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  1. Toddler Where to shop for a homecoming dress for a very skinny 14yo with no boobs. she is 5'4" but only 90ish lbs 21 sec ago (0 replies)
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  2. Toddler This place is a shit storm. 50 sec ago (0 replies)
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  3. Toddler I am a teacher. My class is adorable. Would you think it was wrong to post their class picture on Facebook.? It is. I know. They're just so cute. 57 sec ago (3 replies)
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  4. Toddler Fwiw, I do not want to see your bloody tampon in my trash can. 2 min ago (4 replies)
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    • you people with all your rules 1 min ago
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    • This 57 sec ago
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    • gross but ita 49 sec ago
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    • that's disgusting. Nobody should be leaving that lying around in plain sight. Some women have no sense of propriety. 30 sec ago
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  5. Toddler At what age did you get your DC email addy? Which host/service/provider? 3 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Around 3 yo, whatever you use (gmail). 2 min ago
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    • 8. she never uses it but some school work was being done online so we used it for that 1 min ago
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      • ^also she uses it for her ipod touch 1 min ago
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    • I made my kids gmail accounts at birth. Instead of a "baby book" dh and I just emailed them little notes about their progress. Grandparents did/do too. It was just easier for us...(more) 50 sec ago
      To manage
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  6. Toddler Ok so I am a good weight and do crossfit etc. Stomach is still a mess. Plastic surgeon says it is just skin and I don't even need lipo. It is a lot of skin. Why did this happen...(more) 7 min ago (5 replies)
    To me and not most women? Scared of the pain of tummy tuck. Hmmm
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    • genetics imo. i think some people's skin has more/less elasticity than others. 5 min ago
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    • Doesn't sound like you need a tummy tuck. Sounds like you could use some skin removed. That sounds relatively easy. 52 sec ago
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      • that is a tummt tuck 6 sec ago
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    • actually, I think it does happen to most women. 10 sec ago
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  7. Toddler Haev you ever made your own applesauce? Worth the trouble? 11 min ago (25 replies)
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    • Yes. Easy. I love the taste and consistency. 10 min ago
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      • do you follow a recipe or just wing it? 8 min ago
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        • I got it off google, pretty sure it was basically boiling them and mushing up, add cinnamon if you want. I didn't save the specific recipe but I'm a terrible cook and this came...(more) 8 min ago
          out great.
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          • op I want to make some today with dd. she isnt interested but tough 7 min ago
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            • Enjoy! 6 min ago
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              • thank you!!!! how long will it keep do you think? 6 min ago
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                • I feel like it was a couple of weeks in the fridge (longer in freezer obv) 5 min ago
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          • and sugar 3 min ago
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      • The consistency of store bought is more consistent. 8 min ago
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        • Hello, tautology? I don't need "consistent," this was fun and tasty, and what else do you do with all those apples 7 min ago
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        • Isn't that true for most prepared foods? Why make anything ourselves? 6 min ago
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    • Super easy. 9 min ago
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    • yes, easy and I freeze it in portions so it lasts a long tme. 9 min ago
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    • yes. tasty 7 min ago
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    • Not much trouble, I do it in my classroom with 3 and 4 yr olds 7 min ago
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    • crock pot. Don't skimp on the brown sugar. 7 min ago
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      • op. apple sauce doesnt need sugar 7 min ago
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        • Yes it does. 6 min ago
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          • we never eat with added sugar. apples are sweet ebough 5 min ago
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            • and you wonder why your dd isn't interested. 4 min ago
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            • That rather depends on the apples. 3 min ago
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    • Yes. Totally worth it. I add cinnamon. 6 min ago
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    • i just puree apples in the food processor and add a tiny bit of lemon juice 5 min ago
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    • Yes 4 min ago
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  8. Toddler DC needs to make a neuron model for science. She wants to make it out of cupcake, icing & candy bars. Fine. What can she use to carry it/put it on that is a rectangular shape and...(more) 12 min ago (21 replies)
    kind of large? I was thinking a pizza box but it is square and would kind of squish the cell part of it to make it fit. Hate when teachers assign shit like this that parents need to help with
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    • Is she allowed to use food? What a mess and the bugs 11 min ago
