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  1. Special Needs Sign the Petition against GOP health bill!...(more) 2 hr 18 min ago (0 replies)
  2. Special Needs The risperdal has made our slender, beautiful son into a husky uncomfortable kid; the SSRIs are too activating, the Ritalin is only OK. FML. I'm so over it all!!!!!!!!!...(more) 5 hr 1 min ago (0 replies)
    DX: anxiety + ADHD
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  3. Special Needs I'm trying to come up with some realistic and reasonable limits for our dc's smart phone usage. It's been creeping up and up; now it seems like he wants it constantly. He's 12...(more) 10 hr 35 min ago (8 replies)
    and uses it on the bus to and from school, plus during "screen time" at home for an hour and a half, and now he wants to listen to Spotify afterwards, although I suspect he's also checking Instagram. Out the window goes everything else- reading, drawing, practicing piano, helping prepare dinner, etc. What limits do you place on phone use with your 12-year-old? He has severe ADD and is medicated appropriately.
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    • We hold onto it when it's not time for him to have it. 10 hr 34 min ago
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    • I think it's all fine but would ask that he choose one activity and then help prepare dinner (or whatever you need) before the Spotify time 10 hr 34 min ago
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    • We are working on this too. Recently found this and it makes sense......(more) 10 hr 32 min ago
    • none after 7 10 hr 19 min ago
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    • The school psychologist recommended we give our dc an appropriate amount of screen time and let her decide how to spend it- on the bus, at home watching tv, on her phone. I'm...(more) 9 hr 45 min ago
      thinking of giving her two hours- she's 13. Too little? Too much time?
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      • 2 hours is not much i that includes the bus 9 hr 40 min ago
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      • the only person who can decide too little or too much is you, seriously. 35 min ago
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    • ourpact.com limits usage 5 hr 28 min ago
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  4. Special Needs CO Parent Here? Recently I saw a posting from a CO parent. I am looking for info regarding Denver Academy and Therapeutic Support in the Denver area. Can anyone help? 21 hr 54 min ago (0 replies)
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  5. Special Needs This board has gotten more troll ridden and nasty since I started coming here 4 years ago....disappointing. 22 hr 30 min ago (1 reply)
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  6. Special Needs School bus driver and matron end of year tips? How much? Thx so much. 22 hr 47 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Oh, crap. I totally forgot 22 hr 46 min ago
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    • Fifty each 10 hr 22 min ago
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    • I gave $25 each. I couldn't do anymore. 6 hr 38 min ago
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  7. Special Needs So psyched, guys. Just found out that the division head for ds' age at his day camp for this summer is a para at a school known for good special ed during the year. (DS is one of...(more) 6-22-2017 7:29pm (0 replies)
    a little handful of inclusion kids with SN in our mainstream Y camp).
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  9. Special Needs Anyone know? I had ds's annual 504 meeting in May. For a list of reasons, I didn't sign and return it before school ended. I know with an IEP, prior one remains in place if new...(more) 6-22-2017 6:38pm (0 replies)
    Remains unsigned, but I don't know what happens when it's a 504.
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  10. Special Needs If we're in NYC private ms school with recently approved IEP, can she get transportation to her school?...(more) 6-22-2017 6:30pm (2 replies)
    We travel to a diff borough for school and was originally told that the boe buses don't cross to different boroughs then the school's.
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    • They don't 6-22-2017 6:35pm
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    • I don't think they do unless it is busing to a SN school. 23 hr 48 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Anyone have a tween who is struggling with growing up and the weight of it? 6-22-2017 3:12pm (2 replies)
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    • My 15 is still struggling. I think by sheer willpower and not wanting to grow up she has nearly reached her full height of 4'11" 6-22-2017 3:14pm
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      • My DS is 12 and really is anxious about being an older kid and growing up and what that change will be like. He is really anxious and since he has SNs it is magnified 6-22-2017 3:17pm
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  12. Special Needs How and where do you keep your DC's medications in the house? We had an incident this am where our DS's medication was done, and my husband, who has been giving it to him every...(more) 6-22-2017 2:55pm (17 replies)
    morning this week, could not remember if he finished it yesterday. He felt (and I felt too) that there should have been more pills left. Scared the crap out of me. My son is 6.5 and gets into everything, but a) I don't think he can open a child proof pill bottle and b)he says he didn't and I believe him. But what the hell happened to the rest of the pills? Anyway, scared me enough to think about ordering a lock box of some kind. Anyone do this?
