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  1. Cleveland I told him that was a nice pic of he, dw and adult dc his dw tagged them in on FB. (in reality it makes my chest hurt). He replied...(more) 12 min ago (9 replies)
    "thank you. I love you.... do you love me?"
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    • Aww so sweet 11 min ago
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    • Huh? 10 min ago
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    • This is exactly what mine would have said. Are you married? If not why do you do this to yourself? 8 min ago
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      • yes married. I wouldn't do this if I were single. 7 min ago
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        • ok then I get you. sucks. 7 min ago
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          • how do I respond? I want to say Yes but it's killing me. 4 min ago
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            • well I would have said something like " I do love you but I don't love this shitty situation." 2 min ago
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              • ^ but I truly loved him and hated the deception. That's why it's over. 1 min ago
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              • I've said it before. It's just a fucked up situation I accept or end. Neither sounds appealing. But thanks for chatting and not flaming. 36 sec ago
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  2. Cleveland If dh is on ashley Madison how would the charge show up 4 hr 49 min ago (1 reply)
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    • google it. I'm pretty sure you can pay for it via money order. I don't know what would piss me off more, him using the CC or him being on there. 2 hr 40 min ago
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  3. Cleveland Has anyone here been innfluenced to have first affair by reading this board? 17 hr 53 min ago (10 replies)
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    • Dear God please let everyone answer no. 17 hr 52 min ago
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    • Would beg the question of what the person was doing here in the first place, no? 17 hr 19 min ago
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      • No. 17 hr 7 min ago
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      • OP: Essentually the same question, just worded differently. A number of posts here are asking for advice. 14 hr 19 min ago
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    • I was in the beginning stages of one and I started reading here because it's the only place I could find people who related. 14 hr 44 min ago
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      • ^its quite possible that reading here "normalized" and justified my feelings about it. 14 hr 43 min ago
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    • oh for fuck's sake. fuck no. what the fuck is the matter with you? 14 hr 36 min ago
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    • Actually, it made me NOT want to! 14 hr 33 min ago
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    • There's a lot of drama regarding affairs on this posts. Good affairs go under the radar because there's nothing to report. 2 hr 39 min ago
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  4. Cleveland Apparently affair has bought me a diamond ring for Xmas. This is kind of fucked up. 19 hr 13 min ago (28 replies)
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    • klassie 19 hr 13 min ago
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    • whatever 19 hr 12 min ago
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    • That's just strange 19 hr 8 min ago
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      • Op: I'm not sure how to react. He mentioned it a few weeks ago and my reception was lukewarm. He just texted that he went Xmas shopping and it's beautiful like me. 19 hr 7 min ago
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        • he's fucking crazy. 19 hr 4 min ago
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          • He's not. We do love each other. He's just a guy who is very in love right now. 19 hr 2 min ago
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            • gross and creepy. wtf do you do with this shit? hide it/ 18 hr 59 min ago
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              • No. Said I bought it for myself. 18 hr 39 min ago
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        • np - don't overthink it. He's trying to spoil you 19 hr 4 min ago
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          • it's inappropriate and creepy. 19 hr 3 min ago
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            • Op: he's bought me jewelry in the past. But necklace bracelet earrings. 19 hr 1 min ago
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              • gross gross no boundaries. you know this isn't okay. 19 hr ago
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                • slow down. If she thinks this is not OK, she HAS to tell him. He's trying to be charming and thoughtful 18 hr 59 min ago
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                  • you people on here are bananas. 18 hr 58 min ago
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                    • Call me bananas, but it's what I would do 18 hr 58 min ago
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                  • Op: when he brought it up I said my main concern would be that dh would say something. And that it was odd bc we aren't going to be tigether. I guess I wasn't clear enough. 18 hr 58 min ago
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                    • YA THINK? You're dealing with a person who has no common sense. He's going to boil your bunny any day now. 18 hr 56 min ago
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                      • It would be hard to do from 3000 miles away. 18 hr 38 min ago
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                    • i assume it's just a ring not an engagement ring. 16 hr 41 min ago
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                • We don't really have any boundaries. But this seems ott to me. The other stuff I'm ok with. 18 hr 59 min ago
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                  • well, duh. obviously you don't respect boundaries. or you wouldn't do this. 18 hr 58 min ago
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    • what does he expect you to do with that? 16 hr 40 min ago
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    • This is fucked up. And so is your reaction. He totally disrespects your boundaries and yet you pussy out of telling him so. 15 hr 3 min ago
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    • Ha. My affair told me he was shopping for a ring for his dw for Valentine's Day, the POSTED IT ON THE TODDLER BOARD, getting everyone's opinion of the (tacky, hideous) ring. Not...(more) 14 hr 35 min ago
      kidding.
