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  1. Cleveland This post has been disliked 3 times. showGood morning. 6 hr 52 min ago (0 replies)
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  2. Cleveland Canceled & broke off. Thank you Cleveland! 7 hr 19 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Cleveland FML. Met a guy from Pitts years ago. A few lunch dates but wasn't ready for anything further so I never slept w/him. We Later he divorced and moved. I can't get him out of my...(more) 9 hr 7 min ago (4 replies)
    head.
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    • You both divorced? 9 hr 6 min ago
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      • No, he divorced. I'm still married. Happened fast too. 9 hr 3 min ago
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    • You are Francesca...(more) 8 hr 4 min ago
      In “The Bridges of Madison County” Francesca spends four days with a handsome photographer and the rest of her life savoring the memory. She doesn’t leave with the wandering photographer because of her sense of responsibility to her husband and children and because she’s aware that the untouched fantasy is better than any real-life relationship could ever be.
      Just before her husband dies he tells her, “I know you had your own dreams, too. I’m sorry I couldn’t give them to you.” She regards his dying words as the most touching moment of their whole life together. His honesty and understanding pierced the barrier that her fantasy life had built.
      By maintaining her fantasy life she robbed herself of the happiness she could have achieved in real life.
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    • hint about him? 7 hr 51 min ago
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  4. Cleveland I started emailing a guy here with no intent to have an affair at all, it was just to talk through some stuff. Now I feel like it was a mistake 10 hr 9 min ago (21 replies)
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    • elaborate 10 hr 8 min ago
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    • was that last yesterday? 10 hr 8 min ago
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      • ^last night 10 hr 8 min ago
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        • jealous? looking for someone? 9 hr 46 min ago
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      • No, that wasn't me 10 hr 6 min ago
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    • why? because you're into him? 10 hr 7 min ago
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      • No, I didn't know him at all. He seemed sympathetic and we have had some nice chats. It's been three months and up until now it's been pretty platonic. I enjoy talking to him, he...(more) 10 hr 5 min ago
        seems intelligent and I am not looking for more, but now I think he is
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        • this wouldn't be much of a problem unless you partly want to, too. 10 hr 2 min ago
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          • I definetely am not. I think he's intersting, but that is all. 10 hr 1 min ago
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            • Are you in the same city? 10 hr 1 min ago
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              • Yes. NJ 9 hr 59 min ago
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                • Well, that's not a city, obviously 9 hr 59 min ago
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    • Yeah. We've all fucked him. 10 hr 6 min ago
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      • You know, you are probably right 10 hr 5 min ago
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        • he must be very handsome 10 hr 3 min ago
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          • I haven't met him in person 10 hr 3 min ago
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    • You met him on Cleve? What did you think he was hanging out for? 10 hr ago
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      • Yea I know, my bad. I am way too trusting. BUT I made it clear I was not into that 9 hr 59 min ago
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        • np: If it was my ex-affair who stalked me on here, trust me, if you meet him IRL it will be a terrible disappointment. 8 hr 57 min ago
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    • I hang around here. I am not looking for an affair. 7 hr 38 min ago
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  5. Cleveland F'ing my spiritual teacher. intense. 10 hr 55 min ago (5 replies)
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    • tantric. 10 hr 54 min ago
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    • I want to hear about this. I'm fucking my yoga teacher. 9 hr 24 min ago
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    • Um, you people who do this are playing with fire. Your so-called "spiritual teacher" is 100% full of shit. So it the other chick's yoga teacher. My god, ladies. Wake up. 8 hr 53 min ago
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    • is that code for pastor? 7 hr 27 min ago
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    • 'intense': the most meaningless description ever. try 'fraudulent and morally bankrupt 'teacher'' 7 hr 24 min ago
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  6. Cleveland I love tall men. Has have some weight on them. My 1st affair was 6'4. The 2nd was 6". This potential 3rd guy is 6"3. I am 5'. Loves me a big man. 11 hr 31 min ago (7 replies)
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    • you are so gross 11 hr 30 min ago
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    • I get it. Dh is 6' 3". But I'm divorcing him and will end up with a guy who is short. Go figure. 8 hr 55 min ago
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      • op:dh is short. He doesn't act like it though. 7 hr 29 min ago
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    • Same. 6' or over. Current affair is 6'4. 7 hr 49 min ago
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      • op:right. If you're going to have an affair. Go big.. or tall in this case. 7 hr 28 min ago
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    • jury is still out for me, met a guy last month and i think he was 6'2 (I'm 5'2 barely) sex was good but the kissing, hated it standing up 7 hr 26 min ago
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  7. Cleveland I drink everyday. I am also in an affair. I am dropping my affair before I drop my drink. 11 hr 39 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Which came first? 8 hr 48 min ago
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      • oooohh...always enjoyed my drink but it has increase since affair mess. 7 hr 26 min ago
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  8. Cleveland I never text him. However, I always respond when he reaches out. Do you think this makes me seem like I can take it or leave it or do I look like a doormat? 11 hr 44 min ago (27 replies)
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    • More like you will accept whatever he gives. 11 hr 42 min ago
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      • Op: how would I change this perception? 11 hr 40 min ago
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        • dont text back 11 hr 39 min ago
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          • Op: I would feel terrible ignoring. He has never done that to me. 11 hr 36 min ago
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            • He knows you'll always be his little whore, scrounging for scraps of his attention. 11 hr 34 min ago
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              • Op: that's ok. He scrounges for mine. 11 hr 33 min ago
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                • Doesn't sound like it. You sound like the desperate one. 11 hr 27 min ago
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                  • Op: I'm not sure whether you're trolling. But, I do miss him when I haven't heard from him in a while. 11 hr 12 min ago
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                    • You're just a sad, confused, desperate slut. You go panting whenever he wants you. So pathetic. 10 hr 58 min ago
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        • Initiate sometimes but not frequently. That is more of a take it when I want it. 11 hr 38 min ago
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    • take it or leave it. 11 hr 42 min ago
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    • How does it make you a doormat? 11 hr 40 min ago
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      • Op: because I am always there for him when he wants me. He reaches out sporadically. He has no clear pattern. Sometimes it's often. Sometimes not. I don't text him because it...(more) 11 hr 38 min ago
        makes me too anxious and I want him to think they I don't care. However, I think that my plan might be having the opposite effect.
