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  1. Elementary Anyone order from brandless? any recommendations? thanks! 4-16-2018 7:55pm (6 replies)
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    • No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me. 4-16-2018 7:56pm
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      • I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that! 4-16-2018 7:58pm
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        • well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta. 4-16-2018 8:00pm
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          • lol! ok, should I get the, um, lentil puffs? 4-16-2018 8:00pm
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    • report back--I've considered ordering the picnic pak for my hurricane preparations. Hate having all the plastic but after Irma--you really need disposable stuff. 4-16-2018 8:02pm
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      • that's a good idea. really can't beat the prices. I'm trying the q-tips and tin foil and a few other things like that. kinda sad how excited I am. *sigh* 4-16-2018 8:28pm
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  2. Elementary My 8 year old dd came home from a play date at a friendís house saying she had played a game called bar and worn an outfit and served the dads drinks and that there was beer and...(more) 3-18-2018 1:23pm (8 replies)
    wine. My husband was with her as he gets along super well with the dad of my ddís friend. This is a family I like and the mom was there taking care of the younger sibling. I asked my daughter if she served alcohol to the grown-ups and she said no because beer and wine werenít alcohol. I told her I didnít like that part of the game and she shouldnít serve alcohol to grownups. She started backtracking because she didnít want me to stop her from playing the game again. She said she only served her friendsís dad a beer. I clarified that beer and wine were alcohol but then my dh was furious and said they had fun and I ruined everything by being so negative and that he would call our friends to prove I was wrong. He had had too much to drink, he frequently drinks too much with this friend - they have even gotten drunk and weepy at our house which put me in the position of comforting the girls who were worried. How else could I have approached this to avoid things escalating in an ugly way?
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    • Did you tip her with dollar bills in her cleavage? 3-18-2018 1:25pm
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    • Just said ok dear thatís nice. Kids get their parents drinks sometimes. 3-18-2018 1:27pm
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    • I think this is more about you being upset about your dh's drinking. It sounds like that is the problem. The girls grabbing beers for the dads is no big deal imo. 3-18-2018 1:27pm
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      • op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more) 3-18-2018 1:30pm
        behavior is a problem to me.
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        • I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking. 3-18-2018 1:32pm
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          • op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more) 3-18-2018 1:36pm
            worried me that she said wine and beer aren't alcohol.
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            • I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more) 3-18-2018 1:37pm
              minimum around her.
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              • op: I agree. I feel awful and more awful for her. How should I handle it, just keep my head down? I also don't want her to think the way dh treats me is okay. Maybe she...(more) 3-18-2018 1:42pm
                doesn't even notice his comments?
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  3. Elementary Teachers: First grader at reading level I (i) right now. Not sure if that is guided or independent. Is that a little behind where my child should be? Thanks. 3-2-2018 8:08pm (15 replies)
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  4. Elementary Any Miami Beach moms on that could give me guidance on elementary & middle schools in the area? We are open to public or private options. We are moving to the area in August. 2-27-2018 7:47pm (1 reply)
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    • Are you planning on public? What arenas are you considering moving? My niece is in a public in Aventura- not tech Miami beach 2-27-2018 7:52pm
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    • duh, we don't want our boobs to be giant flap bags 2-25-2018 12:02pm
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  6. Elementary 13 y/o DD has been struggling academically since DH died over a year ago. She has willfully avoided doing homework; just found out today she and another girl skipped a class;...(more) 2-22-2018 9:33pm (31 replies)
    shopping online instead of doing her homework in class on computer(!). Someone has suggested a therapeutic boarding school before things get worse. This is truly a last resort. Between therapists, tutors, mentors; constant coordinating of play dates with friends; not to mention just letting her know I love her so much and want the best for her, she continues to make poor choices. My heart aches so much, but I am also internally angry and feel helpless.
