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  1. Toddler I'm still shaking from my interaction with my dh yesterday. I have so much hate in my heart for him. I wish he would move out yet I'm afraid of facing society as a divorcee 45 min ago (2 replies)
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    • what happened? and what society are you in that getting divorced would be an issue? 42 min ago
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      • Does it have to do with you or your dc? 23 min ago
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  2. Toddler Is there any way to find out what police were doing on CPW in the nineties on saturday arresting someone? 2 hr 32 min ago (3 replies)
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    • ^^ i mean, why they were arresting the individual? Is there like a blotter somewhere? 2 hr 31 min ago
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  3. Toddler Went to bed at 10, but dh came home at 1 and woke me up and now he's sound asleep and I can't sleep. Ugh 3 hr 7 min ago (0 replies)
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  4. Toddler Anyone here? 3 hr 12 min ago (17 replies)
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    • ^^I need to talk something out and I don't know anyone who's awake. 3 hr 12 min ago
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    • i am what's up? 3 hr 10 min ago
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    • I caught DH lying about something. I was away with DC overnight. He had a woman in the apartment for a drink. I don't know her. He lied when I asked him about it, but then I...(more) 3 hr 7 min ago
      had proof so he confessed to the minimum. He doesn't get how upsetting this is. Our relationship already sucked, so for him to do this is like a further wedge. We have couples counseling tomorrow, and I'm trying to figure out what I want to happen. I need help with that.
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      • ^^He said he should have told me about the visitor, but is otherwise unrepentant. I actually don't care about the visitor. I care about the lying. 3 hr 7 min ago
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      • I'd tell the therapist and let him or her have a go at dh. That's a deal breaker for me. If he lied 3 hr 6 min ago
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        • Something deeper wrong 3 hr 5 min ago
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          • She said that their marriage was already in the crapper. 3 hr 4 min ago
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            • so what? 3 hr 4 min ago
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              • I was just saying that she already said that there IS something deeper wrong. This is just the latest thing. 3 hr 3 min ago
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                • Right but a therapist will run with this and flush out shit for her hopefully that her dh would m it otherwise talk about 2 hr 57 min ago
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                  • OP: That's what I'm hoping, but she's going to ask me what I want, and frankly, I don't know. I want to keep it together for DC, but I hate being lied to. 2 hr 55 min ago
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        • On the one hand, I say to myself if you don't have trust you have nothing, and we don't trust each other. On the other hand, we have a kid. People endure worse. 3 hr 5 min ago
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      • How did you find out? 2 hr 35 min ago
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      • Midlife crisis. Talk to him frankly. It's not about the woman but himself. 21 min ago
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  5. Toddler So there are no apps to tell who has been looking at your FB page, right? 3 hr 39 min ago (6 replies)
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    • nope 3 hr 22 min ago
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    • No. No Santa Clause either. Hate to be the one to break it to you. 3 hr 13 min ago
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    • Fuck no 3 hr 9 min ago
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    • LinkedIn tells you who was looking. Facebook doesn't. 3 hr 2 min ago
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    • only a matter of ti 2 hr 56 min ago
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  6. Toddler I'm pretty sure my friends new boyfriend is flirting with me and trying to get us into a threesome. Pretty sure. But she (and I) are definitely not into it in any way. 3 hr 51 min ago (0 replies)
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  7. Toddler DH here: my DW has clearly lost all interest in sex. Is this fixable, or am I just screwed? 3 hr 57 min ago (6 replies)
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    • DW here and I have the same situation. Wish I had an answer for ya. 3 hr 56 min ago
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      • Are you the one without interest? Or is your DH? 3 hr 52 min ago
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        • DH. But after this long, I've kinda lost interest too, at least in him. Sad but true. 3 hr 51 min ago
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    • sounds like you're not screwed 3 hr 56 min ago
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      • Not getting laid isn't so bad. it is the disengaged "duty sex" that drives me to despair 3 hr 51 min ago
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    • I am a dw who has a dh who wants constant sex. I have sex twice a week with him. he is not happy with that. 3 hr 47 min ago
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  8. Toddler How would you discipline a child who said, "shut up" to his teachers? 4 hr 5 min ago (1 reply)
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    • he can go to his room to write a letter of apology for teacher 4 hr 4 min ago
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  9. Toddler I have completely fallen in love with a fat woman. Unexpected. 4 hr 7 min ago (3 replies)