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      • yes. it is the most popular choice as the class gets to eat it 10 min ago
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        • Really? Your school would allow a class to eat this? Wouldn't fly in ours. 1 min ago
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        • np - sounds fun - big Glad plastic container or a foil tray??? 1 min ago
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    • How about some model magic and pipe cleaners?? 10 min ago
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      • not edible 10 min ago
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        • ^^and she'd still have the question of what to put it on/carry it to school on 10 min ago
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          • Well it's much easier, but like you said it's moot. 8 min ago
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        • Lol, you don't say? 3 min ago
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    • How big is it? 9 min ago
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      • it will probably be about the size of a cookie sheet which may end up being the best choice. I just have no "good" cookie sheet for her to use. 7 min ago
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        • Whats a "good" cookie sheet? 1 min ago
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    • A shoe box? 9 min ago
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      • way too small but it would otherwise be a perfect type of box 7 min ago
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    • How about a lid to a plastic Rubbermaid box and the box as the cover to protect it 8 min ago
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      • that may work thanks-- I will look and see if I have one 7 min ago
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    • A disposable aliminum 13x9 pan with a lid? 7 min ago
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      • I think 13x9 will be too small 6 min ago
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        • Omg, then get one size bigger. Get the disposable roasting pan. Do you have no problem solving skills? 4 min ago
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    • How about one of those large aluminum disposable trays people use for roasting turkeys? 7 min ago
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      • that may be good -- I should look into that 6 min ago
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  9. Toddler We want to open bank accounts for our kids. No idea how this is done these days -- is it a joint account? some kind of UGMA account? anyone know? tia 12 min ago (9 replies)
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    • It can be in their own name 11 min ago
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    • Ours are in the kids name with dh and I as trustees 10 min ago
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      • Did you need to go to a lawyer to have trust agreements drawn up? 6 min ago
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        • No. 5 min ago
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          • Or. The bank people just said it was an option and we checked a box 4 min ago
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        • np not necessary just to open a bank account!! 5 min ago
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    • Walk into a bank , they know what's easiest. 6 min ago
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    • depends. chase has a program for high school kids so they can have their own accounts attached to yours. or you do a joint acct, or a UGMA. 5 min ago
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      • UGMA only necessary for holding shares of stock and securities 3 min ago
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  10. Toddler I was staying with a friend and flushed a tampon, as i always do, and it clogged the toilet. i was so embarrassed. i had to get the plunger and fix it, of course, which i did. i...(more) 16 min ago (65 replies)
    always flush tampons. they are supposed to be flushable. would you believe she yelled at me for flushing it? I was embarrassed enough. but, who would yell at their guest?
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    • She was wrong, but yeah unless an industrial toilet, I would assume no can do 15 min ago
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    • she was rude 15 min ago
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    • I wouldn't yell but I would be highly annoyed. Never flush tampons!! 15 min ago
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      • op: i never heard not to flush tampons. never. 14 min ago
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        • np/ I have flushed tampons all my life. Got a new toilet and cant anymore. But decent toilet should be able to handle a tampon. 13 min ago
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        • seriously you have never been in a restaurant or other place where it says "please don't flush tampons?" 13 min ago
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          • no, never. and i am in restaurants several times a week. 13 min ago
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            • np: where do you live? 47 sec ago
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        • Really? It's Often posted on public spaces. And old homes and pipes often can't handle them 12 min ago
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      • Ita poor judgment op. 14 min ago
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        • again, that is total news to me and i have been flushing ... well, i am 47 now ... and never heard that. you can be sure i won't do it again unless home. 14 min ago
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          • Np, I'm curious to know where you live since you didn't know this 13 min ago
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            • new york city. upper east side. 12 min ago
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              • Makes sense. Everyone with their renovated bathrooms. For the future, you can't flush them in houses. 12 min ago
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                • I flush in my house. so does my dd. westchester. 11 min ago
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                  • rockland county. we flush. 11 min ago
