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- New York City I need a cheap spa/health-type getaway for two nights just for me. Meeeeee! Driving distance from NYC.
- CHEAP???????? not possible
- OK, well... just if anyone has any suggestions... I need a break, have had one hell of a year and a pretty crappy decade and I need something...
- Marriott in Stamford ct. The agora spa (attached to hotel) is surprisingly good and they always have specials.
- thanks
- Inn at buttermilk falls. Near Pougkeepsie. Spa. Hike. Take a class at the culinary institute in Hyde Park. Tour an FDR house
- thanks
- CHEAP???????? not possible
- New York City Best friend from elementary school did not invite dc to Bar Mitzvah and dc is very upset about it. Any suggestions how to address this?
- Have they been close since middle school?
- They see each other in middle school but are not in the same classes. And they have friends in common, so he knows who got invited.
- is it a big party of 50+ kid or a small gathering of 10? If the former, she sucks ...the latter...not so much
- ^meaning kid's mom sucks
- is it a big party of 50+ kid or a small gathering of 10? If the former, she sucks ...the latter...not so much
- They see each other in middle school but are not in the same classes. And they have friends in common, so he knows who got invited.
- Are they in the same MS?
- Welcome to the world of teenagers kid, get used to this and let it roll off your back
- Ita. Model this for dc. People make stupid decisions and often regret them. Don’t hold grudges.
- Np: model of how?
- ^it
- Let your kid see you not get upset, be diplomatic etc
- I don't think me not getting upset that dc wasn't invited to.something models anything. I'm not the one who has to.go.to school and hear about the party
- The point is you model how to withstand mild disappointment instead of demonizing the kid and his mom.
- How does modelling my mood disappointment at dc not being invited look different than not caring about it?
- The point is you model how to withstand mild disappointment instead of demonizing the kid and his mom.
- I don't think me not getting upset that dc wasn't invited to.something models anything. I'm not the one who has to.go.to school and hear about the party
- Let your kid see you not get upset, be diplomatic etc
- ^it
- fuck the term "model". I hate people who use it.
- You're right. Absorb her/him being crushed and it will help him/her move on and be resiliant. you got it!
- But the mom isn't the one who wasn't invited. She can't model what to do. She didn't have to learn at school that she wasn't invited and won't be there the Monday after.
- You're right. Absorb her/him being crushed and it will help him/her move on and be resiliant. you got it!
- Np: model of how?
- Ita. Model this for dc. People make stupid decisions and often regret them. Don’t hold grudges.
- It could have been a mistake, lost invitation?
- wish I could say it was, but my guess is it was intentional and I don't feel it's right to ask the mother about it - we have each other's contact info but we're not close.
- I posted below about my dc not being invited to a few invitations where I just thought it was so rude not to include him.....my kid didn't care one bit and while I was just sort f...(more)
- wish I could say it was, but my guess is it was intentional and I don't feel it's right to ask the mother about it - we have each other's contact info but we're not close.
- I hate this. Sorry
- does your dc have friends now? Hopefully you can just say "look, sometimes people drift apart..I understand you are upset. Maybe you will be close again one day but for now,...(more)
- ^^but yes, I think this kid's mother sucks...especially now that I see they still are in the same school
- Always blame the mommy!
- well, having planned 2 bar mitzvahs and living in a 'monday morning sweatshirt town' I can say that the mother is the one who makes the guest list (with the help of the kid)...so...(more)
- ^and you can tell which moms are working to raise kind inclusive kids and which moms are raising asshat kids by who they invite and leave out. I have one 'popular' dc and one...(more)
- The Monday Morning Sweatshirt is one of the things he dreads, right after the instagram posts that he will see DURING the party...
- tell him it's OK to be disappointed but just try not to let on to other kids that he is. He knows where he stands with this kid now. He doesn't owe him any sort of allegiance...(more)
- The Monday Morning Sweatshirt is one of the things he dreads, right after the instagram posts that he will see DURING the party...
- ^and you can tell which moms are working to raise kind inclusive kids and which moms are raising asshat kids by who they invite and leave out. I have one 'popular' dc and one...(more)
- The kids do not unilaterally decide the guest list
- well, having planned 2 bar mitzvahs and living in a 'monday morning sweatshirt town' I can say that the mother is the one who makes the guest list (with the help of the kid)...so...(more)
- Always blame the mommy!
- ^^but yes, I think this kid's mother sucks...especially now that I see they still are in the same school
- Mild disappointment is part of life.
