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  1. Special Needs Anyone whose child goes to Learning Spring? Do you like it? What is the functioning level of the kids, generally? 6 hr 10 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Special Needs I am so tired. 10yo ds (and we are meeting with the doc tomorrow for ADHD meds). We were at an event tonight, a really fun event. At halftime they let the kids on the court (it...(more) 7 hr 57 min ago (1 reply)
    was a basketball thing). I KNEW To keep an eye on him. He was fine for the first 5 mintues running around, playing basketball, it was all good. THEN for whatever reason he totally lost his impulse control. He grabbed his friend till his friend pushed him off, then he just ran up to some random kid and shoved him. The kid almost fell down. I went and took him off and made him sit down for the rest of the half time. I just can't ever sit and chit chat with friends. I have to be on constant vigilance with him.
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  5. Special Needs If your DC takes add or adhd meds, at what age were they prescribed? 8 hr 45 min ago (7 replies)
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    • Can't be Rx under age 5. 8 hr 45 min ago
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      • So if my DS is nearly 6 I can get an RX? 8 hr 43 min ago
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      • wrong. My sc was dxed and rxed just before 5. SOme kids are DRASTIC cases of ADHD and drs will medicate if it's absolutely needed. 3 hr 15 min ago
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  6. Special Needs Ds has anxiety and his nervous habit lately is unraveling his shoe laces, drawstrings on his pants, pulls the elastic out of his socks. Not sure what to do about it. 9 hr 35 min ago (2 replies)
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    • buy cheap socks 9 hr 27 min ago
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    • The trick is to find something that allows him to do it in a socially acceptable way, my son sometimes chews on long sleeved shirts that are extra long, no one seems to notice... 9 hr 9 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Anyone who has mainstreamed out of a Windward/Churchill/Gaynor/Gateway/MMD type school for middle school...do you mind sharing your child's ISEE scores? JW how high I have to get...(more) 9 hr 51 min ago (8 replies)
    DS.
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    • No btdt but why do you need those scores if mainstreaming to public? 9 hr 49 min ago
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      • Not mainstreaming to public. Did I say that? Im sorry...I thought ISEE implied private 9 hr 48 min ago
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        • ^^and I didn't mean that biytchy, I really meant sorry if I said that. He is mainstreaming to private. 9 hr 47 min ago
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          • Np: I got that you meant private...because you mentionrd isee 9 hr 45 min ago
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    • DD applied to York, was accepted, and they told us to have her take the ISEEs just to check the box. She took them and bombed it, but no one cared. 9 hr 43 min ago
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      • Thanks. York is our backup 9 hr 25 min ago
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        • My friend's NT daughter is there and likes it 8 hr 11 min ago
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    • Ds' scores were 9,9, 8,9 currently goes to Dalton. 7 hr 54 min ago
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  8. Special Needs I feel like a ninny--I started crying in our CSE meeting because I felt so grateful for everything the team is doing for us--not the worst thing in the world but I feel it hurt my...(more) 12 hr 10 min ago (8 replies)
    credibility as I appeared an emotional mess.
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    • no, they will be glad they helped. 12 hr 9 min ago
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    • no it will play in your favor. 12 hr 9 min ago
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    • It did not. They understand. There's a reason there are always tissues in that room. Glad they are helping you and your dc. 12 hr 9 min ago
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    • Special education teacher here: It happens more often than you would think. Know what would be awesome? If you wrote them notes telling them how grateful you were. I keep all my...(more) 12 hr 9 min ago
      notes in a special file for hard days, and I know many other teachers and specialists who do as well!
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      • ^^Oh, and like others said, happens all the time! We all got into this field to help others. Knowing that we have is really life-affirming. 12 hr 8 min ago
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        • ok. Thanks. Team is amazing, special ed director totally amazing. 12 hr 7 min ago
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      • This is great advice! They don't get enough thanks or appreciation and your note will really endear you to them. 12 hr 7 min ago
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    • If it makes you feel any better I cried at back to school night. My nt dc is a peer in the integrated program my sn dc was in years ago. I was an emotional mess out of pur...(more) 10 hr 30 min ago
      gratitude and seeing the other scared parents was a reminder of how far dc and I have come and too much for me. I cried and left very early.
