Special Needs

  1. Special Needs How does gateway provide social supports? 2 hr 59 min ago (0 replies)
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  2. Special Needs I have a DC who was recently DXed with dyslexia. A friend in Europe wrote to tell me that 10 years ago in this particular country a child with dyslexia would be considered...(more) 5 hr 57 min ago (15 replies)
    "retarded." Yes she used that word. I have tons of friends who are dyslexic adults and I never thought they would have been considered special needs according to the 1970s and 1980s version of special needs. Am I missing something?
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    • was she saying it's good where you are? 5 hr 53 min ago
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      • Yes, she is in Belgium and says we are at the cutting edge and everyone there knows it 5 hr 51 min ago
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    • Tangent, but i was helping with a special needs class. One of the kids--who is bilingual--wrote some words down in what seemed like pig latin. He's ESL and dyslexic--but so sharp...(more) 5 hr 53 min ago
      and smart.
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      • My dentist is dyslexic. She told me that she was recruited by NASA when a physics student precisely because she had dyslexia + STEM mind and NASA believes dyslexic kids have...(more) 5 hr 50 min ago
        better thinking skills
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    • Dyslexia was, like the first special needs that they started paying attention to. Before that, yes, they probably would have thought the kid was stupid or even "retarded". They...(more) 5 hr 53 min ago
      didn't have the diagnosis then.
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      • Crazy. 5 hr 50 min ago
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        • A lot of kids were counseled out of school, into trades. Very smart kids who couldn't communicate the way they were expected to. 5 hr 47 min ago
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          • So sad. 5 hr 45 min ago
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            • See, there are some good things about schools today. Education has not actually gotten worse. It's gotten more inclusive 5 hr 41 min ago
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              • Except very few public schools have programs to teach dyslexics and many, many do fail and stay illiterate. 59 min ago
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    • I feel like the US is behind Europe in a lot of ways especially in terms of health care and other social services, BUT when it comes to special education, we are way, way out in...(more) 5 hr 50 min ago
      front.
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      • Yes, and my DS will be going to a SN private in NYC in the fall and I feel *extremely* lucky. Like he's a pioneer. 8 kids in class. 5 hr 44 min ago
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        • Yes but this is a tiny % of dyslexic kids who go to these schools. It is the most common LD and very few schools remediate it. 58 min ago
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    • Well, I am 32 and Dyslexia was one of the first household name learning disabilities that I recall from childhood. Maybe the only one? 5 hr 50 min ago
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    • I am 43 and in the 70's and 80's LD's were in their infancy. people didn't study them. dyslexia was thought to be just letter reversal, not the plethora of things it can be today....(more) 5 hr 47 min ago
      It's why my LD was overlooked for so long. I worked aroudn it, but I suffered
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  3. Special Needs I have a newborn. First dc has autism. How long can I enjoy my newborn without worrying that she has autism? 6 hr 3 min ago (8 replies)
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    • This is a tough one. Look for engagement at 4mo, answering to name at 6mo, reciprocal communication around the same age (making noises/faces back and forth at one another). If...(more) 6 hr 1 min ago
      joint attention pointing comes in strongly at 12mo then you should feel very good.
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      • op: Thank you. I just want to not think about it yet. I enjoyed my first until about 10-12 months. I knew something was wrong then. 6 hr ago
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    • this was me, and honestly I sensed she didn't have it very early on .. like 4-6 weeks 6 hr ago
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      • op: How? 5 hr 59 min ago
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        • just very engaged. I woke up in middle of night and she was looking at me (we coslept .. she was probably hungry) 5 hr 58 min ago
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    • My first dc has HFA and my second does not. She is still a db (11 mo) but the difference is really noticeable. I think you will either notice that db is more similar to #1, or...(more) 5 hr 52 min ago
      pretty different. But IMO you should enjoy the heck out of your db either way! just schedule an eval at 6 mo if you feel any concern whatsoever. And then get on with enjoying him or her! don't let the fear of autism scare you out of that. Also, read through some material about encouraging reciprocal vocalizations and joint attention and all that so if db is showing signs of not being developmentally NT, you can start informally working with him/her even before the eval.
