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  1. Toddler Well know I feel sufficiently repulsed after reading that expose on the playboy mansion 2 hr 36 min ago (2 replies)
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    • Bevause? My 45 yo df dtill bisits, former playgirl 2 hr 5 min ago
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  2. Toddler There was an old man with a beard, who said it is just as I feared, two owls and a hen, four larks and a wren, have all built their nests in my beard. :( 2 hr 37 min ago (0 replies)
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  3. Toddler I know a 42 yo socialite that supplies party drugs to UMC friends. Her dh doesn't know. She manages their finances so she can sneak in the extra money without him noticing. 3 hr 30 min ago (3 replies)
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    • and if she gets caught she'll get a slap on the wrist while the black on the other side of Manhattan gets hard time 3 hr 14 min ago
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    • Ohhh blind item!! 3 hr 1 min ago
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    • she sounds like a winner 2 hr 45 min ago
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  4. Toddler Would you trade undefined role, crappy managers at small, fun company with awesome co-workers and a ton of perks for a more corporate job where everyone is super nice and...(more) 3 hr 31 min ago (2 replies)
    competent
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    • uh yes, how is this even a question! 2 hr 48 min ago
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    • undefined role at a fun company makes me picture the tv show silicon valley and the guys who are waiting out their contracts by drinking beer on the roof of their google-like...(more) 1 hr 59 min ago
      company
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  5. Toddler This is kinda fun......(more) 3 hr 41 min ago (5 replies)
    • yes! My song is awesome. Cindi Lauper Time After Time! 3 hr 33 min ago
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    • Mine is Love CHild by Diana Ross! 2 hr 47 min ago
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    • mine is a creepy song by Donna summers. thanks for sharing !! 2 hr 6 min ago
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    • Yay! "If You Wanna Be Happy", by Jimmy Soul 16 min ago
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  6. Toddler Would you be pissed at work if you got in trouble for using the "F" word in a meeting and then later heard that a male director used the phrase "Cock-blocking" in a similar...(more) 3 hr 50 min ago (6 replies)
    meeting, only with higher ups, including CEO, COO?
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    • and nothing happened to him, obvious 3 hr 50 min ago
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    • Point it out! 3 hr 49 min ago
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      • don't point out that you've been gossiping about what is said at meetings you don't attend 3 hr 46 min ago
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    • be more ladylike 3 hr 48 min ago
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    • pissed, yes, but i probably wouldn't say anything because i wasn't there and it comes across as gossip-y (only reinforcing more negative stereotypes). if it happened in a meeting...(more) 3 hr 41 min ago
      i was in, however, i might point it out
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    • are you as senior as he is? 2 hr 42 min ago
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  7. Toddler What's the worst thing you've ever gotten on a performance review? After 20 years of awesome reviews I actually had a raging crazy person manager who wrote: "Sometimes XXX (me)...(more) 3 hr 51 min ago (4 replies)
    view of her abilities does not match with realities" and it got even worse
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    • was there truth in the harshness? honestly? Obviously you did not mesh well with this person, for example... 3 hr 50 min ago
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      • not really 3 hr 32 min ago
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      • np: oh please even if that is true her manager's wording is completely inappropriate and unprofessional. 2 hr 28 min ago
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    • that's what happens when you don't give a bj 3 hr 48 min ago
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  8. Toddler Anyhoo, here goes: which is better offer? 180K no bonus with free commuter rail or 165K, 25K annual bonus and 15K signing bonus upon hire? 4 hr 2 min ago (4 replies)
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    • Aren't bonuses taxed at a higher percentage? (Not that I've ever worked at a company that gave them out, so I wouldn't know). I'd probably do the higher base salary. 3 hr 57 min ago
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      • no, they aren't. it just feels that way because they might withhold more 3 hr 56 min ago
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    • does commuter rail cost more than 10k? 3 hr 56 min ago
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      • They said if commuting costs were a concern they are open to 1 day WFH, which is a nice perk also. New commute is $250 month at 4x 3 hr 54 min ago
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  9. Toddler Anyone willing to help me figure out which is a better financial decision? 4 hr 4 min ago (1 reply)
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    • I would go with scenario A 2 hr 44 min ago
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  10. Toddler I wish there was a way to hide my profile from all 20-somethings on ok Cupid. this is the last message I got, from a 28yo who looks about 12:...(more) 4 hr 9 min ago (13 replies)
    You are the most attractive 50 year old woman on I've seen (Gee. thanks. You smooth talker, you. I'm 48.)
