How much does your exdh do for your kids? How many days a week does he have them at his house? How does he drive them to activities ?... (more)
Does he volunteer with activities ? Does he take them on any trips?
posted May 22nd, 2022 at 9:20am in Toddler
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- ^^^ would you say he is a good father? 5-22-2022 9:20am
- my ex-h was/is a good father. Kids are grown now but I had very few concerns or complaints. Never missed a visit, never missed a payment, always helped with extras, never missed...(more) 5-22-2022 9:21am +2 likes
- Love it 5-22-2022 9:22am
- I know he seems to be a rarity ...I am glad we made it all work 5-22-2022 9:24am
- Love it 5-22-2022 9:22am
- He sees them once or twice a week. He lives in a small apartment without much room for them 5-22-2022 9:22am
- none, none and none 5-22-2022 9:22am
- We in theory had 50/50 custody post divorce, within a year he barely saw them and was always raging and angry and emotionally awful and they spent the next decade with me...(more) 5-22-2022 9:22am full-time, he hasn't seen on in 7 years or so and the other he sees maybe once a year and texts with occasionally. No, he was not a good father
- Sorry. I’m op and my ex was an alcoholic and in the beginning he tried to be a good father but he would drive with the kids while he was drunk and it was a battle for me to let...(more) 5-22-2022 9:26am him he involved vs my childrens safety. Plus he clearly was not a normal person. Ugh. It was so hard. It actually was easier once he didn’t see them anymore. I’m going to be a total bitch right now and explain why I posted this
- I hear you on it being easier when he stopped being involved. If you haven't had to deal with a raging, manipulative, vindicative exDH/co-parent who has no regard for the...(more) 5-22-2022 9:29am +1 likewell-being of DCs and is fine hurting them if it makes him feel superior it is hard to understand how much better no involvement can be
- Yes - this 5-22-2022 9:36am
- ^^ this is why. And I know I’m just feeling tired and frustrated...(more) 5-22-2022 9:30am I’ve had a long term boyfriend for years. He has kids. He was/is super involved with them but it never seemed 50/50 to me. He had them the majority of days, had to do all of the driving back and forth, do all of the activities (with rare exception - and if the kids had an activity she would not want them on that day). He did all of the volunteering, took them on all of the trips, doctors appointments (she did some), paid all of the bills despite that they never had an agreement that she didn’t have to work, he had to live in a back room in his parents house bc he couldn’t afford his own place. I could go on and on bc yes that
- ^^^ and he got the benefit of raising his kids and I encouraged him and am so proud of him and that is the right thing to do but sometimes like today I get angry and resentful bc...(more) 5-22-2022 9:35am yes he isnt my dh (bc of this) and he isn’t the father of my kids but his exdw is so fucking lazy and in the end it does effect me. I can’t get help with anything. The 2 of us do all of the work and my ex dh is out enjoying himself at a beach house this weekend (I don’t want his help anyway - he is a disaster) and my boyfriend exdw goes out and spends the weekends with her boyfriend and we didint even know what she did during the week. She is finally working after all these years and the complaining is non stop
- OR and I get it. Things aren't always fair and sometimes it just sucks 5-22-2022 9:37am
- Thank you for understanding- not many on here would get it and would flame me and I’ve posted before and was called “jealous”...(more) 5-22-2022 9:47am
- OR and I get it. Things aren't always fair and sometimes it just sucks 5-22-2022 9:37am
- and this makes you annoyed? Sorry not understanding. FWIW, my BF has total custody/responsibility for his DCs too and while it definitely impacts what we can/can't do as a...(more) 5-22-2022 9:36am
- Yes! This. The thing is if he had 100% then he could do what he wanted but she moved farther away from me so my boyfriend couldn’t move, couldn’t live with me, his kids have a...(more) 5-22-2022 9:42am life so much farther away from me so it’s like she gets to decide things to make her life easier but more difficult for everyone else. If he had 100% custody he could have moved here. So all the work but no benefit. I know this sounds bitchy. It’s just that some days are so hard and she literally will not even drive them to practice so here I have some heavy lifting and things I have to do that I need help with but he can’t help me.
- Yes! This. The thing is if he had 100% then he could do what he wanted but she moved farther away from me so my boyfriend couldn’t move, couldn’t live with me, his kids have a...(more) 5-22-2022 9:42am
- ^^^ and he got the benefit of raising his kids and I encouraged him and am so proud of him and that is the right thing to do but sometimes like today I get angry and resentful bc...(more) 5-22-2022 9:35am
- I hear you on it being easier when he stopped being involved. If you haven't had to deal with a raging, manipulative, vindicative exDH/co-parent who has no regard for the...(more) 5-22-2022 9:29am +1 like
- Sorry. I’m op and my ex was an alcoholic and in the beginning he tried to be a good father but he would drive with the kids while he was drunk and it was a battle for me to let...(more) 5-22-2022 9:26am
- he has visitation one day a week. that's it. does nothing else to involve himself in my kid's life. 5-22-2022 9:36am