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  1. Elementary I think there must be something wrong with me. Now that my formerly sweet 3yo dd has become a sassy 8yo I'm beside myself. She has had a rough two years, with my being in cancer t...(more) 9-28-2014 9:22pm (11 replies)
    Treatment (still am until Nov., am hoping I'll be in remission) that also put me into menopause. I have been a volatile, moody, teary and emotionally immature mom--mostly due to meds and treatment--and I want to just sob all the time for how difficult all this must have been/must be for her. I'm a disaster. i am drowning in regret.
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    • onward and upward! 9-28-2014 9:23pm
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      • Oh, if only. I worry it's too late and I've damaged her irretrievably. 9-28-2014 9:25pm
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    • life is life. you learn to deal. dd too 9-28-2014 9:24pm
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    • Go easy on yourself! Without cancer many of us are like that anyway..... 9-28-2014 9:24pm
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      • no 9-28-2014 9:25pm
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        • Oh pipe down 9-28-2014 9:25pm
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      • Thank you. I wasn't like this before; I don't think anyone would believe me if I told them as I used to be so easy going and delighted in my kids so much. 9-28-2014 9:29pm
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        • stress does hard things to us 9-28-2014 9:34pm
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    • try to control yourself. oh and grow up. 9-28-2014 9:24pm
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      • Don't feed the troll, op 9-28-2014 9:26pm
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      • Let us know when it's you 9-28-2014 9:26pm
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  2. Elementary Is it just me? Now that DD is a teen I am way more lenient about junk food, I don't buy regularly but if she asks for Oreos or Lays once in a while I usually have no problem with...(more) 9-26-2014 3:03pm (4 replies)
    it. Can't believe how crazy I was about never eating junk/fast food when she was younger
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    • maybe because you did it when she was younger it is less issue, meaning dd isn't eating 24/7 9-26-2014 3:04pm
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    • Why? Junk food isn't good for him. You shouldn't be letting him eat it just because you're tired of arguing with him. 9-27-2014 8:24pm
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      • Lol, your kid is the one who devours an entire sleeve of Oreos when he's at someone's house! 9-27-2014 8:31pm
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      • Right. Keep telling yourself that. 9-27-2014 10:06pm
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  3. Elementary Dd struggling w third grade math. In general is Kumon any good? (We also work w her at home. Still not enough.) 9-25-2014 5:22pm (0 replies)
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  4. Elementary Anyone already done w/SB-5 for Hunter this year?...(more) 9-23-2014 9:22am (0 replies)
    How did it go? Who did you use? Let's compare notes!
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  5. Elementary Has anyone moved family to the burbs when dc's were already approaching middle school? Dd will be 11 and ds 9. Thinking Montclair or lower Westchester. Afraid it's too late to...(more) 9-21-2014 11:53pm (0 replies)
    move them (not like a job is requiring the move, just feeling like this isn't working for us). We live fine,own our apt, but our lifestyle/home is not at all what we would like and what it could be outside Manhattan.
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  6. Elementary Has anyone worked with educational consultant Dana Haddad? Feedback? We are considering using her for our ds. 9-9-2014 1:38pm (0 replies)
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  7. Elementary In dd's 3rd grade class Friday another child flipped out--he hurled a desk out of the way to get to dd, punched her and punched another child before teachers could subdue him....(more) 9-2-2014 5:08pm (15 replies)
    Classroom was evacuated and a guidance counselor brought in to help the kids. Happened at 11 am and I received no call and was not informed until pick up, when it was told to me by teacher. Dd's upper arm has some good size bruises. This kid has a history of behavioral issues. I felt certain he'd be suspended and told DD this after she spent much if weekend glued to the loo with nervous stomach. Then, this morning, there he was in classroom as if nothing had hapoened. School don't tell us anything. I'm FURIOUS--this kid could erupt again. It seemed obvious to another mom who works w troubled youth that this kid had a psychotic break, not just a tantrum. Any advice? School board?
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    • public or private school? 9-2-2014 5:09pm
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      • Public, a supposed good one--blue ribbon an all that, if it matters 9-2-2014 5:13pm
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        • I'd be contacting the guidance counselor and my principal for a full, detailed plan on what happens next and WHY he is still ini the classroom and I'd have the BOE admin's phone...(more) 9-2-2014 5:16pm
          numbers.