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    • I always just kept them in a cabinet. But, that makes sense if you have a concern. 6-22-2017 2:56pm
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    • Do it. Sitters? Friends? House cleaner? 6-22-2017 2:56pm
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      • Yeah, exactly. That's the list I'm going through. The only thing I can think of is that maintenance guys from our builidng were in the house yesterday fixing a window and i left...(more) 6-22-2017 3:34pm
        the room for a bit. But seems so unlikely, right? Sitter, no way. Cleaning person wasn't around this week. I guess the other possibility is DH just didn't notice the bottle was almost finished. He's got a touch of ADHD himself, so you never know.
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        • It's probably the last scenario you outline, but I'd be cautious, too 13 hr ago
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    • In our kitchen upper cabinet. 6-22-2017 2:57pm
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    • It is such an enormous hassle to get my 7yo to even take his medication I haven't even considered that he might take it on his own. 6-22-2017 2:57pm
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    • I don't know but ds's ADHD pill somehow got swept off the breakfast table onto the floor, so glad the dog didn't get it, jesus 6-22-2017 2:59pm
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    • what is the medication? 6-22-2017 3:04pm
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    • I keeo benign things like DCs inhaler on the bedside table. Keep things like ativan in a shoebox in my underwear drawer. 6-22-2017 3:05pm
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    • When caring for my very aged parents i saw my mom had no idea if she taken one of her dozen pills or not. Visiting nurse said to get a compartment-type dispenser, fill it Sunday...(more) 6-22-2017 3:12pm
      nights, keep all her bottles in my house. So when I found myself with 2 dcs who both got meds I got each a different colored dispenser, and all they have to do is take the right day of the week, at bkfst every morning. I keep all the bottles in a box in my room that doesnt look like anything noticeable. The drawback is in spite of my saying Take You Pill(s), they still forget/take only the yellow one/take the wrong day. And theyre teenagers.
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    • OP here... confirmed that it was my DH who didn't realize he had given the last pill to DS yesterday. WTF?! I was able to trace back the prescription and figure out that we were...(more) 6-22-2017 4:10pm
      in fact running out. Sometimes it's frustration how much I feel like I have to micro manage everyone in my household...sorry, post turned from medication robbery scare to DH needs supervision post ;-)
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      • But I will be getting that pill organizer thing. For my own sanity and to help DH along. 6-22-2017 4:10pm
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    • We lock it up because our 7-year old can open the childproof bottles and he has poor impulse control. 6-22-2017 6:47pm
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    • I use a lock box and a weekly pill dispenser. Fill it every week. No mistakes. 22 hr 3 min ago
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      • ^except the week where I was crazed and put my progesterone in teen ds' dispenser...he said is this a new med?? 22 hr 1 min ago
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    • Pills are among the first things stolen from homes, especially opioids and amphetamines including adhd meds. We had a cocktail party of people we knew and got cleaned outfit was...(more) 17 hr 49 min ago
      shocking, but the police say they hear it every day.
