unstable, have a plan with your dc's psychiatrist. They will know the best place to send in an emergency. But seriously, ANY place is better...(more) 22 hr 21 min ago
      than home in crisis.
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    • At the risk of outing myself, I AMA SN 22 hr 15 min ago
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      • Sorry - a SN parent and a psychiatrist at Payne Whitney. The ER phone number is 212-746-0711. If your D.C. is under 18, she or he will go to the Peds ED and psych team will come....(more) 22 hr 13 min ago
        Address is 525 East 68th street just east of York. Open 24/7. They won't - by law - be allowed to give advice over the phone but psychiatrists are in the ER round the clock.
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        • Thanks SO MUCH. So I just go to the regular ER at Weil Cornell, and the child gets admitted to PW, or is Payne Whitney closed over the weekend. 21 hr 56 min ago
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          • Also, if Columbia Pres the same. We are closer to the UWS than the east side. 21 hr 55 min ago
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            • Y s, Columbia is the same. Psych and child psych available 24/7. Good luck and report back. I will check page periodically 21 hr 52 min ago
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              • Sorry, so if I go to Columbia Pres up on W168th my child may end up at Payne Whitney? Another comment makes it soundl ike there is no in-patient unit at PW if under 18. I have...(more) 21 hr 48 min ago
                tried asking a psych and social workers that I have spoken to, I can't get my kid there, and no one is giving me a straight answer. THis is so confusing.
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          • There is no in-put psych unit at 68th street for anyone under 18. It is up in White Plains. But D.C. may not need an admission - there are many options, including a day hospital....(more) 21 hr 54 min ago
            I urge you to go if you are worried.
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            • NP-Went through similar experience with my DC. If you feel at all in a dangerous spot, GO to the ER, can't reccomend this strongly enough. GL. 20 hr 32 min ago
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  6. Special Needs The House Bill 601 is dismantling so many aspects of Education. Nothing to protect IDEA. 23 hr 26 min ago (15 replies)
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    • Oh well. 23 hr 25 min ago
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      • Its time for you to log off and stop tormenting everyone. 23 hr 24 min ago
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        • This post has been disliked 4 times. showIDEA and the costs for SPED are getting unsustainable. 23 hr 23 min ago
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          • Yes. That does not warrant an "oh well" response from the same person spending he afternoon being bitchy to everyone on toddler. 23 hr 22 min ago
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            • Huh? 23 hr 22 min ago
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              • The person who said "oh well" is not going to be a contributor to this conversation, I was asking her to leave. 23 hr 21 min ago
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                • I am her. I'm not being bitchy to anyone. IDEA needs an overhaul. 23 hr 20 min ago
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                  • Ok, sorry. Overhaul is one thing. Repeal and not replace is another. 23 hr 19 min ago
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                    • Get a grip. No one is suggesting getting rid of IDEA! 20 hr 33 min ago
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          • so lets put all the SN kids in a home 23 hr 18 min ago
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            • Something needs to change. It's getting prohibitively expensive, and SPED costs are starting to take resources away from everyone else. 23 hr 17 min ago
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              • What is your factual basis for this statement? 20 hr 7 min ago
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              • If the schools didn't spend so much time and money trying to avoid helping SN kids it wouldn't seem so expensive. And schools spend a ton on athletics and other extracurriculars...(more) 16 hr 10 min ago
                which are not even required . I am not against them at all but the same parents whose kids are on the basketball team should not complain about kids who need to learn to read.
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    • Not really true. The bill affects funding and Title 1 not IDEA 20 hr 34 min ago
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      • Taking resources away from gen ed kids is same argum,ent as immigrants are taking jobs from Americans--both incorrect! Of course, kids with disabilities--untretaed--can cause 100s...(more) 20 hr 8 min ago
        of thousands down the road in services-
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  7. Special Needs NYC mom here with 2 teen ADHD boys. Both go to SN school (one funded by DOE bc more severe ADHD) and it is eating us alive financially! Husband not happy with current work...(more) 23 hr 40 min ago (15 replies)
    situation (He works in finance) and we are honestly thinking of selling our house and just relocating. What are some of the best cities where husband can find work in his field but also where the schools are supportive for middle/HS kids with ADHD/Learning issues? We would like to stay in the US or Canada, thanks.
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    • why don't you just go to the suburbs? Edgemont or Ardsley or Irvington? 23 hr 30 min ago
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      • Are the schools there really supportive for HS & middle school? How are taxes there as well? I guess i can rent for a while too. 23 hr 25 min ago
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        • Taxes are insane in westchester. LI would be good if you want to consider burbs. GReat Neck, plain view, Half hallow hills, Roslyn all great for sn 23 hr 5 min ago
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          • thanks so much! will look into these areas 22 hr 54 min ago
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            • Half Hallow is Dix Hills/Melville and will be least expensive because it is suffolk. People move their for their sn services. Also renting is not a bad idea if taxes look too...(more) 22 hr 53 min ago
              high
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              • thank you so much! 22 hr 48 min ago
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                • GOod luck 22 hr 48 min ago
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              • Are there decent homes to rent in the districts you mentioned? My budget would be up to 3K per month. 22 hr 47 min ago
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                • I don't really know what rents are but I do know that great neck has tons of apartments so lots of rentals 22 hr 45 min ago
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                • Edgemont and Irvington have coops and condos. You might find a 2/2 for that. Not sure. Anywhere in Westchester with good schools is pricey 19 hr 34 min ago
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    • Do not come to California. I have always heard ny, nj, and ma as best for sn support 23 hr 22 min ago
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      • Yes, so have I...CA not best for this. 23 hr 13 min ago
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      • We found North San Diego County to serve us well - NYC private, then public and then NPS prior. Met many private equity and investment management from the East Coast here 16 hr 41 min ago
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        • Or: I'm in the Bay Area in a district considered here to be good for kids with sn. I have a child with an autism, ADHD, and anxiety diagnosis and denied an iep. When I talk to...(more) 16 hr 37 min ago
          friend from the northeast, they can't believe it.
