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  1. Cleveland Anyone having a no sex aff? 4 min ago (1 reply)
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    • long distance here so it fits 2 min ago
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  2. Cleveland What happened to pitts board again? 16 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Cleveland What is a "Classic Affair"? 4 hr 39 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Hotels. 4 hr 38 min ago
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    • for a younger woman 4 hr 37 min ago
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    • Hotel rooms, stockings, martinis. 3 hr 51 min ago
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    • Fucking to Mozart 3 hr 51 min ago
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    • A pretentious woman's idea of how you convince yourself you are in a MadMen episode rather than just the tawdry un-photogenic sneaking around that it really is... 3 hr 26 min ago
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  4. Cleveland What do you look for most in an affair? Attraction? Sexual compatibility? Sanity? Power? Just wondering what makes for an ideal secondary relationship. 6 hr 22 min ago (14 replies)
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    • Penis size 6 hr 22 min ago
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      • Seriously? That wouldn't make my top ten. Interested to hear why (not a troll) 6 hr 21 min ago
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        • I'm just looking for sex - I already have a relationship 6 hr 19 min ago
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          • I'm just looking for sex, too. But I didn't think a huge penis equated to excellent sex. 6 hr 18 min ago
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    • His ability to hide the affair 6 hr 21 min ago
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    • Children the same age as mine 6 hr 21 min ago
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    • What it will do for my career 6 hr 20 min ago
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      • How will an affair help your career? 6 hr 17 min ago
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        • With a manager 6 hr 16 min ago
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          • And what if it ends? Doesn't seem like a sound advancement strategy. 6 hr 3 min ago
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    • someone I used to be involved with so a connection and affection 6 hr 20 min ago
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    • affection. 6 hr 9 min ago
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    • connection. We are so alone in this world sometimes one person isn't enough. 6 hr 7 min ago
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      • You sound depressive. 21 min ago
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  5. Cleveland My life is so fucked up. God has forsaken me. This I truly believe. 6 hr 51 min ago (22 replies)
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    • God doesn't care either way. Never has. 6 hr 51 min ago
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      • yes. i would think op's situation would make her come around to this way of thinking. he doesn't care one way or another about anyone or anything. [in fact, he doesn't exist...(more) 6 hr 46 min ago
        but even if he did, it's pretty clear he doesn't give a shit about anyone's particular situation]
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        • I am fearful to believe this...because what if he did? 6 hr 39 min ago
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    • There is no God and you can change your life 6 hr 51 min ago
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      • I want to cry. In fact I did, all the way home yesterday. Unemployed dh treats me like shit, affair is neglectful. My job is major stressful & I suck at it. I also try to avoid...(more) 6 hr 40 min ago
        This guy who's been stalking me. I twist and turn every which way home to avoid him. I've been successful at it. Yesterday he popped out of no where. There is no peace in my life. No refuge. I allow everyone to take from me. In hopes that I can have some one love me right.
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        • np: You sound a lot like me! Here's the thing: therapy. I know it's a YBM cliche at this point, but really, it is very helpful. You DO deserve a refuge, you DO deserve someone who...(more) 6 hr 35 min ago
          loves you right. And I'm sure you do not "suck" at your job, you are just at a really low point right now and you are not seeing clearly. Please be good to yourself.
