Elementary
- Elementary My ten-year-old needs a math tutor/specialist who knows how to work with many different math programs/curricula. My DC has struggled in math....(more)
- not that i've btdt, but i do know the owner of Private Prep and would start there. www.privateprep.com
- Why many? Why not just the one at his school?
- Elementary Need piano lesson advice please. dd's teacher (concert pianist, very serious) just told me she thinks 8 yo needs 40 min lesson --up from current 30. dd has been taking it for a...(more)
- as she plays harder material, the teacher will need more time to cover everything,
- so 40 mins is normal for 3rd grader?
- yeah, but 30 mins is pretty normal, too. if that's all you want, it's okay to tell the teacher that.
- or dd can just go at a slower pace
- so 40 mins is normal for 3rd grader?
- they always want more and it is just fine for your dc to continue at a lowkey level
- so i should tell her to back down a bit?
- you just say she is happy at this level of commitment
- thank you--that is a nice but firm way of saying it.
- you just say she is happy at this level of commitment
- so i should tell her to back down a bit?
- as she plays harder material, the teacher will need more time to cover everything,
- Elementary We are looking for burn...have gone to South Orange NJ and like it but the taxes are crazy and just heard the HS is bad. I have a stepson who will go into HS soon. Is it as bad as...(more)
- columbia HS is a big diverse HS - send over a dozen kids to ivy's each year. has a large pop of lower income fame
- Op I knew that but she made it seem like it was bad....anyone have first hand experience
- Elizabeth Shue and Andrew Shue went there
- who are they
- actors
- yeah they have so many actors in that school. zach from garden state, singer what is her name...
- lol op are your kids actors
- who are they
- Elizabeth Shue and Andrew Shue went there
- Op I knew that but she made it seem like it was bad....anyone have first hand experience
- columbia HS is a big diverse HS - send over a dozen kids to ivy's each year. has a large pop of lower income fame
- Elementary I hate the burb we moved to...it is so stereotypical of burb moms. I think we made a big mistake
- from where to where
- city to westfield....we are so opposite
- Not really.
- I grew up in NYC, and live in SH. Millburn-Short Hills has a nice selection of city folk who move out. What are you looking for, specifically or what type are you interested in...(more)
- more laid back. most here are sahms can only talk about kids. Are a little closed off imo
- So ask them about other things.
- YES I really have. I especially feel stupid when I'm not up to everything that is happening at school. they live for school and sports
- You just think that's all they talk about because you've only made small talk with them. Btdt. It takes a couple of years to make friends.
- Well, honestly, having grown up in Manhattan, then after marriage lived in Westchester and NJ and most of my friends who I grew up with live in Fairfield Cty, I find the towns on...(more)
- I love the town....nice to have restaurants great pool parks. I think I'm in the wrong part of town. I need a mix of more wohms
- So ask them about other things.
- more laid back. most here are sahms can only talk about kids. Are a little closed off imo
- city to westfield....we are so opposite
- where?
- and i bet you're soooo cool
- not at all but these women are vapid
- np: How long have you been there?
- 1 year
- They can't all be "vapid".
- no but it seems there is a large group in my area like this
- I'm the one who posted about SH. No way are they ALL vapid in Westfield. I know a couple of people there who are pretty cool and smart. I know plenty of city people who are idiots...(more)
- OP I really think it's my school and hood. Met some cool moms from my ds preschool and they are from other part of town. I feel like the ones in my area can only talk about kids...(more)
- I agree that they suck. My dds are now in middle school and high school in Millburn and it's amazing how different it is from the elementary years. 5 schools feed into 1 middle...(more)
- is it better? I hope they mature in middle
- I like it more because after so many yrs. I was kind of burnt out from elementary school. I mean, how many parties and presentations and school events could I go to? Lol. I...(more)
- is it better? I hope they mature in middle
- I agree that they suck. My dds are now in middle school and high school in Millburn and it's amazing how different it is from the elementary years. 5 schools feed into 1 middle...(more)
- OP I really think it's my school and hood. Met some cool moms from my ds preschool and they are from other part of town. I feel like the ones in my area can only talk about kids...(more)
- np: How long have you been there?
- not at all but these women are vapid
- from where to where
- Elementary Any westfield parents on....we moved here due to dh's job and not sure we want to stay. It is a bit homogenic and the schools aren't as good as everyone claims they are. Dd's...(more)
- homogeneous is the word you seek
- yes auto correct on iPad...sorry
- lol
- yes auto correct on iPad...sorry
- homogeneous is the word you seek
- Elementary OP: don't care what he calls her; just that he values a commitment
- Elementary Dad's girlfriend...(more)
- yikes. that's a problem
- Not even slightly your business.
