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  1. Expecting If you're out with your young baby, how often do you get stopped by people saying he's cute? Do I just seem especially open to conversation? He does have a big head of bright...(more) 7-19-2014 3:04pm (1 reply)
    orange hair, guess that's unusual.
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    • One of my 3 got that type of attention. He had a head full of blonde ringlets and bright blue eyes 7-19-2014 3:08pm
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  2. Expecting Natural skincare...(more) 7-17-2014 3:46pm (0 replies)
    Just found out I’m pregnant with twinsies!!!!!!! Super excited as you can tell haha. Anyway, I wanted to switch up my beauty routine and go for the more natural route… Want to stay as far as possible from icky chemicals! A couple of my girlfriends have test-driven this new company and have been tring to get me on board as well… Anybody else has heard of them?

    http://www.vainpursuits.com/?utm_source=0031
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  3. Expecting Best place for dinner in the east village? 7-14-2014 6:06pm (0 replies)
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  4. Expecting My solution for ending campus rape is to abolish the greek system and end athletic scholarships. You're welcome. 7-14-2014 9:03am (10 replies)
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    • Nitwit 7-14-2014 9:03am
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    • both of those ideas do not cause rape, much of it stems from drinking 7-14-2014 9:04am
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      • And drinking is enabled by the greek system and jock cultire 7-14-2014 9:04am
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        • what? so those outside the 2 systems dont drink 7-14-2014 9:05am
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          • It's much easier to police a dorm than a frat house 7-14-2014 9:05am
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    • HOw teaching boys/young men responsibility? 7-14-2014 9:08am
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      • I completely agree. Frats teach conformity and the cult of masculinity. The opposite of personal reaponsibilty and respect for women. 7-14-2014 9:09am
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        • and the schools totally protect their athletes. it;s disgusting. 7-14-2014 9:11am
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          • Exactly. 7-14-2014 9:11am
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          • Wht can't they turn pro at 18 if they are good at football? Why can't the football teams 'apprentice' them. They shouldn't be in college because they are good at sport 7-14-2014 9:12am
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  5. Expecting Essential Legal Documents for New Parents...(more) 7-2-2014 12:48pm (1 reply)
    A fellow mama and a lawyer outlined the key documents we need to have ready. www.citymomloves.com (scroll down to 3rd post)
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  6. Expecting Essential Legal Documents for New Parents...(more) 7-2-2014 12:47pm (4 replies)
    A fellow mama and a lawyer outlined the key legal documents we need to have prepared.
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    • "mama" wtf 7-2-2014 12:49pm
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        • without a link? 7-2-2014 12:49pm
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          • she reposted above with the link 7-2-2014 12:50pm
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  7. Expecting Replacement bassinet mattress for a PBK bassinet? Expecting #2 in a few months and the current mattress is totally worn out.. Thx! 6-30-2014 2:18pm (2 replies)
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    • Have you looked at the PBK website? 6-30-2014 2:20pm
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      • Looks like I can only buy mattress with bassinet (and it was never a great one to start with..). Just wondering if anyone's found alternatives given odd shape.. 6-30-2014 4:10pm
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  8. Expecting Op: director was hesitant bc she said she didn't want them trashing the school overnight. 6-25-2014 9:23am (0 replies)
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  9. Expecting What are your thoughts on this ladies?...(more) 6-19-2014 5:42pm (0 replies)
  10. Expecting Why does DH think my mother is obligated to babysit? It would be great if she did, but she doesn't seem int...(more) 6-16-2014 9:45pm (0 replies)
    Interested. DH acts like I'm stubbornly refusing to ask, when I do she just says no every time.
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  11. Expecting It's annoying to me that some families never donate to the annual fund but reap all the same benefits. Doenst seem fair. 6-3-2014 7:42pm (2 replies)
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    • As someone who volunteers in development, my pet peeve is actually people who say they "can't afford" to donate to the annual fund, but then show up at some school function...(more) 6-3-2014 7:47pm
      bragging about their new car. If you truly cannot afford it, that's one thing...
