Toddler
- Toddler Anyone else: think it's ok to ask:...(more)
- it's fine
- i wish i knew what you were asing
- *asking
- did you answer my question on the other post you started?
- Toddler If your teen was pregnant would you want her to give birth? What if it was rape? What if the rapist were another race?
- abortion, no matter w hat
- this
- this this
- ditto
- tritto
- this
- this
- no, I would not want her to give birth.
- no. Abortion. Abortion.
- abortion in the case of it being from a different race
- Really?
- but not if same race?
- it's a difficult situation no matter what, to be sure
- wow a real live proud racist!
- True. Gross
- this
- And you're ok with her keeping it from a rapist of same race???
- thisnis craziest answer
- ??
- i would want her to terminate in all situations
- no, no, come on
- love the fetus, hate the child
- If the rapist was an alien I'm not sure what id do.
- Abortion
- in case of rape ONLY abortion would be an option. if she would be 18 and up and gets pregnant by her bf or similar then i would think about it
- You ought to read the andrew solomon book - it's got an insightful chapter about children born of rape-pretty horrific.
- oh god i would be sobbing and having nightmares
- I would discuss options with my teenager.
- no on all counts
- if my teen were raped i would probably encourage an abortion more than in any other circumstance. race wouldn't be a factor. if pregant not through rape, i would hope she kept the...(more)
- I would let her choose abortion if she wanted to and raise the db for her if she preferred
- abortion, no matter w hat
- Toddler Just went to ds kindergarten "graduation" at gentrifying bklyn public. lots of good parents of younger dcs are anxious about this kind of diversity. wished they could have seen...(more)
- i'm surprised you're surprised.
- i know. what i mean is -- these are friends of mine. talk big and "oh, i remember exactly where i was when biggie died." and then...pfft
- what the fuck?
- np: yup. I know exactly what you're talking about. I send my kids to the local public here in brooklyn and I have friends with younger kids who act really fucking weird about...(more)
- ^^^they all tried to get their kids into "better" (whiter) publics that we are not zoned for
- what nabe? fort greene?
- windsor terrace
- ^^bordering kensington
- windsor terrace
- what nabe? fort greene?
- it is the strangest thing. what is hilarious is they all "love the diversity" of the neighborhood, but can't handle it at school. so then they lie their way into some mediocre...(more)
- ^^^they all tried to get their kids into "better" (whiter) publics that we are not zoned for
- I don't understand what you're talking about. What is "talk big"?
- i know. what i mean is -- these are friends of mine. talk big and "oh, i remember exactly where i was when biggie died." and then...pfft
- how are charter schools white, when they are required to have lotteries for admissions.
- not all of them. just the "sought after" ones, through selection bias. and it's not just the charters, also the unzoned publics.
- If they're not sought after, then people are not flocking to them.
- are you drinking? i'm talking about sought after among this group of white, rich parents. do you not understand how segregated most charters are, at least socio-economically, in...(more)
- My son goes to a charter in Brooklyn. It's not segregated at all. Most charters have to admit students by lottery because there are more applicants than seats.
- yes, so the admission pool reflects the application pool. if a boatload of rich white people apply, the school will have more rich white people. i'm not alleging lottery fraud.
- My son goes to a charter in Brooklyn. It's not segregated at all. Most charters have to admit students by lottery because there are more applicants than seats.
- are you drinking? i'm talking about sought after among this group of white, rich parents. do you not understand how segregated most charters are, at least socio-economically, in...(more)
- Which charter schools are you talking about?
- If they're not sought after, then people are not flocking to them.
- not all of them. just the "sought after" ones, through selection bias. and it's not just the charters, also the unzoned publics.
- yeah, it's weird. ita
- So you are saying they "all" want to run to white charter? Did you poll everyone?
- i did, actually. with a clipboard and everything.
- fake or hug over generalization.
- what don't you get about "lots of good parents."
- is their issue diversity or school scores? They tend to correlate but the diversity is not the "repelling" factor for most imo, the school ratings are.
- np: don't be naive
- I'm not being naive at all.
- naive people think that
- no, we are in a very diverse (white minority) school that is A rated.
