Cleveland
- Cleveland I need to stay off gmail. He clearly is not interested....(more)
- Cleveland Does this sort of thing piss you off?...(more)
- in a golden shower sort of way?
- No like you're a bad parent if you cheat.
- struck nerve with you?
- No like you're a bad parent if you cheat.
- in a golden shower sort of way?
- Cleveland Anyone else ever have regrets about cheating? Would you take it back and stay faithful if you could?
- I wish I could just be satisfied, I think the need reach satiety is the issue for me. Too much is never enough
- Does you dh know or suspect?
- have been caught in the past and it is known that I need lots
- Did you continue to cheat or split up??
- stayed together and I chilled for a few years
- So now you're faithful?
- plead the 5th
- If your dh forgave you and trusts you now then you're a really shitty person. NP
- thanks for the unnecessary judgment newpy! Go toss an unwashed salad
- If your dh forgave you and trusts you now then you're a really shitty person. NP
- plead the 5th
- So now you're faithful?
- stayed together and I chilled for a few years
- Did you continue to cheat or split up??
- have been caught in the past and it is known that I need lots
- Does you dh know or suspect?
- nsr: Yes.
- What is NSR?
- National Swine Registry?
- nsr: Clever. I like it. Took you a while though.
- I was an NP and work quickly
- nsr: Clever. I like it. Took you a while though.
- National Swine Registry?
- What is NSR?
- yes
- yes I regret because it changed me and I fear I will miss him and think about him forever.
- I wish I could just be satisfied, I think the need reach satiety is the issue for me. Too much is never enough
- Cleveland I'm fine. It's been 5 months. But I guess I'll just miss him forever.
- nsr: You will; I won't sugar coat it. I still miss my first affair, and that was years ago.
- shit. thanks for your honestly. I think I actually believed that I
- ^^I'd reach a point where I forgot about him. Clearly never going to happen.
- nsr: Especially if this person was your first or an ideal. That's my problem. Hopefully its not yours and I'm just projecting.
- he was my first. and only. We'd been friends for 6 years before this happened.
- nsr: Especially if this person was your first or an ideal. That's my problem. Hopefully its not yours and I'm just projecting.
- ^^I'd reach a point where I forgot about him. Clearly never going to happen.
- shit. thanks for your honestly. I think I actually believed that I
- nsr: You will; I won't sugar coat it. I still miss my first affair, and that was years ago.
- Cleveland Yes, I was with a married guy and I'm horrible (and stupid). Should I tell his wife now?
- Fuck no
- Yes!! Right now, don't let it go longer or you will lose your nerve. Do it right away!
- no...never
- what, tell her that you were fucking her husband? Are you trying to out him or show what a sleazebag you are?
- Yes if you feel the need to. I would do it.
- AAAAAaaand this is one you avoid single women
- Cleveland I want him so much, I feel like I have to stay cool about it or I will scare him away. I hate this shit!
- Oh god. Same here.
- What's the story
- Np-my story is sort feeling it out with guy and won't make a move. I think he wants me.
- Op-Too complicated but I like him....a lot!
- Cleveland Any DHs on?
- here
- dating a guy that is really confusing me. On one hand he says he loves me but on the other hand he says he just wants to date for 'fun'... how do those two things go together?...(more)
- he either is scared of getting hurt (best case scenario) or simply doesn't want to buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free.
- yes, I need to decide which of these it is. I feel a little naive thinking it is possible that he is just scared.
- do you think he's the kind who's been hurt or could be hurt, or is particularly sensitive?
- and honestly, even if he is just scared - is that really a workable situation?
- it could be. I have no idea about this guy. How long did you date before doing the deed?
- knew him about a month but not many actual dates. 3.
- how old are you? he?
- ^^and do you have children? does he?
- We both do.
- OK, well, he's not some innocent 24 yo. I'm leaning toward he just doesn't want a comittment.
- ok thanks
- OK, well, he's not some innocent 24 yo. I'm leaning toward he just doesn't want a comittment.
- We both do.
- I'm 37 he is 40.
- ^^and do you have children? does he?
- ^^and FWIW, I am OK with dating someone just to spend some enjoyable time with.. but that is not my end goal.
- if that's not your end goal, I'd discuss this with him. That's what I'd tell my daughter.
- how old are you? he?
