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  1. Toddler Would you sahm if you could? also take a class 4-23-2019 6:23pm (17 replies)
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    • I do sahm 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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    • no 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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    • BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT GOT IS 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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    • I do, and I've taken classes. 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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    • I did. I loved it for the ten years I did it. But after my kids were in school I quickly got bored. Went back to work pt and also love that. 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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      • do you mind telling me what you do pt? 4-23-2019 6:27pm
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        • I’m a paraprofessional at a local school. The pay is shit, but I love it and it requires zero energy outside of working hours. I work 8:25-12;25 5 days a week. I leave and forget...(more) 4-23-2019 6:28pm
          about work for the rest of the day. It’s great.
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          • that sounds ideal 4-23-2019 6:29pm
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            • It is. Wish it payed more but beggars can’t be choosers. 4-23-2019 6:29pm
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      • I think this is what I'd want. EIther part time work or wah. 4-23-2019 6:28pm
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    • That's what I do. 4-23-2019 6:24pm
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    • YES! I work at home now so I am gettin closer 4-23-2019 6:28pm
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    • not sure. I would for a while, and I would absolutely wahm pt. 4-23-2019 6:29pm
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    • I shouldn’t be sahm and I basically am. I work a little. 4-23-2019 6:31pm
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    • I stay home. What class should I take? 4-23-2019 6:34pm
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  2. Toddler Assume you are a sahm and now have free time bc kids in full day school. would you take a very PT job as a concierge (running errands for people during school hours) for $23 / hr? 4-23-2019 2:23pm (25 replies)
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    • sure. why not? 4-23-2019 2:23pm
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      • is $23 an hour worth it though? 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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        • Yes. Put whatever you make into a Roth IRA. It will be worth it 4-23-2019 2:25pm
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        • it's a good raise from what you make now 4-23-2019 2:26pm
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    • If I really needed the money, but otherwise no. 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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    • do you need the money? do you want something to do? 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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      • i don’t “need” it but i would like to make purchases without dh critiquing. 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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        • I do this already, and yes I’d take the job to focus me and help me be more productive in my day 4-23-2019 2:26pm
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          • do you make the same? 4-23-2019 2:27pm
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            • More or less 4-23-2019 2:30pm
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    • No but I don’t have a serving personality 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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    • Would I? No. Because that doesn't sound fun of interesting 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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    • doesn't sound like that job will be done by 3pm. Seems like something where'd they expect you to run errands whenever they need you. 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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      • op. it’s a service that i’d be working for, not a person, so I can pick & choose jobs 4-23-2019 2:26pm
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        • so it's highly likely you'll make far less than a steady rate of $23/hr when all is said and done. 4-23-2019 2:31pm
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          • op. no, they are offering to pay me $23/hr 4-23-2019 2:36pm
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    • No, because anyone paying for this would be a high maintenance pit 4-23-2019 2:24pm
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      • op. this is a great point, thanks. 4-23-2019 2:25pm
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      • maybe not. my old company offered this service as part of our benefits. we could call up and have them do whatever it is we needed. fill up my gas tank, grocery shopping, etc. 4-23-2019 2:28pm
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    • if i enjoy it, sure. are they rude to me, no 4-23-2019 2:25pm
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    • i'd work at that rate, but not that job. if you like running around, go for it. 4-23-2019 2:25pm
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      • op. i do actually 4-23-2019 2:26pm
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    • Are they the kind of errands you can do your own at the same time?? Might be worth it... 4-23-2019 2:27pm
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    • No way, that sounds really annoying. But I would come up with something relevant to my prior experience. 4-23-2019 2:27pm
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      • op. it doesn’t sound annoying to me, i guess bc it’s what i do anyway! 4-23-2019 2:28pm
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  3. Toddler Six months ago today I quit my career (decade long) to SAHM for my SN kid (and NT kid). Can’t celebrate anywhere else but here. 4-20-2019 8:34pm (5 replies)
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    • This post has been deleted. 4-20-2019 8:37pm
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    • Gotta do what ya gotta do 4-20-2019 8:39pm
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    • I'm considering quitting my job as well, but don't have an SN dc, I'm just tired of the grind. Can you afford this financially? Do you regret it? 4-20-2019 8:45pm
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      • We don’t have a choice so we’re adjusting financially. NO REGRETS. 4-20-2019 8:48pm
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  4. Toddler What do you do for a job and how much do you earn per hour? If you're a SAHM, what amount per hour would convince you to return to work? 4-20-2019 6:28pm (11 replies)
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    • NP. About $55/hr. I’d quit in a second 4-20-2019 6:29pm
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      • interesting.....I make a bit less as an RN? 4-20-2019 6:33pm
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        • I’m in NJ at a crappy paying hospital 4-20-2019 6:34pm
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          • oh I see. that sucks. 4-20-2019 6:36pm
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    • CPA, $70/hour. Used to make a lot more in a very high cost of living area, but I’m doing quite well where I am now. considering retiring soon. 4-20-2019 6:30pm
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    • RN, $55 4-20-2019 6:31pm
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    • No amount, I will go back once kids are in high school 4-20-2019 6:32pm
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    • SN nanny. $52.50/hour 4-20-2019 6:36pm
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    • teacher: it probably hits $35/hour or so if I do the math, but I'm at a boarding school and so my job also includes housing. 4-20-2019 6:45pm
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  5. Toddler I have the entire summer planned out already. Maybe this wouldn’t be the case if I was a sahm? 4-20-2019 2:55pm (22 replies)
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    • what does one have to do with the other ?? 4-20-2019 2:56pm
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      • Childcare 4-20-2019 2:56pm
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      • Hmmm, her DCs will likely need full time camps since she works? 4-20-2019 2:57pm
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        • hmmm 4-20-2019 2:57pm
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        • hmmm who knows how old they are and if they need camp 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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    • lol 4-20-2019 2:56pm
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    • wtf? 4-20-2019 2:56pm
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    • i have a working mom friend with three kids who, as of last weekend, had nothign planned for them for the summer. 4-20-2019 2:57pm
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      • She’s brave. I’m nyc spots get filled quick so I need to make sure to enroll DCs ASAP 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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    • I do not work full time in the summer and very actively avoid planning the whole thing out. 4-20-2019 2:57pm
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      • I would too if I didn’t work. That’s teally how summer should be 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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        • I think it depends on your personality. I am not a person who thrives with that much structure. 4-20-2019 2:59pm