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    • Lol hawt! 4 hr 7 min ago
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      • Compare that to the guy my age who writes in his profile, "One thing I didn't lose in the divorce was my sense of humor." Oh you charmer! you realize that most women on the site...(more) 3 hr 51 min ago
        your age have been divorced...right? Oh those grabby greedy females! That can't take your winning personality!
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        • I actually think that's good. you should seem to have lost your sense of humor 3 hr 45 min ago
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          • ugh no, it is so cliche and mildly misogynist. 3 hr 39 min ago
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            • np, omfg there is no mild misogyny. That is HATRED of women. You either do or don't. No mild hate. That by itself is not misogyny. 3 hr 37 min ago
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            • he said nothing about women at all. he said he didn't lose his sense of humor in the divorce. both sides lose something in a divorce. always 3 hr 32 min ago
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    • Littlefucker 4 hr 6 min ago
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    • vba. Fuck the 20 somethings while you wait for someone with more substance to come along. If you're getting laid regularly you'll make rational decisions when looking for a long...(more) 3 hr 47 min ago
      term partner.
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      • Have you been on a dating site? It is not a vba, 7 of the last 10 people who have written to me are in their 20s...I do not want a kid, I have 2 of my own. And yeah, I want to...(more) 3 hr 43 min ago
        get laid regularly, but smeone young enough to be my kid is not enticing. By no means do I think I am the only "50yo" this guys are writing to or that I am in some way special. I'm guessing they are casting wide nets, more that they think I am desperate -- not a brag.
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        • you don't have to care about his opinions. Just use his hard body while Mr Right comes along 3 hr 41 min ago
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          • I tried that with a 32yo model, thinking I could do that...but in the end without a real connection, I could have just gone to the gym. I don't feel like being teacher if I want...(more) 3 hr 37 min ago
            a good lay.
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            • I enjoyed my time teaching a younger man. He thought I was so smart. 3 hr 37 min ago
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    • omg that is hilarious 2 hr 43 min ago
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  11. Toddler Earnings for people with college degrees have declined since the turn of the millennium. 4 hr 27 min ago (1 reply)
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  12. Toddler Would you judge me for having more kids with DH even though we have drifted apart? I'm not doing it to save my marriage, its just that I love children. 4 hr 30 min ago (7 replies)
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    • No 4 hr 29 min ago
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    • Yes I would. That is shitty. 4 hr 28 min ago
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    • yes 4 hr 28 min ago
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    • how many do you have? 4 hr 23 min ago
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    • Then go work with kids. Do not make more with a DH you don't love. 4 hr 12 min ago
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    • I do actually. As a person getting divorced because my dh cheated, I can't imagine knowingly having kids if your relationship wasn't strong. 4 hr 12 min ago
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    • I think every single marriage goes through this -- it waxes and wanes. 4 hr 4 min ago
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  13. Toddler I am not all that hopeful about the newly democratically-elected President of Nigeria considering 35 yrs ago he led a coup and ruled the country as a military dictator before...(more) 4 hr 36 min ago (1 reply)
    being overthrown in a coup himself.
