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  1. Cleveland Wwyd. having lunch w/affair yesterday & as he is approaching he sees me texting. Grabs the phone out of my hands and reads what I am writing. wtf? 9 hr 48 min ago (14 replies)
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    • Well your relationship is based on a lie 9 hr 48 min ago
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      • Op: I agree. I always tell affairs that its good to be honest with eachother in these types of relationships. Not 100% I understand, but its way too much to lie to eachother on...(more) 9 hr 29 min ago
        top of whats going on outside the relationship.
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    • That would be the last time I ever had contact with hi, this dude is trouble if not outright danger. 9 hr 47 min ago
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      • Op:He has also kept items of clothing from me. I scramble looking for them. question him & he'll respond, "oh yeah, I have it". 9 hr 28 min ago
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        • where did you meet the secure fella? age? 8 hr 53 min ago
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        • Why are you with him again ? 6 hr 44 min ago
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    • logistics quesiton: how do you manage to be out in public with him, where you might be seen? 9 hr 45 min ago
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      • Np. It's just lunch. We do this too, not a big deal esp bc he's in sales. 9 hr 44 min ago
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    • He wants to make sure you aren't cheating on him because he knows that you are known for cheating. 9 hr 43 min ago
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      • Op:I think my biggest regret is that I've told him that I have done this before. He always makes comments. Not sure if he is just insecure in general or HE is the threat. I know...(more) 9 hr 34 min ago
        this isn't about me.
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        • You have to figure out you. Why are you in this affair and why do you have multiple affairs? Don't you just want to be happy? 6 hr 43 min ago
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          • I feel like I have no time for this. Demanding family. Stupid job. I feel my "me" time with this bullshit. 4 hr 12 min ago
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    • This guy sounds like bad news. I don't see this affair ending well. Could cause lot of trouble for you. 6 hr 14 min ago
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      • op:I feel this way too. You're right, I have to do something about it. Over the phone, of course. 4 hr 14 min ago
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  2. Cleveland Let's say an ex messages you to say he saw something that made him think of you. You write back and end on a sort of "how's life?" tone. Then, he doesn't write back. It's...(more) 1-31-2015 2:34pm (5 replies)
    three days. Wtf did he write in the first place? What do you do if he eventually writes again?
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    • Ignore. He was drunk the first time. 1-31-2015 2:46pm
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    • He had a moment of boredom. Don't write again and be glad he's gone. 1-31-2015 2:46pm
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    • interesting perspective. I just did this with mine... I was hoping he would send a text and nothing. Do you think he is expecting me to continue to initiate conversation? 23 hr 14 min ago
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      • Nope. He doesn't care either way. Just my guess... 22 hr 42 min ago
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    • This happened to me. I was pathetic about it. dont be pathetic. 11 hr 29 min ago
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  3. Cleveland Have been with affair 4 times. He keeps getting sweeter and more attentive...last time he flipped me over and gave me a full body massage, I mean fingers, toes, full body for like...(more) 1-31-2015 9:24am (18 replies)
    15 minutes or more. It was incredible. I've never had a man do that. Man he is so great. Personality, body, sex, everything. We also talk all day every day (off and on). I'm really enjoying this honeymoon phase. (Not my first affair)
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    • Girl, you in trouble. 1-31-2015 9:26am
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      • Why? 1-31-2015 9:26am
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        • You are going to fall in love. 1-31-2015 9:29am
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          • np: yuuuup! 1-31-2015 10:01am
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    • this is just so pathetic. 1-31-2015 9:29am
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      • Uncheck Cleveland loser. 1-31-2015 9:31am
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        • or: I think you don't know what loser means 1-31-2015 9:33am
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          • Sure I do. A pathetic loser that has a board checked to go into attack mode because she wasn't good enough for her husband. 1-31-2015 9:34am
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            • or: I have everything checked. It's just so sad cleveland. 1-31-2015 9:40am
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              • You have it checked for a reason. That is pathetic. 1-31-2015 10:37am
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    • I've been with mine for a year now. I love him. It's very complicated. 1-31-2015 1:10pm
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    • it' only been 4 times. get some perspective. 1-31-2015 1:40pm
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    • He sounds exactly like my affair. He's so gentle and loving with me that the first few times I was in tears. Dh is never like that, ever. But OR above is correct. You'll fall in...(more) 1-31-2015 2:20pm
      love and be miserable eventually. He won't be with you for real and chances are he's quite a ladies' man. Just like my affair. They don't get to be that good without a lot of practice. Be careful.
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      • Op- the thing is, I've got no problem finding guys. Have tons of options. So at least I'll be able to find a rebound lol 1-31-2015 2:53pm
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        • god you are so smug. fuck around, whatever, but where is your conscience or even your self-awareness? 1-31-2015 2:55pm
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          • Op- I'm in an open marriage. 1-31-2015 3:07pm
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            • You're the one who just posted in Toddler, right? Your marriage isn't really open. I'd bet money on it. 1-31-2015 7:12pm
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              • I bet it's not either. She's never been treated well by her own husband. That says it all. 12 hr 20 min ago
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  4. Cleveland Not fake. In a month my friends will meet out of town to celebrate our birthdays. My df who slept with my aff will be there and he may be there too. I have not talked to him; she...(more) 1-30-2015 7:10pm (6 replies)
    calls weekly. Part of me wants to not go, another wants me to "win him back". It's all f*cked.
