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- no one posts here
- Friends is great
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- Fine if you get into one of the 3
- Elementary Do you think travel sports are too much for elementary age kids?
- not 5th grade
- 5th grade? are you f'in kidding me? come on
- Yes
- That's when they are easiest, it gets a lot harder when homework starts piling up.
- Unless the kid is totally into it, loves it and only wants to do that, it's fine. If they're doing it bc the parent is pushing them, it's too much.
- This. The kid has to love it because it also robs the family of so much weekend time
- Not necessarily. Depends on the sport & comittment
- it wasnt for ds- he loved his sport. it was too much for me though. it stole my weekends
- this...it's a ridiculous expectation or youth sports.
- No
- No
- FFS YES...you people have been brainwashed. Come on...the only people benefiting are these paid coaches and tournament organizers. it does nothing but separate your families and...(more)
- oh but my ds loves it and it gives him self-esteem, and helps him focus. BULLSHIT
- not 5th grade
- Elementary This post has been deleted.
- i think he's a great dad. i get it. why would you want a day to go by where you dont see your own child
- ^^^ i dont think it means anything about the marriage i think it means he is sad taht his intact family is broken bc he has a child involved. which is normal
- Cause when you are constantly sad that your kid with his mom and you are here without him doesn't sound healthy but I might be wrong.
- i cant relate exactly bc i am not divorced but i see my kids every day and i am involved in their day to day and he is adjusting to not doing that and it has to be painful.
- You don't miss your dc when they are with your ex?
- ex is not involved, so when my dc is with grandparents for a weekend, I don't miss him. Maybe because I see I am with dc everyday
- So imagine cutting that time in half. Not a once in a while break, but losing half of your time with him.
- I guess it's hard for me to put myself in other's person's shoes. I just feel that when you are sad about it the time when you are not with kid, it's not helping you to move on...(more)
- Absolutely. But connecting to his divorce is missing the point.
- he should not be moving on with his life he should be focused on raising his child. you want him to prioritize you. do you prioritize him over your own kids?
- I guess it's hard for me to put myself in other's person's shoes. I just feel that when you are sad about it the time when you are not with kid, it's not helping you to move on...(more)
- if you dont want to be bothered with a man who has a child then dont get involved with him. he sounds responsible and involved wiht his child. that has to come first
- So imagine cutting that time in half. Not a once in a while break, but losing half of your time with him.
- ex is not involved, so when my dc is with grandparents for a weekend, I don't miss him. Maybe because I see I am with dc everyday
- it's a good thing. beware of any man who WOULDN"T miss his kids
- Do you have children?
- I would. It’s not the 2 days, it’s all the days. Missing half of everything.
- I always miss my kids when they leave. I cant wait for me time and then after 4 hrs im wishing i could bring them home.
- do you have 50/50 physical custody?
- more like 70/30. they are with me a lot more than their father.
- do you have 50/50 physical custody?
- i think he's a great dad. i get it. why would you want a day to go by where you dont see your own child
- Elementary My son started 4th grade and I think he ended up in a class which kids are not too academically inclined. Why do I think this? Because the smarter kids that were with him in...(more)
- let it go
- We are all on toddler
- No, and you need to step back because you are entering crazy mom territory.
- You have no idea who all the smart kids are.
- Elementary How many shells did Evan have to start?...(more)
- 40
- who cares
- Ended with 37. +9 for the 9 he gave away = 46. -6 for the six he found =40.
- Elementary Gymnastics...(more)
- keep going. don't do travel yet
- this
- Let her quit
- her reason is very strange. she wants to "chillax" in elementary school??
- teen older sister......(more)
- whatever she wants. i don't want my kid to be a professional gymnast.
- a lot of gymnastics girls go on to dance. is she interested in ballet/dance?
- - no subject -...(more)
- If she does not love it it's not going anywhere, you waste a lot of money in the process for nothing.
- - no subject -...(more)
- I was a gymnast for 10 years. If she doesn't love it, she shouldn't do it -- even if she is a natural. Gym culture can be SUPER weird, and it is miserable if you don't love the...(more)
- > Why can't she just stay in rec classes, and not join the team? Experience the joy of learning new skills without all the other stuff?
