Cleveland

  1. Cleveland So mad. everyone who needs me I am there. always. when I need someome fucking crickets. how do I fix this. please .. 5 hr 1 min ago (5 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Ah, honey, what do you need? 5 hr ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I don't knoe. i am so sad. so many demands. I cant satisfy everyone. so lost. 4 hr 57 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • ^^^I am wearing myself outin every aspect of my life. I need a place to fall. 4 hr 59 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • that is kind of the deal with a married person... 4 hr 58 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • no, this can't be it. I deserve more. I am a good person. want to make my loved ones happy & comfortable. my life is full of demands. I need an out. I feel like I am drowning....(more) 4 hr 55 min ago
        Really.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  2. Cleveland While I am very much enjoying the back and forth exchange of sexually charged emails, it's going to have to stop now.... (UB: Help me write this: am trying to say enough w this,...(more) 14 hr 7 min ago (6 replies)
    if you want to re-connect, then say so - otherwise, stop leading me on....
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I'm confused. Do you want to break it off or do you want him to quite playing games and fuck you? 14 hr 6 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Op: the latter 14 hr 5 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • "When can I see you?" 14 hr 4 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • ^^^ how do you know him? 14 hr 4 min ago
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Op: I like that - to the point. :) Ex affair.... Started emailing again after 2 mos of NC 13 hr 53 min ago
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Well, giddyup cowgirl. Have fun. 13 hr 44 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
  3. Cleveland I told him that was a nice pic of he, dw and adult dc his dw tagged them in on FB. (in reality it makes my chest hurt). He replied...(more) 18 hr 6 min ago (17 replies)
    "thank you. I love you.... do you love me?"
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Aww so sweet 18 hr 5 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Huh? 18 hr 4 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • This is exactly what mine would have said. Are you married? If not why do you do this to yourself? 18 hr 3 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • yes married. I wouldn't do this if I were single. 18 hr 2 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • ok then I get you. sucks. 18 hr 1 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • how do I respond? I want to say Yes but it's killing me. 17 hr 58 min ago
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • well I would have said something like " I do love you but I don't love this shitty situation." 17 hr 56 min ago
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^ but I truly loved him and hated the deception. That's why it's over. 17 hr 56 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I've said it before. It's just a fucked up situation I accept or end. Neither sounds appealing. But thanks for chatting and not flaming. 17 hr 55 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • yep, btdt 17 hr 19 min ago
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • I told him I love him but not the situation. He said "The situation is tough sometimes. But you're mine. And I am yours. Love you."...(more) 15 hr 8 min ago
                    So I'm back where I started.
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Np: my affair is single but he is able to pull me in so quickly like this too. It's awful 15 hr 5 min ago
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • This dude is fucking playing you so hard. 14 hr 56 min ago
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • you know what would be nice? if men would just fucking admit this. If I told him I feel like he's playing me he would be all hurt. 14 hr 38 min ago
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • He is playing you so fucking hard, man. It is really blowing my mind that you would engage with him instead of finding an honest affair and one that doesn't make you feel like...(more) 14 hr 37 min ago
                          shit emotionally, EVER, b/c that's not what an affair is for!
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • They believe what they are saying and it's probably true, they just don't realize the fucked upness of the situation or how much it's really hurting you. I don't think most of...(more) 14 hr 33 min ago
                          these guys have a master plan. They are just pussies who won't try to fix or leave their marriages so they do what they can for happiness.