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    • from what i read this election sounded like things are going backwards. 4 hr 34 min ago
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  14. Toddler Girl you trippin' 4 hr 44 min ago (1 reply)
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    • you in DANGER, girl! 4 hr 36 min ago
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  15. Toddler Do you like peanuts? 4 hr 44 min ago (6 replies)
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    • i seemed to have moved on to other nuts 4 hr 44 min ago
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    • I do, but I like almonds better 4 hr 43 min ago
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    • eh 4 hr 43 min ago
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    • boiled peanuts are awesome 4 hr 36 min ago
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      • i said dija wan some buhd peanuts? 4 hr 34 min ago
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        • lol...I totally read this in that damn accent 4 hr 12 min ago
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  16. Toddler My neighbor whose dh died last year is drunk a lot. I hope it passes. 4 hr 50 min ago (0 replies)
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  17. Toddler I was dealing with mental health insurance for dd online. Dh and I are going through a divorce and he is being passive aggressive and uncommunicative about the kids. The mediator...(more) 4 hr 50 min ago (6 replies)
    practically yelled at him because he won't just give straight answers. Afterward said, "Maybe therapy would help us communicate." and he said "I am in therapy." I said great!! (I had wanted him to go for years)...looking at the website I can see that he had been to one session 3 weeks prior to this conversation and one the day after, an no more before or since...It's like he just can't be honest with me. I'm a fool to think he would really get help. Oh well. At least he doesn't see the kids very much.
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    • You automatically view this as dishonesty? Objectively, I dont 4 hr 48 min ago
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      • I do, to say "I'm in therapy" having been to one session is not truthful, who know if he would have gone to another if we hadn't had that conversation, but as it is, it was 3...(more) 4 hr 45 min ago
        months ago and he hasn't been back.
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    • See, I would say something. Tell him the fact he is in therapy, making an effort, makes you hopeful that you will be able to coparent decently. Maybe he'll go back. 4 hr 46 min ago
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      • After the last mediator appoint about a week ago the mediator was suggesting a co-parenting class which is impossible in our schedules and I said I would look into individual...(more) 4 hr 43 min ago
        session. After I askd him if he felt it was necessary or would he prefer to work on it with his therapist. He said talking to his therapist "might be a good idea"
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    • My ex dh is like this. Never EVER gives a direct answer, even if I say "just answer yes or no, please." He does the bare minimum in everything and thinks it's the same as putting...(more) 4 hr 44 min ago
      in a full effort. Yes, 2 therapy sessions 3 weeks apart doesn't really constitute being "in therapy," except in the minds of these men. I don't get it at all. And my dh has the kids 2 nights per week. Ugh.
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      • mine is an every other weekend and dinner wednesdays (his choice). I was saad he would never go when we were together and so glad and hopeful that at least he was doing something...(more) 4 hr 38 min ago
        now. So I am disappointed. At the mediator appointment I had to ask where he was seeing the dcs the next day and he said which hotel. I said I had mailed his tax refund to him directly from the bank and he asked how I knew his address (It was in an email to someone else he forwarded to me. about something else relating to taxes). The mediator says, "I don't get it. Why are you withholding this information.' his answer I'm not." Just really disordered.
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  18. Toddler I have most of my chipotle in my hair as i tried to eat it with my hips in the air post sex ttc 4 hr 58 min ago (10 replies)
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    • weirdest post of the week award 4 hr 52 min ago
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    • lmao 4 hr 51 min ago
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    • thanks for that effectively repulsive image 4 hr 51 min ago
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    • wait for it.......(more) 4 hr 50 min ago
      ya sound fat
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    • most of my chipot le is in my hair as I tried to eat post sex...(more) 4 hr 49 min ago
      fixed your haiku for you.
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      • the ttc part is pretty important here 4 hr 48 min ago
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        • not for poetry! 4 hr 48 min ago
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          • beg to differ. it wouldn't be in her hair if her hips weren't in the air....(more) 4 hr 47 min ago
            see what i did there?