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      • ^oops "then" not "the." 14 hr 33 min ago
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      • your affair posts on Toddler?? 1 hr 48 min ago
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    • Mine asked me to wear a silver band. I was deeply touched, yet also pissed off he didn't have the balls to make it for real. It's over now. 4 hr ago
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      • I don't want or expect him to leave dw. Nor does he have that expectation of me. 2 hr 7 min ago
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  5. Cleveland Love can make you craaaazy 23 hr 23 min ago (2 replies)
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    • And crazy can make you think you are in love. 23 hr 22 min ago
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    • love stinks. 23 hr 20 min ago
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  6. Cleveland I want to tell him to stop saying certain catchphrases to me that he and dw say. that's their thing. I don't want it said to me. 10-30-2014 9:52am (19 replies)
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    • I can tell you a great way to achieve that. 10-30-2014 9:57am
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      • do tell. Or do I already know what you'll say... 10-30-2014 10:01am
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        • don't have an affair. and it won't be an issue. 10-30-2014 10:12am
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          • yeah ok. So would I sound like a bitch if I asked him not to say that to me? 23 hr 53 min ago
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            • how do you know he says that to his wife? 23 hr 4 min ago
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              • FB. 21 hr 19 min ago
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                • That is dumb 20 hr 43 min ago
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                  • I think I'm just getting tired of the whole thing. 20 hr 41 min ago
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                • Why would you ever put yourself through that? Why are you friends with them on FB? That shit will drive you insane 20 hr 41 min ago
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                  • It does. I'm not friends with his dw of course but she posts pics to his timeline and I've read their birthday posts to each other. I almost literally got sick reading that. It is...(more) 20 hr 37 min ago
                    driving me crazy, killing me.
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                    • Can you stop? There's no way this relationship is good for you 20 hr 33 min ago
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                      • I don't know, been together for years. He's sweet, very loving. But I know it's not good for me. 20 hr 30 min ago
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                        • is it sweet to be in love with his wife and cheat and say the same shit to you that he says to her? 19 hr 17 min ago
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                          • He says they've grown apart, he loves her as a friend and the mother of their dcs but doesn't feel the intimacy and closeness he feels with me. But what does that matter?they have...(more) 15 hr 23 min ago
                            Fun together, are a beautiful couple, their friends envy them. How do I end this? I really love him and I do think he loves me but it really is killing me. I'm depressed, can't concentrate, so fucking jealous of their time together and knowing I'll never have that wirh dh.
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                            • np: I am very sad for you. You deserve to be treated like an actual human being. This bastard will never, EVER do that. I'm very sorry. 14 hr 32 min ago
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    • mine called me the term of endearment that he called his wife 22 hr 30 min ago
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      • oh no! 21 hr 19 min ago
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        • I didn't care. I liked it. Fucked up. 20 hr 45 min ago
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  7. Cleveland Dh is just not into me anymore. I always have to get sex started with him. He is a great lover when I get it. I always want more. Then I have to role play. Which is fine but I...(more) 10-30-2014 9:46am (11 replies)
    feel disconnected from him.
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    • Does he know you cheat? 10-30-2014 9:49am
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      • ^because lack of trust can be kind of a mood-killer. 10-30-2014 9:57am
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        • op:No. He does not. 10-30-2014 10:09am
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          • Perhaps the underlying issues in your relationship that cause you to stray should be addressed. 10-30-2014 10:10am
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            • op:I am trying. Me straying is just avoidence on my part. I could do without affair if I only had more. 10-30-2014 10:25am
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              • ^^^of dh. 10-30-2014 10:25am
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              • Right. It's his fault @@ 10-30-2014 10:27am
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                • op: no. It's my fault. Stupid way to avoid the issue. To get someone who wants me. Dumb. I know. Not the right way to go. 10-30-2014 11:20am
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    • It's hard to fall in love with someone all over again after so many years. The problem is that we're animals and we're not meant for monogomy. 22 hr 49 min ago
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      • You seem to be assuming that OP has fallen out of love with dh. Maybe start doing some of the things they used to do. I have fallen in love with my wife more than once. It wasn't...(more) 10 hr 43 min ago
        that hard. I just had to start thinking out her instead of myself. She responded, I responded, she responded... positive upward spiral and there we were in love, more than ever. Marriage is like any other good thing, you have to work at it.
