Cleveland

  1. Cleveland Still think about him all of the time and spoke today after many months. wish i hated him the way many of you hate your formers. 1 hr 27 min ago (2 replies)
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    • I dont hate my former. Just know better now. 25 min ago
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    • life is too short. 12 min ago
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  2. Cleveland When I search gmail on new iPad mini, it automatically opens up my gmail acct. How dome disable this so that if dh were to pick it up and type in gmail, it would ask poor password...(more) 5 hr 4 min ago (14 replies)
    And not automatically bring up my account? Tia.
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    • log out of your account. 5 hr 3 min ago
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      • Op: ok, just did that. Now when I open gmail from safari, it does ask for password, but it still brings up the name of my secret gmail acct. How do I prevent that? 5 hr 1 min ago
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        • np I'll help a fellow cheater out....(more) 4 hr 56 min ago
          When it brings up the screen you just mentioned, below that it says Sign in With a Different Account. Click on that, then Remove, then the X next to your login name. Close everything, then open gmail again to be sure it worked.
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          • Op: got it!! Ty. :) 3 hr 25 min ago
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    • You're too stupid to cheat. 5 hr 3 min ago
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      • Op: lol. Word. 5 hr ago
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        • np: you seriously need to stop emailing completely. and texting. a quick phone call to confirm a meeting. and put his number in as "Brenda" or some other female name. 4 hr 54 min ago
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          • as if he cant call brenda and see that it's someone else or do a reverse look up and figure out who it is 1 hr 15 min ago
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      • lol 4 hr 36 min ago
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    • that's exactly how i got caught! 3 hr 25 min ago
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      • Op: I know - I can't believe I just now noticed this!! "Too stupid" is right. 3 hr 24 min ago
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      • idw! hottest dw on this board 1 hr 26 min ago
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        • what happened once she got caught? 1 hr 26 min ago
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          • her story to tell 1 hr 16 min ago
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  3. Cleveland Pisses me off that he shows up to work over an hour and a half late and then can't meet for lunch or leave at a reasonable hour to meet up after work. I am clearly not a priority,...(more) 5 hr 40 min ago (5 replies)
    yet he doesn't want to let me go.
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    • well, duh 5 hr 38 min ago
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    • you need to give it up....he's using you for attention. he's probably got tons of chicks_ 5 hr 38 min ago
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      • I am not the first he's done this with. He is my first. He pursued me like crazy. I was sooo resistant at first, but he was very persuasive. Now I am in. Not too deep though, so I...(more) 5 hr 37 min ago
        think I am going to tell him today it is over.
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        • i was with someone like this....i found out he was dating tons of people, i was just background noise to him 5 hr 36 min ago
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          • how did you find out? 4 hr 38 min ago
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  4. Cleveland Are all the pitts dws behaving? anyone divorce? 6 hr 35 min ago (17 replies)
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    • No, yes 6 hr 34 min ago
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      • who divorced? hope all is well now 6 hr 34 min ago
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    • yes, yes. and you? 6 hr 30 min ago
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      • how long ago? remarry? i was already separated! 6 hr 28 min ago
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        • finalized in August. I was, too. Not remarried. 6 hr 25 min ago
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          • so coming up on a year? were you monikered? 6 hr 24 min ago
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            • weren't we all? 6 hr 5 min ago
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              • not really! i think i was given one or two but none stuck 5 hr 57 min ago
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                • Some of us slid by completely under the radar. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, 1 hr ago
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              • hey Q :) 5 hr 57 min ago
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                • nah bestie 5 hr 55 min ago
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                  • can't be. bestie got remarried. 5 hr 53 min ago
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                    • oh she did? congrats!!!! so exciting 5 hr 53 min ago
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                • my guess too 5 hr 49 min ago
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                  • NP-I can not remember who the monikers were anymore. so funny. i do remember clare and mb. best vid ever. -NML 4 hr 57 min ago
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                    • ^^it wasn't mb tho, right. it was white shirt guy. 4 hr 56 min ago
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                    • The men I spoke with raved about her but she seemed rather frumpy/needy. Probably married with kids by now. 1 hr 3 min ago
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  5. Cleveland DH is ready to be my complete cuckold. Can't wait! 17 hr 23 min ago (4 replies)
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    • So unattractive to me. 17 hr 22 min ago
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    • why subject him to that? don't you love him? 17 hr 19 min ago
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    • If he's ready, then he's not your cuckold. Contradiction in terms. 17 hr 14 min ago
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    • what is a cuckold? 16 hr 38 min ago
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  6. Cleveland You know that gnawing feeling you get in your gut that it's on the wane, or he's getting less interested? It's almost never wrong - right? 17 hr 28 min ago (9 replies)
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    • correct 17 hr 28 min ago
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    • right. now's the the time to quit. 17 hr 26 min ago
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    • what makes you feel this way? 17 hr 26 min ago
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      • I don't even know. Very, very subtle changes in communication. Slightly shorter emails, etc. Mostly just my gut. 17 hr 14 min ago
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    • how long together? 17 hr 25 min ago
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    • he might be, but he will be back. they always come back, unfortunately 17 hr 17 min ago
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    • Just kick him to the curb. You know it's the right thing to do. 2 bad weeks, then it's OVER. No more gut-wrenching pain, no more checking your phone every five fucking minutes. No...(more) 16 hr 37 min ago
      more wondering, no more sneaking around, no more fear of being caught. JUST KICK HIM TO THE CURB. Seriously.
