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  1. Expecting Overwhelmed...(more) 3-22-2019 6:03pm (16 replies)
    my husband and I are expecting our 2nd child together in late April. We have a two year old son and I have a step son that is 7. I have been so worried about post partum depression (I have a history of depression). With my youngest it was just him, no other babies, it was much easier and my husband was a huge help. I’ve been freaking out about being home 24/7 with my newborn and toddler alone 24/7 as I don’t really have any family (I usually work full time) I had been taking comfort in knowing that at least at some point they will both nap and I can have a breather. Now come to find out my husband expects me to keep my step son all summer as well. As much as I wouldn’t mind usually, I just don’t want to. That takes any breathing time away and it really just scares me. Last time his mom didn’t work so she kept him until about 2 when me or my husband would go pick him up. I would keep him half of the time. Now I just feel cornered as none of this was discuss
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    • i started medication on the day I delivered my 2nd. Didn't have ppd the second time around. 3-22-2019 6:04pm
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      • What medication? 3-22-2019 6:05pm
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        • this was almost 12 years ago. I believe it was fluoxetine. 3-22-2019 6:08pm
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    • oh hell no to that...hire a PT sitter from April-Sept then. 3-22-2019 6:06pm
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      • ^and WTF...you aren't a free babysitter for your step son's mother while she has the entire summer kid-free 3-22-2019 6:08pm
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        • ^it's obvious your dh's ex is getting shit for not taking his son enough so he has found a way to placate his ex by offering for you to babysit him all summer 3-22-2019 6:11pm
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          • np: wow, you sure pulled that one out of your ass. you know nothing. 3-22-2019 6:12pm
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            • really? Why else would he offer OP up to take the 7 yr old ALL summer when she has a toddler and a newborn to deal with? 3-22-2019 6:12pm
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          • - no subject -...(more) 3-22-2019 6:13pm
            Actually we have a court order to have him half time, and we end up having him more than she does.
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    • he is certainly asking a lot 3-22-2019 6:07pm
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    • Icing on the cake...(more) 3-22-2019 6:10pm
      He’s also planning on working as much overtime as possible because without my income we will be struggling to pay the bills so I would be with them majority of the time
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      • read: he's planning on staying away as much as possible so he does't have to deal with 3 screaming kids. He will be sure to stay out of the house until at least 7 pm when they are...(more) 3-22-2019 6:12pm
        all in bed
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        • - no subject -...(more) 3-22-2019 6:22pm
          I agree. I feel like he does that now. He comes home, needs a nap even though I’m the one 8and a half months pregnant then sits them in front of the tv for the last hour before bed. I just went on maternity leave last Friday put on bed rest due to complications and he’s the one that gets to nap (not like I’m sitting on my ass all day. Dealing with our toddler, cooking, cleaning, shopping, drywalling the nursery to get it ready for paint etc.
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    • I would have the 7 yo be your "helper". Make it a "job" and reward him for his help. 3-22-2019 6:13pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 3-22-2019 6:27pm
        I will be doing that with the half time I do agree to have him, but I don’t think it’s fair that I have to do it alone all summer with a newborn a toddler and a 7 year old all summer, or that it was pushed on me and agreed on without my knowledge
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        • Sounds like a stressful situation, I'm sorry. I do think some anti-anxiety meds wouldn't hurt. 3-22-2019 6:29pm
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  2. Expecting Do you ever think about teaching English as a career?...(more) 3-6-2019 2:45am (1 reply)
    Nowadays there are many opportunities (sevenenglish) for such a profession in China. We can easily boost our career in the education sector. If you think I am right then just send me your reply I am right or not.
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    • Yes, I looked online about it before deciding against moving forward. I have a friend who lived in South Korea for awhile after college. She taught English. 3-6-2019 3:21am
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  3. Expecting Ablation surgery to correct Afib Heart...(more) 1-12-2019 3:14pm (0 replies)
    Anyone have this surgery before? I could use insight or advise
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  4. Expecting Nyc OBGYN who doesn’t fat shame...(more) 12-31-2018 7:26pm (5 replies)
    Holy grail request. Need to set up prenatal visit for number 2 and I’m overweight. Any OB recommendations who don’t fat shame?
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    • oh my god, yes, but you can't get an appointment with her for 3 months. Still want it? 12-31-2018 7:27pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 12-31-2018 7:28pm
        Who??
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      • ^^^sorry, just realized, she is only a GYN, not an OB 12-31-2018 7:28pm
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    • I think they all "fat shame" because, truthfully (I know a medical malpractice attorney who told me this): there is a shitton more liability in delivering a larger baby to a...(more) 12-31-2018 7:29pm
      larger mother. Liability on both sides, mother/baby - each has a much, much higher risk of dying, significant injury with extra weight
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      • - no subject -...(more) 12-31-2018 7:34pm
        Oh I get that. I’m a lawyer too ha. But there are still levels of shaming.