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    • 2 of my dcs have a job, 3rd is not sure yet 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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    • SAHM and our summer is planned. Wtf 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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      • Has been since Jan. 4-20-2019 2:59pm
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    • Probably not. I’m SAHM and love having the flexibility to do spontaneous fun things so don’t plan more than a couple weeks of summer 4-20-2019 2:58pm
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      • That’s awesome. 4-20-2019 2:59pm
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    • My kids have camp and classes planned already. 4-20-2019 3:00pm
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    • i am sahm and my kids have gone to camp the entire summer since 4 yrs old...both at overnight camp now 4-20-2019 3:02pm
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    • I sign and have no plans yet 4-20-2019 3:05pm
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    • I am a sahm right now. We have our summer planned out - camp, Europe, take ds to college. 4-20-2019 3:05pm
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  6. Toddler Broad strokes but my generation was raised to want careers, have it all/do it all, etc. The pendulum swung back w/next gen wanting to get married and be sahm. 4-19-2019 1:40pm (68 replies)
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    • I don't think that's true at all. 4-19-2019 1:41pm
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    • It was more feasible when work ended by 5pm 4-19-2019 1:41pm
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      • And life wasn't so expensive. 4-19-2019 1:41pm
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    • What is your generation? 4-19-2019 1:41pm
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      • this, I know of no contemporary woman who is a SAH 4-19-2019 1:42pm
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        • wow you have a really limited little bubble 4-19-2019 1:42pm
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          • Women under 50 generally work outside the home. 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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            • also over 50. 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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            • that's really not something you can generalize about. I know many many who don't. 4-19-2019 1:44pm
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              • Your anecdata doesn't count, though 4-19-2019 1:45pm
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                • but yours does? 4-19-2019 1:45pm
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                  • Here you go...(more) 4-19-2019 1:46pm
                    • ok so that says 70%. That means 30% SAHM. 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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                      • so...70% is a pretty overwhelming majority. 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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                        • eh. 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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                          • you are dumb, sorry 4-19-2019 1:51pm
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                            • and you are an idiot. 30% of people is a fair amount. as I said above, you can't claim that women "generally" work outside the home. 4-19-2019 1:52pm
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                      • that is 4 years old. more are working now (was worse market then) 4-19-2019 1:53pm
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                  • stats say most mothers work outside the home. 4-19-2019 1:47pm
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        • np I am but you don't know me. 4-19-2019 1:42pm
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          • how old are you? 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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            • 35 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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              • how old is your DH? 4-19-2019 1:44pm
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                • 37 4-19-2019 1:45pm
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                  • Your 37 yo old DH makes enough money to support a family alone? What does he do? 4-19-2019 1:45pm
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                    • I don't really want to say. 4-19-2019 1:46pm
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                      • A normal not very interesting job though^ 4-19-2019 1:46pm
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                        • But you realize how unusual it is for a 37 yo man to support a family on one salary,r ight? 4-19-2019 1:47pm
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                          • not really because it does not seem out of the norm around me. 4-19-2019 1:48pm
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                            • that is called a bubble. your dh is in the top .0008% 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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                              • no and every sah mom isn't umc 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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                                • yes, she is in a very small bubble. 4-19-2019 1:54pm
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                                • generally SAHs are of the low income variety or the very wealthy 4-19-2019 1:54pm
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                                  • Yes so what I saying is true 4-19-2019 1:56pm
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                    • np: any lawyer in NYC for example 4-19-2019 1:46pm
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                      • Not all lawyers are partners at biglaw though 4-19-2019 1:48pm
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                        • you don't need to be in order for the other person to SAHM 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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                          • I am guessing you need a min. of 300k. to have a SAH. 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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                            • Or not all over the us. 4-19-2019 1:51pm
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                            • not sure where you come up with that 4-19-2019 1:51pm
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                            • Anyone over a 4th or 5th year associate makes that at big law firms. 4-19-2019 1:52pm
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          • ditto 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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          • you are in a tiny bubble. 4-19-2019 1:44pm
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            • No I'm not. Most women with kids do not sah but there are sah moms all over the us. 4-19-2019 1:44pm
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              • 18% of parents don't have work outside the house. 4-19-2019 1:47pm
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                • yes and they don't all live near me. 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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                • 30% 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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                  • not according to data. 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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                    • according to the "data" someone just posted 4-19-2019 1:51pm
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        • My little niece has an ivy chemistry degree, got married and pregnant as soon as she graduated, proudly calls herself a SAHM. DB 2yo now 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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      • op - Gen X, we all wanted huge careers, delayed marriage/having kids until well into our 30s, talking generally about my dfs, like I said, broad generalization. 4-19-2019 1:42pm
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        • boomers did this too. the tail end. my aunt and her cohort, born 1956. they were the yuppies. 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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    • I think Gen X is afraid of divorce, so we want to make sure we're self supporting 4-19-2019 1:42pm
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    • what next gen is staying at home? I live where gen x in the year 2001 was having dbs and indulging in modern domesticity. really though life was just cheaper then here. now the...(more) 4-19-2019 1:43pm
      younger moms on my street all work and work FT. houses are spendy.
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      • knitting and chickens right? 4-19-2019 1:44pm
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        • yep! and cloth diapers. and homemade yogurt 4-19-2019 1:45pm
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    • i do not think it is true. The difference today is the number of men who stay home and are supported by bread winning women 4-19-2019 1:43pm
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    • I tend to agree. I have also noticed a shit in the SAHM culture from a decade ago. It used to seem that the moms who did stay home felt a need (or desire) to prove they weren’t...(more) 4-19-2019 1:44pm
      just home makers and it involved a lot of volunteering, school engagement etc. The younger sahms I meet now seem happy to embrace a role where they prioritize taking care of themselves
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      • your school doesn't have volunteers now? 4-19-2019 1:46pm
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      • This is definitely true. In my school district about 65-70% are sahm. Only about 5% do any volunteering. But about 45% will gladly tell you about their tennis team and soul cycle...(more) 4-19-2019 1:50pm
        time.
