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  1. Cleveland Ex-affairs are like Whack-a-Moles. They just keep popping back up. 4 hr 32 min ago (4 replies)
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    • free sex is something that is hard to let go of 4 hr 31 min ago
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    • Stop allowing your vagina to be a revolving door and they will go away! 3 hr 58 min ago
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      • Oh it's not even revolving. It's open at all times. I lay on my back 24/7 with my legs spread open. 3 hr 33 min ago
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        • then you will be whacking those moles until kingdom come. Or until your vag wears out 6 min ago
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  2. Cleveland Any sagas to report? 15 hr 57 min ago (1 reply)
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    • Just sadness. 3 hr 57 min ago
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  3. Cleveland Ugh, turned down an affair with a hot grad student tonight. she was very cute, though I could tell...(more) 17 hr 55 min ago (33 replies)
    looking for a relationship and to find a real boyfriend. call me old fashion, but I want my first affair to be with someone married. trouble is it's hard to find someone. I'm looking for an attractive NYC DW who is interested in meeting someone for a drink and seeing what goes from there.
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    • I hope her dh kicks your ass 17 hr 55 min ago
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    • Ashley Madison 17 hr 45 min ago
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      • it's hard for guys. tons of prostitutes or fake profiles 17 hr 44 min ago
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        • i thought it was MADE for guys. never been on myself 17 hr 43 min ago
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          • it's more made for women honestly.. guys are just the ones that pay. what's your story? 17 hr 40 min ago
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            • no story really. How did you meet this grad student 17 hr 39 min ago
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              • through a networking event. we've kept in touch and have met for drinks a couple times 17 hr 36 min ago
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                • she knows you are married? 17 hr 35 min ago
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                  • yeah, she does 17 hr 26 min ago
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              • you seeing someone? 17 hr 36 min ago
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                • my dh 17 hr 33 min ago
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                  • why are you on cleveland? 17 hr 26 min ago
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                    • why do you want to have an affair? I won't judge and i ll tell ypu 17 hr 24 min ago
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                      • sorry typing on my cracked screen 17 hr 24 min ago
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                      • me and DW are on different sexual wavelenghts. She has a very low sex drive and I have a very high one. 17 hr 21 min ago
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                        • ok, I think my DH does too, I kind of didn't care, but then...(more) 17 hr 17 min ago
                          I posted this story awhile ago, btw so you may have seen it - I was away for a weekend and a married guy friend made a pass at me, kissing and inappropriate touching and I felt spool guilty I posted on here for advice
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                          • do you think you'd go further with the married guy? 17 hr 14 min ago
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                            • that guy? no....(more) 17 hr 13 min ago
                              He is married to a good friend
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                              • Would you ever cheat? 17 hr 11 min ago
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                                • never ever crossed my mind until that incident 17 hr 10 min ago
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                                  • What about now? 17 hr 3 min ago
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                                    • don't know, but I am not your type anyway! 17 hr 2 min ago
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                                      • Hey, I need to be seduced first anyways.:). What's my type? 16 hr 59 min ago
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                                        • hot grad student 16 hr 58 min ago
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                                          • She wasn't my type, I turned her down! 16 hr 55 min ago
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                                            • because she wanted a boyfriend you said! I must go now,have an early morning. Good luck 16 hr 52 min ago
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                                          • What's your type then? 16 hr 53 min ago
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                        • She has a low sex drive for you 17 hr 15 min ago
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                          • trust me, it's low in general unfortunately 17 hr 14 min ago
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                            • Keep telling yourself that 17 hr 13 min ago
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                            • My ex probably thinks that too... 6 hr 11 min ago
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    • i remember your posts. good choice. 17 hr 12 min ago
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  4. Cleveland Has anyone lost a twin (sibling)? 18 hr ago (1 reply)
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    • Oops, wrong board! 17 hr 59 min ago
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  5. Cleveland Fuck off and never contact me again. 18 hr 11 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Why 17 hr 42 min ago
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    • Best not to say this. Just don't say anything. Block him where you can (texts, IMs), and simply never respond to any contact he tries to make with you. Worked for me. 17 hr 33 min ago
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  6. Cleveland Today a guy at work who I barely speak to gave me his number, fwb flirted, ex affair asked me to have a drink and long term affair who I haven't seen in a year has asked me to see...(more) 22 hr 48 min ago (5 replies)
    Him Friday night. When it rains it pours...
