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- Toddler Any good ideas for packed lunches that I may not have thought of (chicken nuggets, sandwiches all in the mix)? TIA
- soup in thermos
- i make chicken and broccoli quesadillas with leftover dinner. cut each in half and freeze. thaw out for lunchboxes
- Camp doesn't heat the lunch tho
- or: i toast it that morning and wrap in tin foil. just don't put it in the camp fridge. it's fine
- interesting, thanks.
- or: i toast it that morning and wrap in tin foil. just don't put it in the camp fridge. it's fine
- Camp doesn't heat the lunch tho
- Leftovers from dinner.
- Toddler Dd just passed out on the couch watching sesame street. She had a fever last friday, but I thought she was all better - she even went to daycare yesterday. Do you think she's...(more)
- how old?
- almost 3.
- I don't think it's that odd that a not-yet 3 yo needs a nap. Friday was a long time ago.
- she does still nap - but usually not for another hour or so.
- I don't think it's that odd that a not-yet 3 yo needs a nap. Friday was a long time ago.
- almost 3.
- yes
- i think it takes a toll on your body and sometimes you just need extra rest
- Age?
- could just be recovering. my 3.5 year old still naps (falls asleep watching tv sometimes too)
- she still naps, but not until noon. Perhaps I've bored her to sleep?
- ha :)
- she still naps, but not until noon. Perhaps I've bored her to sleep?
- how old?
- Toddler 6yo dd is going home on friends bus and going home with her... is it odd to text the mom a little after they get off to make sure everything is ok?
- NOpe
- no, totally fine. we all used to do that when they were little
- not IMO, I try to text a funny picture or story to a mom when 9 yo has friends over. Even though you know they're probably fine, it's something that's in the back of my mind when...(more)
- Toddler My 6th grader has been using an iPad a lot - I have mixed feelings about it. For example, for English, they read 3 books on it. I would prefer they read books in paper form. Am...(more)
- People here will say yes, but I agree with you.
- same
- tritto
- same
- ^^to be clear, she is using an iPad in school, during class
- some screens can be harder on the eyes. i like my kindle paperwhite but i find those ipad screens hard to look at for so long
- there is a push in my school among the parents to have everything on the ipad. i tend to think that this is overkill. i think there is great benefit in reading books in actual...(more)
- OP: to me, this is using an iPad for the sake of saying you use iPads. No reason to read books on it.
- exactly. i feel like student still need the interactive part of a classroom. not everything should be on a gadget.
- np - it's cheaper to buy digital copies of books, not to mention better for the environment. I'm not flaming or disagreeing with you, but they're not using an ipad for the sake...(more)
- Ugh this is so dividing the classes even further. Lets push to have everything on electronics that not everyone can afford
- OP: to me, this is using an iPad for the sake of saying you use iPads. No reason to read books on it.
- I am curious as to what the benefit is to reading a book in paper form than on a device? It's still a book.
- I would push against this. My eyes were shot by screen time and my kids eyes are not great to begin with.
- I can't imagine it would be a problem if you got your dc the paper versions instead. Many parents are grateful for the Ipad because it reduces the weight of backpacks
- People here will say yes, but I agree with you.
- Toddler I am eligible to upgrade to iphone5 from 4S...worth it?
- i did...why not.
- cuz it still costs $200 --- what are the advantages that you've noticed? tia.
- oh, i did it when it didn't cost $200. just a bigger screen, that i've noticed.
- op: i think it has a better camera too.
- majorly better camera and flash
- op: i think it has a better camera too.
- oh, i did it when it didn't cost $200. just a bigger screen, that i've noticed.
- cuz it still costs $200 --- what are the advantages that you've noticed? tia.
- i did...why not.
- Toddler Reposting for the daytime crowd. I got a new job as a children's librarian-hooray! I love kids books and libraries but I've never worked with kids before. Any tips for working...(more)
- I am jealous! Do you have a MLS?
- I do
- Congrats - my good friend is a children's librarian and people come from the neighboring towns to her programs.
