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  1. Toddler Being alone is not awful. It can be pretty terrific. Having a partner can be great too. But do t be scared of being on your own. It’s wonderful in so many ways. 1 hr 29 min ago (8 replies)
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    • Agree! That woman is annoying to me 1 hr 28 min ago
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    • I LOVE my alone time. LOVE it. I was divorced 5 years before I remarried and loved that time, and if I'm ever single again I'm staying that way. 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • I got doctors and was scared and now I am so happy in my own!!!! 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • im alone today. im bored but you are right. its nice being alone. nobody to be up my ass questioning what im doing and why' 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • For me - the issue is about being alone by choice or not. If you’d like Simone to spend time with it sucks to not have it. I’d like someone to date. Not necessarily marry. 1 hr 23 min ago
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    • Well see, all of you were/are in miserable relationships, so that attitude makes sense. 1 hr 9 min ago
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      • np - Even in my happy relationship, I crave alone time. 1 hr 7 min ago
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  2. Toddler Where do you buy nice sheets? 1 hr 29 min ago (16 replies)
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    • what is your budget? 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • frette 1 hr 29 min ago
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      • this truly is the only answer if you want "nice" sheets like I think she does 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • I disagree about Frette. Not impressed at all. 1 hr 16 min ago
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      • Let me tell you something about Frette. 10 years ago, I bought 2 sets of towels from Frette for my newly remodeled master suite and a set of Target towels for the kids' bathroom....(more) 1 hr 13 min ago
        The kids sill use their Target towels...and I retired the Frette towels a year ago and sent them with the kids to camp this year because they are tattered. Target towels out performed Frette.
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    • Garnet Hill 1 hr 28 min ago
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      • She said nice, not overpriced 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • I get mine on sale, very reasonable 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • TJ Maxx 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • HomeGoods or TJ Maxx 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • ooh, I forgot about home goods! thanks! 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • threshold double hem from target. they never ride up my thick mattress and feel so nice 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • Scandia Down. Nancy Koltes. 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • we have those bamboo ones from Hawaii...Carolinah is the name I think. Love them 1 hr 15 min ago
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    • Company Store 1 hr 12 min ago
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  3. Toddler Immigrants should be allowed to live peacefully and raise their families and do the work we need them to do, earn a living wage, have legal protection and a path to citizenship 1 hr 30 min ago (56 replies)
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    • just whoever wants to should just show up? 1 hr 29 min ago
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      • Np: pretty much 1 hr 28 min ago
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        • no limits? vote with your feet? i disagree 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • You realize this is a Russian troll stirring the shit right? 1 hr 19 min ago
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      • no, that isn't what I said. Law abiding immigrants, people who want to do the work we need done, people who need asylum, as part of a regulated, humane system 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • but this is the very issue, immigrants wait in line, asylum seekers jump the cue 1 hr 27 min ago
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          • that is because the system is broken and we treat people like criminals 1 hr 25 min ago
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            • i don't think so, it is because this is still viewed as a place of opportunity so people are desperate enough to end run the system 1 hr 24 min ago
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              • ^sure the system is too slow and there are many improvements necessary - but i don't think those are the causational issues 1 hr 23 min ago
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                • The Goodlatte bill didn't pass because they don't have the votes. The Republicans don't want to fix the system. They like having illegals to persecute 1 hr 21 min ago
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                  • you are likely right 1 hr 20 min ago
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                  • He took out E-Verify because the lobbyists for corporations didn't want it 1 hr 20 min ago
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                    • Trump said to not to bother with it - he would rather have concentration camps full of "illegals". He doesn't want the GOP to pass an immigration bill. 1 hr 18 min ago
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              • If we used E-Verify the employers couldn't hire them and they couldn't survive, so they wouldn't come here. But employers like illegal workers because they are easier to exploit 1 hr 23 min ago
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                • they like illegal, slave labor. So does Trump - he hires illegal workers and has for a long time 1 hr 22 min ago
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                • excellent point, plus this whole detention set up is making money for trump cronies 1 hr 22 min ago
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        • np. this. Why do people get the idea that the US has EVER let just anybody show up. there has always been a vetting process 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • if we don't want people working illegally why don't we just go after the employers who are hiring them? 1 hr 26 min ago
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      • There is something called E-Verify that they could easily use to not hire people who don't qualify and aren't legal - but they took it out of the republican immigration bill 1 hr 24 min ago
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      • You can start with construction sites. Oh wonder why they would not allow that to happen. 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • The Office of Refugee Resettlement Is Completely Unprepared for the Thousands of Immigrant Children Now in Its Care...(more) 1 hr 16 min ago
    • To preserve the political and cultural preeminence of white Americans against a tide of demographic change, the administration has settled on a policy of systemic child abuse....(more) 52 min ago
      • a former youth-care worker at an Arizona shelter, described to the Los Angeles Times children “huddled together, tears streaming down their faces,” because they believed that...(more) 50 min ago
        their parents were dead.
