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  1. Single Parents If your ex all of a sudden changes his childcare plans and you had bought tickets for something based on the original plans, does the ex have to pay the added sitter costs? 2-15-2012 10:05am (9 replies)
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    • Are you new here? You might get more responses if you post on Toddler. GL. 2-15-2012 10:06am
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      • not new here and I abhor Toddler 2-15-2012 10:53am
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    • who has sole custody? if you do, you have the responsibility. you could ask him, but i he refuses you don't have any recourse. 2-15-2012 10:08am
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    • in theory yes 2-15-2012 10:09am
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    • If you both nickel and dime each other, then yes. If not, no. 2-15-2012 10:10am
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      • well, he has been refusing to make childcare payments and just switched his plan yesterday completely self-centeredly (big suprise) without...(more) 2-15-2012 10:56am
        consideration of the fact that many other people had made plans based on the original schedule. It will be almost $100 for me to have a sitter stay. I think the asshole should stick to his original plan or cover my added costs. I have tickets with a friend for his birthday to a sold-out show and it's his only free night.
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        • NP: I say yes but if he doesn't pay you support, do you really expect him to hand over $100? 2-15-2012 10:58am
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          • Not really, but he should stick to the original plan, which he has asserted for at least 4-5 weeks now. If he says 5 times that he...(more) 2-15-2012 11:04am
            will have dc stay for X weekend starting on Friday and then 3 days before says "no earlier than 2pm on Saturday," and I have tickets to something based on the previous 5 assertions...he is just such an asshole...
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            • He did that on purpose because he knew you must have had important plans since you asked so many times. btdt. I tried for a little while to pretend like I didn't care but really...(more) 2-17-2012 6:33pm
              you just need to accept that you are a single mom and do not expect to count on him for anything. If you want to go out on his night, plan for the sitter expense before he cancels. And take his ass to court to get some child support.
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  2. Single Parents I will torture my ex's mother today for enabling him and keeping important information from me/lying to me. Until they...(more) 2-14-2012 10:15am (0 replies)
    stop lying and hiding information, I really do not care if this puts a damper on her V-Day or his. His behavior is horrible but the fact that she is covering up for him is really inexcusable.
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  3. Single Parents If I lose my job, right before going into a custody dispute, what might happen? 1-31-2012 11:19am (0 replies)
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  4. Single Parents I realized today that if money were no object, I would sue idiot x for full custody and would pay him support to keep him the f*ck away from us. He is so horrible. 1-4-2012 7:45pm (0 replies)
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  5. Single Parents Revenge? Sending ex with dd to American Girl Store on Xmas Eve Day afternoon... 12-24-2011 4:18pm (0 replies)
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  6. Single Parents Tips for getting through custody? My ex is using the same kind of horrible bullying tactics as the GOP. 12-19-2011 4:58pm (3 replies)
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    • I mean, custody negotiations 12-19-2011 4:59pm
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    • What does your lawyer say? When I was getting divorced we looked at the custody from all angles and realized that although I would get primary there was no way to keep him from...(more) 12-20-2011 10:36pm
      having some time with dc. even tho ex is on serious mental health meds
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      • op; in very similar situation except ex refuses to admit that he is very challenged. He wants 50/50 and is not capable. But I...(more) 12-20-2011 10:43pm
        also do not want to go to trial.
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  7. Single Parents I really don't want to remind exdh about upcoming parent-teacher meeting. But I'm sure he didn't...(more) 11-9-2011 9:19pm (7 replies)
    write it down and if he finds out he's missed it, he'll flip out on me. I'd so much rather go without him. WWYD?
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    • in our school the teacher will schedule separate conferences 11-9-2011 9:20pm
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      • OP: maybe I'll ask the teacher to do that moving ahead, thanks. 11-9-2011 9:23pm
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    • You should remind him. 11-9-2011 9:21pm
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    • You are no longer his keeper. 11-9-2011 9:23pm
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      • OP: I know but he is verbally and emotionally abusive.If I don't remind him, he'll be a horror for a long time. If I...(more) 11-9-2011 9:46pm
        do remind him, he'll be a horror for an hour or so. I guess I have to tell him but will ask the teacher about separate meetings in the future if ex can't behave.
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    • as a divorced mom...tell him. Its far better to deal with an hour or two of sitting in a room with him calm than him freaking out on you. After all you left so you could avoid the...(more) 12-20-2011 10:33pm
      freak outs no?
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      • And immediately after the conference take off -- you do not need to stick around with him. Follow up by email or phone w teachers if necessary... 12-20-2011 10:34pm
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  8. Single Parents Really needed a full day of respite after this damned month. Last night was first time...(more) 11-6-2011 12:15pm (2 replies)
    in 3 weeks that ex took dc for a sleepover and he is making a big stink about getting dc home by noon (15 min late already). Really needed til dinner. Vent over.