- I love how everyone is so cavalier about it being normal. it's a shitty thing to do. yes kids move on. I would use it as a lesson to teach dc to remember to be inclusive in his...(more)
- Thanks - I just wish I had some good answers for him...
- Have they been close since middle school?
- New York City Anyone order from brandless? any recommendations? thanks!e
- Are you spaming about this?
- no, I'm a real person. just posted in the wrong place
- Are you spaming about this?
- New York City Tristate area DJ recommendations? Small bar mitzvah, need DJ, emcee and dancer. Does anyone do this for less than $3500?
- New York City 10 yo DD is having a hotel swim party for bday. Going to get favors at 5 below - cute towels or summery metal water bottles?
- please I beg you no more "cute" water bottles. We must have 60.
- op: this is why I am asking. I tend to think you are right. Prob do towels ties with a bow and a lollypop stuck in the ribbon
- That's cute. I was just in Marshall's today and they had great towels in really bright colors.
- We get rid of them but ITA
- op: this is why I am asking. I tend to think you are right. Prob do towels ties with a bow and a lollypop stuck in the ribbon
- they don't want either item
- I want a towel
- and you are not a 10 yr old girl at a bday party
- we gave out towels for DD bat mitzvah and everyone liked and used including 10 yo
- and you are not a 10 yr old girl at a bday party
- what do they want? I figured you can always use an extra towel for beach/pool in summer
- slime, candy, fun art stuff, weird pens,
- My 11 yo dd loves colorful beach towels.
- I want a towel
- towel
- Swim goggles
- What is a hotel swim party? You rent the pool or you stay there and dd invites her friends?
- Np: you can do either
- So if you're a guest of that hotel and another guest is hosting a party with 12 10 yo girls, that's ok? Seems kind of obnoxious to me.
- np - I've done this. The hotel sells specific packages and sets up tables in a party area. it's pretty normal.
- Makes sense, but I'd think it were a nice hotel and you were a paying guest who wanted to use the pool and there's 15 happy (non paying) kids screaming and jumping around.
- op: it's a local suburban hilton. pool tends to be empty on weekend. we got a suite. done it before. it's great
- the kids are paid for.
- Makes sense, but I'd think it were a nice hotel and you were a paying guest who wanted to use the pool and there's 15 happy (non paying) kids screaming and jumping around.
- np - I've done this. The hotel sells specific packages and sets up tables in a party area. it's pretty normal.
- So if you're a guest of that hotel and another guest is hosting a party with 12 10 yo girls, that's ok? Seems kind of obnoxious to me.
- Np: you can do either
- sunglasses
- op: thought about this but they are sort of subjective. Going with the towels. 5 below had really cute ones. will bundle with a big lollypop or pen or both and call it a day
- do you have to give out party favors?
- this
- please I beg you no more "cute" water bottles. We must have 60.
- New York City Tummy Tuck...(more)
- New York City What did you love about the last low key wedding you attended?
- Just cocktails and apps
- morning wedding with lunch reception.
- it was mine! In September. We are older and doing this for a second time so none of the Bridezilla things matters - who cares what the food is or how the flowers look or...(more)
- The appetizer were really good. It was a small wedding, and they splurged on the food.
- ^^^s
- dh requested his fav. music the entire time b/c we were the only ones on the dance floor.
- New York City Does anyone go to a Catholic Family Mass that they really like, ideally in the UES?
- I used to like St Joes on 86th st because the had a room to take the little fussy people
- not ues, but we used to attend old st patrick's in little italy. we lived nearbywhich made it easier. i also like church of our savior which is 37/park
- op: My dad is 8 and I’d like her to feel more engaged in the service. I guess at that age I didn’t love going to Mass either.
- ^^dd, not dad!
- My dc are 12 and 16 and still hate it. And they go to catholic school
- I find it frustrating that it is essentially a meaningless chore and obligation. Is that inevitably part of growing up Catholic?
- ^^chore for kids
- Good question. I know I wouldn’t go myself but dh is fairly devout. I stopped going as soon as I was able to make my own decisions. But then I went and married a CATHOLIC
- op: I stopped going in college but now that I have faced some stressful and tough health situations, find solace in the Mass. I can understand why a child is desperately bored
- ^^though and find it silly to take them.
- op: And if I hadn’t married a devout Catholic I don’t know if my daughter would be doing her First Communion.
- Lol
- When I started going again with DH, I did start to like it, but three things happened 1) we moved to a very big catholic area and masses are packed, generally. 2) I really...(more)
- op: I stopped going in college but now that I have faced some stressful and tough health situations, find solace in the Mass. I can understand why a child is desperately bored
- I find it frustrating that it is essentially a meaningless chore and obligation. Is that inevitably part of growing up Catholic?