- Rec class...(more)
- I stepped away to get work done. Really, gymnastics is too hard to do because you have to. Don't push her. Introduce her to other things (diving, dance) that she may enjoy.
- Rec class...(more)
- > Why can't she just stay in rec classes, and not join the team? Experience the joy of learning new skills without all the other stuff?
- keep going. don't do travel yet
- Elementary Dh knows I have to wake u at 7am yet he's still up
- he wants a piece
- Why are you up?
- Elementary Advice?...(more)
- Elementary Can anyone give me any info on Brooklyn Friends School? Is it a good school? Hard to get into? Do they take seriously the Quaker values?
- yes, no, no
- ^^^friend's ds with executive function issues thrived there
- why no?
- Absolutely adore BFS but have not been there in 10 years
- It is a fine school- middle of the pack when it comes to Friends. I don't think it is too hard to get into. I think they take the quaker values seriously.
- Pretty good, not really, almost not at all
- Don't they go to meeting every week?
- np pretty sure they do
- yeah, and kids look at their phones
- I teach at a very quaker school and we battle that too. But ti sounds like you are enrolled there?
- for 5 years. no longer
- I am really sad to hear that Quakerism isn't central to the school anymore.
- when were you there?
- np can't imagine that being allowed
- I should be clear: it isn't allowed. But kids make choices and you have to address them. If they aren't addressing it, that is unfortunate.
- for 5 years. no longer
- I teach at a very quaker school and we battle that too. But ti sounds like you are enrolled there?
- Don't they go to meeting every week?
- if you live locally, I can't imagine sending dc there. PS 8, PS 29, PS 261 .. all better and free
- do they have community service?
- of course. it's brooklyn. I think all schools have some k-5 and it ramps up to a lot by HS
- community service is standard to schools i think. not brooklyn.
- In NYC. Sadly, not elsewhere
- I have never worked in NYC and have not encountered any school where there isn't some sort of community service happening.
- Quaker school it is constant. Several things within a month and also huge at global level
- i would think it would be less likely in NYC.
- not at all, have not seen it like NYC since working in NYC schools
- I have never worked in NYC and have not encountered any school where there isn't some sort of community service happening.
- In NYC. Sadly, not elsewhere
- community service is standard to schools i think. not brooklyn.
- of course. it's brooklyn. I think all schools have some k-5 and it ramps up to a lot by HS
- Aren't the class sizes larger at those public schools? And the facilities are not as nice?
- do they have community service?
- yes, no, no
- Elementary I don't like our sitter and I want to ler her go. Should I give her a 2-week notice, or tell her not to come back?
- give here two weeks pay and do not have her coome back
- Just let her go. You want someone you fired around your kids?
- Good point
- this
- Elementary I've posted before about losing my husband to cancer a few years ago. One child is doing very well in school; older (13) is having an extremely difficult time and has been kicked...(more)
- My friend did it for her dd and they had a great experience - let me see what it was.
- ^ University Prep
- ^ ah just realized this is only Texas
- Thx. We're in LA, but I've been given a few options. It's all so overwhelming, but I know with tutors and a schedule at hand, we will make it work. Even if it's only for a few...(more)
- ^ ah just realized this is only Texas
- ^ University Prep
- Your state probably has a free remote program. What state are you in?
- I’m so sorry for your loss and your children’s loss. Xoxo
- This.
- Thank you both!
- This.
- I think it's a great idea. And she can progress at her own pace. So sorry for your loss and troubles.
- Thank you.
- i think that's a great option. i pulled my 8th grader out of his middle school a few months ago, and we've been going through a local charter-but all the work is online. he's so...(more)
- Op: Good to know. I've reached out to a few people in my area who are doing the online school (just did not like the homeschool options I toured). Too, she is a real sleepyhead,...(more)
- My friend did it for her dd and they had a great experience - let me see what it was.
- Elementary I am trying to get a gift for a black classmate of my ds—looked at Stratego that my dh said he loved as a child, but all the characters are white. I can’t understand how the game...(more)
- How about checkers? It’s for the African American and Native American.
