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  1. Toddler 108 visitors online! 56 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Toddler Someone help me with anger management. I'm so irritable and snappy at my kids and sometimes dh. Is it time for therapy? 57 min ago (5 replies)
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    • I've decided therapy is often a scam. 56 min ago
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      • I might have to wear a rubber band around my wrist and snap it when I feel like I want to yell. 54 min ago
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        • Np. That's a good first start! It means you're aware. 53 min ago
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      • Np. Sometimes it can be, though 'scam' is a simplification. But I've seen it help people close to me in life changing, positive ways 54 min ago
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    • someone that specializes in cognative behavioral therapy or mindfulness based therapy should help. Talk therapy will just make you madder in my experience 53 min ago
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  5. Toddler Can anyone help me find a photo of a fat grace kelly? 1 hr 2 min ago (16 replies)
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    • Even in her later years she wasn't that fat. 1 hr 2 min ago
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    • Why do you need this? 1 hr 2 min ago
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      • I don't "need" it. Lord. Someone said she got fat in her 40s and I tried to look and see what they were talking about....(more) 1 hr 1 min ago
        And why am I explaining myself to you?
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        • Good question. Why do you think you are? 1 hr ago
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    • I doubt one exists. Women back then didn't let themselves go the way women nowadays do. 1 hr 1 min ago
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      • Betty draper did 57 min ago
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        • And she still looked hotter than the sow-like frumps traipsing around Wal-Mart these days. 56 min ago
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          • well a professional make up artist and stylist helps ;) 55 min ago
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      • Someone said she got fat 57 min ago
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    • Not fat, but here's a picture of her with terrible plastic surgery...(more) 58 min ago
      • haha 57 min ago
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      • when and why did she get plastic surgery? or is that january jones? 48 min ago
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      • You're the best! 47 min ago
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    • Google "fat Grace Kelly." This isn't hard. You don't need to venture into the Himalayas and ask a Nepali shaman to conjure Grace herself. Jesus. 57 min ago
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  6. Toddler Entertain me. My crush stopped texting me and I think I'm coming down with a mild cold. 1 hr 3 min ago (0 replies)
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  7. Toddler So, my ex is downstairs sleeping at my house. I imagine he is going to want to eat my food tomorrow too. 1 hr 6 min ago (40 replies)
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    • Why? 1 hr 4 min ago
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      • It is his weekend with the kids and he didn't want to actually take care of them - that's my theory. He suggested since it was the holidays to let the kids spend the time here...(more) 1 hr 2 min ago
        with me and he'd just come over. I'm thinking about billing him for any food he eats. (That was sarcasm.. i'm not really. It annoys me though.)
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        • well, he's seen the kids so now he can leave. he can get some b'ast on his way back home. 1 hr ago
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        • He's trying to get back with you 58 min ago
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          • no he isn't. He wasn't never all that into me when we were together. This is about not wanting to have to parent and not wanting to spend the $$. 57 min ago
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            • ^^Ever** not 'never'. 57 min ago
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        • Why didn't he leave after they went to bed? 58 min ago
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          • It is his weekend. Like.. the whole weekend. 57 min ago
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            • He bought an overnight bag with him? 56 min ago
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              • yeah - he suggested he spend the weekend with them here, in the house. Their house. 55 min ago
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                • and why did you indulge him? 54 min ago
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                  • For the kids. And because I don't hate him. 53 min ago
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                    • you do your part for the kids, don't do his part. 51 min ago
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                    • on some level you must be lonely enough that you want to do this. so go on and enable him and admit there's some kind of payoff for you. other than "the kids get to see him. 50 min ago
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                      • No, there really isn't. I'm not lonely at all. In fact, I'm not able to go see my BF tonight so I had to talk to him on skype. 49 min ago
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                        • listen, you're not doing yourself or you kids any favor by letting this jerk crash at your house AND not pay for food even. tell him to leave tomorrow and you aren't going to let...(more) 47 min ago
                          him do this again.
