Toddler son received a birthday party invitation. The envelope was addressed to him but did not include my newborn's name. Party is on a Saturday at a restaurant. Do I assume newborn is... (more)
not also invited? Should I ask or is that rude? It is weird they would not invite newborn since they will not have to pay for her and I don't feel like going to a birthday party at a restaurant on a Saturday alone with toddler while DH has to stay home alone with newborn. WWYD?
posted June 16th, 2009 at 11:12pm in Toddler
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- i would assume newborn can come 6-16-2009 11:12pm
- bring nb, s/he doens't need to be invited and I am sure they will assume you are bringing nb 6-16-2009 11:12pm
- maybe it's drop off? 6-16-2009 11:12pm
- No, defiitely not drop off. My DS is 2 years old! 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- And he was invited to a party at a restaurant?!??!! WTF?? 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- what is so weird about this? Many people have even 1 year old's birthday parties at restaurants 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- especially if they're korean! 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- What is weird about having 2 year olds in a restaurant? Will they sit down for a catered meal? This is just bizarre to me. 6-16-2009 11:23pm
- I have been to MANY 1 and 2 year old birthday parties at restaurants 6-16-2009 11:24pm
- So do the kids sit down at a long table or something? 6-16-2009 11:28pm
- I have been to MANY 1 and 2 year old birthday parties at restaurants 6-16-2009 11:24pm
- what is so weird about this? Many people have even 1 year old's birthday parties at restaurants 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- And he was invited to a party at a restaurant?!??!! WTF?? 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- No, defiitely not drop off. My DS is 2 years old! 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- lol. Newbie? Why would a newborn be invited to a party? 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- you're an idiot. Name should have been included on invitation 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- what crack pipe are you smoking? The newborn's name? 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- WHY? 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- I woulnd't have done that 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- ^^and my kid was invited to a ton of party's when db was a nb and db wasnt invited 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- did you bring newborn along too? 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- good GOD do they even Know you have a newborn? Why would you invite a newborn? It's mind boggling to me you'd think they've even mention your newborn!!!! 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- they aren't supposed to be you just show up with them, they are BABIES!!!!! 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- ^^and my kid was invited to a ton of party's when db was a nb and db wasnt invited 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- You're the idiot. No - the baby's name should NOT have been included 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- So should the baby go too? 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- the baby goes where mom goes, of course, you guys are idiots 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- No - what are you talking about? Dh is perfectly capable of staying with babies at home. If you want to bring baby, ASK FIRST. I'm sure it's OK but it's only polite to ASK FIRST 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- it's ridiculous to ask first, I'd be like OF COURE 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- >>>course 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- And that's fine. I'm sure the hostess in OP's case will say of course also. BUT you ask first. 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- no you don't dumbass, you will look like a fucking idiot, btw 6-16-2009 11:26pm
- it's ridiculous to ask first, I'd be like OF COURE 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- good grief! are you serious? 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- No - what are you talking about? Dh is perfectly capable of staying with babies at home. If you want to bring baby, ASK FIRST. I'm sure it's OK but it's only polite to ASK FIRST 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- IT'S A FUCKING NEWBORN!!!! NOBODY WILL CARE!!!! JESUS!!!! 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- the baby goes where mom goes, of course, you guys are idiots 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- So should the baby go too? 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- Nobody does that. Newborns can be brought along bc they don't eat the food, but they're not invited. 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- Dear Masters Jackon and Jonah 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- lol 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- you're an idiot. Name should have been included on invitation 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- just ask. probably an oversight 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- dh stay home with newborn 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- you ppl are so stupid 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- why? 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- why shouldn't dh pull his weight....toddler needs time with mom alone 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- you ppl are so stupid 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- Why in the world wouldn't you want to get away from the baby for a few hours! Your Toddler NEEDS THAT HELLOE 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- ita though not with your spelling of hello 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- bring newborn but know the invite was for ds...people do this to make the child feel special ya know 6-16-2009 11:13pm
