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  1. Special Needs Repost: any info or experience with Summit in Nyack? Thx. 30 min ago (0 replies)
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  2. Special Needs Helping good friend find school for her 11th grade ds. Aspberger's, extremely bright. Has been at ms boarding and been suspended 2x for behavioral issues. Any ideas local or...(more) 33 min ago (2 replies)
    boarding? Thx.
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    • where? 32 min ago
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    • was the boarding supportive program? or just regular boarding? 31 min ago
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  3. Special Needs Does windward only take kids with dyslexia or do that also take kids with an ld affecting writing? 8 hr 42 min ago (1 reply)
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    • it's for "language based learning disabilities," so they'll consider those witha variety of issues 8 hr 28 min ago
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  4. Special Needs And that's a wrap... (family planning)...(more) 11 hr 30 min ago (4 replies)
    Two dss, one mildly ASD, one NT. For years I wrestled with being two and done (and daughterless). But I kept coming back to: ASD ds needs so much of me and NT ds needs (more than he gets of) me. I'm turning 40 in a few weeks and DH made the appt to get snipped. Bittersweet. We have lots of blessings. A daughter was not one of them.
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    • you will have awesome daughersin law and granddaughters. i know it 11 hr 29 min ago
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    • best to you - dh and i are wrestling through wanting a 3rd now. not easy! 9 hr 41 min ago
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    • I wrestled with being done at 2 (both dh and I come from big families). But we ended up realizing -- that's what cousins are for. Nurture those relationships. 1 hr 27 min ago
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  5. Special Needs Looking for a pediatrician on the east side in Manhattan that is amenable to following a delayed vaccination schedule? thanks 12 hr 1 min ago (7 replies)
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    • You know there's no medical or scientific basis for doing that, right? You just delay your child's full protection. 12 hr ago
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    • Lol. Throw money at any one of them, and they'll bend the rules for you 12 hr ago
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    • Most will agree if they think that otherwise you will skip your vax altogether. 11 hr 58 min ago
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      • Not because they don't internally think you're being silly, but because they just want to get you to vax your kid at all, and not scare you away. 11 hr 49 min ago
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    • Never seen a doc who advocated a delayed schedule (rather than tolerating it for nervous parents) who wasn't selling some sort of snakeoil supplements or "natural" remedies. 11 hr 48 min ago
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    • most have tolerated it just to ease parents fears, but I think (hope) with this latest outbreak of measles these pediatricians will start saying no 10 hr 55 min ago
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    • Really? Even with this latest outbreak of measles you still want this? Believe the science not the bs ppl are telling you. No link to autism...get the protection for your dcs. In...(more) 10 hr 13 min ago
      This day and age with so many opting out...it's not safe for babies anymore. I wouldn't delay
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  6. Special Needs I am listening again to ds practicing Hebrew for his bar mitzvah. I never, ever thought we'd get here. Amazing. Tutor is now telling him how much improved he is from a few weeks...(more) 15 hr 53 min ago (1 reply)
    Ago. His voice sounds so beautiful. Shocking.
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  7. Special Needs 5th grade DS with high IQ, very low processing speed and anxiety. No IEP and academic work had not been a problem, but starting to slip on test (probably due to low...(more) 16 hr 33 min ago (6 replies)
    processing speed). Would you push for IEP? Neuropsych says she will advocate for one but district policy usually does not allow until one area of school is below average. We aren't there yet, but declining fairly rapidly
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    • yes, for test modifications 16 hr 33 min ago
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      • OP: right, it seems the processing speed gets him on those standardized tests when he has to shift gears in operational thinking between each question. 16 hr 31 min ago
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        • ^^^ but have you dealt with a district that says not until testing is below 50 %-ile? 16 hr 31 min ago
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    • in a G & T class or regular? 16 hr 31 min ago
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      • OP: both, our district only pulls out for some subjects all kids are in gen ed though. He gets the pullout due to the high IQ, but might be slipping in math (IQ isn't slipping,...(more) 16 hr 30 min ago
        but percentile on standard tests is)
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    • That would be tough. Dc's processing speed is below 1%, they couldn't measure it so slow, and gets testing accomodations. But other scores in the teens (e.g. 15%) were...(more) 13 hr 48 min ago
      considered "average." Personally it seems OTT to ask for IEP or accomodations for your situation, but if you can get it, I guess more power to you.
