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  1. Special Needs Is my son's ADHD helping or hurting him in his competitive soccer?...(more) 5 hr 28 min ago (17 replies)
    Does he needs media during practices/games? Wdyt?
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    • ^meds*** 5 hr 28 min ago
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    • is he old enough to tell you? 5 hr 26 min ago
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      • Not yet mess are still new 5 hr 25 min ago
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    • Curious to hear what others say. My dd takes her meds before sports...if she does not she fails to stay on task, is easily distracted, etc.Much like in school 5 hr 23 min ago
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      • Is she hyperactive or inattentive or combo? 5 hr 22 min ago
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        • Combo. As she has gotten older the hyperactive component has decreased from a physical standpoint, def. not in her head though! 5 hr 20 min ago
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          • My ds is on adderall Xr is that what your dd takes? 5 hr 19 min ago
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            • No. she takes Ritalin LA for school, but has a booster for after 5 hr 17 min ago
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              • Maybe I need to ask about booster? Is this just short acting Ritalin? 5 hr 16 min ago
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                • yes. I think it is not unusual for some to need it for sports or homework. As children get older that afterschool work is intense. She only has sports 3 times/week and that is...(more) 5 hr 14 min ago
                  when we do it. The biggest negative for me is that meds do decrease her appetite and I hate that to last all nigth
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                  • Does she need melatonin to sleep? 5 hr 13 min ago
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                    • no. after sports and homework she is ok 5 hr 12 min ago
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      • my ds the same. Starting when he was about 11 -- when he was 10 we just skipped it whenever there was no school. He won't ski without them. 5 hr 20 min ago
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      • what happens to her sleep? My boys sports end at almost 8 some nights. 5 hr 20 min ago
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        • Takes a booster some nights around 5:30, still can sleep later (by 10:30) 5 hr 18 min ago
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          • Can I ask what med this is? Ds's adderall is worn off by 3:30... 5 hr 17 min ago
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            • poster above, Ritalin. there is long acting but then regular doses that just last 4 hours 5 hr 16 min ago
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  2. Special Needs I hate my MIL. We are working so hard to modify ds's behavior - points chart is working well. He is saving for special stuffed animals. I mentioned how well he is doing to her and...(more) 8 hr 43 min ago (13 replies)
    how she doesn't need to get him any stuffed animals because he is earning them himself. And her response to my son? "It sounds like your mom is trying to tell me something but she doesn't know I already have a present for you at my apartment!" Wow, way to undermine me! I really want to email her and tell her that she needs to support the work we are ALL doing. She lives 10 blocks away and I wish it were 10,000. Hate her.
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    • make your dh tell her. 8 hr 43 min ago
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      • his response to me was "well, she wants to give him gifts." My response - "that's not an excuse to undermine me" 8 hr 42 min ago
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        • don't make it about you, make it about dh, your child, and your family. She is undermining all of you, and your dh needs to get on board. I have a SN kid, so I get it. 8 hr 40 min ago
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    • Sorry, she is a bitch 8 hr 42 min ago
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    • i am sure she is awful but i think you are over reacting to this particular comment 8 hr 42 min ago
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      • She basically said that he didn't need to earn his stuffed animals, she'd just give them to him. 8 hr 41 min ago
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        • ^let me also point out that she has been a monstrous bitch about his behavior and constantly nagging and berating us about it. 8 hr 41 min ago
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      • Np. I'm sure there are multiple incidents like that 8 hr 40 min ago
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      • np. I'm sure OP isn't reacting to just this one comment. 8 hr 40 min ago
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    • Maybe it would be more effective for dh to talk to her? 8 hr 41 min ago
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    • I would be pissed but I can also see MIL thinking "Oh well, grandmas are supposed to spoil their grandchildren!" without really realizing the specifics behind it and how serious...(more) 8 hr 38 min ago
      it is. I know my MIL completely disregards SIL's requests that her dc only eat non-processed food with the same line of thinking.
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      • Yes--they have some rationale in their own minds but it doesn't make it right. When my DD was a baby, she had been in the ICU having immune system issues. We were told to keep her...(more) 3 hr 42 min ago
        Away from other children for a time. I explained all this to my MIL and she agreed and then took the baby for a walk and took her into a neighborhood daycare to say hi because she was convinced we were overprotective. Still maes me furious--I can't change her but I never left either child alone with her after that.
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    • No. Your DH tells her this. 8 hr 29 min ago
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  3. Special Needs Chicago Moms...(more) 11 hr 26 min ago (1 reply)
    Does anyone know of any good autism cluster programs in Chicago?
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    • Hi, I'm not familiar with that term. Can you elaborate and maybe I can help. 3 hr 3 min ago
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  4. Special Needs Hi! I've been posting recently about my very aggressive 8yo. Are there any (day) schools within 2 hrs of NYC that are known for working with bright, aggressive kids....(more) 11 hr 57 min ago (6 replies)
    Failing that, how about in the USA?
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    • I haven't seen your posts. is he medicated? Is he dxd with anything at all? 11 hr 55 min ago
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    • Why is he aggressive? Does he have a diagnosis? What about other issues? 11 hr 55 min ago
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    • op neuropsych underway now. Previous neuropsychs have yielded autism, generalized anxiety, ODD and inattentive-type ADHD. No meds but we're exploring that. 11 hr 47 min ago
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      • I would wait for neuro evaluation before looking for schools. Good luck and post back 11 hr 29 min ago
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        • - no subject -...(more) 7 hr 9 min ago
          ITA wait for neuro evaluation results. My kid was similar at 7. Impulse control meds combined with CBT/play therapy and social skills instruction and OT for sensory regulation helped a ton. He is in ms middle school now.
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    • "Very aggressive" has different meanings for different people. Can you describe the aggression? 11 hr 1 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Has anyone seen Dr. Levinson in Westchester? If so, were you happy with him? Thanks! 13 hr 24 min ago (0 replies)
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  6. Special Needs DS is 11 and ASD but presents as very typical. He does pretty well at school, has 1 or 2 friends, but he wishes he was more social. He doesn't do any sports - he's pretty...(more) 13 hr 35 min ago (21 replies)
    uncoordinated and our town is very competitive, so I don't want to set him up to fail. What else is out there that he can join? He does Sunday school and plays in the band. Has anything in particular worked to help your dc find his people?