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    • huh. I did fall for a chubby woman once, kind of surprised me. 4 hr 5 min ago
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      • She is amazing. Beautiful. Funny. Can't get her out of my mind. Love every minute I spend with her. 4 hr 3 min ago
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        • well I got together with my chubby woman and she dropped the weight and was incredibly fit... 4 hr 1 min ago
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  10. Toddler My friend has brothers named hans and franz 4 hr 10 min ago (1 reply)
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  11. Toddler For fucks sake. For fucks sake. Thats all... 4 hr 11 min ago (0 replies)
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  12. Toddler Is 'JAP' int the smae catagory as 'dirty Jew' or not as bad? 4 hr 17 min ago (7 replies)
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    • Were you called a jap or something? 4 hr 17 min ago
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      • actually I was called a dirty kike, which is much nastier to me 4 hr 16 min ago
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        • Luckily you're not gay, or else you could be called a dirty kike dyke 4 hr 16 min ago
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    • I guess it's not quite as bad 4 hr 2 min ago
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      • Def not as bad. Not great, although also "JAP" is often used by Jewish people who probably think it's OK. 3 hr 49 min ago
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  13. Toddler I'm sure I'm late to the party, but Kaidence? Ugh! There are, btw at least two kaden/kadences in every grade k-3 in the title one school I work in. Not to mention the Jayden's and 4 hr 32 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Is that confirmed? 4 hr 28 min ago
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    • Not confirmed 4 hr 28 min ago
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    • not TITLE ONE!!! 4 hr ago
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    • I doubt this is the real name, but also "Kaidence West" has too many "S" sounds. Not a very nice... cadence. 3 hr 52 min ago
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  14. Toddler Chronic, horrible procrastinator. WHY? Serious question. 4 hr 38 min ago (9 replies)
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    • Figure it out tomorrow 4 hr 37 min ago
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    • Fear of failure and denial of consequences 4 hr 37 min ago
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      • op Thanks, can you elaborate on "denial of consequences"? It's not like I don't realize it holds me back. I generally come through in the clutch, but that's not always good...(more) 4 hr 35 min ago
        enough.
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    • I do best when under serious pressure- the anxiety jumpstarts my frontal lobe 4 hr 18 min ago
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      • op I do too. But I am so tired of things hanging over my head. Now see it in DC which upsets me even more... 3 hr 58 min ago
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        • then create a small list of tasks to tackle each day and set aside a time in the day to do them. 3 hr 56 min ago
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          • ^^and ritilan can help :-) 3 hr 56 min ago
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            • Thanks. Not interested in meds. Have done the list thing, and I seem pathologically gifted at avoiding what I should be doing. Kinda like now... 3 hr 54 min ago
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  15. Toddler Is JAP a derogatory term? IMO yes but what do other people think? 4 hr 44 min ago (53 replies)
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    • Yes 4 hr 44 min ago
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    • Of course 4 hr 43 min ago
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    • I vaguely remember T-shirts in the 1990s, "Kill the JAP" 4 hr 43 min ago
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      • OP sorry I mean Jewish American Princess not a Jap. 4 hr 41 min ago
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        • me too 4 hr 40 min ago
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        • np - Hey OP - fuck you 4 hr 40 min ago
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          • wtf 4 hr 39 min ago
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            • What did you mean by "not a Jap"? 4 hr 36 min ago
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              • slur for japanese is Jap and not JAP. np 4 hr 36 min ago
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                • Yes and the OP used a slur but doesn't seem to realize it. 4 hr 35 min ago
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                  • sigh, you are an idiot 4 hr 34 min ago
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                    • np--I don't think she's really even that stupid. She's looking for any excuse to fight 4 hr 33 min ago
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                  • lol, no she was differentiating that one is an acronym and other isn't. jeez 4 hr 33 min ago
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              • are you drunk? Do you think she'd just casually use a slur in the context of asking about another slur? 4 hr 35 min ago
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              • I assume she meant Japanese. She didn't mean it to be rude. One is short for something one is an acronym. You seem to be just looking for a fight 4 hr 34 min ago
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                • OP yes, I didn't mean to call anyone a "Jap", I would never do that, I was only clarifying which slur I meant. Not using it if that makes sense. 4 hr 32 min ago
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                  • It makes sense to everyone but that idiot 4 hr 32 min ago