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        • np: Wow.. That's really good, thoughtful advice. 2 hr 40 min ago
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  8. Cleveland Hi. I am dw. I'm not here to flame. I'm here for reassurance, I guess? I believe that some affairs are only about sex/ego boosts/escapism etc. I also believe some affairs...(more) 10-29-2014 7:13pm (41 replies)
    have real feelings and love involved. Anyway, point is, I realize that affairs are not black and white. The woman my dh was with is prolific on the internet. She has profiles and blogs etc. Lots of stuff is public so I can see her if I want. I STUPIDLY look at her pages from time to time and normally I see nothing that smarts. Today though, I see she is alluding to me on one of her pages - making fun of my job, the way I look, where I live and the fact I haven't had the dignity to walk away from my dh. She has also had some kind of identity fraud or something going on - which has nothing to do with me - but she is saying it's me. Sounds so stupid as I type this - damn social media! Anyway, why would a woman who has been busted in an affair risk angering the betrayed wife? I'm thinking if it were me who was caught out I would lay low and keep well away from the dw. Maybe she is hoping I'll tattletale to my dh and it'll cause problems? Simple solution, don't
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    • She's a complete fucking whack job. 10-29-2014 7:15pm
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      • This. So sorry OP. 10-29-2014 7:16pm
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        • op. thanks guys. 10-29-2014 7:21pm
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    • she's pissed that they got caught and you didn't dump him 10-29-2014 7:16pm
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      • op. really? thanks for saying that, makes me feel better. She seems like a whack job. I read the affair stuff on here often and there is so much pain, it's sad. 10-29-2014 7:20pm
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        • don't mention it to dh. you have every right to look, but don't talk to your dh about it if you want to stay together. no need for him to think about her anymore. are you staying...(more) 10-29-2014 7:24pm
          together?
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          • op. right, I nearly told him about it but stopped myself. She doesn't need air time plus he is beyond sorry. We are staying together. It all happened a while ago and in fact, I...(more) 10-29-2014 7:27pm
            could almost say the affair was a good thing as it was such a wakeup call to the state of our marriage. We had to fix things or split. I like our marriage these days, things are good.
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            • then who the fuck cares about that stupid skanky crazy bitch? she doesn't exist. 10-29-2014 7:30pm
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              • op. ha. yeah I know. thanks, I'll be stealing that for my new mantra. 10-29-2014 7:32pm
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    • This is awful. Be careful. 10-29-2014 7:55pm
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    • How long was his affair? She's single I imagine? 10-29-2014 8:57pm
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      • op. she is married. she told my dh that he was not her first affair. have no idea what the situation is with her husband. My dh knew her for more than a year. 10-29-2014 10:28pm
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    • That's pretty fucking low - signed, former affair mom 10-29-2014 9:01pm
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    • Wow, that is awful. I can't imagine putting shit like that on the internet - she just be insane. I'm glad your DH woke up and reconnected. You sound like a truly good person. 10-29-2014 9:10pm
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      • op. aw thanks. I'm a normal, flawed person. Time has passed is all and I can see the situation more rationally now. 10-29-2014 10:26pm
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    • I think you posted her page on toddler once to ask if we thought she was pretty or slutty. sorry. so very sorry. 10-29-2014 10:30pm
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      • op. yikes! no way, that wasn't me. I'd never do that. If I posted her pic, most people would say she was pretty - it's cool. 10-29-2014 10:32pm
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        • if i remember correctly she was pretty. milky white skin, full breasts, dark hair. crazy as hell tho. 10-29-2014 10:37pm
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          • op. no, that's not the woman I am talking about. i didn't see that post. 10-29-2014 10:38pm
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            • does not matter at all. i find physical appearance is circumstance. sorry this happened. my dh cheated too. it is the most unbelievable beat down, no one here gets it. They...(more) 10-29-2014 11:34pm
              believe it is all about their pleasure. Karma is a true bitch. i rely on that and not revenge. balance with come.
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              • ^^will not with 10-29-2014 11:34pm
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    • I know you won't and you shouldn't, but LINK PLEASE? 10-29-2014 10:32pm
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      • op. ha ha. I know, as replier above just said, someone on toddler did similar. Man, imagine the abuse she would get if I outed her on Toddler! No way, bad karma, I wouldn't do it. 10-29-2014 10:33pm
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        • Do it do it do it do it 10-29-2014 10:34pm
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          • op. no way. I wouldn't want to anger purple goddess anyway and mis-use the forum. 10-29-2014 10:36pm
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    • She's pissed he made a choice and it wasn't her. Sometimes they do leave for affair. He showed her but staying and working on things with you just what she really is to him....(more) 10-30-2014 8:48am
      Nothing.
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      • I've never turned on anyone so fast as when I was busted and faced with losing my Dh. He was nothing but a douche who fed my ego. 10-30-2014 11:35am
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        • OR: Yep. I've never cheated on my dh but can understand the itch to do so. If I ever did and caught I'd be sure to tell the fuck buddy to get lost and he didn't mean anything....(more) 23 hr 11 min ago
          That he was a nobody. But OP is a better woman than I. If in her shoes I'd be going nuts and taunting that woman.
