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  1. Television Can't sleep. any late night intuitive/psychic up wanna play 20 questions? 9 min ago (0 replies)
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  2. Toddler I know it's late for this post, but I hope you drunk (and non-drunk) mommies will weigh in. Is ever OK to go after, deingrate, or criticize in any your 17 yo's psycho girlfriend....(more) 18 min ago (26 replies)
    Believe me, she is nuts and unhealthy for him, but I am afraid whatever I saw will push them closer together. So how to unglue them without appearing to do so? Any advice? And believe me, she is totally unhinged but has gotten her claws into hin.
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    • are you close with your ds? tell him some of the red flags but that you support him 100% 17 min ago
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      • he is very sensitive, and I'm sure will be well aware of my manipulations.... 16 min ago
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        • so then i think you need to back off and embrace her as much as possible. bring the enemy near 15 min ago
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          • my plan: to bring her near, but be somewhat cool, not wll warmhearted and accepting. he will know the difference; she will not. I am done with pretending we're all buddy buddy. 14 min ago
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    • describe why she's psycho 15 min ago
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      • in and out of mental hospitals, skips school, always "sick" and having "crisis," either genuinely mentally ill or borderline or hysterionic 13 min ago
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        • Eeww 13 min ago
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        • In and of mental hospitals connotes genuinely mentally ill... Are you being facetious about that? 12 min ago
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          • no, i think her actual diagnosis would be something like borderline. 11 min ago
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            • Ok- that's actual 10 min ago
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              • yes, but she is still basically functional in a highly competitive high school 10 min ago
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                • Except she's not because she's in and out of mental hospitals 9 min ago
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                  • apparently, according to ds, this is more a think of the past. She goes to school, but misses a lot of days. Still aspires, because she's very smart, to top tier colleges. (she's...(more) 8 min ago
                    a junior)
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    • I have two boys and won't hold my tongue about any of that stuff (they're 6 & 10), but I will be straight with them 14 min ago
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      • ok he's almost 18 and they might conceivably get married. shit like this has happened. 12 min ago
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        • That's bad genetics for grandchildren. Speak up 11 min ago
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          • i dont think this will work with a 17 yo, and certainly don't want to turn her against me for the (bound-to-be) rocky future. 10 min ago
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            • Lol- ok, good luck with that --- pretend she's normal so he accepts her behavior 8 min ago
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              • obviously not thrilled with this solution, but I don't want her to turn against me. She could be my future daughter in law 5 min ago
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    • This was my brother and his girlfriend (i was 4 years younger than him, same age as her) and she was fucking NUTSO. I remember them screaming at each other in front on our HS in...(more) 10 min ago
      front of EVERYONE. So embarrassing. She came to our house barged in the house, didn't knock and ran down to my brothers room on her prom day with her halr half done to start a fight with him. My parents had so many fights with him about. He ended up moving out of the house and not talking to us for 4 years. Eventually they broke up and he came back and things are fine, but he blamed my parents for it all, when he is the one who skipped and failed his college classes because she needed him, so he wouldn't go to class. And fired from two jobs for similar reasons (go to lunch and meet up with her and never show up after lunch)
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      • Yes- mentally ill people usually do well with codependents 10 min ago
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      • OK, this is my greatest fear. So how do you think your parents should have handled this? And how would you at this point? 9 min ago
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        • op- my brother courts this behavipr. I love my brother, he is a good person, but super insecure. He needs the obsessive relationship. I love his current fiance she is wonderful....(more) 3 min ago
          Not nuts like ex at all, but my brother is still that obsessive guy. Everything surrounds her. Everything. his life is now her life. He doesn't know anything else. His ex was his first relationship from HS (he was a junior when they started dating, she a freshman) and then they dated 14 years. first 3 was complete fucking craziness, then he left and dropped us all for 4 of 5 years. Then the last years was them both hating each other and fighting all the time. She clearly started resenting him. I think she cheated but nothing confirmed and he held on for years... and eventually she ended it. Then he got this new gf and his ex called him up and started huge fight over him moving on so fast and said "you can do better than her" and other shit. My parents probably got too involved. Fought with the GF often, made her the only crazy one. i don't think she saw my brother was 50% of the problem. They both were nuts.
