Talk to 4yo dd's teacher or not? There is a girl in her class who is always mean to her - tells her you are not my best friend, you can't come to my party. When they were... (more)
younger she would scratch dd and get put in time out. I tell her to ignore and say "well i'm finding a new friend to play with". Yesterday, though, the kid called dd a doo doo. (Yes, this is what I have been thinking about all night). DD told the teacher and the teacher told dd "work it out". I think that is bullshit and am getting upset by this. Please weigh in.
posted April 24th, 2012 at 8:31am in Toddler
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- honestly, this is what 4 yos do. i'd let it go. 4-24-2012 8:31am
- so how is dd supposed to work it out? call her a doo doo back? I mean, the teacher should have at least said we don't talk like that 4-24-2012 8:32am
- the teacher may have done that. i'd teach dd to walk away. 4-24-2012 8:32am
- for all you know she did say something to the other dd. You cant go by a 4yos report 4-24-2012 8:32am
- this 4-24-2012 8:33am
- well then they should have said something to me. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- really? You want to the teacher to speak to you every time another child isnt kind to your child? 4-24-2012 8:35am
- At 6/7 I would let it go. At 4 I'd make a stink about it. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- so how is dd supposed to work it out? call her a doo doo back? I mean, the teacher should have at least said we don't talk like that 4-24-2012 8:32am
- tell dd to stick up for herself "Thats mean and Im not playing with you!" 4-24-2012 8:32am
- she does do that, i will keep reiterating that to her. 4-24-2012 8:32am
- I would talk to teacher since it has been such an ongoing thing. 4-24-2012 8:32am
- I think you need to talk to the teacher. This girl is being a bully. THis is NOT what 4 yo's do. 4-24-2012 8:32am +1 like
- np: ITTTTA. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- that's what i thought too. My dd is 4 and she doesn't treat people that way. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- oh come on, we dont call a little kid like this a bully. She's just starting to learn to socialize and obviously has much to learn 4-24-2012 8:34am -1 dislike
- well she's not going to learn if no one does anything about it! 4-24-2012 8:35am
- exactly. the kid is an obnoxious little shit, but she isn't a bully. and, quite honestly, you don't know what transpired. 4-24-2012 8:35am
- Bullying is the systematic seeking out of others to exert physical or emotional distress and therefore gain a sense of power. This four year old is being a four year old bully....(more) 4-24-2012 8:38am
- np: ITA talk to the teacher. and this IS what 4yo girls do. been going thru this w/ dd for the entire year w/ a "mean girl" in her class - who has not recuited another mean girl....(more) 4-24-2012 8:34am
- i can't stand this kid now! or her mom! I know I can't act on my childish feelings but really! 4-24-2012 8:36am
- i hear you. it kills me too. 4-24-2012 8:37am
- This is what SOME four year old girls (or five or seven or adult) do but not all. That's like saying, "Boys will be boys." She lives in our society. This is unacceptable. 4-24-2012 8:41am +1 like
- i can't stand this kid now! or her mom! I know I can't act on my childish feelings but really! 4-24-2012 8:36am
- Pull that little twerp behind the slide and twist her ear while hissing 'knock it off with Sally or you'll get what's coming to you" 4-24-2012 8:32am +3 likes
- truly, this is what is in my heart. i'm a horrible person. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- Used to carpool with such a little 4 yo bitch. She took all of my patience. I know where you're coming from. 4-24-2012 8:35am
- its a natural reaction. 4-24-2012 8:36am
- Old school 4-24-2012 8:38am
- truly, this is what is in my heart. i'm a horrible person. 4-24-2012 8:33am
- 4 yr olds are in school to learn social skills - so yes the teacher should intervene. if its bothering you that much you should readress it to the teacher. 4-24-2012 8:34am
- I will do. thank you. 4-24-2012 8:35am
- omg i cant stand schools or teachers that think 4yos should ''work it out!'' wtf they are 4, what does she expect them to do 4-24-2012 8:40am
- I have a friend who raises her children (3 of them) with this "work it out" attitude and her younger two are mean. They shove, scream and hit to try to get what they want. 4-24-2012 8:42am