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        • sad that you would do that to two people for your ego. 23 hr 2 min ago
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          • NP: Sad that you have Cleveland checked for yours. 23 hr 1 min ago
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            • No, I'm with a married guy. I would be crushed if he did that to me. Ruined. 22 hr 59 min ago
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              • Is he working to leave the wife and get together for you? For good? Marry you? You've got no dog in this fight here. 22 hr 57 min ago
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                • I believe and hope so. If he is just playing me and his wife like this poster, it would be very hard. 22 hr 56 min ago
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                  • Op's husband seems to not be playing with her. I suspect your guy is though. What's his plan and yours? Is he sleeping with you every night? 22 hr 54 min ago
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                    • No, we live pretty far away. He is waiting for the kids to leave the house. 22 hr 53 min ago
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                      • Ahhh! The age old when the youngest goes to college. I'm sorry to tell you but if he wanted to be with you now. He would. 22 hr 51 min ago
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                        • It is more complicated than that, and not really that far from now. I'm aware of the odds but like I said, if he is just playing me, it would be crushing. To fake what he is...(more) 22 hr 48 min ago
                          doing would take a seriously evil, dedicated sociopath. So, I guess we'll see but none the less, it still seems like taking pride in turning on someone who cares for you is harsh.
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                          • I wish you the best. Adoration and affection can actually be faked or misconstrued. Look after yourself now. 22 hr 46 min ago
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          • I wasn't consciously using the guy to feed my ego, it took being kicked out of my house and a lot of therapy to realize what it was really about. Fwiw my affair turned on me,...(more) 17 hr 44 min ago
            too.
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    • you seem like a cool person, I don't think I would be as levelheaded as you 17 hr 41 min ago
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  9. Cleveland Any word from the old pittspeoples? 10-29-2014 6:17pm (4 replies)
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    • how many did you meet? 10-29-2014 8:44pm
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    • whatch u want to know? 10-29-2014 10:09pm
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    • Hey there! I stop by every now and then and see if any of the stories and perspectives sound familiar. 18 hr 20 min ago
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  10. Cleveland When someone shows you who they are, believe them THE FIRST TIME. 10-29-2014 6:03pm (1 reply)
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    • AMEN. Sing it, Sister! 10-29-2014 8:43pm
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  11. Cleveland Garage mom here. Any questions? 10-29-2014 4:15pm (24 replies)
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    • You/re not her 10-29-2014 4:15pm
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      • why would you say that? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
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    • ever mess around with the neighbor? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
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      • yes i did 10-29-2014 4:16pm
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        • NP: How many times? 10-29-2014 4:18pm
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          • 3x 10-29-2014 4:19pm
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            • I thought it was twice. 10-29-2014 4:20pm
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              • there was a quick make out a few weeks ago 10-29-2014 4:23pm
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    • How can I clean oil stains on the garage floor? 10-29-2014 4:16pm
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      • have your lover cum on them 10-29-2014 4:16pm
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    • Garage dw. Not garage mom 10-29-2014 4:20pm
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      • It's not her. 10-29-2014 4:20pm
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        • it is me. i'm bored 10-29-2014 4:23pm
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          • How many guys have you slept with? 10-29-2014 4:25pm
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            • In my life?...(more) 10-29-2014 4:26pm
              Is this who I think it is?
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    • Are you still a huge fat mess skulking the garage, pining for the neighbor, love-custard moistening your panties? 10-29-2014 5:25pm
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      • Nope. I've lost 60 lbs and totally moved on from him. 10-29-2014 6:00pm
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        • so pining for a new man? 10-29-2014 6:01pm
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          • No. Have a new man that's pining for me. 10-29-2014 6:02pm
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        • Except for that quick makeout 10-29-2014 6:41pm
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          • Well yes. But I'd had a lot to drink. No excuse. 10-29-2014 7:14pm
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      • Good for you on the weight loss! Post a pic! 10-29-2014 6:18pm
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        • Thanks. Tiny pic won't work on my phone since I updated to ios8 10-29-2014 6:20pm
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  12. Cleveland I actually like getting cock shots. Anyone else? 10-29-2014 11:36am (9 replies)
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    • dh: Not particularly fond of them. 10-29-2014 11:37am
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    • Thudder? 10-29-2014 11:38am
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      • never gets old 10-29-2014 4:04pm
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    • I do. But only when requested. I also like to get video of him jerking off. 10-29-2014 11:39am
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    • Nope 10-29-2014 12:08pm
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    • Did you mean photos? Or a shot to the face? I like both, depending on the cock involved. 10-29-2014 1:42pm
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    • I kind of like that my affair doesn't send them. It's not sexy 10-29-2014 6:40pm
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    • leave an email and I can send you a few 10-29-2014 10:09pm
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  13. Cleveland Any of this apply to you?...(more) 10-28-2014 4:58pm (12 replies)
    Extramarital sex was reported by 48 percent of women whose first premarital sex occurred at age fifteen or younger, in contrast with 16 percent of women whose first premarital sex occurred after age twenty-one.