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      • This is great advice - also, OP, are there any sibling studies in your area you can enroll your dcs in? Those can be extremely helpful (and reassuring). 5 hr 51 min ago
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    • DC1 was diagnosed when DC2 was under 6 months. I worried a little but not much. DC2 was so different. 5 hr 12 min ago
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  4. Special Needs Tmi brag post: my sn dc finally learned to throw up in the toilet! 6 hr 11 min ago (3 replies)
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    • feel you mama ;) 6 hr 9 min ago
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      • Got it--congrats! 5 hr 57 min ago
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    • Can you teach both my nt and sn dcs that? Jealous!!!! 4 hr 51 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Brag post: 6 hr 13 min ago (12 replies)
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    • my SN kid graduated suma cum laude from college :) 6 hr 12 min ago
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    • My 11yo didn't wipe poop on the bathroom towels today. 6 hr 9 min ago
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    • why? 6 hr 5 min ago
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    • My dc finished Harry Potter 5 and sobbed in heartbreak - dc was thinking about how Harry felt losing first his parents and then his godfather and was totally upset. This kind of...(more) 6 hr 5 min ago
      perspective taking was impossible to imagine until very recently. I don't think dc would have had that reaction a year ago.
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    • Son's teacher told me "I know you wish he were typical again, and I know it's hard for you to see it but he's doing well and learning and I'm glad to be his teacher &qu 5 hr 12 min ago
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    • ds was accepted to college with an appropriate support program 5 hr 11 min ago
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      • Amazing! 5 hr 11 min ago
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        • op --congratulations on this huge accomplishment!! 4 hr 55 min ago
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          • thx! Feels like such a positive step for him 4 hr 55 min ago
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      • Awesome! Where is he going 4 hr 42 min ago
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    • Aspie has FIVE bffs. And it is mutual. 4 hr 51 min ago
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  6. Special Needs IEP suggestions for rising 7th grader at sn school? He already has the boiler plate testing accomodations and school is very generous -- go above and beyond iep. Just wanted to...(more) 12 hr 6 min ago (4 replies)
    know what I should ask to be put on there going forward. Issues are adhd, executive functioning, processing, fine motor and writing, reading comp. Tia.
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    • real help with making sure he gets help with organization and perhaps some leeway if he forgets something... 11 hr 50 min ago
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    • I'd think about long term transition. What is dc doing after 12th and what skills will dc need to learn from now until then to succeed after hs graduation. 11 hr 49 min ago
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      • Thank you. 8 hr 1 min ago
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        • what tests--are you planning for education after HS? 6 hr 26 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Is Churchill a good fit for a child with very slow processing and executive function challenges (in addition to language LD)? 15 hr 57 min ago (3 replies)
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    • I'd say definitely yes. Though my child isn't there -- my perspective is based on conversations with Churchill parents, the Churchill admissions director, and an NP who knows the...(more) 13 hr 41 min ago
      school well.
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    • Yes 12 hr 15 min ago
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      • Yes, normal to above normal intelligence--if so--perfect fit! 5 hr 56 min ago
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  8. Special Needs If you were accepted to Churchill, but decided that an unfunded school was more appropriate for your DC, declining Churchill affect the reimbursement process? 16 hr 5 min ago (4 replies)
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    • We turned down a funded school (not Churchill) for a funded one and it never affected the reimbursement process. CSE has no idea we turned it down and there's no reason they ever...(more) 16 hr 2 min ago
      would.
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      • ^turned down a funded school for an UNfunded one sorry 16 hr 2 min ago
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        • Is it Gaynor? If so, Gaynor is tremendously nurturing and the kids learn but suing annually is tough. 15 hr 23 min ago
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          • NP: I would say it is a hassle, but not all that tough. If you get the right lawyer, they will do a lot of it and Gaynor knows how to help you make the case. 6 hr 43 min ago
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  9. Special Needs Do the buses for preschoolers going to CPSE funded programs provide car seats or boosters? TIA 16 hr 24 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Yes car seats 16 hr 22 min ago
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    • if under a certain amount of lbs they give you carseat 16 hr 22 min ago
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  10. Special Needs DD was diagnosed with ADHD / impulsive yesterday. Any good advice on support I can offer her. She seems okay with it but she was upset last night. Anything that worked for you?...(more) 16 hr 38 min ago (1 reply)
    Almost 9yo. Any books you suggest for her, etc? We will start talking about therapy and med options soon.
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    • we were on teh fence: didn't want to dwell on it..let dc eel as "normal" as possible but also had to make dc aware of certan behavior challenges 16 hr 37 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Struggling to bite my tongue. Acquaintance was talking to me about her son's T5 meeting, and he's recommended for umpteen services--but she's adamant that she wants to send him...(more) 16 hr 43 min ago (32 replies)
    to ms private school, because in public he won't get to socialize with the right sorts of people and get enough intensive religious education. She's in an absolute panic that he will fall behind in religious education if he spends K in a public special ed class or ICT.