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      • np:this is the best advice. 16 hr 26 min ago
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  7. Cleveland Your thoughts...guy has been trying to hook up for awhile. I have beed avoiding. Yesterday I ran up a flight of stairs. I could here someone behind me but thought nothing of it...(more) 7-22-2014 3:57pm (11 replies)
    since I didnt think this guy saw me. I cut across & took another stairwell & could here that this person did the same. I stopped & waited to comfront & sure enough it was him. He says he'll be around today. My affair has been neglectful...thoughts?
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    • Sounds rapey. 7-22-2014 3:58pm
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    • creepy! 7-22-2014 3:58pm
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      • op:not the first time he's popped up like this. 23 hr 40 min ago
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    • great judgment, this one 7-22-2014 3:59pm
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    • What the fuck????? 19 hr 54 min ago
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      • op:crazy right???! He missed me again today.bI saw him tho. I just have to be on my guard is all. Also, meant *hear in my post. shit bothers me too. 17 hr 53 min ago
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    • This sounds like the start of a Japanese porn movie. Aka totally rapey. Wtf are you thinking? 17 hr 12 min ago
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      • op:Im wasnt thinking. I am avoiding this man for a reason. This much I know. I Need to clean this all up. 16 hr 26 min ago
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    • I am concerned for you. I am especially concerned that you don't seem in the least bit disturbed by this. News flash: this is VERY disturbing behavior. 16 hr 43 min ago
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      • op:No, I know. It does seem scary & disturbing. To me it's sad. Sad that after fighting with dh. Being ignored by affair that I have to avoid this mess with this other guy. My...(more) 16 hr 29 min ago
        life is shit when it comes to my self worth that I cant tell the difference of whats acceptable & this shit. Thank you for your concern. Really.
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  8. Cleveland Supposed to meet tomorrow but feeling bloated and PMSy. Will he notice? He'd be very disappointed if I canceled. 7-22-2014 11:24am (5 replies)
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    • just blow him. 7-22-2014 11:26am
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      • we have a hotel room and an entire afternoon. The whole works. 7-22-2014 11:26am
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        • honestly, he doesn't really care how you look. will you take it in all holes? 7-22-2014 11:28am
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    • Take pamprin...no joke it will take the bloat away and you'll feel better 7-22-2014 12:18pm
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      • thanks! Why did I not think of this myself? It will help a lot. 7-22-2014 2:03pm
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  9. Cleveland Affair is single, been with him for 3 years. No emo, just sex and we are friends. Not complicated and no love or anything. We talk when we are planning to hook up, that's...(more) 7-22-2014 9:21am (20 replies)
    pretty much it. Once a week or two. Suddenly, after 3 years I felt guilty today when we were talking about meeting. Why? I need sex. I don't get it with dh. Single affair is able to date, fuck who he wants. No prob for me. Dh is such a nice guy but there is no physical attraction and the sex once or twice a year is mechanical. Is it so wrong to fuck someone just for sex? I guess so. Man I'm at a crossroads here. I'll never find a guy like this again with no strings, no emo, mo drama and just amazing sex.
