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- Toddler Where should I get my moses basket? The one I had last time was a little flimsy
- Check the river banks
- Near the reeds
- Buy Buy Baby
- Bye bye money. Moses baskets are silly
- Check the river banks
- Toddler I have one of those colds that i have a very runny nose. What is the trick for stopping it, it has been two days and so, so sore.
- Have you tried flushing it with saline?
- op: I can do that! Thanks!
- sudafed
- op: the kind you need id to buy?
- Have you tried flushing it with saline?
- Toddler You guys. it's just not true that older parents are more likely to have autism. i realize there are studies that refute what i'm saying but they are total bull shit. it's just a...(more)
- itda. I think parental age is legitmately linked to many disorders and issues.
- op rubbish
- ok then. suit yourself.
- op rubbish
- Its about paternal advanced age, BTW.
- np: I was just reading something about this. all attention is focused on maternal age...
- granny dads are the culprit i thought with autism
- but those studies aren't about granny moms
- yes-- all these scientists have a bone to pick with granny moms. wtf?
- she's wrong. that isn't what the studies say
- np: pretty sure they do say there's a correlation between older fathers and autism.
- she's wrong. that isn't what the studies say
- advanced age is a huge risk factor in pregnancy
- okay, tell us why the studies are wrong.
- this is just magical thinking on op's part.
- why would someone become autistic after giving birth?
- I don't think there are studies that back that up
- which?
- the older mom autism thing. maybe slight increase for older dad, if I recall correctly
- which?
- if you look at the studies, there are some that reach statistical significance, but the effect is very weak. it's probably correlated, but nowhere near the primary cause.
- ^ parental education consistently has a stronger correlation, for example
- Oh, I agree with you.
- No one knows the cause but genetics plays a part.
- itda. I think parental age is legitmately linked to many disorders and issues.
- Toddler I am very worried about my mid 40s dh who keeps getting fatter. The only thing I do is try and make healthy meals for the family as a whole. I made salmon, baby spinach salad and...(more)
- That's hard, I think you need to have a it down with him.
- My Dh rarely promises treats without checking with me, while home at least. Wow I'm controlling
- tell him about my dad who used to buy us candy all the time and died at 49 of a heart attack. Not being mean at all, but it is a cautionary tale; it was horrible and kids need...(more)
- I did about a year ago and it went badly. I even asked ybm for advice and was told to back off and leave the "poor" guy alone.
- The poor guy needs to get his out of his ass and think about his kids and his wife.
- i think telling him that you want him to get a full medical work up and a heart scan might be a way to go, couch it in concern...
- I did about a year ago and it went badly. I even asked ybm for advice and was told to back off and leave the "poor" guy alone.
- Toddler I like this new girl on RHOOC
- Toddler Do you think in like 10 years real boobs will be considered as gross and gauche as real pubes by 20 somethings?
- no
- no
- I thought there was a slowly growing turn against fake boobs. Am I wrong? I hear men comment about "ugh, fake".
- Toddler Played candy crush on my phone and passed a really hard level. It won't update on my Ipad. Any fixes?
- Toddler Anyone try one of those belly bandit things post-partum? D
- oops...did it help?
- I just used the ole fat belt from target. It did helpe because it makes me engage my core unconsciously.
- Toddler If you dc had coxsackie with mouth sores for how long did you stay in? I read saliva can be contagious for 2 weeks and stool for 4. My dc is 17 mo old. Does this mean no pool...(more)
- haha you said cock
- We were told 24 hours after last fever. ok if blisters were still present, as long as no new blisters.
- Honestly, no one else follows those guidelines.
- yeah, you are right. I will just keep him in until the blisters in his mouth heal
- Toddler Just wondering about your opinion. DS is at a sleepover. He called and asked if dh or I could bring his wii game for him. He is about 20 mins. away. I responded that I am not...(more)
- I'm with you.
- I wouldn't have brought it.
- divorce him ASAP and find someone who isn't a total loser
- I would have said no way,
- you were right
- i would be disappointed that he would even ask that
- NP: He's a kid. Kids are still at a stage where they're learning etiquette.
- Ditto. We're talking about a kid. I presume this is not a teenager. This is normal behavior. They're still learning.
- NP: He's a kid. Kids are still at a stage where they're learning etiquette.
