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  1. Cleveland DD for DW's affair was Valentine's Day a few years back. I don't want to take part in Valenine's day as it just picks the scab off an old wound. What do i do? 2-9-2016 9:45am (18 replies)
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    • nothing. you do nothing. 2-9-2016 9:46am
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    • You move on. Seriously, its been a couple of years, and its only Valentine's Day! 2-9-2016 9:51am
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      • this is kind of insensitive, no? I mean, you don't just "move on" after something like that. 2-9-2016 10:03am
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        • At some point you do. It's been a couple of years, it's time to move on. 2-9-2016 10:04am
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          • he can't unknow that another dick was in his dw's mouth and vagina. 2-9-2016 10:07am
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            • I feel so much better. 2-9-2016 10:17am
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            • Maybe even in her ass!! 2-9-2016 4:55pm
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              • We were not lacking in that department. Lack of was not an issue. Thanks for your support. 2-9-2016 6:23pm
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    • dd? what does that mean? 2-9-2016 9:59am
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      • Discovery Day 2-9-2016 10:00am
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    • I hope you're in therapy. 2-9-2016 2:56pm
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    • how'd you find out? how is your marriage now? 2-9-2016 4:07pm
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      • DW said she needed some time a part (after 27 years) that was the big clue. I went to the phone records and literally 2000 texts in the last 2 weeks to the same number. I called...(more) 2-9-2016 4:11pm
        the number from work and a voice that sounded like the character Shaft said "leave a message" I knew I was in trouble. She asked me for a gift coupon for waxing for Valentines day. I gave it to her and said I hope your boyfriend enjoys it.
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        • Marriage now is pretty good, lots of counseling, time, pain but pretty good. Just lost my innocence. Thought I had everything. Now I have a thorn that pricks me every now and...(more) 2-9-2016 4:21pm
          then
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          • Tee hee. You said prick. 2-9-2016 4:54pm
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          • I am sorry I know the feeling. Cheater always think it is just about them. 2-10-2016 8:05am
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            • and if V-day is too painful then screw it. Don't celebrate. What is she going to to? Go find herself a man to cheat with? Probably because that is what she does. 2-10-2016 8:07am
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  2. Cleveland Meeting a guy off Tinder- both of us recently separated, both looking to have some fun. I haven't had sex in years. How do these thing work, I just want to meet him and if...(more) 2-8-2016 6:12pm (14 replies)
    attraction, make out for awhile. Don't want to go all the way first time. Anyone btdt?
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    • wax 2-8-2016 6:13pm
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      • Lol. Meaning what, we are going to do it? 2-8-2016 6:14pm
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        • yes - and you should 2-8-2016 6:14pm
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          • I am so nervous. I don't know if I can handle it. 2-8-2016 6:16pm
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            • you just will 2-8-2016 6:16pm
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              • It truly has been years. I feel like once I get started I will want to tear him apart. And then who is to say we will even be attracted?!? 2-8-2016 6:18pm
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    • i love how adult women say "go all the way" 2-8-2016 6:14pm
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      • Not the time to flame. I am already so nervous I just can't imagine having sex. 2-8-2016 6:15pm
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        • imagine swallowing a hot load 2-8-2016 6:15pm
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          • Actually I just imagine getting fucked really hard. But really, just do it as soon as I meet him? 2-8-2016 6:17pm
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            • no but it's like going fishing, you may not catch anything but he may want to get his rod in the water 2-8-2016 6:18pm
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              • So his expectation is to have sex? 2-8-2016 6:19pm
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    • Are you married? Aren't you worried someone you know will see you on Tinder? 2-9-2016 11:02am
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  4. Cleveland Just great. I'm ending mine and there's no one to chat about it. 2-3-2016 12:30am (3 replies)
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    • I'll talk to you 2-3-2016 7:49am
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      • not quite over yet. i'll get back to you. ;) 2-4-2016 10:42pm
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    • Go ahead 2-7-2016 4:01pm
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  5. Cleveland What's worse? One long affair or a series of flings and one time flings? 2-1-2016 10:38pm (4 replies)
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    • first one 2-1-2016 10:39pm
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    • I think they're bad in different ways. 2-1-2016 11:03pm
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    • Worse for what? Worse for the marriage or what means you're a worse person? I tend to think the series of flings is a worse person than someone who has one serious person. 2-4-2016 1:00pm
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    • one wrong 2-6-2016 6:22pm
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  6. Cleveland Anyone on tonight? 1-30-2016 9:21pm (18 replies)
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    • Me!!! 1-30-2016 9:22pm
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      • There we go! DW or DH? 1-30-2016 9:23pm
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        • Dw. You? 1-30-2016 9:24pm
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          • DH... things getting better... ;> 1-30-2016 9:24pm
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            • ^^ and I'm never on when anyone else is... it must be luck and the bottle of wine in me right now. 1-30-2016 9:26pm