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    • maybe you're starting to care about affair more than you want to admit and that's why you feel guilty 7-22-2014 9:22am
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      • It's not that. Dh has been super nice lately and we are getting along somehow. Sigh 7-22-2014 9:25am
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        • so maybe that's the source. you feel bad for cheating bc things are easier with dh. do you ever confide in your affair at all or is it 100% sex, no conversation? 7-22-2014 9:26am
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          • We talk about it a lot. He listens to me and is honestly the only person who I can really talk to honestly about my marriage. He's a great guy and a good friend. He has also...(more) 7-22-2014 9:30am
            told me that he will never get married after talking to me lol
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            • it sounds like a perfect setup for you both. but do you think it's sustainable in the long term re: your guilty feelings? because those will eat you alive if you don't figure out...(more) 7-22-2014 9:34am
              how to address them
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              • I am actually shocked it's lasted without emo or drama for so long. I was worried at first but we seem to have hit the perfect combination of sex and friendship. I think it is...(more) 7-22-2014 9:37am
                sustainable. I mean I assume he may get a girlfriend someday and may become serious and I'll have to address that at the time, but he is really not a relationship guy so I really don't know
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                • well, it sounds really complicated but you seem to making the best of a less than ideal situation. i left my ex bc it was either that or start cheating and i couldn't live with...(more) 7-22-2014 9:41am
                  the guilt. but i don't judge either; it's not always so simple and the divorce was definitely very hard on our dcs and wrecked us both financially for years. gl to you
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                  • With dh I can see us having an open marriage eventually. I don't think either of us would want a divorce. I can actually see us living together and having separate lives...(more) 7-22-2014 9:43am
                    somewhat. Crazy I know. I'm not ready to propose that though.
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                    • i thought about this with my dh but i was worried dcs would realize what was going on and get freaked out. seemed better just to end things. but again, it was the hardest period...(more) 7-22-2014 9:45am
                      of my life (divorce process and first two years after) and dcs have definitely been impacted. i think if you can make it work with total discretion it might not be a bad option.
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                      • We've been married so long it is just so hard to think about leaving now :( 7-22-2014 9:58am
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    • I'd be worried the guy would eventually give me hpv or herpes if he was dating other women. You can get both while using a condom. 7-22-2014 10:01am
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      • I don't want to see a married guy. And I can't expect him to wait around for my once a week company lol. He's single! Not that worried, I guess I'm dumb. 7-22-2014 10:07am
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        • And btw, they can't test guys for hpv anyway, so no way to test anyone first 7-22-2014 10:08am
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          • I know they can't test. That's why I worry about it. I want affair to be monogamous but I get your point about not wanting to have sex with a married guy. 7-22-2014 10:10am
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            • I mean I've already fucked my life up, really don't wanna do it to another persons marriage 7-22-2014 10:12am
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              • It helps that you don't have sex with dh. I mean, if I got a disease, it wld be hard to hide from dh since we have sex twice a week 7-22-2014 10:14am
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                • We do like twice a year. Nothing happened yet. Hopefully never will :/ 7-22-2014 10:46am
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                  • so he just tells you when he fucks someone else? 23 hr 6 min ago
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                    • It's always been clear. He has had girlfriends come and go and goes out with friends all the time, he's a player, part of what I like about him believe it or not 19 hr 55 min ago
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    • shit, Ive been with my single guy for abouy the same time. we do the love thing. He doesnt sleep around. says im his woman. 7-22-2014 2:09pm
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  10. Cleveland Today my affair told me I was the "best sex ever". dh told me I was the "best wife ever". Things are good, I'm handling it. Life at home is good and I'm getting away with...(more) 7-21-2014 9:45pm (11 replies)
    affair on the side and I make everyone in my life happy
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    • tinypic your bad self 7-21-2014 9:46pm
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    • Everything is awesome except your soul. 7-21-2014 9:46pm
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    • You are certainly an inspiration. Practical Mother Teresa 7-21-2014 9:48pm
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    • Yet you clearly feel the need to justify it here. (Affair mom) Or, fake. 7-21-2014 9:50pm