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    • That's a lot of potential fucking. Be careful out there. 22 hr 28 min ago
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    • Jesus. You need serious help 22 hr 10 min ago
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      • Well random guy I'm not gonna fuck. Fwb I fuck a couple times a week, other guy prob not. Long term serious emo married guy? Yeah it's gonna happen. 22 hr 4 min ago
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    • does work guy know you are married (if you are) 17 hr 44 min ago
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  7. Cleveland You all told me not to get into it with a coworker. Well, I did. And then I ended it because I just wasn't into him. Now he's being super awkward with me. Thankfully we don't work...(more) 9-30-2014 12:55pm (3 replies)
    super close, but I do see him around.
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    • ignore him. he'll get over ity 9-30-2014 12:56pm
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    • Too bad that his broken heart is awkward for you. Hopefully your DH doesn't find out so you can post how his broken heart is annoying for you too. 9-30-2014 12:59pm
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    • I've fucked a few guys I work with. Never had a problem. Still am 22 hr 46 min ago
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  8. Cleveland I think we have run our course. I am going to miss our daily exchange. 4yrs & done. 9-30-2014 9:01am (6 replies)
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    • They all have a shelf life. When mine dumped my sorry ass I was devastated. I later realized I was just very very lonely. More than anything I missed my phone dinging every few...(more) 9-30-2014 9:06am
      minutes. The witty banter from him.
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    • Wow. What kept it going for so long? Were you in love? 9-30-2014 9:09am
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      • Perhaps. It was fun. Now I want to focus on other things. We said we loved eachother. 9-30-2014 9:32am
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      • np- I think for most that carry on this way for so long it's more of an addiction than love. It took some time way for me to realize that aff wasn't the love of my life, dh is...(more) 9-30-2014 10:58am
        I will never get over what I did to him, it changed me forever.
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        • nnp: DITTO. Except that I never thought I was in love with affair. I was just addicted to him sexually. But it wasn't HIM I was addicted to, it was cheating. I deeply regret...(more) 9-30-2014 11:46am
          what I did to dh as well.
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          • What reasons did he give you for leaving? 22 hr 26 min ago
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  9. Cleveland I tell my affair he's bigger than dh and the sex is better than with dh. Both are lies. Affair is big enough and the sex is good enough but in neither is it better than with dh....(more) 9-30-2014 3:13am (8 replies)
    But affair just gets off on being told those things.
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    • Great. A lying whore v 9-30-2014 4:31am
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    • You're so dumb you can't even cheat right. Who the hell cheats down to a smaller lamer dick? 9-30-2014 5:05am
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      • I did. But the oral was phenomenal! 9-30-2014 9:10am
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      • np: I can go you one better. Not only was affair WAY smaller than dh, he was also the WORST lover on planet earth. I never had a single orgasm. Go me! 18 hr 58 min ago
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        • well that was fucking stupid 18 hr 58 min ago
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          • lol tell me about it. I think I should be inducted into the Low Self-Esteem Hall of Fame now. 18 hr 14 min ago
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    • lies upon lies. 9-30-2014 8:53am
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    • my affair happens to be both, but he loves for me to tell him that too. hey, it's fun for me also! 17 hr 58 min ago
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  10. Cleveland Good evening Cleveland. 9-30-2014 12:41am (0 replies)
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  11. Cleveland Affairs are selfish endeavors, aren't they? For good or for ill, it's all about how he makes me feel. Kind of humbling to realize that. 9-29-2014 8:37pm (5 replies)
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    • You're a moron. 9-29-2014 8:40pm
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      • np:lol, ouch. 9-30-2014 8:48am
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    • Yes. As I leave mine further and further behind I see that. However, it's the behavior that is selfish. I think the feelings can be real and that is a mindfuck. 9-29-2014 10:22pm
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    • i acknowledge i'm selfish in doing it but I try to make up for it by being extra good to dh the rest of the time 9-29-2014 11:48pm
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    • well, obviously 9-30-2014 3:17am
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  12. Cleveland Once in a while I just want to have a drink with ex-affair and have a calm discussion to find out wtf that was all about. He went so crazy, was so nasty. It didn't have to end...(more) 9-28-2014 10:32pm (7 replies)
    like that. Oh well. I'm not interested enough to actually do this, I just wonder sometimes.