- say more....
- She (you?) don't have a voice in whether he refers to this woman as a step mother. You have no say in his relationship and it would be completely inappropriate for you to express...(more)
- so he can live with women w/o commitment in the eyes of his upbringing, even though his mother values commitment. As would another mother of a daughter....
- He's been with this woman for five years. That's a commitment.
- yep. he was with me for 11. and there you go
- The point is that regardless of whether they are married, they have a long term, committed relationship that isn't yours to judge.
- and you are married or divorced and how would your child(ren) feel about another adult taking the attention of their mother or father?
- I've been married, I'm widowed, and I date. It's normal and healthy for kids to know that their parent has a life other than as "mom".
- If he married her, I would be much more hopeful! It's not dating I am concerned about; it's uncertainty (living together but not married)
- This has NOTHING to do with you. There's no "uncertainty" at all. There's no reason for you to have hope.
- your parents: divorced or married?
- This has NOTHING to do with you. There's no "uncertainty" at all. There's no reason for you to have hope.
- If he married her, I would be much more hopeful! It's not dating I am concerned about; it's uncertainty (living together but not married)
- I've been married, I'm widowed, and I date. It's normal and healthy for kids to know that their parent has a life other than as "mom".
- and you are married or divorced and how would your child(ren) feel about another adult taking the attention of their mother or father?
- The point is that regardless of whether they are married, they have a long term, committed relationship that isn't yours to judge.
- yep. he was with me for 11. and there you go
- He's been with this woman for five years. That's a commitment.
- so he can live with women w/o commitment in the eyes of his upbringing, even though his mother values commitment. As would another mother of a daughter....
- She (you?) don't have a voice in whether he refers to this woman as a step mother. You have no say in his relationship and it would be completely inappropriate for you to express...(more)
- of course it's her business.
- what's her business? shacking up with a guy with a small child?
- She hasn't said how old the child is.
- 8
- moved in with them when he was 3
- That's a committed, long term relationship.
- so was mine, until he decided he needed to move on. she will beat the record for him if they are together another 6 yrs.
- She hasn't said how old the child is.
- what's her business? shacking up with a guy with a small child?
- say more....
- Then he calls her Mimi or Peaches or something else. Do not mention it to your kid.
- I wouldn't bring up that they aren't married
- He already knows - calls her "his dad's girlfriend" normally, but is finding it too long to describe to friends
- well, unless he is meeting new friends on a daily basis at age 8, I wouldn't worry about it. Are you remarried? It seems to me that his faith in commitment already took a hit...(more)
- yep, it did. his dad's decision to leave therapy and be with another woman
- and my decision is to stay dedicated to him and not bring another adult into it. Have dated, but he has no idea and shouldn't as far as I am concerned.
- There's something deeply disturbing about you thinking that dating is a betrayal of your son.
- it's not dating; it's living together. my son is upset that he does "not get enough time with my Dad by myself"; I encourage him to say that to his Dad. He said it doesn't wor
- and how would this change if your exdh were to marry this girlfriend?
- Okay, let me ask, do you want your daughter to live with a guy with a child with no formal commitment? Is that what you wanted for yourself?
- So now you want us to worry about his girlfriend?
- no, of course not!! the girls/women he will meet someday. Get a clue.
- that isn't what *I* want for ME, but who am I to say what someone else wants, including my daughter. I want my dd to grow up and be able to support herself
- So now you want us to worry about his girlfriend?
- Okay, let me ask, do you want your daughter to live with a guy with a child with no formal commitment? Is that what you wanted for yourself?
- First, I meant YOU dating, not your ex. Second, since this is all that your child knows, either you are feeding him this idea of he's trying to please you.
- and how would this change if your exdh were to marry this girlfriend?
- she's obviously very bitter about the divorce (understandably) and is looking to put as much blame on her dc's father as the 'bad guy' as she can.
- on the contrary; I want my son to live through divorce, but believe in marriage.
- well, maybe the fact that he is seeing his dad in a happy relationship with his girlfriend will show him that two people can be together long term and work things out. Whether or...(more)
- If he married her, I would be much more hopeful!
- I agree. This isn't about the child at all.