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          • WOW,Thats terrible that they are doing that to your DC! So sorry! Can you get a SN lawyer? 1 hr 36 min ago
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  8. Special Needs 8yo being counseled out of ASD Nest rejected from all SN schools we applied to (LearningSpring, WEDS, Aaron, Quad, Summit, Parkside). Too behavioral. Where else can we apply?...(more) 2-26-2017 11:58am (12 replies)
    Rips up work, shouts, some task refusal. Likes going to school, makes friends easily, reads at a high school level (ditto vocab). Math LD. Refuses to write.
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    • ED? 2-26-2017 11:59am
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    • You hire a consultant who specializes in this 2-26-2017 12:03pm
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      • op That would be a stretch for us. 2-26-2017 12:08pm
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        • No, I'm sure, but to speak to someone once might cost a few hundred dollars, they don't have to shepherd you through the the whole process. 2-26-2017 12:14pm
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    • Child School, Rebecca, Hallen. 2-26-2017 12:13pm
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      • This. Add Reece 23 hr 3 min ago
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      • Rebecca is NOT for a child with well-developed social skills/ able to make friends. 59 min ago
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    • This was my kid in 2nd grade. I was temporarily known as "shutout mom" for a while, because everywhere said no. Public is required to provide whatever is needed. If they're not...(more) 22 hr ago
      working effectively with you to put a solid setting, BIP and IEP in place, lawyer up. GL. We had to really lean on them to get the right stuff in place, but in the end our public school got it together, and he made it to graduation and happy mainstream middle school days.
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    • Could you elaborate on what they mean by "too behavioral"? 19 hr 2 min ago
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    • Reece 17 hr 49 min ago
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      • Andrus... worst case 3 hr 39 min ago
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    • Is Nest no longer on your dc's IEP? I ask b/c w/o a private SN placement Nest is probably the best public has to offer, though they will need a 1:1 para for behavior and some...(more) 1 hr ago
      other non-standard Nest solutions.
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  9. Special Needs ADHD 12yo no longer wants to take medication. Without it it's so obvious he needs it. His reasons are that none of his friends take it and he doesn't want to be dependent on it....(more) 2-26-2017 9:57am (34 replies)
    Anyone else go through this? I hate forcing him. I told him he needs it on school days.
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    • Explain to him what he will be like without it. 2-26-2017 9:58am
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    • video tape him without it and then show the tape to him 2-26-2017 9:59am
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      • She can't video tape him not paying attention in school. Come on. 2-26-2017 10:00am
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        • she can video tape his behavior at home. Jesus woman. Think a little 2-26-2017 10:02am
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          • Mine has ADHD and has no "behavior". You don't know what you're talking a bout. 2-26-2017 10:03am
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            • This. My ds has extreme hyperactivity and impulsive behavior, but that's not all adhd kids. 2-26-2017 10:04am
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              • Right. It's "obvious" my son needs it because without it he does por 2-26-2017 10:05am
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                • ^^poorly in school. No other "behavior" at this point particularly at home 2-26-2017 10:06am
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    • I understand his feel bad for him and want to do what he wants but he has to take it. His friends don't because they don't have ADHD. 2-26-2017 9:59am
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    • We skip most weekends and ds was sure he didn't need it. I let him try skipping it at school for three days. He ha s never asked to skip it surfing school again 2-26-2017 9:59am
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      • How old and what happened. I really fear that call from the school! 2-26-2017 10:07am
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        • I think he was ten when we did it. It may have been just Thursday and Friday. I didn't get a call, but his teacher did ask at pick up if anything was going on at home. The second...(more) 2-26-2017 10:11am
          day she said he was disruptive in math, which is normally his favorite/easiest subject. So then I told her it was an experiment. Of course, you're the mom, and you get him the meds to make him better. But I knew I could either continue telling him I was in charge and keep discussing it, or I could let him really see that he needs them
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    • He can always take it in school, get yourself out of the loop, see how that works. 2-26-2017 10:04am
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      • If he doesn't want to take it because his friends don't, he can't be going to the nurse daily to take it in school. 2-26-2017 10:05am
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        • I hear you. But he can't argue and negotiate w the nurse. 2-26-2017 10:06am
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          • Right. If he goes. Many kids, esp with ADHD, forget to go and if you think the nurse has time and inclination to track him down.... 2-26-2017 10:08am
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            • Yes. It's their job....(more) 2-26-2017 10:12am
              Ask me how I know this.