- knew him about a month but not many actual dates. 3.
- it could be. I have no idea about this guy. How long did you date before doing the deed?
- yes, I need to decide which of these it is. I feel a little naive thinking it is possible that he is just scared.
- he either is scared of getting hurt (best case scenario) or simply doesn't want to buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free.
- dating a guy that is really confusing me. On one hand he says he loves me but on the other hand he says he just wants to date for 'fun'... how do those two things go together?...(more)
- Yep..How can I help?
- read above. Trying to decide if this guy is worth sticking around for a bit longer.
- He doesn't want to commit.. He's probably having some fun right now and doesn't want to get into a ltr.
- This is what he is saying himself. However, he has also said at one time that he is just really scared but he is so happy with me and he loves me but it terrifies him.
- He's blowing sunshine up your ass. Maybe a little.
- sigh. thanks
- You're 37.. Don't sweat it. You've got plenty of time to settle down with someone. Just roll with it for now.
- thanks
- ^^^btw are you both single parents? or are you both messing around?
- single parents. divorced.
- ^^he's been divorced longer than I have.
- ^^and his ex left him after cheating on him
- ah.. well that's got to suck. Idk. I'm on the just enjoy it for now boat. Good luck!
- thanks. I'm leaning that way but I'm wondering what the odds are that he'll change his tune. I'm actually a little worried about hurting him too as I'm not sure I'm wan...(more)
- So now he's a cheater?
- ah.. well that's got to suck. Idk. I'm on the just enjoy it for now boat. Good luck!
- single parents. divorced.
- You're 37.. Don't sweat it. You've got plenty of time to settle down with someone. Just roll with it for now.
- sigh. thanks
- He's blowing sunshine up your ass. Maybe a little.
- This is what he is saying himself. However, he has also said at one time that he is just really scared but he is so happy with me and he loves me but it terrifies him.
- He doesn't want to commit.. He's probably having some fun right now and doesn't want to get into a ltr.
- read above. Trying to decide if this guy is worth sticking around for a bit longer.
- here
- Cleveland He said he was leaving DW.. then he said he wasn't.. then he was.. now he isn't... He constantly says how much he hates being with her and how much he wants to be with me. I...(more)
- He's married. What's not to understand?
- He is where he wants to be. Are you leaving your marriage? (If you are married)
- not married.
- Don't wait around for this guy
- not married.
- he's not leaving her.
- he's not leaving her. Either deal with it or leave him.
- I'm DW. Fast forward 2 years later. I laugh at you. Yet feel sorry for you.
- Actually, I feel sorry for both of us. He clearly doesn't respect either one.
- He is not going to leave, bu the big question is why do you want to be with a cheater?
- Cleveland I wish this board moved faster. And that there were more cheating whores on here
- Are you a cheating whore?
- yes
- Me too
- How long have you been at it?
- This will sound ridiculous...(more)
- ha. that's cute in a hs sort of way ;)
- It feels like HS. He's single so I think of him like a boyfriend. It's fucking crazy and I need my head examined
- nsr: My affair is single too, she counts the number of times we've been together. Adorable, and not in any way weird to me.
- Oh I'm not that bad lol. He actually remembers the day too, which is fucking adorable.
- nsr: My affair is single too, she counts the number of times we've been together. Adorable, and not in any way weird to me.
- It feels like HS. He's single so I think of him like a boyfriend. It's fucking crazy and I need my head examined
- ha. that's cute in a hs sort of way ;)
- This will sound ridiculous...(more)
- How long have you been at it?
- Me too
- yes
- nsr: Well, whenever the cheaters speak up, for some reason, a few bad apples bad mouth us. We scurry like the cheaters we are.
- do people actually pay attention to all the snark on here?
- nsr: Sure they do. That's why Pitts was shut down, and so many nice cheaters left.
- ah, i wasn't around for Pitts
- nsr: It was fantastic.
- nsr: It was all these non-judgmental cheaters, sharing stories, tips, and photos... seriously, people shared photos all time time. It was fun.
- Doesn't it seem risky to say you ate a cheater and post a photo?
- nsr: Yes. That's why I never eat cheaters.
- Oh I bet you do ;)
- nsr: Shit. :)
- Why shit??
- nsr: I've been found out. That's why. :)
- ah, like it was a big secret!
- nsr: I've been found out. That's why. :)
- Why shit??