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    • robotics 13 hr 34 min ago
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    • Join the drama club, he should do stage crew, lots of kids like him in our town, they've got their own whole clique. 13 hr 34 min ago
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    • Band doesn't help? A martial art? 13 hr 34 min ago
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    • what is he interested in? 13 hr 33 min ago
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      • OP Video games, history, politics 13 hr 33 min ago
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        • Model un, student council, debate 13 hr 28 min ago
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    • beginner group tennis lessons 13 hr 33 min ago
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    • tehre is a comic book store in our town that has gaming night. kids sit around and do games. v nice. 13 hr 33 min ago
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      • ^^we have this, not at a comic book store but at the local teen center, its great for those kids. they do pickup leauges, gaming stuff. 13 hr 32 min ago
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    • track really helped my ds. He is now almost 14 and runs three miles a day. We are gearing him up to be able to join the xc and track teams in HS. I also don't think middle...(more) 13 hr 33 min ago
      schoolers need to be the most social creatures out there. 1 or 2 friends is plenty IMO.
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      • OP OK thanks. How did he get started doing track? All there is is football and soccer and the kids are so advanced. 13 hr 32 min ago
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        • did you chec your rec or your school. ? track is usually open to all, no cut. or a local running team. where do you live? 13 hr 31 min ago
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          • OP Western suburbs of Philly. 13 hr 31 min ago
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            • oh well, can't help you! but i bet there is something. does your town have a rec. dept ? 13 hr 30 min ago
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              • That's a good idea. I will check it out. 13 hr 30 min ago
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        • his school has a spring track team that is pretty disorganized, but my DH was a distance runner in HS and college, so he trains him very lightly. There are running clubs for kids...(more) 13 hr 29 min ago
          out there, but at this age, I don't think it's necessarily a great thing to have a lot of milage (leads to injury). But if running is something he's interested in, do look for a low key track team. It's a godsend for uncoordinated kids who can't hit or catch a ball like my ds.
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      • I kind of agree on the friends thing. Lots of friends = lots of drama at that age. Better to lay low and get through it as easily as possible. 13 hr 27 min ago
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    • Swimming? y teams. Start with individual lessons. It will take time but he'll get better. 13 hr 27 min ago
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    • Climbing? 13 hr 27 min ago
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    • scouting 13 hr 25 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Where are ASD Nest Horizon programs? Can't find any info online....(more) 13 hr 37 min ago (4 replies)
    I this a program just for K or K-12?
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  8. Special Needs How do I handle this? ds is 12y and finally getting some NT friends (he is ADHD/SPD/Aspergers). He has a SN friend and I Don't know what the dx is. This friend really sticks to my...(more) 15 hr 32 min ago (5 replies)
    ds like glue and doesn't like it when my ds plays or talks to anyone else. Ds loves his friend and doesn't want to hurt his feelings or not be his friend but my ds needs other friends too.
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    • That's tough. Are they in school together? It's normal for kids at that age to switch groups anyhow. 15 hr 31 min ago
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      • ^I'd talk to the guidance counselor. The reality is that friendships need to be organic and if your ds has developed beyond his friend...(more) 15 hr 30 min ago
        it's not sustainable to force him to hang out with him.
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        • The guidence counsleor knows and is working with my ds and the other kid to make sure they branch out, I am just trying to figure out what to say to him when he mentions it to me....(more) 15 hr 29 min ago
          It's so hard. He went from friendless, to this kid which has been so good for him to branching out
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          • I have a kid just like him, I hope he has friends. I'd probably say, you are being a good friend just be considerate and kind, always. 15 hr 27 min ago
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            • ^and would not force him to play with anyone he doesn't want to. 15 hr 27 min ago
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  9. Special Needs No sil, I do not want to hear from your childless self how my 12yos ADHD can be cured with fish oils and no dyes or gluten...(more) 15 hr 36 min ago (6 replies)
    as this will be a topic of conversation tonight at dinner, in front of my 12yo.
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    • love it 15 hr 36 min ago
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      • I am SOOOOO looking forward to it 15 hr 35 min ago
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    • I have that Sil. Then she goes on to say how much she hates children. 15 hr 35 min ago
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    • Shut it down. Part of my changing for the better as a parent was showing my kids you dont have to put up with offensive or ignorant opinions in your own house. 15 hr 34 min ago
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    • oye 10 hr 13 min ago
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    • but does she have any positive attributes? Will she babysit? Is she a guardian in your will? Sometimes we put up with irritating behavior because we get something else out of...(more) 4 hr 58 min ago
      the relationship.
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  10. Special Needs 9yo DD is in a choir this year. She is dyslexic. I haven't mentioned it to the choir leaders but I think maybe I should. They do get sheet music it but often have the children...(more) 16 hr 14 min ago (8 replies)
    repeat after them. DD reads below grade level and says she isn't having a hard time with the lyrics but she does have trouble finding where they are if they don't start from the beginning. Any tips on how DD and her leaders can work on any issues that might arise? DD doesn't want to be singled out but she also doesn't want to struggle.
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    • I would let them know, but also let them know she doesn't want them to know 16 hr 13 min ago
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    • Kids can quickly memorize music at that age. Can you work on it with her at home? I was ask dd if she wants you to mention it or if she feels she can deal on her own. Maybe she...(more) 16 hr 11 min ago
      has a friend she can nudge to point out where they are when she's lost?
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      • She did want me to mention it but I don't know what they can do to help her 16 hr 9 min ago
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        • Probably nothing, but she wants them to know why she can't just pick up so quickly. I think that's fair. FWIW, I sing and sang from elementary to adulthood with a girl who had...(more) 16 hr 7 min ago
          dislexia and she was an incredibly wonderful singer. Tell her it's no reason to hold her back.
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          • DD is so excited about this - totally her idea so I hope it continues to go well. She really wants to have a solo some day. Thanks for your input 16 hr 4 min ago
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    • And do you think it would be helpful for them to see her IEP? or is that overkill? 16 hr 7 min ago
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      • way overkill 15 hr 43 min ago
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        • Ok - I thought so but wanted to be sure. Thank you 15 hr 42 min ago
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  11. Special Needs So exhausted from dealing with ds with add lying about homework and then seeing failing grades. 16 hr 35 min ago (38 replies)
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    • how old is he? Inattentive or hyperactive? Medicated? 16 hr 34 min ago
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      • 10, inattentive, just started meds. I am losing my mind. 16 hr 34 min ago
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        • ok, the meds will help if they're right for him. we had to try a few - good luck 16 hr 33 min ago
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          • ^^^also, my kid needs someone to sit with him for now. this may change when good habits are formed, but you may need to get a HS kid to come sit with him, or you 16 hr 32 min ago
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          • What got better? Started bringing home correct materials? 16 hr 32 min ago
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            • yes, just a complete interest in school work and ability to focus and remember. yeah 16 hr 30 min ago
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              • What mess worked for you guys? 16 hr 29 min ago
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                • my son is 8 and he takes concerta (long acting ritalin)with 5mg short acting ritialin at 3pm to get through HW 16 hr 27 min ago
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              • ^^^but your child is only 10 yo. You have to tell him, "I want your assignments home for me to check every afternoon, or you get no screen time." Not knocking you, but he needs...(more) 16 hr 28 min ago
                extra supervision and it doesn't sound like he's getting it, meds aside.
