Special Needs

  1. Special Needs Coming up on 8 months of adhd dx. A few years of trying to figure my ds out in total. He's extremely hyper and I wonder if now or never should I medicate him. In no way is he a...(more) 6 hr 17 min ago (4 replies)
    Is a distraction to a class, he's homeschooled and does lots of physical activities throughout the week but his engines are so revved up. Dh doesn't want to medicate he's anti anything really. We do all the natural things to help but I keep reading that they grow out of it. Ds is 10. Should I ask him for input at his age. He doesn't even quite know he has adhd he just thinks he's highly active because that's how dh described the visit to the np for him.
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    • I think that you and your husband and dc's doctor should get on the same page before you ask for dc's...(more) 6 hr 12 min ago
      input. If you ask him if he wants to be medicated and he says "no" then you and dh decide to try it...harder. If he says yes before you and dog are in agreement...harder. If you and his father agree to try it ( or not) for a specific time frame IF doc wNts it, etc, and talk to the doctor and then ask him that makes more sense to me
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      • That would be smart, I'm not sure myself and my dh is so sure and doc is saying it's our decision and says he knows what he would do but it's up to us. I'm in between really. 6 hr 11 min ago
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        • Are you the person homeschooling him ? Not dh? 6 hr 9 min ago
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          • He has a home tutor 6 hr 8 min ago
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  2. Special Needs 11 yo ds with ADHD takes Focalin XR before school. He is generally in bed by 8:30-9 and up around 6:45-7a.m. Some nights he's fabulous but other...(more) 7 hr ago (10 replies)
    nights he just gets very rigid, esp if we make him go to bed and he feels like there are things he needs to still do. He will start to quarrel and just be irrational about it. It's clear he is tired and exhausted and not at his best, but he can never see that. I wonder sometimes if the rigidity is ADHD, rebound from the meds or just being almost 12 yo. Whatever it is, it's very unpleasant.
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    • 500 mg of melotnin works wonders- ask your neuro/ped whomever 6 hr 59 min ago
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    • I don't have a SN kid, but I imagine any 11yo would balk at that bedtime 6 hr 58 min ago
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      • np: My SN 10yo is exhausted by 8:30pm. Exhausted. 6 hr 55 min ago
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        • or: I hear that, but that doesn't mean they want to go to bed 6 hr 54 min ago
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          • But if they're tired that's all the more reason they need to. 6 hr 53 min ago
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      • np: what would a typical bedtime be? I suspect my DC have very early bedtimes. 6 hr 55 min ago
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        • nnp My 12yo's bedtime is 8:45pm. 6 hr 54 min ago
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        • or: 845-945, depending on wake up time 6 hr 53 min ago
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      • that may be part of it but he really needs the sleep. He is a mess and the behavior is even worse when he doesn't get enough sleep. Ironically, when he is well-rested, he...(more) 6 hr 49 min ago
        recognzies this
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        • ^^I will say that he is bed by then but reads or listens to an audiobook for 30 min 6 hr 48 min ago
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  3. Special Needs Not very affectionate 6yo ds said to me today, right in the middle of a Minecraft mod monologue, "having you for a mom feels like a tradition." when I asked what he meant, he...(more) 7 hr 2 min ago (2 replies)
    said, "you know, how traditions make you feel good inside". and then he went back to his monologue. felt good to get a little something out of him
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  4. Special Needs Best place to live for elementary aged dc with high-functioning autism & ADHD? Public schools only. 7 hr 9 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Not NYC, that's for sure, if you need public. 7 hr 7 min ago
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    • pelham seems fabulous from the outside looking in. all the kids get stability balls and the teachers are young and tolerant... they even have Westchester's leading adhd...(more) 7 hr 7 min ago
      neurologist speak to the PTA
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      • But for autism? 7 hr 6 min ago
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        • that's all i know, i'm in a neighboring sd dying of jewlousy 7 hr 4 min ago
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          • ^^^^jealousy!! 7 hr 4 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Anyone had their child asked to come back to Gaynor for a full day interview? What does that mean? 7 hr 48 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Means they are interested - mom who's ds was at Gaynor 7 hr 48 min ago
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      • We were told it means they have concerns, otherwise they would have offered her a spot. Any other Gaynor families on? 7 hr 45 min ago
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        • we were at gaynor, if they had concerns, I never knew. he had a full day visit, and they took us. 7 hr 44 min ago
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    • do you mean a full day visit, i.e. going to classes and seeing if it's a good fit? 4 hr 45 min ago
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      • OP: Yes. That's what I mean. 4 hr 38 min ago
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  6. Special Needs Ugh, just got an email that dc is lying to his teacher about homework and being organized. He's 10, ms, ASD. Ugh. I told him that if he continues he'll get an aide again. He...(more) 12 hr 57 min ago (17 replies)
    Replied, "I am shutting this down. I don't want an aide. I'll do it." Any ideas to help him. He is refusing all supports like charts,
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    • what's an aside/ 12 hr 56 min ago
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      • Aide (fat finger error) on phone 12 hr 50 min ago
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    • if he is actually motivated, that might do the trick. I would say, "I'm glad you are ready to take charge here! Let's think about what you might need in terms of an...(more) 12 hr 55 min ago
      organizer/notebook/desk space to help you."