- nfw would i have brought it.
- At least you know where your son got his manners from :(
- You were right, it was rude of him to even ask.
- I would've done the same thing. I can't stand when my dd begs for a playdate and then immediately wants to 'show' her friend the Xbox game she loves--ends up in there for the...(more)
- Omg- NNFW
- I would ask ds if its really the wii game and double check its not a way for him to get you to pick him up for some reason yo
- OP: Oh, he didn't want me to pick him up. He totally loves being with this friend.
- Then tell him to piss off
- OP: Oh, he didn't want me to pick him up. He totally loves being with this friend.
- No way. You are right.
- i wouldn't do it, but don't see how it's rude? The other kid probably wanted it too and told him to call you
- This
- or. Ok thanks- guess we're the crazy ones :)
- OP: I don't think you're crazy. I think it would've been rude of ME to have done this.
- or. Ok thanks- guess we're the crazy ones :)
- This
- Toddler My 7 and 4 yo are in swim lessons. Today they got an veal and 4 yo passed and is on to the next level. I let her pick out a little toy eraser puzzle for $1 as an award. 7 yo...(more)
- welcome to 7 yo... it sucks and "nothing is fair"
- well I told her life isn't fair and that she needs to earn it. I almost felt bad that I didn't get her something but realized I was being stupid for thinking that
- lol, they are beyond annoying at that age, super self centered and dramatic
- when 4 yo saw the bracelet AND the medal she won she was just happy for her. Just is so annoying.
- even my 7 yo's friends tell me "that's not fair" when I bring snacks they don't like, so ....
- 7 yo gets a lot for the sport she does. Swimming is the only thing my 4 yo does. I get that it's typical but it's also annoying
- get used
- 7 yo gets a lot for the sport she does. Swimming is the only thing my 4 yo does. I get that it's typical but it's also annoying
- even my 7 yo's friends tell me "that's not fair" when I bring snacks they don't like, so ....
- when 4 yo saw the bracelet AND the medal she won she was just happy for her. Just is so annoying.
- lol, they are beyond annoying at that age, super self centered and dramatic
- well I told her life isn't fair and that she needs to earn it. I almost felt bad that I didn't get her something but realized I was being stupid for thinking that
- Yeah, but that's how 7yos are. Self centered.
- I would not be annoyed. it was a normal reaction from 7yo. but I would have stood my ground.
- i would have been annoyed, but i wouldn't have given any of that energy to the 7yo. it's understandable--she doesn't care what happened before, she wants the exact same stuff as...(more)
- Not sure, seems unfair to punish for failing an eval, she's 7.
- how is this a punishment? I didn't out her in a TO for not passing. What about potty rewards charts? You give a sticker when they pee
- She wasn't punishing her. She was rewarding the other child. Not everything in life is even.
- yes but thats they way sibs are.
- id quit rewarding this stuff. the reward is the achievement
- my 4 yo doesn't get much and I wantd
- ^to give her a tiny thing for her achievement, she wanted one for a while
- my 4 yo doesn't get much and I wantd
- welcome to 7 yo... it sucks and "nothing is fair"
- Special Needs Any recommendations for child psychologist in Brooklyn? Kid is a preschooler w/ ADHD, emotional dysregulation issues, regular aggression, verbal but hates being asked questions.
- I have friends who like Carolyn Kessler.
- Thanks! I'll check her out. Her name sounds very familiar to me...
- Who would diagnose ADHD in a preschooler??
- Sigh. Sometimes you can. I have had this fight 57 times on here. We went to a VERY well-respected developmental ped who said that while obviously we would NOT consider...(more)
- Gotcha, makes sense
- Hey, thanks! Sorry to sound so annoyed in my response. :)
- No prob. I've just always heard it can't be dx before 7 but my dd hardly fits the mold so I know none of this is a perfect science :)
- Hey, thanks! Sorry to sound so annoyed in my response. :)
- Gotcha, makes sense
- Sigh. Sometimes you can. I have had this fight 57 times on here. We went to a VERY well-respected developmental ped who said that while obviously we would NOT consider...(more)
- I have friends who like Carolyn Kessler.
- Toddler My 1st dc is my favorite child. sorry kids
- why?
