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  1. Toddler Anyone dated a guy who smokes pot 2-3 times a week? How detrimental is that kind of smoking? Not looking for anything serious w him. But also don't wanna get in trouble 11 hr 1 min ago (20 replies)
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    • I married him. Not detrimental at all. I smoke with him. It's like having a beer at night( which we don't happen to do) 10 hr 59 min ago
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      • Thank you. He seems like a nice guy. Also not drinking much and only socially. I just never smoked, so was not sure about consequences 10 hr 56 min ago
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        • Silly. Sounds like he does it to mellow out. Just like wine. Np 10 hr 54 min ago
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          • Yes, exactly what he said. Like having a beer after stressful day 10 hr 54 min ago
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        • Get to know him. You'll know if it's a problem or not pretty quickly. It's not an issue for us because it's just for fun- like if we didn't for a week or a month I'm no...(more) 10 hr 52 min ago
          Would even notice.
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          • Ok! Will give it a shot. Thanks! 10 hr 50 min ago
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            • It would be the same if it was alcohol-like if he couldn't go somewhere and not have a drink. That would be a problem. But if people can take it or leave it and in moderation I...(more) 10 hr 45 min ago
              Wouldnt stress it
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              • Got it. Will observe him and see how it goes 10 hr 40 min ago
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    • such a turn off 10 hr 58 min ago
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    • My dh vapes every night. No issues 10 hr 58 min ago
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    • That's me and Dh. I don't think it's detrimental. Actually probably helps- we relax together. I know a guy who wakes and bakes. That would be a problem to me. 10 hr 55 min ago
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      • What does it mean: Wakes and bakes? 10 hr 54 min ago
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        • Think about it 10 hr 53 min ago
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        • Are you an idiot? What do you think it means? 10 hr 53 min ago
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          • Seriously never heard that expression. Does it mean smokes as soon as up in the morning? 10 hr 51 min ago
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            • Yes 10 hr 49 min ago
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              • Oh gotcha. That would be problem for sure 10 hr 48 min ago
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            • Wow 10 hr 49 min ago
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              • Immigrant here. Take it easy on me :) 10 hr 48 min ago
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  2. Toddler I'm not much of a cook. I don't enjoy cooking. Today I made almond milk. I'm quite proud of myself every time I make it. 11 hr 2 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Almonds must have such teeny nipples! I'm impressed. 11 hr 1 min ago
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    • i hate cooking. i spend so much money on prepared food or easy to prepare food. the time and hassle just aren't worth it 10 hr 56 min ago
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      • Yes. The cooking/clean up time to eating time... just not worth it! 10 hr 54 min ago
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  3. Toddler Is 49 too old for second marriage? 11 hr 3 min ago (9 replies)
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    • No such thing as too old for love 11 hr 1 min ago
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    • is this a trick question? 11 hr 1 min ago
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    • of course not. 11 hr ago
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    • my friend has her first marriage at 48 11 hr ago
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      • I know two people around the same age who just got married for the first time. But their DHs are much older 10 hr 57 min ago
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    • No - of course not 10 hr 57 min ago
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    • yes. tacky 10 hr 54 min ago
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    • Never too old only too young 10 hr 48 min ago
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  4. Toddler BIL did not get trashed and make a scene!! This is a shock. 11 hr 3 min ago (0 replies)
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  5. Toddler My boyfriend won't take a bite of his food until after I have started eating. He is wonderful in many ways but sometimes little stuff like this means a lot to me. It's more than...(more) 11 hr 4 min ago (6 replies)
    good manners - it means he is paying attention to me - shows me he cares
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    • Or he is waiting to see if it's poisoned 11 hr 2 min ago
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      • Lol!! Often he is the one who is cooking! I hope not.... 11 hr 1 min ago
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    • ^^^ even when I'm running around making sure other people have their food or getting things for other people he sits patiently (or helps) 11 hr 1 min ago
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    • It sounds OCD actually 10 hr 52 min ago
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      • It's not. It's good manners. 10 hr 51 min ago
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    • It's good manners. Woman eats first unless she says "go ahead". 10 hr 26 min ago