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  8. Special Needs Good luck with your storm, ladies. You'll need it. Apparently it's already taking a toll in you. 17 hr 22 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Huh? The board is pretty quiet today and no one seems cranky. 17 hr 16 min ago
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    • Not much of a deal in NYC yet, although that might change. I just commuted home on the subway without incident, and walked from the station in about two inches of powdery snow. 15 hr 43 min ago
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  9. Special Needs So have assholes been here all day because they are stir crazy from the storm or is it just now? 17 hr 26 min ago (3 replies)
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  10. Special Needs Has anyone used or has a child who used Dexadrine for ADHD? My dd has adhd and has been through 3 drugs that have not worked. She was just prescribed this today. Any feedback...(more) 17 hr 31 min ago (0 replies)
    Woukd be much appreciated!
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  11. Special Needs I have a neuropsych feedback appointment in 10 minutes. What might I forget to ask? 18 hr 34 min ago (2 replies)
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    • you called to confirm the office is open, right? 18 hr 33 min ago
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      • We're doing it over the phone! 18 hr 30 min ago
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  12. Special Needs Having my 11yo mild/m/s asd dd teach her 7yo ds piano, since music is her thing, and I think that being in a teacher/leader role would be good for her. So much easier said than...(more) 18 hr 57 min ago (4 replies)
    done (10 minutes into 1st 'class')
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    • Teaching isn't the same thing as being able to do something well. I don't think that this is fair to the 7 yo unless she enjoys it 18 hr 55 min ago
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      • the 7yo is a kid that finds fun in everything. Also is learning another instrument formally 18 hr 53 min ago
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        • ^and of course I know that teaching is not the same thing as doing something well. That is the whole point of this. She is great at piano, but not good at giving (or receiving)...(more) 18 hr 52 min ago
          instructions. Thats why I'm hoping to leverage her talent to improve what she's lacking in.
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          • That's fine then, your wording left it unsaid whether the 7 yo was happy about the arrangement 18 hr 38 min ago
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  13. Special Needs Is there ever any way the NYC DOE will allow a kid with only mild delays to delay K a year? November birthday, physically small, speech and mild motor delays...the idea of sending...(more) 19 hr 9 min ago (30 replies)
    him to K at 4 really kills me. I'm guessing the answer to this will be a resounding "no," but figured I'd ask. Thanks in advance for any replies.
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    • Just red shirt him 19 hr 9 min ago
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    • I don't think so... is he in SN preschool now? Does he get services? He will have a Turning 5 meeting scheduled w/r/t to his IEP and moving from CPSE to CSE... 19 hr 6 min ago
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      • He's in a MS preschool now (he's just turned 3, I'm thinking ahead), we couldn't get a spot at a SN for this year, partly because we couldn't apply until after we transitioned...(more) 18 hr 47 min ago
        CPSE and that didn't happen until May last year. We were thinking about applying to SN preschools for next year, but he's doing fine where he is, they have a great student-teacher ratio and he's comfortable there. Who knows if wedl get a spot, anyway. He gets ST and OT right now.
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        • WAY too early to be worrying about this. He has his entire pre-K year up ahead, and you have no idea where he will be a year from now. 18 hr 46 min ago
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          • Yeah, I know, I'm a worrier...we're in the process of making lots of big family decisions right now that will have a big impact on where we live in the next few years, so I'm...(more) 18 hr 33 min ago
            trying to get a feel for what our options will be.
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            • are you looking to move out of the city? 17 hr 56 min ago
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              • we're thinking about it, but still really undecided. 17 hr 20 min ago
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                • kind of don't even know where to start considering...we're not from this area, so it's all unknown to us 17 hr 19 min ago
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        • If ms preschool is working well for you, it is unlikely that ds is delayed enough to qualify for pendency. 18 hr 45 min ago
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    • You can sometimes delay K, but it's getting the CPSE services another year that's the issue. 19 hr 6 min ago
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    • I would find a small private or parochial and send him there for a few years. I wouldn't send a small and not advanced 4yo boy to K. 19 hr 6 min ago
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      • We would happily send him to private for another year of pre-K and K, but we're worried we won't be able to get into any, I'm told all the privates in our area (downtown) are...(more) 18 hr 42 min ago
        extremely competitive. We'll certainly look into SN schools if that's our only good option...it just feels a bit drastic in his case.