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        • The policy’s cruelty is its purpose: By inflicting irreparable trauma on children and their families, the administration intends to persuade those looking to America for a...(more) 48 min ago
          better life to stay home.
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          • The barbarism of deliberately inflicting suffering on children as coercion, though, has forced the Trump administration and its allies in the conservative press to offer three...(more) 47 min ago
            contradictory defenses
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      • First, there’s the denial that the policy exists: Homeland Security Secretary Kirstjen Nielsen declared, “We do not have a policy of separating families at the border. Period.” 46 min ago
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        • Not so, the administration’s defenders in the media have insisted. The policy is both real and delightful. 45 min ago
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          • Laura Ingraham called the uproar “hilarious” 44 min ago
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            • Others in the administration—such as Attorney General Jeff Sessions and his former aide, the White House adviser Stephen Miller—offer a third defense. The policy exists, they...(more) 42 min ago
              say, and it’s necessary to uphold the rule of law.
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              • It is not an accident that these three defenses—the policy does not exist, the children are better off under the policy, and the policy is required by law—are contradictory. 41 min ago
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                • The heart of Trumpism is both cruelty and denial. The administration and its supporters valorize cruelty against outsiders even while denying that such cruelty is taking place. 40 min ago
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      • The policy of shattering families and the cacophony of conservative voices defending it are the fruits of a campaign of dehumanization that began when Trump announced his...(more) 39 min ago
        candidacy for president, declaring that Mexico was sending rapists and drug dealers to migrate illegally to the United States.
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        • Trump has used fears of terrorism and criminality among the few to justify persecuting the many 38 min ago
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    • the Obama administration supported a pathway to legal status for undocumented immigrants in the United States. 34 min ago
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    • under slavery the forced division of families was among the most agonizing experiences they ever suffered or witnessed. 27 min ago
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      • “I have seen mothers kissing for the last time the faces of their dead offspring; I have seen them looking down into the grave, as the earth fell with a dull sound upon their...(more) 26 min ago
        coffins, hiding them from their eyes forever; but never have I seen such an exhibition of intense, unmeasured, and unbounded grief, as when Eliza was parted from her child,” Northup wrote in 1853.
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        • The children who survived such separations were marked forever. Williams recounts the story of Charles Ball, who watched his family members being sold off to different masters...(more) 25 min ago
          when he was only 4. “Young as I was, the horrors of that day sank deeply into my heart, and even at this time, though a half a century has elapsed, the terrors of the scene return with painful vividness upon my memory,” Ball would write later.
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          • Louis Hughes, a former slave from Virginia, would write, “I grieved continually about my mother … It came to me, more and more plainly, that I would never see her again. Young...(more) 23 min ago
            and lonely as I was, I could not help crying, oftentimes for hours together. It was hard to get used to being away from my mother.” The great orator and former slave Frederick Douglass was at a loss for words when describing the anguish of his early separation from his mother:
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      • The sins of the past are not guardrails. There is nothing to prevent them from being committed again, except for the dedication of the living to creating a better world. 22 min ago
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        • Americans should have fathomed the depth of the crisis Trump would cause in 2016, but many chose denial, ridiculing those who spoke the plain meaning of Trumpism as...(more) 21 min ago
          oversensitive.
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          • Since then, Trump has failed the people of Puerto Rico in the wake of Hurricane Maria; deliberately revoked the immigration status of hundreds of thousands of black and Latino...(more) 19 min ago
            immigrants; retreated from civil-rights enforcement; applied an immigration ban to a set of predominantly Muslim countries; attempted to turn black athletes into pariahs for protesting the unjust killings of their countrymen by the state; and defended the white nationalists who terrorized Charlottesville, Virginia. The separation of children from their families at the border in order to punish children for their parents’ decision to seek a better life America, as the forebears of millions of Americans once did, has now clarified for many what should have been obvious before.
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            • People who would do this to children would do anything to anyone. Before this is over, they will be called to do worse. 18 min ago
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    • The speed of America’s moral descent under Donald Trump is breathtaking. In a matter of months we’ve gone from a nation that stood for life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness...(more) 12 min ago
      • What’s almost equally remarkable about this plunge into barbarism is that it’s not a response to any actual problem. The mass influx of murderers and rapists that Trump talks...(more) 11 min ago
        about, the wave of crime committed by immigrants here (and, in his mind, refugees in Germany), are things that simply aren’t happening. They’re just sick fantasies being used to justify real atrocities.
