Anyone read Joyce Maynard's Labor Day? I can really relate as a single mom to her and how the author relates it to her life... She trusts this convict because men who were...
seemingly supposed to be "trustworthy" in her life let her down..Therefore she thinks maybe the "untrustworthy" ones will turn out to be different... That being said irl she corresponded with a convict who she kind of fell in love with and found out he killed and decapitated both his parents... I tend to make these mistakes having been hurt by ones I was supposed to trust... now I go after "losers" and this is not good either oy oy oy
I married a man who was an ex- heroin addict. My logic being that he certainly won't be doing drugs (has to remain clean). I didnt understand how this really worked. He had a lot...(more)6-20-2014 2:32am
of other issues. I thought he would always be insightful and personally honest (he was an offensive person -- saying anything shocking that came to mind - I thought this meant he was honest. No. He was just rude). I think we sometimes overcompensate and go too much the other way
yes this is what I mean exactly. I am like all over the place... I marry someone who was totally drug and alcohol free, corporate type, past military, supposedly loyal and...(more)6-20-2014 2:35am
upstanding, etc. Turned out to be a total manipulative. lying, narcissistic jerk... so who do I date next for 3 years? A bohemian, unemployed, hippy drifter who just wants to have fun and turns out he is a total leach, lazy, manipulative and selfish guy... I went to both extremes and both were terrible.. clearly I am so lost
That is why I spent YEARS divorcing him (I took a LONGwhile to think about it, evaluate myself...(more)6-20-2014 2:39am+1 like
I didnt want to just blame him and keep my eyes closed to the possibility that I had something to do with the horrible marriage, why he was the way he was with me, and why I CHOSE HIM. And now being divorced I'm forcing myself to take a large amount of time to be alone, not date, be independant and figure out who I am