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    • That would make me feel terrible 7-21-2014 9:51pm
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    • You're getting your insecure ego stroked without ruining your life. For now. Enjoy it while it lasts. 7-21-2014 9:58pm
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    • i used to tell affair he was the best I'd ever had...one of many lies I told back then 7-21-2014 10:32pm
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      • This is so true. I also lied a lot to myself. 7-21-2014 11:02pm
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      • yup. i would lie to affair all the time. 7-21-2014 11:13pm
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        • np: I'm glad I ended up lying to affair. He turned out to be a nasty psycho. Fuck him. 7-21-2014 11:15pm
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      • np:I never told anyone this, truth is dh is the best sex ive ever had. Ive been told by affar(s) that I was the best. Made no difference if it was true or not. 7-21-2014 11:17pm
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  11. Cleveland I met him here years ago. I want to email him to see how he's doing. Yes or No? 7-21-2014 9:21pm (17 replies)
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    • totally, i guess. is it me? 7-21-2014 9:25pm
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      • Doubtful, but if it is, you'll know tomorrow. Since you seem to want to be asked, how are you? 7-21-2014 9:28pm
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    • Yes. I reach out now and then to someone from 4 years ago and it's nice catching up. 7-21-2014 9:34pm
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      • no doubt either k or rainy day mom are involved in this scenario. 7-21-2014 10:32pm
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        • k? maybe, but not sure. 7-21-2014 11:16pm
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    • - no subject -...(more) 7-21-2014 9:58pm
      Why did you stop talking in the first place?
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      • pitts happened. I got nervous....(more) 7-22-2014 12:28pm
        I emailed, he replied. Talked on the phone for a few So glad I reached out.
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        • You guys gonna get on your good foot and do the bad thing? 7-22-2014 12:31pm
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          • nah. I'm not even looking and we're better as friends 7-22-2014 12:33pm
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            • It is a scientific fact that unattractive girls try harder in bed, so you should embrace it. 7-22-2014 12:37pm
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              • go away 7-22-2014 1:06pm
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              • np: so fucked up 16 hr 24 min ago
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        • which DH? did he have a moniker? hint? asking because I've been thinking of doing this too. 21 hr 15 min ago
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    • Yes. It's nice to catch up with old friends. 7-22-2014 10:48am
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    • Shape it up Get straight Go forward Move ahead Try to detect it It's not too late To whip it Well, whip it good 7-22-2014 12:20pm
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  12. Cleveland Awwww. Such good news. My grandmothers caregiver is finally able to bring her family to live. It's taken her seven years to do it legally. I'm so so happy for her. 7-21-2014 9:05pm (1 reply)
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    • whatever whore 7-21-2014 11:14pm
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  13. Cleveland Will affair have sex with you if you have your period?...(more) 7-21-2014 8:59pm (11 replies)
    Mine does and after I get over my oh boy this is gross. It's rather enjoyable.
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    • Yes. 7-21-2014 9:06pm
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    • yes. 7-21-2014 9:09pm
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    • Yep 7-21-2014 9:30pm
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    • Duh won't even have sex with me twice in a session or in a day. So......(more) 7-21-2014 10:00pm
      No.
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      • Wont? Or can't? 7-21-2014 10:17pm
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        • Doesn't want to even try when I ask for more. 7-21-2014 10:18pm
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          • What's up with that? 7-21-2014 10:27pm
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    • He'll go down on me 7-22-2014 12:11am
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      • sexy as fuck 17 hr 27 min ago
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        • Op: I draw the line at that! 17 hr 15 min ago
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    • Yes. Repeatedly. But won't put his fingers there, which he usually does sooo well. I don't know if I should ask - is he thinking I wouldn't like it? 5 hr 10 min ago
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  14. Cleveland Do you tell your affair about another man trying to persue you? I am not talking about flirting I mean like this other guy shows up places & does tgings to consume my thoughts. 7-21-2014 8:53pm (11 replies)
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    • like sticking his tongue in your...(more) 7-21-2014 8:54pm
      ass?
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      • no, this guy hasnt done that. we've only kissed, because he tells me to do so. I know he is dangerous. I have tried to avoid him. He got a hold of me. Must of saw me in a...(more) 7-21-2014 8:58pm
        distance.shit.
