Elementary
- Elementary I don't like our sitter and I want to ler her go. Should I give her a 2-week notice, or tell her not to come back?
- give here two weeks pay and do not have her coome back
- Just let her go. You want someone you fired around your kids?
- Good point
- this
- Elementary I've posted before about losing my husband to cancer a few years ago. One child is doing very well in school; older (13) is having an extremely difficult time and has been kicked...(more)
- My friend did it for her dd and they had a great experience - let me see what it was.
- ^ University Prep
- ^ ah just realized this is only Texas
- Thx. We're in LA, but I've been given a few options. It's all so overwhelming, but I know with tutors and a schedule at hand, we will make it work. Even if it's only for a few...(more)
- ^ ah just realized this is only Texas
- ^ University Prep
- Your state probably has a free remote program. What state are you in?
- I’m so sorry for your loss and your children’s loss. Xoxo
- This.
- Thank you both!
- This.
- I think it's a great idea. And she can progress at her own pace. So sorry for your loss and troubles.
- Thank you.
- i think that's a great option. i pulled my 8th grader out of his middle school a few months ago, and we've been going through a local charter-but all the work is online. he's so...(more)
- Op: Good to know. I've reached out to a few people in my area who are doing the online school (just did not like the homeschool options I toured). Too, she is a real sleepyhead,...(more)
- My friend did it for her dd and they had a great experience - let me see what it was.
- Elementary I am trying to get a gift for a black classmate of my ds—looked at Stratego that my dh said he loved as a child, but all the characters are white. I can’t understand how the game...(more)
- How about checkers? It’s for the African American and Native American.
- Just get some dominos
- Get the stratego. We know we live in a white world.
- Op: I’m a white latinx and I feel giving the dd the game is clumsy.
- I disagree, but am black.
- Thanks, it helps to hear it wouldn’t bother you. Being white and giving this game does change the dynamic a bit for me. Plus this child in the past has rejected his skin color...(more)
- You can’t hide from the child that he’s in the minority. This is nuts.
- op: I just want to give the df a gift in which he sees himself represented. As a latinx, I can’t describe the emotions of finally seeing yourself represented on the screen, etc.
- You can’t hide from the child that he’s in the minority. This is nuts.
- Thanks, it helps to hear it wouldn’t bother you. Being white and giving this game does change the dynamic a bit for me. Plus this child in the past has rejected his skin color...(more)
- Op^^ df....plus I know the family...anyway, these responses are convincing me to just get the game.
- np: It's a "meh" game. Your DH's childhood memories notwithstanding, just choose another game.
- op: I never played it. He swears by it!
- np: It's a "meh" game. Your DH's childhood memories notwithstanding, just choose another game.
- I disagree, but am black.
- Op: I’m a white latinx and I feel giving the dd the game is clumsy.
- dude, get him stratego. you think he hasn't experienced this before?
- just don't get lotion. I got a lot of slack for that.
- I remember that. You did get a lot of slack but I think it was okay in the end.
- i never did hear from the mom.
- If I remember correctly, the moms of color here were supportive of the basket.
- yes
- Because it was really nice lotion.
- What do you people think we (black) mothers are thinking?
- No the white moms where unkind to her. The black moms were like that's a nice gift.
- Please tell me this post and that one were fake. White people think we don’’t like generic gifts?
- No - they thought somehow the giver was implying ashy skin. Which she was not.
- No offense, but white people just don’t get us.
- I'm white, and not offended by this. Don't give me a basket of lotion though. :-)
- op: It’s sad and true.
- No offense, but white people just don’t get us.
- No - they thought somehow the giver was implying ashy skin. Which she was not.
- Please tell me this post and that one were fake. White people think we don’’t like generic gifts?
- No the white moms where unkind to her. The black moms were like that's a nice gift.
- yes
- If I remember correctly, the moms of color here were supportive of the basket.
- i never did hear from the mom.
- Flack. What happened?
- flak
- Apologies. Autocorrect.
- yes
- Apologies. Autocorrect.
