Special Needs

  1. Special Needs Ds taking vyvanse and then added a booster of adderall 2.5mg at 3 ish...still having massive freak out screaming at the top of his lungs violent aggressive rages around now every...(more) 13 hr 36 min ago (18 replies)
    night...8-9...I'm dying. literally i cannot live with this kid. the screaming mental craziness is killing me. it has been for years. How do people stop the rebound rages? the booster was supposed to help and it does..it makes it from a 10 to a 6. but a normal kid is at a 0 or 1. I hate these meds, they work but they don't. this one is helping but definitely not a miracle drug. he won't eat and he goes berserk when it catches up to him. they you literally have to stuff food in his mouth or he will go crazy. doesn't matter where he is he will lose it. :(
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    • It sounds brutal. What happens with no med? 13 hr 35 min ago
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      • then he freaks out and does that at random times almost every day but not the screaming so much. like on any med he just screams bloody murder at the top of his lungs and it...(more) 13 hr 32 min ago
        starts from nothing. like he literally said "im having dessert" and I said you didn't finish your dinner and instead of saying "if i finish dinner can i have it?" he just starts screaming and saying things like you're the worst mother in the world I hate you etc etc..starts throwing things and it just goes from 0-100 in a millisecond. actually it's always about something he is asked to do or in response to "no"
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        • Maybe behavior therapy? No meds 13 hr 28 min ago
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          • op-he definitely needs some kind of med :( his mood is horrendous. so up and down constantly. no control over his emotions or outbursts. and the add has become worse. not able to...(more) 13 hr 26 min ago
            sit at school or do anything almost. crawling out of his skin. he is in a SN class now too and it's great but he's not doing better (before he started the meds again after stopping the old ones at xmas)
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            • I'm sorry. Sounds really hard. Sit down w doctor 13 hr 25 min ago
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    • I'm so sorry. That really sounds hard :( 13 hr 34 min ago
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    • First I am sorry.. how old is your son. I have to say my ds who has ADD has never fought takign the drug as it makes him feel more in control. Without being rude are you sure...(more) 13 hr 32 min ago
      does he have more diax than just add? E.g. does he have anxiety as well?
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      • he is 11 and he doesn't fight taking meds at all. he used to take prozac as well and that was awful :( really weird behaviours and still had rages...I think he does need something...(more) 13 hr 30 min ago
        in addition to this med imo
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    • We use Xanax it is fast acting and out quick 13 hr 24 min ago
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      • We also use clonidine 2x daily to avoid anger 13 hr 20 min ago
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        • op-do you do this because the meds cause it or does dc have anger issues already? 13 hr 19 min ago
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          • He has autism and anger issues which may or may not be meds related or puberty related 13 hr 17 min ago
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            • Try intuniv 3 hr 47 min ago
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              • Op-we did before the vyvanse. Nightmare. 36 min ago
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    • please be careful with adderall can make it worse 3 hr 37 min ago
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    • Psych mom of SN kid here - any bipolar disorder in his genes? The meds may be uncovering a lantent mania. If so, a small dose of Abilify or Risperidone could smooth things out....(more) 3 hr 10 min ago
      Good luck and don't give up.
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      • They have suggested this but say last resort. Would this be without the vyvanse? 36 min ago
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      • Op-my mom was diagnosed bipolar and major depression etc but would never talk about and doesn't take meds. She's not interested life or any families life anymore. I'm not sure...(more) 34 min ago
        exactly her diagnosis. I don't really see typical bipolar in ds...Dr says no. Perhaps another ssri but not Prozac?
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  2. Special Needs 7yo ds had an IQ test as part of his entrance to private school 2 years ago, just had it redone as part of ADD testing, it was 30 points lower. Is this common? That seems like a...(more) 21 hr 20 min ago (14 replies)
    crazy amount of variation
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    • why? 21 hr 19 min ago
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      • why what? 21 hr 19 min ago
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        • common for variation 21 hr 17 min ago
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    • yes, for example my ds total iQ brought down by slow processing speed. His pre=k tests were not as comprehensive. 21 hr 19 min ago
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      • op: yes his processing was very low even preK but everything else was good. The one recently done was tough across the board. 21 hr 18 min ago
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        • I would not be concerned about the actual #--just get him the accommodations/support he needs. 21 hr 17 min ago
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          • we are in the process for sure, but i just see people posting on here about how they have ADHD kids with high IQs and im wondering how that is even possible given how hard test...(more) 21 hr 16 min ago
            taking is for my newly diagnosed ADHD child
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            • ADD usually have disparity- for example dc is 98 % verbal IQ- but 4 % processing-drags down total- but super smart- and does well when he has the time/accomodation. 21 hr 14 min ago
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              • right but they dont give the time/accomodation on an IQ test do they? Mine would obviously do way better if it werent timed 21 hr 13 min ago
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            • ADHD is a huge spectrum of disability. Don't compare and understand that IQ is not a fixed thing. Just how someone does on a test that day. 18 hr 24 min ago
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              • Agree. My ADHD child scored high on IQ test and she doesn't get accommodations. Her issues are stuff like forgetting homework which something a neuropsych evaluation does not...(more) 16 hr 27 min ago
                test.