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        • I don't think SN is appropriate only based on what you have written here (and many of the SN privates don't start until later grades, like 3rd). 18 hr 40 min ago
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          • Yeah, that's what we're thinking, too, but we're worried he won't get into MS privates. He doesn't shine on playdates, that's for sure. 18 hr 30 min ago
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      • but she will probably not get services paid for by cpse 12 hr 52 min ago
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    • you as a mom have a final say in that you can just not send him to school. not required by law to send to school until 6yo. 19 hr 5 min ago
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      • yes, but DOE can insist the child enter 1st rather than K 18 hr 21 min ago
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    • Custom in NYC is to send on time, but with appropriate services. Mild issues do not get you an extra year of pre-K unless you want to do it out of pocket and either stay private,...(more) 19 hr 2 min ago
      or skip K in public school.
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    • Meet with the Principal, we did it for late birthday. There is a clause somewhere now that says they can make exceptions for late birthdays with Principal and her supervisor's...(more) 19 hr 2 min ago
      permission.
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      • Did you meet at the beginning of the admissions period? Did you need evidence, support, IEP, etc? 18 hr 38 min ago
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        • my child did not have an IEP but struggled w/anxiety in preschool so we knew another year would be beneficial. he did an extra year of preschool...(more) 18 hr ago
          then when I wanted to enroll him in K, I requested a mtg w/principal, she was very understanding - however - there were no promises, we had to wait until summer for her to officially give me the green light but she said all along not to worry. It was probably one of the best decisions.
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    • Yes. I know two kids who repeated K in a NYC public. 18 hr 51 min ago
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      • You can repeat, you just can't hold back pre-emptively. 18 hr 47 min ago
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        • this 17 hr 57 min ago
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          • Your ds may surprise you. When my ds was 4, he was just starting to speak in sentences, such poor motor tone and muscle stamina that he needed a stroller-as-wheelchair pass when...(more) 15 hr 39 min ago
            we went to Disney, not potty trained at all, etc. Now at 5, he speaks close to age-appropriately, can walk at least half a mile at a shot, swims with no float, in underwear, and starting to read. He constantly reminds me not to underestimate him.
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            • That's great! Thanks for the encouragement, and I'm so happy for you and your son. Was he at a CPSE preschool? 15 hr 10 min ago
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    • My nt December bday 4yo is staying at private preschool next year and entering K at 5yo. We OKd it with the principal of our public school 13 hr 5 min ago
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      • NYC school approved this more than a year in advance? 12 hr 9 min ago
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  14. Special Needs Do you think a Wednesday 8AM IEP meeting in NYC is happening? 20 hr 16 min ago (6 replies)
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    • Wed. weather should be ifne 20 hr 15 min ago
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    • doubtful 20 hr 15 min ago
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    • ugh. tough one. 20 hr 15 min ago
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    • i'd call in 20 hr 15 min ago
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    • Yes. But it will start at 8:30. Which is what would have happened anyway. :) 20 hr 11 min ago
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    • school will likely be open on Wednesday so yes 20 hr 1 min ago
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  15. Special Needs Anyone know Regina Skyler's rates or have a copy of her retainer agreement for this year?...(more) 22 hr 18 min ago (19 replies)
    Just got Rosenberg's retainer agreement and it is intense. For preschool pendency the retainer is $6500 plus $5000 for any hearings and the retainer agreement makes clear that one hearing is usually required. Ugh.
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    • Skyer is much less. $3500 retainer, I think. 22 hr 18 min ago
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      • $3750 22 hr ago
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      • for pendency thought? I remember alomst 10 years ago it was $5000 at Skyer. regular sue and settle is $3750. 21 hr 47 min ago
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    • Pendency is more for Skyer - about $9K. 22 hr 2 min ago
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      • op: thanks - I've just put a call in. Kind of crazy how they don't seem to want to answer what seems to be a very basic question over the phone. Hoping they will send me the...(more) 21 hr 1 min ago
        retainer info for pendency soon.