- nsr: Shit. :)
- Oh I bet you do ;)
- nsr: Yes. That's why I never eat cheaters.
- I've shared photos on toddler. But never would on here. I'm fairly non judge mental about this stuff. But I'm also neck deep in it
- Doesn't it seem risky to say you ate a cheater and post a photo?
- nsr: It was all these non-judgmental cheaters, sharing stories, tips, and photos... seriously, people shared photos all time time. It was fun.
- nsr: It was fantastic.
- ah, i wasn't around for Pitts
- nsr: Sure they do. That's why Pitts was shut down, and so many nice cheaters left.
- do people actually pay attention to all the snark on here?
- nsr: How's this for fast: my affair just IM'd this to me:...(more)
- nsr:...(more)
- op: this is the kind of stuff i used to get. i miss it
- nsr:...(more)
- yr killing me.
- nsr: She's killing me. I just undid my buckle and jeans and sent her a pic. This is fun.
- nice. wish i still could..
- nsr: She's killing me. I just undid my buckle and jeans and sent her a pic. This is fun.
- yr killing me.
- nsr:...(more)
- op: this is the kind of stuff i used to get. i miss it
- nsr:...(more)
- Are you a cheating whore?
- Cleveland Has anyone had success on AM?
- Cleveland Come on baby, make it hurt so good...(more)
- that song is about anal
- Cleveland Living well is truly the best revenge. not even revenge because i don't even care. affair played me and left me and everything is great now. i almost feel bad even. he's having a...(more)
- why and how did he end things w you?
- Cleveland Someone's birthday is on the 26th!!! Happy Early Birthday!
- f u mb
- You guys love throwing frivolous blame.
- OP: Not MB. I set myself up with a recurring appointment and it just pops up on my calendar. I wish I remember whose bday it was!
- thanks :)
- hawt!
- f u mb
- Cleveland I had my frist affair on a business trip recently. It was the hottest sex ever! I can't get it out of my mind
- The sex is ridiculous. It's like crack. Will you see him again ?
- affair or one-night fling?
- Cleveland We have had a flirty relationship for months. Hooked up twice, almost sex once. We are both interested both somehow can't make it work. He is shy and I want to be persuade...(more)
- Why no sex? Did you stop or did he ? This guy should be begging to get in your pants
- He is not married and was scared. Me too frankly.
- Scared of what? He has nothing to lose
- Getting between a marriage. I think I was wishful thinking when posting, I don't want an affair. Too complicated and hurts too many people. We
- get out now. Don't embarrass yourself. If he wanted to fuck you he would have or he would be actively trying
- Don't do it, you'll regret it.
- Getting between a marriage. I think I was wishful thinking when posting, I don't want an affair. Too complicated and hurts too many people. We
- he's a puss. Single and won't do it? Not worth your time.
- or: I agree
- Scared of what? He has nothing to lose
- He is not married and was scared. Me too frankly.
- Is he short?
- Lol. Why do say that?
- Why no sex? Did you stop or did he ? This guy should be begging to get in your pants
- Cleveland For all the trouble this emo affair is causing me, I might as well just fuck him and at least have some great sex. Maybe I will.
- wtf is an emo affair?
- emotional involvement only. I know how ridiculous it is, believe me.
- definitely
- wtf is an emo affair?
- Cleveland Sigh. met online affair on monday. we fooled around. now he's backing off, says he feels conflicted etc. wwyd?
- Back off, you probably came off too strong and spooked him or maybe he doesn't think you're compatible. Did you sleep together?
- no we didn't. just fooled around. i replied and said that do what you think is best, but if you're so conflicted then maybe you shouldn't be doing it
- Sounds like he will be a PITA to get involved with.
- Ita. Next
- i think if he could just get his head in the game it would be amazing. this is his first time. obviously he's not "there" yet
- Sounds like he will be a PITA to get involved with.
- no we didn't. just fooled around. i replied and said that do what you think is best, but if you're so conflicted then maybe you shouldn't be doing it
- Back off. He is typical guy. Prefers the hunt.
- the hunt is fun, but enjoying your prey until your satiated is much more fun.
- Eh
- op: i have. that's all i'm saying to him.