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        • So two affairs ? 7-21-2014 8:59pm
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          • op:no. I will have to start charging at that point & I am not down with that. 7-21-2014 9:04pm
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    • Why would I jeopardize affair 7-21-2014 8:54pm
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      • op: shit, I can say the same for dh! 7-21-2014 8:59pm
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        • Lose affair and go for the scumbag then but don't have 3 men 7-21-2014 9:00pm
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          • "scumbag"? do you know him? 7-21-2014 9:05pm
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    • I've mentioned a couple of times when other men from my past have texted me looking for a hookup. This serves two purposes 1. Full disclosure. 2. Keeps him on his toes. 7-21-2014 9:07pm
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      • op; I dont think I am going to do it. Altough, I enjoy the keeping him on his toes part. 7-21-2014 9:11pm
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        • I mostly do it bc we are stupid honest with each other. Which is rather ironic. 7-21-2014 9:13pm
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  15. Cleveland Watching unfaithful with Richard Gere. Makes me nervous as shit 7-21-2014 7:50pm (5 replies)
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    • you're sitting next to Richard Gere? 7-21-2014 7:51pm
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    • hot sex 7-21-2014 7:52pm
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      • yes, that bathroom scene...so good. 7-21-2014 8:53pm
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    • you worried about dw knocking you out dead? 7-21-2014 8:54pm
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    • my god that is the most arousing movie I've ever seen. I like to end the movie just before he finds out. At that point it's perfect. She's got a good family at home in the suburbs...(more) 7-21-2014 9:41pm
      and she's got the handsome bit on the side in the city. Perfection
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  16. Cleveland Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be 7-21-2014 6:49pm (6 replies)
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    • you wouldn't be happy without the forbidden fruit factor 7-21-2014 7:01pm
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      • np - we'd have plenty of issues to work out but that isn't one of them. 7-21-2014 7:37pm
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      • you mean my costco peaches? 7-21-2014 7:38pm
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    • I know, me too. 7-21-2014 7:36pm
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    • nah, not me. told him if i were ever single i would be just that! & he IS single. 7-21-2014 9:01pm
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    • I sometimes think about what it would be like being with him. I occasionally think it would be great. But most of the time I think that once we had to deal wht the real world we...(more) 7-21-2014 9:14pm
      would fast become completely disillusioned with each other.
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  17. Cleveland Interesting that under the anniv pics his dw posted ppl commented that they have an admirable marriage and the two of them make marriage look fun. 7-21-2014 11:41am (20 replies)
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    • That should tell YOU something. 7-21-2014 11:48am
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      • I've been trying to figure it out. 7-21-2014 11:49am
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        • ^what do you think it means? 7-21-2014 11:50am
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    • Maybe they do have a great marriage and he rationalizes that you are just a side piece. Maybe you should stop 7-21-2014 11:54am
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      • should I flat-out ask him? We've been together 5 yrs. 7-21-2014 11:57am
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        • ^he tells me he loves me every day. every single email. Sends me love songs, says I'm his love. 7-21-2014 12:00pm
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          • If he loved you that much he would leave to be with you. 7-21-2014 5:54pm
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            • This isn't true. Just ask on toddler how many women would stay married even if they loved someone else. 7-21-2014 11:32pm
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    • Facebook is stupid that way. 7-21-2014 12:04pm
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      • ok I get that. But no one would ever say that about my marriage. 7-21-2014 12:05pm
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    • He loves her. He just does. Likes a side piece and high quality fuck. 7-21-2014 5:53pm
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      • please. He can't even respect her enough to not cheat on her. He doesn't even know what love is. 7-21-2014 7:32pm
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      • A man cheating on dw with no intention of stopping doesn't love her. It's one thing to have an indiscretion or two but full out affairs- no. He doesnt want to lose Dcs money and...(more) 7-21-2014 10:36pm
        Respect.
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        • And his comfy home and family life 7-22-2014 12:10am
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    • Isn't it ironic? 7-21-2014 6:28pm
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    • wives are queens. period. 7-21-2014 9:05pm
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      • no they are fools 7-21-2014 10:33pm
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        • no. we are. 7-21-2014 11:19pm
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          • one is not exclusive of the other. 7-22-2014 12:27pm
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          • she IS a fool along with the affair. 7-22-2014 3:18pm
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  18. Cleveland I'm finding his behavior pathetic and a total turnoff now. He's married. He's a good friend too. But it's not working for me anymore because he's a wimp. What was I seeing...(more) 7-21-2014 8:19am (3 replies)
    before?!
