I have asked this question before, but still unsure what to do. I am dating a man, he always comes to my place. I make sure always fresh towels for him, soap, snacks, drinks, etc....
Have made him dinner a few times. When we go out, it is usually to causal places and he pays. But I feel so nervous, like I should be offering to pay- I don't. Part of the reason is because I spend so time and engery every weekend making sure my place is a cozy "lovenest". If I was going to his place once in awhile I would different. (He currently has a roommate so not much privacy). But the paying thing is stressing me out!!! I purposely don't order much as a result. My close male friend has advised me not to offer- I buy the food we eat in, he pays when we go out. Does anyone have any feedback?? I really have a social anxiety on this issue!!
I honestly either strategy is good here, but not this middle course of stressing about it. Stop that. He is probably happy to pay. But you could also stop making your place such a...(more)6-13-2016 10:13pm+1 like
love nest. Or thinking of the two things as equivalent things you bring to the relationship. But maybe it is! Maybe each of you is having your needs tickled.