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  5. Expecting Online Maternity Course...(more) 12-27-2018 4:43am (0 replies)
    Looking for exercises that will make your delivery smooth? Get the maternity course online, not only this you will also get to know about week by week development of your child. Website: https://abudo.com/our-courses/maternity/
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  6. Expecting Is it normal to be trying for over six months without any success? It's getting a little frustrating, to be honest. I've been really close to losing it. So, I though I'll ask. Too...(more) 12-7-2018 7:42am (7 replies)
    early to check in with a doctor? Or should we go for it? Any kind of advice is helpful.
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    • I thought the rule was the for 6 months then check with doc. How old are you? First pregnancy? 12-7-2018 7:43am
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    • Have you used the ovulation sticks? Obviously it might be something other than that but that’s what worked for me 3X. 12-7-2018 7:45am
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      • ^^ is this your first time trying? 12-7-2018 7:46am
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    • Dr's want you to try for a year but if you are a little older go to Dr and tell them you have been trying for a year. They may have you work on it another year so time flies if...(more) 12-7-2018 7:46am
      you are against a clock
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    • I will turn thirty in Feb. I have never used an ovulation stick. And, it is indeed, my first time TTC. Fact is, I've checked in with a friend who's a doctor. She always assures me...(more) 12-8-2018 5:53am
      that there's nothing wrong.I'm really frustrated with the way these doctors deal with you. I mean, I expected a lot more from her considering she's my friend. Also, yes you're right. That's what she said! She told me that six months is nothing, I should keep trying. That's why I've turned to you, people. Have you all also experienced this? And, what options do I have? Should I just book an appointment with another doctor, then? Any kind of advice would be appreciated.
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      • I think you should definitely check in with a doctor. Six months is the right time. TTC is bound to be frustrating. So, don't let it get to you! Good luck to you. I hope you get...(more) 12-9-2018 6:29am
        lucky, really quickly. Sending baby dust your way, honey.
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    • - no subject -...(more) 2-26-2019 4:20am
      Hey, it's completely fine. I think you are just overthinking. The doctors usually say that it takes about a year to conceive normally. Therefore, I would say dont be this hard on yourself. However, if you have been trying and have irregular periods then you can visit the doctor. Also if previously if you have been diagnosed with a disorder previously then also you can visit them. Dont delay! Also, make sure to visit the right clinic for the process. This really matters! I am saying this from my own experience. The clinic I am visiting with them things are going really well. The main reason for this is the clinic. I researched a lot about them before visiting them. Good luck to you. If you need any help let me know.
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  7. Expecting Excited...(more) 12-3-2018 8:18am (10 replies)
    I'm new to this forum. I'm a mom to be! It's amazing how a few months can life-changing. Six months ago I was devastated. I had lost a baby to miscarriage. I recently underwent treatment. It's been a great decision. I'm pregnant, now, with the help of IVF. The facility where I underwent treatment was a good place, too. They have a really high success rate. And, the doctors advised me to go for it. It's been a good experience so far. I hope things go smoothly from here!
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    • welcome and congrats - you should only post on toddler board though. We all do despite our age of kids 12-3-2018 8:18am
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      • - no subject -...(more) 12-3-2018 8:21am
        hey thank you. im still finding my way about the forum! ill make sure I post the next one on the toddler board
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        • also only post in the subject line 12-3-2018 8:22am
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          • This is spam for a financial scam 12-3-2018 8:23am
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    • Did you use Baba Ganouch to become fertile? 12-3-2018 8:19am
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    • Welcome!...(more) 12-7-2018 7:24am
      Welcome to the forum! You're a brave woman. I'm glad things are looking up for you, finally. It's good to see such a positive post. I hope things run along smoothly for you. Here's to a healthy pregnancy. Good luck to you and good day.
