Was at bff's house this morning. Her dh works a lot, and she always makes tentative plans based on when he'll be home or not. So she says to me, dh is coming home, you guys should...
get going, he'll want to take only my dcs alone in the pool. I admit I was hurt and offended and obviously she could tell, esp b/c he is notorious for saying he's on his way and being hours longer. So I said is he really on his way, should I go now? And she says don't be mad at me, let my dh have the time with his dcs alone. So then I go tell dcs it's time to go right now. She must feel guilty, b/c as I'm trying to get my dcs to leave she says why don't we all go swimming? Which of course I can't say no to, though now I'm feeling very awkward. So her dh is in fact another 2 hours, when he comes home I say to dcs, we'd better start going home, and she says no no, I'm just getting snacks for everyone, etc. I kept trying to go she kept trying to get me to stay, he stayed maybe an hour or two into him being home then left. What should I have done? Kids had the best time ever, she said she was over being worried about her dh coming home and
OP and ditto, and we are close with them and it really hurt my feelings to think he would be upset at seeing us or couldn't spend time with us, that I have to run out of the house...(more)5-4-2013 6:46pm
before he sees me like a dirty little secret or something!
I don't think he is, I think she far overthinks things and is hypersensitive. She says he's awful but he's always extremely nice. He is type A and stresses her out with all the...(more)5-4-2013 6:49pm
things he wants addressed but he's incredibly nice about it. I think she projects a lot of issues that aren't there. I certainly don't think he was put out by us entertaining his kids while he rested on a lounge chair.