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              • Ask me how I know and I'll tell you that our nurse at orivate mainstream school absolutely does not do this. 2-26-2017 10:15am
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                • I'm a middle school nurse and I have to - can't have a med order and not give it. So yeah, I do track down kids when they don't show (and work with them on strategies) 2-26-2017 10:16am
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                  • You are a good person. I have a friend whose kids takes a midday dose st school. He always forgets, and they come find him half the days at best 2-26-2017 10:17am
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                    • I get the staff involved when compliance is that bad. (But usually those kids have classroom aides) 2-26-2017 10:18am
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                      • My feeling is that you are speaking about a very different situation than op's 2-26-2017 10:19am
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                        • Like I said, I'm brainstorming. 2-26-2017 10:21am
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                      • And I'm not a good person, just going by the book. 2-26-2017 10:20am
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                  • Is there a difference between a "med order" and having the mom send in the medicine and say, give this to my child? 2-26-2017 10:17am
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                    • I can't give it just on her say so. Every med has a parent authorization and MD authorization (the med order) 2-26-2017 10:19am
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      • He needs it for school so he needs time for it to kick in. Having to go to the nurse would even be worse for him socially. 2-26-2017 10:08am
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        • I do understand - sometimes it's a way to take yourself out of it and remind him that taking at home is better. Just brainstorming. 2-26-2017 10:15am
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    • if he had diabetes would he not take meds because his friends don't? tell him that one is not a valid argument. 2-26-2017 10:04am
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      • A weak argument for a middle schooler, though. They just don't get it. :( 2-26-2017 10:05am
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      • Not exactly. Absent insulin diabetics feel horribly ill and do not live long. Same is not true of lack of ADHD meds. 2-26-2017 10:36am
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        • ita, false equivalence argument to me 17 hr 53 min ago
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    • Find some articles to educate him on the truth vs. These myths. 2-26-2017 10:08am
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    • Have been through this. DD takes it on school days, not weekends or vacation (though I wish she would take it on weekends for the sake of homework). Give him thestats on how many...(more) 16 hr 21 min ago
      kids take it, give him a choice on weekends if possible, and teach him workarounds for organization that will help when older too. Many people do quit at 18 and there is nothing you can do, but caffeine helps a lot (it did for me).
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  10. Special Needs Toddler 5 y/o DS severe anxiety so much improvement at school and home since severe animal phobia at 3 and aggression. Behavior is excellent at school, superior intelligence. But...(more) 2-25-2017 10:45pm (6 replies)
    everyToddler 5 y/o DS severe anxiety so much improvement at school and home since severe animal phobia at 3 and aggression. Behavior is excellent at school, superior intelligence. But every...(more) (0 replies) *
    second at home is walking on the eggshells, waiting for him to explod during his near constant waves of irritability. Had psychiatric consult at 5, they offered risperidone for potential ADHD but were reluctant given so skinny . Then offered really risperidone but I feel that class of drugs is not appropriate at this time. Anyone have succes with anti anxiety specific drugs for this age group group?
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    • Post on special needs board for better answers. Risperdal has helped many kids I know with anxiety and aggressive behaviors, but they were older. 2-25-2017 10:50pm
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      • ^^i see you did. Sorry! 2-25-2017 10:51pm
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        • No problem. I know it does but he's super small at his age and young which is why I worry 2-25-2017 10:56pm
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          • I agree-- 2-25-2017 10:58pm
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            • ^^wish I had better advice. Good luck! 2-25-2017 10:59pm
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              • No problem thanks! 2-25-2017 11:03pm
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  11. Special Needs Windward...(more) 2-25-2017 10:28pm (7 replies)
    Anyone have non-dyslexic child attend Windward but have a language disability?
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    • You have to have a language based learning disability. Dyslexic is an umbrella term used colloquially for all language based learning disabilities. What does yiur child have? 2-25-2017 10:30pm
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    • I know kids there that don't have dyslexia 2-26-2017 7:34am
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      • What do they have? 2-26-2017 8:48am
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        • Language based lds 2-26-2017 9:03am
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          • My son did also and was there. Not classic dyslexia wh in I'm sure op means. It's not a school of 600 kids confusing b's and d's. I wish op would answer. 2-26-2017 10:39am
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    • My ds is not there (we chose Churchill instead) but we had a spot. He has an auditory processing issue, dysgraphia, and possibly dyslexia but not confirmed (he is still learning...(more) 2-26-2017 9:10am
      to read so only early flags).
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    • DD is at Windward with what may be thought of as classic dyslexia -- having a really hard time learning to decode and encode. I know 2 other girls who learned to decode ok but...(more) 17 hr 53 min ago
      one is dysgraphic and one can decode (read aloud to you) but has comprehension issues. All of these are "language-based LDs" that have to do with how the kids are processing language.
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  12. Special Needs Executive Function Coach ADHD...(more) 2-25-2017 10:27pm (2 replies)
    Do any of you have an executive function coach for your DC? How have they helped? What age did you start?
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    • Pretty sure this is what our CBT therapist does and we get $ back from our insurance 2-25-2017 10:29pm
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      • Does the CBT help? We tried when DC was in 5th and didn't do much. Would it help an older kid learn toi bring himself back on task? Or start? 6 hr ago
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  13. Special Needs Figured out why DH drives me batty sometimes...(more) 2-25-2017 9:15pm (1 reply)
    -- his processing speed is super-low, percentile-wise, and mine is way above average. Not exactly what you'd think to ask about on a first date, but after 19 happy years together, it amused me to compare results from our respective neuropsych exams and discover this core difference that explains a lot! This info is an excellent reminder for me to continue to be patient and forgiving when he has a hard time keeping up with my rapid thoughts!
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    • why do you both have neuro-psych evals? 2-25-2017 9:19pm
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  14. Special Needs Neuropsych or psychoeducational eval Poll: Worthwhile recommendations? How many pages? How much? By whom? 2-25-2017 5:27pm (4 replies)
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    • If it is a follow up to a NP then Psycho Ed should be enough if you have never done testing do a full NP. And I cannot reccomend anyone because we could not afford it so did it...(more) 2-26-2017 2:20pm
      with students. 2 at Adelphi the full NP and then just last year a Psycho Ed. They were very good full reports with school visits and pretty reasonably priced. I am sure others could recommend NP's.