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • You have to stay off of FB. 17 hr 11 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  4. Cleveland If dh is on ashley Madison how would the charge show up 22 hr 44 min ago (1 reply)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • google it. I'm pretty sure you can pay for it via money order. I don't know what would piss me off more, him using the CC or him being on there. 20 hr 35 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  5. Cleveland Has anyone here been innfluenced to have first affair by reading this board? 10-30-2014 6:13pm (11 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Dear God please let everyone answer no. 10-30-2014 6:15pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Would beg the question of what the person was doing here in the first place, no? 10-30-2014 6:47pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • No. 10-30-2014 6:59pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • OP: Essentually the same question, just worded differently. A number of posts here are asking for advice. 10-30-2014 9:48pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I was in the beginning stages of one and I started reading here because it's the only place I could find people who related. 10-30-2014 9:23pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • ^its quite possible that reading here "normalized" and justified my feelings about it. 10-30-2014 9:24pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • oh for fuck's sake. fuck no. what the fuck is the matter with you? 10-30-2014 9:31pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Actually, it made me NOT want to! 10-30-2014 9:34pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • There's a lot of drama regarding affairs on this posts. Good affairs go under the radar because there's nothing to report. 20 hr 34 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • this is so true 18 hr 2 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  6. Cleveland Apparently affair has bought me a diamond ring for Xmas. This is kind of fucked up. 10-30-2014 4:53pm (28 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • klassie 10-30-2014 4:54pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • whatever 10-30-2014 4:55pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • That's just strange 10-30-2014 4:59pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Op: I'm not sure how to react. He mentioned it a few weeks ago and my reception was lukewarm. He just texted that he went Xmas shopping and it's beautiful like me. 10-30-2014 5:00pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • he's fucking crazy. 10-30-2014 5:03pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • He's not. We do love each other. He's just a guy who is very in love right now. 10-30-2014 5:05pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • gross and creepy. wtf do you do with this shit? hide it/ 10-30-2014 5:07pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • No. Said I bought it for myself. 10-30-2014 5:28pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
        • np - don't overthink it. He's trying to spoil you 10-30-2014 5:03pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • it's inappropriate and creepy. 10-30-2014 5:04pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Op: he's bought me jewelry in the past. But necklace bracelet earrings. 10-30-2014 5:05pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • gross gross no boundaries. you know this isn't okay. 10-30-2014 5:07pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • slow down. If she thinks this is not OK, she HAS to tell him. He's trying to be charming and thoughtful 10-30-2014 5:08pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • you people on here are bananas. 10-30-2014 5:09pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Call me bananas, but it's what I would do 10-30-2014 5:09pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • Op: when he brought it up I said my main concern would be that dh would say something. And that it was odd bc we aren't going to be tigether. I guess I wasn't clear enough. 10-30-2014 5:09pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • YA THINK? You're dealing with a person who has no common sense. He's going to boil your bunny any day now. 10-30-2014 5:10pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • It would be hard to do from 3000 miles away. 10-30-2014 5:28pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • i assume it's just a ring not an engagement ring. 10-30-2014 7:26pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                • We don't really have any boundaries. But this seems ott to me. The other stuff I'm ok with. 10-30-2014 5:08pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • well, duh. obviously you don't respect boundaries. or you wouldn't do this. 10-30-2014 5:09pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
    • what does he expect you to do with that? 10-30-2014 7:27pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • This is fucked up. And so is your reaction. He totally disrespects your boundaries and yet you pussy out of telling him so. 10-30-2014 9:04pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Ha. My affair told me he was shopping for a ring for his dw for Valentine's Day, the POSTED IT ON THE TODDLER BOARD, getting everyone's opinion of the (tacky, hideous) ring. Not...(more) 10-30-2014 9:32pm
      kidding.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • ^oops "then" not "the." 10-30-2014 9:34pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • your affair posts on Toddler?? 19 hr 43 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Mine asked me to wear a silver band. I was deeply touched, yet also pissed off he didn't have the balls to make it for real. It's over now. 21 hr 55 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I don't want or expect him to leave dw. Nor does he have that expectation of me. 20 hr 1 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  7. Cleveland Love can make you craaaazy 10-30-2014 12:43pm (2 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • And crazy can make you think you are in love. 10-30-2014 12:45pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • love stinks. 10-30-2014 12:46pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  8. Cleveland I want to tell him to stop saying certain catchphrases to me that he and dw say. that's their thing. I don't want it said to me. 10-30-2014 9:52am (19 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I can tell you a great way to achieve that. 10-30-2014 9:57am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • do tell. Or do I already know what you'll say... 10-30-2014 10:01am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • don't have an affair. and it won't be an issue. 10-30-2014 10:12am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • yeah ok. So would I sound like a bitch if I asked him not to say that to me? 10-30-2014 12:14pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • how do you know he says that to his wife? 10-30-2014 1:03pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • FB. 10-30-2014 2:48pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • That is dumb 10-30-2014 3:23pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • I think I'm just getting tired of the whole thing. 10-30-2014 3:25pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Why would you ever put yourself through that? Why are you friends with them on FB? That shit will drive you insane 10-30-2014 3:26pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • It does. I'm not friends with his dw of course but she posts pics to his timeline and I've read their birthday posts to each other. I almost literally got sick reading that. It is...(more) 10-30-2014 3:30pm
                    driving me crazy, killing me.