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    • all the things his wife saw 7-21-2014 8:24am
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      • Op - probably!! Also it's the same feeling I had about my ex sort of. Sucks. 7-21-2014 8:26am
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    • It was a sad day when I realized mine was a 6'4 pussy. 7-21-2014 9:06pm
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  19. Cleveland 4 months post breakup. Think of him every day. Occasional crying jags, still...(more) 7-21-2014 8:17am (5 replies)
    Keep reminding myself this is the best end possible, better than families hurt. Still. This is HARD. If you're thinking of aff, don't do it!
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    • But hurting his and your families wasnt an issue initially, when you wanted to fuck him 7-21-2014 8:18am
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      • It was always an issue. And we never had sex. Still painful 7-21-2014 8:37am
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    • Qbj mom? Was wondering how you are. I'm pretty sure I'm going to go through the same devastation soon. 7-21-2014 6:33pm
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      • op: yes it's me. Sorry to hear but why? What's going on? 7-21-2014 9:47pm
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        • he's texting less and we haven't seen each other as much. Could be that he's busy and he just was on vacation but that didn't stop him before. I need to detach because the slow...(more) 7-22-2014 10:09am
          burn out is hell. But I don't think I can replace him.
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  20. Cleveland Please help me remember he's a self centered jerk. 7-21-2014 12:06am (1 reply)
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    • He REALLY IS a self-centered jerk. Stop the insanity. 7-21-2014 12:20am
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  21. Cleveland He told me he could never be whole without me. He told me I'm the only person who ever really knew him, the only person he ever really loved. He said he could never imagine his...(more) 7-20-2014 8:49pm (4 replies)
    world without me in it. He said so many things. We would grow old together. He knows our live together would be happy and good and something he could never get right now. And yet he is still deciding to stay married.
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    • Well yeah. You're honestly surprised? 7-20-2014 8:51pm
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    • This is how they all are. Nothing new. Grab some dignity and respect for yourself and get out. 7-20-2014 8:53pm
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      • Already did. Note all this is past tense. 7-20-2014 8:54pm
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    • Yep. I've heard that song before. The good news: I found someone who actually meant those things. I'm getting divorced and I suspect I'll be with this guy until one of us dies (he...(more) 7-21-2014 12:21am
      is single).
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  22. Cleveland Over 24 hours now and no contact. Maybe he really won't come back to me after all. 7-20-2014 4:37pm (15 replies)
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    • If this isn't making you happy it's time to change something 7-20-2014 4:37pm
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      • Sorry, back story, I left him. Told him he had to leave and be with me for real, none of this cheating shit anymore. He said he would never be whole without me but he couldn't...(more) 7-20-2014 4:41pm
        leave now. I've done this before and he contacts me for some small thing and if I don't get back to him then he starts ranting about how I've already replaced him so I always get back to him. We end up still talking but he doesn't leave. Eventually I get too angry to deal with it and cycle repeats.
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        • Then you're doing the right thing. I hope it works out. 7-20-2014 4:42pm
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          • Me too. I'm both encouraged that it is sticking and discouraged that this means he has decided to be done with me for good. 7-20-2014 4:45pm
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            • But it's what you told him you wanted. 7-20-2014 4:45pm
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              • It is what I want - for him to not use me as a crutch so he can stand his crappy marriage and stay in it. I just want him to want me so much he can't stand me being away so that...(more) 7-20-2014 4:48pm
                he is motivated to divorce. Either way, yes, it is what I want. I mean, if he isn't actually interested then I'd rather know that too, I guess.
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                • Yeah, an affair with an eye to leaving spouses is a whole different ball of wax than an affair with no intention of leaving. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. 7-20-2014 4:48pm
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                  • Thanks. I'm feeling pretty alone in the world right now. Like I'll never be good enough. He has said I will get over him quickly and move on but he will have to just sit and...(more) 7-20-2014 4:50pm
                    live knowing he let real happiness go.
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                    • Forgive the question. I'm a little confused. You are married or you are not married? 7-20-2014 4:54pm
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                      • I'm not. 7-20-2014 4:54pm
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                        • OK. Then you really should move on quickly. Go find someone have fun and feel good about yourself. 7-20-2014 4:58pm
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                          • I'm not going to date. I'm too messed up to do that. Also, I'm really hoping he will just show up and tell me he does need me. Even if he doesn't (and I realize that is...(more) 7-20-2014 5:01pm
                            unlikely) dating someone while hoping for that isn't fair to anyone.