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  6. Toddler Friends invited us for fireworks at their club tonight...(more) 11 hr 7 min ago (29 replies)
    Ds slept at their home after with their ds and another friend. While the parents are in bed, 4 guys broke into the home Insane. Everyone is ok. So crazy
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    • What? where was this? 11 hr 6 min ago
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      • Nice Cleveland suburb. Upscale neighborhood 11 hr 4 min ago
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        • omg like solon? 11 hr 3 min ago
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          • Moreland hills! 11 hr 2 min ago
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        • Nothing was stolen. They walked right in the front door. Parents were upstairs 11 hr 3 min ago
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    • chciago? 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • Thank god not all tied up and killed like in Washington 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • This is like the third or fourth home invasion story posted on YBM in as many days. 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • yikes 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • Wait - your DS was in the broken into home?? 11 hr 6 min ago
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      • Yes! It is such a crazy story. He and another boy saw them and ran into the woods screaming. 11 hr 4 min ago
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        • They are 16yo 11 hr 1 min ago
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          • Sounds like the 16 yos were up to something. 10 hr 59 min ago
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            • No. Not at all. We were at the club together. The boys were just the first to find them 10 hr 58 min ago
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    • We watched from our deck at the beach 11 hr ago
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    • Someone broke into our house this year but my kids were sleeping at my parents. The next night was a slumber party with 12 girls. I am still so relieved it happened on the night...(more) 11 hr ago
      before and not the night of the slumber party. I cannot imagine explaining everything to 12 freaked out families!
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      • How did they get in? 10 hr 46 min ago
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    • i saw someone getting robbed in chicgo yesterday and i am really freaked out about it still 10 hr 56 min ago
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      • Where? Signed chicago mom 10 hr 56 min ago
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        • lincoln park right by diversey and pinegrove 10 hr 55 min ago
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      • You are the pregnant mom? 10 hr 56 min ago
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        • yeah 10 hr 55 min ago
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          • That sounded scary 10 hr 55 min ago
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            • it really was and i only live like 6 blocks away , makes me worry i should move to the suburbs 10 hr 54 min ago
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              • Ugh. Maybe. 10 hr 53 min ago
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                • my neighborhood is expensive too but maybe the city really is going to shit 10 hr 52 min ago
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                  • I keep hearing that Chicago is going in a bad direction 10 hr 52 min ago
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                    • I keep hearing that too:( 10 hr 47 min ago
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    • Chagrin Valley? omg 10 hr 41 min ago
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  7. Toddler What's special about American Girl Dolls? 11 hr 7 min ago (6 replies)
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    • Branding. And they have good hair that styles well. 11 hr 4 min ago
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    • Nothing. My girls had the fakes and one real one and they were basically identical. 10 hr 58 min ago
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    • Nice quality. Great stories. 10 hr 52 min ago
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    • I think they're quality is slightly better than Our Generation dolls, but no so much that it is worth the extra cost. 10 hr 48 min ago
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      • ^ their quality 10 hr 48 min ago
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        • ^ except I have two DCs and their AG dolls plus their cheaper dolls were all absolutely fine after they had outgrown them, except if they had purposely pulled them apart which can...(more) 10 hr 29 min ago
          happen to AG dolls too.
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  8. Toddler I have a close-knit group of friends who have been hanging out since we had our first dbs 7 years ago. There's one woman in the group, married to a man, who had to "come out" to...(more) 11 hr 7 min ago (54 replies)
    us as bisexual when we were about to meet her ex-partner, a woman, while we were on a trip - we knew her for years but she had deleted the entire story of her life with this woman, they had owned a house together, pets, etc. for 10 years in her twenties/thirties before she met her now-husband. Today, we found out that the same woman changed her name in her twenties - her child found her college yearbook with her photo with a different name. I am trying to be understanding since it seems like the name change might have been related to a challenging adult coming-out with her family, etc.; but the two surprise announcements (only revealed when her hand was forced) have definitely made me feel more distant from her.