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        • violent crime in America is actually at historical lows, with the homicide rate back to where it was in the early 1960s. (German crime is also at a historical low, by the way.)...(more) 9 min ago
          is a figment of his imagination.
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      • True, if we look across America there is a correlation between violent crime and the prevalence of undocumented immigrants — a negative correlation. That is, places with a lot...(more) 7 min ago
        of immigrants, legal and undocumented, tend to have exceptionally low crime rates. The poster child for this tale of un-carnage is the biggest city of them all: New York, where more than a third of the population is foreign-born, probably including around half a million undocumented immigrants — and crime has fallen to levels not seen since the 1950s.
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        • And this really shouldn’t be surprising, because criminal conviction data show that immigrants, both legal and undocumented, are significantly less likely to commit crimes than...(more) 6 min ago
          the native-born.
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          • So the Trump administration has been terrorizing families and children, abandoning all norms of human decency, in response to a crisis that doesn’t even exist. 5 min ago
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            • the real crisis is an upsurge in hatred — unreasoning hatred that bears no relationship to anything the victims have done. And anyone making excuses for that hatred — who tries,...(more) 3 min ago
              for example, to turn it into a “both sides” story — is, in effect, an apologist for crimes against humanity.
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    • Unauthorized border crossings have been falling over time. In fact, apprehensions of unauthorized immigrants along the Southwest border last fiscal year declined to about...(more) 55 sec ago
      300,000, the lowest level since 1971, according to data from U.S. Customs and Border Protection. They’ve risen in recent months, though year-to-date they’re still below historical levels. https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/the-real-hoax-about-the-border-crisis/2018/06/21/5999c96e-7589-11e8-805c-4b67019fcfe4_story.html?utm_term=.cce433ce58f5
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  4. Toddler Could you stay friends with people who voted for Trump and defend him? 1 hr 30 min ago (16 replies)
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    • No 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • Umm... no. 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • I know someone who voted for him. I CANNOT for the life of me figure out how or why she still supports him and his party. This is a reform jewish woman who supports our temple...(more) 1 hr 29 min ago
      that is beyond liberal.
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    • i think we need to try, if this nation is going to survive 1 hr 28 min ago
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      • I disagree. This is far beyond a neighbor who voted for reagan and you voted for carter. 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • nope. 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • ^and i wish horrible things happen to them. i want them all to drop dead. 1 hr 26 min ago
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        • glad I'm not the only one 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • no, shun them 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • I have tried to...and I think we are all happier not talking at the moment. 1 hr 18 min ago
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    • No. I don't even talk to my mom for this 1 hr 17 min ago
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    • Not 1 hr 14 min ago
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    • Yes, because she's still my sister and I love her. Warts and all. 1 hr 13 min ago
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    • yes, we don't ever talk politics. 1 hr 12 min ago
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    • Yes. I have searched my heart and i find that i truly believe the love trumps hate line. Sometimes it just takes a little time and understanding 1 hr 11 min ago
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  5. Toddler My 1yo's diet is too carb-heavy, I think. What can I do to get more fat in there? She is okay with milk and yogurt but does not like cheese or fish. I can't feed her avocado and...(more) 1 hr 31 min ago (23 replies)
    peanut butter all the time!
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    • sure you can 1 hr 31 min ago
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      • I thought we were supposed to feed them a wide variety of things 1 hr 29 min ago
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        • over the course of their lives. you dont have to introduce every food this week 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • you can, actually. give the kid ice cream if you're so worried. 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • eggs. yogurt. 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • this post is baffling to me 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • nut butters. babies need to try things so many times before they'll eat it. poach salmon in chicken stock. keep offering those type of healthy/fatty fish. same with cheese. keep...(more) 1 hr 28 min ago
      offering.
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      • Ok I will keep trying. Thanks! Are those the fats you would recommend (vs. dousing everything in butter) 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • go for healthy fats. easy to google. coconut butter, olive oil, olives, fatty fish (not w/ mercury tho). also avoid yogurt that is too sweet. just go with plain high fat greek...(more) 1 hr 23 min ago
          yogurt and add some natural sweetener like crushed fruit or fruit juice/sauce.