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          • ^or, not op. obvs. 38 sec ago
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  3. Toddler If I were gwenyth Paltrow and my ex was with 24 yo, I'd want to die 20 min ago (5 replies)
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    • LA YBM. signed, insomniac NYer who never thinks about this shit 18 min ago
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      • Brooklyn born and bred here and neither do I. Except right now 17 min ago
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    • Her ex is a lot younger than she is 17 min ago
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    • he's actually younger than Gwen by like - 5 years, signed Sleepless in Park Slope 16 min ago
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    • I would normally think he was a gross asshole, and really Jennifer Lawrence? I saw thought more of you, but just another dumb little girl... but Gwyneth deserves it. 8 min ago
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  4. Toddler Wolf hall is over? 22 min ago (0 replies)
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  5. Toddler This is alienate a lot of people, I know......(more) 29 min ago (11 replies)
    ... But, does anyone have any ownership involvement in an 'adult' website/shop? I have some ideas on improvements on some things, especially lingerie...
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    • wuttya know, i own a sex shop. but, we don't do a lot of clothing 25 min ago
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      • really? 8 min ago
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        • yes really 8 min ago
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          • ^but we only do stockings right now. we're down the st from another place that does a lot of clothing and its notour focus 7 min ago
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            • holy shit. I specifically wanted to talk about stockings!...(more) 5 min ago
              I am not the perfect 2-4, so really want to look at doing some lovely shit for 10-1
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              • that would actually be great. lots of the plus size stockings are gaudy and gross. for ex right now we buy from "Music legs". they hold the market on plus size sotcking, but imo,...(more) 4 min ago
                its not that nice looking. it looks cheap. a few other smaller companies do plus size but they are $$
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              • sorry, 10-14, but they need more spandex in them - wondering if you know of any contacts that I could work with to make this happen? 4 min ago
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                • ^ need to probably add I'm not in the States... 3 min ago
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                  • where are you? 2 min ago
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                    • ^what i would rec is dev this. i can't say i would know who to contact as far as garment and textiles, but once you do that, then you could work on how to distribute it 45 sec ago
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                • lets see. you could try music legs directly, or sexy living, entreneu. pink cherry is the biggest as far as NA adult distributors 2 min ago
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  6. Toddler Okay, WHAT is this bug my dd has? First day she was vomiting during the day, second day fine all day barfed at night, and same for the next two days. Fine all day, barfs once at...(more) 43 min ago (2 replies)
    night. Is it just taking a while to run it's course?
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    • no idea, but poor kid. I hope she feels better soon! 38 min ago
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      • op - Thanks. Her best friend's birthday party is Saturday, and she is so worried she won't be able to go. I keep saying, of course you will! But man, I don't know. 35 min ago
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  7. Toddler Douchy harvardardians are a dime a dozen, but is there any top school with a lower concentration of doucches, and please don't say princeton, dartmouth or yale. 43 min ago (5 replies)
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    • In my experience, MIT. I preferred dating MIT guys over Harvard guys because the former were fun and the latter were douches. 36 min ago
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    • you guys have such big chips on your shoulders? did most of you grow up LMC? 33 min ago
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    • I don't think I ever thought of ivy league schools at all, let alone dating them, but i was seeking out hot construction workers. lol. I have a type i like, and its not frat boys. 30 min ago
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    • columbia was more down to earth 29 min ago
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    • i like the harvard people i know 28 min ago
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  8. Toddler Why do people post in NYT wedding sites that they are mayflower descendants??? 45 min ago (8 replies)
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    • they think it's something to be proud of 44 min ago
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    • they ask you if you have any prominent ancestors 43 min ago
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      • no shit? 43 min ago
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        • what are you unclear about? 42 min ago
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          • It's just an expression, meaning something akin to "no kidding?" 41 min ago
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            • yes i know. i just don't understand why this is surprising to you. 41 min ago
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              • I think I'm going to let that remain a mystery to you. 40 min ago
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                • well FYI: wedding announcements in the times are all about sounding fancy. 40 min ago
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  9. Toddler Ex and I lost our child years ago. We soon separated (we had no other children) and couldn't deal. We were both too broken. We moved on and I am remarried, he is still...(more) 49 min ago (47 replies)
    single. We have since become good friends again and my current dh is telling me not to talk to him he is no ok with it. I feel like i can't do that, we have a connection that will likely never die. We had a child together and he died. Am I being really selfish telling him I won't stop being his friend? Is that wrong? We do not have children yet. Which is another sensitive subject with dh, who wants children and i am not ready yet. Maybe i shouldn't have remarried at all.
