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  1. Special Needs So is my ds the only one who has been rejected by a SN school thus far? Anyone accepted yet? 4 hr 56 min ago (12 replies)
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    • We got rejected by AMAC and told he needs a more supportive environment. I'm so upset. 4 hr 41 min ago
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      • np: I am sorry 4 hr 33 min ago
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        • Thank you. I'm just desperately trying to come to terms with what he really needs. 4 hr 32 min ago
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          • At least they gave you some feedback. Are you applying to others? You will find the right place, I promise. 4 hr 29 min ago
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            • Yes we have other but we considered them the most restrictive. I hope he gets in somewhere though. 4 hr 25 min ago
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              • Perhaps this early rejection with feedback is a good thing - better to know now if you need to consider more restrictive settings. But I'm sorry. All of this sucks. 4 hr 21 min ago
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                • Oh I know. I'm glad time wasn't wasted really just hurts to hear that your child needs something more. 4 hr 20 min ago
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                • op: It's probably better to know, yes. Sorry, OR, that your ds was rejected. :( 3 hr 42 min ago
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    • we haven't even been interviewed yet! how can you already know 4 hr 28 min ago
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    • I haven't even mailed out an application yet 4 hr 24 min ago
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      • what school is AMAC? 4 hr 22 min ago
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        • np: an autism school in Manhattan. they use ABA 4 hr 17 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Not exactly SN related -- my 4 year old son is going as Elsa tomorrow trick or treating. I've been supportive of his choice, but now I'm worried about his getting teased and how...(more) 5 hr 8 min ago (12 replies)
    to help him with that. Do you all have advice on what to say if he gets crap from other kids tomorrow? Interesting he's usually into traditional "boy" stuff (Trains and other vehicles, Star Wars, superheroes) but he just really thinks Elsa is cool.
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    • Many 4 yo boys are into girly stuff, pink. He likely won't get teased 5 hr 7 min ago
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    • He is 4. When my ds was 4 he styled Dora's backpack. No one gave a crap 5 hr 7 min ago
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    • I guess he can't tell them it's ironic. 5 hr 7 min ago
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    • My ds (3.5) would think your ds is the coolest. 5 hr 6 min ago
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    • other 4 year olds will not think much of it. 6 and 7 year old boys might. 5 hr 5 min ago
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      • They won't know it's a boy anyway 4 hr 56 min ago
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    • Is your son SN, or are you posting on the SN board because you think we can relate to a boy wanting to dress up as a girl? I'm genuinely curious. 4 hr 58 min ago
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    • I would have given him boy choices. 4 hr 32 min ago
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    • To be honest it's fine. My ds is a tween. He dresses in girls clothing everyday almost. Halloween he's going as Elphaba from Wicked. 4 hr 31 min ago
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    • OP: sorry, I got home from work late and had to have something to eat. I'm on this board because I have 2 SN kids; my son has no dx but he gets CPSE services. I asked here...(more) 4 hr 1 min ago
      because I like the supportive environment here and I avoid the toddler board like the plague. Thanks to all of you for helping me not to worry too much! He can be kind of sensitive, and I just want him to have fun and not get set off by thoughtless comments. And for the record I did offer lots of "boy" costumes, but he knows what he wants!
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      • he sounds so cute. 3 hr 38 min ago
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  3. Special Needs Are there any SN schools comparable to Summit (Queens) in the Chicago area? 6 hr 41 min ago (0 replies)
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  4. Special Needs Seivert people: has anyone found someone they like, for dc? 6 hr 47 min ago (1 reply)
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  5. Special Needs Anyone hear of fusion academy? I am wondering if I should pull my ds who is rude to teachers but never rude to tutors one on one from regular school and try that. 6 hr 48 min ago (5 replies)
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    • No but have heard of my learning springboard ...was considering one on one for my son at one point...here is link:...(more) 6 hr 41 min ago
    • I know 2 dc there. Both are very happy, but they are difficult kids to place. I don't think it's great socially 6 hr 20 min ago
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      • My son will probably get in to at east one of the mainstream schools where he is applying (from sn private). His academics are good enough for them. He will need tutoring and...(more) 6 hr 12 min ago
        support but that is every mainstream kid in New York, practically. But he is rude to the teachers when he s frustrated. Also think he is now labeled and has a target in his back and they are gunning for him for every infraction. But I digress....I don't want to get these "rude to the teacher" phone calls anymore. I want him I. A place where teachers are more understanding. Anyway, he does so well one on one...but who wouldn't?