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  12. Expecting I am pregnant and think that I am anemic (shortness of breath and fatigue). Anyone else experience this and how did you remedy? 5-26-2014 9:09pm (9 replies)
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    • Sounds like symptoms of pg not anemia 5-26-2014 9:10pm
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    • Ask your on. 5-26-2014 9:10pm
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    • You should call your ob, and let her diagnose you 5-26-2014 9:10pm
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    • They test that at the first visit 5-26-2014 9:12pm
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    • I took iron pills on top of the iron-enriched prenatal vitamins. But I am normally slightly anemic anyway. Get a blood test before you start self-diagnosing because the side...(more) 5-26-2014 9:13pm
      effect of iron pills is constipation, which you do NOT want to be dealing with if you don't have to.
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    • iron pills. but I have to say both fatigue and shortness of breath are symptoms of pregnancy. I had both and was not anemic. they tested. the breathing has something to do with...(more) 5-26-2014 9:14pm
      the increased amount of blood in your body or something. THe exhaustion is just that little bugger sucking out your soul, and making one for himself
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      • Ha! Thank you all for responding. 5-26-2014 9:16pm
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  13. Expecting Worried about friend she woke up very dizzy can't drive has racing heart a few weeks ago and went to a cardiologist and her heart is fine. She has high blood pressure and took her...(more) 5-19-2014 2:04pm (2 replies)
    Dh's blood pressure medication last night and she feels like she is losing her equilibrium and her leg is tremoring and has had hashimotos that she is not treating because she wants to wait and see u. She is in her way to the doctor. Worried
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    • i'd be worried, too. why in the hell did she take her dh's bp meds??? 5-19-2014 2:05pm
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      • I'm not sure to bring down her blood pressure I think. 5-19-2014 2:06pm
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  14. Expecting I don't understand the hate for paleo. I don't care what people eat but if I'm asked what worked for me and dh (paleo) people seem to hate it. 5-18-2014 10:11am (25 replies)
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    • You do what you want. But there is no science behind it. You want a name for a healthy diet? Say you eat Mediterranean 5-18-2014 10:12am
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    • Paleo people are annoying as fuck. See also: crossfit people 5-18-2014 10:12am
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    • i hate the fact that people feel a need when they are odd these odd diets (gf, paleo, etc.) to talk incessantly about what they can and cannot eat. i don't care what you eat and...(more) 5-18-2014 10:12am
      don't want to hear about it.
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      • ita. 5-18-2014 10:15am
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      • Np: i don't think gf is weird, but paleo is. 5-18-2014 10:15am
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        • many, many gf are weird. 5-18-2014 10:16am
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          • It's a medical diet. Same cannot be said for paleo. Paleo is just bullshit 5-18-2014 10:16am
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            • gf can be a medical diet. it can (and often is) a way to manifest an ED. 5-18-2014 10:17am
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              • Np: itd! I am a Celiac and RARELY meet someone on gf diet. And they are always a Celiac or have some other AI disorder. You are FOS 5-18-2014 10:18am
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                • i know so many non-celiac people on gf diets. 5-18-2014 10:19am
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                  • No, you don't. Or your social circle is made up of a lot of weird people. 5-18-2014 10:20am
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                  • How do you know they don't have another AI disorder? 5-18-2014 10:21am
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                  • How do you know they aren't? Most people with Celiac have no idea 5-18-2014 10:21am
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              • Based on what? You are polling people on their medical issues? 5-18-2014 10:18am
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    • Bc it is junk science. Explain why legumes are bad. 5-18-2014 10:13am
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    • Paleolithic peoples ate carrion. 5-18-2014 10:13am
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    • well, i have pcos, and an allergy to dairy. So i eat meat, veggies, nuts, and seeds, some berries. thats about it. I guess it is paleo, but i don't call it that and i didn't do it...(more) 5-18-2014 10:15am
      on purpose. it is just the only thing for a person who can't eat dairy, gluten, or carbs.