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    • It is a valid concern. 16 hr 42 min ago
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      • She is likely to pass on offered services to send him to a religious school. I don't get why religion can't be extracurricular, at least until some of the SN are addressed. 16 hr 41 min ago
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        • Religion has been around much longer than middle school. 16 hr 40 min ago
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          • ms as in mainstream. She wants to send a kid who qualifies for three different services, some of them as many as five times a week, to mainstream religious school. 16 hr 39 min ago
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      • I should specify that the right sorts to socialize with in her parlance means only those of their religious sect. 16 hr 40 min ago
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      • np-why is it a valid concern?? 16 hr 39 min ago
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      • Give me a fucking break. 6 hr 4 min ago
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    • She has to be nuts 16 hr 39 min ago
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      • She has this unrealistic expectation that CSE will make everything available at the private school of her choice. That's not going to happen, as we have appropriate public...(more) 16 hr 32 min ago
        school programs in our area. Best she can do is RSA.
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        • Well, to be fair, some mainstream private schools have ongoing relationships with SETSS and related services agencies and have a longstanding tradition of kids at the school...(more) 16 hr 31 min ago
          getting support in school. Maybe her school is one of those.
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        • well, she'll find that out. 16 hr 31 min ago
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    • It is very frustrating but you're right, you have to bite your tongue. I have to remind myself all the time "this is their kid and it's their problem" (and it's GOING to be th...(more) 16 hr 37 min ago
      problem).
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      • I feel bad for the kid. 16 hr 36 min ago
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        • I totally understand. There are a lot of kids I feel bad for where I can see that the parent doesn't want to acknowledge the SN and doesn't give services I know would help. It is...(more) 16 hr 35 min ago
          a hard and helpless feeling to watch that happen.
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    • Is she Jewish? I can't imagine other religions where it is that critical to study in that intensive way at that early of an age 16 hr 37 min ago
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      • I'm Jewish, and we held off on Hebrew for SN ds until he got to a certain level of success with his interventions for his SN. No big deal to start Hebrew at 8 instead of 5, he'll...(more) 16 hr 30 min ago
        be ready for bar mitzvah.
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      • Np: denial comes in every shape. I've seen it in Catholics, Hasidic and others. I have seen parents send their non verbal 5 year old to a foreign language school bc that's where...(more) 15 hr 11 min ago
        The family is from and learning that culture is a priority. I've seen it with French, Polish, German. I work in the field. It's a journey the parent is on. All you can do is support them with where they are at and yes it's frustrating to watch sometimes.
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        • not questioning the denial, just the religious instruction piece. It wasn't meant to be a judgment, just sheer curiosity 12 hr 58 min ago
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          • The religious is the same thing as French to someone else. There are die hards in every religion. I was contact by a women in a born again Christian imo cult that homeschools....(more) 6 hr 21 min ago
            They declined every service in the world to homeschool and pray. That's why their are child find laws.
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    • She will have to have services afterschool but it is possible that some can happen in school (he would get pulled out). My dc has an RSA and gets ST, OT and PT afterschool ....(more) 16 hr 26 min ago
      It's a lot and we will consider changing later but hoping he will continue to progress and will thrive in ms pvt that we live for our older dc. It's the long term setting I am thinking about now but will switch if we need to.
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    • She can't let go of what had planned/imagined for her kid. 16 hr 23 min ago
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      • It's got to be this. I can't imagine how religious study would be a priority if my child can't have a reciprocal conversation at all yet. 15 hr 40 min ago
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        • There's a very Orthodox kid in my ds' public self-contained class with moderate autism. His father still asks Q's about things like "getting him to study harder" at...(more) 14 hr 41 min ago
          parent-teacher night, seems completely out of touch with where his ds is right now functionally.
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          • It must be really hard for that family not to be able to educate their ds in a yeshiva to start with. I know families like this and being unable to be part of the religious...(more) 14 hr 39 min ago
            community educationally is devastating for them.
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    • It's hard to come to terms with your dc being special needs. We all take our own path. 14 hr 48 min ago
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    • If she's Jewish and the child has language-based LDs, then she might want to check out the Shefa School in the future. It was created specifically to serve kids whose families...(more) 9 hr 48 min ago
      wanted a Jewish education but their LDs meant they weren't well served by the Jewish Day School system.