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    • what about grandparents for a night or weekend? or a friend with kids similar age... you take their dc for an overnight and they take yours at another time? 11-6-2011 12:20pm
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      • thanks - no other options today - just grumbling...really needed a whole day, not just til noon 11-6-2011 12:34pm
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  9. Single Parents Just forwarded a hostile message that ex sent me to his mother. Call me a tattle tale, fine, but it felt good to pass that toxicity on to someone else. 10-25-2011 12:29pm (4 replies)
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    • lol 10-25-2011 12:31pm
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    • will she think poorly of her son or poorly of you for forwarding the text? 10-25-2011 12:31pm
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      • I don't frankly care if she thinks poorly of me. It's an abusive message and she should know what a monster he is. 10-25-2011 12:35pm
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    • care to share some of his choice words here? 10-25-2011 12:36pm
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  10. Single Parents How long did it take you to get divorced, from the decision to the .... i don't even know, whatever the end is?...(more) 10-23-2011 5:58am (3 replies)
    With custody negotiations it seems like it will be an ongoing process until dd is 18. sigh.
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    • DIvorce after 13 years...(more) 11-19-2011 11:26pm
      I weighed the Pros and Cons, He was abusive, verbal and physically.I should have left a long time ago. My daughter remember everything to this date. He never helped with the children, pick up, drop off, finances, food shopping, and discipline. I did it all and I felt I could do it all by myself. I do not have to see him daily and remind him that he shoud help me, take an interest in their school, but I did not have to remind him to fuck me. Imagine that. I got out fast. It was a lousy 27 years with this man. I maried the wroing man. I should have never had children with this man because still to this day he was never involved. It was hard. And he has the nerve to be a Corrections Officer. He has remarried and she is just like him. The woman son molested my daughter and her own father did nothing to report it. Can you imagine that. And he still married the woman. He lives with the guilt every day. I have no respect for the both. I am happy today, get it over with.
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    • my difficult divorce took about 2.5 yrs...(more) 11-27-2011 7:17am
      it was messy with a custody battle and a home to settle as well. If you can compromise and attend mediation, it could be quick.
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      • oh and the end......(more) 11-27-2011 7:19am
        the end of a divorce is after the papers are signed. But the emotional side of a divorce can last longer in some cases.
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  11. Single Parents Hook up..... 10-11-2011 2:01am (0 replies)
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  12. Single Parents Classy freak?...(more) 10-11-2011 1:55am (0 replies)
    As stated in title drop a line or a pic plz b descriptive
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  13. Single Parents Anyone gone through or going through divorce know about tax filing. We are still filing some back-taxes and have been separated for 2 years. He did not...(more) 10-10-2011 5:00pm (1 reply)
    work last year. Would it make more [financial] sense to file separately or together? We are not yet divorced.
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    • For us it was better financially to continue filing as married until it was all over, but i am no expert in general. 10-11-2011 3:24am
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  14. Single Parents any moms in need of a good old fashion F**k?..for real? 10-10-2011 10:31am (5 replies)
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    • you are barking up the wrong tree here 10-10-2011 10:33am
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    • I'm in need of a good old fashioned courtship with someone who finds me beautiful and admires me. 10-10-2011 10:34am
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      • try the nineteenth century 10-10-2011 10:35am
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      • ditto 10-10-2011 10:41am
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  15. Single Parents hook up...(more) 10-10-2011 9:32am (1 reply)
    whats up. Im looking for a woman 2 have some fun with today. I can drive and all..no games people...just a simple hook up
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    • cool. I'm sid mom and i will rock your boat 12-9-2011 4:20pm
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  16. Single Parents I have been getting nasty emails for the past few days from my ex (we are in a slow and stupid divorce process that is making...(more) 10-6-2011 3:05pm (3 replies)
    little progress). We have to go to an event tonight. Any advice? The messages he sent me earlier have just raised my blood pressure and I'm not responding to them. But it's got me dreading something I would otherwise be looking forward to.
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    • smart to ignore nasty emails. Just place the problem squarely on ex's shoulders- dont make it your own 10-6-2011 3:06pm
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      • how to handle in a social situation where he will undoubtedly try to talk to me in asides about trigger issues? 10-6-2011 3:10pm
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        • can you make appointments to talk about it instead? like, "after dropoff on thursday can ex stay for a bit, and we can talk about xyz?" and it's probably too late, but then at...(more) 10-11-2011 4:36am
          events say, we'll talk about this on Thursday.
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  17. Single Parents I hate how long my divorce is taking. I just want it to be over - but i am doing all of the paperwork and legwork and am tired. Vent over. 10-6-2011 2:54pm (4 replies)
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    • I'm right there with you and was just about to post something like that on this board. 10-6-2011 3:01pm
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      • you'd think, he left ME for his affair, he'd want to hurry up the divorce. But no, he doesn't care. 10-7-2011 4:10am
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        • have an affair of your own..that will teach him..and you might have some missing fun too 10-10-2011 9:51am
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          • when i was still working on my marriage, i would have never considered an affair....(more) 10-11-2011 3:20am
            and now that i have been separated for over two years, and well down the divorce road, i no longer consider myself married, so "affair" doesn't really apply. The typical secrecy or dangerousness of an affair would be completely missing.