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    • It sounds like you shouldn't have. I am sorry for your loss, but your new dh is telling you what he needs and you need to respect him. "since become good friends again" is...(more) 46 min ago
      serious emotional affair territory, not that you are there yet, but you are asking for it and your dh is asking for stronger boundaries and that is fair. If you can't respect that, then you do not respect him enough not to overstep.
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      • ^^^and we are friends with dh's exes. But they have not shared anything as initmate and life altering as losing a child together 41 min ago
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      • Do you love your current husband? 40 min ago
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        • is this question for op? 38 min ago
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          • yes, I replied to the wrong post, sorry 37 min ago
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        • op- i do. Of course. But I don't know if I am willing to give up this for him. So maybe not enough? More than my son? Not even close. More than my ex before all this happened....(more) 36 min ago
          Probably not.
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          • you vowed to forsake all others, did you not? 35 min ago
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          • Okay - you are still in love with your ex. I assume he is also still in love with you, right? 35 min ago
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            • i don't think i am still in love with him. I love him, yes. But its just... different. We have something I can't have with my dh. He cant understand me and waht I lost and he has...(more) 33 min ago
              on more than one occasion made me feel wrong or like i am weird for still making ds prominent in my life. Or a part of my life. I resent that for sure. And ex and I just... its easy. And hard all at the same time. Seeing him hurts more than anything but also feels so right and like i am close to ds again. They were so much alike.
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              • I'm going to put myself out there right now because I don't like what I'm hearing about your current DH's attitude. DH and I lost our DD in 2013. My heart is beating so fast right...(more) 25 min ago
                now imagining someone telling me that her memory is too prominent in my life. DH and I both went to counseling and our other DC also got counseling when she died. Life goes on and we have a very "normal" life, but DD is still a big part of that life for all of us. Have you considered going to counseling with your current DH?
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                • op- i feel like nothing i do is right. I either am not moving on enough or not doing right by dh, or i am the asshole going to my ex. And I am just miserable. And dh is mad at me...(more) 16 min ago
                  because i don't want kids, because i won't stop being friends with ex, because I haven't moved on enough, because I haven't gotten rid of ds things soon enough, "5 years is a long time to keep stuffed animals we won't use again
                  " he is just completely blind to this situation. That this doesn't go away. You married a woman who had a child die. This isn't a 'wait until she gets over it thing"
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                  • I think this is one situation where you need to be selfish. everyone grieves differently and it is a process. you may be doing really well and then all of a sudden find yourself...(more) 11 min ago
                    having bad days and there is no timetable on that. It sounds like your current DH feels insecure, but asking you to move faster than you feel comfortable with in this process is not healthy for you at all. He should be embracing your son's memory and trying to help you keep that alive in a healthy way.
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                  • You need a divorce. 10 min ago
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            • ^^^or, are you just drawn to the connection to your son? 32 min ago
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              • I don't know. I really can't honestly answer that. I do love ex. He never did anything TO me to make me stop loving him. We loved each other when we divorced, but it was too hard...(more) 30 min ago
                then. We kept in touch but it was too hard. I can't explain it. Maybe this is all me. Possible. Maybe I am just forever fucked up and should be alone.
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                • It would probably help you to talk to a therapist. You have gone through something that no one should ever have to endure. I think you need to sort out your own feelings about...(more) 27 min ago
                  everything first and you can let a therapist help you through it. If you knew you and your ex were still in love, and I would say you should get divorced and go back to him. But if you're not sure, it is probably just the connection, and then if you care about your current marriage, you'll need to find the connection somewhere else - like a group of other parents who have had this experience. That being said, you somehow need to address with your current husband that he can't force you to forget you son or heal any faster than you naturally are. You guys could probably use some couples counseling for that.