- Just get some dominos
- Get the stratego. We know we live in a white world.
- Op: I’m a white latinx and I feel giving the dd the game is clumsy.
- I disagree, but am black.
- Thanks, it helps to hear it wouldn’t bother you. Being white and giving this game does change the dynamic a bit for me. Plus this child in the past has rejected his skin color...(more)
- You can’t hide from the child that he’s in the minority. This is nuts.
- op: I just want to give the df a gift in which he sees himself represented. As a latinx, I can’t describe the emotions of finally seeing yourself represented on the screen, etc.
- You can’t hide from the child that he’s in the minority. This is nuts.
- Thanks, it helps to hear it wouldn’t bother you. Being white and giving this game does change the dynamic a bit for me. Plus this child in the past has rejected his skin color...(more)
- Op^^ df....plus I know the family...anyway, these responses are convincing me to just get the game.
- np: It's a "meh" game. Your DH's childhood memories notwithstanding, just choose another game.
- op: I never played it. He swears by it!
- np: It's a "meh" game. Your DH's childhood memories notwithstanding, just choose another game.
- I disagree, but am black.
- Op: I’m a white latinx and I feel giving the dd the game is clumsy.
- dude, get him stratego. you think he hasn't experienced this before?
- just don't get lotion. I got a lot of slack for that.
- I remember that. You did get a lot of slack but I think it was okay in the end.
- i never did hear from the mom.
- If I remember correctly, the moms of color here were supportive of the basket.
- yes
- Because it was really nice lotion.
- What do you people think we (black) mothers are thinking?
- No the white moms where unkind to her. The black moms were like that's a nice gift.
- Please tell me this post and that one were fake. White people think we don’’t like generic gifts?
- No - they thought somehow the giver was implying ashy skin. Which she was not.
- No offense, but white people just don’t get us.
- I'm white, and not offended by this. Don't give me a basket of lotion though. :-)
- op: It’s sad and true.
- No offense, but white people just don’t get us.
- No - they thought somehow the giver was implying ashy skin. Which she was not.
- Please tell me this post and that one were fake. White people think we don’’t like generic gifts?
- No the white moms where unkind to her. The black moms were like that's a nice gift.
- yes
- If I remember correctly, the moms of color here were supportive of the basket.
- i never did hear from the mom.
- Flack. What happened?
- flak
- Apologies. Autocorrect.
- yes
- Apologies. Autocorrect.
- i got lotions and perfumes for a sweet sixteen present and was criticized because of the connotation that I was implying Black people have dry skin
- You guys are overthinking this. We like nice skin products too.
- flak
- flak
- I remember that. You did get a lot of slack but I think it was okay in the end.
- I was buying a board game for a child with two dads and all seemed to have a mom and dad on the box!
- Elementary My husband takes forever to come to the dinner table because he is always in the middle of something. He knows it bothers me that we are all sitting waiting for him and we agreed...(more)
- It’s disrespectful for sure.
- Dh or dc??
- DH!
- He might be ADD?
- DH!
- I think your dh sounds like dick.
- maybe he should be in charge of dinner. then he will have plenty of warning.
- dh here. i stopped making dinner for dw for r this reason. she just won't sit at the table and eat with us so we ignore her and its just me and the kids who eat.
- when is the divorce final
- this prevents divorce. we used to fight over this
- op: we fight plenty over this and it seems so crazy to me. It's like he totally doesn't understand why it is frustrating to me.
- Can you set a timer for him?
- op: good idea. though seems a little silly to have to. but would have helped tonight when he insisted it was my fault for not warning him
- If he’s acting like a child then treat him like one! Of course, it should be done in a lighthearted way so a battle doesn’t begin.
- op: good idea. though seems a little silly to have to. but would have helped tonight when he insisted it was my fault for not warning him
- well i agree with you 100pct but since i started ignoring her things are more peaceful. it sucks that she Can't get off her phone to eat with us as a family
- That's sad. And the part about not caring enough to come eat with the kids is what bothers me the most.
- Yeah that’s sad. I love meals with my family. It really does make a difference.
