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  1. Newborn Need advice: Dh is a recovering substance/alcohol abuser. We've been together 13 years and in that time it's gone from heavy drinking to prescription drugs and probably more. He's...(more) 2-9-2014 7:35pm (19 replies)
    Been caught and 'recovered' multiple times. The last time I was pregnant with dd and a court date was mailed to us. Apparently he'd been caught trying to buy on the street. I flipped out and he went to hazeldon. In the last 2.5 years, he's been in suboxone and a variety of anti depressants. But basically sober. Tonight I discovered he's hiding beer in the basement. What do I do? He's a great husband and father to my 2 kids but what the f?! I'm very concerned. Wwyd?
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    • Back to hazel don. Seriously. Btdt. Sorry. 2-9-2014 7:36pm
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    • He isn't great. He is very sick. You need to head to alanon ASAP to get some support. 2-9-2014 7:36pm
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    • Alanon for you right away 2-9-2014 7:36pm
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    • I would confront, have my ultimatum ready and be prepared for another inpatient stay. 2-9-2014 7:37pm
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    • Tell him you found it and get him back on track, into meetings 2-9-2014 7:37pm
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      • Is he not in mtgs now? 2-9-2014 7:38pm
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        • Op: no he won't go to meetings 2-9-2014 7:39pm
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          • Not being mean I feel for you but why do you accept no mtgs? Wasn't that a condition of hazeldon and you taking him home? 2-9-2014 7:41pm
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      • You can't get someone back on track, they have to do it themselves 2-9-2014 7:40pm
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    • he has not been sober. i am in recovery too. he is not sober. you need to go to al-anon. 2-9-2014 7:39pm
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    • I have been exactly where you are & I gave me dh an ultimatum 2-9-2014 7:39pm
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    • Hazel Don is crap...he needs a good old fashioned Detox...he needs to do 90 meetings in 90 days..needs a good sponsor, and needs to work the steps....he needs to be committed to...(more) 2-9-2014 7:41pm
      it.
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      • i agree. follow the 12 steps or deal with divorce. 2-9-2014 7:43pm
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      • It is nit crap. He did nit follow thru. 2-9-2014 7:43pm
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      • I agree, sober mom, he's not going to learn anything new from a 2nd stay in rehab, do outpatient & AA 2-9-2014 7:44pm
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    • I was there. I told him either he stops drinking or I will ask him to leave. A year later I had to ask him to leave. We are divorced now. 2-9-2014 7:41pm
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    • Op: curious if you think I should reach out to his psychparmacologist first? Do Alanine first? Or just ask him to get his shit together? 2-9-2014 8:02pm
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      • just go to al-anon. you are lost. they will help you. there is no point in talking to his pill pusher. he'll just find another. go to al-anon and get yourself well. 2-9-2014 8:05pm
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        • Op: I'm so sad 2-9-2014 8:09pm
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  2. Newborn So Justin Bieber and his dad refused to stop smoking pot on the plane and are now in trouble again. Pilot and crew had to wear oxygen masks. Wtf is wrong with this kid. Unreal. 2-6-2014 6:06am (3 replies)
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    • they should just arrest him already and have him locked away for a while 2-6-2014 6:28am
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    • why are you posting this on newborn? 2-6-2014 6:47am
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    • love that the dad is no where around when he's growing up but now he's like Dina Lohan. his best bud going to clubs 2-6-2014 6:48am
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  3. Newborn Dds and I are having great fun with Where's My Mickey app. Just in case you are looking for a new game.... 1-29-2014 11:02am (1 reply)
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    • I avoid Disney. 1-29-2014 11:03am
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  4. Newborn Watching this video of different animals (mostly wild) being saved and this baby elephant got stuck in a hole in the wild... and then reunited with his mom. tear. seriously. i...(more) 1-17-2014 12:40pm (1 reply)
    must be hormonal.