- well that's not the norm in brooklyn
- What part of Brooklyn are you talking about?
- well that's not the norm in brooklyn
- no, we are in a very diverse (white minority) school that is A rated.
- naive people think that
- this
- I'm not being naive at all.
- school scores? what do you mean? the sought after charter has had D's and C's for years in a row on its progress reports.
- well then it makes no sense, it's odd.
- not really. uninformed people associate "quality" with "things that people who look/talk/live like me appear to want."
- Which school?
- community roots charter school. mediocre test scores, awful progress reports, awful principal. but reading couches! and rich kids!
- That's admission by lottery.
- And that's a District 13 lottery school. Kensington/Windsor Terrace is in District 15.
- so what? it's still segregated socio-economically, compared to the rest of D13
- How is it segregated socio-economically? It's a lottery.
- sorry, what don't you understand? it's 75% rich kids in a district that is 75% poor kids. and where many of the zoned publics and "no excuses" charter schools are 95% poverty
- How is it segregated socio-economically? It's a lottery.
- That's admission by lottery.
- community roots charter school. mediocre test scores, awful progress reports, awful principal. but reading couches! and rich kids!
- well then it makes no sense, it's odd.
- to answer your question, most of these parents have no idea about diversity. it is, quite literally, the "cool" parents at their private pre-k are all at ps 321, or poly prep, or...(more)
- np: don't be naive
- Which school are you at?
- Sorry, it's kindergarten. It doesn't matter. Wait till HS.
- i think that's sort of the op's point
- OR - I thought she was saying it's okay based on her child's experience. We put our kids into public till middle school, the older the kids get the worse it gets.
- i'm saying it's ok based on our experience and what i can see from others' experiences that i know of. i obviously can't speak firsthand to anyone else's, or to what my frien...(more)
- OR - my point is kindergarten doesn't matter. Where schools start impacting your dc's future sucess is in middle school. I could and have happily sent my younger dc to "poor"...(more)
- hey - this makes sense to me. i'm op and my point is exactly that the younger grades are fine. it's also quite clear that where the "poor" zoned schools don't work out, peop...(more)
- OR - my point is kindergarten doesn't matter. Where schools start impacting your dc's future sucess is in middle school. I could and have happily sent my younger dc to "poor"...(more)
- i'm saying it's ok based on our experience and what i can see from others' experiences that i know of. i obviously can't speak firsthand to anyone else's, or to what my frien...(more)
- OR - I thought she was saying it's okay based on her child's experience. We put our kids into public till middle school, the older the kids get the worse it gets.
- i think that's sort of the op's point
- Wait, what Charter Schools are all white? DD is at Success Academy and she is a minority...
- ^white kid (well, half North African, but still considered white)...
- ita my kids are minority whites at a charter as well
- success academy is different, at least for now. but heavy recruitment and co-locations in rich areas will change that, i would imagine. as long as there are enough rich families...(more)
- I am not in NYC and my kids are not at Success.
- so why are you responding to this thread? i'm talking about issues specific to gentrifying brooklyn, as i stated quite clearly in my OP
- SA Mom here - what are your issues?
- well, primarily i believe that poor tone at the top travels through organizations. and eva moskowitz and gideon stein intentionally come across as very odious, nasty people....(more)
- I am not in NYC and my kids are not at Success.
- success academy is different, at least for now. but heavy recruitment and co-locations in rich areas will change that, i would imagine. as long as there are enough rich families...(more)
- ita my kids are minority whites at a charter as well
- ^white kid (well, half North African, but still considered white)...
- How is this an anti-charter school rant? Most charters are extremely diverse or primarily minority.
- it isn't. are you looking for one?
- My kids are IN a charter right now.
- sigh. it isn't an anti-charter school rant. are you looking for an anti-charter school rant? is that clear enough for you, current charter school parent?
- You are making very odd and incorrect assumptions about charters and people are calling you on it.
- what are you talking about? i'm not making any assumptions at all. i'm talking SOLELY about data.
- But your data are incorrect.
- what are you talking about. take a look at community roots charter school data. disproportionately white. disproportionately rich.