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    • You sound like a great friend. 11 hr 5 min ago
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      • Are you being sarcastic? I hope not. I realize I am not entitled to know everything about her past, but these big revelations are unsettling. 11 hr 3 min ago
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        • np - her changing her name is not some huge revelation. I can understand being surprised about her having lived with a woman for so long and I might feel a bit upset that she...(more) 11 hr 2 min ago
          didn't feel like she could be open with me about it, but I don't see how this negates all the years of friendship the two of you have enjoyed
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        • Yes. I'm being sarcastic. 11 hr 1 min ago
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        • Glad to see you've made it all about you. Did it ever occur to you that it was unsettling for her? 11 hr 1 min ago
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          • Yes, I'm sure she has had all kinds of challenges that have prompted these decisions, but I can only comment on my own reaction. 11 hr ago
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    • Well, you suck 11 hr 5 min ago
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    • offs wtf is wrong with you 11 hr 4 min ago
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      • Seriously? Try to picture the conversation with one of your closest friends. "By the way - my real name was Susie Q. You might hear that from Jack, he found an old yearbook"....(more) 11 hr 2 min ago
        Then changes the subject.
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        • I don't understand why this is such a big deal to you 11 hr 1 min ago
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          • It's not "a big deal" but it doesn't make me want to continue to share confidences with her, continue to invest in a friendship, continue to spend more time with our families...(more) 11 hr ago
            together. Now I feel like I barely know her.
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            • np: but lots of people make big changes in their lives in their 20's/early 30's. I guess I don't see what the BFD is. 11 hr ago
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              • It's the context. We were daily-contact, in-and-out-of-each-other's-houses friends for years. 10 hr 59 min ago
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                • still don't see a problem 10 hr 58 min ago
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                • but...ok, my DH was married before me. it doesn't impact our lives in any way. I doubt any of his friends know. Why do you think you should have known this before now? 10 hr 58 min ago
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                  • Does he lie to hide that marriage? She lied a little and deliberately omitted a lot. She was actively managing our conversations. 10 hr 57 min ago
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                    • ^like, I feel stupid for talking so much with her about buying my first house at the "same time" as her when we moved to the same suburb. Now I know she owned two different houses...(more) 10 hr 56 min ago
                      in a nearby suburb with her prior partner.
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                      • so you were both buying houses in that neighborhood for the first time? 10 hr 55 min ago
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                        • See? that's what I mean. She made the same argument: "I never said I was buying a house in Busytown for the first time; I said I was buying a house in SOUTH Busytown for the first...(more) 10 hr 54 min ago
                          time." Come on. That is a technicality.
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                          • look, either you decide the friendship is worth saving or you decide that it's not. stop judging. stop blaming. think about whether or not this friendship matters enough to you to...(more) 10 hr 51 min ago
                            go talk to your friend about it and to work on fixing it. if it's not important enough than save yourself some time and save her from your judgement and cut ties
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                            • Yeah, I think we're done, because the "SOUTH busytown" hairsplitting was how our last conversation about it went. I hope she finds friends that she can be her full self with. 10 hr 50 min ago
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                          • I'm missing something. What is really bothering you about this? 10 hr 50 min ago
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                            • Feeling lied to! 10 hr 49 min ago
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                              • It's something else, I think. Maybe it's that you think she didn't trust you enough to not judge her? You wanted to be...(more) 10 hr 44 min ago
                                trusted?
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                                • I guess so - I thought I was! I trusted her with many confidences and thought that trust was returned. Apparently not in a huge, huge way. 10 hr 44 min ago
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                                  • she didn't trust you with any confidences during those 7 years of friendship, or are you just forgetting about those times? 10 hr 42 min ago
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                                    • Again - she was so masterful at guiding our conversations, that yes, technically she did share a just-barely equal confidence level about her current life. However: to delete the...(more) 10 hr 36 min ago
                                      information she did tainted huge, huge swaths of our conversation together - mostly as a function of our life stage, we met in a parent-support group with newborns and our kids grew up together in two different locations. It's irritating to remember her telling a funny story about her dad scolding her as a child saying "Now, Jenny" now that I know that her name was Suzie at that time.
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                                      • You're thinking that your whole friendship was a lie? 10 hr 34 min ago
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                                        • Now that I know how threatened she must have felt to continue to edit her life so heavily, I wonder what I offered to her at all. Money? Gullible enough to not ask too many...(more) 10 hr 25 min ago
                                          questions? An intro into a crowd of straight ladies with babies?