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                • Well he has 3 younger sibs I am also dealing with so yes I have other things that take my attention and he is making that work for him to his advantage even exploits it 16 hr 27 min ago
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                  • ok. just saying. your kid with adhd? He needs extra supervision. not knocking you 16 hr 26 min ago
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                    • I know he does. I'm having a hard time getting this right. 16 hr 26 min ago
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          • the meds will help but my 14yo still struggles with this even though he is medicated. GL to you 7 hr 51 min ago
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    • make him show it to you, every night 16 hr 34 min ago
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      • He Lies and says he finished it in school and when I ask to see it he says he left all the materials at school etc and then doesn't tell me about tests or write anything down. I'm...(more) 16 hr 32 min ago
        So overwhelmed with the fighting.
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        • I have an ADHD dc. I require homework to come home even if done in school. You don't show me your completed homework, you don't get tv or ipad time. And I do it for both kids to...(more) 16 hr 31 min ago
          be 'fair'.
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          • If you are home in the afternoons check for homework first thing. If he doesn't have it, straight into the car to get it. I'm not home but our sitter does this now. 16 hr 30 min ago
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          • Does your dc fight with you over this? 16 hr 30 min ago
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            • At first, yes. But teacher was on board to help remind him and I did not relent on the screen stuff at all. It helped a lot that his sister had to do it too (even though I barely...(more) 16 hr 27 min ago
              glance at hers b/c it's always perfectly done).
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            • NP - they stop fighting when they see you mean business. One week. 16 hr 25 min ago
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        • I would be in touch with his teacher/guidance counselor for help. 16 hr 30 min ago
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          • We are in touch now with accommodation writing and I am hoping one accommodation be that someone helps him load up his backpack end of day 16 hr 29 min ago
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            • But you need more support right now. Why not email teacher and ask for help in how to turn this around right now? 16 hr 27 min ago
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              • Think I should? We were going to wait for 2 weeks to see what happened with mess 16 hr 26 min ago
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                • yes. why make the next 2 weeks misery for you and dc for no reason. Get a system in place. 16 hr 24 min ago
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            • I posted above about the teacher reminder. This is important b/c with ADHD a kid really cannot keep track at age 10 well. 16 hr 26 min ago
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              • And you can ask for a second copy of textbooks that stays at home. 16 hr 26 min ago
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                • np - I bought two essential workbooks from ebay so we would have them at home this year. working out really well and so funny. ds is forgetting less all of a sudden!! 16 hr 24 min ago
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                  • These are good ideas thanks 16 hr 12 min ago
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    • HW isn't listed on school website/teacher pages? 16 hr 33 min ago
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      • np - i am glad our school does not do this. kids need to learn to write stuff down. and if they forget they can just call someone. 16 hr 32 min ago
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      • It is sometimes but that doesn't matter if he hasn't brought home his materials 16 hr 31 min ago
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    • this is my ds! he is also 10 and a little better so far this year because I was straight with the teachers last year and we discovered he says one thing at home and another at...(more) 16 hr 27 min ago
      school (ie my dog ate it.) Our school offers little support, nothing on line, little communication with parents, but they do call me now if he doesn't turn in hw, and one teacher checks his planner most days. Now that he knows he can't get away with it he is much better. Also helped that I bought copies of some of the books, found some others online, so that if he forgets we can usually get it done.
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    • ADD has difficulty primarily in math, I have a tutor now 2 nights per week, same age, it keeps him on track, repeated instruction, someone communicating with his teacher and I no...(more) 16 hr 16 min ago
      longer have that aggravation of where is your math HW, what do you have to do...NO you cannot do it on the way to school in the AM, it really lifted the burden and he listens to the tutor
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      • ^^also hide any electronic device that you own 16 hr 16 min ago
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      • Sounds like my life 16 hr 13 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Melania reminds me of the character in Best in Show who was married to the old guy, and they both liked soup. 18 hr 4 min ago (4 replies)
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  13. Special Needs My 16 yo ds (ADHD) is causing us a lot of grief. His phone is such a distraction and causes him/us so many problems ( impulsive posts. etc) phone has been taken away but it as if...(more) 18 hr 59 min ago (26 replies)
    He has no character. While friends are planning for college I am concerned he won't even be able to hold his own at community college
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    • I can understand. While my son is only 11 and no phone is so obsessed with tv and youtube everything else is secondary and treats us terribly. Perhaps you have to take the phone...(more) 18 hr 57 min ago
      away, I have also found that 1:1 therapy with my son and me helps
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      • He has a strong aversion to therapy- we went to family once and his sister goes. But I think it would help him. 18 hr 55 min ago
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        • Perhaps tell him for the phone back he has to go. Set up ground rules with the phone, make him sign a contract and take that phone away past 9pm when anyone is tired and could do...(more) 18 hr 53 min ago
          something impulsive. Also, my DS is going to community college. I just know he won't be ready for college at the time. Just like I knew he needed help in PREK, and 1st, etc...
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    • Not everyone should go to college. Maybe find a trade school? 18 hr 54 min ago
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      • Or,find a college that has an excellent program for kids with add...curry, Champlain, landmark... 18 hr 52 min ago
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        • To what end. What kind of job realistically can someone like op's ds get with those behaviors? 18 hr 50 min ago
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          • that's a really terrible unsupportive thing to say. This boy will mature and will change. 18 hr 49 min ago
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          • He is 16... 18 hr 46 min ago
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            • again, unsupportive and I changed and matured many times from 16. If you can't be supportive leave. This is SN board 18 hr 44 min ago
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              • I meant it as "he is 16.... Give him a break..." 18 hr 42 min ago
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            • I think she means he is still just a kid... 18 hr 41 min ago
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      • Op- I completely agree, but a trade is the farthest from his skill set. Talking to people, schmoozing is more him 18 hr 50 min ago
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        • then he will be a great salesman! and make so much money and don't worry! He will change and mature. All ADHD kids are 2 years behind peers 18 hr 49 min ago
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          • Thank you.:) 18 hr 48 min ago
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          • np where did you get that stat that they are 2 years behind their peers? thats interesting. my dd seems to be this way 18 hr 39 min ago
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            • our doctors and reading up on ADHD 17 hr 2 min ago
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          • But even salespeople need to deal with administrative stuff AND other people at work 18 hr 27 min ago
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    • what do you mean by impulsive posts? 18 hr 48 min ago
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      • Oh posts things he thinks is very funny but offensive. Texts people too much. Caused his school a ton of trouble once with an Instagram post which caused a scandal. He does very...(more) 18 hr 45 min ago
        dumb things.