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          • Just reading this brought tears to my eyes. I would love therapy..but $$ is a huge issue. I can't see clearly. I am making all kinds of poor decisions. 6 hr 23 min ago
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            • I am pretty much broke but found someone who will work with me. My problem is that I have never been treated well by ANYONE close to me. 2 narcissistic parents, nasty siblings,...(more) 6 hr 19 min ago
              one abusive dh, one neglectful dh (yes this is marriage #2). Had my first affair and it really fucked me up, he was just as toxic as everyone else. I know I accept shitty behavior from people, and I have resolved to be done with that. I know I deserve better, and I know you do, too. Be kind to yourself. Don't put up with bullshit. You are worth so much more than that. OK I'm done. :)
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              • op:you are fantastic. 6 hr 11 min ago
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                • ^^^again, thank you. 6 hr 10 min ago
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        • Those the affair. That's the first step. You will feel so much better a month from now 6 hr 1 min ago
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    • You're in good company. 6 hr 50 min ago
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      • I really don't have anywhere else to go. 6 hr 37 min ago
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    • Eh, your life isn't any more fucked up than anyone else's, at least on this board. 6 hr 44 min ago
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      • I am sure you are right. I am just having a hard time now, i guess. can't seem to fix anything. 6 hr 38 min ago
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        • or (I just wrote to you above, too): today, please make it a point to do something good for yourself. One little thing. You will dig yourself out of this hole, you really will. 6 hr 34 min ago
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          • I will try. Did therapy help you? Meds? 6 hr 22 min ago
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            • or: Yes. No meds. 6 hr 18 min ago
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              • glad you are in a good place. 6 hr 12 min ago
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            • ^^^I wish dh could be this person for me. He is so demanding & just keeps pulling from me. 6 hr 13 min ago
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              • or: I hear you. Sort out one thing at a time. First, make yourself a priority. I get the feeling you are there for everyone else but they are not there for you. Take one small...(more) 6 hr 6 min ago
                step today to change that. Post back here and let me know how you're doing OK? GL.
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                • op:will do & Thank You!! 5 hr 57 min ago
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  6. Cleveland If you're both married, where do you get together? 16 hr 39 min ago (5 replies)
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    • if you're creative enough to have an affair, I'm sure you can figure this one out. 16 hr 38 min ago
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    • We do it in carparks a lot of the time. Hotels are bad because that leaves paper trails. When we can we do it in his house or mine. 15 hr 19 min ago
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    • Hotels, of course. In cash. 7 hr 46 min ago
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    • Mine isn't local. So he always has a hotel room. Works well. 7 hr 39 min ago
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  7. Cleveland Extremely jealous and possessive affair asked me if his friend could watch us fuck sometime. His friend would wind up fucking me, right? I can't even imagine this but I'm kinda...(more) 19 hr 9 min ago (22 replies)
    turned on at the thought. So wrong though
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    • ew 19 hr 9 min ago
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    • Get a life 19 hr 9 min ago
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    • What every floats you boat. But i'm gonna guess you're a perve lurking around here. 19 hr 8 min ago
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      • I'm a perv but a woman who loves to fuck 19 hr 6 min ago
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    • eek!!! 19 hr 8 min ago
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    • I'm going to go out on a limb and say his friend isn't just going to watch. What's strabge is that he's so jealous but is going to share you with his bud 19 hr 6 min ago
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      • Op- I know. I think he wants to "own" me but share me when he is watching. It's disturbing I know but I'm seriously so horny thinking about it. After he used the word threesome...(more) 19 hr 2 min ago
        So yeah, he would want me to fuck him. I've known him for a long time and would trust him to make the right decision about who. Just so nervous
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        • It sounds hot. Why not, you're bad anyway ;-) 19 hr 1 min ago
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        • np, I am trying to be nice here. You are a fuck doll to him. You have three orifices. He doesn't give a shit about you, he just found someone willing to play out his disgusting...(more) 19 hr 1 min ago
          porn fantasies on.