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  5. Newborn Okay in reference to my purple couch... i want a club chair to go with. it is for a small family room, gray walls. what color would you do chair? 1-17-2014 12:34pm (7 replies)
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  6. Newborn "Swiss cheese pervert" arrested in my area after driving around in his car and asking woman to perform sex acts with swiss cheese...(more) 1-17-2014 12:27pm (1 reply)
    • yeah Philly! 1-17-2014 12:36pm
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  7. Newborn Once again, dh and I had a fight, I came here to vent and he later read it on my phone. The things I say here are private and usually one sided and mean spirit...(more) 1-3-2014 1:05pm (30 replies)
    in the heat of an argument, but all he sees is how awful I am. Just a warning, I guess. This place is wonderful and terrible at the same time.
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    • Who posts on Newborn? 1-3-2014 1:05pm
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    • He is a terrible snoop 1-3-2014 1:06pm
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      • Yes, that too. But I'd find it hard to resist too if I knew my wife came here to vent 1-3-2014 1:07pm
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        • Np, my dh could leave an open journal and I wouldn't read it. It's private. 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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        • Logging into your own ybm account and keyword searching is fair game. Picking up a phone or checking my posts etc is terrible snooping 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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    • I often wonder if people who posts mean things about their family here are aware that the words are out there in real life. This isn't imaginary. 1-3-2014 1:06pm
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      • This makes no sense. 1-3-2014 1:07pm
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      • It's anonymous 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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        • It is not anonymous. Not truly. 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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          • How? 1-3-2014 1:09pm
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            • If anyone who accesses your account or recognizes the delatils of your post or sees it highlighted in green - there goes your anonymity 1-3-2014 1:10pm
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        • That isn't necessarily the most important thing, though. It's still your words. 1-3-2014 1:11pm
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          • Agree. You still said mean one side things 1-3-2014 1:12pm
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      • I agree. Venting is venting but sometimes there is a truth to the words that you can't escape, even if you think anonymity exempts you. 1-3-2014 1:09pm
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        • I find it useful to even start the post with "i'm just venting 1-3-2014 1:11pm
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      • What happened? Your sil posted here about you? 1-3-2014 1:11pm
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        • I don't have a SIL 1-3-2014 1:12pm
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        • a client of mine posted about me the other day. i recognized it pretty immediately. fortunately, they were complimenting me. 1-3-2014 1:13pm
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          • really? did you know she was on here? 1-3-2014 1:23pm
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    • Honey, it isn't this place. You were careless 1-3-2014 1:07pm
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    • Delete your history, woman! 1-3-2014 1:07pm
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      • Op: I do often. But this was like 10 min after I posted. 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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    • Always, ALWAYS, clear your post history and unsticky! 1-3-2014 1:07pm
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    • I've told this story before, but ex-dh figured out my password and followed me for 6 months before I figured it out. It was NOT PRETTY 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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      • No way 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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        • or: yep, no one ever believes me but completely true. Read every bad thing I have ever said about him, a lot said in the heat of anger. Read how sad and disappointed I was and...(more) 1-3-2014 1:09pm
          neither told me NOR did anything about it
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      • ^^^ also, if you sort by "my posts" it doesnt matter if you clear your history and unsticky, I didn't know it was possible until I found about about dh 1-3-2014 1:08pm
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        • Clear my posts button on settings page 1-3-2014 1:09pm
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          • or: see, didn't know that was possible until now. Was it always possible? YES, should have done that 1-3-2014 1:11pm
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  8. Newborn Noble or crazy?...(more) 1-1-2014 8:32pm (0 replies)
    Over 40 y.o. friend just baby with donor sperm/donor egg. Single teacher working in NYC and living in Long Island. In debt and went further in debt through this process. Can one raise a child semi comfortably making less than 80k? Moved closer to parents who will watch child part time, but friend will need babysitter part time. I really admire her but am worried for her too.