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        • NO phone. Period the end. 18 hr 44 min ago
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          • Op- it is in my drawer now. And maybe forever. 18 hr 42 min ago
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            • don't feel bad about it. You are helping him 18 hr 40 min ago
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    • As the parent of daughter with ADHD, who pushed her to go to college with disasterous results, maybe that's not his route. 18 hr 34 min ago
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      • how long was she there? was it a college with supports? 18 hr 30 min ago
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        • One year, some supports, but more would not have helped. She just wasn't ready or interested. It was what I wanted her to do, not what she wanted to do. She's been through a...(more) 18 hr 20 min ago
          trade school and is working, and will probably go to a CUNY in January. Her progress won't be a straight line or what I expected.
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  14. Special Needs Has the news at all covered the crazy white guy lawyer who shot up houston yesterday? 19 hr 18 min ago (5 replies)
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    • yesterday yes. not sure about today 19 hr 17 min ago
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    • No and why are you posting this in special needS? 19 hr 17 min ago
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      • because I forgot to change my board stamp. I was on SN a few minutes ago about myimpossible ADHD SPD kid in the am (somone suggested coffee) 19 hr 17 min ago
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        • lol-coffee? 19 hr 16 min ago
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          • yes, before he takes his meds, caffinee has been shown in some studies to help calm them. He is a crazy maniac in the am before the meds kcik in. makes it near impossible. 19 hr 11 min ago
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  15. Special Needs 12yo ds, ADHD, takes meds first in the am, but it still takes a while to get into his system and it is near impossible to deal with him 19 hr 36 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Can you give him a cup of coffee to help him before the meds kick in? 19 hr 29 min ago
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      • I haven't tried that. he has sensory issues so I don't know if he would like it 19 hr 23 min ago
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  16. Special Needs Dc with ADHD, he had a spelling test this week got all the words right and one word he didn't put on the paper. Said he was busy erasing somethibg and forgot. During math homework...(more) 20 hr 34 min ago (7 replies)
    He knew all the subtraction but the lesson was teaching carrying over and he did all the answers addition and didn't show work. Am I supposed to help him with his work or let him get it wrong for teacher to go over? It's like he was rushing and didn't read the q
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    • I don't know how you can help him during the spelling test. This needs to be addrrssed at school. Does he have an IEP? 20 hr 30 min ago
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      • He does, new small private working on behavior plan now don't want to be so demanding we had a horrible year last year 20 hr 26 min ago
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        • You should advocte for him without being demanding. The school, hopefully, has ideas and strategies that have worked soth other kids. You need to tell them each of your concerns...(more) 20 hr 23 min ago
          And ask what strategies might help.
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    • Help him if he is just missing the sign but understands the concepts. If the concepts aren't clear let him do the work after some guidance then let teacher see his mistakes. But...(more) 20 hr 29 min ago
      correct him so he doesn't reinforce the wrong process
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      • It's as if he missed the lesson of carrying over. 20 hr 25 min ago
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    • Help... at our private they really don't go over the homework or use it 20 hr 26 min ago
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      • That's ridiculous. What is the point of homework? 20 hr 25 min ago
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  17. Special Needs No flu mist this year. Only shots. Great. this will be fun. 9-26-2016 6:04pm (45 replies)
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    • I know! bummer 9-26-2016 6:05pm
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    • They are so nothing shot-wise. 9-26-2016 6:05pm
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    • Ds survived and I didn't think he would. I bear hugged him and it was over. Then straight to Carvel 9-26-2016 6:05pm
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      • This post has been disliked 4 times. showOh, brother. As if you have to bribe. There's no choice. The kid has to get a shot. What are you trying to avoid, an adult afraid of a flu shot? 9-26-2016 6:07pm
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        • YOU'RE ON SPECIAL NEEDS 9-26-2016 6:08pm
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        • Do you realize what board you are on? 9-26-2016 6:11pm
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    • Let the nurse do it and leave the room. 9-26-2016 6:05pm
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      • ^i apologize that I didn't see this was SN board. It might or might not be good advice. 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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    • Sorry. We have never done the mist bc ds has asthma 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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    • This post has been disliked 3 times. showOh geez its like 2 sec of pain 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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      • do you have an austistic kid who screams bloody murder? 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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        • Mine is much more compliant when he understands the purpose--taking the time to teach the science behind vaccination and how germs and the immune system work made a huge...(more) 19 hr 16 min ago
          difference in the amount of dr office resistance.
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    • CDC questioning efficacy freaks me out about years past (tho no one got flu) 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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      • Why? It's never foolproof. Best odds. 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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    • you could always just opt out of flu shots altogether 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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      • So dumb. 9-26-2016 6:07pm
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      • Np. I kind of agree with that. We haven't had flu shots for year and we never got the flu 9-26-2016 6:09pm
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        • You can't honestly think there is a linkage between those two statements. 9-26-2016 6:09pm
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        • Idiotic advice 9-26-2016 6:10pm
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        • I didn't wear my seatbelt all last year and didn't get into any accidents. I think I'll skip it this year, too. 9-26-2016 6:10pm
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          • Ha, jinx, I should have read all the way down before posting! 19 hr 14 min ago
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        • ditto 9-26-2016 6:10pm
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        • You realize gat's like saying "I haven't been in a highway wreck lately, so I think we'll skip seat belts this year." 19 hr 14 min ago
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    • I heard they hurt this year too. heard that from a few people. it stings 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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      • Mine was with a shorter needle and it was a piece of cake. Little bit of pain thwt evening. No biggie. 9-26-2016 6:07pm
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      • Is that why I was in so much pain after? My arm was sore for 2 days. 9-26-2016 6:09pm
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        • yup. 2 people I know were sick the next day too, slight flu-like symptoms 9-26-2016 6:10pm
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          • Which we all know isn't and can't and won't ever be the flu, as it is not a live virus. It's the pain/discomfort of getting a shot (any shot, regardless ). Your system has been...(more) 9-26-2016 6:14pm
            breached -- a slight reaction happens.