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Can you stop? There's no way this relationship is good for you 10-30-2014 3:34pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • I don't know, been together for years. He's sweet, very loving. But I know it's not good for me. 10-30-2014 3:36pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • is it sweet to be in love with his wife and cheat and say the same shit to you that he says to her? 10-30-2014 4:50pm
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                          • He says they've grown apart, he loves her as a friend and the mother of their dcs but doesn't feel the intimacy and closeness he feels with me. But what does that matter?they have...(more) 10-30-2014 8:44pm
                            Fun together, are a beautiful couple, their friends envy them. How do I end this? I really love him and I do think he loves me but it really is killing me. I'm depressed, can't concentrate, so fucking jealous of their time together and knowing I'll never have that wirh dh.
                            log in or sign up to post a comment
                            • np: I am very sad for you. You deserve to be treated like an actual human being. This bastard will never, EVER do that. I'm very sorry. 10-30-2014 9:35pm
                              log in or sign up to post a comment
    • mine called me the term of endearment that he called his wife 10-30-2014 1:37pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • oh no! 10-30-2014 2:48pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I didn't care. I liked it. Fucked up. 10-30-2014 3:22pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
  9. Cleveland Dh is just not into me anymore. I always have to get sex started with him. He is a great lover when I get it. I always want more. Then I have to role play. Which is fine but I...(more) 10-30-2014 9:46am (11 replies)
    feel disconnected from him.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Does he know you cheat? 10-30-2014 9:49am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • ^because lack of trust can be kind of a mood-killer. 10-30-2014 9:57am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • op:No. He does not. 10-30-2014 10:09am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Perhaps the underlying issues in your relationship that cause you to stray should be addressed. 10-30-2014 10:10am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • op:I am trying. Me straying is just avoidence on my part. I could do without affair if I only had more. 10-30-2014 10:25am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^^^of dh. 10-30-2014 10:25am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Right. It's his fault @@ 10-30-2014 10:27am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • op: no. It's my fault. Stupid way to avoid the issue. To get someone who wants me. Dumb. I know. Not the right way to go. 10-30-2014 11:20am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
    • It's hard to fall in love with someone all over again after so many years. The problem is that we're animals and we're not meant for monogomy. 10-30-2014 1:17pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • You seem to be assuming that OP has fallen out of love with dh. Maybe start doing some of the things they used to do. I have fallen in love with my wife more than once. It wasn't...(more) 10-31-2014 1:24am
        that hard. I just had to start thinking out her instead of myself. She responded, I responded, she responded... positive upward spiral and there we were in love, more than ever. Marriage is like any other good thing, you have to work at it.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • np: Wow.. That's really good, thoughtful advice. 20 hr 35 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
  10. Cleveland Hi. I am dw. I'm not here to flame. I'm here for reassurance, I guess? I believe that some affairs are only about sex/ego boosts/escapism etc. I also believe some affairs...(more) 10-29-2014 7:13pm (42 replies)
    have real feelings and love involved. Anyway, point is, I realize that affairs are not black and white. The woman my dh was with is prolific on the internet. She has profiles and blogs etc. Lots of stuff is public so I can see her if I want. I STUPIDLY look at her pages from time to time and normally I see nothing that smarts. Today though, I see she is alluding to me on one of her pages - making fun of my job, the way I look, where I live and the fact I haven't had the dignity to walk away from my dh. She has also had some kind of identity fraud or something going on - which has nothing to do with me - but she is saying it's me. Sounds so stupid as I type this - damn social media! Anyway, why would a woman who has been busted in an affair risk angering the betrayed wife? I'm thinking if it were me who was caught out I would lay low and keep well away from the dw. Maybe she is hoping I'll tattletale to my dh and it'll cause problems? Simple solution, don't
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • She's a complete fucking whack job. 10-29-2014 7:15pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • This. So sorry OP. 10-29-2014 7:16pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • op. thanks guys. 10-29-2014 7:21pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • she's pissed that they got caught and you didn't dump him 10-29-2014 7:16pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op. really? thanks for saying that, makes me feel better. She seems like a whack job. I read the affair stuff on here often and there is so much pain, it's sad. 10-29-2014 7:20pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • don't mention it to dh. you have every right to look, but don't talk to your dh about it if you want to stay together. no need for him to think about her anymore. are you staying...(more) 10-29-2014 7:24pm
          together?
