I've been in and out of therapy for years and this is why I'm contemplating quitting -- always had a history of choosing commitmentphobic, emotionally unavailable men with intimacy...
issues. DH is one of them, too (we got married mainly because I was pregnant.) Fast forward 7 years, I'm miserable, decide to have a fling. Who do I pick? A commitmentphobic, emotionally unavailable man with intimacy issues. Over ten years of therapy here, people. I can't even pick the right guy to have a FLING with. What's the point, really?
this sounds lame, but you need to retrain your inner thoughts. Our repetetive thoughts wear grooves in our brains. You need new grooves. Try doing some self affirmations every day to...(more)2-1-2010 5:52pm
wear new grooves. If you make dinner (for example), and you think it's too bland, just tell yourself outloud a few times: "Eh. It's just one meal. I'm a good cook." It sounds kooky, but it will eventually work. Try it!
One of my therapist was into this. I think it's cognitive therapy, right? And she was also into "thought stopping" when I had negative thoughts. Maybe I should try it again. I'll d...(more)2-1-2010 5:55pm
when I do my kegels, which I also forget to do all the time. ;-)
I know, but this guy freaked out after one hookup (which I think was a very good one and I'm a tough judge of such things.) It just freaked him even though I'm the married one and he's...(more)2-1-2010 5:49pm
the single one, so he knows I'm not asking for much. I guess the thing is, I'm attracted to that kind of guy. Even before I know he is one. That's crazy to me.