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          • OR you are completely right but it's a turn on. She seems to be in it for the sex not the romance 19 hr ago
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            • Op- thank you and yes, I love watching porn, love fucking in every position and am kind of turned on by 2 guys at once. God the more I think about it the more hot I get 18 hr 57 min ago
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              • You go girl. 18 hr 56 min ago
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              • what if he is some fat blob.....or a dog. 6 hr 48 min ago
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                • ^^^ like a real dog. 6 hr 47 min ago
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          • I've been with him a long time. We both are living out fantasies, obviously that's what we do. He does what I want and I do what he wants. You think I think I'm special to him?...(more) 18 hr 58 min ago
            I may be a slut and maybe a nympho but I'm not naive and this isn't my first affair, but is definitely the most adventurous one
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          • this. This is how mine feels about me as well. I am in mist of letting him go. 6 hr 48 min ago
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    • A possessive affair is ALL WRONG. 19 hr 5 min ago
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      • Ita. That's the only part of this I object to. I'm fine with the friend watching and participating 17 hr 20 min ago
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      • I wish mine had some possessive quality. 6 hr 47 min ago
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    • OK I don't belong on this board anymore. WTF with this, who are you people. 16 hr 2 min ago
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    • They will end up fucking eachother. You can eat ass. 6 hr 50 min ago
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  8. Cleveland I've made a decision to limit myself to guys at least 10 years younger than me. 20 somethings don't ask you to leave your husband. 20 somethings are less complicated and...(more) 19 hr 18 min ago (4 replies)
    want exactly what I want, no more and no less.
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    • You must be hot. I can't imagine a 20 something being into me 19 hr 16 min ago
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    • i am so gonna try this cuz the 50yo aren't cutting it. 19 hr 3 min ago
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      • np: hahahaha! Yes, there are definitely issues with 50yos. 16 hr 13 min ago
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        • np:curious, what types of issues? 6 hr 36 min ago
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  9. Cleveland I've found a fullproof way to not get caught. When I get off the phone with my affair and dh asks who it was, I say the truth. I answer "my bit on the side" or "my boytoy" etc...(more) 19 hr 34 min ago (5 replies)
    When I go out I tell him I'm going on a date. He thinks I'm kidding and laughs. It has become our running joke. I always tell the truth but it sounds so ridiculous he doesn't take it seriously. And would a woman in an affair ever even consider a running joke like this? So if anything it's made him more trusting of me.
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    • Your husband sounds like an idiot. 19 hr 26 min ago
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    • No 19 hr 21 min ago
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    • Fullproof, huh 19 hr 2 min ago
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    • It's a great plan right up until the day you get caught. Then dh feels like even more of a fool and is less inclined to forgive you. Be careful. 16 hr 1 min ago
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    • Thats because he is doing the same, silly. It is a funny post. 6 hr 35 min ago
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  10. Cleveland Ended it two weeks ago, have cried every day since. Tell me the truth. Do you ever really get over it? 19 hr 41 min ago (4 replies)
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    • never. 19 hr 38 min ago
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    • No. 19 hr 26 min ago
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    • I think you will. Hang in there. 18 hr 56 min ago
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    • I swear to fucking God you WILL get over it. I cried for weeks and weeks. Now I'm at the 3 month mark and I am remarkably OK! Advice: 1) Focus as much as you can on the negative...(more) 15 hr 58 min ago
      aspects of this experience. There are plenty. When your mind drifts to "omg I miss him/love him/blah blah blah" just direct it immediately back to all the shit you hate about him. 2) After a few weeks of that, put your attention on all the positive things you can now do with all of this free time you suddenly have. See your friends again. Do your creative stuff again, or whatever it is you gave up in order to make time for him in your crazy schedule. I PROMISE you that you will really, truly get over this.
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  11. Cleveland Posted below about him emailing me a blow off email. I didn't reply and now he's emailing me asking where I am and why I didnt reply, no joke 20 hr 7 min ago (2 replies)
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    • ok. 20 hr 3 min ago
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    • Enough with the neediness. Goodness! 19 hr 25 min ago
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  12. Cleveland 95% over it. Maybe this is as good as it gets. I cannot get over the fact that I let this horrid, low-rung psychopath into my life. I naively believed his "I love you" bullshit. I...(more) 20 hr 56 min ago (4 replies)
    know I was only a hole to him, I know he thought I was a whore (I am not, despite the dimwitted trolls here who assume that all women who stray are whores). I might never understand why I lowered my standards so much. I am only so, so thankful to be out of that crazy situation. If any fellow "slummers" have any insight for me, please share? Thank you.