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op. right, I nearly told him about it but stopped myself. She doesn't need air time plus he is beyond sorry. We are staying together. It all happened a while ago and in fact, I...(more) 10-29-2014 7:27pm
            could almost say the affair was a good thing as it was such a wakeup call to the state of our marriage. We had to fix things or split. I like our marriage these days, things are good.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • then who the fuck cares about that stupid skanky crazy bitch? she doesn't exist. 10-29-2014 7:30pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • op. ha. yeah I know. thanks, I'll be stealing that for my new mantra. 10-29-2014 7:32pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • This is awful. Be careful. 10-29-2014 7:55pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • How long was his affair? She's single I imagine? 10-29-2014 8:57pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op. she is married. she told my dh that he was not her first affair. have no idea what the situation is with her husband. My dh knew her for more than a year. 10-29-2014 10:28pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I was about to say are you sure she is talking about YOUR husband? Maybe someone elses? 7 hr 48 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • That's pretty fucking low - signed, former affair mom 10-29-2014 9:01pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Wow, that is awful. I can't imagine putting shit like that on the internet - she just be insane. I'm glad your DH woke up and reconnected. You sound like a truly good person. 10-29-2014 9:10pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op. aw thanks. I'm a normal, flawed person. Time has passed is all and I can see the situation more rationally now. 10-29-2014 10:26pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I think you posted her page on toddler once to ask if we thought she was pretty or slutty. sorry. so very sorry. 10-29-2014 10:30pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op. yikes! no way, that wasn't me. I'd never do that. If I posted her pic, most people would say she was pretty - it's cool. 10-29-2014 10:32pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • if i remember correctly she was pretty. milky white skin, full breasts, dark hair. crazy as hell tho. 10-29-2014 10:37pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op. no, that's not the woman I am talking about. i didn't see that post. 10-29-2014 10:38pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • does not matter at all. i find physical appearance is circumstance. sorry this happened. my dh cheated too. it is the most unbelievable beat down, no one here gets it. They...(more) 10-29-2014 11:34pm
              believe it is all about their pleasure. Karma is a true bitch. i rely on that and not revenge. balance with come.
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^^will not with 10-29-2014 11:34pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I know you won't and you shouldn't, but LINK PLEASE? 10-29-2014 10:32pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op. ha ha. I know, as replier above just said, someone on toddler did similar. Man, imagine the abuse she would get if I outed her on Toddler! No way, bad karma, I wouldn't do it. 10-29-2014 10:33pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Do it do it do it do it 10-29-2014 10:34pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op. no way. I wouldn't want to anger purple goddess anyway and mis-use the forum. 10-29-2014 10:36pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
    • She's pissed he made a choice and it wasn't her. Sometimes they do leave for affair. He showed her but staying and working on things with you just what she really is to him....(more) 10-30-2014 8:48am
      Nothing.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I've never turned on anyone so fast as when I was busted and faced with losing my Dh. He was nothing but a douche who fed my ego. 10-30-2014 11:35am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • OR: Yep. I've never cheated on my dh but can understand the itch to do so. If I ever did and caught I'd be sure to tell the fuck buddy to get lost and he didn't mean anything....(more) 10-30-2014 12:55pm
          That he was a nobody. But OP is a better woman than I. If in her shoes I'd be going nuts and taunting that woman.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
        • sad that you would do that to two people for your ego. 10-30-2014 1:05pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • NP: Sad that you have Cleveland checked for yours. 10-30-2014 1:06pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • No, I'm with a married guy. I would be crushed if he did that to me. Ruined. 10-30-2014 1:08pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Is he working to leave the wife and get together for you? For good? Marry you? You've got no dog in this fight here. 10-30-2014 1:10pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • I believe and hope so. If he is just playing me and his wife like this poster, it would be very hard. 10-30-2014 1:11pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • Op's husband seems to not be playing with her. I suspect your guy is though. What's his plan and yours? Is he sleeping with you every night? 10-30-2014 1:13pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • No, we live pretty far away. He is waiting for the kids to leave the house. 10-30-2014 1:14pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • Ahhh! The age old when the youngest goes to college. I'm sorry to tell you but if he wanted to be with you now. He would. 10-30-2014 1:16pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • It is more complicated than that, and not really that far from now. I'm aware of the odds but like I said, if he is just playing me, it would be crushing. To fake what he is...(more) 10-30-2014 1:18pm
                          doing would take a seriously evil, dedicated sociopath. So, I guess we'll see but none the less, it still seems like taking pride in turning on someone who cares for you is harsh.