- Ok. You sound like you know what u r doing. Stay the course
- i'm getting some help from a friend. this is also my first affair, but i'm totally onboard/into it
- Ok. You sound like you know what u r doing. Stay the course
- the hunt is fun, but enjoying your prey until your satiated is much more fun.
- maybe he was expecting sex and because he didn't get it he's moving on the easier pickings? or maybe he didn't like the way you looked?
- i don't think he was expecting it. we were just going for a drink and talking. the fooling around was not planned
- Back off. If he's into it he'll come around.
- How long would you give it???
- well you just saw him 3 days ago. Let him contact you. If he doesn't, he isn't into it. If he does and is still wishy washy about it, you can come right out and ask him if he's...(more)
- How long would you give it???
- he's not into you. not being harsh just being honest
- it's all good. i think you're right. and this is his way of getting out of it.
- Back off, you probably came off too strong and spooked him or maybe he doesn't think you're compatible. Did you sleep together?
- Cleveland Who IRL know about your affair(s)?
- No one. Because I keep it very quiet. Don't even tell my best friend. Only affair and YBM know!
- Dh, therapist. YBM friends. Glad I never told an IRL friend. Was tempted to.
- Are you still with DH?
- Yes.
- Are you still with DH?
- One gf who was with me when I met him and therapist
- No one.
- my best friend and my shrink
- 2 close friends.
- no one
- Who is IRL?
- Cleveland Time to end when you feel like it's too much of a commitment?
- Can you st ep back.
- i would like to see him once a week or less but i dont think we can move backwards
- What's involved? Seeing each other too much?
- yes and it's kind of expected at this point but becoming hard to schedule and clear things to see him so often
- Can you st ep back.
- Cleveland This is just such a fucking hassle. Why do I not want to just be done with it already? Do I secretly WANT to feel like shit all the time?
- nope. you love the highs so you accept the lows.
- op: the highs are getting fewer and much further between though. At what point do I wise up?
- when he breaks it off and hurts you
- op: I will be a mess.
- I know. Sorry
- op: my own goddamn fault.
- you can end it.
- I really need to. I just can't.
- ^I am beyond miserable though. Afraid I'll just be more miserable without him.
- so wait to. be destroyed? your choice.
- I feel like if I end it I'll regret it.
- how serious is it? what's happening in your marriage?
- 1 year. Intense emo. No intercourse but lots of fooling around. Marriage is OK, I am just not that into dh except as my co-parent/buddy. I'm just a mess. Never had an aff before.
- drama queen.
- perhaps! very likely. I had a long history of drama prior to meeting dh.
- ^but "drama queen" is kind of mean/dismissive. I am a real person with real feelings. I am not intentionally stirring the pot.
- perhaps! very likely. I had a long history of drama prior to meeting dh.
- drama queen.
- 1 year. Intense emo. No intercourse but lots of fooling around. Marriage is OK, I am just not that into dh except as my co-parent/buddy. I'm just a mess. Never had an aff before.
- how serious is it? what's happening in your marriage?
- I feel like if I end it I'll regret it.
- I really need to. I just can't.
- you can end it.
- op: my own goddamn fault.
- I know. Sorry
- op: I will be a mess.
- when he breaks it off and hurts you
- op: the highs are getting fewer and much further between though. At what point do I wise up?
- hello me
- nope. you love the highs so you accept the lows.
- Cleveland Poster on the toddler board about affairs not having time to parent has a good point. How do we all have the energy and time to be with DH's and DC's when affair is all that's on...(more)
- You are a bad mom, and wife.
- Your vulva has dust on it, doesn't it?
- researching an article?
- What?
- are. you. researching. an. article?
- No. I. am. not. why would you think that?
- everyone else here is
- Everyone else is researching articles?
- They think you're researching an article and posting on Cleveland because they're paranoid. - np
- Then they're stupid.
- I don't think this is it. You have a ton of people coming over from Toddler because they either are cheating or suspect DH, and *they* are so paranoid that they just drop in...(more)
- They think you're researching an article and posting on Cleveland because they're paranoid. - np
- Everyone else is researching articles?
- everyone else here is
- No. I. am. not. why would you think that?
- are. you. researching. an. article?
- What?
- Most of the time I think I am a terrible person
- Does it consume your thoughts? I can't pay attention to anything else sometimes.
- yes
- Does it consume your thoughts? I can't pay attention to anything else sometimes.
