Elementary
- Elementary Anyone order from brandless? any recommendations? thanks!
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- lol! ok, should I get the, um, lentil puffs?
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- report back--I've considered ordering the picnic pak for my hurricane preparations. Hate having all the plastic but after Irma--you really need disposable stuff.
- that's a good idea. really can't beat the prices. I'm trying the q-tips and tin foil and a few other things like that. kinda sad how excited I am. *sigh*
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- Elementary My 8 year old dd came home from a play date at a friend’s house saying she had played a game called bar and worn an outfit and served the dads drinks and that there was beer and...(more)
- Did you tip her with dollar bills in her cleavage?
- Just said ok dear that’s nice. Kids get their parents drinks sometimes.
- I think this is more about you being upset about your dh's drinking. It sounds like that is the problem. The girls grabbing beers for the dads is no big deal imo.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: I agree. I feel awful and more awful for her. How should I handle it, just keep my head down? I also don't want her to think the way dh treats me is okay. Maybe she...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- Elementary Teachers: First grader at reading level I (i) right now. Not sure if that is guided or independent. Is that a little behind where my child should be? Thanks.
- NO. It's the high end of 1st Grade
- I don't know how I remember this but my ds ended K at level D and ended 1st grade at level J. He is a junior in HS now and getting an A in English and he reads just fine (they...(more)
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Awesome!
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Lol, but I totally disagree
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Awesome!
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Google Fountas & Pinnell scale
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school would expect I (i) independent by March, whereas I think he is only i guided now. Reading specialist said he us easily distracted which is affecting his comprehension.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- I am a Reading Specialist with McCraw Hill Education Group. Each test measurement has its own matrix. How was your child tested
- What test?
- He was tested today by a reading specialist who used Ekwall/Shanker Reading Inventory and Basic Reading Inventory.
- ok. let me find my materials
- this iwill help you understand the test...(more)
- ok. let me find my materials
- Elementary Any Miami Beach moms on that could give me guidance on elementary & middle schools in the area? We are open to public or private options. We are moving to the area in August.
- Are you planning on public? What arenas are you considering moving? My niece is in a public in Aventura- not tech Miami beach
- Elementary Tell us about your formula feeding experience!...(more)
- duh, we don't want our boobs to be giant flap bags
- Elementary 13 y/o DD has been struggling academically since DH died over a year ago. She has willfully avoided doing homework; just found out today she and another girl skipped a class;...(more)
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Yes. We all are.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- oy. i'm sorry-that sounds terrible. she needs you right now to love on her and be her mom. academics are so secondary. just be with her and spend time together.
- ^and academics should not be your top priority when she is 13
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- yes! i highly recommend that. i'm actually going to an orientation tomorrow for one here in san diego for my 8th grader who is struggling emotionally
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- Therapists are not suggesting boarding school. Dead set against it, as I am.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- Yes. We all are.
- dont do boarding school
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- OP: agree!
- can you homeschool her for a while?
- See above. Yes, considering it. But I wouldn't want to be the one doing the teaching. That would just make things worse!
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- I'm so sorry :-( I don't think sending her away will help though. Hopefully the school is understanding?
- she is 13 and that is a horrible thing for a child to go through (not to mention a tragic, horrible thing for you too). I guess I would try to be patient and know that she can...(more)
- I would not send her away. I would take a step back from extra stuff and bring things closer to home. Less activities more of your time and attention
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- OP: and meant to say that we do a lot of fun things together --we live in New Orleans, so plenty of things to do and we're close to beaches.
- being punitive is NOT the way to go. you need new counseling STAT if this is the advice you are getting.
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- my point is that if they're telling you to take away the few, fun outlets she has to reach her friends or feel "normal" that's super shitty advice. and i would find someone else...(more)
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- No- I don't mean punish her. I mean like less socializing with other people, less after school activities and running around. Just take time for you and her to just be around each...(more)
- ^Don't worry about having fun.
- Thanks -- and we spend a lot of time together.
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- are you part of the rich crowd? bc that's not a typical answer to the problems you are dealing with. im so sorry. it sounds hard. but sending her off after dad dies will be...(more)
- OP: We are not wealthy, but many of the families at the school are. Headmaster is from the Northeast and is a boarding school advocate. Not my bag; nor in my budget.