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      • You can have carbs. 5-18-2014 10:16am
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        • i can have vegetable carbs. 5-18-2014 10:16am
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          • And fruit carbs. And even small amounts of grains. 5-18-2014 10:16am
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            • berries.. i can't eat bananas and grapes or those kinds of fruits. please stop telling me what I can have. I have struggled with my body from 4yo. I have tried everything. Even...(more) 5-18-2014 10:18am
              doing all this and working out every day I am still overweight. My hormones and my body do not think a little grains is ok.
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              • You can have all of those. PCOS runs in my family and I am very familiar with it. You need to have your thyroid checked and get a better doc 5-18-2014 10:20am
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                • I have been to many docs and I have had my thyroid checked multiple times (along with many other things checked) and if you knew so much about pcos, you would know everyones...(more) 5-18-2014 10:22am
                  symptoms are different and can be managed at different levels. Maybe you can get pg, maybe I can't. Maybe metformin worked for you, didn't for me. So please stop with the know it all attitude, you don't know much.
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                  • What was your TSH level? 5-18-2014 10:24am
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                    • i don't have my blood work up paper on me right now, but everything was normal. three times. 5-18-2014 10:28am
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  15. Expecting Some people are more complicated than others. 5-18-2014 10:07am (3 replies)
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    • But most are pretty simple. 5-18-2014 10:08am
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      • Op - I don't think I'm simple. I wish I were. 5-18-2014 10:09am
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        • I think most people confuse complicated and pain in the ass. 5-18-2014 10:12am
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  16. Expecting How to I get comfortable driving with a newborn? I'm a bad driver to start, sleep d...(more) 5-16-2014 7:11pm (12 replies)
    Depravation and screaming doesn't help.
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    • I was flamed 7 years ago when i said i was nervous about dirivng bc/ i was so sleep deprived. you;ll get used to driving them but if you don't HAVE to go and you are tired, stay...(more) 5-16-2014 7:12pm
      hime. it's ok!
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      • I haven't driven yet. But I'm making DH take me to my 6 week appointment, it's getting pathetic 5-16-2014 7:14pm
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        • ok, so maybe dh goes w/you a few times around the block. it's OK to be nervous but don't let it consume you!\ 5-16-2014 7:15pm
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          • Np (from below)... It all gets better. I was a wreck still at 6wks pp all three times. Nerves got better for me around 9 weeks. 5-16-2014 7:18pm
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    • A baby mirror is helpful-ish. Mainly it just takes practice. Little trips. You'll build confidence. 5-16-2014 7:12pm
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      • OR above and good advice. maybe to coffee shop or drugstore. or, go somewhere where you can walk a bit. I used to go to a shopping center w/a local coffee place, small grocery...(more) 5-16-2014 7:13pm
        store and yogurt place. it was a nice way to spend 30 mins or so
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      • our class told us no baby mirrors, too dangerous in an accident. take a driving class and get more comfortable. 5-16-2014 7:14pm
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        • Dangerous as a distraction? Because it's not breakable - it's not glass. 5-16-2014 7:15pm
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          • np-b/c if you're looking at the baby in the mirror it means you're not looking at the road! 5-16-2014 7:16pm
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            • or: i think also it can fall off of the window upon impact and hit the baby 5-16-2014 7:17pm
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              • It's not on the window. Ours straps to the seat behind baby. I found it helpful for glances until I was confident she would be ok. 5-16-2014 7:20pm
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            • Yeah, i get that but I didn't think she meant that. 5-16-2014 7:19pm
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  17. Expecting Anyone under 35 in New York who was able to get materniti 21 test or panorama or maternal blood fetal DNA test? my OB is saying unless over 35 or high risk you can't get- even if you pay OOP. pls 5-16-2014 2:22pm (1 reply)
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    • not me but i'm quite sure your ob is wrong. call the materniti people and they will tell you how to proceed 5-16-2014 2:25pm
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  18. Expecting 40 degrees and raining and school won't reschedule the walk a Thon. First grader has had a cold all week. I should have kept her home from school. 5-16-2014 9:27am (1 reply)
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    • Bad cold? Yes of course you should have. 5-16-2014 9:34am
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  19. Expecting Have you ever taken the abortion pill RU486...(more) 5-4-2014 9:25pm (0 replies)
    is it better than doing the procedure?