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    • You are a human being and you were vulnerable and someone got to you. You made a mistake but the mistake does not define you. 20 hr 54 min ago
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    • I stayed with mine for fAr too long and I can't even believe how miserable I was and what I put myself through for someone who is a complete loser 20 hr 54 min ago
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    • Maybe I can help. Having been with the wrong man. And having finally found the right affair I totally know how you feel. 20 hr 41 min ago
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      • op: does it matter that I figure out why I ended up in this ridiculous situation? That's the part that bothers me. I feel like if I don't figure that part out, I will eventually...(more) 16 hr 5 min ago
        get into a mess like that again and I really don't want that.
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  13. Cleveland How would you feel if after a few days you email saying how you hope things are well and you miss him and he replies...(more) 21 hr 37 min ago (24 replies)
    "Hey baby! Hope you had a great day. It's nice to be thought of by you." Am I right to be a bit annoyed? Not even gonna bother replying.
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    • You are nothing but a sperm receptacle 21 hr 36 min ago
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      • Yeah I know, I've had plenty. This guy is generally more attentive and I've known him for years 21 hr 36 min ago
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        • tough life being a whore 21 hr 35 min ago
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        • You pride yourself on "just fucking". So just fuck and accept what comes with it. Or stop pretending that you really don't care 21 hr 5 min ago
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    • You mean nothing to him. You're just his sideline ho. 21 hr 35 min ago
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      • lol see above, btdt. I have plenty of guys I can fuck and have fucked. He's not like the rest but yes, I'm just a fuck but he is normally better than other guys 21 hr 33 min ago
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        • You sound needy - why not focus on making your own happiness for a while 21 hr 31 min ago
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        • Why do you have such a low opinion of yourself? 21 hr 30 min ago
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          • np: wouldn't you say the majority of women here are pretty callous about things? 21 hr 30 min ago
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            • nnp: I was never callous. But, then, I only ever had one affair and I honestly believed I was in love. I don't understand people who can just fuck. 20 hr 54 min ago
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        • he has someone else. 4 hr 51 min ago
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    • Wtf more do u want 21 hr 35 min ago
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    • You slut. Focus on finding your own man. 21 hr 34 min ago
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    • There is no reply to that - he's blowing you off 21 hr 34 min ago
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      • Oh I know, that's why I'm done. He will probably text later wanting to talk when I don't reply. It gets old. 21 hr 31 min ago
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    • Tammy? 21 hr 34 min ago
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    • I don't want to flame you, but you don't understand your position in his life. I'm sorry. It sucks. You deserve and need more than being a hole to him. He keeps up the minimum...(more) 21 hr 33 min ago
      with you just to get what he wants from you.
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      • He goes through phases where he needs to hear from me constantly, he is generally way more needy than me. 21 hr 32 min ago
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        • it sounds unbalanced 21 hr 31 min ago
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        • Its a game of manipulation 21 hr 31 min ago
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          • THIS THIS THIS. Please, op, know that you are worth so much more than this. 21 hr ago
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        • mine is the saaaaame. so fucking over it. 4 hr 47 min ago
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    • yes, this would bother me. don't reply. 4 hr 52 min ago
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  14. Cleveland Now i really want an update from rdm. :) are you here? how are things? 4-22-2014 1:52pm (0 replies)
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  15. Cleveland I am the DH who is experimenting with AM. I think there are a few things that women may not know about the AM experience for men. 4-22-2014 12:06pm (25 replies)
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    • like? 4-22-2014 12:08pm
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      • op: like the fact that it can be really confusing to understand who is for real, there are "ashley's angels" all over the site. Which are essentially market research,...(more) 4-22-2014 12:12pm
        "entertainment" and revenue drivers for them. You have to opt-out of being contacted by these angels. they send you chat messages, key requests, collect messages etc. It probably makes some of the guys especially aggressive and indiscriminate about messages.