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                • why did you agree? 54 min ago
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        • why didnt you say no? np 55 min ago
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          • because I want him to see them and for them to enjoy spending time with him. Because we co parent. Because it isn't that bad but I'm annoyed that the small thing he actually...(more) 53 min ago
            paid for - their food on his weekend - he isn't paying for. And now I have to feed him too.
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            • he has no money? he's just freeloading with you, wouldn't permit it. 52 min ago
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              • he has no money, correct. He doesn't LIVE here so I wouldn't say 'freeloading'. He's just staying here for the weekend for the kids. but yeah.. not paying for anything.. 50 min ago
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                • np you need to set some boundaries. 49 min ago
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            • Np. Do you have the kind of relationship where you can say, hey frank, I love that we're doing this, but I only budgeted for one. I'd appreciate your chipping in, thanks. 51 min ago
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              • Yes but he would say he doesn't have any money. To actually get him to pitch in I'd have to make a big fight and I'm not going there. 49 min ago
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                • i don't see how enabling his shitty behavior is better. np 48 min ago
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                  • You don't see how my kids getting to spend time with their dad is better? 47 min ago
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                    • seeing their deadbeat dad? no, sorry. 47 min ago
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                      • They don't care if he pays for things. 46 min ago
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                        • you should care. 45 min ago
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                        • yes they do, unless they are 3 yo olds and can't understand what mommy is doing. 44 min ago
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                    • i am going to be enough for my child, bc his father sucks. and i will make sure to tell my child that he dodged a bullet by not having his father around that much. 45 min ago
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            • i was like you once, but i decided i was going to do my part only. i wanted ds to see his father more, but he has to want to see him more too. i'm doing my part, that's it. i'm...(more) 49 min ago
              taking care of me and my relationship with my son. his part it to take care of his relationship with his son. i saw that if i kept doing his part, then he wouldn't do it.
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              • except that in my case, he won't do it regardless of if I do it or not. And the kids miss out then. 48 min ago
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                • don't worry about that. that's not your burden to bear. 47 min ago
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                  • Well I worry about the kids. I had to grow up without my dad and I don't want them to have to do that. 46 min ago
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                    • maybe you were better off not seeing your dad. 46 min ago
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                • how old are the kids? you can explain the facts to them. if they're old enough, they already know that their father is a deadbeat loser. 45 min ago
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  8. Toddler I just ate a slice of chocolate pie. It is 12am 1 hr 14 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Never a bad time for chocolate! 1 hr 11 min ago
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    • It's 1am. 1 hr 3 min ago
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  9. Toddler Just realized 7yo's christmas is sparse. she didn't ask for anything. thoughts on some things to get? 1 hr 19 min ago (3 replies)
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    • American girl doll stuff or get the equivalent doll fro target 1 hr 7 min ago
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    • idk 1 hr 1 min ago
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    • same situation and dh just got her a crappy karaoke microphone with a thing to connect to the tv. I think she'll love it but seems annoying to me. 56 min ago
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  10. Toddler Bikini? 1 hr 25 min ago (3 replies)
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    • I hope I'll be ready in a few months. Been working out. 1 hr 20 min ago
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    • Never again, my stomach skin looks like raw hamburger meat. 57 min ago
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      • Mine does too when I lay on my side. I'm hoping the workout will help. 55 min ago
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  11. Toddler I wish I knew how people build simple web pages to express themselves. :( 1 hr 25 min ago (19 replies)
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    • ? what? 1 hr 25 min ago
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      • Like a page - I don't know how 1 hr 24 min ago
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        • you can download a page easily, there are templates you can purchase cheap 1 hr 22 min ago
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          • I don't want to pay - people all seem to build em easily, quickly and for free 1 hr 7 min ago
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    • squarespace always advertise on podcasts i listen to as being very easy to use for beginners. or you could just go with a free site like tumblr 1 hr 24 min ago
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      • People seem to do it without tumblr 1 hr 9 min ago
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        • sure, they purchase templates or they know how to code themselves 1 hr 6 min ago
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          • I doubt they purchase anything 1 hr 2 min ago
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            • Which people are you talking about? What are they doing with these websites (blogs, businesses?) All the women I know who are photographers or sell jewellery etc. just paid...(more) 59 min ago
              somebody.