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  13. Special Needs I need advice pls. It's long. Dc has been in same camp or two years it's not sporty he's not sporty. It's far and takes 2 hours of my day back and...(more) 6-21-2017 10:15pm (34 replies)
    Forth and it's More money then the local sporty camp. I put him in when he was asked to leave he old camp two years ago. They know him they are good with him. He made a best friend who goes to the local semi sporty camp - cheaper, bigger groups of kids, sportier. He wants to go there the friend is not sporty his mom said I should do it. I paid for the far small camp. It starts next week. He's crying every night he doesn't want to go
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    • Should I pull him out or take a risk he will have a probekm 6-21-2017 10:15pm
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      • He has ADHD Impulsivity. 6-21-2017 10:16pm
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        • is he medicated? 6-21-2017 10:17pm
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          • and how old is he? 6-21-2017 10:18pm
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            • 7 6-21-2017 10:18pm
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              • OK, and not medicated? That's tough because you know how easy it is for them to get triggered in a larger environment. I would say yes (for your sake) let him try the closer...(more) 6-21-2017 10:20pm
                camp, but if he's not getting support and he's not medicated, you know what your gut is telling you is right
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                • ^^^and btw, once the far-away camp starts and he's having fun, he won't be crying anymore. My 8yo adhd impulsive kid was crying with anxiety all weekend over a new camp and it...(more) 6-21-2017 10:21pm
                  turned out he loves it
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                  • ^^^the other thing you can do is try the closer camp and pay by the week. If he gets kicked out, go right back to the far-away camp 6-21-2017 10:23pm
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                • He is medicated he had a great year at school. 6-21-2017 10:24pm
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                  • OH! then I go back to my last statement. Let him try the closer camp, but just pay by the week. Let the far-away camp know he wants to try something different, but if...(more) 6-21-2017 10:26pm
                    things don't work out, you'll see them then
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                      • what did this say? 6-21-2017 10:28pm
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                    • He far one is monday start date near Thursday and I work so should I just put him there Monday and see what happens...(more) 6-21-2017 10:28pm
                      I had spoken to the near director a few weeks ago she didn't have a problem takin him
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                      • I would put him in the far one M, Tu & Wed and start him with all the kids at the near place on thursday. it's hard to start camp once everyone is established. 6-21-2017 10:31pm
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        • It sounds like the sporty camp is a bad fit for him. I would stick with the one you paid for. I bet when he gets there he will be happy. 6-21-2017 10:21pm
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          • i agree. if they are good with him, that is important. if he goes to the other one, you'll be a nervous wreck the whole time. 6-21-2017 10:25pm
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            • I know :( but there is no talking about it with him he's very hyper focused on it 6-21-2017 10:26pm
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              • poster above. I have an adhd/impulsive 8 yo. What he was like at age 5 is so different from what he was like at age 8. You owe it to yourself to try to save some driving time...(more) 6-21-2017 10:27pm
                and see if your kid can fly in a typical camp.
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                • Thank u would be amazing and they have bussing!!! And it's cheapsr but I'm traumatized from the bad camp which was similar makeup and ratio of staff 6-21-2017 10:30pm
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                  • it wasn't the camp. it was ds's age. and if we're wrong, the small camp sounds like your saving grace 6-21-2017 10:32pm
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                    • Proboem is the song and dance to get my money back distance and program may prevent him from being taken bakc if I need them I will be screwed 6-21-2017 10:33pm
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                      • if you need them, they will take your money, don't worry. I hope you can get it back 6-21-2017 10:34pm
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                        • Thank u 6-21-2017 10:38pm
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                        • I'm scared I will be anxious with other camp every day waiting for. Acall and I just finished a...(more) 6-21-2017 10:38pm
                          School yesr like that. I want peace of mind.
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          • It's mixed age very creative and he said he wants kids his age and that particular one 6-21-2017 10:25pm
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    • that's tough. my guess is that at this late date you can't get a refund for the far away camp. 6-21-2017 10:19pm
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      • Well technically I can because they changed the program and asked me if I want to still send....(more) 6-21-2017 10:22pm
        I also didn't pay it all yet :)
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    • How much less sporty than the first experience is this suggested camp? 6-21-2017 10:27pm
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      • So the less sporty is zero sports lol 6-21-2017 10:29pm
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        • The mom said half the kids are not sporty they talk and sit around 6-21-2017 10:29pm
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      • I don't think the sportyness is the factor here. I think her 7 yo isn't a 5 yo anymore. ages 4, 5 & 6 were hell for ds behavior-wise. It's really a lot better with each year,...(more) 6-21-2017 10:30pm
        especially with medication
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    • send him to the one he will be happier at since you haven't paid yet AND its a schlep 6-21-2017 10:30pm
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      • He's basing his happier on one kid he likes 6-21-2017 10:31pm
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        • That's enough along with his feeling about going there 6-21-2017 10:40pm
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  14. Special Needs JBFCS therapist told DS that he is leaving in the fall, because JBFCS is making massive cuts. Supposedly losing $1m/year. Any clinic suggestions for child health plus. Line in...(more) 6-21-2017 7:08pm (2 replies)
    LIC, so could consider LIC, Astoria as well.