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        • incredible to me you know all the moms in your school district, this must be a tiny place? 4-19-2019 1:57pm
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          • with one K-8 4-19-2019 1:58pm
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    • I don't see how what they want gibes with the costs of housing today 4-19-2019 1:49pm
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    • I became a SAHM at 41 when I had my daughter. It was a very hard change but ultimately good for all of us. 4-19-2019 1:50pm
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    • I wanted both but SAHM right now. Dh makes enough and I don’t do a good job of juggling. Looking forward to going back. 4-19-2019 1:56pm
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  7. Toddler I’ve been seriously thinking about quitting my job (and retire/sahm/freelance) and its so hard to get motivated to work now. 4-17-2019 12:19pm (2 replies)
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    • Freelance is the way to go. I work for myself. If you can figure out a way to get your own clients, it’s so much less stressful than working for an employer. 4-17-2019 12:19pm
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    • Ok so quit if you don’t need money 4-17-2019 12:26pm
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  8. Toddler This post has been disliked 3 times. showI have a group of professional work friends- all male. Making plans to meet for drink after work and I am getting shit for havinf limited dates avail. So much wat to scream "I...(more) 4-16-2019 10:24am (33 replies)
    DONT HAVE A SAHM AT HOME SO I CAN DO WHAT I WANT" Thank you for letting me vent
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    • Why not say it? You don’t have to scream. 4-16-2019 10:24am
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      • Its a professional relationship, so I cannot be as blunt as if it were just friend friends. 4-16-2019 10:26am
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        • You could with my dh. He has no idea otherwise. 4-16-2019 10:26am
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          • Maybe you are right, I am "thinking like a woman" I will be more blunt next time someone makes a dig 4-16-2019 10:27am
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    • god, that sounds super irritating. sorry. 4-16-2019 10:25am
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    • Yes blame me for your life. 4-16-2019 10:25am
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      • np. huh?! 4-16-2019 10:25am
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      • Huh? 4-16-2019 10:25am
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      • are you a sahm? op is saying that wives like you make it easier for male professionals to go out of a drink when they want to. 4-16-2019 10:26am
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        • OP- Exactly. It doesn't occur to them that without a SAHM at home, their freedom becomes extremely curtailed. They live like Madmen circa 1965 4-16-2019 10:27am
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    • I hear you. Most men really don't get it. Even the ones with wives who work. 4-16-2019 10:25am
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    • that's difficult - sorry 4-16-2019 10:25am
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    • Give them shit. They can take it 4-16-2019 10:25am
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      • I am going to. 4-16-2019 10:28am
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    • what's with all the dislikes? 4-16-2019 10:25am
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      • It feels a tad anti sham. 4-16-2019 10:25am
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        • That’s you “in your feelings” 4-16-2019 10:26am
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          • My right to be in my feelings if I want. 4-16-2019 10:27am
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            • But not your right to claim OP made you feel that way 4-16-2019 10:28am
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              • I think it was intended that way. 4-16-2019 10:29am
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                • OP- I suggest you read my responses. You are 1000% wrong and anything anti-SAHM is totally in your head alone 4-16-2019 10:29am
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                • np. get the fuck over yourself 4-16-2019 10:32am
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        • how? be specific. 4-16-2019 10:26am
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        • OP- Not even close. If anything, I think they fail to see how much easier their SAHM wives make their lives 4-16-2019 10:26am
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        • get over yourself. you don't agree that her situation is different than the men's? 4-16-2019 10:26am
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          • I don’t think she should be bringing spouses into it. 4-16-2019 10:28am
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            • np- but the spouses are the reason why its different. Without mentioning they have SAHMS, her post would make no sense 4-16-2019 10:28am
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              • I don’t think it’s fair to be upset because someone has a better setup. 4-16-2019 10:30am
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                • It is when they are basically giving OP shit for not having it. 4-16-2019 10:32am
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                • OP- Its not better, its different. I also get shit for having more $$$, as if two incomes don't do that. But as some said above, I am probably thinking too much like a woman....(more) 4-16-2019 10:33am
                  Guys give shit without thinking all the time
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    • I do make it so dh can network a lot. 4-16-2019 10:27am
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    • I totally agree. I tell my male coworkers this too! they also think I am crazy for feeling guilty when I do stuff after work. I'm like...(more) 4-16-2019 10:27am
      I never see my kids! And they look at me like I"m nuts (even though they work the same hours - even more!)
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    • The women dh has worked with throughout the year were mostly childless, often unmarried. They never got that he wanted to be home for dinner. 4-16-2019 10:28am
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  9. Toddler BIL, who lives in MA is getting divorced. His ex-wife was a sahm and they were married for 7 years. Have a 4 and 6 yo. He has agreed to everything she wanted (half of all his...(more) 4-13-2019 10:33am (27 replies)
    assets, child support etc). But now she's taking him to court (he has no idea why) and he has to pay for her lawyers too. Also, he says that he will have to show her his W-2's every single year...in case he gets a promotion or something. Does this sound right?
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    • Yes 4-13-2019 10:34am
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      • ^he won't have to pay spousal support forever though. Why are they divorcing? He cheated? 4-13-2019 10:34am
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        • Sounds more like he was tired of his wife being a princess but she wins in the end 4-13-2019 10:35am
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          • yes. this was it. She was really like a princess. Didn't do a thing in the house in spite of being a sahm. Expected him to do a lot more than his fair share...also work full time. 4-13-2019 10:36am
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            • lol he married her. he's not a victim. now he has babies with her. 4-13-2019 10:48am
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              • op: Yes...he realizes that too. I think they both were very immature when they married. He expected her to change. So did she I guess. They both didn't...and once the kids came,...(more) 4-13-2019 10:50am
                that caused problems.
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                • and who pays the price but the little kids. its sad but they hae to behave like adults and both consider the kids first from now on, even apart 4-13-2019 10:51am
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        • nope. irreconciliable differences. nobody cheated. 4-13-2019 10:35am
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          • or: You probably don't know the whole story 4-13-2019 10:37am
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            • these are the grounds, nowhere did she claim to know the full story 4-13-2019 10:39am
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    • the lawyer part seems strange but the rest is normal - not sure i get why they are back in court but you can bet you don't have the full story 4-13-2019 10:34am
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    • Honestly, Massachusetts is terrible for men in these situation. He'll have to pay her until those kids are 23 4-13-2019 10:35am
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      • In this case, she was a SAHM, so...wasn't that their plan in the marriage? 4-13-2019 10:37am
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        • people have trouble with this concept, i guess sahm also needs to mean dh's personal maid/assistant - and fwiw i am a Wohm 4-13-2019 10:38am
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      • you mean he'll have to pay for his OWN KIDS? 4-13-2019 10:42am
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        • op:He is not contesting that AT ALL. But why take him to court. Like I said, he is ok with paying her and for the kids till they are on their own. 4-13-2019 10:45am
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          • I know, was responding to the OR-her wording is...odd 4-13-2019 10:46am
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        • i think she means alimony 4-13-2019 10:46am
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          • well, that's a risk when you want your wife to SAHM I guess 4-13-2019 10:46am
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    • Ok but you are only hearing his side 4-13-2019 10:37am
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      • that is true. But she has been nasty to him for a couple of years now. He actually is a pretty straightforward guy...I think he's getting the worse deal here. 4-13-2019 10:38am
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        • well if this is the case good riddance, he can find a partner who appreciates him 4-13-2019 10:40am
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          • yes...that is true. But right now he's feeling very broke. Has to sell his house to give her the money. She's going to go and live with her mother, 2 towns over. 4-13-2019 10:42am
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            • the short term will be painful, but life is a long game right? he will find happiness 4-13-2019 10:43am
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              • away from his kids more often than not? sucks all around imo 4-13-2019 10:49am
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            • It’s not his house, it’s their house. 4-13-2019 10:44am
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    • Similar story with my brother but married longer and older kids. Offered her everything, he just wanted out. Sil rejected it all, dragged the divorce on for 6 years, switched...(more) 4-13-2019 10:50am
      lawyers 4 times, the last time the judge yelled at her and told her to get it together. She ended up with a lot less in the end because close to a million dollars was spent on lawyers and she got the same split he had originally offered. My brother went through heartache but hear later, he is remarried and very happy.