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    • i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling? 2-22-2018 9:33pm
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      • Yes. We all are. 2-22-2018 9:35pm
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        • are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do. 2-22-2018 9:36pm
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          • OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you. 2-22-2018 9:37pm
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            • oy. i'm sorry-that sounds terrible. she needs you right now to love on her and be her mom. academics are so secondary. just be with her and spend time together. 2-22-2018 9:38pm
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          • ^and academics should not be your top priority when she is 13 2-22-2018 9:37pm
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            • OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track. 2-22-2018 9:41pm
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              • yes! i highly recommend that. i'm actually going to an orientation tomorrow for one here in san diego for my 8th grader who is struggling emotionally 2-22-2018 9:42pm
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          • Therapists are not suggesting boarding school. Dead set against it, as I am. 2-22-2018 9:46pm
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    • dont do boarding school 2-22-2018 9:34pm
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      • Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more) 2-22-2018 9:37pm
        during the year. I would rather hire a shadow or someone (other than me) to stay on top of her school work and mentor her.
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        • WHy other than you? That's who she wants 2-22-2018 9:37pm
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        • can you homeschool her for a while? 2-22-2018 9:39pm
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          • See above. Yes, considering it. But I wouldn't want to be the one doing the teaching. That would just make things worse! 2-22-2018 9:45pm
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    • I'm so sorry :-( I don't think sending her away will help though. Hopefully the school is understanding? 2-22-2018 9:34pm
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    • she is 13 and that is a horrible thing for a child to go through (not to mention a tragic, horrible thing for you too). I guess I would try to be patient and know that she can...(more) 2-22-2018 9:35pm
      straighten herself out at some point.
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    • I would not send her away. I would take a step back from extra stuff and bring things closer to home. Less activities more of your time and attention 2-22-2018 9:35pm
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      • OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices). 2-22-2018 9:38pm
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        • OP: and meant to say that we do a lot of fun things together --we live in New Orleans, so plenty of things to do and we're close to beaches. 2-22-2018 9:39pm
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        • being punitive is NOT the way to go. you need new counseling STAT if this is the advice you are getting. 2-22-2018 9:39pm
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          • I'm already spending a shitload on therapy.... 2-22-2018 9:42pm
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            • my point is that if they're telling you to take away the few, fun outlets she has to reach her friends or feel "normal" that's super shitty advice. and i would find someone else...(more) 2-22-2018 9:43pm
              to help us.
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        • No- I don't mean punish her. I mean like less socializing with other people, less after school activities and running around. Just take time for you and her to just be around each...(more) 2-22-2018 9:40pm
          other and organically and comfort each other from this huge loss of your DH and her father
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          • ^Don't worry about having fun. 2-22-2018 9:41pm
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          • Thanks -- and we spend a lot of time together. 2-22-2018 9:42pm
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    • are you part of the rich crowd? bc that's not a typical answer to the problems you are dealing with. im so sorry. it sounds hard. but sending her off after dad dies will be...(more) 2-22-2018 9:35pm
      traumatizing for both of you
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      • OP: We are not wealthy, but many of the families at the school are. Headmaster is from the Northeast and is a boarding school advocate. Not my bag; nor in my budget. 2-22-2018 9:40pm
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    • That sounds grueling for all of you. I feel for you. But don't do boarding school. It would be better...(more) 2-22-2018 9:37pm
      For her to have a lousy high school transcript but to be with you. She can go to community college and pull it together then when she's not grieving.
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      • Not inclined to send her off -- especially after losing DH. I do feel like I'm losing this kid, though. I can't get anything out of her. She likes her therapist and her...(more) 2-22-2018 9:44pm
        psychiatrist.
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    • Funny, I once dated a guy who was shipped off to boarding school after his dad died. He couldn't bond. 2-22-2018 9:39pm
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  7. Elementary Really at my wit's end.... DH died over a year ago and older dd has been struggling at school (had to move her to another school last fall). She has flunked her past three histor...(more) 1-25-2018 6:09pm (21 replies)
    y tests and I fear she is going to have to repeat a grade. Has a tutor/therapist/anti-depressant and just doesn't seem to give a shit. My heart is breaking for this kid. Working closely with school but very down about this right now.