- i got lotions and perfumes for a sweet sixteen present and was criticized because of the connotation that I was implying Black people have dry skin
- You guys are overthinking this. We like nice skin products too.
- flak
- flak
- I remember that. You did get a lot of slack but I think it was okay in the end.
- I was buying a board game for a child with two dads and all seemed to have a mom and dad on the box!
- Elementary My husband takes forever to come to the dinner table because he is always in the middle of something. He knows it bothers me that we are all sitting waiting for him and we agreed...(more)
- It’s disrespectful for sure.
- Dh or dc??
- DH!
- He might be ADD?
- DH!
- I think your dh sounds like dick.
- maybe he should be in charge of dinner. then he will have plenty of warning.
- dh here. i stopped making dinner for dw for r this reason. she just won't sit at the table and eat with us so we ignore her and its just me and the kids who eat.
- when is the divorce final
- this prevents divorce. we used to fight over this
- op: we fight plenty over this and it seems so crazy to me. It's like he totally doesn't understand why it is frustrating to me.
- Can you set a timer for him?
- op: good idea. though seems a little silly to have to. but would have helped tonight when he insisted it was my fault for not warning him
- If he’s acting like a child then treat him like one! Of course, it should be done in a lighthearted way so a battle doesn’t begin.
- op: good idea. though seems a little silly to have to. but would have helped tonight when he insisted it was my fault for not warning him
- well i agree with you 100pct but since i started ignoring her things are more peaceful. it sucks that she Can't get off her phone to eat with us as a family
- That's sad. And the part about not caring enough to come eat with the kids is what bothers me the most.
- Yeah that’s sad. I love meals with my family. It really does make a difference.
- well she doesn't work. she has all the time in the world. but i have to cook and clean up after the dinner, she's so disconnected and doesn't contribute to the house
- Is she depressed?
- is this the wife you post about a lot who doesn't want sex etc?
- That's sad. And the part about not caring enough to come eat with the kids is what bothers me the most.
- Can you set a timer for him?
- op: we fight plenty over this and it seems so crazy to me. It's like he totally doesn't understand why it is frustrating to me.
- this prevents divorce. we used to fight over this
- when is the divorce final
- Oh come on. After all these years he can't be unaware that dinner is served at dinnertime. And, I'm sure he's not performing heart surgery in the basement. He can take a break.
- Sounds passive aggressive
- The dh. Not your comment!
- Sounds passive aggressive
- Not to hijack, but my dh eats sandwiches before dinner and then complains he’s not hungry. Has done this for years, even though he knows it hurts my feelings and makes me angry.
- I would be angry too.
- divorce him ASAP and find someone who isn't a total loser.
- Ok
- Sounds like a plan.
- Elementary Is it a fringe attitude to think of horse racing as animal abuse. My dh is a huge fan and made my dad watch the Derby with him. He talked it up and bet on it. I bit my tongue...(more)
- i think it's the horses that don't make it to the track or to the high level of training like the derby horses who suffer.
- This. The horses in the derby train for a couple of years and then spend the rest of their lives being well treated and reproducing
- i think it is and if you google it many do
- op: So it is abusive, right? It bothered me to watch it and would have preferred my dad not to, yet felt that as a marriage issue should keep my mouth shut as my dh has said in...(more)
- here's a write up in the Atlantic from 2014...(more)
- op: So it is abusive, right? It bothered me to watch it and would have preferred my dad not to, yet felt that as a marriage issue should keep my mouth shut as my dh has said in...(more)
- op: 8 year old dd, not dad
- I agree with you. The US racing industry allows animals to be drugged, and there are lots of scurrilous practices. At least in the UK (where I’m from) drugs are banned, horses get...(more)
- op: These compromises in marriage are hard! I feel my views get short thrift for this, but my dd may come to her own conclusions as she is older.
- np: you can talk to her about it, that there are differing views on it
- op: These compromises in marriage are hard! I feel my views get short thrift for this, but my dd may come to her own conclusions as she is older.
- what makes you think it's abusive?