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          • I don't think they can talk to her about another child. he has rights too. s 9-2-2014 5:18pm
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            • He doesn't have the right to harm other children. 9-2-2014 5:47pm
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          • I've asked for the plan and I've been told a committee is evaluating next steps. P.s., his grandmother is a teacher at the school. 9-2-2014 5:49pm
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    • wow, that is not OK. They are trying to pretend nothing happened. I would call the principal. 9-2-2014 5:10pm
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    • I don't think there was any need to tell you earlier than pick up. They also shouldn't be telling you how this child is being disciplined. Jowever, you can and should raise...(more) 9-2-2014 5:11pm
      conceRns about uour child's safety. Call the principal. Get other parents to do the same.d
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      • I think I should have been called when my kid was physically injured and scared out of her wits. She was the target here. 9-2-2014 5:14pm
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    • I would be camping in the principal's office until my dd is switched classrooms or kid removed. He could really hurt, maybe kill another child. 9-2-2014 5:11pm
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      • I've talked to principal, who assured DH and me she's taking care of it. Then, this morning, the kid is right there in the class as if nothing happened. 9-2-2014 5:16pm
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        • did you talk to principal again? 9-2-2014 5:16pm
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          • Tried but too late in day. Will try again tomorrow. 9-2-2014 5:50pm
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    • Omg. That is scary. I'm so sorry. It make me realize I have no idea as to what rights we have to protect our school in a case like this. 9-2-2014 5:17pm
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  8. Elementary Anyone made custom t-shirts for birthday parties? Good cheap sites? 8-30-2014 12:50pm (1 reply)
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    • Is this for a milestone birthday like 50 or something? 8-30-2014 1:00pm
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  9. Elementary ELA/Math question. Do the scores schools post refer to the scaled score? 8-29-2014 11:46pm (2 replies)
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    • I mean the score requirements posted by middle schools. E.g. Delta says 635-815. 8-29-2014 11:47pm
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      • how could they possibly refer to anything else? 8-29-2014 11:50pm
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  10. Elementary Believing in tooth fairy...(more) 8-2-2014 1:57pm (4 replies)
    My son is 11 but probably 2 years younger emotionally. He still believes in the tooth fairy and doesn't connect me to it at all. Of course, I play along. Is this too old to still believe? And, how do you tell a kid the truth? Thanks.
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    • does he get made fun of at school? I'd worry about that.... 8-2-2014 1:59pm
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    • Tell him. 8-2-2014 2:05pm
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    • Are you sure he isn't just playing along for the $? 8-2-2014 2:06pm
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      • most definitely not, unfortunately. 8-3-2014 11:44pm
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  11. Elementary Would you take a very full time job for ~ 96K per year. Kids are 5, 8, 10. Obviously more than 40 hours per week. 7-26-2014 6:26pm (6 replies)
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    • yes, for a while. That would so change our lives, even one or two years of me working at that salary would help us out so much. Your kids can take it; they'll be in afterschool so...(more) 7-26-2014 6:27pm
      it wont' be too expensive, daycare wise. DH helpful?
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      • I have some flexibility. So, ok. 7-26-2014 6:29pm
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    • With that I would demand ft help 7-26-2014 6:31pm
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      • Honestly, don't want it. Will have cleaning person weekly. Just demand nice things if I do it. 7-26-2014 6:33pm
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    • No 7-26-2014 6:31pm
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    • Yes. Even tho it requires sacrifices on all's parts I think it's good for kids to see mom work. That's just my opinion tho. 7-27-2014 3:26pm
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  12. Elementary I have to lease a car. How much does it go up exponentially when you add miles/year? 7-26-2014 6:19pm (2 replies)
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    • do you drive more than 12000 miles a year? Maybe buying is a better option. 7-26-2014 6:21pm
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      • Yes. I do. But, I like expensive cars and then it's crazy expensive! 7-26-2014 6:22pm
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  13. Elementary Need ideas in central nj for ds bday dinner...where should we go? 7-24-2014 10:25pm (2 replies)
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    • sky zone 7-24-2014 10:27pm
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      • where is this? 7-24-2014 10:29pm
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  14. Elementary My son said he would rather take one of my friends to a special event than me (his mom)......(more) 7-24-2014 8:12pm (0 replies)
    He is 9 years old and it is a special event at a camp he has been attending. He hardly knows her so why would he choose her over his own mom?