- well she doesn't work. she has all the time in the world. but i have to cook and clean up after the dinner, she's so disconnected and doesn't contribute to the house
- Is she depressed?
- is this the wife you post about a lot who doesn't want sex etc?
- That's sad. And the part about not caring enough to come eat with the kids is what bothers me the most.
- Can you set a timer for him?
- op: we fight plenty over this and it seems so crazy to me. It's like he totally doesn't understand why it is frustrating to me.
- this prevents divorce. we used to fight over this
- when is the divorce final
- Oh come on. After all these years he can't be unaware that dinner is served at dinnertime. And, I'm sure he's not performing heart surgery in the basement. He can take a break.
- Sounds passive aggressive
- The dh. Not your comment!
- Sounds passive aggressive
- Not to hijack, but my dh eats sandwiches before dinner and then complains he’s not hungry. Has done this for years, even though he knows it hurts my feelings and makes me angry.
- I would be angry too.
- divorce him ASAP and find someone who isn't a total loser.
- Ok
- Sounds like a plan.
- Elementary Is it a fringe attitude to think of horse racing as animal abuse. My dh is a huge fan and made my dad watch the Derby with him. He talked it up and bet on it. I bit my tongue...(more)
- i think it's the horses that don't make it to the track or to the high level of training like the derby horses who suffer.
- This. The horses in the derby train for a couple of years and then spend the rest of their lives being well treated and reproducing
- i think it is and if you google it many do
- op: So it is abusive, right? It bothered me to watch it and would have preferred my dad not to, yet felt that as a marriage issue should keep my mouth shut as my dh has said in...(more)
- here's a write up in the Atlantic from 2014...(more)
- op: So it is abusive, right? It bothered me to watch it and would have preferred my dad not to, yet felt that as a marriage issue should keep my mouth shut as my dh has said in...(more)
- op: 8 year old dd, not dad
- I agree with you. The US racing industry allows animals to be drugged, and there are lots of scurrilous practices. At least in the UK (where I’m from) drugs are banned, horses get...(more)
- op: These compromises in marriage are hard! I feel my views get short thrift for this, but my dd may come to her own conclusions as she is older.
- np: you can talk to her about it, that there are differing views on it
- op: These compromises in marriage are hard! I feel my views get short thrift for this, but my dd may come to her own conclusions as she is older.
- what makes you think it's abusive?
- The horses are broken in way too young, for one. Training a regular horse, and you’d maybe put a saddle pad on their back when they’re three, and get on board for basic equitation...(more)
- here's a write up on what happens to horses after their racing career...(more)
- i think it's the horses that don't make it to the track or to the high level of training like the derby horses who suffer.
- Elementary Does anybody else feel very stressed out by your schedule?...(more)
- We don't. My dcs have one sport each, games always Sunday at the same time. Then we have a music teacher come to the house. That's it.
- They don't have practices for their sports? Just a game on Sunday?
- My dd rides so she does that once a week, my ds has a practice once a week (all this is on tuesdays), then music once a week, and the sunday game for ds.
- Sounds very manageable!
- yes, it definitely is.
- Sounds very manageable!
- My dd rides so she does that once a week, my ds has a practice once a week (all this is on tuesdays), then music once a week, and the sunday game for ds.
- They don't have practices for their sports? Just a game on Sunday?
- You need a sport with a more predictable schedule. Some are better, some worse.
- From what I hear around my town, all of the teams sports are like this. The travel teams are far worse in terms of time commitment required, though. A sport that consists of just...(more)
- My kids play all kinds of sports- travel & rec. some have very dependable schedules, some don’t. If it’s an issue for you, pick one that does or stick to swimming.
- He loves baseball, so we take on little league every spring. It's a 12-14 week juggle. We dropped soccer (only did it in the fall) because it was too much.
- Then it sounds like you have the right approach. It’s a stage of life & wont last long.
- np-I read in Simplicity Parenting that the average age of burnout in sports is 11. This travel team stuff is absurd, imo
- It’s a mixed bag. You have to do what’s right for your kids
- what's right for our kids is not being stressed out, running all over creation and not letting them have enough down time
- Right. We manage to do that and one kid plays a travel sport.