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        • Does it have to be a game? 11 hr 36 min ago
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          • Op: I wish it didn't. 11 hr 34 min ago
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            • Maybe this isn't the guy for you? 11 hr 28 min ago
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        • agree. stop playing games. text him or dont. either way it seems to bother you. 11 hr 26 min ago
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          • Op: I guess I want more than what he's giving. More consistent contact. 11 hr 13 min ago
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            • so text him! 10 hr 59 min ago
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              • Op: lol ok. I'm always nervous that he won't text back. 10 hr 56 min ago
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                • Then you will have what you need to know 10 hr 50 min ago
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                • or:he will. & he will be happy. 7 hr 26 min ago
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            • He's too busy loving his wife to waste time with you. Wait until her period starts, and then he'll come to his sloppy seconds. 10 hr 57 min ago
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              • Op: I'm sorry that your husband betrayed you. I hope you find peace someday. 10 hr 52 min ago
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                • Lol. He didn't. Try again, toots. 10 hr 45 min ago
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              • He's thinking about his affair when he's with his wife. 8 hr 47 min ago
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    • guys don't think this way. i notice that mine doesn't "wait to respond". if he's available he texts back right away, if not then i hear from him when he can 10 hr 17 min ago
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  9. Cleveland Wondering what happened with the couple that exchanged emails yesterday. From the "I need someone to fuck me" post. 12 hr 34 min ago (3 replies)
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    • They're g chatting about sex. It's gotten naughty. 12 hr 31 min ago
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      • She wanted more than sex 12 hr 28 min ago
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    • Nope. Just sex. Not all women want more. 9 hr 24 min ago
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  10. Cleveland He wants me to have a baby with him. Know him 5 years and together off and on a year and a half. He's said it before but he was totally serious. His wife is 10 years older and...(more) 12 hr 51 min ago (8 replies)
    beyond child bearing age...I feel bad for him. He would make a great father.
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    • Fake posts YBMers think of in the shower for $100, please Alex. 12 hr 48 min ago
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      • Op- not even close to joking 12 hr 46 min ago
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    • Mine also wants me to have his baby. Same deal. His wife is 50 yo. I'm like wtf is your damage!? 12 hr 40 min ago
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      • Op- he's even thought through the legistics of how we could do it. I was a bit freaked 12 hr 38 min ago
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        • Mine hasn't gone that far. But he makes a lot of comments about how beautiful our baby could be and how maybe it would be a girl like I've always wanted. I'm like no way. No...(more) 12 hr 36 min ago
          desire to ever be pg again. Especially with him.
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          • If something happened between me and dh I would have a baby with him. Sigh 12 hr 34 min ago
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            • I wouldn't. I loathe being pg. he's older and already has one severely autistic kid. 12 hr 30 min ago
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    • men who want this are so fucking needy. babies themselves. 11 hr 49 min ago
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  11. Cleveland Strange random questions affair asks? GO! 12 hr 54 min ago (11 replies)
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    • Do you think my wife is pretty! 12 hr 53 min ago
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      • Wow 12 hr 53 min ago
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      • good one 12 hr 52 min ago
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      • how do you answer that?? 12 hr 52 min ago
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        • Very pretty but chubby 12 hr 52 min ago
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          • sounds honest 12 hr 51 min ago
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            • She lost weight when he left her 12 hr 49 min ago
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    • Do you think you could lose weight so you're as pretty as my wife? 12 hr 52 min ago
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      • Has to be fake. 12 hr 38 min ago
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    • He asked how often do and I have sex, if we had sex last night 12 hr 19 min ago
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  12. Cleveland Why am I such an attention whore? 16 hr 38 min ago (34 replies)
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    • because you are unfulfilled in life and don't know how to process that appropriately. so you act out. 16 hr 37 min ago
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      • but why do i see attention from so many men? is it bc i used to be fat and invisible? 16 hr 33 min ago
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        • No, it's because you have unresolved problems, and you deal with them in this immature way instead of confronting the actual issues. This just distracts you. 16 hr 28 min ago
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          • what issues could those be? bc i've thought about it and don't know 16 hr 23 min ago
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            • I can't say. Possibilities are: your marriage is bad and you seek attention because of that, you're insecure and need validation... 16 hr 22 min ago
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              • i think i feel completely indifferent about my dh and marriage as a result of affair 16 hr 21 min ago
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                • People who have solid relationships don't enter into affairs. 16 hr 19 min ago
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                  • oh i know. it's the attention and hero worship for me 16 hr 15 min ago
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                    • You know. I fooled around on my exdh (I wouldn't call them affairs). In hindsight, I very much regret that I didn't confront issues head-on. 16 hr 12 min ago
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                      • i tried to before i actually commenced looking for an affair. i spent 6 months trying to fix things and got nowhere. so here i am. having an affair, fooling around with another...(more) 16 hr 10 min ago
                        and texting and chatting with one more
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                        • why did you actively search for an affair? 16 hr 5 min ago