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  10. Toddler When you are a sahm you don’t have anyone taking care of you either. It’s a mom thing 4-11-2019 10:34pm (22 replies)
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    • Except SAHM with live in help. Thats the dream! 4-11-2019 10:34pm
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      • Yes that’s true! I know many in my town 4-11-2019 10:35pm
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        • I don't know many with live-ins. None in fact. Lots with FT help but none that sleep there. 4-11-2019 10:37pm
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          • Oh I guess I mean au pairs. But for nannies they are live out yes 4-11-2019 10:38pm
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            • Au pairs aren't live in help they are kids looking for something to do on a gap year I mean proper help help :-) 4-11-2019 10:39pm
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              • The several I know are with the kids every day doing a ton of stuff 4-11-2019 10:40pm
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                • Not the same. And dirt cheap. Want to talk about slave labor? right there in our backyard. If you want to have full time live in help you should have to pay for it. 4-11-2019 10:42pm
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                  • I have no skin in the game. I’ve got no help! Except the HS babysitter once in a while 4-11-2019 10:44pm
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                    • me neither just my poor opinion :-) 4-11-2019 10:45pm
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      • I am embarrassed the day my cleaning woman comes. I have to 4-11-2019 10:35pm
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        • ^go out. Full time help I would be annoyed and feel like a loser 4-11-2019 10:36pm
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    • When the kids were little I found it worse than working FT but it’s not so bad once they hit school. 4-11-2019 10:35pm
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    • But you don’t need to actually achieve things while commuting and looking nice. Perfectly controlled and present and on point every minute. Very very different. 4-11-2019 10:40pm
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      • ^ you’re there for dr appointment, deliveries, start dinner , ifva kid is sick, run errands 4-11-2019 10:41pm
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      • This. We are expected to work like we don’t have children and raise children like we don’t have work 4-11-2019 10:41pm
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    • i was lucky. i had my mom. my husband and dad too, of course, but as you said, it's a mom thing. i know i was lucky to have had that kind of support with my young family 4-11-2019 10:45pm
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      • That is lucky. I always thought my mom would help more but she didn’t. She helped if I really needed it but I wish she helped more. Lived closer. She could have moved closer but...(more) 4-11-2019 10:46pm
        she doesn’t want to
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        • i'm sorry. i never moved far from home, from my parents, so it worked out like that. 4-11-2019 10:49pm
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          • ^^ i always credit my mom for my being a confident mom myself, righ tfrom the start. 4-11-2019 10:50pm
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          • My mom moved right after I graduated college , far away! Then moved around. 4-11-2019 10:50pm
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            • some people would say she'd done her time as a parent & deserved the chance to roam free. but of course i see the other side too, how nice it is to have really engaged...(more) 4-11-2019 10:53pm
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  11. Toddler I know a woman who met her dh from Craigslist dating post. Her dh was divorced, a bit older than her- she was 26 and he was 35ish. He makes a lot of money and she sahm. She is not...(more) 4-10-2019 10:10pm (4 replies)
    Overly good looking nor had some great interesting career. Nice pretty young woman who got very lucky- Craigslist!! She has two dc and not a money worry in the world.
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    • Ok 4-10-2019 10:11pm
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    • lol - that is crazy! 4-10-2019 10:11pm
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      • I know! It was maybe 10 years ago when they met, but Craigslist was never a great dating site 4-10-2019 10:14pm
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    • sounds good 4-10-2019 10:15pm
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  12. Toddler I have been a SAHM for 10 years and really think I need to go back to work. 4-9-2019 10:20am (15 replies)
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    • I WAH and love it. I stayed home for a long time. 4-9-2019 10:21am
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    • thats exciting. what do you want to do? 4-9-2019 10:21am
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      • I love doing research. So some form of that. 4-9-2019 10:23am
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    • Cool 4-9-2019 10:22am
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    • I’ve been a sahm for 9 years. It’s just finally getting good! 4-9-2019 10:22am
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      • Op. I know! It is fun and easy but there is a slightly weird dynamic with dh so I think I better have a little financial independence. 4-9-2019 10:24am
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    • do it 4-9-2019 10:22am
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    • it's tough to get back into the work place after being out but it's important for you to do that. 4-9-2019 10:23am
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      • Every SAH I know has gone back no problem once they commit to doing it. Even 10-20 years out. 4-9-2019 10:25am
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    • Why? 4-9-2019 10:23am
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      • I just have a slightly weird power dynamic with dh. Plus I realized I have adhd and now that I know that I am less scared of just not working because I am scared of failing. I...(more) 4-9-2019 10:26am
        know I have challenges and I can do things to overcome them with help.
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        • It’s one of a nice position to be in. You don’t need the money so you can pick something you’re interested in an the money is a nice plus. 4-9-2019 10:29am
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  13. Toddler This post has been disliked 4 times. showMy life is a joke...born with a silver spoon, good degrees etc, worked in finance. Gave it up to be a SAHM. Dc's are now 11 and 13 and I'm so bored and feel so trapped in a life...(more) 4-8-2019 10:14pm (25 replies)
    of my own making.