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            • Hips in the air, Chipotle in the hair, Baby in there! 4 hr 36 min ago
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              • lololol. love it!!!! 4 hr 36 min ago
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  19. Toddler Please read this article, and tell me why the author isn't just a narcissist and the husband an asshole no matter the so-called "diagnosis."...(more) 5 hr ago (2 replies)
    • She doesn't sound narcissistic at all. And her husband DID get a dx. What is your issue? 4 hr 47 min ago
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    • I didn't get "narcissist" from the woman in the least. The husband, though, I do think he was an asshole - an asshole because of his undx and untreated ASD 4 hr 35 min ago
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  20. Toddler How often -- what proportion of the time -- are you critical of your teenager? Mine perceives us as very critical, but then again he often provokes us. 5 hr 2 min ago (9 replies)
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    • Do you think you are very critical of him? Because what teenagers perceive and what actually happens can be wildly different 4 hr 59 min ago
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      • we are fairly critical these days -- he's a senior in hs -- but i think his behavior has warranted it. Criticism is necessary sometimes, but i don't want hin to think we don't...(more) 4 hr 55 min ago
        like him.
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        • I think you might have to be more selective when it comes to picking your battles then. Of course some behavior warrants criticism,...(more) 4 hr 53 min ago
          esp with teenagers, but you might need to let a few more things go than you might normally be comfortable with
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    • Starting at age 12 my dd developed a victim complex. I could say "has anyone seen my shoes?" and she screams "What? I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING! STOP ACCUSING ME!" 4 hr 52 min ago
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      • i'm so lucky that oldest dd always did this. she's getting a tad better at 10yo 4 hr 44 min ago
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    • according to my 14yo, unless i'm actually in the act of purchasing something she's requested she's pretty sure I'm fucking with her. 4 hr 35 min ago
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    • This back to when you were a teen. I felt that my mom criticized me ALL the time. Like LITERALLY ALL THE TIME. 4 hr 11 min ago
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    • teenagers are certifiably mentally ill 4 hr 3 min ago
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      • This is true. 3 hr 56 min ago
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  21. Toddler Another car post. Just wondering why the huge white SUVs are so popular where I live (Chicago burbs). Suburban, Escalade, etc. They are enormous and don't look easy to drive....(more) 5 hr 8 min ago (12 replies)
    SO many of them. They are as popular as Honda Odysseys for families with kids. What is the appeal?
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    • cool factor 5 hr 7 min ago
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      • I guess they don't really seem very cool to me. Maybe I just don't get it. 5 hr 6 min ago
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        • cooler than driving a minivan for the moms hung up on the minivan soccer mom image 5 hr 4 min ago
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        • well fair enough, some people like minivans, practical. cost efficient, easy 5 hr 4 min ago
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          • ^different target 5 hr 3 min ago
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    • And why always white? 5 hr 2 min ago
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      • Chicago proper here. We just got a new suv with third row. Dh assumed we were getting white. I said no way. I do not understand the ppel of a white vehile. 4 hr 56 min ago
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      • maybe it's a color they think the rich ladies like so they get lots of them in the nicer burbs? 4 hr 54 min ago
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    • I hate white cars. We are car shopping and the only color I have scratched off our list is white. 4 hr 50 min ago
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    • it's got more storage for stuff. my minivan has plenty of room for us, and I think often people with suburbans hate minivans and/or think there's less room than there is. 4 hr 48 min ago
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    • The main appeal is that they're not minivans. Half the people who drive them can't. 3 hr 55 min ago
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  22. Toddler Friend cousins baby died (cousin wasn't married and had baby with girlfriend) both parents have alc...(more) 5 hr 13 min ago (6 replies)
    Alcohol problems and baby born very premature and did not make it. Is there anything I can do for my friend. She has been in and out
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    • Hospital for weeks checking in baby. Wondering if I can do anything. 5 hr 13 min ago
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      • so sad. do you live close to her or...? 5 hr 12 min ago
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        • Yes 5 hr 11 min ago
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          • i think just spend time with her. offer to help with funeral stuff. 5 hr 9 min ago
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      • just say you are sorry for her loss. 5 hr 10 min ago
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    • So sad. :( 5 hr 7 min ago
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  23. Toddler I have an apt bldg and raised the rent 5% for a lease that is coming up for renewal. I haven't raised the rent on that unit in several years. 4 people are living there...possibley...(more) 5 hr 13 min ago (15 replies)
    5 when they resign the lease. Lots of wear and tear on the unit, plus I pay for water and that is going up as well as taxes. The one girl who lives there, who used to be in charge of everyone (she would collect the rent and write one check to me) emailed me and asked why I was raising the rent. She has a lot of nerve...she basically did not pay rent to me for 3 months...kept saying her account got defrauded and the bank (which she works for as a customer service person) was investigating. This went on for many months. Finally in early January she admitted she did not have the money to repay me because she over spent during the holidays.
