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  1. Special Needs Dd craves, begs for, savors sugar all day long. Is this an sn thing? Or a kid thing? 40 min ago (1 reply)
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    • Of its a sn thing than I must have sn because I am ot a kid 39 min ago
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  2. Special Needs Ladies, second night in a row that anxiety-ridden dd has gone to sleep without a scene. So grateful I could cry. 48 min ago (10 replies)
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    • YES! But once you are in fight club you don't talk about flight club - meaning the minute you start celebrating it too much it might end. So just go with it! 47 min ago
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      • ? 46 min ago
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        • I just mean, don't make it a big deal with her. Just act like this is the new normal. 45 min ago
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          • OP: question mark wasn't me. But yes I won't make it a BIG deal but will say something positive because it is partially due to new technique she is trying with me based on...(more) 42 min ago
            anxiety-workbook we have
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            • At least I hope so 42 min ago
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            • so great! super happy for you. I know how tough this is! 41 min ago
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              • Thank you. It has been a ROUGH month and although this is a tiny step, and may be temporary, at least I know we can do it. 39 min ago
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    • So happy for you noth! 46 min ago
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  3. Special Needs I wish people would stop using every tragedy as fodder for their political agenda. 1 hr 38 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Amen! Some ignorant beyotch on FB blames the NYPD killings on POTUS. What an asshat 1 hr 23 min ago
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      • I don't even know how that works. 1 hr 11 min ago
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  4. Special Needs Someone told me that people with aspergers are more likely to get schizophrenia, especially if a family member has it. Is this true? 2 hr 4 min ago (6 replies)
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    • there is a higher incidence of comorbidity but I think describing it as "more likely to get" is inaccurate 2 hr 3 min ago
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    • maybe or maybe not but schizophrenics are likelier than average to have autistic children 2 hr 1 min ago
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      • I ask because my father is schizophrenic and I am terrified of it showing up again. I am also suddenly wondering if he has aspergers himself. I always thought it was the paranoid...(more) 1 hr 59 min ago
        schizophrenia, but what if some of it is asd?
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        • ^^^my ds was just diagnosed with aspergers/asd 1 hr 58 min ago
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    • This is something that may interest you. BTW brother with schizophrenia and autism, seems to have come down for generations through maternal side. link inside...(more) 1 hr 52 min ago
      • thank you. that does interest me. 1 hr 47 min ago
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  5. Special Needs NYC - so frustrating running around trying to fill ADHD scripts. 5 hr 21 min ago (9 replies)
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    • I know!! i went to CVS to fill my dd's scrip and they said it would take over a week to get the order. Give me a break! 5 hr 14 min ago
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      • Same here, except that it didn't come in and now they're saying they don't know when it will be. 4 hr 58 min ago
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    • You have people who abuse the drugs to blame. 5 hr 9 min ago
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      • No, I don't think so. They just don't stock it. 4 hr 59 min ago
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    • mail order is your friend. 4 hr 54 min ago
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      • Can't be done in NY. 4 hr 52 min ago
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    • I stick to Cherry's, they never fail me! 4 hr 51 min ago
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      • Where are they? 4 hr 44 min ago
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    • Our duane reade was great about keeping it in stock just for us and now our insurance made us switch to cvs... 4 hr 33 min ago
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  6. Special Needs I think cracker mom is my favorite post of the day. 8 hr 8 min ago (1 reply)
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    • ^^oops didn't mean to post here. 8 hr 7 min ago
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  7. Special Needs I'm giving a box of chocolates to our psych (we have an appt today). Should I include a holiday picture card of my dc or just give the candy? 8 hr 18 min ago (7 replies)
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    • keep the chocolates..just the card 8 hr 17 min ago
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    • I like to give photos in nice frame that they can use for their own pics later on 7 hr 28 min ago
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      • ^^ as opposed to candy since you never know what people eat... 7 hr 28 min ago
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        • they can serve it to friends or use it as hostess gift if they don't want to eat it. 7 hr 24 min ago
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          • hah, if you gave it to me I'd have trouble not eating it ;-) 6 hr 33 min ago
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    • Just a card 7 hr 21 min ago
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  8. Special Needs 6 year old has said the F-word at school 4 times since October. The last 2 times were these past two weeks. I can't figure how or why he continues to do this. He has adhd and is...(more) 9 hr 36 min ago (40 replies)
    medicated, but I'm thinking this is something else. I punish and he doesn't care. At this point he has no television, couldn't go to the Christmas fair he was looking forward to going to and we took his elf on the shelf away. Told him that the elf was so disappointed he left. I got him everything he wanted for Christmas already but am thinking of holding something back because I feel like he needs to feel something for remorse. Is this all too harsh? Anyone btdt?