- It's not all I think of by any means. I'm very attentive to my kids, home, etc. But for me it's not new anymore. Just a part of my life. It's not distracting but it was at first.
- Bullshit presumption when meetups are during day/not during time that could be spent with DCs. I don't think even DH/DWs think of each other obsessively, and many people in...(more)
- You are a bad mom, and wife.
- Cleveland When considering a guy for an affair would you take safe and known to you or unknown and kinda kinky?
- just don't do it. lose lose. the kinky guy will out you and put all his kiss and tell stories on his public blog and the familiar will make life unbearable when its over as...(more)
- Safe and known. I mean having an affair is going to be a hassle no matter what. If you want kink, YOU bring it to the affair.
- But what if this guy brings out the kinky side in me?
- Then that's great. Are you in NYC?
- No. But he second guy is flaky at best
- np: You don't want flaky when the stakes are high.
- No. But he second guy is flaky at best
- Then that's great. Are you in NYC?
- But what if this guy brings out the kinky side in me?
- I have a choice between safe/known/super kinky and unknown/very vanilla.
- Cleveland Over the past year I was with several guys from AM and have kept in touch with all of them. Some of them I might even call friends. Is this weird?
- depends on your definition of weird I suppose. Do you find it weird?
- no they are a normal part of my life now. but i see them for lunch, email and text and it is nice.
- What do you tell DH?
- do you have a lot of "real" friends? Sounds like they are filling a loneliness gap, have you had sex with them all?
- maybe they are friends since this is part of her she cant share with her real friends
- no i have a lot of normal friends. we don't have sex anymore i told them i didn't want to. we talk about their latest conquests, our lives, etc.
- how many did you have sex w?
- 2 flings, one long term affair. 2 i stay in contact with although never slept with them.
- how old are they?
- 29 and 42 are the flings, 36 the affair, others are 36 and almost 50
- how old are they?
- 2 flings, one long term affair. 2 i stay in contact with although never slept with them.
- how many did you have sex w?
- just as friends or did you or are you having sex with them?
- no they are a normal part of my life now. but i see them for lunch, email and text and it is nice.
- how old are you? part of me assumes i know some of the same guys you know since it's only a small pool of normal men on there
- mid thirties
- ^^do you also have AM friends?
- did but cut ties with most since i am with someone now and ultimately those guys really just want sex
- how many?
- a bunch. had sex w one the rest just stuck around even after i said i wasnt interested in more
- how many?
- did but cut ties with most since i am with someone now and ultimately those guys really just want sex
- ^^do you also have AM friends?
- g?
- no. g is mine
- mid thirties
- I don't have time for this shit.
- drinks here and there, emaisl if something is up in your life, a text message. you dont have time for friends? and i iknow if i want a fling again i can have it.
- I will make time for a fling, but don't need a bunch of new "friends" for lunch and text
- ^^ I have friends
- i like have friends with whom i can really discuss my dark side, and the dark side of humanity. i find it refreshing
- I don't see it as a darkness I suppose
- can you talk about it with your regular friends? i do not
- I maintain that you are lonely and seeking attention
- can you talk about it with your regular friends? i do not
- I don't see it as a darkness I suppose
- i like have friends with whom i can really discuss my dark side, and the dark side of humanity. i find it refreshing
- ^^ I have friends
- I will make time for a fling, but don't need a bunch of new "friends" for lunch and text
- drinks here and there, emaisl if something is up in your life, a text message. you dont have time for friends? and i iknow if i want a fling again i can have it.
- i did the same until i realized it was a time suck for some parallel life and it was totally pointless
- I think it's great
- depends on your definition of weird I suppose. Do you find it weird?
- Cleveland It has been so long since I dated for real, I forget: do regular breakups hurt this much too? Or just affair break ups? This is pure anguish.
- how do you hide soemthing like this from your DH?
- neglectful, distant dh in sexless marriage. affair was easier to hide than the pain from the break up.
- np: omg uncheck Cleveland. This is a hurting person and you are an annoying tourist.
- who cares?
- same np: I do. And the fact that you don't says to me that you have FAR more moral issues than op.
