So mad. At a birthday party today for dd's friend and I had my 1 month old with me. I took out a bottle to feed her and a mother of infant twins comes over and starts going on and... (more)
on about how important it is to breastfeed to me and how it is tough for her but she knows it is the only way to "correctly" bond with your baby. She then asks me if I am nursing and I said no that we are using formula and it seems to be going will. She looks utterly horrified and made a big show of nursing one of her twins. I am going through chemo for Hodgkin's lymphoma right now and can't breastfeed. Am I right to be upset or is it hormones making me overreact? I just burst into tears when I remembered this.
posted July 28th, 2012 at 5:18pm in Toddler
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- i would have shut that shit down. i'm sorry, women can be such fucking bitches to each other. uncalled for regardless of your backstory, but particularly galling. 7-28-2012 5:20pm +2 likes
- tell that bitch youhave cancer. 7-28-2012 5:20pm
- Give me this woman's phone number. I am calling her. 7-28-2012 5:21pm +2 likes
- give me her address -- i'm going to give her a beatdown 7-28-2012 5:21pm
- I'm going over there with a sawed-off shotgun. 7-28-2012 5:21pm +1 like
- let's all call her. just do *67 first 7-28-2012 5:21pm
- give me her address -- i'm going to give her a beatdown 7-28-2012 5:21pm
- i am so sorry that woman was such a twatwaffle. MY BODY, MY CHOICE, whether you have cancer or not (and I'm sorry for that, too). Next time, tell her to STFU 7-28-2012 5:21pm
- She's an asshole. 7-28-2012 5:21pm
- i would have called her out on this. sweetie, I am going through chemo and can't really bf right now. and if you think this is the only way to bond with your db's over the...(more) 7-28-2012 5:21pm +2 likes
- I think you should ask the host for twin's mom email and tell her this. Or be prepared to tell people who are super judgy what's up. Say, I'm undergoing chemo right now and can't....(more) 7-28-2012 5:22pm
- I would actually get all emotional and cry in front of all of these women and say that this other woman scolded you for not BFing and you feel so horrible. -- they will gang up on...(more) 7-28-2012 5:23pm +1 like
- i would have looked her square in the eye and said " it's none of your fucking business. It if you must know, Im going thru chemo and can't bf. Any other tips for me???" 7-28-2012 5:23pm +3 likes
- But you really wouldn't have. 7-28-2012 5:24pm
- you don't know me. i don't confront people often but i don't like it when someone puts there unsolicited advice squarely in my lap and it's totally off base 7-28-2012 5:27pm
- You're right, I don't know you. It just bothers me generally when people post things like this and then responders say, "Well if it had been ME, I would have [been tough,...(more) 7-28-2012 5:29pm
- you don't know me. i don't confront people often but i don't like it when someone puts there unsolicited advice squarely in my lap and it's totally off base 7-28-2012 5:27pm
- I would have. I would have told her I was going through chemo. just to sham the shit out of her. 7-28-2012 5:26pm
- But you really wouldn't have. 7-28-2012 5:24pm
- and I hope that the chemo is going as well as can be and that you are going to be fine. enjoy your sweet db. 7-28-2012 5:24pm +2 likes
- OP, I hate to say this but it might happen again. People are crazy. So you should prepare a response beforehand in case you need it. 7-28-2012 5:25pm
- ^^^"yes, breast is best, indeed. But for me it was a choice between breastfeeding and chemo, and I chose the chemo." 7-28-2012 5:26pm
- because you are going through chemo you will have years to bond with your baby. that woman is lucky she can afford judgemental ignorance. 7-28-2012 5:25pm
- well, i adopted - and would have given her a piece of my mind. It's by no means the only way to bond, and i hope you are feeling good and on your way to a complete recovery 7-28-2012 5:26pm
- Women are so mean about this. Sounds like you didn't tell her about chemo. Good for you - she doesn't deserve to know. 7-28-2012 5:29pm