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                                  • And you're also thinking that she's dismissing the lie like it's no big deal? 10 hr 41 min ago
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                    • what was her lie? 10 hr 56 min ago
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                      • There were a handful of particular comments. She had a catalog of them. 10 hr 54 min ago
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                    • because she knew, deep down, that you were a judgypants 10 hr 56 min ago
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                      • Because she knew deep down that she was lying. 10 hr 53 min ago
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            • because she didn't reveal things about herself that happened before you two even met? that's a little ridiculous 10 hr 59 min ago
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              • Ok. I guess you guys have different expectations for your closest friendships. I like my friends to feel comfortable confiding in me, not working hard to actively edit their...(more) 10 hr 58 min ago
                conversation to hide major truths about their past lives. She had to lie to hide both facts.
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                • how did she lie? by not telling you about the relationship? or did she say there was someone else in her life during that time? I have very good friends and I don't know...(more) 10 hr 56 min ago
                  everything about their pasts. I'm okay with that. We share what is happening in our lives now and if they need to vent about something in the past they can share it, but it's not something I require of them if they want to keep my friendship
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                  • She 'fessed up when she came out about the partner - she had been tracking the times she explicitly lied about it to my face over the years, because she felt bad. However, she...(more) 10 hr 55 min ago
                    glossed over all of the "heavy editing" she did in countless other conversations that did not rise to the level of the handful of bald-faced lies.
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                    • I think we all edit to some degree. We don't spill everything about ourselves to everyone we talk to. 10 hr 54 min ago
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                    • For me, I'd think how hard it must have been for her to feel like she had to cover it. It must have been really hard for her. I'd let her know that...(more) 10 hr 52 min ago
                      I'm sorry it was so hard for her and ask her why she thought she had to cover it up. I'd assure her that she is my friend no matter what.
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                      • I do think that way sometimes; because of course that must be true. However, I am really struggling with feeling betrayed - again, the context is everything - given what I thought...(more) 10 hr 51 min ago
                        was the closeness of our friendship. It makes me wonder what else about her life is not true or transparent.
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                        • Feeling betrayed is not really a feeling. It's a thought about what you think someone did to you. What are you feeling? Foolish? Something else? 10 hr 47 min ago
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                          • Hmmm. Yes, foolish; like a sucker for not questioning everything she said earlier. For not noticing that she always specified "SOUTH busytown" etc. For knowing that her husband...(more) 10 hr 45 min ago
                            was socializing with me knowing that I didn't know and that he also had to manage the conversation to protect her privacy.
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                            • So, you're not sure what else not to trust. Trust in relationships is a core value for you. When else in your life have you felt the way you are feeling now? 10 hr 42 min ago
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                              • Maybe save that for your therapist. It is not about my past. I know that I value truthfulness, candor, and transparency in my relationships. I understand that she may have...(more) 10 hr 28 min ago
                                behaved this way because of literal threats to her survival in the past. Both things are true - I can understand why she would hide these parts of her lives AND I can be upset that I did not qualify as a safe confidante for her.
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                • Then talk with her about it. If you're that close, then you talk about what's going on for each of you. 10 hr 56 min ago
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    • What am I not getting? This woman had to come out and tell you about this chapter in her life and you now feel you can't be friends? And I also don't get what is making her tell...(more) 10 hr 53 min ago
      people (although sounds good to do)
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      • We were about to physically encounter the past partner while visiting her city - like she was outside and about to walk in. And this time, her kid pulled her yearbook out of a...(more) 10 hr 52 min ago
        closet box.
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    • She's kinda skeevy. I'd avoid her 10 hr 49 min ago
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      • She's not skeevy. But it is pretty weird and dramatic. I don't believe all these posters who say they'd be totes chill if their bestie revealed a same-sex partner of decade+...(more) 10 hr 48 min ago
        relationship and a different childhood name.
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        • of course you don't believe is. we are disagreeing with you and you want to believe that your opinion is right on this 10 hr 47 min ago
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          • I also don't believe you because it wasn't just me, there was a group of us, and the other women had a similar reaction of shock - one at the partner reveal, and one is way more...(more) 10 hr 44 min ago
            shocked about the name.