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    • it bothers me that you describe a 10yo kid with ASD as lying. but ok. he needs support, reminders etc. doesn't need an aide for that. 12 hr 53 min ago
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      • No I am describing his behavior. He is lying. He says he has his backpacked packed but it's not. He says he did his homework but he did not. HFA can and do lie. 12 hr 49 min ago
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        • ^these are tasks he has done independently for a few years. He can do it. 12 hr 48 min ago
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          • NP: good on you mom for seeing what your child can do and expecting them to do it 12 hr 18 min ago
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    • honestly, hold the threat of an aide over his head. Whatever motivates him to get the job done. 12 hr 53 min ago
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    • OMG, I would KILL for an aide for my ds 12 hr 53 min ago
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      • What kind of school situation is your DS in? Did you ask for an aide and they refused to give you one and if so what was their justification? 12 hr 30 min ago
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        • yes, because there is no money for aides, except for kids who are actually dangerous 12 hr 29 min ago
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          • Did you ask for an FBA? 11 hr 28 min ago
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      • Op: my dc worked so hard to not have an aide he had a 1:1 for years then shared then share push in and now none. He'll be in middle next year and well does not want an aide Bc of...(more) 11 hr 52 min ago
        The stigma. The aide was great while he was younger.
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    • He gets zero accomodation or support now? I'd ask his teacher or hire a tutor to consult & ask for subtle accomodations that can be made. He's got to have reminders, a planner, or...(more) 9 hr 44 min ago
      something to help himself
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      • Or: we tried a visual chart. He took it off the desk. We tried putting on his iPad. He left it in his backpack and used the iPads in the class instead. The teacher was giving...(more) 9 hr 37 min ago
        him prompts so we have up and it was not an issue for a few months then the past two weeks he started pushing boundaries. I'd ask if he did his ho
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        • ^homework and he'd say, "I want to do it at recess I don't like the movie we are watching at recess." I let it go and well I think he is pushing boundaries with it. I emailed...(more) 9 hr 35 min ago
          the bcba. He works with a bcba on consult.
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          • That is a good idea. And key will be finding something that will work for him and he will use 8 hr ago
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  7. Special Needs DS is PDD-NOS and very sweet, which he uses to get his needs met. This is great,but it has gotten to the point where he plays it up with grow ups, who fall for it all the time....(more) 13 hr 40 min ago (1 reply)
    How can we teach him better adaptive techniques that will goiter independence?
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    • How old? THere are worse ways to seek attention, believe me (I have one sweetie-type like this, and one really oppositional one). 13 hr 32 min ago
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  8. Special Needs How does one evaluate 6 yo 1st grader for dyslexia? TIA. 15 hr 47 min ago (17 replies)
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    • I may be wrong but I'd assume it would be a full educational Neuropsych evaluation 15 hr 46 min ago
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      • Not necessarily. A dyslexia reading specialist could tell. No need to pay for testing that has nothing to do with it. Dyslexia hard to diagnose definitively at age 6 as lots of...(more) 15 hr 31 min ago
        kids are not reading yet.