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    • Try the LIJ- Northwell Climic or Bellevue or Weill Cornell... 6-21-2017 8:05pm
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    • group practice in Woodside...near the Big 6 apartments. Some good therapists there. See if they take your ins....(more) 6-21-2017 10:47pm
  15. Special Needs My 1st grade son has an iep for reading. his reading teacher told me over a month ago she would give me summer books and games to play with my son, i followed up once and still...(more) 6-21-2017 6:27pm (12 replies)
    nothing with 2 days left in the year.
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    • follow-up again. this time of year is crazy for teachers. 6-21-2017 6:28pm
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    • so start now. He's young...you've got time and he will be fine. 6-21-2017 6:28pm
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      • ^Oh, just reread your post. You can still get him stuff without her help. 6-21-2017 6:29pm
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    • On the other hand, how hard is it to read books to your kid ok your own? The library has a large selection to choose from 6-21-2017 6:29pm
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      • np: you can also check pinterest or teachers pay teachers fo ideas 6-21-2017 6:29pm
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      • Not really helpful if OPs ds has a strong aversion to reading. 6-21-2017 7:10pm
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    • She should have followed up, but you are still responsible for your own child. Did you try to look for anything on your own? 6-21-2017 6:30pm
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    • op: of course i will figure it out on my own but i am just shocked about how she just leaves it totally unresolved 6-21-2017 6:31pm
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      • this is really not shock worthy 6-21-2017 6:32pm
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    • Is it so hard to get books for your kid? There are tons of read alouds on YouTube, also alphablocks on YouTube are great 6-21-2017 6:33pm
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    • Go to library. Pick out books. Read together. 6-21-2017 6:39pm
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    • Our school has an ELA coach, who is an untapped resource and really more available than the classroom teachers at this point. If your school has a similar person on staff, I'd...(more) 6-22-2017 3:05pm
      check in with them
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  16. Special Needs Progress isn't linear. Progress isn't linear - ugh, 8yo was doing really well. Waiting to take a new class andna baby started screeching. He got really upset and started talking...(more) 6-21-2017 4:37pm (17 replies)
    back to the baby - and I snapped at him that his behavior wasn't acceptable. Then he cried, right before a new
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    • ^class and all the kids in that class. Sometimes I get so frustrated. 6-21-2017 4:37pm
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      • it's ok, my 8yo (NT) still cries. Kids that age don't care. 6-21-2017 4:50pm
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    • You yelled at him for "talking back to the baby"??? 6-21-2017 4:38pm
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      • I told him he couldn't yell at the baby for making noises or make a big deal of it. It's a baby....(more) 6-21-2017 4:41pm
        He was making a scene about a baby making noise. That's not acceptable to me
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        • I think you overreacted. Babies are annoying. 6-21-2017 4:41pm
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          • Maybe and yes they are. But sn or no, he was being rude imo. And you have to learn to suck it up - the world is noisy 6-21-2017 4:43pm
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        • •ugh! Be quiet!" "That is so loud!" "Stop!" 6-21-2017 4:41pm
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          • Well....keep the baby quiet. I'm on 8 yo's side here. 6-21-2017 4:42pm
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            • Wasn't my baby- and babies make noises, they screech and scream. No mom can control that 6-21-2017 4:43pm
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              • Oh, sorry - I thought he was yelling at your baby. 6-21-2017 4:49pm
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                • Lol - I was unclear. Anyway I wrote it down and we are to discuss with his therapist next week to see how we can both modify our Shavuot 6-21-2017 4:50pm
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                  • ^behavior. What a weird autocorrect! 6-21-2017 4:53pm
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    • My 8yo did this exact same thing, except it was a 2yo and we were in the OT waiting room, so a more forgiving crowd. I had to take him outside to calm down, and give him ideas for...(more) 6-21-2017 5:33pm
      What he could do instead of yelling at the baby - deep breaths, squeeze his hands together, use a fidget, etc. It is unacceptable but you have to teach him what is acceptable. And also, babies suck.