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    • i think it is too harsh. i have a child with adhd and learning disabilities, and i'd be trying to figure out what's going on, esp. since punishments haven't been a deterent. 9 hr 35 min ago
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      • I feel like he WANTS to get in trouble. He was caught waving a note around repeating "This is inappropriate, this is inappropriate"...(more) 9 hr 33 min ago
        over and over....until someone caught him. The note said "I think school is a fuck."
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        • Lolol. Sorry - I am your son's intended audience. I think combining AGE 6, with a showoff personality and adding adhd on top of it is the answer as to why. It will get better. But...(more) 9 hr 30 min ago
          I know from experience too, punishment in t a deterrent with kids like this.
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          • ^ and you are totally missing the silver lining - he can write!" 9 hr 29 min ago
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            • haha. You know my dh and I looked at the note and were like, Well of course now he takes the time to write neatly. His handwriting and fine motor skills are always a problem, but...(more) 9 hr 26 min ago
              of course fuck was clear as day. Infuriating because kind of shows when he writes with intent he can get it done.
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              • He's the class clown, obviously. I know it's frustrating and sometimes embarrasing. For now I think ignoring the word when he wants an audience is key. And talking at another time...(more) 9 hr 20 min ago
                about why words offend and what people think of kids who use those words, etc, etc, etc...
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    • have you posted before? if so, think we rec you s/w therapsit. 9 hr 34 min ago
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      • I did. He is in therapy. Talk therapy once a week. 9 hr 33 min ago
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    • Dude even non-Special Needs kids do stuff like that. Tell him if he says the f-word one more time you'll send him away to boarding school. That threat works. 9 hr 34 min ago
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    • I havent exactly been there but ADD teen still has impulse-control issues. She's able to articulate that she knows while she is doing the stupid thing, that it's a big mistake and...(more) 9 hr 33 min ago
      she'll pay for it. But in the moment, she cant stop it. That said, it's much, much better with maturity.
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      • but this last time, he took the time to write it down and wave it around. He is obviously seeking attention. Which I also don't understand because he gets loads of it. 9 hr 31 min ago
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        • It's never enough! I think you have a born performer on your hands. 9 hr 29 min ago
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    • Honestly, I wouldn't take away Christmas toys. I would schedule a meeting with the school for right after break and discuss how you can be on the same page. BUT I don't have a...(more) 9 hr 31 min ago
      sn dc, so please ignore if you want
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      • She will. 9 hr 30 min ago
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      • The meeting is scheduled. thanks =) 9 hr 28 min ago
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        • Ok. Good luck :-) 9 hr 27 min ago
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    • ODD maybe. 9 hr 24 min ago
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      • you know we filled out a sheet with the teacher, us, and out therapist for the pediatrician and it said he had ODD tendencies. I don't really know a lot about ODD, but at the time...(more) 9 hr 22 min ago
        (back in September) it felt more like they had just named defiance in kids. Maybe I need to know more about it.
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        • Does ds seem angry? 9 hr 18 min ago
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          • he seems more frustrated then angry. Like he is bored and when thinks don't go the way he wants them to, he will make a face or throw a mini tantrum. He was stealing for a bit....(more) 9 hr 15 min ago
            Coming home with other kids stuff and saying he found it. He damages property, breaks crayons, cuts his clothes with scissors. Our therapist said that stuff was more impulsive and that ODD doesn't really get diagnosed so young. It is more for when kids are older.
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            • Itttta. Frustration looks like "mad" much of the time. And adhd kids ARE frustrated with themselves sooooooo much of their waking hours. My teen said "mom; you only see part of...(more) 9 hr 12 min ago
              it, you have no idea how much worse it is inside". I have to keep remembering that quote when I get mad and the idiotic crap she still does at 16.