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                    • Bay Area. We flush. 7 min ago
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                • Not true. A lot of bathrooms can handle tampons 5 min ago
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                  • But since you can't be sure, just skip it. Unless you want to have a full discussion with your hosts beforehand. 4 min ago
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                    • a "full discussion?" how about "okay to flush tampons, or no?" 2 min ago
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            • NNP I am 52 and I flush everywhere except places with septic systems. 12 min ago
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              • interesting. i wouldn't even know what kind of system one has. op 11 min ago
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              • You should assume a private house has that 11 min ago
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                • not where I live. in the country? sure. not in the burbs around NYC and not in NYC 10 min ago
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                  • NYC burbs here. Just don't do it 9 min ago
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                • Why should we? 5 min ago
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                  • Avoids an awkward conversation with your host. But if you prefer that, go right ahead.... Lol 3 min ago
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                    • awkward? to ask if it's okay to flush tampons or not? 1 min ago
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                      • Yes. What is so hard about wrapping it up?? Jeez. 30 sec ago
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      • I always flush them 14 min ago
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    • Don't flush! 15 min ago
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    • In most older homes you can't flush them and I can't believe you didn't know this. 14 min ago
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    • It is so gross to take that bloody thing and wrap it up and toss it in the wastebasket. So gross. 14 min ago
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      • op: thank you! exactly my thoughts! 13 min ago
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      • It's blood from your own body princess 12 min ago
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        • np as I approach menopause my periods are blood baths and myt tampons the first day are so heavy with blood it takes half a roll to wrap it. 12 min ago
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        • ha! so you wouln't mind getting all bloody? what about poop. that's from your own body. "princess" 9 min ago
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          • lol, yes, let's wrap our poop in paper and place gently in the trash can 9 min ago
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      • So, it's better to mix it with tribe and decal matter in a bowl, flush and churn it all up , THEN have to remove it and put in trash???? 6 min ago
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    • I would have been pissed too - I never flush tampons. Esp in someone else's house! I wouldn't have yelled at you, but I would have made it known that I wasn't happy you flushed it 13 min ago
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      • wow. you would have made it known to your GUEST that you weren't happy? 12 min ago
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        • that was rude 10 min ago
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        • yes! It's so rude to flush it, and if she's a guest I'd assume she's a friend of yours whom you can speak openly to. 9 min ago
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          • OMG you are a horrible, tacky host. 8 min ago
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          • except that if you ever expressed your annoyance for that to me i would know you are a world class asshole. the thing is if it was my house, i would make a joke out of it, but let...(more) 7 min ago
            her know that it cant be done at my house. what is with rude hosts?
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            • yes, and if the host has such weak plumbing, she was rude to not warn her guest. 6 min ago
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    • I've always been under the impression that you shouldn't flush tampons. 13 min ago
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      • really? so you take a bloody tampon and wrap it and put in garbage? how disgusting. i have ALWAYS flushed the, going on age 50 now, never once has it blocked up a toilet. 8 min ago
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    • i have always flushed tampons. pads, no, tampons, yes. my goodness, if your toilet cannot handle a tampon, it cannot handle a hard little poop, even! that is ridiculous. and...(more) 9 min ago
      no mater wat, your firned was a BITCH and RUDE and lacking all graces to yell at you for this. wow. yelling at a guest for that? very uncool, she is not elegant at all. flushing a tampon and dealing with plunger yourself shows way more elegance and class than your rude hostess.
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      • poop is different, it slowly dissolvess. A septic system is not built fo rthis 8 min ago
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        • shouldn't caus e atoilet to clog. the butchy hostess has shitty plumbing (so to speak), did not warn her guest, then had the nerve to yell at her. 6 min ago
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      • thank you! 6 min ago
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    • YES if she has septic you can do serious damage 8 min ago
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    • Your "friend" is a rude asshole. I always flush tampons. Have never heard not to. 8 min ago
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      • Me, too! And in 35 years of flushing tampons every mnth, have never had a problem! 7 min ago
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        • Well now you. Know! All of you that say you've never heard...(more) 4 min ago
          Of this now you have. Many systems can't take it.