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            • np: I know how to code and I still buy templates. It takes a long time to build a website if you start from scratch 59 min ago
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            • nothing good is free. You have to pay to have decent hosting and good templates. Even graphic designers and web designers buy these things. 55 min ago
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    • its easy I can teach you 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • go to wordpress.com 1 hr 7 min ago
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      • I guess i"ll need to watch some you tubes about wordpress - I can't figure it out! 1 hr 6 min ago
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    • What type of site? I'm biased because I know how to code, but there are many non-coding options available at this point 1 hr ago
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      • Was that your job? Or did you learn on the side? 47 min ago
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        • Learned on the side, aside from a C++ class in high school. Started with a knitting/cooking blog on wordpress. 45 min ago
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          • Wow. What do you do with that self-taught knowledge? 43 min ago
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  12. Toddler Did you marry a Baxter?...(more) 1 hr 29 min ago (23 replies)
    • no. 1 hr 28 min ago
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    • Nope. 1 hr 27 min ago
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    • no. i saw that movie though 1 hr 27 min ago
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      • so you married a stud? 1 hr 24 min ago
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        • i wouldn't call him a stud. just not the 'sensible' choice. we come from wildly different backgrounds, he didn't have a steady career when we met, etc. it worked out though :-) 1 hr 22 min ago
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          • ^ but i always thought michael showalter was cute so i'm not opposed to all baxters 1 hr 20 min ago
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            • For a while I had a photo on my phone of him throwing a paper coffee cup in a wastebasket on the street. But i erased it. 1 hr 8 min ago
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              • I saw him earlier in the year at the state reunion 1 hr 5 min ago
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                • Are you all in comedy? 1 hr 3 min ago
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                  • I'm not anymore, but DH is 1 hr 1 min ago
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                    • Tell. What did you do? What about dh? 45 min ago
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                      • I never really earned a living at it, I mostly just did live improv and sketch with the occasional writing gig. Dh is a writer mostly, he works on sitcoms. He rarely has time to...(more) 31 min ago
                        perform bc of kids
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          • How did it work out? Did he get a career? 1 hr 3 min ago
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            • Maybe not a ybm-approved career, but he has steady work now and we are both happy 59 min ago
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              • Oo. What's a non-YB-approved job? 47 min ago
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    • I love that movie. 1 hr 12 min ago
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      • Maybe I need to see it again. I remember seeing it at the IFC 1 hr 10 min ago
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      • take her to a rondelay! 1 hr 7 min ago
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    • Kinda. He used to be but he's learning. I love that movie 1 hr 9 min ago
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      • What made him a Baxter? What's he learning? 1 hr 6 min ago
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    • Well...if the Baxter is the person who gets left at the altar, how would one of us have married him? 1 hr 2 min ago
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      • Like a sweet schlub 39 min ago
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  13. Toddler I just met twins: sawyer and finn 1 hr 32 min ago (4 replies)
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    • That's cute! And better than a kid I know named Walker Ranger. 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • My brothers three boys are Sawyer, Finn, and Mark 1 hr 29 min ago
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    • Love both those names. 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • Someone asked what is twee? That is twee. Gag 59 min ago
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  14. Toddler I am usually not a freak show but Bette Midler was sitting next to me tonight and I could not stop thinking about it and barely watched the play. All I kept thinking was "my mom...(more) 1 hr 33 min ago (3 replies)
    Is going to love that I was sitting next to the Divine Miss M". I couldn't wait to tell her.