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            • But now you appear to be gone... 1-30-2016 9:28pm
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              • Nope. But I think we've btdt before. 1-30-2016 9:30pm
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                • Well that's some irony... 1-30-2016 9:30pm
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                  • Isn't it? You lost interest. 1-30-2016 9:31pm
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                    • Hmmm... give me a hint about you that I would recognize? 1-30-2016 9:31pm
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                      • Hmmmm. Fantasies? 1-30-2016 9:34pm
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                        • I suspect many exchanges here involve that. Maybe I'm not him? 1-30-2016 9:35pm
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                          • True. Any dws up for a distraction? 1-30-2016 9:36pm
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                            • You're still clever... ;> 1-30-2016 9:37pm
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                              • I try. I'm signed in. 1-30-2016 9:38pm
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                                • - no subject -...(more) 1-30-2016 9:38pm
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  7. Cleveland If affair's parent passed away unexpectedly would you go to the funeral, staying in the back unobtrusively? 1-28-2016 9:39am (41 replies)
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    • No. 1-28-2016 9:40am
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    • Fuck no. The last thing that person needs is having nerves rattled by affair's presence. 1-28-2016 9:40am
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    • no I wouldnt go 1-28-2016 9:40am
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    • lol, you're fucking crazy. 1-28-2016 9:41am
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    • Are you insane? 1-28-2016 9:41am
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    • What the fucking fuck is wrong with you??!?! 1-28-2016 9:41am
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      • well he just called me to tell me and that's what you do for someone you love, you go to show your support. No one there knows me! 1-28-2016 9:42am
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        • Please go. Tell us how it goes down in the receiving line. 1-28-2016 9:45am
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          • I'd skip that. Do you think I'd go to flaunt myself? Jesus. I'd go for the service, sit in the back and slip out without even talking to affair. 1-28-2016 9:46am
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            • don't fucking go you nosy freak. you just want to look at his wife and be a fucking asshole. go die in a hole. 1-28-2016 9:47am
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              • actually seeing his dw is the reason I probably won't go. So you've got me wrong. 1-28-2016 9:49am
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                • you are truly idiotic 1-28-2016 9:49am
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                • yeah because it's all about you and how you feel. lmao. 1-28-2016 9:50am
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                  • well, another poster said it would unnerve him and I don't want to do that to him. So I won't go. Relax everyone. 1-28-2016 9:53am
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                    • the fact that you can't figure this one out for yourself says a lot. 1-28-2016 9:53am
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                      • have you SEEN the questions ppl post on Toddler? "Oh my, how do I possibly get through the airport with a 7yo?" "My 22yo trashes the apt we pay for and is so disrespectful,...(more) 1-28-2016 9:56am
                        whatever shall I do?" "My dh came home with a used condom in his pocket, do you think he may be cheating on me?" Come ON!!
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                        • And yet, your question is not only the worst, you received a YBM consensus. 1-28-2016 9:58am
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                          • great, then I know what to do. Thanks everyone! I appreciate it :) 1-28-2016 9:59am
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            • How are you providing support [insert insult]? 1-28-2016 9:51am
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        • Love!??!? 1-28-2016 9:45am
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        • Have fun at the funeral, crazypants 1-28-2016 9:45am
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        • Ha ha ha ha ha ha 1-28-2016 9:50am
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        • He doesn't love you, he loves your PUSSY 1-28-2016 9:51am
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          • ok yes yes, whatever. 1-28-2016 9:54am
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    • OMG 1-28-2016 9:41am
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    • Paging Glen Close to the set... 1-28-2016 9:42am
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    • hahahahahaha, you think he wants you there? get yourself into therapy. wow. 1-28-2016 9:42am
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      • wow you are really rude 1-28-2016 9:45am
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        • you are fucking someone else other than your Dh and I'm the rude one? just how fucking delusional are you? 1-28-2016 9:48am
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        • YOU ARE HAVING AN AFFAIR, YOU FREAK OF NATURE, YOU ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO CALL SOMEONE ELSE RUDE. LMAO. 1-28-2016 9:49am
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    • Do you have a close relationship with your affair's parent? 1-28-2016 9:44am
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      • no. but you dont' go for the dead, you go to support the living who loved the one who passed away 1-28-2016 9:45am
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        • are you seeing a shrink? do you not realize how crazy you sound? 1-28-2016 9:49am
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    • hahahaha, thanks for the laugh. 1-28-2016 9:52am
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    • No. But you can go to your affair's funeral, sit in the back and stifle back the urge to weep. See where your lot is in life with the man. Think about it and do better for...(more) 1-28-2016 1:12pm
      yourself.