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      • No kindergarten there yet though. 9 hr 35 min ago
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        • She she 6 hr 52 min ago
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          • She says, "in the future." 6 hr 52 min ago
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            • true enough. 6 hr 51 min ago
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              • hopefully, the family will come around. 6 hr 27 min ago
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    • I feel sad for her and her kid. It's going to be a tough road ahead. 6 hr 5 min ago
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  12. Special Needs What are other language based LD schools that go thru HS besides Churchill? Westchestera and NJ would be ok, too. 17 hr 11 min ago (1 reply)
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    • Community, Lowell, Winston Prep, Mary McDowell 17 hr 3 min ago
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  13. Special Needs DC has ODD/ADHD and has become really abusive to me especially in the morning when getting ready for school. DH gets angry with me when I react to the verbal abuse, etc, and lets...(more) 19 hr 1 min ago (12 replies)
    him just get away with it. We were told by a therapist that it is best to ignore the ODD behavior, but it is really hard since I am (mom) my DC's primary target. Any on in a similar situation and how do you deal with such a difficult child? Dc is 13.5 and its just getting worse!
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    • he is 13yo. Let him get himself up and out the door. You take yourself out of the equation as much as possible 18 hr 59 min ago
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      • ^^^I have an adhd 10yo and it is hard, but you have to try 18 hr 58 min ago
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    • I have a 9 year old ODD/ADHD child and I've been told my 2 different therapists to be FRIM and keep to rules and structor. I am not always good about the structor but I stick to...(more) 18 hr 56 min ago
      rules. ALso, seeing a private therapist for me helps. I get my anger out and they give me tips. Seeing one that has experince with kids liek this is helpful. Good luck. IT's not easy, trust me I know. Deep breaths -- you can do it.
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    • All of these suggestions are good. What's working for us is neuro feedback for him. 18 hr 35 min ago
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    • I know the therapist is the kid's therapist but this is a family issue and how can a reasonable person EXPECT you to ignore and endure a daily torrent of abuse from a person who i...(more) 18 hr 24 min ago
      skilled at it?
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      • I agree with this. 18 hr 17 min ago
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    • At 13 years old, this should not be happening on a regular basis. Do you have other dc? 18 hr 19 min ago
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      • Yes, another DS with just ADD & luckily, no real behavioral issues. ODD DS is often abusive to him as well and husband often allows this too! I am so tired and have honestly...(more) 17 hr 37 min ago
        thought about getting separated/divorced but have been a SAHM for years and don't have stable income. I am so done & tired of being tortured everyday!
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        • I posted above about neurofeedback. My 12 yo ds was so bad he had to go inpatient and then to a residential treatment program which didn't help that much but gave us some breathin...(more) 15 hr 46 min ago
          g room. It is really hard when your dh doesn't support you. My dh has come around but everyone always seems to blame the mother with ODD even though we know it's not us, it truly is the kid in this case. there are ways to cope but what has helped the most is doing neurofeedback. I strongly urge you to consider it (we are doing it 3x a week for as long as it takes. It's been 8 sessions and I swear we are starting to see a change. I am also being tougher but before when I was tougher he would freak out for hours. now, he is starting to respect limits or argue a bit and then move on. The program is called BrainPaint. For us, the sessions are $75 each and we expect about 30 sessions. I swear it is really the only thing that is making an impact (he's on meds, supplements, has a therapist, does sports, and was way but came home for visits for 2 years.)
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          • >>also, the Total Transformation Program has some good tips. They have a website with lots of helpful resources and the cd's were great to listen to in the car. 15 hr 24 min ago
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        • This will sound drastic but theraputic boarding school. You need to turn this around quick for your dc's sake. A theraputic setting where your teen has 24/7 support will change...(more) 10 hr 45 min ago
          him for the better. Letting him lash out every morning is a habit. Think about your younger dc and the way HE is growing up.
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    • I could have written the same scenario. It's awful and sad. Went through DBT with Dc and have learned to ignore 90% of it. It's so hard to be abused and ignore it but yelling...(more) 7 hr 53 min ago
      back, threatening, punishing get you nowhere
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  14. Special Needs How many student per class at Gateway and what is teacher ratio? What are parent's thoughts in the school? Thanks 4-23-2015 9:54pm (1 reply)
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    • When we toured the lower grades I believe there were 8-9 kids and 2 teachers. 15 hr 48 min ago
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  15. Special Needs Articles like this make me so mad. We did everything we could, every single thing in this article adn we held off on meds until our now 10yo said to us, 'Why do I feel so crazy in...(more) 4-23-2015 8:49pm (6 replies)
    my own skin, why don't I have friends?" We put him on meds (after 4 years of everythign else) and the change has been remarkable, at both school and home. Yes, ADHD is overdx, yes many parents rush to medicate, but for many kids, it does help and it can make them a better kid. isn't that what is important? http://time.com/3822755/adhd-disease-called-childhood/#
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    • So? Why do you see yourself in this article then? I see my dc in the article...he said the exact thing about prozac that the boy in the article did...that it made him feel not...(more) 4-23-2015 8:58pm
      like himself. I know SO many kids on meds for adhd and I'm not convinced they ALL need to be. It's WAY over diagnosed and lots of these kids are going to grow up not learning how to cope or function without meds
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      • NP Meds for kids make me nervous.I know they can help too but this sort of article makes me wonder sometimes if we arent overmedicating kids sometimes. 4-23-2015 9:07pm
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        • I just sat though 20 mins of screaming, arm flailing, air punching and yanking too much tape out of a dispenser over an assignment that took 15 mins once he settled down and just...(more) 4-23-2015 9:19pm
          did it. It was painful but the episodes are less frequent as he gets older (in 6th grade now). We're down to 1-2 times a week vs every day a year ago. Some of these kids just need to mature but parents don't want to put up with kids acting a little wild ...just easier to give them meds
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    • The article is there to get clicks and it has nothing to do with you...just because it is out there in print doesn't mean it's any more right or valid than your own life...(more) 4-23-2015 9:15pm
      experience. Why let it make you feel bad? It has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you have done exactly what your DC needs.
