I think its odd when someone here gets mad at me when i say dh and i aren't looking ofr top schools when we move, just ok schools. It shows me how much of a bubble most of you... (more)
live in. DH and I are looking for a 350K home with 3 bedrooms in a SAFE neighborhood and reality is that we can't afford the best schools. YOu must know MOST people can't. And MOST kids don't go to top schools. they wouldn't be top schools if most could get to them.
posted June 14th, 2016 at 3:12pm in Toddler
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- So true. 6-14-2016 3:12pm +1 like
- i swear the response was like I was a horrible mother, like WHO WOULDN"T MOVE to the BEST schools. lol. right, i just don't want to live in the white, wealthy neighborhoods with...(more) 6-14-2016 3:14pm
- I live(and teach) in a state frequently derided here. I managed, through research, to find a pretty good option. It's possible to find decent schools anywhere. 6-14-2016 3:16pm
- sure, but when describing what we were looking for, i said ok schools. Not the yb approved "top schools" and I go attitude like i failed the parenting test 6-14-2016 3:17pm
- I live(and teach) in a state frequently derided here. I managed, through research, to find a pretty good option. It's possible to find decent schools anywhere. 6-14-2016 3:16pm
- i swear the response was like I was a horrible mother, like WHO WOULDN"T MOVE to the BEST schools. lol. right, i just don't want to live in the white, wealthy neighborhoods with...(more) 6-14-2016 3:14pm
- people are so skewed about what makes for a great HS and a great experience for dc 6-14-2016 3:13pm
- and there are no good schools in other states. 6-14-2016 3:13pm -2 dislikes
- op- exactly. No city can compare, no town but theirs, no schools but theirs, no universities but THESE 10 are acceptable, no clothes but the ones they buy, no dhs with careers...(more) 6-14-2016 3:15pm
- My ds is training to become a firefighter/ paramedic. You should have seen the flames I received. I needed his skills! 6-14-2016 3:18pm
- I would kill for ds to do this. 6-14-2016 3:30pm
- My ds is training to become a firefighter/ paramedic. You should have seen the flames I received. I needed his skills! 6-14-2016 3:18pm
- op- exactly. No city can compare, no town but theirs, no schools but theirs, no universities but THESE 10 are acceptable, no clothes but the ones they buy, no dhs with careers...(more) 6-14-2016 3:15pm
- this whole board is odd, isn't it? there's so much posturing, so much snobbery. i can't believe that half of it is even genuine. 6-14-2016 3:13pm
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- I rent in a top district and am being told I live above my means all the time on here, you can't win. 6-14-2016 3:15pm
- can you see this post? 6-14-2016 3:15pm
- no 6-14-2016 3:16pm
- I can now, but not a moment ago. 6-14-2016 3:17pm
- There's lots of us in the same situation. I'm sure their a fewer wealthy people here, they're just very vocal. 6-14-2016 3:16pm
- you shouldn't go to top distict, better off in MC district for MANY reasons, assuming WC or LI 6-14-2016 3:16pm
- np-not top on LI = pretty great. I am in FL and not top = iffy a lot of the time. 6-14-2016 3:17pm
- well that is a different story. 6-14-2016 3:18pm
- op- we aren't even in NYC or the east coast ( i know, another yb code broken) frankly, we are looking for a nice safe neighborhood, with outdoors our kids can grow up in, real...(more) 6-14-2016 3:19pm life experience, a decent downtown and a school with nice kids and teachers who care and work hard for my kid to do their best. I am also ok with my kid choosing if they want college or not in the future too though. I am the devil around here.
- just as an FYI -what you are looking for is usually only found at the best schools 6-14-2016 3:21pm
- np-not top on LI = pretty great. I am in FL and not top = iffy a lot of the time. 6-14-2016 3:17pm
- we made the mistake of buying a house in the "best" school and I can tell you, it wasn't worth it 6-14-2016 3:17pm +1 like
- this is often the case! i hear so many stories. I think "best" is relative. 6-14-2016 3:18pm
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- where are you looking? i really love my neighborhood and there's a few houses for sale 6-14-2016 3:18pm
- i don't know. that was my post. dh and i thinking of moving. our city is getting insanely expensive (west coast) and we would like to go to a lower cost of living but try not to...(more) 6-14-2016 3:20pm lose all the things we love about our city (restaurants, near water, great hiking and skiing very close, but we are willing to lose some of those things, obviously) and a nice safe neighborhood. We also want safer than our city, which crime is on the rise.