- She was an amazing kid and is an amazing teenager. She's smart, compassionate, diplomatic, strong, mature, talented. she can sing, dance, act
- That is not why I love my children.
- well, i love all my children but she excels at those virtues
- That is not why I love my children.
- She was an amazing kid and is an amazing teenager. She's smart, compassionate, diplomatic, strong, mature, talented. she can sing, dance, act
- How old? I expect time will change that.
- 17
- Always been this way?
- yes
- That kind of sucks.
- yes
- Always been this way?
- 17
- girl or boy?
- my mother had 5 and she said her favorite would change every day -- i believe her now that i have kids
- how many kids do you have? you should have stuck with one
- 4
- think of how much money you wasted on the last 3.
- they are great kids. but she's different
- think of how much money you wasted on the last 3.
- 4
- we know mom. maybe you could talk to our therapist when we are 45 and still pissed off. k? thanks
- why?
- Toddler What's the etiquette for applying for more than 1 position at the same company - online applications. I'm job hunting and see some roles, both of which I could fit. Do I apply to...(more)
- It's all of scanned
- Toddler First db... do I need a pack n' play?
- no.
- nope
- no but everyone you know who could potentially watch your kid needs to go buy one righ tnow
- We used ours all the time, traveling and as a bassinet.
- Yes. Take to friend's homes, park, beach....
- Flame away. I had two!!
- I liked having one
- yes -- for downstairs -- with the changing part -- great for somewhere to put the baby down for naps, diaper changes, if the doorbell rings
- or if you plan to travel in the next two years
- if you plan to travel a lot. Or if you have a downstairs some ppl like it as a changing station.
- 3 dc and I never felt the need for one. We travel a lot, too.
- I found friends/families didn't have a crib and some hotels cribs were old fashioned and dangerous.
- Where did they sleep
- When they were newborns we would request a crib at the hotel, older babies slept with us, after 2 on their own beds.
- I have three. I'd have had dc all over me if I'd done that. That's not how I'd trace
- Travel.
- I have 3 too. Never more than one in a crib anyway. They are all 20 months apart.
- my dc was almost killed by a rental crib
- I have three. I'd have had dc all over me if I'd done that. That's not how I'd trace
- When they were newborns we would request a crib at the hotel, older babies slept with us, after 2 on their own beds.
- I had one and used it pretty frequently.
- Do you travel? We used ours all the time
- I liked having one for hotels and when they crawling I would put him/her in there to play while I took a shower or something
- yes, but get a basic one, don't need all the frills
- We use ours to travel. And now that we're in a house, I definitely would've needed it to keep db with me when I was downstairs.
- Toddler What did you eat today?
- 2 tacos carnitas, a banana shake and a cup of tea with lemon
- Cereal, hamburger, chicken, brown rice, broccoli, coffee, and wine
- hummingbird smoothie, tuna sandwich, pasta
- you put a hummingbird in a smoothie?
- lol - robeks fav. not sure what was in it but kept me buzzing like a hummingbird all day
- so speed?
- lol - robeks fav. not sure what was in it but kept me buzzing like a hummingbird all day
- you put a hummingbird in a smoothie?
- banana 3 apricots 1/2 quart green juice berry/sweet potato smoothie nectarine chickpea salad 1/2 quart green juice cherries apricot
- you gonna poooop!
- Whole grain English muffin with peanut butter, coffee, water, popcorn, veggie burger with black bean salad, carne asada tacos (2)
- Toddler Lol. Hockey is the ultimate blue collah sport according to the Bostonian the news interviewed.
- too expensive
- That's what makes his comment funny. It's not even cheap to go watch!
- so true
- blue collar people aspire to be sports stars
- That's what makes his comment funny. It's not even cheap to go watch!
- you disagree?
- The cost is far from blue collar. Baseball is the ultimate blue clar redneck sport.
- they will put all their money into that dream
- The cost is far from blue collar. Baseball is the ultimate blue clar redneck sport.
- Odd isn't it? Because its one of most expensive for kids
- np unless you live somewhere cold enough to have a rink out back or at your school.
- you can learn to skate not play hockey there
- sure you can! generations of canadians have done just that.
- the game has changed and is very competitive you need a lot of training signed canadian
- hey, i'm canadian too. :)
- then you know this :)
- there is no way my DSs will ever play hockey, so luckily i don't know this!