- I always appreciate librarians who really know their stuff...i.e my dd likes ramona books, what else might she like. No cooing at kids pls
- have you ever worked as a children's librarian before? I always admire their great energy and patience with rowdy kids. Will you be doing story times? I'm an academic library,...(more)
- I've never worked as a children's librarian before, hence my apprehension
- well, on the VERY professional side, if you're not familiar with Common Core, dostart reading up on that, it'll be key to all of the programming and activities you and your...(more)
- ^^I'm a director, can you tell? :)
- Thanks! I come from Children's Book publishing so I'm very familiar with CCSS and ALSC, just not the hands on parts with kids!
- well, on the VERY professional side, if you're not familiar with Common Core, dostart reading up on that, it'll be key to all of the programming and activities you and your...(more)
- I've never worked as a children's librarian before, hence my apprehension
- That's awesome. You're gonna rock it
- I am jealous! Do you have a MLS?
- Toddler I'm trying to figure out the cost difference between buying a house in NJ or a co-op in brooklyn. I have mortgage, property taxes, insurance, car payment, commuting, heating oil,...(more)
- schooling options
- If i were you, I'd focus more on what kind of life you want to lead vs. the cost difference.
- you aren't me.
- maintenance on the co-op, could run 1000+/mo.
- But includes taxes, heating etc
- yeah but that's the same kind of consideration as property tax
- OR: I know, just making sure she factors it in
- and taxes in NJ will be at least that
- Childcare, school costs
- lawn, pest control, etc.
- parking tickets if in Bklyn
- Parking in general is a good one
- if we stay in nyc we don't need a car.
- I live in NYC and I need a car. But we have a lot of family in the burbs so we're driving a lot.
- we just use zipcar. I don't need one that often.
- I live in NYC and I need a car. But we have a lot of family in the burbs so we're driving a lot.
- if we stay in nyc we don't need a car.
- Parking in general is a good one
- Counseling
- is there a way to figure out recreation - like if you are driving into city to go out at night, that adds up too (as opposed to hopping on subway from Bklyn)? Also, camps and...(more)
- that's a good one. thanks.
- you will have a mortgage wither way. you wont have to do yard work/plumbing in a coop. most have supers available. but most coops do not have parking
- Don't forget transportation. Might be able to do w/o car in Brooklyn. Burbs needs 1-2 cars (maintenance, gas) plus commuter rail/bus.
- Toddler I am done with apple. The Windows commercials got me. I like my phone but I can not stand the mac air. So unintuitive.
- i love my mac air for browsing & watching videos. can't stand it for keeping files. I have my windows for that
- ^and don't you love the 5 second start-up? My windows takes 2 minutes
- It literally drives me insane if I try to do anything else. Forget work stuff.
- two computers, or you loaded windows on to the mac?
- not a fan of apple anything...
- i love my mac air for browsing & watching videos. can't stand it for keeping files. I have my windows for that
- Toddler How many weeks can you get nys unemployment?
- Toddler If child protective services came knocking on your door because someone called in about you, would you talk to them without a lawyer?
- sure
- sure but I have nothing to hide
- did that happen to you?
- No. Just wondering
- As long as I didn't do anything wrong.
- yes
- yes
- yes. calmly and politely
- Would you continue talking with them if they wanted to investigate more? What if you found out they had been to your kids' school and talked to teachers, interviewed your dc,...(more)
- what is this all about?
- why are you asking?
- It happened to a friend of a friend. I'm still thinking about it. I'm wondering what most people would do in this situation.
- Happened to a friend too. She answered questions, they came to her house...it was resolved with no issue.
- It happened to a friend of a friend. I'm still thinking about it. I'm wondering what most people would do in this situation.
- they can interview dc without your permission?
- Yup. Happened to friend before she even knew she was being investigated.
- that's messed up.
- np: How so? They would never discover family issues otherwise. Usually it is the school that calls CPS not a neighbor though.
- I think they do this because in cases of real issues, they're scared that the parents will run if they know about it. But in cases where there's no issues, yeah.. it's messed up....(more)
- that's messed up.
- Yup. Happened to friend before she even knew she was being investigated.
- Would you continue talking with them if they wanted to investigate more? What if you found out they had been to your kids' school and talked to teachers, interviewed your dc,...(more)
- what did I do?
- Nothing.
- then I'd probably talk to them
- Nothing.
- I will not, ever talk to any cop/cpc w/o a lawyer present. Don't you watch TV.
- Are you surprised by all the "yesses"?
- Yes. I am.