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        • Both dc I know there are from sn schools. One child I don't know as well, but ds has a very good friend who went ms after sn school, spent 2 years in ms and was very unhappy with...(more) 5 hr 59 min ago
          the academics and socially, meaning he was not challenged and was unhappy wth the teachers. He is doing very well at fusion but it does lack the social aspect. He was so unhappy for the past 2 years that the parents were willing to do anything including homeschooling him to make it work
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          • My ds has enough friends already that I think it could work. It just seems drastic for him. I overthink thi a lot and that circles around with the school also overthinking it. I...(more) 5 hr 52 min ago
            Can't leave it alone. I just do t know f being ride to the teachers because he's frustrated is enough to put him at a place like fusion. When he was hitting kids in 2 nd grade posters here told me Andrus. Ds is at one of the ld sn schools, he was fine there and the hitting stopped as soon as he got there 2 great years, last year he started being frustrated, this year is no better. I don't know what to do at a
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  6. Special Needs Tell me to be happy that the trouble ds gets I into in 6th grade is for being rude to teachers, and not for hitting kids like he did in 2 nd grade. Tell me that he is in the wrong...(more) 7 hr 7 min ago (12 replies)
    School, again, and if we move him this will go away like it did last time. And tell me everything will be fine. I am so tired of phone calls, therapists, doctors, etc. just so tired and overwhelmed and don't get why this sn school has to outsource dealing with "rude to the teacher" to me and a therapist and a doctor.
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    • Your hands are full. I'm so sorry. It's SO hard for a kid to be in school to begin with, but then having SN just magnifies that. It's not fair to your child to have expectations...(more) 7 hr 6 min ago
      like that.
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      • My expectations are not fair? 7 hr 5 min ago
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    • my ds (now an adult) was sometimes rude. mostly it was him not having any bullshitting ability at all and a propensity to say the truth, no matter what. it got better. 7 hr 4 min ago
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      • Mine is rude because he is frustrated with school work and expectations. My friustration is because the school, the sn school, deals with it by sending him to the office and...(more) 7 hr 2 min ago
        telling me bout it and therapy and medicine that I have to provide as a front line....no help in school for this. No help in sn school for this.
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        • that's a shame. I was surprised that our SN school sometimes needed to be reminded that anxiety for example can manifest itself as inappropriate behavior. sigh. can you enlist a...(more) 7 hr 1 min ago
          guidance counselor?
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          • No. They are the ones telling me the infractions third hand. The teachers don't contact me directly. Also, he was re-evaluated at great expense this summer by the person they...(more) 6 hr 51 min ago
            suggested. They know all about his anxiety and whatever. I don't get why every episode is a cataclysmic event. He's applying out, for Christi's sake. Can't they leave me alone?
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            • Agree - wtf is their job?! 6 hr 39 min ago
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              • Their job seems to be to tell me what to do and expect that I am at their beck and call to listen to this. I hate them. And I used to love Thand I was so happy,many so was ds....(more) 6 hr 26 min ago
                And everyone loves them. Everyone there is drunk on their kool aid. Everyone thinks it's nirvana. The pinnacle of special needs schools. I never should have sent him there.
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                • ^^used to love them and I was so happy and so was ds. Autocorrect, sorry. 6 hr 26 min ago
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            • I just want to say I'm so sorry you are going through this. 5 hr 53 min ago
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              • Thank you. That's helpful. 5 hr 52 min ago
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                • ^^i mean it, it's nice to hear. 5 hr 51 min ago
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  7. Special Needs Aww, ds got rejected from Mary McDowell Friends School for middle school. I liked that place. 7 hr 48 min ago (5 replies)
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    • sorry 7 hr 43 min ago
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      • op: That's okay, thanks. I'm really hoping one of the others takes him. 7 hr 42 min ago
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        • Do you mind my asking where else you're looking? Seems like the pool gets smaller for middle school. 7 hr 31 min ago
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          • op: Sorry, stepped away. We're also looking at Summit & Winston Prep. 6 hr 41 min ago
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    • I am really sorry. 7 hr 18 min ago
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  8. Special Needs I just found out my 5 year old is SN. Does this mean a tough life for him ahead? Or can he "grow out of" the SN? We are talking ADHD, anxiety and language-based LDs 7 hr 57 min ago (36 replies)
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    • No, front load him now while he is young w/ services, get an IEP. Socail Skills outside home, tutors to help with subjects all be will be fine 7 hr 56 min ago
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      • such a weird response. 3 hr 43 min ago
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    • He won't grow out of it but will get better with intervention 7 hr 56 min ago
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      • So if he's very bright are we looking at a top college or will that never happen? 7 hr 54 min ago
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        • worry about today 7 hr 54 min ago
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          • That's a sweet platitude but I would like to hear how LDs manifest over time, and by over time I mean 10-13 years. 7 hr 53 min ago
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            • ^ meaning, do the LDs dissipate with interventions or do they always exist? 7 hr 53 min ago
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              • Omg you need to educate yourself. It depends on what type of learning disability a...(more) 7 hr 50 min ago
                It is and what biologicsally is the cause. Learn a little please.