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      • ^^^Psyco ed at Teachers College 2-26-2017 2:21pm
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        • neuro/psych 20 hr 10 min ago
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          • Would be ds reevaluation. 1st done at Lenox Hill by a fellow that did not tease out 2e. APD vs ADHD. Or why reading subtests scattered 7 grade-levels. 14 hr 53 min ago
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  15. Special Needs 11yo dc has terrible anxiety that has turned to depression too and we are going to have to medicate but I'm terrified of the increase in suicidal thoughts with ssri meds in...(more) 2-25-2017 4:14pm (27 replies)
    kids. Anyone btdt or have any advice? Thanks
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    • not really with kids, but for myself. trust me...the suicidal thoughts were much more prevalent when i wasn't medicated. 2-25-2017 4:16pm
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      • He's having that issue too 2-25-2017 4:18pm
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        • finding the right dosage and combination of meds has been the most freeing thing i have experienced. 2-25-2017 4:20pm
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          • Dc's anger and misery are ruining our family. Constant screaming and crying, has intense jealousy of siblings that turns to hate. Hatred for me and dh that we don't punish...(more) 2-25-2017 4:22pm
            siblings as much as dc thinks we should. Tired, no energy, gaining weight...paranoid thoughts.
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            • mine manifested as rage as well. help him. help your family. 2-25-2017 4:23pm
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              • Say ok to meds? 2-25-2017 4:31pm
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    • I think speaking to the psychiatrist about this rather than us might make you feel better....(more) 2-25-2017 4:16pm
      Severe anxiety is a nightmare. I dont have it but my mother did for 86 years, and my kids do too. All medications are a risk vs benefits situation, and if anxiety is making her life miserable, please help her.
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    • Yes, btdt...here's the thing, ssri do not increase suicidal thought, they make you feel better so some people take that as an opportunity to actually commit suicide. 2-25-2017 4:18pm
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      • Why do you think this? 2-25-2017 4:19pm
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        • Because they have enough energy to get out of bed. 2-25-2017 4:21pm
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        • np - it's well-documented. for another example, people with bipolar disorder tend to commit suicide as the turn to corner from depression to mania, because they are, at that...(more) 2-25-2017 4:21pm
          point, not too depressed to be unable to execute a plan
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          • ^^^as they turn the corner from depression toward mania 2-25-2017 4:22pm
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            • Dc is only 11. I can't believe this is happening. 2-25-2017 4:24pm
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              • Np: this person is discussing adults not children. The black box warning is there but if you read the literature the number of incidences of children who have attempted is still...(more) 2-25-2017 5:27pm
                Very small compared to a placebo. Zoloft and Prozac have both been around a long time and both are studied and approved for use in children as young as 6. Both have excellent track records. Help your son and your family. His current state is a danger to him and the rest of your mental well being.
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    • My ds takes buspar, which has none of that. It's an old med and doesn't work for everyone, but when it works it works. Ds's psych is pretty conservative and said try this for...(more) 2-25-2017 4:19pm
      month and then switch to ssris if necessary. He has been taking it almost a year now
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      • How old is he and what dx does he have just anxiety? Severe? 2-25-2017 4:19pm
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        • He is 11 so started when he was 10. He has mild asd, ADHD, and anxiety. I wouldn't describe his anxiety as severe, but it was ever present, and it's hard to pull the diagnoses...(more) 2-25-2017 4:25pm
          apart.
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          • Ok that makes sense thank you. 2-25-2017 4:30pm
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    • My dd has been on ssris since 11 and it has helped tremendously. No suicidal thoughts. It can be a side effect but you won't know until you try and you will start low and monitor...(more) 2-25-2017 4:20pm
      closely.
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      • ^this is for anxiety that led to depression 2-25-2017 4:21pm
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        • Does your dd have ADHD inattentive as well? 2-25-2017 4:23pm
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          • No. But another one of my kid has it. She is on strattera. 2-25-2017 4:24pm
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            • My child had horrible reaction to concerta. I wonder if starters would be different 2-25-2017 4:31pm
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    • My ds, now 14, has been on Zoloft since he was 9 for severe anxiety. He also takes meds for adhd. You need to find a great pediatric psychiatrist who works extensively with these...(more) 2-25-2017 4:36pm
      types of issues who will watch your child closely. good luck.
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      • I'm not sure these drs are superior. Our insurance apparently sucks...we have 2 appts set up. Dx of inattentive ADHD as well. 2-25-2017 4:40pm
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        • ^^what med does your child take for the ADHD? 2-25-2017 4:40pm
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          • He takes Metadate for it. We've been through a few, this has been great for him for the past 18 months 2-25-2017 4:48pm
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  16. Special Needs Looking into a summer program for my 14yo ds who will be entering HS next year. Anyone have experience with a summer camp at an LD school? Many of the ones I found are at LD...(more) 2-25-2017 3:25pm (1 reply)
    boarding schools. Ds is HFA and has dysgraphia and dyscalcula. Just afraid these places cater to straight LD students and not want a quirky kid.
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    • Camp Kodiak in Ontario sounds like a good fit.. Camp SOAR I think also has an academic option in its outdoor camps 19 hr 45 min ago
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  17. Special Needs I need some help from parents of teens. I've written many times about my son, 15yo ADHD/ODD. We finally have his meds right and have had a great couple of weeks. Now I'm having...(more) 2-25-2017 2:39pm (55 replies)
    another issue I need help with. He plays lacrosse and has been for 5-6 years. He's good and the field has been the one place that his ADHD/ODD doesn't work against him... until this year. He's on his 1st HS team and is really angry because he's not getting played in games. I'm listening to his side and then spoke to a coach and, just now, to another parent about what is going on. My son is talking back to the coaches, not giving 100% physically and they are not allowing him to play because of his attitude. As a parent, I know why he's doing this - He is insecure about his skill (even though it's there) because he's with older kids/new kids so if he knows there's something he may not be amazing at, he will shut down and choose to be a behavioral issue rather than failing at something. They are caught in this place where the coaches can't reward him with playing time because of his behavior and he won't get out of his own way. So...