- The horses are broken in way too young, for one. Training a regular horse, and you’d maybe put a saddle pad on their back when they’re three, and get on board for basic equitation...(more)
- here's a write up on what happens to horses after their racing career...(more)
- i think it's the horses that don't make it to the track or to the high level of training like the derby horses who suffer.
- Elementary Does anybody else feel very stressed out by your schedule?...(more)
- We don't. My dcs have one sport each, games always Sunday at the same time. Then we have a music teacher come to the house. That's it.
- They don't have practices for their sports? Just a game on Sunday?
- My dd rides so she does that once a week, my ds has a practice once a week (all this is on tuesdays), then music once a week, and the sunday game for ds.
- Sounds very manageable!
- yes, it definitely is.
- Sounds very manageable!
- My dd rides so she does that once a week, my ds has a practice once a week (all this is on tuesdays), then music once a week, and the sunday game for ds.
- They don't have practices for their sports? Just a game on Sunday?
- You need a sport with a more predictable schedule. Some are better, some worse.
- From what I hear around my town, all of the teams sports are like this. The travel teams are far worse in terms of time commitment required, though. A sport that consists of just...(more)
- My kids play all kinds of sports- travel & rec. some have very dependable schedules, some don’t. If it’s an issue for you, pick one that does or stick to swimming.
- He loves baseball, so we take on little league every spring. It's a 12-14 week juggle. We dropped soccer (only did it in the fall) because it was too much.
- Then it sounds like you have the right approach. It’s a stage of life & wont last long.
- np-I read in Simplicity Parenting that the average age of burnout in sports is 11. This travel team stuff is absurd, imo
- It’s a mixed bag. You have to do what’s right for your kids
- what's right for our kids is not being stressed out, running all over creation and not letting them have enough down time
- Right. We manage to do that and one kid plays a travel sport.
- what's right for our kids is not being stressed out, running all over creation and not letting them have enough down time
- If homework were not what it is, it would be easier to fit all of these other things in. But he gets tons.
- It’s a mixed bag. You have to do what’s right for your kids
- np-I read in Simplicity Parenting that the average age of burnout in sports is 11. This travel team stuff is absurd, imo
- Then it sounds like you have the right approach. It’s a stage of life & wont last long.
- He loves baseball, so we take on little league every spring. It's a 12-14 week juggle. We dropped soccer (only did it in the fall) because it was too much.
- My kids play all kinds of sports- travel & rec. some have very dependable schedules, some don’t. If it’s an issue for you, pick one that does or stick to swimming.
- From what I hear around my town, all of the teams sports are like this. The travel teams are far worse in terms of time commitment required, though. A sport that consists of just...(more)
- yes-two kids, work FT and do freelance. dh's job is nuts. We do not do any sort of team sports, I refuse to let that dominate our lives (not to mention our kids' lives) and make...(more)
- ^granted, we are in the city and my kids aren't asking to do those kind of things....
- it's insane and you have to take control of the schedule and just tell your child no-it's too much. I remember really wanting ot take gymnastics at this particular gym in our...(more)
- He needs speech, extra reading instruction, and a math tutor. But he also needs friends and fun. And to learn how to swim (safety issue at the very least).
- Np: that sounds like a lot. I’d drop the sport for now.
- He is asking to go back to art class, but I have told him no so far because of the schedule. He is also interested in picking up an instrument. We just don't have time to do these...(more)
- It's a lot, I get it. And I think it's sad that homework takes up so much of evenings (my kid only has 20 minutes right now and I'm having trouble getting THAT done!). Can you...(more)
- Your comments make sense, but I wouldn't know what to drop. I already said no to an instrument and art lessons. He only does one team sport--and only for one season-- per year...(more)
- It's a lot, I get it. And I think it's sad that homework takes up so much of evenings (my kid only has 20 minutes right now and I'm having trouble getting THAT done!). Can you...(more)
- He needs speech, extra reading instruction, and a math tutor. But he also needs friends and fun. And to learn how to swim (safety issue at the very least).
- We don't. My dcs have one sport each, games always Sunday at the same time. Then we have a music teacher come to the house. That's it.
- Elementary Anyone order from brandless? any recommendations? thanks!