- That is not the majority of charters.
- i never said it was. my issue is with people rejecting diverse zoned schools in favor of rich, white charter schools.
- The charter schools just aren't that rich or white. Maybe a little bit more than the others, but not much.
- i never said it was. my issue is with people rejecting diverse zoned schools in favor of rich, white charter schools.
- That is not the majority of charters.
- what are you talking about. take a look at community roots charter school data. disproportionately white. disproportionately rich.
- But your data are incorrect.
- and i'm talking about the specific choices my acquaintances are making or wish they could make. involving disproportionately rich charter schools. but you go on with your own...(more)
- what are you talking about? i'm not making any assumptions at all. i'm talking SOLELY about data.
- You are making very odd and incorrect assumptions about charters and people are calling you on it.
- sigh. it isn't an anti-charter school rant. are you looking for an anti-charter school rant? is that clear enough for you, current charter school parent?
- My kids are IN a charter right now.
- it isn't. are you looking for one?
- i'm surprised you're surprised.
- Toddler I jumped the turnstile when I was visiting NYC years before I moved here. Was in my late 20s. And some undercover woman yanked me right when I did it. Was freaky. Went to...(more)
- (this was in 2006 i think)
- Well.....
- good for you, ot sure what would make you do that
- and you're white so...
- oh please
- Why didn't you just pay?
- I was with a group of people and we wanted to share one metro card. That doesn't work. Wouldnt let us slide again..so I said fuck it and jumped (along with some other friends)
- were you scared?
- Toddler Want to buy this for all you bitches:...(more)
- Lol
- couscoussier! and the verb couscoussing. and the adverb couscoussingly.
- Toddler Poster who hooked up with guy selling me his tv. I don't want to be a repeat annoying poster butni am feeling very down right now. I am supposed to be going out tonight fir a...(more)
- do you have any friends irl?
- I just said I was going out with friends tonight.
- the kind of friends that you could talk aobut this with?
- Probably not. Many casual friends, one close friend, but she is too immature.
- how old are you?
- 28
- how old are you?
- Probably not. Many casual friends, one close friend, but she is too immature.
- the kind of friends that you could talk aobut this with?
- I just said I was going out with friends tonight.
- Have some flings, just be safe
- you sound very down and i hope you get much better very soon. i don't know your story, but so you hooked up with a guy and then what happened?
- Oh, she didn't just hook up with a guy!...(more)
- i see. i am sorry your feel so bad. it sounds trite, but therapy can help
- I went to go pick up a tv I bought from a guy off a site like criagslist. Invited me in to check that it worked. He ended up using his fingers on me after a very rough make out...(more)
- Oh, she didn't just hook up with a guy!...(more)
- Creephot
- Op- it is always hot. I am always enjoying it, and I always feel amazing. I love rough sex. I love to be dominated. But I feel bad after.
- yeah, you have some issues. was your dad a drunk who abandoned your family?
- Nope. Parents still married. Normal childhood, but I was very sexually repressed. I did nothing sexual until my mid 20s. Now I kind of...went too far?
- This kind of risk-taking behavior often escalates -- it's often addictive, you keep upping the stakes. Please don't let it go there.
- I don't know how to stop. I go months without sex, then I have sex once in some situation like this, get an extreme high from it anddo it again like 3 times in different...(more)
- This kind of risk-taking behavior often escalates -- it's often addictive, you keep upping the stakes. Please don't let it go there.
- Nope. Parents still married. Normal childhood, but I was very sexually repressed. I did nothing sexual until my mid 20s. Now I kind of...went too far?
- yeah, you have some issues. was your dad a drunk who abandoned your family?
- Op- it is always hot. I am always enjoying it, and I always feel amazing. I love rough sex. I love to be dominated. But I feel bad after.
- do you have any friends irl?
- Toddler Does you K dd have pierced ears?
- Yes. But we are italian.
- interesting answer.
- Is it? Italians, Hispanic, russian, etc pierce ears mostly as babies.
- not as weird as the poster who times piercing with menstruation.