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                • "Omg"? Why so nasty? Did you not read the OP? I JUST found out my DC has SN? W.T.F. 7 hr 49 min ago
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                  • Well educate yourself. 7 hr 48 min ago
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                  • Np. We don't know what the future holds. When my dc was 2 years old I thought he would end up in an institution. He is doing great now. He can talk, read, write, he is nice and...(more) 7 hr 43 min ago
                    Has friends
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                  • I know a child doing well in college who was nonverbal and violent at 4. Another who went from residential school to a highly respected small new england college. Both...(more) 6 hr 35 min ago
                    had a lot of supports.
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              • Np: we can't change how our brains learn but we can learn tools on how to deal with those challenges. Your dc will always learn the way they learn but your dc will eventually...(more) 7 hr 34 min ago
                learn how to be a successful learner ..dont worry about 10 yr from now or college..lots of successful ppl have LDs
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                • Yes. Two neighbors whose kids were at Windward transitioned to mainstream and both are in well regarded universities. They were both bright to begin with, but in early grades...(more) 5 hr 49 min ago
                  their parents were afraid they would never read and write.
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            • I am sure there are articles on that 7 hr 51 min ago
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            • Depends on the LD and the severity of it. Steven Spielberg id dyslexic but he's also incredibly talented and smart. 6 hr 57 min ago
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            • no one really knows. but you need to calm down. you're really unpleasant. 3 hr 41 min ago
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        • This post has been disliked 4 times. showOh Jesus. Seriously? YOu are setting your child up for failure. Who the fuck cares about a top college? your 5yo has issues. Be a mom, not an admissions counselor. 7 hr 43 min ago
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          • you- get off this board. 7 hr ago
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            • I will not. This OP is making me nuts. You can guess what priorities she's going to impose on her poor ds. 6 hr 39 min ago
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              • this is a safe place we come to vent and share. we don't get nasty . if you can't abide by that rule then leave. 6 hr 16 min ago
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                • No, you shut up. 3 hr 43 min ago
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        • ADHD is not a death sentence. 7 hr 6 min ago
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          • I have adhd and two degrees from Yale. Adhd does not change your drive or intelligence. 6 hr 56 min ago
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        • Depends on how well he is remediated, how hard he works and how smart he is. 6 hr 57 min ago
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        • Yes, he can go to a top college and he can be all that you think. That may or may not happen, just as it can for any kid. I have friends with kids who went to top colleges and are...(more) 6 hr 17 min ago
          in rehab now or cut themselves and having eating disorders while the "state school" kids run their own businesses and have really loving families of their own. I am a parent of a SN kid so I know what you are feeling. PLEASE - one day at a time and raise the kid you have, not the one you want. That gives him the best chance, which is all ANY parent can do. HUGS>
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    • OP, I'm sorry some people aren't being respectful. I think the issue is that many of us have been where you've been. In those first moments of "oh my God, my child has...(more) 7 hr 34 min ago
      challenges" it's normal to immediately jump ahead. Will he be able to attend college? Will he be able to have a good job? Are all my dreams and expectations for him shattered? The poster who wrote "worry about today" wasn't giving a sweet platitude, she was actually giving great advice. Give yourself time to grieve and get used to this, and then stop worrying about college. The best thing you can do is find the right supports and interventions, and the right school environment, and then see what happens day to day. Yes, some kids with LDs go to top colleges (though not sure what "top" means in this context), and let that reassure you, but you have a million successes and setbacks to experience before the question of college will become relevant. I hope you stay around this board -- it's a wonderful place for information and support.
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    • You do not grow out of a LD. The ADHD might improve with age (but not necessarily go away come adulthood). Anxiety can improve once DC gets support. As for where he will be in...(more) 7 hr 32 min ago
      10-13 years, that is impossible to predict. Forget about where he will attend college - worry about giving him support on an annual basis, and how his progress goes year to year. You have an LD for life...but with support and accommodation, kids can learn to compensate for the LD.
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    • you don't really grow out of brain wiring, but you can learn to cope and work around it. My ds is dyslexic, ADD and has anxiety and is a fantastic, smart, successful college...(more) 7 hr 2 min ago
      student with friends (mostly weird) and a girlfriend. TOTI
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    • i have adhd, sensory issues, handwriting, processing, but there was no intervention in the 70s and 80s unless your needs were extreme. while i still have all of those things, i...(more) 6 hr 57 min ago
      really cope just fine as an adult. it isnt perfect, but i do fine
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      • also many people not diagnosed with anything have variations in terms of what they re good at and what they are not. Lots of people not great at math or not great creative writers...(more) 6 hr 53 min ago
        but don't have an LD, just different talents.