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  9. Newborn My parents and dh's parents were both rigid about food and tv and the like, and we are VERY relaxed about that stuff. My mom thinks it will swing around again and our kids will be...(more) 12-28-2013 7:27pm (4 replies)
    Rigid. Do you think it works that way?
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    • not always 12-28-2013 7:28pm
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    • Yes. My parents were pretty relaxed, and I am more rigid than they were. 12-28-2013 7:29pm
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    • TV is so 20 th century 12-28-2013 7:29pm
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    • often but not always. my parents and my husband's parents were quite rigid. i am like our parents and my sister is like you. dh and one of his brothers are like their parents and...(more) 12-28-2013 7:30pm
      the other brothers either are more relaxed or don't have kids yet.
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  10. Newborn Tomorrow is the 6tg anniversary of my dad's death. And again my mom will be angry at me for not being sufficiently sad. I hate it. 12-28-2013 7:18pm (4 replies)
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    • why do you let yourself get sucked in? 12-28-2013 7:21pm
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      • We are visiting. She is lonely. I don't know. I try not to, but it irks me. 12-28-2013 7:22pm
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        • i gotcha. i could tell you that your are silly for buying in, but i've been in your shoes. hard to see it when you are in it sometimes. gl. 12-28-2013 7:24pm
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  11. Newborn Dh offered the dcs oranges for breakfast. They replied that they didn't want it because they want real food. Dh says "if you're hungry, you'll eat what's available." I sa...(more) 12-23-2013 8:48am (10 replies)
    just want real food. I understand." Now dh is pissed at everyone. Such an asshole!
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    • I don't get it - isn't an orange real food? 12-23-2013 8:49am
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      • Yes, but an orange is not a filling breakfast. 12-23-2013 8:49am
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    • Op: why does he do this? Now I'm about to make pancakes. 12-23-2013 8:49am
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      • If he is at all like my DH, he is Lazy 12-23-2013 8:50am
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      • Wait, what? Pancakes are real food and oranges aren't?!? 12-23-2013 8:52am
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        • Pancakes with fruit is breakfast. Oranges alone are a snack. 12-23-2013 8:53am
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    • oranges are fine with something else 12-23-2013 8:49am
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    • Why don't you let them eat oranges? 12-23-2013 8:49am
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      • I do! But dh thinks that is enough and that the kids are unreasonable to ask for more. 12-23-2013 8:50am
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        • ^^and that not wanting the oranges means they are not really hungry. 12-23-2013 8:51am
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  12. Newborn Does anyone know where (Manhattan) I can get a powder puff with the...(more) 12-21-2013 1:56pm (1 reply)
    Power set?
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  13. Newborn Best remedy for a cold? 12-14-2013 11:36pm (1 reply)
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    • Rest, fluids, time 12-18-2013 8:58am
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  14. Newborn Paul Rudd looks skinny and strange 12-7-2013 11:52pm (4 replies)
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    • Shut your dirty whore mouth 12-7-2013 11:52pm
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      • Lol 12-7-2013 11:53pm
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      • Whoa 12-7-2013 11:53pm
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        • You don't mess with my Rudd 12-7-2013 11:55pm
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  15. Newborn NY Burb looks like a 2 hour delay on Monday. 12-7-2013 11:21pm (0 replies)
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  16. Newborn Anyone ever try that sensa stuff? 12-7-2013 11:13pm (1 reply)
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    • Bought it but never used it 12-7-2013 11:15pm
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  17. Newborn Bday party for 6 yo on a Saturday- time choices are 11:30, 2 or 4. In winter so kids prob not at sports. What time would you or...(more) 12-7-2013 10:44pm (12 replies)
    Prefer?