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    • This post has been disliked 5 times. showYou're a parent? How? 9-26-2016 6:06pm
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      • oh brother 9-26-2016 6:07pm
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      • well, you try holding down a 120 pound kid who is deathly afraid of shots. Want to trade? 9-26-2016 6:07pm
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      • Now look at the stamp. Special Needs. Feel small? You should, you asshole. 9-26-2016 6:08pm
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        • Youre being bitchy 9-26-2016 6:09pm
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          • Um, look at her horrible response. 9-26-2016 6:09pm
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            • Youre right down in the gutter with her. 9-26-2016 6:10pm
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        • I don't, because I'm also a parent of SN DC who hate shots. But kids reflect your anxiety about it. My kids hated the mist more than the shot, and with a ton of reinforcements,...(more) 9-26-2016 6:13pm
          we've gotten through shots. Ask for Emla cream, have a great reward, and distract with video/music.
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          • Well congrats on an especially cruel response. 9-26-2016 6:13pm
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          • np: So you had a kid who hated the mist? you're a parent? How? 9-26-2016 6:14pm
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            • Yeah, I sucked it up and dealt. 9-26-2016 6:17pm
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              • and where did OP say she wouldn't? I'll wait while you show me. 9-26-2016 6:17pm
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          • Are you new to this board? Generally people on here are especially careful to not come off as critical or judgmental as this is intended to be a safe space for parents that are...(more) 9-26-2016 6:20pm
            constantly judged. Maybe a better response would have been, "Don't worry, it can go well. Here are some things that have helped me...." People are responding to your tone.
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    • Can it be given at school? I've seen ABA 1:1/para do amazing things to help kids at the school clinic. 9-26-2016 6:17pm
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    • Shot is better 9-26-2016 6:21pm
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    • I bring lollipops. Unwrap. Once shot is in so is lollipop. Big one. ASD dc gets so excited choosing the candy. good luck. 9-26-2016 8:27pm
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  18. Special Needs Does anyone have a child with mild autism that is over 18? What does their life look like? My ds is only 11, and he is high functioning, but I can't imagine him being independent. 9-26-2016 5:08pm (10 replies)
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    • I work with teens and young adults like this. It really depends on functional skills so work on them early- money, safety, problem solving, laundry, food prep, etc. There are...(more) 9-26-2016 5:11pm
      different options for housing depending on need (and your resources)- I know some are in their own places and doing well with parents checking in, while others need more support.
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      • Thanks. He is good with a lot of those things already. He can cook probably ten things, he knows to get his change at a store and not to spend everything he gets right away, he...(more) 9-26-2016 5:13pm
        Canberra at home alone for a few hours. It's just all the soft skills and social stuff and meltdowns and sensory and panicking. Maybe he will grow out of some of that, but I see him forgetting to pay bills and getting fired from jobs all the time or only having a shitty job that won't pay rent
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      • this. but also, even more important is being employable and ALL that entails, which is not just the skill of doing the job itself.... monitoring appearance, navigating public...(more) 9-26-2016 5:17pm
        transportation, eating appropriately etc etc etc. housing is a huge crisis but what good is any living situation if the person sits home and plays video gmes all day?
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        • Yes, these are the kinds of things that worry me, because they are hard to teach him to follow through with on his own, and just talking to people in an appropriate way 9-26-2016 5:22pm
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          • are you in nyc? the good news is theres lots of supports out there. this is a wonderful group of people doing great work...(more) 9-26-2016 5:26pm
            • Thanks. I'm not in NY anymore. We have ABA covered by insurance by law in California, and his therapist is super open to working on what I want to work on, but we haven't found...(more) 9-26-2016 5:28pm
              their that curriculum or tools yet. Most are directed younger or more severe needs
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    • this is my son. He is 17 and a senior. He is retaking the ACT this year so that he can have more time but I don't have high hopes. His grades are shit too. He wants to write...(more) 9-26-2016 5:12pm
      code and he certainly has the mind for it, but he won't focus on grades to get into college and doesn't want to get into college anyway. He thinks he's going to write a super successful game that will be sold to everyone and he'll get rich out of my basement.
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      • Is he really good at it? The tech companies will take someone who is good at writing code - doesn't have to be good at a lot of other things. 9-27-2016 1:19am
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    • My HFA brother is 50. He has a college degree and a job, but is chronically underemployed. Lived on his own for years, now lives with elderly parent b/c she is not able to live...(more) 9-26-2016 5:13pm
      alone anymore. He needs light family support/guidance from time to time. He didn't have the benefit of the supports and social skills training our kids get now.
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    • I also have your concerns. My ds is almost 12. He can do a lot. He is very smart. But you cannot miss his autism. We are fortunate, in that he will not want for financial support....(more) 9-26-2016 5:14pm
      My ILs are taking care of that.
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  19. Special Needs I need to vent and can't post on Toddler because I'll be ripped to shreds....(more) 9-26-2016 4:57pm (15 replies)
    I have posted about my son, ADHD and very very difficult, many times here. He is literally going to send me over the edge. I posted recently about him. 9th grade, met with teacher and ds about behavioral issues. I was shocked by how she treated him and told her to find the good in him or he'd live the label she was giving him. She continued to belittle him, mock him, make an example of him. I sought the advice of another teacher, a psychologist and spoke to ds - he needed to switch classes. She wasn't equipped to deal with him and hated him after 6 weeks of school. So, I told ds that I'd email school and ask to have a meeting to see what schedule changes were available. DS was fine with this and knew it. When they got the email and read what had happened, they immediately switched his classes and said they'd be speaking to the previous teacher about her behavior. DS comes home from school in a rage about having his schedule switched. I can't win....
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    • ^having a kid with issues is overwhelming at times. Today is one of those days. 9-26-2016 4:58pm
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      • I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. Once the dust settles, ds will be happier. He was probably used to the routine. I have an ADD inattentive kid and an anxious...(more) 9-26-2016 5:02pm
        kid, both in elementary school. But I honestly dread the upper years. It will be tough.
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        • It is HELL - Add puberty and hormones to ADHD and it's like a test of my sanity on a regular basis 9-26-2016 5:03pm
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          • Oh yeah. Can't wait :p 9-26-2016 5:04pm
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            • btw, I find the meds to be anger inducing for my ds 9-26-2016 5:04pm
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    • is he medicated? 9-26-2016 5:01pm
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      • Yes and this afternoon when he was so angry about his schedule being changed, I had him take his afternoon bump and went out to do errands for 30 min while it kicked in. Returned...(more) 9-26-2016 5:02pm
        to him still so angry. I know he's too young to really get it but I worked my ass off, talked to so many people, really weighed the options of what should happen, discussed it with ds before doing anything. Now he's acting like I've ruined his life.