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    • I think you can get that information without getting a drink which sounds like thin ice 9-28-2014 10:35pm
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      • op: haha, it could be coffee, I just mean a face-to-face discussion in a relaxed manner. Our last interactions were so intense, it would be interesting to hear his perspective...(more) 9-28-2014 10:36pm
        now that some time has passed. He's probably still completely full of shit, so I'll never actually contact him, but I think about him once in a while.
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    • I totally understand. 9-29-2014 8:57am
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    • Is he married? What happened? Never heard of a guy going crazy - always the woman. 9-29-2014 10:17am
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      • op: this is just silly. I think women who actually express themselves are labeled as "crazy." This guy was actually off his rocker, was having email "conversations" with me for...(more) 19 hr 57 min ago
        about a month even though I was not responding to him at all. It was worrisome. He was also sending gifts to my house. At least there was no boiling bunny, but I was actually afraid of something like that!
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    • I had a drink with mine. We had ended things on a good note. Next thing I know we're totally making out in the parking lot. 9-29-2014 3:14pm
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    • double life will drive you insane 9-29-2014 5:36pm
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  13. Cleveland I can't believe I've been with him 3 years. No "love" just a great friendship and phenomenal sex. We fuck, laugh, nap, cuddle, fuck again, etc. it's just fun. No drama. H...(more) 9-28-2014 11:36am (17 replies)
    single snd free to see others. I'm married and he knows I've had others while with him. Just so laid back and perfect. We see each other 1-2 times a week. Awrsome
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    • Ok 9-28-2014 11:37am
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    • sounds cool, go on with your whore self 9-28-2014 11:40am
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      • I plan on it!! 9-28-2014 11:40am
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    • fun until not fun when you lose everything. 9-28-2014 11:43am
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      • Well I can't go the rest of my life without sex. This works for me. If I get a divorce I get a divorce. 9-28-2014 11:45am
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    • Np: how do u keep ur self from getting emotionally attached??? 9-28-2014 12:00pm
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      • This 9-28-2014 12:46pm
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      • Op- you'll thibk it's crazy but we don't kiss on the lips. It was his idea, he has been through this before (as have I) but I hated it. Now 3 years in I can't believe how right...(more) 9-28-2014 2:27pm
        he was. He said that would push it over the edge and I think he is right. That limit keeps things from crossing the line. We are so so close but the intimacy is kept in check. I've had other affairs end in a mess because of the intimacy/emotions. Now I know. Sounds very "pretty woman" but it has worked
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        • Or - why do u think that is? Ie, isn't that it makes things more mechanical? Ie, when we would first see each other, we would immiediately or at lst well within 5 mins be locking...(more) 9-28-2014 2:43pm
          lips. Then he'd start driving to our room. So there wouldn't be that kind of foreplay. And then during the actual act, are u guys looking at each other? Or eyes closed? His face in your neck? Sorry if I'm prying - really curious as to what the actual kiss does that makes it tip over from physical to emotional? Signed, June mom
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          • Well we work directly with each other and see each other all day every day. When we "get together" we cuddle, grope, kiss necks, etc and just talk and be close in a way we can't...(more) 9-28-2014 3:14pm
            at work. Sometimes we lock eyes during sex, often when I'm blowing him we lock eyes, etc. I don't know "why" it works but it does. We are very close, believe me, but we have a line that we both know we can't cross and somehow it works for us. He's free to see others and so am i
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            • There is no way that the no kissing makes a difference when you're doing g all the rest of that, pretty woman 9-28-2014 9:24pm
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              • NP: I beg to differ. There is nothing more intimate than a kiss and while I'm at it will tell you there is no contract more binding than a pinky swear. 9-29-2014 12:51pm
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        • Or - meant to say "is it that it makes it more ...." 9-28-2014 2:49pm
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        • I love kissing. I could never be in an affair or any relationship with a man who wouldn't kiss me 9-28-2014 5:57pm
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    • oh but the kissing is so great. My affair is the.best.kisser. 9-29-2014 10:14am
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      • ita. kissing is so hot. 9-29-2014 4:20pm
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  14. Cleveland He's not accepting the fact that I'm just not that into him anymore. He's such a loser. 9-27-2014 10:37pm (4 replies)
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    • You're probably no great shakes either. 9-27-2014 10:40pm
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    • maybe it would help send a clear signal if you stop sucking his dick 9-28-2014 2:22am
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      • lol 9-28-2014 10:15am
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      • LOLOL yeah there's that. 9-28-2014 9:30pm
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  15. Cleveland Would you be mad if your single affair dated and slept with other women? 9-27-2014 8:03pm (13 replies)
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    • I wouldn't be down with that but wouldn't have any right to expect him to be monogamous 9-27-2014 8:11pm