- lol. word
- not as weird as the poster who times piercing with menstruation.
- Is it? Italians, Hispanic, russian, etc pierce ears mostly as babies.
- interesting answer.
- no
- not then, not now at 7. I told her 10
- ditto, exactly.
- yes
- It is pierced ears. Weird yb obsession to care about this at all. They have the same kids in mini skirts and heels by 12.
- Can you explain your entire post here - TY
- not me.
- just b/c you don't care doesn't make it weird that someone else does. WTF
- god no
- my 5th and 7th graders do not.
- dd got hers done at age five
- My dd will get hers done when she gets her period for the first time
- interesting answer.
- OR: I think it's a good time to celebrate womanhood. Good milestone. Nice day for a mom and daughter to think about their bond to each other.
- That is so weird to me
- OR: why is it more weird than a certain age ?
- b/c it's making pierced ears about the entry to womanhood in a very....strange way
- or: well I do think that pierced ears should be tied to womanhood in some way. And I'm not sure why first menses is an odd way to celebrate the notion of womanhood. It is for...(more)
- your poor dd.
- OR: you know I won't even articulate it like that to her. More like she'll get it and then we'll go do it. It's not like if she asks I'm going to say 'no, you have to ...(more)
- your poor dd.
- or: well I do think that pierced ears should be tied to womanhood in some way. And I'm not sure why first menses is an odd way to celebrate the notion of womanhood. It is for...(more)
- b/c it's making pierced ears about the entry to womanhood in a very....strange way
- OR: why is it more weird than a certain age ?
- interesting answer.
- yes; she just got them pierced for her 5th birthday present. (i was 5 when i had mine done in 1977)
- 7yo dd asked for her 7th birthday
- no. For various reasons we have a 13yo rule in our house. My 10yo has no desire, and may defer even when she is 13.
- Yes. But we are italian.
- Toddler Where to eat outside in manhattan early dinner w kids and friends?
- area? food? vibe?
- midtown down. laid back, good food, fun, wine.
- Dos Caminos on 53rd and 3rd
- that has outside?
- Yeah - tons.
- here......(more)
- ok ty
- here......(more)
- Yeah - tons.
- that has outside?
- area? food? vibe?
- Toddler Dd signed up for a camp at a friends house. just found out she got into this one week dance intensive. its for one week. think its ok to ask if dd cannot do the camp for 1 week. i...(more)
- what is the dance intensive? I'd have to base my answer on the worth of the program.
- its a program she had to audition for and she got in. she was on a wait list. feel bad screwing my friend over but if its a problem i wont send dd to the dance intensive
- your dd trumps the friend's camp. Send to ballet
- answer the program then I will answer you. there are shitty intensives that require auditions and their good ones.
- its a program she had to audition for and she got in. she was on a wait list. feel bad screwing my friend over but if its a problem i wont send dd to the dance intensive
- what is the dance intensive? I'd have to base my answer on the worth of the program.
- Toddler What kind of camps are your kids doing this summer?
- Oasis, in Central Park, day camp, sure I'll get racist comments about it.
- np: huh?
- What?
- 2 ballet intensives, a teacher's camp at her apt, lacrosse, hockey
- sleppaway all summer for ds, sleep away camp for one month for dd and then ski camp for one week
- where is ski camp in summer? argentina?
- oregon
- mount hood?
- oui
- mount hood?
- oregon
- where is ski camp in summer? argentina?
- Tennis, performing arts, mix mash at at school( swimming, educational. Arts)
- sailing, lacrosse, acting
- Oasis, in Central Park, day camp, sure I'll get racist comments about it.
- Toddler Has anyone usd dr Jill ostrager UWS? What is your opinion?
- Toddler What is the worst thing you have done in your entire life and do you feel guilty about it? i'll start: sexting relationship with an out of state coworker. sometimes feel guilty...(more)
- Shoplifted at 18, yes
- Stripper BJ on a business trip
- ^^and yes
- wow
- Wait. You gave a stripper a bj? in front of people
- Not in front of people.
- ^^but yes
- Not in front of people.
- does your dw know?