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      • ^and I totally understand your reaction. I did something similar recently when he had an inappropriate reaction and made him cry even harder and made a huge scene. Some days are l...(more) 6-21-2017 5:37pm
        Just like that.
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        • Assume uyour child may overreact when you correct him in public--live and learn. Work out a strategy that defuses his feelings. It probably very loud to his ears and he is...(more) 6-21-2017 6:11pm
          starting a NEW class--sensory overload maybe
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          • TY for this response. It was helpful to me. NP 6-21-2017 6:33pm
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          • op: This was an incredibly helpful response. Thank you so much. I am especially taking the part about overreacting to heart because we have been talking about it in therapy. i...(more) 6-22-2017 10:30am
            need a better response (and so does he), but I'm 43 and he's 8. Thank you again.
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  17. Special Needs I wouldn't appreciate recommendations for a psychiatrist to review my DC's medication, treatment recommendations. DC is seeming tI struggle with some depression and I think mess...(more) 6-21-2017 2:45pm (2 replies)
    Need to be reviewed. Thanks! Already have therapist.
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    • A second opinion? You could go with one of the big places, like Child Study Center at NYU. Or ask your led for a name, he or she should have a bunch on hand. 6-21-2017 2:48pm
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      • ^PED, not led^ 6-21-2017 2:49pm
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  18. Special Needs Those who go down the shore (to the jersey shore) for a day, when do you leave you house, which beach, do you bring food or eat out and where? 6-21-2017 9:43am (14 replies)
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    • SN? 6-21-2017 9:44am
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      • You understand the sentence, bitch 6-21-2017 9:44am
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        • SN? 6-21-2017 9:45am
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        • I think she's asking why you posted it here, albeit in a hostile way. 6-21-2017 9:47am
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    • If we do sea streak ferry to sandy hook, we bring food. If we do NJ transit train to point pleasant, we get food on the boardwalk 6-21-2017 9:45am
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    • Don't typically go for the day, but when I do, I either go to Sandy Hook and buy food there. There's also Avalon which has some really nice restaurants 6-21-2017 9:45am
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    • Special needs beach? 6-21-2017 9:45am
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      • Wtf is wrong with you people? 6-21-2017 9:47am
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    • how are you getting there and I can give suggestions. 6-21-2017 9:48am
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      • Car 6-21-2017 9:49am
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      • ok, so parking is something to consider on weekends and Point Pleasant has most capacity, plenty of food options on boardwalk or right off. You could drive further down to...(more) 6-21-2017 9:52am
        Lavallette for less crowded beaches, parking on street but manageable, and food shops on the street, can't bring food on beaches. Spring Lake similar, you can pack a lunch and eat on boardwalk.
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    • ocean city, bring food then have pizza on boardwalk. 6-21-2017 9:51am
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    • I live 5 miles from sandy hook. I bring food. Get sea bright beach pass 6-21-2017 6:28pm
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  19. Special Needs What is growing in your yard right now? 6-21-2017 9:37am (10 replies)
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    • Weeds. Bumper crop this year. 6-21-2017 9:38am
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    • Lemon tree, pygmy palms, cacti 6-21-2017 9:38am
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    • Live in an apt. Don't have a yard, but have a small raised bed for gardening. Tomato, pepper, egg plant, swiss chard, radish, scallion, beans, nasturtium, basil, rosemary, mint 6-21-2017 9:40am
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    • So much! peppers, tomatoes, squash, ground cherries, apples, cherries, raspberries, asparagus, rhubarb, beans, peas, corn, garlic,onion, strawberries, spinach, carrots, kohlrabi,...(more) 6-21-2017 9:41am
      burssels sprouts, cucumbers, chard, herbs, a billion kinds of wild field flowers and grasses, etc.