- then you know this :)
- hey, i'm canadian too. :)
- the game has changed and is very competitive you need a lot of training signed canadian
- sure you can! generations of canadians have done just that.
- True. But hats only part of the year
- yes, that's true. i know nothing about what it takes to be a really good player, to be honest. i just grew up in one of those places with outdoor rinks.
- you can learn to skate not play hockey there
- I know. If I'd known I don't think I would've started son skating at 2.
- np unless you live somewhere cold enough to have a rink out back or at your school.
- i live in the boston area, all of the blue collar girls i grew up with now have their kids in hockey and fully embrace the title of hockey moms. it's a badge of honor around...(more)
- I'm in Chicago but lived in north shoe Boston. My babysitter lives in Gloucester and a die hard bruins fan.
- oh yes, everyone here is a fan - blue, white collar. almost all boys grow up playing hockey, or at the very least watching it.
- *^^ is on state health care but will pay to go to a bruins game.
- I'm in Chicago but lived in north shoe Boston. My babysitter lives in Gloucester and a die hard bruins fan.
- there are more than a few blue collar jobs that pay very well. hired a plumber lately?
- i'm in boston. it's blue collar.
- too expensive
- Toddler I love the ues. everyone said it was pretentious, religious (?) and dull. it is none of these. it's quiet and residential feeling and has the water nearby. I'm so happy...(more)
- me too.
- Me too. Lived here for years. Not leaving.
- I like it there too. Where did you move from?
- east 23. awful. noisy and ugly and too many nyu students.
- Np: that's got to be one of the worst pockets in manhattan
- right? why is that?
- np - Because it sucks there.
- yes, but why????
- what sucks about it? seems kind of fine to me. NP
- yes, but why????
- np - Because it sucks there.
- right? why is that?
- Np: that's got to be one of the worst pockets in manhattan
- east 23. awful. noisy and ugly and too many nyu students.
- I totally LOVE Carl Schurz Park.
- Are you on York or first? 90s
- 2nd.
- ooof
- secret is to be on those side streets, lots of pretty tree lines streets between 1st and 2nd in the upper 70's/80/
- Upper 80's is not great on side streets.
- htere are many v pretty streets there, what do you mean?
- Upper 80's is not great on side streets.
- secret is to be on those side streets, lots of pretty tree lines streets between 1st and 2nd in the upper 70's/80/
- ooof
- 2nd.
- Water? Are you way east?
- it is only pretentious in that the elite privates are there. it's pretty high density and inexpensive for the most part.
- Inexpensive??
- Inexpensive - says no one ever
- LOL
- love it.
- ITA< live in 80s near Carl Shurz park and love love love it and got more square footage and a great public school.
- right? did you rent? what is rent if so?
- nope, bought at low of market and have 2000 sq feet, never ever moving.
- dude. that is great. when?
- 2009 and also moved from 20s and 2nd.3d area so feel like its paradise1
- that was the low market? so you moved from gramercy to ues? and fwiw, gramercy so $$$$ .. i don't know why really.
- 2009 and also moved from 20s and 2nd.3d area so feel like its paradise1
- what is your layout? bed/bath, etc?
- who?
- not large at all. a converted one to two br. It's fine .
- prewar, nice long hallways, living and dining, three bedrooms, plus guest room/den. Only 2 baths though. can have family stay.
- sounds fabulous...
- i like the long hallways, it gives perspective
- do you miss the city?
- np, i guess. i live in nyc and i love it. except in the summer, i just like it.
- do you miss the city?
- who?
- dude. that is great. when?
- nope, bought at low of market and have 2000 sq feet, never ever moving.
- right? did you rent? what is rent if so?
- I agree. I fucking love it (grew up in w.v.). Especially the dog park in cp.
- Toddler Is it better to keep a laptop plugged in all the time, or just plug it in to charge the battery andthen unplug?
- let the battery discharge sometimes
- Thank you.
- you're a terrible parent and shes a bratty little shit
- ^ack autofill, ignore
- wow... what was that written for originally?!
- no just ignore it! I meant to type something else! sorry!
- NO! Now you have to tell what you wrote it for !
- I don't remember
- pretty funny. You should post that all the time :)
- I don't remember
- NO! Now you have to tell what you wrote it for !
- no just ignore it! I meant to type something else! sorry!