- lol...whatever you say...lol
- ick I hate stupid trolls like you. You don't have the intelligence to even understand what I am talking about. You probably watch a lot of reality TV shows and feel superior to...(more)
- np: well you sound like a prize
- ick I hate stupid trolls like you. You don't have the intelligence to even understand what I am talking about. You probably watch a lot of reality TV shows and feel superior to...(more)
- lol...whatever you say...lol
- same np: I do. And the fact that you don't says to me that you have FAR more moral issues than op.
- who cares?
- I am so sorry. I dread this day, but I know it is inevitable. Be good to yourself.
- i didn't see it coming. i can barely function. is this just ego or love or what is this
- np: I think it's a combination. I think that it's more about the loss of the attention/affection than about the person in particular, if that makes sense.
- probably. and just shock. i guess i bought it all. i really bought it all. i feel so stupid.
- "bought it?" meaning what, you think he way lying the whole time? I doubt that.
- i just dont get it. we were in love, there was no question. then he got caught and is trying to make his marriage work and i'm on the street. it just came so suddenly and i can't...(more)
- i know i could never just ditch him. i feel so ditched. and i was the center of his world for a year
- omg the getting caught thing is HUGE. Wow. I'm sorry.
- and i got dropped. just never expected it.
- damn. hang tough. stay busy. Strong emotions are like a very heavy rain: they do not, and cannot stay for long. This is grief, plain and simple. It will come in waves. And the...(more)
- thanks for talking to me. i feel so alone in this. i miss him and hate him and still love him and all of it. and if he comes back and i've gone through this grieving, how could i...(more)
- I really do feel your pain. You have to treat this like a death. I think these are the worst kinds of feelings a person can possibly feel. You are in the thick of it right now,...(more)
- i need some action items! please
- Stay as busy as you can, particularly socially. Drag your ass out of the house whenever possible. Keep up with all of your daily tasks, whatever they are. Above all, keep your...(more)
- i love you. should i really delete an email account with a year's worth of a love affair? that will help me?
- he says he needs to see if he can be as happy with his dw as he was with me, and if not, then he will come looking for me. WTF
- dont wait for him
- i won't. :(
- dont wait for him
- he says he needs to see if he can be as happy with his dw as he was with me, and if not, then he will come looking for me. WTF
- i love you. should i really delete an email account with a year's worth of a love affair? that will help me?
- Stay as busy as you can, particularly socially. Drag your ass out of the house whenever possible. Keep up with all of your daily tasks, whatever they are. Above all, keep your...(more)
- i need some action items! please
- or will he never come back, he has already made his choice? that's it isn't it. that is what i have to accept
- did you expect to stay together after he got caught?
- he said at first that he needed to settle things down, then that he needed to work on his marriage. so he chose her i guess. :(
- he didnt choose her. you went into this knowing that noone is leaving anyone and that real life comes first, no?
- yeah but we got caught up in a fantasy of being together forever, in some capacity or other. so the space is a huge shock
- he didnt choose her. you went into this knowing that noone is leaving anyone and that real life comes first, no?
- he said at first that he needed to settle things down, then that he needed to work on his marriage. so he chose her i guess. :(
- I really do feel your pain. You have to treat this like a death. I think these are the worst kinds of feelings a person can possibly feel. You are in the thick of it right now,...(more)
- thanks for talking to me. i feel so alone in this. i miss him and hate him and still love him and all of it. and if he comes back and i've gone through this grieving, how could i...(more)
- damn. hang tough. stay busy. Strong emotions are like a very heavy rain: they do not, and cannot stay for long. This is grief, plain and simple. It will come in waves. And the...(more)
- and i got dropped. just never expected it.
- omg the getting caught thing is HUGE. Wow. I'm sorry.
- it's not real at all. not trolling but it's a totally unrealistic relationship that is just based on pleasure
- op here. thanks for saying that. i needed to be reminded of this.
- i know i could never just ditch him. i feel so ditched. and i was the center of his world for a year
- i just dont get it. we were in love, there was no question. then he got caught and is trying to make his marriage work and i'm on the street. it just came so suddenly and i can't...(more)
- "bought it?" meaning what, you think he way lying the whole time? I doubt that.
- how did you not see it coming????????????
- wwe were in pretty deep and talked about always being in each other's lives in some way, maybe even ending up together. so i figured i'd be the secret on the side, at minimum. but...(more)
- probably. and just shock. i guess i bought it all. i really bought it all. i feel so stupid.
- np: I think it's a combination. I think that it's more about the loss of the attention/affection than about the person in particular, if that makes sense.