- I disagree, I think answering simply and calmly can work in your favor more so than calling a lawyer, if you are innocent that is.
- of course.
- That is absolutely not true. I can answer simply and camly with my lawyer present. I have nothing to lose by gettting a lawyer. Cops and CPC can lie to you, they are on a fishing...(more)
- why would they be out to get you in that situation? They are not trying to fish kids out of their families and into foster care!
- I dont know. That is why I want a lawyer present.
- Perhaps. Do you really know this?
- It happened to a friend of mine. They did an investigation because a mom at school said her son always had filthy diapers and was barefoot. It was fine. I don't really see how a...(more)
- why would they be out to get you in that situation? They are not trying to fish kids out of their families and into foster care!
- Are you surprised by all the "yesses"?
- yes
- of course. i have nothing to hide. when they came to investigate my brother, i went as moral support, but he had no lawyer, either. they're not looking to rip your family apart.
- How many times did they talk with him? Did they question his kids? Why was your brother investigated?
- he has one child, he is widowed and has struggled with his own problems while struggling with his kid's issues, both general teen rebellion and specific unhappiness due to the...(more)
- Sounds like he had enough going on without the stress of cps. Of course, I'm glad cps exists for the kids who need it. But it's scary too.
- it was a good wakeup call, imo. i'm glad they came.
- That's great to hear success stories. Thanks for sharing.
- it was a good wakeup call, imo. i'm glad they came.
- Sounds like he had enough going on without the stress of cps. Of course, I'm glad cps exists for the kids who need it. But it's scary too.
- he has one child, he is widowed and has struggled with his own problems while struggling with his kid's issues, both general teen rebellion and specific unhappiness due to the...(more)
- How many times did they talk with him? Did they question his kids? Why was your brother investigated?
- if cps comes to your house can you turn them away? won't they just come back with the cops?
- Most likely. I'm not saying not to talk w/ them. I'm asking whether you would insist on having a lawyer with you.
- Most people do not have a lawyer on call, how do you get one on a dime?
- You don't. You ask them to come back with a written letter. I didn't know any of this until it happened to someone. Then I started researching it.
- So they just turn around and leave?
- I guess.
- There are many articles online about this. Just googled it. Here's one response....(more)
- So they just turn around and leave?
- You don't. You ask them to come back with a written letter. I didn't know any of this until it happened to someone. Then I started researching it.
- Most people do not have a lawyer on call, how do you get one on a dime?
- Most likely. I'm not saying not to talk w/ them. I'm asking whether you would insist on having a lawyer with you.
- it really depends on what their attitude would be.
- Toddler In a short term cash crunch (dh left his job and they owe him a lot of money but said they'll give it to him in august). would you borrow from 401k, pay yourself 4.25% interst...(more)
- borrow
- 401K loan if you can afford the reduction in your paycheck
- op: we don't really live on my paycheck, so i wouldn't notice it.
- so i don't understand, why not just live on your paycheck then?
- op: we have a large chunk of cash issue related to our house. my little paycheck won't do much (but i have a large 401k)
- you will get double tax....sell investments
- op: it's actually a roth 401k, so no double tax as long as i pay it back
- you are wrong
- so i don't understand, why not just live on your paycheck then?
- op: we don't really live on my paycheck, so i wouldn't notice it.
- sell investments.
- get line of credit before you do that to 401 k
- why? if her job is stable, this is a reasonable solution
- not sure
- why? if her job is stable, this is a reasonable solution
- Don't borrow from your 401k. You'll be taxed on it, then replace it with disposable income that's already been taxed. Just sell some investments if you need the money that badly....(more)
- you are not taxed on money you borrow from your 401k - you are taxed on the sale of investments
- Isn't there a penalty? Or is that only if you don't return it w/in a certain time frame? I have an IRA so I guess the rules are different.
- there is absolutely no penalty for a 401k loan,if you lose your job and can't pay it back, it converts to a distribution on which there are penalties
- op: that's my thought. my investments have a lot of capital gains which i'd have to pay taxes on, but the loan is from the roth 401k so no tax as long as i pay it back.
- go with the loan, most of these responders have no idea what they are talking about, i've taken 401k loans, no issue
- Isn't there a penalty? Or is that only if you don't return it w/in a certain time frame? I have an IRA so I guess the rules are different.
