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- Toddler Was reading post from park slope parent who was assaulted by another parent. I assume the school is full of high needs family. what chance do these people have?
- ^families
- Toddler Trigger: what do you think of people who pray/bless their meal in a restaurant?
- I hate them
- This post has been disliked 4 times. i roll my eyes in disgust bc they're so narrow minded
- good one
- You sound very open minded and well traveled.
- don't care!
- Why would I care what they do?
- We pray. But in public we say "Are you thankful? I'm thankful." And we all say I'm thankful!
- You are tools
- Maybe so. But you're going to hell.
- why? np
- lol
- Np: ime, people who use "tool" to describe other people are kind of "tools" themselves....
- Maybe so. But you're going to hell.
- probably a good idea to keep that shit hidden
- You are tools
- It don't notice. I'm from Texas and almost everyone prays
- op: i live in Dallas and I don't pray and definitely not in a restaurant
- Or: wow. That's odd.
- np: i lived in dallas for almost 20 years and never prayed in a restaurant and we were churchgoing folk
- I'm in Houston and I don't see this either. Maybe in the smaller town or burbs, but not the city.
- dallas poster above. ditto. not only did we not pray in restaurants, but i never saw it ever happen
- op: i live in Dallas and I don't pray and definitely not in a restaurant
- i dont.
- I think " good for them, they have strong beliefs".
- I think 'good for them, they don't give a fuck what others think'
- couldn't care less.
- have no opinion whatsoever
- Why on earth would this bother you?
- op: i didn't say it did. i was just asking the question based on one below
- I posted more as a grversl question to responders. Just shocks me anyone would have an opinion on this
- op: i didn't say it did. i was just asking the question based on one below
- We say grace at restaurants. We don't make a show of it. Who would care?
- You would hate us. We say a blessing before snd after the meal!
- good god, woman
- Well you knos us Jews- there's a prayer for everything
- good god, woman
- I don't care what people do at all. Atheist here.
- Toddler Fuck Art. Let's Dance.
- Toddler The daycare v preschool debate on most discussed is ridiculous. My ds goes to a free Lublin preK program in NJ, full day, accredited, with certified teachers, curriculum...(more)
- ^ PUBLIC
- that's fine. the point isn't about your kid. the point is about people saying their 6mo is attending school when in fact they are in day care.
- Np it's just shorthand. Don't take it so personally,
- i'm not taking it personally. i'm just explaining the debate
- There shouldn't be a debate. It's semantics. It is the #1 stupidest thing on ybm
- Not really. There is a difference between the 2 in terms of what your kid is doing all day, teacher vs daycare worker, time spent, etc
- Some daycares are set up like school- I.e. tutor time. I guess some people feel threatened when people say "school" bc they are worried those kids are learning something that...(more)
- Not really. There is a difference between the 2 in terms of what your kid is doing all day, teacher vs daycare worker, time spent, etc
- There shouldn't be a debate. It's semantics. It is the #1 stupidest thing on ybm
- i'm not taking it personally. i'm just explaining the debate
- I can't believe i sent my 2yo to school
- ^"school"
- Perhaps. But the post asked specifically about 3 and 4 yos. That's the definition of preschool age.
- Np it's just shorthand. Don't take it so personally,
- Toddler Does Gwyneth see Brad as the one that got away?
- No, she dumped him.
- More like a dodged bullet
- Omg this
- How so? What are the faults?
- He's a giant douche. Done
- Really? Seems like Angelina wears the pants...
- Sure. Doesn't make him any less of a douche.
- Why would you say he's a douche then?
- Just bc she wears the pants doesn't mean he can't be a douche.
- Why would you say he's a douche then?
- Sure. Doesn't make him any less of a douche.
- Really? Seems like Angelina wears the pants...
- He's a giant douche. Done
- Nope
- no, but Jen does.
- Yep.
- I don't think so anymore. He's gross.
- NP: How so?
- Did you read his latest interview in Esquire? If not, read it and get back to me.
- Was he making fun of Angie's lack of breast tissue?