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    • 11:30. 12-7-2013 10:45pm
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    • 2:00 is good. if it's 11:30, you'll have to serve lunch. 12-7-2013 10:45pm
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      • OP- lunch is part of the package 12-7-2013 10:46pm
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    • I don't really care. Maybe 11:30 12-7-2013 10:45pm
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    • Not 4, interferes with dinner 12-7-2013 10:47pm
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    • 2 or 4 12-7-2013 10:47pm
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    • Drop off? 12-7-2013 10:47pm
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      • Op- idk, it's a bowling 12-7-2013 10:47pm
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        • ^^party. I'll offer but so far at parties the parents hang out 12-7-2013 10:48pm
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    • 4. I hate the am parties 12-7-2013 10:47pm
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  18. Newborn 32yo friend is pregnant by a fling- he's 39 and she feels he is not the one. She is leaning towards...(more) 12-5-2013 9:27pm (18 replies)
    Termination, but is so heartbroken at the thought of that. :-(
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    • that's her choice. 12-5-2013 9:28pm
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    • if she was 42 and this was her only shot at baby i would encourage her to keep it, in this situation I vote terminate and move on 12-5-2013 9:28pm
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      • ita. 12-5-2013 9:29pm
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      • np still might be her only shot. plenty of women are only able to conceive once or twice 12-5-2013 9:29pm
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        • just going by her age alone she has plenty of time 12-5-2013 9:30pm
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    • Dont do it. See if she can terminate the relationship 12-5-2013 9:28pm
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    • can she afford to keep it? is she open to being a single mom, or does she really want to be paired off first. does she think the guy will react terribly (obv he may not be...(more) 12-5-2013 9:29pm
      thrilled)
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      • He wants her to terminate. 12-5-2013 9:29pm
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        • ah, ok. yeah. i get it 12-5-2013 9:30pm
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        • This doesn't sound like it will be a good situation for either her or the kid. In fact, this sort of situation is what abortions are meant for. 12-5-2013 9:30pm
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        • i hope she dumps his ass after she is through 12-5-2013 9:31pm
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    • sex has consequences. have to be prepared for them 12-5-2013 9:29pm
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    • not sure why the ages are relevant. she shouldn't be having unprotected sex with people like that 12-5-2013 9:29pm
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      • Well, she feels that she is capable and would have ideally liked to be married and pregnant by this time. 12-5-2013 9:30pm
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        • np i am confused. does SHE want to have the baby but the father does not? 12-5-2013 9:31pm
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          • No- I'm just explaining that she is open to having a baby and would have liked to have started a traditionally family by now but feels torn about termination. 12-5-2013 9:35pm
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      • SMH 12-5-2013 9:31pm
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  19. Newborn Dh got a great interview request today. Hoping... 12-3-2013 10:56pm (0 replies)
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  20. Newborn Headhunter called Dh to set up mtg for job. Didn't give dates. Do companies hire in dec? 12-3-2013 7:54pm (6 replies)
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    • sure 12-3-2013 7:54pm
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    • some do, if they are desperate to find someone 12-3-2013 7:54pm
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      • I'm wondering bc it woykd involve a cross country move. Maybe they do initial interviews now? 12-3-2013 7:55pm
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    • I hope so. DH has been waiting weeks to hear back about a job after 4th round interview. 12-3-2013 7:55pm
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      • Wow! I know it is agonizing but that is great progress!! Good luck. 12-3-2013 7:55pm
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    • companies hire when they need to hire. 12-3-2013 7:55pm
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  21. Newborn Anyone else feel they are constantly saying "no" to dc? Is it me, or is my 5yi demanding and pushing limits all the time? 11-15-2013 3:26pm (2 replies)
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    • yes, esp when shopping 11-15-2013 3:26pm
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    • Yes but I have no probs saying it 11-15-2013 3:27pm
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  22. Newborn Did your dc learn to read in kindergarten? 11-11-2013 7:43pm (17 replies)
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    • one did, one learned in 1 11-11-2013 7:43pm
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    • before 11-11-2013 7:43pm
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    • yez 11-11-2013 7:44pm
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    • My just turned 5 yo is just starting 11-11-2013 7:44pm