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    • just had mine (7yo) evaluated by neuropsych. Ask your school for a rec of who is good. they do 2 day of testing. give you a diagnosis at the end. 15 hr 46 min ago
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    • Neuropsych evaluation 15 hr 45 min ago
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    • Thanks, ladies. Is this something covered by insurance? 15 hr 44 min ago
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      • Probably not. They told me they would only cover it if the dx was health related but you can always try 15 hr 44 min ago
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        • You do have the option of requesting school district do Eval which would be free. I didn't have a lot of faith in our school eval 15 hr 42 min ago
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      • i called my insurance beforehand and they gave me specific codes to use so i could pay it out of flexpay (pretax dollars) 15 hr 42 min ago
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    • ^^. One more question, how much does this eval usually cost?? 15 hr 39 min ago
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      • $5000 (around there) 15 hr 37 min ago
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      • Usually expensive --4-6,000. Make sure 6 is not too young--sone would say 7 for dyslexia dx 15 hr 37 min ago
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        • This, educators often say that the normal range for developmental readiness to read is ages 4-7, so at 6 might just not be developmentally ready yet. 15 hr 36 min ago
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    • I would call Churchill or Windward -they have numbers you can call for advice/help (not for admissions) and ask what to do. NP at 6 just because a child is behind in reading may...(more) 15 hr 30 min ago
      be overkill.
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      • Thank you very much! Will do! 14 hr 32 min ago
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    • I wouldn't go running to an np just yet at age six unless there are other issues than reading. Is there a reading specialist at school? Or get a private reading tutor to see if...(more) 14 hr 25 min ago
      that will help catch up.
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      • How is her writing and spelling? 14 hr 4 min ago
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    • isn't that too young? 13 hr 39 min ago
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  9. Special Needs I HATE the DOE. Just Sayin' 17 hr 26 min ago (3 replies)
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    • They make it so easy to hate them! 17 hr 23 min ago
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      • Op: they're top notch at that 16 hr 36 min ago
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    • I've had worse headaches with local school than with DOE--they've usually helped me troubleshoot when the local level wasn't getting the job done. 15 hr 6 min ago
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  10. Special Needs Have any of you ever seen (or heard of) a couples therapist who specializes in marriages stressed by having a child with special needs (ADHD etc.)? TIA (x-posted to Toddler...(more) 17 hr 34 min ago (1 reply)
    board).
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    • Wendy Kamaiko-Solano is a therapist who specializes in SN parents so she could be a good resource to try. People have also posted about the Ackerman Institute. 17 hr 32 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Anyone ever stop taking add meds? what happened? 18 hr 5 min ago (3 replies)
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    • my ds forgets them on occasion, and hsi teachers are alike. WTF WAS THAT???? 18 hr 4 min ago
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      • what is his dose? 18 hr 2 min ago
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        • 70 mgs Vyvanse. 17 hr 50 min ago
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  12. Special Needs My ds is changing schools and there won't be after care there for him..he is in 5th grade, will be in a semi-SN class , he has adhd inattentive and anxiety, shows ODD a lot...(more) 18 hr 16 min ago (15 replies)
    especially when not on any meds like now...I work p/t right now so not an emergency but I need something in place for him soon so I can work F/T again. He can't walk home it's a bit far, he could get a bus easily but it's still an ordeal. I don't know how much I can expect from him really. And do not want him to be home alone honestly. What kind of a sitter could I get? he's done school at 3 I would get home between 5 and 6 depending..
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    • what do you mean, what kind of sitter? 18 hr 15 min ago
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      • well he needs someone who can take him to a friends house sometimes, to his music or sports class, help with homework, but I don't need a nanny? he's too old to even have a sitter...(more) 18 hr 13 min ago
        in his mind
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        • you're just hung up on words. you need someone to look after him in the afternoon. call it what you want. a nanny is usually ft. 18 hr 9 min ago
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          • I just wish I could find someone really casual I guess, who could come when I needed them to last minute 17 hr 42 min ago
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            • Sorry, but I don't think such a person exists - one who leaves their calendar open every afternoon but is willing to only be paid for some of that time. 16 hr 44 min ago
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              • I guess I mean someone casual who doesn't mind if on Tuesday I say I don't need you Friday this week and doesn't expect to be paid anyway. with reasonable notice. or just thinking...(more) 15 hr 5 min ago
                and wondering if a high school student would be ok? or college?