- Did you read his latest interview in Esquire? If not, read it and get back to me.
- NP: How so?
- is there news about Brad pitt that I have missed?
- Toddler Might be politically incorrect, and will probably set me up for dislikes, but after 2 glasses of wine, I don't give a shit. I'd rather give oral than receive.
- Politically incorrect? You're drunk and dumb
- I'm with you.
- the politics of oral?
- Toddler Dh here, BIL and his fiance are always kissing and cuddling and I admit it makes me a little jealous not to mention she's beautiful and has an insane body.
- This is your dw's brother? How about you start vamping things up with YOUR dw?
- more than a little jelly. don't be so jelly
- did i mention she's also sweet and smart?
- Toddler I hate when I blow a joke with a typo or grammar foul.
- Me to!
- Toddler We haven't had people over in over a month. Are we in a rut? Depressed?
- We NEVER have people over.
- ditto
- I've never had people over. Literally, never.
- why not?
- how should we know
- no, you're tired of entertaining
- We NEVER have people over.
- Toddler Of these neighborhoods, which one would you prefer? lease up and dh tired of location.. So, best to worst... Battery park, Uws, Gramercy, Kips bay, Sutton place, east...(more)
- UWS, all the way
- dit to the o
- depends on what you're looking for
- and Financial district!
- you need to narrow down based on what is important to you. I like the UWS - No matter where you are, you're close to two great parks, convenient subways, low key. Some cranky old...(more)
- None? Really?
- plenty of good restaurants, but I wouldn't call anything great - well, maybe boulud sud, picholine, and Jeans Georges/nougatine.
- np - Jeans Georges - where they sell French denim? Just kidding! But what about Telepan, Dovetail, Ouest, Kefi, Fishtag, Salumeria Rosi, The Smith, Bar Boulud?
- I think of all of them as good, not great. I also like Jacob's Pickles and Celeste. Not a huge fan of Ouest and we od'd on Kefi. However Ditch Plains with kids can't be beat.
- Oh - Dovetail and Telepan can be great. And I also love Casa Pomona and Cotta. And Gari and Jin Ramen.
- I think of all of them as good, not great. I also like Jacob's Pickles and Celeste. Not a huge fan of Ouest and we od'd on Kefi. However Ditch Plains with kids can't be beat.
- np - Jeans Georges - where they sell French denim? Just kidding! But what about Telepan, Dovetail, Ouest, Kefi, Fishtag, Salumeria Rosi, The Smith, Bar Boulud?
- plenty of good restaurants, but I wouldn't call anything great - well, maybe boulud sud, picholine, and Jeans Georges/nougatine.
- None? Really?
- Hey what about Chelsea?
- With kids? UWS, Carnegie Hill, Yorktown, Battery Park. The rest - Gramercy, Kips Bay, Sutton Place - are not for me.
- y not? what is wrong w gramercy fo you?
- It's just not an area I like
- yyyyyyy
- There is nothing there.
- yyyyyyy
- It's just not an area I like
- ^^Sorry - Yorkville
- y not? what is wrong w gramercy fo you?
- kids?
- I like Gramercy
- it's lovely around the park. in the teens around 3rd ave...eh.
- nah.i am here. its dull zzzzz
- it's lovely around the park. in the teens around 3rd ave...eh.
- Yorkville: Some of the great private schools, Asphalt Green, Carl Schurz playground and lots of places for dc activities. A good variety of apts., new and prewar.
- i've lived in yorkville for 20 years and i agree with all of this BUT the garbage station is reopening and will be much bigger than it used to be. it's going to ruin this...(more)
- garbage? huh? where?
- Where is that?
- they are reopening the garbage transfer station at asphalt green. it will ruin asphalt green and it will ruin the neighborhood
- 90 and 3?
- It is called the Marine Transfer Station. We are fighting it. It is in the flood zone on top of all the other problems with it.
- 90 and 3?
