i want your opinion please. I know I wont get much sympathy because I am a realtor but here goes. A friend bought an apartment through me a few years ago. She recently married and had a... (more)
baby. She and DH have been house hunting and she said she wanted to rent her apartment. We last discussed this about 2 weeks ago. I had to cut short out conversation because I was on my way out teh door when she called. I called her today to chat. I am expecting a baby in a few weeks. Turns out, they found a house, she assumed I had had my baby because hse hadnt heard from me, and she listed her apartment with another broker. I am LIVID. WDYT?
posted February 19th, 2009 at 12:52pm in Toddler
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- ^^she said she didnt think I would be available and that I would just want to focus on the baby. 2-19-2009 12:52pm
- Not clear on what happened during the intervening 2 weeks. Why so long out of touch? 2-19-2009 12:53pm
- ita. although she could have called to ask if you were still interested 2-19-2009 12:55pm
- she has a new born and I am very pregnant. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- She's probably very sleep deprived and not putting a whole lot of thought into anything these days. 2-19-2009 1:09pm
- I think that was a safe assumption when you didn't get back with her for two weeks. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- This is why not to mix business with personal friendships. 2-19-2009 12:53pm
- i can understand why you are upset but imo, she wasn't wrong 2-19-2009 12:53pm
- why dont you think she was wrong? she has been consulting me all along aboutt his apartment and I have been giving her free advice and she told me she would use me 2-19-2009 12:55pm
- well, you were out of touch for awhile, and it's her money that is in question. if she waited to hear from you, you alreday had the baby, etc, she probably assumed you weren't going to...(more) 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- I had NO IDEA she was ready to sell her apartment. She NEVER told me. She jsut assumed I wouldnt want to do it. 2-19-2009 12:58pm
- well, i agree iwth poster below. either be pissed about it, tell her so, and maybe lose the friendship, or talk to her calmly about it and get her reasons. 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- ^^ in any case, she never owed you the listing. you dind't have any contract, so she's well within her rights to go with someone else. 2-19-2009 1:01pm
- of course. she doesnt "owe" me a thing. just like I dont owe her anything. none the less, friends dont usually screw one another over 2-19-2009 1:04pm
- I told her I was upset. She said that she explained the situation to the other broker (who knows me, same company) and the broke said that she would take care of it. She did not say we...(more) 2-19-2009 1:02pm could share it (which was very sleezy). I feel totally screwed by eeryone involved. Basically, I think that my friend found a house, got excited, and wanted to get this done ASAP and was influenced by the other broker (who basically lied) and now is looking for excuses
- ^^ in any case, she never owed you the listing. you dind't have any contract, so she's well within her rights to go with someone else. 2-19-2009 1:01pm
- well, i agree iwth poster below. either be pissed about it, tell her so, and maybe lose the friendship, or talk to her calmly about it and get her reasons. 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- I had NO IDEA she was ready to sell her apartment. She NEVER told me. She jsut assumed I wouldnt want to do it. 2-19-2009 12:58pm
- well, you were out of touch for awhile, and it's her money that is in question. if she waited to hear from you, you alreday had the baby, etc, she probably assumed you weren't going to...(more) 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- why dont you think she was wrong? she has been consulting me all along aboutt his apartment and I have been giving her free advice and she told me she would use me 2-19-2009 12:55pm
- I think.....(more) 2-19-2009 12:54pm she didn't want to use you and was looking for an excuse to not use you. This was a perfect way for her to avoid listing with somebody else and saying she was thinking of you.
- possibly. But she seems to think enough of me to consult me on everything about it and I am quite successful (more so than the woman she hired) 2-19-2009 12:55pm
- i meant avoid listing with u. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- not trying to be mean, but.. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- op. I really dont think this is it. she had a very good experience with me before and has referred people ot me 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- It's possible that she was beginning to feel like she was being a pain in your ass. Given that she just had a baby herself, she knows how all-consuming it is and may have figured she'd...(more) 2-19-2009 12:58pm
- and spare me the income? 2-19-2009 12:59pm
- It's possible that she was beginning to feel like she was being a pain in your ass. Given that she just had a baby herself, she knows how all-consuming it is and may have figured she'd...(more) 2-19-2009 12:58pm
- if she wanted to list w/ you she would have asked...(more) 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- op. I really dont think this is it. she had a very good experience with me before and has referred people ot me 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- then why was she asking me about listing it for her as a rental just 2 weeks ago? 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- not trying to be mean, but.. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- why didn't you call her for 2 weeks? she's totally justified. 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- do you NEVER let 2 weeks go between phone calls to friends? and it was more like 1.5 weeks 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- This was a little more than a phone call to a friend. This was a chance to sell in a quickly spiraling market and you waited almost 2 weeks. 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- you misunderstand. she never mentioned she wanted to sell it. I had no idea. she mentioned that they were thinking about renting it and I gave her some advice. the selling happened in...(more) 2-19-2009 1:02pm
