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  1. Cleveland I'm having an affair but not getting enough sex. Need someone else to fuck me. Hate AM. Suggestions? Maybe join a gym? 1 hr 55 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Where do you live? 1 hr 52 min ago
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    • Hate AM? Meet up with you at noon? 1 hr 50 min ago
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      • I meant Ashley Madison. Had you really not heard of the site or were you making a cute pun? 1 hr 47 min ago
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  2. Cleveland Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all? 18 hr 6 min ago (6 replies)
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    • Am I rich? 18 hr 6 min ago
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    • Well, I'm assuming you loved your husband when you married him. 18 hr 5 min ago
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      • Shes in Cleveland 18 hr 3 min ago
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      • np - why? I didn't. 10 hr 46 min ago
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    • depends on why you lost. If you lost because he died and you will always know he loved you back, it is better to have loved and lost. If you lost because he left you, that is...(more) 10 hr 45 min ago
      cruel and hurtful and it is better to have never loved at all.
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  3. Cleveland Anyone gmail-proficient on? Is it possible that my email was read by recipient (another gmail acct user) even...(more) 9-20-2014 11:50am (9 replies)
    even if I immediately receive a reply from mailer-daemon@googlemail.com saying undeliverable bc acct doesn't exist? Ie, can he still have access to what is sent to acct even if disabled/closed?
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    • No. He never saw it. 9-20-2014 11:51am
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    • I'm thinking no unless it was a fake message 9-20-2014 11:52am
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    • No. 21 hr 58 min ago
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    • Np: isn't it possible for the recipient to have emails sent to this now closed account forwarded automatically to another email acct so he can still see what is being sent? 20 hr 14 min ago
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    • No, June mom. He didn't get it. And even if he did...it doesn't matter anymore. I'm sorry :( 18 hr 41 min ago
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      • what is her story? i am never here but sometimes check and see "june mom" a lot. 11 hr 30 min ago
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    • I doubt it, but he can reinstate his deleted account if he chooses. 17 hr 18 min ago
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      • It won't have things sent to it while it was closed just building up. If he re-opened it, it would not have her email. 10 hr 43 min ago
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        • Didn't realize that. What's odd is, when I deleted my gmail, I sent an email to it but I didn't get a kick back. 2 hr 8 min ago
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  4. Cleveland How common do you think it is for a guy to come on strong, say he wants to do all sorts of hot shit to you, then when you agree to set up a private time to meet, backs off? Or do...(more) 9-20-2014 7:40am (11 replies)
    The majority of men follow through?
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    • What kind of hot shit? 9-20-2014 7:43am
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      • Tie you up, spank you, pull your hair, f you hard etc 9-20-2014 7:48am
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        • Sounds like the fantasy of a married guy who is all talk 9-20-2014 7:49am
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          • He was all talk. I guess I am asking how common this bait and switch is because I don't want to make the mistake of falling for this again with someone else 9-20-2014 7:51am
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            • No bait an switch here. Ill switch hands or cheeks of you'd like. No baiting followed by switching from me. 9-20-2014 8:11am
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              • Np here. Yum, I would love for someone to dominate me in bed. With my DH I always have to top from the bottom 21 hr 23 min ago
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    • Mine used to talk a lot of talk but then wasn't nearly as aggressive in bed as his talk was. It wasn't malicious, he was just writing a check his dick couldn't cash. I still loved...(more) 9-20-2014 9:14am
      Him though.