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    • Go to have fun. If it won't be fun then don't go. Don't have an agenda. She sucks btw. 1-30-2015 7:40pm
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    • she knew it was your affair? or was he an ex affair? 1-30-2015 9:13pm
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      • She knew. 1-31-2015 8:58am
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        • Np. I'd cut her off, couldn't deal with either of them. 1-31-2015 2:22pm
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    • Best revenge is to let them have each other. Good riddance 1-31-2015 2:48pm
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    • Why the fuck would you ever bother your head about either one of these douchecanoes ever again? Go to the party, look fabulous, have a fabulous time, and pretend they are both...(more) 20 hr 38 min ago
      invisible. Or just don't even go.
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  5. Cleveland I'm giving up on this guy. I need more. He is not worth the risk. 1-29-2015 11:37am (3 replies)
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    • its good you realized that earl into the relationship 1-29-2015 11:48am
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    • No one is worth the risk. If they end up being worth the risk, you will likely fall in love and fuck things up regardless. 1-29-2015 1:47pm
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  6. Cleveland ICloud thinking of you!! Hope all goes well today.-4yr'er. 1-29-2015 11:31am (16 replies)
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    • Oh my, i was just looking at the other post hoping to hear from you. you are very sweet! I have a 5:30 appointment and am nervous. i hope she can help me get over this man....(more) 1-29-2015 11:34am
      I'm out of his life, but i need to let him go. i can't keep yearning for him. Thanks. I wish all good things for you, too. I'll post on this thread when i get home.
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      • looking forward : ) 1-29-2015 12:04pm
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      • so how did it go? 1-29-2015 7:34pm
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        • well, she readcne like a book. 1-29-2015 8:13pm
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          • I told her everything. she was kind but firm and honestly just saying things out loud clarified a lit for me. I will not call him and if he calls me, I need to tell him good bye....(more) 1-29-2015 8:17pm
            I don't know if I can do that yet. She knows that
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            • will you be seeing her again? She gets that you just cant say goodbye, right? Its going to take time to build up to that. Did she get into why you are cheating? 1-30-2015 9:02am
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              • yes I will see her again, I felt comfortable and like she understood. we started delving into what is at the root of this and other situations in my life. I don't know what will...(more) 1-30-2015 9:47am
                be but I feel better just having a pkan- one which I hope does not crumble soon as the phone rings.
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                • sounds like a productive session. 1-30-2015 11:12pm
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                  • yes. I think she can help me. I'm still thinking of him though. I I know that's to be expected, but I still hate it. still lits if secret crying. tell me how you are. 1-31-2015 7:47am
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                    • I am good. I am over winter already. I have been in contact with mine. I have to tell you its been so boring. Since not actually being with him I kind of flushed him out. Nothi...(more) 1-31-2015 10:10am
                      g has changed. He'll never change. He will just work me up with nonsense want to see me on his time & then will disappear. I don't understand why I still engage in conversation with him. Why I can't really let go. You sound like you are in a much better place. Plans for this chilly day?
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                      • just chores, you? I'm glad you are feeling a little more in control. I'm working towards that. therapist was ts me to take his next call and tell him to stop calling me not ready...(more) 1-31-2015 1:00pm
                        For that yet. Just haven't taken his calls. He tried me twice this am. I need to think and gather strength. Thanks for walking this journey with me. Damn its hard
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                        • I get it. Answering his calls is a major step! So hard to do the right thing. Yes, I do feel more in control. He can take me of leave me & with him being such a huge risk I want...(more) 11 hr 23 min ago
                          more than that. You & I are in this together. You are being so good to yourself. I am sure he has taken notice as well.
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                          • ohci know exactly what you mean. if I thought I had a shot at any kind of meaningful relationship with this guy, I'd keep trying; I can see the good in him. he just isn't...(more) 8 hr 54 min ago
                            interested in sharing it with me. You seem So together! I am really happy for you. Your attitude inspires me. I am dying to call but I won't. Do you have Superbowl plans? I am going to my sister's house. We will out out the food, grab ourselves some wine and go into her room and Watch the puppy bowl. Lol
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                            • lol, your plans with your sister sound adorable! I am having family come over to my place. food & drinking as well. Its amazing how HUGE the Superbowl is....(more) 3 hr 30 min ago
                              Would be great if it were like New Years & we got the next day off from work. Lol, theres a thought ; ) You are probably enjoying your family now.You are in my thoughts girly. Eat & Enjoy. Be safe coming home. More snow is expected : /
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                              • o am t 3 hr 14 min ago
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                                • oops sorry. I hope your evening is lovely. I'll check in later. have fun. you deserve to feel happy 3 hr 13 min ago
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  7. Cleveland Psycho affair has called me about 9x since tuesday night. Thought he'd stop until he called last night knowing dh would be out. I am going to call him today. Have to get him off...(more) 1-29-2015 10:34am (5 replies)
    my back.