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    • This is why we did K at a small parochial instead of suing for pendency. It only cost $6k. Sure, the year was kind of a disaster, but we saved money! 21 hr 37 min ago
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      • ^^^ To be fair, we decided we might as well spend the money to give K a shot. Now he's repeating K at a public school, and the year is going well. 21 hr 37 min ago
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        • At NYC public? 21 hr 36 min ago
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          • No, we moved to the burbs. 21 hr 36 min ago
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            • Was that your plan all along or did you decide to move because the year was a disaster? 21 hr 35 min ago
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              • Constellation of things. Needed more space, mainly. Our zoned public was good, but huge, which was not going to work for our kid. Felt like both kids needed more access to nature....(more) 21 hr 33 min ago
                But yes, thank god we did move, b/c it was clear by the end of the year that dc was going to get counseled out, and god knows where we would have sent him.
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                • So glad you had lead time so you weren't stuck frantically looking for a place outside the city! I'm glad he's thriving now. 21 hr 30 min ago
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                  • Thank you! We saw where things were going by March, bought a house, moved over the summer. 21 hr 30 min ago
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        • op: Wish that option made sense, but our dc is just clearly not ready for K of any sort. He needs another year of CPSE preschool. And if he were two weeks younger we could do this...(more) 20 hr 52 min ago
          without spending 11K. Argh!!
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          • Instead of getting a lawyer can't he go to private preschool of some kind, then roll in public K? 13 hr 40 min ago
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      • np: How did the year impact your dc if it was a disaster? 17 hr 24 min ago
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        • It only started really unraveling about halfway through the year. He still says things like "I hate Mrs. ____" (his teacher), so that sucked. But it also prompted us to push for a...(more) 16 hr 43 min ago
          shared aide in his new school, which is helping. I'll be honest -- it wasn't a great year, but I don't feel like he was irreparably scarred either.
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          • I ask because my now 8th grader recalls his K teacher in catholic school and says, she was crazy. And she was. Terrible teacher, we left mid year to go to our local public and...(more) 12 hr 27 min ago
            meet his awesome K teacher.
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            • His original K teacher was actually quite nice, but just not up to the challenge. 10 hr 30 min ago
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  16. Special Needs Has anyone had an interview at Windward yet? If so, what grade is your DC? We haven't heard yet. 23 hr 14 min ago (1 reply)
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    • ds is at windward. I know someone who has had an interview for 5th. typically they fill the middle school first then lower school. When we applied we had our interview in...(more) 22 hr 21 min ago
      Janiary, and it was canceled a few times for snow days, which made the whole thing so much more awesome. You can call, it doesn't hurt your chances if you call. But they are closed today and I'm sure will be closed tomorrow
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  17. Special Needs How much should I expect teachers to help my inattentive f dc become more independent? She has a para for mobility and right now the para or the teachers do everything for dd-...(more) 23 hr 31 min ago (6 replies)
    putaway her coat, lunch, etc. She is able to do all these things fine physically (the mobility para really is only needed for safety on stairs, but does way way more than I'd like her to for dd), but she is incredibly distractable and needs lots of prompting. Can I ask the teachers and para to please prompt dd to put away her own things or is it unrealistic to ask them to spend time prompting her when there are 27 kids in the class? First grade btw.
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    • Are ADLs like this, independence akills, goals in her IEP? 23 hr 20 min ago
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      • No, the goals on the iep are mostly pt and ot goals 23 hr 17 min ago
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        • ^^ should I not expect teachers to want to do anything that's not on the iep? 23 hr 17 min ago
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          • More like - if it's on the iEP, they HAVE to do it and it's the only sure way to make certain it's addressed and that if it's not, you have a way to make noise about it. 23 hr 9 min ago
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    • What we did was share the aide with one dc then two dc then 3 then 4 then dc went into an ICS class where there was an aide for the while class now dc has no aide. The aide did...(more) 21 hr 58 min ago
      all packing. By middleschool dc was fully ms if dc needs help packing in middleschool dc will need an aide. I know you dc is in first - I'm giving you long term as that helped me plan better.