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                          • was desperately unhappy with dh and sex. tried to fix it and was repeatedly shut down 16 hr 2 min ago
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                            • ok, so your marriage is bad. and instead of figuring that out, you seek attention through affairs. FIN 16 hr ago
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                              • pretty much. i did try to figure it out and got nowhere 15 hr 59 min ago
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                                • you gave up and sought distraction. the problems are still there. 15 hr 58 min ago
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                                  • yep. because you can't fix it on your own. dh wasn't even trying. 15 hr 57 min ago
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                                    • OK. So your partner doesn't listen to you, isn't engaged in making the relationship work. So...what do you do? 15 hr 57 min ago
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                                    • np- but now you've compounded them 15 hr 54 min ago
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                                      • op: i absolutely have. most of the time i enjoy the attention, but would be so upset to have dh find out 15 hr 50 min ago
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                                        • upset is an understatement. mine did and i'll never be the same. obviously the marriage is wrecked as well. get out and fix your marriage. gl 15 hr 48 min ago
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                                          • op: i just don't want to end the affair. i do love him (as much as one can) 15 hr 43 min ago
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                                            • mmhmmm 15 hr 42 min ago
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                                              • cut off before i finished, as much as one can in the vacuum of an affair. 15 hr 41 min ago
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                                                • THINK about what you are saying. Seriously. 15 hr 39 min ago
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                                                  • i know what i'm saying. i get that. 15 hr 39 min ago
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                                                    • And you realize that it is fucked up? 15 hr 36 min ago
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                                                      • oh completely. it's not right or normal 15 hr 35 min ago
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                                                        • so, stop it. 15 hr 28 min ago
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                                                          • easier said then done 15 hr 25 min ago
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                                                            • It really isn't. 15 hr 24 min ago
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                                            • You love him but you're fooling around with another guy and texting/chatting with another? No you don't. 11 hr 9 min ago
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            • probably daddy issues 16 hr 14 min ago
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              • op: i don't think so. my dad was a good dad 16 hr 13 min ago
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      • np:the man again....? 15 hr 54 min ago
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  13. Cleveland Suppose to meet up with later. feeling so disconnected from him. Thinking of canceling.m 22 hr 44 min ago (43 replies)
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    • Why do you feel disconnected? 21 hr 51 min ago
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      • I am getting tired of just sex. He gives nothing back. Maybe I am just getting bored. I go to him. set up times. 21 hr 11 min ago
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        • So basically, he's become inattentive like dh. Which is the reason you started doing this in the first place right? 21 hr 10 min ago
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          • op:yes!!! still wants it but puts nothing into it. 20 hr 57 min ago
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            • You don't need that. I think you should break up with him. 20 hr 50 min ago
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              • how do I address this? I've settled for crumbs here. 20 hr 41 min ago
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                • Confront him. Dont be afraid of losing him. Move on back to DH or to another man. 20 hr 39 min ago
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                  • This. You have to realize he's expendable. Why would you sell your shitty car to buy another shitty car. You have loads of options for an upgrade. 20 hr 37 min ago
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                    • We have a sage amongst us. I agree completely. 20 hr 33 min ago
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                      • I what complicates these things, and what makes them different from cars, is that you're thinking about this in an emotionally charged place vs. being pragmatic. 20 hr 28 min ago
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                        • Yes. Understood. However, if this man is not providing you with the emotional stability and support you want then your connection is irrational. Step back. Back to DH or a man who...(more) 20 hr 20 min ago
                          can offer you this.
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                        • op:are you a man. interesting way of thinking. 20 hr 4 min ago
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                          • Ha.. Yes I am, but it was a woman who had explained this to me about something completely different. It just seemed to apply here. 20 hr 3 min ago
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                            • op:funny how I picked up on it. ty! 19 hr 17 min ago
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                              • It's because you have your man radar on. You're on the prowl for a new car so to speak. 19 hr 7 min ago
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                                • op: This made me laugh. thank you. 16 hr 40 min ago
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                                  • I hope you figure it out. You're doing the same thing over and over and getting the same result....(more) 16 hr 6 min ago
                                    Maybe I can make you laugh some more? Email?
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                                    • lol. maybe....I am interested in what you look like. 16 hr 1 min ago
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                                      • I'd say somewhere around a Honda Accord.. Sporty, yet sensible. 15 hr 43 min ago
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                                    • You are clearly the DH below who offered himself up if things didnt work out with them and you are in this thread pushing hard again. Come on man. There is no blood in the water....(more) 15 hr 44 min ago
                                      Pursue your prey elsewhere and roll it back a bit.
