from teh hipmama blog "My adult life and identity are not defined by mothering. When I begin to wonder why I’m reading “Blue Hat Green Hat†for the ninety-fifth time strai... (more)
also comfort, from remembering that I’ve filled many other roles in other years, other decades" WTF is wrong with for a while in your life being defined by motherhood? can we not just embrace this short, precious time or is that not feminist enough
posted April 24th, 2009 at 2:20pm in Toddler
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- because it is boring, that's why. 4-24-2009 2:20pm
- I don't find it boring at all. My db is wonderful and so is my life 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- NP - you have one baby? How many older kids? how long has your life been only about the kdis? 4-24-2009 2:22pm
- NNP- Anyones whose life is just about ONE thing (no matter what that thing is) is boring IMO 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- Oh I agree. I just think it is interesting that it's someone with a single child who is presumably young. 4-24-2009 2:24pm
- op: what do you mean? My life is not about one thing, but is mainly about db. That's just the way it is for now. when she's a bit older our days will be less entertwined & i'll g...(more) 4-24-2009 2:26pm
- Oh I agree. I just think it is interesting that it's someone with a single child who is presumably young. 4-24-2009 2:24pm
- I have one db, 14mo. 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- Can you imagine how it might be if you did just this for the next 15-20 years? 4-24-2009 2:25pm
- np did you read the part about the 'short time'????? or did you miss her point? 4-24-2009 2:26pm
- How about 7 years? 4-24-2009 2:26pm
- op: No, I don't want to do this for 15-20 years. I want to have one more db, sahm until time for school, etc. Then get back out there, but I"m not going to be apologetic for really...(more) 4-24-2009 2:29pm living in this moment, and I dont' want to waste it away by telling myself "it's just temporary, i'm not defined by this & there are things I wtill have to do". I tell myself everyday to soak it all up, this time is precious
- So what's your point? You hate HM and prefer your own navel gazing over hers? 4-24-2009 2:34pm
- you are hostile for no reason. I never said I hated her. I'm not continuing this with you. I've not been hateful for a moment but you want to pick a fight, so forget it 4-24-2009 2:35pm
- So what's your point? You hate HM and prefer your own navel gazing over hers? 4-24-2009 2:34pm
- np did you read the part about the 'short time'????? or did you miss her point? 4-24-2009 2:26pm
- Can you imagine how it might be if you did just this for the next 15-20 years? 4-24-2009 2:25pm
- NNP- Anyones whose life is just about ONE thing (no matter what that thing is) is boring IMO 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- okay, but I think it is safe to say that many, many people find taking care of a toddler full-time to be boring a lot of the time. I do. 4-24-2009 2:22pm
- yeah, i can see that too 4-24-2009 2:25pm
- NP - you have one baby? How many older kids? how long has your life been only about the kdis? 4-24-2009 2:22pm
- lot's of things that are worth doing are boring 4-24-2009 2:22pm
- yes--that is where the feelings of personal conflict come in. 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- I don't find it boring at all. My db is wonderful and so is my life 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- nothing wrong with "for a while" that's what she was trying to force herself to recognize 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- it's not feminism, it's a mutant strain. 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- I think she goes too far. WHile my life is not SOLELY defined by motehrhood, my dd's are wee and its a HUGE part of my life. 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- is this supposed to be profound? 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- who hipmama or me? i'm not trying to be profound, no. i'm trying to stay awake before the cable guy comes. 4-24-2009 2:22pm
- Perhaps some people see how if your entire life is consumed by motherhood it isn't always easy to come out of it. And then suddenly you are an empty nester who can't remember what made...(more) 4-24-2009 2:21pm
- you cut the quote short and it doesn't say what you have posted...(more) 4-24-2009 2:22pm I can derive irony, but also comfort, from remembering that I’ve filled many other roles in other years, other decades. I’m not afraid that I’m only this.
- same thing 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- No she left out teh "I am not afraid I am only this" Which is the key to the sentence! 4-24-2009 2:24pm
- same thing 4-24-2009 2:23pm
- zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 4-24-2009 2:23pm