Burbs house help! wwyd: house 1 we had a viscerally positive reaction to, felt like "home," can do all the renos we want w/in our budget, but is on busy street and would be... (more)
(we don't mind, is set back/fenced yard) but will be trickier to re-sell. house 2 will be a breeze to resell (set on quiet, neighborhood street), but house itself feels stepfordy, dull, don't have a positive visceral reaction to it but it has great space (just...well, kind of ugly) and is at the top of our budget, so we couldn't reno right away. go for the house we "like" or the house that has what we need and could resell easier but we don't really "like?"
posted February 3rd, 2013 at 7:55am in Toddler
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- you sound way too deep for me to even respond any further than this 2-3-2013 7:56am +1 like, -1 dislike
- Idiot 2-3-2013 7:57am
- pick where you want to live. you'll hate every day living in house you dont actually like 2-3-2013 7:56am
- Get the one you like 2-3-2013 7:57am
- op: i guess we could make the ugly one more likable with some decor assistance? i dunno 2-3-2013 7:58am
- You could but if it doesn't have the layout, etc that you like it will be expensive. Is one larger than other? 2-3-2013 7:59am
- yes, it is a bit larger. but we plan to add to the one we like to make it bigger. 2-3-2013 7:59am
- Urgh,additions are a lot of work. 2-3-2013 8:00am
- yes, it is a bit larger. but we plan to add to the one we like to make it bigger. 2-3-2013 7:59am
- You could but if it doesn't have the layout, etc that you like it will be expensive. Is one larger than other? 2-3-2013 7:59am
- This happened to us. We purchased great house near semi-busy street and while we made...(more) 2-3-2013 8:21am
- op: i guess we could make the ugly one more likable with some decor assistance? i dunno 2-3-2013 7:58am
- i think you need a therapist to help you decide 2-3-2013 7:58am +2 likes, -1 dislike
- what is your plan? if this is the house you will live in until you retire, i'd buy what you like and not worry about the resale. 2-3-2013 7:58am
- op: hard to know, but we would hope to live there for at least a decade 2-3-2013 7:59am
- well, a decade goes by very fast. if you don't think this is long-term, then maybe go with the one that's an easier resell. because if you end up needing to sell, a hard sell...(more) 2-3-2013 8:00am
- op: hard to know, but we would hope to live there for at least a decade 2-3-2013 7:59am
- what town? 2-3-2013 7:58am
- westchester burbs 2-3-2013 7:59am
- Definitely do not pick the house you don't like. Either go with the other one or wait until something better comes along. 2-3-2013 7:59am
- op: thanks, all. but i don't HATE the other one. i wonder if i could learn to like it with the right decor, for example, even if we can't reno right away. 2-3-2013 8:00am
- Honestly a move to the burbs can be hard enough. You should at least love your house! 2-3-2013 8:02am
- op: i agree but the less likable house is more "ideal." i SHOULD like it more. am i being bullheaded/selfish? shouldn't i just embrace the suburban dream in all it's cookie...(more) 2-3-2013 8:03am cutter-ness? for the sake of the kids playing street hockey and so on?
- Not if that's not your style! I mean of course you should take the kids' needs into account but as long as there is a safe space to play then go with the house that feels right. 2-3-2013 8:05am
- thank you for your input. having a hard time with this. 2-3-2013 8:07am
- GL. I know it's hard! And fwiw I respectfully disagree w the OR who says location is most important. It is not always possible to change everything else. We bought in a great...(more) 2-3-2013 8:11am location but there are things about the house that we absolutely cannot change because of the size of the lot and the way the house sits on the property. We can't have our kitchen look out on the backyard. We can't make a master bath big enough for shower and tub. Just something to think about....
- I don't know anyone who considers the view when washing dishes more important than location irl. irl you throw everything in the dishwasher 2-3-2013 8:18am
- Huh? I want to be able to see the kids playing in the yard from the kitchen. Most people I know want this, too. 2-3-2013 8:19am
- not over location plus you said sink. i dont know anyone who stands over her sink for hours ehile the kids play 2-3-2013 8:24am
- What are you talking about? Where did I say sink? I spend a ton of time in the kitchen. I want to send the kids out back while I clean up after meals or make dinner. Weird this is...(more) 2-3-2013 8:26am
- not over location plus you said sink. i dont know anyone who stands over her sink for hours ehile the kids play 2-3-2013 8:24am
- Huh? I want to be able to see the kids playing in the yard from the kitchen. Most people I know want this, too. 2-3-2013 8:19am
- I don't know anyone who considers the view when washing dishes more important than location irl. irl you throw everything in the dishwasher 2-3-2013 8:18am
- GL. I know it's hard! And fwiw I respectfully disagree w the OR who says location is most important. It is not always possible to change everything else. We bought in a great...(more) 2-3-2013 8:11am
- thank you for your input. having a hard time with this. 2-3-2013 8:07am
- Does the stepford house need renovations or does it just need great decorating? 2-3-2013 8:22am
- could put off renos, only needs renos to better suit us. needs great decor for the short term. 2-3-2013 8:23am
- Not if that's not your style! I mean of course you should take the kids' needs into account but as long as there is a safe space to play then go with the house that feels right. 2-3-2013 8:05am
- op: i agree but the less likable house is more "ideal." i SHOULD like it more. am i being bullheaded/selfish? shouldn't i just embrace the suburban dream in all it's cookie...(more) 2-3-2013 8:03am
- Honestly a move to the burbs can be hard enough. You should at least love your house! 2-3-2013 8:02am
- op: thanks, all. but i don't HATE the other one. i wonder if i could learn to like it with the right decor, for example, even if we can't reno right away. 2-3-2013 8:00am
- Link it up! 2-3-2013 8:01am +1 like
- Great idea. Link it op. 2-3-2013 8:01am
- keep looking 2-3-2013 8:04am
- location location location. everything else you can change 2-3-2013 8:07am
- op: ok, but i like the busy street location personally b/c we can walk to town and it feels set away from neighbors. we can be a little anonymous like we are in nyc. but the 2nd...(more) 2-3-2013 8:10am house has a more ""ideal" location for most people (quiet, neighborhood, walk to school but not town). so 2nd one has better location to most people but i like location of first one.
- do not buy on a busy street with young kids. keep looking then 2-3-2013 8:15am
- my kids are nyc kids. they know not to walk into the street. and the house is set back and has a fenced-in yard. 2-3-2013 8:17am
- I don't necessarily agree with this. There are a few very desirable yet busy streets in my town, gorgeous homes, walking distance to town center. As long as house is set back and...(more) 2-3-2013 8:18am +2 likes
- Ditto. np 2-3-2013 8:20am
- What town is it? 2-3-2013 8:19am
- larchmont 2-3-2013 8:31am
- do not buy on a busy street with young kids. keep looking then 2-3-2013 8:15am
- op: ok, but i like the busy street location personally b/c we can walk to town and it feels set away from neighbors. we can be a little anonymous like we are in nyc. but the 2nd...(more) 2-3-2013 8:10am
- buy the house you like. Think how you would feel if you found out someone else outbid you and got the house. Buy the house you would feel worse about losing. 2-3-2013 8:20am
- Hated living off a busy street. You cant walk run or ride bikes. Sucked 2-3-2013 8:35am