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                          • I wish you the best. Adoration and affection can actually be faked or misconstrued. Look after yourself now. 10-30-2014 1:20pm
                            log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I wasn't consciously using the guy to feed my ego, it took being kicked out of my house and a lot of therapy to realize what it was really about. Fwiw my affair turned on me,...(more) 10-30-2014 6:22pm
            too.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
    • you seem like a cool person, I don't think I would be as levelheaded as you 10-30-2014 6:26pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  11. Cleveland Any word from the old pittspeoples? 10-29-2014 6:17pm (6 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • how many did you meet? 10-29-2014 8:44pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • whatch u want to know? 10-29-2014 10:09pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Hey there! I stop by every now and then and see if any of the stories and perspectives sound familiar. 10-30-2014 5:46pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Same here 20 hr 26 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Ditts 14 hr 9 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • threepeo. Lost touch with a few, too. So many people moved! 10 hr 12 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  12. Cleveland When someone shows you who they are, believe them THE FIRST TIME. 10-29-2014 6:03pm (1 reply)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • AMEN. Sing it, Sister! 10-29-2014 8:43pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  13. Cleveland Garage mom here. Any questions? 10-29-2014 4:15pm (24 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • You/re not her 10-29-2014 4:15pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • why would you say that? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • ever mess around with the neighbor? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • yes i did 10-29-2014 4:16pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • NP: How many times? 10-29-2014 4:18pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • 3x 10-29-2014 4:19pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • I thought it was twice. 10-29-2014 4:20pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • there was a quick make out a few weeks ago 10-29-2014 4:23pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • How can I clean oil stains on the garage floor? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • have your lover cum on them 10-29-2014 4:16pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Garage dw. Not garage mom 10-29-2014 4:20pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • It's not her. 10-29-2014 4:20pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • it is me. i'm bored 10-29-2014 4:23pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • How many guys have you slept with? 10-29-2014 4:25pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • In my life?...(more) 10-29-2014 4:26pm
              Is this who I think it is?
              log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Are you still a huge fat mess skulking the garage, pining for the neighbor, love-custard moistening your panties? 10-29-2014 5:25pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Nope. I've lost 60 lbs and totally moved on from him. 10-29-2014 6:00pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • so pining for a new man? 10-29-2014 6:01pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • No. Have a new man that's pining for me. 10-29-2014 6:02pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Except for that quick makeout 10-29-2014 6:41pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Well yes. But I'd had a lot to drink. No excuse. 10-29-2014 7:14pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Good for you on the weight loss! Post a pic! 10-29-2014 6:18pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Thanks. Tiny pic won't work on my phone since I updated to ios8 10-29-2014 6:20pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
  14. Cleveland I actually like getting cock shots. Anyone else? 10-29-2014 11:36am (9 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • dh: Not particularly fond of them. 10-29-2014 11:37am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Thudder? 10-29-2014 11:38am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • never gets old 10-29-2014 4:04pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I do. But only when requested. I also like to get video of him jerking off. 10-29-2014 11:39am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Nope 10-29-2014 12:08pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Did you mean photos? Or a shot to the face? I like both, depending on the cock involved. 10-29-2014 1:42pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I kind of like that my affair doesn't send them. It's not sexy 10-29-2014 6:40pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • leave an email and I can send you a few 10-29-2014 10:09pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  15. Cleveland Any of this apply to you?...(more) 10-28-2014 4:58pm (12 replies)
    Extramarital sex was reported by 48 percent of women whose first premarital sex occurred at age fifteen or younger, in contrast with 16 percent of women whose first premarital sex occurred after age twenty-one.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I'm in the 15 or under camp but not the cheating on DH camp. 10-28-2014 4:58pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Over 15. And having affair. 10-28-2014 5:04pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I am in the 16%. 10-28-2014 5:53pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Oh wait, never mind. I don't know what I am as I was 19. 10-28-2014 5:54pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • op: I thought it might explain some of what is going on here. Guess not. 10-28-2014 6:41pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Yep. That's me. Was 15.5. 10-28-2014 6:43pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • you have had affairs? 10-28-2014 7:09pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • yes 10-28-2014 11:16pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  16. Cleveland Former affair mom. Divorced and dating. I have only told one other person I have dated that I had an affair - turned out he had too so there was no judgement. But I am dating...(more) 10-28-2014 1:43pm (17 replies)
    someone new and I am nervous about telling him - he has high expectations of people and a very good heart. I have to tell him because he needs to know before we go further. Can anyone relate or BTDT? Do you think he will care?