- what's right for our kids is not being stressed out, running all over creation and not letting them have enough down time
- If homework were not what it is, it would be easier to fit all of these other things in. But he gets tons.
- It’s a mixed bag. You have to do what’s right for your kids
- np-I read in Simplicity Parenting that the average age of burnout in sports is 11. This travel team stuff is absurd, imo
- Then it sounds like you have the right approach. It’s a stage of life & wont last long.
- He loves baseball, so we take on little league every spring. It's a 12-14 week juggle. We dropped soccer (only did it in the fall) because it was too much.
- My kids play all kinds of sports- travel & rec. some have very dependable schedules, some don’t. If it’s an issue for you, pick one that does or stick to swimming.
- From what I hear around my town, all of the teams sports are like this. The travel teams are far worse in terms of time commitment required, though. A sport that consists of just...(more)
- yes-two kids, work FT and do freelance. dh's job is nuts. We do not do any sort of team sports, I refuse to let that dominate our lives (not to mention our kids' lives) and make...(more)
- ^granted, we are in the city and my kids aren't asking to do those kind of things....
- it's insane and you have to take control of the schedule and just tell your child no-it's too much. I remember really wanting ot take gymnastics at this particular gym in our...(more)
- He needs speech, extra reading instruction, and a math tutor. But he also needs friends and fun. And to learn how to swim (safety issue at the very least).
- Np: that sounds like a lot. I’d drop the sport for now.
- He is asking to go back to art class, but I have told him no so far because of the schedule. He is also interested in picking up an instrument. We just don't have time to do these...(more)
- It's a lot, I get it. And I think it's sad that homework takes up so much of evenings (my kid only has 20 minutes right now and I'm having trouble getting THAT done!). Can you...(more)
- Your comments make sense, but I wouldn't know what to drop. I already said no to an instrument and art lessons. He only does one team sport--and only for one season-- per year...(more)
- It's a lot, I get it. And I think it's sad that homework takes up so much of evenings (my kid only has 20 minutes right now and I'm having trouble getting THAT done!). Can you...(more)
- He needs speech, extra reading instruction, and a math tutor. But he also needs friends and fun. And to learn how to swim (safety issue at the very least).
- We don't. My dcs have one sport each, games always Sunday at the same time. Then we have a music teacher come to the house. That's it.
- Elementary Anyone order from brandless? any recommendations? thanks!
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- lol! ok, should I get the, um, lentil puffs?
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- report back--I've considered ordering the picnic pak for my hurricane preparations. Hate having all the plastic but after Irma--you really need disposable stuff.
- that's a good idea. really can't beat the prices. I'm trying the q-tips and tin foil and a few other things like that. kinda sad how excited I am. *sigh*
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- Elementary My 8 year old dd came home from a play date at a friend’s house saying she had played a game called bar and worn an outfit and served the dads drinks and that there was beer and...(more)
- Did you tip her with dollar bills in her cleavage?
- Just said ok dear that’s nice. Kids get their parents drinks sometimes.
- I think this is more about you being upset about your dh's drinking. It sounds like that is the problem. The girls grabbing beers for the dads is no big deal imo.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: I agree. I feel awful and more awful for her. How should I handle it, just keep my head down? I also don't want her to think the way dh treats me is okay. Maybe she...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- Elementary Teachers: First grader at reading level I (i) right now. Not sure if that is guided or independent. Is that a little behind where my child should be? Thanks.
- NO. It's the high end of 1st Grade
- I don't know how I remember this but my ds ended K at level D and ended 1st grade at level J. He is a junior in HS now and getting an A in English and he reads just fine (they...(more)
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Awesome!
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Lol, but I totally disagree
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Awesome!
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Google Fountas & Pinnell scale
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school would expect I (i) independent by March, whereas I think he is only i guided now. Reading specialist said he us easily distracted which is affecting his comprehension.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- I am a Reading Specialist with McCraw Hill Education Group. Each test measurement has its own matrix. How was your child tested
- What test?
- He was tested today by a reading specialist who used Ekwall/Shanker Reading Inventory and Basic Reading Inventory.