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                                      • So? What's wrong with that? I'm not the fox in the hen house. 15 hr 39 min ago
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                    • op: lol! true. 20 hr 5 min ago
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                  • op: love this advice. thank you. 20 hr 5 min ago
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              • how do I address this? I've settled for crumbs here & have been with guy for a long time. 20 hr 7 min ago
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                • ^^^^soory yb from phone. wacky. ignore. 20 hr 6 min ago
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        • You are looking for a connection beyond sex. 21 hr 9 min ago
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          • op:can I still have this? 20 hr 56 min ago
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            • With the right man, yes. 20 hr 50 min ago
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        • Go on CL and look for a strictly platonic friend. 21 hr 9 min ago
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          • op: ? 20 hr 50 min ago
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            • Find someone you connect with first, then try hooking up with them 20 hr 49 min ago
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        • Find a man who has both traits - Good in bed and good in adressing your needs 21 hr 7 min ago
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          • A hard man is good to find, but a hard man with out a hard head is hard to find. 21 hr 4 min ago
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            • Where did you find the first? 21 hr ago
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              • Are you looking for one? 20 hr 59 min ago
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                • No. Are you looking for a new one? I am just curious. 20 hr 57 min ago
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                  • no 20 hr 55 min ago
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                    • ^^got cut off.. No. I'm not either. 20 hr 53 min ago
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          • Op:what do I do? I am very unhappy. 20 hr 49 min ago
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            • Post an email? 20 hr 47 min ago
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    • Get a fucking divorce and find a real relationship 19 hr 29 min ago
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  14. Cleveland I need someone to fuck me 10-22-2014 10:16pm (40 replies)
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    • like an animal? 10-22-2014 10:17pm
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      • Thanks, Trent. That was a classic. 10-22-2014 10:17pm
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    • where are you? 10-22-2014 10:20pm
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      • Nyc. 10-22-2014 10:24pm
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        • DH? DW? Age? 10-22-2014 10:38pm
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          • Dw. 37yo 10-22-2014 10:43pm
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            • how many affairs have you had or flings? 10-22-2014 10:44pm
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              • Two. Each a few months. Both decent guys - just not the right situation. 10-22-2014 10:54pm
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                • night right because? 10-22-2014 10:55pm
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                  • One was too close to me at work. We mutually decided not the best situation. Other too close to home. Both ended amicably - no drama or anything. 10-22-2014 10:57pm
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                    • were they single or married? work relationships are difficult and dangerous. 10-22-2014 11:00pm
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                      • Both married. I would never date a single guy. Too risky. 10-22-2014 11:30pm
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            • Is DH not attentive? Did you recently end an affair? 10-22-2014 10:48pm
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              • Just ended one, yes. DH is lovely but has trouble in the bedroom. 10-22-2014 10:56pm
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                • Don't many of them? :( 10-22-2014 11:01pm
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            • NYC Dh. Care to talk? 10-22-2014 10:50pm
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              • Sure. Tell me about yourself. 10-22-2014 10:57pm
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                • 38. Keep myself in good shape. A reasonable and good person. In a marriage lacking sex. That's not my resume or cover letter, but its a place to start. 10-22-2014 10:59pm
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                  • Sounds like me. What are you looking for in an affair?...(more) 10-22-2014 11:31pm
                    For me it would be good sex plus open communication, line a good friend. Nothing too heavy or romantic, but the ability to talk about interests, work, hobbies, etc. Someone with something to add to my already busy and interesting life. :)
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                    • All of that sounds reasonable. Nothing too heavy is fine as long as its peppered with some conversation. 10-22-2014 11:46pm
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                      • Exactly. I want to hear about someone's life. Just no trashing of spouses or that kind of thing. Good friends, common interests and great sex. That's what I like! 10-22-2014 11:50pm
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                        • ^What else can I tell you about me? 10-22-2014 11:50pm
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                          • I wouldn't expect you to tell me much here. You can ask and Ill ask more things in a more private setting. I assume you don't have a lazy eye, a mean streak or an extra digit on...(more) 10-22-2014 11:52pm
                            your left hand.
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                            • No. Just a few large, hairy moles and a penchant for elastic waistbands. I'm totally hot. 10-22-2014 11:53pm
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                        • That sounds good to me. Exchange emails? 10-22-2014 11:51pm
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                          • Sure. Where can I reach you? 10-22-2014 11:52pm
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                            • Give me a moment. 10-22-2014 11:53pm
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                              • OK...(more) 10-22-2014 11:56pm
                                blueletter friend at gmai l. I know its not the most original, but it is the color scheme here.
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                                • All one word? I'll send a test email. 10-22-2014 11:57pm
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                                  • yes. ok. waiting. 10-22-2014 11:59pm
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            • I am also 37 dw... 10-23-2014 1:01am
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              • Im a 39 yo DW. What does that mean for us? 10-23-2014 1:15am
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                • if you are interested in extra fun...but I guess not your cup o tea. 22 hr 47 min ago
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    • Given that the probability of finding some one normal on an open channel like match is pretty tight, I'm going to guess that finding someone when you're already married is even...(more) 21 hr 49 min ago
      tighter. That said if the first guy doesn't work out, let me know. Thanks.