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  9. Special Needs Where do you fill prescription for focalin xr? I've just called 3 places, including our usual, and they don't have it. manhattan. 13 hr 45 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Good tip is to go to (or call) a pharmacy near the Child Study Center. Also, we usually do ok at Walgreens. 13 hr 42 min ago
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    • Bigelow. They are always ankle to get it 13 hr 31 min ago
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    • CVS, but sometimes they need a day or 2 to order it in. 13 hr 20 min ago
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    • Cherrys pharmacy. They deliver too 13 hr 8 min ago
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  10. Special Needs TOmorrow, we have this parent sit down meeting with the person doing Ds ASD testing. She wants us to bring in all the previous paperwork on him, pictures, home movies. If I bring...(more) 14 hr 27 min ago (0 replies)
    my computer that is okay right? Every picture and video is on it. I have his baby book too, and some reports/school report cards I can bring too.
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  11. Special Needs Anyone get a kindle voyage? 15 hr 29 min ago (1 reply)
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    • not for SN sorry 15 hr 29 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Spin-off from my earlier post re: ds who is likely to get kicked out of his NYC SN private for aggression (two incidents, and they have a zero tolerance policy). If we can't get...(more) 15 hr 57 min ago (37 replies)
    his behavior under control, are there NYC SN privates that take kids with occasional (though unpredictable) behaviors?
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    • what is the dx? 15 hr 56 min ago
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      • op: No official dx, though he is clearly on the autism spectrum. His PDD-NOS dx was removed years ago, but everybody knows he's on the spectrum. He has a NP report that mentions...(more) 15 hr 51 min ago
        the previous dx. The issue now is the aggression.
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        • ok, so what is his classification? 15 hr 44 min ago
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          • Speech Language 15 hr 20 min ago
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    • What's the age and diagnosis/issues? 15 hr 55 min ago
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      • Age 10. No official dx (though clearly he's on the spectrum). Self-directed, trouble with pragmatic language, easily distractible (from both internal and external stimuli),...(more) 15 hr 50 min ago
        anxious, emotionally fragile at times. And lately, he's been unable to control his emotions when he's unhappy with a situation (e.g., spitting at the head of school today).
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        • np: have you considered any meds? This might be stemming from anxiety 15 hr 36 min ago
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          • He is on Zoloft. he was on Abilify, but we didn't like side effects. But now we have no choice. He needs to go back on meds. 15 hr 19 min ago
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            • If it helped him, the side effects (assuming it was more of the weight gain type of thing) might be worth it for the benefits. Also sometimes the SSRIs don't agree with some...(more) 15 hr 14 min ago
              people & make their anxiety/irritability worse. Did your dr. feel that might be happening?
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              • I am not thrilled with our shrink, and so we are getting a 2nd opinion, but earliest appointment we could get is November 11th. When he was too high on SSRI, he was very agitated...(more) 15 hr 12 min ago
                and couldn't sit still. The Abilify side effects were weight gain, lack of relatedness, sleepiness. But we have to accept those side effects v. having a kid who gets kicked out of what is a good school for him.
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                • hang in there - I feel for you. It must be so frustrating. 15 hr 9 min ago
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                  • So frustrating. He has so much potential and is a good kid. These behaviors seem out of his control. 15 hr 8 min ago
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                    • I always feel that while a school might seem perfect on paper, the proof is how they deal with a child going through a rough patch. If this isn't the right match, hopefully you...(more) 15 hr 7 min ago
                      really find the right one. It's so common for kids like your DS to experience behaviors time to time. But many of the schools have zero tolerance to deal with it appropriately. I wish you the best.
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                      • Thanks. They have no interest in any behaviors, which is why they kick out people pretty quickly. But if they kick him out now, not even mid-year, we are seriously screwed. 10 hr 46 min ago
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                        • Get to a doctor and let school know you are doing so if they try and kick DS out. 6 hr 3 min ago
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                • Possibly the dose was too high? Our dr. lowered ds' dose of abilify and the sleepiness went away (after a few weeks). Did not have weight gain. When ds had his growth spurt needed...(more) 6 hr 5 min ago
                  higher dose again but not a problem as he was bigger. If ability helped, there are other similar type meds and maybe one will be better for your ds.
