Dh bought and opened a women's home for single moms having a hard time. (his mom and he, often were in bad situations) out of his own pocket (well over 1mm to start up and keep... (more)
up) and it is in a good neighborhood, and the children can go to those schools. The women who live there are required to upkeep the home, and volunteer or looks for work. Some of the neighbors are saying the home is a nuisance, causing issue, there are too many women in and out of the house, too many kids. This is false. They are very well behaved, it is a very large home, never overcrowded, we work to get them out of the home and into their own homes/apartments as soon a possible, and the children have a huge fenced in back yard. NO ONE is bothering the town. This is clearly just bias from these townspeople.
posted March 9th, 2014 at 5:33pm in Toddler
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- Does he have a license for this? 3-9-2014 5:34pm
- it is a legal shelter home, but it is owned and run by dh with only his funds, and "rent" is paid from each tenant. 3-9-2014 5:36pm
- Auntie Mame? 3-9-2014 5:34pm
- nimby, baby. But anyway, I would think zoning laws would govern this. 3-9-2014 5:35pm
- How many unrelated people are living in the house? 3-9-2014 5:36pm
- There are six large bedrooms and each bed room has been constructed to have a small (5x7 ) bedroom for child(ren) in each room. 3-9-2014 5:37pm
- so 12+ unrelated people? that's a lot. it will lower their property values so i can see why they take issue. can your dh buy them out? 3-9-2014 5:39pm
- she said its legal 3-9-2014 5:41pm
- It doesn't matter if it is legal. 12 unrelated people coming and going from a house is a different environment than a family of 4. a lot of people would not want to live by a half...(more) 3-9-2014 5:43pm way house or shelter and it will definitely be an issue when those neighbors try to sell. Usually houses like this are put pretty near the center of town where it is higher traffic.
- People who don't want to live by this house sound like total assholes. 3-9-2014 5:44pm
- Then perfect solution! Op will move in next door to the house :) 3-9-2014 5:45pm -1 dislike
- I don't think it's a stretch to say that snobs who are freaked out by perfectly nice single mothers in their neighborhood are assholes. It's practically the definition of the...(more) 3-9-2014 5:52pm +1 like
- Then perfect solution! Op will move in next door to the house :) 3-9-2014 5:45pm -1 dislike
- People who don't want to live by this house sound like total assholes. 3-9-2014 5:44pm
- It doesn't matter if it is legal. 12 unrelated people coming and going from a house is a different environment than a family of 4. a lot of people would not want to live by a half...(more) 3-9-2014 5:43pm
- buy who out? And these people live there legally. My dh is the owner of the home. 3-9-2014 5:42pm +1 like
- The neighbors that are complaining. 3-9-2014 5:43pm
- np: should I buy out my downstairs neighbor for complaining when I go in and out? 3-9-2014 5:44pm
- If you are running a shelter and are complaining about your neighbor's complaints, sure. great solution. 3-9-2014 5:45pm
- You want my husband to buy half a dozen homes in the neighborhood? I am confused. lol 3-9-2014 5:45pm
- He has to go out and be friendly and meet people and be willing to convince them that it is worth 40k of their equity to have the shelter there. If he can't convince them, sure,...(more) 3-9-2014 5:46pm
- you are unreal 3-9-2014 5:47pm
- I have professional experience with this, just fyi. He put himself in a bad position with the neighbors. there's a right way and a wrong way and he did it the wrong way so the...(more) 3-9-2014 5:48pm
- op- I think it is funny you think he cares whether neighbors like it or not. Why buy them out? they are unhappy, move. 3-9-2014 5:49pm
- I have professional experience with this, just fyi. He put himself in a bad position with the neighbors. there's a right way and a wrong way and he did it the wrong way so the...(more) 3-9-2014 5:48pm
- you are unreal 3-9-2014 5:47pm
- He has to go out and be friendly and meet people and be willing to convince them that it is worth 40k of their equity to have the shelter there. If he can't convince them, sure,...(more) 3-9-2014 5:46pm
- np: should I buy out my downstairs neighbor for complaining when I go in and out? 3-9-2014 5:44pm
- The neighbors that are complaining. 3-9-2014 5:43pm
- she said its legal 3-9-2014 5:41pm
- so 12+ unrelated people? that's a lot. it will lower their property values so i can see why they take issue. can your dh buy them out? 3-9-2014 5:39pm
- There are six large bedrooms and each bed room has been constructed to have a small (5x7 ) bedroom for child(ren) in each room. 3-9-2014 5:37pm
- that's wonderful of him, but did he get required permits/licenses/etc? 3-9-2014 5:36pm
- Saying to whom? To your MIL and husband? Having run this kind of program, you need to find the right neighborhood and neighbors before you choose where to set up the house. It...(more) 3-9-2014 5:38pm can't be done anywhere you want and then you just do damage control afterward. People who want a family filled neighborhood will be upset. So, you now have to do that damage control. Win them over. Make the house more beautiful. Offer the town and neighborhood some incentives.