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      • are you the poster whose affair passed away? 1-28-2016 2:55pm
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        • Yes. but I don't think I've ever posted. 1-28-2016 3:38pm
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          • what ended up happening? 1-28-2016 3:56pm
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            • I left ex asshole and trying to move on. It's been years. Just starting to date again. 1-28-2016 3:58pm
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    • Hell no. Happy it was over and I did not get caught. 1-28-2016 7:41pm
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      • oh wait, i thought it said affair... 1-28-2016 7:48pm
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  8. Cleveland My friend was in an affair and was caught. Went to counseling to save marriage but slipped back into affair. She was caught again and back to therapy with her dh. They have no...(more) 1-27-2016 10:29pm (5 replies)
    children, I don't get why she doesn't just leave.
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    • You don't "slip back into" an affair. 1-27-2016 10:30pm
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      • go back to affair. rekindle? its all the same 1-27-2016 10:40pm
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      • oh it's very very easy. It's much harder NOT to. 1-28-2016 8:58am
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      • You get sucked back in 1-28-2016 9:00am
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    • I know someone like this!! I agree, no idea why they don't split. Her or him. Actually, him especially. 1-29-2016 1:27am
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  9. Cleveland Did Al Jazeera go off the air or only off DirecTV? 1-27-2016 11:47am (2 replies)
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  10. Cleveland Broke up a week ago taday. Had a quick flurry of emails in between and cut off all communication now. I feel so.much.better. Lighter. Happier. So much happier not being anxious...(more) 1-27-2016 11:45am (3 replies)
    about his bs. This is going great!
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    • how long were you together? 1-27-2016 5:06pm
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      • 6 yrs 1-28-2016 8:59am
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        • that's a really long time. HOw are you today? 1-28-2016 6:50pm
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  11. Cleveland Difference between Love and Lust...(more) 1-25-2016 3:21pm (0 replies)
  12. Cleveland When giving dh a BJ he sometimes doesnt look at me. when giving affair a BJ he focus is on me. Dh tired of my face? 1-24-2016 9:31am (6 replies)
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    • Do you blame him? 1-24-2016 9:32am
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      • op:ugh, if dh would just stop taking me for granted & want me as much as I want him my focus would be all dh 1-24-2016 9:36am
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    • He is probably closing his eyes imaging your affair is the one blowing him. 1-24-2016 9:32am
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    • I would be tired of your busted face too 1-24-2016 9:37am
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      • op:I am quite pretty & sexy. Agree, he is tired. Married over 20 yrs. 1-24-2016 9:48am
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  13. Cleveland Went out with dh last night, dressed up, low cut blouse. Dh didn't make any effort, wanted to be "comfortable" which means sloppy. During dinner he barely talked even when I tried...(more) 1-23-2016 12:01pm (13 replies)
    Different topics. I know he wasn't mad, just like "eh". Didn't say anything bout how I looked, never glanced at cleavage, nothing. This is what I'll miss about affair tbh--the conversations, feeling desired, feeling sexy. The excitement. My cheating days are over but I need to resign myself to boredom the rest of my life I guess.
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    • Your cheating days are over? 1-23-2016 12:03pm
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      • That's what I said, yes. 1-23-2016 12:07pm
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    • I'm really against cheating but posts like this make me understand it 1-23-2016 12:04pm
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      • if you are a selfish ass maybe 1-23-2016 12:09pm
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      • Thank you. 1-23-2016 12:10pm
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      • It would, except that divorce exists... 1-26-2016 10:05am
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    • do you ever discuss this with him? maybe he was having an off day? who knows. But to expect hot and heavy moments when you have been married x years seems futile. We are not made...(more) 1-23-2016 12:08pm
      to have the same urges and lusting as we did when we first met. You can enjoy what your marriage has evolved into which you would never get with an affair.