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- lol! ok, should I get the, um, lentil puffs?
- well, obviously get the pasta. Always get the pasta.
- I'm going to try it but it was hard to get to the free shipping amount. was hoping someone would say, get the pasta, or something like that!
- report back--I've considered ordering the picnic pak for my hurricane preparations. Hate having all the plastic but after Irma--you really need disposable stuff.
- that's a good idea. really can't beat the prices. I'm trying the q-tips and tin foil and a few other things like that. kinda sad how excited I am. *sigh*
- No, but I looked into it--in the end I didn't really eat the foods they have so it didn't seem to make that much sense for me.
- Elementary My 8 year old dd came home from a play date at a friend’s house saying she had played a game called bar and worn an outfit and served the dads drinks and that there was beer and...(more)
- Did you tip her with dollar bills in her cleavage?
- Just said ok dear that’s nice. Kids get their parents drinks sometimes.
- I think this is more about you being upset about your dh's drinking. It sounds like that is the problem. The girls grabbing beers for the dads is no big deal imo.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: I agree. I feel awful and more awful for her. How should I handle it, just keep my head down? I also don't want her to think the way dh treats me is okay. Maybe she...(more)
- I understand. He was very wrong to treat you that way. I also think that 8yo is too young for dd to have to worry about her dad's drinking, so I would keep comments about it toa...(more)
- op: He normally gets belligerant with me but this time he did it in front of dd and said I was evil and despicable. It was horrible. I wish I had let the game slide but it...(more)
- I agree. My dh is a recovering alcoholic, so I understand how frustrating and annoying it can be when dh acts stupid due to drinking.
- op:Thanks. I wanted to know if girls getting a beer for their dad's is universally viewed as troubling. That my dh can't stop drinking and doesn't ackowledge how it changes his...(more)
- Elementary Teachers: First grader at reading level I (i) right now. Not sure if that is guided or independent. Is that a little behind where my child should be? Thanks.
- NO. It's the high end of 1st Grade
- I don't know how I remember this but my ds ended K at level D and ended 1st grade at level J. He is a junior in HS now and getting an A in English and he reads just fine (they...(more)
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Awesome!
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Lol, but I totally disagree
- lol, I'm a lazy parent...and I also think intelligence is mostly genetic..you either have it or you don't
- Awesome!
- ^he was my 1st of 3 kids...with my next two kids I remember nothing about levels and by dd #3 I barely read to her (and she is by far the best reader/writer of my kids)
- Google Fountas & Pinnell scale
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school would expect I (i) independent by March, whereas I think he is only i guided now. Reading specialist said he us easily distracted which is affecting his comprehension.
- He is doing great...(more)
- My school uses Teachers College table.
- I am a Reading Specialist with McCraw Hill Education Group. Each test measurement has its own matrix. How was your child tested
- What test?
- He was tested today by a reading specialist who used Ekwall/Shanker Reading Inventory and Basic Reading Inventory.
- ok. let me find my materials
- this iwill help you understand the test...(more)
- ok. let me find my materials
- Elementary Any Miami Beach moms on that could give me guidance on elementary & middle schools in the area? We are open to public or private options. We are moving to the area in August.
- Are you planning on public? What arenas are you considering moving? My niece is in a public in Aventura- not tech Miami beach
- Elementary Tell us about your formula feeding experience!...(more)
- duh, we don't want our boobs to be giant flap bags
- Elementary 13 y/o DD has been struggling academically since DH died over a year ago. She has willfully avoided doing homework; just found out today she and another girl skipped a class;...(more)
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Yes. We all are.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- oy. i'm sorry-that sounds terrible. she needs you right now to love on her and be her mom. academics are so secondary. just be with her and spend time together.
- ^and academics should not be your top priority when she is 13
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- yes! i highly recommend that. i'm actually going to an orientation tomorrow for one here in san diego for my 8th grader who is struggling emotionally
- OP: I am considering a homeschool co-op (several friends have gone this route for various reasons to get their kids back on track.
- Therapists are not suggesting boarding school. Dead set against it, as I am.
- OP: Totally agree. A posh, waspy christian school, mind you.