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      • Wow 6-21-2017 9:42am
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        • It's a lot of weeding, but I love it. If I could afford it, I'd change my whole yard into a garden. 6-21-2017 9:44am
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    • hosta, lilies, azaleas, rhododendrums, hyrdangea, pachysandra, ferns and the peonies just died. 6-21-2017 9:42am
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    • My balcony garden is out of commission this year because they're working on the front of the building. :( 6-21-2017 9:48am
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    • No backyard. Joined a CSA. 6-21-2017 7:55pm
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    • dh has all kind of herbs growing on the balcony 6-22-2017 3:04pm
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  20. Special Needs Ugh. Not sure if it's end of year and new camp nerves or puberty or both but DS is so disregulated . I need this phase to end!! 6-21-2017 9:03am (2 replies)
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  21. Special Needs Maybe Incan talk here, mil says dd can't come over anymore because he jumps and dh is very hurt and angry. I am not sure how to get past this. 6-21-2017 8:08am (29 replies)
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    • Just stop it. Just fucking stop 6-21-2017 8:09am
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    • Jumps? 6-21-2017 8:09am
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      • Yes, not a lot but her downstairs neighbors complain still 6-21-2017 8:09am
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        • NP few she just did this on Toddler. She's fake and an asshole and also she's mixing up which kid has sn 6-21-2017 8:10am
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          • I am talking , can you just leave me alone 6-21-2017 8:11am
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            • Seriously, troll posting on the sn board is beyond horrible 6-21-2017 8:12am
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              • I jus want to talk about this and am I hurting you somehow? 6-21-2017 8:13am
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                • This post has been disliked 3 times. showActually, you are. With your stupid bullshit you minimize what we go through every fucking day. You're an embarrassment and should be ashamed 6-21-2017 8:14am
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                  • I am not a troll 6-21-2017 8:14am
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                • Yes, trolling is one thing, trolling on the sn board is sick. 6-21-2017 8:14am
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            • ita on sn board she should not get hated 6-21-2017 8:14am
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      • This post has been disliked 3 times. showIgnore. It's a troll and now she is bringing her bs to the sn board, which is awful, even for a troll 6-21-2017 8:10am
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        • This. On the other post it was her son, now it's her daughter? 6-21-2017 8:12am
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          • I have both, I typed wrong, please stop 6-21-2017 8:13am
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            • Bullshit asshole 6-21-2017 8:15am
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          • She is fos and I hate when people troll the sn board 6-21-2017 8:13am
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            • So leave an let the people who want to talk to me do that 6-21-2017 8:14am
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showGo suck a dick 6-21-2017 8:09am
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      • is op trolling? what's up? NP 6-21-2017 8:11am
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        • Yes, check out her post on the toddler board 6-21-2017 8:11am
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    • It will take time, but it really sounds like your MIL is in need of education. Maybe send her the book "Reasons Why I Jump" (no pun intended). It's a great book, and perhaps some...(more) 6-21-2017 8:10am
      education and insight will help her to become more compassionate.
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      • She has read many books and even taken courses, things were fine until yesterday 6-21-2017 8:11am
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      • Don't engage the faker 6-21-2017 8:12am
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        • how do you know she's a faker? 6-21-2017 8:13am
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          • Go read her other op 6-21-2017 8:13am
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        • Jesus, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. What is the harm in a reply? If someone truly is going through something maybe it helps. If not, I'd rather choose kindness...(more) 6-21-2017 8:14am
          over uninformed assumptions any day.
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          • Carry on then. I was just trying to save you the time 6-21-2017 8:15am
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    • Faker gonna fake...(more) 6-21-2017 8:17am
  22. Special Needs My ADHD kid with a writing diability did fine in 5th grade and the middle school is saying we should "wait and see" to see if he needs a 504 (to get extra time on tests, etc.)....(more) 6-20-2017 11:39pm (8 replies)
    I've read the literature, and it's clear that a disability like ADHD is sufficient to get a 504 b/c ADHD limits certain life functions (thinking and learning). In other words, I don't have to show that ds is failing in order to qualify for 504 accommodations. Should I wait and see or request meeting before school starts?
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    • My dc has all the same. Get the 504s in place now. He doesn't need to use the extra test time if he doesn't need it (mine hasn't) but it's there if he does. Better this way...(more) 6-20-2017 11:47pm
      than to wait until he could possibly be struggling and then have to fight for it. GL!
