I lived through this. Almost exactly. He and you need therapy, separately. If he refuses to go, go on your own. Don't recommend couples for this. Also, get him a career counselor....(more)6-15-2016 1:44pm
And don't give up on believing in him, but at the same time he has to make moves to get himself out of it. And don't enable him - don't buy a new tv or vacation because he wants it. Let him earn the things he wants.