Not looking for any advice but just have to say, 12 yo dd gets so dificult to be around when she is anxious. She is like the toddler that wants to be held but pushes you away...
when you go near her. Had such a terrible time with her yesterday at a family event, she was rude and disrespectful to dh and me in front of lots of people. We are working with a therapist to make her feel as loved as possible and I was in the middle of doing this when she literally pushed me away in front of others. Lost it with her verbally later and she told me I ruined her day. People kept coming up to ask if she was ok. I know a lot of her behavior is due to anxiety but it is so hard to handle on a constant basis. Just feeling terrible all around. When I am on my game I can minimize the conflict but we were all anxious and tired yesterday and it was just an awful day. Especially bad because we were with other family members with kids her age who looked like they were having the greatest time. Ugh...Just wondering if this will ever end.
i am someone who has had lifelong anxiety and the best advice I can give you is that you don't need to be so invested/take it personally when she is 'prickly'. You do the best...(more)6-12-2016 6:21pm+3 likes
you can if it doesnt help or she is acting out, just give her space and let her work through it on her own and don't worry about how she 'looks' or if she is a reflection on you. As long as you let her know its ok to feel anxious and you love her either way, unfortunately you don't have the power to take the anxiety away from her. And I know how hard that must be for you - i feel that way about my ds' SN-related issues, all the time, although they are different.