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      • But he did sleep with you. And I assume he didn't stall about it 9-20-2014 11:33am
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        • Yes all the time 21 hr 58 min ago
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          • Sorry. Yes slept with you all the time or yes stalled you all the time? 17 hr 52 min ago
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            • Haha. Sorry too. He never stalled, ever. 17 hr 24 min ago
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  5. Cleveland Hello 9-20-2014 12:43am (25 replies)
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    • Hello 9-20-2014 12:50am
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      • What brings you here? 9-20-2014 12:51am
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        • cat get your tongue? 9-20-2014 1:01am
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          • I don't have a cat. 9-20-2014 1:07am
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            • a dog? guinea pig? 9-20-2014 1:12am
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              • dcs 9-20-2014 1:12am
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                • That expression doesn't work as all: "DCs got your tongue?" 9-20-2014 1:14am
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                  • true. awkward. 9-20-2014 1:15am
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                    • Now that they have not stolen your oral appendage, whats going on? What is your situation? 9-20-2014 1:16am
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                      • I'm a dw. Still recovering from very fucked up affair situation. Hanging out on YBM because this is what I do on Friday nights now that I am separated from dh. You? 9-20-2014 1:23am
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                        • Im a dh who is in an unhappy situation and had a friend who I miss. Im just a miserable SOB. 9-20-2014 1:26am
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                          • what is your situation. and "friend" is code for "affair?" 9-20-2014 1:26am
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                            • The situation is that it appears very clearly there is no situation anymore and I should just accept it. And yes. 9-20-2014 1:28am
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                              • How did you find Cleveland if you are a dh?? 9-20-2014 1:29am
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                                • Its not a giant secret. its not like Fight Club! 9-20-2014 1:31am
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                                  • That's where you're wrong. First rule of YBM... 9-20-2014 1:32am
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                                    • I guess you, we, all of us have been outed. 9-20-2014 1:32am
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                                      • I haven't been outed. There would be a lot more drama in my life if I were outed. 9-20-2014 1:33am
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                                        • Not personally, I mean Cleveland and YBM. No outing otherwise. 9-20-2014 1:34am
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                                          • How DID you find this board, though? How does a dh know about YBM at all, let alone about the Cleveland board?? 9-20-2014 1:35am
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                                            • You are giving this place more credit than it deserves. Its not that difficult once you learn about YBM. I have known about YBM for some time. 9-20-2014 1:36am
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                                              • How? 9-20-2014 1:37am
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                                                • DW was on YBM. 9-20-2014 1:38am
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                                                  • and you decided to come poking around a mom's discussion board because... 9-20-2014 1:38am
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                                                    • I don't know. It was originally interesting. Now, I really don't know why. I think I should really just be sleeping. 9-20-2014 1:40am
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  6. Cleveland Single guy here - seeing a married woman. She is 27, married for 3 years, we've been together a little less than a year. I broke off an engagement for her because she said she...(more) 9-19-2014 2:29pm (30 replies)
    was leaving but she still hasn't told him. She tells me how much she loves me all the time and how she knows she should be with me but then she keeps saying she wants to do the right thing and breaks it off. Then she comes crying back to me again. I told her to tell me she would never be with me and just let me go and she says she can't because I'm her whole world. From a DW perspective, tell me what is going on? She doesn't have any kids.
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    • Does her husband earn a lot more than you do? 9-19-2014 2:30pm
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      • no 9-19-2014 2:31pm
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        • do you give her lots of attention and/or gifts? 9-19-2014 2:34pm
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    • she wants it all 9-19-2014 2:30pm
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    • fake 9-19-2014 2:30pm
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    • you were stupid 9-19-2014 2:30pm
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    • she isn't going to leave him. Dump her and find someone else. 9-19-2014 2:31pm
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    • she is not actually that in to you 9-19-2014 2:31pm
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      • then why won't she let me go? I've told her to not talk to me ever again before and she begs me to come back. 9-19-2014 2:31pm
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        • she has the maturity of a toddler 9-19-2014 2:32pm
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    • Give her an ultimatum and when she finally leaves her dh, you should dump her ass. 9-19-2014 2:32pm
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    • you' 9-19-2014 2:34pm
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      • ^re an ego boost available at a whim 9-19-2014 2:34pm
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    • DH: you don't need a dw, you need a male friend to tell you that you are being played and were stupid to ever get involved with a married women in the first place... chalk it up...(more) 9-19-2014 2:35pm
      to experience and learn from this mistake. Move on and find a single woman who you can have a future with. You are 27, and apparently you don't know shit about life yet, you are still a journeyman. Move on my man. Assuming this is actually a real post.
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      • this 9-19-2014 2:35pm
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      • I'm 35. She is 27 9-19-2014 2:35pm
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        • you're an idiot 9-19-2014 2:37pm
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      • ^^sorry I realize you said she is 27, not you. either way, my advice stands, how did you end up looking for help here anyway? 9-19-2014 2:36pm
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        • I have a friend who posts here. She was telling me about Cleveland. 9-19-2014 2:37pm
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          • Look assuming this is real (I have my doubts), you sound immature and calling off an engagement for the promise of a married woman divorcing makes you sound fickle, uncommitted...(more) 9-19-2014 2:40pm
            and manipulated. I hope you are in therapy or have been honest with some buddies who can slap sense into you.