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              • When my son was 5 he told me he knew there was something wrong with his brain, because at night when he was supposed to be sleeping he was thinking about comets and music and the...(more) 9 hr 8 min ago
                ocean and black holes in space all at the same time. He called it "noise in his head that he can turn down the volume on". I tear up a bit every time I think of him telling me that.
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                • They are remarkably insightful, arent they? Dd was t dxd until 15 an was so relieved! She said she always had known things were harder for her than for her friends. 9 hr 5 min ago
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            • not so sure about this- DF's kid was diagnosed at 7yo. does he argue with you about the smallest requests? deliberately do the opposite of what an adult asks hime? 9 hr 12 min ago
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              • no. He is super obedient and remorseful. 9 hr 11 min ago
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                • ^^remorseful about having a bad day at school. Not about the f-word. 9 hr 10 min ago
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        • I only suggested this because swearing at a young age (not just testing the word) is a specific component off ODD. 9 hr 14 min ago
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    • I just told my dh this story. He laughed, and said "The kid is not only correct, he seems very wise and knows his audience!" 9 hr 19 min ago
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      • I mean. If it wasn't my kid, I would probably think it was hilarious. He always doing stuff like this. I told him he would be kicked out of school and he just blankly said back to...(more) 9 hr 17 min ago
        me "oh really? What will my new school be like?"
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        • He is a baby! But I predict he tenacious drive will serve him very well later in life! Btw, how is he social life? Has he got pals? 9 hr 14 min ago
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          • Everyone loves him. He has like four people he calls his BFF, but they are kind of the rag tag gang at school. There are group of boys who are a popular click and they make fun of...(more) 9 hr 13 min ago
            him for being so messy and immature.
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            • ^^but when he does something good or has a good day, those same boys will say "oh billy had a great day at school day." kind of like the younger brother they are looking out...(more) 9 hr 11 min ago
              for...so I don't know. But his crazy behavior is unpredictable and I think that the more mature kids don't know what to make of him.
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              • My non-adhd kid had a boy in her ass for years; Tommy was always "going on red", always in time outs, I know his mother was at the end of her rope. But he was a nice, smart, KIND,...(more) 9 hr 6 min ago
                funny, friendly and smart boy. He had some self-control issues that really only mattered in a school context. And obviously the daily punishment and warnings did nothing, his behaviors continued. In the scheme of things they were harmless! Not aggressive, mean or sociopathic! But they were a little disruptive to teachers who had 29 other kids to keep in line.
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                • this is my kid! always on red. just for doing crazy things. Like getting up, interrupting. There are 28 kids in his class too. 9 hr 4 min ago
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            • He sounds like a good kid who is also very smart. Just try and prevent him from hearing worse words than Fuck, as long as possible! 9 hr 11 min ago
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    • Could it be he seeks the negative attention? SO ignore it (school can do whatever they do) and try to find a way that he can get attention as a substitue...? 7 hr 26 min ago
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      • ^^ positive attention 7 hr 25 min ago
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    • Way too harsh! And it's not working go and everyone must feel bAd about it. He needs positive tie for cement not negative. He is also 6, not 16. If he says something g you....(more) 5 hr 9 min ago
      Need to act on it I. The moment and not for weeks after
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  9. Special Needs Ds adhd and anxiety is fixated with sports. At home he basically thinks he can only watch sports or play iPad. When I try to take a break he goes nuts despite the fact that he has...(more) 10 hr 14 min ago (3 replies)
    Every possible game and toy that boys his age like. It's exhausting. I can't always plan stuff out of the home every minute of the weekend. I allow sports and iPad but not for hours on end. Can't wait for winter break.