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  8. Expecting Where I will get the best hotel in Langkawi?...(more) 12-3-2018 2:53am (1 reply)
    Hello all, I have a business trip to Langkawi for 3 days. I am searching for the best hotel. One of my friends personally recommended me this https://www.ambong-ambong.com/. So can anyone give the better option to find the best one? Thank you
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  9. Expecting Logan as a girlís name? Thoughts? 11-16-2018 11:34am (6 replies)
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    • Nice name for an executive assistant 11-16-2018 11:34am
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    • Itís enough as a boys name, but to do that to a girl is just cruel 11-16-2018 11:35am
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    • my neice. I like it 11-16-2018 11:35am
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    • I don't like these name trends 11-16-2018 11:37am
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    • dd's bff who's 20-love her, so love the name 11-16-2018 11:40am
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    • So many pretty girls names out there. Why use something so ambiguous?? 11-16-2018 11:48am
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  10. Expecting Cool documentary on Amazon Prime about exploitative (weird for the sake of profit) movies...(more) 10-8-2018 4:22pm (7 replies)
    • it's interesting because it goes back to like the 20's 10-8-2018 4:23pm
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    • aren't most movies made for the sake of profit? 10-8-2018 4:24pm
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      • its a sort of cult category like the blackspolitation films of the 70s. its not really a good descriptor 10-8-2018 4:25pm
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      • Yeah but these did weird things. Like there was a movie in 1940 ostensibly about reproduction, which was basically just an excuse to show naked women and vaginas 10-8-2018 4:26pm
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        • nice 10-8-2018 4:26pm
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          • There was also this movie from the 1920s, by MGM, about freaks...(more) 10-8-2018 4:27pm
            • now they're talking about "educational" movies about nudist colonies, but again it's really just an excuse to show naked people 10-8-2018 4:32pm
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  11. Expecting To boost replies (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts; (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top; and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 3:38pm (4 replies)
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    • Oh IWM!!! Youíre such a card!!! 10-8-2018 3:44pm
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      • My posts aren't getting enough replies so I'm trying to fix it 10-8-2018 3:45pm
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    • Bless your heart! 10-8-2018 3:44pm
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      • Thanks. Us smart people need to help those who aren't as smart. 10-8-2018 3:47pm
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  12. Expecting This post has been disliked 3 times. showTo NOT CLOG YBM, (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts; (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top; and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 3:37pm (7 replies)
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    • Okay Vlad! 10-8-2018 3:38pm
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    • Our Troll is back!!! 10-8-2018 3:38pm
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    • talk about needless posts. and hide. 10-8-2018 3:38pm
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    • Oh IWP!! You are such a card!!! 10-8-2018 3:38pm
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    • Time for a borscht break! 10-8-2018 3:41pm
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    • Itís Model Mom!!! 10-8-2018 3:42pm
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  13. Expecting Does anyone remember that genius Marylin Vos Savant? She'd answer questions in a newspaper in the 80's. I think she's probably dead now 10-8-2018 3:33pm (9 replies)
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    • she's still in Parade magazine! 10-8-2018 3:33pm
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      • Is she like 90 now? 10-8-2018 3:34pm
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    • Ha i do! Parade magazine was my favorite. 10-8-2018 3:33pm
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    • Not dead, quite the contrary. Ia lways loved that her last name was SAVANT...(more) 10-8-2018 3:34pm
      • she must be loaded - her DH invented the Jarvek artifical heart 10-8-2018 3:35pm
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    • i remember her - she was a member of Mensa -- always liked her. 10-8-2018 3:34pm
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    • yes, I used to read her 10-8-2018 3:34pm
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    • Still alive and she looks great, video from last year...(more) 10-8-2018 3:35pm
    • I remember. It sounded like a fake name for a savant 10-8-2018 3:37pm
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  14. Expecting It's so sad how some people look amazing naked, like you want to kiss their body, and others are revolting. There's not much inbetween 10-8-2018 3:15pm (8 replies)
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    • I disagree 10-8-2018 3:16pm
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      • disagreeing doesn't change anything 10-8-2018 3:17pm
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        • Beauty is subjective 10-8-2018 3:17pm
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    • dh. ITA. 10-8-2018 3:16pm
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    • attracted or not. 10-8-2018 3:17pm
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    • Follow up: Also, working out and stuff doesn't really have much impact. Some people just have amazing bodies genetically, some don't. 10-8-2018 3:19pm
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    • sad? that isn't the word i would use 10-8-2018 3:24pm
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      • some people look like human beings, others look like a gross creature 10-8-2018 3:26pm
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  15. Expecting To enjoy YBM, (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts; (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top; and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 3:15pm (2 replies)
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    • lol 10-8-2018 3:16pm
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    • don't tell me what to do 10-8-2018 3:20pm
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  16. Expecting IWP: Just read that a woman who takes steroids is guaranteed to grow a large clitoris. Isn't that weird?! 10-8-2018 2:48pm (5 replies)
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    • or great? 10-8-2018 2:50pm
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      • IWP: Why great? I think that's really odd. Could women also grow testicles if they take enough steroids? 10-8-2018 2:51pm
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    • Go away Single Dad. 10-8-2018 2:51pm