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    • Here's the botton line: whether it is ok to flush or smart to flush a tampon or not, it is absolutely RUDE to berate a guest in your home for making a "mistake" 6 min ago
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      • op: thank you. that was the point of the post. here on in, i would ask host. 4 min ago
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        • Or just don't flush if in doubt 3 min ago
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    • there are two types of toilets. the kind that can handle tampons and the kind that can't. Those who have the handle ones, think all can handle it. Those who have the can't handle...(more) 6 min ago
      ones think IT IS MORALLY WRONG to flush tampons.
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      • haha. the thing is i have flushed tampons thousands of times by now in toilets all over, and have NEVER had a problem. i have NEVER EVER heard about not flushing tampons;...(more) 4 min ago
        sanitary napkins, yes, but tampons? never in my life have i heard not to do this and i am widely travelled and well-educated. this is bullshit.
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        • bullcrap. BEacuse most places that have septic say specifically NOT TO FLUSH these products 3 min ago
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          • There simply aren't that many places that tell you not to flush the, although every once in a while you will find one. It is certainly not universal 30 sec ago
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    • a friend stayed overnight and did this. She never told me and plumbers had to come snake the whole thing 2 min ago
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    • mine used to all be flushable. i had no problems until staying at my parents this last summer and since moving to a prewar building. i think old plumbing can't handle them or...(more) 1 min ago
      that they are being made differently. the ones i
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  11. Toddler Dh away for the w/e with his friends. Texting me that he is tred because he didn't sleep well after all the drinking. Cry me a fucking river. 16 min ago (7 replies)
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    • ^^^tired 16 min ago
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    • He felt the obligation to reach out to you. Sign of a bad marriage. 11 min ago
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      • he is always reaching out to me, sorry your dh doesn't want to be anywhere near you 9 min ago
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        • Well be a little more supportive of him. He tries to be truthful and you castigate him. 9 min ago
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        • Np. Wow. That was ugly. 8 min ago
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          • I am so shocked at how hateful women get on here, and fast. There so one in particular that gets so nasty if you so much as slightly disagree with her 6 min ago
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            • I agree. Posts like this annoy me. 4 min ago
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  12. Toddler I need advice. I am working on a deadline this weekend. Was up until 3 and then up again 8 working. My brain isn't working anymore, but I must finish. Please help - how do I get...(more) 16 min ago (2 replies)
    my mind clear? I am freaking out.
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    • take a two hour nap and get up shower and drink strong coffee. 14 min ago
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    • Sit and drink as much strong coffee as you can, eat some protein and go for a 10 minute walk 5 min ago
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  13. Toddler Need advice. My third dd is 9mo. When she was 6 weeks I found out my husband had been having an affair for a year (so, before and during my pregnancy). You would never...(more) 17 min ago (50 replies)
    know it. We have 3 kids, married 12 years, live in the city, had what I thought was a good marriage, still had sex, he's a good dad, we are active at our school, havefriends, etc. Anyway I was devastated and post partum at the same time, and it was the absolute lowest time in my life, the most traumatic thing that's ever happened to me. Dh freaked out, begged for forgiveness, we went and are still in intensive marriage counseling, blah blah you get the picture. The point of my post is about my baby. At the time, I made dh leave our bedroom and because I was so depressed and mentally and physically exhausted at having to function for my older dds, I spent a lot of time in bed with the newborn and she ended up sleeping with me all the time. I'd always been anti co-sleeping but, in a way, she saved me by keeping me company each night when I was crying. I know it sounds dramatic, please don't laugh! So now she is 9 months and can't sleep in a crib. :-( I know I ne
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    • sorry, I know I need to CIO but it breaks my heart. I did it with my older kids at the right time, and it seemed logical and I was able to do it and it worked. This time it feels...(more) 15 min ago
      like betrayal. I'm serious. I could cry just thinking about it. But the poor baby is totally unable to sleep on her own, still. :-(
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      • Eh just cosleep 14 min ago
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      • This may sound new agey, but your baby needs to know YOU are okay sleeping alone. You need to not be distraught or emotional when you are putting her down to bed, you need her to...(more) 14 min ago
        know that she is okay, and you are okay.