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  20. Expecting Have you ever had an abortion?...(more) 5-4-2014 8:27pm (14 replies)
    Where do you go to have it done? Is Planned Parenthood the main option? Do reguar OBGYN's do this? And, anyone ever do the abortion pill?
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    • yes. I had one 5-4-2014 8:28pm
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      • ^at a clinic like planned parenthood 5-4-2014 8:28pm
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    • I would start by asking my OBGYN for a referral 5-4-2014 8:28pm
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    • yes. OBGYN. 5-4-2014 8:28pm
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    • Ask your ob. Mine does them in office if early. Not a lot offer the pill 5-4-2014 8:29pm
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    • I had one in Manhattan. Surprisingly difficult to get it scheduled and done. 5-4-2014 8:30pm
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    • i had one - went to my GYN and she referred another doctor in her practice. all the doctors said don't do the pill - it's like a 2 wk process of miscarrying and it's AWFUL....(more) 5-4-2014 8:30pm
      procedure is quick.
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      • Exactly, and you are not home with your family hiding something for days 5-4-2014 8:32pm
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      • my friend did the pill and it was done in a couple days 5-4-2014 8:34pm
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        • That is long compared to 10 min surgical procedure 5-4-2014 8:34pm
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    • i had one in the hospital. 5-4-2014 8:33pm
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      • ^ and it was very difficult to schedule. i found it helpful to cry on the phone while speaking with the receptionist at my ob's office. 5-4-2014 8:38pm
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    • yes, i went to planned parenthood, though if it were now i would go to ob....(more) 5-4-2014 8:34pm
      main issue w pp was long waiting time (several hours), but i found the staff to be very professional and responsive.
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  21. Expecting Feel awful for those poor people on that ferry. The kids were told to stay put which is...(more) 4-18-2014 9:37am (5 replies)
    Why so many got trapped on board
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    • awful 4-18-2014 9:39am
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    • People listen to stupid advice in tragic incidences. Just like 9/11 4-18-2014 9:40am
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      • however....in the high rise apartments that are new, you're supposed to stay in your apartment. the guy on the west side who didnt, died. 4-18-2014 9:42am
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      • these were mostly kids 4-30-2014 10:11am
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    • Happned on 9/11 as well 4-18-2014 9:40am
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  22. Expecting Weight lifting kicks my ass more than any other exercise. Am I just a wimp? 4-2-2014 7:05pm (1 reply)
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  23. Expecting Wwyt of a man with two ex-wives who cheated on him? Well, this is a distant cousin. 1st wife is married to her affair, not sure what 2nd one...(more) 4-2-2014 6:57pm (5 replies)
    one will do. Am I cynical to assume he was cheating too? It just seems like far too big of a coincidence that both his exwives were cheaters. Bored. Just humor me.
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    • He prob cheated too 4-2-2014 6:59pm
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      • I know it's none of my business but the whole situation is so crazy. 4-2-2014 7:00pm
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        • Does he look like a player? 4-2-2014 7:02pm
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          • He is very out-going and well off, i can see how women might be drawn to him but i am making assumptions. 4-2-2014 7:03pm
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            • Well-off is pretty much all the evidence I need :) 4-2-2014 7:13pm
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  24. Expecting K aged Ds keeps asking for a play date with popular boy. I woh and pick up 2 days a week when this kid seems to always booked. Help...(more) 3-25-2014 10:41am (12 replies)
    Help with how to make this work? I fear rejection for ds because I'm insecure myself but want to make it successful for ds. Social anxiety.