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    • why are you with this clown? 1-29-2015 10:35am
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      • because I just had my heart broken and he fills the void. the attention is rediculous. really thought he was going to burn us out & be done. 1-29-2015 10:51am
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        • I love it when posters spell ridiculous wrong 1-29-2015 2:55pm
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          • you are so easy to please 1-29-2015 4:44pm
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    • calling only encourages them. Even if you say, "fuck off," they take it as positive reinforcement. No Contact is the only way to go with people like this. I shit you not. 20 hr 38 min ago
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  8. Cleveland This post has been disliked 4 times. showPoll: Like this post if you've had an affair(s) and NEVER been caught. Dislike this post if you HAVE been caught. 1-28-2015 4:09pm (2 replies)
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    • Yu want to be caught. Period. 1-28-2015 7:53pm
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    • I've been caught but he's ok with it and we have decided on an open marriage, he's currently looking for a fling 1-28-2015 9:57pm
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  9. Cleveland How many affair moms are there on here? I'm thinking about 6. 1-28-2015 3:32pm (34 replies)
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    • Just logged on. So me. 1-28-2015 3:49pm
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    • How did you come up with 6? I think it's more like two and the rest are all fake. 1-28-2015 3:57pm
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      • No, there is June mom, Ipad Mom, multi affair mom, 4 year mom, one year mom, family friend mom... 1-28-2015 4:41pm
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        • Who is multi affair mom? Wondering if that's me lol 1-28-2015 9:49pm
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    • here. No moniker 1-28-2015 4:42pm
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    • I had one, now we are married. 1-28-2015 4:45pm
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      • your dh and kids were cool with the divorce and your remarriage? 1-28-2015 4:46pm
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      • I am divorced now and he's on his way - op 1-28-2015 4:52pm
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    • I'm a cuckolder so 7? 1-28-2015 5:12pm
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    • Pub crawl affair here. 1-28-2015 8:03pm
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      • are you still with him?? 1-28-2015 10:25pm
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    • psycho affair here. 1-28-2015 9:35pm
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    • Me too. No moniker either - lurker. 1-28-2015 9:50pm
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    • No moniker here. In an affair for almost a year now. 1-28-2015 9:50pm
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    • I'm one of the multiple 1-28-2015 9:53pm
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      • Np - what do you consider multiple? I have one regular affair partner and then a former aff with whom I text daily, 99% innocent but occasional cybersex. 1-28-2015 9:55pm
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      • ^^affair moms. The one w/ new guy getting very serious, the 22yo, the fuck buddy coworker, the ex coworker who wants to hook up again...hmmm 1-28-2015 9:55pm
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        • ^^^and a few others trying. It's crazy 1-28-2015 9:55pm
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    • email hacker mom (not me, him) here. Coming up on my one year anniversary of not having an affair. So am I still an "affair mom?" Perhaps. 1-28-2015 10:21pm
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      • Was that a year ago?? Doesn't seem that long. 1-28-2015 10:22pm
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        • Yes, almost a year ago. I'm glad it happened because it instantly motivated me to go "no contact" and stop the shenanigans. 1-28-2015 10:24pm
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          • That's good. It was creepy. Is he the one who posted here? 1-28-2015 10:49pm
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            • Yes! I'm glad someone remembers. It was so crazy. 1-28-2015 10:51pm
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              • Totally nuts. 1-28-2015 10:56pm
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    • Garage dw here 1-28-2015 10:22pm
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      • what's your status? 1-28-2015 10:26pm
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        • Have been seeing someone for a year. 1-28-2015 10:50pm
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          • did you ever sleep with the neighbor? 1-28-2015 10:51pm
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            • Yep. Had sex once. And have fooled around a couple of times. 1-28-2015 10:56pm
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              • when did that happen? I thought you just made out with him in the garage 1-28-2015 10:57pm
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                • Over the course of the last year. Starting in May. Was not worth my time. We seem to hook up when completely inebriated. Also not good. 1-28-2015 10:59pm
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    • Former affair mom and current lurker here. 1-29-2015 2:15pm
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    • I mostly lurk but I posted about my emo suddenly leaving without me knowing why. 21 hr 13 min ago
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  10. Cleveland This affair came into it with both of us wanting no strings, friends with benefits. Made very clear (unlike previous ones ive had). He texts all day, calls me, says good night...(more) 1-28-2015 2:46pm (10 replies)
    every night, good morning every morning. I've never had an affair want so much contact. It feels like it may get a bit intense. It's sooooo good though. I'm gonna ride along and see what happens
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    • Your dh or his dw will catch on to all the messaging. 1-28-2015 2:49pm
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      • Not a lot at night, only during day. We both text a lot of people 1-28-2015 2:59pm
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    • broken heart. i know what i'm talking about. :-( 1-28-2015 2:53pm
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      • this! 1-28-2015 3:52pm
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        • Yes this x100000000. It's good for awhile. Then fucking misery for her while it's the same for him. 1-28-2015 8:04pm
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    • my psycho is like this. he is currently pissed at me for ignoring him. not looking forward to running into his crazy ass. enjoy it because it doesnt last. you know this. 1-28-2015 3:14pm
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      • the psycho is the stalker? you need a moniker. 1-28-2015 4:12pm
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        • yes! the stalker is the psycho. 1-28-2015 7:59pm
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          • np: huge shock, here. A stalker is a psycho? What are the chances?! 1-28-2015 10:22pm
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  11. Cleveland Finally have my affair goggles OFF. Wtf was I thinking??? He was balding (not in a sexy way, in a sad middle aged way) had the hairiest back, hairy ape knuckles, a dick so small...(more) 1-28-2015 1:15pm (29 replies)
    it might qualify as a micro-penis, had a skinny-fat flabby body, was the worst dresser, couldn't keep a hard-on (not that it would make a difference) and yet he thought he was gods gift to women. PLEASE SOMEONE EXPLAIN???!!