- I bet she doesn't remember the conversation and thinks she told you that they wanted to sell and that you didn't get back with her on it. 2-19-2009 1:05pm
- And I bet this less qualified broker is taking less commission. Or already has a potential buyer for her. 2-19-2009 1:06pm
- no. the broker is with the same company as me. she lives in the building. she has overpriced the apartment so it wont sell but the commission is the same 2-19-2009 1:07pm
- Is there a pita situation that an above-board realtor would not want to handle? Something they don't want to disclose but she knows you're ethical and will make them disclose it? 2-19-2009 1:11pm
- no. its a straight forward situation in a building that trades well 2-19-2009 1:12pm
- Is there a pita situation that an above-board realtor would not want to handle? Something they don't want to disclose but she knows you're ethical and will make them disclose it? 2-19-2009 1:11pm
- no. the broker is with the same company as me. she lives in the building. she has overpriced the apartment so it wont sell but the commission is the same 2-19-2009 1:07pm
- And I bet this less qualified broker is taking less commission. Or already has a potential buyer for her. 2-19-2009 1:06pm
- I bet she doesn't remember the conversation and thinks she told you that they wanted to sell and that you didn't get back with her on it. 2-19-2009 1:05pm
- you misunderstand. she never mentioned she wanted to sell it. I had no idea. she mentioned that they were thinking about renting it and I gave her some advice. the selling happened in...(more) 2-19-2009 1:02pm
- This was a little more than a phone call to a friend. This was a chance to sell in a quickly spiraling market and you waited almost 2 weeks. 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- do you NEVER let 2 weeks go between phone calls to friends? and it was more like 1.5 weeks 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- Well, you have the choice to assume she really did think something happened when you didn't contact her in the middle two weeks or you can assume she screwed you over and you can lose...(more) 2-19-2009 12:56pm
- that's the business you are in. doesn't sound like she did anything wrong 2-19-2009 12:57pm
- OP. I think it was OUTRAGEOUS. This is someone I have helped in many different ways. When she was unemployed I set up interviews for her. I have always watched her back. I am FURIOUS 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- u should be pissed (more)...(more) 2-19-2009 1:03pm
- Does she understand that this decision caused you to lose income? Does she know how much? 2-19-2009 1:04pm
- she does now. I told her 2-19-2009 1:05pm
- She was stuck between her loyalty to you and the pressures of her husband. Pity her. 2-19-2009 1:04pm
- OP. I think it was OUTRAGEOUS. This is someone I have helped in many different ways. When she was unemployed I set up interviews for her. I have always watched her back. I am FURIOUS 2-19-2009 1:00pm
- She didn't think she'd get her moneys worth with you because of your situation but was too much of a pussy to tell the truth about it. 2-19-2009 1:04pm
- op. this may be the truth. in which case, she should have consulted with me about how I would have handled the situation 2-19-2009 1:05pm
- np: and there you have it: she should have talked to you about her concerns and you should have called her back sooner. 2-19-2009 1:09pm
- there was no reason to call her back. there was nothing to discuss. 2-19-2009 1:10pm
- I think she's been using you. She's taken advantage of your generosity and time and I see no signs of her reciprocating. She's selfish and is either too much a coward to admit she...(more) 2-19-2009 1:09pm didn't think you could do the job, or she's rationalizing her choices. Either way, she need to be severely dumped.
- op. I have had friends use other brokers in the past and I have never said a word on been upset (and they were MAJOR listings) because my friends do not owe me their business and many...(more) 2-19-2009 1:11pm people know many brokers. THis is a tiny little listing. But the principle is really pissing me off. I feel discriminated against because I am having a baby and I am a single mother. This is my only means of support and I am a really really good broker (which my friend knows)
- Having a baby kicks your ass. She ought to know. Maybe you'll understand why in about 3 months. 2-19-2009 1:12pm
- no income kicks it worse 2-19-2009 1:13pm
- It is indeed discrimination, but unfortunately it's probably warranted. Unless you have no intention of taking any maternity leave and you have 24-hr help w/ baby lined up. 2-19-2009 1:18pm
- And I hate to admit it, but I probably would have made the same decision. 2-19-2009 1:19pm
- It is indeed discrimination, but unfortunately it's probably warranted. Unless you have no intention of taking any maternity leave and you have 24-hr help w/ baby lined up. 2-19-2009 1:18pm
- no income kicks it worse 2-19-2009 1:13pm
- Maybe she didn't think the listing was worth your time. 2-19-2009 1:13pm
- again, should have been my decision. I really feel that this woman is not my friend. I'm sure I will be discriminated against in the future as a single mother. but I never thought the...(more) 2-19-2009 1:14pm
- I think you're going to have to go through your feelings of anger and disappointment and just come to realize that your "friend" is driven by her selfishness. She's a user. Not tha...(more) 2-19-2009 1:14pm
- Having a baby kicks your ass. She ought to know. Maybe you'll understand why in about 3 months. 2-19-2009 1:12pm
- Damn woman! 2-19-2009 1:11pm
- op. I have had friends use other brokers in the past and I have never said a word on been upset (and they were MAJOR listings) because my friends do not owe me their business and many...(more) 2-19-2009 1:11pm
- np: and there you have it: she should have talked to you about her concerns and you should have called her back sooner. 2-19-2009 1:09pm
- op. this may be the truth. in which case, she should have consulted with me about how I would have handled the situation 2-19-2009 1:05pm