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            • No- grow up. My best friend is a former boyfriend whom I was with for 9 years. We literally grew up together. I'd never stop being best friends with him- op's dh should get...(more) 27 min ago
              to know the guy and see he isn't a threat
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              • ^^^np, not "no" 27 min ago
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              • but he IS a threat 26 min ago
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                • Says who?? 25 min ago
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                • maybe he wouldn't be if her dh wasnt trying to erase what she is grasping at keeping a memory and part of her life. He is trying to force her to forget her son and she is crying...(more) 22 min ago
                  for help and going to a man who is clearly understanding and giving her what her dh is trying to take form her.
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                  • I totally agree. Op should dump the control freak and go back to making it work with her exh 21 min ago
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                    • He sounds normal to me. His problem is that he married someone on the rebound. That was dumb. 8 min ago
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                      • np - he is not normal. a normal person does not ask a parent to erase their child's memory form their life. 7 min ago
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                        • Who said erase? I think he said the shrine creeped him out. I doubt he sprung that on op. I think op pr...(more) 4 min ago
                          probably wasn't 100% honest with how acute her grieving was when they married. Otherwise this guy wouldn't have married her.
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                          • she had to "hide" all of the DS's things in storage? come on. this man doesn't want any sign of her son around and gets mad at her because he is still an important part of her...(more) 2 min ago
                            life. he's an asshole
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                            • ^^^and I have to assume he saw the room before he married her and moved into the house. nice of him to wait until after they are married to show his true colors 1 min ago
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              • np he is a threat and only a fool wouldnt see that. 9 min ago
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    • wow. what did your child die of and how long ago was it? was that the only reason why you split from your first husband? 44 min ago
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      • cancer. 5 years ago. Yes, pretty much. 42 min ago
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        • i'm so sorry. but...your current dh is right. if it was only the loss of the child that drove you apart there is still love there and that is very threatening to your current...(more) 41 min ago
          marriage.
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          • I don't know if I can do it. I know that might be wrong and selfish. I don't know if i can do it. I know we left each other, but as I have moved my grief I find myself wanting to...(more) 37 min ago
            be around him. Nothing has happened. I don't think I would do that. but he looks so much like dh and he is my last connection. I am also holding resentment and anger with current dh who made me change dss room when we got married because he found it "creepy". Just every thing he does to make me try to forget my life before ds died pushes me towards my old life more.
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            • np - have you had any kind of grief counseling? 35 min ago
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            • Why did you get married? Sounds like you married this guy as an escape. 6 min ago
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    • Are you in love with your current husband? 37 min ago
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    • what an awful nightmare 28 min ago
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      • me? Possibly try. Maybe my dh doesn't deserve any of it. Or my ex. lol. I am a mess. probably always will be. I am just always angry at dh trying to control me and taking things...(more) 26 min ago
        from me, and trying to mold me into a first wife with no past so he doesn't have to explain his crazy wife with the toddlers bedroom in their house but we have no kids. I feel no understanding from him. its lonely.
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        • Woman with ex for bf: I'm sorry, but he does sound controlling. How can he not let you have this? 24 min ago
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          • I don't know. The second we got married he was like, we should change "that room" into an office or soemthing, its weird to keep it there, we don't have kids. we can redo it new...(more) 19 min ago
            when we do. And then he doesn't understand why i don't want a kid with him right now. Hes ready to turn all i have left of my son into a new kids room, we had to hide all his things in storage and say things like "we can buy updated nice stuff for our baby, we can afford it now" because apparently the cheap ikea crib ex and i bought wasnt't enough, because my sons crib is somehow a competition for him with my ex in money... and he doesn't even understand how that could hurt me.
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            • Go back to your first dh and try counseling -- this second guy kinda sucks 15 min ago
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              • he totally doesn't get it, and he thinks he is really nice and laid back and I am just so angry all the time and I am so bad to him and go to ex and blah blah blah. And I resent...(more) 14 min ago
                him so much, it is so unhealthy. and I just feel like a failure at life.