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                • GIVE ME A BREAK. Nobody wants that job. 7 hr 19 min ago
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    • We have a P/T nanny, just afterschool hours on days I work. Isn't that what most people do? 18 hr 14 min ago
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      • tons of kids go to an after school care program here...I've only paid $450 a month for before and after care at the school with snacks for the last few years...paying for a sitter...(more) 18 hr 10 min ago
        will be a huge chunk of $ gone :(
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    • we've had PT sitters for the past several years--she does school pickup, brings dcs home or to their activities, and supervises homework/preps dinner til i get home. 18 hr 14 min ago
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      • how much do you pay? 18 hr 12 min ago
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    • I've had alot of luck with students from Columbia's Teachers College. They used to have a site where you could post for a sitter, which is how we found our first sitter. I...(more) 16 hr 38 min ago
      think Bank Street, Barnard, and Hunter may still have similar sites. I pay $30/hour, but that's just my preference because I am looking for someone with very specific qualifications want to keep them happy. I think you could find someone for around $15/child for one children.
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      • $15/hour for one child. I would add $3/hour for a second child. 16 hr 37 min ago
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    • Is there an aide at the school you could hire that would be done at the same time? 13 hr 31 min ago
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    • We've had great luck with NYU students. They do depend on the money, though, so you can't necessarily expect them to be on an on-call basis. Ours pick our kids up from school when...(more) 7 hr 16 min ago
      needed, play with them, help with homework, etc. I pay $20/hour. 2 kids.
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  13. Special Needs Anyone else have 2 kids (or more) w both ASD/ADHD dx's? Looks very different in each other kids. Coming to terms w everything. 19 hr 44 min ago (3 replies)
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    • My 2nd is VERY much on the borderline of an ADHD diagnosis. If I push for it, he would have it. So I'm on the fence. He does reasonably well, but struggles a bit. My older son is...(more) 19 hr 41 min ago
      firmly diagnosed with ADHD.
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      • Two with ADHD here. The older one has what is sometimes called the "ring of fire" version -- very reactive, angry -- and I am on the fence whether it is really ADHD or not. The...(more) 18 hr 26 min ago
        younger one has a unofficial dx, but he is the dictionary definition of ADHD-inattentive, and I have no doubt he'll end up with it.
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    • My oldest has AS (HFA), and my younger was "maybe spectrum" for a while, but they're starting to think not. He does have dyspraxia and SPD, though. If you had two NT kids, you...(more) 19 hr 8 min ago
      wouldn't expect them to be totally alike, right? So neither are two SN kids.
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  14. Special Needs If your kid is on meds-NOT ADHD meds, but meds related to depression/anxiety/mood issues, how did you make the decision to put them on? What non med solutions did you try...(more) 19 hr 45 min ago (2 replies)
    before the meds and how did you know that meds was the right way to go?
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    • We went there mostly because of a lot of pressure/harassment from school, and work necessity such that staying home with ds if he was expelled was out of the question. Risperdal...(more) 19 hr 6 min ago
      does help, but we're finding that he only needs it during school, fine with just counseling support during summers despite the social challenges of camp.
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    • We tried lots of therapy. Every expert in his life told us it was time to try meds. His anxiety was bad, and then when he became older, he became impulsive and physicaly...(more) 7 hr 17 min ago
      aggressive. So we had to put him on an SSRI and Abilify.