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      • ^and I kept an aide as long as possible. Bc of the large class size and how little my dc needed the aide the aide helped the whole class and the teachers loved having dc. Dc...(more) 21 hr 56 min ago
        started resenting the aide when he got older but IMO keep the aide
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  18. Special Needs Summit is dismissing one hour early today 23 hr 57 min ago (9 replies)
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    • and 23 hr 56 min ago
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      • just wondering what other schools were doing 22 hr 28 min ago
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    • I'm sure they will not be in session tomorrow. They have cancelled when DOE does not, because there's so much travel involved for everyone who goes there. 23 hr 54 min ago
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      • i'm sure no one will be in session tomorrow 22 hr 28 min ago
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    • Windward is closed all day today 22 hr 21 min ago
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      • it is already really storming up here in Westchester. 18 hr 18 min ago
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    • MMFS is open today but all afterschool activities are cancelled, same as the public schools. 21 hr 38 min ago
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    • CPELC is bussing home an hour early as well. 21 hr 32 min ago
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    • winston has exams so everyone is out at 10:30 anyway 21 hr 29 min ago
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  19. Special Needs My 9 yo day dreams a lot and I really believe him when he says he "forgets" to do chores that I ask him. He does well in school and is great socially. Is this ADHD or behavorial...(more) 1-25-2015 10:55pm (8 replies)
    or just being a kid? My older ds has ADHD but it's really different with him. Much more global and interferes with school function. Thoughts?
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    • ^^I believe him because he always apologizes immediately and does it right away. 1-25-2015 10:56pm
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    • He's 9, not 12 1-25-2015 10:57pm
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      • meaning I'm expecting too much? 1-25-2015 11:02pm
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    • Sounds a lot like my add kid with no focus and exec functioning issues. He just forgets and easily spaces out. Ritalin just barely does its job. 1-25-2015 10:57pm
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      • how old is he? 1-25-2015 11:02pm
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    • Mine wasnt dxd until 15, but had been struggling in chool for years by then. Until 6th grade, school was fine. With hindsight, there were many signs we did not recognize 1-25-2015 10:58pm
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    • If he does well in school, don't worry about it. He can focus. 1-26-2015 2:21am
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      • if in future years he cannot focus in school you can get him diagnosed, but right now not remembering to do chores is not abnormal for his age. 1-26-2015 2:22am
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  20. Special Needs How would you have reacted? 11 yo ds with ADHD has poor social skills. He is doing Boy Scouts this year and it's been a challenge. He is not ready...(more) 1-25-2015 10:46pm (12 replies)
    to do the campouts himself, mostly because the exec function piece is hard for him. He is quirky and his troop is actually not very quirky. He just came back from a weekend campout where ds said he had a great time. I was talking to dh afterward and dh said ds did OK except for breakfast, when his group served a food he did not like and ds was "you know, antisocial, like he always is." I didn't like how dh described ds as antisocial because, really, ds is not. And I felt like it was a mean way to describe your own kid, you who know has challenges. I will also say my dh's social skills are poor. So it was doubly frustrating. WHat do you think?
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    • You should try camping with kids and come home in a good mood 1-25-2015 10:47pm
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      • Oh, like like like 1-25-2015 10:48pm
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      • ha! I actually spent the weekend with the other kid doing scout stuff. so I get it. I think I just feel that dh's use of "anti-social"suggests he thinks ds is choosing to be this...(more) 1-25-2015 10:49pm
        way.
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        • I think it's semantics. You describe ds as having poor social skills, DH calls him anti-social. I wouldn't get upset about it. 1-26-2015 2:24am
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    • Sounds like your dh needs to take a chill pill and let ds be who he is, quirks and all 1-25-2015 10:47pm
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    • I think he had a fine time, and he's hard to handle, and dh is wiped out 1-25-2015 10:47pm
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      • yes. Tired. Disappointed too, but was there for him. he is just telling you. 1-25-2015 10:50pm
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    • Your dh was probably tired from camping and maybe frustrated with seeing your ds struggle. Let this one go. 1-25-2015 10:49pm
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      • This. Taking my 16yo ADD dd on an outing is frustrating and exhausting to me. 1-25-2015 10:51pm
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    • i think it sounds like it's hard to hear a report about your kid struggling with his vulnerabilities, and it's probably equally hard for your dh to witness them. he could have...(more) 1-25-2015 10:49pm
      expressed it with more sensitivity, but it sounds like the tow of you are on the same page when it comes to understanding how ADHD affects your ds in the day to day.