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            • Come on that isn't fair. You married him. He wants a life with you. 3 min ago
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              • i am telling you how i feel. how he makes me feel .I am sure i own a lot of the blame with where this marriage is right now, but this is how i feel. He makes me feel horrible. I...(more) 1 min ago
                resent how he treats my past and me.
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        • he moved into your family home? Or you created a bedroom for your late son? 18 min ago
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          • he moved into my home. i couldn't leave. ex understood. Ex took some things with him, but said i could have the home, paid for it and didn't ask for anything. And the second dh...(more) 15 min ago
            and I signed the marriage certificate he was insisting we change the room.
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            • This second marriage was a huge mistake. Get a divorce and let this guy go find the family he wants. 2 min ago
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  10. Toddler Each of my 9yo twins had a great birthday party this weekend. I am happy to be done for the year...but even better if we could do the "take a friend to an event" kind of birthday...(more) 49 min ago (0 replies)
    in the future...
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  11. Toddler What do I do when I am on a diet but all I want to do right now is eat?? 52 min ago (2 replies)
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    • herbal tea and bed with a movie or just sleep 50 min ago
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      • That sounds good. Thanks! 46 min ago
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  12. Toddler Ds fears he will never make friends at college as good as his high school buddies. What can i say to reassure him. He is so stressed about going away. 54 min ago (3 replies)
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    • You can tell him that he will always have his high school, but people also have some of their best friends in college. 53 min ago
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    • remind him everyone's in the same boat, and feeling insecure and a little scared. 50 min ago
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    • My dc is a sophomore. For her personally, she has made more, longer-lasting friends in college. But for some of her HS friends, it's been harder making good friends at this point....(more) 33 min ago
      Still, by the end of 4 years there, I'm sure they all will have great friends at college. And that's all that matters - making friends. It really doesn't matter if they are BETTER friends than the HS friends - you know?
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  13. Toddler Harvard or Swarthmore for ds. Down to the wire here, and the kid still hasn't decided. 55 min ago (68 replies)
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    • flip a coin 55 min ago
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    • LOL. 55 min ago
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    • Very very different. Would he prefer a small liberal arts college in the country or a large university in the city? What does he want to study? 54 min ago
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      • He's all over the place academically -- interested in Astronomy, creative writing, philosophy. Can't decide whether a big univ or small lib arts school is right. They each have...(more) 53 min ago
        advantages he can see. Not clear how much he is considering prestige.....
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        • They both carry prestige so that doesn't matter much. In a way, Swarthmore more than Harvard since Harvard is known for grade deflation and Swarthmore isn't. Personally those 3...(more) 51 min ago
          interests sound more like a liberal arts college to me - fairly traditional liberal arts subjects. If he were interested in something like film or computer science, I would say Harvard.
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          • i think his interests may change at every moment. He keeps shifting around in what he wants to pursue. 50 min ago
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            • Here's what I see as a difference: kids I know at Harvard take advantage of living in/near a city and run around doing internships and fellowships. Kids I know at Swarthmore...(more) 48 min ago
              prefer to study and focus on academics and their campus experiences.
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              • op: thanks. my ds's only negative impression of Swarthmore was that it was very "quiet." On the other hand, the faculty were super-accessible, super engaged, super smart, and the...(more) 46 min ago
                best part of the visit for him.
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                • you realize they roll out the red carpet for propsectives, right? 45 min ago
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                  • np the school is tiny and the faculty really IS accessible 44 min ago
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                    • did you go there? 43 min ago
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                      • no, i grew up right next to it and know kids who went there. 43 min ago
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                • I went to a LAC myself (Wellesley) and I can't tell you how great that is for undergraduate education. Yes, the professors were always accessible and always helpful and always...(more) 43 min ago
                  interested in students who were interested in talking to them. It may be true at Harvard as well, I don't know.