- are the counselors recommend boarding school? because sending her away from you after such a loss seems like the wrong thing to do.
- Yes. We all are.
- dont do boarding school
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- OP: agree!
- can you homeschool her for a while?
- See above. Yes, considering it. But I wouldn't want to be the one doing the teaching. That would just make things worse!
- WHy other than you? That's who she wants
- Hesitant and was dead set against it when previous school recommended it. Now at new school, it seems like things have gotten worse. I know 7th grad is hard enough w/o changing...(more)
- I'm so sorry :-( I don't think sending her away will help though. Hopefully the school is understanding?
- she is 13 and that is a horrible thing for a child to go through (not to mention a tragic, horrible thing for you too). I guess I would try to be patient and know that she can...(more)
- I would not send her away. I would take a step back from extra stuff and bring things closer to home. Less activities more of your time and attention
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- OP: and meant to say that we do a lot of fun things together --we live in New Orleans, so plenty of things to do and we're close to beaches.
- being punitive is NOT the way to go. you need new counseling STAT if this is the advice you are getting.
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- my point is that if they're telling you to take away the few, fun outlets she has to reach her friends or feel "normal" that's super shitty advice. and i would find someone else...(more)
- I'm already spending a shitload on therapy....
- No- I don't mean punish her. I mean like less socializing with other people, less after school activities and running around. Just take time for you and her to just be around each...(more)
- ^Don't worry about having fun.
- Thanks -- and we spend a lot of time together.
- OP: We are already not using tv at home (she has lost her phone privileges for inappropriate activity, but I let her have it briefly to reward her when she makes good choices).
- are you part of the rich crowd? bc that's not a typical answer to the problems you are dealing with. im so sorry. it sounds hard. but sending her off after dad dies will be...(more)
- OP: We are not wealthy, but many of the families at the school are. Headmaster is from the Northeast and is a boarding school advocate. Not my bag; nor in my budget.
- That sounds grueling for all of you. I feel for you. But don't do boarding school. It would be better...(more)
- Not inclined to send her off -- especially after losing DH. I do feel like I'm losing this kid, though. I can't get anything out of her. She likes her therapist and her...(more)
- Funny, I once dated a guy who was shipped off to boarding school after his dad died. He couldn't bond.
- i am so, so sorry. are you yourself getting counseling?
- Elementary Really at my wit's end.... DH died over a year ago and older dd has been struggling at school (had to move her to another school last fall). She has flunked her past three histor...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
- thank you so much. I can only do so much for her. I told her I can't take her tests or make it stick inside her head. But if she wants to go to high school with her friends,...(more)
- I'm so sorry. Hang in there. What happened with DH?
- He had cancer
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- I know. I just know she will be so down on herself and already is. But she keeps digging herself into a deeper hole. Maybe this is the only way out of it.
- You are doing the best you can, I can tell. In time your DD will do better, if she falls behind and has to repeat some stuff, that's ok.
- He had cancer
- I'm sorry. I want to say the school should give her a break but that might backfire if they promote her and she is lacking the foundation for next year's work
- The other school (where she had been since pre-k) gave her every opp to catch up. But then they would catch her playing video games or shopping (!) online instead of doing her...(more)
- Well...given what you've been through as a family, if she does have to repeat to get her bearings again, that isn't the end of the world, and switching schools is hard, even...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- are you NYC?
- not anymore. new orleans
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- I appreciate this so much!
- ask school psych or pediatrician for recs. It is a fascinating look into their little brains. And, if she has ADHD, this explains a lot of the behavior. She needs some scaffolding...(more)
- not anymore. new orleans
- are you NYC?
- Wow.... interesting. I have to honestly say she and I are not thrilled with her current psychologist (who has dd on a low dose of anti-depressants - which seem to help). ADHD is...(more)
- if you can afford it, get her a neuro-psych. It was the best money I ever spent on my dd. It helped me understand her and the way she learned so much better. And, more...(more)
- TY... She has been an organized, lazy student forever, actually! Nothing new, but I know anything pre-existing just cracks wide open after a tragedy. She should have probably...(more)
- This is so hard. DH lost his mother young and it sent him into a tailspin. Took a year off of school, actually. I think that there is no way to rush this, but eventually she will...(more)
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- I told her if she has to repeat a grade, we're not moving. She'll just have to tough it out.