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    • start again. figure out what will make you happy. it's your time 4-8-2019 10:15pm
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    • You invested in your kids. Stop complaining. 4-8-2019 10:15pm
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    • boo hoo 4-8-2019 10:15pm
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    • I'm like you except I love it 4-8-2019 10:16pm
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      • I'm, really bored and my brain is full of fungus,. i need to use it but i cant go back to finance 4-8-2019 10:16pm
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    • I can relate somewhat. Can you find a volunteer job that you feel is really useful? How do you feel about your dh? 4-8-2019 10:16pm
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      • Thank you, you are right, I need to do more volunteering 4-8-2019 10:18pm
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        • My advice honestly is fine one volunteer position and really commit to that. 4-8-2019 10:21pm
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    • Ok. Guess what, none of us are completely happy. That sounds much like me, I have a 'charmed' life when it comes to finances and a good Dh but I feel like I lost my way. I don't...(more) 4-8-2019 10:16pm
      know anyone who is entirely happy with their choices.
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      • This...you are so right 4-8-2019 10:17pm
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      • this. 4-8-2019 10:17pm
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    • Soon you’ll be dead. Why complain like this? Be grateful 4-8-2019 10:16pm
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      • i;m complaining on here, but i don't complain all the time. People do envy my lifestyle but I feel the need to have a more meaningful existence 4-8-2019 10:17pm
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      • way to take it to the dark side 4-8-2019 10:18pm
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        • It’s true though. So much angst and it’s over before you know it 4-8-2019 10:19pm
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          • aw stfu, not a constructive word from you, bugger off 4-8-2019 10:20pm
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            • Go kill yourself 4-8-2019 10:20pm
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      • She can be grateful and also feel a need to change something. 4-8-2019 10:19pm
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    • Well. Are your kids interesting people? I’m SAHM with fancy degrees and am enjoying the hell out of my kids. A bit younger - 9 & 11. They are peak fun IMHO. 4-8-2019 10:17pm
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      • They are, but they are outgrowing me 4-8-2019 10:18pm
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    • Well, some SAHMs in my church faced the same sort of dilemma that you are facing now. Their kids got older and they felt like they weren't needed (but at ages 11 and 13, I would...(more) 4-8-2019 10:18pm
      say that your kids definitely depend on you). So these moms decided to create a homeless shelter and soup kitchen in Newark NJ that offers all sorts of great services. You're not poor, you have options in how to spend your time.
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    • sing it sister. right with you 4-8-2019 10:19pm
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    • your time is mostly your own. You probably are comfortable financially, take nice vacations, exercise when you want, etc. Sounds good to me 4-8-2019 10:19pm
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      • it get's boring and i feel quite useless 4-8-2019 10:20pm
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    • So go back 4-8-2019 10:41pm
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  14. Toddler How horrible would it be for a SAHM to stop driving a high schooler the 1.4 mile to and from school (suburbs)? 4-8-2019 5:27pm (46 replies)
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    • Can he take bus? 4-8-2019 5:27pm
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    • Kenny take a bus? If yes then I never would have driven him in the first place 4-8-2019 5:27pm
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    • city mom here...wtf? why can't she walk? 4-8-2019 5:27pm
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      • NP: Really? Did you walk uphill both ways as a child? 4-8-2019 5:28pm
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        • my kid has been walking a mile to school every day since 5th grade 4-8-2019 5:29pm
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          • great. what time does your high school start? np my 4th grader walks but it is .4 miles and school starts at 8:45 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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            • high schooler starts at 8:15, leaves the house at 7:55 4-8-2019 5:31pm
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              • yes. when my 4th grader starts high school it starts at 7:30. it is 1.2 miles and I plan on dropping her 4-8-2019 5:32pm
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                • that makes sense 4-8-2019 5:32pm
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                  • It is ungodly early! I know some schools are trying to push high school later but it will never happen given the sports schedules 4-8-2019 5:33pm
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            • Op- the high school starts at 8:45. 4-9-2019 10:53am
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        • Np: we walked our kids since elementary 4-8-2019 5:31pm
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      • bc mom is home and would save the kid 20 minutes of sleep? 4-8-2019 5:29pm
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        • fine some days but every day? I think a high school kid can deal with the occassional walk to school 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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          • Yes, occasionally, but that is a hike with your backpack and mom is right there. It's a big deal to have to walk for half an hour. 4-8-2019 5:35pm
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        • but if he got himself on the bus, then SHE could stay in bed? see? 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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          • most towns do not have buses under 2 miles and chances are she is awake anyway but I know you were being sarcastic 4-8-2019 5:31pm
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            • i live in a burb. 1.4 miles is A LOT longer than it feels in the city. she should drive the kid to school. she doesn't want to because she wants to stay in bed. selfish and...(more) 4-8-2019 5:33pm
              lazy
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              • yes, I agree with you. just didn't want the idea of a bus being available even lingering out there bc generally that is not an option 4-8-2019 5:34pm
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      • That distance feels a lot longernin the burbs and sometimes there’s so sidewalks 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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      • Lol. You just said "city mom". That is such a dumb fucking argument. 4-8-2019 5:47pm
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    • what does SAHM have to do with it? 4-8-2019 5:27pm
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      • I'm assuming bc she knows she can. 4-8-2019 5:28pm
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        • asking the question at all assumes she can. 4-8-2019 5:28pm
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      • Bc she is home theoretically devoted to taking care of the house and children? 4-8-2019 5:28pm
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        • i just think the implicit question is "will I appear lazy if i don't do this?" 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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          • and my answer is yes bc she sah. If she had to hop on the train herself it is a different conversation 4-8-2019 5:31pm
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            • i'm agreeing with you. if she SAH and can't/won't do this for her kid, it's because she wants to stay in bed 4-8-2019 5:32pm
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              • yes, I agree with you 4-8-2019 5:33pm
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      • She available 4-8-2019 5:37pm
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    • Is it bikeable? 4-8-2019 5:27pm
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showOnly a coddled little boy needs to be driven such a short distance 4-8-2019 5:28pm
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      • and only a coddled SAHM would make her kid get on a bus when she has nothing better to do at that time and doing so would afford him needed extra sleep 4-8-2019 5:35pm
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        • Easy there bitter wohm. 4-8-2019 5:50pm
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    • Not cool in my book. I don't think they need door to door driving by drop somewhere mutually convenient for both of you. I do this for my middle schooler and that is the plan for...(more) 4-8-2019 5:28pm
      next year (h.s.)