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    • Not uncommon at early ages especially since much is guessing and exposure to the types of questions. 18 hr 26 min ago
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      • My child had high average on most of his testing but exrtemely low processing score. Slow processing usually getys the child an accomodation of extended test time. You have to...(more) 17 hr 23 min ago
        look at the subtest scores on tests--some are probably high and others low; this is known as scatter and very typical for kids with SN.
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    • IME the IQ testing my 21 yo ds has had since age 4 has always been very consistent . same basket of strengths and weaknesses even though now he is remediated and has many coping...(more) 16 hr 26 min ago
      skills
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  3. Special Needs Considering a move to CA Los Angeles area, does anyone know of schools or websites to get info like tugs one from moms who can give feedback about an schools there? TIA! 5-24-2015 11:45am (0 replies)
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  4. Special Needs Http://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/Erik-Weber-Passes-Bar-Exam-304505311.html# 5-23-2015 10:38pm (1 reply)
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    • I love this story--young man with Autism passes bar and doctors told his parents to institionalize him. 5-23-2015 10:39pm
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  5. Special Needs We are in the market for new house. unsure of future with sn dd. will she be independent? etc. not sure about dd #2. mons who have been there. what to do? 5-23-2015 10:37pm (1 reply)
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    • if you are talking about a new house in a new community, perhaps you want to rent first, so you can make sure the educational opportunities for the sn dc will be appropriate...(more) 18 hr 45 min ago
      there. If you are talking about a new house in the same community, I don't understand the question.
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  6. Special Needs My friend is looking to have her child assessed in as comprehensively as possible "in one shot" as they live overseas. Who would you recommend to see in NYC? Girl is 3 and has...(more) 5-23-2015 4:10pm (5 replies)
    language and processing delays. Very small for her age. Mom had complications during pregnancy.
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    • Marilyn Agin 5-23-2015 4:12pm
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      • ok, thanks. why? when I was evaluating my dc I saw Jennifer Cross. Is she still a top contender? 5-23-2015 4:13pm
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        • both are top notch. 5-23-2015 4:15pm
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          • Then go for the doctor who takes insurance. 5-23-2015 9:34pm
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            • np: neither of them takes insurance. But you would be able to submit your bill afterward for either. 5-23-2015 10:45pm
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  7. Special Needs Massive meltdowns...(more) 5-23-2015 3:03pm (4 replies)
    I took our 5 year old kid (who has ADHD and HFA and sensory stuff) swimming today. She wanted to make "friends" with another kid there and asked if she would be her friend; other NT kid said yes but then swam away. My kid started screaming "come back! I don't have any friends! No one will be my friend!" Then I told her she was having a meltdown and we had to leave. She proceeded to scratch me, pull my hair, and BITE me. Eventually she calmed down (after we left) and said sorry. She just keeps having these massive meltdowns due to social delays. Besides keeping her away from all other kids what the hell can we do?
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    • social group? 5-23-2015 3:08pm
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    • role playing? practice social situations and how she might act in response to others? My mild asd ds was having a terrible time with making friends and I started a routine where...(more) 5-23-2015 3:08pm
      he tells me three good things that happened that day in school, one of which had to be a social interaction (so that he stopped looking at everything so negatively and also so that he started paying attention to positive interactions he was having on a daily basis, or even made more of a conscious effort.) He still doesn't have friends outside of school, but he's got them in school and this year went from being a nightmare of social isolation and bullying and anxiety to in his words "The best year ever."