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      • Not an off day, it's just him. I'm really focusing on the good things and what I appreciate about him and about marriage but some moments kind of hit you, you know? 1-23-2016 12:11pm
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        • visitor from toddler board, here. if my dh acted like that, you can be sure i'd look elsewhere. 1-23-2016 12:14pm
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          • OP. Ha, don't tempt me to stray again. 1-23-2016 12:18pm
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            • NP: I wouldn't blame you and I'm as loyal as they come. Sure it's not going to be like the beginning of a relationship or even as exciting as an affair but your husband should be...(more) 1-24-2016 8:40am
              making some effort.
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    • You will cheat again 1-23-2016 4:09pm
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    • Difference Between Love & Lust...(more) 1-25-2016 3:21pm
  14. Cleveland Any dhs on? Why do you cheat on dw? 1-21-2016 3:43pm (6 replies)
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    • Excitement, want more sex than getting at home, wife doesn't appreciate me, I like the attention. 1-22-2016 8:37pm
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      • How do you find the women? 1-22-2016 8:38pm
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        • Only one woman 1-22-2016 8:43pm
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          • How did you find her? 1-22-2016 8:45pm
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            • Someone I work with, but not directly. 1-22-2016 8:46pm
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              • how do you feel about her? is it physical only or also emotional? 1-25-2016 1:19pm
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  15. Cleveland Ended 5+ year affair today. At moments I feel ecstatic and free, them a few mins later very sad, then angry, then calm, then cycle through it all again. Is this normal and how...(more) 1-20-2016 9:29pm (8 replies)
    long does it last?
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    • Until you accept reality 1-20-2016 9:30pm
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    • i'm sorry. must be very difficult. sounds like you are cycling thru appropriate emotions 1-20-2016 9:31pm
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      • Thank you for not flaming. It's for the best and I'm not as broken up about it as I thought I'd be. But when do I stop thinking about him? A month? More? I want to fast forward to...(more) 1-20-2016 9:35pm
        that time and never have him enter my thoughts again.
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        • i dont know the story or why it ended so its hard to say. but one day at a time 1-20-2016 9:36pm
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    • Yes it's normal. Might last years. Stick with it though. 1-20-2016 9:35pm
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      • No no no. Not years, I'm not giving him any more of my time or attention. I'll keep busy, that should help. 1-20-2016 9:37pm
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    • depends how much you've already let go and how many times you've broken up in the past. 1-21-2016 8:52pm
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  16. Cleveland You know how they say men cheat down? I think it goes for both sexes. The guys women end up in affairs with are really awful. 1-20-2016 9:44am (26 replies)
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    • I know women who are married to their affairs and are very happy 1-20-2016 9:46am
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    • mostly, people who will engage in affairs are fucked up. 1-20-2016 9:47am
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      • at one time I would have wholeheartedly disagreed with this, but now....you are completely correct. 1-20-2016 9:50am
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        • I know this is the affair board, but...it's the truth. If you're having an affair, there's something terribly wrong in your life. The affair ain't gonna fix it. 1-20-2016 9:55am
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          • true. Except..I do think men more often do it for a thrill, not bc they hate their marriage. 1-20-2016 9:59am
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            • mmm...maybe they say that. But I think that unless the individual has major issues or the relationship is fucked up, the person won't thrill seek that way. 1-20-2016 10:03am
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              • np: even if they end up leaving wife for affair? 1-20-2016 10:05am
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                • my ex left me for his affair. sort of. he would have happily lived forever with being married to me and having an affair. I threw him out. But...yeah. These are not healthy...(more) 1-20-2016 10:24am
                  people.