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            • oh, I'm sure we would all be shocked. it's the reaction after that that we are disagreeing with. 10 hr 42 min ago
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              • They are also pretty concerned/upset/"mad"/hurt 10 hr 41 min ago
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  9. Toddler I love my asian american doll 11 hr 14 min ago (1 reply)
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    • not weird. not weird at all. 11 hr 13 min ago
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  10. Toddler What size pearl earrings do you have? 11 hr 15 min ago (7 replies)
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    • 7mm 11 hr 15 min ago
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    • is this a thing? 11 hr 14 min ago
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    • I don't wear pearls. 11 hr 14 min ago
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      • i only use...(more) 11 hr 13 min ago
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        • SPECIAL ORIENTAL INGREDIENTS HAVE BEEN ADDED! 11 hr 10 min ago
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    • Medium 11 hr 9 min ago
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    • I just bought 10mm. Wanted something bigger. 10 hr 58 min ago
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  11. Toddler Toddler Zoltan is giving me a perineal massage. No midwife could do it better! I'm so proud of his skill! (9 replies) +1 like 11 hr 16 min ago (4 replies)
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    • huh? 11 hr 14 min ago
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    • HAHAHAHAHA oh man. That was some funny shit. 11 hr 9 min ago
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    • What? 11 hr 8 min ago
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  12. Toddler You ever go to someone's house and get utterly depressed? 11 hr 18 min ago (9 replies)
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    • only when my mom was still alive 11 hr 17 min ago
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    • In what way? Because it was beautiful or because it was a depressing house? 11 hr 16 min ago
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    • Why? Like staying there and from boredom or because their house is some way I wish mine could be? 11 hr 15 min ago
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    • no. what do you mean? 11 hr 15 min ago
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    • Yes, because it's a glaring reminder of how little dh and I have. Not talking wealth and "things" (we lost our apt last year and are still struggling). 11 hr 14 min ago
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    • yes when someone lives in a huge, gorgeous house! 11 hr 14 min ago
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      • you people are so pathetic 11 hr 11 min ago
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    • Yes, there's one mom I know who is nearly a hoarder. We're just aquaintences now. I couldn't deal. Shame, cause I liked her, but I couldn't let my kid in her house. 10 hr 44 min ago
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    • my sister and brother-in-law's I'm so proud of myself for not going this year. 9 hr 53 min ago
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  13. Toddler Why are ther so many firecrackrs tonite? hate it 11 hr 18 min ago (2 replies)
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    • it is the 4th of july 11 hr 17 min ago
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    • what Date is it where you are? 11 hr 9 min ago
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  14. Toddler Is this the finale! Is this the finale? Is this the finale?! 11 hr 19 min ago (1 reply)
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    • no. No. No. 11 hr 9 min ago
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  15. Toddler Today is the anniversary of the day I had to flee from drunk dh with my kids. It is a sadder day than I thought it would be. 11 hr 22 min ago (29 replies)
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    • I hope things are better now 11 hr 22 min ago
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      • op: better in some ways, much worse in others. Thank you. 11 hr 22 min ago
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        • you are a brave, strong woman 11 hr 21 min ago
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    • i'm very sorry but the fact that you left is huge and you should be proud of yourself for that 11 hr 21 min ago
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      • op: thank you. I am, but still very scared about the future. 11 hr 21 min ago
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    • Well, then it's truly Independence Day. Good for you. 11 hr 21 min ago
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      • this... in 1976, my mother ran off with us away from my drunk father with our clothing stuffed in pillowcases 11 hr 13 min ago
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        • How did it work out for you guys? 11 hr 9 min ago
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          • she went back a couple of times but eventually my mother got away and started a new life and is very happy. 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • you did good. not easy. let yourself mope-sometimes life doesn't turn out the way we want but how we deal with it shows who we are 11 hr 20 min ago
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    • how many years? 11 hr 18 min ago
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      • op: married 10 years. 11 hr 12 min ago
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        • i mean, how many years has it been since you left? 11 hr 11 min ago
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          • One year. 11 hr 11 min ago
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            • aww, it's still fresh. the first year is always the hardest. that's when all the adjustment takes place 11 hr 10 min ago
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              • op: yeah I hate him for what he did to our family, and I hate him for the way he has treated me this year. He blamed me for the breakup. He actually blamed ME, and tried to sue me...(more) 11 hr 8 min ago
                for sole custody (he lost, of course). I am just sad tonight, even though in general I am relieved to be away from him.