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    • oh my 1-28-2015 1:16pm
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    • you think so little of yourself 1-28-2015 1:17pm
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    • No idea. Mine is also balding (male pattern baldness) and had a hairy back. But is decently sized and can go and go and go. 1-28-2015 1:18pm
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      • Op. You would think their wives would steer them toward laser hair removal or something? Ugh. 1-28-2015 1:20pm
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        • they've giving you their rejects 1-28-2015 1:21pm
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          • How could she even go to a beach with him??? At least I didn't have to be seen in public with that pelt. 1-28-2015 1:22pm
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            • but what you're doing to yourself by having the affair will stay with you for the rest of your life 1-28-2015 1:23pm
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              • I know. I'm no longer in the relationship. But I realize it damaged me in many ways that I will spend many years grappling with. 1-28-2015 1:24pm
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        • I don't mind a hairy back. Not a big deal. He's older then me and takes good care of himself. He said he had it waxed once and would never again. 1-28-2015 1:24pm
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    • Wtf? What attracted you to him? 1-28-2015 1:22pm
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      • That's my question!!! How fucking desperate for attention was I??? Ewww. 1-28-2015 1:23pm
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        • Where did you see this man and say I must have HIM! 1-28-2015 1:25pm
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          • Well I will say he was funny and smart. And I'm a sucker for that. I just don't know where he got off being so cocky and full of himself. Considering his obvious defects. 1-28-2015 1:29pm
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            • women like you keep them going. 1-28-2015 1:37pm
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            • Was the sex just horrible? 1-28-2015 1:40pm
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              • Quite honestly I don't know if we technically ever had actual sex, that thing was so small. But he was really good at oral and with his hands. So that's what kept me coming back. 1-28-2015 1:42pm
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                • If it weren't for the mind blowing sex I never would have gotten into this. 1-28-2015 1:43pm
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                  • Well it was 100x better than what I was getting at home. 1-28-2015 1:45pm
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                    • Are things any better at home now? 1-28-2015 1:46pm
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                      • No but I have started marriage counseling. I think it's too far gone, but I have realized that having an affair is NOT the way to deal with the unhappiness in my marriage. I have...(more) 1-28-2015 1:50pm
                        to confront that head-on. I regret the affair in many ways, but on the other hand it was a wake up call regarding how unhappy I must be to stoop so low.
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                        • Good for you. G 1-28-2015 1:52pm
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    • wow. that sounds horrible. 1-28-2015 1:36pm
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    • pleeeease tell me he didnt break it off with you! 1-28-2015 1:38pm
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      • Not exactly. I broke it off but only because he wasn't making time to see me, was always having to cancel Etc. So it's hard to say... Ugh. So embarrassing. 1-28-2015 1:44pm
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        • you're out. thats good. 1-28-2015 3:15pm
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    • Why is your self esteem so low? 1-28-2015 2:58pm
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    • LOL I think we were banging the same dude! Except mine would occasionally shave his head and be completely bald. But yeah, ick, what in the ever fuck were we thinking?? 1-28-2015 10:23pm
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      • ^oh and tiny dick, HORRIBLE lover, never gave me a single orgasm. Yeah. Go me. 1-28-2015 10:52pm
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  12. Cleveland I'm wondering how I managed to fall in love with affair...(more) 1-28-2015 1:03pm (15 replies)
    I originally set out to just have good sex. And now we love each other. It makes other things much more complicated. He feels the same way yet neither of us will leave our spouses.