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    • I have one child with ADHD and one child who is easily distracted/frustrated. Not the same thing. For the kid with ADHD, meds and therapy have made a huge difference. The other dc...(more) 4-23-2015 9:18pm
      improving as he gets older and owuld probably benefit from family therapy (as would we all) but won't need meds. I think this article is more about kids like this than true ADHD kids.
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    • I know the feeling. My ds has mood disorder and dysregulation. We made the decision after a year of L to medicate him with a drug that most peo6 don't even want to be on...(more) 4-23-2015 11:06pm
      themselves. We were heartbroken to do it but we decided he had been through enough and needed Risperdal. After 2 months of dosage changes he's doing much better with his mood and we're looking to add another for his hyper behavior. Yes he's only 7 but it has changed his life. He is much able to pinpoint when he's going to breakdown where as not on the meds it was a crap game. He's also not hurting himself as much. Its not a magic fix but its something and we would make the decision again.
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  16. Special Needs Do you think it sends a weird message to just send my husband with my son to CPSE preschool interviews? It seems that they all tend to involve some kind of separation component...(more) 4-23-2015 8:35pm (35 replies)
    and my son tends to separate much more easily from my husband than from me. Concerned that if I attend the interviews my son will meltdown as soon as they try to get him to separate from me. Think it might go a bit better with just my husband there but do you think it looks weird for the mom to not show up to these things? TIA
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    • No, I think it's fine to send one parent. 4-23-2015 8:36pm
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    • Are you I terviewing them? Are they interviewing your dc? 4-23-2015 8:36pm
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    • No, my husband and I switched off, he took to some and I took to some. 4-23-2015 8:36pm
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    • Not at all weird, some kids separate most easily from a caregiver and the SN preschools would not be fazed by that either! 4-23-2015 8:46pm
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    • Are you GB poster? They typically interview the parents while dc is being interviewed. I would both go in that situation. Might not matter as much at a CPELC, YAI or CDC. 4-23-2015 9:03pm
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      • OP: Yes I am GB poster. So you think I should go even if my son will likely not be able to separate from me in the interview? He might not separate from my husband either but...(more) 4-23-2015 9:06pm
        there is a better shot. WDYT?
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        • Just weigh your options, but I think GB is used to anxiety etc. Do you think DH would be okay on his own? I don't think they would hold it against you if ds did not want to...(more) 4-23-2015 9:10pm
          separate immediately.
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          • OP: Ok good to know. Need to think it over. Thanks for replying! 4-23-2015 9:10pm
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            • The class size is small, nurturing and they could very understanding. 4-23-2015 9:12pm
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        • FWIW, I took my sont to GB interview without my husband, and my son was accepted to GBS. And is there and thriving. 4-23-2015 9:12pm
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          • np: in all the many years of SN preschool, SN k, SN middle school interviews, my dh never came to a single one ever. We did just fine! 4-23-2015 9:32pm
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            • Can you call and ask admission office? 4-23-2015 10:02pm
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            • in this case it's just dad, does that make a difference, mom is missing? 4-23-2015 11:19pm
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              • Not at ALL. It would be pretty sexist of them otherwise. :) 4-23-2015 11:43pm
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        • If this is a concern, you should definitely go, too. Do you want your child accepted to a program only to find it is the wrong program for him/her? Make the conditions as normal...(more) 17 hr 40 min ago
          as possible. You already have an acceptance to an amazing school, so this is just gravy
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          • OP: I hear you. And I feel grateful that he got an acceptance at CDC but honestly I would really love for him to attend GB as it would be so much more convenient for us and I...(more) 16 hr 58 min ago
            could take him to school myself. I already attended the tour and loved the school. I am not worried about the school being the wrong fit. I am just nervous about my absence making it seem as though it were not a priority for me to attend the interview. Kwim?