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      • Thank you! 6-20-2017 11:47pm
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      • op: I do worry that the middle school, who I spoke with today, will think I"m not a team player, by refusing to wait and see (the rep suggested I give it 4 weeks at the new school...(more) 6-20-2017 11:49pm
        to see how he's doing). But the kid's NP report shows huge executive functioning issues, anxiety, writing disability, reading comp. issues. He should get extra time on tests, preferential seating, etc. What else would you recommend I ask for?
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        • You have to be the advocate for your child. You can do it nicely, but you have to be firm. You don't want to have to prove he is struggling and then move to put plans in place...(more) 6-20-2017 11:58pm
          especially at a transitional time. Other things to ask for...well with the dysgraphia, a laptop for sure. This can be a big unlock for kids who are reluctant to write b/c of writing disability. Permission to chew gum in class (it's a huge help actually), to have a fidget toy, and if he has trouble with reading, maybe written instructions should also be told to him. best of luck!
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          • op: Thank you! 6-21-2017 9:50pm
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            • I can't believe they pulled that. With your kids' profile, wait and see...please. I would be ready to...(more) 22 hr 34 min ago
              be all over the M.S. and his teachers this year. From what I hear, middle schools can be the weak link in terms of enforcing IEPs and 504s v. high school or elementary. We and other parents had a bad time with this --teachers very unsympathetic, unsupportive, not following 504s....hopefully that is not the case with your school but I would be on high alert with them if they are taking such a laissez-faire approach right off the bat.
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    • This is tough. If there is no valid academic proof, it is hard to fight for. That said, I would politely push with this. 6-21-2017 7:07am
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    • Np. Agree with above posters to get it in place 6-21-2017 9:24am
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  23. Special Needs Therapy center near UES in Manhattan that offers speech/occupational/SETTS services to 5th grader with reading/writing delays 6-20-2017 9:37pm (6 replies)
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    • A public school 6-20-2017 9:39pm
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    • You should move to the suburbs 6-20-2017 11:31pm
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    • unfortunately, for the time being, she is in a school that does not have these services on hand. Don't mind driving, or perhaps they can come to our house. 6-20-2017 11:52pm
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    • Especially important would be finding an independent SETSS for afterschool Reading/Writing. 6-21-2017 11:14am
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    • Are you looking for providers who take RSAs or private pay? What age/grade. There really aren't centers, you need to find individual providers 6-21-2017 1:14pm
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      • I just started the IEP process. I was told that I should try to find someone that takes Payments from them. But to keep a good log of my attempts jut in case I can't find anyone...(more) 6-22-2017 6:23pm
        and then they can modify it. Though not really sure what she meant here. I'm hoping I can have some hints at a plan come September, but with us being at a mainstream independent school, it's all a bit overwhelming.
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  24. Special Needs Anyone familiar with the CD PAP program to pay someone you know for child care? Trying to decide if I want my nanny to receive money through this program. 6 yo son has Medicaid...(more) 6-20-2017 6:26pm (0 replies)
    for epilepsy.
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  25. Special Needs If dc started risperadol or ability and it worked or did not work how did you know and how long did it take to say yes it's great or no its not working get off it...? 6-20-2017 5:05pm (30 replies)
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    • talk to their doctor 6-20-2017 5:06pm
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    • why are they on abilify 6-20-2017 5:08pm
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      • rages. 6-20-2017 5:12pm
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        • basically. no self control and angry so easily. he has calmed down somewhat. at school is more receptive to following direction but still... 6-20-2017 5:17pm
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    • I took abilify for a week. It made me feel soooo good, like manic. I couldn't sleep. Like I didn't sleep literally for a week. But I thought I was the smartest most beautiful...(more) 6-20-2017 5:08pm
      woman in the room. It was insane.
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      • yeah doesn't sound like a good fit 6-20-2017 5:09pm
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        • I don't think it's a good fit with anyone. ALSO, everyone I came in contact with said "what is wrong with you?" "are you okay?" I think my jaw was twitching or something 6-20-2017 5:11pm
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          • np. It works well for me. 6-20-2017 5:15pm
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            • that's good. i guess it's all body chemistry 6-20-2017 7:53pm
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      • thats crazy!! that's definitely not happening with dc! he is more moody and down and rude and defiant than ever. gets super hyper and anxious before bed but then crashes. feels...(more) 6-20-2017 5:10pm
        like crap most of the time. gaining weight and very self conscience, eating like shit yet complaining he's fat....only positive is he's not having screaming rages. but he's miserable.