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                    • OK because I was worried I offended a bunch of people, obviously calling a Japanese person that is wrong, 4 hr 31 min ago
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                      • nope, just one idiot 4 hr 30 min ago
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                  • Idiot here - In that case, I would say, in the future, I meant Jewish American Princess and not Japanese 4 hr 31 min ago
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                    • just go away 4 hr 30 min ago
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                      • ditto--just go 4 hr 30 min ago
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                    • How was it NOT obvious what they meant? 4 hr 29 min ago
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                      • Sigh. I know what was meant but the OP - either inadvertently or whatever - used a slur by saying "jap" instead of "japanese". That is all. 4 hr 29 min ago
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                        • No, you wanted to fight. You were trying to cause a pile on to OP. But you were being an ass 4 hr 28 min ago
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                          • Not at all. I wanted the OP, after my post, to say "Oops - sorry" 4 hr 27 min ago
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                            • she was talking ABOUT slurs- she wasnt using a slur against someone. 4 hr 26 min ago
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                              • Forget it. Mea culpa - OK? 4 hr 25 min ago
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                                • if you mean it, ok. Let people TALK- we cant shut them down and wag our fingers all the time and expect any progress 4 hr 22 min ago
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                            • And you needed to tell her to fuck off to get that? What is wrong with you? 4 hr 26 min ago
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                            • she has nothing to apologize for 4 hr 25 min ago
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                        • If you knew what was meant why tell her to fuck off? 4 hr 27 min ago
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                          • Because she used a racial slur 4 hr 27 min ago
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                            • No, she didn't 4 hr 26 min ago
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                        • ugh. she also used a slur then in her op in order to discuss it! You need to use terms to have open discussion. Theres no point at all with trying to silence people especially...(more) 4 hr 27 min ago
                          when they are genuinely seeking information. signed Asian American
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                          • OP sorry I should have been more careful in the way I phrased it, I did not mean for it to come off that way to anyone because I would never call a Japanese person that. Like...(more) 4 hr 25 min ago
                            someone above said I was differentiating between one being an acronym and the other being a derogatory term for Japanese people.
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                            • Don't apologize to her. She was looking for a fight. 4 hr 24 min ago
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                              • just want to point out that's not the oversensitive OR! 4 hr 22 min ago
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                            • Thank you. I realize now that you didn't mean it that way, but you can read that post differently and that's all I was reacting to. That's all. Thanks again. 4 hr 24 min ago
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                              • You're an ass 4 hr 23 min ago
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                            • lol, stop apologizing- I'm defending you :-) You are fine. 4 hr 24 min ago
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                              • Thank you :) it's sort of funny, I typed it out fast then stepped away from the computer for a sec and thought omg what drama have I started. 4 hr 21 min ago
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                                • ^I mean when I came back to the computer and saw it. I think it's past my bedtime if I can't think straight lol. 4 hr 20 min ago
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                                • you never know on YBM- this happens to me all the time 4 hr 20 min ago
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                    • attacking and chiding particularly in the context of an obvious misunderstanding doesnt help anyone. 4 hr 28 min ago
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      • That's rather misogynistic 4 hr 40 min ago
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    • oh yes 4 hr 40 min ago
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    • yes, although Ive heard jewish people use this term liberally 4 hr 40 min ago
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      • NP: I've mostly heard Jews use "Jap" and "Jappy" 4 hr 39 min ago
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      • we're allowed to. 4 hr 39 min ago
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        • it's meant the same way regardless of who uses it 4 hr 37 min ago
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      • I never have 4 hr 38 min ago
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    • Either meaning is derogatory. 4 hr 40 min ago
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  16. Toddler I had plans to visit my sister while we are on the east coast this summer. she got mad at me about 1 month ago and has not talked to me. shall i assume i am disinvited??? i can't...(more) 4 hr 45 min ago (11 replies)
    just stop by her house...
