Cleveland

  1. Cleveland He didn't have sex because he couldn't. I'm guessing once and for all it was performance issues. That's my theory and I'm sticking with that. Want to go into new year fresh an...(more) 5 hr ago (3 replies)
    free of this emotional baggage. This year just wrecked me
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I hope you can move on from it. Wasn't this many months ago? 4 hr 56 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Not sure who you mean 4 hr 53 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • best of luck. 2 hr 44 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  2. Cleveland You guys were right 15 hr 53 min ago (6 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • about? 15 hr 50 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • always 14 hr 53 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • With wings? 14 hr 45 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • told you 14 hr 53 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • About which thing? That the pain eventually outweighs the joy? That he always comes back? That he never leaves? 14 hr 14 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • bitch will never say 14 hr 13 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  3. Cleveland 4 yrs & dumped cold. Is just cruel. Esp around the Holidays. 12-20-2014 9:45pm (50 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • what was the reason? 12-20-2014 9:47pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • i never got one. he just stopped contacting me. 12-20-2014 9:49pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Wonder if he was caught? 12-20-2014 10:53pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op: no. 12-20-2014 11:05pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • ^^^I spoke in passing to a mutal friend. I managed to bring him up in conversation. hopint to hear affair was locked up, hospital or dead (jk) & nothing everyone is fine. 12-20-2014 11:06pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • ^^^mutual 12-21-2014 2:34am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • is the friend likely to know he got caught by his wife? 20 hr 46 min ago
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Lol 12-20-2014 9:48pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • this is something he would say 12-20-2014 9:49pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • how do you stand it? I feel left me I'm jumping out of my skin 12-20-2014 9:48pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • i am having a hard time with it. really. i would have been ok with a "its over", "move on" from him. ibhave nothing. 12-20-2014 9:51pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Do you have other ways of contacting him/seeing him? 12-20-2014 10:53pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op:I have thought about it. I don't feel comfortable exposing myself in such a vulnerable state. I like to keep a scrap of dignity here. 12-20-2014 11:27pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • see, you're in better shape than you may have thought. stay strong. 20 hr 47 min ago
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • this is true. if you were so pathetic you'd be calling and texting, begging like me. :'( 19 hr 26 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • but you got him back, no? 18 hr 5 min ago
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • i don't have him. i don't "have" anything. he knows that i can't do without him and so he calls when he has no better option. 4 hr 22 min ago
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • this makes me so sad for you. you dwserve better. you are being used and worst part is you know it. 1 hr 59 min ago
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • thank you. i don't know why i keep going back. it hurts to be in it and it hurts to stay away. 1 hr 54 min ago
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • I know exactly how you feel. Ive had years of this. I just needed him in my life, but you know what? I am ok. You will be surprised to know you would be fine too. 1 hr 29 min ago
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                          • thanks for your encourager words. today is day 3 of no contact and I feel like an open wound. I don't want to call him; even if he took the call, it wouldn't change anything. 58 min ago
                            log in or sign up to post a comment
                            • its been 2wks for me. fill up that void with something else. you know he'll come around. if it makes u feel better. 6 min ago
                              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • thank you. 18 hr 6 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I'll get you a drink. We can talk. You'll forget not only why you miss him, but who he is at all. 12-20-2014 10:58pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op:How can you be so sure? 12-20-2014 11:35pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Because I'll talk common sense. Woman to woman. If he can't respond to you and just walks after four years you need a kick in the buttocks and a stuff drink to move on. 12-20-2014 11:38pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • op:yes! so true. It is comfortating to know that I am not alone in thinking how messed up this is. 12-21-2014 12:15am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • That's not cool. At all. 12-20-2014 10:17pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:thank you. I am trying to let go, but so mad he can do this after 4 yrs. so many spoken words. Moments shared. daily contact. 4 YEARS. ugh. 12-20-2014 11:05pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Get someone new. 12-20-2014 11:10pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Have you tried to reach out to say wtf? 12-20-2014 11:20pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • yes. & I was ignored. 12-20-2014 11:28pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • You must be devastated. I would be. That is very cold. Did he love you? 12-21-2014 11:27am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • yes. told me everytime. 23 hr 38 min ago
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • & yes, I am hurt. Hoping to see him in the street. so I can spit on him. 23 hr 36 min ago
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                • I have no idea how you're dealing with this. I would be a mess. And I've only been with mine for a year. 23 hr 30 min ago
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • i try not to think about it much. Not easy. 18 hr 4 min ago
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • I would be totally obsessing on it. Just like what happened? And why does he think it's ok to treat you this way. So fucked up. 17 hr 1 min ago
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • op:yes. He is not my life though. He was just a part of it. I am upset, & hurt. I am sure I will one day bump into him. Until then what can I do but wait. No way in hell am I...(more) 14 hr 55 min ago
                        going to allow him to take anymore away from me.