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    • Does she really have a big head? 1 hr 29 min ago
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      • She's really tiny otherwise. I guess it is relative. 1 hr 28 min ago
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    • I saw Ira Glass at a holiday show. He performed and was kind of a jerk, i thought 1 hr 10 min ago
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  15. Toddler Why do some moms become breastfeeding nazis? 1 hr 34 min ago (9 replies)
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    • insecurity, lack of confidence. 1 hr 33 min ago
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    • Nothing better to do. But it's kind of amazing how many random people will ask you the personal question of if you bf 1 hr 32 min ago
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      • Eh. What's the big deal? 1 hr 22 min ago
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        • Maybe I'm more of a private person? Some random person in the grocery store or some casual friend that is probably setting me up for judgement doesn't need to know 1 hr 18 min ago
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    • being a loser in her pre-baby life 1 hr 31 min ago
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    • peer pressure 1 hr 28 min ago
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    • The pressure is so intense. I have an infant right now and even though I know it's not actually that much better, I felt like crap when I started feeding 1-2 bottles of...(more) 1 hr 22 min ago
      formula/day. It's so overly hyped and we love to make new moms miserable doing every single conceivable thing that might make a slight difference (but not well proven)
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    • I think that for some it is so hard that they have to push themselves so much to do it - that it overflows into this drive. If you convince yourself your baby will DIE if you...(more) 1 hr 5 min ago
      don't nurse it, then that is pretty important to make sure all babies get breastfed too.
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    • I actually never met anyone like this. But there do seem to be a lot of women who are insecure because they didn't or couldn't nurse and they don't like women who didn't use...(more) 49 min ago
      formula or nursed for years
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  16. Toddler Darlene Love! 1 hr 38 min ago (0 replies)
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  17. Toddler I am so happy that dh loves our new car. it's our first new car in 10 years. 1 hr 40 min ago (5 replies)
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    • what kind 1 hr 39 min ago
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      • Volvo. we're so boring. lol! 1 hr 38 min ago
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        • no good for you guys. I would love a Volvo. 1 hr 28 min ago
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        • which one? i loved my volvo 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • well he picked it 1 hr 38 min ago
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  18. Toddler Evangeline lily is a but wacky 1 hr 45 min ago (7 replies)
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    • ^bit 1 hr 45 min ago
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    • Maybe don't use her as a stockbroker 1 hr 44 min ago
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      • Why? She is on kümmel and she seems high 1 hr 44 min ago
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    • there was a time during LOST when she was the epitome of beauty 1 hr 34 min ago
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    • but stunning 1 hr 24 min ago
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  19. Toddler I need quick advice - in FL right now about to get on an 8 day cruise tmrw morning. My 2 yr old has a 100-101 fever (varying), coughing, congested etc. Drove all over trying to...(more) 1 hr 47 min ago (12 replies)
    get into an urgent care tonight and finally found one with a 3 hr wait so I just took her back to hotel. Trying to get into one early tmrw am. Under what circumstances would you skip the cruise? We did not have travel insurance so we would lose the entire cost of the trip.
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    • he has a cold. get on the boat. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • i would go is she's not barfing. unless she has a history of having long, bad fevers. 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • Its a cold- give some Tylenol 1 hr 44 min ago
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    • i think as long as there's no history of something bad, i'd go. just take turns hanging out in the room with her. bet the warm weather will dry her cold up 1 hr 44 min ago
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    • that's not a high fever. ime, bad sickness starts with high fever. it rarely starts loiw and goes up. unless vomiting, I would go. but go to urgent care 15 minutes before it opens...(more) 1 hr 42 min ago
      N the am, check for ear infection,
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    • There will be a doctor on board if need be. 1 hr 42 min ago
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    • I would go--there will be a doctor on the ship 1 hr 38 min ago
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    • I would've. She has a run of the mill but most likely. 1 hr 31 min ago
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      • Omg this spell check is annoying. But and I would go 1 hr 31 min ago
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    • we go on a lot of cruises. too late now, but in future, always buy the insurance. there's a doctor on the ship, it will cost a fortune to see that person. we had to fight it...(more) 53 min ago
      out, but eventually our health ins. paid the bill (dh came down with a bug, was seen quickly, and given med. $250 but worth it.). don't cancel your trip.
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  20. Toddler I'm so sad that I need (and want) to go back to work. DH is a lawyer and we should be able to make it on his salary but we can't. We live outside our means and can't seen to re...(more) 1 hr 49 min ago (101 replies)
    reign it in. We have three kids (7, 5 and 1). So sad for the 1 year old that I'm bailing on her. DH was supportive of me being a SAHM (and still is) but we can't afford it and it really isn't an option for me to stay home anymore.