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        • np so sorry he cannot understand what you are doing for him...but WE do. And he will eventually. Hang in there. 9-26-2016 5:03pm
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        • ^He had a teacher like this in 1st grade. He was so mistreated that he acted out behaviorally and was so angry all the time. The next year he was diagnosed with ADHD/Dyslexia. I...(more) 9-26-2016 5:06pm
          sided with that 1st grade teacher - Told him to behave, punished him all the time. After some time passed and I knew what he was dealing with I felt so much guilt about not being an advocate for him - he couldn't read, he couldn't focus and he didn't want anyone to know. Now, he's got a similar teacher in 9th grade. There was no way I could allow it to happen again. Some teachers don't understand how to deal with ADHD or LD kids.
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    • He will settle down. Your guy sounds super rigid so changes like this will rattle him. 9-26-2016 5:04pm
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      • He's so worried about his friends - who is in his class - not who is teaching it. I get that but it doesn't help with situations like this 9-26-2016 5:06pm
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    • I am so sorry....sometimes this motherhood thing is a thankless life. But I appreciate the good you did for him, even if he can't see it right now. Go you. 9-26-2016 8:14pm
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      • Thank you - It's almost 24 hours after I posted. He's calmed down, gets it, thanked me. Thank you all for your support. Until next time... :) 12 hr 43 min ago
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  20. Special Needs Are emotional support dogs (dc has autism) allowed on international flights to Europe? 9-26-2016 3:32pm (16 replies)
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    • yes 9-26-2016 3:33pm
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    • no one has ever cared that my dc has severe autism at an airline so assume if they are that it will be hard or impossible anyway 9-26-2016 3:33pm
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    • I think they are but I would confirm 9-26-2016 3:33pm
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    • It might not be, some countries have quarantine requirements for pets 9-26-2016 3:34pm
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    • Np- tangent, I apologize. Is there a linit to the NUMBER of emotional support animals one can bring on a domestic flight? 9-26-2016 3:34pm
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      • one per person 9-26-2016 3:35pm
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      • drat; guess i can't bring my support litter-o-puppies with me . . . 9-26-2016 3:37pm
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        • nnp: I am having a wonderful image of Melissa McCarthy in Bridesmaids from your post :) 9-26-2016 3:37pm
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        • I was curious because when I was bording my flight there was a woman waiting for another flight with three dogs in the orange SUPPORT ANIMAL vest and I could not imagine being...(more) 9-26-2016 3:39pm
          seats next to her
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    • better question is what are you going to do with the dog once you get there 9-26-2016 3:35pm
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      • I think some countries quarantine which is awful for the dog 9-26-2016 3:35pm
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      • OP: we're considering moving to Europe. Dog either goes in the cabin with us, or I look at cruises where she's allowed. 9-26-2016 3:38pm
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        • this is united's policy. i would guess it varies by airline and country...(more) 9-26-2016 3:42pm
          Emotional support and psychiatric assist animals are also accepted in cabin for qualified individuals with a disability if certain documentation requirements are met. Additional documentation may also be required for an animal traveling to an international destination. Please note that not all international destinations allow the entry of animals, and restrictions vary by country
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          • each airlines has their own guidelines for emotional support dogs online if you do a search 9-26-2016 4:01pm
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        • Some Euro countries require all dogs to be quarantined for extended periods. 9-26-2016 4:07pm
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        • the bigger deal will be what happens with the dog upon arrival. you can't just bring a dog into another country. lots of paperwork, quarantines etc 9-26-2016 4:08pm
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  22. Special Needs If I pursue an ASD nest option does that foreclose the possibility of suing for reimbursement at private SN school? Concerned that if my son is accepted but I am just not...(more) 9-26-2016 12:55pm (11 replies)
    happywith the specific placement/location that we won't have a case to send my son to a private sn and also not sure that I could pursue both options at once due to the timeline of things. WDYT? Think my son could potentially fit the profile for asd nest but feels like a crap shoot and not sure if he would do well there. Also if I decide to just pursue reimbursement for a private sn school do I need to inquire about an ASD nest program (along with visiting my other public options as part of my due diligence) or can I just say that my son has never received a formal ASD diagnosis and so I didn't pursue ASD nest? (truthfully my son has been deemed "at risk" for ASD but doesn't have a clear dx at this point though I could potentially get a diagnosis if I decided to pursue asd nest. Sorry for the rambling. Is this making sense? This would be for Kindergarten btw. tia
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    • Dc has to have an ASD dx to be considered for nest. If he gets spot, you will be hard pressed to get funding for private. However, if he doesn't this may help you get funding. the...(more) 9-26-2016 1:06pm
      tricky thing is the timing. Good Luck!
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    • It might make it harder to sue. But if you don't get a place at private SN school you will be kicking yourself when dc is stuck in regular ICT or MS with para. You could, I...(more) 9-26-2016 1:27pm
      suppose, apply late to Nest but the spots do fill up. Why do you tihnk your dc would do better in SN school than Nest?
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      • np: private sn is also a crapshoot. first ds has to be accepted to one that seems appropriate, then it actually has to be appropriate once he gets there. its not a panacea. lots...(more) 9-26-2016 1:36pm
        of movement in sn privates
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        • That was was I was trying to express. That SN private isn't a guarantee. 9-26-2016 1:46pm
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          • yes, I wish DS was not at his SN school but he is in HS and it is really too late to change. 9-27-2016 1:20am
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    • start talking with a lawyer now. if you get ASD nest placement, you need to visit the school before you reject it 9-26-2016 1:36pm
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    • You should pursue both. But you can withdraw from Nest at any stage in the process. Neither SN private nor Nest will give you an answer before February or March. If you get a Nest...(more) 9-26-2016 9:32pm
      acceptance, then you will be hard-pressed to get SN private funding. We pursued both 2 yrs ago -- got accepted to SN Private first (Parkside) and then Nest. Since we got into Nest, our lawyer said it would be hard to get funding for private. But we are glad we chose Nest. You the small class size of SN privates but a more rigorous education curriculum. I have talked to my friends who chose the SN route who have complained that they felt that the educational expectations were not as rigorous.
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      • ^^ continued ... but each case is different. Visit all and you can decide which is best for your DC. 9-26-2016 9:33pm
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        • We were rejected from NEST and I think it helped the DOE decide to defer to CBST...(more) 9-26-2016 11:56pm
          It demonstrated that we had given a solid try to all public options and has been rejected/could not be accommodated. At the time, I was really depressed because I thought an integrated environment would be better. But NEST is very picky about behaviors and doesn't offer much sensory support so probably we are in the right place with SN funded school. What is tricky is that your neuropsych has to be worded to make an integrated environment an option while also mandating a very small classroom, to get funding...I would check with a lawyer to be sure.