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        • of course, but there some things i just manage better as an adult. i am still a picky eater and get really grossed out by some foods, etc, but as a kid, i couldnt manage my...(more) 6 hr 49 min ago
          emotions about it and would have meltdowns. as an adult, i am polite, i dont make it any else's problem, i carry a protein bar in my purse. i still have a hard time judging how long it takes to get somewhere and would always be late, but now i work backwards step by step to determine what time i have to leave the house, etc
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          • I have alerts on my computer, cellphone and watch to remind me throughout the day to keep on track, and it really helps. 5 hr 47 min ago
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    • My DD has grown out of a lot of her earlier anxiety because it came from her feeling "different". When she got the supports she needed she was able to feel successful and doesn't...(more) 6 hr 51 min ago
      feel that day to day anxiety.
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      • ok, rellity--my son had severe apraxia, SPD and general poor muscle tone. Today he has an expressive language disorder--yes he defeated apraxia and articulation issues. He is at a...(more) 6 hr 31 min ago
        language based LD school and is reading, writing and social. I know without services he would be without speech and more hellish than that. Pour on the services and learn how to do good carryover at home, educate yourself and you will find you do not have time to worry about college until much later!! Good luck OP--we have been there and lived to tell the tale. Plus, all extrea time will be spent fighting DOE for services. :-)
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  9. Special Needs Adding SETSS services-does the child need new evaluation? Or can it be done based on teacher's testing/academics? Please share your experience. 8 hr 28 min ago (3 replies)
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    • It can be done based on observance/recomendation 8 hr 23 min ago
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      • from the teacher? correct? ty:) 7 hr 53 min ago
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  10. Special Needs As this is the time of year people start looking at schools in earnest, I wanted to mention the Sterling School, which is rarely discussed on this board. It's a very small school...(more) 8 hr 38 min ago (1 reply)
    (The whole school through 5th grade is something like 35 kids) run out of a brownstone in downtown Brooklyn. It's for kids with LDs/ADHD. Full disclosure my child does not attend, but I visited last year and was extremely impressed by both the director and the teachers. We decided it wasn't right for my dc who is very social and needed a bigger environment, but for the right child, e.g. one who'd get anxious at a bigger school, I think it's a great option. I just wanted to put it out there since I've seen a lot of posts recently looking for school recommendations.
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    • We actually looked into it and decided to go someplace else for the similar reasons you did. 4 hr 24 min ago
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  11. Special Needs Do you do the flu vaccine for DC? I usually do, but I'm always ambivalent every year about it. 8 hr 59 min ago (23 replies)
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    • Keys and just got it today for one of my dcs 8 hr 57 min ago
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      • ^^meant yes 8 hr 57 min ago
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      • just one? 8 hr 57 min ago
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        • Yes my other is going next week when he has off of school so he wouldn't have to miss a day today 8 hr 54 min ago
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          • Makes sense. Not sure why I am always at odds over doing this! 8 hr 53 min ago
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            • My kids always have issues with chest infections...last thing I want is for them to deal with full blown flu 8 hr 52 min ago
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    • of course. and for myself 8 hr 56 min ago
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    • yes, we are on a wait list they only have the mist and my kids can't take the mist. I have a chronic condition and can't risk getting the flu. I got it 5 years ago and ended up...(more) 8 hr 55 min ago
      in the hospital. The shot is impt for us.