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          • Thank you. I make yogurt at home actually. She doesn't mind it plain! 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • My 12 yo has probably had peanut or cashew butter every day for the last 11 years 1 hr 28 min ago
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      • Underweight? 1 hr 27 min ago
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        • No. Normal BMI. He had a 6 inch growth spurt this winter. 1 hr 26 min ago
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    • ask your dh. oh wait... he is away and you are a solo parent for a week!!!! omg what will you do 1 hr 26 min ago
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      • ? 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • oy, your life must really suck :-( 1 hr 24 min ago
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        • not at all :) 1 hr 23 min ago
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          • deluded too :-( 1 hr 20 min ago
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      • is this the poster with the 11 mos old? 1 hr 23 min ago
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      • NP: I thought I was on here WAY too much. You win. 1 hr 7 min ago
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    • I just pretty much give everything we're eating. sometimes she doesn't eat much of it, and she gets sides of avocado and cheese 1 hr 17 min ago
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  6. Toddler Will there be big sales next week for 4th of july? i want to buy a print from west elm 1 hr 32 min ago (0 replies)
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  7. Toddler I made a new friend last year. She is smart and can be enjoyable. I am starting to realize that she talks nonstop about herself and even when she is talking about you she is not...(more) 1 hr 33 min ago (14 replies)
    listening and its annoying
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    • Those people are toxic 1 hr 32 min ago
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      • op. she isnt toxic. She is self absorbed and not a great listener but kind 1 hr 31 min ago
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        • Self absorbed is toxic in a friendship 1 hr 31 min ago
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          • np "toxic" bully" triggered". enough already 1 hr 30 min ago
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            • Oh my god grow up. I’m saying that in a friendship there has to be space for both people not just one to talk about themselves 1 hr 27 min ago
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            • I consider someone who only talks about themselves pretty damaged 1 hr 21 min ago
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          • This is true. You get very resentful and start feeling lonely. 1 hr 24 min ago
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      • this...and it takes awhile to figure it out. It's like you truly don't want to believe it. 1 hr 10 min ago
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    • I can't deal with that. 1 hr 32 min ago
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    • You will only be a listener. That had better be okay with you. She will never care about you only how you relate to her and her life 1 hr 31 min ago
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      • op. I agree that I have to accept the listener role if I continue to be friends. but I dont think she is selfish. I think its a social skills thing that stems from anxiety 1 hr 31 min ago
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        • My brother is like this. He only talks about himself and needs a lot of outside approval. 1 hr 26 min ago
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        • Maybe so but that would wear on me. I like reciprocity in my friendships 1 hr 23 min ago
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        • what exactly do you get out of this relationship? 1 hr 10 min ago
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  8. Toddler Im so bored. 1 hr 34 min ago (1 reply)
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    • Me too and the dcs too. 1 hr 33 min ago
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  9. Toddler What do you do about a friend who is sweet but constantly complaining, negative, doesn’t look at their own role in things? She exhausts me and I don’t get much out of it but I...(more) 1 hr 36 min ago (15 replies)
    feel bad for her.
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    • A pity friendship? Not fun 1 hr 36 min ago
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    • sounds like you are not compatible. doesn;t make her lesser than you 1 hr 35 min ago
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      • Lesser no. But sadder, more needy. I get nothing back but don’t want to abandon her 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • this is the year I separated from those friends I don't really like anymore. the obligation friendships. 1 hr 34 min ago
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      • What is your age? I’m 51 and still working on that 1 hr 33 min ago
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        • 52. I realized there were a few people I don't actually like, and I always dreaded getting together with them, if that makes sense. So I just moved on. 1 hr 32 min ago
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      • i've never had those kinds of friendships, but a pretty new friend said, when i told him i just loved the friends of his i'd met (we work together) said, you wouldn't have felt...(more) 1 hr 31 min ago
        the same 10 yrs ago. i got rid of all the fake friends, the people i didn't really like.
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        • there were a few situational friendships that were way past their expiration date. It might sound off but I was in a deep depression last year and just gave myself permission to...(more) 1 hr 29 min ago
          let go of people like that. I'm so much better now and have zero regrets about cutting people out.