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        • op - thank you for this 11 min ago
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      • Different babies, different needs. Put her in crib when you are ready. 13 min ago
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      • Well you know that is t good for her sorry for all you have gone through! 13 min ago
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      • you are projecting your stuff onto the baby. your stuff is real and valid, but it has nothing to do with the fact that a 9 month old baby can sleep on her own. 13 min ago
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      • There is not a one size fits all method. Personally I'd do it graduAlly after co sleeping - pack n play next to you, you sleeping in her room a bit, eyc. 13 min ago
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      • Do what's best for you. Baby will adapt. And I'm sorry your dh pulled such a dickbag move 12 min ago
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    • CIO. And forgive your dh. It's the right thing to do. 14 min ago
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      • THIS 14 min ago
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      • Is she still w the douche?! 13 min ago
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        • there's no reason for name calling 12 min ago
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      • do you have experience with this? what do you mean the "right" thing to do? 13 min ago
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        • People make mistakes. You have a family and a nice life. Let it go, and welcome him back with forgiving arms. 13 min ago
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          • Np: oh good grief. Now, it sounds like op is moving that way, and good for her, but forgiving arms?? 11 min ago
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            • What's wrong with that? Why hold a grudge? 10 min ago
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              • oh come on. 10 min ago
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              • the guy had an affair for over a year, pre and during her pregnancy, and probably multiple affairs before then, he just got caught with this one 9 min ago
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                • Focus on the relationship now, not who made what mistakes in the past. 8 min ago
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                • op - I don't believe this. Really. Not because I'm naive. I will never be naive ever again, I 100% lost any naiveté I had in me, but because we go to therapy THREE times per week...(more) 7 min ago
                  for months now, and everything has come out. Really hurtful stuff I didn't find out that he could've kept to himself, because that's how intense it is.
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                  • good therapy is like that. good for you. 6 min ago
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                    • it took finding the right therapist. I am forever indebted to him. thank you. 4 min ago
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                      • nyc? I need a good couples counselor. 2 min ago
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                  • what kind of stuff? 5 min ago
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                    • details. the extent. etc. I caught him, but I didn't catch the entire story. I got the entire story from him, and through the urging of the therapist, I was not spared any...(more) 2 min ago
                      details. :-(
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                      • yeesh. Is it really helpful to get all the details out there? What's the point? 1 min ago
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                      • I wonder about that. I'm grappling with this question in my relationship.. not an affair, but other things withheld. once I know something I can't get it out of my head and I...(more) 1 min ago
                        wonder how helpful that is in the long run vs the need for total transparency
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            • it sounds like good advice to me. Why ruin a lifetime together, and a lifetime in the future? Sometimes men wander. they shouldn't, but nobody is perfect. We're not always at our...(more) 10 min ago
              best, either, at meeting our guys' needs.
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              • np you need to stfu 9 min ago
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              • blame OP 9 min ago
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                • Nobody should be blaming anyone. What good is blame? 8 min ago
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          • no, she doesn't need to do that. that has zero to do with the baby. 11 min ago
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            • both are related. It will be a lot worse for the baby and her sisters to grow up as children of divorce 9 min ago
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              • her DH will cheat again 9 min ago
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              • really, shut up and leave. 8 min ago
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              • no it won't, who wants to grow up amongst lies and unhappy depressed mother because DH has no respect 8 min ago
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                • op - I don't. I can leave at anytime. My dh is a better husband than he ever was before. I don't think it was worth going through this trauma, and I now have the burden to forgive...(more) 4 min ago
                  and move past it, but in terms of daily life with him and family life as a whole, it's of higher quality.
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    • you can CIO. do yourself and your marriage a favor and get her into her own bedroom. 13 min ago
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    • I don't think I could forgive DH. 12 min ago
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      • op - I thought the same thing, believe me. I was sure of the same thing. 9 min ago
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        • np whether you forgive or not is up to you. 8 min ago
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          • that said, forgiveness is the noble thing to do--what we should all strive to do 6 min ago
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            • np. why would anyone dislike this? 3 min ago
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            • I'm disliking you not because forgiveness isn't a great idea, but because you are harrassing the OP and trying to shame her. 3 min ago
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              • np. Oh for God's sake, nobody was harassing her. 1 min ago
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                • read the whole thread. there is one poster who is trying to shame the op into staying in her marriage which is besides the point of this thread anyway 30 sec ago
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              • op - This is my first time on youbemom since this happened because I knew I wouldn't be able to handle criticisms or meanness. I was a daily youbemom-er before and I know how this...(more) 30 sec ago
                place works. :) I am much stronger now and can handle the board! I just really needed to hear that it's ok to CIO.