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      • The first time I got it for DCs was after talking to a woman whose DD died from the flu (healthy kid before hand). Scared the hell out of me and thereafter we've done them 8 hr 53 min ago
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        • or: It's no joke and its not the flu its the secondary infection that kills you. I got pneumonia then a strep b infection. 8 hr 49 min ago
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          • how does the pneumonia from flu happen anyway? 8 hr 47 min ago
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            • its that you have no immune system at that point. 8 hr 45 min ago
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              • ^ mine turned step and lasted 8 months. 8 hr 43 min ago
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                • did you get invasive pneumococcal disease? 8 hr 8 min ago
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                  • no, not in my blood just antibiotic resistant strep b, It took a long cycle of very strong antibiotics to kill. 4 hr 50 min ago
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      • Dd can't get the mist either 8 hr 51 min ago
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        • np: why not? respiratory issues? 8 hr 47 min ago
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    • yes, every year. 8 hr 51 min ago
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    • Absoposilutely. 8 hr 34 min ago
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    • stop the ambivalence and do it. 8 hr 8 min ago
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    • No. I don't get it either 6 hr 18 min ago
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  12. Special Needs How the f&$k did my 10 year old discover Billy Joel?!or blue note jazz? Not a fan of the former, the latter I like, but not played at home. Where do they get it from?.... 9 hr 44 min ago (11 replies)
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    • funny you mentioned. 17yo ds told me last night he like his music. 9 hr 44 min ago
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      • Lol! Sorry I'm laughing. Their brains are weird and wonderful things 9 hr 42 min ago
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        • I know. Strange. My other two listen to really filthy rap 9 hr 42 min ago
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          • Are they NT? 9 hr 41 min ago
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            • what is nt? 9 hr 41 min ago
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              • Neuro-typical 9 hr 40 min ago
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                • No sn 9 hr 40 min ago
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                • what is that? 9 hr 40 min ago
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                  • Euphemism for 'normal', no special needs 9 hr 39 min ago
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                    • yes; normal rap loving teens 9 hr 37 min ago
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    • I adore billy. I can't wait to see him next month 9 hr 42 min ago
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  13. Special Needs DC's teacher said that ds is "more focused and calm" since taking meds, he's been on them for almost a month. Would you ask for more detail or leave it at that for now? The most...(more) 10 hr 43 min ago (7 replies)
    important feedback is in the classroom (ADHD inattentive). I was hoping the teacher would give me more detail though. Thoughts? I will ask more at the PT conference next month as well.
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    • I would go right ahead and ask. Ask if she can give specific instances 10 hr 42 min ago
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    • Absolutely, ask. 10 hr 42 min ago
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      • That was my thought. I was hoping she would give me more detail than that! 10 hr 41 min ago
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    • What does the kid say? A very telling thing was mine said she still felt like picking up the pen and doodling (then all focus is utterly shot), but she is able to stop herself 10 hr 29 min ago
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      • He said he stopped doing small group math now which is good but overall, he thinks he does wonderfully in school, there is a lot of praise in the classroom in general so hard to...(more) 8 hr 37 min ago
        say.
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    • won't your doctor ask her to fill out a connors form? usually they do this to compare the before and after 10 hr 28 min ago
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      • our NP is going to do a mini re-eval which involves this but wants us to test the waters first w/ meds then retest. he had testing a few months ago so we have a starting point to...(more) 8 hr 35 min ago
        for comparison.
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  14. Special Needs Anyone know anything about Merricat's integrated preschool program on the UES? Think it would be good for a 3yo with sensory issues/anxiety/fine motor delays/articulation...(more) 11 hr 11 min ago (3 replies)
    issues? tia
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    • It's a good option if your dc does not have complicated needs. 10 hr 49 min ago
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    • when I visited years ago, it was a big crowded class in a small space. It did not appear appropriate for any child with sn unless the sn were very, very mild. Of course, that...(more) 6 hr 34 min ago
      was a number of yrs ago so it may have changed, but it was a most non-special needs environment, claiming to be sn.
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      • OP: ok thanks so much for your input. Doesn't sound like it would be a good fit for my son who gets easily overwhelmed and has significant social delays. I think we are going...(more) 6 hr 4 min ago
        to move to the burbs for services...
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  15. Special Needs Do TT privates take children from SN private schools? Or should we MS our child first in a public school and then apply out? Our DS is in K and will likely need two or three years...(more) 11 hr 25 min ago (33 replies)
    at a private to deal with his language based LD. I don't know if we should apply from there to TTs in NYC or apply to public and then after a year to TT
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    • WTF? 11 hr 25 min ago
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    • I logged in just to sticky this 11 hr 18 min ago
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      • OK let's hope someone hears this transmission ;-) 11 hr 9 min ago
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    • hmm, what will happen in 3 years from now, to your child coming from one hypothetical situation or another, trying to get into a competitive private school? Hmmmm. Who would know...(more) 10 hr 56 min ago
      this? NO ONE KNOWS.
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    • I don't of any TT privates in NYC that ar able to support Language based learning disabilities. Usually this profile is in SN's school. 10 hr 48 min ago
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    • Why is that even your goal with a sn dc? There are plenty of ms privates that take dc out of schools 10 hr 11 min ago
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      • TTs *are* MS privates. They are just TT instead of 2T or 3T 7 hr 55 min ago
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        • Yes. What is your point. 6 hr 52 min ago
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          • I'm confused about yours. 4 hr 43 min ago
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            • My point is there are tons of ms privates that are very accepting of sn dc. Why aim for a tt scho that will not offer support 4 hr 41 min ago
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    • There are mainstream privates that will take kids out of SN schools. I would steer clear of the TTs before doing a middle step. Almost all of them have very little tolerance for...(more) 9 hr 35 min ago
      children with any differences.