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          • It feels so good to get rid of people who add nothing or exhaust you 1 hr 27 min ago
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            • exactly that! 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • Does your friend's name start with a C? I'm worried it's me... 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • Hahaha no 1 hr 23 min ago
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        • But if this sounds like you, you may want to do some soul searching and get a good therapist. There’s help out there! 1 hr 22 min ago
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          • I should probably start by not coming to YBM any more. 1 hr 20 min ago
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            • Maybe it will help you to get perspective 1 hr 19 min ago
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  10. Toddler Dd going to sleepaway for 2 weeks, first time. What am i forgetting to pack? She is almost 9. 1 hr 37 min ago (5 replies)
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  11. Toddler My son run up huge bill on fortnite w/out our consent - anyone ever able to get a refund - he is in trouble!!!! 1 hr 37 min ago (6 replies)
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    • how much? 1 hr 37 min ago
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    • He needs to work off this debt 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • how on earth did that happen? and out of curiosity how much $$$? 1 hr 31 min ago
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    • How does this happen? 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • Lol. No. You won't get a refund. 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • How did he do this? I get a notification every time anything is done on there, and my kids are strictly forbidden to do anything that's not free. 1 hr 21 min ago
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  12. Toddler My mother was evacuated as a child. separated from her parents during wwii in england. she didn't speak much about it and is no longer alive. must have been traumatic, though...(more) 1 hr 37 min ago (11 replies)
    different from what is happening today in us
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    • my mother was separated from her father during the war. She also crossed a border "illegally" fleeing for her life. its disgusting to suggets that these people at the border are...(more) 1 hr 36 min ago
      common criminals
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      • ^I will add, she later was separated from her family when she got sick. she has night terrors to this day and this all happened 76 years ago 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • During the blitz? I read a study about how the evacuations emotionally impacted kids. Let me see if I can find it for you. 1 hr 36 min ago
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      • there was a wash post article the other day 1 hr 35 min ago
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        • this was a study I read perhaps a year ago. I can't find it quickly. It basically said that even though kids went through the trauma of bombing, the kids who remained with their...(more) 1 hr 32 min ago
          parents had greater emotional stability than the ones who were sent away. If they were sent away to family they knew, that was ideal. When I read the story, it occurred to me that this was the setup of The Lion The Witch and The Wardrobe, and I had just never realized it.
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    • not really. read the accounts. the kids were traumatized. 1 hr 36 min ago
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      • true. but her parents knew where she was 1 hr 35 min ago
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    • My stepmom was evacuated from Estonia, I think she has PTSD from it 1 hr 33 min ago
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  13. Toddler Don't have a ton of friends anymore - working FT and have 11 year old - should I just start to reach out to moms, women, ask them to meet for coffee, etc.? feel kind of pathetic 1 hr 37 min ago (1 reply)
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    • sure, nothing to lose lots to gain 1 hr 34 min ago
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  14. Toddler If you commute...what is your door-to-door time? Train or drive? 1 hr 38 min ago (22 replies)
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    • 70 mins? 1 hr 38 min ago
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    • 8 minutes 1 hr 38 min ago
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      • that is sweet!! 1 hr 37 min ago
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      • I have you beat - 1 block, so like 3 minutes :) 1 hr 36 min ago
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    • 2 hrs. 1 hr 37 min ago
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    • 1.5 hrs each way 1 hr 37 min ago
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    • i drive about 12 minutes to one of my jobs, 20 minutes to another, the farthest is about 40 minutes. all by car. 1 hr 35 min ago
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    • dh- 12 minute drive 1 hr 35 min ago
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      • nm, I guess he's not commuting. missed that part 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • 20 minutes 1 way 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • 25 min. 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • 11 minutes (if I hit all the lights). 8 if I don't - driving 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • I walk - 12 minutes ish 1 hr 29 min ago
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  15. Toddler Just started buspar for anxiety - anyone BTDT? really hoping for relief... 1 hr 38 min ago (0 replies)
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  16. Toddler A friend who has suffered several losses in the past few years told me she cannot ever hear someone tell her any way she has behaved poorly. How do you stay friends with someone...(more) 1 hr 44 min ago (23 replies)
    you can never call out?
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    • You have to be able to communicate honestly with a friend 1 hr 44 min ago
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      • She says her mental heath is so fragile she can’t take it 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • Is this a real or hypothetical issue? I never (need to) call out my friends 1 hr 43 min ago
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      • Real. So if you’re friend was acting like an asshole or hurt your feelings or was self absorbed you’d say nothing? 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • Never? Your friends are perfect? 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • same. i accept their flaws. i would never be confrontational with a friend. life is too short for that. if you really suck, we're not friends in the first place. 1 hr 41 min ago
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        • Not confrontational. But if you’re friend disappeared when you needed them or was really thoughtless or hurtful you have a right to communicate it. That’s what a relationship is 1 hr 38 min ago
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          • np - I am inclined to give a pass to people who have been through a lot and not rely on them to be there for me. 1 hr 37 min ago
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          • i don't really agree with that, i mean it's not how i live my life. 1 hr 37 min ago
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            • ditto. friendship isn't always a two way street. my best friend is going through an awful time right now. she absolutely cannot be and has not been there for me. I just can't get...(more) 1 hr 35 min ago
              into it with her. If it gets to be too much I take a little break. But I don't need to pile on to her suffering right now.