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    • that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround. 1-25-2018 6:11pm
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      • thank you so much. I can only do so much for her. I told her I can't take her tests or make it stick inside her head. But if she wants to go to high school with her friends,...(more) 1-25-2018 6:14pm
        she has to do the work now.
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    • I'm so sorry. Hang in there. What happened with DH? 1-25-2018 6:13pm
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      • He had cancer 1-25-2018 6:14pm
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        • You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok. 1-25-2018 6:21pm
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          • I know. I just know she will be so down on herself and already is. But she keeps digging herself into a deeper hole. Maybe this is the only way out of it. 1-25-2018 6:26pm
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    • I'm sorry. I want to say the school should give her a break but that might backfire if they promote her and she is lacking the foundation for next year's work 1-25-2018 6:14pm
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      • The other school (where she had been since pre-k) gave her every opp to catch up. But then they would catch her playing video games or shopping (!) online instead of doing her...(more) 1-25-2018 6:16pm
        homework. As angry as I am that the other school "invited her to leave", I also know she has to pull some of her own weight.
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    • Well...given what you've been through as a family, if she does have to repeat to get her bearings again, that isn't the end of the world, and switching schools is hard, even...(more) 1-25-2018 6:17pm
      without a dad dying...Is it possible that she has an undiagnosed learning issue? Was she a great student before her dad got sick? I'm so sorry you have to go through this as a single parent. Sending an e-hug, mama. You're doing well and nothing is unfixable.
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      • TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more) 1-25-2018 6:20pm
        been held back last year, but school thought it would be too much to lose her father AND be held back in the same year. It's so discouraging because she is such a smart kid.
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        • if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more) 1-25-2018 6:21pm
          importantly, helped her unerstand herself.
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          • Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more) 1-25-2018 6:23pm
            on the spectrum but have been hesitant to go the med route since she's on the other meds. I will definitely look into this, thanks!
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            • are you NYC? 1-25-2018 6:23pm
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              • not anymore. new orleans 1-25-2018 6:25pm
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                • ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more) 1-25-2018 6:27pm
                  at school and to understand her own brain so that she can figure out why she's not succeeding. No kid wants to fail, I don't care what they say. she's suffered a trauma, AND she's having trouble in school. It is possible that these are separate problems. It is possible they are the linked or related. You just need to get ot the bottom of it. Good luck, horrible to see your kid suffering. I wish you both well.
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                  • I appreciate this so much! 1-25-2018 6:30pm
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    • This is so hard. DH lost his mother young and it sent him into a tailspin. Took a year off of school, actually. I think that there is no way to rush this, but eventually she will...(more) 1-25-2018 6:20pm
      come around. Right now the death has likely caused her to question the importance of doing anything if it can all just disappear. I think an early death of a parent instigates an existential crisis of sorts. Older adults though devastated can deal with it, but when it's in one's formative years, it can be really awful. My DH found comfort in reading about near death experiences and some Buddhist works because he just wanted to believe that there was something that connected it all, that it all made sense somehow. I hope your dd finds peace and you are a great mom.
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      • Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends. 1-25-2018 6:25pm
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        • It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again. 1-25-2018 6:26pm
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          • I told her if she has to repeat a grade, we're not moving. She'll just have to tough it out. 1-25-2018 6:26pm
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    • I'm very sorry for your and your DD's loss, that's terribly sad. In terms of DD, you're ahead of...(more) 2-7-2018 9:24am
      many families in that she's getting therapy, tutoring, meds...perhaps joining a bereavement group, of kids who've lost a parent, might help her? Maybe contact a cancer organization or helpline, or if DH had hospice, the social worker or counselor connected with them. I also agree with the other posters about getting a neuropsych (and possibly researching that co-op as well). Take care.