- That sounds grueling for all of you. I feel for you. But don't do boarding school. It would be better...(more)
- Not inclined to send her off -- especially after losing DH. I do feel like I'm losing this kid, though. I can't get anything out of her. She likes her therapist and her...(more)
- Funny, I once dated a guy who was shipped off to boarding school after his dad died. He couldn't bond.
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Elementary Really at my wit's end.... DH died over a year ago and older dd has been struggling at school (had to move her to another school last fall). She has flunked her past three histor...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
- thank you so much. I can only do so much for her. I told her I can't take her tests or make it stick inside her head. But if she wants to go to high school with her friends,...(more)
- I'm so sorry. Hang in there. What happened with DH?
- He had cancer
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- I know. I just know she will be so down on herself and already is. But she keeps digging herself into a deeper hole. Maybe this is the only way out of it.
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- He had cancer
- I'm sorry. I want to say the school should give her a break but that might backfire if they promote her and she is lacking the foundation for next year's work
- The other school (where she had been since pre-k) gave her every opp to catch up. But then they would catch her playing video games or shopping (!) online instead of doing her...(more)
- Well...given what you've been through as a family, if she does have to repeat to get her bearings again, that isn't the end of the world, and switching schools is hard, even...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- are you NYC?
- not anymore. new orleans
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- I appreciate this so much!
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- not anymore. new orleans
- are you NYC?
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- This is so hard. DH lost his mother young and it sent him into a tailspin. Took a year off of school, actually. I think that there is no way to rush this, but eventually she will...(more)
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- I told her if she has to repeat a grade, we're not moving. She'll just have to tough it out.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- I'm very sorry for your and your DD's loss, that's terribly sad. In terms of DD, you're ahead of...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
- Elementary Educational Therapist/Learning Specialist and Test Prep. Available...(more)
- Elementary Swtor cheap credits with up to $10 cash coupons on Swtor2credits during Jan.9-Jan.15...(more)
- Elementary This post has been deleted.
- lol
- Sounds like it won’t work for you
- That's what it's all about then, right....?
- Yes. It’s not dinner companion
- That's what it's all about then, right....?
- I was thinking about being a surgeon but I don't want to operate on people.
- OP: LOL......okay. You answered my question. Thanks...lol
- Elementary I just now connected the raw cookie dough I was eating on Saturday to the unprecedented... bowel urgency I experienced last night, in which I did not...(more)
- Gross
- So you ate raw egg and you are surprised at this?
- Elementary Http://supplementlab.org/shred-fx/...(more)
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- Elementary I've been paying for private insurance for dc's and me (rolled over DH's insurance plan after he died). Just informed that Humana will no longer cover individual plans. Not sure...(more)
- Elementary Add for Upscale Sensual Body Work..... What does that mean?
- Elementary Http://healthpluscogni.com/pro-shred-testo/...(more)
- Elementary Need some big time/non-judgemental advice from moms who've BTDT and are drinking with me right now... 12 y/o daughter has changed her passcode on iPhone because I found deleted...(more)
- I'd get her a flip phone
- OP: That would be awesome, actually! She would hate it, lol. I am in the process of downloading and app to shut off her phone w/o taking it away. But I can't get into her...(more)
- p.s. She has lost her phone privilages for the evening, btw.
- take the phone away.
- Got it. Just need to get in to set up the parental control app I donwloaded earlier today.
- this
- omg! i am so sorry.
- Keep the phone indefinitely. She is only allowed it during a couple established hours and it must stay in the kitchen. It also charges in the kitchen. Be firm and do not give...(more)
- Thank you. Have the phone. She just crapped in her Easter Basket (as a very good friend of mine used to say....)
- Charge in your bedroom at night. She will sneak to kitchen and take it while you sleep.