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    • What do I do to help the situation? I'm at a loss on this one 2-25-2017 2:40pm
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      • Best you can do is to talk to your ds about this when it is far from lacrosse time. Make sure it's clear that team sports are something where you need to put in your best effort...(more) 2-25-2017 2:47pm
        and not talk back at all. If he can't meet those standards he won't be able to be on the team. But honestly this isn't something you can fix. And freshmen generally get less playing time.
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    • sticky because I have that 8yo and fuck it;s hard 2-25-2017 2:42pm
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      • Right? This was the one area of his life I've never had to worry about and now this... isn't it always something? 2-25-2017 2:43pm
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        • always, sigh 2-25-2017 2:43pm
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          • ^ can I ask what meds have worked for him? 2-25-2017 2:43pm
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            • Yes - he takes Ritalin LA for ADHD and Zoloft for ODD/Depression/Anxiety, etc. 2-25-2017 2:44pm
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              • interesting, we have anxiety & depression in our family, and I wonder if treating that will help his ODD. The adhd is manageable, he's smart. But the freaking out and digging in...(more) 2-25-2017 2:46pm
                and combativeness just puts kids off and wears everyone down.
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                • ^ he takes concerta now, but I don;t think they want to medicate him for anxiety yet 2-25-2017 2:47pm
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                • The Zoloft helps tremendously w/ the ODD stuff but, of course, it's not a magic pill 2-25-2017 2:47pm
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    • my only advice is that you address his demeanor with the coaches. it's out of line and his cleats will never see the field if he keeps that up 2-25-2017 2:44pm
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      • I think I can talk to them and say that this is what he deals with and this is why he's doing this. But after that - I don't have a solution! Even his teammates (according to the...(more) 2-25-2017 2:46pm
        other parent I spoke to) said that his skills are there but there's no way he'll see play time because "what message would that send to the other players?". My issue is that I'm coming to them with and explanation but no solution. Is there reason to have this meeting and is it appropriate at a HS level?
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        • it's not appropriate....your kid is not going to get a 'pass' for his shitty behavior because he has an official diagnosis of ODD. This is a good lesson for him...you need to...(more) 2-25-2017 2:48pm
          tell him that he needs to check his attitude at the door - because for now and going forward, nobody is going to give him a 'pass' on that anymore...it was one thing in elementary and middle school but the 'passes' given out in those years are given with the anticipation that kids will mature by their teens
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          • Good point and I do tell him this and will continue with it. The thing with him is that 'in the moment' he doesn't think and his mouth gets the better of him - every single time....(more) 2-25-2017 2:49pm
            At home, at school and now on the field.
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            • Then he may not be able to play a team sport. 2-25-2017 2:50pm
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              • I would be sad about that. He's given him great joy for 5-6 years and he's excelled in this one place in his life. 2-25-2017 2:51pm
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            • np -- i get it... but still, he needs to experience it 2-25-2017 2:50pm
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              • exactly,....let the coach deal with it...the coach won't give in - as you probably have sometimes (and I do too...it's hard to say no to your own kid...much easier for someone...(more) 2-25-2017 2:52pm
                else to do!)
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            • get him some therapy. CBT can help with these impulses. But don't expect the coaches to be very understanding. They are not special educators or counselors. They just want to...(more) 2-25-2017 2:53pm
              coach a sport.
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        • he's a FRESHMAN! those are the breaks, that's they it's been for ever and ever, your son is not special, he is not better than everyone else! 2-25-2017 2:52pm
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          • THAT IS NOT WHAT THIS IS ABOUT!!!!! 2-25-2017 2:53pm
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            • LOL ok. let your ds piss everyone off and he'll be off that team in 5 secs 2-25-2017 2:55pm
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              • Why are you being so nasty? Wrong board 2-25-2017 2:56pm
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                • I was trying to help, you want a pat on the back fine. you're not getting it from me 2-25-2017 2:58pm
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            • Lady, those coaches are not teachers esp teachers who deal ww/SN dc. they are coaches. your son needs to step up and grow up or deal w/consequences 2-25-2017 2:56pm
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              • I believe he is already dealing with them 2-25-2017 2:56pm
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                • lol how? 2-25-2017 2:58pm
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                  • Attitude = angry coaches and no playing time 2-25-2017 2:58pm
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                    • sigh, he's not getting playing time b/c he's a freshman 2-25-2017 2:59pm
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                      • Wrong - He's not getting playing time because of his attitude. All other freshmen are getting playing time except for him. It's the attitude less than his age/grade. 2-26-2017 9:25am
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        • His coaches won't care your explanation for his behavior. They only want that behavior GONE. This is a lesson for your ds to learn. Bosses won't care why he lashes out, they just...(more) 2-25-2017 2:52pm
          don't want to see it.
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          • OP here - I tell him this all the time 2-25-2017 2:53pm
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    • if he is a freshman why does he think he is going to get played over the older kids? He needs to learn delay of gratification...he is on the team to improve his skills in practice...(more) 2-25-2017 2:45pm
      and if he is committed, he will be rewarded in future years. He just can't waltz on to the HS team and expect to be the best. Tell him he needs to adjust his attitude (although dare I say it, I think that sport attracts a lot of kids with attitudes)
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      • That's not his thought process or goal but at the same time, I do think he expects a small amount of playing time - not even a whole quarter. His attitude isn't a spoiled brat...(more) 2-25-2017 2:47pm
        attitude. It is a fear based attitude
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        • IN terms of the coaches and other players it doesn't matter WHY he behaves this way but THAT he does. Team sports are very different -- not about one dc but about the whole team. 2-25-2017 2:48pm
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          • I hear you and understand. Part of my problem is that I don't understand DS. It boggles my mind why he'd sabotage something he loves 2-25-2017 2:50pm
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            • so have a talk to him about what he wants LONG TERM...he needs to start to learn this....it will be a great experience for him (I have a ds who is the youngest on a varsity team...(more) 2-25-2017 2:54pm
              too...he doesn't play much and it gets to him, I know...but I feel like he really tries to maintain a positive attitude thinking his turn will come.