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    • Do you get along with his wife? 1-28-2015 1:05pm
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    • your both chicken shits 1-28-2015 1:05pm
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      • You're. 1-28-2015 2:20pm
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    • right. im sure its love 1-28-2015 1:05pm
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    • its amazing how easily duped some women are 1-28-2015 1:05pm
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    • Do you love your husband too? 1-28-2015 1:09pm
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    • This won't end well. Or maybe it will. 1-28-2015 1:16pm
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    • How long? How often do you see each other 1-28-2015 1:34pm
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      • A year. Depends. He's not local. by love I mean as it can exist in an affair. 1-28-2015 2:16pm
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    • If he loved you he would leave 1-28-2015 1:34pm
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      • wonder if my single affair thinks this about me.. 1-28-2015 1:39pm
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      • Why isn't op leaving? 1-28-2015 1:41pm
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      • He loves me. But it's more complicated then he would "leave". I don't believe in that true love conquers all and fairy tale ending bs. 1-28-2015 2:17pm
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    • How long I 1-28-2015 1:41pm
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      • ^ in the relationship? 1-28-2015 1:41pm
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  13. Cleveland I'm seeing him again on Saturday...3 weeks in a row. He is so amazing....(more) 1-28-2015 10:53am (3 replies)
    This is gonna suck when it ends.
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    • Tinypic? 1-28-2015 10:54am
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    • I get it. Hadnt seen mine is 5 wks. Will see him 3 x this week. It's been amazing. 1-28-2015 11:13am
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    • enjoy the ride while it lasts. 1-28-2015 1:41pm
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  14. Cleveland Sexting with college ex bf . its so good. he still turns me on. 1-27-2015 8:30pm (5 replies)
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    • What is last thing he sent you? 1-27-2015 8:31pm
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      • why 1-27-2015 8:34pm
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        • NP-I am curious too. What does he text you that turns you on so much? 1-27-2015 9:05pm
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          • what we can do to each other 1-27-2015 9:19pm
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  15. Cleveland If he texts me tonight I am going to invite to fuck him tomorrow. 1-27-2015 8:14pm (6 replies)
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    • bold. 1-27-2015 8:16pm
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      • op:Its how I roll. 1-27-2015 8:56pm
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    • I will text you. What's your number? 1-27-2015 8:17pm
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    • makes you sound like a slut. 1-27-2015 8:32pm
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  16. Cleveland Dh climaxes in 20min. ex affair in 15. new affair hardly ever....(more) 1-27-2015 8:02pm (12 replies)
    Ditch? He seems to not be able to get enough. Always wanting to fuck. He id 55. Someone mentioned it might be the daily pot smoking he does & age. Wwyd?
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    • Does he stay hard the whole time? 1-27-2015 8:04pm
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      • yes, but will go limp if I am not paying attention to him. I have been meaning to bring it up to him but would not know where to begin. 1-27-2015 8:10pm
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    • Be real. He is 55yo? 1-27-2015 9:04pm
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      • 54 - 55...yes! 1-27-2015 9:10pm
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        • ^^^he is the oldest man Ive ever been with. 1-27-2015 9:11pm
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          • ^^^& have never had this problem before. 1-27-2015 9:11pm
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            • is this the guy that does blow? 1-27-2015 9:14pm
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              • No. Did admit to smoking pot. Same guy?!?!? crazy. 1-27-2015 9:30pm
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    • viagra 1-28-2015 12:54am
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      • This. Especially the inability to achieve orgasm. 1-28-2015 1:25pm
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    • could be the pot..seriously 1-28-2015 1:18am
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      • I would have never guessed. so what do I do? mention it? 1-28-2015 8:42am
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  17. Cleveland If you were caught in an affair, would you apologise to the husband/wife of the person you cheated with? 1-27-2015 12:47pm (16 replies)
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    • No. I would only want to have an affair with someone whose spouse I didn't respect in the first place. 1-27-2015 12:48pm
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    • do you know him/her? If you do apologize, make it sincere, and not all about you. My dh's affair apoligized to me and the apology consisted of her explaining to me how unhappy...(more) 1-27-2015 12:49pm
      and miserable she was.
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    • exh's affair/new dw did not. but i can tell there are times she feels bad. also, as nice as i am to her, there is part of her that will just never like me because it means i'm...(more) 1-27-2015 12:50pm
      actually a nice person
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      • This is silly. Maybe she does like you. 1-27-2015 2:05pm
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    • The gf of my ex apologized to me. 1-27-2015 12:54pm
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    • I would not approach her. But if she approached me I would. 1-27-2015 1:40pm
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    • yes & I did. 1-27-2015 1:56pm
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      • how did that go? 1-27-2015 3:13pm
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        • horrible. she kept calling me. until i answered the phone. this woman could have destroyed me. she said i was the reason her dh was so mean to her, how he must have really felt...(more) 1-27-2015 4:24pm
          something for me. She painted him to be a true asshole. She really cleared my head up. I felt bad she was married to him. It sounded like a phone call she was used to making.
