Over the weekend had a bbq at MIL's house. At some point the conversation turned to the baby shower that MIL and SILs are throwing for me, they were talking about all the games,... (more)
planning the menu, the guestlist etc. I felt so awkward because they didn't ask my opinion on anything...and were planning food I won't eat (i'm vegetarian) and invited people I don't know.
posted May 3rd, 2010 at 11:04am in Toddler
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- dont go 5-3-2010 11:04am
- they invited people you don't know to your babyshower? how totally odd. 5-3-2010 11:05am
- who would COME to a shower for someone they didn't know? 5-3-2010 11:07am
- friends of MIL who want to celebrate the birth of her grandchild. yes, so so odd. 5-3-2010 11:08am
- Oh, come on. It's because they know dh and/or dh's family. They are family friends and wish this baby well. Accept good wishes (and presents) from anyone who's willing to give them! 5-3-2010 11:08am
- who would COME to a shower for someone they didn't know? 5-3-2010 11:07am
- The majority of the food is for the guests. If you have an opinion about activities, you should have taken the opportunity to speak up. 5-3-2010 11:05am
- ita. and if a close friend of MIL wants to buy you a gift, and celebrate the baby with her, do you really have an issue? 5-3-2010 11:06am
- I tried to give imput and was shot down immediately... which is why it was so awkward for me 5-3-2010 11:06am
- describe what happened. 5-3-2010 11:07am
- when they were talking about food they kept listing food w/ meat in it. I chimed in to remind them that I didn't eat meat...to which SIL snapped at me and said, "i just said fruit...(more) 5-3-2010 11:10am salad, there is no meat in fruit salad" she was so abrasive it made me pretty uncomfortable. i wasn't about to mention anything else. (honestly, i don't care who is there...or what we do... but i DO care about the food!)
- eat before you go. i don't see the big deal here. 5-3-2010 11:11am
- the shower is 4 hours long. MIL lives 1.5 hours from me. I am going to need more to eat during the time I am there then some fruit. 5-3-2010 11:12am
- Can you modify the other dishes? 5-3-2010 11:12am
- How about having a snack or two in your bag? No one would begrudge that of a pregnant woman! 5-3-2010 11:13am
- ^ Oh, and don't make a big show of having to eat other food - just be discreet and gracious. 5-3-2010 11:13am
- np, also vegetarian.. are they catering or having it at a restaurant? YOU ask them to make something separate for you. Or, now that you know in advance, bring a bar or something. My...(more) 5-3-2010 11:14am
- the shower is 4 hours long. MIL lives 1.5 hours from me. I am going to need more to eat during the time I am there then some fruit. 5-3-2010 11:12am
- I would be annoyed with you, too. They are working hard to provide a nice shower for you and you're complaining already? 5-3-2010 11:11am
- I DID NOT complain. Not at all, they mentioned 8 things all containing meat and all I did was remind them I don't eat meat (because they forget often!) 5-3-2010 11:13am
- eat before you go. i don't see the big deal here. 5-3-2010 11:11am
- when they were talking about food they kept listing food w/ meat in it. I chimed in to remind them that I didn't eat meat...to which SIL snapped at me and said, "i just said fruit...(more) 5-3-2010 11:10am
- describe what happened. 5-3-2010 11:07am
- hey, more gifts, right? 5-3-2010 11:05am
- i hope your baby isn't also born without a backbone. i heard it was genetic. 5-3-2010 11:05am
- ugh- 5-3-2010 11:05am
- personally i would just grin and bear it. It's just a big gift grab anyway. 5-3-2010 11:05am
- ittta 5-3-2010 11:06am
- op. i know, i will. i am super appreciatve that they want to throw this for me, I'm just not looking forward to forced small talk with a bunch of strangers 5-3-2010 11:08am
- or: My SIL threw me one and I barely knew anyone. But I got some great gifts. 5-3-2010 11:09am
- ask to invite some friends and bring some food you like 5-3-2010 11:06am
- my experience: you just get to sit there beaming and people are so nice to you and gives you tons of stuff: who cares about food at that stage anyways?? 5-3-2010 11:06am
- have you ever been pg, food is everything 5-3-2010 11:07am
- not for me, I hated food 5-3-2010 11:08am
- You can't modify what's on the menu? Everything will be teeming with meat?? 5-3-2010 11:10am
- op here. this is my point ALL i care about is the food! 5-3-2010 11:10am
- have you ever been pg, food is everything 5-3-2010 11:07am
- What's the big deal. They're having a party for you and I'm sure they'll be plenty for you to eat and you'll get lots of presents. 5-3-2010 11:06am
- I get what your saying, b/c I personally and a total introvert so showers always made me more uncomfortable, but you just kind of have to go with it 5-3-2010 11:09am
- You need to get over the vegetarian thing. They are trying to accommodate guests who do eat meat, not just you. 5-3-2010 11:09am
- call SIL and say - pleas emake sure you have some vegtarian food for me 5-3-2010 11:10am
- not all of the food can be about you. others need to eat 5-3-2010 11:10am
- i understand that, trust me... based on our conversation however, it seems my only option is going to be fruit salad. 5-3-2010 11:11am
- so bring something. No biggie. 5-3-2010 11:12am
- i can't imagine that they won't have a salad, etc 5-3-2010 11:12am
- So bring your own food or eat beforehand now that you know the situation in advance. 5-3-2010 11:12am
- so bring something. No biggie. 5-3-2010 11:12am
- i understand that, trust me... based on our conversation however, it seems my only option is going to be fruit salad. 5-3-2010 11:11am
- someone is giving you a party. just smile and say "thank you." 5-3-2010 11:10am
- Don't be a pita about this - they are throwing you a shower. You will get lots of nice gifts for your db - try not to complain about it! 5-3-2010 11:11am
- ita. i seriously don't get this. when people were giving me wedding and baby showers it never even occured to me to chime in or complain about anything. just smile and say - ...(more) 5-3-2010 11:13am
- this is fine, I usually wouldn't say anything either... and I am a very gracious person, however I do have a history of going hungry at MIL's party's because she doesn't beleive in...(more) 5-3-2010 11:14am
- (for example, bacon cookies were served at her BBQ. I kid you not) And I wouldn't have said anything if they weren't talking about it right in front of me 5-3-2010 11:16am
- OR - Having just thrown a big shower, I totally understand all the work that goes into it and would be really annoyed with OP's attitude. 5-3-2010 11:14am
- OP. I really don't understand where i have an "attitude" I asked her if there was going to be anything that I could eat (as I sat at a bbq with potato salad and a tomoato for dinner) 5-3-2010 11:17am
- this is fine, I usually wouldn't say anything either... and I am a very gracious person, however I do have a history of going hungry at MIL's party's because she doesn't beleive in...(more) 5-3-2010 11:14am
- ita. i seriously don't get this. when people were giving me wedding and baby showers it never even occured to me to chime in or complain about anything. just smile and say - ...(more) 5-3-2010 11:13am