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  15. Special Needs If your IEP meeting and parent/teacher conference night were within a week or two of each other, would you skip parent/teacher? 20 hr 37 min ago (16 replies)
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    • Nope 20 hr 36 min ago
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    • How old is the child? 20 hr 36 min ago
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      • 5. Can't think what we'd discuss at P/T conference that we wouldn't have just covered at IEP meeting, and our other ds has conference in a different school on the same day. 20 hr 35 min ago
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        • Was the teacher at the IEP meeting, if yes, then I would not go to an additional P/T conference. 20 hr 33 min ago
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    • If parent/teacher conference were 1st, I'd definitely attend to wage what teacher is thinking 20 hr 36 min ago
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      • IEP meeting is first. 20 hr 36 min ago
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        • I'd still go. In parent conf. you focus on in-class academics/social behavior that you might not have time for in IEP mtg. 20 hr 35 min ago
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          • ^^or reschedule for 2-3 weeks out to follow up on new IEP 20 hr 35 min ago
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          • IME P/T conferences are 15 minutes if you're lucky, while we've had IEP meetings go over an hour. 20 hr 34 min ago
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            • yes, btdt. actually our pt conferences are 10 mins or less then the other parents are waiting outside. 20 hr 32 min ago
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    • I'd wait and see if I'd like more info after the IEP meeting. Or reschedule PT conference 20 hr 8 min ago
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    • no I would not. I never miss an opportunity to discuss dc with her teacher. And some of the subjects will be different. 16 hr 41 min ago
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      • Other than questions about hte report card (which I can ask by e-mail), I can't imagine anything I'd need to discuss a few days after an hour-long IEP meeting that wouldn't have...(more) 13 hr 31 min ago
        been addressed.
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        • I can imagine a lot of things. How dc is doing on particular school work. how dc is relating to peers in class, any special projects in class or school wide that are coming up,...(more) 6 hr 51 min ago
          what are the plans for movement to the next grade and are all the current kids still going to be kept together, and so forth. I could probably come up with many hours worth of things to discuss.
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          • ~~ and I don't view it as "need to discuss." Rather I view it as "want" to discuss. I view it at an "opportunity" for discussion about dc with a knowledgable profess...(more) 6 hr 49 min ago
            free. The IEP meeting for me is adversarial as dc is in an unfunded sn school. It is nothing like a parent-teacher conference and never will be.
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            • If it makes you feel any better, my dc is in a funded school and while our iEP meetings are not adversarial, they are also totally not for me and are pro forma. 15 minutes...(more) 6 hr 30 min ago
              discussing goals, the end. The parent teacher conferences are where I talk to my dc's team about everything real that's going on.
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  16. Special Needs IEP meeting this week for kindergartener with severe dyspraxia and SPD. What am I forgeting to put on my discussion topic list? Want to discuss the mid-range picture a bit,...(more) 20 hr 44 min ago (4 replies)
    where they see him heading for placement down the road. Also when/how it may be appropriate to involve assistive tech or scribing for writing issues, and whether/how much his ocular motor issues are interfering with his progress in reading, and possible supports for that.
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    • He is currently in a 12:1 K-2 bridge class in a neighborhood school. 20 hr 43 min ago
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    • I would not bring up any placement forecasts unless for next year. No one in their right mind would try to guess the future for your child. stick to now and next year. 20 hr 41 min ago
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      • There doesn't seem to be a very wide range of level in the class despite the age range (based on things like the content of the word wall, books in the classroom, etc.). It's not...(more) 20 hr 38 min ago
        clear whether his current rate of progress will keep this setting suitable for ds through 2nd, or even 1st. Not sure what the benchmarks are to consider transitioning to ICT.
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        • You should definitey ask re next year, just not farther forward than that. 20 hr 7 min ago
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  17. Special Needs Has anyone been accepted to Gillen Brewer or Parkside for K yet? 20 hr 47 min ago (1 reply)
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    • I haven't heard anything from GB. Have they started seeing their applicants for elementary school? I know they do things late, but does anyone remember when they start making...(more) 16 hr ago
      their decisions?
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  18. Special Needs What is the price range for a psych (for ADHD meds purposes) in NYC? I left 2 msgs with two different psychs. We already have diagnosis from NP for ADHD inattentive, we tried...(more) 21 hr 19 min ago (22 replies)
    an in network doctor to give meds which worked for 6 mo but now a bump in the road. Will the psych need to do $$ intake etc.? I've already spent $5K at the NP and small amount of money on in network doctor. Feeling a bit frustrated with cost.
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    • My kids have gone to in-network and out of network doctors. I honestly haven't seen much difference. There are limited kinds of drugs and it doesn't seem to be rocket science to...(more) 21 hr 17 min ago
      prescribe them.