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    • I'm in the 15 or under camp but not the cheating on DH camp. 10-28-2014 4:58pm
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    • Over 15. And having affair. 10-28-2014 5:04pm
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    • I am in the 16%. 10-28-2014 5:53pm
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      • Oh wait, never mind. I don't know what I am as I was 19. 10-28-2014 5:54pm
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    • op: I thought it might explain some of what is going on here. Guess not. 10-28-2014 6:41pm
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    • Yep. That's me. Was 15.5. 10-28-2014 6:43pm
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      • you have had affairs? 10-28-2014 7:09pm
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    • yes 10-28-2014 11:16pm
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  14. Cleveland Former affair mom. Divorced and dating. I have only told one other person I have dated that I had an affair - turned out he had too so there was no judgement. But I am dating...(more) 10-28-2014 1:43pm (17 replies)
    someone new and I am nervous about telling him - he has high expectations of people and a very good heart. I have to tell him because he needs to know before we go further. Can anyone relate or BTDT? Do you think he will care?
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    • My marriage had a LOT of infidelity. My exdh cheated on me consistently over the years, and I had the juvenile reaction of meeting that in turn. I didn't disclose because I truly...(more) 10-28-2014 1:45pm
      believe my behavior was situational and not indicative of my own actual ethics when it comes to relationships. But if you're prone to cheating...I do think you should disclose, generally. People need to understand what they are dealing with.
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      • I am definitely not prone to cheating. In fact (and I have posted about this here before) I can't even casually date more than one person at a time. My affair was situational...(more) 10-28-2014 1:47pm
        due to the person I had the affair with. But I feel that anyone I start to date sort of seriously needs to know before years go by and then it comes out one day.
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        • Then disclose. I honestly would have never dated a person who had a history of infidelity. Which I know sounds awful, since it is something I engaged in. And I listened to...(more) 10-28-2014 1:52pm
          people's stories with a heavily critical ear and looked for signs. I just couldn't be with a cheat.
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          • I totally understand, which is why I want to let him know now. It actually doesn't bother me assuming everything else about the guy is good. My affair doesn't define me or who I...(more) 10-28-2014 2:06pm
            am so I extend that courtesy to others. But I know not everyone does especially not having btdt.
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            • Right. I just think that people who cheat, for the most part, are just cheats. 10-28-2014 2:15pm
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              • I think if that were true I'd be trying to hide it. I don't. 10-28-2014 2:21pm
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                • You'd be surprised what people disclose. and if their relationship failed due to infidelity...it is fairly clear. 10-28-2014 2:22pm
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                  • Right, but mine didn't fail due to infidelity. I asked for the divorce long after the affair was over, and yes dh knew about it. All situations and people are different though. 10-28-2014 2:24pm
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                    • well. i'd say that my relationship didn't fail specifically because of that behavior. But the behavior was a symptom of him not knowing how to confront his actual issues. And that...(more) 10-28-2014 2:26pm
                      makes him a terrible partner. Feeling ugly? GO FUCK SOMEONE! Feeling down about your job? A PRETTY GIRL WILL CHEER YOU UP! etc. and repeat.