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      • She is already in SN preschool and has social skills group twice a week...(more) 5-23-2015 3:31pm
        As well as speech and play therapy. NO dice
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    • It sounds like the whole combination of the pool and the other girl swimming away was too overstimulating. Not sure what the options are but that type of place, pool or...(more) 5-23-2015 4:40pm
      somewhere crowded may not be great places for her to try to be with other kids
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  8. Special Needs Can a jump in dosage from 10mg to 15mg of focal cause terrible reactions? 5-23-2015 9:21am (12 replies)
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    • Not for us 5-23-2015 9:22am
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      • op: I'm thinking this can't be it but his behavior has been horrific since the jump 5-23-2015 9:22am
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        • Is it the same brand/generic? 5-23-2015 9:23am
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          • same brand and it's focalin 5-23-2015 9:25am
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            • My kid reacted differently when I gave him 10mg Focalin vs. 2 5mg Focalin 5-23-2015 9:27am
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              • more violent? 5-23-2015 9:27am
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                • No but anxious and cried a lot 5-23-2015 9:28am
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                  • OK, I'm going to go back down. we were doing just fine and doctor wanted to up it b/c he's growing and is heading to teen years ut this has been a nightmare 5-23-2015 9:28am
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                    • he should have gone to 5mg first 14 hr 43 min ago
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    • Reactions, sure. 5-23-2015 9:23am
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    • We increased the focalin and saw and increase in anger, irritability. anxiety and explosive moments. 5-23-2015 11:12am
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      • on initial 5mg of focalin, total irritabilty when it wore off although dr didn't think it was possible bc DC is older 14 hr 46 min ago
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  9. Special Needs Ds in CPSE, supposed to be getting OT 2x/w, PT 2x/w and ST 2x/w but right now he is just getting OT 1x/w. His evaluations for CPSE were last May, I haven't heard from anyone...(more) 5-23-2015 12:12am (7 replies)
    about doing them again or what services he should be getting in the fall when he starts Pre-K. Anyone know what is the usual schedule with this?
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    • He transferred from EI to CPSE in January and they've told me it's just hard to find therapists for CPSE in the middle of the year. 5-23-2015 12:12am
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      • He was not supposed to get services in the summer. 5-23-2015 12:13am
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        • You definitely have a case to get services over the summer. Call your CPSE person, send a letter (either certified return receipt or fedex) and demand summer services to make up...(more) 5-23-2015 11:40am
          for all of the services he missed during the school year. They are required to provide these services, but unless you make your voice heard, they will not give them to you.
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    • Wow, so he hasn't been getting services since Jan? That seems really terrible. If they truly can't find therapists, I wonder if they reimburse for private? Where are you? 5-23-2015 10:43am
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      • We're on the UES. He's going to theraplay for OT but they had no openings for PT. 5-23-2015 5:48pm
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        • Is it strange I haven't heard anything about what will happen in September? 5-23-2015 5:51pm
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          • Start calling them once a week. 5-23-2015 11:24pm
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  10. Special Needs Grrrrr the things that my mil says about my 3yo dd really get under my skin . how do i not let it affect me? i la 5-22-2015 11:54pm (4 replies)
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    • example? my dd is dx gdd. global developmental delay. mil said she remembers there "was something wrong with her because she didnt smile the whole day wr visited...(more) 5-23-2015 12:07am
      . you see her 10 times a year!!! "We watched a video of our neighbors daughter and she smiled the whole time. I remember visiting my grandparents and not enjoying it. So why would she say this!!
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      • dd was two at the time 5-23-2015 12:08am
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      • Do yourself a favor and Ty not to discus dd with her. Let dh do that. She sounds mean 5-23-2015 6:36am
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        • ty. she is! 5-23-2015 10:29pm
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  11. Special Needs ADHD/ODD teenage son is very abusive towards me (mom) and tries to instigate fights between my DH and I, says things to get under my skin, and has even started cursing at me and i...(more) 5-22-2015 11:34pm (10 replies)
    says things to get under my skin, and has even started cursing at me and i
    s not even 13 yet. Today, he threw a major tantrum in public, swearing and disrespecting me because he didn't feel like going to a Dr. appt I had scheduled for him. It was beyond embarrassing for me, as people looked at us like we were insane. He goes to a SN school but wondering if he needs a therapeutic day school. He is causing so much stress for me & rest of family i am so tired of being abused & lied to as well. Please help!
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    • are there boarding schools for this? 5-22-2015 11:52pm
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      • Yes, absolutely there are. btdt, you need to address this now. What are you waiting for? 5-23-2015 7:03am
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        • I do take him for weekly therapy but doesn't seem to be helping. He also is in a SN school. 5-24-2015 12:40am
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          • Not weekly therapy. He needs daily therapy to make progress. Help him get on a path to success. I went through this painful process. He can make meaningful life long progress...(more) 16 hr 37 min ago
            with professional support. Sending him to a boarding does NOT mean you don't love him. There are caring, loving people who can help him. They have a mission in life to help children just like him. He is an adolescent, change can happen quickly and effectively. GL
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      • Yes there are. I'd definitely look into that--especially one that focuses on the family relationship & repairing it. 5-24-2015 12:27pm
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    • Does he get any therapy outside of school? 5-23-2015 6:34am
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      • >>>>do you do any family therapy? 5-23-2015 6:34am
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      • Yes, 5-24-2015 12:41am
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    • I"m so sorry and I would look into therapeutic day/boarding schools. I would also look into sleep away camp programs for SN adolescents as well. 5-23-2015 6:35am
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    • It is called triangulation (splitting up the parents). He sounds disregulated - can't regulate his behavior. You need to see a psychiatrist about this. What meds is he on if any?...(more) 18 hr 21 min ago
      There is likely something that can help him with self-control a bit.