- they are reopening the garbage transfer station at asphalt green. it will ruin asphalt green and it will ruin the neighborhood
- i've lived in yorkville for 20 years and i agree with all of this BUT the garbage station is reopening and will be much bigger than it used to be. it's going to ruin this...(more)
- UWS, all the way
- Toddler My dog was driving me crazy, just being weird, i think he just wanted to poop. i took him down, he pooped, now he is sane again.
- LOL--same with my dog. Isn't it great when you finally figure out what they want/need?
- If I had to wait to poop, I'd go insane too.
- Toddler Ok, let's say you're jewish and your dinner guest asked if he could ask for jesus's blessing before dinner?
- Fine, Jesus was a Jew
- I'm not Jewish or Christian and this wouldn't bother me.
- someone who says grace before eating HAS to do it at every meal. stop feeling offended. it's not about you
- Normally I would agree but, her house, her custom
- you don't get it either
- She's Jewish! He could thank God or give props to Jesus in his head
- you don't get it either
- Normally I would agree but, her house, her custom
- What exactly would that entail? My dh would outright ask him not to, but I'd let it go
- he can say it to himself
- let him, but you don't have to partake
- They should have their own private moment.
- Im Jewish and I can not imagine this ever happening.
- my tablecloth has stars of david all over it. I doubt anyone would ask to talk to jesus at my table, but if they did, I'd be gracious and tell them to go ahead.
- He could ask but I wouldn't answer/ participate. I would be polite, though.
- sure -- and then I'd give the Jewish blessings, the one Jesus probably actually used before he ate.
- i would object--nicely, but request we pray to god, not jesus. we don't believe he is the son of god and we can all pray to god.
- Toddler ARE THERE STILL CHILDREN MISSING FROM TORNADO>???
- Can't hear ya bitch
- no
- Toddler Put in an offer on a house at 5pm today. It's now 950pm. Haven't heard back yet. That is a good thing.
- didn't you give them until tomorrow to respond?
- Toddler I really want to go to Europe again. But it's a long way, it's expensive and there are so many great domestic places to visit in the U.s.
- i just sent my husband to europe for a week. it was not too expensive b.c. before Memorial Dya
- so true
- nothing as good as Europe though
- op: Agreed.
- Toddler Pregnancy isn't quite as exciting the second time around. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy, just not crazy elated like the first time
- You know what comes next and just want to get to that part!
- because you are busy with the kid you have now. Last time the pregnancy was the big focus of your life
- I was freaking miseable the 2nd time
- Wait until #3...
- Wait until #4....btdt
- Toddler Tips for visitng the Grand Canyon?
- DO NOT let your children anywhere near the edge of there
- ^^^^there's no railing. Kids fall off the parts that aren't edged every year.
- Actually, this is not true. I read the book on deaths in the Grand Canyon. Most deaths are due to inebriation, and poor judgement by adults.
- don't forget flash flooding
- lol no they don't. Most of the deaths are suicides.
- Actually, this is not true. I read the book on deaths in the Grand Canyon. Most deaths are due to inebriation, and poor judgement by adults.
- Because Weebles wobble and they all fall down?
- It is kinda scary. I got dizzy...
- ^^^^there's no railing. Kids fall off the parts that aren't edged every year.
- don't go in August...
- Watch the sunrise
- Mules
- DO NOT let your children anywhere near the edge of there
- Toddler Does anyone have a great GP associated with Mt. Sinai?
- Toddler How many dc do you think Brad Pitt really has?
- 4
- 6?
- 3 bio, 3 adopted.
- 6 fathered and adopted a few.
- is this a trick question? you mean like a bunch of kids out there whom he fathered?
- I think that is the implication...
- I'm pretty sure he has 6.
- Toddler 4yo dd had a uti, finished a 10 day course of abx, was fine for a week, and today is basically incontinent, peed herself like 6 times. Is it probably the uti again? She says it...(more)
- poor baby.
- That or she has a reflux issue causing the UTI and the incontinence. Poor thing.