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            • Do NOT worry about this. Kids whose parents are divorced or have one parent unable to attend these things get accepted all the time. 16 hr 52 min ago
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              • OP: Ok thank you. Maybe I am making too big a deal over this. I actually think that my DH will handle the interview better than I will as he has better people skills and tends...(more) 16 hr 50 min ago
                to stay more calm and collected in these situations. I think I will be feeling nervous about how my son is going to react to the interview and it might not be good for anyone. My husband seems to think he should go on his own and I worry that if I attend the interview as well and my son does not get accepted that somehow my DH might blame me for it in some way (as awful as this would be)
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                • OP: Also I did attend the tour and showed my face there and introduced myself to the admissions director so hopefully he might still remember that 16 hr 49 min ago
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                • In the kindest way possible I think I should mention that given how clearly stressed you are by this process I honestly think you should NOT attend. Let GB see your child as he...(more) 15 hr 43 min ago
                  would be in a school, i.e. without his mom. Also, and quite unrelated, even if your child gets in to GB, if separation is an issue I would strongly recommend considering sending him on the bus. Your presences at pick-up/drop-off each day might make separation even harder.
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                  • ITA with this and I remember clearly from my own GB open house that they strongly recommended people put their kids on the bus for this reason. They said transitioning at the bus...(more) 15 hr 29 min ago
                    door rather than the school door is so much easier for kids.
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                    • Op: thanks. I think my dh would do the drop off and I would do the pickup so I think the separation might go more easily with dad 14 hr 44 min ago
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                      • It's way off in the future so don't let the thought of this add to your (clearly already high) anxiety - this is a stressful process but the good thing is that these preschools...(more) 14 hr 41 min ago
                        understand how difficult it all is and they are so supportive to the parents as well as the children.
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                        • Op: thanks I know you are right and I trust that things will work out. I guess my son still seems very emotionally fragile to me so the thought of sending him off to any of these...(more) 14 hr 39 min ago
                          separation programs next fall makes me nervous even though I think it could potentially be the best thing for him if he can rise to the challenge
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                          • also - keep in mind that the more stressed out you are, the more your child will pick up on it. If you can come up with a mantra or do some deep breathing beforehand and stay as...(more) 12 hr 56 min ago
                            calm as you possibly can, you child will pick up on that, too. I realize it is easier said than done, but there have been times when I've just gone to a calm, happy place in my mind when I'm trying to stay calm. I just kind of let the world around me roll off of my shoulders.
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            • I get you. It will not be an issue. If anyone understands how demanding school searches are, it is the SN privates. Good luck! 16 hr 1 min ago
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            • The SN preschools do not think that way at all. Don't worry. 16 hr ago
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      • Np, I went to GB without DH and we were offered a spot..no need to take 6 hr 33 min ago
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    • We did this for many, as dh was the stay at home parent. I went to as many as I could. It has no impact on admissions 17 hr 42 min ago
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    • if anything it will be see as a positive that the dad is involved, everyone always oohs and ahs over my husband every time he takes my DC to appointments or meetings about how...(more) 15 hr 50 min ago
      great it is that dad is involved
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      • Amazing how low the bar is for dads, isn't it? It blows me away. They get points just for showing up at all. 15 hr 49 min ago
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      • Op: I hope you are right about this. I think that maybe I am better off sending dH on his own as I am clearly too wound up about this process and I think my son will separate more...(more) 14 hr 43 min ago
        Easily without me there
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        • She's right. They are NOT going to see your dh bringing your ds in as a sign that this is a bad family because mom isn't there. Would they feel that way if dad wasn't there? QED! 14 hr 37 min ago
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          • OP: Thank you for replying. What is QED? 13 hr 55 min ago
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            • "Therefore" but backwards - what you say at the end of a proof. 13 hr 49 min ago
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  17. Special Needs Is anyone familiar with Gillen Brewer's interview format for the preschoolers? Is the child required to separate for the interview? Also is the applicant observed with other...(more) 4-23-2015 8:32pm (2 replies)
    children at all or is the applicant just observed playing with grown-ups. We have an upcoming interview and I just want to help prepare my son beforehand so he knows what to expect. Thanks so much!