- go you
- strippers do not give bjs
- hahahahahaahahahhaa
- They would be doing it CONSTANTLY if so, come on
- there's a bridge in brooklyn for sale...
- They would be doing it CONSTANTLY if so, come on
- oh you're nave
- OR: I was giving the BJ
- hahahahahaahahahhaa
- how much did that cost you? literally and figuartively
- OR: He didn't charge me to give him a BJ
- crazy but when I was in K I lied and said a kid stole my plastic lion when it was his to begin with. the teacher blamed me. the guilt was so overwhelming I have only lied when it...(more)
- this is the worst thing you ever did? seriously?
- yes, I can't believe it either. but never cheated on a bf or lied to hurt someone. never stole anything.
- ^oh, and I wrote the post incorrectly- the teacher blamed him and he got into trouble
- yes, I can't believe it either. but never cheated on a bf or lied to hurt someone. never stole anything.
- this is the worst thing you ever did? seriously?
- I poked out a baby chicks eye in 1st grade by mistake. I didn't tell anyone, and watched sadly as the baby chick died slowly in front of our class.
- awww this is sad. the baby chick died from this though? oh man.
- Yes. I didn't mean to do it, but was too afraid to tell my teacher
- awww that is so sad. it was an accident.
- Yes. I didn't mean to do it, but was too afraid to tell my teacher
- that is so sad
- awww this is sad. the baby chick died from this though? oh man.
- i killed a man just to watch him die
- Shot a man in Reno just to watch him die.
- Lol
- i have a once a year night of sex with my bf from high school - it's a guy. we've been doing this for nearly 20 yrs. we're both married. and our spouses do not know. and no i...(more)
- Toddler Does anyone slack off a bit when dh is away? order in, let kids watch tv?
- No more than usual
- No, the reverse- he is the slacker
- ditto, every night is pizza night when i go out of town
- It's 'whatever-sport-is-on-TV' night at our house.
- Same
- ditto, every night is pizza night when i go out of town
- Probably, but not so much slacking off as it's easier to do everything when there are two of us doing it.
- yes. i don't cook at all - its chicken soup, hot dogs, nuggets, pasta, pizza, etc.
- yes. also when dh is home.
- Same
- Ditto
- no but I do slow down my commitments so I'm not overwhelmed
- Toddler Kinda upset that these travel teams are so competitive and pick the best players to play up. I wish I had known and would've practiced with my kid more or done a camp or...(more)
- ? how the hell do you think they choose kids for elite-level sports?
- parents in my town sign up for every extra coaching session and have personal coaches. it's OTT
- how did you not know?
- i just didn't. i live in the city and didn't grow around sports at all.
- sorry. i grew up in the city
- hmm. this is where creating networks including parents of older kids can be helpful
- yup. i am so glad i learned this now for my younger son who is really into sports.
- same here. now i am sort of a relentless older kid parent networker :)
- yup. i am so glad i learned this now for my younger son who is really into sports.
- hmm. this is where creating networks including parents of older kids can be helpful
- sorry. i grew up in the city
- i just didn't. i live in the city and didn't grow around sports at all.
- Toddler Not sure if this theory has been floated, but does anyone else think Kim K had an induced c section as soon as the baby was "far enough" along to prevent more weight gain/press...(more)
- How much time / effort have you put into this?
- hardly any. But as soon as I heard she gave birth, this was my first assumption.
- i'm stunned that you would give this matter such thought. use that inquiring mind of yours for something that will benefit you.
- no ethical doctor would induce her without a medical reason. she probably had preeclampsia or something.
- hopefully not, but it seems that some doctors make exceptions for celebrities.
- Omg who the fuck cares?!
- I think that's crazy. No one would do that - not even her
- of course she would, and there are many unethical drs out there, are you effing kidding??
- How much time / effort have you put into this?
- Toddler I have an expensive logitech iPod player. I can't find the plug. Where can I buy one of these?
- Toddler I finally realized that I can't do the PTA in my town. I just can't with these women. I'll find a way to support the school, but I feel so happy to be "done."
- what's wrong with them?
- OP: give me a sec and I will explain.