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    • Don't focus on tiers, focus on learning and understanding your dc's way of learning and challenges. Try to understand that fit is what's important and not status of school. Those...(more) 8 hr 54 min ago
      "TT" schools may not be the best fit for your dc even if you think they may be. A dc with LD already has challenges because of the way their brain works..it's best to place them in an environment that understands they learn differently and is open to Helping them. GL
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      • OK thanks. I'm not worried about TT but DC's iq is through the roof, so the challenge is to make sure he is being appropriately challenged and preparing for good HS. He is a math...(more) 8 hr ago
        whiz.
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        • Many kids with LD have very high IQs (mine included) but even though dd has a very high iQ, her LD is still an issue and makes learning tough 7 hr 50 min ago
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          • ^^^dont worry you will find a school that challenges your dc but at the same time is able to give them the academic support they will need. 7 hr 48 min ago
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            • Thank you. 7 hr 42 min ago
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        • That means he can concentrate on remediating the LDs and any academic catching up will be easy. 5 hr 41 min ago
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        • My son was too. There is tons they can do on the internet. When yours is a bit older he can learn to code, for example, at code academy online or many other math related skills. 5 hr 39 min ago
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    • This post has been disliked 4 times. showYour poor, poor child. I feel for him or her. 7 hr 42 min ago
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    • Your child, if he has significant special needs, will never got a "top tier" MS private in NYC. It's a reality. 7 hr 41 min ago
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      • However, he can get a great education at a place that you probably consider lovw tier, like birch or Dwight, and go to a great college. 7 hr 15 min ago
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        • or: That, I agree with. 6 hr 37 min ago
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    • Your child is in k. Hold it. You have no idea what your child will need or where he will be in 3 years. If he is ready to be mainstreamed the. He wil have plenty of private...(more) 6 hr 48 min ago
      school options
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      • >>>most likely not tt but school that are just as challenging but allow more access to teachers Nd other supports. I would focus on what your child needs right now and not worry...(more) 6 hr 45 min ago
        about the future. I have a dc who is in his junior year of hs. Was ms in a tt school, moved to sn and then me again for hs in a school that is a much better fit
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  16. Special Needs If neurofeedback is a pretty accepted therapy for ADHD, anxiety and other issues, how come all the EEG neurofeedback providers are chiropractors?? 11 hr 35 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Not enough evidence for me. I don't consider it standard. 11 hr 32 min ago
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    • I never heard of it as being accepted therapy. 11 hr 28 min ago
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      • NIH and AAP both say it is 9 hr 33 min ago
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    • No. Signed md. 4 hr 41 min ago
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    • Actually that's not true. There ae psychologists who do it. 4 hr 1 min ago
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  17. Special Needs I am really liking the sn board lately because no one talks about ebola! 12 hr 35 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Except you are now. 11 hr 32 min ago
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      • op: I know. sorry. 11 hr 4 min ago
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  18. Special Needs Any sn moms with kids in either Dwight or York Prep? I'd love to hear your thoughts about the two schools. 12 hr 52 min ago (7 replies)
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    • My child spent 3 years at York. 12 hr 48 min ago
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      • and what did you think? 12 hr 42 min ago
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        • What are your dc's issues? 12 hr 40 min ago
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          • language processing. he's pretty good with executive function these days 12 hr 14 min ago
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            • My dc got a lot out of York, confidence more than anything else. Jumpstart with the right instructor is really useful. It's a good bridge between SN and MS schools. The owners...(more) 12 hr 11 min ago
              are awful (and don't believe a word he says to you) and some of the teachers are just out of college, but most are very dedicated and skilled.
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              • Yea there's something about a for profit school that turns me off. that said if its good for my dc then I'll hold my nose and send him. 11 hr 34 min ago
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              • Np. We applied Nd pulled our app because he was such a turnoff 10 hr 8 min ago
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  19. Special Needs Has anyone tried "Mindfulness" training for inattentive ADD? 13 hr 27 min ago (5 replies)
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    • sort of. 13 hr 23 min ago
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    • we kind of went the strict schedule route. it worked unbelievably well. 5 hr 26 min ago
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    • is this with meds or instead of? 5 hr 23 min ago
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  20. Special Needs 6th grader dd's first science test came back with a 95%. Teacher wrote a note that said "with no extra time required". Is this a set up to take extra time off her iep you think?...(more) 13 hr 57 min ago (9 replies)
    New to middle school. Her elem never told me stuff like this
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    • no. i think the teacher saying "yay!" 13 hr 56 min ago
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    • prob just letting you know. 13 hr 56 min ago
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    • maybe everyone else required extra time 13 hr 55 min ago
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    • isn't the goal for her to progress so that she doesn't need extra time? nothing wrong with keeping track. 13 hr 55 min ago
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    • well, if she gets A's without it, why would you push to keep it? 13 hr 54 min ago
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      • because I am there when she does her homework and what is supposed to take 1.5 hrs frequently ends up taking 3 hrs. 13 hr 53 min ago
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        • but she got an A on the test under normal conditions. that is great! I am sure many NT kids also drag through hw 13 hr 51 min ago
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    • i'm actually not sure how to interpret it. on the one hand it could mean that your child understands the material so well that the time isn't needed (and thats' what i think it...(more) 12 hr 56 min ago
      means); at the worst, you're right that this is an attempt to start suggesting removing that accomodation. i think the worst is unlikely.