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    • OK, this is totally based upon reading this board obsessively over the years -- I have no personal knowledge of any of these schools. But I've noticed that when issues like this...(more) 15 hr 24 min ago
      come up (smart kids with occasional behavioral/aggression issues) the suggestions that come up most often are Summit, Reece, Child, and Orchard/Andrus. I believe that Lowell and SLCD are also approved for kids with emotional disturbance issues, but that's not usually how they're discussed here.
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      • Thank you. Our neuropsych says Summit won't take any behavioral issues. At all. Othewise, the list is helpful. Thank you. 15 hr 19 min ago
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        • Must have changed. We toured a few years ago and they had rooms for kids to go and self-regulate. 6 hr 1 min ago
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          • ^However our ds is at another school so better to hear from someone with a child there now. 6 hr ago
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      • np: Lowell doesn't really fit your DC's profile. If anything, you might have look into the schools that are a touch more restrictive, because they will deal with behavioral...(more) 15 hr 15 min ago
        problems (schools like Hawthorne). Did your NP give you schools? Also Reece might take him if you can get the aggression under control.
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        • Our NP says that on his typical days, he's a great fit for Summit, Mary McDowell, Winston Prep. He said if the behaviors continue, Learning Spring or Reece. But he doesn't want...(more) 15 hr 13 min ago
          us to try to "jump ship" right away, because he thinks that meds can get ds under control. He says his cognitive abilities and his average-day make him too "high functioning" for a lot of the schools that a behavioral kid-all-the-time wold need. That is what is the tricky part for us.
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          • this is always the tricky part. It stinks. I hope that you are able to sort it out. 15 hr 11 min ago
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          • I love our NP and have been so thankful for her advice. But NPs are not the school gatekeepers. I'd reach out to schools directly and ask them if it seems like ds will be a good...(more) 15 hr ago
            fit. Don't count out places just because NP says they have doubts. That said, he seems like a great kid with occasional issues, and my fingers are crossed that you'll be able to weather this storm.
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          • Learningspring only goes to 5th grade, so that would probably be out 13 hr 45 min ago
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            • ^^sorry, confused this with GB - they do go to 8th 13 hr 44 min ago
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        • ^^here's a link to their website...(more) 15 hr 13 min ago
          • op: Thank you. NP has never mentioned this school. I'll talk to him about it. 15 hr 11 min ago
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            • it's definitely more restrictive than the ones he's listed as a good match for DS. But they do deal with kids who have behaviors...it might be worth checking out just to see if...(more) 15 hr 10 min ago
              it's an option, esp if you get kicked out. If you get kicked out, it's unlikely any on the existing list will take DS
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              • op: I know. If he gets kicked out, we're SOL. On all fronts. Thx. 15 hr 9 min ago
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                • it'll work out, but it just might be a bumpy ride for you until you get there. Hang on tight mom and take care. But it'll get sorted out. 15 hr 8 min ago
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    • We had a crisis like this. Hang in there. Can you get hold of his neuropsych? Ours really helped navigate this with us by making immediate and longer term plans. It ended up...(more) 15 hr 5 min ago
      working out with some times, therapies and meds... Good luck
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      • Anything is possible but unless your child is a danger to himself or others, school will not kick him out midyear. Can you ramp up physical exercise to counter weight gain--think...(more) 8 hr 7 min ago
        of it as must have therapy.
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        • We're going to ramp up the exercise, eys. But trust me, this school is so quick to kick out kids. And they'll do it mid-year. Thankfully, we can affor the full-time SEIT required...(more) 6 hr 15 min ago
          to keep him in school of enow. I hope the meds help.
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          • I was in your position at aaron. they will kick out. if it is aaron get out while you can, they will just make your life a living hell. 5 hr 55 min ago
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  13. Special Needs ABA? 16 hr 4 min ago (1 reply)
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    • what about it? 13 hr 45 min ago
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  14. Special Needs I am so depressed about sn ds and his future. Asked his therapist to recommend a therapist to me. She sent out a group email for recommendations and forwarded me one. I saw her...(more) 16 hr 15 min ago (7 replies)
    initial email and she characterized ds as having "significant impairments." Seeing him referred to that way made me cry.