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            • It isn't fake. I hear you there but I needed to break that off. I had been engaged for 8 years and it wasn't ever really going to work. 9-19-2014 2:41pm
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              • Talk about uncommitted, no guy in their right mind stays engaged for 8yrs and no woman does either. The only friend I have who pulled the multi-yr engagement on a woman is...(more) 9-19-2014 2:43pm
                loaded to the gill$. He is avoiding a pre-nup and cheating on her anyway...
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    • you make the call. move on. 9-19-2014 2:35pm
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    • you're her backup plan 9-19-2014 2:37pm
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    • Reply. You'v got to issue an ultimatum. Right now she has both of you and no incentive to make a choice. Tell her you need to move on and give her two weeks (and don't see her)...(more) 9-19-2014 2:55pm
      and then she can tell you what she is going to do. She will either have left DH or not. No more dragging this out. Now or never.
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    • So you were both cheating, you on your fiancé, she on her dh. And you left and she didn't. That happens all the time. Move on. She just likes the attention from you. 9-19-2014 7:04pm
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      • I don't know how much it matters, but I didn't cheat. I work with this woman and had talked with her often, she's long distance. Emotions started and when I saw...(more) 9-20-2014 1:36am
        where it was going I broke up with the woman I was with. I had already broken off the marriage date with her prior to meeting this woman and we weren't in a good place.
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    • I did that in my 20s. Loved a guy, got engaged to (then married) another. Do yourself a favor and be rid of the entire drama. I was an abused child who had not dealt with anything...(more) 9-19-2014 7:30pm
      yet, there was no way I could have a good relationship back then. And I did LOVE the guy I didn't marry. I just had too much guilt to break up with the other guy (who was very nasty to me, btw, and I knew I should dump him). Who knows wtf kind of emotional clusterfuck is going on here, but we know one thing: you are young and you will bounce back from this. I'm sorry this is happening, it sucks.
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  7. Cleveland Mid day crowd? 9-19-2014 1:52pm (18 replies)
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    • hi 9-19-2014 1:52pm
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    • too busy having an office quickie 9-19-2014 1:52pm
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    • Indeed 9-19-2014 1:53pm
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    • op: all having affairs? 9-19-2014 1:53pm
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      • i am 9-19-2014 1:53pm
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        • np with whom? 9-19-2014 1:54pm
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          • Bob, from Statefarm 9-19-2014 1:54pm
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          • a man. long dist 9-19-2014 1:54pm
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            • How does that work? How often you see one another? 9-19-2014 1:55pm
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              • few times a year. text a lot. it works but wish i saw him more 9-19-2014 1:56pm
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      • Not I 9-19-2014 1:54pm
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        • Post affair? 9-19-2014 1:57pm
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          • No. Just interested. 9-19-2014 1:59pm
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            • "interested" as in nosy? or "interested" as in "I want to have an affair"? 9-19-2014 2:02pm
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              • Both. I have not strayed from DW, but. 9-19-2014 2:06pm
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                • Dude, you're on the affairs board of a mom website. Your life is something else. 9-19-2014 2:09pm
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                  • Ive noticed plenty of men. I rarely get involved. Sometimes I check it out during a quiet moment in the day. Im OK with it. Dude. 9-19-2014 2:12pm
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  8. Cleveland June mom, how are you? 9-19-2014 1:50pm (2 replies)
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    • Oh she's nuttier than a persian pistachio cake 9-19-2014 2:31pm
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    • i think she's back with affair if she's not posting 9-19-2014 2:56pm
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  9. Cleveland I don't know how someone who loved you, or you believed loved you (I guess there is the answer), could be then be so callous, unconcerned and knowingly hurtful. 9-19-2014 1:03am (44 replies)
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    • Because he is a weak, spineless shit who really doesn't know how to love anyone. 9-19-2014 1:07am
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      • IS this what happened with you? 9-19-2014 1:07am
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        • No, but I know the type. 9-19-2014 1:08am
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          • Mine isn't that. Better said, my former isn't that. I am just disappointed and hurt horribly. 9-19-2014 1:09am
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            • So what happened? 9-19-2014 1:10am
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              • contact dwindled. No responses. Done... 9-19-2014 1:10am
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                • Was he caught? Was there any reason? No warning? 9-19-2014 1:11am
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                  • Regardless, you're better off it's over. It will hurt for a month or so but you'll get over it. 9-19-2014 1:12am