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                      • OK, that's fine. 10-28-2014 2:27pm
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    • Why do you have to tell him? 10-28-2014 2:23pm
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      • I can't imagine not telling someone I was serious with. I have to know that they are ok with it. It's a huge thing to hide. 10-28-2014 2:25pm
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        • That just seems like something from the past 10-28-2014 2:30pm
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          • Unless you don't trust yourself for the future. 10-28-2014 2:30pm
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            • It's not even about trusting myself. It's just a huge thing in my life and I learned a lot about myself and others in the process and aftermath. 10-28-2014 2:32pm
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              • ^ and what's wrong with talking about your past? Isn't that what you do? Also like I said, it's not something I'd want him to find out later. I'd want to know up front. 10-28-2014 2:33pm
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    • Every single person I've told about it has told me about when he did it too. I think a LOT of divorced guys have. 10-28-2014 2:50pm
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  15. Cleveland Funny thing is I miss it. Not him so much. 10-28-2014 9:18am (39 replies)
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    • The subterfuge? the sex? what exactly? 10-28-2014 9:19am
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      • Being a whore? 10-28-2014 9:22am
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      • op: daily contact. someone to talk with, felt like a person. Not a mule. 10-28-2014 9:30am
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        • You feel like a mule? 10-28-2014 9:31am
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          • Yes, demands in my life. Everyone takes. My own fault for loving too hard. 10-28-2014 9:33am
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            • lol. did you really just say loving too hard 10-28-2014 9:34am
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            • You're very naive if you think that your affair was not taking from you, too. He may have slipped you a hot beef injection every so often, but he was a taker, too. 10-28-2014 9:35am
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              • I know this, but there was balance & I enjoyed his hot beef. 10-28-2014 9:37am
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                • Why do you stay in your marriage if you are so unhappy? 10-28-2014 9:38am
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        • You can have that same feeling with a friend that you don't suck off. 10-28-2014 9:32am
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          • op: this! yes. I agree. work so much have lost all girlfriends.Have to work on rebuilding this. Just need time. 10-28-2014 9:34am
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            • If you had enough time and energy to meet with an affair, you have enough time to hang out with a friend. And you don't have to lie about it! And you can masturbate and get off...(more) 10-28-2014 9:37am
              without putting your marriage and life in jeopardy. For Christmas/Hannukah, get yourself a vibrator.
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              • you have all the answers. I met affair at work. He was in my face all the time. So not much effort in finding him. 10-28-2014 9:39am
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                • Oh come on. You say you needed someone to pay attention to you and listen to you and all it cost you was some dick sucking and a little sodomy. Great....(more) 10-28-2014 9:43am
                  But be honest with yourself a little bit. You wanted to fuck some other guy. You wanted to fuck someone who was not your husband. And it's no source of pride that you put in very little effort to find a guy to fuck. Haven't you ever heard the term, "Don't shit where you sleep?"
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                  • don't shit where I sleep has no merit here. really never did. we are no longer in contact nor working together. Yes, I enjoyed the company of another man that made me feelblike a...(more) 10-28-2014 10:12am
                    woman. I enjoyed pleasing him. I don't know what you are trying to get out of me here. My post was simply stating how I miss that feeling. Not the person.
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        • wait, dh/family makes you feel like a mule, but a casual affair didn't? Newsflash-you were a mule for affair. He was never interested in your "talks" 10-28-2014 9:34am
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          • Yes. I understand that. Fake or not it was something. 10-28-2014 9:36am
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          • np: this. the "talks" were to get in your pants. sorry. but the good news is that he some sad woman's problem and not yours. how long has it been? you'll get over it i...(more) 10-28-2014 11:15am
            promise.
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            • op:Thing is I dont care what his intentions were. I enjoyed the "talks" & the sex. I am saying I miss IT. The facade. 10-28-2014 11:23am
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              • ^^^I have nothing now. 10-28-2014 11:24am
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                • um your husband and children?? 10-28-2014 11:35am
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                  • op:yes! this. agree. 10-28-2014 11:44am
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                    • ^^^i know. 10-28-2014 11:46am
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              • how long was the affair and when did it end? 10-28-2014 11:29am
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                • 2 yrs long, 2wks done. 10-28-2014 11:36am
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                  • who ended it and why? 10-28-2014 11:47am
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                    • I ended it. It was time. 10-28-2014 11:59am
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                      • how did he take it? I bet he will show up again. 10-28-2014 12:17pm
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                        • ^^^and how did you know it was time? 10-28-2014 12:17pm
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                        • op:doubt it & thats okay. 10-28-2014 3:59pm
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    • giggling about how much fun it is to betray the people you love most, or how stupid they are? 10-28-2014 9:29am
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      • np. You think we are focused on gleefully rubbing our hands together over your hurt? No, we are getting fucked, no other thoughts. Don't give yourself that much credit. Sure it's...(more) 10-28-2014 10:01am
        selfish but don't think you are on our minds. You're not.
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        • not according to OP, who says she did it bc she felt like a mule. so speak for yourself. 10-28-2014 10:38am
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      • I didn't get that from op's post 10-28-2014 10:59am
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        • np: i didn't either 10-28-2014 11:17am
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          • nnp - me either. 10-28-2014 2:54pm
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    • Are you 4 year mom? 10-28-2014 11:17am
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      • op:no. dont have a moniker or ongoing story here. 10-28-2014 11:28am
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  16. Cleveland So dh & I were having sex & he was getting off on me telling him how other men fuck & abuse me. Enjoyed me being taken advantage of by other men. Even raped. Felt awkward. I have...(more) 10-28-2014 8:44am (4 replies)
    no problem playing roles but this was a bit much.