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    • sorry 16 hr 14 min ago
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    • I'm so sorry. I'm so so sorry. 16 hr 14 min ago
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    • I'm sorry. I remember the day I was told my ds was one of the more severely affected kids with his disorder. I had been hopeful. 16 hr 14 min ago
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    • I'm really sorry you saw that. However you're doing everything right, and eventually you will come to something that works for everybody 16 hr 13 min ago
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    • I'm so sorry. Don't take her analysis as gospel. 16 hr 12 min ago
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    • I feel you. My ds is about to get kicked out of his SN private and we have nowhere to send him. The idea that I might have to send him to a therapeutic boarding school is now...(more) 15 hr 59 min ago
      crossing my mind. He would be devastated if I sent him away. but I am at my wit's end.
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      • op, so sorry. why do they want to kick him out? hugs. 15 hr 38 min ago
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  15. Special Needs Ds, who we suspect has adhd, also has an extreme sugar addiction/craving for sweets. Is this associated? I know the theory of sugar making kids hyperactive but was wondering if...(more) 17 hr 26 min ago (2 replies)
    any studies show the link betwn craving and adhd
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    • my add 10 yo has extreme sugar cravings. extreme. 17 hr 24 min ago
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    • No idea, but my spectrum kid is obsessed with sweets and sugar, so we can't keep any in the house. 15 hr 59 min ago
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  16. Special Needs So my previously compliant spectrum kid is off the rails lately, with behaviors starting at school, including physical aggression. He just received 1/2 day in-school suspension,...(more) 17 hr 43 min ago (20 replies)
    but dh and me are steeling ourselves for a conversation in the very near future which goes something like" he's out of here." NYC SN private. If they boot him, I cannot homeschool him. And I can't think of any other option if they boot him for a few weeks of misbehavior. I'm putting him on meds as soon as possible (we have an appointment with a psychiatrist next month), but if he gets kicked out of a SN private in NYC and there are no others for him, is our only option boarding school? I can't homeschool him.
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    • do they have a behaviorist on staff? does he have a behavior plan? 17 hr 41 min ago
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      • op: No behaviorist, just a school psychologist. No behavior "plan" to speak of; they are making it up as they go along. this school tolerates no behaviors. 17 hr 40 min ago
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        • ah I see. Do you know what's going on with your ds? Who is he targeting? 17 hr 38 min ago
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          • He had an issue wit ha student he loves today. Then, once the school pulled him out of c lass, he spit on the head of school and tried to kick another teacher. So without a...(more) 16 hr 2 min ago
            full-time SEIT and medication, he's out.
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            • np: Can I ask how old he is? And what does it say about my kids that that doesn't sound all that bad to me . . . ? 15 hr 38 min ago
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              • He's 10. He's usually very well-behaved. But he has incidents where he gets upset and can't seem to control his behaviors. 15 hr 20 min ago
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        • np: they'll likely tell you you need to hire a private seit before they kick him out. is this somethign you can do? 16 hr 38 min ago
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          • op: Sorry. Stepped away. They told us SEIT needs to start ASAP, full-time, until he can get under control. We're working on it. We think we have someone. We are lucky we can...(more) 16 hr 3 min ago
            afford the $50k+ tuition plus the SEIT, but if he can't stay under control, they won't ask him back next year. (If he acts like he acted today then he'll not be allowed to continue for the rest of the year.).