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  12. Special Needs It's been 4 years and I still get really sad on a daily basis...(more) 5-22-2015 8:50pm (7 replies)
    Thinking about the normal moments I can't experience with my child. I'm talking about walking down the street without gripping his hand the whole time so he doesn't run away or having him on a dumb leash. Or playing outside without him trying to run into the street.
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    • This post has been disliked 9 times. showomg..therapy stat 5-22-2015 8:51pm
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      • Not sure how that will change my situation. 5-22-2015 8:53pm
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      • You are on a special needs board. 5-22-2015 8:56pm
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        • np i think it was an okay bit of advice delivered in a tone-deaf way. op, i'm sorry you're feeling this way, and i'm sure you know you're not alone. so many of us here understand...(more) 5-22-2015 8:57pm
          how that feels.
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          • she is assuming OP hasn't had any help 5-22-2015 9:06pm
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            • Those are things to be sad about. Are there any things that yoiur child does that makes you happy. Personally I am a worrier and focus on what does not work and have my entire...(more) 5-22-2015 10:52pm
              life. I have recently tried to address it. I understand my issues are not your issues I hope you find a way to less sadness and more happiness.
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    • I think that's normal. You will get some of those moments but they just won't necessarily come in an...(more) 5-23-2015 12:30pm
      NT way or when you expect them. I remember the first day I walked home with my child, not holding hands, he stayed next to me and we talked as we walked. He was 7 and I'd been envious of other parents for years. I was high for days. And the first time my child talked back to me in a negative way. I was actually relieved/impressed he had a grasp of the conversation and the issue. Try not to compare, also look for small wins and you'll get some of these moments eventually.
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  13. Special Needs Anyone trying Vyvanse when Focalinxr didn't work? Any success stories with Vyvanse? 5-22-2015 5:52pm (4 replies)
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    • ds switched and is doing great. 5-22-2015 6:00pm
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    • ds is on Vyvanse; was never on anything else. It works. 5-22-2015 6:09pm
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    • yes, vyvanse worked for us when Focalin did not. 5-23-2015 7:04am
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      • what was the problem with focalin? thinking of switching 14 hr 44 min ago
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  14. Special Needs AS dc has started arraning his playdates. He called a friend last night and invited him over. Yeah! Now I just need to get him to tell me. It was quite a surprise when he...(more) 5-22-2015 3:47pm (2 replies)
    came home with a friend and required some last minute juggling for siblings but overall its good that he came home with a friend. LOL
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    • Ditto here! 4th grade, how about yours? 5-22-2015 4:26pm
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  15. Special Needs Is Gillen Brewer adding smaller class sizes? 5-22-2015 2:39pm (5 replies)
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    • For preschool or elementary? 5-22-2015 2:41pm
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    • Thay are adding one classroom with a smaller class size for a completely different population than they currently serve. That classroom will be unfunded from what I understand. 5-22-2015 11:27pm
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      • what type of population? 5-23-2015 9:15am
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        • Wealthy by the sounds of it ;) 5-23-2015 12:32pm
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  16. Special Needs People get so upset when their child's OT suggests the child doesn't need OT services anymore. I'd personally be ecstatic if someone thought dd didn't need OT anymore....(more) 5-22-2015 6:28am (9 replies)
    Unfortunately that will never be the case.
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    • How old is your dd? Mine got discharged this year at 12yo after 11 years - you never know! 5-22-2015 6:44am
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    • eh. just had my 12yo's IEP meeting, and the OT told us not to continue because ds was making no progress. I wonder about all the years my ds spent in OT. Maybe I should have...(more) 5-22-2015 8:48am
      pursued other fine motor activities for him instead, like sewing class. I'm not all that thrilled with OT as a service at the moment.
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    • Not upset just worried. My child has made progress but his writing still isn't great. I'm upset because I'm told he doesn't need it but in reality they don't have any more tim...(more) 5-22-2015 9:24am
      for the older kids in DS's school. I wish they would tell the truth and not just make us think our kids are perfect now. Because some of them are not. My child still needs support all be it not as much as he did when he was younger.