- what you want will include a high ranked school then. 6-14-2016 3:22pm
- sounds pretty mythical. maybe somewhere southern? 6-14-2016 3:22pm
- op, DO YOU EVEN HAVE A SCHOOL AGE DC?? 6-14-2016 3:25pm +2 likes
- Ah. I'm East coast. Good luck! Sounds like you live in a great town now! 6-14-2016 3:27pm
- i don't know. that was my post. dh and i thinking of moving. our city is getting insanely expensive (west coast) and we would like to go to a lower cost of living but try not to...(more) 6-14-2016 3:20pm
- I find the schools thing confusing. our city schools are crumbling physically but I'd rather my kids go to them with peers from umc families than they sparkling suburban schools...(more) 6-14-2016 3:18pm -1 dislikefilled with kids of drug addicts and parents who don;t speak english. its a demographic thing, not a race thing, btw.
- ita. bc once those kids hit adolescene it matters imo. 6-14-2016 3:20pm
- you were here last night right? I think its odd to say, looking for a place to live wiht a walkable downtown, dont need top schools. don't you want the best school for your kids...(more) 6-14-2016 3:20pm +1 like, -2 dislikes
- np-maybe where she is top schools means a 600k+ house. What then? Does she have imaginary fun money to buy this house? 6-14-2016 3:21pm
- op- and thats NOT what i said, i said we "want ok schools, but not needing top schools, I know our budget won't allow it" that was my EXACT quote. YB likes to turn things into...(more) 6-14-2016 3:23pm what they want them to say. Obviously I want good schools, but our budget does not allow for best. See.... lots of trolls who like to stir the pot. Lets make op look like a bad mom who wants bars but not a good school!
- They are just clueless and forgot how non-rich people live and what choices we have to make. 6-14-2016 3:24pm
- non rich people don't get walkable low crime with good restaurants.... 6-14-2016 3:25pm
- I actually can get that where I am, but not good schools. To get that and great schools is not possible. Great schools = much too expensive. 6-14-2016 3:25pm
- totally. its either really bad or great where I am 6-14-2016 3:26pm
- I think that's actually true in a lot of urban areas. 6-14-2016 3:26pm
- it is completely true. there have been articles onthis 6-14-2016 3:27pm
- yes, and that's why so many people have to choose between either renting and great schools or owning and ok ones. It's not something many on here can relate to it seems. 6-14-2016 3:28pm
- many are older here and bought before this phenomenon accelerated 6-14-2016 3:30pm
- yes, and that's why so many people have to choose between either renting and great schools or owning and ok ones. It's not something many on here can relate to it seems. 6-14-2016 3:28pm
- it is completely true. there have been articles onthis 6-14-2016 3:27pm
- I think that's actually true in a lot of urban areas. 6-14-2016 3:26pm
- totally. its either really bad or great where I am 6-14-2016 3:26pm
- I actually can get that where I am, but not good schools. To get that and great schools is not possible. Great schools = much too expensive. 6-14-2016 3:25pm
- non rich people don't get walkable low crime with good restaurants.... 6-14-2016 3:25pm
- They are just clueless and forgot how non-rich people live and what choices we have to make. 6-14-2016 3:24pm
- op- and thats NOT what i said, i said we "want ok schools, but not needing top schools, I know our budget won't allow it" that was my EXACT quote. YB likes to turn things into...(more) 6-14-2016 3:23pm
- oy 6-14-2016 3:21pm
- op- see, this is what yb does. she says a lie, you all buy it, and pile on. Bullshit all around. 6-14-2016 3:24pm
- np-maybe where she is top schools means a 600k+ house. What then? Does she have imaginary fun money to buy this house? 6-14-2016 3:21pm
- stfu already 6-14-2016 3:30pm +1 like
- really, another post? 6-14-2016 3:31pm
- people get uncomfortable when you talk about accepting mediocrity 6-14-2016 3:33pm
- op- yeah, you get called named, told to leave yb, and then when you get your shit handed to you, delete your comments. lol. But hey 90% of people go to mediocre or worse schools....(more) 6-14-2016 3:34pm
- huh? 6-14-2016 3:35pm
- what? anyhow. you should stay where you are honestly. 6-14-2016 3:37pm +1 like
- most people at least try to aim high for their dc. I assuem you have one small one and haven't had experience wiht school yet 6-14-2016 3:38pm +1 like
- why look in towns we can't afford? Its not reality. We will get decent schools, like most people. And thats ok. 6-14-2016 3:42pm
- you can get what you want in beaverton oregon without the walkability. that is the reality. 6-14-2016 3:43pm
- ^meaning low crime, affordable house and very good (though crowded) school s^ 6-14-2016 3:44pm
- you can get what you want in beaverton oregon without the walkability. that is the reality. 6-14-2016 3:43pm
- why look in towns we can't afford? Its not reality. We will get decent schools, like most people. And thats ok. 6-14-2016 3:42pm
- op- yeah, you get called named, told to leave yb, and then when you get your shit handed to you, delete your comments. lol. But hey 90% of people go to mediocre or worse schools....(more) 6-14-2016 3:34pm