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    • what is that? 4-22-2014 12:08pm
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      • They hack your phone for your nudes. 4-22-2014 12:10pm
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        • who hacks the phones? 4-22-2014 12:12pm
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    • What's AM? 4-22-2014 12:11pm
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      • Anal manipulation 4-22-2014 12:11pm
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        • Are you getting pegged? 4-22-2014 12:13pm
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        • With other guys or strap-on? 4-22-2014 12:14pm
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    • such as... 4-22-2014 12:11pm
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    • Are you browsing AM using just one hand? 4-22-2014 12:14pm
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      • op: I wish there was that much eye candy.... some profiles are horribly written and the many of the "stats" are middling at best. 4-22-2014 12:16pm
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        • perhaps you should lower your expectations. 4-22-2014 12:21pm
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          • Op: has that ever really worked for people? 4-22-2014 12:21pm
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            • npdh: I stopped after two or three weeks. The Angels v. Real people thing was part of it. The skew toward guys is another problem. 4-22-2014 12:23pm
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        • good to know i might do well on there if it comes to that. 4-22-2014 12:24pm
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    • How annoying 4-22-2014 2:39pm
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    • The men I've talked to says its awful. Most women are looking for a sugar daddy or a man to join a threesome. 22 hr 33 min ago
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      • OP: I have had met several woman and had a no holds/holes barred session with one who wants to meet again, hit and miss for sure. 22 hr 9 min ago
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        • Depends what you're looking for. I think it's hard to find a classic affair on there. It's mostly just for kicks. 21 hr 49 min ago
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    • OP: I will say for certain that women (and men) need to safeguard their privacy better, I actually can't believe how easy it is to find out exactly who people are so easily... 22 hr 8 min ago
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      • Please elaborate 17 hr 18 min ago
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        • OP: I will just give the following tips below...(more) 3 hr 25 min ago
          - never use an email address that you have used to register on ANY other site
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          • sorry more...(more) 3 hr 21 min ago
            - never use a photo that you have used or may appear anywhere else on the web. - unless you are in a BIG city don't give your actual hometown or work location, along with your first name you would be surprised how specific you can search with this information. - search for your own email address in google to be sure, and your pics through tineye/google images to be certain they aren't searchable before sharing. - probably safest not to put any photos on AM (but nearly impossible for most). - when you remove your profile should you decide to do so, pay the extra fee to ensure they remove all traces.
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    • Totally different experience for women. I have good "stats" and was deluged with responses 17 hr 58 min ago
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  16. Cleveland I told him I thought he was happily married. He said "I am, but there's enough of me to go around." Why are some men so gross. I mean I'm also a cheater but I would never talk...(more) 4-22-2014 1:39am (2 replies)
    about it so casually and carelessly...
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    • He wants you to understand it is for his convenience only. You are just a hole. 4-22-2014 4:50am
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    • yuck. 4-22-2014 8:44am
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  17. Cleveland I have always said "they don't ALWAYS come back". Ex-affair from three years ago just friended me on FB. What is is intention???? He looks happily married. 4-22-2014 12:14am (1 reply)
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    • They ALWAYS come back. 19 hr 36 min ago
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  18. Cleveland Why do woman get attached after sex while men are content & are ok until the next time? 4-21-2014 10:31pm (8 replies)
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    • oxytocin 4-21-2014 10:34pm
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      • I read that men release some sort of this as well. 4-21-2014 10:36pm
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        • makes sense if you think about it. i also read that gangbang fantasies are common for women because if a woman has more than one man's sperm inside her, the sperm actually compete...(more) 4-21-2014 10:38pm
          with each other to fertilize the egg. so in theory she's helping to ensure that the best man wins, so to speak
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          • that is interesting! 4-21-2014 10:39pm
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      • I also read that the best way to get over this is with fucking another dick. But this I read was here on yb. 4-21-2014 10:37pm
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    • it's hardwired into our dna to try and secure a father figure for our potential baby and to protect us while we're vulnerable (pregnant). But it's hardwired into their dna that...(more) 4-21-2014 10:38pm
      they need to be alert and undistracted for when they are next hunting large wild animals.