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                • yes, it's a grieving period, but you have your kids and you are out, that's a huge part of moving onward. 11 hr 6 min ago
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                  • op: thank you. I expected to hear a lot of "blame the op" type of stuff, and I am very glad that you and other kind souls are on tonight. 11 hr 5 min ago
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                    • my ex h was verbally abusive, but not a drunk, which I know just adds even more to things. i have had enough shit with him. i am 5 years divorced and my life is great. it's not...(more) 11 hr 4 min ago
                      perfect, but it is damn peaceful
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                • NP. I am so sorry you went through this. I can imagine this is a difficult day. Better times ahead. 10 hr 56 min ago
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    • Did he hit you a lot? 11 hr 13 min ago
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      • op: emotional/mental abuse. I would have preferred being hit (mostly because the abuse would have been more obvious to me way sooner, and others would understand it more). He was...(more) 11 hr 11 min ago
        a very severe alcoholic, and he probably has more than one personality disorder. He is a very disturbed guy. And I really wanted him to get his shit together, but he never did.
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        • Did he improve now that you are not together? My ex is an alcoholic but he is now involved with the children and responsible. He is able to be a drunk some days and responsible...(more) 11 hr 9 min ago
          other days
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          • op: He made the bare minimum improvements to be able to have unsupervised visits/a couple of overnights per week. He has not improved in any real way. 11 hr 6 min ago
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            • I hope for the kids he does improve (will make your life easier as well). Being supportive of him and letting to and trusting him was hard for me in the beginning but it helped us 11 hr 2 min ago
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              • op: Every time I try to be supportive he takes advantage of my kindness, and then he is cruel to me. I only contact him via email now, and I must record every single conversation...(more) 11 hr 1 min ago
                because he tries to gaslight me whenever he can.
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                • ^I mean the recorder is on at drop-offs and stuff where we have face-to-face contact and I cannot avoid him. 11 hr ago
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                • np from above with the verbally abusive ex h, i had to do that too, only communicate via email or text. so draining, but he almost got himself thron into jail bc of not paying...(more) 10 hr 59 min ago
                  child support, and i had some threats via text that i could use to get a restraining order. i am not afraid of him at all, but i like to keep it in my pocket just in case he decides he forgets to stay in his boundaries
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                • Ugh -- sorry. My ex was an asshole. Emotionally abusive and cruel. But I stopped letting it work on me and he lost his power. I feel fortunate that he tried to be a good father...(more) 10 hr 59 min ago
                  I hope things get better for you - GL
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  16. Toddler Had to turn off tv. What's the twilight zone episode ? 11 hr 23 min ago (1 reply)
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    • flying into Idlewild too fast 11 hr 8 min ago
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  17. Toddler So, really not being silly. If I told you that a five year old girl visiting my house today clogged our bathroom by using an entire roll of toilet paper - and her mother's...(more) 11 hr 23 min ago (30 replies)
    reaction was "Oh, that's because that was th first time she's ever gone by herself" your reaction is....?
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    • wtf??? even then...the kid should know better. 11 hr 22 min ago
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      • so, by even then, are you saying that's it's normal that 5 year old girl has never wiped her own ass before? 11 hr 22 min ago
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        • ^^^ sorry, I don't mean to sound nasty to you, that's why I'm posting. Is it remotely normal for a 5 year old girl to have never wiped herself before? 11 hr 20 min ago
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    • I'm going to need you to go fix that *hands bitch a plunger* 11 hr 21 min ago
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      • but, wait, really - What I'm trying to figure out is if I am being horribly judgmental and awful because this is not as abnormal as I am convinced it is? 11 hr 19 min ago
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        • It's irrelevant because if true, I'd be helping when not at our house. My eldest had trouble, I taught them 11 hr 17 min ago
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          • I do not understand this.response. What's irrelevant? 11 hr 15 min ago
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            • It's not out of the question that a kid can't wipe themselves correctly at 5. It's late but not what you're implying 11 hr 13 min ago
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        • Chill out... All,kids are different... Blame the parent for not grabbing a plunger and dealing...b...(more) 11 hr 14 min ago
          But don't shame the kid for not being good at a$$ wiping
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          • I am not blaming the kid at all! I would not think it was weird if she did a bad job at wiping. Seriously, my much older kids sometime do a lousy job, never mind my husband. I...(more) 11 hr 11 min ago
            am blaming my sister-in-law for raising a child who has never wiped herself, or gone to the bathroom by herself until today - she turned 5 in March.