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    • That's quite a time suck for the student. 4-8-2019 5:29pm
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      • agree. home is a different story but in the morning? 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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      • Yes especially in am if school starts early. If there's no bus I'd probably drive if I could and I'm a pretty lowkey non snowplow 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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    • I can’t believe this is a question. 4-8-2019 5:30pm
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    • Not even remotely horrible 4-8-2019 5:32pm
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    • Its tough in the mornings for a kid to walk that far if its not necessary. I drive my ds in the morning and he walks home (its probably 3/4 of a mile) 4-8-2019 5:32pm
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    • I don't have enough info to make a judgement on this. 4-9-2019 11:01am
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  15. Toddler Approaching 6 months SAHM after 11 grueling years WOHM 4-8-2019 3:23pm (9 replies)
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    • sounds divine!! 4-8-2019 3:25pm
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      • OP I could have hung in there but SN kid needs a lot of mothering right now. Gotta do what you gotta do. I'm embracing it. 4-8-2019 3:28pm
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    • Why did you change? I 4-8-2019 3:27pm
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      • OP SN kid was asked to leave yet another school. Dh and I were able to (just) afford life on his salary. I gave it three months of hard thinking then I pulled the trigger and...(more) 4-8-2019 3:29pm
        murdered my beautiful career.
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        • Good for you! I hope life is better for you. Just keep in touch with your contacts. At least have coffee every once in a while. I doubt you'll end up murdering your career if you...(more) 4-8-2019 3:31pm
          do this.
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    • It is hard to be a wohm 4-8-2019 3:28pm
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      • But so satisfying to get away and make ones own money! 4-8-2019 3:30pm
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        • np i started working after many years at home, & while i enjoy what i do, and we need even the small amount of money i bring home, i get zero satisfaction from the money part....(more) 4-8-2019 3:34pm
          none. it's meaningless. it's in no way satisfying.
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  16. Toddler SAHM/WAHM with cleaning ladies: Do you leave the house when she comes to clean? 4-8-2019 12:08pm (8 replies)
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    • yes 4-8-2019 12:09pm
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    • No, I just go to another room. 4-8-2019 12:09pm
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    • Yep--and I pretend I am not home when the dog walker comes--she drives me batty. 4-8-2019 12:09pm
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    • no i stay in my office 4-8-2019 12:09pm
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    • WAHM - yes, we are not home when they're there. 4-8-2019 12:09pm
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      • Where do you go to work? 4-8-2019 12:10pm
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    • no I go to another floor. 4-8-2019 12:10pm
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    • WOTH but the rare day I am home when she comes I leave. I am just so uncomfortable watching someone clean my house for me. 4-8-2019 12:16pm
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  17. Toddler We are moving and it is starting to look like dh decided he works and I sahm so he will just pack his own stuff. Hmmm... 4-8-2019 9:06am (21 replies)
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    • Do what you can while he's at work and on the weekends, make a plan for what you'll accomplish together. 4-8-2019 9:07am
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    • Why aren’t you packing his stuff? 4-8-2019 9:07am
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      • Op. I don’t want him to get upset if anything important goes missing. 4-8-2019 9:07am
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        • So his thought sounds like a reasonable accommodation 4-8-2019 9:11am
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    • seems reasonable 4-8-2019 9:07am
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    • This is your opportunity to mari condo his shit! 4-8-2019 9:08am
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      • Luckily he isn’t a hoarder. He has one desk full of random crap and four boxes of I am not sure 4-8-2019 9:08am
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    • I don’t get it. Do you sah? 4-8-2019 9:08am
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      • Yes 4-8-2019 9:09am
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        • I sah too and I would pack his stuff. 4-8-2019 9:10am
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    • SAHM here with an impending move. I always handle the move. The organizing 4-8-2019 9:08am
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      • The planning. The purging. 4-8-2019 9:10am
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      • np ditto, it's my strength, but dh would have to be involved for the last bit involving his stuff 4-8-2019 9:11am
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      • Exactly. That's the job. The home stuff. 4-8-2019 9:12am
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        • You’re so obedient and well trained 4-8-2019 9:14am
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          • come on. that is the job. and i have woh and sah 4-8-2019 9:16am
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            • The job is what I say it is 4-8-2019 9:21am
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    • If I was a SAHM I would largely do the packing. Why wouldn't I? 4-8-2019 9:09am
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    • So if you worked outside the house, what would be different? 4-8-2019 9:11am
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      • Guess we would purge together and hire packers? We would split stuff like we used to. He would take a day off and I would take a day off. 4-8-2019 9:14am
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    • I woud want to be in charge of packing (and purging) across the board. But I'm a control freak. 4-8-2019 9:13am
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  18. Toddler I am a SAHM. I am packing up my apt. So far DH has taken 1 kid to a play date, for cleats, and to a sports practice. And thrown out four bags of garbage that I collected from...(more) 4-7-2019 4:01pm (8 replies)
    Purging. He just asked for lunch - super ugh. I could tell him to deal but I am going to make something simple. If the packing isn’t done I will hire packers.
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    • Where are you moving from and to? 4-7-2019 4:02pm
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      • NYC to NYC. I am excited - my new apt gets great light. 4-7-2019 4:04pm
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    • I have never had my DH ask me to make him lunch!!! Wow what a tool. 4-7-2019 4:03pm
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      • Op. Totally! He can walk and buy it on our block. I need cold cuts for school lunch anyway. 4-7-2019 4:04pm
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        • Well he should learn how to prepare himself basic meals. 4-7-2019 4:05pm
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        • ^he was like “I am worried about the kids’ lunch. One I had fed and the other is 12 and microwaved herself Trader Joe’s macaroni and ate fruit. 4-7-2019 4:05pm
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        • Tell him to bring you lunch 4-7-2019 4:06pm
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        • This sounds easy enough for him to solve 4-7-2019 4:14pm
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  19. Toddler Things to remember when you are job searching after being SAHM for 10+ years" 4-7-2019 3:40pm (21 replies)
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    • ^years: 4-7-2019 3:40pm
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    • Network, network, network. 4-7-2019 3:40pm
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    • Leverage your connections 4-7-2019 3:40pm
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    • you will earn minimum wage and start at the bottom again 4-7-2019 3:40pm
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      • This is not necessarily true. 4-7-2019 3:49pm
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    • be realistic. 4-7-2019 3:40pm
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      • and think out of the box. can you volunteer or "intern" somewhere as a way into a regular job. 4-7-2019 3:42pm
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        • Is that outside of the box? That's pretty much the box. 4-7-2019 3:43pm
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          • i would think the box is looking for job postings and applying. 4-7-2019 3:43pm
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        • OP here...this is exactly what I am doing. I am working on a special project for a friend who owns a business. 4-7-2019 3:48pm
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    • It's a process - meeting one person will open up one or more doors/opportunities to pursue. 4-7-2019 3:41pm
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    • Even though I think this is another troll post, my advice is to remember that you have an enormous amount of value to offer, and get YBM out of your head. 4-7-2019 3:41pm
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      • This! 4-7-2019 3:42pm
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      • It's not a troll post. 4-7-2019 3:43pm
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        • ok. But this is a YBM lightening rod, so, never sure. 4-7-2019 3:46pm
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    • Pay attention to corporate culture and how the company communicates with you during the process. This is very telling about how happy you will be working there. 4-7-2019 3:45pm
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    • Lower your expectations . Look at entry level 4-7-2019 3:47pm
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      • This - but sell yourself as "re-entry level." You may need to build your skills, but there are things you already possess that are valuable. Think about ways you already add...(more) 4-7-2019 3:49pm
        value.