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  8. Elementary Educational Therapist/Learning Specialist and Test Prep. Available...(more) 1-15-2018 8:52pm (0 replies)
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  10. Elementary This post has been deleted. 12-17-2017 9:21pm (6 replies)
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    • lol 12-17-2017 9:22pm
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    • Sounds like it wonít work for you 12-17-2017 9:22pm
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      • That's what it's all about then, right....? 12-17-2017 9:23pm
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        • Yes. Itís not dinner companion 12-17-2017 9:26pm
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    • I was thinking about being a surgeon but I don't want to operate on people. 12-17-2017 9:23pm
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      • OP: LOL......okay. You answered my question. Thanks...lol 12-17-2017 9:24pm
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  11. Elementary I just now connected the raw cookie dough I was eating on Saturday to the unprecedented... bowel urgency I experienced last night, in which I did not...(more) 12-11-2017 2:09pm (2 replies)
    even make it to the bathroom in time.
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    • Gross 12-11-2017 2:10pm
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    • So you ate raw egg and you are surprised at this? 12-11-2017 2:11pm
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  13. Elementary I've been paying for private insurance for dc's and me (rolled over DH's insurance plan after he died). Just informed that Humana will no longer cover individual plans. Not sure...(more) 11-14-2017 9:36pm (0 replies)
    where to go from here.
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  16. Elementary Need some big time/non-judgemental advice from moms who've BTDT and are drinking with me right now... 12 y/o daughter has changed her passcode on iPhone because I found deleted...(more) 11-9-2017 8:06pm (25 replies)
    photos of her taking photos and videos of her anus and doing all sort of inappropriate videos. Also checked her Instagram/snapchat accts to make sure nothing has been submitted privately. I have her phone now (she's in the bathtub but told me at dinner she changed the code so I couldn't get in). She had smuggled the phone in the bathroom a few weeks ago (the date on deleted photos). She knows phone is only allowed in common areas at home. Rambling, I know, but a widow for a year and dealing with all sorts of issues. Yes, we are all in counseling, but I need guidance from moms now, please.
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    • I'd get her a flip phone 11-9-2017 8:07pm
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      • OP: That would be awesome, actually! She would hate it, lol. I am in the process of downloading and app to shut off her phone w/o taking it away. But I can't get into her...(more) 11-9-2017 8:09pm
        phone to set up the the process. She knows if she wants the phone back tomorrow -- or ever, I need the code to get in.
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    • p.s. She has lost her phone privilages for the evening, btw. 11-9-2017 8:07pm
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    • take the phone away. 11-9-2017 8:07pm
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      • Got it. Just need to get in to set up the parental control app I donwloaded earlier today. 11-9-2017 8:09pm
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      • this 11-9-2017 8:39pm
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    • omg! i am so sorry. 11-9-2017 8:08pm
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    • Keep the phone indefinitely. She is only allowed it during a couple established hours and it must stay in the kitchen. It also charges in the kitchen. Be firm and do not give...(more) 11-9-2017 8:08pm
      an inch. Keep with the therapy.
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      • Thank you. Have the phone. She just crapped in her Easter Basket (as a very good friend of mine used to say....) 11-9-2017 8:14pm
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      • Charge in your bedroom at night. She will sneak to kitchen and take it while you sleep. 11-9-2017 8:16pm
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        • OP: Yes. I keep it in my room at night and she gets it back in the morning 11-9-2017 8:18pm
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          • Smart. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with her. I don't usually agree with the take the phone away as punishment I so often see on ybm, but in your case it is exactly...(more) 11-9-2017 8:22pm
            the right consequence. She isn't ready for the responsibility of having a smart phone.
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            • OP: She has already lost the privilege of bringing home school laptop because of ceaseless game playing (switching screens back and forth to make it look like she was actually do...(more) 11-9-2017 8:25pm
              ing homework). Looks like I'll be getting a land line....