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      • so you would leave him? 9-27-2014 8:24pm
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    • Of course not. I've been with mine 3 years. He's had girlfriends, etc and is free to date. I'm married and not leaving dh so why should he be exclusive to me? Makes no sense...(more) 9-27-2014 8:49pm
      to expect that. And if I wanted to fuck someone else he wouldn't care either. We try to be mindful and not talk a lot about other guys/girls but it's all good
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    • If I knew about it I couldn't continue with him. I would never tell him what to do but I couldn't have sex with him knowing he was having sex with someone else. 9-28-2014 3:24am
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      • Aren't you having sex with someone else? 9-28-2014 9:25am
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        • np. I feel the same way as OR. makes no sense but i too would hate the thought of him. with someone else. 9-28-2014 10:17am
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          • do you still have sex with your DH? 9-28-2014 10:31am
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            • yeah. not fair. I know. 9-28-2014 7:49pm
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        • Or: no 9-28-2014 5:58pm
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    • My married person would say he couldn't tell me what to do and would say he's 'ok' with it but then I'd get sad and upset emails from him when I got home or he'd text me ...(more) 9-28-2014 9:03am
      middle of them with some sort urgent news.
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      • Did you tell him you were dating? My single affair had a don't ask don't tell policy. I could not have handled hearing about him dating. 9-28-2014 8:55pm
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        • I made the mistake of telling him when I was out with people, yes. 9-28-2014 9:48pm
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          • How did you want him to react? 9-28-2014 10:56pm
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  16. Cleveland I'm still laughing at the term "affair glasses". I totally have them right now. Help me take them off! 9-27-2014 5:12pm (1 reply)
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    • Thank you! I'm feeling good for having coined it. Though it's actually "affair goggles." What's your sitch 9-27-2014 10:44pm
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  17. Cleveland How was june mom caught? 9-27-2014 4:54pm (3 replies)
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    • Good question. 9-27-2014 5:37pm
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      • First time he saw a text or email on her phone, I think. She left it out. Not sure about second. 9-27-2014 10:45pm
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        • June mom: second time was same. I had a password once screen was locked (ineffective if in a sleeping pill stupor I turned lock screen to "never" so I could check gmail...(more) 9-28-2014 12:04pm
          obsessively without having to type in 4 digits each time. Idiot) and of course when MIA husband finally makes his way to bed that night (same as 1st time!) he finds me asleep without gmail showing on my screen. Pathetic. U can't make this shit up.
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  18. Cleveland This asshat actually believes his wife would rather be dead than divorced from him. 9-27-2014 3:31pm (13 replies)
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    • why do you allow him to poison your ears like this? 9-28-2014 10:20am
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      • what are you talking about? 9-28-2014 10:30am
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        • his lies 9-28-2014 7:48pm
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          • He is telling me what he believes. He isn't lying about believing it, he is just narcissistic for believing it. And it isn't true but he thinks it is. 9-28-2014 11:00pm
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    • That's what he tells you 9-28-2014 8:56pm
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      • He looks like an idiot for saying it so lying about it would be stupid. 9-28-2014 11:01pm
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        • You both look like idiots 9-28-2014 11:01pm
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          • oh you mean because I'm sleeping with a married guy so I look like an idiot. Oh you are so witty. hahaha. 9-28-2014 11:04pm
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            • Not trying to be witty. You know it's stupid 9-28-2014 11:08pm
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              • eh, lots of things are stupid that people do. 9-28-2014 11:10pm
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                • what you are doing is colossally stupid. You are fucking a married asshat. 9-29-2014 4:21pm
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                  • what are you doing to be here? 9-29-2014 7:34pm
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                    • I'm responding to your posts. I am also having an affair, which is very stupid. I admit that 9-29-2014 11:50pm
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  19. Cleveland I'm so sore today all over from 2 hours with him yesterday. Arms, legs, back, boobs, vag...Jesus. I can barely walk. 9-27-2014 12:53pm (5 replies)
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    • Congratulations 9-27-2014 12:54pm
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    • why do people who are having affairs stay in marriages? 9-27-2014 12:54pm
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      • Dh doesn't fuck me and when he does it sure isn't for hours and with multiple orgasms. We get along great but just no sexual chemistry 9-27-2014 12:57pm
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        • OP - good reason. Maybe he doesn't sleep with you for a reason? 9-27-2014 1:15pm
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        • And you consider THAT enough of a reason to cheat but not enough of a reason to divorce? Cheating is worse than divorce so anything that makes cheating a valid option also makes...(more) 9-27-2014 8:00pm
          divorce a valid option.