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      • That is very cool. when does the male machoness come into play? 4-21-2014 10:40pm
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    • Good question. Also: why are women often shamed for this very natural tendency and called "clingy" or "needy," when all they want is some affection? I hate men who belittle women...(more) 4-21-2014 11:35pm
      like this.
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  19. Cleveland After meeting up to fuck If all you got was a 'Love You' text would it bother you, Even after you text 2 afterwards? You know how it goes...damn. 4-21-2014 10:29pm (12 replies)
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    • My ex-affair NEVER took care of my feelings after an encounter (in fact, was usually more of an asshole for a couple of days). I hated that. So glad to be rid of him. 4-21-2014 11:42pm
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      • Do you have a new one? 4-22-2014 6:48am
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        • or: hell no. Not going through that shit again, ever. 15 hr 56 min ago
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    • Yes, this would bother me. 4-22-2014 3:21am
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      • How to handle? 4-22-2014 6:47am
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        • Mention it but you have to be prepared to let him go if he can't give you more. 4-22-2014 9:59am
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    • You're fucking. That's all. Why do you expect more? 4-22-2014 8:02am
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      • because it use to be different. I want more, I guess. Time for me to move on. 4-22-2014 8:44am
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    • I need to post process.. Recall the hot things that happened. I brief text would not do it for me 4-22-2014 10:07am
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      • Yeah, feel so shitty about it. Don't know how to proceed. 4-22-2014 10:45am
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        • tell him, be open about it. If that doesn't work for him tell him he could find some other pussy somewhere else.. Sorry to be so crass, but it's true. 23 hr 3 min ago
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  20. Cleveland I started an affair just so I wouldn't waste a $1000 a night suite at the Ritz Carlton in NYC after dh had a work emergency. I literally seduced a guy just so I'd have something...(more) 4-21-2014 7:38pm (9 replies)
    to do in there. Also, it was my 20th anniversary. I'm going to burn in hell.
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    • yes. yes you are. But I'd sleep with someone other than my dh if it meant a night in a luxury hotel. I guess I'll join you in hell 4-21-2014 7:41pm
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    • Fake 4-21-2014 7:41pm
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      • np: the people who spam this are worse imo than any of the people who share their stories 4-21-2014 8:08pm
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    • Awesome. 4-21-2014 10:28pm
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    • what was it like? 4-21-2014 10:32pm
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      • op: just like any other room but with a awesome view and amazing sheets. And so much guilt. But nice chocolate. 4-21-2014 10:36pm
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        • guilt because of the anniversary thing? eh, whats done is done. 4-21-2014 10:38pm
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        • LOLOL 4-21-2014 10:58pm
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    • You are my hero. 3 hr 49 min ago
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  21. Cleveland Sound like you?...(more) 4-21-2014 6:05pm (0 replies)
  22. Cleveland Damn. a search turned into another search and what you don't want is to be in rainy days mom's position. pathetic! 4-21-2014 4:00pm (4 replies)
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    • She is still here??? 4-21-2014 5:10pm
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    • No, what you don't want to be is you searching and searching and snarking on an otherwise very private person. 4-21-2014 5:39pm
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      • np: so not private. 4-21-2014 7:12pm
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    • what is this about? 4-21-2014 10:33pm
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  23. Cleveland My aff is moving away. i think it's a good thing. i definitely want more from him than he is able/willing to give. at least now when i don't see him, i can't cry over how he is...(more) 4-21-2014 2:06pm (6 replies)
    right here but doesn't care to see me. it will be easier for me to heal once he is gone
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    • Not really. Mine lives far away and he still pulls the same shit. 4-21-2014 2:06pm
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      • i just think that once he's gone, i won't be looking in his office window, seeing he's here and wondering why he hasnot called me. it won't hurt so much and i won't obsess so...(more) 4-21-2014 2:09pm
        much
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        • Best of luck to you. I have the same issue and we live in different states. 4-21-2014 2:49pm
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          • thanks. i want out. i want to concentrate on my dh and not be dishonest and distracted. gl to you too. 4-21-2014 2:51pm
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    • I think you are right. Your situation sounds like torture. Why are you doing this to yourself? I think you deserve so much better. 4-22-2014 12:07am
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      • in my 50 years of life, i have never done anything so self destructive. in my almost 30 years of marriage, i have never so much as looked a another man. this one honestly came at...(more) 4-22-2014 8:36am
        me like a heat seeking missile. once he had me though, he made it clear that i was last ont he list. so stupid of me to wish, even though i knew it couldn't be, that he'd love me more than his family.
