My BIL and I have a great relationship. He just got engaged to someone who was very nice to me in the beginning. Since the engagement she is very unpleasant. She seems to not like other... (more)
women much and shes very insecure and competitive. I have backed off, try to be very sweet to her, dont try to give her advice about the wedding etc. I am afraid she is poisoning my relationship with my BIL for me as well as DH. Any suggestions how to deal with someone like this?
posted January 17th, 2009 at 1:36pm in Toddler
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- back waaaaaay off. 1-17-2009 1:37pm
- That sucks. is he a bad judge of chracter? 1-17-2009 1:37pm
- yes. she is very pretty and he is in love with love and has been lonely. 1-17-2009 1:37pm
- You don't know what's going on there. Keep your distance and don't rock the boat 1-17-2009 1:37pm
- I just try to be nice but shes very cold and snappy. I'll survive. But I don't want her to hurt BIL's relationship with my dh. 1-17-2009 1:38pm
- tell dh this, but tell him you are being extra extra careful here 1-17-2009 1:40pm
- yes, dh has to deal with this 1-17-2009 1:47pm
- His BIL will tell his fiancee for sure. He has no filter. He'll say to her, they think you don't like them or whatever and then the drama begins 1-17-2009 1:49pm
- yes, dh has to deal with this 1-17-2009 1:47pm
- tell dh this, but tell him you are being extra extra careful here 1-17-2009 1:40pm
- I just try to be nice but shes very cold and snappy. I'll survive. But I don't want her to hurt BIL's relationship with my dh. 1-17-2009 1:38pm
- just wait for the divorce 1-17-2009 1:37pm
- I bet he said something nice about you and she is nutso jealous now 1-17-2009 1:38pm
- poisoning your relationship with BIL? oookay. 1-17-2009 1:38pm
- You know what I mean. Creating drama 1-17-2009 1:39pm
- stay well back and be very friendly and always polite. Don't allow her poison dictate your behaviour or emotions. You have nothing to prove and are better off well out of this. It is...(more) 1-17-2009 1:39pm
- She cannot point DH's relationship with his brother (or yours) unless BIL goes along with it. 1-17-2009 1:39pm
- what is your relationship with BIL, that his engagement is "poisoning it?" Odd. 1-17-2009 1:39pm
- Dont make it seem tawdry. We're just all great friends, but BIl is a pushover for women. 1-17-2009 1:43pm
- sad but stay away. you and dh will be the bad guys if you say anything to bil. sad but this happens sometimes 1-17-2009 1:40pm
- can you give examples of how she is snappy to you and getting in the way of dh and his brother? 1-17-2009 1:44pm
- Lets see, they came over to my house and I found her looking through our things asking what everything cost. I am a writer, she read something I wrote and said it "wasn't terrible." If...(more) 1-17-2009 1:45pm you express a preference for something, she interrogates you as to why you feel that way then tells you its strange. She judged me for not breastfeeding long enough (I did a year).
- ^^She told us not to give a gift to our IL's, that they wouldnt like it. We though huh, oh okay and didn't give it and then she gave something similar 1-17-2009 1:46pm
- Creepy. Toxic. Hopefully they will know this 1-17-2009 1:47pm
- wow, she's actually got some sort of personality disorder. how old is she. wht kind of job does she hold? 1-17-2009 1:49pm
- nothing much. sort of an artist 1-17-2009 1:49pm
- OP: I dont know why she would be competitive with me. We are so different 1-17-2009 1:50pm
- ^^She told us not to give a gift to our IL's, that they wouldnt like it. We though huh, oh okay and didn't give it and then she gave something similar 1-17-2009 1:46pm
- Lets see, they came over to my house and I found her looking through our things asking what everything cost. I am a writer, she read something I wrote and said it "wasn't terrible." If...(more) 1-17-2009 1:45pm