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    • From what I remember, ds played with teachers only, not with other kids. 17 hr 32 min ago
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    • It involved going upstairs to a classroom and being around other kids as well as in an office w/therapist/psych observation. 17 hr 12 min ago
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  18. Special Needs Quick question- Is a therapist that comes to the class for other kids. Is that person allowed to observe my child without my consent? Speech therapist has been observing my child...(more) 4-23-2015 5:43pm (15 replies)
    for the entire school year. Decided that my child could use therapy. His IEP is coming up. Requesting one time a week. I feel like this was sneaky on their part. Never mentioned anything to me during 2 parent teacher conferences. Thanks for any advice.
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    • schools do all kinds of evaluation without consent 4-23-2015 5:43pm
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    • you sound defensive. it is great that someone is there to help you child 4-23-2015 5:44pm
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      • I just don't like being surprised. I wish someone had told me. The therapy they want to give him he already gets with counseling. MY kid gets alot of therapy during the week and...(more) 4-23-2015 5:48pm
        gets pulled out almost too much.
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        • They told you now. 4-23-2015 6:38pm
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        • Can you bring up the frequency of pull out with his team at the IEP meeting? Maybe something can be changed to a push in 4-23-2015 7:29pm
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        • If pulling out is the concern, have them push in or do a group session 17 hr 39 min ago
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    • why would you object to therapy? 4-23-2015 5:46pm
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    • sneaky isn't the word i would use, but any rate, sneaky with the intention of helping your child seems okay. 4-23-2015 5:46pm
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    • Formally observing/evaluating? No. But if she is in the class and has concerns, she should mention them. 4-23-2015 5:47pm
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      • That is the thing. My child has been in the school for 3 years and they wait to the last minute to tell me any concern they might have. Next year would be his last year at the...(more) 4-23-2015 5:49pm
        school.
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        • Np: the thing is that your dc may have been boarder line and just recently slid low enough to qualify or maybe the speech budget is tight and referring kids to speech is looked...(more) 4-23-2015 6:14pm
          Down upon but since dc is leaving school $ is not an issue so the therapist can now suggest. There are a ton of reasons that would justify this situation.
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        • This may be the first time this concern has come up. It sounds like the ST observed some issues and brought them up independent of an evaluation. I'd be thrilled that someone who...(more) 4-23-2015 8:33pm
          did not have to do so was pushing to help my child!
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    • Informally yes. My dc has had push in sheep for years with a number of therapists. Often other students get pulled in to work with pragmatics ect and like any teacher they...(more) 4-23-2015 6:36pm
      correct all mistakes. It also helps reduce the stigma when the therapist pulls in others. There presence is no big deal at least not until middle school
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    • They are trying to HELP your child. Very odd they you are looking at it as sneaky. 4-23-2015 6:37pm
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    • I would question why no one mentioned it to you. As an aside, once a week will not help to resolve many issues. 4-23-2015 7:07pm
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  19. Special Needs Reimbursement for ESY Summer School?...(more) 4-23-2015 5:26pm (5 replies)
    my daughter is in a horizon program (Kindergarten) which is a 10 month placement. When i had my IEP a few weeks ago, they added ESY (extended school year) for another 2 months for summer with related services in my local Community school. my question would be, i dont want her in a community school, I am planning on registering my daughter to this integrated summer camp/school where they have summer activities (like swimming, sports mixed with general ed) this summer school is not approved under DOE for funding. Can i pay them privately and get reimbursement? if so, how? and how do i get related services come to that school? thank you!
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    • As far as I understand you will have a tough time getting funded when you are being offered a summer program, esp if that program is equivalent to the palcement you have accepted...(more) 4-23-2015 8:31pm
      for the school year as sufficient. Also, I don't think they would pay anything under any circumstance towards things like swimming lessons vs education and related services. As for RSAs you can easily forgo DOE's summer program but request summer services outside of school. However, these are more likely to be services you have to take your child to since fewer RSA providers travel to clients. Maybe someone has better news but that is my understanding. You're the first Horizon poster I've noticed here by the way. How is the program?
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      • - no subject -...(more) 3 hr ago
        thats the issue i have.. its NOT equivalent to the placement my dd currently has. she has 2 month ESY. summer school is in a different location which starts on july for only 19 days and from 9am-12pm including related services. which is totally different from her IEP. they gave her 2 month placement for summer but they said the school is only open for 19days! so i decided to look for a better summer school for her that offers more. i figured maybe figure the reimbursement later on. horizon program is great! they really push for the education part. it just works exactly like the nest program but self contained. but im planning on moving dd to private school next year since dd has language issues and is not catching up fast enough with the curicullum.
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        • np: When I looked into the Horizon program the thing that bothered me the most about it is that it's not a 12mo program and IMO kids who need that level of support need a true...(more) 2 hr 53 min ago
          12mo program like at LearningSpring, Reece, Child, etc. Why isnt it year round?