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    • Live outside your means due to what though? 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • I don't even know. We renovated our small house and built one outside our budget. That is killing us. Then we buy stuff constantly and impulsively that we can't afford:...(more) 1 hr 46 min ago
        landscaping, piano (and lessons), throw big parties, go skiing, just make stupid decisions, but we are so in the hole now that I need to work to help dig us out.
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        • You seem nice and I want to have sympathy for you, but I am in a debt hole for very different reasons 1 hr 46 min ago
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          • I'm sorry. I grew up with a single mom and we were poor. I went to law school, started making money, never learned how to manage it, and now I'm struggling in a much different...(more) 1 hr 44 min ago
            way than I did as a kid. But we're still badly in debt, and barely meeting our expenses each month.
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            • I hear that. I grew up struggling and still struggle. It's a fucking hamster wheel until you die unless you win the lucky sperm lottery 1 hr 43 min ago
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          • What reasons? 1 hr 42 min ago
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            • We incurred $13k in medical bills and we have tons of student loans and cc debt from when my dh was unemployed last year 1 hr 42 min ago
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              • ok - don't stress about that stuff...honestly. what is his HHI? 1 hr 41 min ago
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                • $200k. And how would I not stress about them? We live on a razor thin margin. 1 hr 40 min ago
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                  • Np: if dh made that much I'd still be wohm. It's ok, but I'd rather save more early on and retire 1 hr 38 min ago
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                    • I don't have the choice and we'll never retire and never could 1 hr 38 min ago
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              • op - we have tons (and I mean tons) of student loans too. Our total debt (all things considered) is $900K. 1 hr 41 min ago
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                • Including your mortgage?? 1 hr 40 min ago
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                  • yes 1 hr 40 min ago
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                    • Take your mortgage out, how much debt? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                      • $150K 1 hr 39 min ago
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                        • How much student loan? 1 hr 38 min ago
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                          • $110K 1 hr 38 min ago
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                            • So 40k. How much are th car loans? 1 hr 37 min ago
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                              • $15K 1 hr 35 min ago
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                                • So 25k in cc debt? You need a budget. And stop skiing. 1 hr 34 min ago
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                                  • more like $10K in credit card debt. that's it. 1 hr 33 min ago
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                        • And without student loans? 1 hr 38 min ago
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                    • what is it without the mortgage? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                      • $150K, maybe a little less. student loans, some credit card debt, car loans 1 hr 38 min ago
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                        • how much credit card debt. this is really the main thing you need to be concerned about. and i suspect if you stop ALL vacations, parties, eating out, lessons, cable TV,...(more) 1 hr 37 min ago
                          expensive gifts- you will be fine.
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                          • problem is, I can't get on the same page as DH. I stopped using the credit card months ago. debit only. He's still spending up a storm. But he is earning the money. So I don't...(more) 1 hr 34 min ago
                            know how to reign him in when he's the breadwinner.
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                            • ok, this is your main problem then. i would not go back to work to support his spending habits. you need to see a financial counselor and put him on a budget with a debit card. 1 hr 32 min ago
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                              • where do I look for a financial counselor? don't want one that is trying to sell us stuff. just want help getting out of this. 1 hr 31 min ago
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                                • good question. look for a certified financial planner and just pay him or her for the meeting and budget work. make it clear you are not moving your money or want a portfolio. 1 hr 28 min ago
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                            • np imo it doesn't matter who earns the money, or how much each person earns. you're a family. 1 hr 32 min ago
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                            • i would be beyond frustrated with this situation. but i'm a responsible spender by nature. 1 hr 30 min ago
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                              • well, and his student loans are $80K of our $110K. 1 hr 29 min ago
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                                • i'm not worried about the student loans. i'm worried about your dh not understanding that you need to live cheaply until you pay that off. which is HARD when you see everyone...(more) 1 hr 26 min ago
                                  else going skiing. but your house and your loans come first. what kind of car does he drive?