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          • She sounds like she's in denial, blaming you for her shitty dh 1-27-2015 5:23pm
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            • man, probably. just a very, very scary spot to be in. I have no idea how he got her to not confront me in person! 1-27-2015 8:12pm
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              • Probably because he knew she'd go apeshit and you could have her arrested 1-27-2015 8:28pm
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    • I did. She ignored as I figured. 1-27-2015 2:05pm
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      • Why did you apologize if you knew she would ignore anyway? 1-27-2015 4:36pm
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        • for myself probably. I had to do it. Not a good answer but an honest one. 1-27-2015 11:46pm
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    • I don't know. 1-30-2015 4:45pm
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  18. Cleveland Psycho affair is so insecure. always commenting on how I will be done with him & toss him. How easy I will have him replaced when I am tired of him. I have never been with a man...(more) 1-27-2015 10:31am (6 replies)
    who wanted to turn me inside out to make sure I wasnt fucking around on him. Told him perhaps he was projecting. Wants to know who I am with, her name. My previous affair was so laid back. Total opposite. Anyone btdt with this type?
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    • Your type being a narcissist? Yes, but I avoid at all costs now. 1-27-2015 5:33pm
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      • how am I a narcist? 1-27-2015 7:54pm
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    • no. I don't fuck psychos 1-27-2015 6:58pm
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      • i didnt know he was a lunatic. 1-27-2015 7:55pm
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    • Yeah I had a guy like that. Narcissist. Really annoying at first, then became toxic. RUN AWAY!!!! 1-28-2015 10:25pm
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  19. Cleveland Do you thnk avoidance of common core and parcc testing is a valid reason on its own to opt out of public school? 1-26-2015 6:34pm (2 replies)
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    • ^^^oops wrong board 1-26-2015 6:35pm
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    • no. not at all 1-26-2015 6:36pm
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  20. Cleveland Just curious, based on something a df is going through. Do most cheaters involved in long term affairs who get caught wind up getting divorced? Or is it more typical to save...(more) 1-26-2015 6:33pm (6 replies)
    your marriage after something like that?
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    • I have insider information on this. In my case, the couple managed to stay married, but it was never the same, and they were divorced five years later. 1-26-2015 6:40pm
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      • Thanks. A family member is going through this. I am wondering what will happen 1-26-2015 6:40pm
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        • It's just an example. I think it depends on the couple. 1-26-2015 6:42pm
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          • Yeah, but this was pretty bad. She was using money in their joint accounts to finance trips to see the affair and gifts for him. It was nuts 1-26-2015 6:43pm
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            • they may try to reconcile for the kids or something but their marriage will never be the same even if they manage to stay together long term. 1-26-2015 7:12pm
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    • This is the best artivcle I have found to help....(more) 1-27-2015 6:57pm
  21. Cleveland My new affair apparentely gets off on cuckolding her poor husband...(more) 1-26-2015 5:45pm (25 replies)
    she just wrote this in an email: "I can save ur cum inside me for a few days and continue being a super mom while hubby sucks on my nipples....ur cum will still be sitting inside me....all sticky around my cervix". i hate that this turns me on. it feels so wrong.
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    • vomit 1-26-2015 5:45pm
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      • question: have you ever cheated? 1-26-2015 5:47pm
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    • she's completely classless. 1-26-2015 5:46pm
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      • you'd never know by looking at her. she's the shy cute type. 1-26-2015 5:48pm
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        • I've told my affair that I like feeling him come out of me the next day. But I say zero about my dh. That ruins it 1-26-2015 5:48pm
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        • she uses ur. she's not that great. 1-26-2015 7:13pm
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          • ur, hubby, and cervix. not hot. 1-26-2015 7:40pm
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            • pssst, this guy is kinda dumb 1-26-2015 7:42pm
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              • pssst. i'm not dumb. Its possible this broad I'm fucking is, but I can assure you, I am not. 1-26-2015 10:21pm
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            • yeah okay. hubby is lame. the cervix part was hot though. sorry....(more) 1-26-2015 10:22pm
              she likes that i can hit it because her tiny husband can't
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              • you get off on cuckolding her dh. that's what it is 1-26-2015 10:24pm
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                • and she doesn't? 1-26-2015 10:25pm
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                  • not my point. you posted about her, but the post is actually more about you. 1-26-2015 10:26pm
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                    • so a post where i quoted her is not about her. mmm okay. sure. 1-26-2015 10:31pm
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              • are you married? 1-26-2015 10:26pm
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                • yes. would i have posted this to cleveland if i wasn't? 1-26-2015 10:32pm
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                  • Weren't 1-27-2015 11:00pm
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                    • i bet you're a blast at parties. 1-28-2015 6:36am
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    • you found a winner. you must be a real prize yourself. 1-26-2015 7:13pm
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    • are you a dude? 1-26-2015 10:23pm
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    • this is not sexy @ all. she needs to work on her wording. any mention of being a mom is a turn off. & who says cervix? "love to feel your cum drip from my pussy...I love the...(more) 1-27-2015 9:10am
      smell of your cock. I love to dip my fingers into my wet pussy to get a taste of you."