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  14. Toddler If you have a good sized nodule on one side of thyroid, but low probability of cancer should you have half the thyroid removed or the whole thing? 17 min ago (5 replies)
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    • please ask your doctor and not us 16 min ago
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    • This is not a question for the ninnies on YBM 16 min ago
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    • ask the dr but why would they remove anything if not cancer? 15 min ago
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    • This is kind of what Bruce Jenner had done 9 min ago
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    • why would you have it removed then? i have hashimotos and sometimes enlarged nodule but no removal 7 min ago
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  15. Toddler My July 3 yo still needs a diaper at night. If I take it away will she figure it out? 18 min ago (4 replies)
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    • One way to find out... 17 min ago
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    • Still pretty young, and it's often not a 'figure it out thing' but a physiological thing. Just wait until she's dry at night consistently for several days. 17 min ago
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    • LOL. 16 min ago
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    • you do realize that she is sleeping at night, right? 16 min ago
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  16. Toddler Minecraft. How do you start? Is there just a basic app that you download and go from there? 8 yo dd wants to get into it... 18 min ago (2 replies)
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    • yup, dd just basically builds houses with cool tvs and refridgerators and a bunch of rooms and then she blasts sheep. 14 min ago
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      • ^it's like 5 or 7 bucks 14 min ago
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  17. Toddler Today I will organize the 5 black garbage bags of hand me downs, clean out DDS closet and dresser and go through all the coats. I will. Once I get off YBM 18 min ago (1 reply)
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    • About the hand me downs: make snap decisions, a yes and a no pile. No "hmm, will they ever wear this? It's such goo quality but dc hates green and it's a lit..." That would be a...(more) 6 min ago
      No pile item, kwim?
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  18. Toddler I wish we could eliminate tipping in this country. Why is the onus on the customer and not the employer to help a person achieve a living wage? 20 min ago (6 replies)
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    • THIS. Tipping has gotten out of control. 18 min ago
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    • When I was in Miami, a lot of the restaurants were no tipping and the service was shit. 18 min ago
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      • Then they should be fired. 12 min ago
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    • We make 55k and are expected to tip all 7 doormen in our (ghetto not nyc) condo along with all 12 garage staff. $500 every Christmas 17 min ago
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      • just don't do it 13 min ago
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        • You can't if you don't they are dicks and take forever to get your car or can't find your packGes 13 min ago
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  19. Toddler I can't be pg if I have an IUD. Right? 21 min ago (6 replies)
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    • you can have an ectopic pg 20 min ago
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    • It's possible but not likely 20 min ago
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    • no form of BC is perfect, you know that 20 min ago
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      • IUD is about as close as you can get 19 min ago
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    • I know 2 people whose iuds fell out without their knowing 17 min ago
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    • Oh yes you can... 17 min ago
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  20. Toddler How much do you tip instacart drivers? I used to do $5 like I do with Fresh Direct but I realize that these guys are actually doing the shopping for me 22 min ago (0 replies)
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  21. Toddler I love eggs. 23 min ago (4 replies)
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    • i just made the most delicious scrambled eggs. With all do modesty, I am a scarmbled egg master 15 min ago
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      • due. how do you make them. i love them! 9 min ago
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        • I beat the shit out of them. (i do NOT add milk) add a little salt and pepper and cook slowly in butter. if I have chives, I add them 8 min ago
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  22. Toddler I have a theory that by keeping my house chilly I am burning more calories. 23 min ago (18 replies)
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    • i was so so so happy when i woke up to heat this morning. it has been brutal! 23 min ago
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      • it is 70 degrees in my house, but it feels cold 22 min ago
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        • i have my heat set at 74 and it makes all the difference. it's 74 on the first floor, but only 70 on the 2nd. and they say heat rises ... 21 min ago
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          • I simply cannot justify heating my house that much. It is too big for me.. I'm downsizing next year. 18 min ago
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    • it comes across as house poor, if you have guests (dislike away) 22 min ago
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      • who said I have guests? 22 min ago
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        • not assuming. it was an "if" 22 min ago
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      • house poor? what kind of striver snob are you? 20 min ago
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        • np: i totally get that. i stayed with a friend who was so cheap. she kept her place at 62!!! you know what it feels like to shower at 62! to go to the bathroom at 62! who can...(more) 18 min ago
          poop at 62? it was awful. I stay at a hotel now when I am in her area.