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                    • How much debt is mortgage and student loans? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                      • student loans are $110K. 1 hr 38 min ago
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                        • So a 750 mortgage and 40k in cc debt? Sell the house and downsize - keep the life style 1 hr 36 min ago
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                          • she says their lifestyle involves lots of compulsive spending. she needs a budget she sticks to. 1 hr 34 min ago
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                            • we have attempted budgeting in the past but it never sticks. ever. 1 hr 33 min ago
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                              • because you need help. email Suze Orman (only partially kidding). going to work won't help if you keep compulsively spending but you obviously can't stop on your own. 1 hr 24 min ago
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                • back to work for you. immediately. 1 hr 40 min ago
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                • Why tons? 1 hr 40 min ago
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                  • DH has an MBA and JD. I have a JD. But I haven't worked in 3 years. 1 hr 37 min ago
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                    • Ha! I just posted similar. 1 hr 37 min ago
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                • It's an awful feeling. Our student loans are $300k and disability won't help at all. 1 hr 39 min ago
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                  • Why so high? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                    • Dh has an MBA and i have a JD and we paid for our colleges on our own as well 1 hr 38 min ago
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                  • Where do you go to school? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                • you're in debt almost 1 million dollars, wtf? you're counting your mortgage I hope?? 39 min ago
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        • no..just cut back. what is his income? 1 hr 45 min ago
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          • Ita. Sounds like you need to cut back like you're on welfare and your 'hole' will disappear 1 hr 44 min ago
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          • I really don't want to get flamed, so I am not going to post his income. He a senior associate at a law firm in a mid sized market. 1 hr 44 min ago
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            • np we can only help if we realize what you're dealing with 1 hr 41 min ago
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        • This is fake. Of course you don't need to work, you need to be a responsible adult. 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • Np: stop spending. Go on a money fast, which means you take $100 and make it last for 10days. 1 hr 44 min ago
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          • np: $10/day is unrealistic and promises failure. how does a family eat on $10 a day? 1 hr 42 min ago
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            • are you serious? 1 hr 40 min ago
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              • you think a family of 4 can eat for $10/day? breakfast lunch dinner? 1 hr 39 min ago
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                • yes, yes i do. shop wisely. 1 hr 38 min ago
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            • op - that was my reaction when I read this too. I would get discouraged the first day I tried to manage on $10 for a family of 5. 1 hr 40 min ago
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            • It disciplines you. No coffee out of the hose, etc. the $100 is spending money after groceries, which is another budget item. No more than $500 a month. I've done this and it...(more) 1 hr 39 min ago
              works. You have to shop sales and really think ahead. I have two teenagers who are athletes and eat a lot and I have to budget to the penny to make sure they are getting what they need without breaking the bank
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              • --house 1 hr 38 min ago
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              • Nr: it takes time to winnow the budget down to pennies, which is not going to help op. I'm pretty good with budgeting too, but your idea is ridiculous as a starting point 1 hr 36 min ago
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                • She needs a complete spending fast. No lessons for the kids, no stupid impulse purchases, just cut all the spending. 1 hr 34 min ago
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                  • Yup, ittta. Groceries aren't that expensive compared to eating out, lessons, etc 1 hr 33 min ago
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        • stop doing ALL those extra things 1 hr 42 min ago
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    • I'm sorry. 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • is it lifestyle or necessity? DH and I just went through this and I just gave up one of my jobs... 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • how were you able to give up one of your jobs? Right now, it's necessity that I go back to work. We are in credit card debt and spending faster than DH can make the money. 1 hr 45 min ago
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        • do you have some sort of compulsion to spend, like a mental illness? because you can stop doing that. 1 hr 43 min ago
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          • it's more a keeping up with the joneses type thing. 1 hr 39 min ago
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            • But you can stop that. I would definitely move. Sell the house, pay off the debt, then buy something smaller or rent for a while. 1 hr 29 min ago
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              • we have moved so much, hate to move the kids again. and switch their school again. and not be settled yet. we lived in an apartment for a year while renovating. so depressing...(more) 1 hr 28 min ago
                to now sell and move again.