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              • I feel the same way about my son. exactly - I just know that if he doesn't get out of his own way, he won't play. If it is long term, he might quit and that would be sad because...(more) 2-25-2017 2:55pm
                he loves the sport
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                • my other suggestion would be to find a 2nd team for him in the 'off season' where he will still be the star...maybe if he has that to look forward to, he will be OK sucking it up...(more) 2-25-2017 2:58pm
                  on his HS team.
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      • this -- you have to earn your spot... 2-25-2017 2:47pm
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    • I have a 15yo DS with ADHD too and he plays sports and they are so important to him. That said, it's good that you found out about his behavior on the field although at the HS...(more) 2-25-2017 2:46pm
      level, the coaches don't appreciate mommy reaching out to them (just being honest). you need to tell your DS to advocate for himself. ask what he needs to do to get more playing time, etc. My DS is the same way and i feel your pain
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      • The coach approached me at my car the other night to talk about him. Still think it's not a good idea to speak to them? I'm not asking for playing time. That's not the goal 2-25-2017 2:48pm
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        • if the coach approached you, that's a different story... still, your DS needs to be his own advocate. if he wants to play more, get more time on the field, get better skillls-...(more) 2-25-2017 2:49pm
          whatever -- he needs to man up and talk to the coach. this is part of growing up
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          • He took the coach aside the other night after practice and stayed late talking to him. That's why the coach talked to me. He walked ds to our car. My son's goal was to ask about...(more) 2-25-2017 2:52pm
            playing time and the coach spent the time talking to him about his attitude. That's why I might have an 'in' in talking to the coach
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            • that makes sense and now you know what's going on. you can remind DS to mind his Ps and Qs but there's not much else you can do 2-25-2017 2:55pm
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              • this...at least it's a start that he took the initiative to talk to the coach....now you can follow thru with "and what did the coach tell you to do?" 2-25-2017 2:59pm
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          • why the dislike? 2-25-2017 2:53pm
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        • If the coach wanted to talk to you, talk to the coach. 2-25-2017 2:50pm
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        • I think you need to talk to your ds and tell him it's time to grow up. And yes, he can talk to his coach himself about why he isn't getting playing time and he can say "what do I...(more) 2-25-2017 2:51pm
          need to do get more playing time?" And then whatever his coaches tell him, he needs to DO it.
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          • I've told him this 2-25-2017 2:54pm
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            • and keep telling him...personally I think CBT is a waste of time (I've tried it with my kids)...what helps is for you to spend 5 minutes a day being his CBT coach...after each...(more) 2-25-2017 2:56pm
              practice ask him "how did it go" "what do you think you could have done differently?" "what can you do to control you impulses/anger"....I think it helps immensely to discuss it right after it happens vs once a week with a therapist
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              • I agree. He goes to therapy but ends up disliking or being annoyed or bored with them or just not connecting with them that I feel like nothing good gets done. I suggested that he...(more) 2-25-2017 2:58pm
                and I sit down and talk about his goals and then write a to do list on how to achieve them. I told him to look at that To Do list daily to check himself and make sure he's doing what is necessary to meet those goals.
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                • my ds felt the SAME way about therapy...tried 3 different ones...I sat in on one session and that was when I realized I could do exactly what she was doing....not rocket...(more) 2-25-2017 3:01pm
                  science....and doing it 5 mins every day is what they need anyway, not once a week...but when you do it it doesn't need to seem like it's 'therapy'...it's just mom giving advice.
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                  • ^all a therapist does is pose questions anyway...complete waste of time (they never give 'answers' ) 2-25-2017 3:02pm
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    • have him watch the karate kid. Anger and defiance is not the only to reaction to his situation. He needs to see there is another way. Movies like this can help. 2-25-2017 3:36pm
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  18. Special Needs My evangelical family members despise trump but are glad they voted for him bc he repealed the transgender laws. 2-25-2017 12:35pm (2 replies)
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    • Good thing we won't see a trannie's pee-pee in the bathroom where we're all hiding as the nuclear missiles bear down on us. 2-25-2017 12:36pm
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    • The dad there just lost some of his bathroom blowjobs 2-25-2017 12:36pm
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  19. Special Needs Any suggestions for middle or high school for a very smart, non medicated ADHD kid who is disordered but not to the degree of being generally disruptive. I need something...(more) 2-25-2017 12:19pm (20 replies)
    'different' for him but not too out there. Ideas?
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    • I have to ask about the non medication first. Why?? 2-25-2017 12:20pm
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      • not extreme enough for us to want to medicate. Not judgmental of anyone who makes a different choice but his diagnosis was always presented to us as optional and we prefer not to...(more) 2-25-2017 12:21pm
        medicate.
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        • I have adhd (inattentive) and did very well academically in high school and college. My mom helped me with organization a lot and that has helped me throughout the years. I do...(more) 15 hr 53 min ago
          take meds as an adult when I have a big work project. PLay it by ear with your child. I went to private mainstream schools with small classes.