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    • you may need some extra training 4-7-2019 3:49pm
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      • Yes. Look into programs at community colleges. 4-7-2019 3:50pm
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        • especially tech skills ^^^ np 4-7-2019 3:55pm
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  20. Toddler Hmm. I have not known a sahm to have an affair. have you? Seems like something that would happen at work. trying to picture otherwise. 4-6-2019 9:09pm (66 replies)
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    • no. sahms I know have small kids and are too drained to do that lol. 4-6-2019 9:10pm
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    • All kinds of things are happening all around you that you will never know about 4-6-2019 9:10pm
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      • so you know someone who did this? 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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        • Np: yes 4-6-2019 9:13pm
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          • and what's the scoop? all the homeowners I know are in their 40s and exhausted 4-6-2019 9:13pm
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            • Was on a board of a local charity. Had an affair with the guy who ran it. His marriage split up, big thing. 4-6-2019 9:17pm
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              • oh interesting. but that is like a work affair. 4-6-2019 9:19pm
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                • Except it wasn’t 4-6-2019 9:21pm
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                  • the relationship was in a work like setting- he wasn't the plumber at her house. 4-6-2019 9:22pm
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                    • Irrelevant. She was a sahm 4-6-2019 9:25pm
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                      • are you always so unable to think things through 4-6-2019 9:27pm
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    • 🤨 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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    • I just realized I don't know any sahms anymore. all the younger moms I know work. different around here than it was 15 yrs ago. 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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    • The Postman Always Rings Twice 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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      • a different era. 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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      • That film with Kate Winslet.. The Little Children? 4-6-2019 9:12pm
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        • right. from a book, of fiction 4-6-2019 9:12pm
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          • and didn't she have mental health problems 4-6-2019 9:14pm
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            • Yeah, that's so unusual and unrealistic 4-6-2019 9:15pm
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    • I don't know anyone who has confessed to having an affair, or whom I have suspected of having an affair. Maybe it happens, but I don't know about it 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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      • same. the people I know that got divorced did so because of adhd/compatibility, depression and money issues. 4-6-2019 9:12pm
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      • You'd be surprised... people don’t talk about it, though 4-6-2019 9:12pm
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        • so talk. ? 4-6-2019 9:13pm
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          • I know a woman who had a thing with her (female) tennis partner 4-6-2019 9:14pm
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            • now that is interesting. I know 2 women who left their dhs for women, but none who left for a man 4-6-2019 9:15pm
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        • so how would I know that a sahm has had an affair? she is not going to tell me 4-6-2019 9:14pm
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          • Well, if you had any friends, they might talk to you about it 4-6-2019 9:15pm
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            • I have tons of friends, and I don't believe any of them have had affairs, sah or not. But are you the one saying people don't talk about it? They do, or they don't, IYO? 4-6-2019 9:20pm
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              • They wouldn’t tell yoi 4-6-2019 9:21pm
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              • Yes, I’ve had people tell me about it. Perhaps they don’t talk to you for obvious reasons 4-6-2019 9:21pm
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                • Perhaps they aren't having affairs! lol 4-6-2019 9:22pm
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                  • How would you know? 4-6-2019 9:22pm
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                    • I have close friends who I see a lot of, and I think it would be relatively difficult for them to keep a serious affair hidden for the long term. Like anyone you're close to,...(more) 4-6-2019 9:24pm
                      you'd notice something different if a big change was occurring in their lives or if their marriage was not going well. With less close friends, I wouldn't know, but I don't have any real reason to suspect anyone I know has had an affair, that I can think of. I'm not saying it's impossible
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    • no. the whole affair structure is different. women mostly work now. people marry a lot later. 4-6-2019 9:11pm
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    • Yes 4-6-2019 9:12pm
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      • details? 4-6-2019 9:13pm
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        • I know a sahm who had an affair, that’s about it 4-6-2019 9:13pm
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          • well you are not convincing. 4-6-2019 9:14pm
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            • Why does she need to be 4-6-2019 9:16pm
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              • because I asked, and its anon. above, we got details, but it sounds like a work situation (just charity work) 4-6-2019 9:20pm
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                • FFS, only SAHMs have the time for that kind of charity work. 4-6-2019 9:36pm
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              • otherwise she looks like a troll. :) 4-6-2019 9:20pm
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                • No. No she doesn’t 4-6-2019 9:20pm
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                  • ok, troll. :) 4-6-2019 9:22pm
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                    • Oh. Its 3 account troll accuser You always use those immature enojis 4-6-2019 9:23pm
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    • Our country club. Hige scandal 4-6-2019 9:15pm
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    • SAHMs in my circle have affairs with the dad's of their dcs friends. 4-6-2019 9:16pm
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      • Yep read this...(more) 4-6-2019 9:17pm
        • that isn't about sah moms having affairs. 4-6-2019 9:20pm
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          • seems to mention women who work only. 4-6-2019 9:21pm
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            • Sorry. I meant read the book by the author they mention. She has data about Sahms. 4-6-2019 9:26pm
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        • women are having affairs 40% more often-- its bc they work 4-6-2019 9:23pm
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          • and because sahms dhs are gone so much....they are having affairs. 4-6-2019 9:27pm
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            • with who.....when I was a sahm mom the only dh I saw was the occasional sahd 4-6-2019 9:30pm
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        • I know Perels work and she says sahms now need more validation so that is why they seek sex outside of marriage 4-6-2019 9:28pm
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          • you'd need a link for that. there aren't very many sahms in Europe. 4-6-2019 9:31pm
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    • My neighbor. Old hs sweetheart 4-6-2019 9:16pm
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    • This post has been deleted. 4-6-2019 9:25pm
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    • i think that's more of an uber rich LA thing. With the pool boys 4-6-2019 9:30pm
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    • I know of two in our town. One w/tennis instructor. 4-6-2019 10:42pm
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  21. Toddler I've been a sahm for the last 10 years and am going back to school to update my skills. In the application, it asks, what makes me a good candidate. What would you say there? 4-5-2019 3:10pm (12 replies)