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    • Reach out with an email or phone call and try to smooth things over 4 hr 44 min ago
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      • the wording would be....??? i feel so pissed that she has been so rude to me by not accepting my apology that i am not sure if i want to see her because she wil be rude to me. her...(more) 4 hr 43 min ago
        codshoulder is my punishment right now.
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        • Say 'hey there. Firming up summer plans. If you still are interested, I will come as planned. Otherwise, see you next trip' 4 hr 41 min ago
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          • np: this seems good 4 hr 40 min ago
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            • I have two sisters and we routinely are not speaking. Btdt 4 hr 40 min ago
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              • op. so how do you handle it? it is so childish to me. 4 hr 39 min ago
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                • We dont speak until we have to. Nobody discusses or apologizes. Myn sisters are really done with each other at this point 4 hr 37 min ago
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          • hmmm... and if she says 1. nothing 2. no 3. well, what do you think....how should i respond 4 hr 39 min ago
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            • Nothing means you dont visit. No is no- you'll have an answer. What do you think is your call 4 hr 36 min ago
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    • What was she mad about? 4 hr 38 min ago
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    • is there a parent alive to mediate? 3 hr 59 min ago
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  17. Toddler I need to divorce my dh--I'm a SAHM, though, and we owe probably $250k from his failed business. Where do I even begin? 4 hr 48 min ago (8 replies)
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    • Bankruptcy and divorce 4 hr 47 min ago
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    • I think you need a job and a consult with a lawyer. 4 hr 47 min ago
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    • Why do you need to divorce him? 4 hr 47 min ago
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      • we are SOOO different in our parenting styles, and, well, I can't stand being with him anymore. We've been through too much shit--can't recover 4 hr 43 min ago
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        • np Are you the same one who's angry b/c your dh didn't put DC to bed on time? 4 hr 42 min ago
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          • Yes--this goes very deep.... 4 hr 40 min ago
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        • So when he has them by himself for weekends/weeks on end you can ignore his style? 4 hr 42 min ago
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    • Get a job 4 hr 25 min ago
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  18. Toddler I am SO fucking pissed at my dh. We have such different personalities and parenting styles. Went out to a friend's house tonight to help her move some furniture. I got home at...(more) 4 hr 50 min ago (37 replies)
    9:45 and dh was on the couch, kids were playing Xbox. After 12 years, my dh STILL won't put the kids to bed, and blames me because I 'never wrote down the rule on what bedtime is'. And I'm SO upset with myself, because like other times when dh wont put the kids to bed, I take out my anger on our dcs. I need some major help
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    • Can't you guys just have an official bedtime? 4 hr 48 min ago
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      • We do! But dh told me it's not written down anywhere, so he can't enforce it 4 hr 47 min ago
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        • Okay that's lame. Maybe he just doesn't care if they go to bed or not. 4 hr 46 min ago
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        • well, write it on a piece of paer and tape it on th fridge 4 hr 45 min ago
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    • that sucks but why can't you remind him each time he is alone with them at bed time? "Bob, I'm leaving so please feed them X at X and make sure they get to bed at X." 4 hr 48 min ago
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      • He's a fucking moron if he can't figure this out when the OP is out of the house 4 hr 47 min ago
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        • or: yes he is but so what, he might follow through and then Op won't be as stressed. 4 hr 46 min ago
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    • If your kids are 12 it should be clear to them what time bedtime is 4 hr 47 min ago
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      • I went postal on them, for which I'm not proud, and told them this. My 10 yo told me she thought it was an adult's job to make sure they were in bed bc she doesn't keep track of...(more) 4 hr 46 min ago