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            • There may be more Tito this than 10 hr 46 min ago
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              • Like something developmental? Nope. Nothing. She is a single mother by choice - great. I respect that decision. But, now she won't leave the kid alone. Every kid needs to be...(more) 10 hr 43 min ago
                able to be independent sometimes. How is she going to go to kindergarten in the fall? This kid is emotionally stunted from this mother. She has the maturity level of a barely three-year-old.
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              • There may be more to it than you see.... The child could,have some delay or minor...(more) 10 hr 42 min ago
                Mild health issue that could make wiping there own butt seem harder for them.. There may be things they don't share with you.m try not to judge the mom... She is probably doing the best she can, although she should've plunged the toilet immediately herself.
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                • This woman shares EVERYTHING. She texts my husband daily about her yeast infection that won't go away. I assure you, if something was wrong - we'd know it. She even started...(more) 10 hr 39 min ago
                  talking to me and my teenager about her yeast infection today. GROSS.
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    • Get out the lights for the landing pad.... helicopter mom coming in 11 hr 20 min ago
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      • exactly. 11 hr 19 min ago
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        • ^^^so I should explain, this is my sister-in-law and her daughter. She simply cannot leave this kid alone. She will not let her be. She won't let her sit at the table without...(more) 11 hr 15 min ago
          getting up and basically hand feeding her. Now the child is unable to function independently. For example, we had music playing, my son starting dancing around. The niece starts too, but, instead of just having fun she kept making sure she had her mother's FULL attention the whole time. MOMMY, WATCH THIS! MOMMY LOOK, MOMMY WATCH ME.
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    • It isn't at all shocking that a five year old might use too much toilet paper and only mildly strange t need her mom to make sure her butt is clean but never did it by herself is...(more) 11 hr 4 min ago
      Indeed strange
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      • that's what I was wondering. OK. Thanks! 10 hr 46 min ago
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      • It's not STRANGE... Atypical maybe... Strange no... Stop being judgy 10 hr 41 min ago
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        • you sound like you're being judgy. Atypical vs. strange. Please. you get the point. 10 hr 38 min ago
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          • - no subject -...(more) 10 hr 31 min ago
            No, calling a kids inability to wipe their butt strange is totally judgy... It may be atypical, but calling it strange is really insensitive and unkind. You have no idea what really goes on in this persons life. The fact that this kid went alone may be a huge milestone and all you can do is pile on the MOM shame for this kids loving mother.
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            • OK. we totally disagree.I am not shaming you, I just disagree with you. strange/atypical in the OR's post was not presented in a mean spirited manner. you're reacting very...(more) 10 hr 24 min ago
              defensively to a vocabulary choice. But, I am not shaming you for that. Re-read what you've written here, and really think about it because to me, it seems like you're the pot calling the kettle out.
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    • whoa, sounds like you have a gas leak which is obviously very dangerous - figure this out ASAP! $1200 gas bill isn't normal 11 hr 4 min ago
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      • ^lol just "whoa" 11 hr 3 min ago
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    • She a little kid. Cut some slack 10 hr 50 min ago
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      • Really 10 hr 30 min ago
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      • i'm not upset with the kid at ALL! this is not her fault. In my opinion, the problem lies with her mother. 10 hr 16 min ago
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        • ^^^I actually feel very very sad for this little girl. She has no rules, no boundaries and she seems to be unable to function without constant praise and attention. I fear she...(more) 10 hr 14 min ago
          will grow up to have a real lack of self-confidence - and will be unable to function independently.