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • That's a good attitude. I don't think I could be like that. Although wouldn't have a choice bc of mine decided to disappear I would never see him again. He's west coast 14 hr 45 min ago
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                          • enjoy the moments that make you happy. 14 hr 11 min ago
                            log in or sign up to post a comment
                            • There are so many that do. The hard part is not having access to him all the time in person. But I suppose it's good that he lives far away otherwise I'd be taking lots of bad...(more) 4 hr 5 min ago
                              risks to be with him.
                              log in or sign up to post a comment
                              • I loved hearing from my affair daily. He didnt even want to be my friend. 2 hr 9 min ago
                                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • He probably doesn't understand how much it's hurting you. It's so hard. You have to find closure from within. You can do it. 12-21-2014 9:30am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:another blow is that he once told me way back when, if I ever wanted to end it, he requested that i let him know. He knows he hurt me. This wass was something he asked I not do...(more) 12-21-2014 11:24am
        To him.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Have he slowed down contact this time of year in the past? Maybe it is because of the holidays and the emphasis on family. 5 hr 2 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • yes, but he has ignored 3 of my texts. I am not going to make excuses for him. 2 hr 35 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • It's all that family time that ruins it. 4 hr 16 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op: We were together for 4 yrs. This would not be our first holiday together. 2 hr 27 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  4. Cleveland Hush, hush, keep it down now. voices carry. 12-20-2014 3:29am (1 reply)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • HAHAHA this song was stuck in my head pretty much the entire time I was having an affair. This and Pink's "Try." 14 hr 40 min ago
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  5. Cleveland Went thru a rough patch with affair a few weeks ago and I told him I have to set some boundaries and back off bc I was miserable wishing I was with him all the time. I've been...(more) 12-19-2014 11:02pm (1 reply)
    better, more upbeat, enjoying my own life. Now affair is kind of sad I'm not mooning over him all the time. This is telling.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • no its not. just move on. you are bettering yourself. 12-20-2014 1:23am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  6. Cleveland Had annual GYN exam today. Boy, they arent as easy breezy prior affair days. I was shitting bricks while waiting for mu hiv results. 12-19-2014 8:09pm (0 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
  7. Cleveland I feel like half these crazy stories may be fake but then I have to believe them because my story is one of the crazier ones and it's real, very real. (Affair with family friend...(more) 12-19-2014 6:07pm (7 replies)
    mom. But now ex-affair mom.)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • my story sounds made up. in 6 weeks my partner moved out, then the apartment burned down, and then I lost my job. 12-19-2014 6:08pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • ITA. It makes me grateful for my relatively drama-free affairs 12-19-2014 6:09pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • ^although it's not crazy to me at all. It's just that when I posted about it some people didn't believe it. Never occured to me it was that unbelievable. To me the crazy ones are...(more) 12-19-2014 6:09pm
      the multiple affair moms or the AM moms. Anyway, carry on. Happy Holidays.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • multi affairs & AM affairs aren't crazy. signed stalker mom. 12-19-2014 6:54pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • You are talking about me, arent you? 12-19-2014 6:53pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • My affair actually stalked me on here, sent messages to me on Toddler (and possibly Cleveland, my memory is not good). People thought it was a made-up thing. If it hadn't happened...(more) 14 hr 38 min ago
      to me I probably would not have believed it either.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I can't get over the fact that you told him about this place 5 hr 7 min ago
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  8. Cleveland I'm sad. Boyfriend flew home today. Won't see him until the new year. 12-19-2014 3:16pm (1 reply)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • yes we know. 12-19-2014 3:16pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  9. Cleveland I had sex with affair yesterday during the day. then showered. then in the evening had date night with dh and sex with him too. i'm such a slut 12-19-2014 7:06am (12 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • suuuure 12-19-2014 7:10am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I cannot imagine fucking around on the man I love. Do you love your husband? Honest question not out to flame you. I fucked around on my ex husband but I hated him and we never...(more) 12-19-2014 7:25am