- is that serious? Can my ped check it out? Of course, we are going out of town for dh's brother's graduation right after preschool tomorrow... Maybe I'll keep dd out of school...(more)
- Mostly it leads to recurrent infections. I had it as a kid and outgrew it. Sometimes they do surgery. But not super serious in grand scheme. I hope she feels better.
- thanks.
- Mostly it leads to recurrent infections. I had it as a kid and outgrew it. Sometimes they do surgery. But not super serious in grand scheme. I hope she feels better.
- is that serious? Can my ped check it out? Of course, we are going out of town for dh's brother's graduation right after preschool tomorrow... Maybe I'll keep dd out of school...(more)
- keep test strips at home. i'd test
- Toddler Shit - I just drove over this bridge this morning!!...(more)
- omg. what a nightmare. i hope those people are ok
- and the republicans don't support infrastructure
- When stuff like this happens, I think it's like playing musical chairs. Timing is everything
- Yeech. That's not good.
- That's awful!
- Toddler Marlon Brando had a TON of dc.
- Special Needs Ds is so out there sometimes. He will be so engaged and quick with peers but then when adults ask him questions, he always takes a really long time to respond, looks anywhere but...(more)
- social skills?
- I've done social skills with him but he really does fine with other kids - I don't know why his processing speed seems to tank when dealing with adults. anxiety maybe?? He was a...(more)
- adults ask too many questions?
- But the issue is his - he stands out from his peers in this area quite a bit. He just gets so lost and out of it.
- well adults can be intimidating.
- honestly he's like that with me a lot of the time and I'm his mom!
- maturity may help. he might just not be "present" for adults even you.
- honestly he's like that with me a lot of the time and I'm his mom!
- well adults can be intimidating.
- But the issue is his - he stands out from his peers in this area quite a bit. He just gets so lost and out of it.
- adults ask too many questions?
- I've done social skills with him but he really does fine with other kids - I don't know why his processing speed seems to tank when dealing with adults. anxiety maybe?? He was a...(more)
- Sounds like a typical almost 6yo to me.
- no - you can see a real proessing issue with him. his peers look right at you and can answer quickly and correctly - that's not what I am seeing with ds.
- He is 5 years old. Adults are intimidating. They are bog and louder and have power and use...(more)
- He sounds like he's afraid of saying the wrong/incorrect thing.
- social skills?
- Toddler Just got sucked in to a slew of sad youtube videos. Started with Zach Sobiech and it just went on and on. Now I wont be able to sleep bc I'll be obsessing over my kids health
- go watch babies sucking lemons now
- op- good call, I need to snap out of this quick
- go watch babies sucking lemons now
- Toddler If you are an atheist and have guests over for dinner, how would you respond if one guest asked if he could say grace for the table?
- i would comply, he's a guest
- Fine by me
- "Sure, Bob, go ahead"
- This. Then put my fingers in my ears and sing "La la la la la la"
- Why would you do that? If you actually hear someone praying, what happens to you? do you start speaking in tongues? Bleed from your ears? Vomit green shit while your head spins...(more)
- lol! Seriously you are killing me tonight! My favourite thread yet.
- Love this
- Why would you do that? If you actually hear someone praying, what happens to you? do you start speaking in tongues? Bleed from your ears? Vomit green shit while your head spins...(more)
- This. Then put my fingers in my ears and sing "La la la la la la"
- Wouldn't bother me.
- I would let them lead- whatever
- this
- I would if it were just me. If it were a room full of guests I would say no.
- let it ride but i would speak to them privately later
- to say WHAT?
- Don't pull that shit at my house again beeeyyyoootch
- what would you say?
- "not sure if you know this but we are non-believers and this made me uncomfortable"
- Stfu rude host
- hijacking a dinner party with ones beliefs is significantly ruder
- Why would it make you uncomfortable? They aren't trying to baptize you.
- np - Because everyone has to just sit around looking at this guy while he prays
- I'm sorry, I missed the part of the story where the guest asks if everyone can watch him while he says grace....(more)
- Lol!! i love you.
- Oh - I didn't realize. Can you really eat while the person is saying grace? And it's not out loud? In that case, why even ask permission?