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      • Sight words or really reading? 11-11-2013 7:45pm
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        • Just starting to sound out stuff beyond sight words. But literally in the last week. She was 5 in sept 11-11-2013 7:45pm
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          • my aug bday five year started about a month ago. 11-11-2013 7:49pm
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    • none of my kids learned to read in k 11-11-2013 7:44pm
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    • One did, one knew how already 11-11-2013 7:44pm
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    • Yes.. it was part of the process. 11-11-2013 7:44pm
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    • yes, took off after spring break. 11-11-2013 7:45pm
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    • before. I think theyre working on letter sounds and sight words now 11-11-2013 7:45pm
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    • preschool. Which is good because Kindergarten seems to focus a lot on writing as opposed to reading. 11-11-2013 7:45pm
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    • Prek 11-11-2013 7:46pm
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    • Mine is in K now and started reading in the last month. 11-11-2013 7:47pm
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  23. Newborn 16mo has red rash on body, but didn't ear anything new?? 11-11-2013 7:30pm (4 replies)
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    • user any new soap or laundry detergent? 11-11-2013 7:32pm
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      • No. Did eat a lot of corn 11-11-2013 7:33pm
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        • does she have a fever? 11-11-2013 7:36pm
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  24. Newborn I don't understand how people can buy shoes online 11-11-2013 7:30pm (20 replies)
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    • Whats the problem. Have you tried Zappos? 11-11-2013 7:30pm
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      • My feet are so picky. I need to try on and sizes vary so much 11-11-2013 7:31pm
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        • If you can get Vip Zappos it's like having a shoe store in your living room. The shoes come overnight and you can get a few pairs to try on. Return what you don't want. All with n...(more) 11-11-2013 7:32pm
          free shipping. So great.
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          • What are you, a freaking advertisement? 11-11-2013 7:33pm
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            • Pretty much. I can't tell you how awesome they are. I mean that. And I'm pretty hard to please. 11-11-2013 7:34pm
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              • It's a pain to return a huge box of several pairs if shoes. 11-11-2013 7:35pm
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                • The same box they come in? Put the shoes back in, print label, tape it up. 11-11-2013 7:38pm
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                  • I don't have a doorman 11-11-2013 7:39pm
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                    • Well you don't know what youre missing. 11-11-2013 7:41pm
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              • np - i'm a walking ad for them too 11-11-2013 7:35pm
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              • I have never found the "return what you don't want" part to be that easy. Still have to box them up, get them over to UPS 11-11-2013 7:35pm
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                • you can call now and ups will pick up. is it really that hard to tape up the box?? 11-11-2013 7:36pm
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                • UPS will pick them up too. easy. 11-11-2013 7:36pm
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                  • Still sort of a hassle. What if I'm not home when UPS comes? 11-11-2013 7:38pm
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                    • you put them on your porch or wherever the mail man comes when you aren't home. 11-11-2013 7:39pm
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                      • I would be nervous to leave $700 worth of shoes on the porch-- and we live in a very safe area. But still... 11-11-2013 7:42pm
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                    • I think you have to embrace the process. The shoes arrive so quickly and you have a year to return them. Plenty of time. 11-11-2013 7:40pm
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    • Same here. Unless they are a replacement for shoes I already own. But sizes vary so much and unlike a sweater, shoes need to fit exactly 11-11-2013 7:31pm
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    • it isn't easy but i don't have anywhere to buy shoes unless i travel 80 minutes 11-11-2013 7:32pm
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  25. Newborn Will dc need to wear snow boots tomorrow in NYC? 11-11-2013 7:29pm (6 replies)
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    • lol, no 11-11-2013 7:29pm
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      • No- it is supposed to snow in morning 11-11-2013 7:31pm
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        • And they still won't need boots. 11-11-2013 7:33pm
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          • So, just sneakers? 11-11-2013 7:34pm
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            • Regular shoes will be fine tomorrow. 11-11-2013 7:35pm
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    • Lol 11-11-2013 7:29pm
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