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                • there are no other houses in the district? if you sold, would you make money on the deal? 1 hr 25 min ago
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                • you sound pretty depressed now. if you had this debt just 'gone" don't you think you'd be happier? Tons of people live in apartments (and pay fortunes to do so). A lot of it being...(more) 1 hr 22 min ago
                  'depressing" is a matter of attitude.
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        • you have to step back. sounds like you are used to doing whatever you want. the harsh reality is that you will either work to pay to do whatever you want, or you need to rein it...(more) 1 hr 43 min ago
          in fo rnow and budget
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          • and OP, you should be aware that if you go back to work, you will have huge expenses for childcare and you will end up spending even more money because you are working so much....(more) 1 hr 33 min ago
            food, house cleaning, dry cleaning, clothing, eating out....all this stuff will end up going up. for the first few years you probably won't end up saving much.
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            • and the commuting costs as well. 1 hr 21 min ago
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        • you need help to control your spending. even if you work you will keep spending. you need a professional to put you on a strict budget and you will be surprised how much less you...(more) 1 hr 42 min ago
          spend and are perfectly comfortable. you have a compulsion.
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    • is it an unexpected expense that you are incurring? 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • she said they spend too much skiing and throwing big parties. 1 hr 44 min ago
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        • which is why i'm another who doesn't believe this is a genuine post. 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • no, it's just regular monthly expenses that are beyond our means. too many classes/activities for the kids, too big of a mortgage payment, medical bills, just overspending 1 hr 43 min ago
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        • so cut the classes and keep activities to things that are free at school or local community low cost things. find doctors who are in network on your medical plan (we saved a...(more) 1 hr 40 min ago
          fortune on braces doing this).
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          • Np: are you fucking joking about the in network doctors? 1 hr 39 min ago
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            • no, but maybe I have a better plan you do. 1 hr 29 min ago
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              • If you think most people incur medical debt bc they are going to out of network doctors, then you are a total moron. 1 hr 24 min ago
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    • whatever. you can't live on 350k. Wah wah wah 1 hr 47 min ago
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      • Most lawyers earn closer to 150 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • op- he earns much less than $350K. Like, a third of that. 1 hr 35 min ago
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        • Np; people are idiots about lawyers. I made $50k as a lawyer 1 hr 35 min ago
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          • then hes not very good 1 hr 33 min ago
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            • *I* was a prosecutor. And that shows you know shit about the legal field 1 hr 25 min ago
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    • How much does he make? Maybe we have suggestions to cut back. Keep a record of every cent you spend for a few weeks - it gets pretty obvious. 1 hr 45 min ago
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    • We are same, I went back to work but it hasn't helped he debt. Made it worse dies to all the extras I am inclined to buy bc I'm so tired 1 hr 40 min ago
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      • damn. not what I wanted to hear. how old are your kids? 1 hr 31 min ago
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    • Sell your house and move somewhere much cheaper. End of story. 1 hr 36 min ago
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      • I've thought about this. moving back to my hometown (st. louis) where it is cheap to live. but finding a job there seems difficult. economy is not that great there. 1 hr 30 min ago
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        • You don't need to move to another state. Just sell the house that is outside your budget and move to somewhere smaller in a neighborhood where you don't feel compelled to...(more) 1 hr 25 min ago
          overspend constantly. Sell the house, pay off the debt, get a smaller house, townhouse or apartment. You will feel the weight of the world off your back.
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      • NP we are in the same boat minus the student loans. After all the Christmas presents have been purchased we have vowed to take the year off from our frivolous spending. Credit...(more) 1 hr 15 min ago
        cards are going in the safe! Otherwise, I will be returning to work myself!
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  21. Toddler Kristin and Dax had another girl 1 hr 50 min ago (4 replies)
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    • i didn't know they were expecting again. name? 1 hr 49 min ago
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      • Delta Bell 1 hr 47 min ago
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        • wow really? the first was...what was the first? something odd right? huh/ 1 hr 46 min ago
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  22. Toddler Dh and I just got to my parents house his morning. Flew in. First night in guest room next to my parents bedroom, and my dad just walks in while we are getting ready for bed. No...(more) 1 hr 50 min ago (13 replies)
    issue, my dh was in sleep pants, i was dressed. But seriously? No boundaries. No matter how many times it is said.