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    • I'm sorry it sucks, and I think there are too many moms here who think this couldn't or doesn't happen. 11-9-2017 8:09pm
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      • ^beyond that, she is not ready for a phone. I hope you guys can get some good advice in therapy. 11-9-2017 8:09pm
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        • Thank you. Me too. This was her father's phone. We don't have a land line and it has been helpful to get in touch with her. I'm actually glad I'm not working right now so not...(more) 11-9-2017 8:11pm
          leaving her alone with her own devices for a few hours and such.
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    • Phone goes away as others have said. Also, as much as you can, a calm conversation about why she did it, what she thought she would do with the pics, and an explanation of why...(more) 11-9-2017 8:11pm
      this is so serious.
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      • Thank you. Yes. Explained to her yesterday when I found the photos (and also calmly explained that as the one who is paying for the privilage of her having the phone to begin...(more) 11-9-2017 8:18pm
        with, it is also my responsibility to protect her from all sorts of Stranger Danger. She didn't like it, but said she understood. But changing the code -- and telling me (!) right before leaving it on the kitchen counter to take a bath -- well that was just dumb luck.
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        • OP: What kind of nerd am I that, amidst this important conversation, I have to point out that I spelled privilege wrong.... 11-9-2017 8:20pm
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    • being a parent is so hard - you are not alone 11-9-2017 8:15pm
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      • Thank you. I know I have a good tribe -- and thank you for being a part of that tribe tonight. I know it isn't always the case down this online rabbit hole. 11-9-2017 8:22pm
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    • flip phone pronto. and maybe some therapy 11-9-2017 8:31pm
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      • See above -- shitload of therapy 11-9-2017 8:51pm
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  17. Elementary Do you feel a child can have sensory issues but not ASD? 11-5-2017 10:17am (12 replies)
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    • Of course 11-5-2017 10:19am
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      • how do you help that type of child - my DS has social deficits - and it causes children to shy away from him - he is 10 years old and I have playdates to help - that goes better...(more) 11-5-2017 10:20am
        than less structured settings like recess, where he is alone.
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        • I think you need to let him be who he is. At recess maybe the thing for him to do is book club, or study hall, art class these are things that are offered in my school during...(more) 11-5-2017 10:23am
          recess. Or you can ask the playground monitors to assist him in finding one friend or small group to play with. I think you are doing the right thing having play dates, but somekids either never do well in huge playground situations or they do better come middle school. You canít change that as much as you can work within your dsís personality boundaryís.
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    • WHat is ASD? 11-5-2017 10:19am
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      • aspergers 11-5-2017 10:21am
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        • Thatís what i though, no. Sensory disorder and asbergers do not go hand in hand. I donít know what many people make that mistake/misunderstanding of sensory issues. 11-5-2017 10:26am
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    • Everyone has them. I think the difference is whether it interferes with day to day functioning. 11-5-2017 10:20am
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      • it interferes with his ability to form social relationships - and his self worth is impacted 11-5-2017 10:21am
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        • Is he unable to form any social relationships? THat is aspergers. 11-5-2017 10:27am
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          • i don't think unable - he just very challenged in groups....awkward and not fitting in 11-5-2017 10:32am
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            • The most important thing I learned with my ds is that he diesnít have to ďfit inĒ he has to find people that ďfit himĒ I always said this to him and he and I really changed our...(more) 11-5-2017 10:35am
              mind set once we verbalized he has to find people that fit him.