- i didn't see it coming. i can barely function. is this just ego or love or what is this
- I am headed for this and I know I will be devastated. Maybe I can just drug myself for a few months until it starts to feel better?
- yes, i am devastated. and i hate admitting it. i am falling apart. how long will this take?
- I'm sorry. I don't know. I think it will probably take me at least 3 months before I feel anywhere close to normal. But that's just a guess.
- how long have you been together?
- a year. Actually it was a year ago this week that we first had sex. Fuck
- same here, actually. yesterday.
- many days i'm ok but then it hits me so hard and i sob uncontrollably. like now.
- :(. I wonder if he knows. It's going to be so hard to stay away from him but I have to do it
- wait, when you say you are headed for this, what do you mean? what's going on?
- I really need to end this. I am getting much too attached and I won't be able to see him much this summer. If I continue it will just be torture for me....(more)
- wait, when you say you are headed for this, what do you mean? what's going on?
- did you meet on am?
- yes
- mid-30's you are a freelance person? i remember you if that's you
- no but i think i've chatted with that person too. are you another am affair mom?
- yes
- still together?
- yes but i would like to end it but cant seem to do it
- Or: I am the same. I keep running what I will say over in my mind, but once I'm talking to him I'm not sure I can do it
- yes but i would like to end it but cant seem to do it
- still together?
- yes
- no but i think i've chatted with that person too. are you another am affair mom?
- mid-30's you are a freelance person? i remember you if that's you
- yes
- same here, actually. yesterday.
- a year. Actually it was a year ago this week that we first had sex. Fuck
- how long have you been together?
- I'm sorry. I don't know. I think it will probably take me at least 3 months before I feel anywhere close to normal. But that's just a guess.
- yes, i am devastated. and i hate admitting it. i am falling apart. how long will this take?
- the best thing you can do is keep incredibly busy. it sounds cliche but it really works. Take up running or get into a book , go out with friends and just give it time
- i'm trying. as soon as i get home from something busy i break down. i'm sobbing now.
- that's ok too. Sometimes I would run errands and just drive around listening to sad songs and cry, get it all ou of my system, then get busy again. it's ok to give yourself some...(more)
- how long did it take you and how long was your affair? i have anxiety that i will always feel this sad when i think about it
- it wasn't very long, lasted about 6 months, but the last 3 months were fading as he was working things out with his gf. we're still coworkers and friends though so I see him/talk...(more)
- how long did it take you and how long was your affair? i have anxiety that i will always feel this sad when i think about it
- that's ok too. Sometimes I would run errands and just drive around listening to sad songs and cry, get it all ou of my system, then get busy again. it's ok to give yourself some...(more)
- i'm trying. as soon as i get home from something busy i break down. i'm sobbing now.
- how did it end? how long together?
- 1 year. he got caught and all hell broke loose. he is working on his marriage and i'm out with the garbage. i get occasional emails only
- Did you really think he would leave his family for you?
- 1 year. he got caught and all hell broke loose. he is working on his marriage and i'm out with the garbage. i get occasional emails only
- how did he get caught?
- we got careless, she noticed his google voice was being used a lot and we went out waaay too much. so he confessed
- how do you notice google voice use?
- it was attached to regular phone so something about the duration and timing of the calls. i didn't pay super close attention to that
- how do you notice google voice use?
- we got careless, she noticed his google voice was being used a lot and we went out waaay too much. so he confessed
- how do you hide soemthing like this from your DH?
- Cleveland Trying to meet affair for the first time tomorrow, just sent an incredibly erotic email. This should be good.
- how do you know him?
- her. AM
- i met mine for first time yesterday...
- was it good?
- very.
- was it good?
- what are your plans? are you a dh i assume?
- Hotel, motel, holiday inn!
- say what?
- We are going to a hotel.
- how do you know if you'll like each other??
- its a song lyric silly. Cleveland is disappointing me today
- or: i got that
- hotel, motel holiday inn
- Will you have three in the hole?
- in nyc? how do you know you'll be into each other?
- op: not nyc, we have been chatting, went to lunch and saucy emails and phone chats.
- We are going to a hotel.
- say what?
- Hotel, motel, holiday inn!
- how old are you? do you look like your pics?
- Older than 35 younger than 50 and sent totally legit pics
- how do you know him?