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    • My DC's teacher does this, so that I'm aware that DS did it unassisted in any way. 12 hr 31 min ago
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  21. Special Needs Which SN privates accepts the following profile: average intelligence, attention challenges, gross/fine motor delays, and speech (articulation) challengers. Currently in ICT...(more) 13 hr 59 min ago (11 replies)
    class. Is doing ok, but the attention/distraction piece is an issue. Is in K now, but I imagine we may need to look into SN private down the road as school becomes more academic. Thanks.
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    • My dd is in ICT 1st, I've been looking into SN privates for down the road. Similar profile to your dc. So far I'm thinking Mary McDowell and Gillen Brewer 13 hr 53 min ago
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      • Above, plus Aaron, maybe /Summit in queens 13 hr 18 min ago
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    • I think the key is that you wrote your child is doing ok in ICT. That sounds like your child is not a candidate for a sn school. They children at sn schools do not do ok in ICT....(more) 13 hr 18 min ago
      They fail in ICT or 12:1 classes, hence the recommendation to education elsewhere. You can do a neuropsych to see, but that is my gut reaction. Congratulations-- you have a high functioning child!
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      • I just posted about Aaron. My DD was in ICT and got by but in now thriving in SN school 13 hr 16 min ago
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        • It may be difficult to get any sort of funding for a child who is even getting by in ICT. 13 hr 4 min ago
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        • did you qualify for funding? 12 hr 28 min ago
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          • Yes.. eventually! 12 hr 19 min ago
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      • I actually disagree with this. There are many kids who are doing OK in ICT in K and 1st grade or even second. It's in third grade and beyond that the work in public schools gets...(more) 13 hr 11 min ago
        more academic and kids with challenges really fall behind. It's also why that's the age where LDs are usually diagnosed. That's why many of the SN/LD schools either start or add classes around 3rd grade (e.g Summit, Mark McDowell, Churchill).
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        • but the OP said her child is doing ok, not falling behind. So the question was whether a dc who is doing ok in ICT is a candidate for a sn school, and your answer appears to...(more) 6 hr 37 min ago
          agree that such a child would not be. It is a child who is not doing ok in ICT (as he gets older) who is a candidate.
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    • Pretty much all of them 12 hr 30 min ago
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    • Keep an eye on things, get an updated Neuropsych in 2nd grade and go from there. You'll have more information in hand before things heat up in 3rd. 12 hr 3 min ago
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  22. Special Needs My mild asd mainstream 6th grader so new to middle school has joined a bunch of clubs. She said that the theater club has a bunch of boys who used to be just like her when she was...(more) 15 hr 16 min ago (14 replies)
    in k- through 2nd grade- they never stand or sit still, always running around, always yelling stuff. Or many are different from most of the other kids in school, like she is. Are HF ASD/ADHD kids attracted to theater/drama more than others? Not saying these are definitely kids with sn, who knows, just her description sounds like a high proportion of them sound like they make have mild sn.
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    • not really. they are more so attracted to solitary, quiet clubs ime. gaming, newspaper, science, math, etc 15 hr 15 min ago
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    • Not that I'm aware of. My DD (not SN) does theater and many of the boys are more quiet or socially awkward I'd say (MS aged) but not special needs. 15 hr 14 min ago
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      • I did theater growing up and none of the boys were SN. By high school, they are just who they are, not socially awkward, they are just talented in music/acting 15 hr 11 min ago
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        • np- I remember my dc's dev ped who works with lots of asd kids telling me that several of her patients who are now teens found their voice through the arts. 15 hr 7 min ago
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    • In my experience, yes. Dh is an actor, his 2 sisters are, so many friends are. Theyre all a tad spectrummy. 15 hr 12 min ago
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    • I have an AS middleschooler. IME the quirky kids keep together. I don't think its always the drama club but I do think that they figured out that clubs are a good way for them...(more) 14 hr 58 min ago
      to be together and get a break from other activities. My AS dc does a few lunch clubs. His are chess, lego and music and yes most in these clubs in his grade in our school have IEP's. My bff has a nt dd also in the chess club and for her dd its all the super smart nerdy girls not the quirky boys.