- It may not be a bad idea, especially if she continues to struggle. It may be hard just to go through the motions and outside of that routine she may thrive again.
- Thank you. I've thought about doing homeschooling (not personally, because that would drive both of us up the wall!!). But I know of a co-op school here through friends.
- I'm very sorry for your and your DD's loss, that's terribly sad. In terms of DD, you're ahead of...(more)
- that sounds so hard, i am sorry. i am praying to the heavens right now that she has a turnaround.
- Elementary Educational Therapist/Learning Specialist and Test Prep. Available...(more)
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- Elementary This post has been deleted.
- lol
- Sounds like it won’t work for you
- That's what it's all about then, right....?
- Yes. It’s not dinner companion
- That's what it's all about then, right....?
- I was thinking about being a surgeon but I don't want to operate on people.
- OP: LOL......okay. You answered my question. Thanks...lol
- Elementary I just now connected the raw cookie dough I was eating on Saturday to the unprecedented... bowel urgency I experienced last night, in which I did not...(more)
- Gross
- So you ate raw egg and you are surprised at this?
- Elementary Http://supplementlab.org/shred-fx/...(more)
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- Elementary I've been paying for private insurance for dc's and me (rolled over DH's insurance plan after he died). Just informed that Humana will no longer cover individual plans. Not sure...(more)
- Elementary Add for Upscale Sensual Body Work..... What does that mean?
- Elementary Http://healthpluscogni.com/pro-shred-testo/...(more)
- Elementary Need some big time/non-judgemental advice from moms who've BTDT and are drinking with me right now... 12 y/o daughter has changed her passcode on iPhone because I found deleted...(more)
- I'd get her a flip phone
- OP: That would be awesome, actually! She would hate it, lol. I am in the process of downloading and app to shut off her phone w/o taking it away. But I can't get into her...(more)
- p.s. She has lost her phone privilages for the evening, btw.
- take the phone away.
- Got it. Just need to get in to set up the parental control app I donwloaded earlier today.
- this
- omg! i am so sorry.
- Keep the phone indefinitely. She is only allowed it during a couple established hours and it must stay in the kitchen. It also charges in the kitchen. Be firm and do not give...(more)
- Thank you. Have the phone. She just crapped in her Easter Basket (as a very good friend of mine used to say....)
- Charge in your bedroom at night. She will sneak to kitchen and take it while you sleep.
- OP: Yes. I keep it in my room at night and she gets it back in the morning
- Smart. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with her. I don't usually agree with the take the phone away as punishment I so often see on ybm, but in your case it is exactly...(more)
- OP: She has already lost the privilege of bringing home school laptop because of ceaseless game playing (switching screens back and forth to make it look like she was actually do...(more)
- Good luck
- Thanks
- Good luck
- OP: She has already lost the privilege of bringing home school laptop because of ceaseless game playing (switching screens back and forth to make it look like she was actually do...(more)
- Smart. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with her. I don't usually agree with the take the phone away as punishment I so often see on ybm, but in your case it is exactly...(more)
- OP: Yes. I keep it in my room at night and she gets it back in the morning
- I'm sorry it sucks, and I think there are too many moms here who think this couldn't or doesn't happen.
- ^beyond that, she is not ready for a phone. I hope you guys can get some good advice in therapy.
- Thank you. Me too. This was her father's phone. We don't have a land line and it has been helpful to get in touch with her. I'm actually glad I'm not working right now so not...(more)
- ^beyond that, she is not ready for a phone. I hope you guys can get some good advice in therapy.
- Phone goes away as others have said. Also, as much as you can, a calm conversation about why she did it, what she thought she would do with the pics, and an explanation of why...(more)
- Thank you. Yes. Explained to her yesterday when I found the photos (and also calmly explained that as the one who is paying for the privilage of her having the phone to begin...(more)
- OP: What kind of nerd am I that, amidst this important conversation, I have to point out that I spelled privilege wrong....