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  20. Cleveland June mom again. I feel like u all must be sick of hearing from me again. But when I'm feeling really panicked I come here and post and it helps. I haven't contacted affair since...(more) 9-27-2014 10:40am (7 replies)
    my last email to him on Tuesday. :) and yesterday was the 1st day in past 2 weeks that I didn't allow myself to take any Xanax. :) and I limited my usual 3 glasses of wine to just 1.5. :) I know these are baby steps but they took effort. I just had big fight w dh - normal day to day bickering re kids - but doesn't help. Makes me just want to run away. I wish I had the luxury of admitting myself into a treatment where I wasn't allowed access to any substances nor my phone/internet. Just alone for a week or two to just sit there and feel the pain of not being able to escape my feelings.
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    • please re-read all of your posts in one sitting. i think that should be pretty sobering for you 9-27-2014 10:44am
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      • Np- I couldn't agree more. Holy shit 9-27-2014 1:07pm
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    • I don't understand why you don't divorce. 9-27-2014 12:38pm
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      • i don't think she's in the right place to do that yet 9-27-2014 1:48pm
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        • I don't get this answer. 9-27-2014 7:58pm
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    • You are getting better but I don't think getting admitted would be a bad idea. what does your therapist say? I also wonder how the hell your dh is able to deal with all of this....(more) 9-27-2014 1:48pm
      Not judging, just wondering.
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      • Op: some would say he is taking it like a true man, for better or worse. I am sure he is feeling a lot of sadness at seeing his image of the perfect family falling apart around...(more) 9-27-2014 1:54pm
        him and he is trying so hard to keep it going. Like he said, "what else can I do? Just gotta keep my eye on the ball...." He is trying to pick up with kids, seeing that I am having difficulty getting a grip. :(( I feel bad for contributing to that feeling of sadness he is feeling. And I don't think it's healthy how he such a master compartmentalizer (like affair). He's internalizing it all.
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  21. Cleveland Please. 9-27-2014 12:57am (2 replies)
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    • nope 9-27-2014 12:58am
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    • You've gotta be fucking kidding me. 9-27-2014 10:59pm
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  22. Cleveland Very submissive with affair in the bedroom. he punishes me for a) cheating and b) making him cheat. Spanking, hair pulling, me announcing I'm a bad girl, and getting spanked in...(more) 9-26-2014 10:46pm (5 replies)
    punishment. The words he whispers in my ear as he is inside me contributed more to my orgasm than the physical side of it.
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    • just be sure he doesnt get more violent. 9-26-2014 10:48pm
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    • I hope you are in therapy. I'm sorry you were abused as a child. 9-26-2014 10:58pm
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      • Oh please...I love being submissive and being spanked and hair pulled (np) 9-27-2014 1:08pm
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    • I'm not that submissive with affair, though, he loves to call me a slut and come on my tits or face 9-26-2014 11:10pm
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    • mine was too nice to do any of that except the hair pulling, which I loved 9-27-2014 1:11am
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  23. Cleveland Been with him three years and have gotten to be such great friends, it almost got weird for a bit...but today he yanked my hair and spanked my ass and fucked me so hard I'm a bit...(more) 9-26-2014 6:50pm (3 replies)
    In achy inside...just like the old days. Damn it felt good.
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    • probably had boring sex with dw this morning 9-26-2014 6:51pm
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      • He's single 9-26-2014 7:12pm
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        • np: same here. wonder if its the same guy. 9-27-2014 1:09am
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  24. Cleveland Does he not love me or does he just not want to say it? Dhs, ave you ever held back from saying it? 9-26-2014 2:07pm (16 replies)
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    • come on. 9-26-2014 2:08pm
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    • what's your goal? 9-26-2014 2:08pm
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      • I want him to love me 9-26-2014 2:10pm
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        • np: how do you define "love"? Because my definition would automatically exclude an affair. 9-26-2014 2:11pm
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        • you can't control that. Either he does or he doesn't. If it's the latter and that makes you unhappy, you should probably find someone else. 9-26-2014 2:11pm
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    • There is no 'one affair'. We have no way of knowing. 9-26-2014 2:09pm
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    • he lusts for you. he doesn't love you. very different things. just like ashley in Gone With the Wind. scarlett thought he loved her. he didn't. he just wanted her. he loved...(more) 9-26-2014 4:09pm
      and valued Melanie. but he strung Scarlett along because he was weak and a gentleman and couldn't just tell her he didn't love her. just like this guy.