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                  • np: no, it's not true at Harvard 43 min ago
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                    • my profs were very available at H. in fact a common complaint from other alums is that they didn't take enough advantage. maybe it just attracts a different type of student 40 min ago
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            • i don't think he should necessarily choose based on what he thinks he'll want to study. 46 min ago
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        • both are prestigious. but swarthmore will be boring. i grew up there. 51 min ago
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          • did you go to school there? or just the town itself -- seems dullsville tome. 49 min ago
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            • town but i know several people who went there, too. i went to school in a city and am so grateful i did. swarth is very pretty but it's very confining socially. 47 min ago
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      • Would he prefer an amazing education, or an amazing education PLUS CONNECTIONS UP THE ASS 52 min ago
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        • Swarthmore can also give you connections up the ass. Sometimes at Harvard, those connections are reserved for those with connections already. 50 min ago
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          • I really don't think it compares. Harvard opens doors forever, everywhere. 50 min ago
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    • i'd choose harvard, no question 54 min ago
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    • oh come on. Harvard. 53 min ago
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      • i'm the mom, and this is what I think, but.... 52 min ago
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    • talk about a good problem to have. nice vb, for the record. 53 min ago
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      • it's actually causing a lot of stress around here. i know it sounds like a VBA, but these are real lives and real decisions with lifelon consequences. 52 min ago
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        • np - There really is not "lifelong consequences" between those two colleges. They each will be great. 51 min ago
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        • omg 51 min ago
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        • wow, talk about a bubble 50 min ago
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          • says the toddler mom 49 min ago
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            • No, I don't have toddlers. Not sure what the age of my kids has to do with your big bubble of privilege anyway. 48 min ago
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              • that you can't understand why a 17yo would be stressed about college choices implies you haven't been trhought it 47 min ago
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                • I don't doubt that it's stressful. That's not what I was commenting on. It's the angst over the "lifelong consequences." I work with kids who would love the opportunity t...(more) 46 min ago
                  over these decisions.
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              • it's not a bubble of privilege it's a decision in a single person's life. Please spare us the symbolism 47 min ago
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                • and spare us the "lifelong consequences." this guy is going to have all the advantages either way. 45 min ago
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      • ^thanks! 51 min ago
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    • harvard 51 min ago
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    • Is the the type of kid that will psychological crumble when he sees that he is not necessarily the smartest kid at school anymore? Some students have a tough time with that at...(more) 49 min ago
      HYP.
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      • np: true, and here is not as much support there as at a SLAC 48 min ago
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      • no, he's coming from a super competitive NYC high school (public) he will not be intimidated. 48 min ago
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        • It's not about being intimidated. If he got into Harvard from his super competitive high school, he is likely at the top of his class. When you are suddenly surrounded by lots of...(more) 41 min ago
          people that you realize are actually a lot smarter than you are, it's a process to learn to be okay with it.
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          • i think he can manage this. At his his high school, there is always someone who is smarter, who beat him out for an award, etc. He is totally used to it. 39 min ago
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            • If he is completely on the fence academically in terms of domain, and he doesn't have to have the small classroom experience, Harvard would be the safer bet, IMO. Worst case...(more) 36 min ago
              scenario: He hates it and can transfer. But I doubt that would happen given what you described.
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              • np - I agree with you but what does "domain" mean here? 33 min ago
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                • Just possible subject area for a major. 28 min ago
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        • np - My dc also went to a super competitive NYC public HS and yes, college is not more difficult at all. It's a great result from all the work that dc did in HS actually. IMO of...(more) 41 min ago
          course.