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                    • It will take much longer. Much. Whether or not it is for the better. 9-19-2014 1:13am
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                      • You have to prevent him from reaching out. They always come sniffing back around....(more) 9-19-2014 1:14am
                        Block his phone, block his email, don't let him have a way to get to you. That's the only way it won't drag on and on. btdt
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                        • You are right. But its not so easy as I am sure you know. 9-19-2014 1:15am
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                          • He has showed you who he is. Believe him. 9-19-2014 1:16am
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                            • I can't do it yet. I feel it coming. Ripping off the bandaid. 9-19-2014 1:17am
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                      • ^ I feel like Im waiting for someone to come home who never will return. Yet, I stair at the door and look out the window. 9-19-2014 1:15am
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                        • Allow yourself one week of moping around. Then be done with it. Block him. He is toxic. 9-19-2014 1:16am
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                          • There is nothing to block. I reached out. I am just hurt and surprised that this is how it ends. 9-19-2014 1:16am
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                            • Have you blocked his email and number already? If you don't, he will eventually come back around. Don't let him. 9-19-2014 1:18am
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                              • I want to just take ambien and conk out. So depressing, but i need to grab myself by my boot straps and "grow a pair." 9-19-2014 1:20am
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                                • one week of that is allowed. then be done. do you love your dh? 9-19-2014 1:21am
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                                  • Of course I love my spouse. 9-19-2014 1:22am
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                                    • Then focus on him. You are so lucky he doesn't know and you have a chance to repair your marriage without hurting him. 9-19-2014 1:23am
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                                      • I know you are right. I know I am wrong. I know I need to move on. I know this shit aint easy. 9-19-2014 1:25am
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                                        • Go to therapy, stat. 9-19-2014 1:25am
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                              • np: agree. do not give him the satisfaction of being at his beck and call 9-19-2014 1:21am
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                                • ITs really not like that. This wasn't sex. 9-19-2014 1:22am
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                                  • neither was mine. you can also be at someone's emotional beck and call 9-19-2014 1:23am
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                                    • you are right. But overall I think I am at fault too. I just wish it could end "face to face" like adults (as ironic as that seems) 9-19-2014 1:24am
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                                      • There is no such thing as closure. It's a myth. The closure comes with never speaking again. 9-19-2014 1:25am
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                                        • :( 9-19-2014 1:26am
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                                          • Hard to hear but true. 9-19-2014 1:26am
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                                            • I need to sleep. Grow up. Take control. Maybe cry it out. 9-19-2014 1:28am
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                                              • You also need to focus on your husband and your marriage and fix your shit. 9-19-2014 1:29am
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      • I will say that I was far from perfect. Mine is a good person and had a rough time. I can't blame them. 9-19-2014 1:21am
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      • You know that's not their side of it 9-19-2014 1:46am
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    • I cut off contact with my ex affair suddenly because he did something monumentally shitty. I'm sure he's still feeling sorry for himself that I was so "cruel" but it was the only...(more) 9-19-2014 6:20am
      way I could handle breaking it off with him. Any contact at all meant that I would have been sucked RIGHT back into the craziness. I needed that part of my life to be over. I was sorry not to give him closure, but I don't think there would have been any closure if I had had a discussion with him about it. That shit would still be dragging on and on if I hadn't cut contact.
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    • Hate to say it but your dh could say this about you. As my dh could say this about me 9-19-2014 10:39am
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      • np - I divorced, but he didn't after saying he would. 9-19-2014 2:25pm
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    • Was she really "callous, unconcerned and knowingly hurtful," or was she trying to protect herself from you? Maybe she was in love with you and maybe you treated her like shit for...(more) 9-19-2014 7:36pm
      so long that she finally had enough. Maybe you should have treated her with a bit more dignity and respect over the entire course of your time together. Maybe you were the one who was callous, cruel, and unconcerned and she finally grew a set of her own and chose to cut contact in order to preserve the small shard of self-respect she still had left after months of shitty treatment. Hm? C'est possible.