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      • You don't know that ONLY because he cheats to be with her. 9-26-2014 6:30pm
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      • he doesn't value his wife 9-26-2014 6:55pm
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        • right? I don't get people who come on here and are all "He just thinks you're a hole, he really loves and wants his wife." No he doesn't. 9-26-2014 11:47pm
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          • but he values his whore less. 9-27-2014 1:11am
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            • not in my case 9-27-2014 1:12am
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              • Np - same. He seemingly can't stand his dw but refuses to divorce bc of sn kid and money. That being said I sure as hell don't want him to divorce her. Bc I would end it. 9-27-2014 4:25pm
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            • Not always. He may value her less than he values his image, but that goes for his wife too. 9-27-2014 12:36pm
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      • Ashley Wilkes was gay 9-27-2014 1:12am
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    • Sure. It can quickly fuck up a nice relationship. 9-26-2014 11:52pm
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  25. Cleveland June mom again: any dh's on who have followed what I've been going thru. Silly, I know, but I am curious as to what a man's gut feeling is as to whether affair will come back...(more) 9-26-2014 10:18am (37 replies)
    around....? You know, given his last email to me and how amazing he is at compartmentalizing and he has just shut that box up tight. But also knowing that he never ever experienced a physical and emotional connection with anyone before. I mean, he acted worshipful. And would be so sexually aroused he couldn't hold back at times. And he could fuck me and climax 8 times in a day.... Part of me (ego?) wants him to come after me so I can be the one to hurt him. Or maybe just have more "control". Why is that? Why is my need for "control" so strong it's got me spiraling out of control like this?
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    • DH here: hard to say. Never underestimate a man's ability to lock his feelings in a box and move on, especially the kind of guys who get involved in affairs. 9-26-2014 10:19am
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      • i agree with this 100%. 9-26-2014 10:23am
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        • Is he married too? If so, and if your DH finding out increases the risk of discovery for him, expect him to go ice cold. I would. It would be capital O over. 9-26-2014 10:26am
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          • Her husband has caught her twice and this last time threatened to tell his wife. 9-26-2014 10:54am
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            • Then her affair is almost certain to go dark. Like siberia prison camp dark. Sorry, op. 9-26-2014 12:30pm
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              • Op: :( forever.....? I thought men were weak when it came to mind-blowing sex?? I mean, not be crass, but doesn't he at least just want to fuck? How can he go from that to...(more) 9-26-2014 1:44pm
                nothing?
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                • he will go on the hunt for another. 9-27-2014 1:12am
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            • Also, OPs DH is a milquetoast for both tolerating it and not blowing it up with affair's wife. I can see why op is cheating on him. 9-26-2014 12:31pm
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              • And OP, if you ever need company..... ;-p 9-26-2014 12:41pm
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                • Op: thx but I need another affair right now like I need a hole in my head....;) 9-26-2014 3:48pm
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    • for your sake I hope he never comes back around. This is disastrous for you. Even if he comes back around for sex, he's not leaving his wife. Your dh knows about the affair,...(more) 9-26-2014 10:22am
      what if your dh leaves you? Then you are divorced with no job and a man who wants sex from you but isn't leaving his wife.
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    • dh. I really can't understand what you're saying. 9-26-2014 10:22am
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    • this is a question for your therapist 9-26-2014 10:42am
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    • You can't know the future. Accept that you have no control over him. The faster you can do that and at the same time take charge of the things you can control the better off you...(more) 9-26-2014 10:53am
      will be.