      had sex.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • i do, i don't moral high ground. im addicted to thrill seeking 12-19-2014 7:28am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • np - I don't believe this. No one who has any ounce of feelings would put a person they love at risk for that kind of hurt. 12-19-2014 9:38am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Ive done this. Did you use a condom? 12-19-2014 8:53am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • hijack: does the taste of condom completely go away after a shower? 12-19-2014 2:46pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • you mean will the taste still be there when dh goes down on you? 12-19-2014 6:55pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Yes. I've always wondered this. 12-19-2014 10:33pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • nah, i think you have nothing to worry about. enjoy. 12-20-2014 1:23am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
    • btdt; First time I felt terrible. 12-19-2014 9:32am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • This is a line I could never cross, and I crossed some big lines. We all have our things though. I had to wait at least 2 days. I know, I deserve a damn medal. (sarcasm.) 12-19-2014 11:21am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • 2 days! That's probably indicative of WHY you're fucking someone else. 12-19-2014 11:22am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  10. Cleveland @ christmas party work. planning to meet up with my stalker in a bit. I am a little buzzzzzzed. 12-18-2014 7:28pm (20 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • this can only end well 12-18-2014 7:40pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • sex was good. I was so aware of the newness took me a bit to get lost in him. 12-19-2014 8:54am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • let me know how it goes 12-18-2014 9:02pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • It was crazy. He didnt climax. He offered me coke. At least thats what I think it was. I think this is the reason why he didnt come. He wants to meet up again. This most likely...(more) 12-19-2014 8:52am
        wil not happen. He i so different from my exaffair. Sexuall that is.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Come on! He's a coke snorting stalker!? 12-19-2014 9:16am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I have known him for years. He works 7days a week crazy hours. Ive always wondered how he kept up. 12-19-2014 9:34am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
        • how is he different sexually? 20 hr 45 min ago
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I hope you don't arrive home in a hefty bag, in 27,000 pieces. 12-18-2014 11:35pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:Iol, I made it back im one piece. 12-19-2014 12:55am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Dude.. What the fuck? Coke? I'm telling you, you're play with mother fucking fire at the gas station. 12-19-2014 9:19am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:you are right. Not sure if it was coke. white power in a dime size baggie. 12-19-2014 9:54am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I mean it's either coke or heroin. What's your 6-12mo plan? 12-19-2014 9:58am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • 6-12??? i dont understand. 12-19-2014 10:30am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • What's it going to be like in 6 months? Does this have legs for 12 months? Do some forward thinking and try to see where this takes you in that time period. 12-19-2014 10:41am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I don't know. I was recently abandoned by my long term. Time doesnt matter. 12-19-2014 11:07am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Are you the poster with the 4 year thing where his just dropped you? 12-19-2014 11:16am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • Op:No. I think there a few of us long term affairs on here. 12-19-2014 6:42pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
    • op:looking back on it now & it was very sexy. 12-19-2014 8:25pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • np: Dude, listen to yourself. This is not OK on ANY level. You are putting yourself at risk. You are putting your CHILDREN at risk. This guy is way more fucked up than you...(more) 12-19-2014 11:20pm
        realize. Please stop it. I am not being dramatic. I beg you to listen to your own instincts, here. You know this is dangerous. Forget the sexual thrill. Forget ANY thrill. What you're dealing with here is way more than you realize. I know you will see this through, I know you will not listen. But please listen to yourself. You do not want dh explaining to your dcs that he had to go identify your body. I am not even kidding.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Op:I hear you. I agree with you 100%. I am so thankful for your reply. Really. Thankfully the holidays will be here to help me get my shit together. 12-20-2014 1:25am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