- op: My dad is 8 and I’d like her to feel more engaged in the service. I guess at that age I didn’t love going to Mass either.
- New York City Know of any event spaces/bars or restaurants w/ separate room for party for DD's bat mitzvah (small-ish 70ppl, not too $$$). Anyone?
- Loads what are you looking for? Will all 70 be dancing do you want buffet/seated dinner? etc
- I think just a cocktail party. 40 kids, 30 adults. Want dancing for the kids. I'm seriously broke.
- Hmm ok let me think!
- Thank you. I'm so paralyzed at the idea of this project I've done nothing.
- Ok here is always the easiest thing to do in NYC for events go right to a restaurant on an off day/day/time it is closed or has a private room in back. Another good go to will be...(more)
- I don't know where to try. How do I find out which places in the theatre district are "night time" only?
- Do a quick search for supper clubs/dance halls/club in the theatre district and do a search for restaurants everywhere with private rooms. That is a very good option for any day...(more)
- ^^ for instance I went to a lot of BMs at the rooftop of the Empire Hotel 10 or so years ago there are a lot of places around the city like that you just need to do a google...(more)
- THank you! I hadn't thought about the theater district.
- ^^ for instance I went to a lot of BMs at the rooftop of the Empire Hotel 10 or so years ago there are a lot of places around the city like that you just need to do a google...(more)
- Google is your friend jfc.
- Do a quick search for supper clubs/dance halls/club in the theatre district and do a search for restaurants everywhere with private rooms. That is a very good option for any day...(more)
- I don't know where to try. How do I find out which places in the theatre district are "night time" only?
- What time of the year?
- June
- Even better try a rooftop: hotel, bar, restaurant - also look into university clubs cheap and beautiful.
- June
- Ok here is always the easiest thing to do in NYC for events go right to a restaurant on an off day/day/time it is closed or has a private room in back. Another good go to will be...(more)
- Thank you. I'm so paralyzed at the idea of this project I've done nothing.
- Hmm ok let me think!
- I think just a cocktail party. 40 kids, 30 adults. Want dancing for the kids. I'm seriously broke.
- wow.OR goes aboveand beyond and not even a thank you just a complaint - good luck with your shit OP
- JFC lady, I was away from my computer! You suck.
- Loads what are you looking for? Will all 70 be dancing do you want buffet/seated dinner? etc
- New York City What were the cafeterias in your college called, cafeteria, dining halls...?
- The hall.
- the mezzanine. we were allowed to smoke. there were vending machines. Berkeley College, NYC
- where is this?
- Dining hall, Yale, seems pretentious now
- cafeteria
- Vomitorium....(more)
- New York City What are the best white sneakers to wear with dresses over the summer other than Stan Smiths?
- Superstars
- Superga
- Vans slip on
- Welcome, newbie!
- Best? The ones you like.
- Fashion sheep.
- Is that s brand?
- Yes second line of Death to Tennis
- Second line of middle aged women who are still 13 in too many ways.
- op: Ha! You are right but I was really just being lazy because I hate shopping. Rather than searching online I wanted a few recommendations to get me started. Clearly I will...(more)
- op: So rephrase--what brands do you like as I have no clue where to start looking and don't want to be a sheep and wear Stan Smiths which I find uncomfortable and boring.
- op: Ha! You are right but I was really just being lazy because I hate shopping. Rather than searching online I wanted a few recommendations to get me started. Clearly I will...(more)
- Is that s brand?
- New York City Has anyone done a family vacation in belleport,NY and if so what’s it like?
- New York City Http://www.topwellnesszone.com/pure-cbd-extract-oil/...(more)
- New York City Beginnings Nursery...(more)
- my dd went there for 4 years; she's in tenth grade now, so not sure how helpful I'd be...
- New York City Men's dress shoes...(more)
- ow about one quality pair? Look for Allen Edmonds on sale. They can be resoled and recrafted, have a very long life.
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- Don’t pick up the phone
- Why did you copy and paste this?
- sorry I posted it in chicago by accident and then put it in nyc
- she's the boss if you want to make a difference- become the boss.= a boss
- New York City My downstairs neighbors have a newborn. I heard him crying...(more)
- I get that
- When I hear neighbors’ crying kids my first thought is YAY!!!! It ISNT mine! (Last was a colicky nightmare)
- I totally understand.