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    • I think some are upset b/c they'd hoped that OT could do more. To hear that your child has max'ed out on any benefits from a therapy when they are still far behind is upsetting. 5-22-2015 9:43am
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    • I think it is because it often happens in school when a child could still benefit from it 5-22-2015 11:07am
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    • Mine got discharged from ot, is doing great IMO, and I am still dealing with one teacher insisting she needs more OT. I find it all stressful. 5-22-2015 12:23pm
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    • Every parent and dc has different needs and different points of view. Often schools do have ot when the child does not need it for school but there still can be it issues that...(more) 5-22-2015 12:25pm
      don't effect learning. Let's say there is a dc who is able to write well enough to keep up with class, far from good handwriting but can write so the school says no more ot needed. This dc may still struggle with buttons, and wear elastic pants. There are weak skills and coping strategies in place so OT is needed but the school says it no longer educationally an issue. I see this often. I also see student with sensory issues discharged but I hear you- I was happy when my dc no longer needed PT
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      • ^i also think, as parents, it's hard to let go and see our dcs with fresh eyes. We remember the struggles. They are etched into our soul often leaving scars and it's hard to let...(more) 5-22-2015 12:28pm
        those memories be in the past and accept that is no longer who do is. We live in fear that those behaviors can come back. Saying no more OT is letting those memories go. That's hard.
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  17. Special Needs Okay so like a month ago I took my daughter to local pet shop where we met this adorable goldendoodle that she & I both fell in love with. They wanted way too much $$ and we left...(more) 5-21-2015 10:18pm (10 replies)
    - I know many people that have bought from this pet shop and had good experiences. Walked by with hubby the other day and saw the same dog (only larger) and went in and confirmed that it is indeed the same dog. Price has been reduced but still a bit high - i'm sure I could talk them down. Is it wrong that the dog has spent so long in the pet store? she seemed so timid now and depressed - puppy was born in december. I feel so terrible - i want to go bring her home but now i'm worried that something is wrong....
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    • go for it-- 5-21-2015 10:32pm
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    • good god buy the poor dog! she's depressed from the pet shop - behavior would be much impoved in a real home. no-brainer 5-21-2015 10:32pm
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    • it may be that someone returned the dog. if you want her, get her. goldendoodles are expensive. 5-22-2015 9:44am
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    • play with her -if she was nice the first time you met she may just be feeling miserable cooped up. 5-22-2015 11:34am
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    • I am so against pet stores but that poor dog has been left there and so I say buy her. She will be fine once she has a loving family. They are the sweetest best dogs 5-22-2015 11:37am
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    • go buy that dog. goldendoodles have the sweetest personalities (we have one). 5-22-2015 12:13pm
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      • and she is still very young 5-22-2015 12:13pm
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    • Our dog has made our whole family happier 5-22-2015 12:24pm
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    • Don't. Go to petfinder and get a rescue. Breeders give the worst of the litter to pet stores/ 5-22-2015 12:25pm
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      • The "worst" often means not as cute as opposed to other defect. 18 hr 19 min ago
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  18. Special Needs Also putting in a vote for CDC. It is a very special place and they will make sure they do right by you and your child. 5-21-2015 10:03pm (2 replies)
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    • ^^ Sorry meant to write this as a reply to a previous post. Guess I need to go to bed :) 5-21-2015 10:04pm
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      • sweet dreams. :) 5-21-2015 10:05pm
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  19. Special Needs Should we wait until June to send our school the 10 day notice letter? Final NP report coming next week, so I'm thinking we just let dd finish in her shitty ms placement 5-21-2015 6:51pm (12 replies)
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    • ^^ meaning wait until school year is over 5-21-2015 6:52pm
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    • you can still send the 10 day letter now. It just notifies them that you won't return. 5-21-2015 6:56pm
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      • But do we Tao her out of school with 20 days left? 5-21-2015 7:01pm
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        • ^^ take 5-21-2015 7:01pm
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        • no 5-21-2015 7:08pm
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          • ^^^but if you're in doubt about any of this, talk to your lawyer. 5-21-2015 7:08pm
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    • absolutely ask your lawyer about what to say in the 10 day letter and when to send it. Never take any action with respect to the DOE without consulting your attorney first. 5-22-2015 9:31am
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      • I could not agree with this more! 5-22-2015 9:35am
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        • Op- actually, our atty will be sending notice, I'm just wondering what happens to de after 10 days is up (there is 2 weeks left in the school year. Also, will the school reach...(more) 5-22-2015 11:30am
          out to try and settle it in- house? We have been at this public for 4 years and they just can't get dad's placement and services right
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          • Sorry I can't answer this - we always file the notices in August so I have no idea! I would ask your lawyer. 5-22-2015 11:38am
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          • nothing happens in NYC. You just send the notice. If they send you a placement, you go to visit. If they don't, you don't. Ask your lawyer but that is how it has always worked...(more) 5-23-2015 1:47pm
            for us. Sending the 10 day notice is a formality.
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            • ~~ and any settlement will happen at the DOE level, not your school. That is where you send your notice. You need to discuss this process with your attorney so you know how it...(more) 5-23-2015 1:48pm
              works.
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  20. Special Needs I need support, input, advice from other parents who have had to send kids to LD boarding schools in middle school. I'd assumed that would be high school for my son, but the more...(more) 5-21-2015 4:19pm (17 replies)
    I think about it, the more sense it makes (academically and from a social opportunity standpoint) for him to go in 7th. He'll be 13 then. I just can't get over the idea that he will feel like I'm rejecting him.