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    • you had grounds to evict her. 5 hr 11 min ago
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      • and I was going to...but another person in the group took over when I made him aware of what was going on. 5 hr 9 min ago
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      • In NYC that would be very hard if she made the LL whole. 5 hr 9 min ago
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        • I'm not in NYC 5 hr 9 min ago
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    • i don't think there's any harm in asking why. you may have legitimate grievances, but i don't think this is one of them 5 hr 11 min ago
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      • 5% increase is not unheard of. Anyway I told her it was tax increase and water rate increases. 5 hr 9 min ago
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        • Just explain the justification for the increase. NBD. 5 hr 7 min ago
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      • raising the rent is a good way to get rid of a bad tenant. 5 hr 8 min ago
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        • this is also part of my angle. I'm looking to see how badly they want to stay. 5 hr ago
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          • of course. so cut that "she has some nerve" bs. from their perspective you suddenly raised the rent. she has the right to question why 4 hr 53 min ago
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            • she does have a lot of nerve. She's a liar and manipulator. Not good. 4 hr 52 min ago
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              • it's a biz arrangement. charge a fee if they are more than a few days late with the rent. not a big deal. 4 hr 43 min ago
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                • ^and yeah, there will be wear and tear. cost of doing business. i've been on both sides of this and as a landlord i improved our properties way more than what i see as a renter. 4 hr 41 min ago
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    • be a competent business person and just explain why in simple terms. 5 hr 8 min ago
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  24. Toddler What if, every single time you saw someone take a sip out of a cup, no matter the date, you just said "April Fools" and walked away? 5 hr 26 min ago (1 reply)
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    • people would lose patience w/ your bullshit pretty fast, I'd think 5 hr 25 min ago
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  25. Toddler Someone help me. Dating a guy who is super formal. Personality wise. Very silent type. Very reserved. (but omg super hot) but also a bit odd. He seems to be ver particular. Old...(more) 5 hr 27 min ago (51 replies)
    fashioned for sure. He is ALWAYS dressed formally. The only time he is wearing sneakers is to work out. I have never seen him in jeans. I am going to meet his family for lunch and he came in a suit and saw me in nice jeans, a sweater, and flat boots, and he was like, "oh, my family always wears formal attire" I said what do you consider formal, and always? He said, my mom and sister always wear dresses and nice shoes. My dad and brother always wear suits. Are you not comfortable with that? What am I supposed to say??? I said, always? He said, yes, unless we are being active or sleeping. How weird is that???? Would you run? I REALLY REALLY like him. I even like his brand of weird! But the whole always dressing up thing is NOT me at all. I am super casual. I never dress up.
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    • my MIL wears Adidas shower shoes 24 hours a day, so i would welcome the formality. But if it makes you feel weird, talk to him about it. 5 hr 26 min ago
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    • Weirdly stuffy. I couldn't be comfortable like that. 5 hr 26 min ago
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    • You be you. I'm assuming you've been dating a while and he's ok with you? Put on a dress for his mom, but otherwise, wear what you want. 5 hr 26 min ago
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    • this is not a dealbreaker, wait and see 5 hr 25 min ago
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    • did he want you to change your clothes? 5 hr 25 min ago
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      • op - YES! he was like, its a formal thing. We always dress in this types of clothes when at my parents house. And he ALWAYS wears a suit, if not a jacket at least dress pants and...(more) 5 hr 23 min ago
        a button up white shirt.
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        • Has he ever made this request of you before? If not, then I would say if you like him, then respect his mothers wishes and dress up at her home. Otherwise, dress like you want....(more) 5 hr 22 min ago
          If he starts requiring you to dress up always, then bail.