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    • I can see that. 10-28-2014 10:01am
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      • See what? The awkwardness? 10-28-2014 10:14am
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    • Gross. Have you had an affair and does he know? 10-28-2014 11:18am
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      • yes. & no. 10-28-2014 11:24am
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  17. Cleveland TAKE ME SOMEWHERE. LOVE ME. PAMPER ME. 10-28-2014 1:55am (4 replies)
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    • lol NOPE! 10-28-2014 1:56am
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    • sad. 10-28-2014 8:44am
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    • Please? Let me. I want to. 10-28-2014 10:31am
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      • np: you had your chance. You didn't man up. 10-29-2014 8:48pm
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  18. Cleveland I picked this guy for affair bc he was so different from me--more blue collar, a big lug--that I wouldn't fall for him. But damn if he's not turning out to be adorable and sweet. 10-27-2014 7:02pm (1 reply)
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    • I am wondering what other "unintended consequences" you may not have thought through 10-27-2014 10:54pm
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  19. Cleveland How do you feel if his dw is beautiful? 10-27-2014 12:06pm (12 replies)
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    • She must be a major pain in the ass. 10-27-2014 12:43pm
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    • Objectively I'm prettier then she is. But she has a better body. 10-27-2014 1:25pm
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      • do you think about this when you are naked with him? 10-27-2014 1:29pm
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        • No. Bc he so obviously loves my body and tells me all the time. 10-27-2014 1:35pm
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          • hm. mine does as well. I can't get it out of my head though. 10-27-2014 1:37pm
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            • Well she's also a lot older then I am which makes me feel better as well. 10-27-2014 3:44pm
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    • dont be insecure. 10-27-2014 2:10pm
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      • tell me how NOT to be insecure. I hate feeling this way, I'd love to not be insecure. 10-27-2014 2:20pm
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        • or:he is enjoying you. come'on! 10-27-2014 5:46pm
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    • are you beautiful? 10-27-2014 2:21pm
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      • he says I am. I know she is more beautiful 10-27-2014 2:39pm
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    • Same as poster above, I am prettier but she has a better body. I think about it occasionally and then put it out of my mind. He and I are what we are to each other and how I...(more) 10-27-2014 3:17pm
      look relative to his dw (and similarly, what he looks like relative to my dh) aren't all that relevant.
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  20. Cleveland I'm getting really annoyed with him. I can tell he is just waiting around being passive aggressive and hoping she will eventually leave him so he doesn't have to be the one to...(more) 10-27-2014 11:30am (16 replies)
    leave. He's doing things on purpose to make her feel bad but juuuuust not obvious enough to be 'his fault'.
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    • They won't be breaking up. 10-27-2014 11:31am
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      • I know! Unless he gets up the nerve to do it. She'd accept anything and not leave him. She's already caught him three times. 10-27-2014 11:33am
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    • he sounds like a real catch. 10-27-2014 11:32am
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      • And yet she hangs on - I figure she wants to stay married to him because she she can keep making him miserable for as long as they live. 10-27-2014 11:34am
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        • more likely...she is working hard to make her marriage work and is completely frustrated and depressed. And he's out being an immature jackhole and playing hide the salami in your...(more) 10-27-2014 11:36am
          asshole.
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          • No and no. She hates him. 10-27-2014 11:38am
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            • I'm sure you know everything about their relationship. 10-27-2014 11:58am
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              • Not everything, but I know that. I know a lot. 10-27-2014 12:19pm
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        • or because divorce sucks? 10-27-2014 11:36am
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          • Divorce doesn't suck more than living your life in toxic misery while devoting your days to hurting someone and feeling unloved. 10-27-2014 11:39am
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            • that sounds a lot like life after divorce as well 10-27-2014 11:41am
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              • Only if you are doing it wrong. I'm divorced and we're not like that at all. When you divorce someone you let go of all that stuff. 10-27-2014 11:43am
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              • You have a VERY messed up view of life after divorce. np 10-27-2014 11:44am
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              • Yeah, no. 10-27-2014 12:24pm
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    • toxic drama 10-27-2014 11:33am
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  21. Cleveland This is from postsecret.com probably my new favorite site....(more) 10-27-2014 10:18am (1 reply)
    • late to the party, mom? 10-27-2014 10:19am
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  22. Cleveland Missing him. I know this expected. I miss his company, his attention,...(more) 10-27-2014 8:40am (4 replies)
    His touch. Then I remember what made me end it & I am content. Signed 4yr & over.
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    • sounds like you are progressing normally thru this process. Keep going. 10-27-2014 9:10am
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      • trying. not easy. still havent heard from him since I ended it. He either hates me or really this is not a big deal. 10-27-2014 1:22pm
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        • ^^^a good trick is when I dont feel strong is to think beyond my actions. Like if I want to email him I look what'll happen beyond my email. I will land right in this spot....(more) 10-27-2014 1:29pm
          Unless something changes. After 4yrs doubt thats going happen.