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    • My son went to residential treatment for almost two years. I think he feels okay about it now. The key for us was to visit as much as possible and to keep regular contact....(more) 5-21-2015 4:23pm
      Will the school district pay or is this all on you?
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      • Yes with the visits, but it's unlikely to be very close to our house. Residential like therapeutic school? Why does that feel different to me? We are currently at an LD day...(more) 5-21-2015 4:43pm
        school which the district pays a portion of but not all. It's possible that we will be able to sustain that agreement but it gets harder and harder.
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        • There are LD boarding schools which are like LD day schools but boarding. Therapeutic schools are for a different population though there is certainly overlap. 5-21-2015 6:02pm
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    • Did he say that's how he feels or are your projecting based on how you would feel or how you think he will feel? Or how other parents will judge you, in yiur mind? 5-21-2015 5:14pm
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      • I don't care about the other parents. I am not certain how he would feel. We've talked about it for high school but high school is so far away. He had some "abandonment"...(more) 5-21-2015 6:36pm
        problems when DD was born and he perceived that he lost me to DD's needs. I think this would stir that up again.
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        • I would speak to his psych or get one on board if you don't have one about that. You will need to be very careful with doing this Andover you decide to then how it is presented...(more) 5-22-2015 11:40am
          to him
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    • he has to be bought in. 5-21-2015 5:15pm
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    • My oldest is in therapeutic boarding school--13 this year. I can try to answer any questions if you want. 5-21-2015 6:06pm
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      • Is the SN dayschool not working? EWhat needs are not being met? 5-21-2015 6:15pm
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        • He was at a private SN school that addressed his LD (dyslexia--very severe) but he has a mood disorder + other challenges that made it hard for him to even access the material...(more) 5-22-2015 11:43am
          with support. And then he would come home & rage at all of us--especially me & his younger sister. Our home is organized & supportive but he needed way more depth & breadth of support than we could provide.
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      • What was his reaction when you told him the plan? Was that your only option? 5-21-2015 6:37pm
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        • He was not happy about it. But we felt that this was our best option for him to have some chance of learning & developing and for all of us to be safe & healthy as a family....(more) 5-22-2015 11:44am
          It's not easy but it's a very good school for him and we are seeing (slow) progress.
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      • We are considering this for next year for 15yo ds. May I ask which school? 5-23-2015 7:49pm
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    • My dc went to a theraputic boarding school for middle school. Hard on me and him but it has been a very successful experience for everyone. He is smart (LD, ADHD, anxiety, mood...(more) 5-23-2015 7:10am
      disorder). He has skilled support 24/7 and he is making great strides at school and at home because he has new habits. His success is generalized to life outside of school. GL
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      • Posted above - may be headed down this path with 15yo ds. Which school? 5-23-2015 7:49pm
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    • I would begin family therapy immediately so that you can all come to a decision about what's best together. The therapist can meet with you (the parents) to help with the...(more) 5-23-2015 7:12am
      deciison and come up with a strategy and plan to prepare dc for whatever school option is best. Nobody is happy right now, including your dc, there is a right way to handle this that will be good for your whole family. GL
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  21. Special Needs 7yo recently diagnosed with ADD Inattentive, I want to get him a summer tutor but really want i want is for him to start learning the skills to help specifically with working...(more) 5-21-2015 3:30pm (5 replies)
    memory, impulsivity, and general executive function issues. Who would someone like this be? I'm not even sure who to look for with this.
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    • try getting him outside and active as much as possible this summer 5-21-2015 3:33pm
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      • he's already incredibly active - he plays multiple sports, does PE at school every day, etc. He needs more than that. 5-21-2015 3:34pm
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    • I would research tutoring centers that offer a variety of services. My df has a business like this in CA and she has tutors that specifically work with organization skills,...(more) 5-21-2015 3:37pm
      executive function etc. I would use them if they were in NYC.
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    • My ds is same age. We do OT for fine motor stuff and they also help with how to treat others. Some books called Being a social detective. The gist is, when you behave in...(more) 5-21-2015 3:38pm
      unpredictable, impulsive ways, how does it make other people feel? He also does a program with a therapist called How is your Engine running? Another book on how kids can learn to self regulate their emotions and impulses. Both really helpful.
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    • camp is great for the summer (ds has the same diagnosis), encourage reading over the summer, in Sept. you could look into a exec functioning coach, some people do CBT but it's...(more) 5-21-2015 7:11pm
      more useful w/school in session in my opinion.