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    • My ds just turned 5 and I wipe his butt 5 hr 54 min ago
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  18. Toddler You know, I liked the Empire State Bldg before they made the lights animated. It's too slick for the that bldg. Thanks for listening. 11 hr 26 min ago (4 replies)
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    • embrace change 11 hr 24 min ago
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    • Kind of a brilliant PR move, like companies ringing the opening bell on Wall Street 11 hr 19 min ago
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    • i was watching from my hotel window. looks like it was on speed or something 11 hr 8 min ago
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    • I agree, it really looked beautiful tonight 11 hr 7 min ago
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  19. Toddler Why are there so few people here anymore? 11 hr 26 min ago (11 replies)
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    • Kids are getting old , we are getting old 11 hr 26 min ago
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    • Don't we ever get any new people? 11 hr 25 min ago
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    • same things over and over 11 hr 22 min ago
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    • Are childless women still bashed on here? 11 hr 20 min ago
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    • There are still plenty. Holiday evening notwithstanding 11 hr 19 min ago
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    • No new blood --- smart ones realize this wastes your life away and don't come back anymore 11 hr 17 min ago
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      • Np I agree with this. Also, it's much less of an... educated and articulate crowd these days... 11 hr 9 min ago
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        • I learn all kinds of helpful things on here 10 hr 57 min ago
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        • Bullshit. People have been saying this from the get-go. 10 hr 55 min ago
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          • np this. They started complaining that "things have changed" since a few months after it all started! 10 hr 54 min ago
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  20. Toddler Why did Endora always wear the same thing on Bewitched? 11 hr 29 min ago (4 replies)
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  21. Toddler Intuitive mom are you here? will this deal go through? 11 hr 30 min ago (9 replies)
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    • No, but I'm seeing the next one to be successful. 11 hr 18 min ago
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      • when will that be? this summer? 11 hr 10 min ago
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        • Before the end of the year. 11 hr 8 min ago
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          • Thanks. I will update you. I should hear from this buyer this week 11 hr 6 min ago
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    • How many people saw? 11 hr 11 min ago
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      • OP Saw what? 11 hr 10 min ago
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        • It's for intuitive mom to answer 11 hr 7 min ago
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    • Intuitive mom do you see anythng about exdh? 10 hr 33 min ago
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  22. Toddler Who are the posters here? They all sound the same. Are there certain "types"? 11 hr 31 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Rich nyc'ers and people who hate them. 11 hr 28 min ago
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      • Are most stay-at-homes? 11 hr 27 min ago
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        • No, hence the all the sahm/wahm arguments. 11 hr 22 min ago
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      • Seems more suhurban than NYC proper 11 hr 19 min ago
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  23. Toddler What time do you like to get to the beach, family day trip an hour away. 11 hr 32 min ago (9 replies)
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    • by 11 am 11 hr 31 min ago
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    • I like to push hard to get there as early as possible, like 8 am, but I am a loon. I also like to leave at 2, then have dinner and come back after dinner. 11 hr 31 min ago
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      • What time do you eat dinner? 11 hr 26 min ago
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    • 10, leave by 130 11 hr 30 min ago
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    • 10-1:30- my youngest is very pale and blond. She is like a roasted pig on a spit if I'm not careful. 11 hr 27 min ago
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      • ^ signed black mom :-) 11 hr 27 min ago
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    • 11-5 11 hr 26 min ago
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    • it depends on the beach. when we go on vacation to st john, we usually hit it after lunch. when we stay at il's house, we usually go midday 11 hr 24 min ago
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    • By 10 or 11. 11 hr 24 min ago
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  24. Toddler Is there anything erotic to you about seeing Magic Mike XXL? 11 hr 32 min ago (8 replies)
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    • no. wt movie 11 hr 31 min ago
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    • No. It's for gay men 11 hr 31 min ago
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      • What IS an erotic type of movie to you? 11 hr 30 min ago
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    • Joe M. Without a shirt on is always erotic for me 11 hr 30 min ago
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      • Who? 11 hr 29 min ago
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      • This. That man is beyond fine. 11 hr 19 min ago
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    • The only people who find that movie "erotic" wear zebra print and still think crunchy curls look good 11 hr 30 min ago
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      • What are crunchy curls? 11 hr 6 min ago
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  25. Toddler Do people find Ed Sheehan attractive? 11 hr 32 min ago (5 replies)
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    • Why the fuck do you care about Ed Sheerhan so much? 11 hr 32 min ago
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      • He's on TV right now. 11 hr 31 min ago
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    • disgusting 11 hr 29 min ago
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    • I don't, but I love the video of him dancing with that girl. 11 hr 27 min ago
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    • no but i love his voice and music 11 hr 25 min ago
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