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      • Seems like there are multiple dws here looking. What's your situation? 20 hr 20 min ago
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        • PRobably similar to yours and everyone else's situation. Garbage time at home. Limited sex. Roomates. 20 hr 17 min ago
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          • ^ I am not this or, BTW. There are apparently many of us on here. 20 hr 16 min ago
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            • or: What she said. 20 hr 10 min ago
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          • what is garbage time? 18 hr 44 min ago
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  15. Cleveland Here's what's sick: after all that bullshit, I still check once in a while to see if he's online. It's not like I'm going to contact him. Why do I even care at ALL? And yes I&...(more) 10-22-2014 10:11pm (42 replies)
    therapy. I have so much other shit going on that I haven't even discussed the affair yet. Why do I bother checking for him?
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    • june mom? 10-22-2014 10:18pm
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    • I am so very done with mine but I still stalk his fb. A lot. 10-22-2014 10:24pm
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      • op: I had to unfriend on FB. How can you stand looking at that shit? 10-22-2014 10:25pm
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        • Oh we are not fb friends. I just check stuff he's liked recently. 10-22-2014 10:39pm
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          • block 21 hr 34 min ago
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            • Considering it but he'd notice and I don't want to give him that satisfaction. 20 hr 26 min ago
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    • Just habit, probably. Or as a kind of tic, a behavior to cope with anxiety. 10-22-2014 11:33pm
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    • He was an outlet. Like alcohol is for an alcoholic 21 hr 48 min ago
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      • np I'm an alcoholic who had an affair and ittta 21 hr 35 min ago
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        • How long have you been sober? 21 hr 31 min ago
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          • about to get 60 day chip. zero desire to have that life again. 21 hr 25 min ago
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            • congrats.. That's huge. How long sober from the affair? 21 hr 25 min ago
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              • almost a year. zero desire for that life as well. 21 hr 23 min ago
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                • good for you. You have to do what makes you happy. That other stuff was probably a band-aid on a bigger problem 21 hr 11 min ago
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                  • i think it was both a symptom of my alcoholism and another addiction itself. i've learned a lot in aa and it turns out that alcoholics share a lot of the same qualities - self...(more) 21 hr 2 min ago
                    centeredness, insecurity are the biggest. active alcoholics are the most selfish people on the planet and have no feelings because they are smothered by alcohol. I cry more in a day than I did in a year now that I'm sober. feeling true empathy for the first time in probably 20 years. the people I've met in recovery who've been sober awhile are truly the most compassionate, peaceful people I've ever met. so much grace and zero judgment there. I still read these boards and wonder if the crazies are also alcoholics/addicts.
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                    • I wouldn't be surprised, look at the statistics of people who are medicated. 21 hr ago
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                      • oh im medicated too. i'm hoping to wean off now that i'm sober. the depression and other issues were probably just symptoms of the alcoholism 20 hr 57 min ago
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                        • Well it sounds like you're well on your way to a healthy recovery. What are you fearing most? 20 hr 51 min ago
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                          • relapse. i go to meetings every day terrified that i'll drink again. i'm not tempted now because the misery is still so fresh, but i understand people forget after time and...(more) 20 hr 49 min ago
                            think they can drink like a normal person. why all the questions? are you in affair or alcoholic or both?
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                            • I'm not an alcoholic, but I've had an affair. I find you interesting that's all. 20 hr 48 min ago
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                              • do you think your affair was an addiction? 20 hr 47 min ago
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                                • For me it wasn't. I liked the extra companionship 20 hr 46 min ago
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                                  • sex wasn't important to you? why aren't you with him anymore? 20 hr 43 min ago
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                                    • It was, I just couldn't commit the time. 20 hr 39 min ago
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                                      • you ended it just because you didn't have time? was it easy? 20 hr 35 min ago
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                                        • No, it wasn't easy. Still heartbroken but it was just bad timing. 20 hr 30 min ago
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                                          • does he try to contact you? 20 hr 28 min ago
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                                            • We're still friends, we talk on occasion. 20 hr 24 min ago
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                                              • he doesn't try anything? when did you end it? 20 hr 13 min ago
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                                                • This was 2 years ago. 20 hr 8 min ago
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                                                  • amazed that you can be friends for two years without anything happening. do you see each other or just talk? 19 hr 59 min ago
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                                                    • We just talk. We have a great respect for boundries. 19 hr 57 min ago
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                                                      • must have a lot of self control too! are you both married? 19 hr 50 min ago
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                                                        • yes. Our relationship evolved over time. it's not so bad 19 hr 45 min ago
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                                                          • but you are still heartbroken? Has he found anyone else? 19 hr 44 min ago
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                                                            • Heartbroken might be a strong word, but I do miss the whole thing from time to time. 19 hr 36 min ago
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                                                              • it's hard to get over. do you think you'd do it again? 19 hr 32 min ago
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                                                                • Like alcohol, I can see relapsing 19 hr 20 min ago
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                                                                  • you must have had a good experience and never got caught. 16 hr 15 min ago