- it's about the child's values
- on the contrary; I want my son to live through divorce, but believe in marriage.
- it's not dating; it's living together. my son is upset that he does "not get enough time with my Dad by myself"; I encourage him to say that to his Dad. He said it doesn't wor
- There's something deeply disturbing about you thinking that dating is a betrayal of your son.
- and my decision is to stay dedicated to him and not bring another adult into it. Have dated, but he has no idea and shouldn't as far as I am concerned.
- yep, it did. his dad's decision to leave therapy and be with another woman
- how old is he?
- 8
- well, unless he is meeting new friends on a daily basis at age 8, I wouldn't worry about it. Are you remarried? It seems to me that his faith in commitment already took a hit...(more)
- He already knows - calls her "his dad's girlfriend" normally, but is finding it too long to describe to friends
- Elementary What is AM that is repeatedly mentioned on Cleveland board? Is it another board?
- now this is funny.
- Elementary When did aniston start looking like barbra streisand?
- advancing age illuminates a large nose
- The Aniston hate on here is probably one of the weirder features of YBM.
- Elementary Started a new job 2 months ago, the bosses are all young all men on LI. They are very nasty and never ever trained me, I was thinking I was doing well since there was zero...(more)
- can you talk to them?
- I have tried to discuss the "non" training thing and trying my best, and there is always dead silence. I ask alot of questions and they always say "oh you don't need to know that&q...(more)
- can you talk to them?
- Elementary Nobody here?-
- Elementary So depressed
- Elementary My relationship is over - I know this tonight as I ok...(more)
- He wrote this...(more)
- I'm sorry :(
- sorry. he needshelp. good luck
- Hate this
- sorry dont know what else to say. we are all tortured beings.
- No we're not. He needs to shape up, get help and grow up. Op either sticks with him for a very long haul, or moves on and finds happines tha she deserves.
- sorry dont know what else to say. we are all tortured beings.
- Hate this
- that is SO PASSIVE! like he can't do anything. Send him first to Center for Motivatin & Change, and then AA...(more)
- He wrote this...(more)
- Elementary What is the going rate for 3 kids in North Jersey...(more)
- 27k apiece, apparently
- Elementary It finally happened. ds came home from k and said he doesn't want to go back b/c his teacher is mean and doesn't like him or any of his friends. i was hoping to finish out the...(more)
- that sucks. they're probably all right.
- lord oh lord parents can be so fucking paranoid
- op: really? how does this sound: "ms A never smiles. she told us that she can't smile b/c we're all bad kids who don't know how to pay attention." 3 kids told me this same sto...(more)
- maybe they are
- that is terrible, poor ds. have any parents spoken to the administration?
- yes several, but they were told by principal that nothing would be done about it. hence the pending mass exodus.
- waht school is this?
- op: really? how does this sound: "ms A never smiles. she told us that she can't smile b/c we're all bad kids who don't know how to pay attention." 3 kids told me this same sto...(more)
- mine doesn't say this, but the teacher is not very warm. I have been bumping into his new teacher for next year & she is so nice. I am so hopeful for him. It was a tough year.
- Elementary Planning a trip to SF with dh and 10 dd. will be doing touristy stuff. which neighborhoods should we be looking in hotel-wise? any specific recs appreciated. thanks!
- we stayed at the orchard inn just outside chinatown gate. Great location.
- i've stayed here before. small place but decent.
- was there in dec with older dc. Great point from which to walk or get public transport if you are so inclined
- we were there at the same time. :)
- ! gosh! when exactly? I was there between Xmas and New year.
- before xmas. mid dec. :)
- orchard garden or orchard hotel? can't seem to find an orchard inn.
- before xmas. mid dec. :)
- ! gosh! when exactly? I was there between Xmas and New year.
- we were there at the same time. :)
- was there in dec with older dc. Great point from which to walk or get public transport if you are so inclined
- i've stayed here before. small place but decent.
- Union square
- this. central. near all transportation.
- I'd try Telegraph Hill for a b n b.
- Fishermans Wharf is too touristy but the Argonaut Hotel is wonderful.
- thanks all! please keep posting any other suggestions you might have. . .restaurants! things to do! etc.! thanks!
- we stayed at the orchard inn just outside chinatown gate. Great location.
- Elementary Can anyone recommend an independant education assesment center in CT, RI or MA?
- independent
- op- I even spell checked that...
- i'd toss your shit spellchecker then
- op- I even spell checked that...