- OP: Yes. I keep it in my room at night and she gets it back in the morning
- Smart. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with her. I don't usually agree with the take the phone away as punishment I so often see on ybm, but in your case it is exactly...(more)
- OP: She has already lost the privilege of bringing home school laptop because of ceaseless game playing (switching screens back and forth to make it look like she was actually do...(more)
- Good luck
- Thanks
- Good luck
- OP: She has already lost the privilege of bringing home school laptop because of ceaseless game playing (switching screens back and forth to make it look like she was actually do...(more)
- Smart. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with her. I don't usually agree with the take the phone away as punishment I so often see on ybm, but in your case it is exactly...(more)
- OP: Yes. I keep it in my room at night and she gets it back in the morning
- I'm sorry it sucks, and I think there are too many moms here who think this couldn't or doesn't happen.
- ^beyond that, she is not ready for a phone. I hope you guys can get some good advice in therapy.
- Thank you. Me too. This was her father's phone. We don't have a land line and it has been helpful to get in touch with her. I'm actually glad I'm not working right now so not...(more)
- ^beyond that, she is not ready for a phone. I hope you guys can get some good advice in therapy.
- Phone goes away as others have said. Also, as much as you can, a calm conversation about why she did it, what she thought she would do with the pics, and an explanation of why...(more)
- Thank you. Yes. Explained to her yesterday when I found the photos (and also calmly explained that as the one who is paying for the privilage of her having the phone to begin...(more)
- OP: What kind of nerd am I that, amidst this important conversation, I have to point out that I spelled privilege wrong....
- Thank you. Yes. Explained to her yesterday when I found the photos (and also calmly explained that as the one who is paying for the privilage of her having the phone to begin...(more)
- being a parent is so hard - you are not alone
- Thank you. I know I have a good tribe -- and thank you for being a part of that tribe tonight. I know it isn't always the case down this online rabbit hole.
- flip phone pronto. and maybe some therapy
- See above -- shitload of therapy
- I'd get her a flip phone
- Elementary Do you feel a child can have sensory issues but not ASD?
- Of course
- how do you help that type of child - my DS has social deficits - and it causes children to shy away from him - he is 10 years old and I have playdates to help - that goes better...(more)
- I think you need to let him be who he is. At recess maybe the thing for him to do is book club, or study hall, art class these are things that are offered in my school during...(more)
- how do you help that type of child - my DS has social deficits - and it causes children to shy away from him - he is 10 years old and I have playdates to help - that goes better...(more)
- WHat is ASD?
- aspergers
- That’s what i though, no. Sensory disorder and asbergers do not go hand in hand. I don’t know what many people make that mistake/misunderstanding of sensory issues.
- aspergers
- Everyone has them. I think the difference is whether it interferes with day to day functioning.
- it interferes with his ability to form social relationships - and his self worth is impacted
- Is he unable to form any social relationships? THat is aspergers.
- i don't think unable - he just very challenged in groups....awkward and not fitting in
- The most important thing I learned with my ds is that he diesn’t have to “fit in” he has to find people that “fit him” I always said this to him and he and I really changed our...(more)
- And until he finds those people it is perfectly fine to to find his own thing to do.
- The most important thing I learned with my ds is that he diesn’t have to “fit in” he has to find people that “fit him” I always said this to him and he and I really changed our...(more)
- i don't think unable - he just very challenged in groups....awkward and not fitting in
- Is he unable to form any social relationships? THat is aspergers.
- it interferes with his ability to form social relationships - and his self worth is impacted
- Of course
- Elementary My 10 year old DS struggles socially - has anyone seen their child learn social skills, with therapy, skills groups or otherwise? I really want to help my son...
- Nt at 10, but in preschool I have seen it help many of the kids in ds’s playgroup
- what is nt
- Not
- what is nt
- what is the issue? what do you mean struggles socially?
- he is not skilled at approaching and breaking in to play - he can be somewhat awkward - a schedule play dates and he does better - but at recess, when on his own w/ many kids, he...(more)
- hmm... obviously it bothers him? Have you spoken to a psychologist?
- before school started - psch said perhaps your child is an introvert and leave him alone - don't push it - however, now that school started i can see it is more than that because...(more)
- Introverts still feel bad about not being extroverts. He just has to find the other introverts on the playground, in fact they might not be on the playground, find out if there...(more)
- before school started - psch said perhaps your child is an introvert and leave him alone - don't push it - however, now that school started i can see it is more than that because...(more)
- This was my ds. It was much better when we switched to a small private school. Really helped him feel less overly stimulated and nervious on the playground. It was all to do with...(more)
- hmm... obviously it bothers him? Have you spoken to a psychologist?