- send dh to the party with the toddler 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- OP: DH does not know these people at all and would definitely not go sit at a restaurant party with them since he would not know anyone 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- you seem a little strange 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- np: thank you. this is a very odd post! 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- WTF is odd about this? You are a moron 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- only a moron with a newborn expects an invitation for her baby 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- wtf is your problem? people disagree with you so you name-call? you sound very mentally stable and mature. stay home with family. don't subject poor birthday child to your piss poor...(more) 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- is this op? decline invite or take newborn or send dh - how else will he get to know these people? 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- WTF is odd about this? You are a moron 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- np: thank you. this is a very odd post! 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- you seem a little strange 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- OP: DH does not know these people at all and would definitely not go sit at a restaurant party with them since he would not know anyone 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- dh takes son, you stay with newborn 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- good lord, of COURSE the newborn is invited! coming with you of course! :) 6-16-2009 11:14pm
- I would feel like an idiot if I addressed a card to a newborn. of course you can take the db. 6-16-2009 11:15pm
- Then the invitation should have been addressed to the Smith Family, or whatever 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- oh please. i always address to the friend of DC and the parents show up with their newborns. this is not a big deal. 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- NP: But ASK first. 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- no way!! don't be dumb. it's a baby at a toddler party? with all the craziness no one is even going to notice the baby. 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- It's only good manner to ask whether you can bring Jaden who was just born a month ago (or whatever) 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- no it's not, it makes you look like a tool 6-16-2009 11:27pm
- It's only good manner to ask whether you can bring Jaden who was just born a month ago (or whatever) 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- no, not at all. If you invite a 2yo to a non-drop off party, of COURSE the mom can bring a newborn! They are expecting you to stay it is NON DROP OFF. The baby impacts the party ZERO...(more) 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- itttttttta. what is wrong with the women on here tonight? 6-16-2009 11:19pm
- But you still ask the hostess first. My God - were people raised without manners around here? 6-16-2009 11:20pm
- ita. of course it's probably fine and of course db will not eat anything or impact the party, but you still ask 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- you do not, not at all 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- fine whatever, but i would 6-16-2009 11:23pm
- and you would look stupid 6-16-2009 11:28pm
- fine whatever, but i would 6-16-2009 11:23pm
- i can understand asking if someone can bring an older sibling. but not a newborn that probably needs to be bf'd during the party. i can't believe people would even ask if the newborn...(more) 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- no hostess would say no, but it's still polite to ask 6-16-2009 11:25pm
- no it's not!!!! 6-16-2009 11:28pm
- no hostess would say no, but it's still polite to ask 6-16-2009 11:25pm
- you do not, not at all 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- ita. of course it's probably fine and of course db will not eat anything or impact the party, but you still ask 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- no way!! don't be dumb. it's a baby at a toddler party? with all the craziness no one is even going to notice the baby. 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- NP: But ASK first. 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- how would they even know, come on 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- oh please. i always address to the friend of DC and the parents show up with their newborns. this is not a big deal. 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- Then the invitation should have been addressed to the Smith Family, or whatever 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- only toddler is invited, but they will probably be fine with you bringing newborn. I would ask anyway 6-16-2009 11:16pm
- ^^oh, and realize that newborn will be exposed to many kids with many germs there, so if it were me, I'd leave him/her home with dh and enjoy a more relaxing time at the party 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- Not really a concern if the baby has an older sibling who is out at classes and coming home with germs every day anyway 6-16-2009 11:20pm
- depends how old nb is. If very young, I would not bring to public place if not necessary, esp with swine flu epidemic 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- precisely why op should go with dc and dh should stay home with baby 6-16-2009 11:22pm
- depends how old nb is. If very young, I would not bring to public place if not necessary, esp with swine flu epidemic 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- Not really a concern if the baby has an older sibling who is out at classes and coming home with germs every day anyway 6-16-2009 11:20pm
- ^^oh, and realize that newborn will be exposed to many kids with many germs there, so if it were me, I'd leave him/her home with dh and enjoy a more relaxing time at the party 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- Just go to the party with ds while dh stays at home with the baby. Or reverse it - send dh to the party with ds. That sounds much better. 6-16-2009 11:17pm
- didn't you see op's response? dh doesn't know these people. he won't want to go. sounds like one lame excuse after another to not go. 6-16-2009 11:20pm
- I think OP really doesn't like these people and doesn't want to deal with being social at this point after giving birth. Send dh - that's the best way. Maybe he'll meet a best frie...(more) 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- then they should all just stay home 6-16-2009 11:23pm
- I think OP really doesn't like these people and doesn't want to deal with being social at this point after giving birth. Send dh - that's the best way. Maybe he'll meet a best frie...(more) 6-16-2009 11:21pm
- didn't you see op's response? dh doesn't know these people. he won't want to go. sounds like one lame excuse after another to not go. 6-16-2009 11:20pm
- if it's only addressed to ds, are you sure YOU'RE even invited?!...(more) 6-16-2009 11:18pm
- Were you invited? 6-16-2009 11:21pm