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    • candidate for what? school? interest, focus, enthusiasm, 4-5-2019 3:11pm
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    • what kind of school? it would matter. 4-5-2019 3:12pm
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      • Its a well regarded intensive school. Going back to study data science. 4-5-2019 3:13pm
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        • i don't know that means, but you must, right? so you have to figure out what about that subject and you go together like ramalamadingdong. 4-5-2019 3:14pm
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    • Skip it and learn to code 4-5-2019 3:13pm
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      • I already learned that. There is a lot more to learn though. I don't feel confident enough to go look for a job as yet. 4-5-2019 3:16pm
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        • Suuuuurue 4-5-2019 3:17pm
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          • op: I have been attending coding workshops for the last one year in preparation for this. 4-5-2019 3:18pm
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            • And then I am going to get pregnant 4-5-2019 3:32pm
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    • how would we know? 4-5-2019 3:15pm
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    • I woukd say I am inquisitive, eager to learn new things, excited by challenge, cery organized, able to manage my time effectively, and have a good academic record. 4-5-2019 3:16pm
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      • op: Thank you. That is very helpful. 4-5-2019 3:18pm
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  22. Toddler This question is for any SAHM who successfully went back to work. Any tips about staying organized and motivating the rest of your household to carry their own weight? 4-4-2019 1:00pm (7 replies)
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    • this is true for any WOHM too 4-4-2019 1:01pm
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      • np - but less so b/c people haven't fallen into a pattern of mom doing all 4-4-2019 1:02pm
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        • yes...and there's always things that people don't realize get done by someone else (until they stop getting done). 4-4-2019 1:04pm
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    • We sat down had had a discussion about what was expected of everyone. Their chore chart increased and they stuck with it. It’s damily responsibility 4-4-2019 1:02pm
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    • Things will fall down at first, so tell family to pick them up. Have a good calendar. 4-4-2019 1:03pm
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    • Similar -- when my parents separated when i was young each sat us down and made clear what my sibs and i needed to step up and do around our homes since both were single working...(more) 4-4-2019 1:04pm
      parents households.
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    • You need to sit down with dh, go through all you do and how (and if!) it is going to happen. Figureout what you can let go. Talk to your kids after you have decied all that...(more) 4-4-2019 1:04pm
      together.
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  23. Toddler I’ve been an sahm for 19 years and would really like to start doing something again. I love children and have been thinking of maybe going back to school to be a chikdren’s...(more) 4-3-2019 10:51pm (3 replies)
    Librarian or school counselor. Are theew
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    • Other things I should consider before those? Been home 10 years not 19! 4-3-2019 10:51pm
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      • What did you do before? 4-3-2019 10:53pm
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        • Marketing and pr. Don’t really want to go back to that 4-3-2019 10:58pm
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  24. Toddler 50yo sahm friend posted a Facebook video showing her doing 1 arm hand stands (feet against the wall) with ease. Stupid show off 4-3-2019 10:36pm (6 replies)
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    • It’s cool also it’s facebook 4-3-2019 10:37pm
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    • I would put that on facebook if I could do it 4-3-2019 10:37pm
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      • I’d also post bikini shots if I looked hot. 4-3-2019 10:46pm
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    • I posted a paddleboard headstand is that bad 4-3-2019 10:38pm
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    • holy hell 4-3-2019 10:38pm
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    • what else is facebook about other than this, ie attention getting to whatever cause it is you think needs attention? maybe that cause is you and your ability to do a handstand, or...(more) 4-3-2019 10:39pm
      something political, or your kid's first step. it's about attention.
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  25. Toddler I am a sahm. My hobbies are reading and being active. I have a personal trainer and a tennis coach. My friends are jealous because my personal trainer is...(more) 4-3-2019 9:14pm (28 replies)
    21 and my tennis coach is 18 and a pro. They are both tall and with bodies like male models.
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    • Your dfs want to be 18 yo male models? 4-3-2019 9:15pm
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      • My friends are jealous because I have 2 people in my life who look like male models. 4-3-2019 9:16pm
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        • Sarcasm, look it up 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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          • What is sarcastic about an OR who asked a question unrelated to what I actually said 4-3-2019 9:18pm
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            • Or here, i’m ridiculing you, rightfully so 4-3-2019 9:19pm
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        • how old are you? 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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          • it's a fake troll post, she's most like a childless fat pig and about 60 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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          • op. 38 4-3-2019 9:18pm
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            • everyone below 30 will look like a model to you now 4-3-2019 9:19pm
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        • They are not in your life, they are employees, not friends 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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          • np-how are you people really buying into this? are you new to YBM? new to Life? 4-3-2019 9:19pm
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            • np. are you sheltered? Do you really think it is impossible for a middle class woman to have hot hired help? 4-3-2019 9:20pm
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              • lol you're such a bad troll 4-3-2019 9:20pm
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              • oh boy 4-3-2019 9:20pm
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              • when did she said middle class? oh, she didn't. HI OP! 4-3-2019 9:21pm
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                • That bit is assumed. Obviously this couldn't happen if she was poor. Are you poor? I cannot understand why it is hard to believe when a personal trainer and tennis coach combined...(more) 4-3-2019 9:23pm
                  would be less than $100 an hour each. It is not unheard of
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                  • you just said MIDDLE CLASS! you're so dumb you can't even keep track of your fake responses, OP! love it 4-3-2019 9:44pm
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          • 1/3. They are in my life. They are employees. They are my friends too. 4-3-2019 9:19pm
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            • can you stop? 4-3-2019 9:20pm
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              • just hide the post 4-3-2019 9:23pm
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                • I'd rather you hide in a ditch...and never get out 4-3-2019 9:43pm
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        • are you fucking them? 4-3-2019 9:18pm
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          • op. I am a married woman 4-3-2019 9:19pm
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    • Oh boy, you're still doing this one, Model Mom? 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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    • you're so creepy 4-3-2019 9:17pm
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    • My hobby is being active. I jump up and down in the living room. I'm being active. It's one of my hobbies. 4-3-2019 9:22pm
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