- wow... what was that written for originally?!
- Ooh. Harsh
- This.
- you tell her
- ^ack autofill, ignore
- latter
- let the battery discharge sometimes
- Toddler WWYD if you let your 8 yo ds have a sleepover and then discover the parents of ds's friend were not at home and left the kids with a teenage neighbor? (of course, they didn't tell...(more)
- Not happy
- I would start smashing things and break every pane of glass in sight and destroy several cars.
- lol
- That's the second thing I would do, after I regained consciousness from passing out
- I like you...
- Ah the new ybm!
- Never let him back I've again
- angry
- how did you find out?!
- next day, via ds
- overnight?
- they went to a party. I assume came back late night
- Oh that's diferent
- they went to a party. I assume came back late night
- OK< OP what did you do?
- Decided he is never going again but not sure how to confront parents
- Don't.
- It probably wouldn't DO anything, but you could call and tell them what DS told you. Let them respoind
- I would say, next time if you are going to be out, we should have the sleepover at my place so an adult can watch them be crazy
- Decided he is never going again but not sure how to confront parents
- pissed
- Not allow ds to stay there again.
- yikes are they smoking crack.
- Toddler Wow. Everyone here recommends la Roche posay for sunscreen. So many if their sunscreens com up as 7 ( dangerous) on the rating website
- so? don't you ever wear makeup? do you think that's full of healthful chemicals?
- I rarely wear makeup and when I do I use natural stuff
- so? don't you ever wear makeup? do you think that's full of healthful chemicals?
- Toddler How did the abortion debate go?
- Oh republicans are insane. And the wonder why they have lost the female vote and youth vote.
- masturbating fetuses. say no more.
- this. jaw dropping creepy thing to say. fetus porn.
- Toddler So will Chrysler contact me w/a letter to come have my Jeep taken care of or do I need to call them?
- Recall? They will contact. Or just go in
- pretty big job. They have to basically redo the fuel tank
- Call. Get an appointment.
- pretty big job. They have to basically redo the fuel tank
- recall letter in mail. or just call
- Recall? They will contact. Or just go in
- Toddler How does any human with a brain think that fetuses can masturbate.
- Fucking Republicans, man
- where the heck did this comce from?
- who said they can?
- it
- it's a prolife argument. they masturbate, hence they can feel pleasure, hence they must feel pain, so abortion is bad
- omg, those moronss
- i'm crazy liberal and i'm not denying that an abortion might cause the fetus pain for a minute before it's death. it's a brutal but necessary procedure.
- brutal but NECESSARY? On what fucking planet did you just type that from?
- Np- I had an abortion 3 yrs ago. It was necessary.
- brutal but NECESSARY? On what fucking planet did you just type that from?
- but don't these same people think it's evil to masturbate so shouldn't they be hating these fetus?
- this
- they do touch their privates and it doesn't surprise me that a repub considers that masturbating. so i'm not shocked.
- Whaaaaaaat?
- what now?
- far be it from me to give any credence to that asshole but they do suck their thumbs in utero... Of course hand near genitals does not equal masturbate.
- these people were probably beaten and have some brain damage and also they have major sex issues
- Toddler Wwyd if dh's sister invited everyone and their mother to her wedding but not you or dh and even invited his ex-wife and her dh (who she cheated on dh with) plus our 2 stepkids? I...(more)
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- Then move along
- adhd is treatable
- i'm capable of reading 100 words thanks.
- She is petty and awful.
- Here's what you do: you STFU and don't say a word to anyone ever. Lay low. Invite her to things when you are hosting family and hope that time heals.
- and suggest that dh call her and say he's coming, but without you he wants to see his sister get married, you can deal w/ the stuff bn you and her after the fact
- ^^Not OR, but I agree.
- Her dh should crash the wedding?
- no he should call his sister
- nnp: He should call her and say he'd like to come alone.
- does he want to go?
- and suggest that dh call her and say he's coming, but without you he wants to see his sister get married, you can deal w/ the stuff bn you and her after the fact
- I remember you
- she said that? wow
- Why does she hate you?
- Bc of the facebook comment which I apologized for a million times
- What was the comment again?
- She called stepdd "gorgeous like her mother" even though she looks exactly like dh. His exwife also married her affair.