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                  • this is my affair. Well, ex-affair as of an hour ago. He foresaw us continuing this way forever while married to others. Saw nothing wrong with it. I can't do it anymore. 1-20-2016 12:22pm
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    • do they say this? as a cheated on (x) wife, that's interesting : ) 1-20-2016 9:58am
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      • I've seen it said on yb all the time. 1-20-2016 10:01am
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      • my affair's dw is waaay better looking than me, better body, everything. 1-20-2016 10:01am
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        • Np - my ex affairs dw had an amazing body but I was much prettier. 1-20-2016 12:01pm
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    • I don't see this at all. 1-20-2016 1:26pm
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    • in terms of looks, there's probably a wide range but skews to the affair being better looking. think of all the younger women men cheat with. 1-20-2016 3:01pm
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      • younger doesn't necessarily = better looking! 1-20-2016 4:52pm
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    • I'm obviously biased, but not in my case. His wife is a SAHM slug. He's been mad because she won't get a job even though the kids are grown and out of the house. 1-20-2016 4:55pm
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      • but he still won't leave her. I don't get it. 1-21-2016 9:58am
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        • For him it is ego. He was raised in a very strict religious environment that focused on image and how people see you. He can't be talked about in his church community and...(more) 1-21-2016 10:22am
          among his ex in laws (who would talk to his kids) as the man who left his wife. It is a really dysfunctional relationship, she hates him and resents that he doesn't love her, they won't talk about anything at all without yelling at each other. They got married in the first place because she stopped using birth control in college without telling him. His whole life has been an obligation and image and stepping up to do what he should do. He isn't capable of feeling like he's let his kids down by divorcing and he can't see how much he is coloring their view of marriage by raising them in a house where the only times mom and dad talk to or about each other are when arranging kid things and putting each other down. She caught him once and got really mad and the emotions gave him the nerve to say he wanted a divorce once although I suspect he only said that to manipulate her into shutting up about catching him. She called the kids into the room and told them d
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          • told them dad was leaving them and that he didn't love them. The kids are older. They all stopped talking to him for days/weeks until he caved and agreed to 'work on the...(more) 1-21-2016 10:26am
            marriage'. There he stays. I don't get why he doesn't work through it either. Mostly I don't get why she stays.
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            • ugh that sounds awful. you can see why he's cheating I guess. My ex-affair has the perfect life and still cheats. That's even harder to understand. 1-21-2016 10:36am
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          • Do you ever think that some of the things he says about her aren't true? Lots of cheaters lie. I lied to my affair. 1-21-2016 3:35pm
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            • Yes, I've considered it. I know he does lie about some things. A lot of that is my estimate based on what I've witnessed outside of what he has said. He isn't nearly so self...(more) 1-21-2016 5:27pm
              aware as to have said all that stuff I said about him. He'd get mad if he heard me say it. He thinks he is all about doing the right thing and not causing stress to his kids while in college and blah blah blah. That is a lie, but it's a lie to himself too.
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    • I know couple who ended up together after their affair. I think that when they cheat "up" they actually leave. 1-21-2016 9:34am
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      • they both have to WANT to leave, not just have sex with someone new. 1-21-2016 9:59am
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        • I do not disagree. 1-21-2016 1:41pm
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  17. Cleveland Who here has done coke? Are you aware or messed up like alcohol? Meaning, would you say something you didn't mean if you were high? Tia 1-19-2016 1:33pm (3 replies)
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    • I haven't ever tried it BC I'm hyper- but I heard and have seen ppl ramble on and on 1-19-2016 1:37pm
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    • so what did he say to you when he was high? 1-21-2016 10:37am
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    • you talk A LOT but you're aware of everything, even hyperaware 1-21-2016 10:39am
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  18. Cleveland I'm marrying the guy I had an affair with several years ago and left. 1-19-2016 1:19pm (11 replies)
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    • Op: we reconnected after I stopped affair and got a divorce 1-19-2016 1:19pm
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    • Sounds like you are both POSes and deserve each other! 1-19-2016 1:19pm
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      • He was always single. We stopped affair for 5 years and I got a divorce before I reached out to him again 1-19-2016 1:20pm
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    • I'm married affair 2 yrs ago. Congrats!! 1-19-2016 1:19pm
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      • How's it going 1-19-2016 1:20pm
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        • Great! Best. Thing. Ever! 1-19-2016 1:21pm
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          • How many kids? Was he single or married when you had an affair 1-19-2016 1:21pm
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    • congrats 1-19-2016 1:20pm
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    • Is he younger? 1-19-2016 1:24pm
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      • Yes isn't that always the case :) 1-19-2016 1:25pm
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        • It was in my case 1-19-2016 1:26pm
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  19. Cleveland Caught affair in a flat-out lie. He confessed, I asked what else is he lying to me about like maybe having other women, his response:...(more) 1-19-2016 9:53am (17 replies)
    "I didn't think you would go as far as saying I am fucking other women. but you did.... I guess I am not surprised. This is EXACTLY what I am talking about. Waay over reaction. It doesn't matter what I say now obviously. you won't believe me anyway." Oh, and what was the lie, you ask? A girl showed up as a new friend on his FB and I asked who she was. He said some random friend request. Turns out she's a stripper he saw at a private beach party. Hmmm. And I'm overreacting by asking if he's fucking other women?