- ITA He should have primed the neighbors better. 3-9-2014 5:39pm
- They are complaining to the town. And the neighborhood was chosen for a reason. To not be in a shitty neighborhood, with shitty schools, and dangerous areas. It is a gorgeous...(more) 3-9-2014 5:41pm house! There is NO eye sores, no parties, it isn't loud, it is a community house with young children and women who work together to keep the home (inside and out) looking wonderful.
- No, you aren't getting it. You have to do a lot of PR before you open a house like this. You need to put it where the neighbors are receptive. In a slightly higher housing density...(more) 3-9-2014 5:44pm area so that it will not be glaringly out of character for that block. Now you have to undo that broach of professionalism and it is a lot harder than if you did it the right way.
- We don't really care whether they like it or not. It is all legal. I mean, they can't do much, besides complain. How sad of them to be such horrible people though. They have a...(more) 3-9-2014 5:48pm
- You must understand why they're complaining. That is a lot of people for one house. And you DONT live there so for you to put it there rather than next door to your house says a...(more) 3-9-2014 5:47pm
- op -we live a block away in the town. lol. we have nothing against living close to them. we bought the right house for the situation in the town. 3-9-2014 5:50pm
- No, you aren't getting it. You have to do a lot of PR before you open a house like this. You need to put it where the neighbors are receptive. In a slightly higher housing density...(more) 3-9-2014 5:44pm
- curious, is this home in your town where your kids go to school? 3-9-2014 5:38pm
- are you suggesting that you wouldn't want kids of struggling single moms in scholl with your kids? 3-9-2014 5:40pm
- I'm asking if this is *in* op's town. before you point nimby fingers at others 3-9-2014 5:45pm
- op- we live in the town and the children go to our children's would be school. (our children are little) Our oldest starts kindergarten in september. 3-9-2014 5:51pm
- I'm asking if this is *in* op's town. before you point nimby fingers at others 3-9-2014 5:45pm
- are you suggesting that you wouldn't want kids of struggling single moms in scholl with your kids? 3-9-2014 5:40pm
- have they hired a social worker too? 3-9-2014 5:42pm
- This place sounds awesome. I'm sorry they're giving your husband a hard time, it sounds like a great idea. 3-9-2014 5:43pm +1 like
- Ita. Great thing 3-9-2014 5:54pm
- Would you want to live next door to them? 3-9-2014 5:53pm
- I would be fine with it from how it's described 3-9-2014 5:55pm
- Actually we have a place like thus down the street, although it sounds a bit smaller. It's totally fine 3-9-2014 5:55pm
- op- we live a block away. Same town. we bought the house in the town we know and know is safe and good for these children. The house was big enough and offered the layout and...(more) 3-9-2014 5:57pm
- townspeople? 3-9-2014 5:55pm