- you are not taxed on money you borrow from your 401k - you are taxed on the sale of investments
- Toddler MIL manages to make every get together impossible. she is awkward and makes rude comments or sulks. she has ruined many holidays and my dc's birthday. We stopped having holidays...(more)
- well, it sounds like you ARE purposefully keeping the kids away from her. I'm not saying you don't have a good reason, but you are.
- no we are just doing soemthing different. DD wants to be at beach with friends and family. MIL is socially awkward in get togethers....never comes over is here 5 monutes and gets...(more)
- np i posted below. i understand my mil is the same way. we have flown to visit her 5 times. each time she calls daily about how excited she is, etc but when we get there she is...(more)
- no we are just doing soemthing different. DD wants to be at beach with friends and family. MIL is socially awkward in get togethers....never comes over is here 5 monutes and gets...(more)
- just keep living your life. your dh knows she is crazy or he wouldn't avoid her on christmas.
- trying to do that but she is always trying to stir pot. Most of dh's family is weird around me bc they believe her
- borderline personality disorder. does she make up lies about you all the time? this is what my mil does. she even calls my own parents with made up stories that cast her as the...(more)
- has done it with my sister. claims I turned dh against her. They had shitty relationship before I cam along. She favpred his older brother hated me on site. called me a slut bc...(more)
- borderline personality disorder. does she make up lies about you all the time? this is what my mil does. she even calls my own parents with made up stories that cast her as the...(more)
- trying to do that but she is always trying to stir pot. Most of dh's family is weird around me bc they believe her
- well, it sounds like you ARE purposefully keeping the kids away from her. I'm not saying you don't have a good reason, but you are.
- Toddler Why am I so nauseous right now? 11wks pg and usually ok until night time, have meetings all day, ugh
- there is no usually -- your body is changing every day -- more hormones at 11 weeks than 10.
- Toddler How long did it take you to feel like your house was lived in?
- about 6 mo
- Toddler What does a 12 month old typically say/approximate? A few words? None? Trying to gauge.
- mine says, for EVERYTHING, "MA MA MA MA."
- This is mine.
- ^third child and all of a sudden worried we have not been talking to him at all (but we've been enjoying him immensely!) He's kind of hanging in the carseat and going to sibs...(more)
- or. My third, also
- ^third child and all of a sudden worried we have not been talking to him at all (but we've been enjoying him immensely!) He's kind of hanging in the carseat and going to sibs...(more)
- my 11 mo, da da da da da da da da...wish it were ma ma ma! :)
- or. I'm the dad
- This is mine.
- some just babble, some have mama/dada, a few have a handful of words
- one of mine said next to nothing and one had a handful of words
- np: I am the OP below of the cracker-speaking 15mo and this has been my experience. Although even with DS #1, who had maybe 5-6 words at 1, he did not really add to that...(more)
- none to a few
- sounds are more important at that age. they should have a couple clear words. some kids have way more.
- completely varies. DS had 150 words by then, DD had two. both are very verbal now
- your 12mo did not have 150 words.
- ita
- Maybe if by 1 yo she means 22 mo
- nnp Sorry, but not even then.
- np: my first child, a girl, definitely had 150 words at 22mo and she was in no way exceptional.
- same. I think she had about 30 at 12mo.
- It's been awhile since I've had a 2yo. :)
- same. I think she had about 30 at 12mo.
- eh, that's almost 2, lots of almost 2yos have that many words.
- np: my first child, a girl, definitely had 150 words at 22mo and she was in no way exceptional.
- yes
- nnp Sorry, but not even then.
- i love that you counted lol
- first kid
- you were counting words when there weer as many as 150? I call bullshit.
- your 12mo did not have 150 words.
- mine said Mama. Up. Cup. More. and NO.
- 0-5
- neither of my kids said much of anything at 12mo. just typical babbling
- mine says, for EVERYTHING, "MA MA MA MA."
- Toddler Anyone have good luck withn a FSBO house?
- buying or selling?
- buying
- we bought our house on Craig's List - it was the best house ever and I miss it so much. A gem, in Bklyn
- ditto. We love our house. Would never be able to buy it with a broker.
- i bought and sold by owner.
- we bought our house from its owner.
- buying or selling?