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    • move on to someone else 3-25-2014 10:41am
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      • Really? Ok. 3-25-2014 10:42am
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      • But he keeps asking for this kid 3-25-2014 10:43am
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        • you can just be honest, sorry ds but your friend can't come for a playdate because he is busy the days we are free. have fun together at school 3-25-2014 10:44am
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    • i am being honest here: don't call it a playdate in your head, that inbues it with all kind of meaning, basically your ds wants to invite a kid over to play after school. just say...(more) 3-25-2014 10:43am
      to the mom, hey my ds wants johnny to come over to play. I can do tues, thurs or sat. do you have one open in the next two months? do you have her phone number, text is easier if you are nervous
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      • ^^^and if it doesn't work out, honestly, it is probably them, not you. everyone has busy schedules. 3-25-2014 10:43am
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        • Yeah, another outgoing boy is always asking the mom directly if h...(more) 3-25-2014 10:46am
          The is can do a play date so we are always too late.
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          • you need to have it set up in advance. ask the mom, hey can i get your number and we can work out a couple dates we are both free 3-25-2014 10:47am
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    • At this age I still don't do drop off playdates, especially if I don't know the people. maybe suggest meeting at the park, we do that a lot at our school 3-25-2014 10:46am
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      • We are neighbors and the boy has come over before. It's just hard breaking in with the other more connected kids and parents 3-25-2014 10:49am
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        • Just send an email to the parents and see about setting it up. You are over analyzing this. 3-25-2014 11:04am
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    • Just ask. If he's not available, move on. You can't get personally invested in this stuff. 3-25-2014 10:56am
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  25. Expecting An old school friend recently had major surgery and I sent her a gift. Now she called me desperate and looking for $20k loan. It's sad. I could easily write the check but I'm...(more) 3-24-2014 6:45pm (52 replies)
    afraid she will never stop asking if I do.
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    • bizarre, who does this? 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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    • Well, if you can EASILY write a 20k check no surprise she went to you! 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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      • I know but should I???? 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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        • what is it for? 3-24-2014 6:47pm
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        • np: No. 3-24-2014 6:47pm
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        • Depends what she need it for and how well you know her. If you consider her a friend then do what you could afford, if not, tell her you not is a position to help right now. 3-24-2014 6:48pm
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    • is this money for the surgery? 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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      • She is divorced with a 2yo. She is 48yo w loser bf. declared bankruptcy and needs rent, car pmnt, etc 3-24-2014 6:47pm
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        • sad :( does she work? Does he work? 3-24-2014 6:49pm
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          • She can't work for about two weeks due to surgery. Disability requires 6mo of non work. 3-24-2014 6:58pm
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            • so give her 2 weeks pay or if your feeling generous, a months rent. 3-24-2014 6:59pm
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        • does she work? 3-24-2014 6:49pm
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        • what if you gave her 6 months of payments until she can get back on her feet? 3-24-2014 6:49pm
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        • yeah, without a spreadsheet showing how this is just a short-term cash flow crisis, and that she'll be able to pay you back in instalments starting on X date, I wouldn't do it....(more) 3-24-2014 6:50pm
          She'll run through that $20K instantly and be back for more and then what will you say? You'll be out $20K and a friend.