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      • Then I am wrong and sorry. Wrong for what I have done. I can't stop punishing myself. 18 hr 42 min ago
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        • Wtf did you do?? 18 hr 41 min ago
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          • I didn't treat someone right. I was blind. They left. Now I am destroyed with hurt. 18 hr 39 min ago
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            • Did you cheat? Are you a dh? 18 hr 38 min ago
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              • Cheat on whom? 18 hr 37 min ago
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                • Oh sorry. This is Cleveland. Carry on 18 hr 36 min ago
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  10. Cleveland Have a crush on a dad at school, this is not good 9-18-2014 10:20pm (6 replies)
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    • whore. 9-18-2014 10:21pm
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    • fuck him after drop off 9-18-2014 10:22pm
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      • He;s married 9-18-2014 10:22pm
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        • so? just blow him at first. then tell him you are into anal. he'll be buttfucking you in 10 minutes. 9-18-2014 10:28pm
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          • In the middle of drop off. At that time of day. Localized entirely on the blacktop 9-18-2014 10:30pm
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    • btdt, was fun. Didn't last long because we quit while we were ahead.But it was good while it lasted 9-19-2014 6:45am
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  11. Cleveland Need a little advice, but way too embarrassed to ask 9-18-2014 10:12pm (1 reply)
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  12. Cleveland If you could spend an entire Friday night with affair and had a hotel room would you want to go out and have drinks or listen to a band or something? 9-18-2014 7:57pm (22 replies)
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    • roflmao, no 9-18-2014 7:58pm
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    • he wouldnt want to be seen with you. Thats one of the many problems with affairs 9-18-2014 7:58pm
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      • Op: he does actually. Asked me what I would prefer to do. 9-18-2014 7:59pm
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        • ask your husbands opinion 9-18-2014 7:59pm
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        • he is playing you 9-18-2014 8:00pm
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          • Well the other two times we spent the night we went out for dinner and drinks and the other a concert. 9-18-2014 8:01pm
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            • You aren't afraid someone you know will see you? 9-18-2014 8:03pm
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              • At a packed concert? No. And the dinner and drinks was not near where we live. 9-18-2014 8:04pm
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                • So? 9-18-2014 8:05pm
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                • Where are your DCs while you're out partying with your affair? 9-18-2014 8:06pm
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                  • The cat is babysitting them. But I dose them with special stuff first! 9-18-2014 8:08pm
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          • NP: They don't always. When I had an affair we'd go to dinner, drinks, concerts. We were out in public a lot together. 9-18-2014 9:16pm
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      • Haha. You have no idea. 9-18-2014 8:04pm
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    • We went to dinner and then straight to hotel 9-18-2014 7:59pm
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    • private dining 9-18-2014 8:01pm
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    • Just get a divorce ffs. What the hell is wrong with you women 9-18-2014 8:03pm
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    • Yes, we hae done this but never in our town. 9-18-2014 8:04pm
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    • we usually go out somewhere, though we don't get a lot of time together so it is always fun to just stay in too. 9-18-2014 8:06pm
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    • Dinner or drinks, yes. A band, no way since we don't get a lot of convo time 9-18-2014 8:58pm
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    • We go out for drinks, dinner. And then race home to get into bed 9-19-2014 10:38am
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  13. Cleveland When i think about X-affair now I just want to dry heave. 9-18-2014 6:51pm (3 replies)
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    • why? 9-18-2014 6:58pm
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    • When I think about the the money I spent going out in the last few years I want to dry heave. But it was a great escape. It just aded up in a terrible way 9-18-2014 6:59pm
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    • ditto! 9-18-2014 8:39pm
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  14. Cleveland This post has been disliked 3 times. showHis dw sent him a pic of their new kitten which he promptly sent on to me. 9-18-2014 12:55pm (4 replies)
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    • Disgusting to share his wife's pussy pics that way. 9-18-2014 12:57pm
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    • Mine used to do that too but with his kids 9-18-2014 3:59pm
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      • yes I get those too 9-18-2014 6:46pm
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  15. Cleveland Since the last time I cheated I've gone through a phase of being a really good wife to dh, driven by guilt.Now I'm starting to transition to the phase where I'm lusting for...(more) 9-18-2014 8:04am (2 replies)
    the thrill again. Trying to resist.
