I really want to tell a very close friend to get a job, any job. She's very unhappy right now, always frustrated with her DCs and her DH and the mommy drama around the neighborhood... (more)
keeps coming her way and seriously stressing her out. I want to suggest she perhaps reach out for a job she was planning on trying for but dropped the idea. I really do think it would be good for her to get out of this rut. Would it be awful of me to suggest it?
posted July 15th, 2010 at 7:26am in Toddler
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- next time it comes up that shes unhappy 7-15-2010 7:27am
- op: yeah? that's at least once a week, so there is a lot of opp for me to say it. 7-15-2010 7:28am
- good luck with that 7-15-2010 7:28am
- do you think she'll be offended? 7-15-2010 7:28am
- np: yes 7-15-2010 7:30am
- do you think she'll be offended? 7-15-2010 7:28am
- I wouldn't say "I think you should work" but I think there's a gentle way of saying "What ever happened to that job you were considering?" 7-15-2010 7:28am
- this 7-15-2010 7:29am
- it would be naieve and insulting of you, if she was laid off. Presumably she's trying. 7-15-2010 7:30am
- she was laid off? 7-15-2010 7:30am
- no she's not laid off and not looking. but every few months she talks about perhaps getting a job. i want to encourage her to try it. 7-15-2010 7:30am
- it's an exceptionally bad time to be looking for a job. 7-15-2010 7:31am
- doesn't mean you shouldn't try. 7-15-2010 7:32am
- you sound meddlesome. MYOB. A job won't make your friend happy. She'll be just as sour at work. She needs to work on her own internal happiness-set point, and no one can make her do...(more) 7-15-2010 7:33am
- ita 7-15-2010 7:37am
- np: first of all, I was not the OP respoding above. Secondly, how do you know what will make this woman happy? She is making a suggestion to her friend. You, on the other hand, seem...(more) 7-15-2010 7:39am to like making excuses for behavior. Friends are always suppose to MYOB? Really? Glad your not my friend.
- np this is clearly a sahm who mitches and moans about her life 7-15-2010 7:40am
- um, reread lady. I'm all for the suggestion to friend to change her circumstances in her life. btw, I work pt and very happy with my life situation. 7-15-2010 7:42am
- dumbass, Im agreeing with you 7-15-2010 7:51am
- sorry, misread, going to get some coffee. 7-15-2010 7:52am
- dumbass, Im agreeing with you 7-15-2010 7:51am
- um, reread lady. I'm all for the suggestion to friend to change her circumstances in her life. btw, I work pt and very happy with my life situation. 7-15-2010 7:42am
- wow 7-15-2010 7:43am
- i am not making excuses for her behavior... but i don't think suggesting to her that she should get a job would 1. solve her problems or 2. help her friendship 7-15-2010 7:44am
- np this is clearly a sahm who mitches and moans about her life 7-15-2010 7:40am
- you sound meddlesome. MYOB. A job won't make your friend happy. She'll be just as sour at work. She needs to work on her own internal happiness-set point, and no one can make her do...(more) 7-15-2010 7:33am
- But that doesnt mean she cant get one or shouldnt have one 7-15-2010 7:34am
- you people are fatuous 7-15-2010 7:34am
- oh please, you never offer advice to a friend? 7-15-2010 7:36am
- not glib, shallow, worthless advice, no 7-15-2010 7:44am
- lol. ok, remain miserable. 7-15-2010 7:48am
- so glad you are not my friend 7-15-2010 7:51am
- not glib, shallow, worthless advice, no 7-15-2010 7:44am
- oh please, you never offer advice to a friend? 7-15-2010 7:36am
- you people are fatuous 7-15-2010 7:34am
- doesn't mean you shouldn't try. 7-15-2010 7:32am
- it's an exceptionally bad time to be looking for a job. 7-15-2010 7:31am
- where do you live? 7-15-2010 7:30am
- NJ why? 7-15-2010 7:32am
- just wanted to make sure you weren't my friend talking about me 7-15-2010 7:33am
- oh ha! where do you live? 7-15-2010 7:35am
- Not NJ! 7-15-2010 7:44am
- oh ha! where do you live? 7-15-2010 7:35am
- just wanted to make sure you weren't my friend talking about me 7-15-2010 7:33am
- NJ why? 7-15-2010 7:32am