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    • How old? 10 hr 12 min ago
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      • 7. We are trying to figure meds out but being at home is so miserable unless he's doing what he wants 10 hr 11 min ago
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    • How about baseball cards. Get him into collecting 5 hr 8 min ago
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  10. Special Needs Pg and anxiety. I basically can't sleep past 430am. I'm exhiastd already it's 10am 11 hr 12 min ago (0 replies)
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  11. Special Needs It sucks trying to find the right med combo for anxiety/adhd ds 7. He is a slow metabolizer apparently so he's really sensitive to all the tweaks. It's been a roller...(more) 11 hr 26 min ago (1 reply)
    coaster
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    • so sorry, even with a FAST metabolizer it's tough... GL! 10 hr 56 min ago
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  12. Special Needs My ds was recently diagnosed with Crohn's. if anyone ever wants to talk or anything 12 hr 43 min ago (6 replies)
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    • How old? I have it 12 hr 30 min ago
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      • op: he is 8yo 10 hr 29 min ago
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    • My dad had it. Helps to cooperate with the recommended regimen (which dad never would). 12 hr 23 min ago
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    • I'm on Remicade, miracle for mine.... 10 hr 56 min ago
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      • op: how often do you take it? 10 hr 28 min ago
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        • It is an infusion, once every 6 weeks. It has been a miracle, oral medication was awful, didn;t work and side effects. I try to look at 3 hours tethered to an IV as me time (bring...(more) 7 hr 24 min ago
          book and the infusion center is actually LOVELY, go figure)
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  13. Special Needs Will my hyper ADHD child ever slow down? age 9 13 hr 17 min ago (19 replies)
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    • They say things get better with puberty 13 hr 16 min ago
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      • things get different with puberty - better and worse. we're finding it harder with the medications - switched dosages several times, unlike in previous years. 13 hr 15 min ago
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        • OP: Mornings and night are so hard. Mornings he wakes up with SO MUCH ENERGY and is LOUD. Night he is just unregulated and silly and can't handle anything past 6:30 13 hr 11 min ago
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          • trust me, i get it. what medication is he on? what is the dosage? 13 hr 10 min ago
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            • Focalin XR 10mg. It works great for during the day (at school, weekends) But when he's off it he is a loud, hyper mess (like always) 12 hr 57 min ago
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              • have you thought of an afternoon booster, to get through hw and actiivties? 12 hr 54 min ago
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                • then he doesn't go to sleep till 11pm. it's horrible since he's up at 5:30. and the worst is, he is so uncoordinated that he barley likes sports, we do them now since he's still...(more) 12 hr 52 min ago
                  young but he doesn't love them and isn't that great at them so it's not a big energy burn for him. he does a lot of stand on side lines
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                  • I know this sounds harsh...but somedays my mind is just overcome with all these thoughts 12 hr 52 min ago
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                  • have you tried swimming? that was a godsend for ds. 12 hr 50 min ago
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                    • We have and the practice he was going to was at night 6pm and he was so out of control we stopped. he also was goofing off and not trying. But we do want to try it again in time. 12 hr 48 min ago
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        • np: we took her off meds when puberty kicked in and it is working well. 13 hr 8 min ago
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          • ds needs to be on medication - the hyperactivity and impulsivity are just too much still to be unmedicated. 13 hr 7 min ago
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            • Op: that is us now and I think will be us during puberty 12 hr 56 min ago
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              • after puberty is when a large percentage of hyperactive kids are no longer that way. Not during puberty. 7 hr 15 min ago
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    • meds meds meds (for us). praying puberty helps but he is 8 10 hr 55 min ago
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    • after he goes through puberty. this is why you don't see high school classrooms with kids running all around. 7 hr 17 min ago
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      • kids act out in different ways. 7 hr 16 min ago
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        • two extremely hyperactive boys (would crawl on the floor sibling people's feet, could not sit still in early grades) are now seniors in high school as is my son. One just got into...(more) 7 hr 13 min ago
          Princeton. Other is just a great young man, leader type. Can't say for your kids but these boys no longer on meds. The inattentve adhd quiet ones still on meds.