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      • ^the things you can control are yourself and your marriage to some extent as well as your plans for your future (ie work). Btdt. 9-26-2014 10:55am
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        • what if, in the face of your relationship with this person, none of that matters? job is dull, kids are grown, husband is blah. 9-26-2014 10:59am
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          • Well I know this is not the case with op. But if it were me I'd look at a career or job change. divorce if marriage feels hopeless m 9-26-2014 11:00am
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        • Op: I like your post. And agree. I need to take control. 1st order of business: my substance abuse. I'm starting to really think I may be addicted. I am starting to keep a log. 9-26-2014 1:46pm
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          • What are you taking? 9-26-2014 1:52pm
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    • At some point you should just realize how foolish all this drama is and rejoin the real world. Your children are paying a huge price for your childishness 9-26-2014 1:40pm
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      • np: as a BTDT, this times 1,000! 9-26-2014 1:53pm
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      • Op: ITTTA! I 9-26-2014 1:56pm
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        • ^^^ op: sorry hit send too soon. I just posted a earlier that it is pathetic how self-indulgent I'm being. But, I can't seem to get a grip. :(( 9-26-2014 1:57pm
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    • Op: Ty for the posts. Will you pls indulge another (even sillier) question. (I just can't stop obsessing about this - getting him to make contact so I can be the one with the...(more) 9-26-2014 1:42pm
      upper hand. Pure ego, I know. I am trying to address that!) but I still want to know: when dealing with a master compartmentalizer, will I be more effective in getting him to peek in the box by (i) also dropping off the face of the earth and pretending to have moved on, or (ii) by sending him an innocuous email (ie, isn't your golf trip to Europe coming up? Hope you have fun. :) miss u.)
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      • You are effectively asking people on this board to assist you in your self destructive behavior. They should refrain and you should seek out willpower to move on 9-26-2014 1:47pm
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        • Op: if sitting here obsessing about him is "self-destructive", then ok. I know I am being self-indulgent - people have much much bigger problems they face daily and they seem to...(more) 9-26-2014 1:51pm
          be able to carry on. Why am I letting myself wallow like this? Partly bc I have no responsibilities ..... I need to find a job, I know.
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          • So is the issue really the affair or is that just a diversion from the deeper question of what is your place and purpose in life? 9-26-2014 2:01pm
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            • Op: the latter, I'm sure. It's just easier for me to obsess re affair than to face the fact that I have no purpose in life, there's a huge void and I have to do something...(more) 9-26-2014 3:17pm
              constructive, albeit much less of an instant gratification, to fill that void. I know this.
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              • You probably matter more to the people around you(friends and family) than you realize and you can get purpose just by acknowledging that and not trying to find deeper stuff...(more) 9-26-2014 3:26pm
                Also I find that it is easier to find meaning and purpose if I focus on helping others and getting my kicks from making things better for others . And thre is never a shortage of needy folks. Even when I am not feeling it I just do it and the feelings catch up
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      • It's not going to happen. You need to let this go. The only way to gain the upperhand again is for him to reach out and you to NEVER REPLY EVER AGAIN. Radio silence. Let it...(more) 9-26-2014 1:54pm
        go. You are never going to win with this man.
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    • It's all ego. You played with fire and got burned. You thought YOU would be enough to make a man leave his life and come after you. The fact that he didn't is what kept you...(more) 9-26-2014 1:49pm
      coming back for more, because in your heart you know you are too good for him and this situation. But since you could never gain the upperhand, it became an obsession. Don't confuse his desire for him actually valuing you. He values his family above all else. He just desires you. Which in the end, means nothing. It was fun and it's over. Time to move on. Player got played.
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      • Op: Amen!! You hit on the head and so succinctly. It became an obsession to get him to make that move. And I kept thinking, I will just bide my time, make sure I am more amazing...(more) 9-26-2014 1:55pm
        each time, until finally he will see the light and be all mine. All ego. And now my ego just can't accept that he is not chasing me, fighting for me.
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        • It is 1,000 percent ego. None of this is real emotion, or love, or anything like that. It's desire and ego. His desire fed your insecurities and ego. And not having control is...(more) 9-26-2014 1:57pm
          freaking your ego out. BTDT. It's almost always impossible to have real feelings in these situations because your relationship isn't real. It's a fantasyland separated from all real life and true day-to-day interactions. Both of you were using this relationship as a drug / escape from whatever it is you're both trying to escape from in your day-to-day. It's over now. Get your life back.
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      • Well, he doesn't value his family above all or he wouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. 9-26-2014 11:57pm
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    • do you ever worry dh will find this place and read all of this? 9-26-2014 1:59pm
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    • enough already 9-27-2014 10:46am
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      • Op: I know!!! I'm trying. :) 9-27-2014 12:14pm
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