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                                                                    • It was a good experience. 16 hr 7 min ago
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                                                                      • so it was a good experience that you were able to end and stay friends. was the ending mutual? how do you think he really feels about it? 15 hr 51 min ago
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  16. Cleveland I need more girlfriends in my life that I can really talk too. Affair is NOT the person to do this with. I am so fucking stupid. 10-22-2014 9:33pm (6 replies)
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    • Do not burden friends with your bad behavior 10-22-2014 9:36pm
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      • op: No thats my point. I need to just talk normal bullshit with friends. not affair. 10-22-2014 9:40pm
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        • you can talk to me 10-22-2014 10:01pm
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          • very sweet. thank you. 10-22-2014 10:06pm
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            • I'm nice and won't flame (not a dude either) 10-22-2014 10:14pm
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              • so many demands. i have so many bad vices. 10-22-2014 10:21pm
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  17. Cleveland Affair says he sometimes walks on eggshells when talking ro me. Afraid to upset me. Comes off like he just doesnt give a shit. 10-22-2014 9:20pm (3 replies)
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    • That's bullshit.. He's taking the dysfunction in his marriage to your relationship.. Now you know why his marriage sucks. 21 hr 52 min ago
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      • he's single. 11 hr 43 min ago
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    • Mine always said the same to me. 13 hr 10 min ago
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  18. Cleveland What the hell is wrong with me? missing my exaffair. meanwhile have this affair that Ive been fucking for over 2 yrs. 10-22-2014 9:18pm (4 replies)
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    • if you're skanky and you know it clap your hands 10-22-2014 9:19pm
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      • I need to get my shit together. 10-22-2014 9:21pm
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    • you're fucked up 10-22-2014 9:25pm
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      • how do I fix this fuckednupness? 10-22-2014 9:34pm
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  19. Cleveland At what age do you think is too old for a dw to be desirable anymore as a new affair? 10-22-2014 8:51pm (30 replies)
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    • mid 40s? I think it's highly individualized 10-22-2014 8:52pm
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      • NP: That's me. Oh well 10-22-2014 8:53pm
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        • why "oh well"? 10-22-2014 8:54pm
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          • I'm too old! 10-22-2014 8:54pm
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            • probably not. What's your story? 10-22-2014 8:55pm
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              • No story. Just hanging out. 10-22-2014 8:55pm
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                • If you're serious about an affair, you have to find someone. 10-22-2014 8:57pm
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                  • I'm not really! 10-22-2014 8:57pm
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                    • you're not serious about having an affair? 10-22-2014 8:58pm
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                      • Not particularly. I don't think I could handle it 10-22-2014 8:59pm
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                        • ^^I just felt a little gobsmacked when I read that, I am in my mid-forties 10-22-2014 9:00pm
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                        • that tells me that your marriage is more-or-less intact. Good for you. You deserve it. 10-22-2014 9:01pm
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                          • My DH is a wonderful person, but there is really no sex and he doesn't seem to care. 10-22-2014 9:01pm
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                            • I'm sorry. That's hard. 10-22-2014 9:02pm
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                              • I was mostly fine with it, until an incident (which I have mentioned here before). 10-22-2014 9:03pm
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                                • You had affair? 19 hr 32 min ago
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                                • Do you even want to have sex? 16 hr 19 min ago
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                            • This is my dh 19 hr 33 min ago
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      • This is why I am fucking like crazy at 44 10-22-2014 9:05pm
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    • I want to know this too 10-22-2014 8:52pm
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    • so many things here are impost rant. attractiveness, affair 10-22-2014 8:52pm
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    • This is depressing. I am 45 and about to fall of the cliff. 10-22-2014 8:53pm
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      • It doesn't have to be depressing. 10-22-2014 8:54pm
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    • My mother's bf started an affair when she was 68 yo. 10-22-2014 9:04pm
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      • NP-i don't think there is an age limit. Frriend told me she went home to visit parents and opened her 85yo dad's computer and found sex emails. She told him to get a grip. 10-22-2014 9:07pm
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    • Im 41 yr old dh and feel more desirable now than I did in my 20s and 30s. But, maybe Im wrong since nobody is knocking down my door. 10-22-2014 10:41pm
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      • ^^^Age can be insignificant assuming we are not talking sixties (in my opinion). 10-22-2014 10:42pm
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    • There's a lid for every pot 21 hr 47 min ago
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    • Do you want to test the premise? 19 hr 32 min ago
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  20. Cleveland We haven't seen each other in about a year and a half...we fucked for 3 hours straight today with very few breaks...it was fabulous 10-22-2014 7:10pm (7 replies)
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    • Wtf, did you use a whole tube of lube? 10-22-2014 7:11pm
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      • I have no problems getting wet and staying wet.. 10-22-2014 7:13pm
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        • And he seriously kept fingering me and making me cum and squirt repeatedly. So I was quite wet... 10-22-2014 7:14pm
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    • How many 10-22-2014 7:11pm
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      • Breaks? Maybe 3...only about 5 min each 10-22-2014 7:13pm
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    • how many times did he climax? 10-22-2014 9:23pm
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      • Maybe 5 or 6? At least 13 hr 17 min ago
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  21. Cleveland Sometimes I wonder if we will end up together. Neither of us are able or ready to leave now but he's said he wants to be with me one day. Take him at his word? Or bs? He's...(more) 10-22-2014 5:56pm (28 replies)
    incredibly honest with me all the tjme.