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          • I've found that the hype about Nest and behaviors is more anecdotal. My ds ran out of the room during the ADOS with the psych and he got in. He definitely had some behaviors at...(more) 18 hr 58 min ago
            that age and he's fine. It's more about the overall fit and being able to see your child really objectively in the school setting.
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            • No. Actually they rejected our child without even seeing her because there were...(more) 4 hr 37 min ago
              Aggressive behaviors (meltdowns really) in the neuropsych (which was later updated because we found that behaviors weren't happening at school, just in playgrounds or loud environments due to sensory overload). Flat out rejected due to the more aggressive and meltdown type behaviors. And they were very rude about the rejection. The called us and spent 30 minutes explaining why our kid could not attend the program, which was really unnecessary. I am not the only parent who has this feeling about NESt. They seem to only take kids who barely score on the ADOS and have no sensory issues or meltdowns, which excludes most actually autistic kids.
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  23. Special Needs I'm one of those people who could not for one moment ever see myself booking a cruise. But I have a SN dc who is 6 (and an NT 4yo), so I just swallowed my preconceptions and...(more) 9-26-2016 12:54pm (17 replies)
    booked a Disney cruise, for our first real week-long vacation with kids. I've checked out the kids club, and it looks like it will work well for my dc. My mom is going and the kids are staying in a room with her. It looks like we might have a real five-day break. Anyone else BTDT? What am I missing? We can still get a refund.
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    • You can all have a nice time if that's your mindset. 9-26-2016 12:55pm
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      • ^not dverything will be perfect about this trip, as cruises involve a lot of other folks all doing the same thing. 9-26-2016 12:55pm
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        • OP: We don't expect perfect. No way, no how. 9-26-2016 12:57pm
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    • Have not BTDT, but just want to say a good friend who has a SN DD (non-verbal) did a Disney cruise last year, and they loved it. Her NT daughters had a ball, and she actually was...(more) 9-26-2016 12:56pm
      able to relax a bit.
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    • why the preconceptions? that has nothing to do with the reality of a vacation that works for you. are you really worrried about the side eye at school pickup when you say you are...(more) 9-26-2016 12:56pm
      cruising? just have fun
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      • OP: I had to read this a couple of times because I was confused. The side eye? Oh, Lord no. I don't live in that kind of community (even if I did, I wouldn't worry about it)....(more) 9-26-2016 1:00pm
        No, it's just that I am an introvert who generally hates loud showy stuff. I get sensory overload and fatigued with it all.
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        • Get a balcony. Plan to do less, not more. Find a few odd corners that aren't popular at peak times. 9-26-2016 1:07pm
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          • OP: We couldn't afford that so we didn't do it. I'll find little places to hide. I think it'll be fine. 9-26-2016 1:17pm
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        • You may not enjoy the crowds. If you have a private balcony that will give you somewhere to retreat by yourself without too much noise. 9-26-2016 1:09pm
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    • I have heard only amazing things about Disney cruises 9-26-2016 12:57pm
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    • I am not a cruise person but if I ever went on one it would be Disney. They have a stellar reputation in the SN world. Disney is famously SN friendly and the cruises are suppiaed...(more) 9-26-2016 12:59pm
      to be amazing and a real break for all concerned. Have a terrific time!
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      • OP: This is my impression exactly. I really do think it will go well and the kids will have a glorious time. SN dd is nuts about Disney, and I actually like a lot of the newer...(more) 9-26-2016 1:01pm
        Disney movies. Even some of the older ones.
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        • I think you will come back refreshed and with some really nice memories! 9-26-2016 1:03pm
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    • np: I have BTDT with my 6 year old sn DC, but chose Princess rather than Disney because the staff to child ratio on Princess was a lot lower than it was on Disney in the childrens...(more) 9-26-2016 2:24pm
      program. Despite all my research, it was the worst vacation we ever had and I would definitely NOT recommend it. This is why. My dc pulled some hair in the kids program and I got called each time. She could stay only if I would stay, so I spent a lot of time in the kids program. Many nt kids can't deal with it either, and cry and get picked up. The counselors in the kids program have zero sn training. And if your kid isn't doing well in the program, there is literally no place else to go. It's a ship and you are stuck. My dc also was not great in the dining room (and I did not want to eat in the informal buffet every night). She did well on shore excursions. A cruise is a very poor choice for a sn dc. I would strongly suggest doing something else. And fyi ours was a cruise to Alaska from Seattle-- 4 days. In 2008. And dc was great at Disney World twice-- 2010 and 2011.
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      • ~~~ and I will add that my dc is actually a great traveler. On planes, trains, railroads. She has been with me on a siteseeing trip to Europe this last summer and we both had a...(more) 9-26-2016 2:26pm
        great time. But the cruise-- biggest mistake I ever made for a vacation, and one I won't repeat.
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    • Yes - we just did a 5 day/4 day Disney cruise. 10 yr w/ ADHD & Anxiety, 6 yr w/ ASD and S/L issues. They LOVED it. Kids club was great. IF you are on FB, join one of the cruise...(more) 9-27-2016 12:00am
      groups and ask. You'll find parents who have BTDT and will offer suggestions. We brought noise blockers for the fireworks and when we were in the muster drill, the crew saw us and made accommodations for us - without having to ask. GL.
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    • Did a cruise with my 3 kids (not Disney but still a cruise and I don't like them). The family loved it and it was easy on me because there are so many activities for the kids I...(more) 9-27-2016 12:13am
      could go to the gym or read while we were at sea. Takeout for what it is and you will have fun.
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  24. Special Needs If I live on the UES (in the 70's near 1st ave) which ASD nest location would my child most likely be assigned to? Which locations are the better Nest locations? tia 9-26-2016 12:49pm (7 replies)
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    • Almost certainly PS 112 9-26-2016 12:54pm
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      • OP: how is that location? 9-26-2016 12:56pm
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        • possibly the best in the city. i think it's the oldest in manhattan and has the most experienced teachers. but you cannot visit a class until/unless dc is accepted. 9-26-2016 1:35pm
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          • It is the best of the ASD Nest programs in Manhattan, IMO. They could also potentially send you to PS 75. You should visit all of the locations to see. I have a nest kid and...(more) 9-26-2016 2:56pm
            quite honestly, I didn't see any SN schools that would have fit the bill for him. They were too restrictive. That is not to say that this is always the case, but it was for us.