        time. I had to agree with her there. Kids don't really watch the time. dh needs to fucking step up here
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        • 10 yos can CERTAINLY know and abide by time but send dh a text 4 hr 44 min ago
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          • Seriously? Do you know 10 yo's (i have an 8 yo, too), who routinely watch the clock so they know when it's 'lights out'? 4 hr 44 min ago
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            • Mine are 11 and they know at 9:30 its off to get ready for bed 4 hr 43 min ago
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              • Do they check the clock, or do you tell them "It's 9:30; time to go upstairs and get ready for bed" 4 hr 42 min ago
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                • They are pretty i d about getting themselves in to bed. When I go out dh watches tv downstairs while they are yo. They get tired and go to bed 4 hr 40 min ago
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        • no, what your kid is doing, is trying to get your dh in trouble. and so when you divorce, she will ;ater feel responsible for your breakup 4 hr 40 min ago
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    • I am not on dh's side, but if you know that he is like this, write it down for him. Send him a text, or call him to check in. My dh has similar tendencies, but hates when I "nag"...(more) 4 hr 46 min ago
      him, and has eventually improved.
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      • I guess I just HATE that I literally have to write shit down for a supposedly smart adult. He wants me to write 'a first draft' of ALL of the house rules. Who does this? Anyone...(more) 4 hr 44 min ago
        here?
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        • honey, I will absolutely write down the household rules. But, if I wrtie them , the will not be a first draft. They will be THE RULES ( fwiw, writing rule is a great ool for...(more) 4 hr 42 min ago
          kids, too)\
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          • My dh wants to go through them with me when done. He says he has veto power; we'll go through them, and any we agree to will become 'law'. I HATE him 4 hr 41 min ago
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            • tell him to write the rules and you do the veto 4 hr 38 min ago
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              • At the end of the conversation, that's what I told him. He then threw a barb at me, saying, "Well, it's going to take awhile. I'm pretty busy at work. Sounds like you're too b...(more) 4 hr 37 min ago
                tot do your job
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                • I would be insanely angry 4 hr 36 min ago
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                • honey, I don;t come in and veto your rules and critique your work at YOUR job; you dont get to do it at mine. 4 hr 35 min ago
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                  • that actually made me LOL--thanks ;) 4 hr 33 min ago
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            • Honey, I told you what ot say and do. Say it to him nicely, and explain that is is for his benefit and the benefit of a smooth running family. BTW, my guess is he is tooo lazy...(more) 4 hr 38 min ago
              to even bother making a comment.
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        • that is passive aggressive and infuriating 4 hr 41 min ago
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        • That's ridiculous. He is putting all the weight and responsibilities of being a parent (and adult) on you. I think you guys need therapy. 4 hr 41 min ago
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          • That's what I told him; I said it's perfectly okay for him to tell the kids it's bedtime when I'm not home. He said, "We don't have a bedtime rule; if we do, I'd lik...(more) 4 hr 38 min ago
            don't even know, neither do the kids, what their bedtime is." Are dh's sesriously this fucking stupid, or is it me whose dumb here?
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            • stop trying to change him and just give him a time when you are out. Men are like doggies. Give him the rule, keep it simple, praise for getting ti right. the end. 4 hr 36 min ago
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              • I'm not trying to change him; he's trying to change me, imo. I'm not the type of person who writes everything down, the way he wants it. In his mind, if we don't have WRITTEN...(more) 4 hr 33 min ago
                rules, he'll never be able to remember anything. I know that sounds inflexible, but I hate that men are so fucking stupid about what I see as the simple stuff. God forbid we had a real crisis with our dcs
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                • just write it down. it isn't that big a deal and you will be so mauch happier if the kids are in bed. if he doesn't do it, then you can really complain. "Im not the sort of...(more) 4 hr 31 min ago
                  person who writes things down" is an immature cop-out frankly.