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      • thanks. I will check it out. 2-25-2017 12:22pm
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        • I deleted because I misread your post. I thought you were looking for activities. 2-25-2017 12:22pm
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    • Are you in NYC? LAB and School of the Future are two 2-25-2017 12:20pm
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      • yes NYC. thanks 2-25-2017 12:21pm
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      • Lab parent of kid like yours and same. 2-25-2017 12:31pm
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      • Also LMC 2-25-2017 12:34pm
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    • public or private? 2-25-2017 12:22pm
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      • either 2-25-2017 12:22pm
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        • np: Fusion Academy, Winston Prep for private 2-25-2017 12:40pm
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    • Fish oil. 2-25-2017 12:28pm
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    • what are his interests? artsy, sciency, sporty? 2-25-2017 12:32pm
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    • Quest to Learn, school of the future. But as a parent of a child with ADHD we decided to medicate in MS- the shit really started hitting the fan with organization. 2-25-2017 12:44pm
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      • My kid sounds like yours. They did fine in elementary. We actually went to Wagner MS and SMS for HS. Wagner was great. My Dd got SEETS 5 days and the teachers were very...(more) 2-25-2017 12:48pm
        supportive. Since she was so disordered they asked me if I would label her LD on her IEP and it really allowed her to receive the help she needed
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      • I heard from parents there that Quest was terrible about accomodations. Which many schools are. 2-25-2017 12:58pm
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      • Ditto 2-25-2017 12:58pm
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  20. Special Needs How expensive is it for your family to raise a child with sns? Where are most of your costs? 2-25-2017 11:55am (9 replies)
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    • Small if you consider wasted food from stimming latge if you consider broken faucets and toilets from his water obsession 2-25-2017 11:58am
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    • You have to be more specific. There are so many kinds of special needs. 2-25-2017 11:58am
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    • Mild sns: about $500 a month. That's therapist and psychiatrist, reimbursed at 70%, plus tutor 2-25-2017 12:02pm
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    • Very for ASD dc b/c we need an afterschool sitter at $20/ hours vs afterschool at $150/ month. And we have him in way more activities because down time is deathly. Plus the costs...(more) 2-25-2017 1:25pm
      to career from so much missed work for therapies when dc was young.
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      • thousands--therapy sn school 2-25-2017 4:04pm
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    • actually I think it is less than for a nt child. This is why: we have a 12 mo. school year that includes 6 weeks in the summer (that I would otherwise have to pay for camp); dc...(more) 2-25-2017 8:52pm
      has the medicaid waiver. And we are in self direction. This means summer camp (after school program), and after school classes and activities as well as health insurance (medicaid) are paid for. Also factor in that dc is unlikely to go to college, so probably no expense there. The costs I have that I would not have with a nt child: laying out tuition for unfunded private, annual lawsuit, and paying any amount not reimbursed through the law suit. However, to date, with a teenager dc, I think so far I come out ahead financially from what it would cost with a nt dc. If I did not have the medicaid waiver, my costs would be more.
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      • ~~ also, forgot to mention, when dc turns 18, dc will start receiving SSI and food stamps, so some $$ actually coming in. And when I qualify for social security (not that far...(more) 2-25-2017 8:56pm
        off), my understanding is that dc, as a disabled child, will be entitled to receive 50% of my monthly security-- so some additional money coming in. Note my dc is ambulatory, not ill, does not need a babysitter, etc. I think financial issues could arise in adulthood, when dc will not earn much, and housing and lifestyle will become issues, and where I need to subsidize. But so far, I am coming out ahead financially and think that will continue for a number of years to come.
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        • Therapy, lawyers, unfunded school and then regular things like camp and babysitter 20 hr 14 min ago
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    • when we realized our burb couldn't properly accomodate dc's sn we moved to another town that has done a stellar job. our mortgage went up nearly $2k a month but we've had a grand...(more) 1 hr 57 min ago
      total of $0 in out of pocket expenses in the last six years. That is, no need for a neuropsych, no need for lawyer/advocate, and no treatments outside of school. So on one level our dc costs us $24k/year but in many other ways, I think we have probably saved money (and, definitely, stress). The rest of us have also benefitted from the move to the better town too.
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  21. Special Needs My 8 yo had a bad meltdown last night over something that happened at school. He sat in my lap and cried, saying he hates himself, he's the worst, etc. When it was over,...(more) 2-25-2017 11:48am (7 replies)
    he asked if there was medicine he could take for his feelings. I don't know why I'm posting, I just feel so bad for the little guy. Already been through a year of CBT and just made an appointment with a psychiatrist. Just makes me want to cry myself.
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    • so sorry, hang in there 2-25-2017 11:49am
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    • I hope it gets better for both of you 2-25-2017 11:49am
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    • poor baby. I'd lie, say yes & give him a tylenol. 2-25-2017 11:50am
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    • Poor guy. FWIW both my dcs went through a lot of emotional issues at 8yo. Almost 10 and ds is doing great now. 2-25-2017 11:51am
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    • OP - thank you all for the kindness. 2-25-2017 11:56am
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    • my dc started this at 8...was dx'd with anxiety and ADHD...we tried meds but he didn't like how he felt on them....I find the best thing for him is to just let him talk/vent and...(more) 2-25-2017 12:09pm
      for me to give him motherly advice....he seems to prefer to talk to me than a therapist - he is 13 now and he gets a little better every year...a lot of these kids just need time to mature
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    • Ds with anxiety. We saw a psychiatrist who said to try nutritional interventions first. We saw real improvement with high doses of fish oil. 2-25-2017 12:18pm
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  22. Special Needs Those who have done med trials over the weekend - what improvements should you see? It's hard for me to judge. I don't see anything dramatically different either way (nothing...(more) 2-25-2017 10:07am (6 replies)
    amazingly good, but nothing bad either)
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    • ^^for ADHD meds by the way. 2-25-2017 10:08am
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    • honestly, like nothing. the starter dose is like 5mg which for many kisd is barely a dose. you're looking more for reactions. the improvements should come in school. and if...(more) 2-25-2017 10:14am
      it's something like a SSRI that has to build up over time, really nothing at all
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      • we did 5 for a week - now doing 10 2-25-2017 10:20am
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        • Again, yiur es till just looking for negative reactions, let the teachers tell you abiut changes at school. 2-25-2017 10:22pm
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          • Thank you. So far there are none, so I guess that's a good thing. 2-26-2017 2:13pm
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    • I know we were extremely lucky to have it work so dramatically but on the trial weekend ds had a big school project and he powered through it in record time. It was almost too...(more) 22 hr 14 min ago
      good to be true. He has ADHD inattentive type. We were very lucky.