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    • i don't routinely "call out" my friends or tell them they are behaving poorly. 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • i would never be friends with someone who feels the need to 'call me out.' we're all just muddling through. 1 hr 40 min ago
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    • So if your friend was acting in a hurtful way you’d let it go? 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • yes. 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • np - yes and if I couldn't deal I would distance for a while. 1 hr 38 min ago
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        • nnp same. or maybe distance forever if this person has revealed her true self and i don't like that true self. who am i to tell people how to act? 1 hr 36 min ago
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    • what kind of losses? 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • Friends passing away 1 hr 38 min ago
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        • Multiple friends. Yes, I think it's somewhat okay to give some space for the varied ways people need to process grief. 1 hr 35 min ago
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          • Some people get angry, some people implode, make crazy illogical decisions. It's totally normal. 1 hr 34 min ago
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            • Make cutting mean remarks. Self sabotage etc... You don't need to accept being abused though. If the person hurts you, walk away and give them space. 1 hr 32 min ago
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              • If they come back after some time and sincerely apologize and recognize what they did, give them another chance. 1 hr 29 min ago
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  17. Toddler Trying to purge. Do I need to keep these tiny play tea sets? If that’s what they’re called. Hand me downs. No dds. 1 hr 45 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Give them to kids 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • donate 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • of course not. Thrift pile 1 hr 42 min ago
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    • just throw them out. if you need to purge, find a garbage can and do it. don't hold on to it "just in case", don't put it to the side so you can maybe eventually at some point...(more) 1 hr 39 min ago
      give it away. just throw it out.
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      • Ok thank you all. You are really helping me 1 hr 31 min ago
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  18. Toddler DH traveling and it's exhausting taking care of DB alone! So much nicer to switch off or do it together. Glad he rarely has to travel. Would be a horrible lifestyle no matter how...(more) 1 hr 45 min ago (46 replies)
    much $$ he made
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    • So you’re saying this has opened your heart to single moms who do it every day 1 hr 43 min ago
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      • My heart was never exactly closed to them... 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • Single mom by choice and it's totally different to have a partner you count on suddenly not be available 1 hr 41 min ago
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        • Thanks for getting it. We're usually used to handing him off back and forth. Now it's all me! 1 hr 39 min ago
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    • Single mom here. Yes. 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • toughen up. i mean yeah... it's hard- i do it too- but really? 1 hr 41 min ago
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      • Why do you think I need to toughen up? 1 hr 40 min ago
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        • you call it a "horrible lifestyle". seems pretty damn princessy 1 hr 39 min ago
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          • It is a horrible lifestyle if you're used to dual parenting and now you're solo! Btw, I was not even thinking about single moms (since that's a choice unless widowed). I was...(more) 1 hr 38 min ago
            thinking of women whose husbands travel all the time
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            • ^ But then again, I guess they're used to it too. 1 hr 38 min ago
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            • yeah that's me. i disagree with you 1 hr 38 min ago
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              • Okay, great. You are free to think dual parenting is horrible. 1 hr 36 min ago
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                • shut up and get a damn life fuck 1 hr 36 min ago
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                  • Yikes! If my husband traveled all the time, I might become as mean as you! 1 hr 35 min ago
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                    • yeah. you better watch out 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • Nice to call a single moms life a “ horrible lifestyle”. Idiot 1 hr 41 min ago
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      • Like the person said above, it's different if you're used to doing it all by yourself vs. if you're not. No need to name-call. 1 hr 40 min ago
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    • CLUTCHES PEARLS. ALONE?????? 1 hr 41 min ago
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    • It’s not that hard. Grow up 1 hr 40 min ago
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      • why do you think i need to grow up? 1 hr 39 min ago
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        • One adult, one kid, not that hard. Boring maybe. One adult and three toddlers, harder 1 hr 37 min ago
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          • It is hard if you're not used to it. 1 hr 36 min ago
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            • NEWSFLASH: Anything is 1 hr 36 min ago
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              • So then why are you flaming me? Woke up on the wrong side of the bed? 1 hr 35 min ago
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                • I guess i'm just sick of privileged middle class people complaining about inane bullshit this week- ok? 1 hr 34 min ago
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                  • Okay... well hope flaming me made you feel better! 1 hr 33 min ago
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                    • get a backbone. good night 1 hr 32 min ago
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                      • Again, I'm doing it and doing it well, so I have a backbone. Anything is hard for the first time. 1 hr 29 min ago
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      • It is hard if you're not used to it. 1 hr 38 min ago