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      • it will be similar at swarth. 46 min ago
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    • If money isn't an issue, Harvard. I know grads from both and the swarthmore grads are douchey and dumb. Some of the Harvard grads are douchey, but they are all smart 48 min ago
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      • np - And I have the exact opposite experience. Swarties I know are all very smart and funny and nice. Harvard runs the gamut from the same to douchy and to dumb as well. 47 min ago
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      • Harvard offers quite a bit more money 45 min ago
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        • Take the place that offers more money. I mean it's just a no brainier. Why pay when you don't have to? 43 min ago
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          • thought we might be able to negotiate if the issue arrises. We might have some bargaining poer. 41 min ago
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            • Well have you been negotiating. The deadline is Friday 40 min ago
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              • no he hasn't made up his freakin' mind. We have a few days until May 1 38 min ago
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                • what do you mean "no"? the deadline is friday regardless of yoru indecisive kid. he needs to man up and pull the trigger 38 min ago
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                  • yeah, but today's only Sunday. So, a few more days. And obviously he has to make up his mind, like, tomorrow. 35 min ago
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                • do you accept online these days? 37 min ago
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                • But you can negotiate in the meantime. I don't get why you haven't 37 min ago
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                  • because i wanted a definitive commitment from him that if we bargained with Swat, he would actually go there and not embarrass us 33 min ago
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                    • embarrass you? do you have a connection to the school? younger DC planning to apply? 32 min ago
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                      • no, it would just be embarrassing to negotiate a deal and then not honor it. It's rude and bad karma 31 min ago
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                    • Ong it's not embarrassing to negotiate and then say no. Geez 31 min ago
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                • if you think you can negotiate, the time to do that is now, not after he accepts. 35 min ago
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            • they don't care. both schools have a long wait list and kids just a good as him dying to get in. he's from NYC, not a genius from malawi or something. 35 min ago
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              • Harvard has their Z list of course. 32 min ago
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        • Oh - well that's something else then. 42 min ago
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  14. Toddler I know very soon the chris pratt bubble is going to burst and he is going to show how shitty he secretly is. i know it. 57 min ago (10 replies)
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    • shitty how? 56 min ago
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      • i don't know. cheats on his wife, abusive (like matthew fox) drunk, something... he is too perfect. 55 min ago
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        • oh phew. thought you had something there and i'd be so disappointed. he's so funny. 54 min ago
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          • he is funny, hot, sweet, kind, good with kids, seems like a great dad.... the bursted bubble will come, i feel it. 53 min ago
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        • ? 42 min ago
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    • Shitty? I think that Anna Faris and he look cute together 55 min ago
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      • i know, but he is too perfect. He is going to crash it soon and we will all be disappointed. 53 min ago
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    • Wow are you so anxious for this to happen? Jeesh 33 min ago
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    • friend of mine works in PR. she says so many stars have so much shit on them (obv) it makes your head spin 32 min ago
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  15. Toddler GOT or Revenge? both on DVR. which was better? 59 min ago (0 replies)
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  16. Toddler My almost 8 yo dd mentions a few times a week that she is fat or that her legs are fat. what specifically is the correct answer to this, iyo? thanks. 59 min ago (15 replies)
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    • Are they fat? 53 min ago
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      • she is s smidge more "solid" than some girls but she's not fat. her tummy sticks out. 51 min ago
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        • I would tell her that he is absolutely not fat and that she is beautiful. You can ask her where she is getting these ideas. Are other kid being mean to her? You can explain that...(more) 48 min ago
          kids say mean things that aren't even true. At the same time, maybe you can get her involved in a sport of other physical activity, or sort of watch what she eats without her knowing. You don't want to make her self conscious in any way.
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          • np: what if her legs were fat? What would your advice be then? 42 min ago
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            • exactly the same 41 min ago
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              • Then why did you ask if her legs are fat? 40 min ago
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                • because if they were, she might need to do some more things discreetly to help get her to a healthy weight. 39 min ago
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                  • ^^^also wanted to see if she actually was fat or there was some kind of cognitive distortion going on. 38 min ago
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                    • OP: she's not fat but she's definitely not a twig like a lot of girls her age. 32 min ago
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                      • Then probably just her genetics. The message then as you said is that everyone is different/unique and we should always love ourselves. 23 min ago
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          • she loves sweets and wouldn't miss dessert for anything. i tell her she's not fat. i tell her people are different sizes etc etc. i don't connect what she eats with how she...(more) 40 min ago
            looks because that seems damaging at this point.
