So I’ve had ex dh wages garnished for child support but then arrears built and he wound up owing a lot. This happened twice where I forgave 15k-20k in arrears so he wouldn’t go to... (more)
Jail. Then after our divorce we had a personal agreement where he was supposed to give me a set amount a week and pay for half of medical/dental bills which he didn’t do. Anyway because he has been so inconsistent I am going back to child support enforcement bureau. I just want him to give child support and pay for 1/2 of the cost braces for both our sons. Child support bureau is saying he owes the money he didn’t pay since divorce decree. This total about 30k. So as soon as child support is enforced he will be in arrears for that amount. I know he doesn’t have it. I’m not trying to ruin him I just want money weekly. What do I do ? He is automatically going to lose his license and go to jail if he owes that much. I know these are poor people problems... I don’t get along with him and we aren’t talking but I don’t want to ruin his life.
posted March 15th, 2021 at 12:27pm in Toddler
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- He is never going to pay you so let it happen and he won't fuck with you when he gets back on his feet. 3-15-2021 12:28pm
- What can he pay? Is his CS a manageable amount but he chooses to spend it elsewhere? 3-15-2021 12:28pm
- I wish my sil got a better deal for her child support and her x (my dhs brother) would go to jail. Piece of shit . But I hope you’re situation gets better. Maybe if you tell the...(more) 3-15-2021 12:29pm judge you just want x amount your x doesn’t have to pay the other
- The order was like $180 a week that included the cost of child care. However since he didn’t pay it over years it’s added up. I really don’t want to go after him for past money...(more) 3-15-2021 12:32pm
- np nope. go after the money. he will have to ask mommy or daddy or whoever. stop rescuing him. he doesn't gaf about you^ 3-15-2021 12:32pm
- why would he ever pay you anything, if you have proven that he can build up huge debt to you and you will just forgive it? 3-15-2021 12:56pm
- The order was like $180 a week that included the cost of child care. However since he didn’t pay it over years it’s added up. I really don’t want to go after him for past money...(more) 3-15-2021 12:32pm
- would he ever have had it? how did the divorce order get signed off in teh first place if he couldn't possibly afford it? if you're really looking out for him, do up an...(more) 3-15-2021 12:29pm amendment to your divorce order to forgive him whatever amount, and to adjust his weekly payments to something he could actually afford. if he's garnished how is he still constantly in arrears?
- I haven’t had his pay check garnished in like 5-6 years when I recently submitted the child support application they said they will be asking for him to pay back since the divorce...(more) 3-15-2021 12:36pm
- How will he pay you if he goes to jail or loses his license and can't to work? Tough situation. 3-15-2021 12:30pm
- if he goes to jail, it's not you sending him to jail. it's he is sending himself to jail for not paying. his fault, not yours. stop looking out for someone not looking out for you 3-15-2021 12:31pm +1 like
- ^you aren't the one ruining his life, HE is ruining his own life. stop enabling him^ 3-15-2021 12:32pm +1 like
- I know your right! But he doesn’t have it. I’m going to go through with it but I do feel bad 3-15-2021 12:42pm
- ^you aren't the one ruining his life, HE is ruining his own life. stop enabling him^ 3-15-2021 12:32pm +1 like
- I don’t tell uou this story lightly. My df had this situation with her ex. He never came through ad she really struggled as a single mom. Her ex ended up getting arrested and...(more) 3-15-2021 12:47pm didn’t have the 15K at the time. He begged their ds to intervene and their teen dc was in the middle. She waived it but was really pissed at ex. Her ds exoeroenced deoression and committed suicide later that year. This was NOT her fault but she deeply regretted the stress and pain her ds experience. Your dc are owed that money but I’m not sure how jailing a working parent is effective or positive .
- That is a mother’s worst nightmare. I had my docs in therapy to deal with their feeling surrounding their dad. I do not want to send him to jail. I really don’t 3-15-2021 1:09pm
- Appeal to his better senses by telling him what will happen if he doesn’t start paying. Does he have parents who care if he goes to jail? 3-15-2021 12:51pm
- Even if he does start paying he will still owe the arrears. Plus he isn’t talking to me at all so I can’t even have a conversation with him about it 3-15-2021 1:07pm