- Thank you. Yes. Explained to her yesterday when I found the photos (and also calmly explained that as the one who is paying for the privilage of her having the phone to begin...(more)
- being a parent is so hard - you are not alone
- Thank you. I know I have a good tribe -- and thank you for being a part of that tribe tonight. I know it isn't always the case down this online rabbit hole.
- flip phone pronto. and maybe some therapy
- See above -- shitload of therapy
- I'd get her a flip phone
- Elementary Do you feel a child can have sensory issues but not ASD?
- Of course
- how do you help that type of child - my DS has social deficits - and it causes children to shy away from him - he is 10 years old and I have playdates to help - that goes better...(more)
- I think you need to let him be who he is. At recess maybe the thing for him to do is book club, or study hall, art class these are things that are offered in my school during...(more)
- how do you help that type of child - my DS has social deficits - and it causes children to shy away from him - he is 10 years old and I have playdates to help - that goes better...(more)
- WHat is ASD?
- aspergers
- That’s what i though, no. Sensory disorder and asbergers do not go hand in hand. I don’t know what many people make that mistake/misunderstanding of sensory issues.
- aspergers
- Everyone has them. I think the difference is whether it interferes with day to day functioning.
- it interferes with his ability to form social relationships - and his self worth is impacted
- Is he unable to form any social relationships? THat is aspergers.
- i don't think unable - he just very challenged in groups....awkward and not fitting in
- The most important thing I learned with my ds is that he diesn’t have to “fit in” he has to find people that “fit him” I always said this to him and he and I really changed our...(more)
- And until he finds those people it is perfectly fine to to find his own thing to do.
- The most important thing I learned with my ds is that he diesn’t have to “fit in” he has to find people that “fit him” I always said this to him and he and I really changed our...(more)
- i don't think unable - he just very challenged in groups....awkward and not fitting in
- Is he unable to form any social relationships? THat is aspergers.
- it interferes with his ability to form social relationships - and his self worth is impacted
- Of course
- Elementary My 10 year old DS struggles socially - has anyone seen their child learn social skills, with therapy, skills groups or otherwise? I really want to help my son...
- Nt at 10, but in preschool I have seen it help many of the kids in ds’s playgroup
- what is nt
- Not
- what is nt
- what is the issue? what do you mean struggles socially?
- he is not skilled at approaching and breaking in to play - he can be somewhat awkward - a schedule play dates and he does better - but at recess, when on his own w/ many kids, he...(more)
- hmm... obviously it bothers him? Have you spoken to a psychologist?
- before school started - psch said perhaps your child is an introvert and leave him alone - don't push it - however, now that school started i can see it is more than that because...(more)
- Introverts still feel bad about not being extroverts. He just has to find the other introverts on the playground, in fact they might not be on the playground, find out if there...(more)
- before school started - psch said perhaps your child is an introvert and leave him alone - don't push it - however, now that school started i can see it is more than that because...(more)
- This was my ds. It was much better when we switched to a small private school. Really helped him feel less overly stimulated and nervious on the playground. It was all to do with...(more)
- hmm... obviously it bothers him? Have you spoken to a psychologist?
- he is not skilled at approaching and breaking in to play - he can be somewhat awkward - a schedule play dates and he does better - but at recess, when on his own w/ many kids, he...(more)
- Nt at 10, but in preschool I have seen it help many of the kids in ds’s playgroup
- Elementary My 7 year old ds likes Halloween but not trick or treating all that much. He prefers to stay home and open the door for trick or treaters. Does this sound strange?
- not at all... go with the flow. Not every kid is into taking candy from strangers
- I get that. I don't mind staying home. I would not force him to trick or treat.
- No
- I know tons of kids like this
- Good to hear. I don't know any!
- I can see how this would actually be more fun and interesting.
- For me, it makes the evening easier! I don't mind, but I don't want ds to miss out on fun with his peers. Of course, I will not force him to trick or treat.
- not at all... go with the flow. Not every kid is into taking candy from strangers