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      • This. We found a psych who takes our plan - we have a $50 co-pay for specialists. 21 hr 16 min ago
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        • in NYC? NP thought chances were slim. We did tried in network neuro but NP said he would be pretty limited and far that is the case,like he suggested to just double current dose...(more) 21 hr 15 min ago
          which made ds way too anxious and had no suggestions. If anyone can recommend a great in network provider in Manhattan, that would be appreciated!
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          • Reed Flaschen 21 hr 13 min ago
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        • wowzers, lucky you 20 hr 44 min ago
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    • If its only adhd meds; try talking to your ped. Mine will prescribe on her own. 21 hr 16 min ago
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      • I guess it's just getting the right meds down. This one was working for about 6 months and it needs to be either adjusted or changed but the neuro isn't offering much insight....(more) 21 hr 14 min ago
        NP thinks I need a good psych.
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        • a good pschy. is best but the peds deal with it often now too. 20 hr 59 min ago
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      • Np: true but this is one area i'd go with the expert. Like the pediatric psychiatrist can treat kidney stones, it's better to go to a urologist. 21 hr 12 min ago
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    • Effing huge range. Few very experienced, mature pediatric psychiatrists who specialize take insurance, unfortunately. We mKe do with submitting her invoices and getting OON...(more) 21 hr 14 min ago
      coverage cost back. Sucks
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      • thank you, I am expecting to fully pay I was just wondering about what, I know there's a huge range though, partially venting too! 21 hr 13 min ago
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    • Typically 200-400 and hour. First intake visit with parents is hour and half. Then visit with kid is hour, 21 hr 7 min ago
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      • how often would we have to return for office visits? 21 hr 5 min ago
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        • ^it's not weekly right? 21 hr 5 min ago
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          • Thaet was as far as we got. Psych said it wasn't medical psychologist said therapy wouldn't help. So we didn't get into weekly or extended sessions, just did the intakes for...(more) 21 hr 3 min ago
            both. So we spent nearly two grand and have nothing
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            • I figured it would be a few thousand before we even starts meds, my issue too is I need him to start new meds ASAP. Seems like a long process to wait around for meds. 20 hr 59 min ago
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              • Never got there so sorry don't know 20 hr 58 min ago
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          • NP: Some want to see the kid monthly, especially at first. Our oon psychiatrist would give us some post-dated prescriptions once the kids were on a stable dose. 19 hr ago
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    • I found that, even with a dx in hand, psychiatrists wanted to make their own dx, which meant conducting their own intake, which meant $400-1200 before I could get a scrip....(more) 20 hr 46 min ago
      Absolutely sucks. And none of them take insurance.
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      • ^^^ If you already know what you need and it's just about tweaking dosages, you can try a psychiatric nurse. They're allowed to write scrips. 20 hr 45 min ago
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        • thanks! neuro may come back today with an idea but I think we inevitably need a psych 20 hr 40 min ago
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          • Yeah, we started out with a psych nurse to just maintain existing meds, but eventually realized we needed someone with more experience and knowledge, so we sucked it up and did...(more) 20 hr 39 min ago
            the full intake with a psych. Got a new dx and new meds.
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  19. Special Needs What is better for sleep? 1 mg extended melatonin, or 5mg instant release melatonin? 3-3-2015 9:30pm (5 replies)
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    • Latter 3-3-2015 9:31pm
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      • is it because it allows for more rem sleep? 3-3-2015 9:33pm
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    • 3 mg 3-3-2015 9:32pm
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    • My almost 12yo gets 3mg of extended then a half hour later gets 2.5mg instant. This combo has been working now for 6mo. Before that we just kept increasing the instant and he...(more) 3-3-2015 10:06pm
      would fall asleep quick but then wake up every night. It would work for a while and then he would not fall asleep or wake at night.
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      • small does.5 mg at 4pm then 3mg at bedtime 8pm both immediate release. 18 hr 49 min ago
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  20. Special Needs DS takes Focalin XR. New dose started yesterday and today he had diarrhea two times. Do you think it's the meds or unrelated? (increased from 30mg to 35mg). Teacher also said he...(more) 3-3-2015 9:13pm (4 replies)
    was very tired in school today.