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • My marriage had a LOT of infidelity. My exdh cheated on me consistently over the years, and I had the juvenile reaction of meeting that in turn. I didn't disclose because I truly...(more) 10-28-2014 1:45pm
      believe my behavior was situational and not indicative of my own actual ethics when it comes to relationships. But if you're prone to cheating...I do think you should disclose, generally. People need to understand what they are dealing with.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I am definitely not prone to cheating. In fact (and I have posted about this here before) I can't even casually date more than one person at a time. My affair was situational...(more) 10-28-2014 1:47pm
        due to the person I had the affair with. But I feel that anyone I start to date sort of seriously needs to know before years go by and then it comes out one day.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Then disclose. I honestly would have never dated a person who had a history of infidelity. Which I know sounds awful, since it is something I engaged in. And I listened to...(more) 10-28-2014 1:52pm
          people's stories with a heavily critical ear and looked for signs. I just couldn't be with a cheat.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I totally understand, which is why I want to let him know now. It actually doesn't bother me assuming everything else about the guy is good. My affair doesn't define me or who I...(more) 10-28-2014 2:06pm
            am so I extend that courtesy to others. But I know not everyone does especially not having btdt.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Right. I just think that people who cheat, for the most part, are just cheats. 10-28-2014 2:15pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I think if that were true I'd be trying to hide it. I don't. 10-28-2014 2:21pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • You'd be surprised what people disclose. and if their relationship failed due to infidelity...it is fairly clear. 10-28-2014 2:22pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • Right, but mine didn't fail due to infidelity. I asked for the divorce long after the affair was over, and yes dh knew about it. All situations and people are different though. 10-28-2014 2:24pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • well. i'd say that my relationship didn't fail specifically because of that behavior. But the behavior was a symptom of him not knowing how to confront his actual issues. And that...(more) 10-28-2014 2:26pm
                      makes him a terrible partner. Feeling ugly? GO FUCK SOMEONE! Feeling down about your job? A PRETTY GIRL WILL CHEER YOU UP! etc. and repeat.
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • OK, that's fine. 10-28-2014 2:27pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Why do you have to tell him? 10-28-2014 2:23pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I can't imagine not telling someone I was serious with. I have to know that they are ok with it. It's a huge thing to hide. 10-28-2014 2:25pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • That just seems like something from the past 10-28-2014 2:30pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Unless you don't trust yourself for the future. 10-28-2014 2:30pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • It's not even about trusting myself. It's just a huge thing in my life and I learned a lot about myself and others in the process and aftermath. 10-28-2014 2:32pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^ and what's wrong with talking about your past? Isn't that what you do? Also like I said, it's not something I'd want him to find out later. I'd want to know up front. 10-28-2014 2:33pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Every single person I've told about it has told me about when he did it too. I think a LOT of divorced guys have. 10-28-2014 2:50pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  17. Cleveland Funny thing is I miss it. Not him so much. 10-28-2014 9:18am (39 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • The subterfuge? the sex? what exactly? 10-28-2014 9:19am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Being a whore? 10-28-2014 9:22am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op: daily contact. someone to talk with, felt like a person. Not a mule. 10-28-2014 9:30am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • You feel like a mule? 10-28-2014 9:31am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Yes, demands in my life. Everyone takes. My own fault for loving too hard. 10-28-2014 9:33am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • lol. did you really just say loving too hard 10-28-2014 9:34am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
            • You're very naive if you think that your affair was not taking from you, too. He may have slipped you a hot beef injection every so often, but he was a taker, too. 10-28-2014 9:35am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I know this, but there was balance & I enjoyed his hot beef. 10-28-2014 9:37am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Why do you stay in your marriage if you are so unhappy? 10-28-2014 9:38am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
        • You can have that same feeling with a friend that you don't suck off. 10-28-2014 9:32am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op: this! yes. I agree. work so much have lost all girlfriends.Have to work on rebuilding this. Just need time. 10-28-2014 9:34am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • If you had enough time and energy to meet with an affair, you have enough time to hang out with a friend. And you don't have to lie about it! And you can masturbate and get off...(more) 10-28-2014 9:37am
              without putting your marriage and life in jeopardy. For Christmas/Hannukah, get yourself a vibrator.