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      • IWP: IWPs don't have any DC's, we avoid stress. 10-8-2018 2:52pm
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        • avoid life really. ^ 10-8-2018 2:53pm
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  17. Expecting So I tried to become a porn star, and it's insanely competitive. Unless you're beautiful you have no chance, absolutely no chance 10-8-2018 2:05pm (11 replies)
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    • i guess this makes sense. 10-8-2018 2:07pm
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    • You could probably get a stripper job on the day shift. Not night , thatís prime time. 10-8-2018 2:07pm
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    • What skills did you bring to producers? 10-8-2018 2:07pm
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    • some people like watching ugly people have sex. find someone who specializes in that fetish. 10-8-2018 2:07pm
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    • Presumably if you have some trick - you can suck a golf ball through 20' of garden hose - or something, then you can get in. But you can be an amateur cammer. That, I am told, is...(more) 10-8-2018 2:08pm
      very popular these days
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      • Doesnít pay well though 10-8-2018 2:09pm
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        • I don't know. But it seems pretty easy and you can work from home. 10-8-2018 2:09pm
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  18. Expecting This post has been disliked 3 times. showTo enjoy YBM, (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts; (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top; and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 1:49pm (11 replies)
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    • This is the weirdest troll we have had in a while here. 10-8-2018 1:50pm
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      • YBM posters just start a thread and wait for replies. They only look at their own sticky'd threads. For this reason, threads get very few replies. 10-8-2018 1:51pm
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        • I donít think you can say how others use the board here. 10-8-2018 1:52pm
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          • It's obvious, based on the small number of replies each thread gets 10-8-2018 1:55pm
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            • No, itís not. Iíd 10-8-2018 1:56pm
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              • .if Iím interested in a thread I respond, it stays stickied, and I participate as long as it goes. Threads here arenít meant to go on for hours or days. 10-8-2018 1:56pm
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                • But that causes your screen and attention to be consumed by only your sticky'd threads. You're missing out on the other threads 10-8-2018 1:57pm
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                  • Trust me I can walk and chew gum at the same time. While Iím waiting for more responses I refresh. Itís all good. 10-8-2018 1:57pm
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                    • But if you refresh all you see is your sticky'd posts. The screen only has so much room 10-8-2018 1:58pm
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                      • Iím gonna keep doing it my way. It works for me just fine. 10-8-2018 2:00pm
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                        • Annnnd that's why YBM has tons of few-reply threads. 10-8-2018 2:03pm
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  19. Expecting IWP: Are names that end in ladah fancy? Like Falladah? Or Melladah? 10-8-2018 1:39pm (3 replies)
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    • The Trumpladahs are quite fancy 10-8-2018 1:40pm
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      • IWP: I think it would be Trumpaladah 10-8-2018 1:45pm
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        • Oompahloompahladah 10-8-2018 1:46pm
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  20. Expecting Did anyone see last night's Family Guy and its thoughts on marriage? What do you think? Are they right? They said all spouses want to kill each other 10-8-2018 1:18pm (3 replies)
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    • how long has seth mcfarlane been married? 10-8-2018 1:19pm
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      • rumor is he's gay 10-8-2018 1:34pm
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    • i'm sure all marriages have their moments, i've certainly had plenty 10-8-2018 1:19pm
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  21. Expecting IWP: Science fiction writers are so dumb. Alien ships are going to be like 200 miles long, and aliens will each be the size of the Empire State Building. Open your mind writers! 10-8-2018 1:12pm (2 replies)
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    • This post has been deleted. 10-8-2018 1:13pm
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      • IWP: I didn't cut and paste this 10-8-2018 1:15pm
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  22. Expecting This post has been disliked 3 times. showTo enjoy YBM, (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts; (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top; and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 12:58pm (9 replies)
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    • Thanks IWP! 10-8-2018 12:58pm
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      • This is seriously a problem with this board. People focus only on their own threads, which is why no one's threads get many replies. 10-8-2018 12:59pm
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        • ? 10-8-2018 1:00pm
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          • Every YBM poster has their own threads stickied, waiting for someone to reply. But that's the exact reason why they don't get replies...(more) 10-8-2018 1:04pm
            everyone is doing that
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        • Thanks IWP!!! 10-8-2018 1:01pm
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    • VLAD!!! 10-8-2018 12:59pm
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    • Our troll is back!!! 10-8-2018 12:59pm
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  23. Expecting The actress Nancy Paul from the 80's looked EXACTLY like Nicole Kidman...(more) 10-8-2018 12:53pm (1 reply)
  24. Expecting To enjoy YBM, (a) never sticky your posts, so you see others' posts, (b) sort by "most active" so threads with the latest reply are up top, and (c) don't start needless threads 10-8-2018 12:41pm (0 replies)
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  25. Expecting Reminder: To enjoy YBM, (a) Don't start new threads (b) sort by "most active" so the thread with the latest reply is on top, and (c) set it to never sticky your posts, to save...(more) 10-6-2018 8:46pm (3 replies)
    screen space
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    • I never set it to most active...ever 10-6-2018 8:47pm
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    • don't tell me how to use YBM 10-6-2018 8:47pm
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      • This. I donít need someone to tell me how to do something Iíve been doing daily for eleven years ferchristsakes 10-6-2018 8:51pm
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