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                            • Oh, Honey. I don't mean this to disparage you at all, but you sound like a good, smart therapist would be a big help. 7-20-2014 5:03pm
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                              • I agree but it isn't in the budget. 7-20-2014 5:04pm
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                                • Well, try to be kind to yourself. 7-20-2014 5:07pm
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  23. Cleveland I don't think it's ever gonna end. We keep ending and getting back together. Pathetic 7-20-2014 9:00am (3 replies)
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    • so why bother ending 7-20-2014 9:08am
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      • He makes me so damn mad 7-20-2014 10:22am
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        • np: you are me! He has just pissed me off yet again! 7-20-2014 9:07pm
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  24. Cleveland Fuck, I'm in trouble. I met someone I really like. I have a great DH and yet I know I'm going to fall for this other guy. There's no good ending to this, is there? 7-19-2014 11:04pm (6 replies)
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    • just stop it 7-19-2014 11:04pm
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    • you're choosing this ending. so yeah, there are others. 7-19-2014 11:05pm
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    • Nope. Btdt. You need to stay away, but you won't. See you on Cleveland next year. 7-19-2014 11:09pm
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    • guys on the side and feelings do not mix. The ideal affair is someone very fuckable without being lovable. 7-19-2014 11:11pm
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    • your wording is interesting. You have a great DH - NOT I really love my DH. People can be great people, even great dads or husbands, but not great matches. You are allowed to...(more) 7-20-2014 4:39pm
      not be happy in a marriage even when the other person is 'great'. Either way, geezes woman, ovary up here. Make your marriage exciting enough so that your eyes don't wander or leave. You are going to cause so much pain with what's in your head.
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      • This is very perceptive. Thank you. 7-20-2014 7:25pm
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  25. Cleveland We ended it. Again. We've done this many times before. He always gets anxious about what I'm doing and reaches out to me and I always reply back. Cycle repeat. I don't know...(more) 7-19-2014 7:49pm (17 replies)
    how to deal with this. When he contacts me, I have to reply back or he will get really mad and assume I'm with some other guy. He KNOWS he isn't supposed to be contacted me unless he is single. I need to be stronger about not responding and ignoring his contacts and just letting him get mad. The hardest is yet to come.
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    • Are you married too??? What is he jealous of? 7-19-2014 7:50pm
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      • No, I divorced. He thinks I'm out dating. 7-19-2014 7:50pm
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        • You should be. He's a douche. 7-19-2014 7:51pm
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          • I'm too relationship-stupid to date. I think that has been well established. I'm like a dowsing rod for douches. Though I really do need to let him just get mad and NOT respond...(more) 7-19-2014 7:53pm
            .
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            • How did you meet him? He won't leave his wife? 7-19-2014 7:57pm
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              • Met through an activity our kids are both in. He won't as long as his kids are home although.. he may never. 7-19-2014 7:59pm
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    • made how? 7-19-2014 11:31pm
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    • Black his number. Change your phone number. Done. You don't want it to end or you would have ended it 7-20-2014 4:39pm
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      • Nope, I don't want to end it. I want him to come back to me free and clear. Blocking his number would have the same effect not responding to his attempted contact would have -...(more) 7-20-2014 4:44pm
        he would decide I was out dating and get extremely mad. That is a problem since I want him to eventually be with me - although in sane moments he does tell me to just let him rant and he will get through it and not really be mad at me. Either way, he hasn't contacted me in over 24 hours. Hurts but I think he has actually decided to be without me.
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        • He will never be with you. Ever 7-20-2014 11:31pm
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          • Reality is that it happens sometimes. 7-21-2014 10:12am
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            • But he's shown you that he isn't leaving. You aren't listening 7-21-2014 6:22pm
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              • What part makes you think I'm not listening? The part where I say I think he has actually decided to be without me? Either way - he has said that he has always planned, even...(more) 7-21-2014 7:28pm
                before meeting me, to divorce after his kids leave the house. Him actually following through with that or not is up in the air but either way, we've ended things as they are now.
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