- Toddler I was such a caffeine drinker then i started taking lexapro and i never want coffee anymore, wonder why
- Toddler Sorry to start a new post but did Matt Logelin just wipe all traces of Brooke from his Blog?
- sad
- thousands of mommy blogs out there; how does ybm choose which blog to make famous on ybm? (like w/ that prebabyblog or dooce
- this one had a spread in people, I don't think it's only popular on ybm
- np: which blog?
- matt logelin
- np: which blog?
- this one had a spread in people, I don't think it's only popular on ybm
- was that a gf?
- say what now?
- really? did you go through every post?
- OP: I started to. Don't know why.
- Who is brooke? Is this the much younger preppy dw blog?
- OP: No, the long term live-in girlfriend from back home
- or: oh, I just googled. Yes, I remember this blog. His dw died. Oh, it was so awful. The one quote that stuck out to me was in the early days and he said her hair elastics were...(more)
- Yeah, can't expect happily ever after.
- or: as for removing her from the blog, that might have been Brooke's request to not have a online presence there.
- Yeah, can't expect happily ever after.
- or: oh, I just googled. Yes, I remember this blog. His dw died. Oh, it was so awful. The one quote that stuck out to me was in the early days and he said her hair elastics were...(more)
- OP: No, the long term live-in girlfriend from back home
- Toddler Doing a kitchen renovation, pulled out some cabinets, old linoleum tile under it is definately asbestos. Option #1 Flood the kitchen get a hasmat suit remove all tile (linoleum +...(more)
- hire it. Lung cancer is serious.
- tile over linoloeum. That stuff is only dangerous if it gets out into the air
- hire a guy and do it the right way
- if you don't disturb it you and you can lay new down on top then do that
- put nw tile over linoleum
- put down tile over old linoleum....how is this even a question? Asbestos aren't a problem as long as you leave them alone
- ^health-wise it's riskier to remove it
- We had an asbestos specialist come in and do it. I wouldn't fool around w/it. It must be disposed of properly.
- They guy said, he will take it away if we do it ourselves for $200.
- lol, he is ripping you off...he'll just take it to the local dump.
- Nope, this is his business, he has a place in PA where they take it.
- lol, he is ripping you off...he'll just take it to the local dump.
- They guy said, he will take it away if we do it ourselves for $200.
- Why assume the linoleum is asbestos? Tile over it.
- Because dh sent a pic to the guy the guy sait it is, we can have it tested for $50 at this place but it's going to come back asbestos, (the area + age of home + tile look)
- don't be foolish...tile over it and leave it alone....it doesn't need to be dealt with until someone tears down the house one day. If you have asbestos in the kitchen you also...(more)
- ^you probably have lead paint in your old house too which you can spend thousands of dollars on getting rid of too.
- The rest of the house has hardwood floors. So no tile.
- ^you probably have lead paint in your old house too which you can spend thousands of dollars on getting rid of too.
- don't be foolish...tile over it and leave it alone....it doesn't need to be dealt with until someone tears down the house one day. If you have asbestos in the kitchen you also...(more)
- Because dh sent a pic to the guy the guy sait it is, we can have it tested for $50 at this place but it's going to come back asbestos, (the area + age of home + tile look)
- 3rd option
- Toddler I TOLD you bitches that Kim Kardashian had preeclampsia.
- Toddler I have the pleasure of naming my best friend ds..any ideas? they are asian
- Mike
- harrison
- herbert or norman
- weird. Why would they let someone else name their kid?
- because they can
- John.
- Arthur.
- Harold
- colin
- Kum
- Clinton
- boaz
- Douglas
- Cajun . Then they'd be the Asian Cajun
- I think that's really nice. Some of my favorite boys' names are William and Patrick.
- avoid anything with "r"
- James
- Toddler Is there a yelp for camps? I look online and can't find anything out about the place.
- what camp?
- it is in a not so great area..HOSTA, Hempsetad NY through family and children's service league
- So it is like a "public" camp. They are ok, you're kid needs to be tough.
- my kids are so not tough AT ALL
- So you need to send them because you work? Or are you wanting to send them to a camp?
- I have to send them because I work. It was the only camp that I could remotely afford. I worry these kids are going to steam roll them at this camp. They are biracial but look...(more)
- Do they have a website--can you post the link to it?