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        • It is really not HARD. It's different... "hard"? No 1 hr 37 min ago
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          • It is objectively harder to parent alone than with a spouse, yes. 1 hr 37 min ago
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            • Why? Says who? 1 hr 31 min ago
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              • Give me an example where my statement wouldn't be true (unless said spouse is useless, in which case why stay married to him) 1 hr 30 min ago
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                • It depends on the situation you are in. If you are a parent and lots of paid help- it could be the same virtually 1 hr 29 min ago
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                  • No, because you are still missing the other parent. Presumably the other parent has a closer relationship with the child than paid help! 1 hr 28 min ago
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                    • Who says I am missing the other parent? What? 1 hr 28 min ago
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                      • You posited that if a single parent has lots of paid help, it's virtually the same as dual parenting. I disagree bc paid help is not equal to a spouse/second parent. 1 hr 25 min ago
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                        • ^ again, unless said spouse is useless 1 hr 25 min ago
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                        • Depends on what kind of person the 2nd parent is. You assume so much, I think you need some time away from your db, your brain is turning to mush 1 hr 24 min ago
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                          • So describe a scenario where paid help is more valuable than a second parent. Seriously, I am having a hard time imagining this (I know only involved fathers). 1 hr 23 min ago
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                            • ^ And if you can do so without ad hominem attacks, gold star! 1 hr 23 min ago
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                            • I will not! I'm going out for drinks! Bye 1 hr 22 min ago
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                              • Yeah, thought you wouldn't be able to. 1 hr 21 min ago
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    • got to hell. sincerely 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • Bizarre response. 1 hr 37 min ago
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  19. Toddler Would you stay in a suboptimal relationship if there is no ability to look for someone else? There are some good times. But some bad ones. The alternative is being alone, at least...(more) 1 hr 46 min ago (9 replies)
    For the next year.
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    • What are the bad times, exactly? I did that in my 20s but wouldn't now. 1 hr 44 min ago
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      • Oh nothing terrible. I’m just not getting what I need emotionally, and that makes me frustrated and creates a lot of hurt feelings. Just lots of ups and downs. 1 hr 42 min ago
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        • ^^it'sjusta boyfriend, so not terribly difficult to end the relationship. But I can’t date anyone new for a while. 1 hr 41 min ago
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          • It ended up after I dumped my suboptimal boyfriend that I felt better alone than with him. I'd kept him around despite not really being into him because I was lonely after a...(more) 1 hr 37 min ago
            terrible breakup. I met DH a few months later.
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            • Yeah. I hear you. It’s just that for a variety of logistical reasons, it is not practical for me to date. But I do enjoy having some companionship and it’s nice not being celibate 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • alone is fine, certainly better than a relationship with too many bad times. 1 hr 40 min ago
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      • Yes. But alone has some downsides too. 1 hr 33 min ago
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        • i think being alone is the best thing ever invented. 1 hr 32 min ago
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          • Ha. This made me lol for some reason. Why? 1 hr 31 min ago
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  20. Toddler I am so glad wlagreens is not convienet to where we live...(more) 1 hr 48 min ago (23 replies)
    • I am sure CVS and Target all have the same policy. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • They own Duane Reade and Rite Aid, fwiw. 1 hr 45 min ago
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      • we go to a small non chain pharmacy. never been refused or questioned 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • fuck off 1 hr 44 min ago
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        • That's fine. I'm juts letting you know if your inclination is to boycott, which I suppose I should not have inferred. 1 hr 43 min ago
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    • I hate what is happening in our culture 1 hr 45 min ago
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      • What do you mean? AFAIK allowing people to not do things that go against their moral beliefs has always been the case. 1 hr 43 min ago
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        • right wing religoius buts are more empowered every day in this country 1 hr 42 min ago
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          • many right wing religious individuals feel like their ability to live their life according to their morals is no longer an option. it's not that htey are more empowered, the yfeel...(more) 1 hr 40 min ago
            more of a need to take a stand.
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            • they are religious fascists 1 hr 37 min ago
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          • So you would prefer that this pharmacist not feel empowered to stand up for his belies? Do you want nobody to feel empowered or should only those who disagree with you feel...(more) 1 hr 36 min ago
            afraid?
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            • thank you. there is an alarming antipathy towards those who feel differently. this is not going to end well. 1 hr 35 min ago
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    • it makes me upset to see tweets like this and posts like yours. why not acknowledge that we have a fundamental dilemma and maybe we need to come up with a way to accommodate...(more) 1 hr 42 min ago
      everyone's beliefs without it being antagonistic?