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    • You will not be together 10-22-2014 5:57pm
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      • Why do you think that? 10-22-2014 5:57pm
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        • Or, because the ones that leave do so early on. 10-22-2014 5:57pm
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          • It's been 10 mo. I refuse to do that to my kids and he says the same. 10-22-2014 5:58pm
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            • Then you aren't going to end up together 10-22-2014 6:01pm
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              • I don't think so either. But like I said below... I can dream and its a nice one. 10-22-2014 6:03pm
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            • you would leave your dh and divorce over someone you've known for 10 months? 10-22-2014 7:03pm
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              • No! Just saying I wonder if one day we will be together. 10-22-2014 7:04pm
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          • I have seen many instances when that is not true. 10-22-2014 7:08pm
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          • This is dumb. And not true. 10-22-2014 9:24pm
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      • It's possible. I am with mine but I admit his saying "one day" might be leading. Mine said right away, "Can't do this. Want to be with you and filing for divorce". It is ...(more) 10-22-2014 5:59pm
        actions speak louder than words.
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        • Op: this is true. I've come right out and said I never would bc of dh and the kids. But I do think about one day being together with him. Maybe when the kids are older. 10-22-2014 6:01pm
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          • Do you love your husband? It's all fun and games until you are facing real life together. Now don't get me wrong. I adore my husband who was my affair but reality does set in. My...(more) 10-22-2014 6:04pm
            exhusband was an abusive shit and just awful so I'm in a position to appreciate my now husband immensely. Just telling you that if you love your husband work on it. Don't fuck it up.
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            • I do love dh. And this will sound cliche and trite but more as a friend. 10-22-2014 6:05pm
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              • But that is something major though. I don't judge you at all but there is so much hope for your relationship. I for one grew to hate my husband. He was cruel and it was awful! In...(more) 10-22-2014 6:09pm
                spite of that I still fantasize about my little family and house together. I would NEVER change my now dh for the world. He is a wonderful loving man and a spectacular step father but sometimes, just sometimes I wonder and miss what would have been all of us together. Give him a shot if he's a good guy. I swear to God not judging you but I never would have stepped out if I even loved him as a friend.
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                • I don't hate him I just feel nothing for him. Which is horrible I know. 10-22-2014 6:44pm
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          • Grow and let your dh go. Divorce will not kill your kids. 10-22-2014 7:08pm
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            • ^ but I know you won't because you know your affair won't do the same. 10-22-2014 7:09pm
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              • You're absolutely right. And even if affsir did leave dw I'm still not sure I could go through with it. 10-22-2014 7:39pm
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    • how did you meet? 10-22-2014 6:36pm
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      • Online. AM. 10-22-2014 6:43pm
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        • wonder if i know him 10-22-2014 6:45pm
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          • Doubtful. He's not in nyc and neither am I. 10-22-2014 6:59pm
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    • you wont. it's not real. 10-22-2014 6:45pm
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    • This is exactly how my affair is. I used to hope. Ok sometimes I still do. Here's a silly little thing I do:...(more) 10-22-2014 9:25pm
      You know those donation cards a cashier gives you to write your name on for a dollar and they stick it on the wall with the others? I always write my first name with his last name. Like we are married. How high school can you get? But deep down I know we'll never really be together.
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      • whoa...thats straight up crazy! 10-22-2014 9:35pm
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        • really? shit. 20 hr 2 min ago
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      • Op: it's not that I even really hope. Ok. Maybe a bit. If it wouldn't hurt anyone. But it would. And I just can't. 10-22-2014 10:13pm
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  22. Cleveland Which one of these is your affair?...(more) 10-22-2014 3:42pm (7 replies)
    • I'm the one that never had the right timing. 10-22-2014 3:51pm
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    • 6,7 10-22-2014 4:27pm
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    • 3 and 19 10-22-2014 4:30pm
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    • 16 and 19. 10-22-2014 4:32pm
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    • 14 is my wife. I missed out on the other 18, but I can't say that I am sorry. 10-22-2014 4:41pm
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    • 3,5,11,16 (all the same person) 10-22-2014 4:50pm
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      • Hang in there. Maybe the time will eventually the timing will be right. 10-22-2014 7:15pm
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  23. Cleveland Cannot WAIT to see him tomorrow! 10-22-2014 3:30pm (21 replies)
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    • this makes me want to cry. mine doesn't want me anymore. 10-22-2014 3:32pm
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      • aw I'm sorry. 10-22-2014 3:36pm
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        • i don't know what to do. i don't want to find another man. i want him. i can never have him. he just wants kinky sex. no relationship with me. 10-22-2014 3:39pm
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          • why is that attractive to you? 10-22-2014 3:52pm
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            • i don't know. i just love him. he can be so sweet and sexy. he just doesn't want a real relationship with me, even though he has said he loves me. in the past. 10-22-2014 3:57pm
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              • what exactly do you want from him? 10-22-2014 9:25pm
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    • Who? BF? I am seeing mine on Friday. Can't wait either. 10-22-2014 3:35pm
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      • I got some cute new panties, just the kind he likes. Haven't seen him for quite awhile, it's going to be sooooo good. 10-22-2014 3:37pm
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        • Great idea. I haven't had time to pick up anything. How long are you dating? We are just 5 months. So happy. 10-22-2014 3:38pm
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          • 5 years for us. 10-22-2014 3:39pm
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            • Wow. That is great. How often do you get to see each other? 10-22-2014 3:40pm
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              • about every 4-6 weeks. I think the last time I was with him was the end of August. 10-22-2014 3:42pm
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                • That stinks. Sorry you can't see each other more often. We see each other every weekend, and sometimes 1x during the week. 10-22-2014 3:44pm
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                  • it's really ok. It makes it very exciting when we actually do get together. The anticipation is fun. 10-22-2014 3:47pm
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                    • How long do u get w a hotter when u do see him? 10-22-2014 5:51pm
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                      • I don't get the question with autocorrect. We get an afternoon together, about 3 hrs in a hotel rm. 10-22-2014 9:29pm
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    • Saw mine last night. Was amazing. 10-22-2014 4:30pm
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    • June mom here: reading this makes me sad too.... I miss that exhilarating feeling of anticipation of being with him.... :(( 10-22-2014 5:07pm
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      • me too. I have panic attacks when I think about it. That amazing thrill is gone from my life 10-22-2014 6:31pm
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        • Jmom: yup. Same here. Panic attacks. And seeing sexy lingerie, sexy movies, sexy anything... I can't. Not yet. And music. Car station set on classic rock for now... 10-22-2014 6:58pm
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          • ugh. I had to toss a few of my bra/underwear sets. I can't look at them knowing that I wore them for him. And he loved them 10-22-2014 9:30pm
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  24. Cleveland He is cheating because he can't face the people at church and tell them he wants to divorce. He talks to his therapist about how a good christian can divorce and says that unless...(more) 10-22-2014 3:10pm (16 replies)
    she cheats on him, or abuses him, he can't divorce. The desire to say.. "But... the bible says you can go out and sleep around if she isn't cheating or abusing you?" makes me go insane.