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            • np: Do you talk about your own body in a negative way? 38 min ago
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              • no, i'm careful not to. i will say- ugh, i ate too much and i'm stuffed or whatever but never mention body stuff. 34 min ago
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            • ^and no one is being mean to her. it's just something she notices and is dwelling on. troubles me. 38 min ago
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    • You are not fat 49 min ago
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  17. Toddler WHERE MAH BITCHES AT 1 hr ago (0 replies)
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  18. Toddler Every time my daughters tell me I'm pretty I make myself say "thank you" instead of what I'm thinking, which is "no, I'm not." I don't want them to end up like 1 hr 2 min ago (2 replies)
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  19. Toddler Name poll - Andrea 1 hr 2 min ago (14 replies)
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    • i prefer gladys. 1 hr 1 min ago
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    • I haven't met one under 40 in a long time 1 hr 1 min ago
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      • np- i know two in their 20s. no little ones though. I do like it. 1 hr ago
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        • ^and one in her early 30s too actually. 1 hr ago
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          • ^^and a guy from Italiy in his 20s who is hot. wow, i know a lot of people with that non-popular name. 59 min ago
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      • ^^^so maybe it's time to bring it back! I don't love it, but if you do, go for it 1 hr ago
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      • There are 2 on my son's 3rd grade class. 57 min ago
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        • fwiw, one is hispanic, the other's family is from Iceland 55 min ago
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    • hate it 1 hr ago
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    • how would you pronounce it? 58 min ago
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      • like andrea. The normal way. 58 min ago
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        • i like it the spanish way- anDRAYah 56 min ago
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    • Its my name. I hated it as a kid, but I like it now. Just pronounced Ann-dree-a. I am italian, but american. It grew on me. Now I like that it isn't popular and not caitlin or...(more) 54 min ago
      Christina (every girl in my class seemed to be one of them)
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  20. Toddler My 3rd grade dc has only been invited to one bday party this year with the promise of one more but it's a swim party and he can't swim yet ( some sn's). I feel so sad for him but...(more) 1 hr 3 min ago (5 replies)
    my Dh said its the age and kids don't do big parties anymore. On the otherhand, our soon to be 5 year old girl seems to have a party every weekend. It doesn't seem to bother my son but it just makes me feel so damn sad for him.
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    • its true. my 4th grade DC has a ton of friends but has been invited to three parties this year. they are all very small. 1 hr 2 min ago
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    • my neuro normal ds isn't invited to many parties but he has friends. i wouldn't compare. it ebbs and flows each year. 1 hr ago
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    • It depends on the area- where I live people do family parties mainly 1 hr ago
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    • that sounds about right. I have a 4th grader and a 2nd grader. younger one gets invited to a lot of parties. same was true last year. older DD only had a few invitations last year...(more) 59 min ago
      and I think there's only been one invitation this year, and she is well-liked and has a lot of friends at school. I think once they hit 3rd/4th grade the parties start to taper off
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    • Thanks all. I think I'm just super sensitive to him being accepted. Appreciate the feedback 51 min ago
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  21. Toddler Any psychic moms? 1 hr 3 min ago (0 replies)
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  22. Toddler I wish that I could put a swift choke hold on you. This world ain't big enough for you and your ego. So for once why don't you just shut up, just shut the fuck up....(more) 1 hr 4 min ago (3 replies)
    Christina Aguiliera has lyrics to everything I want to say on here at any given moment. I just realized this.
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    • You won't break me! You won't break me. You won't take me down, no 1 hr 1 min ago
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      • different songs. : ) 1 hr 1 min ago
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        • It's my CA / yBM comeback 1 hr ago
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  23. Toddler Have any of you seen the clip of seth meyers and jon snow at a dinner party? omg. so funny. 1 hr 5 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Yes. That was good. 1 hr 5 min ago
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    • yes, kit Harrington carried it so well 1 hr 4 min ago
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  24. Toddler The night is dark and full of terrors 1 hr 7 min ago (2 replies)
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    • No night so long that you can't find the day 1 hr 6 min ago
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    • or not 1 hr 6 min ago
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  25. Toddler I ate 6 eggs this weekend. 1 hr 9 min ago (3 replies)
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    • fascinating 1 hr 8 min ago
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    • and? there's more to the story, right? 1 hr 8 min ago
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      • 3 were awesome and 3 were mediocre. 1 hr 7 min ago
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