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      • then DO NOT work at that job. JFC doctors take an oath. If you have some sort of moral objection go work in a catholic hospital 1 hr 38 min ago
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        • do doctors at catholic hospitals haven't taken oaths? 1 hr 38 min ago
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          • catholic hospitals do not disperse meds like those int he pharmacy. There is a lot of contraversy over it because catholic hopsitals are really the only ones in rural areas 1 hr 34 min ago
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        • This is about a pharmacist not a doctor. In any case doctors take an oath to first do no harm. If this is harm van be debated and nobody will win 1 hr 35 min ago
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    • Oh for fucks sake, I'm a liberal atheist and there is a policy in place for someone else to fill the scrip. 1 hr 39 min ago
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    • But kicking Sanders out of the restaurant is ok? 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • but that was *different*. she's a hitler wannabe, don't you know? 1 hr 38 min ago
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      • asking her to leave is fine with me. Because she is a liar and a bigot and promotes hatred and made the entire staff uncomfortable with supporting her. 1 hr 34 min ago
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  21. Toddler In the past ten years, my salary has gone from 75 to 100K. And I've been contributing 13 percent to my 401(k) each year. My company contributes 11 percent of my salary. Anyone...(more) 1 hr 51 min ago (16 replies)
    else making close to me? What do you contribute to your 401(K) every year?
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    • I tyupically make much more than you yet contribute less. You are doing well 1 hr 51 min ago
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      • Aren't you afraid of retirement then? 1 hr 50 min ago
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        • terrified. 1 hr 50 min ago
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          • I am, too. I watched in-laws live a penniless retirement and it motivates me but I wish I had started saving sooner 1 hr 49 min ago
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            • Me too. I am starting to talk to dc about saving actually, I worked my ads off in high school and college, if I had saved anything at all, it would have amounted to quite a lot by...(more) 1 hr 40 min ago
              Now
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      • np Why? 1 hr 47 min ago
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    • I make $150K and contribute 10% per year, but I get no match. You are seriously lucky to get the match. Are you maxed on your contributions 1 hr 50 min ago
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      • I work in non-profit -hence the matching vs higher salary 1 hr 50 min ago
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        • And, I don't think I'm maxed. I think the max is 18K or something around there 1 hr 49 min ago
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    • You’re doing great! 1 hr 50 min ago
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    • I have never known anyone getting a match like that. 1 hr 49 min ago
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      • See above - non profit 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • teachers match 29% 1 hr 38 min ago
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    • Sounds great! I haven't worked in a few years, but very rarely did I get matching on my 401k. I always contributed the maximum. 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • I made $125k and I max out every year. I get a 5% match I think. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • I contribute $18k a year but part of that is company match. But do doesn’t save at all so we probably should do more 1 hr 42 min ago
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  22. Toddler Friend is moving to Mayotte. I wonder why. 1 hr 51 min ago (0 replies)
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  23. Toddler Window (box) fan is pretty amazing. May never turn on the AC this summer 1 hr 54 min ago (5 replies)
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    • where do you live? 1 hr 53 min ago
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      • Lower Westchester 1 hr 53 min ago
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    • doesn't help with humidity. and don't bugs get in? 1 hr 52 min ago
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      • it's thin, so it sits really well behind the screen, in the frame. And I'm commenting b.c. it wasn't too warm just now, but super-humid (just had a thunderstorm) and I switched...(more) 1 hr 49 min ago
        it on and it feels amazing now. Windy. Only problem is, it's a little loud
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    • I had ceiling fans installed in my bedrooms when I first bought the house. I hardly ever turn on AC except when the humidity gets too high. 1 hr 47 min ago
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  24. Toddler What's dh's profession? 1 hr 54 min ago (17 replies)
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    • professor 1 hr 53 min ago
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    • pursuing his PhD 1 hr 52 min ago
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      • My DH had his PhD at 26 1 hr 50 min ago
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        • np: what's the point of this comment? 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • In what 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • CEO of investment fund (no, not a hedge fund) 1 hr 51 min ago
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      • Is he looking for anyone with domain expertise? 1 hr 50 min ago
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        • if he is, I don't know about it. 1 hr 50 min ago
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          • Let me know if he is :) 1 hr 49 min ago
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            • I'll send you a text. 1 hr 49 min ago
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    • lawyer (business and family law) 1 hr 50 min ago
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    • HR 1 hr 50 min ago
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    • ib 1 hr 49 min ago
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    • Wife - Film Editor 1 hr 48 min ago
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  25. Toddler I need to refill a travel kit with single packs of meds. but having trouble finding just refills. I would love brand names (easier to identify than the generics). I like this but...(more) 1 hr 54 min ago (4 replies)
    • do you live near a Harmon? 1 hr 53 min ago
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      • no. I assume that's a store. 1 hr 51 min ago
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        • yes. I think they are owned by Bed Bath & Beyond. You can probably access them through the BBB website 1 hr 49 min ago
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          • thanks--I'll look. 1 hr 48 min ago
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