Talk me down, I am going to go crazy. Both DH & I woh ft and I was away last week (M-Th) for work. Took friday off to prepare for DD's bday party (no help from DH except just be...
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at the party). Then we have au pair's mom visiting here for the week and I spent Sunday cleaning the house and taking ds to a bday party. He has a stressful 60+ hour a week job, but I can't do everything myself. I am attending the Christmas party for ds's preschool and doing all the meetings relating to the speech eval. Tonight I am taking DD to her girl scout caroling event at the nursing home and he wants me to take ds too while he goes off to a bar to eat. WTF???
posted December 6th, 2011 at 3:54pm in
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- b/c he knows he can get away with it 12-6-2011 3:55pm
- wtf indeed 12-6-2011 3:55pm
- i SAh and do most stuff for the kids, but even my dh helps out more than that. you need to start insisting. 12-6-2011 3:56pm
- Sounds like you both have too much on your plate. You need to either cut back on the activities/commitments or hire someone for what you need most (cleaning, driving dcs around). 12-6-2011 3:56pm
- you need to tone your schedule down and talk with your dh 12-6-2011 3:56pm
- you are creating this...you and he need to talk about how to structure responsibility re: the kids and since you aren't 'off' when you get home, neither is he. You can support...(more) 12-6-2011 3:56pm
each other, and be there for each other, but it is a two way street.
- np - I have a feeling they've had this talk before 12-6-2011 3:57pm
- yes, but not effectively 12-6-2011 3:57pm
- right, and it really sounds like her DH is trying to carve out what time he can for himself. OP is therefore left taking up the slack but only because she doesn't insist on...(more) 12-6-2011 3:58pm
- OP: I try to go to Zumba class 2 nights a week and he gives me a really hard time. He also thinks my work travel is vacation. 12-6-2011 3:59pm
- np- i travel for work, too and while it sucks, it's really hard for my dh to manage everything at home alone. so, i get that. 12-6-2011 3:59pm
- you both really sound burnt out. You can't both work 60+ hours/week, travel on top of that AND have such a busy family life. It's just not healthy or enjoyable for anyone. Hire...(more) 12-6-2011 4:00pm
- OP: We do have an au pair. She is meeting me tonight with DD at the caroling, then she will take ds home which should be when my DH gets home. I have some help in that regards,...(more) 12-6-2011 4:03pm
but need cleaning help. Actually, I just need to cut my hours, but can't until the kids are in school full time.
- I want to punuch your dh in the face right now. And I'm living a parallel life as you. bi=ut how many kids do you have? I feel like you have 7 from this post 12-6-2011 3:56pm
- stop doing everything yourself. assign him tasks, he won't volunteer. 12-6-2011 3:57pm
- OP: The problem is that he has hearings. He is an atty and has to make the hearings. 12-6-2011 3:59pm
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