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    • what made you end it and when? have either of you ended befoe? that is a really long time, of course you miss him. 10-27-2014 11:07am
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  23. Cleveland I'm here to tell you that dreams can come true. I married my affair. He just stunk up the bathroom something awful. 10-26-2014 10:30pm (11 replies)
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    • And you dreamed about this odor? 10-26-2014 10:31pm
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    • Do you live in Rhode Island? 10-26-2014 10:31pm
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    • How bout his kids? Dreamland too? 10-26-2014 10:36pm
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      • Oh they are great. Older so not an issue. One of them is in my guest room right now. Let's get back to what's really important. My bathroom smells. 10-26-2014 10:38pm
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        • Where do you live? 10-26-2014 10:39pm
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        • is it all that different from when he makes you rim him? 10-26-2014 10:40pm
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          • Ooh I bet she does that all the time 10-26-2014 10:40pm
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            • No. In fact. I think it's strange he doesn't like any asshole action but my bathroom smells. 10-26-2014 10:42pm
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              • Maybe bc he married an assumed 10-26-2014 10:43pm
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                • Have another drink. 10-26-2014 10:43pm
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  24. Cleveland If you've had an affair, have you noticed how easy it is to spot it in others now? 10-26-2014 9:17pm (26 replies)
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    • Actually no! 10-26-2014 9:18pm
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      • Really? I can see the signs a mile away, particularly in women. 10-26-2014 9:18pm
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        • See the signs in a couple or individual? What signs? 10-26-2014 9:23pm
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          • Individual. Her personality changes, much more flirty with everyone, dresses sexier even if very subtly, maneuvers to be alone more often to call or see him, more secretive. 10-26-2014 9:25pm
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            • Ahh you're talking about the contrast - before and after affair. 10-26-2014 9:26pm
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            • poster below- Are you sure you aren't projecting? 10-26-2014 9:27pm
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              • Yes, positive. I've seen the results to confirm. 10-26-2014 9:28pm
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                • You mean suspected and then found out you were right about a person? 10-26-2014 9:29pm
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                  • Yes! 10-26-2014 9:30pm
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                    • What happened? 10-26-2014 9:32pm
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                      • I noticed those things, turned out she was fucking a neighbor and her do caught them in the act and kicked her out. 10-26-2014 9:34pm
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                        • Oh are you obsessed with the woman in your street? 10-26-2014 9:35pm
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                          • Lol no, these are women from different parts of my life. 10-26-2014 9:37pm
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                      • Another: same things, I saw her pick up a guy on a work trip, take him back to her room. 10-26-2014 9:35pm
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                • why do you spend so much time thinking about this? 10-26-2014 9:32pm
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            • LOL, you watch too much TV 10-26-2014 9:29pm
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              • Actually I watch very little tv. But ok. 10-26-2014 9:31pm
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    • I've had one and no. I think when you are in an affair you think everyone is, which isn't true at all. 10-26-2014 9:25pm
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      • I certainly don't think everyone is, that's foolish. 10-26-2014 9:26pm
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        • Not literally everyone. 10-26-2014 9:27pm
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    • No. But I'm too wrapped up in my own shit to think about other peoples shit 10-26-2014 9:27pm
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      • I am very observant. 10-26-2014 9:28pm
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        • I also don't care so much 10-26-2014 9:38pm
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          • I don't CARE, I just see it. 10-26-2014 9:39pm
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    • no. but I do now realize that when I hear of a divorce most of the time there has been an affair. 10-26-2014 9:29pm
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    • I feel like I can tell which men cheat, yes. Not so much women. 10-26-2014 9:54pm
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  25. Cleveland June mom here. Can't get a grip. Goddamit! I was doing so well... Feeling like I'm spiraling down again....pathetic, I know. What is wrong w me? 10-26-2014 4:50pm (6 replies)
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    • Honestly, I try to be supportive of you even though I don't agree with your choices. But this is tiring. You know what you need to do. Now grow up and do it! 10-26-2014 4:51pm
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      • Np - and ita. Have been 10-26-2014 5:32pm
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        • ^^ supportive but put your big girl panties on. 10-26-2014 5:33pm
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    • So I take it he never wrote back? 10-26-2014 5:15pm
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    • This is what happens when you have contact. You have to treat it like an addiction and never indulge again. This is going to take months to detox 10-26-2014 9:15pm
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    • two steps forward one step back. I told you this would happen. Don't be discouraged. Just keep moving forward and don't look back. 10-26-2014 9:54pm
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