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  16. Cleveland I guess from what I read here I should be happy that my aff doesn't say the L word to me. 9-17-2014 10:55pm (3 replies)
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    • not necessarily 9-17-2014 11:10pm
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    • Totally. I am 9-18-2014 12:05am
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    • I've had it both ways and neither are easy. 9-18-2014 7:16pm
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  17. Cleveland Just looked at affair's dw's FB page for the first time in many months. I expected to feel nostalgic and sad seeing photos of him & his dw. Instead I just felt very sorry for him,...(more) 9-17-2014 10:38pm (18 replies)
    and kind of disgusted with myself (both for having an affair, and for having an affair with THAT guy). Onward. No more affairs. It just wasn't worth it.
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    • is he a douche? 9-17-2014 10:39pm
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      • op: he would be a douche if he weren't such a huge loser. 9-17-2014 10:41pm
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        • what makes him such a loser? why did you have an affair with him? 9-17-2014 10:42pm
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          • op: I was in total denial about my shitty marriage, and this guy paid attention to me. He seemed kind and very responsible at first, but then I got to know him better and...(more) 9-17-2014 10:46pm
            discovered he was a huge narcissist and was shockingly immature in pretty much every area of his life. And he really didn't give a shit about me. I was in a really bad place and I thought I was in love, I believed him when he said "I love you." Stupid me. I've read this same type of story on here so many times, I should probably thank all of you Cleves for helping me get out of this mess. :)
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            • so now what? 9-17-2014 10:47pm
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              • op: Now I haven't seen affair in many months, and I'm getting divorced. Win-win. 9-17-2014 10:47pm
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                • does his wife know? 9-17-2014 10:52pm
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                  • op: about the affair? No. 9-17-2014 10:57pm
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    • there seem to be two camps: Sooooo Not Worth It or "it saved my marriage" 9-17-2014 10:40pm
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    • This post is not really useful without photos of each of you 9-17-2014 10:40pm
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      • op: trust me, I was slumming. 9-17-2014 10:41pm
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        • huh. Interesting. Did you have sex with him? 9-17-2014 10:44pm
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          • op: mostly blowjobs, fucked him a couple of times. I know; wtf is the matter with me. 9-17-2014 10:47pm
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            • you're lonely, it sounds like. 9-17-2014 10:48pm
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              • op: I was indeed. I didn't even realize it. 9-17-2014 10:49pm
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    • ^ex-affair, to be clear. 9-17-2014 10:40pm
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    • are you facebook friends with her but not him? 9-17-2014 10:43pm
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      • op: not FB friends with either, but her page has no privacy settings on it. 9-17-2014 10:46pm
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  18. Cleveland There are degrees of cheating, it's not all equally bad. 9-17-2014 9:40pm (4 replies)
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    • I aree 9-17-2014 9:40pm
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    • How do you figure? 9-18-2014 1:25pm
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    • What are the degrees? 9-18-2014 6:02pm
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    • Tell me. I want to know how bad I am on the scale 9-18-2014 6:42pm
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  19. Cleveland Today i was pinned against the wall and then on my table with my arms held above my head as he fucked me while I still had my dress on. An hour later I was preparing dinner for dh...(more) 9-17-2014 9:38pm (7 replies)
    and the kids.
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    • Its sad when you look at your post and we see how shallow you are the post immediately below and ones that follow. 9-17-2014 9:40pm
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    • ok 9-17-2014 9:40pm
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    • op: and an hour after that I took a huge dump 9-17-2014 9:42pm
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      • real op, you're disgusting 9-17-2014 9:43pm
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        • stop impersonating me 9-17-2014 9:43pm
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    • I hope you washed your hands 9-17-2014 10:04pm
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      • of course I did. And showered. 9-17-2014 10:15pm
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  20. Cleveland Sure sex is something I would consider, but its not sex that I want. I want a friend. 9-17-2014 9:03pm (0 replies)
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  21. Cleveland Hey dh with the cheating opportunity...(more) 9-17-2014 4:41pm (11 replies)
    I've been thinking about your situation a lot. I can see your point bc I was in the same boat. But you need to read the posts here from women who go a little (or a lot) crazy over affairs. Like literally crazy. You say it would just be one time but take it from me, it won't be. And then she'll get attached and then you really are fucked. So don't do it.