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    • PS 19 is also possible. Not a crazy commute using the FDR and easy bus ride home up 1st. 9-26-2016 2:02pm
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    • We live on UES and argued for PS 75 because it was convenient to work. You can probably make the case for PS 112, PS 19 or PS 75, based on your family's needs. 9-26-2016 9:35pm
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      • You can certainly argue for it, and I would, but remember that they will try to place families who are closer to those schools first 18 hr 57 min ago
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  25. Special Needs Ok to bring an 8 wk old to an SN school open house/tour? Would take the baby out if she started to fuss at all. WDYT? TIA 9-26-2016 12:06pm (42 replies)
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    • get a sitter 9-26-2016 12:06pm
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      • OP: I don't have a regular sitter and don't feel comfortable hiring some random person to stay with an 8 week old. 9-26-2016 12:08pm
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        • get a sitter. what difference does it make how old the baby is? are you never going to hire a sitter for the kid? 9-26-2016 2:53pm
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    • Fine 9-26-2016 12:06pm
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    • Take the baby, bring a bottle and a pacifier 9-26-2016 12:07pm
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    • i would not if at all possible, but it's fine if you do. I personally would not be able to focus. But they will not reject you for this the way you might think a regilar priovate...(more) 9-26-2016 12:07pm
      school would
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      • ^^and the thing is, you say you will take the baby out...so you will miss something, possibly important. if at all possible, don't bring the baby 9-26-2016 12:09pm
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        • OP: The alternative is just sending my husband by himself. Is it better for him to show up alone or better for us to both show up (but with baby in tow?) tia 9-26-2016 12:10pm
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          • the thing about SN schools is that they don't care about you the way you think regular private schools do. they take who they can help, not whose parents show up for the tour....(more) 9-26-2016 12:11pm
            send your husband alone, or you go alone. they really don't care about this. they care about whether they can help your child
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          • why not leave db home with dh? 9-26-2016 12:12pm
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            • OP: I guess. It just means that he will have to miss work in that case and I feel like if he is going to miss work I would rather both of us be able to see the program. 9-26-2016 12:13pm
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              • oh I'm sorry I didn't realize itw asduring the day. In that case, then, yes bring db 9-26-2016 12:17pm
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                • and one of you can take the baby away from the tour if db gets fussy. 9-27-2016 12:16am
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    • No, it's disruptive to other parents 9-26-2016 12:07pm
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      • OP: Even if I wear her in a wrap and take her out if she fusses? 9-26-2016 12:08pm
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        • You won't. BTDT. 9-26-2016 12:08pm
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          • Ditto. At DS's curriculum night last year, a baby screamed and screamed and mom did nothing. I couldn't hear anything the teacher said. 9-26-2016 12:09pm
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    • Yes. Any baby who can't even roll over yet is basically going to just be a lump on your chest. If she starts to fuss, you take her outside, no biggie. 9-26-2016 12:08pm
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      • AGREE, don't listen to the hens 9-26-2016 12:10pm
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        • OR Do the respondants understand that this is an *open house*? People will be moving around, chatting to each other, etc. Baby will be FINE especially if you are walking around....(more) 9-26-2016 12:11pm
          Don't listen to these crazy YBMers!
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          • it's a tour where people will be speaking to a small group. it's not an open house where you simply go from room to room gleaning information 9-26-2016 12:12pm
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          • At our school, an "Open house" is for parents to talk to the teachers about the school year, kids not invited. I don't want a baby screaming in my ear when I leave work early to...(more) 9-26-2016 12:12pm
            attend.
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            • OP: This baby doesn't scream. At most she fusses and I will bring pacifier and a bottle and exit room if need be 9-26-2016 12:14pm
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        • it's not being a "hen" to say that I woudln't do it, and that I'd advise her not to bc she'd be too distracted. it's my opnion. I'm not a hen 9-26-2016 12:11pm
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          • OP: Baby is also a pretty easy, mellow baby if that makes a difference 9-26-2016 12:12pm
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            • that's great. if you think you wpon't be distracted, take her. but I don't undestand....you don't have a reguilar sitter and both parents are going...who's staying with the...(more) 9-26-2016 12:14pm
              child who will be attending this school?
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              • OP: My son attends preschool and will be in school while the open house is taking place. It is in the morning 9-26-2016 12:15pm
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                • ah. I didn't understand that part. yes, then in the morning, bring the baby if you think she won't distract you. I personally would try to find a sitter. but again, they...(more) 9-26-2016 12:15pm
                  really don't care about this, it will not impact admissions. if you can focus with the baby, or it's really your only choice, go with the baby
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        • Right. Who needs to listen to the people who also want to hear from the teachers 9-26-2016 12:12pm
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    • respectfully, is this a two parent family? if so, one parent goes, one stays home with the baby 9-26-2016 12:10pm
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      • OP: Yes it is a 2 parent home. I could just send my husband by himself (or I could go I guess and pump and leave dh with baby and a bottle) 9-26-2016 12:11pm
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        • honestly, despite being called a Hen, this is what I would do....if you are the one more invested in fionding out information, leave the baby with your husband and go. I...(more) 9-26-2016 12:13pm
          personlly could not focus with my 8 week old there. if you can. great.
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    • I'm sure technically fine with them but I wouldn't have done this, too much distraction. 9-26-2016 12:10pm
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    • Sure, in the Ergo no biggie 9-26-2016 12:10pm
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    • Sure, I saw plenty of parents with a little one in some of the tours. Plus an 8 wk old will probably sleep most of the time. 9-26-2016 12:53pm
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    • A nb is fine esp if sleeping in a sling/baby carrier. Just try to time feeding/nursing for before you go. 9-26-2016 12:55pm
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    • np: if you have a spouse, one goes on tour and one stays home with baby. Don't bring baby on the tour. Disruptive and not appreciated by anyone. 9-26-2016 2:29pm
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    • I remember very clearly an open house where a mother came in with a baby who screamed off and on the entire time. She never took the child out and it was clear that she was...(more) 9-26-2016 2:50pm
      overwhelmed and feeling the weight of everyone's stress because no one could hear what was going on and it's a tense situation to start with, but she never took the db out. She was sitting in the back of the room far from the door and she may have felt trapped and not able to duck out, but she was also audibly shushing the baby which was also distracting. So if there's any way to avoid bringing the baby entirely, I would do that, but if you do go with db, sit near the door!
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    • please don't bring the baby. i'm frequently a tour guide for school open houses and we cringe when someone comes in with a baby- and it will reflect poorly on you 9-26-2016 2:52pm
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      • SN schools are more understanding than mainstream schools but still it's distracting for all, ITA 9-26-2016 2:54pm
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      • if you were a tour guide at a SN school, you would not cringe. you just wouldn't 9-26-2016 8:17pm
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        • Since you will be looking at a number of SN schools, why not have DH stay home w/baby? He won't get days off work for each tour I imagine. 9-27-2016 12:17am
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