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  18. Single Parents If ex dh doesn't get a job soon, I'm really going to lose it. He sends me messages all day telling me what money I am going to...(more) 9-23-2011 3:21pm (1 reply)
    have to lay out and he's the one not working and I handle 99% of dc's needs. He's going to lose any custody he thinks he deserves if he keeps this up.
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    • you don't get to decide what custody he gets. if he doesn't have $ for support, he doesn't. you have to take him to court. If you deny him, he can take you to court 9-23-2011 3:36pm
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  19. Single Parents Do mOms generally have epi pens just in casE? 9-5-2011 12:02am (3 replies)
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    • Ones with apaplacteicndcs should 9-5-2011 12:04am
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    • i had it when i my dd had a reaction to something we couldn't identify and her ped gave us a prescription for 2 epi pens just in case 9-5-2011 12:06am
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    • Not unless there is a reason for it. 9-5-2011 12:13am
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  20. Single Parents Almost every interaction with ex dh creates stress because he is so uncooperative and reactionary. But now that I am thinking of these issues as another thing to add to the...(more) 8-20-2011 3:09pm (0 replies)
    incident list, it is helping to lift just a little of the stress. But his behavior really is, as my therapist noted explosively "crazy-making."
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  21. Single Parents other than online dating, where would you look in nyc to find a man? I work from home. 8-17-2011 11:05pm (5 replies)
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    • walking your dog in the dog partk 8-17-2011 11:05pm
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    • Home Depot or Yankee Stadium 8-17-2011 11:05pm
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    • starbucks bathroom line 8-17-2011 11:08pm
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    • everywhere you go, and see a nice looking guy, be friendly. 8-17-2011 11:08pm
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    • Let all friends and acquaintances know you're looking to meet someone. 8-17-2011 11:19pm
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  22. Single Parents Wish that lawyers and therapists were not so costly. Wish I could have much more time to talk to them about how...(more) 8-17-2011 12:39pm (0 replies)
    to deal with ex. It's so stressful to have to keep all this shit inside, and wait til I have a paid session with someone to discuss. He made me so crazy yesterday with his BS and there were other repercussions with DC as well because of it. Only outlet is the gym.
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  23. Single Parents My ex is a crazy obsessive about dc's teeth. He is like a monster about it and it is driving me crazy. 8-12-2011 7:41pm (2 replies)
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    • Be happy that he's involved. 8-12-2011 7:42pm
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      • he's involved in this area, but is toxic and brings conflict into my house 8-12-2011 7:48pm
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  24. Single Parents Hi, separated dh here, filing for D. Looking for something fun, possibly more. 8-9-2011 12:14pm (13 replies)
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    • ew. this is not the place. go away 8-9-2011 12:15pm
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      • why not? should he be on pitts looking for a married woman? 8-9-2011 12:16pm
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        • go on a dating site 8-9-2011 12:17pm
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    • how long seperated? 8-9-2011 12:16pm
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      • 6 months 8-9-2011 12:17pm
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        • where are you? 8-9-2011 12:21pm
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          • central Queens 8-9-2011 12:22pm
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            • how many dc? 8-9-2011 12:31pm
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              • 2 8-9-2011 12:31pm
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                • are you all doing okay? 8-9-2011 12:32pm
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                  • surviving 8-9-2011 12:44pm
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                    • i can recommend dating sites if you tell me what you are looking for. but just know that a lot of women will be hesitant to date a sep'd man. 8-9-2011 12:49pm
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    • Hello..just what i am looking for too..I'm on long island 10-10-2011 9:52am
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  25. Single Parents This is for parents who have gone through divorce. Talk to me about custody. Dc lives with me...(more) 8-2-2011 8:31pm (12 replies)
    and sees dad once or twice a week. Often one of those is a sleepover. Dad is not working, and is very challenged by the responsibilities of child care. Very unreliable. Problems have happened in the past. Dad wants joint custody.
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    • you have little control in the matter. your opinion of how reliable he is of course a negative one, but has no effect on the actual situation. 8-2-2011 8:33pm
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      • op - why do I have little control? 8-2-2011 8:36pm
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    • What kind of problems? 8-2-2011 8:33pm
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    • even if you have joint custody there will be a custodial parent. i am not sure what your question is. 8-2-2011 8:36pm
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      • ^ex dh and I have joint custody but I am the custodial parent. he has them over one weeknight and every other weekend. 8-2-2011 8:36pm
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        • That's not joint custody 8-2-2011 8:38pm
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          • according to our joint parenting aggrement that the court issued it is. 8-2-2011 8:39pm
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            • ^we each have equal say in how our children will be raised 8-2-2011 8:40pm
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      • op - trying to get a sense of what the custodial options are. 8-2-2011 8:37pm
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        • ex also has the kids 9 weeks during the summer during which they go to stay with his parents in europe. he is only there 4 out of the 9 weeks. 8-2-2011 8:38pm
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        • Np: i have dc from mon-fri. Ex has them from fri night to sunday 8-2-2011 8:39pm
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      • op - if we have joint custody, then we discuss the terms of when dc seems him and what ex has input into. If sole...(more) 8-2-2011 8:58pm
        custody, does that rule out visitation and child support? I don't really want him to have *equal* say in how dc is raised.
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