- New York City Any thoughts/experiences with Zinc, Brownstone, or Pinnacle for SAT/ACT tutoring? Thanks in advance.
- My dc did a small group class at Princeton Review. It was for 4 weeks in August (2 or 3 days a week).
- New York City Can someone recommend a good fat spot reducing treatment in an office with minimal downtime? There are so many now!
- I think you should just stick with Chopp'd for lunch with a squeeze of lemon juce.
- New York City Is it a thing to add Scotch to beer? I am worried about my husband's drinking and the other day as he added Scotch to his beer, he assured me that people did this.
- boilermaker? who the fuck drinks that at home? it's something rowdy guys do at a bar when they want to get really fucked up.
- ^^and i would advise you to not tiptoe around the drinking issue if you're concerned. the best thing you can do is talk about it honestly and openly, without being in denial and...(more)
- op: I agree and have addressed it but he flips it on me and either says his life with me is miserable or says I have a drinking problem. He handles alcohol relatively well in a...(more)
- start planning an exit--for him, if you can. my dh was an addict and i forced him to go into therapy and 12 step, and to move out until he was established in a genuine recovery....(more)
- op: I'd love to do that but not sure how to get him to see he has a problem. He did get into a drunken yelling match with his bil 2 Thanksgivings ago, but apparently that was...(more)
- you don't need "proof" or a disaster in order to do what makes life better and safer for you and your kid. are you in therapy? try it--and ideally with someone who works with...(more)
- op: Thank you. It looks really good.
- you don't need "proof" or a disaster in order to do what makes life better and safer for you and your kid. are you in therapy? try it--and ideally with someone who works with...(more)
- op: I'd love to do that but not sure how to get him to see he has a problem. He did get into a drunken yelling match with his bil 2 Thanksgivings ago, but apparently that was...(more)
- start planning an exit--for him, if you can. my dh was an addict and i forced him to go into therapy and 12 step, and to move out until he was established in a genuine recovery....(more)
- op: I agree and have addressed it but he flips it on me and either says his life with me is miserable or says I have a drinking problem. He handles alcohol relatively well in a...(more)
- op: Thanks. So on the one hand he wasn't making it up...but on the other it does confirm he has a drinking problem. That is not somethings a 50 year old should be doing with...(more)
- ^^and i would advise you to not tiptoe around the drinking issue if you're concerned. the best thing you can do is talk about it honestly and openly, without being in denial and...(more)
- I've had a margarita made witth beer and tequila before, but never heard of combining Scotch and beer.
- hmm..not sure "people" do this..maybe a few who really like to get shitty
- They do it all the time on The Wire. i associate it with hard-drinking cops and firefighters
- op: Ahhh, yes according to him those are down to earth, good guys, while apparently me and my family are are pretentious liberal elites. I am not sure how I could have...(more)
- op: ^^why he wanted to marry me
- op: Ahhh, yes according to him those are down to earth, good guys, while apparently me and my family are are pretentious liberal elites. I am not sure how I could have...(more)
- boilermaker? who the fuck drinks that at home? it's something rowdy guys do at a bar when they want to get really fucked up.
- New York City Promotional Products...(more)
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- bloomingdale
- Macys -- and if you have money, Brooks Brothers
- My DH bought some amazing suits at the Union Square Burlington. Bout Hickey Freeman younger line called Hickey for $179 from $1200 original.
- Starting March 20 he should check out the Reiss London Sample Sale at 260 Fifth Avenue
- Theory. Wearing one makes you feel like you are on top of the world
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- New York City What NYC radio stations do you listen to?
- qxr. kcr. occasionally bgo.
- WNYC
- In the morning 103.5 - I like Cubby and Carolina... In the car usually 102.3 or 104.3...
- FUV
- me too when i listen to radio .. i usually listen to sirius xmm stream
- QXR, WNYC, WFUV - and I don't live in NYC anymore; I listen online.
- i've always loved the radio, the surprise of hearing something i wasn't thinking about, etc. and i love that we can listen to stations wherever we are now. though in the car, i...(more)
- I know. And I love that you can go on their apps and listen anytime regardless of where you are.
- i'm doing that right now, because WKCR's signal is weak. i'm home, and streaming it.
- I know. And I love that you can go on their apps and listen anytime regardless of where you are.
- i've always loved the radio, the surprise of hearing something i wasn't thinking about, etc. and i love that we can listen to stations wherever we are now. though in the car, i...(more)
- wqxr and wnyc. that's it. I'd still listen to WDRE if I could
- WNYC and 1010WINS
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