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    • Meds for what? 17 hr 40 min ago
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      • Irritability, aggression. He's on zoloft for anxiety. Spectrum-y kid. 16 hr 3 min ago
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    • If you really think he's likely to be counseled out/ his current setting is not working I'd look into what D75 has to offer. 17 hr 13 min ago
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      • op: I don't even known what D75 is. I guess I should learn. I've called my de's neuropsych for help. 16 hr 2 min ago
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      • if he is not have cognitive impairments then D75 is likely not the best fit for the child, I would start looking at schools that take kids with ED as well as Autism...(more) 15 hr 54 min ago
        http://www.p12.nysed.gov/specialed/privateschools/ED.htm is the list of approved state schools
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        • op: Thank you. He is extremely bright, and his neurospcyh scores are very high. Cognitive scores are "high average" to "superior" across the board. 15 hr 50 min ago
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        • op: the saddest thing is that he acts out 5% of the time, maybe. The rest of the time he is sweet, compliant, and a joy at school. 15 hr 49 min ago
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          • well fingers crossed that meds and a SEIT will help and he can stay in school or another program will work better 15 hr 37 min ago
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            • op: Thank you. Thanks to everyone. 15 hr 19 min ago
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        • d75 does have classes for children with normal cognition. And even sn schools don't teach to grade level. There are many programs op just has to do her research and if not work...(more) 8 hr 5 min ago
          on finding another sn school.
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          • which d75 programs are you thinking of? I have not heard of these programs - truly interested, not doubting you answer 7 hr 21 min ago
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    • Do you know why he is suddenly "off the rails"? If this is unusual then maybe he is reacting to something in his life or needs a meds change. Have any meds helped previously? 5 hr 55 min ago
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  17. Special Needs Would you leave 10 & 8 yo home alone in the burbs for 30 minutes? 17 hr 50 min ago (3 replies)
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    • Yes for sure. 17 hr 49 min ago
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    • I'd leave my 6 yo home alone for longer without any worries. my 8 yo i'm less sure about it. i think the answer is (a) what would happen if there is a problem as my town's police...(more) 17 hr 45 min ago
      arrested a mom a year ago who left her 7 yo home alone but (b) what are you comfy with.
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    • Yep 17 hr 22 min ago
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  18. Special Needs Can anyone who has done extensive research on ADHD meds help me in understanding the short term and long term risks? 9 y/o was diagnosed two months ago, just before school...(more) 18 hr 4 min ago (8 replies)
    started in August. He was moved to a G&T class this year and his grades in a couple of subjects are poor. This is the first time he has had poor marks. I am now considering meds but want to make a very informed decision about potential side effects..
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    • do some reading. they've been tested extensively on children over age 6, so there's a lot to read. and discuss any concerns with the shrink. 18 hr 3 min ago
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      • Can you share more about studies on long-term effects? 17 hr 56 min ago
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        • you really should just google and do some reading. 17 hr 52 min ago
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    • It's been great for my son but I didn't do it for academic reasons - I did it for his self esteem. He was always in trouble and felt like he was a bad& stupid kid. Side effect 18 hr 2 min ago
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      • Are minimal if any for him. 18 hr 1 min ago
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    • potential side effects (your ped will explain this to you): loss of appetite, sleep latency (difficulty falling asleep), heart beat/blood pressure irregularities, headache. Not...(more) 18 hr 1 min ago
      everyone experiences these. On the plus side, my DD has been able to function in school. That's been worth the minor side effects she has. Oh, I should add in that there is "rebound" behavior when the meds wear off.
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    • op: I have two concerns. My dh died from sudden cardiac death and so these meds scare me. My ds has been through extensive cardiac testing and his ped cardiologist doesn't have...(more) 17 hr 57 min ago
      a problem with the meds and yet I am still nervous. Second, have the long term effects been carefully studied? I am looking for research on this point as I am sure ped will say they are safe long term.
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      • there are kids who took them when they were young and who are now adults. 15 hr 52 min ago
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  19. Special Needs Almost 5 yo ds had a terrible year in school last year with aggression. did 6 mos of play therapy, moved him to a new school and it started up again this year. Scheduled him for...(more) 18 hr 24 min ago (2 replies)
    an eval. Now in the last 3 weeks he's made a complete 180 at home and school. Anyone btdt? Still planning on doing the evaluation but just confused by the change.