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          • np-If I were that rich and a friend needed 20k just to survive, I think I'd giv it without a thought, as a gift. 3-24-2014 6:51pm
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            • np: but is she really helping by doing this? Are we sure there isn't more backstory to this? Is loser bf a druggie? 3-24-2014 6:52pm
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              • np-if what she needs is rent money then yes, she is solving the issue until her friend can get back on her feet. 3-24-2014 6:53pm
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                • or just delaying the inevitable. 3-24-2014 6:55pm
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                  • op knows her friend, sounds like a woman down on her luck to me. 3-24-2014 6:56pm
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                    • Op knows her friend and is questioning what she should do. 3-24-2014 6:57pm
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              • np, if i thought the if were drug money, than no. but if a few months of rent could help her why not? 3-24-2014 6:54pm
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              • if you would give to an anonymous charity than why not a friend? 3-24-2014 6:55pm
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            • or - but just because it doesn't mean anything to OP, doesn't mean it means nothing to her friend. Sometimes giving people money just delays the inevitable, they need to hit rock...(more) 3-24-2014 6:54pm
              bottom before really realizing that they need to change their lifestyle and dig themselves out of debt.
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              • that woman has a toddler, had major surgery and is poor...she doesn't need a lesson, she needs help. 3-24-2014 6:55pm
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                • this 100x, what is wrong with people? 3-24-2014 7:02pm
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                  • idk, it's so condescending. 3-24-2014 7:03pm
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                    • I can understand if she were a drug addict, but major surgery, time off no pay and 2 yr old? I cant imagine saying no to a friend if a could 'easily' write a check. 3-24-2014 7:07pm
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                  • np: I think I'm having a hard time with the idea of just handing someone cash. If I had control over what it went to, I might feel better about it... like if I was certain it was...(more) 3-24-2014 7:05pm
                    going to rent. Or if I could just buy groceries for them directly, that would be better imo.
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                    • ^but I know I can't just hand someone money and tell them where to put it. 3-24-2014 7:06pm
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                      • nope, you cant 3-24-2014 7:08pm
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                        • and that's where my dilemma would lie. I vote for buying the family groceries for awhile. 3-24-2014 7:08pm
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                          • Do you need to pick the food as well? Make sure its nothing 'too good' for her and her poor family. I hate people like this. 3-24-2014 7:10pm
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                            • beggars can't be choosers. Op herself is questioning what would be most helpful. Handing someone money is great, but not if they make poor choices with it. Like someone said, you...(more) 3-24-2014 7:13pm
                              could just be prolonging the inevitable.
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                              • what is the inevitable? 3-24-2014 7:16pm
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                                • who knows. I need to know more about these people. 3-24-2014 7:18pm
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                          • Why cant people just give unconditionally if money is no objct and its a friend? 3-24-2014 7:11pm
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                            • because depending on the situation, you might not actually be helping. I don't know op's friend. I don't know what kinds of choices she makes. Based solely on what op has told us,...(more) 3-24-2014 7:14pm
                              this is what I'd be most comfortable offering.
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                          • Yet you'll give 20k to strangers or an already rich organization for the tax write off correct? 3-24-2014 7:13pm
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                            • That's an awful lot of money for me, so no. 3-24-2014 7:14pm
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                              • I thought you said you could easily wwrite the check? In that case, give what you could afford to lose, im sure even 1k would be appreciated 3-24-2014 7:17pm
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                                • no, I'm not op. 3-24-2014 7:18pm
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                      • makes sense if you truly think they'll use it poorly, like my mil who would just go clothes shopping. But think about when you donate to charity: how much goes through person who...(more) 3-24-2014 7:09pm
                        needs help and how much to CEO with a $$$$ salary? It's a general gift, used for either very good purpose directly or rather good.
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                        • ^^^and personally I'd feel bad not helping the 2yo who needs help, when you know what goes on in shelters. 3-24-2014 7:10pm
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                      • generousity is not about contro 3-24-2014 7:09pm
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          • If she is really a friend, I'd just give what I am willing to lose and call it day, deosnt have to be 20k. 3-24-2014 6:52pm
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    • 20k loan. wow. 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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    • Can you write me a check? I'll never ask again. 3-24-2014 6:46pm
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    • so bizarre. Who does this? 3-24-2014 6:47pm
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    • Did she say what she needed the money for? 3-24-2014 6:47pm
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