- - no subject -...(more)
- Obvious that they are very different from the other kids^^
- I am sure they will manage, you had hard enough time finding camp for them, stop projecting.
- Do they have a website--can you post the link to it?
- I have to send them because I work. It was the only camp that I could remotely afford. I worry these kids are going to steam roll them at this camp. They are biracial but look...(more)
- So you need to send them because you work? Or are you wanting to send them to a camp?
- my kids are so not tough AT ALL
- Is it affiliated with a Park or a local YMCA? What organization runs it?
- So it is like a "public" camp. They are ok, you're kid needs to be tough.
- it is in a not so great area..HOSTA, Hempsetad NY through family and children's service league
- I think there is a camp review site
- What camp?
- Why don't you just post the camp name here and we'll tell you.
- what camp?
- Toddler There's a lot more sex in the office happening in France. I'll tell you that
- I worked in france for two years. Every meeting there was a converstation before and then after about the other people in the meeting, if I found them attractive, if we'd like...(more)
- ha. that's my experience too. and we all bought lingerie at lunch time.
- all women do that. that's why there are underwear stores on every corner
- gross. was anyone married?
- most of them were married.
- maybe I'm a prude, but i honestly didn't want to fuck anyone else after i was married.seems like such a chore.
- yeah, if you think sex is a chore, then france is not for you
- oh, not with dh, but i've always found one night stand sex kind of a chore. just not that enjoyable to me i guess
- yeah, if you think sex is a chore, then france is not for you
- maybe I'm a prude, but i honestly didn't want to fuck anyone else after i was married.seems like such a chore.
- most of them were married.
- ha. that's my experience too. and we all bought lingerie at lunch time.
- you should work in a canadian bank. lordy i couldn't believe it
- and they were probably all pasty and fat too. at least the french are more attractive
- np, and wear nicer clothes to the office. a lot more heels and cleavage
- didn't stop the canadians. i guess they aren't that visual lol
- gotta do something during those long winter nights
- didn't stop the canadians. i guess they aren't that visual lol
- yes! totally. they really are
- np, and wear nicer clothes to the office. a lot more heels and cleavage
- and they were probably all pasty and fat too. at least the french are more attractive
- ...pushing the stapler to the side and just going at it around 3 pm? Quelle surprise!
- true. very common to sleep with co-workers. I did
- extramarital sex, or just horny 20somethings eyefucking each other?
- marriage had little to do with it
- OMG, so true. Every man eyes every women in our office there up and down and up and pause and down. I found it completely sexy
- and they notice everything, "ah! new dress" "ah, I like your hair like that"
- I worked in france for two years. Every meeting there was a converstation before and then after about the other people in the meeting, if I found them attractive, if we'd like...(more)
- Toddler Kate Middleton will have a natural birth and they don't know the sex of the baby...(more)
- are hips wide enough?
- William has been taking perineal massage lessons from Zoltan.
- do people really think that the width of hips has anything to do with this?
- girl, Diana
- as opposed to what other kind? she will give birth the way all women do unless she has an emergency that requires a c section. How on earth is this news?
- natural meaning no epi
- they don't have to have epis in britan. they can have gas and air (like laughing gas). its pretty standard there
- nice. sounds less painful
- yes, and i love laughing gas. would have totally gone for this if i had the chance
- nice. sounds less painful
- they don't have to have epis in britan. they can have gas and air (like laughing gas). its pretty standard there
- I think she means natural as in un-medicated
- natural meaning no epi
- yes, i said i would have a natural birth when i was 36ish weeks pg, too.
- lol ditto
- That's pretty standard for Britain though.
- gas and air will be available though.
- are hips wide enough?
- Toddler I'm not surprised that some people can spend a huge amount on drapes and others find that unbelievable, given the income inequality in this country
- Morons and maniacs.
- Glad to hear you've been brought up to speed.
- isn't that from last night?
- again with the drapes? this wasn't interesting yesterday.
- 'income inequality.' when did this become a 'thing?' was a vanderbilt and a LES immigrant closer in income than a beyonce and a single mom from queens/
- I agree with you about the ridiculousness of people acting like this is a new thing, but OWS was behind the concept a couple of years ago now.
- yes, but midcentury America closed the gap dramatically.
- Because we are talking about percentages now - not individuals