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    • Maybe he was anxious about new school but now feels comfortable and settled there? 18 hr 23 min ago
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      • that's what we are thinking. And last year was just being a 4 yo? 18 hr 22 min ago
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  20. Special Needs Watched a show called buying Alaska. I could never live like that. I would love to have solar power though. But totally off the grid? where you ahve to pump your OWN water or go...(more) 18 hr 57 min ago (0 replies)
    the water filling station with tanks and fill it up ? or heat yhour water with a wood stove. no way. Maybe in the summer...but not in the winter
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  21. Special Needs Watched a show called buying Alaska. I could never live like that. I would love to have solar power though. But totally off the grid? where you ahve to pump your OWN water or go...(more) 18 hr 58 min ago (2 replies)
    to the water station to fill up tanks? or you heat your water with a wood stove? no way
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    • ^^^whoops ment for toddler...forgot to switch 18 hr 58 min ago
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    • i know you meant to post to toddler but i don't look at toddler. a friend moved from manhattan to anchorage a few years ago. randoly met just such a guy and now lives 200 miles...(more) 17 hr 43 min ago
      from the nearest town. they catch and grow most of their food. 3 days/week she lives in anchorage for work and enjoys city life while he's out in the boondocks 7 days/week. it is amazing to see how happy and fulfilled she is - and this lady used to be the stereotypical nyc nightlife and culture queen and quite the fashionista.
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  22. Special Needs My kids are typically developing, but we are becoming good friends with a family that has twin 4s, one typically developing, one with SN. I really want them all to get along, but...(more) 19 hr 2 min ago (5 replies)
    SN child has a prickly personality and rubs my 4yo son the wrong way a lot of the time. Poor impulse control, hits sometimes, grabby, etc. I *really* like this child and want DC to see his good qualities (very caring, always up for a hug, happy to help, grateful when others do something nice for him), but my son says to his face "you're not my friend" and only wants to play with the other twin who is not annoying at all. I feel like it's wrong to make my DC be friends with someone he doesn't like, but I think that we need to make allowances for our SN friend. Any tips? If it matters, I think my friend does a good job with her kids, but she doesn't keep her SN child in shackles or anything, so he's going to have a chance to do annoying stuff... a lot. I'm sure I'm not the first person to go through this.
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    • Maintain the friendship without dcs. 19 hr ago
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    • trust me, you are not the first to have this issue. ask the other mom for advice on how to steer things. i appreciated it tons when people told me they had problems with my sn...(more) 17 hr 42 min ago
      kid and we figured out how to make things work. there wasn't a single magic solution so much as an understanding of what triggered his bad behaviors in particular contexts. it is not an easy conversation to initiate but i welcomed it each time as it meant the other person cared and wanted to maintain the relationship.
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      • I would use this as an opportunity to teach your child kindness and self-advocacy (since you can't control the other child). Let him know that she thinks differently and he could...(more) 15 hr 51 min ago
        be a role model for her. If he doesn't want to play with her, he could learn to tell her 'When you hit me, it hurts me and then I don't want to play with you." Sometimes coming from a peer that is very effective IME.
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    • it isn't wrong to make your child be friendly and nice and tolerant to someone he doesn' 55 min ago
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      • ^like. he is 4. it is about teaching kindness and understanding. when they are together and get annoyed your ds can learn a lot about how to handle. 54 min ago
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  23. Special Needs We have our med meeting tomorrow with the doc for ds and ADHD. he is 10yo. We have put this off long enough (we have done tons of behavior therapy/ot/etc.). I am so scared. He has...(more) 19 hr 3 min ago (10 replies)
    asked for something to help him "not feel so crazy in his skin." Why am I so terrified?
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    • I have no idea. Don't be afraid. This will only help. 19 hr 2 min ago
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      • he is an excellent sleeper, I don't want that to go away, he is such a great kid, I don't want to change his personaltiy. 19 hr ago
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    • Aw honey, I haven't been in your shoes but I feel like I can empathize. DD is only 6, so we are in the "trying everything else" phase, and some of that phase has been wondering...(more) 19 hr 2 min ago
      why meds terrify me. It's silly... instead of seeing this as a tool that can help. For me, I think I don't know much about them. And I keep forgetting that if we don't like any side effects, we can stop. Hang in there.
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    • If you're talking about ADHD meds, they leave your system within hours. If they work, they work immediately. If they don't, you just stop taking them. This is not a permanent...(more) 19 hr 1 min ago
      decision.