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    • That's what he tells you. sorry! 10-22-2014 3:37pm
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      • The whole 'every thing a guy who is cheating ever says is a lie' thing gets old. FWIW, he hasn't said exactly this to me, I can tell this is something that is hanging him up - it...(more) 10-22-2014 5:10pm
        is a topic he is talking about with the therapist. It makes him look like a moron anyway so it isn't like he would make this up to look good. If he thinks it makes him look good, that makes him really stupid and not just a hypocrite.
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        • Are you sitting in on his therapy sessions? 10-22-2014 6:39pm
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          • Yes, I go to one a month with him. 10-22-2014 6:40pm
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            • You go to therapy with your affair? I've never heard of such. wow. 10-22-2014 6:43pm
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              • Yeah, he asked me if I would meet her and talk once, it morphed into going back sometimes. 10-22-2014 6:46pm
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          • ^I agree it's hypocritical, but I'm just saying that's probably not his only hang up. It probably more about dw and kids. 10-22-2014 6:42pm
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            • It isn't the only one, no, but it is a big one. And it blends into wanting his kids to respect him and his wife telling him she'd make him look bad to his kids and everyone they...(more) 10-22-2014 6:45pm
              know (IE the people in the church) if he left her.
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              • does she know about you? He's tried to leave? 10-22-2014 7:03pm
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                • She probably does. Yes, he tried and is still trying to get up the nerve. 10-22-2014 9:06pm
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                  • This is all really weird. is she the one that threatened suicide? 19 hr 29 min ago
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    • this is what he wnts you to think anywy 10-22-2014 6:46pm
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      • Seriously - why would he make this up? What possible benefit could he get from me thinking this? 10-22-2014 6:46pm
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        • he wants you to believe that you are all he really wants and that he would leave if he could, but of course he could if he really wanted to 10-22-2014 6:54pm
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          • You aren't even making sense. How would "I'm worried about what the people in my church would think" translate into me being all he really wants? It sounds to me like his image...(more) 10-22-2014 9:02pm
            is pretty important to him, and the respect of people who all also view divorce as awful. Unless you are trying to say that he is lying about wanting to be with me over his wife - which doesn't have anything to do with what I posted but regardless I don't think he is lying about that.
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    • this is so weird. Why are you fucking someone who is so completely fucked up? 10-22-2014 6:52pm
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  25. Cleveland Is affair with single guy a really bad idea? I mean a worse idea than affair with another married? 10-22-2014 2:55pm (13 replies)
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    • I had one of those. Was fine. 10-22-2014 2:56pm
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    • not if it's just booty calling 10-22-2014 2:56pm
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    • so if you're with a single guy, you don't deal with the guilt of hurting his SO but he has no incentive to keep it secret, really. 10-22-2014 2:56pm
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      • Op. That is one concern. No pact of "mutually assured destruction" 10-22-2014 2:58pm
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    • I'm single. Started seeing him when we were both married and separated. I divorced, he did not. He is holding onto me by telling me he just needs more time to divorce. It is a...(more) 10-22-2014 2:58pm
      great deal of pain for me and him. We've split up a number of times. So.. there's that. Also, honestly, the only downside to me telling someone about him is him being mad at me. Think about that a little.
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      • He's never leaving her. Wake up. 10-22-2014 3:00pm
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        • eh, he will at some point but probably not soon. Np. 10-22-2014 3:01pm
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        • He might or might not. He won't ever be happy with her either way. He has a job offer in another state and is going to go - by himself. He is hoping divorce will be easier...(more) 10-22-2014 3:06pm
          after that.
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      • np - almost my exact situation but mine is over now. 10-22-2014 3:00pm
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      • We don't have any common contacts, so I'm not too worried. But nothing to stop him from showing up at my door some day. Still, seems remote. 10-22-2014 3:00pm
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    • I married my single affair the month my divorce became final. 10-22-2014 3:01pm
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      • And no one thought that seemed a little fishy? 10-22-2014 3:11pm
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      • My affair an I got married days after our divorces finalized and that was days apart. 10-22-2014 3:36pm
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