- he is not skilled at approaching and breaking in to play - he can be somewhat awkward - a schedule play dates and he does better - but at recess, when on his own w/ many kids, he...(more)
- Nt at 10, but in preschool I have seen it help many of the kids in ds’s playgroup
- Elementary My 7 year old ds likes Halloween but not trick or treating all that much. He prefers to stay home and open the door for trick or treaters. Does this sound strange?
- not at all... go with the flow. Not every kid is into taking candy from strangers
- I get that. I don't mind staying home. I would not force him to trick or treat.
- No
- I know tons of kids like this
- Good to hear. I don't know any!
- I can see how this would actually be more fun and interesting.
- For me, it makes the evening easier! I don't mind, but I don't want ds to miss out on fun with his peers. Of course, I will not force him to trick or treat.
- not at all... go with the flow. Not every kid is into taking candy from strangers
- Elementary Ave Mom friend/neighbor who has boy close in age to my son. It seems like the friend is frequently trying to intervene in our kids’ friendship and frequently leaves us out. It...(more) (0 replies) * I
- Elementary This post has been deleted.
- Elementary Is anyone else's PTA out of control?...(more)
- can you stop posting on Elementary? You seem unhinged
- I think it's nice to see some life on this board.
- ITA. I feel like the PTA moms at my dc's school all are the same...crazed look in their eyes, same yoga gear, constantly gossiping about kids, teachers and every other year a...(more)
- You guys always are obsessed with bashing volunteers.
- can you stop posting on Elementary? You seem unhinged
- Elementary How many basic addition problems should a first grader be able to do in 5 minutes?...(more)
- My 2nd grader is supposed to do 21 in 1 minute.
- Okay. That's 3 seconds per problem. Thanks.
- Or. Mine did not have to do that last year but at least you have some idea. Fwiw, my kid rarely meets the goal of 21 and has to bring them home to practice.
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- Results of my google search:...(more)
- Or. Mine did not have to do that last year but at least you have some idea. Fwiw, my kid rarely meets the goal of 21 and has to bring them home to practice.
- Okay. That's 3 seconds per problem. Thanks.
- no and I'm so annoyed by school
- Lol. Me too!
- Gosh who cares? It won't impact anything in his life. Have him review them see how it goes.
- I wish you were right by my dd's school is CRAZY.
- **but** not by
- You are the parent. Keep perspective and sheild your dc from any madness.
- I swear, homeschooling is sounding better and better.
- I wish you were right by my dd's school is CRAZY.
- they're only goal is to improve from their personal baseline over the course of the year.
- This!
- Okay, I am liking this answer.
- This!
- My 2nd grader is supposed to do 21 in 1 minute.
- Elementary Grades are good but school recommends pull-out basic skills...(more)
- as someone who had to fight for my kid to get pull out because he was struggling from what I saw at home PLUS he got 1s on the state tests, I don't know why you'd fight it
- If I thought he needed it, I wouldn't fight it. But his grades are good and he reads on grade level. If push-in basic skills were an option, I would feel better about it. With...(more)
- If it is like my school, they constantly assess the children and pull out those in need of further help. The goal is not to let a child fall through the cracks. Why would you...(more)
- He will be pulled out of class to remedial math and reading, when he reads on grade level and gets A's on his math tests. He will miss instruction in new material. Tutors (who are...(more)
- as someone who had to fight for my kid to get pull out because he was struggling from what I saw at home PLUS he got 1s on the state tests, I don't know why you'd fight it
- Elementary Teacher recommended Basic Skills...(more)
- because everyone else is probably a level or two higher?
- Why not? I'd never say no to private instruction
- We probably will say yes, but we are confused as to why she is making this recommendation. I thought Basic Skills instruction was for kids who are not doing well.
- I would not be happy about the pull-out. It means the child misses other things. It's not "additional" instruction. It's instead of regular instruction.
- we do this based on NWEA map testing scores
- What are NWEA map testing scores?