  11. Cleveland Curious as to how you would handle this-- no flames please--my LD FWB connect while in town for our friend's birthday party weekend. Thought we had a good time, but when I look...(more) 12-18-2014 4:02pm (15 replies)
    for him the next night, he is with my friend. She knew I was with him the night before. I refuse to get into a fight over a FWB and I don't want to lose a 15 yr friendship. Not sure what to think. When I tried to talk to her about it, she refused to talk about it, yet calls to tell me about her kids, etc. Weird situation, I know. I have NOT talked to him at all. He did not contact me to explain at all.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Fake. Complicated and fake 12-18-2014 4:03pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • No, sadly, this is true and I am having a hard time being the bigger person, not turning into an adolescent about, wondering if my friend is maniac or if I was that lousy in bed...(more) 12-18-2014 4:06pm
        that he took up with the next thing that came along.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • if not fake, get rid of fab, find someone better. as for your friend, she is a pos for doing that. sorry but she knew you were with fwb and she didn't care, and doesn't care...(more) 12-18-2014 4:09pm
      about you.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • That's been the hardest part about this--realizing she was never my friend. I am also surprised by her ability to compartmentalize this whole thing. She is still texting him. 12-18-2014 4:13pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • np - hold on, though, if he's just a FWB, he can hang around - or have sex with - whomever he'd like. 12-18-2014 4:14pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • So what goes through a man's mind in a situation like this. I am not trying to make it a judgment about me. He is disposable to me, but it did rock my self confidence. There are...(more) 12-18-2014 4:24pm
            so many layers to this event.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • if he is "disposable" then why do you care so much? 12-19-2014 12:46am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
        • hard to have to drop a friend of long standing but if she can do this to you she isn't your friend. time to lose her too. sorry, hard situation but something you have to do 12-18-2014 4:17pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
        • how do you know she is still texting him? 12-18-2014 7:56pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Because she still calls me to chat. She knows that I know and she knows about me, but acts like nothing happened. I have stopped taking her calls because it's just weird. 12-18-2014 9:26pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • So she openly talks about it with you? 12-18-2014 11:14pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
    • np: something similar happened to me once. except my friend didn't know i was having an affair with him. i learned my lesson. players going to play. play with fire and you're...(more) 12-18-2014 8:41pm
      going to get burned.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I have questions. 1) Did he fuck her? 2) FWB owes you nothing unless you set up the rules beforehand. I guess that's not a question. 12-18-2014 9:03pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I am assuming so... he has said nothing to me, which is frustrating because we used to talk quite a bit. I am curious why he would just stop talking to me-- embarassment, afraid...(more) 12-18-2014 9:29pm
        to confront me, I don't know. I know he owes me nothing, but he's not a one night stand either.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I would dump them both. They both suck. 12-18-2014 11:41pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  12. Cleveland I am having a hard time lately and know its seasonally related, its cold out. Ended with emo last summer, an old friend, recently he came back round again and I said pls don't,...(more) 12-18-2014 4:00pm (10 replies)
    what is the point of it etc. I am just struggling. Busy in life with family, work, friends, out all the time this time of year. Still I feel like crap.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Reasonable. Feeling lonely feels like crap 12-18-2014 4:01pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Why does it feel lonely? I ask you in all seriousness. I am around people all the time but I miss him. Its so rediculous 12-18-2014 4:02pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Because being unfulfilled sexually makes one feel unattractive and lonely and it sucks. 12-18-2014 4:04pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I am not unfulfilled sexually by DH. Its great actually. We have issues related to child rearing and that has been the problem. That is why I let myself become distracted and now...(more) 12-18-2014 4:05pm
            I am in this stupid mess - of my own making.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • I'm sorry. I misunderstood your original post. I thought you had also been having a physical affair with the old friend. The issue is that you resent your dh about the...(more) 12-18-2014 4:08pm
              child-rearing thing, and felt cherished and listened-to by your emotional affair. Those are nice feelings.