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  22. Special Needs Cdc vs Gillen Brewer...(more) 5-21-2015 2:27pm (35 replies)
    my child has been offered a spot at CDC and Gillen Brewer. We are having a tough time deciding and have a deadline approaching. We moved to NYC last year and don't have much experience/feedback about either school. Any help would be much appreciated. Which would you choose and why? Which has higher functioning? Our child doesn't have a diagnosis. We live closer to GB. Thanks for any info.
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    • GB is worth it for the elementary school, if your DC needs that kind of setting for K and up its the clear advantage. Otherwise they are both excellent. 5-21-2015 2:34pm
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      • Solely preschool...(more) 5-21-2015 7:33pm
        thx for responses. Very helpful. Wouldn't need GB for elementary. Delays are language-based and several sensory challenges
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        • you don't know that though 5-21-2015 7:49pm
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        • We never thought our DC would need a center based for GB and turned it down for CDC. LOVED CDC but made a huge mistake -- they may not take your DC again. 5-22-2015 11:21pm
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          • np: this is a very important point 5-23-2015 9:58am
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    • We looked at both (though ended up at CPELC). I'd pick CDC because they are completely focused on preschool with no assumption that your kid will remain in a SN setting. But if...(more) 5-21-2015 2:41pm
      you r child seems very unlikely to be looking at a non-SN private setting AND you think GB would be the right setting for elementary it might be worth it. Neither is higher or lower functioning.
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      • np: GB does not assume fwiw that all children will remain there for elementary 5-21-2015 3:13pm
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    • What are your child's specific issues (asking since you mention there is no diagnosis) 5-21-2015 2:48pm
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    • the kids are the same in terms of functioning, I'd go with GB just because of the elementary factor, should you need it 5-21-2015 3:12pm
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      • - no subject -...(more) 5-21-2015 7:36pm
        Language-based and several sensory challenges
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        • many of CDC apply to GB for elementary school if that is helpful, you can't go wrong with either one 5-21-2015 7:51pm
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    • I would choose CDC hands down. It really is superior on all levels. Some choose GB thinking their child will stay for elementary but it is far from a guarantee that that will be...(more) 5-21-2015 9:12pm
      the case and CDC has much more to offer in my opinion as the they are solely focused on the needs of their preschoolers there. Do yourself a favor and grab the spot at CDC.
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      • how is CDC superior on all levels? both are pretty equally amazing places 5-21-2015 10:54pm
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      • I'm a former CDC parent at GB. I think they are both amazing. But I would take GB if my child got in for elementary school. 5-22-2015 11:23pm
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    • Do yourself a favor and choose CDC. They truly perform miracles there. You won't regret it. 5-21-2015 9:16pm
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    • Tough decision as they are both great schools. When is your deadline? Has funding come through already? Like some other people who already responded, I would also choose CDC...(more) 5-21-2015 9:20pm
      because of all the great things I have heard from other mom friends in the know. I do know a couple of people who sent their kids to GB and weren't so happy. Just speaking from personal experience.
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    • CDC is the better choice -- they are totally focused on pre-K, and have more classrooms for the school to create the ideal balances of kids with different kinds of difficulties. 5-21-2015 9:21pm
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    • Also putting in a vote for CDC. It is a very special place and they will make sure they do right by you and your child. 5-21-2015 10:04pm
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    • IMO location should not be such a big determinant here as your child will get bussing regardless. My son attended CDC and made remarkable progress there so I am...(more) 5-21-2015 10:27pm
      biased in that direction but they are both great schools.
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    • was in the same position and neighborhood as you two years ago and decided on CDC and we're happy with the decision. ds adapted just fine to the bus. 5-21-2015 10:36pm
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    • Not for nothing, GB asks for parent financial contribution, and CDC doesn't. 5-22-2015 6:56am
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      • Does GB ask for it from preschool families too? 5-22-2015 7:07am
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        • yes -- among other things, in our interview the president said all pre-k families were expected to have 'skin in the game' 5-22-2015 7:43am
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          • np: The above OR is correct. When my son attended there was pressure to make a substantial financial contribution. 5-22-2015 8:01am
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            • np: I never felt that way, it was whatever you could contribute. 5-22-2015 3:19pm
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      • We chose GB over CDC and have no regrets. I don't really ask where everyone's kid got in but virtually everyone I know at GB also had an acceptance at CDC. While GB asks for a...(more) 5-22-2015 3:53pm
        financial contribution as strong parent participation allows the school to be more successful in obtaining grants. Also in the interview, the director says that parent involvement is important but they personally did not say we needed to make a significant contribution. And CDC also fundraises and I personally think if your kid can get a $70,000 a year education for free, you can donate what you are able.