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  24. Cleveland This 'break up' is so one sided. I'm not contacting him but he contacts me. It is the shit because I can't get over him with him contacting me all the time but I don't have ...(more) 4-21-2014 12:14pm (8 replies)
    authority to have any input. I end up getting so mad at him and I know it needs to be 'all or nothing'. He wants me but only when HE wants me and I want him for real. He says he wants me for real too but it isn't the right time now. I don't want to break it off at all but I can't do this at his discretion only shit. The thing is, he is really happy with me right now and when he does call he treats me like a queen. If I left things like this, the occasional call and him thinking well of me, perhaps that would work more in my favor once it 'is time'. If I block him and shut it all down to nothing I'm pretty sure he'll assume I'm with someone else and get angry and hate me and then it would be done for good. If I block him 100% right now, I need to be OK with never talking to him and never ending up with him - and that is a place I don't think I can reach.
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    • You guys have to learn to manage expectations. 4-21-2014 12:15pm
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      • if you mean I need to be happy with what he gives and not expect more, I can't. It is simply not enough for me. I'm tired of being there every single time he asks for me but not...(more) 4-21-2014 12:19pm
        even being allowed to ask for him no matter what my needs. He needs to go away, or be there for me.
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    • Go for the blockage 4-21-2014 12:17pm
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      • I need to but I wish he wasn't forcing me to block him. 4-21-2014 12:21pm
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    • YOu're not going to make "the time" come because you are just sitting there waiting. Tell him to come find you when he's rady, and then blcok. 4-21-2014 12:21pm
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    • Be good to yourself & just stop. 4-21-2014 1:56pm
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    • I know what you mean. But think about it: why are you accepting scraps?? The fear of the breakup is FAR worse than the actual breakup. I remember feeling like you do, that even...(more) 4-22-2014 12:03am
      though I was in love with him and miserable about it, at least I saw him sometimes. That's just plain old low self-esteem. I survived the breakup, and am so relieved that all that crazy shit is over. No more checking my cell phone every 5 minutes. No more wondering why he isn't responding to texts faster. No more wondering what he and dw are doing. No more envy of his dw, no more being the very LAST thing on his priority list. It's done. I deserve more, and so do you!
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      • so what are you up to now & days? 4-22-2014 6:49am
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  25. Cleveland Why are thoughts about affair so obsessive? can't think of anything b...(more) 4-21-2014 10:53am (11 replies)
    Anything else at times.....
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    • Because you like the feeling of being wanted 4-21-2014 10:56am
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      • np - that's it exactly. the new man looked at me in a way that my dh hasnot in a long while. 4-21-2014 10:58am
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    • It's new and exciting and releases endorphins. I've been in it more than 2 years now and I can tell you that for me the obsession is over. And that's a good thing. 4-21-2014 11:53am
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      • so what is it like now after 2 years? 4-21-2014 11:57am
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        • After some major drama it's very good. I am divorced so that helps. He's not. We are pretty committed and I know that sounds insane. 4-21-2014 12:08pm
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          • not really...I dont know what will happen to my marriage. could end up the same. I want the endless thoughts of aff to stop though. too distracting from day to day life 4-21-2014 12:14pm
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            • yep, it is very distracting 4-21-2014 12:53pm
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          • Is he the guy who won't leave his wife? 4-21-2014 2:07pm
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    • I wish mine thought of me like that. 4-21-2014 2:04pm
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      • the men in affairs are always more cavalier. 4-21-2014 2:06pm
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