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              • And until he finds those people it is perfectly fine to to find his own thing to do. 11-5-2017 10:36am
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  18. Elementary My 10 year old DS struggles socially - has anyone seen their child learn social skills, with therapy, skills groups or otherwise? I really want to help my son... 11-5-2017 10:17am (9 replies)
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    • Nt at 10, but in preschool I have seen it help many of the kids in dsís playgroup 11-5-2017 10:20am
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    • what is the issue? what do you mean struggles socially? 11-5-2017 10:23am
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      • he is not skilled at approaching and breaking in to play - he can be somewhat awkward - a schedule play dates and he does better - but at recess, when on his own w/ many kids, he...(more) 11-5-2017 10:26am
        stays to himself, cannot navigate
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        • hmm... obviously it bothers him? Have you spoken to a psychologist? 11-5-2017 10:27am
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          • before school started - psch said perhaps your child is an introvert and leave him alone - don't push it - however, now that school started i can see it is more than that because...(more) 11-5-2017 10:31am
            my son feels badly and has said to me that "social situations are becoming very difficult" - so now i think maybe my son should see psych - just don't want him to have stigma - really challenging for me to know what to do!
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            • Introverts still feel bad about not being extroverts. He just has to find the other introverts on the playground, in fact they might not be on the playground, find out if there...(more) 11-5-2017 10:34am
              are clubs happening during lunch or recess or if there are tasks he can do for the school instead of being forced onto the playground.
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        • This was my ds. It was much better when we switched to a small private school. Really helped him feel less overly stimulated and nervious on the playground. It was all to do with...(more) 11-5-2017 10:30am
          sensory disorder and hearing everything at once, he has perfect pitch and an amazing ear for sounds and that was very hard for him, on the positive side he is an excellent musician because of it.
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  19. Elementary My 7 year old ds likes Halloween but not trick or treating all that much. He prefers to stay home and open the door for trick or treaters. Does this sound strange? 10-30-2017 10:58pm (7 replies)
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    • not at all... go with the flow. Not every kid is into taking candy from strangers 10-30-2017 10:59pm
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      • I get that. I don't mind staying home. I would not force him to trick or treat. 10-30-2017 11:07pm
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    • No 10-30-2017 10:59pm
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    • I know tons of kids like this 10-30-2017 10:59pm
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      • Good to hear. I don't know any! 10-30-2017 11:05pm
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    • I can see how this would actually be more fun and interesting. 10-30-2017 11:04pm
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      • For me, it makes the evening easier! I don't mind, but I don't want ds to miss out on fun with his peers. Of course, I will not force him to trick or treat. 10-30-2017 11:06pm
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  20. Elementary Ave Mom friend/neighbor who has boy close in age to my son. It seems like the friend is frequently trying to intervene in our kidsí friendship and frequently leaves us out. It...(more) (0 replies) * I 10-13-2017 11:17pm (0 replies)
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  22. Elementary Is anyone else's PTA out of control?...(more) 10-2-2017 11:28pm (4 replies)
    Constant fundraisers, "wear this to school" day, events for which they BEG for volunteers, daily flyers home about endless activities.... It's crazy! And the pressure to volunteer for constant events... Oy! I am a big supporter of my child's school, but the PTA is really out of control.
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    • can you stop posting on Elementary? You seem unhinged 10-2-2017 11:28pm
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      • I think it's nice to see some life on this board. 10-2-2017 11:43pm
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    • ITA. I feel like the PTA moms at my dc's school all are the same...crazed look in their eyes, same yoga gear, constantly gossiping about kids, teachers and every other year a...(more) 10-2-2017 11:31pm
      saucy affair. I never tell them anything because they use it against you.
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    • You guys always are obsessed with bashing volunteers. 10-2-2017 11:35pm
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  23. Elementary How many basic addition problems should a first grader be able to do in 5 minutes?...(more) 10-2-2017 11:08pm (15 replies)
    DD's teacher will give the students a math test on Friday. They will have five minutes to answer 50 basic addition problems. I have no idea what the expectation is of a first grader one month into school with an assessment like this. Any ideas how many correct answers in 5 minutes would be considered a decent score??