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    • In general, quirky kids/square pegs do tend to like drama, glee club, etc. 14 hr 39 min ago
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      • not sure I agree with this. My DS hates this stuff! 12 hr 29 min ago
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    • My DD loves acting. A lot of times it's creative kids who are not on a sports team. Boys in the early grades are more likely to be "antsy" and unable to sit still. Are they still...(more) 14 hr 26 min ago
      like that? They may have grown out of it by now. It may well be a nice, accepting group of kids.
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      • she is only now meeting them, she did not know them in the early grades since they went to different elementaries. She's saying they behave antsy now. 13 hr 59 min ago
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        • I see. Well, she just has to try it out and see how she likes it. 12 hr 5 min ago
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    • How your DD described the boys in K-2nd pretty much describes MANY typical boys IMO. 12 hr 29 min ago
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      • the boys are in 6th and 7th grade, she was comparing them to her own wild self back when she was in k -2nd (pre-meds, or pre-maturity not sure which) 11 hr 37 min ago
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    • My ADHD inattentive ds wouldn't last very long in dd's drama class. 12 hr 6 min ago
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  23. Special Needs As a mom to a quirky Ds with social difficulties, i find it so hard to balance teaching him to love himself and his personality and differences, yet not do anything that looks...(more) 15 hr 39 min ago (7 replies)
    too "weird" to turn friends off. anyone feel this way?
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    • Yes, and I wish there was some funny phrase, some secret word that could be almost a joke between us that I could say when she was doing something a little weird. Trying to say...(more) 15 hr 37 min ago
      something that would have a sense of humor about it
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      • You can do that if you want. 15 hr 31 min ago
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    • I used to, but I gave up. My ds isn't "normal". He never will be. I can't change his weird behaviors. 15 hr 31 min ago
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    • I have a SN kid with different issues, but I imagine this must be hard. I will say a lot of people I grew up with who were the quirky weird ones who may have struggled when young...(more) 15 hr 28 min ago
      have found their niche and are doing well in life.
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    • Weird kids find their people eventually. Most of my nerd friends from my school days are all still really close. Work on social skills to avoid rudeness, not oddness. Love,...(more) 15 hr 26 min ago
      Sheldon Cooper's mom
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    • A few yrs ago after reading the social thinking book that talked about weird behavior as stuff that sticks out to make people notice you for not the right reasons, i would talk to...(more) 15 hr 24 min ago
      dd (mild asd, in mainstream) everytime she did things that were like that and tell her 'thats weird behavior because...' She understands the word weird so i dont have a problem using it. But I spend a lot more time talking to her about embracing and feeling good about who she is and what she's good at, owning her distinct way of dress, etc.
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    • Oh yes - totally feel this way. I guide DS to what other kids would consider "weird" (or inappropriate). He needs to be mindful of this to be successful with peers IMO. You can't...(more) 12 hr 28 min ago
      change every quirk but IMO you should absolutely try to change the stuff that's just too weird for peers.
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  24. Special Needs I desperately need meds for adult ADHD but I am concerned about side effects, mostly risks to the heart. How would I find out about this, would my internist know enough to tell...(more) 16 hr 23 min ago (2 replies)
    me what the risks are? I was diagnosed by a nurse practitioner but don't really want to go back to her.
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    • Research it yourself 16 hr 22 min ago
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    • See your internist or go to a psychiatrist. You'll get an EKG before getting prescribed. You do not need to take the meds every day -just when you really need to stay on task. Do...(more) 14 hr 28 min ago
      you use alerts on you r phone and computer? They help me a lot.
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  25. Special Needs I think I really over shared tonight with 2 df of mine. Granted, they are both people that I'm close with and they are loyal friends, I feel weird. I was talking a lot about my ds...(more) 10-29-2014 11:30pm (6 replies)
    Bc he has terrible anxiety and we've had to up his meds bc he is struggling so much socially. Makes me sad and I blabbed about it.
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    • if they are l;oyal and close friends you shouldn't feel bad. this is what friends are for. 10-29-2014 11:31pm
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      • I know. I don't think either one knew ds is on meds and I told them we had upped it bc he's having a rough time of it. Boo 10-29-2014 11:33pm
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        • you shouldn't have to bear the stress on your own. and your friends wouldn't want you to. good luck! 10-29-2014 11:33pm
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          • Yeah, I know. Thank you. I'm sure they're not thinking I'm a weirdo, it's me over thinking it. 10-29-2014 11:37pm
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    • Lol that is nothing. On here one time some lady said that her friend got drunk and said she is turned on by 12 yo boys. 10-29-2014 11:46pm
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      • Yikes. That's a little scary!! 20 hr 8 min ago
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