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    • Do they have school tomorrow? Not letting dh off the hook, but is it that big a deal if they stay up late in the summer? 4 hr 43 min ago
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      • My dd's have camp in the morning. I was out at my friend's house last night helping her, too, and dh didn't put them to bed. This morning was a fucking nightmare 4 hr 42 min ago
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        • Really not flaming here but you sound so angry about things that are honestly not that awful. 4 hr 40 min ago
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          • I'm VERY angry--yes. I'm angry that for 12 years of parenting, he still can't truly make a decision about how to parent. Says that because I haven't made up the rules, he doesn...(more) 4 hr 35 min ago
            know what to tell the dcs. Says they're probably confused about the rules bc we've never agreed to them
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            • Well that's obviously an issue. But try and separate the macro from the micro. GL. 4 hr 34 min ago
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            • he has made decisons, but you don;t agree with them,, just set the rules and write them down. 4 hr 34 min ago
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  19. Toddler I am so exhausted today from trying to discipline my challenging child. 4 hr 53 min ago (8 replies)
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    • I have so btdt. You have my sympathy. 4 hr 46 min ago
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      • thanks. I have so had it today. 4 hr 31 min ago
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        • My oldest is extremely difficult to parent. He's 11. We are moving into a better place, but it has been tough coming. It can be exhausting & confidence-shattering. 4 hr 25 min ago
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          • it really is. one of the hardest things is when you feel like the attachment or connection is broken - like you feel like they don't love you. 4 hr 16 min ago
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            • And I think it becomes hard to like them. I don't know about you but my ds used to just upend the whole household--took 75% of the energy. So difficult. 4 hr 14 min ago
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              • ^^I'm headed to bed but I'm going to sticky just in case you want to chat or touch base later. 4 hr 9 min ago
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                • thank you :-) I appreciate your responding 4 hr 8 min ago
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                  • ^my DH is often out of town so it's all on me. it's rough sometiems. 4 hr 7 min ago
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  20. Toddler What is your opinion of sororities? Did you join one? Would you encourage your dd to join one? 4 hr 54 min ago (14 replies)
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    • Seems fun, I didnt join, I would let dd do whatever they wanted 4 hr 53 min ago
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    • I probably would have joined one if I had gone to a traditional college. It would be an easy way for me to make friends 4 hr 53 min ago
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    • I joined one, I would not encourage DD. I'm split, bc I thought it was such a stupid experience. However, I met a couple of really close friends (who also thought it was...(more) 4 hr 52 min ago
      stupid--we all were totally not active by junior year, but the friendships had already been forged.) Oh, our campus did not have sorority housing. If it did, i would not have done it.
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      • ^i really did not like how everyone's voices went up an octave during sorority happenings. it really makes me cringe to hear women speak with unnaturally high voices, now. why do...(more) 4 hr 51 min ago
        women do this?
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        • good question!! 4 hr 48 min ago
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    • It totally depends on the school... when I was at UCLA, sororities were only for shallow party girls. Now I'm a prof at a university where the sororities are ON campus (no...(more) 4 hr 52 min ago
      drinking allowed in the houses) and very focused on community service. Still a lot of cattiness though I think from too many girls living in too cramped quarters.
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      • But they live in cramped auarters in dorms too 4 hr 51 min ago
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        • from what I have seen, they have even less space in sororities... but I guess it depends 4 hr 49 min ago
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      • ugh...female-only housing...there are always eating disorders going on. 4 hr 50 min ago
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    • it's my understanding that they're rife with orgies. 4 hr 51 min ago
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    • I didn't join one, and wouldn't push my DDs either way. My oldest is in college and I never thought she would, but she's thinking about joining one. She goes to a school where...(more) 4 hr 49 min ago
      Greek life isn't huge and there are only a few sororities.
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      • np - UChicago by any chance? 4 hr 38 min ago
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    • They are helpful in making a huge university feel less overwhelming. I was not into it and thought it was kinda dumb but i wouldn't trade it for the few awesome friends I made...(more) 4 hr 13 min ago
      through it.