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    • Creepy and weird 1 hr 47 min ago
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    • the door was closed? 1 hr 47 min ago
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    • Is there a lock on the door? Or put a chair against it when you're dressing. 1 hr 46 min ago
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      • op- yeah, but he didn't even knock! 1 hr 40 min ago
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    • ypur 1 hr 46 min ago
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      • ^^dad is old. cut him some slack 1 hr 46 min ago
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        • op- he is 62, not that old. he just still thinks I am a little girl. Still calls me baby girl. 1 hr 40 min ago
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          • np: i'm close to your dad's age, and you know what? you are still his baby girl. 1 hr 37 min ago
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            • I MGIHT be HIS baby girl, but I am not A baby girl. And he has to knock on my door with my husband. 1 hr 30 min ago
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              • lol of course. i'm laughing because that's exactly what my youngest said one day, when one of his sisters referred to him as the baby (he was 16 at the time) 1 hr 29 min ago
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                • I'm NOT 16 either! i am married for 5 years now! lol. 1 hr 22 min ago
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    • my MIL always does this to me. I can't stand it. 1 hr 44 min ago
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      • they are just glad you are there and aren't thinking of what they are doing. DH should nicely tell them to knock. You can even put up a "please knock" sign with a smiley face. 1 hr 38 min ago
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  23. Toddler When it comes to the throat, what is the ENT best at vs a GI? 1 hr 51 min ago (9 replies)
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    • GI isn't really treating throat 1 hr 48 min ago
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      • I have a swallowing thing..might be GERD or worse 1 hr 44 min ago
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    • Depends. GI for reflux. net for adenoid type stuff 1 hr 42 min ago
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      • It could be reflux. It doesn't feel like acid...i'm having weird thing with swallowing and my vocal cords 1 hr 41 min ago
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        • Go to go hand have her direct you to which dr. Swapping sounds more GI. Esophagus is part if the GI tract 1 hr 40 min ago
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    • ENT uses the camera to see what's going on 1 hr 37 min ago
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      • So does a GI 1 hr 36 min ago
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      • I use ENT Formmy reflux 1 hr 35 min ago
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        • See, I don't know which one to go to. Most are saying GI. But this started with me "spraining" my vocal cords last year 1 hr 33 min ago
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  24. Toddler Dumb fb question - I accidentally fried requested someone who I briefly met at a party...we have 1 mutual friend. she accepted, but it was a total accident and I keep my fb rather...(more) 1 hr 52 min ago (5 replies)
    Small. I want to unfriend, but that's dumb, right??? Gah, I can't believe I'm wasting time on this....
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    • just hide 1 hr 52 min ago
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    • Why does this matter at all? You did it.by accident, unfriend her. 1 hr 52 min ago
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      • isn't that rude? do people actually care?? 1 hr 49 min ago
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        • She won't notice 1 hr 30 min ago
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    • just set her in a separate category and block that category from seeing anything 1 hr 43 min ago
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  25. Toddler I don't get the sexy pg women dancing in joe boxer pj's commercial. it fascinates me. it's a joe boxer for kmart commercial and they don't mention that all the dancing women are...(more) 1 hr 54 min ago (7 replies)
    9mos pg
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    • link it please 1 hr 53 min ago
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    • it's just an answer to the guys shaking their balls commercial. supposed to be funny. also, the pg women are comfy 1 hr 51 min ago
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      • oh. i didn't see that other commercial 1 hr 48 min ago
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        • i'm sure it's on youtube. I was shocked it was a kmart commercial last year! 1 hr 46 min ago
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    • i think it's so cute. pregnant women are hot and those women are good dancers. they aren't underdressed or vulgar like someone said last night. 1 hr 51 min ago
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      • someone else posted about them too? ha! i do think it's cute - not vulgar. but just weird. it's like the elephant in the commercial that they're all super pg 1 hr 47 min ago
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    • That commercial grosses me out for some reason but my 3 yo loves the one with the guys slapping their bellies. 1 hr 21 min ago
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