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    • You will not get reimbursed, nor should you 17 hr 38 min ago
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      • thanks. thats very helpful of you. 2 hr 57 min ago
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  20. Special Needs Anyone on with dc with low tone, especially in the shoulders? What are the best activities to help strengthen? 4-23-2015 5:22pm (4 replies)
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    • age 4-23-2015 5:28pm
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    • wheelbarrow walking 4-23-2015 5:35pm
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      • This and swimming, "bear walking", planks, martial arts... 4-23-2015 9:16pm
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  21. Special Needs Dyslexia, Dyscalculia and Dysgraphia, what are the chances we can be remedidiated? Ds just dx and NP suggested he need a LD school. Currently at progressve school. Not familiar...(more) 4-23-2015 3:40pm (10 replies)
    with academic support more so emotional ds struggles with depression. School is helpful just not equipped. Ds is on a kindergaten level across the board, not fluent in resdy books for L level either and his math is still struggling with the basics of patterns and counting and adding so forth.
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    • How old is dc? 4-23-2015 3:42pm
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      • 8.5 4-23-2015 3:44pm
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        • Definitely go for an NPS. He'll certainly do better than if you don't. 4-23-2015 3:49pm
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          • This is what NP said. He likes the support of the school but they can't help him academically. He's pretty severe across the board IQ 82 so he needs strong help now. Sorry of...(more) 4-23-2015 3:54pm
            Am rambling I am worried and yet relieved to know. Pains me that I was so close ro putting him in a lot of tutoring and it probably would not have helped.
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    • My DS was in a progressive public till 2nd grade and he was dx with all that as well. They could not support him. He is in a NPS since 3rd grade this is his 3rd year there. It's...(more) 4-23-2015 4:19pm
      been life changing for him. His self esteem went way up and behaviors he had gone and he is doing really well. I loved his public school and they tried a bunch of different things but they did not have the resources or teachers with specialized training that he needed. Plus whatever they tried was never consistent. With a big class they would work with him when they had time. You need to find him another place.
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      • np: what is NPS? my ds has similar dx 4-23-2015 4:21pm
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        • nnp: non-public school - the "funded" kind of special education school that is usually described here as "funded SN private" even though it's not technically a private school,...(more) 4-23-2015 4:27pm
          it's funded through the state. T
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          • I see. thanks 4-23-2015 4:35pm
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    • Also, don't rely on school to do all of the remediation - if you can, look into Tomatis, Orton Gillingham, Lindemood Bell (SP). REad the books by Norman Doidge (Brain that...(more) 11 hr 51 min ago
      CHanges Itself) and you will start to have more hope about remediation. Schools in general are more prone to tutoring and "supports" rather than programs to try to remediate. If you are in NJ, go to Wellspring Learning Center.
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  22. Special Needs Anyone here facing the music that their child will never walk or at the very best very delayed into childhood? I feel like this is another thing I will have to grieve over. 4-23-2015 3:30pm (4 replies)
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    • Hugs, mama 4-23-2015 3:59pm
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    • no, but that sounds very hard. try to remind yourself of what your dc can and will be able to do. 4-23-2015 10:03pm
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      • There are so many things I am grateful for. There is such a spectrum to what he could turn out to be and he seems to be far left of it which isn't what we want or could...(more) 4-23-2015 11:02pm
        have predicted. Its upsetting but I was hoping this was something that could have been different. No child should have to deal with this much.
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  23. Special Needs If our IEP says 12:1:1, is it possible to attend...(more) 4-23-2015 3:09pm (3 replies)
    either 6:1:1 or 8:1:1 unfunded program, sue the DOE and win? What about same but for funded schools?
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    • Are you working with a lawyer? This is the kind of question it's important to ask an attorney familiar with your case. If you do not have one, I would start with Advocates for...(more) 4-23-2015 3:10pm
      Children of NY and Resources for Children with Special Needs.
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    • Yes, it is possible even probable. We enrolled dc in a more restrictive program and won our IH. 4-23-2015 3:11pm
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      • Also Legal Services NYC and Legal Aid have education lawyers--take more cases them AFC and R 4-23-2015 10:05pm
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  24. Special Needs My dysgraphic/DCD/AS 4th grader has been in OT since he was in pre-K. His OT just e-mailed me a shot of his writing on her smartboard. It's clicked! It looks like typical 9 yo...(more) 4-23-2015 2:42pm (3 replies)
    handwriting!
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  25. Special Needs 5yo ds is not yet toilet trained. at night he pees a ton and often puts his hand in his diaper and somehow pees all over his pjs and the bed. HELP! 4-23-2015 1:51pm (9 replies)
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