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        • unc er tain. how did the event go? 5 hr 22 min ago
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    • !. How long have you been dating; 2. Do you have to dress like him and his family for him to like you? 3. Are you Ok with that? $. Spectrum-y 5 hr 24 min ago
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      • 4 months and he is moving quickly. He has made his intent clear early. Which was refreshing. Its hard being single!...(more) 5 hr 19 min ago
        He has never askedme to change before, but we always seem to be dressed differently, and he definitely asked me to change for his parents house. I don't know if I am ok with it.
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    • Was he expecting you to change to suit his preferences? Does he say at other times that he wishes you were wearing different clothes? His preferences are no big deal, but him...(more) 5 hr 23 min ago
      expecting you to mold to his habits can be
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      • Yes, he wanted me to change to go to his parents house. No he has never asked me to change before and we ALWAYS dress differently. We went to brunch once at a shitty diner and her...(more) 5 hr 20 min ago
        was in his suit and i had on yoga pants and a hoodie. lol. Oops.
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        • ^^hey he MET me in yoga pants and ;liked me! 5 hr 20 min ago
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        • So unless one of you changes, you will always be mismatched, except when working out of at a formal event 5 hr 19 min ago
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          • op= i don't mind it if he doesn't ask me to change who i am. i like the suit thing. Its different. But i don't want to change who i am either. 5 hr 16 min ago
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            • Getting dressed up one time (or a handful) to visit his parents is not changing who you are. Ignoring the fact that you shouldn't define yourself by the clothes you wear, he's not...(more) 5 hr 12 min ago
              asking you to change everyday
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              • She's responding to what I said above. "Unless one of you changes, you will always be mismatched." Which could be fine. I just thought it was worth thinking about 5 hr 9 min ago
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        • Nap I would have no problem changing to go to his parents house. NBD IMO 5 hr 17 min ago
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          • This, although he communicated it in a pretty awkward way 5 hr 17 min ago
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            • op- he is pretty awkward so i wasn't surprised. 5 hr 16 min ago
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    • I'm not sure why you didn't pick up on this clue. He dresses formally, so you're meeting his family and show up in jeans? Doesn't make sense to me. 5 hr 20 min ago
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      • op- i was just dressing like me! I assumed it was his quirk. Not a family thing. Who wears fancy clothes to a casual meal (not dinner and not at a restaurant) at their parents...(more) 5 hr 18 min ago
        house? i knew he would be in a suit, but thats him!
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        • Idk. I get him, I guess. I grew up in a formal family, too. I don't own a pair of jeans. If I knew my bf always dressed formally and I was meeting his family for the first time,...(more) 5 hr 16 min ago
          I'd dress to equal his attire, which wouldn't be too far off from where I dress normally
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    • dressing up to impress/respect his parents is nbd. If he tries to control the way you dress everyday, then you have a problem. Similarly, you can't control what he wears everyday...(more) 5 hr 18 min ago
      so if he is comfortable in suits then that's that
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      • op- i have no problem with him being so formal. i think its cute. I wouldn't tell him he was too dressed up to meet my family (who are all about the casual wear) they would likely...(more) 5 hr 17 min ago
        appreciate his formal quirk thing.
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        • If your only problem is this one time he asked you to dress up, you don't really have a problem. He wants you to make a good impression, that's not unusual 5 hr 16 min ago
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          • I sometimes don't know red flags and have a tendency of ignoring bad signs because I like other things. I just wanted to run it by the most honest people i know. lol. I am fine...(more) 5 hr 13 min ago
            with doing it on special occasions, but i won't do it daily. I am not interested in being who he is because he is different. I am ok with him and not trying to change it. I want the same. And I wouldn't expect him to wear jeans and tshirt because my brothers and father does. KWIM? But i can do it occasionally. But if he starts trying to make me dress formally like him more than on an occasion i won't do it. I like who i am.
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            • He's not trying to change you. I say this as someone who does know red flags. This isn't one. He just wants his parents to like you. That's a good sign. 5 hr 11 min ago
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              • shouldn't they like me as I am? I dont know, i think if he starts asking me to dress up frequently that would be trying to change me. As you said above, clothes don't define me,...(more) 5 hr 10 min ago
                so what i am wearing shouldn't matter to him or them.