- OP: I was a SAHM for years, now I work PT (2 days) doing something I love. I feel like the PTA here is mostly comprised of women who (like me) have a lot of time on their hands...(more)
- np-lol, one once explained to me how to make scotch tape rings so it sticks on both sides
- OP: omfg - hahaha. I had one of them "redo" a table I made for the fair because the covering was uneven. Granted, I do suck at that kind of thing, but she totally panicked. Irt...(more)
- np-lol, one once explained to me how to make scotch tape rings so it sticks on both sides
- ours is very clickey and annoying agree with you i do the same
- ditto, I hate small town burb living, what was I thinking???
- OP: I love the actual town, and many of the people, but not these people.
- i like SOME ppl, but bored here, am
- OP: I love the actual town, and many of the people, but not these people.
- everyone feels this way bit not everyone gives up. you just have to accept it's going to be a clusterf**k at some points
- OP: I tried just scale back but that just ends up being a constant push-pull.
- This is why I'm a fringe person. So many vapid, irritating women here.
- OP: I am now striving to be a fringe person.
- I was you - I wanted to support the school, be there for my kids but hated the people running the PTA. I found ways to help out (being room parent) that gave me face time w/ my...(more)
- OP: You are kind of where I was 2 years ago. I was class parent, had a board position. Not co-pres though. It's not that I have social issues with anyone, I just think our...(more)
- I felt the same way but I refused a board position. Just couldn't stand how the women in charge acted towards others and how they conducted themselves. I also thought they created...(more)
- OP: Mine was a very minor position - I was promised it would be "very limited" in scope so as to not interfere with my work schedule. Guess how that went? :)
- haha, once the claws are sunk in...
- OP: Lol, exactly. I'm not sure who can keep it from snowballing but she'd be a tougher broad than me! I have to be fringe only.
- lol - I know! They always say that :) I got smart quick and picked a few things I could control. Keep helping the school - it's worth it for your kids - doesn't matter if it's PTA...(more)
- OP: I did NOT get smart quick. I was dumb and got sucked into more than I could juggle with work etc. I mean, I've been dumb for years but something finally pushed me over the...(more)
- haha, once the claws are sunk in...
- OP: Mine was a very minor position - I was promised it would be "very limited" in scope so as to not interfere with my work schedule. Guess how that went? :)
- I felt the same way but I refused a board position. Just couldn't stand how the women in charge acted towards others and how they conducted themselves. I also thought they created...(more)
- OP: You are kind of where I was 2 years ago. I was class parent, had a board position. Not co-pres though. It's not that I have social issues with anyone, I just think our...(more)
- what's wrong with them?
- Toddler Great someone mentioned salty popcorn and now i want to make some.
- sorry :) that was me. i made myself want some too!
- :)
- at least it's not so bad for you....
- sorry :) that was me. i made myself want some too!
- Toddler Is there any chance of me meeting a nice single man 35-40 in manhattan? and what if i can't get myself to go online? am i doomed?
- Are you looking for a relationship or just fun?
- relationship
- tougher
- relationship
- hard to do it organically. just get on match. available 35-40 yo men are busy.
- I online dated when I was 39. Met a great guy my same age.
- I'd look in Westchester and NJ burbs. divorced dads a plenty
- Are you looking for a relationship or just fun?
- Toddler I can't concentrate on anything at work today. so distracted and feel like a nap and already dreading this evening bc dh is out of town and my kids are going to run me ragged.
- i feel like this everyday
- ugh - i'm not usually like this but have been feeling this way this week. don't know what my problem is. like a weird sense of sleepiness and anxiety.
- Have a quick masturbate. Always helps me refocus.
- np-really? It puts me to sleep.
- Even at work?
- well, never tried at work
- Even at work?
- Where do you do this at work?
- My office.
- np-really? It puts me to sleep.
- same, except dh is home and has a friend coming to stay for two nights
- this sounds positively awful.
- yes, I'm dreading it something awful
- this sounds positively awful.
- i feel like this everyday
- Toddler Long island princesses - anyone know these girls in real life? are they really like this?