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    • Yes, it's not of your business. It's not a real relationship. 1-19-2016 9:54am
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      • then he shouldn't have told me he loves me and kept it up for 6 years. 1-19-2016 9:57am
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        • Or,, you lie, he lies. It's the nature of the relationship. It's not love. 1-19-2016 10:00am
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          • obviously it's not love. I wish he'd fucking stop saying that fucking word. There is no love, no such thing. 1-19-2016 10:09am
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            • Or, ok drama queen 1-19-2016 10:16am
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              • so helpful, thanks. 1-19-2016 10:25am
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    • do you realize that this relationship has nothing to do with trust? 1-19-2016 9:57am
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      • he has said many times thank you for trusting me. you don't know how long i kept my guard up 1-19-2016 9:58am
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    • I get the jealously. I really do. But now that I'm out of the situation it's clear. You cannot take this relationship seriously! 1-19-2016 9:57am
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      • so what do you suggest? 1-19-2016 9:59am
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        • Get divorced. Kick affair to the curb. Find someone who is all yours. You don't have to share and be tormented. 1-19-2016 10:01am
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    • You really don't see the hypocrisy in this situation? 1-19-2016 10:00am
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    • is he single? 1-19-2016 12:03pm
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      • nope. his dw was at the party too. She's also FB friends with the stripper....(more) 1-19-2016 12:09pm
        DW goes to strip clubs with him, texts pics of herself in hot outfits to a guy friend of hers, they are both very flirtatious right in front of each other. Yet he says they don't have much of a sexual connection. I don't see how that's possible, she's beautiful and thin and they have a lot of fun together.
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        • even though we know every guy who has an affair is an asshole, this guy takes the cake. 1-19-2016 1:08pm
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        • This is a shit show. Leave. 1-19-2016 8:04pm
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        • LEAVE HIM. He doesn't love you. Come on. If he even respected you wouldn't have you on Facebook seeing that shit 1-19-2016 8:39pm
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  20. Cleveland Both disillusioning and freeing when you realize affair just isn't all that great. 1-15-2016 9:23am (17 replies)
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    • I felt that way about my marriage 1-15-2016 9:24am
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    • you've risked so much for so little. 1-15-2016 9:24am
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      • Before the balance of what I was getting was more worth the risk. Now not so much. 1-15-2016 9:27am
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        • You carry the risk forever. 1-15-2016 9:41am
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          • He doesn't live in the same area anymore so it's a low risk. 1-17-2016 12:26pm
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    • It was when I realized that and loved him anyway (and more) that I realized it was the real thing. 1-15-2016 9:51am
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      • Are you still together? Did you leave your marriages? 1-15-2016 9:55am
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        • Yes we are and I left and he is leaving. 1-15-2016 10:01am
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          • Lol sure he is 1-18-2016 10:27pm
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      • mine has flaws like everyone does but the big issue now is that he isn't putting in as much effort as before 1-15-2016 9:57am
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    • Mine has his issues, certainly, but I love him and he loves me and the important things are solid for both of us. 1-15-2016 11:12am
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    • I felt the same way after realizing he doesn't love me the way I love him, and also that I'd never want to live with him irl, he's a cheating attention-seeking manwhore. 1-15-2016 12:12pm
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      • i'm realizing i don't like a lot of his personality. 1-15-2016 2:21pm
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        • such as? 1-15-2016 2:59pm
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          • Complains about everything. Judgmental, defensive. 1-15-2016 5:57pm
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  21. Cleveland Anybody know anyone that divorced as a result of affair? did they try to repair their marriage first? 1-14-2016 9:29pm (11 replies)
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    • Pretty much everyone who has divorced. 1-14-2016 9:50pm
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      • But I think a lot of people aren't really trying. They're just going through the motions. 1-15-2016 9:24am
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        • np I hate this comment. you have no idea what others have done, for years often, to repair a marriage. how arrogant you are to think you know. 1-15-2016 9:26am
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          • But by the time they get to the affair stage and after, I bet a lot are just done with trying to repair 1-15-2016 9:29am
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            • which is not the same thing as not trying. 1-15-2016 9:31am
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              • There's room for both types. Ones who really want to try to repair and ones who are going to counseling and aren't really trying to change. Both exist whether or not you like my...(more) 1-15-2016 9:40am
                comment
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        • so? not sure why anyone cares. 1-15-2016 9:50am
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    • Yes. And no. She just said she was done. 1-14-2016 10:13pm
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    • lots . affairs happen at the end of marriages ALL the time. 1-15-2016 9:25am
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    • the affair is often just the final straw. the problems and attempts at repair come first IME 1-15-2016 9:25am
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    • My friend had an affair before she divorced, but she didn't divorce so much because of it. maybe it made her realize how unhappy she was. Meeting someone made me realize the...(more) 1-15-2016 11:13am
      same and divorce too.