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        • how long has he been on it? that sounds like the risperadol 6-20-2017 5:13pm
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          • he's on ability. we tried rxsperadol for almost 2 weeks but he had blood work done and they said wasn't a good match, so switched to ability. that was about 4-5 weeks ago? 6-20-2017 5:17pm
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        • I'm sorry. I think those two drugs are the devil. Have you tried lamictal? The seizure meds? It had very little side effects and talked me off the ledge 6-20-2017 5:14pm
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    • I take Abilify and noticed a difference very quickly. No side effects. 6-20-2017 5:15pm
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      • abilify was the only medicine that seemed to help me but it made me gain weight 6-20-2017 5:15pm
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        • It can definitely cause weight gain, like most of the atypical antipsychotics. Compared to Zyprexa or Seroquel it's pretty benign, though 6-20-2017 5:16pm
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      • how does it help you? 6-20-2017 5:18pm
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        • I use it with Lamictal and the combination keeps my bipolar depression and anxiety from becoming severe 6-20-2017 5:20pm
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    • op-also when he starts getting frustrated he will start shaking and flapping his arms and whole body really, like bouncing and shaking like he's coming out of his body. it's...(more) 6-20-2017 5:20pm
      creepy. he kind of did that years ago, would throw himself on the floor and start wiggling and shaking around...while whining of course that he wasn't getting what he wanted
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      • is he in therapy? it sounds like learning self-regulation, distress tolerance, and mindfulness could be very helpful 6-20-2017 5:21pm
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        • we have a pysch is just checks in and a therapist who comes once a week and does not much. he used to have someone in school who was a godsend and he was doing zones of regulation...(more) 6-20-2017 5:24pm
          and mindfullness and lot's of things to help but then he was taken off my ds case...since then its all downhill again. and we were told no LD but it's pretty clear he may have one...so now I'm going to fight to get testing for that and keep fighting for more...poor kid
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          • i'm sorry, that's so hard. maybe check to see if there is a pediatric DBT program where you live 6-20-2017 5:25pm
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            • there is you have to apply and be accepted and pay out of pocket. god forbid our kids get help if you aren't rich :( 6-20-2017 5:29pm
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              • that's terrible 6-20-2017 5:30pm
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    • My ds has been on both and we knew that it was working (with each one) when we tried taking him off of Abilify and off of Risperidone. He was a mess. No impulse control. But both...(more) 6-20-2017 11:34pm
      drugs have caused HUGE weight gain. We're back to Abilify b/c the weight gain is slighly less and side effects fewer. Risperidone did a better job keeping his behavior in check but he was eating non-stop and gained a lot of weight.
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    • It took my DD a month or so. Started with a tiny dose and increased very gradually. It was a miracle drug for her. She said it gave her space to "think" before she acted out. She...(more) 6-21-2017 12:53am
      was on it 3 years. No weight gain.
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    • My dc has been on Risperadol and abilify. We knew that the Abilify was increasing dc's irriability and anger within two weeks. We also tried a low dose of risperdol. We also...(more) 6-21-2017 10:16am
      saw an uptick in anger and irritability. Unfortunately, we lost a school placement because it go worse instead of better. And the school insisted on the dose and time length for it. We quit the school and the psychatirst. We eventually move on to another mediciation and have seen success with that.
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      • Which one? I am wary because I see how bad his urritabikity is but the dr keeps saying it takes time to take effect etc am deathly he's not raging or freaking out so fast and so...(more) 6-21-2017 1:49pm
        badly...
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        • It is a med often used for anger and irritability. However no med works for everyone so keep an eye on it and if it doesn't help you'll move on. 6-21-2017 9:23pm
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        • Our next step with the GeneSight test. While waiting for the results we tapered the risperdal...(more) 6-22-2017 5:49am
          We tried Geodon. It has taken the edge off his irritability which was all we needed to work with him behaviorally.
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