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      • tell me how you really feel 1-27-2015 1:33pm
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  22. Cleveland Super sweet affair, married, met online then in person twice (hotels). He is gorgeous, fit, sweet, generous in bed... We talk off and onall day via text...(more) 1-26-2015 1:51pm (11 replies)
    Phone etc. I have the opportunity to hook up with another guy who is also super hot and for some reason I want to. How stupid am I?
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    • Pretty fucking stupid. Obviously. 1-26-2015 1:52pm
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    • why is this stupid? do it. 1-26-2015 2:19pm
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      • I know I should... I mean by nature it's a non-exclusive relationship 1-26-2015 2:21pm
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        • exactly. No reason not to. Just use protection and don't tell first guy. 1-26-2015 2:22pm
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    • posts like these make me wonder - if he is gorgeous, sweet, awesome on bed - why the hell doesn't his wife want him? and if she does, then is he just a huge asshole? 1-26-2015 2:22pm
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      • Same reason many people do, being with the same person for so long is hard, spark goes away. New and exciting is fun and hot. Also the spouse has spouse "issues" that you...(more) 1-26-2015 2:44pm
        automatically think of. Affairs are no drama, no kids around, just pure sex with a newish person. It's like dating all over again, first kisses and all
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        • lol at affairs are no drama. That's all they are 1-26-2015 4:55pm
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          • None of mine have been 1-26-2015 6:53pm
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        • Anything good takes work. Often the person that puts the least into a marriage has the affair. I have been married 35 years and the spark is still there because my dw and I work...(more) 1-26-2015 11:21pm
          at our marriage. You are taking the easy way out. I hope it doesn't come back and bite you in the ass.
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          • np - could you please give specific examples of how you work at your marriage? i love my dh and think he is the best person i will ever know, but i'm so attracted to someone else...(more) 1-27-2015 10:34am
            right now.
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          • Affairs take a crap ton of work. 1-30-2015 4:48pm
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  23. Cleveland When my affair and I were caught, I told him that I was going to save my family and he should do the same. I wished him no ill will until just a few hours later I heard that he'd...(more) 1-25-2015 6:42pm (33 replies)
    thrown me under the bus. I still see him occasionally and it takes everything I have not to give him the finger and tell him to fuck off and die. Dh and I have spent thousands on therapy and marriage counseling and are trying to move on. The problem is that we continue to hear that former affair is telling bold face lies about me and our marriage. Dh is at his wits end and I'm afraid he's going to do something terrible if we hear one more peep from them. It's a big fucking mess, I tell you. Get out while you can.
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    • Are you looking for someone new to fuck? 1-25-2015 6:46pm
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    • Throw you under the bus how? 1-25-2015 7:30pm
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      • Basically blaming me for everything, painting me in the worst light possible- the whole bummer boiler bit. Shocking, I know. 1-25-2015 9:02pm
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        • to whom? 1-25-2015 9:54pm
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          • Sarcasm. 1-26-2015 1:54am
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            • No, to whom is he throwing you under the bus? His wife? Well duh. Or everyone else? Is he talking about this publicly? 1-26-2015 7:10am
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              • His dw of course, which is fine if that's what he needs to do. The problem is that we keep hearing about it. Dh is ready to ruin him. Hopefully they will both shut their mouths...(more) 1-26-2015 9:07am
                and move on. I don't have the energy to go to war with someone who is totally irrelevant to me now.
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                • Hearing about it from whom? I think this is fake. 1-26-2015 12:29pm
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                  • It's all coming from his dw who is pissed off that I didn't lose my family. Believe me, I get it, but they need to understand that you live by the sword, you die by the sword....(more) 1-26-2015 12:43pm
                    My dh and anyone that matters to me knows everything so she's not hurting me, she's just taunting my dh and making him increasingly angry. Believe me, he's been incredibly forgiving and irrational thus far.
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                    • ^rational 1-26-2015 12:44pm
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                    • np - are you worried that he's just going to get fed up and blame you? 1-26-2015 1:00pm
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                      • My dh does blame me but he's not fed up because I've worked my ass off to earn his forgiveness. I take 100% of the responsibility, I do not lie, and I certainly do not try to...(more) 1-26-2015 1:09pm
                        distract him by pointing the finger about someone who doesn't matter.
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                        • This sounds like harassment/stalking.Any time there is unwanted contact from your ex-affair or his dw, go to the police and file a report. Make a paper trail. Hire a lawyer and...(more) 1-26-2015 2:13pm
                          send a cease-and-desist letter making it clear that you have spoken to the authorities and will pursue legal action if it continues. A df went through this (not the same circumstances, but a stalking/harassment case). It worked.