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    • He was calling a spade a spade. It's okay to be out of sync, and it's okay for dh to call that antisocial. Sounds like ds did well and dh was tired. 1-25-2015 10:49pm
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    • If my kid has hard times with social skills and DH said he was being anti social..I wouldn't be pissed..he was just calling it how it was since you asked 1-26-2015 6:49am
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  21. Special Needs We just got our dd mid year reports for kindergarden, so they are our first ones....she is in a private sn school...the scores go 1-5- she has mostly 2s in reading, math, al the...(more) 1-25-2015 10:01pm (14 replies)
    categories etc...then in the arts she excels, musi- drama- art some 4s..we are in the arts, but cant help be disappointed and worried...nit sure what to make of this.
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    • I wouldn't make anything of it. It's K. Sounds like she's doing well. 1-25-2015 10:02pm
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      • 2s is well? 1-25-2015 10:03pm
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        • or: Sorry, I meant to say "fine." I would' worry. It's K. Talk to teachers. 1-25-2015 10:04pm
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    • why is she in SN? 1-25-2015 10:06pm
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      • Language processing issues 1-25-2015 10:07pm
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        • It sounds like the scores make sense. She's obviously talented and with some help, I'm sure she'll catch up 1-25-2015 10:10pm
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          • Op thanks everyone, worried.... 1-25-2015 10:11pm
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            • I mean hs in kindless...you meet to get it out of yiur head now that even at sn school she is fog to get all 4's and 5's. go to the school and get an explanation fo the grading...(more) 1-25-2015 10:43pm
              system there. Ask why 2's. ask where she w relative t the other kids. Ask what direction she's going in. Those "grades" are fairly meaningless. The
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              • ^^the prose is way more meaningful and important. I promise. It's hard to see, ESP if you and dh did well in school. B just remember, she isn't in the school you went to. She's...(more) 1-25-2015 10:44pm
                In a different place with a different system. Sorry for all the typos. iPad.
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                • Our SN school never gives really high marks for the first part of the year. the high numbers are basically saying the child has mastered all the material. However, i don't know...(more) 1-26-2015 2:27am
                  what the numbers mean for your school. But it's only K - kids are developmentally all over the place.
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    • In my experience, almost on purpose at sn school, the "grades" start at 2 and I prove to 4 or 5 by year's end. Have you had a conference? 1-25-2015 10:41pm
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    • My k dd (who also has language processing issues) is in a public school, in a co-taught classroom and received may 1s ad 2s on her report card. I actually just had a conversatio...(more) 1-25-2015 10:44pm
      with her teachers who said that they think I should just hold tight and it will come together for her by end of 1st. There are huge developmental leaps in k-1 for children without processing issues, let alone for kids like ours :)
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      • This. My K in self-contained in public school had teacher say that the grading rubric is developmentally appropriate for an NT 6 yo. "And your ds is neither NT nor 6" (he's 5). 1-26-2015 7:11am
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        • She basically told us to ignore the numbers and focus on the comments. 1-26-2015 7:12am
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  22. Special Needs Any parents who mainstreamed theor child too early? I am asking because my child is doing well at SN schpool but am thinking about long-term plan. I am updating neuro and getting...(more) 1-25-2015 9:56pm (4 replies)
    Salsberg's opinion. I know it is a balancing act. I did not want to see failure since he is thriving in all areas but also want to know if MS is correct. I understand the current success is due to the support but unsure if all this support will be necessary in the future. So I am mapping potential future education paths. Looking forward to others' experiences.
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    • What is the dx? What type of SN school is he in now? 1-25-2015 9:57pm
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      • mostly expressive language didorder, strong reader sobfsr and good receptive language but writing as lso difficult. Cutrently at school for avetage to bright kids with LD 1-25-2015 10:21pm
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    • sn school was severely stunting my sn dc. Mainstreamed back with tons of support and doing incredibly better with in my view much better prospects for long term success. 22 hr 4 min ago
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    • We mainstreamed after K because while SN program was great for ds's emotional regulation, he was falling behind academically. His academic are much stronger but we traded in...(more) 18 hr 40 min ago
      therapeutic for 'get with the program.' He complies with the rules (more or less but mostly more) but I'm not sure he's growing his coping toolkit apart from copying peers (not a bad thing, mind you, it's how NTs do it, but he needs more explicit help). All and all I'm very grad we pushed it BUT it is on us to navigate outside supports.