- I didn't say eat. Yes, he's saying grace out loud..but you can do something else while he says grace. His eyes are likely closed and his head is bowed....(more)
- Like what? Have a conversation with the person next to you? I always thought that you had to be silent while someone was saying grace.
- To be clear... you are unable to entertain yourself for the seconds it takes to say grace while still being quiet. How do you make it in this world?
- I gave you some perfectly acceptable suggestions for alternative activities while grace is being said. If you don't like those, here are a few more:...(more)
- Like what? Have a conversation with the person next to you? I always thought that you had to be silent while someone was saying grace.
- I didn't say eat. Yes, he's saying grace out loud..but you can do something else while he says grace. His eyes are likely closed and his head is bowed....(more)
- For a whole 20 seconds... Life is rough. Maybe you do need Jesus in your life.
- I'm sorry, I missed the part of the story where the guest asks if everyone can watch him while he says grace....(more)
- np - Because everyone has to just sit around looking at this guy while he prays
- np: if your guest drinks out of the finger bowl instead of dipping his fingers in it, you are also supposed to drink out of the finger bowl. and you don't mention his faux pas...(more)
- how is this remotely the same?
- b/c you are supposed to let your guests feel comfortable not the other way around
- i did , and if they are a friend of mine who i want to have over again i would ask them not to do this
- ^later - privately
- i did , and if they are a friend of mine who i want to have over again i would ask them not to do this
- b/c you are supposed to let your guests feel comfortable not the other way around
- how is this remotely the same?
- it would make you uncomfortable? wow. you sound high maintenance and a little batshit.
- save your proselytizing for your own dinner parties
- Saying grace does not resemble proselytizing. Stop being so fucking melodramatic. Signed, atheist.
- it is shoving your faith in others faces - one can't they pray silently, to themselves?
- You're a shit-stirrer out in the real world, aren't you? You don't let anything go. Nothing rolls off your back, does it?...(more)
- NP What the fuck is wrong with you?
- I find it absurd that someone would consider a person saying grace before a meal "shoving their faith in others faces".
- But it is. Isn't it religious to say grace?
- I'm done with this nonsence.
- nonsense....
- nonsense
- I'm done with this nonsence.
- But it is. Isn't it religious to say grace?
- I find it absurd that someone would consider a person saying grace before a meal "shoving their faith in others faces".
- NP What the fuck is wrong with you?
- You're a shit-stirrer out in the real world, aren't you? You don't let anything go. Nothing rolls off your back, does it?...(more)
- np - It really is shoving your religion onto others
- one might take the view, by that logic, that not saying grace is shoving your beliefs on another. i might take issue if he tried to lead a full-fledged religious discussion or...(more)
- this, by george. this.
- :) love this reply.
- Sorry but how is not saying grace shoving anyone's beliefs? MOST religions do not say grace. As far as I know, only Christians say grace.
- You are awesome and thank you.
- this, by george. this.
- one might take the view, by that logic, that not saying grace is shoving your beliefs on another. i might take issue if he tried to lead a full-fledged religious discussion or...(more)
- it is shoving your faith in others faces - one can't they pray silently, to themselves?
- Saying grace does not resemble proselytizing. Stop being so fucking melodramatic. Signed, atheist.
- save your proselytizing for your own dinner parties
- couldn't you just live with feeling uncomfortable? without anyone else having to know it?
- Stfu rude host
- "not sure if you know this but we are non-believers and this made me uncomfortable"
- Oh gosh, just let it go.
- so they can do this every time they come over?
- Sure, it;s 30 seconds of your life. Would you rather they pray to themselves and just ignore you and pretend you're not there?
- yes, do it in your head and leave the rest of us out of it
- Sure, it;s 30 seconds of your life. Would you rather they pray to themselves and just ignore you and pretend you're not there?
- so they can do this every time they come over?
- to say WHAT?
- I wouldn't mind. I don't believe in god/gods. It's not like a Muslim at a Buddhist's party.
- np - Well, actually, I think it is exactly like that. And a good Buddhist host would let his Muslim friend pray.