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  21. Toddler Have to leave for a 2 wk biz trip tmrw, and pulled out an overcoat that smells musty. should i just spray perfume on it? how do i freshen it up? have no time to take to cleaners. 4 hr 54 min ago (5 replies)
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    • toss in dryer with damp washcloth and dryer sheet for 10 minutes 4 hr 54 min ago
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    • Lightly spray with vinegar and toss in the dryer for a few minutes. 4 hr 53 min ago
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    • Febreze 4 hr 53 min ago
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    • ok, thanks, all. will try the dryer sheet first. 4 hr 52 min ago
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    • why did someone like this post? 4 hr 49 min ago
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  22. Toddler Can You Please Help?...(more) 4 hr 55 min ago (9 replies)
    Hello, I'm writing a book about parenting and am looking for some real-life stories from parents. Can you please help me by answering a quick, easy question? It's really easy and will take less than 2 minutes of your time. Here is the question: What is the funniest, craziest, sweetest or most memorable thing your kid has ever done? Please click this link to send me your answer. http://youranswerinabook.com/parents-what-is-the-most-memorable-thing-your-kid-ever-did-or-said/ The link is safe to click and this is all totally free. You won't be asked to buy anything, you don't have to register for anything and you won't be put on any list. If I use your answer in my book I will give you credit for it (or if you prefer you can stay anonymous.) I appreciate your time and help. Thank you.
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  23. Toddler I hate mornings 4 hr 57 min ago (0 replies)
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  24. Toddler Just bored and looked at photos of Kim Kardashian pregnant. She had a weird pregnancy body - her boobs and butt were bigger than her belly. It is hard to dress for that shape. 5 hr 1 min ago (5 replies)
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    • her belly was plenty big. 5 hr ago
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    • Yeah it was weird, I think it was caused by a combo of her swelling and plastic surgery 4 hr 59 min ago
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    • There is one picture of her in that black and white dress where she little looked like a mule. And to think, she wasn't even 9 months pregnant when she delivered - people are...(more) 4 hr 58 min ago
      saying a month early, but I heard it was more like 6 weeks early. She was gigantic at 34 weeks.
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      • I think it's the opposite, actually. I think she was further along than she was letting on. 4 hr 54 min ago
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        • No don't think so...there were all these reports that she and the same due date as the Dutchess and the Palace said they were shutting Kate down with 6 weeks to go in her...(more) 4 hr 51 min ago
          pregnancy. I think she just got really really large because she's predisposed to being large, but works tirelessly at it.
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  25. Toddler I ran into a friend from college. she told my dh when she met him "your wife was the most girl we rushed in our sorority. she is pretty now, but was gorgeous in college" how...(more) 5 hr 2 min ago (15 replies)
    would you take that?
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    • ^^^most beautiful 5 hr 1 min ago
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    • a compliment. get over yourself. 5 hr 1 min ago
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      • adding the BUT changes everything- that compliment was barbed 4 hr 30 min ago
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    • the most girl? so you were fat? 5 hr ago
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      • mustve been Sigma Delta Tau. those EAT girls were big 4 hr 55 min ago
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    • you and your friend sound ridiculous. 5 hr ago
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    • As an insult. 4 hr 59 min ago
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    • translated: you know how great your wife looks? she looked even more fabulous back in the day. What the fuck is wrong with you, are you this insecure? 4 hr 59 min ago
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      • I would never EVER say something like thus because it is INSULTING 4 hr 19 min ago
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    • Vba 4 hr 58 min ago
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    • you were younger and prettier in college, like 90% of us. Deal. 4 hr 57 min ago
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    • You old as fuck shouldn't you be somewhere doing yoga? 4 hr 55 min ago
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    • It sounds to me like she was jealous of you in college and still holds a grudge, because that comment is BOUND to make you feel bad and she has to know it! 4 hr 54 min ago
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      • op: she is beautiful now. tons of money. was pretty in college but a bit frumpy. 4 hr 44 min ago
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    • i was prettier after college so whatever 4 hr 52 min ago
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