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  23. Special Needs Moms who know, what am i to expect at my dd's first iep meeting? what to expect/demand/know. dd is 3 1-25-2015 8:26pm (2 replies)
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    • 3 or 3rd grade? 1-25-2015 8:27pm
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      • 3 yo, she is aging out of ei 1-25-2015 8:28pm
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  24. Special Needs I just booked the first meeting with a schools consultant for a SN boarding school in the US (we are expats).. I feel like a terrible parent, but his needs can't be met long term...(more) 1-25-2015 8:02pm (14 replies)
    here..
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    • You are NOT a terrible parent. Not even a little bit. You need to do what's best for your child & your family. I've heard many success stories for SN kids at boarding schools. 1-25-2015 8:02pm
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      • This. You're doing the right thing by exploring all options. 1-25-2015 8:03pm
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        • I dreamt last night we were looking into residential facilities for his adult life in cities we'd never been to, and I kept forgetting my luggage,. passport, phone.. and I woke up...(more) 1-25-2015 8:04pm
          with tears streaming down my face
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          • Oh, you just made me choke up. Wish I could give you a hug. 1-25-2015 8:06pm
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            • thanks.. I'll post my list once I've met them, who knows, I may be roadtripping around the US in the next few months! 1-25-2015 8:09pm
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      • it will mean I have to stop working or go part time, I don't see how we could handle the back & forth at my current work schedule. 1-25-2015 8:03pm
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    • op: any thoughts on Dunbar Associates? they are the only US schools consultant that has a team where we live 1-25-2015 8:05pm
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    • a terrible parent is one who doesn't try to meet the child's needs. if you can't do it where you are, do it somewhere else if you can do so. good luck. 1-25-2015 8:20pm
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      • thank you .. moving the whole family is also an option but unlikley we'd be able to find work.. also, in theory ds will be going to some kind of college program, so it would only...(more) 1-25-2015 8:23pm
        gain us 4 years of him living at home.. (which is a pretty tough haul with his behaviors)
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        • you also have to take into consideration how a move would affect you and the other members of the family. it may well be that one person is best suited by being in a location that...(more) 1-25-2015 8:41pm
          isn't the same as where the others are. most families first face this at age 18 w/the start of college but some do routinely face these issues younger w/boarding school or military deployments, for example.
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          • it would be very hard on us.. both of our careers are quyite specialized to this location and dh is not american, we don't have a natural home to move "back" to. and we'd be...(more) 1-26-2015 12:32am
            facing it anyway at 18!
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    • Why can't your family move back to the US? 1-25-2015 9:32pm
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      • same reason many people can't pick up and move to some Sn friendly suburb...they can't, they choose not to, they find a suitable alternative. Myabe you don't mean it this way but...(more) 1-25-2015 9:46pm
        you sound pretty judgemental
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      • it wouldn't be moving "back", we've lived abroad nearly our entire working lives, and have no home there. It would be starting a new life, so that ds could do hs years living at h...(more) 1-26-2015 12:34am
        ome. Which I'm not even sure is the best thing for him. He LOVED sleepaway camp
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  25. Special Needs School will be open tomorrow- what about kids taking BOE buses home late in the afternoon? Worried about this. 1-25-2015 4:15pm (5 replies)
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    • the bad stuff is commute home mayor said, that rush hour 1-25-2015 4:16pm
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    • Then don't send them 1-25-2015 4:17pm
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    • i don't think they'll be a problem that early ... if there is, i'm sure they'll cut the day early but i really doubt it. No school on tuesday most likely 1-25-2015 5:07pm
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    • they canceled all after school programs 1-25-2015 5:15pm
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    • Depending on the weather...if it starts earlier than they say, I may just pick up dc early from school. I don't want him stuck on a school bus 1-25-2015 7:53pm
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