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    • It could be related. 3-3-2015 9:16pm
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    • Argh! Make that diarrhea three times today and now vomit (only liquid because he barely ate today). It's going to be a long night. 3-3-2015 9:30pm
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    • Probably related. This is my ds with Effexor XR. It lasts for a few days and then he adjusts. IMO, I'd rather that side effect than some of the ones he's had that cause a...(more) 22 hr 26 min ago
      change in mood/sleep, etc. We now bump the dose on a Friday and by Monday, he's fine.
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      • ^just read your update- maybe just a virus... 22 hr 25 min ago
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  21. Special Needs I just want a diagnosis for DS - other than "he is who he is NOS." 3-3-2015 9:09pm (2 replies)
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    • I feel you! My youngest has been found qualified and in services for nearly 5 years, gone to specialists, dev ped, etc. and no definitive dx. 20 hr 1 min ago
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    • I just pick the dx that seems to fit dc's symptoms best at the time and say we have a "working dx" of XYZ. It's easier. 19 hr 59 min ago
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  22. Special Needs DS 12- does well at school a mess at home, no focus, emotionally volatile- recently dx as add-inattentive w/ some other specific ld's. hard to know whether to medicate bc...(more) 3-3-2015 8:10pm (1 reply)
    basically ok at school. Thoughts/suggestions.
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    • My dd's meds wear off by mid afternoon. 3-3-2015 9:15pm
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  23. Special Needs Have you ever felt like one of your dc's therapists was stringing you along after the need for therapy had passed? Feeling that way about OT. 3-3-2015 6:11pm (2 replies)
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    • YES YES YES YES YES YES YES. She was a bad breaker upper! We'd been saying for 5 months that it was time to bring up the topic of coming to the end - for now - of therapy. And she...(more) 3-3-2015 6:17pm
      felt very firmly that some thing would happen if dd quit "so suddenly". Then dd told her once-every-3-months shrink that Dr X never brought up the topic of ending their therapy, and dd herself was too embarassed to bring it up, and didn't want to offend this therapist. Shrink said "But…she's the adult, and you're the teenager. It's part of her JOB to bring it up, when you and your parents and she have been discussing it for months. She is SUPPOSED to bring it up with you. It seems like maybe she wasn't doing her job?" DD was so happy with that discussion, she told me. I called the therapist and told her off. Really loudly. That was 6 months ago, and the dire predictions this woman was making haven't happened yet, and dd is so much happier not going to weekly therapy!
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      • That's great. I really like this woman, but we pay out of pocket. I've come to the conclusion that dc isn't really gaining anything from going to the sensory gym. He has anxiety,...(more) 3-3-2015 6:47pm
        Not sensory issues and is getting appropriate intervention with a psychologist. I'm sure some of the stuff the OT does are also useful for anxiety, but that's not really the OT's job.
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  24. Special Needs I realllllly do not want to go out tonight with 2 other couples who I barely know to hear some singer. I dont wanna! 3-3-2015 6:10pm (4 replies)
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    • cancel. 3-3-2015 6:11pm
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      • I can't. Dh has been so psyched for weeks, they bought tix, it's a big &%$!@# planned outing. Dammit. 3-3-2015 6:18pm
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    • I can't imagine going on a weeknights 3-3-2015 6:11pm
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    • Managing to squeeze in adult social time is really hard for me--I'd make the best of it and try to enjoy. 21 hr 4 min ago
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  25. Special Needs My dc was deferred to CBST during our january IEP meeting. The doe social worker told me during the meeting she didn't think her supervisor would approve the deferral...so she was...(more) 3-3-2015 5:57pm (2 replies)
    Right. She called to tell me that her supervisor isn't approving her recommendation for deferral. Grrrrrrr. Now what? I have to spend more money and head of a hearing? Shit we are blue collar and it's hard. Thanks for letting me vent. Btw my dc is already at a great school with a Nickerson letter and we've seen such improvement. Dammit...I'm not upset with the social worker it's the damn supervisor that has never seen my DC. She said she would reiterate her recommendations at the hearing. Why the hell does this have to be so hard
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    • I'm sorry that totally sucks. Can you ask for a reconvene and have your lawyer attend with you? 3-3-2015 6:01pm
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      • Op: I'm not sure. I just finished emailing my lawyer to see what she says. I will ask her about this reconvene you mention. Thx 3-3-2015 6:05pm
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