One of my goals is to let more of the little stuff slide. I find that on days when I'm with DD for very long stretches, and she is repeatedly behaving inappropriately, that I end up...
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being critical of her in the guise of teaching. It's really exhaustion on my part, because it feels like her mess-making and demands and attention-seeking behavior are unrelenting. I end up saying things like "grown-ups who behave inappropriately or dangerously in public aren't allowed to leave their homes." By that point I'm not even thinking, I'm just wasted and just want her to sit still, quietly, hands on her lap for one minute. Just one minute. But I'm sure that isn't helping her self-esteem, which needs all the support it can get. Going to try harder to save the corrections for the really big stuff, and just redirect and breathe more when the little stuff is driving me crazy.
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- age? 12-26-2010 4:33pm
- trying to invent the 'let it go' pill here --- will send you a large supply if I am ever successful 12-26-2010 4:33pm
- i'm a parent who has no trouble letting things go - i think this is something that's just in my nature, i've always been this way. 12-26-2010 4:34pm
- can dh keep you in check? 12-26-2010 4:36pm
- lol, what does this mean, keep me in check? we're the same, little stuff like that just doesn't bother either one of us. 12-26-2010 4:37pm
- OP: I wonder how long you'd make it with my DD. You are sweeping up the sand dumped out of the shoes in one room and she decides to make a paper candy festival by tearing up tissue...(more) 12-26-2010 4:45pm
paper in the other, so you stop that and then she pours four containers of different toys on the bed. For hours and hours. Thankfully, we rarely are at home for this many hours, and have structured and athletic activities most every day, but this kind of stuff would drive anyone nuts.
- jealous, really want to be more like you, letting things go faster in all aspects of my life not just w/dc 12-26-2010 4:39pm
- OP - I think the real answer is that I didn't give myself any breaks, we were stuck inside, and that's why my patience was short. It's just...(more) 12-26-2010 9:57pm
a recipe for disaster for us to be inside without exercise or some structure. The worst is that I feel guilty about not having spent better quality time with her, I was so annoyed about the constant messes that it was hard to do nice things. We did read two books together. I wish we'd done some other nice things today though. The house didn't end up any cleaner than it started in spite of all that constant straightening up.
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