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          • my kid isn't on meds. but we have seen other older kids still struggle with adhd - in different ways than the jump out of the chair way. that was my point. 7 hr 9 min ago
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  14. Special Needs Would you guys consider voting for my cookie on FB in the Met Opera Bake Off? I'm the busty red dress Carmen w the sprinkle cig...(more) 13 hr 45 min ago (11 replies)
    • i woudl, but is it going to go on my facebook feed? is there a way to vote without that? 13 hr 42 min ago
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      • great cookie btw 13 hr 42 min ago
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      • I don't think it shares automatically to your feed. I didn't to mine or my friends. 13 hr 41 min ago
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    • Done, love it btw 13 hr 39 min ago
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    • Your really is the best one! Great job :) 13 hr 28 min ago
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    • i voted 13 hr 26 min ago
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      • Me too..It was my fav 13 hr 24 min ago
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    • Are you in the lead? 13 hr 24 min ago
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    • I voted! Very cute cookie. 12 hr 4 min ago
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    • Done and I LOVE carmen 10 hr 54 min ago
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      • TY guys!! I'll let u know if we win. They announce on Monday. 10 hr 28 min ago
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  15. Special Needs I'm considering sleep away camp for my mild to moderate spectrum ds, who will be 12 this summer. I've heard Camp Akeela mentioned as well as Summit. Thoughts on these camps? 12-19-2014 9:22pm (7 replies)
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    • Akeela is a partner of my sisters summer camp. I spoke with them when they first opened. It seems great but $$$$$ 12-19-2014 9:23pm
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      • op: Thank you. What's the sister camp? (And we're fortunate that money isn't an issue.) 12-19-2014 9:24pm
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        • She owns Black Bear Lake 12-19-2014 9:25pm
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    • Dc went to Summit for 2 summers. It was different owners when he was there, so 6 years ago and not sure how or if it has changed. It was not for my dc, but he has different...(more) 12-19-2014 9:26pm
      issues, ADHD and ld and he felt like it was way too rigid and restrictive.
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      • op: Thank you. I think my ds needs restrictive/rules. 12-19-2014 9:27pm
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        • In that sense it was very well run. It just was a bad match for my paticular child 12-19-2014 9:28pm
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  16. Special Needs I posted before about finding an appropriate school for my 5 yo with anxiety. Anyone have a child with anxiety in an ICT class? Wondering if we should pursue that route. He...(more) 12-19-2014 9:00pm (2 replies)
    doesn't have an IEP or anything at this point. So I'm not sure where to begin.
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    • ^^^currently in private preK going into K next year. He's actually 4.11 so the cutoff isn't an issue. 12-19-2014 9:01pm
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    • I responded to your original post w/similar age dc that we did a ton of early preschool private psych work with anxiety. I think private psych is key. ICT while is great for...(more) 12-19-2014 9:07pm
      breakdown of smaller group instruction, does nothing to address anxiety in general. I have 1 dc in that setting and it tends to be a larger class than my other dc's class, which is a smaller gen ed class. It could be a good idea for K if you need an extra pair of eyes on dc but then you have to think, who is going to be in that class, will their be personalities to set your child off?
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  17. Special Needs Ladies, my dd with anxiety disorder, who has been up,hours afte bedtime for two weeks, whom I've been posting about nightly, just went to bed AND SATYED IN BED. and yes, it is...(more) 12-19-2014 7:55pm (15 replies)
    because she is exhausted, but I have never been so relieved.
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    • how old? poor thing! 12-19-2014 7:56pm
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      • 9yo. It has truly been a nightmare, anxiety spiraling out of control, both of us at our wits end and desperate. Exhaustion making it a thousand times worse. 12-19-2014 7:57pm
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        • I hope she sleeps great tonight! What does the doc say? 12-19-2014 7:58pm
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          • She has not been in therapy since Nick seivert left 5 months ago, which has been a real part of the problem. Starting back with someone new in January. 12-19-2014 7:59pm
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    • Poor baby. I have a 9yo ds with anxiety. It can be truly treacherous. Is your dd on meds? 12-19-2014 8:00pm
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      • She hasn't been yet and really woulda like to avoid them as long as possible. Once she is back in regular therapy, if this continues, I will peruse a psych to discuss it. How...(more) 12-19-2014 8:02pm
        about yours?
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        • Yes, we started fluoxetine when he was newly 8 and we saw a huge improvement. We weaned him off after about a year and it was awful. We started him back on about 6weeks ago and...(more) 12-19-2014 8:04pm
          he's like a new kid. I hate that I have a kid on meds, but I'm thankful for them bc his life was very hard without them.
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          • Can you tell me more about his anxiety? What kind? Does he have other sn? Is he in therapy? 12-19-2014 8:07pm
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            • He's got a lot of sensory stuff, he gets depressed and anxious, he's very sensitive, much more so than a typical kid. They just called it General Anxiety disorder, not specific....(more) 12-19-2014 8:10pm
              He doesn't have any other dx, but I sometimes wonder if he's aspie.