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    • Another dw here. My affair went crazy and fell for me. He left his wife. It's not lays the women who go nuts. 9-17-2014 4:45pm
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      • And they can go nuts even if they have no intention of leaving their wives. Drama city. 9-17-2014 4:54pm
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    • The reality is that if you are putting yourself out there for anyone to form an attachment with when you aren't really available, the chances for hurting someone else...(more) 9-17-2014 5:59pm
      significantly are always there. Maybe you can justify it saying they know the risks and are adults.. that would be true.. but still you are taking a risk with someone else's feelings. That person might just go nuts and come after you. Or they might leave their marriage hoping to be with you only to be left high and dry. Are you Ok with that?
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      • np: or nothing can happen. Iv had 2 long term affairs. One of them was with a single man. I just cut out when I was done. 9-17-2014 7:03pm
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        • I don't think you understand the concept of 'risk' based on this reply. 9-17-2014 11:13pm
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    • I assume you are a dh. What did you do to egg this on? I am a dw and every time I broke up with my affair (lost count), he would do shit like show up where he knew I'd be and...(more) 9-17-2014 7:17pm
      if more than a couple weeks passed with no contact, he'd send me texts telling me how much he loved and missed me. Is this this kind of shit you did? Because yes, fucking with someone's emotions so you can fuck them one more time will make them crazy. I was "attached" because the fucking loser wouldn't let me go. His boring life sucked without me and he knew it. Rhankfully, he is someone else's problem now.
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      • ^and there is no doubt in my mind that he's narcissistic enough to believe I went crazy because I couldn't have him. He really is that full of himself, like every man in an...(more) 9-17-2014 7:23pm
        affair.
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    • *yawn* this is what men say when they get busted. she was crazy, blah blah. i HATE the way women in affairs are always portrayed at nuts and they guy just got caught up with a...(more) 9-17-2014 9:53pm
      seductive headcase. if you are really a dh, you are an ass. and if you are a dw with a dh who told you this and you believe him, you have your head up your ass.
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    • So you got involved with a bunny boiler. How original. Is this what you told your wife? 9-17-2014 10:54pm
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      • Funny, I assumed OP was a dw np 9-17-2014 10:57pm
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        • you think it was a dw who got attached and admits to being crazy? 9-17-2014 11:49pm
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  22. Cleveland I'm having such a hard time letting go and moving on. It hurts so bad. 9-17-2014 2:03pm (23 replies)
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    • It gets better. 9-17-2014 2:08pm
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      • Thank you. I know I need to stop but the pain is real. Like a real relationship is over. It's not worth. 9-17-2014 2:16pm
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        • It was a real relationship according to your emotions. It's ok and healthy to recognize that so that you can truly deal with it and move on. 9-17-2014 3:55pm
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          • He pursued me so hard when obviously he wasn't being honest. I believed him like a fool. I have to remember it wasn't real for him. Just a game. 9-17-2014 4:05pm
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            • Don't knock yourself. 9-17-2014 4:25pm
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              • Np. It might not have been a game. I'm a dw and my emotions for my aff were real. But I would never, ever leave my marriage. Just the way it is. Be kind to yourself. 9-17-2014 4:56pm
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                • He constantly told me he loved me, I was all he needed, could never lose me. Told me this daily for over a year. If things would end he'd beg for me to come back. I believed he...(more) 9-17-2014 5:59pm
                  cared as deeply for me as I did him. Then I found out he was online looking for someone else. He denied it and left. It kills me he won't admit it. Because I can't believe he would deny me the truth after everything we shared. I'm a mess today.
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                  • I'm sorry. Are you both married? 9-17-2014 6:00pm
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                    • Yes. He was my first affair. Non sexual. Though now he's probably looking for someone to sleep with since he's in a dating site. Feel so worthless. 9-17-2014 6:03pm
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                      • This is not about you. It is about him. Truly. You're better off without him. 9-17-2014 9:37pm
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                        • Thank you you're right. 9-18-2014 12:16pm
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                  • how did u find out? 9-17-2014 7:07pm
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    • I begged him back several times. Shame on me. You are better than that. 9-17-2014 2:43pm
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      • I'm on the verge of contacting him but I have to be strong. 9-17-2014 4:02pm
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        • don't do it 9-17-2014 5:44pm
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          • I don't want to but I inadvertently clicked on the online profile he uses to find other girls so now he probably sees me as a stalker. I wrote above how he denies the truth and...(more) 9-17-2014 6:01pm
            just left us off in this bad place after everything we had. So pissed at myself.