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • thank you for your thoughtful reply. Yeah, something like that I guess. No, it never got to sex. I cannot even imagine how badly I would feel if that were the case. So I feel like...(more) 12-18-2014 4:10pm
                I dodged a bullet. Still just feel melancholy. thanks
                log in or sign up to post a comment
    • It's because you need someone to talk to. That's the purpose emo served. He listened. Didn't judge, or give his opinion, just listened. 12-18-2014 4:13pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • I barely spoke to him about DH. He spoke to me about his DW and I just listened. But you are right about listening. Are you a dw or dh? 12-18-2014 4:17pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I'm a dh. Sometimes you just need someone to process your days with. It sounds like you and dh haven't really processed the child rearing thing 12-18-2014 4:19pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I think it was very strong of you to push him away when he came around. Did you end it or did he? 12-18-2014 6:50pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  13. Cleveland If some guy you slept with once over a year ago contacts you, how would you respond? 12-18-2014 3:00pm (24 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • not at all 12-18-2014 3:00pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Depends.. What were the circumstances 12-18-2014 3:01pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Slept together once. He couldn't make the time to see me again. I met someone else and when he contacted me in the spring said I wasn't interested. He just texted me again asking...(more) 12-18-2014 3:02pm
        how I am.
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I feel for the guy. Sometimes you cross the line and you're not sure if you can keep up the charade at home. It's not that he doesn't want to spend the time with you, he obviously...(more) 12-18-2014 3:13pm
          likes to keep trying, it's just that maybe it's hard for him to manage that double life. You can engage him, just keep up good boundries.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • It's a tricky thing though. I don't want to encourage and dont want to piss him off in case he goes bunny boiler on me. 12-18-2014 3:16pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • Well it's been this long. Why do you think he'd go bunny boiler on you? 12-18-2014 3:40pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I doubt he would. But no point in being a complete bitch. 12-18-2014 3:45pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • I think you should just be cordial. I'm doing fine how are you? How's it going by you. Friend zone him if you don't want to do anything with him. 12-18-2014 3:46pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • I am. Now he's all like I should've tried harder. You were great. Etc. 12-18-2014 4:23pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Then you say thanks, I really appreciate that. Then you take him down the road of having an affair with someone else. Has he found anyone else? She sounds like fun. I'm not going...(more) 12-18-2014 4:27pm
                      back there but I'm sure you'll do fine. Friend zone all the way.
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • I basically said I'm flattered and am not interested. He hasnt found anyone else he says and I didn't respond to his last text. Dunzo 12-18-2014 11:56pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • Good. Now he knows his place. 12-19-2014 9:06am
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
        • i am jealous. although this did happen with my 1st affair. when he contacted me i was already with my 2nd so rejected 1st. 12-18-2014 6:53pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Don't be jealous. It's annoying really. 12-19-2014 9:16am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • but he wants you. did he break up with you? i want my ex to want me. 12-19-2014 10:02am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • I have no idea why. I haven't spoken to him since spring and was short with him then as well. It just fizzled out bc he couldn't make the time to see me. Then I met current affsir...(more) 12-19-2014 11:13am
                Who blows my mind.
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • i want that too. ex to contact me and someone to blow my mind. shit, i want to be you right now. 12-19-2014 11:16am
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • I get a lot of interest from previous affairs and now that I'm with current im simply not interested in the attention. Yes of course it's nice to be remembered but annoying to...(more) 12-19-2014 11:17am
                    deal with. And current is not happy about that.