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                • You have that backwards. Clothes don't define you, so dressing up isn't changing who you are. It doesn't mean they don't like your personality. It's just about respecting thei...(more) 5 hr 5 min ago
                  traditions in their home. You are giving this too much thought. His parents are older, have some different standards, and it is polite to meet them. You're not dating his parents. He is not changing you. You are the same person in sweatpants or heels. He is asking you to respect his family.
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                  • I get that. and as i said, its fine in his home. But who I AM, doesn't want to be dressed up all the time. I won't do it when with him or not at a function or his parents house...(more) 5 hr 4 min ago
                    for a meal or party. I just won't. i have no interest in it, and I won't do it for a man. I enjoy how I dress. I will do it for someone I love and to make them happy sometimes, but it IS changing me to do it on a normal basis. Again, i would NEVER force him to wears different clothes i liked better.
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                    • So you won't get dressed up to visit his parents? Okay, fine. If you want to cause drama over nothing, that's your prerogative as a grown woman. But you are putting way too much...(more) 5 hr 2 min ago
                      stock into defining yourself through your clothes, which is something high schoolers do. You are obviously looking for a problem here.
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                      • op- i just said the opposite. i said i have no problem doing it in his parents home. I won't do it in my daily life, yes for special occasions (as i do normally, i didn't think...(more) 4 hr 59 min ago
                        his parents house was that kind of occasion, and in the future i wouldn't dress up for a bbq, though i guess they aren't bbq people, huh?) but i won't start dressing up like he does alwas.
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                        • But you have given no indication that he wants you to change how you dress every single day. You are getting worked up about something that hasn't happened 4 hr 57 min ago
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                          • i guess i just can't believe he really asked me to change. i have never had that happen before. 4 hr 56 min ago
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                            • Because you've never dated a man from a formal family. That's normal, most families aren't like that. But there is nothing wrong with being like that (despite what some posters...(more) 4 hr 55 min ago
                              who have seen too many movies may think).
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                              • op- i thought and think it is really cute he does this. He is very sweet. And I think and thought it was cute we dress so different. We don't have to be the same. I get his grew...(more) 4 hr 51 min ago
                                up differently. Thats fine. But why wouldn't his parents like me in jeans? I can't imagine this changing my opinion of someone. It seemed important to him, so clearly clothes mean a lot to them.
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                                • He obviously doesn't mind you being a little sartorially "mismatched" either. His parents are a different issue. They come from a different generation....(more) 4 hr 47 min ago
                                  To them being dressed up is a reflection of your manners and respect. If you don't agree? It doesn't matter! You're not dating his parents, you're dating him, and he obviously doesn't mind
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            • Tell him this now! 5 hr 11 min ago
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        • It's cute now...but it won't be so cute in a few years. 5 hr 2 min ago
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    • I think you dress a certain way when meeting his family as long as you are comfortable with it. If he isn't trying to change you other times, stop creating problems where they...(more) 5 hr 3 min ago
      don't exist.
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    • You barely know him...believe me there is something lurking behind all of that formality. 5 hr 2 min ago
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      • np like what??? something sinister? Or like 50 shades? 5 hr 2 min ago
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        • ^^ Or are they vampires? Is the last name Cullen? 5 hr 1 min ago
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        • I don't know...but it's very "Betty Draper" IMO. Perfect facade, but crumbling and insecure on the inside. 5 hr 1 min ago
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          • Eh, my in-laws dress like old hippies and they're totally uptight. Whatever. 5 hr ago
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            • that is the opposite...they want everyone to think they are low key but they really aren't 4 hr 59 min ago
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              • yes, I'm saying there can be 'something lurking' however they're dressed. 4 hr 55 min ago
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                • I think we are saying the same thing. 4 hr 51 min ago
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    • I would worry he needs you to dress like his family 5 hr 1 min ago
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    • For me, this would be a total deal breaker. 4 hr 56 min ago
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