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • you have all the answers. I met affair at work. He was in my face all the time. So not much effort in finding him. 10-28-2014 9:39am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Oh come on. You say you needed someone to pay attention to you and listen to you and all it cost you was some dick sucking and a little sodomy. Great....(more) 10-28-2014 9:43am
                  But be honest with yourself a little bit. You wanted to fuck some other guy. You wanted to fuck someone who was not your husband. And it's no source of pride that you put in very little effort to find a guy to fuck. Haven't you ever heard the term, "Don't shit where you sleep?"
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • don't shit where I sleep has no merit here. really never did. we are no longer in contact nor working together. Yes, I enjoyed the company of another man that made me feelblike a...(more) 10-28-2014 10:12am
                    woman. I enjoyed pleasing him. I don't know what you are trying to get out of me here. My post was simply stating how I miss that feeling. Not the person.
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
        • wait, dh/family makes you feel like a mule, but a casual affair didn't? Newsflash-you were a mule for affair. He was never interested in your "talks" 10-28-2014 9:34am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Yes. I understand that. Fake or not it was something. 10-28-2014 9:36am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
          • np: this. the "talks" were to get in your pants. sorry. but the good news is that he some sad woman's problem and not yours. how long has it been? you'll get over it i...(more) 10-28-2014 11:15am
            promise.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • op:Thing is I dont care what his intentions were. I enjoyed the "talks" & the sex. I am saying I miss IT. The facade. 10-28-2014 11:23am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^^^I have nothing now. 10-28-2014 11:24am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • um your husband and children?? 10-28-2014 11:35am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • op:yes! this. agree. 10-28-2014 11:44am
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • ^^^i know. 10-28-2014 11:46am
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
              • how long was the affair and when did it end? 10-28-2014 11:29am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • 2 yrs long, 2wks done. 10-28-2014 11:36am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • who ended it and why? 10-28-2014 11:47am
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • I ended it. It was time. 10-28-2014 11:59am
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • how did he take it? I bet he will show up again. 10-28-2014 12:17pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • ^^^and how did you know it was time? 10-28-2014 12:17pm
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • op:doubt it & thats okay. 10-28-2014 3:59pm
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • giggling about how much fun it is to betray the people you love most, or how stupid they are? 10-28-2014 9:29am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • np. You think we are focused on gleefully rubbing our hands together over your hurt? No, we are getting fucked, no other thoughts. Don't give yourself that much credit. Sure it's...(more) 10-28-2014 10:01am
        selfish but don't think you are on our minds. You're not.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • not according to OP, who says she did it bc she felt like a mule. so speak for yourself. 10-28-2014 10:38am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I didn't get that from op's post 10-28-2014 10:59am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • np: i didn't either 10-28-2014 11:17am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • nnp - me either. 10-28-2014 2:54pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Are you 4 year mom? 10-28-2014 11:17am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:no. dont have a moniker or ongoing story here. 10-28-2014 11:28am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  18. Cleveland So dh & I were having sex & he was getting off on me telling him how other men fuck & abuse me. Enjoyed me being taken advantage of by other men. Even raped. Felt awkward. I have...(more) 10-28-2014 8:44am (4 replies)
    no problem playing roles but this was a bit much.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I can see that. 10-28-2014 10:01am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • See what? The awkwardness? 10-28-2014 10:14am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Gross. Have you had an affair and does he know? 10-28-2014 11:18am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • yes. & no. 10-28-2014 11:24am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  19. Cleveland TAKE ME SOMEWHERE. LOVE ME. PAMPER ME. 10-28-2014 1:55am (4 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • lol NOPE! 10-28-2014 1:56am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • sad. 10-28-2014 8:44am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Please? Let me. I want to. 10-28-2014 10:31am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • np: you had your chance. You didn't man up. 10-29-2014 8:48pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  20. Cleveland I picked this guy for affair bc he was so different from me--more blue collar, a big lug--that I wouldn't fall for him. But damn if he's not turning out to be adorable and sweet. 10-27-2014 7:02pm (1 reply)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I am wondering what other "unintended consequences" you may not have thought through 10-27-2014 10:54pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  21. Cleveland How do you feel if his dw is beautiful? 10-27-2014 12:06pm (12 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • She must be a major pain in the ass. 10-27-2014 12:43pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Objectively I'm prettier then she is. But she has a better body. 10-27-2014 1:25pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • do you think about this when you are naked with him? 10-27-2014 1:29pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • No. Bc he so obviously loves my body and tells me all the time. 10-27-2014 1:35pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • hm. mine does as well. I can't get it out of my head though. 10-27-2014 1:37pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Well she's also a lot older then I am which makes me feel better as well. 10-27-2014 3:44pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