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  15. Elementary Would you enroll your kids in this create-a-musical after school program?...(more) 7-23-2014 10:14am (1 reply)
    Hi Parents! I am an experienced teaching artist looking to bring my create-a-musical workshops to Brooklyn. I have been doing them in Manhattan but I live in Bushwick and would love to offer them in the Williamsburg/Greenpoint/ Bushwick area. I'm at the very beginning stages of planning and I am curious: how feasible would the following schedule be for parents in these areas? 9 sessions over the course of three weeks (about a month) Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays after school, 3:45-5:45. Show would be on the last Friday in the evening. Basically, the kids create their own musical (script, songs, lyrics) with the help of me, of course. :) I am a singer/songwriter and actor and have been teaching this class as an afterschool program over the course of a semester. However I have found that the show is of much higher quality if the rehearsals are closer together (meeting every other day with the show at the end of the month) as opposed to once a week with the show
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    • Sure, if my kid was into it. 7-23-2014 10:16am
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  16. Elementary What did you do to celebrate ds's 10th bday? 7-21-2014 10:33pm (3 replies)
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    • Disneyland for dd's 10th birthday. It was hot and crowded and totally sucked. 7-21-2014 10:34pm
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      • what month? 7-21-2014 10:35pm
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        • March. It was 100 degrees, which is unusual. 7-21-2014 10:36pm
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  17. Elementary Daughter received placement in NJ school, too far for daughter to travel. CSE says they will give limited travel time, but it will take 6 months. Due to medical needs she can not be on bus for more th 7-19-2014 10:54pm (2 replies)
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    • I know you're anxious and posting on all boards, but you need to discuss this with a lawyer. it doesn't sound like a FAPE to me, but I'm not an expert. 7-19-2014 10:59pm
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      • I am posting so other parents can give me THEIR feedback. Is that not the reason for this forum? 7-19-2014 11:40pm
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  18. Elementary OCD/GAD SIBLING...(more) 7-11-2014 9:36am (1 reply)
    Hi. I am new here. 9 yo Dd with severe GAD and borderline OCD. Lashes out at sister, who is one of her triggers:( Her sister complains that she wishes she just had a normal sister who didn't need everything so perfect all the time. Dd takes up 95% of household--tantrums all day, everyday, from first thing in morning at dawn until bedtime. Just started meds. How do you balance sibling attention when one gets all negative attn and the other all easy interactions and positive attn? What about guilt of having sister have to witness all of this?
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    • try reposting to the special needs board (you posted to elementary which is usually dead here). I wish you the best! 7-11-2014 9:41am
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  19. Elementary Will you have the doc give your dcs Gardasil? What age? 7-6-2014 2:49pm (2 replies)
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    • already started 13/14/15 7-6-2014 2:50pm
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    • done. age 11. 7-8-2014 11:01pm
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  20. Elementary Need to buy a flower-girl style tiara in Manhattan. Any suggestions? 6-27-2014 1:44pm (8 replies)
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    • Michaels craft store 6-27-2014 1:45pm
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      • in manhattan? 6-27-2014 2:04pm
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    • Check online 6-27-2014 1:46pm
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    • Disney store 6-27-2014 1:49pm
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    • try the dept stores 6-27-2014 1:51pm
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      • and bridal shop 6-27-2014 1:52pm
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    • any of the stores in Latino neighborhoods that sell dresses, etc for first communions, quinceaneras, etc. There's one on Dyckman street near Nagle ave on the North side, also try...(more) 6-27-2014 2:02pm
      East Harlem
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    • wreath of flowers from florist 6-27-2014 2:04pm
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  21. Elementary Stay at home mom problems...(more) 6-23-2014 11:29am (5 replies)
    im a mom of 4 kids. And as far as my kids go i think i got that handled pretty well...but myrelationship wit my bf is suffering. He busts his ass to provide for us.but honestlyi feel so neglected sometimes.i get it that hes tired. N i dont have a problem puttin my needs aside..but god damn im miserable only having sex 1-2 times a month...am i bein too needy?