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        • You should want to donate what you are able. 5-22-2015 3:55pm
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    • Any updates OP? Do you feel any closer to making a decision? 5-22-2015 9:08am
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      • - no subject -...(more) 5-22-2015 1:57pm
        Thankful for all the helpful feedback. Seems cdc has an amazing reputation for pre-schoolers, and my husband is strongly leaning toward it. I don't understand when someone mentioned funding for GB??? You mean it doesn't automatically get approved by cpse if you got a spot? Do you have to sue? Seems cdc has more to offer by much of the feedback. If you send your child to GB, then you must make a financial contribution?
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        • GB will be funded through CPSE but they are vocal about the fact that the money they get through the DOE doesn't come close to covering what they actually spend per kid, and they...(more) 5-22-2015 2:11pm
          solicit donations. You don't have to donate what they ask but they will expect you to donate something so they have 100% participation.
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        • they want 100% participation, you can donate $10 if it's all you can afford 5-22-2015 3:18pm
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    • choose the one that feels right, we had the choice, went with GB, extreme overlap at both 5-22-2015 9:07pm
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    • CDC has on average 24 spots for preschool each year. GB has 8. GB is much more selective -- they craft a preschool class with exactly what they want. Since CDC expanded, they...(more) 5-22-2015 11:26pm
      take a broader range of kids. I've had a child attend both. Loved CDC, but I think you'd be absolutely nuts to turn down a spot at GBS. You'll be kicking yourself when you are doing turning 5.... And if you don't need it, GBS will tell you -- they have so many people who really want those spots, including most of the 24 kids at CDC who are now fighting (with many other kids) for way less than 8 spots for K....
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    • I turned GB down for CDC and loved every minute there. But for elementary GB did not have enough spaces and we didn't get in. So I do definitely think that if there is ANY chance...(more) 5-23-2015 11:55am
      you will need a similar setting for K...take GB.
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      • most of CDC applies at GB 5-23-2015 7:49pm
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  23. Special Needs I've been in a bit of denial about ds's asperger's dx but it sure came out in full force at an intake meeting for social skills camp. time to accept in and move forward, i guess. 5-21-2015 1:47pm (2 replies)
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    • Hugs. It's hard but so helpful. For ds and ultimately you too. 5-21-2015 2:27pm
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    • It helps enormously in understanding how your child ticks, how to effectively communicate with him and help him to communicate effectively with others. 5-22-2015 4:26pm
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  24. Special Needs Need a good ed attorney for a CSE battle for my daughter entering K in the fall. We live in nassau cty but I assume a city lawyer might take it as well....daughter was diagnosed...(more) 5-21-2015 1:01pm (9 replies)
    with autism and district is trying to shove her in to inclusion. Significant info says that it is not the right place. They are standing firm. We have one more meeting before we officially say "eff you"
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    • I think Regina Skyer does work in LI and Westchester as well as NYC, try her office as a start. If not, I bet they will know someone local to you. 5-21-2015 1:02pm
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    • what district ours has self contained. 5-21-2015 1:05pm
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      • Lynbrook 5-21-2015 1:22pm
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        • I'm sorry to hijack your post- What is inclusion like in Lynbrook? Over cowered like NYC? 5-21-2015 1:27pm
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          • it can be like 20 kids - the problem is my daughter is currently in a spec school for 3 years and is in a 12 after moving up from an 8 - she is not ready for inclusion 5-21-2015 1:28pm
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            • They don't have anything self-contained? Does her current teacher agree that she is ready, or is it coming from people who don't know her? 5-22-2015 4:28pm
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      • where are you? 5-21-2015 1:22pm
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        • I'm in NYC- ASD nest. I'm from Rockville Center and would love to be closer to my family and have a house! 5-22-2015 8:02am
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  25. Special Needs List of therapeutic boarding or day schools.. Looking for a new school for my teenage ds 5-21-2015 6:42am (7 replies)
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    • All depends on your dc and where you live. I have been through this process with an educational consultant (poor placement) and without (it worked). Happy to offer advice on...(more) 5-21-2015 8:17am
      what worked for us.
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      • NP- I could desperately use some help for my 15yo ds. Suburb is counseling him out of public. Looking for alternatives to what they are offering specifically therapeutic Brodie. G...(more) 5-23-2015 7:52pm
        Boarding. Any advice would be appreciated.
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        • where are you located and what are your dc needs? 16 hr 32 min ago
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    • You should hire an educational consultant 5-23-2015 12:43am
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      • Np above, have spoken to so many people who were not happy with placement after spending $$$ for consultant. 5-23-2015 7:53pm
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        • np: We spend $$$ on an educational consultant for placement that was a waste of a year. School was terrible, mental healthy care was unprofessional and bordered on malpractice....(more) 16 hr 29 min ago
          Talk to your doctors,ask them where their patients go and are successful. Ask to talk to other parents.
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          • ^I ask my ed consult to join me at the school's team meeting. She agreed the placement was a mistake. 16 hr 28 min ago
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