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            • online profile on AM? A dating site? 9-17-2014 6:03pm
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              • Yes a dating site. It's clearly his profile. His info. yet he denied it and left. No contact again. 9-17-2014 6:04pm
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                • is that how you met him? 9-17-2014 6:06pm
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      • Why did you beg? He wouldn't take you back? 9-18-2014 1:23pm
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    • June mom? It's so recent. You are still in the thick of the hurt. It will get better. The best thing you can do is not contact him. 9-17-2014 4:24pm
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      • I'm not June mom 9-17-2014 4:33pm
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  23. Cleveland Do you ever wish you didn't love? 9-16-2014 11:16pm (8 replies)
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    • no 9-16-2014 11:18pm
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    • how can it be true love tho? 9-17-2014 12:51am
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    • there is one person i wish i didn't love 9-17-2014 12:55am
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    • No. As painful as it could be I don't regret loving him. Or being loved by him 9-17-2014 7:50am
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    • I cant stop or change how I feel. The hardest part is loving and knowing its over or ending. Missing someone you never truly had is heartbreaking, but I am happy I got to know...(more) 9-17-2014 2:40pm
      this person and I am better for it. I can only hope they felt and feel the same.
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      • what do you mean about never truly had? Do you mean you were never in an open relationship? 9-17-2014 5:44pm
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      • why did it end? 9-18-2014 10:31am
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    • Yup. 9-17-2014 9:49pm
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  24. Cleveland I am having a long distance affair - barely see the guy - he's like a text/e-mail outlet for me. Better fit intellectually and sexually for me than DH. DH is good co-parent, but...(more) 9-16-2014 9:38pm (11 replies)
    I feel dead inside when I am with him. I don't want to end marriage due to kids and I feel like affair might actually be giving me the best of both worlds...accept I want to see affair more often and can't
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    • You just posted this. 9-16-2014 9:38pm
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      • Yes, in Toddler 9-16-2014 9:40pm
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    • you feel dead inside in your real life, and you blame it on dh. your affair is your outlet, which is fine, but you should spend more time improving your life - not your life with...(more) 9-16-2014 9:41pm
      dh but you in your life - and less time mooning over some"perfect" guy you never see. He's perfect because you never see him, btw.
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      • This resonates with me (np). Have you btdt? 9-16-2014 9:41pm
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        • no, not yet. but i am still young. i just read a lot and understand people and what motivates them. 9-16-2014 9:43pm
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    • Mine is long distance as well. We manage to see each other about 1-4 x a month depending. I feel the same way. Well more that dh is just a friend. Zero sexual attraction to him at...(more) 9-16-2014 9:43pm
      This point.
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      • because you haven't learned how to let a long term relationship evolve. you are only excited in the beginning phases of a relationship, and once that's over you look for that...(more) 9-16-2014 9:45pm
        feeling somewhere else. Really, you're just afraid of getting old and dying.
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        • She is old and dying 9-16-2014 9:47pm
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          • aren't we all 9-16-2014 9:48pm
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        • Perhaps. Dh and I have had a long time of sex issues. In hindsight they probably started about a year into our relationship. And it took me 13 more yrs to look outside the...(more) 9-16-2014 9:47pm
          marriage.
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          • at a certain point you decide to deal with your relationship issues or let them destroy you 9-16-2014 9:48pm
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  25. Cleveland After 5 yrs he is still so sweet I can hardly believe it. 9-16-2014 9:34pm (7 replies)
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    • your dh? 9-16-2014 9:35pm
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      • He has not been sweet for a long long long time 9-16-2014 9:40pm
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        • and yet you share a last name with hom 9-16-2014 9:45pm
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    • gotta keep the ho happy 9-16-2014 9:36pm
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      • I wish dh felt that way 9-16-2014 9:40pm
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    • rdm? 9-17-2014 4:54pm
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