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • you tell him these things? were u dumped by exs? 12-19-2014 6:44pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • I have in the past. No. I've never been dumped. 12-19-2014 7:00pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • thats good. 12-19-2014 8:11pm
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I had that happen but it was after I was divorced. I texted back "Hey! Nice to hear from you. I am divorced now and not hanging with married men. If you and dw are separated lets...(more) 12-18-2014 6:35pm
      hang out" Never got a response. ha
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • how long ago was this? 12-18-2014 6:54pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Funny how these great affair guys disappear when you are suddenly single 12-19-2014 11:14am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  14. Cleveland He must be over the moon that he got to break my heart. 12-17-2014 10:23pm (15 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Maybe you are giving yourself to much credit. 12-18-2014 7:56am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • what do you mean? 4yrs together. I served him well.There were moments where I wanted to break free & he would manage to pull me in. Made me vulnerable then dropped me like a bomb. 12-18-2014 9:31am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • read the love affairs of Nathanel P. 12-18-2014 8:38am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • ? jist please. 12-18-2014 9:29am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Relationships and how you can easily misunderstand even the best of intentions. 12-18-2014 9:43am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I should read this to gain insight as to why he dropped me? I know he hopes I miss. just wish henwee.man enough to tell me he is done. 12-18-2014 1:53pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • It happens to everyone at some point. You have to take your licks in this business. 12-19-2014 9:05am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • lol, thanks. 12-19-2014 10:31am
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Think about it like this. At least you didn't marry the guy! If this was a normal dating situation and you had committed 4 years to this guy then he drops you that would have been...(more) 12-19-2014 10:40am
                  markedly worse.
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • you are right. it still hurts. The rejection. I miss him. 12-19-2014 11:14am
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Rejection will always hurt. You feel bad when you don't get a job you interviewed for, when your mom friends go out without you, or when you make a move on dh and he'd rather...(more) 12-19-2014 11:15am
                      sleep.
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • does that last one happen to you? 12-19-2014 6:44pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • great book 12-18-2014 12:11pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • only if you used him. Did you? 12-18-2014 12:17pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • we used each other. To fill our own needs. 12-18-2014 6:51pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
  15. Cleveland Kim's dd is so pretty (RHOBH) 12-17-2014 10:19pm (2 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Her kids seem nice. Portia is the one I'm worried about. 12-17-2014 10:20pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • a cheater that watches the real housewives series. shocking. 12-17-2014 10:21pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  16. Cleveland So I went through a true moment of insanity and had a brief affair with a coworker. It lasted a few months (so fine not a moment of insanity) but I realized it was stupid and...(more) 12-17-2014 10:17pm (1 reply)
    totally not worth it. I didn't even kind of like the guy. He's so annoying and such a loser. Anyway - now he's even more annoying bc I cut it off and he I wants it to continue.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Good for you. 12-18-2014 1:03am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  17. Cleveland My affair bought me a diamond ring for xmas. I love it but can quite obviously...(more) 12-17-2014 8:20pm (8 replies)
    Never wear it. But it's so beautiful.
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • you can hand it down to your daughter when she has her 1st affair 12-17-2014 8:21pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • How sweet! Not 12-17-2014 8:21pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Ever think that he is thinking of you as a whore and that is payment? Sorry but I am very cynical about men. Too many disappointments. 12-18-2014 1:06am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • No, he doesn't think that way. He also bought me a book and a pink Floyd album. 12-18-2014 8:18am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Wear it on your right hand. And sell it when the affair is over. 12-18-2014 1:25am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • How would she explain it to dh? 12-18-2014 7:57am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Amateurs. She says it's fake and bought it on the street. 12-18-2014 9:37am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • Op: it looks very real. I thought about doing that or saying I bought it at one of those jewellery parties 12-18-2014 10:49am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
