Had a fight w/DH as he was leaving for work. Now I'm really upset.
posted June 17th, 2016 at 8:50am in Toddler
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- work it out when he gets home. 6-17-2016 8:50am
- That was what the fight was about. He won't be getting home till after I'm asleep because once again, he's going after work to restore his stupid, broken boat. It has been weeks...(more) 6-17-2016 8:51am of this. And he didn't even tell me he was going tonight...I just saw him throwing his equipment in a duffel.
- oh. i get it now i would be pissed too. that sucks 6-17-2016 8:52am
- Do you have young dc? 6-17-2016 8:53am
- Not so young, tween and teen now. 6-17-2016 8:54am
- So what's the big deal? Are you a SAHM? 6-17-2016 8:54am
- np it does not matter if she works or not, an MIA dh is not what i signed up for, if this is somwething that has been going on forever i would be annoyed too 6-17-2016 8:55am
- ^^^ and no communication about his schedule? dh and i know each other's plans and whereabouts and yes we do our own thing at times but we tell each other in advance 6-17-2016 8:56am
- Nothing wrong with him having a hobby he loves. OP needs to have her own life too. 6-17-2016 8:56am
- see my next comment. communication is very important esp when you havea family at home and it's not just two people on their own. i wouldn't disrespect my dh by not informing him...(more) 6-17-2016 8:57am
- OP: Exactly. His throwing his work stuff in the duffel and not even telling me was disrespectful. Esp since I have barely seen him for the past 2 weeks bc he's been off doing...(more) 6-17-2016 8:58am this. I feel like no matter how much space I give him he takes more.
- get some counseling together 6-17-2016 8:59am
- Tried once, he refused to go after a few sessions. He says it was dumb and he will never do it again. I think it's bc the therapist told him he isn't holding up his end of the...(more) 6-17-2016 9:01am
- truth hurts 6-17-2016 9:01am
- Tried once, he refused to go after a few sessions. He says it was dumb and he will never do it again. I think it's bc the therapist told him he isn't holding up his end of the...(more) 6-17-2016 9:01am
- get some counseling together 6-17-2016 8:59am
- OP: Exactly. His throwing his work stuff in the duffel and not even telling me was disrespectful. Esp since I have barely seen him for the past 2 weeks bc he's been off doing...(more) 6-17-2016 8:58am
- see my next comment. communication is very important esp when you havea family at home and it's not just two people on their own. i wouldn't disrespect my dh by not informing him...(more) 6-17-2016 8:57am
- OP: I took the kids away Memorial Day weekend so he could have 3 days straight to work on his boat. He has also taken off 2 days from work in the past 2 weeks, and spent 1 day of...(more) 6-17-2016 8:56am
- PS: I WOH 3 days a week. I don't see why it makes a difference though--SAHMs and WOH both like having their DH's company some evenings and weekends, no? 6-17-2016 8:57am
- You have a nothing little job and you need attention and stimulation from your dh because you have no other source for it. 6-17-2016 8:58am -1 dislike
- np if you are satisfied having a marriage that involves no communication that's good for you, but it's not normal or respectful to just take off and not give notice about what you...(more) 6-17-2016 8:58am +1 like
- Her dh is trying to get away from the marriage and home life. That's what she has to deal with. It's not about the boat. It's the need driving him to leave. 6-17-2016 8:59am
- right but if he won't communicate then he is responsible for his part in this. it's on both of them but he's checked out. 6-17-2016 9:00am
- Her dh is trying to get away from the marriage and home life. That's what she has to deal with. It's not about the boat. It's the need driving him to leave. 6-17-2016 8:59am
- OP: My job is not a "nothing little job," thanks. And on the days I'm home I am freelancing. What of it? And this isn't what its about. 6-17-2016 8:59am
- np if you are satisfied having a marriage that involves no communication that's good for you, but it's not normal or respectful to just take off and not give notice about what you...(more) 6-17-2016 8:58am +1 like
- You have a nothing little job and you need attention and stimulation from your dh because you have no other source for it. 6-17-2016 8:58am -1 dislike
- PS: I WOH 3 days a week. I don't see why it makes a difference though--SAHMs and WOH both like having their DH's company some evenings and weekends, no? 6-17-2016 8:57am
- np it does not matter if she works or not, an MIA dh is not what i signed up for, if this is somwething that has been going on forever i would be annoyed too 6-17-2016 8:55am
- So what's the big deal? Are you a SAHM? 6-17-2016 8:54am
- Not so young, tween and teen now. 6-17-2016 8:54am
- That was what the fight was about. He won't be getting home till after I'm asleep because once again, he's going after work to restore his stupid, broken boat. It has been weeks...(more) 6-17-2016 8:51am
- hate that 6-17-2016 8:50am +1 like
- Text a sorry, love you, have a good day. 6-17-2016 8:51am
- OP: I'm still steaming mad. I'm not sorry because he hadn't told me he won't be coming home till after I'm asleep, because once again, he'll be off doing work on his brok...(more) 6-17-2016 8:52am
- Why can't he have his own thing? 6-17-2016 8:53am
- OP: He can. But...I took the kids away on Memorial Day so he could have 3 straight days to work on his boat. And since then he has also taken 2 days off work for it too, not...(more) 6-17-2016 8:55am coming home till I was asleep. He has also spent 1 day of each weekend there, again till I am almost asleep. I am sick of it!
- How is your marriage otherwise? Is he escaping? Or is this just his happiness right now? 6-17-2016 8:57am
- No sex 6-17-2016 8:57am
- for real? 6-17-2016 8:57am
- Well, there you go. He's escaping. 6-17-2016 8:59am
- No sex 6-17-2016 8:57am
- How is your marriage otherwise? Is he escaping? Or is this just his happiness right now? 6-17-2016 8:57am
- OP: He can. But...I took the kids away on Memorial Day so he could have 3 straight days to work on his boat. And since then he has also taken 2 days off work for it too, not...(more) 6-17-2016 8:55am
- Why can't he have his own thing? 6-17-2016 8:53am
- OP: I'm still steaming mad. I'm not sorry because he hadn't told me he won't be coming home till after I'm asleep, because once again, he'll be off doing work on his brok...(more) 6-17-2016 8:52am
- that's the worst. 6-17-2016 8:52am
- Surprise him this evening. Bring a bottle of wine and snack to his boat. 6-17-2016 9:01am +1 like
- Yes me too. It wasn't a fight he just said something really nasty and loaded when he left. He was going to play golf though not work. He has ruined my day. I play it over in...(more) 6-17-2016 9:05am
- Bring that wine. 6-17-2016 9:07am
- OP: Yep, I get it. 6-17-2016 9:16am