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                          • Thank you. I've spoken to an attorney and we are documenting. Next time we will send cease and desist letter. 1-26-2015 2:35pm
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                            • Good plan. I assume you have also blocked email and phone numbers. 1-26-2015 2:37pm
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                              • We have 1-26-2015 2:38pm
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                                • and gone to cops? 1-26-2015 2:39pm
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                                  • Not really worth going to cops. Yet. 1-26-2015 2:40pm
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                    • taunting him how? is the other couple still married? Im confused. Did you post here when you got caught? 1-26-2015 2:15pm
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                    • Are they contacting you? Or talking to mutual friends? 1-26-2015 2:15pm
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                      • Both 1-26-2015 2:31pm
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                        • So send a cease and desist and go to the cops. 1-26-2015 2:35pm
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                    • Well did your affair lose his family? Did your affair's dw leave him? If not, she's being a total hypocrite, since she made the choice to stay just like your dh did. 1-26-2015 2:32pm
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                      • Exactly. She feels I haven't suffered enough, haven't gotten what I deserve. Well, if that's how the world works, her dh will get it too and I doubt they want that. 1-26-2015 2:37pm
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                        • She's lucky your dh is not as psycho as she sounds. 1-26-2015 2:40pm
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                          • She's not psycho, she's deeply hurt and I understand. But my dh is also deeply hurt and deserves peace. 1-26-2015 2:43pm
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                            • I get it. No one ever thinks of the betrayed husbands in these scenarios. I just meant she's lucky that your dh is not taunting her and that he respects her need for peace. 1-27-2015 1:40pm
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                              • They both hate my dh as much as they hate me. 1-27-2015 2:16pm
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                                • why on earth would they hate your dh? he's innocent in all of this 1-27-2015 5:24pm
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    • nice try with the threats. reverse the story and it's more accurate. 1-27-2015 12:07pm
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      • How would you know what's "accurate"? 1-27-2015 1:09pm
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      • It is just a response to YOUR threat the day before, which was a nice try. Just stop. I'm tired. 1-27-2015 1:28pm
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        • It is so easy to get you guys to get your panties in a wad. There is no one more paranoid than a bunch of ladies having affairs. 1-27-2015 3:08pm
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  24. Cleveland Do you get jealous of her?...(more) 1-25-2015 6:18pm (11 replies)
    When my AP talks about his DW, I get jealous, but never let on. He claims that we have much better sexual chemistry for whatever that is worth. I wish he would stop talking about her. It causes so much pain. Anybody else in the same boat?
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    • What's AP mean? 1-25-2015 6:19pm
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      • Affair Partner. 1-25-2015 6:20pm
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    • He doesn't really care for you if he talks about her. 1-25-2015 6:22pm
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      • he cares about both of us...(more) 1-25-2015 6:24pm
        i am sure of that. he's very good to me and shows genuine care. i think he's just ignorant that it hurts so much. I never let him know how I feel. It would only make me weak in his eyes.
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        • Yeah, I'm sure he is going to leave her 1-25-2015 6:29pm
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    • Sounds like he thinks you are a therapist and an easy lay 1-25-2015 6:22pm
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      • i am an easy lay for him. 1-25-2015 6:25pm
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    • so tell him to stop - it's not really that complicated 1-25-2015 6:27pm
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    • what does he say about her? My affair always talked about his dw til I finally let him know how jealous I am and he's cut way waaay back. 1-26-2015 10:05am
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    • Mine talked about her, said wonderful things about her, called her "abusive" (which is ridiculous/untrue). He also loved to tell me all he did for her, from the little daily...(more) 1-28-2015 10:50pm
      things like making meals and snacks for her, to running errands, and he'd make sure to tell me every time he bought jewelry for her or took her out for special occasions. Yes I have been done with him for quite a while and have done substantial therapy to raise my self-esteem. Jealous didn't even begin to describe this feeling I used to get. It was more like complete, utter worthlessness. I loved him, and he was very clear about the fact that I was just his whore.
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      • np - omg, i wish i had seen this sooner. i am dumpt by text/icloud and your situation mirrors mine. he made me love him and then reminded me everytime that he loved his wife and...(more) 1-29-2015 10:21am
        i was just his hole. why i kept going back, i'll never understand. or maybe i will. i am going to a therapist for the first time after work today.
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  25. Cleveland Multiple affair mom...can anyone talk? I feel like when I post I get flamed as a whore. I need to spill it to someone 1-25-2015 6:12pm (5 replies)
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    • Hi 1-25-2015 6:13pm
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      • Ok. Here's my current situation. I have a fwb who I fuck weekly, no emo, no drama, one of my best friends, also...(more) 1-25-2015 6:21pm
        Work with him, gojng on 3 years. Another former affair at work starting up again (fwb knows, doesn't care), am affair who is the only married one, so hot, texts often, serious connection, getting very close,...22yo who keeps being demanding then when I remind him he's just a fuck he backs off and wants to be just that. And another guy I've beem talking to for months and meeting him friday for the first time. All hot, it's crazy.
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        • Sounds pretty good 1-25-2015 6:30pm
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        • i can't believe people think you're a whore 1-26-2015 9:17am
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    • What's up, honey. 1-25-2015 6:16pm
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