  18. Cleveland So having a new guy is liberating. was with a guy for 4 yrs and what a difference when its fresh. wow! 12-17-2014 7:22pm (5 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • So gross. 12-17-2014 7:24pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • like your face. 12-17-2014 7:30pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • First affair was the gateway drug. You will have many more after the initial thrill wears off or you are caught. 12-18-2014 1:10am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:this is my 3rd. 12-18-2014 9:32am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • ^^^i am not crazy about this one. Just need someone to fill this void. I am attracted to him. He gives off such a good vibe I want to soak it up. 12-18-2014 9:33am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
  19. Cleveland Been with him 3 years and squirted during sex for the first time ever today(with anyone). I can't believe it keeps getting better. I cum and orgasm all the time but damn...(more) 12-17-2014 6:35pm (8 replies)
    That was awesome. I've always done it with fingering, but never during sex. Fucking amazing
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • You're one nasty ass slut. 12-17-2014 6:40pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I saw affair last night and had the best orgasm of my life. I swear it went on for a minute. I thought I was going to faint. 12-17-2014 6:58pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Op- I am still reeling from it. I've had so many orgasms with him and they're great...this took me to a whole other level 12-17-2014 7:05pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • how long together? 12-17-2014 7:16pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • 3 years. We are non emo, really good friends and coworkers. He's single, I'm married. He dates, etc. I am free to see others (and have) but generally we see each other once a...(more) 12-17-2014 7:42pm
            week and just fuck and hang out for a bit. Sometimes we take breaks for a month or so. It's very relaxed.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • my single was the same. then something happened & he wont return my calls. enjoy him while you have him. 12-17-2014 9:16pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Same here. It almost made me cry which I've never ever done before. 12-17-2014 7:44pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • I told him and he was shocked, he's such a dude he didn't really notice the difference. I'm still dyin here. I have to work with this fucker every day too. When I see him...(more) 12-17-2014 8:14pm
            tomorrow I'm gonna have a hard time not getting horny again. Been doing this 3 years!!! Wtf
            log in or sign up to post a comment
  20. Cleveland Condoms. why do you use them? more so not to get pg or stds?...(more) 12-17-2014 1:27pm (9 replies)
    Those in long term use them?
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • we don't use them anymore. I have an IUD 12-17-2014 1:27pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op how long with affair? 12-17-2014 1:28pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • 3 years 12-17-2014 2:08pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • aw, that was me & my guy. he was single! 12-17-2014 2:28pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
    • we don't use 12-17-2014 1:28pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I have never used any hormonal method or IUD. Just condoms. 12-17-2014 1:29pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • I don't want to get the high five. 12-17-2014 2:47pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • We don't use either. 12-17-2014 4:47pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • stds 12-19-2014 7:08am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  21. Cleveland I emailed him yesterday afternoon and have not heard back. I feel like a fool. 12-17-2014 6:40am (7 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Time to find someone who makes you happy 12-17-2014 6:42am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • He did, he made me smile. Not starting another, it is too hard. I know he is thinking of me, that's the hardest. 12-17-2014 6:54am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Why do you think he's not responding? 12-17-2014 6:56am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • He might be done and does not want to continue the dialogue or seeing each other. 12-17-2014 7:11am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
        • change your preception. he is NOT thinking of you. He is thinking on how to aviod you so you finally go away. 12-17-2014 8:54am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
    • stop just stop. find a new man. he doesnt deserve so much attention from you. 12-17-2014 8:53am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • What are the circumstances around this email> 12-17-2014 9:24am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  22. Cleveland With each man that passes in my life II begin to think more & more like a man. 12-17-2014 12:12am (3 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • ^^^through my life. 12-17-2014 12:13am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • lol 12-17-2014 12:17am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • like sand through an hourglass...... 12-17-2014 12:17am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
  23. Cleveland So, I fucked my stalker... 12-16-2014 10:46pm (24 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • That's one way to get rid of him 12-16-2014 10:48pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
    • This reminds me of the Rodney Dangerfield joke about how the single woman living alone solved her cockroach problem ... she asked them for a commitment ... maybe he'll leave you...(more) 12-16-2014 10:48pm