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      • yes I am. we will start with the LOWEST possbile dose. 19 hr ago
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        • As you should, but again, it lasts for a few hours. If it doesn't work for him, he just doesn't take another. 18 hr 54 min ago
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          • how will I know? I mean, he has ADHD for sure, but it's so mild. he can hyperfocus if reading a book, will often go do that to calm down. He is still impulsive, doesn't always...(more) 18 hr 49 min ago
            listen, etc.. School has become somewhat of an issue (always has, needs constant reminders)
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            • You will know. With my dd, we gave her first dose and then took her to soccer. Suddenly she was good at it instead of the kid always 10 feet behind the action. It's that fast. 18 hr 41 min ago
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              • ^^^And they can all hyperfocus on some things. 18 hr 41 min ago
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    • I am kind of the opposite. Want to go to meds right away and everyone else wants to do other interventions. I have depression and meds have given me such a great quality of life....(more) 18 hr 33 min ago
      I do not want DS to spend one more unhappy minute than he needs to.
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  24. Special Needs My dh was just started on anti depressants today. Depressed over ds sn. Our pharmacist loves us. Dh asked me did going on meds help with it all and I wanted to lie and say yes...(more) 10-21-2014 11:49pm (10 replies)
    but they really don't.
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    • give it 6 months. he is trying 10-21-2014 11:53pm
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      • So am I I just don't feel undepressed I just don't sit in bed all day. 10-22-2014 12:11am
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        • Np: ppl deal with stress differently. Be happy he's on meds and not in denial 22 hr 53 min ago
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          • I am happy, he's always been on board but he's always been too on board. He's religious and I know the problem now is he's feeling disconnected as time goes on. He preaches for...(more) 8 hr 16 min ago
            a living and he talks how god is good yet his child has do endure a lot that in my Outlook no god would put a child through. He's struggle because he was so positive and now he's very conflicted.
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    • They really helped my DH. 10-22-2014 12:18am
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    • They take a few weeks and if they aren't helping , maybe dh needs a different one. Hang in there, none of this is easy. Our family has gotten to a much better place with help...(more) 22 hr 6 min ago
      (therapy etc). I wouldn't have believed it possible a few years ago.
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      • Thanks. He has a more natural cheerful disposition so I hope they work for him they just haven't been a godsend for me. 8 hr 11 min ago
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    • great that he is doing something to try to get better that is a huge step. Are you both seeing a therapist? This helped me more in the long term than just meds. 18 hr 31 min ago
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      • I'm seeing a therapist, he doesn't see a therapist though just spiritual guidance. I actually don't find therapy to be that helpful. I guess I wanted a fix to what I'm feeling...(more) 8 hr 8 min ago
        but I leave with so many tasks to try and more anxieties.
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        • What helped me the most was meeting parents of SN children - with similar or more difficult SN to mine _ who were happy people leading fulfilling lives. And there are many. They...(more) 5 hr 48 min ago
          tend to have been dealing with it for a length of time. I wish my DD did not have SN but I am a far happier person than I was a few years ago. My whole family is.
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  25. Special Needs Until recently, I tried to help ds with tutors because I got so stressed when attempting to help with homework. I work full...(more) 10-21-2014 10:31pm (5 replies)
    time so I am not around when ds does his homework. I have been trying to review his homework daily and his work is sloppy and careless and frequently incorrect. Teachers review te homework so they know what is going on. Beginning to think, my reviewing and being critical of his work accomplishes nothing. Wish I could calmly help ds because he needs it but I can't because I get anxious when I see his struggles.
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    • I think you are right to get him extra support and also right that your input may not be helpful. Can one of his tutors help with organization and execution of the work? 10-21-2014 10:37pm
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    • boarding school 10-21-2014 10:57pm
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      • because of sloppy homework?? 52 min ago
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    • Get a tutor and then try and have fun with him when you are home instead of the homework aggravation. 10-22-2014 12:19am
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    • Keep reminding yourself he has SN. His hw won't be what you think it should be...try and think he's trying his best. Have someone else review it. Your anxiety won't help 22 hr 51 min ago
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