- And what was your commment?
- That she looks like dh and shouldnt have posted that bc he never gets credit for anything
- Lol. Ok mistake but not the worst thing ever
- You don't how many times I apologized and how much I have sucked up to her to show her im sorry, she refuses to let it go
- Dh needs to go nuclear
- Well he is really hurt more than anything else, I imagine fighting with her will make it worse
- He needs to say if you don't want me in your life, I won't be. Don't expect any future relationship if you exclude me and my wife from your
- Weddin
- He needs to say if you don't want me in your life, I won't be. Don't expect any future relationship if you exclude me and my wife from your
- Well he is really hurt more than anything else, I imagine fighting with her will make it worse
- Dh needs to go nuclear
- You don't how many times I apologized and how much I have sucked up to her to show her im sorry, she refuses to let it go
- Lol. Ok mistake but not the worst thing ever
- That she looks like dh and shouldnt have posted that bc he never gets credit for anything
- Why is she mad at you? What did you say in reuturn?
- See above
- And what was your commment?
- She called stepdd "gorgeous like her mother" even though she looks exactly like dh. His exwife also married her affair.
- why would you? she was way out of line
- np: I am sure that was the last straw. You guys have bad blood. Not enough info to judge who, but if you want it to stop, you have to be the bigger person.
- What was it?
- See above I apologized
- What was the comment again?
- Bc of the facebook comment which I apologized for a million times
- she said your dd was beautiful like your dh's ex wife
- Dh's DD from 1st marriage
- did you break up that marriage OP?
- Nope she is married to his former best friend, she had an affair
- Well for some reason his sister does not like you and she does like the ex.
- Nope she is married to his former best friend, she had an affair
- Really? And what did you say?
- you really were out of line. sorry she said her niece was beautiful like her mom tha tis ok
- Np ok she was out of line. That doesn't warrant an exclusion from your wedding
- no it doesn't BUT you should have kept your mouth shut
- I agree but I wonder what the relationship was prior to this. I have a hard time believing this is the only issue.
- And I have apologized profusely, what more can I do?
- she is an asshole, good riddance and dh should have your back
- Yes but he is also hurt given her other sibs were invited
- which proves she is spiteful and nasty
- Im not disagreeing but literally everyone you can imagine has been invited except dh including his 3 other siblings and even his exwife
- this is simply more evidence that she is horrible
- Im not disagreeing but literally everyone you can imagine has been invited except dh including his 3 other siblings and even his exwife
- which proves she is spiteful and nasty
- Yes but he is also hurt given her other sibs were invited
- she is an asshole, good riddance and dh should have your back
- Np ok she was out of line. That doesn't warrant an exclusion from your wedding
- did you break up that marriage OP?
- Dh's DD from 1st marriage
- Why hasn't her mother given her hell about this?
- She has and she will not budge.
- I remember this!!
- You need to stay the hell away from this toxic cesspool of crazy. And stop saying shit on FB too
- Man, you fucked up big time with your fb comments, payback is a bitch.
- are you crazy? the sil was out of line
- For calling her neice beautiful?
- no for being an inflammatory bitch
- Ha! For all we know she does look like her mom.
- do you have a divorced sibling? who was left for an affair? you don't give that piece of work a compliment at the expense of your brother esp when there is a new wife, it is just...(more)
- I think the compliment had nothing to do with you
- i am and NP with no horse in this race but i know when someone is trying to cause shit for no good reason
- Ita the sil was trying to needle her
- It wasn't about the sil! it was on the step daughters facebook picture. It's called being a grown up!
- Actually I do but we all act like grown ups and my nieces do look like their gorgeous mother whom I can't stand!
- I think the compliment had nothing to do with you
- Exactly so why did op tel her not to say it?
- do you have a divorced sibling? who was left for an affair? you don't give that piece of work a compliment at the expense of your brother esp when there is a new wife, it is just...(more)
- Ha! For all we know she does look like her mom.
- no for being an inflammatory bitch
- For calling her niece gorgeous?
- And that's why OP has apologized "a million times"? Riiiight.
- FB is always the wrong venue for this and clearly OP gets this
- Yes I have not only in person but email which im happy to post here
- Great post it.
- For calling her neice beautiful?
- are you crazy? the sil was out of line
- take her off the christmas card list.
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