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    • My 2nd grader is supposed to do 21 in 1 minute. 10-2-2017 11:09pm
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      • Okay. That's 3 seconds per problem. Thanks. 10-2-2017 11:10pm
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        • Or. Mine did not have to do that last year but at least you have some idea. Fwiw, my kid rarely meets the goal of 21 and has to bring them home to practice. 10-2-2017 11:11pm
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          • This post has been deleted. 10-2-2017 11:16pm
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          • Results of my google search:...(more) 10-2-2017 11:17pm
            "A child is considered to have mastered a math fact when he/she can answer it in three seconds or less." (sigh)
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    • no and I'm so annoyed by school 10-2-2017 11:10pm
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      • Lol. Me too! 10-2-2017 11:10pm
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    • Gosh who cares? It won't impact anything in his life. Have him review them see how it goes. 10-2-2017 11:10pm
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      • I wish you were right by my dd's school is CRAZY. 10-2-2017 11:11pm
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        • **but** not by 10-2-2017 11:11pm
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        • You are the parent. Keep perspective and sheild your dc from any madness. 10-2-2017 11:12pm
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          • I swear, homeschooling is sounding better and better. 10-2-2017 11:17pm
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    • they're only goal is to improve from their personal baseline over the course of the year. 10-2-2017 11:10pm
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      • This! 10-2-2017 11:11pm
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        • Okay, I am liking this answer. 10-2-2017 11:12pm
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  24. Elementary Grades are good but school recommends pull-out basic skills...(more) 10-2-2017 9:22pm (4 replies)
    My first grade ds is going well in first grade. Although he gets distracted, his grades are good so far. Reading is on grade level. I have a math tutor and a reading tutor for him, just to make sure he stays on track. Both say he is doing well, on grade level, knows the material, etc. School just recommended pull-out basic skills instruction (1x per week for math and 2x per week for reading). The downside, to me, is that they are pull-out, so he would be doing remedial math and language arts work while missing other material in the class. Tutors think it is a bad idea. School did not explain their recommendation; they just asked me to sign consent. I am meeting with teacher tomorrow to ask how she made the determination that he needs remediation. What do you think?
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    • as someone who had to fight for my kid to get pull out because he was struggling from what I saw at home PLUS he got 1s on the state tests, I don't know why you'd fight it 10-2-2017 9:23pm
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      • If I thought he needed it, I wouldn't fight it. But his grades are good and he reads on grade level. If push-in basic skills were an option, I would feel better about it. With...(more) 10-2-2017 9:45pm
        pull-out, he will miss content he is going to be tested on later.
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    • If it is like my school, they constantly assess the children and pull out those in need of further help. The goal is not to let a child fall through the cracks. Why would you...(more) 10-2-2017 9:30pm
      fight this?
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      • He will be pulled out of class to remedial math and reading, when he reads on grade level and gets A's on his math tests. He will miss instruction in new material. Tutors (who are...(more) 10-2-2017 9:39pm
        teachers in public school in another town) think it's a terrible idea and will do more harm than good.
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  25. Elementary Teacher recommended Basic Skills...(more) 9-29-2017 8:27pm (6 replies)
    Can any teachers out there explain why a first grade teacher would recommend my ds go to pull-out Basic Skills classroom for math 1x per week for 30 minutes and for reading 2x per week for 30 minute sessions when his only grade in math so far is 100% on chapter 1 quiz and she measured his reading level to be on grade level???? I have a call into the teacher but no response yet.
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    • because everyone else is probably a level or two higher? 9-29-2017 8:27pm
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    • Why not? I'd never say no to private instruction 9-29-2017 8:29pm
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      • We probably will say yes, but we are confused as to why she is making this recommendation. I thought Basic Skills instruction was for kids who are not doing well. 9-29-2017 8:32pm
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      • I would not be happy about the pull-out. It means the child misses other things. It's not "additional" instruction. It's instead of regular instruction. 9-29-2017 8:48pm
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    • we do this based on NWEA map testing scores 9-29-2017 8:34pm
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      • What are NWEA map testing scores? 9-29-2017 8:36pm
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