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        • Zero. We're talking about heat, not fancy cars, clothes etc. 16 min ago
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    • i need to be warm at home. definitely need to be warm. 22 min ago
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      • Np. We live in a big drafty inefficiently heated house and just upgraded to a new system. I'm so looking forward to being warm this winter (and central air next summer, yay!)! 21 min ago
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        • it feels like such a luxury after having it so cold lately! 20 min ago
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    • I need my house to feel like a crypt, summer or winter, in order to sleep comfortably. 19 min ago
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      • op I too like to sleep in a cold room. 19 min ago
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        • i like a cool room for sleeping, but i need my downstairs to be warm and cozy. 17 min ago
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    • you are correct ! 16 min ago
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  23. Toddler Met this 2.5 yo who has severe life threatening contact allergies. What a nightmare. The mon had to wiipe everything. Everything seemed like a possible danger. Made me think of...(more) 27 min ago (8 replies)
    that movie Bubble Boy.
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    • Moops 16 min ago
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    • What's dc allergic to? 11 min ago
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      • Peanuts, tree nuts 9 min ago
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        • Well that's pretty easy to get around in restaurants. Milk and eggs would be harder to deal with. 8 min ago
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          • She said it can be on anything. They can't go to museums and touch stuff. Anything she touches could have it. 7 min ago
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            • Ugh stressful! Hope he outgrows the severity. Maybe a cure will be found soon? 6 min ago
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        • As dc gets older he won't be touching everything and putting fingers in mouth. 7 min ago
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    • My dd is like that. It's easier now at age 10 than it was at age 2 1 min ago
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  24. Toddler Is there another word for hamsa 27 min ago (4 replies)
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  25. Toddler Started dating a man and I almost always feel a little uncomfortable or vulnerable when I text him something nice - 31 min ago (17 replies)
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    • Not being snarky, but maybe you should stop texting? I really think texting has brought dating down to an awful level where things go wrong 29 min ago
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      • I see this point and don't disagree -- but we are both a bit shy so this works for us (I think). It's still the beginning. We both have kids a d I won't talk to him if I'm with my...(more) 26 min ago
        Kids. That's an excuse, I know. We talk sometimes (rarely). We've only had 4 dates
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        • np it is an excuse after a point, but it is also ok to maintain some privacy around your dating. 26 min ago
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          • I look forward to the day when it's no big deal to text him "I miss you!" Or just anything. It's still so calculated and careful now...(more) 24 min ago
            Maybe it will change once we start having sex!
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            • don't rush things! 23 min ago
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              • I'm not - lol! People on here think I'm a weirdo bc we still haven't had sex! 21 min ago
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            • You can't even talk to him. Work on that before sex. 20 min ago
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              • Lol! I'm working on it :) 20 min ago
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    • why? is this your MO of is it him? 28 min ago
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      • He always initiates (almost always). He is more "forthcoming" so I shouldn't be scared but I am 25 min ago
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        • why? 24 min ago
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          • Afraid of scaring him away, I guess. That more than being vulnerable to being hurt I think 22 min ago
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            • did your exdh hurt you in that way? 19 min ago
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              • He couldn't be close. He would humiliate me in public a d would use any info he had about me to hurt me in fights. He was awful. But I clearly had issues with intimacy bc I chose...(more) 14 min ago
                him. I've been working on myself - I think I'm better, stronger. But not always sure about relationships. I have a lot to offer - I think I can love and let myself be loved. I'm taking it slow with this man - I want to go into this with open eyes -- not head first trying to fulfill some need
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    • so somebody hurt you when you were vulnerable. you are now expecting him to do the same 18 min ago
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      • I don't know. Just trying my best to navigate this beginning part 13 min ago
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