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    • yes 6-23-2014 11:32am
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    • Are you the one with the abusive DH? Are these real posts? 6-23-2014 11:33am
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      • - no subject -...(more) 6-23-2014 11:41am
        Yes all real...i think im a little bit dumb...there are good things bout him too...i just feel used a lot. Like my only purpose is to clean, cook ntake care of kids.it feels like theres no more love left
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        • If he is hurting you, you need to leave him. Full stop. What if he goes too far one night and your dcs are left with only him to take care of them? How will they turn out, growing...(more) 6-23-2014 11:46am
          up watching their mother get beaten? It isn't okay for anyone to hurt you, especially not someone who is supposed to be your partner. Here is a link to a hotline/website that helps domestic abuse victims: http://www.thehotline.org/ Please get yourself some help
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          • And by the way, you are not dumb. You are a victim and you need help because your bf is an abusive asshole. You can do this. 6-23-2014 11:48am
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  22. Elementary Not sure if this is abuse or if im bein dramatic...(more) 6-23-2014 10:52am (13 replies)
    In my opinion my bf of 4 years has huge rage issues. He's dragged me by my hair, slammed my arm in a door, thrown countless stuff at me, pinned me down n spat on my face....bunch of stuff like that i think u get the picture...but hes never actually hit me. Is this abuse? or does this happen to everybody n im bein too sensitive?? We got 4 kids...im so torn and drained.
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    • Please be fake 6-23-2014 10:53am
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      • Please please please. 6-23-2014 10:54am
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    • Sweet Jesus. THAT IS ABUSE. GET THE FUCK OUT OF THAT SITUATION. 6-23-2014 10:53am
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    • this is not normal. this sounds like my kids when they fight. im sorry, he needs to learn, just like my kids, you dont do these things to other people. 6-23-2014 10:53am
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      • Come again? He needs to learn? He is an abuser. He will never learn. Op has to run, not walk, away. Today. Over, done, and done n 6-23-2014 10:54am
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      • It's not ops job to teach him 6-23-2014 10:54am
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    • Yes, this is abuse. You deserve better. Where are you? I can try to find you some resources. 6-23-2014 10:55am
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    • 4 kids? This is fake 6-23-2014 10:56am
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      • Fuck I hope so. 6-23-2014 10:57am
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      • - no subject -...(more) 6-23-2014 10:58am
        1 Is from a previous relatship...n 2 are twins...not fake
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        • ok if not fake, you need to LEAVE. this is WRONG 6-23-2014 11:00am
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        • Please lady, get some help this is NOT normal. 6-23-2014 11:00am
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    • please visit the website youarenotcrazy.com -- might give you some useful perspectives. Also, hitting is not the only form of abuse. He's hurting you, injuring you, and trying to...(more) 9-2-2014 10:44pm
      keep you afraid of him, so you'll be under his control. That's abuse,
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  23. Elementary I don't have clothing battles with teen dc it I will advise her not to wear sleeveless shoulder less dresses to memorials. Do you tell your girls about day dresses, evening...(more) 6-20-2014 10:45pm (4 replies)
    dresses etc ?
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    • What? 6-20-2014 10:46pm
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    • I can only wear sleeveless tops & dresses, although I try to wear something over my shoulders like a jacket, cardigan or wrap if necessary. But otherwise I overheat & have a panic...(more) 6-20-2014 10:50pm
      Attack with sweat outbreak.
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      • ^ and no one ever told me anything about dresses 6-20-2014 10:51pm
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    • "Don't dress like a whore, a meth-face or a juggalo" That about covers it 6-20-2014 10:52pm
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  24. Elementary What 6-20-2014 10:40pm (0 replies)
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  25. Elementary You silly women cut off shirts are to be worn with high waisted bottoms 6-20-2014 10:40pm (1 reply)
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    • cut them off? i have a lot of high waisted shorts and pants, i just tuck 6-20-2014 10:42pm
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