ladies--stop me before i act like Kate--dh is unemployed and at home working on his website and looking for a job. We have kept dd in care so that he can freelance (he's a designer)....
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What I don't understand is I come home and the house is a mess. Bed unmade. He tells me he started dinner and the kitchen counter is clean. If I was home, the house would be pristine and dinner made. I'd also have an organized job search going. Why is it this way? Is it bitchy or unreasonable for me to be upset?
posted June 29th, 2009 at 6:49pm in
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- very reasonable for you to be upset. very. 6-29-2009 6:50pm
- I think it's legitimate to not clean much if he is 100% job hunting 6-29-2009 6:50pm
- no one is 100% job hunting. he can make time to clean shit. 6-29-2009 6:51pm
- I am guessing this isn't new behavior from him 6-29-2009 6:50pm
- op: no. But he does help me around the house, typically. he mows the lawn, works on projects around the house--he's very handy. 6-29-2009 6:50pm
- get a keylogger. i'm guessing his job search is 10% job search, 90% porn 6-29-2009 6:51pm
- op: you know, your'e probably right. 6-29-2009 6:51pm
- how do you get one of those? 6-29-2009 6:52pm
- this is the way to patch up a marriage and negotiate for what you both want and need. spying. 6-29-2009 6:55pm
- op: i know...this is not an option for me. i would never do that. 6-29-2009 6:55pm
- you sound very bitchy and you are treating him like the maid/nanny in your mind. you have a lot of resentment. 6-29-2009 6:52pm
- op: well this is what i'm wondering. is it unreasonable? 6-29-2009 6:53pm
- i think if you sit down and talk about your expectations fairly and honestly. i am a DH and sometimes the DW has certain expectations in her head but she never shares them and slowly...(more) 6-29-2009 6:55pm
gets more and more resentful. you have to ask for what you want.
- op: but the thing is, we were going to do that tonight. we talked about it today, he knew how i felt. i told him hey, let's talk, have some vino, and have sex tonight. and i come home...(more) 6-29-2009 6:56pm
and the house is a mess. not a mood enhancer.
- well I sah and my house is never pristine - nor do I care 6-29-2009 7:08pm
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