    • dont be insecure. 10-27-2014 2:10pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • tell me how NOT to be insecure. I hate feeling this way, I'd love to not be insecure. 10-27-2014 2:20pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • or:he is enjoying you. come'on! 10-27-2014 5:46pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • are you beautiful? 10-27-2014 2:21pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • he says I am. I know she is more beautiful 10-27-2014 2:39pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Same as poster above, I am prettier but she has a better body. I think about it occasionally and then put it out of my mind. He and I are what we are to each other and how I...(more) 10-27-2014 3:17pm
      look relative to his dw (and similarly, what he looks like relative to my dh) aren't all that relevant.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  22. Cleveland I'm getting really annoyed with him. I can tell he is just waiting around being passive aggressive and hoping she will eventually leave him so he doesn't have to be the one to...(more) 10-27-2014 11:30am (16 replies)
    leave. He's doing things on purpose to make her feel bad but juuuuust not obvious enough to be 'his fault'.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • zzzz 10-27-2014 11:31am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • They won't be breaking up. 10-27-2014 11:31am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I know! Unless he gets up the nerve to do it. She'd accept anything and not leave him. She's already caught him three times. 10-27-2014 11:33am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • he sounds like a real catch. 10-27-2014 11:32am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • And yet she hangs on - I figure she wants to stay married to him because she she can keep making him miserable for as long as they live. 10-27-2014 11:34am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • more likely...she is working hard to make her marriage work and is completely frustrated and depressed. And he's out being an immature jackhole and playing hide the salami in your...(more) 10-27-2014 11:36am
          asshole.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • No and no. She hates him. 10-27-2014 11:38am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • I'm sure you know everything about their relationship. 10-27-2014 11:58am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Not everything, but I know that. I know a lot. 10-27-2014 12:19pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
        • or because divorce sucks? 10-27-2014 11:36am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Divorce doesn't suck more than living your life in toxic misery while devoting your days to hurting someone and feeling unloved. 10-27-2014 11:39am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • that sounds a lot like life after divorce as well 10-27-2014 11:41am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Only if you are doing it wrong. I'm divorced and we're not like that at all. When you divorce someone you let go of all that stuff. 10-27-2014 11:43am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
              • You have a VERY messed up view of life after divorce. np 10-27-2014 11:44am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Yeah, no. 10-27-2014 12:24pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • toxic drama 10-27-2014 11:33am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  23. Cleveland This is from postsecret.com probably my new favorite site....(more) 10-27-2014 10:18am (1 reply)
    • late to the party, mom? 10-27-2014 10:19am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  24. Cleveland Missing him. I know this expected. I miss his company, his attention,...(more) 10-27-2014 8:40am (4 replies)
    His touch. Then I remember what made me end it & I am content. Signed 4yr & over.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • sounds like you are progressing normally thru this process. Keep going. 10-27-2014 9:10am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • trying. not easy. still havent heard from him since I ended it. He either hates me or really this is not a big deal. 10-27-2014 1:22pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • ^^^a good trick is when I dont feel strong is to think beyond my actions. Like if I want to email him I look what'll happen beyond my email. I will land right in this spot....(more) 10-27-2014 1:29pm
          Unless something changes. After 4yrs doubt thats going happen.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • what made you end it and when? have either of you ended befoe? that is a really long time, of course you miss him. 10-27-2014 11:07am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  25. Cleveland I'm here to tell you that dreams can come true. I married my affair. He just stunk up the bathroom something awful. 10-26-2014 10:30pm (11 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • And you dreamed about this odor? 10-26-2014 10:31pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Do you live in Rhode Island? 10-26-2014 10:31pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • How bout his kids? Dreamland too? 10-26-2014 10:36pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Oh they are great. Older so not an issue. One of them is in my guest room right now. Let's get back to what's really important. My bathroom smells. 10-26-2014 10:38pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Where do you live? 10-26-2014 10:39pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
        • is it all that different from when he makes you rim him? 10-26-2014 10:40pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Ooh I bet she does that all the time 10-26-2014 10:40pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • No. In fact. I think it's strange he doesn't like any asshole action but my bathroom smells. 10-26-2014 10:42pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Maybe bc he married an assumed 10-26-2014 10:43pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Ashkk 10-26-2014 10:43pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Have another drink. 10-26-2014 10:43pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
next page »