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  23. Special Needs It has been several months, maybe almost a year, since DS has screamed and cursed at me. I guess I should be happy about that, and I have been. Happened today, over an hour ago,...(more) 2-25-2017 9:58am (18 replies)
    I am still shaking with anger. He has been doing so much better this year. Suddenly he is down more than usual about not having a group of friends (which i think he has something to do with obviously and I have helped as much as I can) and this weekend has been really horrible to all of us. I don't usually punish but I am so angry today, I am taking away the x box which is his only real currency, for the weekend. he can't talk to me like that. That's all. thanks for reading and if you're a toddler mom pls remember that this is SN and please decline to comment.
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    • I'm sorry. 2-25-2017 10:01am
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    • So sorry momma. How old is he? 2-25-2017 10:01am
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      • thanks and thanks OR above. he is 14. It has been really helpful in the past to talk this out on SN, even the empathy is helpful 2-25-2017 10:02am
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        • hang in there - does he have counseling and/or cbt 2-25-2017 10:03am
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          • not anymore. 2-25-2017 10:06am
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    • That's tough. I'm sorry. What was the trigger exactly? 2-25-2017 10:02am
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      • I'm nto sure, he came home yesterday in a terrible mood, saying something about not hvaing friends to hang out with. I mentioned a bday party this afternon that he has been...(more) 2-25-2017 10:05am
        invited to (the first one in his 2 years at this school that he has been invited to that isn't grade wide like a bar mitzvah or end of the year party) and he said something like, "but that's all boys". I asked him and older dd who is also on the bus if the kids on the bus were talking about a party or something they were doinga nd they both said no...I don't know where it came from other than hearing stuff at school or on the bus. The thing is that all the teachers and staff say that kids like him, he is social and engaged in school...I wouldn't say it's a commuter school but it's not a local school....kids seem to get together to socialiaze but it's not like friends down the block..it's harder and has been for my NT dd who is a senior...anyway, the short answer is I think it's something like this but not sure.
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        • so, he was feeling unhappy about his friend situation, but what exactly led the meltdown? 2-25-2017 10:08am
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          • getting up, going to basketball game this am, I asked him to get his socks or something, escalated from there? don't remember the specifics 2-25-2017 10:10am
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    • Sorry. I hope that tomorrow is a better day. Is DS taking any meds? Often in this age the irritability, anger stem from depression or anxiety 2-25-2017 10:05am
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      • he takes vyvanse for focus, not on weeeknds. he is in MS school, I'd say he's completely socially typical and has dyslexia and ADHD but the ADHD really only manifests in...(more) 2-25-2017 10:07am
        inattention these days.
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        • maybe he still needs occasional CBT or counseling type therapy? Just to talk out the rough patches with a professional? It might be helpful. As his mom, there's only so much you...(more) 2-25-2017 10:08am
          can do & only so much he will open up to you anyway, esp. at this age.
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          • it's possible he'd benefit from that and we have done occasional check ins with his former therapist....I am not sure he needs to be back in therapy for one incident, in the past...(more) 2-25-2017 10:09am
            I have always raced to fix the problem with professional help...hopefully this is just a one off and won't happen again for awhile.
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            • that sounds very rational. See how things progress. If you notice a pattern of incidents happening, then perhaps reach out to the professional you previously worked with. It...(more) 2-25-2017 10:13am
              doesn't mean he'd have to get back into intense sessions again. I think sometimes it just is beneficial to have a professional to talk things out with sometimes, you know what I mean? But it sounds like you have a very good handle on things. Probably just a bad day - which we all have.
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              • you're very kind and thank you. this is just what I meant when I said it was always so helpful to me to talk this out on SN. 2-25-2017 10:15am
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    • Occasional regression is normal 2-25-2017 10:06am
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      • thank you. thisi s what I need to hear. thank you. I know. this is what I'd say to someone else...need to hear it myself. 2-25-2017 10:07am
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    • OP...he is now Costco shopping with my husband and sending me funny texts about shopping. I'm still mad though 2-25-2017 11:36am
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  24. Special Needs I hate ADHD so much. No words to explain it. 2-24-2017 10:44pm (6 replies)
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    • Ditto 2-24-2017 10:46pm
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    • I get it. Things are getting better finally for ds. You'll get there. 2-24-2017 10:46pm
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    • It stinks. I have it along with debilitating anxiety. The anxiety is actually my bigger problem. :( 2-24-2017 10:48pm
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      • How dy treat it 2-25-2017 11:29pm
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    • Right there with you. . Plus severe eczema. 2-24-2017 10:49pm
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    • Me too ):. I hate the LD even more though, since it makes dc so unhappy. 2-25-2017 11:22pm
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  25. Special Needs Any nyc burb moms have their dc in a sn school? Which school? 2-24-2017 9:10pm (0 replies)
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