- ok. let me find my materials
- this iwill help you understand the test...(more)
- ok. let me find my materials
- Elementary Any Miami Beach moms on that could give me guidance on elementary & middle schools in the area? We are open to public or private options. We are moving to the area in August.
- Are you planning on public? What arenas are you considering moving? My niece is in a public in Aventura- not tech Miami beach
- Elementary Tell us about your formula feeding experience!...(more)
- duh, we don't want our boobs to be giant flap bags
- Elementary 13 y/o DD has been struggling academically since DH died over a year ago. She has willfully avoided doing homework; just found out today she and another girl skipped a class;...(more)
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Yes. We all are.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- oy. i'm sorry-that sounds terrible. she needs you right now to love on her and be her mom. academics are so secondary. just be with her and spend time together.
- ^and academics should not be your top priority when she is 13
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- yes! i highly recommend that. i'm actually going to an orientation tomorrow for one here in san diego for my 8th grader who is struggling emotionally
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- Therapists are not suggesting boarding school. Dead set against it, as I am.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- Yes. We all are.
- dont do boarding school
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- OP: agree!
- can you homeschool her for a while?
- See above. Yes, considering it. But I wouldn't want to be the one doing the teaching. That would just make things worse!
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- I'm so sorry :-( I don't think sending her away will help though. Hopefully the school is understanding?
- she is 13 and that is a horrible thing for a child to go through (not to mention a tragic, horrible thing for you too). I guess I would try to be patient and know that she can...(more)
- I would not send her away. I would take a step back from extra stuff and bring things closer to home. Less activities more of your time and attention
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- OP: and meant to say that we do a lot of fun things together --we live in New Orleans, so plenty of things to do and we're close to beaches.
- being punitive is NOT the way to go. you need new counseling STAT if this is the advice you are getting.
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- my point is that if they're telling you to take away the few, fun outlets she has to reach her friends or feel "normal" that's super shitty advice. and i would find someone else...(more)
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- No- I don't mean punish her. I mean like less socializing with other people, less after school activities and running around. Just take time for you and her to just be around each...(more)
- ^Don't worry about having fun.
- Thanks -- and we spend a lot of time together.
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- are you part of the rich crowd? bc that's not a typical answer to the problems you are dealing with. im so sorry. it sounds hard. but sending her off after dad dies will be...(more)
- OP: We are not wealthy, but many of the families at the school are. Headmaster is from the Northeast and is a boarding school advocate. Not my bag; nor in my budget.
- That sounds grueling for all of you. I feel for you. But don't do boarding school. It would be better...(more)
- Not inclined to send her off -- especially after losing DH. I do feel like I'm losing this kid, though. I can't get anything out of her. She likes her therapist and her...(more)
- Funny, I once dated a guy who was shipped off to boarding school after his dad died. He couldn't bond.
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Elementary Really at my wit's end.... DH died over a year ago and older dd has been struggling at school (had to move her to another school last fall). She has flunked her past three histor...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
- thank you so much. I can only do so much for her. I told her I can't take her tests or make it stick inside her head. But if she wants to go to high school with her friends,...(more)
- I'm so sorry. Hang in there. What happened with DH?
- He had cancer
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- I know. I just know she will be so down on herself and already is. But she keeps digging herself into a deeper hole. Maybe this is the only way out of it.
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- He had cancer
- I'm sorry. I want to say the school should give her a break but that might backfire if they promote her and she is lacking the foundation for next year's work
- The other school (where she had been since pre-k) gave her every opp to catch up. But then they would catch her playing video games or shopping (!) online instead of doing her...(more)
- Well...given what you've been through as a family, if she does have to repeat to get her bearings again, that isn't the end of the world, and switching schools is hard, even...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- are you NYC?
- not anymore. new orleans
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- I appreciate this so much!
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- not anymore. new orleans
- are you NYC?
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- This is so hard. DH lost his mother young and it sent him into a tailspin. Took a year off of school, actually. I think that there is no way to rush this, but eventually she will...(more)
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- I told her if she has to repeat a grade, we're not moving. She'll just have to tough it out.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- I'm very sorry for your and your DD's loss, that's terribly sad. In terms of DD, you're ahead of...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
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