      alone now.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op: love Rodney. 12-16-2014 10:58pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • where? 12-16-2014 10:50pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op @ work. empty office. 12-16-2014 10:59pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • you work with him? 12-16-2014 11:07pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op: No. Same building. 12-16-2014 11:14pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Who is stalking whom? 12-17-2014 9:25am
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Him to me. Then my long term began to be neglectful. Not giving me what I wanted. Ditched him stood in a spot for 5 min & viola. stalker appeared. 12-17-2014 10:38am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Well if you're fucking him, you can't exactly call him a stalker. 12-17-2014 10:53am
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • op:not anymore. He has upgraded himself to fuck buddy. 12-17-2014 11:09am
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • How was it? 12-17-2014 11:30am
              log in or sign up to post a comment
              • Fun. I think he is in love. popped up 2x to kiss me afterwards. 12-17-2014 1:25pm
                log in or sign up to post a comment
                • Nice. Just don't get complacent. You're still at work and you get get fucked more ways than one if this gets out. 12-17-2014 1:37pm
                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                  • op: yes. thing is I have no way of contacting him. dont have his # nor does he have mine. insures phones are safe but i miss the texting like i had with previous affair. 12-17-2014 2:59pm
                    log in or sign up to post a comment
                    • Do you at least know his name? 12-17-2014 3:06pm
                      log in or sign up to post a comment
                      • op:of course. 12-17-2014 3:30pm
                        log in or sign up to post a comment
                        • oh so you can look him up in the company directory. 12-17-2014 3:42pm
                          log in or sign up to post a comment
                          • no. dont have access to that....i know where he is m-t thats it. 12-17-2014 4:12pm
                            log in or sign up to post a comment
                            • I can see how this can be really good for some time but it might just fall to shit if you're not careful. 12-17-2014 4:18pm
                              log in or sign up to post a comment
                              • this goes for all affairs, no? 12-17-2014 4:51pm
                                log in or sign up to post a comment
                                • This is a little more incendiary because it's in the workplace. At least when it's someone outside of work you can avoid them if the shit goes south 12-17-2014 4:52pm
                                  log in or sign up to post a comment
                                  • op:very true. 12-17-2014 7:20pm
                                    log in or sign up to post a comment
  24. Cleveland Truest fact that i've learned here on cleve, best way to get over one is to get under a new one. 12-16-2014 10:34pm (9 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • A vicious circle. I have to break it. 12-16-2014 11:12pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:how many have you had? 12-16-2014 11:14pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • That was me! But I actually got that advise from toddler back before Cleveland existed. I had to post like affair was a boyfriend because I didn't want to get torched. If only...(more) 12-17-2014 8:06am
      they knew how kind and supportive they were to me when affair dumped me on my sorry ass.
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • ^advice.. 12-17-2014 8:07am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
      • Why did he dump your sorry ass? 12-17-2014 8:12am
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • I became too needy. Well he didn't say it but gave me this whole monologue about how beloved me so much and I was hurting and couldn't give me what I needed or wanted. Blah, blah,...(more) 12-18-2014 1:36pm
          blah.
          log in or sign up to post a comment
          • ^how he loved me so much.. 12-18-2014 1:36pm
            log in or sign up to post a comment
          • ^But we got back together after that because I begged like a pathetic woman. But he kept me at arms length and continued to chat with me email and texts. I sent him a text saying...(more) 12-18-2014 1:41pm
            I missed him terribly then got in the shower. When I got out I read a text from him saying that part of his life was over. "Sorry I can't break this off over lunch." This was the fucking man who brought me soup when I was sick.
            log in or sign up to post a comment
            • this is me. assholes. sorry for your pain. 12-20-2014 3:49pm
              log in or sign up to post a comment
  25. Cleveland When dumped how long before he/she tried to reconnect again? 12-16-2014 8:17pm (6 replies)
    permalink | log in or sign up to post a comment
    • In my experience it's about 3s - days, weeks or months. 12-16-2014 9:45pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • op:but they always try now don't they. My first did & it was easy to shoot him down because of my current guy. 12-16-2014 10:33pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
    • Do you mean the dumper or the dumpee? I was dumped. Wondering if he will be back... 12-16-2014 11:11pm
      log in or sign up to post a comment
      • how long ago were you dumped? 12-16-2014 11:15pm
        log in or sign up to post a comment
        • Almost 3 weeks! Haha 12-16-2014 11:23pm
          log in or sign up to post a comment
next page »