- not them exactly but yes and yes
- can someone PLEASE tell me how that chick was the "hottest girl on long island"? are people on LI ugly or something? she isn't pretty at all - she looks beat
- I cannot figure it out either, and in her old picks she is still not great looking, would not crack top 30 at my hs
- Sadly, as someone who is living in one of these towns depicted on the show. It is all very, very accurate. And they get married and have dcs and raise daughters just like them.
- I literally would not be able to last 10 minutes in that environment. just watching it on tv makes me want to puke.
- but the moms found someone
- I live here in Roslyn and the moms who I know hate it, because its so true. Most of them work at clothing boutiques or Americana to stay busy until they get engaged and then quit...(more)
- Toddler MTA is cracking down on people who do not pay fares like crazy. saw two people pulled off the bus because they refused to pay and saw another person surrounded by MTA officers for...(more)
- you go MTA!
- one woman was particularly nasty with the driver when he asked her to pay in change she shrugged and gave some attitude to driver saying she only has bills and walked in. then the...(more)
- well the bus system is ridiculous. especially the select machines that don't take bills or credit cards. if I have to walk 8 blocks to buy a metro card, it doesn't help much
- that i agree with but i am just always prepared. hopefully there will be a better system soon because this is dated and crappy
- well the bus system is ridiculous. especially the select machines that don't take bills or credit cards. if I have to walk 8 blocks to buy a metro card, it doesn't help much
- one woman was particularly nasty with the driver when he asked her to pay in change she shrugged and gave some attitude to driver saying she only has bills and walked in. then the...(more)
- send them to jail so they can lose their jobs.
- send who?
- about time
- I think they should. It costs money to ride the bus. If you don't have the money, you don't ride the bus.
- ita
- they also have a group of dudes who wait at the express stops where you don't have to swipe your card. you get a receipt from a machine and no receipt = a ticket
- good. others always pay why should these slackers get a free ride
- ITA but sometimes i don't pay if i am only going one stop, and i generally see these MTA cops at one stop consistently
- good. others always pay why should these slackers get a free ride
- the mta loses millions of dollars a year on people who do not pay fares
- and they make it up by raising fares
- so the people that pay subsidize the thieves.
- point is good for them for cracking down on these free riders
- so the people that pay subsidize the thieves.
- and they make it up by raising fares
- you go MTA!
- Toddler I feel like such a bad manager. This is hard stuff, right?
- managing people is the hardest
- I feel like crap. How do I get better at it?
- You have to realize your superiority to them
- I feel like crap. How do I get better at it?
- really hard. it's the one part of my job I felt and continue to feel pretty poorly equipped to perform
- Me too. How long have you been in the role? How large is your team?
- I probably have a different job than you envision : ) I'm a professor with a research lab of ~10 as well as another administrative job with a staff of ~12. I've had my lab for...(more)
- I think it's hard no matter the industry! People are complicated!!!
- I probably have a different job than you envision : ) I'm a professor with a research lab of ~10 as well as another administrative job with a staff of ~12. I've had my lab for...(more)
- Me too. How long have you been in the role? How large is your team?
- just be fair and organized.
- i think it's easy. finding the right mix of mentally balanced people is difficult.
- What are some tips/tricks? What works really well for you?
- intuition. some people are terrible at hiring. they are easily charmed and qualifications don't say it all. the person has to be...normal.
- What are some tips/tricks? What works really well for you?
- They move people up to management, but they have no idea how to be a manager. It's so ridiculous
- managing people is the hardest
- Toddler This woman on cnn is visually offensive.
- aka ugly?
- Toddler Can relationships that start out purely sexual grow into something more meaningful?
- yes
- yes!
- Affair mom?
- in my case, yes. had a fling with a guy and now, 20 years later, we are best friends.
- Married BFs?
- i am now married, he is not (never married)
- ^ and my dh loves him.
- Do you still have sex?
- with my dh? yes. OH, i get what you're asking. you want a meaningful relationship with your fling?
- i am now married, he is not (never married)
- Married BFs?
- Yes but I have to admit was more than sex from the beginning. Started out just sex but even at the beginning we became friends.
- sometimes