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              • ^^^we are seeing our therapist tomorrow (yay)! 12-19-2014 8:11pm
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              • Has he had a neuropsych? Are you in NYC? 12-19-2014 8:17pm
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                • Not in NYC. I took him to a NP and she said it was anxiety and that we should see a psychiatrist and psychologist. We went to NYU in Hackensack. 12-19-2014 8:20pm
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      • You need to get some meds for that poor thing. 23 hr 47 min ago
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  18. Special Needs Do you tip your SN tutors / reading tutors? 12-19-2014 6:59pm (0 replies)
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  19. Special Needs Do kids with language-based LDs absolutely need a school to remediate them or can you get the remediation with tutoring? We love our MS school and don't want to leave despite...(more) 12-19-2014 6:46pm (16 replies)
    Salsberg telling us to put DC in SN school. DC is 6.
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    • I onlyl know people who did this in the burbs. I don't see why it shouldn't be possible in the city, you just have eto make sure either than the school has a program for...(more) 12-19-2014 6:47pm
      appropriate remediation, or that you're getting it outside.
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    • IS the current school supportive? 12-19-2014 6:47pm
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      • Yes, it's Steiner 12-19-2014 6:59pm
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    • Some mainstream schools and public schools do offer remediation. You need to find that out. Also it depends on the nature of the LD. Dyslexia or something else? Ask NP why he is...(more) 12-19-2014 6:49pm
      so set on SN school.
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      • Certain NYC np's assume parents will prefer private school, if they can make enough of a case to get in and get funded. 12-19-2014 6:57pm
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        • I live in burbs and would have preferred if DD could have stayed in public but she needed too much help. She would have preferred...(more) 12-19-2014 9:29pm
          public too for friends, sports, extracurriculars, etc. But SN school is giving her the help she needs academically.
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      • Steiner does not believe in LDs! 12-19-2014 6:59pm
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    • in my experience, yes, but as the child grows older you sacrifice things like baseball, art, playdates, whatever your kid likes to do afterschool, for tutoring. so you have to...(more) 12-19-2014 6:51pm
      kind of decide which life you want....the MS you "love" or for your child to have a life. i know you don';t want to leave. no one does. you can always go back. ds is at windward and applying back to MS schools now, including the one he left.
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    • Depends on the dc. My two older dc are in ms schools with LD. The oldest doesn't get tutoring any longer (HS) but the middle school gets it once a week. My baby who is 6yr is at a...(more) 12-19-2014 6:55pm
      SN school for LD. His issues manifested very young whereas the siblings issues manifested in 4th grade. The sib school was very language based and the wrong fit for him...so he needed a diff, learning environment
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    • This issue is once DC gets older and work becomes more difficult the more he may need to be in a different setting. My DS did amazing in K and pretty good in 1st but as the work...(more) 12-19-2014 8:20pm
      load became harder and his reading did not improve his behavior started to get bad. He is a good kid and never a problem but being in a big class even ICT he did not get enough attention and support it became clear his MS public that I LOVED could not educate him. He is now in an LD school and it was 100% the right decision.
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    • Sorry, but I would listen to David. He's rarely wrong. If he thinks SN school, I'd do it. 23 hr 46 min ago
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    • Where is the school located (i.e. in Manhattan, borough, burb -not asking exactly)?...(more) 23 hr 17 min ago
      Does the school have a special ed program that is suitable? Are they willing to give your child the help he needs?
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    • it depends on the severity and how much it is costing your kid to go to school all day and do homeowrk adn THEN do tutoring. the cost is too high for some. 23 hr 15 min ago
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      • np our dd started at SN school and with the long bus ride she has no good sports like in public and no neighborhood friends. It sucks but she is learning what she needs to. 22 hr 58 min ago
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    • I loved our mainstream school and was so so sad to pull my ds out to send him to an LD school. but it saved his life. he never would have the skills, self esteem adn later...(more) 23 hr 14 min ago
      academic success if he hadn't received the intensive remediation he needed.