- I'm Buddhist, I wouldn't mind.
- That's what I'm saying. I don't know what the OR is talking about
- me either... it doesn't matter or hurt anyone
- That's what I'm saying. I don't know what the OR is talking about
- I'm Buddhist, I wouldn't mind.
- what do you mean?
- np - Well, actually, I think it is exactly like that. And a good Buddhist host would let his Muslim friend pray.
- not a problem
- you know, it wouldn't hurt you to let him pray while you sit there quietly......(more)
- hee hee
- Why not?
- Fine as long as others are fine too.
- I would let him, but my respect for him would go down since no one should force their religion upon others
- Oh please. His belief is he pray before meals and you respect him less now? He's not buying a cross and forcing you to Jesus camp.
- Why can't he pray before coming over to the table?
- Oh please. His belief is he pray before meals and you respect him less now? He's not buying a cross and forcing you to Jesus camp.
- If you are a Christian and have guests over for dinner, how would you respond if one guest was Muslim and had to do his prayers in the middle of dinner?
- they are pretending up above that they would be fine with it
- I am Christian and I would love it! I was in a muslim country last year for months and loved hearing their prayers during the day ring out through the city.
- I know you feel provocative, but I still wouldn't care. BTW, Christians are generally the only ones who feel the need to pray for the crowd.
- how many muslims have you shared your table with
- quite a few actually... I lived in Morocco and Mali for a number of years.
- np: LOL... burn
- quite a few actually... I lived in Morocco and Mali for a number of years.
- No - I wasn't being provocative. I was asking a genuine question. My feeling is that not many YBM Christians would appreciate someone rolling out a prayer rug and praying in the...(more)
- but if you know any Muslims, it doesn't work that way.
- If it's during a certain time of day, it certainly can. No?
- the Muslims I know who are not near a mosque usually go to a room alone and pray -- it's not a showy thing
- Thank you was just about to write this.
- Oh - I agree re that! But Christians don't seem able to do that.
- A Christian praying at a table is not a huge deal. Don't pray and ignore them. You'll live and maybe learn a little tolerance while you're at it.
- OR: I don't care who prays where... it's really not about me.
- Sorry what is your issue then?
- OR: I don't care who prays where... it's really not about me.
- A Christian praying at a table is not a huge deal. Don't pray and ignore them. You'll live and maybe learn a little tolerance while you're at it.
- the Muslims I know who are not near a mosque usually go to a room alone and pray -- it's not a showy thing
- If it's during a certain time of day, it certainly can. No?
- but if you know any Muslims, it doesn't work that way.
- how many muslims have you shared your table with
- We invited our flambiyantly gay devoutly catholic friend for dinner and he quicly bowed his head whispered a few words and blessed himself
- That's the thing. I'm getting flamed up there but one of my points is that people I know who need to say it before a meal just do it quietly and quickly and don't make a big...(more)
- Asking if they can say grace is not making a big production. They aren't grabbing a microphone and a sound track and changing into their Jesus costume.
- They asked to do it for the whole table. Not like the OR's friend who did it the right way, IMO
- It is considered kind and generous to pray for oters...(more)
- I have always liked when people sy they will pray for me. Holding me int heir thoughts is nice!
- So what? It's not a huge deal. What did it cost you to be gracious and polite? What did you lose by letting them practice their beliefs?
- It is considered kind and generous to pray for oters...(more)
- They asked to do it for the whole table. Not like the OR's friend who did it the right way, IMO
- The guest may not "need" to say grace aloud, but rather might feel like it's a way to show kindness to everyone at the table. big fucking deal.
- I really dont see the issue and i agree with poster above who referred to the finger bowl. You sound so SMALL and DEFENSIVE
- Asking if they can say grace is not making a big production. They aren't grabbing a microphone and a sound track and changing into their Jesus costume.
- That's the thing. I'm getting flamed up there but one of my points is that people I know who need to say it before a meal just do it quietly and quickly and don't make a big...(more)
- I wouldn't care, and ask that he lead the prayer