- independent
- Elementary Rebecca School? Anyone faimliar with this school?
- Elementary I have kimino upper arms. Just so gross
- what is kimino?
- The flab on my upper arms is like a kimino sleeve
- nobody notices but you mommy
- Whatever- I am probably younger than you
- definitely!
- Whatever- I am probably younger than you
- Oh - kimono you knucklehead
- nobody notices but you mommy
- The flab on my upper arms is like a kimino sleeve
- what is kimino?
- Elementary Regarding Facebook- my beautiful and charming BFF posts a picture of her and her cat wearing matching bows. Got more likes than all the vacation photos of others-- she has no dc
- ya don't say...
- Elementary Need a lawyer to go against NYC DOE We have no $$ for big name attys..any recs?
- The "big name" attorneys don't charge big law fees. How much can you afford?
- well we only have 10k in savings
- Have you filed anything yet? In other words, do you need them to file the demand for a hearing or go to a hearing?
- incident happened last week..don;t really know how to proceed..
- So this is to for school placement? You want to Su for something that happend to your child at school? Most people will assume you are suing for reimbursement in unfounded sn...(more)
- No it was neglect at a PS. Bad..
- If you are seeking financial settlement for this even the "big name" attys will take you on contingency if they think you have a case.
- hmm okay I will look into thsi . Thanks!
- If you are seeking financial settlement for this even the "big name" attys will take you on contingency if they think you have a case.
- No it was neglect at a PS. Bad..
- So this is to for school placement? You want to Su for something that happend to your child at school? Most people will assume you are suing for reimbursement in unfounded sn...(more)
- incident happened last week..don;t really know how to proceed..
- Have you filed anything yet? In other words, do you need them to file the demand for a hearing or go to a hearing?
- well we only have 10k in savings
- What I you man by go against? And post on sn instead of this board.
- special needs?
- Most people will read this and assume you mean to sue for school placement. If yourer suing for something that happened to your child that's different.
- yes the 2nd part
- Was your child hurt?
- yes!
- I think you just need a personal injury attorney, but don't dawdle - the time limits for suing the government are short.
- Thanks for the advice!
- I think you just need a personal injury attorney, but don't dawdle - the time limits for suing the government are short.
- yes!
- Was your child hurt?
- yes the 2nd part
- Most people will read this and assume you mean to sue for school placement. If yourer suing for something that happened to your child that's different.
- special needs?
- The "big name" attorneys don't charge big law fees. How much can you afford?
- Elementary Considering relocation and looking for feedback...(more)
- Elementary Melissa Morris Having Children...(more)
- who is Melissa Morris?
- Chappy Morris Wife...(more)
- who is Melissa Morris?
- Elementary Sorry for report, posted in Toddler by mistake: PS 165 will be conducting tours for prospective G&T parents on May 2 and May 9 at 8:45 am....(more)
- Elementary Wondering if school is out of line. Had a falling out with...(more)
- I don't understand what the school is doing? If one of the kids goes to a teacher or administrator and asks for help in resolving the conflcit, sure. But it's not their job to...(more)
- How did the school respond to the parents who said they wanted nothing to do with your dc?
- Idk, why do they have to be friends? If I were you I'd tell my dd to stay away too, don't sweat it and find different friends (unless other friends are siding with the girl and...(more)
- Should have been clearer. The counselor worked out a plan where their dd is playing with...(more)
- If this is really true, that's fucked up. You need to get more info direct from the school on this. I've never heard anything like that.
- I swear it's true. It is the most f-up situation ever. I've taken the high road...(more)
- I cannot imagine a counselor getting hoodwinked by a nutjob parent. You need to get your side of the story in the narrative. I generally stay out of school shit, but I wouldn't in...(more)
- I have a meeting with her tomorrow. She told the school my dd was bullying hers....(more)
- this all sounds crazy to an outsider, like what could possibly be such a big issue for a 10 yr old? good for you for taking the high road. btdt and know it's hard.
- I have a meeting with her tomorrow. She told the school my dd was bullying hers....(more)
- I cannot imagine a counselor getting hoodwinked by a nutjob parent. You need to get your side of the story in the narrative. I generally stay out of school shit, but I wouldn't in...(more)
- I swear it's true. It is the most f-up situation ever. I've taken the high road...(more)
- If this is really true, that's fucked up. You need to get more info direct from the school on this. I've never heard anything like that.
- Should have been clearer. The counselor worked out a plan where their dd is playing with...(more)