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      • thank you, I needed to hear this 8 hr 38 min ago
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  20. Special Needs I know it's wrong but I hope the weather is lousy in Florida for free my who is wealthy and constantly bragging about all. Her wonderful family trips after I tell her how worried...(more) 12-19-2014 6:02pm (6 replies)
    I am about being broke and how lonely I am being single
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    • and are you drunk, too? 12-19-2014 6:02pm
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      • Lol, no. Just autocorrect. Meant friend who 12-19-2014 6:03pm
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    • I would too! 12-19-2014 6:03pm
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    • This doesn't sound like a friend, someone who would be so callous of your situation and brag about her own. Why are you even friends? 12-19-2014 7:32pm
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    • You need to drop that bitch like a hot potato 5 hr 6 min ago
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    • I would avoid both of you 4 hr 57 min ago
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  21. Special Needs Repost: anyone have experience with dr beryl nightingale or Natasha Crewdson? CBT 12-19-2014 5:37pm (0 replies)
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  22. Special Needs Supposed to try adderall for the first time tomorrow, but have an afternoon activity planned. bad idea to do this as it's wearing off, right? hold off for a day or two? 12-19-2014 3:46pm (2 replies)
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    • ^sorry, dc is supposed to try adderall, not me... 12-19-2014 4:21pm
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      • I wouldn't plan any activities with anyone but family that day. My DS takes concert and it never made him feel different. 12-19-2014 8:34pm
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  23. Special Needs PSA: Shefa Jewish Day School (for kids with NVLD and/or related issues) is begining their open house season. Link to request info inside. As a parent, I am pleased with the school...(more) 12-19-2014 3:22pm (4 replies)
    and also we did get our settlement. Our dc is NOT dyslexic but still has issues related to anxiety and he was accepted so they take a wider profile than just dyslexic. Info here: http://shefaschool.org/Pages/Admissions
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    • Wait....Shefa isn't for nvld. It's for language based ld's. 12-19-2014 5:21pm
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      • op: OOPS, total goof on my part, brain fog. thanks for clarifing! 12-19-2014 5:44pm
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    • How is the school supporting your dc and his/her anxiety? 1 hr 46 min ago
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      • (I am probably outing myself) his presents in very black and white thinking and being quick to get angry at other kids for what he percieves as their wrong behavior. They are...(more) 59 min ago
        not using a pull out model, instead lead teachers are working with him to evaluate how important the "infraction" of other kid was (ie should he be responding in his enormous way or let it go) and plan his unstructured time (like recess). As for other types of anxiety type kids, I am not sure what they do for them... that said, I do see many more kids than I expected who do not fit the straight LD mold...
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  24. Special Needs Advice, please. Dd is 7, and while she has some friends she still plays with from preschool (always at my invite) she really only has one close friend. Problem is, she tells me he...(more) 12-19-2014 1:55pm (1 reply)
    always gets in trouble, and now I am getting the same feedback about dd. What do I do? She's never been in trouble before, does have some focus issues so has work extra hard to stay on task. She loves this kid, wants to make him laugh, but increasingly the two of them are in 'a world of two', with inside jokes and misbehavior. Advice, please?
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    • Are you friendly with the parent? I would encourage that you work togther first, to see if you can address the problem with the two as a team. I know that is not standard but it...(more) 12-19-2014 3:24pm
      sounds like it may be a good place to start from a mom's perspective...
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  25. Special Needs I'm just writing to send my thanks out to the universe, and more specifically to the people on this board. One year ago I was at the end of my rope. I didn't know what to do to...(more) 12-19-2014 1:11pm (2 replies)
    help my daughter with her academic or behavior issues. She was failing school, freaking out at home, and I was feeling pretty hopeless. This year has brought a neuropsych evaluation, a new understanding of how her mind works, a new therapist, a switch to an SN/LD school where she is thriving, a settlement from the DOE, and new confidence in her future. I just left a concert at her school, and I just couldn't stop thinking how happy and grateful I am to be here today. Thank you to all the people on this board who have shared so much advice and support. None of this would have been possible without you. This is really a wonderful place.
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    • Oh wow! I am so happy for you. Your post makes me teary. THINGS DO GET BETTER. 12-19-2014 1:12pm
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    • Same here... I love this board and all of the helpful souls here 12-19-2014 2:13pm
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