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  22. Cleveland Does anyone meet on here or is this an affair withdrawal board, support group type place? 1-13-2016 10:57pm (1 reply)
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    • People have exchanged info but it's not common. 1-14-2016 4:04pm
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  23. Cleveland Is this place a ghost town? 1-11-2016 10:49pm (7 replies)
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    • Evidently yes 1-12-2016 12:33am
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    • I was just thinking that last night. No one had posted in a week 1-12-2016 2:49pm
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    • I guess everyone gave up their affair. 1-12-2016 9:45pm
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      • not me. but posting seems too conspicuous now. 1-12-2016 11:20pm
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      • Still in it but I don't post 1-12-2016 11:21pm
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  24. Cleveland Met affair through our close mutual friend. Affair ended in 2010. Just found out that our mutual friend excluded me from his DD's bat mitzvah last month. He sent me an apology...(more) 1-5-2016 5:48pm (7 replies)
    message saying "we had to keep the guest list small," but I saw the pictures and there were plenty of guests. Now I don't want to be friends with him anymore. I guess I can't blame him rationally, but I am still pissed. I wish he'd been more honest and just said it would create awkwardness.
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    • Ps: My ex-affair was at the party, of course. 1-5-2016 5:49pm
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      • Are you two in touch at all? 1-5-2016 7:57pm
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    • Did the mutual friend know about your affair? 1-5-2016 5:51pm
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    • you must not be that close if you just found out about it. fwiw- he was right to leave at least one of you off of the list 1-5-2016 7:44pm
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    • How long did it last for? why did you end things? 1-5-2016 7:45pm
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  25. Cleveland Any DWs up for a distraction this evening? 1-2-2016 11:36pm (25 replies)
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    • Yes. 1-3-2016 12:26am
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    • that was hot! 1-3-2016 5:02pm
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    • OP: Sorry -- I gave up too early yesterday... anyone around? 1-3-2016 8:13pm
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      • I am... 1-3-2016 10:02pm
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        • gchat? 1-3-2016 10:09pm
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          • ^^and just to check... you're DW? 1-3-2016 10:09pm
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            • Yes. What are you looking for? 1-3-2016 10:13pm
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              • Private gchat? 1-3-2016 10:14pm
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                • About? 1-3-2016 10:15pm
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                  • ohh... sex... 1-3-2016 10:17pm
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                    • Is this your usual MO? 1-3-2016 10:19pm
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                      • Welcome to Cleveland! 1-3-2016 10:20pm
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                        • I've been here for a long time. 1-3-2016 10:23pm
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                          • OK...what distraction do you have in mind? 1-3-2016 10:23pm
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                            • Leave me an email 1-3-2016 10:24pm
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                              • - no subject -...(more) 1-3-2016 10:29pm
                                longlast314@gmail
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                                • are you from the pitts? 1-4-2016 5:26pm
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                                  • are you chatting? 1-5-2016 7:59pm
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    • doesn't really work that way around here now 1-4-2016 9:50pm
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      • it does sometimes. np 1-4-2016 10:51pm
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    • still around? 1-5-2016 1:02am
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      • OP: I'm around, but not always logged in here....(more) 1-5-2016 12:33pm
        longlast314@gmail.com
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        • do we know you? 1-5-2016 2:10pm
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          • Oh I'm not Pitts celebrity, but was around for that... 1-5-2016 4:31pm
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